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If what comes up is cool things you did, why do you want to hide them?
/r/seduction02/02/25 03:34 PM
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For any rule concerning humans, you will find exceptions. Doesn't mean they aren't good rules.
/r/seduction20/01/19 07:37 AM
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Honest answers would be: I don't know, it's none of your business, or an actual number. Non honest answers mean you're scared.
/r/seduction09/09/18 11:45 PM
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There's no fixed amount of time. If you're flirty from the start, you can go a long time without entering the friend zone. On the other hand, if you treat her like a buddy or if you go out of your way to show her you're a nice guy, you might enter the friend zone in 5 minutes.
/r/seduction12/06/18 09:53 AM
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No reason to assume he needs basic generic advice, or that he needs to read books. He seems to be following the usual advice regarding escaping the friend zone already.
/r/seduction22/02/18 01:49 PM
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Condom will fit. Really. But condom size might make a big difference. I had always bought regular condoms and found it hard to feel anything. I recently tried larger ones (same brand) and it's a lot better.
/r/seduction13/02/18 09:49 AM
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A relevant quote from BoJack Horseman: When you're wearing rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.
/r/seduction05/02/18 03:03 PM
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I would love it as a website where you have to describe something, and then evaluate other descriptions.
/r/seduction02/02/18 10:45 AM
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Knowing that I wouldn't spend that much money on a seduction course, I downloaded a few to check if I was missing something... From what I've seen, they're all very basic. The promotional videos give you useful things and pretend there is a lot more in the full course but... there isn't. No course I've seen was worth 30 times the price of an ebook like Models based on the videos. I think, however, that the ones who force you to post your results online can be helpful (if you do it). When you rea…
/r/seduction01/02/18 09:51 AM
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Yeah. I'm still undecided on how to punish you for that but I'm open to suggestions. That's a risky answer if she's your subordinate. Let's hope she's on the same page as you are, because otherwise you'll sound very creepy.
/r/seduction01/02/18 09:35 AM
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You can have them all. Thanks!
/r/seduction30/01/18 07:51 PM
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And that serial killer smile... I'm too scared to play the video.
/r/seduction27/01/18 05:50 PM
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You can get that by masturbating or having sex with your regular partner. What's your point?
/r/seduction27/01/18 05:21 PM
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Vaginas are subject to infections and parasites, yes... It has nothing to do with friction, or even with having sex with a man. Afaik one of the possible causes is... Cleaning too often.
/r/seduction27/01/18 11:53 AM
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maybe a vagina isn't meant to have that much 'violence' lol who knows Who knows? Women and doctors know. It's like a theory that the skin of your cock would peel away if you had sex with more than 100 women: we know it's bullshit because it doesn't happen. I get that many people think that sex-positive women are dirty and not worth much consideration. Why not, that's an opinion. There's no need to try to justify it with pseudoscience.
/r/seduction27/01/18 11:19 AM
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It doesn't have to be awkward, women get asked out all the time. Just don't make it into a big thing. Ok: "Hey, would you like to have coffee some day?" Not good: "Hey, I would like you to have my babies one day. Will you be my girlfriend?"
/r/seduction27/01/18 09:50 AM
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You do realize that a girl in a relationship, who makes love to the same man once every three days for a year, will have 100 dicks in her and, according to your theory, will damage her vagina ecosystem with too much friction?
/r/seduction27/01/18 02:45 AM
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You don't think a women cheating on bf or husband is whorish behavior? Yes and no. I don't believe in monogamy for myself, so I accept that women also have a hard time being monogamous. That said, I agree that cheating is bad. What I mean is that people are whores, men and women. Maybe you can convince 95% of women to cheat on their partners, but you can also convince 95% of men. If you agree to that, then you're not misogynistic as it doesn't depend on the gender.
/r/seduction26/01/18 09:35 PM
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Well it might work in the right situation but I can't picture what that situation looks like. It's late and I'm slightly drunk so please excuse me for any bullshit I might come up with, but here's a theory on why it doesn't work, and what works: here, the issue is that you're creating the deprecating situation and then joking about it. It feels like you're trying too hard. This would work a lot better: [someone else] you're garbage [you] and it's garbage day!
/r/seduction26/01/18 09:24 PM
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Asking her out is not weird. Insisting if she says no would be weird, but asking once isn't.
/r/seduction26/01/18 08:50 PM
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its how I feel after I’ve completed the challenge and I want to move on to the next challenge. Let me try to do a Yoda: Sometimes not the hardest challenge pulling is. Keeping her is.
/r/seduction26/01/18 08:40 PM
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I'm not sure that's going to help you but I often have the opposite problem: so many first dates fail that I find it hard to care. Which means that I often fail because I looked bored or uninterested. We should aim for a middle ground.
/r/seduction26/01/18 08:38 PM
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It's garbage day? I can't believe they made a day dedicated to me! That's not a self deprecating joke, that's a creepy "I'm gonna kill myself" call for help. Self deprecating jokes are funny and light, that's why they work.
/r/seduction26/01/18 08:32 PM
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Is that misogynistic? Of course it is, but not for the reasons you think. It's misogynistic because the guy, by his own standards, is a whore himself, but doesn't realizes it. He attributes value to women based on dumb and outdated criteria that are even counterproductive: he wants to sleep with women, but if they want to sleep with men then they're whores. These men may have sex but they're not "masters" of game at all, because as soon as they have sex with a woman they like her less. It's the …
/r/seduction26/01/18 08:20 PM
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There's nothing worse than hearing "WHAT!" over and over again when you're talking to somebody you don't know. That's an opportunity to get closer. Speak in her hear.
/r/seduction26/01/18 10:14 AM
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(What does SMV mean?) I'd much likely get accused of sexual misconduct vs say Brad Pitt or some other good looking dude. That's not (entirely) true. You're likely to get accused of sexual misconduct if you don't care about her consent. Looking like Brad Pitt is only easier because you'll get her consent more easily. Avoiding sexual harassment is easy, and you seem to be doing it already: if you try something and she says no, you stop. The other rule is: if she's too drunk to say no, then don't t…
/r/seduction26/01/18 10:12 AM
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another guy who will not have sex with a girl unless she has 10K+ followers on instagram. You've got weird heroes :)
/r/seduction25/01/18 10:35 AM
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A few of my friends have told me I should smash her and make it good so she brags to the other girls so maybe they'd be interested. Could this work? If you are a good person and if you respect her, it can work. What I mean is: it's ok to sleep with someone you're not very attracted to, as long as you treat them like a person and are respectful. This includes not pretending you want to be her girlfriend. Most women don't mind a guy who just wants sex as long as he is respecful and clear about his…
/r/seduction24/01/18 06:34 PM
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If you have a good life, sometimes you'll be available, sometimes not, and that's enough not to look needy: text when you can and when you want. It's more of a problem if you don't have a very full life, because you're too available. Then you have to fake it a little bit by using rules like: don't text her twice if she didn't answer, disappear for a day sometimes, and so on.
/r/seduction24/01/18 06:30 PM
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I wouldn't promise her anything, not even a stimulating conversation. It depends on her as much as on me, I can't guarantee a good conversation if she doesn't do some of the work. Of all the suggestions here, I prefer the "slow down I don't even know you" reversal the best. It's worked for me before.
/r/seduction24/01/18 06:10 PM
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There is the idea that if you don't bed a girl, you "failed", which suggests that by acting differently, you could have succeeded. I don't subscribe to that idea but it's certainly out there.
/r/seduction24/01/18 05:57 PM
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You start by reflecting on why you fail.
/r/seduction22/01/18 03:54 PM
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Lots of examples based on fiction. Interesting read but not very useful in real life.
/r/seduction22/01/18 03:46 PM
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I dont enjoy it even though i know some cool moves. IMO, good dance floor game is the opposite: you don't have to know cool moves but you have to enjoy it.
/r/seduction22/01/18 09:43 AM
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That's funny, at first glance I thought the opposite: he looks good but dresses like someone I wouldn't want to talk to. But I'm not a 20 something girl, so maybe the try-hard look works.
/r/seduction22/01/18 09:41 AM
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You don't stop them from being crazy, you just drop the crazy ones and focus on the others. That said, who calls anyone in 2018? I don't call girls and they don't call me. We set up a date by text/whatsapp and that's it.
/r/seduction22/01/18 09:38 AM
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Almost nobody is ok with cheating, and yet almost everybody cheats at least once in his or her life. Go figure. In my mind there are two kinds of cheaters, though. There is the one who cheats because they don't care about others or about promises, and the one who cheats because the relationship has gone wrong. The second kind is what you get when you make kids and then feel forced to stay in the relationship for the kids. I'm making the distinction because you say you need to decide. It's easy t…
/r/seduction22/01/18 09:35 AM
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Every male female interaction goes through these stages of game. Yeah but is there anything advanced to say about it? That's a real question. The structure is useful to explain how stuff works to people who have no natural intuition about it. You break it down to explain it, sure, that's helpful. But what then? Take opening for example. You've got direct and indirect, canned and natural. Is there more to say? We could do statistics to see which one works best but it doesn't matter that much. It …
/r/seduction19/01/18 05:22 PM
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Learn English by reading stuff about game. It will provide motivation, and speaking English is a useful skill anyway.
/r/seduction19/01/18 01:29 PM
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I'm not entirely sure that relationships/Sex are all there cracked up to be. Not everyone is the same. Some people live for sex, others are asexual. Some people want relationships, others are fine with casual sex. When I'm single, I don't miss the sex but I do miss the hugs / physical contact. In any case, while sex is fun, having sex will probably not change your life.
/r/seduction19/01/18 01:22 PM
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Don't text unless it's for setting up a meet. It's not the hard rule people make it to be. You can be successful by text. But if it's a problem for you and you're better in person, just focus on that.
/r/seduction19/01/18 01:14 PM
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Just invite girls over. But they could die falling down your stairs. LPT: it's safer to live in a one story house.
/r/seduction19/01/18 01:01 PM
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Am I crazy for thinking if I just want to fuck these broads, I am not willing to put in months of effort for it? This is exactly why women who don't want to be "pumped and dumped" make men wait. You don't want a relationship with them, and they don't want to just fuck with you. It's best for everyone.
/r/seduction19/01/18 12:48 PM
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This is actually good advice. I personally want to date feminists so I would be put off if a woman expected me to pay for the first date. Polarize: behave in a way that will repel people you don't want to date.
/r/seduction19/01/18 10:42 AM
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It reminds me of something I heard recently on Tim Ferriss' podcast. I think the person talking was Terry Crews. He was explaining how, when he needs to fire someone, he first explains that there is not chance for the guy to win his job back, so no reason not to be honest. Then he asks for feedback about how he could have done better to make it work. For relationships, it seems easier to do if you're the one who ended it. If you were dumped then the girl will probably feel pressure not to be too…
/r/seduction19/01/18 10:36 AM
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I feel like I'd just be embarrassing myself to make a move. [...] Any advice on how to take another step forward? Maybe try making it you goal to embarrass yourself. If your goal is to close, then failure is embarrassing. If you decide you're going to embarrass yourself (as the first step of a learning process), then if you get turned one, you've succeeded, and if you close, then it's just a bonus.
/r/seduction19/01/18 10:13 AM
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The funny thing is that the inner game advice is often much more difficult to implement that the outer game one, and as such could be considered advanced. Seddit often tells people what they should work on, but gives little advice as to how.
/r/seduction19/01/18 09:48 AM
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Marry the outgoing/fun (perfect) one, consider it monogamous, then just never worry/think about if she's cheating. Assume that she probably will eventually How is that better than an open marriage? If can handle assuming that she may be cheating, why can't you handle knowing? I know open relationships are not for everyone but I really don't get the "don't ask" relationships. Jealousy would kill me.
/r/seduction18/01/18 09:06 AM
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Do you have theories about why you're not getting attention?
/r/seduction18/01/18 08:21 AM
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Ignoring the loan, there's no reason she should be the only one paying for birth control you both benefit from. Now, for the loan, I'd say it depends on how much money you have. Was it difficult for you to shell out $500? Helping people is fine as long as it is a one time thing. No woman is going to think less of you because you helped her once. Just don't become a walking ATM.
/r/seduction18/01/18 08:15 AM
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I'm unsure as how it would be applied in opening a set I don't know how to explain it but, back when I was meditating regularly, after a while I noticed that I was able to just decide to be calm. I never used it for opening a set, but I used it when I was anxious or in pain. I'm not that good at doing it now, but I stopped meditating :(
/r/seduction17/01/18 03:09 PM
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The missing step was: how do you care less? By meditating. It helps you ignore your inner voice, among other things.
/r/seduction17/01/18 03:00 PM
