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| 3 | Need a Sounding boardIt’s your grandmothers house, that’s it, final. She needs to move out. You want the kids 50% of the time, you’ll pay 50% of the children’s expenses and that’s it. Don’t sign up for any madness on the basis of anything you perceive you’ve done. Women having affairs walking away with spousal support, half the pension and the house. | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/26 11:27 AM |
| 1 | Feeling the painGet a new dog, don’t get a new woman 😁 | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/26 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Am I making the right decisionI’m married to an avoidant who unlike you doesn’t have the foresight to recognise it. I’m being cast as a villain. The question is, will you ever be happy? Is there someone out there for you where you’ll get the attachment you seek? In my wife’s case I’m the third man she’s cast aside, the problem runs deeper than she realises. My advice, if you have a good woman hang on to her, although she may work it all out someday and leave. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/26 05:52 AM |
| 5 | Can’t Stop Falling Into TrapsThis is the way | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/26 05:27 AM |
| 3 | Weird how everything fell into place like I predicted it would...You are a lucky man. In my case she’s trying to get me out, making out that I’m disruptive etc. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/26 05:25 AM |
| 7 | Got notice 2 days agoSounds like you’re going to take a lot of heat on this one. Be kind to yourself, she’s going to heap on the pain. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/26 10:14 PM |
| 2 | The change is wildYes I have the ick, as I said to a friend recently she could win the Powerball and the get a brain transplant and I’d still want nothing to do with her. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/26 11:45 AM |
| 2 | Wife wants to be debt freeDon’t accept anything else but 50 50 on everything. I’m going through this too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/26 04:02 AM |
| 6 | The change is wildIt’s laughable the change. Mine telling my kids our marriage was over 10 years ago, I wish she told me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/26 03:57 AM |
| 6 | The change is wildMy situation too. Divorce is an adversarial process, get it over quickly. It’s all about the narrative for them. In my case I met another woman over a year after she decided she wanted out. You can imagine the line the ex is taking. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/26 03:53 AM |
| 2 | How do you handle being a 9-to-5 father when you have a 24-7 soul?I get you man. I’ll be separating from my children soon and I dread it. Their mother plays the cool mom, she fawns over them, lets them bring their friends around to drink whenever they want, she cleans their rooms and brings them breakfast in bed daily (17,18 and 20). I can’t or don’t want to compete with that, a lot of it is being done to piss me off anyway. I’ll probably see them for a number of hours a week if I’m lucky. It’ll be painful. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/26 09:01 PM |
| 9 | I spent 7k on ex wife’s titsSimilar to me, before she filed she asked for a loan for a car. I’ve asked her for it back, no sign. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/26 09:50 AM |
| 1 | Wife doesn’t respect me or my feelingsGet the fuck out while you can, no more unprotected sex with this woman. You are young, you see the signs, you would be crazy to stay. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/26 07:51 AM |
| 3 | Ex wife picsI have all the photos we took, with our kids etc. I rarely look back, if I do I just feel it’s part of my life I can’t get away from. No regrets, no sadness, look forward. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/05/26 06:51 AM |
| 4 | Wife doesn’t respect me or my feelingsWant advice, here goes. I’m in my 50’s I was exactly where you are now at 34. I stayed married and lost 20+ years of my life to a selfish narcissist who took and took while doing nothing but complain. It’s your life, your destiny. Don’t be like me. I will add that at your age I had 3 young children who I cherished. Given what I’ve seen as we go through divorce she would have made my life a misery. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/04/26 07:59 AM |
| 1 | I’m concerned for my dadDivorce secondary to a drinking problem, start with getting the drinking sorted and forget about the divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/04/26 06:32 AM |
| 1 | Everyone recommends therapy but how many of you actually took therapy and saw some results? Please share good or bad results too!I had this accredited therapist who was a bit of a street fighter himself. He maintained he specialised in narcissism, an area he did have insight. My STBXW was tying me up in knots with accusations, refusing to pay joint bills and alienating the kids. With his advice we came up with a strategy to create some events she reacted to creating a paper train of her being unreasonable. Before I met him everything was moving on her terms, after, it switched to me and put her in an embarrassing situatio… | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/04/26 05:47 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else wonder how a sweet loving giving woman...Join the club, as she aged she got worse. When we met she was 21, IMHO her opinions hadn’t fully formed. In her 30s she started to turn, by 50 she was septic. Now she’s a bitter, twisted Ghoul. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/04/26 08:32 PM |
