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Personally, I think your hair could be shorter, and that chain looks stupid, but your looks are like .005% of the issue, & if you think you look good, my opinion shouldn't matter at all. Hot girls hook up with odd looking dudes all the time & quite frankly, you just look normal. Stick to to /u/lifting4Gainz advice getting your mind right. See a shrink. They know what makes us depressed and how to change that.
/r/seduction09/10/16 04:47 PM
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I'd second that. OP, If you're interested in any of the girls you think are already into you, just start flirting with them, or do something to make your intentions clear.
/r/seduction30/09/16 02:24 AM
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The actions mean nothing. It's the intention behind them. I'd recommend seeing a shrink. Also, the point of any good book (be it about sex or any other topic) is to open up some internal truths you've been blind too. It's not about lines or canned routines. They'll always fail if you don't understand the "why" behind them.
/r/seduction15/09/16 12:38 AM
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Game is just part of a personality. If you feel you're doing something unnatural to get laid, then you're just a fake person, which is likely getting picked up by all the girls rejecting you.
/r/seduction14/09/16 12:38 AM
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OP, fuck everyone hating on this. You don't owe anybody here shit. You're not supposed to be some mind reader that understands each subscribers personal issue this moment & offers concrete, detailed advice. It's obvious you're coming from a place of deep honesty & I appreciate your rantings because I relate to it in my success and failure. Furthermore, the "vagueness" that people are bitching about is the strength of this. Detailed shit is superficial and harder to apply. It's the more broad stu…
/r/seduction13/09/16 01:23 AM
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I think it's an age thing, but it won't really hold you back. I'm 28, about to be 29. No one has ever asked me for my facebook/Instagram. I was talking to a 23 yr old girl, who obviously snapchatts all the time. I made fun of the app & she quickly began qualifying how she barely uses it and it's not a big part of her life etc. Just as everything else, it's only a big deal if you make it one. I mean, there's dudes in jail that have girls on the outside wanting to marry them. What kind of snaps do…
/r/seduction12/09/16 11:45 PM
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Just invite her out. The birthday is a great reason.
/r/seduction10/09/16 09:12 PM
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So much this. I fumbled with an awesome girl in a similar situation about 2 months ago. She seemed into me, but while we were out on a date, I think I laid the kino on too thick. She recoiled a bit at first, and I took that to mean she's not interested even though she was giving me the clear to land later in the date. By that point I thought I already fucked up & as you said "given up without truly trying." So, not exactly same as OP, but I had a similar feeling of waiting for a "magically obvio…
/r/seduction07/09/16 01:47 AM
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Only on father's day.
/r/seduction06/09/16 02:54 AM
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I don't really want to read through all of that, but there are no rules to this. Having said that, I usually try to set up a date ASAP. You both know that's why you're on the dating site/app. After that, I'll text frequently if the girl seems like she's into texting. Some are and some aren't. It isn't about you.
/r/seduction03/09/16 12:44 AM
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Manson is right in that you should be honest about your desires. That doesn't mean that honesty is attractive if you're honestly needy. The part about being honest is to get people over using canned lines, ruses, and other manipulative crap. You need to have some self-worth and boundaries to get rid of the neediness. For example, text her once & set the boundary there. You express your desire, but you stop her reciprocity from defining you. Women want to be desired by grounded men. Grounded men …
/r/seduction24/08/16 07:06 AM
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Great job. Wish I was so proactive my freshman year. So, I'm assuming you got girl 3's number & will see her again... Anyways, save the kino until there's some rapport and you can logistically make sex happen. Light touching is okay right off the bat if it's part of your conversational style. In general, don't think of escalation as a set process that always happens the same exact way. It's always situational. Best rule of thumb is to pursue what you want while realizing the girl is doing the sa…
/r/seduction24/08/16 06:57 AM
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I went from being severely depressed to being happy and functioning. Or at least, I'm on that path. Obviously I had a rough childhood, one that left me with mild PTSD. Not much physical abuse, but constant psychological torture between ages 7 and 13. I'd put therapy on the top of the list. You need someone who understands the unconscious mind to diagnose and heal you. I mean, if your tooth hurt, you wouldn't think twice about going to a dentist. You need someone trained to heal emotional pain. A…
/r/seduction23/08/16 04:55 AM
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I wish people would stop throwing this out as a cure-all. Masturbation is healthy, but like all things should be kept in balance. If you jerk off to much, it's probably good to get it under control, but like all addictions, it's simply the symptom of a problem, not its root.