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The reason you have more success when drunk is that your mind is free from worry. It doesn't stop you from doing stuff. It's not easy to replicate without drugs because it's not just your concious worries, it's also everything you've integrated about how you should behave in public. But the general answer is: care less.
/r/seduction17/01/18 08:22 AM
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I am not that into you, but I am not going to say something which I can't guarantee. That's not a very graceful way to put it. You're saying a few things: you're not really into her (slightly insulting but why not) you still might want to fuck her (why if you're not into her? Are you desperate?) you can't promise stuff and stick to it (have you got no strength of mind?) In similar situations, I prefer saying something like "that's ok. I don't even know if I'll want something to happen, but I'm n…
/r/seduction12/01/18 09:47 AM
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It's easy to do any one of those small and easy things. But the more you add, the more it's difficult. If you want to read more, exercise more, learn a language, meditate and go out to meet people, then you probably can't do everything every day. This is where it becomes difficult, because if you alternate then you have to decide what you're going to do today. It opens the door to excuses like "it's raining today, so it's my reading day, I'll run tomorrow".
/r/seduction12/01/18 09:35 AM
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Tony's examples aren't painful. Well maybe be careful about joking about her weight. Even skinny girls can have issues, maybe now, maybe in the past, with their weight. I assume it went well with tony's friend because she was his friend and he knew the joke was fine.
/r/seduction09/01/18 09:28 AM
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or is it better to beat around the bush and try to talk a few times first before putting his honest feelings on the table? If the guy hasn't talked to the girl, how can he have honest feelings about liking her? Asking out a girl you don't know just means "I like the way you look" and not "I like you". Granted, it might still work. But most girls will prefer thinking you like their personality and not just their looks.
/r/seduction08/01/18 01:30 PM
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Be a waiter at a golf resort or on a cruise boat maybe?
/r/seduction06/01/18 11:03 AM
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any tips that have personally worked for them when it comes to always being the most charming man in the room? One tip would be to stop caring about being the most charming man in the room and just be charming independtly of others. I hate when men try to outcharm me, but I also think it's not making them look any better in the eyes of the ladies around us.
/r/seduction06/01/18 10:59 AM
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What do you trying to prove and to whom? To yourself you may say, that you’re capable of being attractive to women? That’s the biggest bullshit because women flock to those who have attitude of not having to prove shit to anybody. You’re being counter productive by trying to prove anyone shit, even yourself. That's the point, though: if you know that you can attract women, then you don't have to prove it to yourself. That's what changes when you first attain some level of success.
/r/seduction06/01/18 10:55 AM
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Otherwise, drop her for wasting your time. Monogamy is the norm but it's not a necessity. Maybe OP is fine with it, maybe not. Maybe he's fine only if it's girl crushes. Who knows. My advice would be: speak with your GF a find what works for you both. If you can't find anything that works, then drop her.
/r/seduction31/12/17 06:57 PM
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At least it would weed out the girls who are not down. Sorry, I just wanted to make the bad pun.
/r/seduction29/12/17 11:51 AM
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Women talk shit to me. Lucky you. Women don't talk to me at all on dating websites.
/r/seduction27/12/17 06:28 PM
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I take them to more interestimg places like escape rooms or other more active places only later when I have that feeling that it is worth it. IMO, you've got it backwards. If you don't want to get bored, then go to the interesting places. Dinner dates are boring unless you already know the person, so they shouldn't be a first date.
/r/seduction11/12/17 10:16 AM
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I don’t judge that [...] they’re like pussy. Right...
/r/seduction10/12/17 05:42 PM
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Let's break down the possibilities: You're right and you try something : you get the girl You're right and you don't try something : you don't get the girl You're wrong and you don't try something : you don't get the girl You're wrong and you try something : you might get the girl It should be obvious that you shouldn't try to listen to your gut and just try something when you're interested.
/r/seduction09/12/17 05:17 PM
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This is best done with a consistent partner. Well you need a bit of both. Different women like different things, so if you only have sex with one person, you will mostly learn to please her specifically. I'd say the ideal learning scenario is when you have several FWB.
/r/seduction06/11/17 02:57 PM
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Wouldn't being honest to her be a better idea That' not how it works, people don't (usually) talk and decide that they want to be together. It's supposed to develop naturally from the interactions. Making a move until she says stop doesn't mean you have to pressure her, you're just trying to move the relationship in a direction. If she lets you, then you end up together. If she says stop you stop.
/r/seduction04/11/17 03:35 PM
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Assuming one of the guys is attracted to you, then the reason he hasn't made a move is that he's afraid of being rejected. Your first step could simply be saying something simple like "why don't we grab a coffee, just you and me?" For any normal guy, this is a greenlight. If it's not enough, yeah, escalate, touch, push-pull, follow the same steps we do.
/r/seduction04/11/17 01:50 PM
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It's not creepy if you're respectful when she says no. Just be upfront in a casual manner, ie. don't say "I want to grab you by the pussy", but rather something like "I'm just looking for fun at the moment". Some women will run away but that's ok, they're not who you're looking for anyway. You can tell girls are looking for hookups if they don't run away when they understand that's your case.
/r/seduction04/11/17 01:44 PM
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Failing so often.
/r/seduction29/10/17 07:53 PM
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You like women who find me hot? I can relate to that.
/r/seduction26/10/17 02:18 PM
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She has an interesting conversation, is curious about the world, not too overweight or too ugly, she is generaly nice to people and she thinks I'm hot.
/r/seduction26/10/17 12:33 PM
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Do whatever you need to feel it in your body. I mean, if looking like The Rock makes you feel more sexual or more confident, go for it. But you don't need to (generic you, not you specifically).
/r/seduction26/10/17 11:21 AM
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Holding eye contact is as difficult for women as it is for men. It's pretty much universal. They'll only do it if they can't help it because they're very attracted to you (IOI) you're good friends (not IOI) they're very confident and usually have their way with people (not IOI) I'm saying "they" but it's not really a woman thing, it's a shyness vs. confidence thing.
/r/seduction26/10/17 06:37 AM
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You'll usually see these girls with lovers who choose to focus on things like their fashion, being sexual, and looking as attractive as possible. Really? Maybe in high school, but that's not what I usually see. Men who focus on looking as attractive as possible often are perceived as vain. You have to look good but it's better if it seems effortless. But it's true that you don't have to look like The Rock to attract women (and you'd better not). What you need is to be assertive and sexual, the r…
/r/seduction26/10/17 06:32 AM
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now I'm working full-time as a Software Developer and can afford to buy things like a nice car and better clothes, but unfortunately can't get a date to save my life. This is not the same as being confident. You may be confident in your professional life, because of your success, but that doesn't mean you can act as a confident man regarding ladies. In the context of seduction, being confident doesn't just mean that you know your worth, it also means you can lead in the interaction, you aren't a…
/r/seduction25/10/17 07:46 AM
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I guess to start things off, I am a male, 16, kiss-less, never had a girlfriend. Those last two parts about me has been making me feel like complete shit for the past few years You're 16! You're not late at all. There are people here who are 10+ years older than you and still haven't had a girlfriend. It's way too early to worry.
/r/seduction20/10/17 11:17 AM
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Con: they're cheesy Pros: they get you talking to the girls, they make it clear that you're interested and not just asking for directions So, to answer your question, they work better than not talking to girls.
/r/seduction20/10/17 09:15 AM
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OTOH, if your authentic self gets you dumped, maybe you need a better authentic self, instead of finding ways to continue faking. It's more difficult but isn't that the real goal of self improvement?
/r/seduction20/10/17 09:07 AM
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I dont need to open girls because girls usually open me. Aside from the fact that you come off as a dick, this might be your issue. Good looking women don't need to open men, they get approached all the time.
/r/seduction19/10/17 09:46 AM
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What do you find sexiest in a guy? The last time I tried this one, the answer could be summed up as "not you". I'd rather assume she finds me sexy now.
/r/seduction19/10/17 09:33 AM
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It wasn't sarcastic. I don't know how to say this without seeming aggressive but I think you're might be missing something important about life.
/r/seduction14/10/17 08:23 PM
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Don't make the women important. They're not. They kinda are, though. I mean, you don't want to seduce women as part of the journey to become a man capable of seducing, you want to seduce women because women are nice to be with, right?
/r/seduction14/10/17 08:01 PM
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doing things that make them feel empowered, rather than things that make them feel objectified. Maybe the solution would be to game them in a way that doesn't make them feel objectified, then? Shouldn't be too hard, we already know we're not supposed to grab them by the pussy, that's a start.
/r/seduction12/10/17 07:02 PM
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Trump has really had a drastic effect of the attitudes of women. He did? In a bad way? You'd think that we'd now all look a lot better/safer, compared to him.
/r/seduction12/10/17 06:22 PM
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struggling with depression, suicidal thoughts and anxiety. Yes, you need therapy. That's nothing to be ashamed of.
/r/seduction12/10/17 11:50 AM
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now that’s living. IDK... I have a busy life and I don't have time for 8 dates a week. Does it mean I'm not living a good life?
/r/seduction12/10/17 11:49 AM
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The original post wasn't about empathy but about mirror neurons, kind of a "backwards empathy" where you feel something that you want the other person to feel too.
/r/seduction12/10/17 11:07 AM
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with your eyes you transmit whatever emotions you are feeling to the other person, therefore they start to feel the emotions themselves. If it worked, we'd see a lot less messages about guys who have been in love with a girl for years but she only sees them as a friend.
/r/seduction12/10/17 09:39 AM
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"Are you, like, crazy? OMG you're, like, my sister!!!" Oh right, that's not what you say, that's what they say.
/r/seduction11/10/17 08:51 PM
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So where can I find a dream girl - beautiful, intelligent, highly educated and not too crazy? Young researcher summer schools and conferences? When I was studying CS, my solution was to switch to a related field with more women. I'm now doing bioinformatics so I'm surrounded by good looking biologists. Success! But you probably don't have to change your field of studies, there are many activities where you can meet other PhD students from more woman-friendly fields.
/r/seduction11/10/17 12:11 PM
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It seems to me she's interested but has to overcome some stupid conditioning about size. She's apparently willing to try, so I'd suggest to go ahead and hope for the best. We, around here, have had to overcome a lot of limiting beliefs. Most beautiful girls don't have to do that, let's not discourage her. But keep in mind that it's likely to fail. Don't get overinvested.
/r/seduction11/10/17 09:03 AM
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Well, most girls don't give me butterflies either. And the ones who do, I can't get, for some reason. So after a while I decided that I should try to date women who just seemed ok, and act a little bit more interested than I actually was. It gets me laid, I spend a good time with interesting people, and maybe if I actually manage to date a girl I'm in love with, I won't mess up due to lack of experience.
/r/seduction11/10/17 08:40 AM
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You know, the "assume attraction" saying? It's supposed to mean "assume she is attracted to you", but it can work both ways. If you're not sure, assume you're attracted to her (and behave as such). Disclaimer: don't assume attraction to the point you become needy. Stay outcome independant as much as possible.
/r/seduction10/10/17 04:43 PM
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A sex-positive woman who thinks she's actually doing other women a favour by introducing them to you.
/r/seduction10/10/17 02:51 PM
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How come all of your colleagues and classmates are guys? Do you work in IT? Maybe find new hobbies that might have girls? Regarding your main issue, I think it's normal to feel a bit depressed when you're down and people around you are happy.
/r/seduction10/10/17 02:24 PM
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making fun of Japanese for having 3 character sets, seriously WTF. 4, since they created emojis
/r/seduction10/10/17 02:03 PM
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It all depends on whether your appearance is affecting your confidence. If you're feeling confident enough right now, why wait before gaming women? Otherwise, start by some improvements in that area. The danger is that it's easy to procrastinate and tell yourself that you still need to lose another pound, or gain some muscle, or buy a new shirt, before you can finally start gaming.
/r/seduction10/10/17 02:01 PM
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IMO you can't really get to know a woman and still keep her on a pedestal. Eventually you discover her flaws and insecurities and she becomes a normal human being. So yeah, you see a guy with a beautiful GF, you think he's in heaven, but he knows that she snores, has daddy issues and wears the same underwear twice.
/r/seduction10/10/17 05:59 AM
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What do you want out of this? It's easier not to come off as overeager... if you're not expecting much. Let's reduce this to two options: 1) you want her as an exclusive gf or 2) you're open to whatever. Option 1 requires you to be careful, but with option 2 you could just tell her that you like her but don't want to crowd her. In any case, in my experience the two best moves are always: express how you feel / what you want don't feel entitled to a specific reaction. Respect her agency and her r…
/r/seduction09/10/17 09:04 PM
4