| 2 | You know what’s worse than divorce?Free read on Spotify premium | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/09/25 04:31 PM |
| 15 | For those who, like me, have been cheated on by multiple Partners in your life- Do you blame yourself?I had 4 or 5 significant parters in my life including my now to be STBXW. I’m considered handsome and tend to go for assertive, outgoing, fashionable, confident good looking women. They all cheated on me. 🤷♂️ I’m in my 50’s now and the end of my marriage has been a total train wreck, she’s a narcissist and she’s discarding me. I don’t know if I’ll bother to try and meet another woman. | /r/Divorce_Men | 31/08/25 02:23 PM |
| 3 | Exw using kids to manipulate in a new relationship4 years from now 🤦😆 like wtf? | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/25 11:06 AM |
| 1 | Telling the boyI had something similar with a controlling Narcissist wife. Wouldn’t attend counselling despite being married for over 20 years. I paid for everything and all I got was abuse. Up to and after the filing she tried to control everything. I have a really excellent lawyer now who says the judge will force the sale of the house and my wife won’t receive any spousal support, she’ll will be extremely lucky to get 50/50. This will kill her. I live in Europe btw. She also wouldn’t work with me on telling… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/08/25 11:03 AM |
| 3 | Ex trying to get back?Move on | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/25 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Dads In Black; a call to actionOutside US but wishing you all the best. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/25 08:05 PM |
| 2 | LIVE Visit with Kids 16, 13, 11 BOysTough man, play it cool. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/07/25 08:04 PM |
| 13 | Wife filed for divorceGive her the divorce, don’t plead. As soon as the divorce is done get a real job that pays proper money. Students working part-time making more than you. Get into the gym, padel, tennis, swimming, cycling or whatever. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/07/25 08:26 AM |
| 1 | About to start divorce processI’ve been through this stage myself, I have kids, and I know how overwhelming it can be. Right after having a baby, everything changes. Hormones, sleep deprivation, and the intense focus on the baby can turn the calmest home into a pressure cooker. Many new mums naturally slip into a more directive role, not out of malice, but out of instinct and exhaustion. Dads, in turn, often feel sidelined or unsure of how to contribute. There’s also a mountain of conflicting advice out there, baby sleep rou… | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/07/25 10:26 AM |
| 2 | The best use of AI I’ve found so farLoaded 5 years of chat. Fascinating insight, the world will be Fooked cause of AI. Nobody will have have a job. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/07/25 09:20 PM |
| 3 | Menopause?Yep, I fully understand that, we would have helped if we were let. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/25 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Navigating family court — asking for advice, support, or even just to be heard.Good luck with that fundraiser, anonymous fundraisers generally fail though. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/25 05:35 PM |
| 4 | Wife (29F) left me (36M) out of the blue - grieving loss of the life we'd builtThanks your lucky stars there was no baby. You’re well off out of it. Narc parents, she can’t stand losing arguments, no affection, the writing was on the wall. You just tolerated it because you’re conditioned. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/25 03:45 PM |
| 6 | How do you cope with mental fatigue and stay focused during prolonged legal battles?It’s hard, you need to self manage to contain rumination and intrusive thoughts about divorce to specific windows throughout the day. Spend 15 min in the morning and 30 min at lunchtime, the rest of the time throw yourself into work. In your spare time stay busy, wear headphones and listen to music constantly. It works. “Using compartments to structure your day at work is a powerful cognitive technique often referred to as “mental shelving” or “cognitive containment.” It helps you stay productiv… | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/07/25 03:20 PM |
| 3 | Taking accountability for my actionsYou could ask ChatGpt and work through an AI Therapy session. It really is amazing technology & its free. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/25 05:44 AM |