/r/seduction23/08/16 12:16 AM
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He wants to know if he's crazy... which based on the post is likely.
/r/seduction23/08/16 12:09 AM
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They're basically flirting. If you think about it, whenever you flirt you're really just "shit-testing" the girl... I mean, with both shit tests and flirting in comparison compared to neutral convo, there's only two things that happen as a result. Attraction either builds or declines.
/r/seduction20/08/16 12:58 AM
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Past two online dates I got, I asked quick & we built some rapport over texting before going out. With the first one, after asking her out she said she wouldn't have time for a week or two because of finals. We chatted here & there for a week, then didn't. Then I asked her out when she told me she'd be done with school. We ended being close bang-buddies for about 4 months. The second started text convos after I texted her to confirm the number she gave me online. Her real life persona was a bit …
/r/seduction20/08/16 12:52 AM
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Herp derp... how's that the most important part? Just because a person has headphones in doesn't mean they don't want to talk. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. OP happened to find someone who did. Picture yourself having someone, anyone, walk up & talk as you're as you're listening music. How combative vs curious would you be about hearing them out? This is just a luck of the draw, not game.
/r/seduction20/08/16 12:42 AM
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It's a process, one of experimentation, where you find an intrinsic love of self internally and exercise your power to its fullest creative potential in shaping the real word externally.
/r/seduction17/08/16 02:36 AM
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If she's the one asking for something, then taking it back, she's the one that seems pathetic and lifeless. She sounds like someone with low self-esteem and is probably feeling shitty about her own sex-life, or a lack of it. Maybe she's like Helga from Hey Arnold and actually wants you but thinks a fat miserable fuck like her-self can never have you... or maybe some other random guy she's got a crush on so she takes it out on you. It's clear she wanted to have some male attention. Either way, it…
/r/seduction16/08/16 02:33 AM
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I'll second this. I think masturbation can be healthy. It's all about balance. I have been in mental states where I didn't feel like approaching because I could find a similar looking girl online to jack it to. I've also been in a mental state after having no release for days where I'm too into sex & I can't even enjoy the company of any woman because all I'm focused on is sex. (Also, can't enjoy anything because every second I'm thinking about an orgasm). Each person's libido is different, but …
/r/seduction16/08/16 01:03 AM
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You're probably not showcasing it right, or simply blind of all the women who already like you because you've convinced yourself you're not worthy when you really are.
/r/seduction12/08/16 02:15 AM
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Live a life rich enough that others want to be in it.
/r/seduction11/08/16 09:59 PM
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Meh... Of the girls that use online sites/apps, some are there to genuinely meet somebody. Won't be you unless you try.
/r/seduction11/08/16 09:57 PM
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I don't know. If you want to go, then go. If you want a relationship with her, you might want to let her know before the trip. You can only friendzone yourself by being her friend when you don't want to.
/r/seduction08/08/16 06:09 AM
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Considering that I had to google both "lookism" and "sluthate," I can't give you a fully formed opinion. I'm not really sure what sluthate is, even after visiting sluthate.com and reading the wikipedia on it. It claims to be anti-feminist, which makes no sense to me. Personally, I'm feminist. I think cognitively, men and women are capable of similar feats & should be treated equally. I'm a historian too, so I see the long arc. I don't really see how women having agency is at all a detriment & I …
/r/seduction08/08/16 06:05 AM
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This girl's not stable (or maybe she's really young?). Judge her by actions, not words. Also "friendzoned" applies more to guys to haven't banged a girl and are happy to hang out w/her despite clear sexual refusal. If I were you, I'd think deeply about how much I actually want her. If I didn't want to be just friends, I'd tell her flat out & stop seeing her. If you want, you could just lay low and be her booty call as it seems she likes banging you.