It's safer to compliment her on something she chose than something she was born with. So, instead of hair, eyes or boobs, compliment her on her clothes, on her makeup or on the book she's reading. For some reason it doesn't work with tatoos, though. Don't compliment her on her tatoos. Apparently every guy does this.
/r/seduction09/10/17 08:55 PM
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Confront her. "It seems like your ex still has a big place in your life".
/r/seduction09/10/17 07:29 PM
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Assuming most women really don't like being approached in public but I dislike clubs and dating apps, what other options are there? Most couples are formed in the social circle. You meet friends of friends and something sparks. Street pickup is a solution found by people with a relatively small social circle, who need to meet a lot of strangers quickly. It kinda works but has a low rate of success. My guess would be that if you hate clubs you also hate street pickup, right? Then your only option…
/r/seduction09/10/17 04:24 PM
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Why not but it's tricky. It's like asking a massage therapist to come and give you a massage: it's her day work, maybe she doesn't want to think about it when she's with you. It could work in a playful way but it's better if it's something you can offer her.
/r/seduction09/10/17 04:07 PM
1

As I said below, it's more difficult after a dinner, because it's a low energy date. You're sitting there, and then it's finished and... then what? The easiest way is to have a more active date like dancing or bowling. But if you're on a dinner date, basically you have to build the invite in your conversation. Talk about something you can do or show her at your place. Maybe you have an album she needs to hear or a film she needs to see. Or you have a pet otter. Anything. Then after the dinner yo…
/r/seduction09/10/17 03:56 PM
1

In my eyes(especially with her requesting it) she wants a free meal. Or maybe she doesn't know better. We're taught that dates are basically dinner and a movie. It's up to us to offer more interesting options because most women don't have to think about dating dynamics.
/r/seduction09/10/17 03:50 PM
2

To be more constructive: the reason a dinner date sucks is that it's low energy. You sit, you eat, you talk and then it's over. If you want to bring her home you then need to build a dynamic that isn't there already. It's doable, but it's easier if you're on a more active date.
/r/seduction09/10/17 03:44 PM
3

Trying to think of ways to escalate past a 30-second makeout on a weeknight dinner date where both of us have to work in the morning. You're gonna be tired the morning after. So what? Just escalate, if she wants you she's not going to stop because she has to get up in the morning.
/r/seduction09/10/17 03:38 PM
2

How do you read more? Stop wasting time on facebook, reddit, instagram, youtube, netflix etc. Good advice, but to be fair you can learn quite a lot on reddit, youtube or netflix. It all depends on your attitude and whether you're wasting time or you're educating yourself.
/r/seduction09/10/17 03:07 PM
2

I don't consciously play hard to get, but I've noticed I'm way more successful when I'm not sure whether I'm interested or not, and the girl does part of the chasing as a result.
/r/seduction09/10/17 02:54 PM
1

I don't understand. You said you were lost and going home, and she flaked?
/r/seduction08/10/17 06:20 PM
1

I don't, but all my girlfriends from Russia I met online were nice people.
/r/seduction06/10/17 04:48 PM
1

The odds are so skew and against you that you will end up meeting lots and lots of the bad ones. I'm not a fan of cold approach, but I think you're mistaken here. Maybe a lot of women are massive cunts but the other traits you listed are pretty rare, so they don't really skew the odds. My biggest objection to cold approach is that the girls are often assuming that you might be a psychopathic, raging redpiller with AIDS who hates women and has dirty underwear.
/r/seduction06/10/17 03:41 PM
2

IMO on a first date you can to take her hand playfully, to lead her somewhere, but it's too soon to be "holding hands" romantically.
/r/seduction06/10/17 08:04 AM
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I've only had sex with a handful of girls so who knows, but usually I think it's girls for whom sex is an emotional thing I would suggest that the reason you're not getting attached is not that you're a guy: it's that you're not seeing them again. Nobody gets attached during a random hookup.
/r/seduction04/10/17 09:04 AM
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Then I get more in depth about my lifestyle. I work 50-60 hours a week Is this your lifestyle or do you have time for hobbies? If not, maybe that's what scaring the girls away.
/r/seduction04/10/17 08:42 AM
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I don't know what else to do to make that a reality. You're not telling why you fail, so how can we help? The only thing you told us is that you think you're better than the girls you've been able to get.
/r/seduction04/10/17 08:38 AM
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I just feel that the longer I wait, the girls my age will already have boyfriends and there won't be that many singles my age That's true when you're around 30, there are a lot less single women. However, 1) it doesn't last because eventually they break up of their LTRs and 2) you don't have to date girls your age.
/r/seduction04/10/17 08:23 AM
1

Can you explain what makes you go "Ew"? We may not have the same view of what "being vulnerable" implies, so it would help to know exactly what troubles you.
/r/seduction03/10/17 05:26 PM
2

A lot of people prefer cocktails to strong alcohol, so maybe add a few cans of tonic and a bottle of vermouth and you'll be able to do martinis or vodka/gin tonic.
/r/seduction03/10/17 04:49 PM
2

All confidence with girls ruined due to a bad experience, any tips to overcome it? You're way too young to think that way. You're still in the learning phase. You're expected to mess up. And the girls your age are also learning, which means they're messing up too. It's all a big mess. Nobody is going to hold you accountable to the way you behaved when you were 18. Any mistake you make is just part of your learning. Keep an open mind, make a lot of mistakes and you're going to be fine.
/r/seduction02/10/17 10:19 PM
1

and just nodding my head Better, very intricate plan: go say hi. Details: what result are you expecting out of your nod? Assuming she is interested and she understands the meaning of the nod, are you expecting her to actually approach you and ask you out? What's the followup there? hoping something happens then. Stuff doesn't happen without human intervention. Either you do something or she does. Except she's not going to. So do something.
/r/seduction02/10/17 10:10 PM
1

IMO that's too much mindgames. You're not showing intent. At some point you're going to have to explain why you're at the party. Did you have nothing better to do? Did you change your mind? Why? I would recommend a simpler approach: - her: boo why not? - you: I had something else. But if you want me there I could change my mind.
/r/seduction02/10/17 10:08 PM
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«You need to get a better life and girls will follow» Well I got a better life and I’m still alone. I'm in the same situation, mostly. I guess your problem is that you're not exciting. Your life might be great but if you're not bringing something new and exciting to her life, it's not going to get you laid.
/r/seduction02/10/17 10:01 PM
1

girls apparently hate being approached by guys in dance classes You don't (usually) approach during classes, you approach when you're actually going out and dancing. Classes are there for you to learn how to dance and to get wingmen/wingwomen for the real parties.
/r/seduction02/10/17 09:45 PM
2

So, if I try to summarize from what you said: dating other girls is too difficult and wouldn't help, you won't approach her, you can't stop seeing her and since you won't approach her you can't just accept rejection because she never rejected you... I'd say you're screwed. The easier thing to change in that list would be to approach her and ask her out. It's going to hurt but that's the only thing you can change right now, right? If you can't go talk to her, then call her, or send her a message,…
/r/seduction29/09/17 03:06 PM
4

right now i'm satisfied. This seems to be a good metric for success.
/r/seduction29/09/17 02:02 PM
3

I think the issue with oneitis if believing you can love someone before you get to know them and date them for a while. Seduction is a way to get to know girls, build attraction and maybe start a relationship. Love is built on that. People who have it backwards (ie. most of us at the beginning) start by falling in love, then try to seduce their love interest and become devastated when it doesn't work out.
/r/seduction29/09/17 01:54 PM
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They weren't a bisexual girl two months ago: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/6hy8pp/do_gays_get_erect_when_they_see_pictures_of_guys/
/r/seduction27/09/17 08:23 AM
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Real life isn't as much of a sex-filled orgy as Hollywood portrays it. I know people (men and women) for whom it is. I'm a bit jealous of them. Anyway, yes, fucking strangers isn't safe but that's part of why it's fun. Is being safe all the time your life goal? You can easily protect against STDs and jailbait, you're very unlikely to meet a serial killer (especially if you like women) and the rest isn't that dangerous.
/r/seduction18/09/17 09:08 AM
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Don't get many tinder matches but the ones I do I haven't sent any messages to since I don't know what to say. Why are you on Tinder, then? Seriously, even if you don't know what to say, it's better to say "hi" than nothing.
/r/seduction18/09/17 08:22 AM
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She's coming on to you strong, which in my experience is a big red flag for possible crazy-girl syndrome. In my experience, life would be easier for us if women were allowed to express their interest without being considered possibly crazy.
/r/seduction15/09/17 06:54 PM
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I feel that you will remember your first time and your first partner/SO I don't remember my first time. I just know it wasn't awesome, I've had much better times since them. I remember some of the good times. A non-virgin to me sounds like a used car. Maybe you can try to focus on the fact that a virgin will not know what she's doing. So it's more likely that your first time sucks. she will compare you to her ex(s). She probably had better, but she also had worse. The general idea is: no matter …
/r/seduction15/09/17 06:50 PM
1

The only way to know for sure is to try something. But she gave you enough indicators of interest.
/r/seduction15/09/17 02:26 PM
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Best case scenario - night ends with a three, four, or even fivesome. Worst case scenario: it does but you're not invited.
/r/seduction15/09/17 08:46 AM
2

Do you see other girls on the side too?
/r/seduction14/09/17 09:45 AM
1

It does not work as an opener but it does kinda work with people you're already talking to.
/r/seduction14/09/17 08:27 AM
8

Your speech training CD is teaching you to speak like an american salesman, and the Art of Seduction is telling you to speak like a character from a 1890 romance novel. Two different styles that are not targeting the same people.
/r/seduction14/09/17 08:02 AM
1

I didn't have that issue when I lived in a students residence. It is also considered impolite in France not to greet a neighbour.
/r/seduction13/09/17 12:40 PM
5

Almost everyone is terrified of rejection, it takes a lot of effort to change that. Yeah but women often don't have to put in the effort, and so most of them remain at the terrified stage.
/r/seduction13/09/17 08:25 AM
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What op is trying to do is screen women who are not interested in him by directly asking Sure, but unless you're really attractive or the girl is already horny, she's not going to be interested before you talked to her. So if you immediately ask you're going to be rejected by girls who could be interested, but aren't yet. The only reason I can see for doing that instead of introducing yourself and then try to escalate is if you really don't want to get to know girls. If you're willing to spend t…
/r/seduction13/09/17 08:18 AM
1

Yeah like, talking to them instead of creeping them out from the get go.
/r/seduction13/09/17 08:10 AM
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Tinder is different because you'll find more women who are looking for hookups there. But anyway, if you approach with some variation of "I want to fuck you" you're not screening out properly. Sure, if a girl stays with you, you'll probably fuck her, but you're also screening out a lot of women you could fuck if you made some effort.
/r/seduction12/09/17 04:57 PM
1

If this is the most dysfunctional girl you dated, you're lucky. Some are a lot worse. Judging from what you wrote she's a bit immature emotionally and she warned you but you decided to push, to see her again when she didn't want to, to kiss her when she didn't want to. So, how do you keep yourself from becoming invested? Don't push, maybe, even if you'd like to shag her.
/r/seduction12/09/17 12:03 PM
1

Reading your username I thought she asked to postpone two years ago :)
/r/seduction12/09/17 11:35 AM
1

if you want to keep up with the latest fashion simply get a subscription to GQ. Or follow blogs/instagrams/subreddits about male fashion. GQ recommends expensive designer clothes and it's sometimes difficult to reproduce their looks if you shop at H&M.
/r/seduction12/09/17 11:34 AM
1

Dancing, obviously.
/r/seduction11/09/17 09:09 PM
1

We could point all the very attractive guys to red pill forums and keep the healthy stuff to ourselves.
/r/seduction11/09/17 01:37 PM
1

tl;dr: be romantic but only once in a while. It's (probably) not the things you do, but how often you do them. A romantic gesture once in a while isn't scary, but if you do too much you look needy. Also, when you're in a long term relationship, if you're always romantic it becomes normal and expected, so she's not going to notice as much. The cheese will be more noticable and it can even become annoying.
/r/seduction11/09/17 08:48 AM
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Why would I want to have her obsessively think of me?
/r/seduction09/09/17 07:13 PM
1

Condoms also are a thing.
/r/seduction09/09/17 06:37 PM
1

What matters is that you have something going for you. It might be looks, it might be charisma, it might be being a rock star... So yeah, looks matter if you're good looking or if you're ugly and you've got nothing else going for you. Otherwise it's not that important.
/r/seduction04/09/17 02:07 PM
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Don't pick hobbies you know you don't like, pick hobbies you might like. Let's take dancing. There is a difference between "I know I don't like dancing" and "I don't know how to dance, therefore I don't like dancing".
/r/seduction04/09/17 08:52 AM
1

That doesn't make any sense from an evolutionary perspective. Both empathy and maternal instinct have evolutionary explanations. Alpha male stuff is overly simplistic and outdated but there is a lot more to evolutionary psychology.
/r/seduction01/09/17 02:11 PM
3

Maybe they're amazed at how repulsive you are, and they can't stop looking. (but probably not)
/r/seduction01/09/17 01:54 PM
1

who gives a fuck about power If you don't care about power, don't ask what choice "gives the guy more power"...
/r/seduction01/09/17 01:40 PM
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Her frame is that it's not a date because she doesn't know you. Your frame should be that it's not a date because you don't know her, so you don't know (yet) if you want to date her.
/r/seduction01/09/17 01:01 PM
3

It's ok to care about someone. The problem is caring (too much) about whether they like you romantically or not.
/r/seduction01/09/17 09:31 AM
0