| 2 | Married 10 yearsDon’t tell her anything, wait for her to leave the house and go back, make yourself comfortable, maybe cook yourself up your favourite meal, your favourite sports game on TV, have a beer, get your lounge wear and slippers on and lastly get the voice recorder on. As my father once said in relation to an argument I had with my wife, never, ever leave your bed for any woman. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/25 10:14 PM |
| 5 | My crazy soon to be ex wife got a restraining order.In Europe here, same BS, all influenced by social media, divorce coaches and radical feminism. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/25 10:06 PM |
| 7 | My crazy soon to be ex wife got a restraining order.No but she’s trying to set the scene. Has definitely smeared my name with her friends. Oddly I challenged her on it, she hasn’t mentioned it since. Mine has gone bat shit crazy too, hairdryer effect, squaring up to me foaming at the mouth. All I’m doing is calmly setting the record straight. Part of the reason she said she was living in fear was because I pointed my finger at her. Bonkers. I suspect she’s a Narc in the discard phase. I can do nothing right and she resents me for everything. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/25 09:38 PM |
| 4 | My crazy soon to be ex wife got a restraining order.After a night out with her girlfriends mine told me she’s living in fear. I questioned her on exactly what she meant while recording it all. Total BS, I won’t be going anywhere. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/25 08:14 PM |
| 5 | Is it normal ?Same story here, the classic “Walkaway Wife.” Mine battles a shopping and prescription med addiction and harbors a deep, irrational hatred for me and my family. I’ve done nothing but keep the roof over our heads and am a hands on Dad. We have a good life and live in an upmarket area. She insists on driving a premium car. My family, despite seeing her odd behavior from the start, have treated her with nothing but kindness. You sound like a decent man. I tried to reason with mine, hoping she’d cha… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/05/25 08:12 PM |
| 3 | What are your thoughts on my situationFocus on your own growth and maintain dignity. Imagine your life without her, what would you do? Start living that life as much as possible. Don’t try to engage unless it’s about the kids. No more sessions where you hold each other. She wants out, give her a taste of it. Make it a light switch moment, she’ll appreciate it more. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/05/25 05:53 PM |
| 1 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?Unfortunately a fraction of mine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/05/25 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?I think you’re correct. She just couldn’t hack waiting until the youngest is 18. Ironically this all coincided with me refusing to put up with any more BS from her. I know she’s terrible with money, no need for an accountant 🤦 | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/05/25 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?Says she’s done. It’s very final, there was no discussions about the state of the relationship before Divorce was landed on me. No last chances, no suggestion of counselling. She declared she actually wasn’t happy for years, said the marriage was over two years ago. It certainly didn’t feel that way when I was paying & going on holidays, going for meals, sharing quiet drinks together on the beach, buying her a car etc. I’m aware she’s merely creating a narrative. She said she never had a voice, … | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/25 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?Thanks for the reply. My post is a mix of disappointment and sadness and I’m questioning whether theres betrayal, I have no issue with her looks or appearance, just framing the story. Couples therapy is off the table, she point blank refuses to engage. After over 20 years of marriage where I’ve done my best this also adds another dimension. | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/05/25 01:34 PM |
| 3 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?😆 | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 08:29 PM |
| 2 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?😀 I can only laugh at this point. Gallows humour | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 05:50 PM |
| 5 | Done and Im scaredDo NOT move out. As my father once said never ever leave YOUR bed for any woman. If she wants out she can fuck off. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 04:43 PM |
| 1 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?Yes hard to believe but true, she’s a hard bitch and it’s fucked. I did think that re an AP, reminds me of a movie where a hooker won’t French kiss Johns keeping it for her boyfriend. Having said that she’s such an oddball god knows what’s rattling around in her head. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 03:31 PM |
| 4 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?👍👍 the kissing one got me. We used to French kiss. Last year during an embrace I tried to kiss her and she said no tongues. Red flag central. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 09:54 AM |
| 1 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?I deleted all my posts yesterday for confidentiality sake. Did you manage to still read them ? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 09:22 AM |
| 5 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?Appreciate that | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 01:26 AM |
| 6 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?I suspect so. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?Is this true, is there not 50yo women out there who are barren and asexual due to hormones and just being unhappy with their lot? | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 01:07 AM |
| 6 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?Vigilant as much as one can. Yes she has been on the roster with the same pilot who I’ve had suspicions about. I met him socially and oddly he seemed to know an awful lot about me and a sport I was involved in including my training regime. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 12:57 AM |
| 2 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?Agreed, a room to room phone call is all it takes. I do feel however that if it was a work colleague and the sex was good they’d continue it at home. Meeting up periodically. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 12:51 AM |
| 3 | Wife Wants Divorce, Affair?He family will never tell. Yes London is the only outlet she has. If I was getting regular sex from her it mightn’t be so bad. Thanks for the response. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/05/25 12:49 AM |
| 2 | Remaining in the marital home& what are the tools and tips. Share the knowledge? | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/25 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Divorce or not to?A lot to unpack there, given she’s still having sex with you, going to counselling and wearing the ring I’d say if anything she’s in the earliest stages of wanting out. Even then it’s debatable. Grow a pair, get your own interests and do fun stuff with her. Getting comfort from your 8 year old tells me you’re an emotional mess. This needs to stop. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/04/25 06:51 AM |
| 7 | Therapy is worth itYour point re paying everything hit a note, I also feel this is something I have handled badly as it gave me a sense that I could do no more. In my case I pay all the bills including mortgage. I am not mean & treat my wife when I can. She earns her own money (a third of my earnings) which she mostly spends on herself and buying stuff for the children (I also spend on the children. I pulled her up on her feckless spending, asked her to contribute to her pension, pool our finances and agree to a s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/25 09:44 AM |
| 7 | Surprising my STBXW tomorrowGood connection made there. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/25 07:35 AM |
| 3 | Request for Ideas/Help: Looking to update the sidebar.How about a sticky on how to deal with situations. Example: Like when your wife says she wants a divorce (Walkaway Wife, seems so common here). A lot make the mistake of going on the offence. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/03/25 07:31 AM |
| 1 | Advice?At 25 you feel you have amassed wealth. Take it from me you haven’t. Continue this relationship into your 50s with these unresolved issues and you’ll really get bent over. I suggest counselling, a sincere effort to get it back on track (from both) and then a timely review of whether it’s worth continuing. It seems a little like you and your folks against her. Continue with this approach and you will never make peace with this woman. Work your issues through between you both and share nothing out… | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/03/25 08:02 AM |
| 1 | Furu’s and “Divorce Coaches” 😂I’ve seen this woman, she’s so aggressive. Yeuch 🤮🤮 | /r/Divorce_Men | 11/03/25 08:00 PM |
| 5 | This woman is about to announce she's divorcing her husband but he doesn't suspect - does this sound familiar?That site is ridiculous, there’s some posters that troll regularly defending the husbands. Full of wenches, loaded with wine and many cats posting. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/03/25 07:22 PM |
| 1 | My last challengeSo you won’t tell her until she goes back to work? | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/25 03:12 PM |
| 20 | It’s the little joys of being divorcedHad a similar situation while married. I was throwing out a perfectly good Ralph Lauren hunting jacket. It would have fit her father perfectly and he had remarked on how much he liked it. By this stage her father wasn’t very nice to me and had been abusive. I was at the local charity store about to donate the jacket and there was some old dude who was the image of her father looking through the rails. I asked him would he like it, her tried it on and it fit him like a glove. He was made up. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/25 12:35 PM |
| 9 | My wife got engagedThat’s harsh, maybe he should go out and find an old spinster with lots of cash like his wife did. OP, it’s not a pissing contest. She could win the lottery tomorrow. Sounds like you’re doing great. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/25 09:36 AM |