If she become his girlfriend because she dumped her previous bf, I don't see an issue. Are girls not allowed to leave their relationships if they find better elsewhere? Does that prevent them from being "gf material"?
/r/seduction01/09/17 08:30 AM
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The need for emotional bonding is also a product of evolution. Among other things it allows us to make sure that the other parent will protect us and care for the children.
/r/seduction01/09/17 08:18 AM
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As a general rule you shouldn't tell a girl that you have strong feelings for her unless you're dating. "I like you" would be acceptable, but IMO "I like you a lot" is too much. Ask her on a date if you can manage, or fall back to "I like you". Don't say "we don't have to date". Of course she doesn't have to date you, but you want her to. Be safe, but not too safe. If you say that you like her, let her wonder if that means you want to date. She'll probably let you know how she feels by saying "I…
/r/seduction01/09/17 07:20 AM
1

He doesn't seem interested in you. OTOH you don't have much to lose by texting once more before giving up. I'd text something simple, like "are you busy?", and then delete him if he doesn't get the hint.
/r/seduction01/09/17 07:14 AM
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I can almost guarantee you that girls aren't going to notice or care. If it can be felt they're probably going to notice, but I really doubt it would be a problem. Just warn them beforehands that it's normal/safe/not going to explode on contact.
/r/seduction31/08/17 08:36 PM
3

Ah many girls were really feminists and then realized that often feminism isn't about equality, but shaming males That's the red pill vision of feminism. I'm not going to debate whether that's true, but simply observe that there are not many women in the red pill circles.
/r/seduction31/08/17 01:37 PM
3

You know what gives you absolutely no power? Picking a time based on some weird strategy about power.
/r/seduction31/08/17 01:05 PM
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Every conversation has to end at some point. If she's always the one who stops replying, then you're more invested than her. It's perfectly fine to stop answering if you don't have anything useful/fun to say.
/r/seduction31/08/17 01:03 PM
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Women also have phases where they try out things, feminism, gaming. I have never met a woman who had "tried out" feminism but then decided she didn't want equal rights after all. I'm sure they exist, but it's not a common thing. What I mean is that if feminism is a problem for you, you shouldn't expect it to be "a phase" that she'll grow out of.
/r/seduction31/08/17 12:06 PM
1

Have hobbies. If you don't have time for hobbies because of your work, work less. Don't wait for retirement to start dating.
/r/seduction31/08/17 09:53 AM
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You were right to tell her that you felt it was manipulative, being open about your feelings is a good thing. OTOH, changing her mind about sex shouldn't be a big deal. Especially if you already slept with her. She could have had many reasons beside testing you. Maybe she wasn't comfortable. Maybe she was afraid she'd look like a slut for having sex in the back of your car. Maybe she wants more than sex. Maybe she didn't feel clean "down there". Maybe she was afraid she was having her period.
/r/seduction31/08/17 09:51 AM
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I wouldn't of minded if she would of just said "sorry, I'm seeing someone" But that's what she said. She was there on a job, and now you're stalking her on FB to see if she's really seeing someone, while pretending she's not hot enough to deserve your efforts. Move on.
/r/seduction30/08/17 08:38 PM
6

11 dates and you haven't tried anything physical yet? It's not that she's leading you on, you're just waiting for her to do all the first moves. She's not going to.
/r/seduction27/08/17 05:19 PM
1

I think it's going to be a bit like a pendulum, swinging back and forth from a technique-heavy game to a more natural "be yourself" game.
/r/seduction19/08/17 04:56 PM
21

Applying all the things I learned I got a k-close last night. This clearly suggests that there is some skill involved. When I was unable to seduce anybody, believing that I could learn skills helped me a lot. It told me that it wasn't me, it was lack of skills.
/r/seduction12/08/17 06:25 AM
5

Is there something I'm doing wrong? Yes, you're trying to befriend them first. Where did you read it was a good idea?
/r/seduction02/08/17 01:00 PM
3

But she's always gotta call me or text me a shit ton every day. If you want her to change her mind, she needs to miss you. Don't answer every day.
/r/seduction01/08/17 09:07 AM
1

There are better books about persuasion. Have look at what Robert Cialdini wrote, for example.
/r/seduction31/07/17 10:55 AM
1

It just seems that the number of revolutions one has gone around the sun magically makes it OK. If age is so arbitrary why are you only attracted to younger women? Why is it important that their number of revolutions around the sun is low? I'm not judging you (I don't care who you fuck), but I'm trying to answer your question in a way that might tell you something about yourself. The reason some people are judgemental is that they see an immature girl with a mature man, and assume he's using his…
/r/seduction29/07/17 05:59 PM
3

Yeah, her snapchat/number is the fallback option if she's not available for an instant date/chat. Why go for that directly?
/r/seduction29/07/17 05:48 PM
1

I feel like most girls at night events are not worth dating at all just a easy lay and that's it. It's the same girls you meet on the street, but at a different time and in a different mood. You never know what's gonna happen but they're not less worthy of your attention because you met them when they wanted to have fun. Maybe the day after they're going to the library to work on their PhD in archeology.
/r/seduction29/07/17 05:35 PM
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My usual approach is to let her initiate the conversation continue as long as it's fun try to let her have the last word and stop before the energy has left wait until she initiates again and repeat Usually it means just a few texts every other day, but it depends on the interaction. My most extreme case is when I exchanged 1200 texts (600 each) with a girl before meeting her (she was away). By the usual rules it was way too much but the conversation was always lively, she always initiated and w…
/r/seduction28/07/17 01:22 PM
3

You're not going to look too feminine, you're going to look confident. Also, assuming you have a nice butt, women enjoy the move as much as we do.
/r/seduction27/07/17 07:24 AM
1

With NLP though it's a bit more complicated, since it is being shown in a way that it has superpowers where there are none. That's what I meant when I said it was bullshit. It's much less deep and powerful than what the marketing says, but it's still good to have in mind that your choice of words matter.
/r/seduction26/07/17 03:07 PM
1

NLP is not hypnosis. But it's mostly bullshit anyway (IMO). In short, NLP is based on the idea that I could tell you the same story with different words, and that my choice of words will influence how you feel when hearing the story. To be fair, it's probably less bullshit when applied to seduction than when applied to psychotherapy. In seduction you only need to convey certain basic emotions, you don't need to cure anyone.
/r/seduction26/07/17 09:21 AM
1

It means that you know they exist, and you're not ashamed of them. Because everyone has insecurities, and trying to pretend you don't have any is ridiculous. It's sexy because it shows you're a grown-up, mostly. But it's only sexy if owning your insecurities doesn't make you a whining, needy piece of crap. The attitude should be "yeah I have insecurities but I'm still a fun guy to be around", not "my life is hell, please become my substitute mom".
/r/seduction26/07/17 06:41 AM
6

Touching her own neck or lips.
/r/seduction26/07/17 06:37 AM
5

Then say something. Say you know both of them, at least, and let them handle the rest. You don't want to be caught in the middle. As far as you're concerned you'd like to fuck both of them, right? So that's where you stand, they have to decide what they want.
/r/seduction25/07/17 06:54 PM
1

Does B know you know A? Why did she say that?
/r/seduction25/07/17 06:36 PM
24

The proper way to brag about your dick is to: fuck a girl have her tell her friends about your dick Any other way is going to look dumb.
/r/seduction25/07/17 02:39 PM
2

Someone can be successful just by trying, this sub is mostly just the magic feather from Dumbo ;)
/r/seduction25/07/17 11:01 AM
1

You could always pretend that you forgot ordering something, get up and try to catch the server away from your parents. Just prepare a note with your number.
/r/seduction25/07/17 10:46 AM
1

You're right, sorry, they usually are block classes. I know there are some long term ones in my city, but it's for people who are training for a degree. Any reason you don't want block classes? Since you want turnover it could be a solution: you'd be the one turning over :)
/r/seduction25/07/17 08:19 AM
1

I'll be able to just focus on satisfying my partners. Then make sure that you have a proper understanding of what it means to satisfy your partner. It doesn't always mean bringing her to orgasm, that's all.
/r/seduction24/07/17 10:07 AM
2

Why wouldn't the girl be able to have fun if a guy actually focuses on pleasing the girl? As he said, pressure. She's going to sense that you need her to come. It doesn't mean you should only be thinking about your own pleasure, but accept that she may not come and it doesn't mean she's not having fun.
/r/seduction24/07/17 09:29 AM
2

You can practice putting a condom on by yourself. You should. My first time was pretty late but she didn't notice I was a virgin. It doesn't have to be awkward, after all it's a very natural thing. Don't worry if you can't get it up. If you can get it up but you can't find the vagina, ask her to help you. If you're afraid of coming too soon, think of you grandma ;)
/r/seduction24/07/17 09:13 AM
4

Why don't you tell her that you're not into her but you'd like to stay friendly? Then you get another chance to meet her friend again.
/r/seduction24/07/17 07:45 AM
1

Cooking class, salsa/rock dancing, music where you play in an ensemble.
/r/seduction24/07/17 07:26 AM
4

Or maybe you shouldn't worry at all. It's a party, you're with your girlfriend, have fun!
/r/seduction24/07/17 06:26 AM
1

If you believe that Justin Wayne has 5 gfs I knew guys who had 3 girlfriends and guys who had up to 6 fuck buddies, back when I was more active in the "polyamorous" lifestyle. It is definitely possible, but I'm not sure it's that desirable unless you're willing to spend a lot of time making it work.
/r/seduction24/07/17 06:03 AM
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A guy wants to be asked out pretty much anywhere (unless he's worried about his "masculine prerogative" I suppose).
/r/seduction24/07/17 05:46 AM
2

I'd say it's part of a bigger thing. It's not really that you're intelligent, it's that you surprised her with a deeper side. It can be intelligence but it could also be that you're an artist, you're a musician, you risked your life to save a cat, whatever. She already thought you were cute but now you stand out and she wants you right now.
/r/seduction24/07/17 05:42 AM
5

Replace "for us" by "for you".
/r/seduction24/07/17 05:38 AM
2

Find a hobby. Anything you're PASSIONATE about. OTOH, if you're not passionate about anything, try stuff that seems mildly interesting. You never know what can suddenly turn into a passion.
/r/seduction24/07/17 05:36 AM
1

I'm doing all of that, it's not one or the other. But I see you're just going to repeat that I'm not doing CA over and over, it's pointless.
/r/seduction23/07/17 11:27 AM
2

Have you considered that maybe you could improve your game instead? I don't have enough approaches to know if my sucess rate is 1/20 or 1/1000 but it's not 0. And I'm not doing better online. It's always been flake flake flake ghost. But at least it's better than relying on my social circle where I meet maybe one new girl per monrh.
/r/seduction23/07/17 11:08 AM
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Personally I have never had a fb or for that matter any social media account.But that's a different story altogether . It's not a different story. You decided that Facebook game was easier because cold approach is hard, but you have no experience. Sure, sometimes you "get lucky" and get a girlfriend but "maybe not a hot one". The point of this sub is to try to do better. Approaching does not mean success. No, but if you manage do date 1 out of 5 girls in your social circle and 1 out of 20 girls …
/r/seduction23/07/17 10:05 AM
1

One good sign is whether he's fine with you meeting his friends.
/r/seduction23/07/17 09:49 AM
2

hose guys have higher chances of getting the girl than some simp who approach women on streets For any single girl, maybe. But with cold approach your goal is to approach a lot more girls than you would be able to meet through your social circle. You can't really hit on all of your Facebook friends.
/r/seduction23/07/17 09:45 AM
7

With smartphone, whatapp they get messages from guys every hour. And you're advocating being one of those guys?
/r/seduction23/07/17 09:35 AM
4

Cold approaching on streets might have worked in 2009 when social media was not there How old were you in 2009? There was MySpace, and girls had the same bunch of suitors, except they were following them in Messenger/AOL/ICQ... The point behind cold approach is that, for the girl, if you do it properly you're new and exciting, whereas the guys in her social circle aren't. Also you're anonymous, she can have sex with you without her friends knowing, so she can espace slutshaming. At least that's …
/r/seduction23/07/17 09:19 AM
6

If you ask interesting questions and they get bored, maybe you have a problem with your energy. Some possibilities: you don't look interested in their answers your voice always stays at the same level you don't look them in the eyes you ask questions but you don't share enough about you your voice is too high in pitch
/r/seduction23/07/17 08:42 AM
3

(IMO) drink/coffee dates suck. They lack energy. Every fucking time I've suggested or said yes to "let's get a drink" there never was a second date. Nowadays I usually suggest dancing. I suck at dancing but that's not an issue unless the woman is a good dancer.
/r/seduction23/07/17 07:43 AM
3

Unless you're good looking and have good pictures, Tinder will actually hurt your confidence and self-esteem. Also, no, don't think of girls as a game (at least not now). If you know nothing about women, start getting to know them. Find activities with women and make friends with some of them. And when you're actually able to be around women without sweating too much, come back and we'll talk about game.
/r/seduction23/07/17 07:35 AM
1

the second I show any interest she stops again. The best solution would be to fuck someone else and see if she remains indifferent.
/r/seduction22/07/17 03:21 PM
5