| 5 | What is your view on the reasons for modern divorce?It’s tough, feeling it too. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/25 09:32 AM |
| 34 | Marriage statistics, a huge fail.70% of second marriages fail, even higher for third. Young people need to understand these statistics. Marriage is an industry, I’m starting to realise the divorce industry is just as big. | /r/Divorce_Men | 08/03/25 09:16 AM |
| 1 | What is your view on the reasons for modern divorce?Well written | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/25 09:47 PM |
| 4 | What is your view on the reasons for modern divorce?You’d be surprised | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/25 09:41 PM |
| 31 | What is your view on the reasons for modern divorce?Find a man, have his children, abuse him emotionally and verbally. Tell your friends and family he’s controlling and abusing you. Blow up the marriage cause you emotionally connected with some player on a work night out who listened intently to your BS about how great your kids are / how your husband is a cretin cause he wanted to get into your knickers. Then pick up a hefty reward of the house, lots of cash and be financially secure for your scummy behaviour. Continue to annoy and harass your e… | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/25 08:02 PM |
| 2 | How to respond to a high-conflict stbxw“My children are my life” like they’re not mine. I often wonder what’s spinning around in my wife’s head. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/03/25 01:39 PM |
| 1 | Wife’s Sister, ConnivingThis behaviour is caustic, she knows nothing of the dynamic between you and your wife unless she’s spoken with you. She also obviously cares nothing about the children either. Had a read over your posts, let me guess, their family of origin struggled with addiction issues. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/25 07:57 PM |
| 3 | Well, well, well.Ignore, you’re a good man and it’s shown by your actions. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/03/25 06:42 AM |
| 3 | Divorce process advice - just startingSame situation going on here, watching thread with interest. Problem I have is that I can’t afford the mortgage on my home and somewhere close by and suitable for my children to stay. She wants me out, no compromise. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/25 09:54 AM |
| 11 | Some question regarding seperationYep, relate. You’re like a menu, she will pick what she wants or needs, lifts, money etc. She won’t however return affection or compassion. Maybe it’s time to treat her like the individual separated woman she wants to be. No lifts, gifts, affection, pleading. Travel with friends, work. Gym it, join a cycling club and go on 5 hour rides. Get your own life. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/25 08:37 AM |
| 5 | Some question regarding seperationNext up, the pile on telling you she’s having an affair. In the same situation as you. Trying to make sense of it all. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/25 08:13 AM |
| 5 | I'm hurtThat’s tough man. Stay active, rekindle old friendships, get therapy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/25 07:56 AM |
| 2 | Living Arrangement ComplexitySounds like you need a bigger apartment. Kids place a lot of emphasis on having own rooms. Sorry. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/03/25 07:35 AM |
| 5 | Pictures of the ex.Agree on the new partner. I’d just chuck them into a folder, can’t erase your past. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/25 04:16 PM |
| 3 | After 20 years she blindsides me with “i dont want to be married anymore”Fck me, that’s a good one. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/25 06:08 AM |
| 10 | After 20 years she blindsides me with “i dont want to be married anymore”Walkaway Wife, google it. Sorry for your troubles, time is a great healer. Get her into counselling, it could get things back on track. Failing that consider yourself lucky that you’re in the .001% that will benefit more than she will financially. She will be looking at giving you 50% of the house she inherited and paying you alimony. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/25 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Wife poisoned my kids friend mom group against meCrazy shit & she’s on $180K, sounds like stuff from the hood. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/25 11:11 AM |
| 1 | Wife poisoned my kids friend mom group against meWhos the new dude and why is he in communication with you? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/25 06:05 AM |
| 1 | Wife poisoned my kids friend mom group against meWhen children get older it’s harder. Less in common with the wife. | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/25 06:00 AM |
| 2 | Wife poisoned my kids friend mom group against meIf she has 180K pa what are u doing paying all the bills? | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/25 05:51 AM |
| 5 | Wife poisoned my kids friend mom group against meI played that strategy years ago and it worked. So much so one of the wife’s friends (husband and wife) told me how much they appreciated my company and that I wasn’t what they had expected (giving a nod to how they had formed their initial opinion). | /r/Divorce_Men | 01/03/25 05:49 AM |
| 1 | What Is Behind the Trend of Women Initiating Breakups and Divorces?I’m married to one of those, wants to send her wage as she pleases ( constantly buying clothes and makeup) and won’t work with me on jointly paying our household bills. Entitlement on steroids. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/25 10:09 PM |
| 5 | What Is Behind the Trend of Women Initiating Breakups and Divorces?Bot ? | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/25 09:10 PM |
| 2 | What Is Behind the Trend of Women Initiating Breakups and Divorces?Was in a leading bookshop today, they had signs for a section “TikTok made me buy it” I see nothing but Furu’s and grifters on TikTok. Nonsense. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/25 09:09 PM |
| 1 | What Is Behind the Trend of Women Initiating Breakups and Divorces?Yep, right there with you, except I do love and respect her. Shes oblivious to this, has created her own narrative and wants out. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/25 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Wife poisoned my kids friend mom group against meStill living together, wife wants a divorce. She’s still wounded from the argument apparently, we really can only do our best. For dysfunctional relationships I’d guess when the kids are older things actually get harder. The amount of couples who find they’ve nothing in common when they retire or kids fly the nest. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/25 08:56 PM |
| 7 | Wife poisoned my kids friend mom group against meAfter my wife had smeared me amongst her family I had an argument with her father. After her sister said she wouldn’t be comfortable having her kids around me. That one hit really hard and I felt like a nutcase or peado. It’s all part of the campaign of harassment, bullying & pack instinct when they smell blood. I kept a low profile and things calmed down for over a decade but it’s all flared up again. My wife never got over things and now I’m dealing with the same crap. | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/02/25 02:26 PM |
| 1 | I’m abusive for telling the truthThere’s been a lot of research by psychologists into the dynamics at play in the families of alcoholics. The children experience a gamut of emotions including shame, anger resentment etc. In situations where husbands are alcoholics, some wives become bitter and engage in parental alienation. Older children can adopt roles of the parents. Some children sympathetic to the plight of the father become enablers. Needless to say it’s all very dysfunctional. It’s fucked up and worth researching if you … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/25 12:32 AM |
| 1 | I’m abusive for telling the truthGood advice | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 11:42 PM |
| 3 | I’m abusive for telling the truthhttps://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2583382/ Study on the effects of Family of Origin with substance abuse. “ For wives, alcoholism in the father was related to lower marital intimacy.” | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 11:39 PM |
| 3 | I’m abusive for telling the truthYep this one has ruined it for me. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 11:34 PM |
| 2 | I’m abusive for telling the truthGood guess. Yep, alcoholic Dad, I reckon she was emotionally abused by the same sisters as a child / teen. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 11:22 PM |
| 10 | Divorced from sexless marriageI was getting the odd kiss or hug. One time when we’re getting along and seemed close I took it a stage further during one of our embraces and French kissed her. No tongues she said, it was never an issue before. That one hurt and made me realise there was no coming back. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/25 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Finally STBXW and I making real plans for divorce. Why am I sad?Co dependency. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Advice on Property & Mortgage Situation for Upcoming Divorce MediationSell everything, split and move on. Have as little if any financial connection to her. In my case have some rentals and a big mortgage, she wanted me to go to my parents at one point. She wants to stay in the family home “for the children” ….not happening. I want a house with 4 bedrooms for when the children visit. She can have one too, with a mortgage in her name. What money she had, she squandered with her we could be dead tomorrow attitude. I invested and saved making huge contributions to my… | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Separated but she’s moving out soonThis. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/02/25 06:10 AM |
| 1 | Questions about couples therapyDamm thats tough. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/02/25 04:41 PM |