If you're super paranoid then get her to scream "Yes fuck me swagmeister7!" If she does scream that, should I proceed or call you?
/r/seduction22/07/17 03:19 PM
3

I do too, but with technology it has become difficult to actually delete someone in a way that can't be reversed when you're drunk and depressed. For example I've deleted the number of my oneitis, but Google has it backed up and can restore it quickly.
/r/seduction22/07/17 03:14 PM
2

The only smart idea here is to next her IMO. I think that's what he's trying to do.
/r/seduction22/07/17 03:01 PM
5

Get busy. So busy you won't have time to text her.
/r/seduction22/07/17 02:40 PM
1

Sure, you can fake knowing the place for a while, but since the OP apparently will be going there to meet his long distance crush, I still believe it's a recipe for disaster. You can't really "be alpha" when you do that. Side question: how come she's learning chinese if she's from Taiwan? Isn't it the official language that you learn in school?
/r/seduction22/07/17 01:20 PM
1

Been there, done that, never again. But since I suppose I'm not going to change your mind, here's some advice based on that experience: if you meet in Taiwan, you're going to be on her ground. You're going to be lost and dependent on her to show you around. It's very difficult to lead in that position. Meet her in Ireland or in a place that is unknown to both of you.
/r/seduction22/07/17 01:04 PM
6

You're not really supposed to give out many IOIs, since you're not the one expecting her to take a move. What you need is to escalate. As a matter of fact, showing disinterest can be more useful sometimes (if it's followed by showing interest). Push-pull. Don't think "she needs to know I'm into her, she shouldn't be sure until you're actually escalating.
/r/seduction22/07/17 12:59 PM
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Since you're not interested in more than sex I don't see why you should hold back on the flirting. IMO you should be clearer in your intentions: say you're not looking for a romantic date but a fun night, and he should get the hint. Propose a time and place.
/r/seduction22/07/17 12:49 PM
2

What do you expect you'll get out of "dropping a hint"? You think she's going to make the first move?
/r/seduction21/07/17 05:13 PM
20

It looks like the ball is in your court. He was going too fast, now he's going too slow, help him out a bit. How eager are you?
/r/seduction21/07/17 04:49 PM
2

What if she's comfortable enough sitting skin to skin on a couch? Then she's probably comfortable with you touching her on the thigh or grabbing her by the shoulder and pulling her closer.
/r/seduction20/07/17 01:04 PM
1

I've tried meditating but I have alot of trouble just sitting still. There is a version of meditation where you walk, it might suit you better. You can also do it while swimming, which has the obvious benefit of giving you larger shoulders.
/r/seduction20/07/17 08:35 AM
1

being a good person but not wanting to get taken advantage of If you give something because you want to, and without expecting anything in return, then you can't really be taken advantage of. It only becomes possible when you do something because someone asked for it (and you didn't want to), or because you were expecting an outcome (and it never came).
/r/seduction19/07/17 03:50 PM
1

I usually stick to missionary, doggy style and cowgirl/reverse. I'm not a fan of acrobatic positions, for me diversity comes more from the general mood, how rough you are, and also where you're doing it. One moment my last GF remembered vividly was when I came to her place, kissed her, removed her clothes, put her on the table and then had sex with her. We did nothing extraordinary, what made it special is that I didn't ask for it, I just did it.
/r/seduction19/07/17 03:27 PM
1

So the fact that you had to been thinking about it previous to seeing her That's the "thoughtful" part :) A gift has to mean something. Here it was a joke and a reference to a playful moment we had. But it wasn't expensive, nor a big gesture.
/r/seduction19/07/17 03:19 PM
2

it's getting more common to see white women with men of other ethnicities. It's getting more common because we're no longer burning crosses in their front yards. But online dating statistics still say we "have it easy" compared to other ethnicities.
/r/seduction19/07/17 03:14 PM
1

Well unless she says no or starts ghosting there is no reason to move on. Just make it clear that you want a date, to avoid a "just friends" situation.
/r/seduction19/07/17 03:06 PM
2

First don't worry, you don't have to try a lot of positions. Sometimes you're not going to bring her to orgasm, that's also expected. As long as you're relaxed and attentive to how she reacts you're going to be fine. And do things in whatever order you want, there are no rules. If she wants it rough, you can try, during missionary, to take her hands and bring them above her head. Hold them both with one hand (and the weight of your body) and continue what you were doing. It's easy, not threateni…
/r/seduction19/07/17 03:02 PM
2

You're probably struggling because: it's hard to have any form of tension when texting you're trying too hard There is a very high risk that by texting often, you're just "being present". But being present without doing anything is what puts you in the friendzone. Let her come to you (and set up a date, if she's interested she can find two hours). I'm saying that as a guy who is currently texting a girl often. But it's because she's away, we already agreed on a date, and she's chasing me. I don'…
/r/seduction19/07/17 02:54 PM
2

There are two potential problems with you touching her: maybe she doesn't like being touched, or maybe you're being creepy. You can't do anything about the first problem, so focus on not being creepy. The easiest way is to convey that touching is normal for you (I know it's not). How do you convey that? Touch everyone from the start. On a safe place: forearm or shoulder. If you suddenly start touching her after a while and she's not ready, she's going to notice the change and it's going to look …
/r/seduction19/07/17 02:49 PM
1

There is a very small number of young white women over here and with men of every race chasing them it increases their own perceived value. And the men are chasing them because of that same perceived value. It goes both ways.
/r/seduction19/07/17 02:36 PM
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Don't try to build sexual tension by texting, ask her out as soon as possible and then flirt in person. If you need to text because she's not available for a while and she's texting you, then don't text a lot. Let her contact you. To increase tension, take anything she says that can be understood as her chasing you, and tease her about it. Suggest that she's flirting but you're not easy. If she takes it up a notch, then the rest is easy. But once again, don't do it if you can meet her.
/r/seduction19/07/17 02:32 PM
1

Ouch... sorry, that's even worse :(
/r/seduction19/07/17 02:26 PM
5

But we're not talking about being acceptably good looking, we're talking about several women making the first move on someone. Women rarely make the first move unless you really stand out.
/r/seduction19/07/17 12:55 PM
1

Do you have a busy life? Female friends? That's all you need to be able to give your girlfriend some space: do more stuff without her.
/r/seduction19/07/17 09:09 AM
1

In a way you're lucky. My own oneitis suggested that I should have made my move sooner. It makes it that much harder to move on and not be tempted to wait for her to break up with her current boyfriend (which is not going to happen any time soon).
/r/seduction19/07/17 08:27 AM
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You're right, it depends what is meant by flirting. I was thinking about teasing without serious intentions, not actively trying to seduce them (for example don't escalate).
/r/seduction19/07/17 08:21 AM
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Well, you don't have to actually sleep with them, but (IMO): Human interaction is more fun than being alone It gets you better at flirting in general They might have cute friends They might be interesting and become good friends
/r/seduction19/07/17 08:11 AM
1

can being thoughtful and surprising someone [...] impact your game negatively? There's a difference between being thoughtful and being needy. You're needy when you're actively looking for opportunities to help her, and when they arise, you do a little bit too much and expect a big thank you. That's what offputing. For example, a friend of mine moved in a new flat and mentionned that she had no cutlery. Twice, she "borrowed" a knife at the restaurant of the university, and I teased her a bit. The…
/r/seduction19/07/17 06:27 AM
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you'll end up flirting with a lot of fat chicks. Which is still more fun than spending your days and nights alone watching porn on a computer.
/r/seduction19/07/17 05:38 AM
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It might work for crushes, but I know my oneitis very well and I find her flaws adorable. Moving on and dating other people really is the only option in that case.
/r/seduction18/07/17 02:22 PM
2

If you want to look like everybody else, you can order an alcohol-free mojito. You don't need to drink but it's useful to have something in your hand.
/r/seduction18/07/17 08:33 AM
1

Is it a problem? I was sorta aiming for that myself, but I have issues caring for people I don't know yet.
/r/seduction17/07/17 05:13 PM
2

Same here. I get a bunch of first dates but then we both lack the motivation to set up a second date. It's weird.
/r/seduction17/07/17 04:41 PM
1

I used to wait before asking a girl out, but I never had an actual date that way. It only works (for me) when I ask on the second or third conversation.
/r/seduction17/07/17 08:44 AM
1

Text her?
/r/seduction16/07/17 01:44 PM
5

So how much weakness can you really show? Showing your weaknesses is good, whining is bad. Also, you don't want to look broken beyond repair, or make her feel that you're using her as your psychiatrist. You are supposed to be "Alpha" right? I don't like that alpha concept, but anyway, an alpha male doesn't care about showing his insecurities because being vulnerable doesn't make him less of a man.
/r/seduction16/07/17 10:51 AM
4

Interesting and well written but of little practical value. A lot of the examples are based on works of fiction.
/r/seduction15/07/17 08:08 PM
1

Then it might be your problem: http://www.webmd.com/oral-health/features/low-carb-diets-can-cause-bad-breath
/r/seduction15/07/17 06:24 AM
2

Ask her out. You'll know soon enough if the guy was her boyfriend. Maybe he's her gay wingman, maybe they just started dating but she's still open to other options, no way to know if you don't try anything.
/r/seduction14/07/17 07:45 AM
3

Do you think it comes from your mouth of from further down the digestive tract? Any digestive trouble? Are you dieting? You mention eating chicken breast and veggies, is this part of a low-carb diet? This could cause bad breath.
/r/seduction14/07/17 07:41 AM
1

Tell that to Carl Lewis (for example) ;)
/r/seduction14/07/17 07:37 AM
3

Average age is around 17. You're in no rush.
/r/seduction13/07/17 09:25 AM
1

OTOH, judging from his FR only, he seems to be doing ok and have a good mindset so far.
/r/seduction13/07/17 06:15 AM
1

Maybe it's "they only show superficial interest".
/r/seduction11/07/17 07:12 PM
1

Is it ok to just go for the kiss because it's still highschool or do I need that kino stuff You can't really go for the kiss unless she's already attracted to you. Touching her is both a way to let her know you're interested and to gauge her interest. If you're touching her arm, her shoulder, and she doesn't seem to care, then you can try to kiss her. (That's just the general idea of course). Also, if you're not comfortable touching her arm, there's no way you're going to look natural when you t…
/r/seduction11/07/17 01:19 PM
1

Going for something without her knowing I'm interested that way. Going for it is the best way to let her know.
/r/seduction11/07/17 12:57 PM
3

Why do you want to get over her before even being rejected?
/r/seduction11/07/17 09:48 AM
1

In most cases trying to get her to go to her place is going to scare her off at the beginning. OTOH it can be just as scary to go to some stranger's place. Most girls I know who talked to me about their one night stands do them at their place when possible.
/r/seduction11/07/17 09:37 AM
3

What I wished someone had told me when I was in high school: It's not you against the girls, you don't have to earn them, they actually are interested in meeting nice men/boys. The only obstacle is peer pressure because they're afraid other teenagers will mock them if they look interested in you. Unless you're the guy everyone is swooning at, don't be too direct when they're among "friends". If you like a girl, try something and do it quick. Summer is short. Ignore peer pressure. Know that even …
/r/seduction11/07/17 08:55 AM
1

More girls for you then!
/r/seduction10/07/17 09:41 PM
5

Now my question is: should I turn around and go after them, or should I just leave it? What are the possible outcomes ? You leave it: you don't get the girls You go after them: either you don't get the girls, or you do Which of the two options has better odds of you getting the girl?
/r/seduction10/07/17 02:09 PM
4

Just don't have sex with him. Unless you (both) want to.
/r/seduction10/07/17 02:06 PM
6

Yes, anywhere in the world women aren't vapid cunts.
/r/seduction10/07/17 08:26 AM
1

What else is left? Online dating? Please, god no... Social circle. Don't you have hobbies that allow you to meet women? If not, find some. But with some work you can also learn to approach at parties. I've been in your shoes.
/r/seduction10/07/17 06:42 AM
1

Have you tried Maca root ? I don't really suffer from ED, but I get stronger erections when I take maca root, and it's natural (and less potent than Viagra)
/r/seduction09/07/17 06:45 PM
2

When you don't know what to say, you can always fall back to asking her for directions. Which leads to asking where she's from, and then a conversation if she's receptive.
/r/seduction09/07/17 08:47 AM
5

Did you try "next week" instead of "tomorrow"? Maybe they just have busy lives and need to plan in advance.
/r/seduction09/07/17 08:39 AM
1

I'm curious: if you're only average looking, why do you expect it's going to work? My assumption would be that few women need to hire men for dating, especially men they're not going to sleep with, but really I have no idea.
/r/seduction09/07/17 08:18 AM
7

That's weird: it seems to me that daygame and cold approach require a lot more social skills that approaching at parties.
/r/seduction09/07/17 08:15 AM
7

That's a nice frame of mind but I'm still waiting for fisherwomen to notice me. Maybe the issue is that not many women see themselves as chasers/fishermen.
/r/seduction08/07/17 05:01 PM
6

I'm strongly in favor of the trip instead of the laptop. It's not about women, it's about life experiences, it'll make you grow up to see another country and to travel alone. It's good for you and it'll help with women too. Also, you may not be able to travel for a few years if you work during the summer to pay for university. The USA would be an obvious choice but if you like hiking and meeting people, China and the Great Wall could be nice. Chinese people are pretty open and they will approach…
/r/seduction08/07/17 07:19 AM
4

Is there any trick to seeing beautiful women who are just you and me Become friends with some of them, with no hidden agenda.
/r/seduction07/07/17 12:05 PM
9

There is a link in the panel on the right ->
/r/seduction06/07/17 02:22 PM
1

There have been some social psychology studies that focused on seduction and that are very interesting to read. They tried their best to isolate one factor at a time, which is something you can't really do by yourself. You can search for studies by Nicolas Guéguen, a french scientist, for example. He wrote a book that is easier to read than scientific papers, but I don't think it's been translated to English. If you guys are interested I could try to post a summary. Keep in mind that by focusing…
/r/seduction06/07/17 02:04 PM
2

If every girl is ignoring you then you're just making yourself invisible. Look them in the eyes and stand straight, it's very difficult to ignore someone who is looking at you directly.
/r/seduction06/07/17 09:41 AM
1

So basically the only thing I'm doing wrong is that I'm 36. Great...
/r/seduction05/07/17 09:08 PM
5

I'm pretty sure the problem is that you're finding reasons not to approach. (It's natural. I do too. But still...)
/r/seduction05/07/17 05:33 PM
3

Just... don't approach women who look to old for your taste? What's the problem? Are you afraid you're going to find an attractive girl, seduce her, date her, and then oh-my-god-she's-25-I-have-to-leave?
/r/seduction05/07/17 05:18 PM
1

Does she like me at all In her culture it matters less than the opinion of her parents. It's hard to grasp for us, but it's key to understand that it isn't about you.
/r/seduction05/07/17 09:43 AM
1

I don't have enough data to make statistics for real life approaches yet (I've only recently started dating again after an LTR), but I can give some statistics regarding my online dating performance: Getting replies to my messages: 1 out of 3 Getting a second conversation after the first one ended: 1 out of 3 also (so I get to really discuss with roughly 1 out of 10 women I message). Getting a date: almost always if we talked twice. Maybe 3 out of 4, I'm not sure. Getting a second date: 0 so far…
/r/seduction05/07/17 08:56 AM
2

It's not that their sex drive goes up, it's that they slowly get rid of the social conditioning that says girls don't like sex. Basically you just encounter a lot less ASD.
/r/seduction05/07/17 06:34 AM
1

If Facebook suggests her as a friend and you don't know each other, maybe she's been searching for your profile. Anyway, if you're fine with possibly being ignored, you should try and contact her. If you're not fine with being ignored, you should try to become fine with it, cause it happens a lot and it's not the end of the world.
/r/seduction05/07/17 06:33 AM
1

Sign up for a dance class. It's the number one hobby for boring guys with no talent or skills. They teach you everything, and you get to touch women (middle aged, married women.. so don't expect hot teens there.) In my city, latin dances and swing dances attract a lot of twentysomethings. Just don't take the sunday afternoon classes in the suburbs.
/r/seduction05/07/17 06:30 AM
2

The only "telling" you should do at this point would be asking her out. But whether you ask her out or not, the next step is to touch her more (on the arm, on the shoulder, then maybe on the knee), and keep eye contact longer if that's a problem. Then if everything goes well you can probably kiss her. I mean going to the beach to watch the fireworks seems like a date so she's probably very interested already. Let's hope she remained interested after you did nothing.
/r/seduction05/07/17 06:24 AM
2

Assuming it happens, and she notices, and she decides to confront you, just play along. "Oh yeah, I was stalking you and my finger slipped".
/r/seduction04/07/17 06:39 PM
2

Wow, sudden massive downvoting of anyone who criticized the post? That's subtle!
/r/seduction04/07/17 06:23 PM
1

I'm sure you have youth hostels and bar crawls. Why not try that? Everyone is friendly there.
/r/seduction04/07/17 05:43 PM
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Likewise, if you see a woman and you are not attracted to her within one seventh of a second, there is nothing she can do to make you attracted to her What about the many times where it happened to me? Are my genes deficient? ;)
/r/seduction04/07/17 01:30 PM
8

you are truly abundant then why do you even need to talk/approach woman ? You don't need to but you might want to. You're conveing to the woman that you approached her because she was attractive or looked interesting, not because you need to do that to talk to women. You chose to talk to her, not to any attractive woman passing by.
/r/seduction04/07/17 07:40 AM
2

I sometimes manage to become obsessed with several girls at once, so... be careful ;)
/r/seduction04/07/17 07:22 AM
1

It's just a stupid bot that reacts to smileys.
/r/seduction03/07/17 12:44 PM
2

It depends on the woman, the generic approaches don't really work. I've had good answers when I started with a bad joke, but they didn't lead to actual dates. The general idea is to use their profile as if you met them in the street and asked "what's your job" or "what are your hobbies". You build on their answers, find a commonality or some question to ask. I'm not saying I'm very successful, but I've had a few dates on OkC, and only one on Tinder. Tinder has been a wasteland for me.
/r/seduction03/07/17 11:54 AM
2

On all apps today except Match and OKCupid, a girl has to swipe on you before you can write her. And for some reason I'm having more success on OkCupid. I think the swiping is making women a lot more picky than when you can message them first.
/r/seduction03/07/17 11:47 AM
1

With regards to making friends, I became more vulnerable (see Models). I used to keep the personal stuff to myself and avoid talking about my insecurities/problems. Now I sometimes talk about it, I thank people when they do something nice, and so on. With regards to meeting strangers, I just gave up on trying to look interesting, I'm trying to make them look good now. For example the other day a guy was doing magic tricks, and instead of bragging about my own tricks I asked him for more and was …
/r/seduction03/07/17 09:29 AM
18

girls will believe whatever is told to them. It's a wonder you're not a girl magnet, with that mentality...
/r/seduction03/07/17 08:22 AM
1

I didn't have any very close friend for about 10 years, now I have two, plus a bunch of regular friends. I couldn't participate in conversations when I was with a group of people, and I was incapable of going to person to person and introduce myself in a party. Now I can do all that. I just wish I started improving sooner because I missed out on the college years.
/r/seduction03/07/17 07:09 AM
1

You're a wise man.
/r/seduction02/07/17 10:43 PM
1

Leave the movie early because it sucks and bring her on a road trip instead? I don't know, movie dates are boring, find a way to shake it up a bit. Bring her to a chinese movie without subtitles. Suggest a "movie and laundromat" date instead of "movie and Starbucks". Anything that's at least a little bit surprising.
/r/seduction02/07/17 09:08 PM
1

I stand with my initial advice, then ;)
/r/seduction02/07/17 08:58 PM
1

Surprise her, kiss her before the movie. I'm mostly kidding, but movie dates suck.
/r/seduction02/07/17 08:53 PM
2

Pretend they're whishing her good luck, maybe?
/r/seduction02/07/17 08:28 PM
2

An allegory: the donkey who was both hungry and thirsty, had water and food available, but died because it couldn't decide where to start.
/r/seduction02/07/17 08:26 PM
2

The issue isn't really that you only want them for sex, it's why you're not wanting more. If it's because you don't like her or don't think she's worthy of your company, then she's going to feel diminished or insulted. OTOH, if it's because you can't be together for some reason (you're her boss, you're married, you're about to die), then they'd probably become more attracted.
/r/seduction02/07/17 08:24 PM
4

If a girl came up to you and grabbed your balls and said lets fuck would you think of her as a possible romantic girlfriend to take to italy? I totally would, but that's a matter of taste I suppose.
/r/seduction02/07/17 08:20 PM
3

Assuming you're watching the movie at her place and not at the theater, the first step would be to touch her forearm while making a comment about the movie. Then (assuming she seems receptive) vary the touch by bumping your shoulder en hers (and staying a bit longer than expected), touching her knee instead of forearm, whisper in her ear... Then if she's still receptive she should be focusing on you more than on the movie, so you can escalate more aggressively.
/r/seduction02/07/17 08:04 PM
17

You should straight up ask. Asking one girl out is not creepy, it just means you like her. It's asking all the girls from the gym that would be creepy.
/r/seduction02/07/17 11:05 AM
1

I feel like shit and feel as though only tall, handosme guys have got a shot at prettty girls. On the dancefloor or on Tinder it's a bit true. But assuming you have a good personality why don't you try to approach women in a context where you can talk to them before being rejected?
/r/seduction02/07/17 09:47 AM
22

Then it's going to be a long journey, and you should start as soon as possible. I too had issues making friends with anyone, but I'm doing better now.
/r/seduction02/07/17 09:38 AM
2

This is not based on experience, but I'd be careful with bondage, at least in the beginnning. A threesome with strangers can be a bit scary. I would start with a simple encounter (kiss, touch, fuck) and then talk.
/r/seduction01/07/17 08:08 PM
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From the MMF point of view, I had no intention to interact with the guy and it was clear from the beginning, but it didn't help. From an FFM pov, I suppose you can play it cool and let your girl do most of the work. Be clear that you're not going to force the other girl to do something she's not comfortable with.
/r/seduction01/07/17 07:54 PM
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This is not really relevant to your question but I've tried the other way: couple looking for a second guy for a threesome. It's fucking difficult! They're all fine with fucking your girl but not if you're there.
/r/seduction01/07/17 07:39 PM
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Tons of guys are naturals and get hundreds of lays without any theory. It's probably safe to assume that nobody around here is a natural.
/r/seduction01/07/17 06:49 PM
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Being a virgin at 17 is perfectly normal: https://www.thesun.co.uk/news/1861997/brazilians-do-it-youngest-and-brits-at-18-according-to-world-map-showing-average-age-people-lose-their-virginity/
/r/seduction01/07/17 01:40 PM
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Hey, If I am not mistaken inner game is basically trying to improve you're confidence and overall improve you're life? Improving your life is not inner game, it's how you improve your inner game. Inner game mostly is confidence, and it's easier to be confident if you have a good life. How do you get better at making eye contact with girls? You practice, first with people you know, then with strangers. Start with one second, then two, then three... what else can help my confidence? Find your inse…
/r/seduction01/07/17 08:06 AM
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In most countries it would be illegal to act on those fantasies. But at your age it's normal to have some and you will probably get attracted to older girls as you grow older. Bottom line: don't do anything stupid, and don't worry about your fantasies until you grow older.
/r/seduction01/07/17 07:58 AM
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With that being the case, how does being wealthy and better overall as a guy negate some of the setbacks that come with getting older You've got money so you can do more stuff, like take dance or acting lessons, or travel. All of this allows you to meet new people easily.
/r/seduction30/06/17 01:50 PM
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this for the goal of attracting high level women By letting women come to you, you're preselecting a type of women: the ones who are fine with approaching men. I'm not convinced that "high level" women are more common in that group than in the general population, but it depends on how you define high level. The women I like usually don't need to approach or are way too shy to approach.
/r/seduction30/06/17 01:02 PM
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I just don't know how I can end up making her want sex Most people (including women) don't need help to want sex. Just being with someone they like at a party and making out would do the trick. Assume you both want the same thing and focus on having a good time.
/r/seduction30/06/17 06:11 AM
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Well, if you ever want to do some tourism while you're still part of Europe, drop me a line :p
/r/seduction29/06/17 11:41 AM
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You don't happen to live in Paris, do you? 'cause your brother would approve of me ;)
/r/seduction29/06/17 09:52 AM
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I'm pretty open minded but I like smart women, mostly scientists. One issue I have is that smalltalk bores me to death, but by the time I know someone enough to get to the interesting stuff I'm already friendzoned. It's a bit complicated to say "tell me more about your PhD" in a nightclub ;)
/r/seduction29/06/17 08:53 AM
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We're all not boring. I know! The issue is me, not women in general.
/r/seduction29/06/17 08:49 AM
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I would reply something like "do I look like the easy type" or "you're a bit presumptuous", wait for a reaction and then grab her by the waist and start making out.
/r/seduction29/06/17 08:11 AM
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If the girl is attractive I aim for "friends with benefits". It's a middle ground that can evolve to "friends" if she's taken or not interested or to "lovers" if we fall in love.
/r/seduction29/06/17 08:01 AM
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Overdressing is also a thing I feel that if you want to get noticed you should always be slighly overdressed or slightly underdressed. Both make you stand out and also display confidence.
/r/seduction29/06/17 07:56 AM
1