| 3 | Heading for divorce. Need advice (DC)Best do it sooner rather than let it play out for a decade or two like a lot of us. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Me wanting it to be “50/50” is why she refuses to reconcile.I have this situation. She doesn’t want to get into a joint financial arrangement where we budget and share our expenses/ savings. This has long term implications on shared goals and future financial planning. Couples who plan together stay together. What’s mine is hers and what’s hers is hers. I suspect she may be paying money to her elderly parents. Mine also has many wardrobes full of shoes and clothes. Most unworn with labels still on. Every year or two she treats herself to a 5k handbag. Wo… | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 06:56 AM |
| 1 | Thinking about divorceIf they expect too much from you (sounds like yours) will it ever work? | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/02/25 06:22 AM |
| 3 | TikTok showed me her fishing for the next guyThat’s tough, the shite they put on social media, I saw my own daughter at it when she finished a relationship. Felt sorry for the guy and gave her a piece of my mind. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/02/25 07:43 PM |
| 2 | Nobody knows the pain of divorceUnfortunately those getting divorced are seen to have failed. The opposite should apply, they should be seen as individuals who’ve made a decision to take action and address a bad situation. Lots in loveless, dysfunctional marriages who waste their lives unhappy. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/02/25 09:19 AM |
| 3 | She lied so much in her court filingsThey create their own narrative. In my case I was told “I don’t really like the children” and that she “single handedly raised them herself” | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/01/25 06:18 PM |
| 1 | My partner touches me10 years of touch deprived. That’s me, it’s the thing I miss the most. When that goes you are literally left with nothing. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/25 11:39 PM |
| 2 | What’s your thoughts from the start?The course of Lupus is unpredictable, 9 years could be 19. Huge advances in the treatments also coming down the track with DNA sequencing etc. A breakthrough development like that & your 9 year plan is shot to bits. Ok, look at the facts, she’s a nutcase and abusive. Even if she did live only another 9 years, you’re supporting her kids and yours. She will likely enter into a protracted period of ill health which will be costly and tough, given your background you’ll end up as a carer. A carer to… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/01/25 12:09 AM |
| 2 | Are any of you in this group on good terms with your ex?Some people 🙄 | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/24 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Did you guys give your STBXW the courtesy of letting her know you were dating again?This ⬆️ | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/12/24 09:41 AM |
| 1 | Abusive Wife? (Review this checklist to know)This is great | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/12/24 12:16 PM |
| 1 | I Just Can't Shake This FeelingMy God she sounds like a nightmare, never even consider even letting her back in. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/24 11:10 PM |
| 1 | I’m out.Yep, straight to divorce as I now understand | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/24 04:27 PM |
| 1 | I’m out.Yep, also have a sizeable inheritance on the way in the next decade. The thoughts of someone who despises me and my parents taking advantage of that also resonates. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/24 04:26 PM |
| 1 | I’m out.To be honest this one has put me off women for life. I don’t drink anymore so the whole pickup scene will be difficult. In the past I played a lot of golf and did some competitive cycling. Will likely return to those. Thanks for the reply and it’s great to hear things are good for you now. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/24 04:25 PM |
| 1 | I’m out.Thanks for the response | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/24 04:21 PM |
| 2 | I’m out.My parents know what she’s like. They don’t like her and think she’s selfish. They’re in their 90’s so I don’t trouble them with it. My sisters who are both psychologists think she is cold, hard and determined. They don’t envy me having to deal with her and think she will make my life even more of a misery with her demands during a divorce. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/12/24 09:11 AM |
| 2 | I’m out.I suspect she is secretly giving money to her parents to help them in old age, not that I would care as they’re skint. She earns 50% less than I do. She never has a penny for anything but herself or our children. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/12/24 03:14 PM |
| 3 | I’m out.I wish expenses were 50/50, I’m not even looking for that. I’d even be pleased if she had a large savings account, but no, wardrobes full of clothes and boxes arriving by the day. If she just paid me something towards bills it would be a start. She has no concept of what’s going on in the real world and lives in a parallel universe of online shopping and instagram. She won’t even tell me how much she earns or what she does with her money. | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/12/24 02:47 PM |
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