Why?
/r/seduction28/06/17 02:04 PM
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there has been a major shift in this sub since I went on it 5+ years ago, from pickup lines and negs to improving your mental health, and just acting like yourself. I've been around since the publication of The Game and I'm glad to see the PUA stuff go away, but I still believe we need to find a middle ground. Sometimes being yourself isn't enough because you suck, and you need to be able to see it and do something about it. For example we often tell people to work out. That's self improvement b…
/r/seduction28/06/17 07:45 AM
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It's not a conversation, then, it's a one man show. But yeah I know I don't have to talk to them, that's kinda my point here: I get bored and I leave. Still, I must be doing something wrong.
/r/seduction26/06/17 03:46 PM
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Wow, certainly not. I'm not there to entertain women.
/r/seduction26/06/17 03:33 PM
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Imagine that you are already going out with her. I would advise against that. Assume a yes, but be prepared for a no. Don't dream about the future date or you'll get heartbroken if she says no.
/r/seduction26/06/17 01:22 PM
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It seems to me that nobody calls anybody anymore, you text. But don't ask her out by text if you can avoid it. Just do it that way if you're sure you would chicken out in person.
/r/seduction26/06/17 11:57 AM
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A threesome with a virgin? That's optimistic :)
/r/seduction26/06/17 08:37 AM
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Also a lot of the examples come from fiction, which is a bit stupid.
/r/seduction24/06/17 10:53 AM
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The best recommandation would bo to stop reading for a while, date a bunch of girls, then reread the same books to see if you learn something new.
/r/seduction22/06/17 08:56 AM
3

What urges? You just said you had no sex drive anymore. Seriously, why don't you try finding what works for you, by experimenting? You kinda look like you're looking for a guru.
/r/seduction21/06/17 10:21 PM
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How can I change this? Fap?
/r/seduction21/06/17 09:55 PM
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Then maybe you can reframe your actions as a way to reduce uncertainty. You like a girl, you don't know how she feels, and asking her out is a way to know. If your goal is to reduce uncertainty, then even is she says no, you reached your goal.
/r/seduction20/06/17 02:07 PM
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Both? I don't want to settle down but I want to meet a lot of interesting women.
/r/seduction20/06/17 12:02 PM
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It always depends on the girl but in general, yeah, they care. They don't want to seem easy or to be called sluts. This is why you should at least be friendly towards her friends. Frame the situation as "meeting someone cool" instead of "getting picked up".
/r/seduction20/06/17 12:01 PM
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She might even be less likely to cheat on you if she has some experience. A girl with no experience might think that she deserves some, or might want to experiment.
/r/seduction20/06/17 08:00 AM
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As in what works in your life with your looks don't really apply to everyone else you know? I don't understand. It's not about what works or what doesn't, it's a simple observation that women tend to date men who are a bit older. Ask any woman or google "age disparity" and you'll find statistics. About experience, you're right that women like experience more than wrinkles. Wrinkles are only an indicator of experience. But the more you wait, the older you'll start dating with 0 experience. I too …
/r/seduction20/06/17 06:46 AM
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You probably had only one because you couldn't get more. Why judge her because she was more lucky, or simply had more options because she's a girl? I'll never understand men who don't want their girlfriends to have a past. Don't you want her to enjoy sex?
/r/seduction20/06/17 06:30 AM
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If you don't mind me asking where you get your information? Out of curiosity I'd like to take a good look at it. Seems interesting. From life. And women. Have you ever talked to girls about the kind of guys they like? And any book about dating is going to tell you the same.
/r/seduction20/06/17 06:11 AM
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Isn't your prime between 16-20? That's mostly when the big dating/sex phase of men's lives usually start no? Sure, people date and have sex before 25, but at that age everyone is inexperienced and the girls aren't very interesting. Most women become interesting between 20 and 30, and women tend to date men who are 5 to 10 years older. You do the math :)
/r/seduction20/06/17 05:49 AM
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I'm currently 25 so I'm well past my prime and that kinda plays a factor too I would think no? Your prime is starting now. How many hot girls do you see with men below 25? Maybe a few during college but after that there usually is at least a 5 years difference between the man and the woman in a couple.
/r/seduction20/06/17 05:37 AM
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And I'm already at a pretty old age for dating, 25 Oh, come on, I'm 36. I don't think I should start doing something without being prepared or having an understanding of what I'm doing. In order to succeed, you have to fail a lot first. You should start failing now. You can't really understand the theory until you can compare it to the facts. You won't know how a shit test feels until you've encountered one, for example, and being "prepared" won't help.
/r/seduction20/06/17 05:29 AM
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When you get rejected a lot, you have two options: blame women, or take responsibility. TRP blames women, seddit tells you to improve yourself.
/r/seduction19/06/17 07:28 PM
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Too soon for what? I said I don't ask for her number. Chat for a bit. Depending on the conversation (hookup or dating?) either ask her out after a few messages or after a day or two. If she says yes, give her your number to facilitate finding each other. She usually gives you hers, but don't use it unless you need to cancel, say that you're late, etc. I never had an issue with that process.
/r/seduction19/06/17 07:19 PM
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Of course? You're overthinking it (again). What's important isn't the name of the app. It's that you don't need her number at all before you meet. What would you do with it? Text her and make conversation? When you meet a girl outside, you get her number to contact her and ask her out. When you meet her online, you can already ask her out.
/r/seduction19/06/17 07:15 PM
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As you stated earlier that there are some aspects that you need together before you do anything. "Do all you can as far as the outward stuff" This point of view is why I wrote my post and exposed myself to all that criticism. Don't wait before you've fixed everything, because by that time you'll be older and you're not going to have fixed the most important thing: being able to talk to women and get them excited.
/r/seduction19/06/17 03:40 PM
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nowhere in that advice does it say that improvement means you get to sit back and women do all the work in a two-way interaction. I never said that. I don't expect women to approach me. When I said they "didn't come" it was as opposed to "the girls will come eventually". Instead, if you truly have improved yourself, then you WILL be meeting your dating goals. Period. There's a bit of a "no true Scotsman" vibe going on here. Also, "adventurous" and "bad boy." You keep conflating the two. Cut that…
/r/seduction19/06/17 03:35 PM
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I give my number when we've decided to meet. She usually sends a text to give me hers, or she'll ping me when she arrived to the meeting place.
/r/seduction19/06/17 02:47 PM
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Will you be staying in youth hostels? Going to their events? If so, it should be enough.
/r/seduction19/06/17 12:17 PM
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Thanks for all the advice. I've been here a while, so I've read Dale Carnegie, Style, Mystery and most of the old stuff. I'm reading Models at the moment. I try not to focus too much on theory, though, because when I do that I tend to practice less.
/r/seduction19/06/17 11:38 AM
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Unsatisfying? What is unsatisfying about finding fun, interesting people and sleeping with them? What's unsatisfying (to me) is that by moving on easily and just browsing through girls until I find one who likes me, I'm sending myself the subconscious signal that most girls don't like me. I can ignore that signal for a while, but after a while it gets to me. I know that's bullshit, it's just the process of playing the numbers that makes me feel that way. how many places can you take a girl to, w…
/r/seduction19/06/17 09:13 AM
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I'm not saying I am ahead of the curve, I'm saying I wasn't on the right curve. My whole post says that arbitrary achievements didn't make me attractive to women. I think we actually agree but I'm not expressing myself clearly enough.
/r/seduction19/06/17 07:38 AM
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Thanks. I actually wanted to include escalation in the "make them feel stuff" category but it seems I forgot. You're totally right, it's one of my big roadblocks. But I think it's part of something bigger. Even when I escalate I feel there is something missing. It was also missing when I was in an LTR, where I had no problem escalating. Instead of trying to physically escalate, you apparently thought checking off "most boxes" would lead to girls, I don't know, doing things for you. I didn't thin…
/r/seduction19/06/17 06:47 AM
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Thanks for taking the time. Your post wasn't that rash, however it seems to me that you misunderstood me, probably because I was trying to keep my post short and to the point, leaving the rest to the discussion. I'm going to ignore the parts where you're trying to find reasons I'm not awesome yet. I'm not here to prove that I am and that paragraph where I listed my qualities was difficult to write because I actually hate to brag. My list of what women might want to feel never implied that a wome…
/r/seduction19/06/17 06:27 AM
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When: the day after if you want to. In the afternoon/evening, don't wake her up, you're supposed to have a life. How: say it was nice meeting her and you'd like to have a coffee/drink at a specific date, would she be available? Then don't be needy and don't text her again unless she answers.
/r/seduction18/06/17 06:09 PM
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She should be the one initiating dirty talk. You can say sexual stuff but you need to stay classy and not be the first one to say "dick" or "cunt".
/r/seduction18/06/17 05:58 PM
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Thanks. I'm actually meeting a lot more people right now, which led to a lot of rejection, which led to introspection (what else do I need to improve?), which led to my post here ;) you just need to meet eligible women, and they will see it. They will see it, but they're not going to become attracted to me because of it. I mean, I meet a lot of single ladies through online dating so they are technically available. But unless I'm putting some effort in the seduction process, I'm getting rejected.…
/r/seduction18/06/17 05:19 PM
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I should note that, despite my second paragraph that sounds an awful lot like bragging, I don't feel awesome (mostly because of the constant rejection). This is why I'm posting here. I think guys need to know that if they're failing with women, it's not always about their self worth. I'm a big fan of self improvement too, and the seduction community helped me a lot in that department. But the secondary message here is: don't wait to get "better". Improve yourself, sure, but start working on sedu…
/r/seduction18/06/17 05:11 PM
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IMO the problem is not the girl, you lack confidence. If you had more, you wouldn't mind her dancing with other guys or taking the initiative sometimes. Since she's staying with you and having sex with you, those are not issues; you're turning them into issues out of anxiety. I'm not judging, I'm just pointing it out. Anything you do to prevent her from dancing or to "regain" control is going to look needy. Instead, go dance with other girls.
/r/seduction18/06/17 03:38 PM
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Maybe facial hair, more muscle and a change of clothes would help, but it's mostly about attitude. I'm facing the same issues. I'd say the first step is to be more assertive when you interact with girls. It's hard to say more because you're not telling us how you flirt and how you act.
/r/seduction18/06/17 03:08 PM
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You got a lot of answers. Your problem is not that we're not answering, it's that you're still considering gays as a group of people who all behave in the same way, get aroused by the same things and at the same time. Insisting that there is a yes or no question and we're holding out on you is so very stupid that I'm pretty sure you are either trolling or afraid that gays get boners when they see you.
/r/seduction18/06/17 08:39 AM
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If he's at home looking at models, he probably wants to get an erection, so yes. If he's in the street and stumbles on an ad with a Calvin Klein model, then probably not. We're all different but for me the time of random boners was between 15 and 20, much less after that. I go no nude beaches without getting an erection, even if the girls are very pretty. OTOH when I'm home alone with a girl I like and I see her in a tank-top it can be a lot more arousing. It's just less about the body and more …
/r/seduction18/06/17 07:11 AM
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Once again: no, except if they're young or already horny. Same as straight males.
/r/seduction18/06/17 07:02 AM
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You're missing the point, there is no "they". Age and experience is more important than being gay or straight: the older you become the less spontaneous boners you get. Assuming you're a straight guy, if you want to know if a picture is attractive to a gay guy, just gender-swap it (and exchange muscle for boobs).
/r/seduction18/06/17 06:57 AM
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Gays are people, you can rephrase your question as: do men get erect when they see pictures of people they like or see them in public? The answer is: it can happen but it's rare unless the picture is provocative. It happens more during teenagehood.
/r/seduction18/06/17 06:45 AM
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The point is to experiment: compliment them, touch them (on the arm or on the back, do not "grab them by the pussy"), hug them, try to kiss them. On those practice nights your goal is to fail, but to learn.
/r/seduction17/06/17 08:19 PM
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how do I get overcome the initial fear of it? By confronting it. It's difficult because your goal is to get the girl. If you mess up, she's going to leave, so you're afraid. Once in a while, while going out, decide that you're not going to bring a girl home that night. You're there to practice and confront your fear. Express your arousal to girls, slowly progressing to the point they're uneasy with it. You're not going to have sex with those girls but you're going to learn what you can and canno…
/r/seduction17/06/17 07:39 PM
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Being passionate isn't enough. Did you ever have to listen to a guy retelling the life of his Dungeons&Dragons character? You have to learn how to tell an interesting story, and how to include the other person in the conversation.
/r/seduction15/06/17 03:19 PM
1

Why do you want to approach girls on the street if Tinder is working for you? If it's a skill you really want to acquire then of course it's fine, but maybe you don't have to.
/r/seduction15/06/17 02:34 PM
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Online dating kind of sucks, though. Instead look for couchsurfing meetups or activities linked to youth hostels (assuming you are targeting women below 35).
/r/seduction15/06/17 12:58 PM
3

It doesn't matter if she's laughing out of attraction or if she's being polite, you got her talking and that's the point of an opener.
/r/seduction15/06/17 08:33 AM
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If she ignores something, don't push but don't apologize either. But here you shouldn't worry. Even if she felt a little bit rejected it's good.
/r/seduction15/06/17 08:16 AM
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It can be a good thing. You want her to chase you, at least a little bit, and it seems she did. How did she react exactly?
/r/seduction15/06/17 06:18 AM
1

An idea I read here was to film yourself instead, move around and take different poses, then select the best frame.
/r/seduction14/06/17 01:27 PM
1

You can offer to go "someplace more quiet" and if she follows then you kiss her. It's less direct but it's still pretty clear what you mean.
/r/seduction14/06/17 01:16 PM
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3) be exciting. Otherwise you become BFF with the girls you talked to when you met them through your interesting hobbies.
/r/seduction14/06/17 07:12 AM
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Oh yes I know they will be DTF. My question was more about the practicalities. I suck at smalltalk but some smalltalk is expected before you can escalade.
/r/seduction13/06/17 09:35 PM
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The less you have in common with her, the more you can learn from conversation. Unless you're just uninterested in what girls might have to say in general, but that would be a bit strange. Please give more details, why do you have nothing in common?
/r/seduction13/06/17 03:23 PM
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It's a bit too soon IMO, and it seems unpractical during a hiking trip. Are you going to bring the flowers with you on the trip? I would suggest instead something to eat or drink. Or brining an instant camera so you can give her pictures of the both of you taken during the trip.
/r/seduction13/06/17 08:19 AM
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As long as you like here there's nothing wrong about that. If you don't like her at all and you just want to lose your virginity, I'm not sure it's a good idea. At least make sure she's not going to regret it.
/r/seduction12/06/17 12:40 PM
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"I don't know if it's good, let's find out together. <time and date>?"
/r/seduction11/06/17 04:45 AM
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It gets you fit ;) Of course you can also work out after work but it's easier to get distracted by other activities, like having a beer with your friends. Work out in the morning and you're free for the day.
/r/seduction11/06/17 04:42 AM
1

Openers suck. But this one is excellent!
/r/seduction10/06/17 08:05 PM
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Of course you don't ask the girl to go home with you, you want her to ask if she can come over. My point is that you have to adjust your game to the girl you're talking to. If she's looking for a casual hookup, get her hornier. If she's looking for a relationship, sure, play it safe if it works for you. In that specific case (IMO) the reason he failed isn't that he was too forward but he was just too easy, too available. When a girl says she wants sex it doesn't mean she wants a penis inside her…
/r/seduction10/06/17 07:45 PM
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It is common sense but insightful, IMO. What's missing is that women want a sense of adventure/passion. They are relaxed/wanted/listened to when they are with their nice guy friends. Some of them are even funny. What those guys are missing is something more primal.
/r/seduction10/06/17 03:24 PM
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In general I would agree but if a girl looks like she's looking for an instant hookup, well, why not? Unless you just want real dates that can lead to a relationship, that is. But for a one night stand you don't try to keep her horniness down.
/r/seduction10/06/17 08:03 AM
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Well at least with Tinder I never get to ask, beg or talk with anyone ;) These days I mostly use it as a prop with girls I meet in real life. They like swiping for you and it's a good way to start talking about sex or what you're looking for in a woman. Or what they like in a woman and whether they're bisexual or not.
/r/seduction10/06/17 07:33 AM
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I wouldn't ignore that she's horny, because if she's not trolling/catfishing then she's not interested in smalltalk. But you can't just reply "me too" and expect her to come knocking at your door. I would answer something like "and how do you expect me to help you with that?"
/r/seduction10/06/17 07:29 AM
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Infield vids are also subject to selection bias: you're not going to see the girls who are bothered or scared by the approach.
/r/seduction09/06/17 03:24 PM
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Oh but I am awesome already ;) I'm kidding but honestly I feel like I've fixed most of the "lifestyle" issue, the biggest roadblock now is my inability to attract physically.
/r/seduction09/06/17 07:16 AM
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I did not give information about why I failed because I was hoping for a more general discussion. I know part of why I failed: it took me a while to make moves on her and by that point she was trying to be faithful to a guy. What I don't know is whether she would have been interested had I run a better game. Let me try to explain why I don't care much about the "move on" advice, hopefully I won't look too stubborn: I've been the nice guy orbiter in the past but the seduction community taught me …
/r/seduction09/06/17 07:03 AM
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It seems it's a bit difficult to get past the usual "move on" answer. I'm here to increase my seduction skills, which means I don't just want to play the numbers until I find a girl who's into me from the get go. I'm trying to understand why I fail and see if I can fix it. If I can't succeed, I can't, no big deal, but I'd like to try.
/r/seduction08/06/17 11:00 PM
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Well then you need to find better friends/acquaintances...
/r/seduction08/06/17 01:39 PM
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I know the feeling, I am the same. I don't have a miracle solution except becoming comfortable with silence. As long as you're able to contribute something to the conversation sometimes, remaining silent most of the time isn't an issue. In fact you can develop a reputation of confidence that way. The key is not to look bored when you're not talking. Be enthusiastic about what other people say. Don't be the silent guy in the corner, be the guy who is listening and participating by saying "no way!…
/r/seduction08/06/17 01:28 PM
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Most people enjoy talking more than listening. This means that if you don't know what to say, most of the time you can choose to listen instead. Of course at some point you have to say something, but you can let her do most of the talking and then react to what she said.
/r/seduction08/06/17 01:07 PM
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This might actually work... I'd date a girl who responded with a good "KAW KA".
/r/seduction08/06/17 01:05 PM
1

Become a millionaire, a rock star or a movie star. Otherwise, you'd better start approaching them :-/
/r/seduction08/06/17 11:51 AM
1

Ballroom dances shoudln't be the first ones you learn, but being able to lead a waltz can be very attractive if you get the chance (at a wedding, for example). Most girls won't know how to waltz but if you can lead them they're going to feel a little bit like a Disney princess.
/r/seduction07/06/17 06:19 PM
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I don't know if dancing attracts girls but it puts them in your arms, litterally. So yeah, dancing.
/r/seduction06/06/17 07:08 PM
2

Sorry for being blunt, but if you can't get female friends it's probably that you are boring, not that you are ugly.
/r/seduction06/06/17 02:43 PM
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Every time I made a plan where the girl "inevitably" was supposed to do something, she didn't. So if she doesn't confirm that it's a date, don't insist. Go on your 'date', escalate, kiss her, and then she'll inevitably let you know ;)
/r/seduction06/06/17 09:19 AM
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IMO partner dancing is more useful for seduction purposes. When dancing on your own in a club, you show confidence by dancing, you don't have to do it well. Dancing well is only attractive to women who are actively interested in dancers. OTOH, in partner dances you have to learn how to lead your partner and it is useful on many levels. Girls who know how to dance rarely find a good partner. Girls who don't know how to dance enjoy a leader who can lead them even though they don't know the moves. …
/r/seduction06/06/17 08:28 AM
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IMO it's not a good way to approach non-monogamy. First, from what you wrote I suppose you only want it for yourself and would expect the girls you're seeing to be monogamous with you. But I may be wrong. The other issue here is that you expect to find a girl for whom you'd be ready to be monogamous. "The one". Whether or not She exists, it sends a strange message to the other girls, who are "not worthy". I've been in a non-monogamous relationship for five years, but IMO it worked only because w…
/r/seduction06/06/17 08:18 AM
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You should ignore the first two issues. Yeah, people will mock you because teenagers are dumb that way, but there is nothing wrong with flirting, asking girls out and being rejected. In a few years people around you will grow up and stop laughing about it, but you shouldn't wait for that to happen. Flirt now, and know that when people mock you they are in fact envious. Issue 3 will solve itself when you gain experience with girls.
/r/seduction30/05/17 09:09 AM
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IMO calling from another phone is a bad idea. Best case scenario, she doesn't answer because she's lost her phone. Worst case she answers and you'll seem needy.
/r/seduction30/05/17 08:01 AM
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If you had plans together, she asked you to call, and you didn't give her a reason to block you, then maybe she just lost her phone or something. I'd just message her on facebook about the trip.
/r/seduction30/05/17 06:43 AM
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Good stories are successions of setups and payoffs. Say you went to the zoo and got bitten by a moose. Don't say "the other day I went to the zoo, I saw lions and hyenas and then ate some ice cream and went to see the moose but one of them wanted my ice cream so it bit me." Start with "did I tell you of the time I got bitten by a moose?" (setup 1). "The other day, I went to the zoo" (girl is interested because she knows it ends with you being bitten). "I saw some lions and hyenas. I felt like I …
/r/seduction29/05/17 12:44 PM
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I don't want to be hostile but opinions aren't very useful when they're not based on data. Your counter-example shows that there are counter-examples (there always are some), but it doesn't show that the "no texting" advice is "stupid". Anyone could then say "I've fucked a girl I didn't text so texting is stupid" and we're back to square one. Now, personnaly, I don't think texting is completely forbidden except for setting up dates. Sometimes when I see something relevant to what we discussed be…
/r/seduction28/05/17 07:36 PM
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"Tell me something I don't know" is a good one that gives you a lot of little anecdotes.
/r/seduction27/05/17 06:16 AM
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Maybe you could start doing street photography: it gives you an excuse for your parents AND it can be used to approach women.
/r/seduction25/05/17 03:07 PM
1

That quote by Joss Whedon: be yourself, unless you suck.
/r/seduction25/05/17 12:01 PM
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Can you go out with a friend? Give him $20 that he can keep if you don't approach 4 girls in an hour, for example.
/r/seduction24/05/17 09:05 AM
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In you thirties, you're at the ideal age to date women from 25 to 30. A lot of them don't have kids (but may be starting to think about having some).
/r/seduction24/05/17 08:29 AM
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Right. I'm reasonably driven, successful and self-assured, but I still manage to put myself in the friendzone regularly. Self improvement is a fine goal but at some point you have to consider how to escalate and close the deal because most girls are not going to do it.
/r/seduction24/05/17 08:21 AM
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For every advice out there you'll find exceptions. There are no absolute rules when humans are involved. Doesn't mean there are no good rules.
/r/seduction23/05/17 04:40 AM
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Can't you find parties where you have more fun? Places with better music? Maybe you need to throw your own parties.
/r/seduction22/05/17 10:22 AM
3

Maybe it's a coincidence but I've been using Tinder for a few days and I got my first match after trying your trick. Could it be that by restricting the distance you also reduce the number of profiles that Tinder shows you just because they're close?
/r/seduction22/05/17 08:44 AM
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Although "Models" seems fine, from the few pages I've read, I wouldn't recommend reading books about seduction. Read forums, you'll get a diversity of opinions and kind of a synthesis of all the books. There aren't many strong rules apart from "be assertive" and "make your move sooner than later" anyway. If you want to read books and become better at seduction, then read good novels or interesting non-fiction. That'll give you depth and you'll have stuff to talk about on dates.
/r/seduction18/05/17 09:15 AM
3

Imagine the roles were reversed: you fucked a girl and now you want to fuck her friend. Do you think the friend should reject you?
/r/seduction18/05/17 07:00 AM
3

OTOH you need to get matches.
/r/seduction17/05/17 09:12 AM
2

How is this subliminal?
/r/seduction08/05/17 09:20 AM
3

I'd say about 90% of girls made out within minutes at least once in their life. When they were in the right mindset and the right place. A lot of the PUA stuff is about finding them in the right place and making sure they are in the right mindset. (I'm not saying it works as well as advertised, though.)
/r/seduction08/05/17 07:03 AM
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Not creepy unless he's the kind of guy who thinks good girls don't masturbate, and you don't want to date that kind of guy.
/r/seduction08/05/17 06:33 AM
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There is no downside to being honest, BUT the way you communicate is vital. For example, you will never regret showing a girl you like her if you do it properly. But doing it properly isn't telling her "I love you" or any such thing. It's showing/telling her you like her without putting any pressure on her. If you are whole/manly/outcome independant, then you can get away with anything. If not, you're not just being honest, you're being needy, and that's counter-productive.
/r/seduction07/05/17 06:44 PM
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In my opinion, a girl who can flirt instantly climbs at least one rank on that stupid scale. Give me an 8 who can flirt and I'll think she's a 9 or 10.
/r/seduction07/05/17 06:24 PM
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I'd say girls are "easier" than nice guys think, which doesn't mean they are easy, or that it's easy to become the kind of guy who easily fucks them. The key to understand this is that (good looking) girls always have the option of being slutty. Maybe most of the time they are very prude, but if at one point in their life they are horny and relaxed, there is a dozen available guys around. A girl isn't "easy" because she was easy once (or twice, or more). It's the same difference as being drunk s…
/r/seduction07/05/17 06:02 PM
5

Shut up more. Listen to what she says and ask her to elaborate. It's a lot easier to think if you're not always looking for something to say.
/r/seduction05/05/17 09:32 AM
0

open relationships for the win
/r/seduction05/05/17 09:10 AM
1

You could give her your number, for example on a post-it note on a book you're giving back. This trick worked at least once, on my ex. It's classy and not pushy.
/r/seduction02/05/17 07:16 PM
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It's ok to be hurt when a close friend is rejecting you. It's not a random girl you just met on the street. It shows you care about her feelings about you. But it's only ok if it's temporary. It can't change how you behave with her.
/r/seduction02/05/17 08:18 AM
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