/r/seduction08/08/16 05:44 AM
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Dude, you're really depressed and as much as I can relate and wish I could help you, I don't think I have the skills/time to do that in a single reply. To give you my take on how I'm sizing you up based on the dialogue, you're insecure & need a perception shift. You're going to find success when you realize that you have something to offer women. Hair is really a minor detail. Character is the meat. If you're a confident, horny man, you'll be able to pick up all the girls not focusing on minor d…
/r/seduction08/08/16 05:37 AM
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If it makes you feel any better, I'm 28 and starting to bald. This was the first year in my life that I had any sort of ongoing sexual relationship. I guess some women might be turned off by it immediately, but those that take time to talk to you are really just giving you an opportunity to get them.
/r/seduction08/08/16 05:19 AM
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You're jealous of your "friend," and trying to rationalize not making a move on the girl. If you "didn't want to go after her or anything" you wouldn't have typed this post, nor felt any frustration. Maybe you should work on being sociable and having fun, as opposed to not wanting to hang out with fun people.
/r/seduction06/08/16 07:15 AM
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I mean, you could try the non-bribing route first. There's plenty of bars that don't charge a cover. Do you really need to be at an over-hyped club?
/r/seduction06/08/16 07:06 AM
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LOL, it's not a well paid job, just one I want to do. I think the thing that helped me the most is having my own apartment/space.
/r/seduction20/07/16 05:45 AM
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I think you're mistaking the leaves for the roots. Firstly, if you think girls are consciously out there to test you or have a shield of bitch, then you're coming from the completely wrong angle. It's that angle that has you upside down. Ultimately, human mating is the same as with other species, but with a bunch of other shit built upon it. To make it as brief as possible, women just want to be wanted by emotionally grounded men. If you're not enjoying dates, you're not emotionally grounded. Yo…
/r/seduction18/07/16 09:05 PM
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Attraction is built through face to face and body to body interaction. Text convos will reinforce the fact you're just friends. Next time you guys hand out, try to flirt and build some sexual tension. Ask her out in person & save texts for setting up plans. I wait for some sort of sexual relationship to happen before flirting or building rapport via text.
/r/seduction17/07/16 06:36 PM
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There's a difference between grabbing the ass of a woman who's an old friend of yours versus someone you've just met. Just keep that in mind. Also, if a girl grabs your ass that basically breaks a certain barrier, one which you have full freedom to cross. There's nothing wrong with a game of consensual grab-ass. It certainly heightens the sexual tension. To your last point about style, it's gotta come from you & reflect your feelings and world view in the moment. I bet your friend doesn't think …
/r/seduction21/06/15 06:20 PM
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I was talking to my shrink about this. He recommended I find fun in seduction itself. Basically, I was bitching about going through the process of finding a girl, like flirting at a bar or gathering numbers, & he flipped the script saying I should enjoy the pursuit itself not just the end. It helped reconcile the paradox & totally made me reconsider why I found finding women a chore in the first place.
/r/seduction19/06/15 04:10 AM
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When you're in the early stage of meeting someone and it seems like she could either go for you or not, you let her know you want her, forcing a decision one way or the other. I think... I guess you could be talking about something else, but this reminds of something read in Mason's, Models.
/r/seduction17/06/15 06:43 PM
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It's Jamaican patois. Basically it means dweeb when you hear most Americans say it. Doesn't really have anything to do with seduction. At least it didn't until I read this. Never really heard anyone besides a man of Jamaican descent use this. Probably getting more popular as rappers are starting to use it.
/r/seduction01/05/15 01:56 AM
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Or hail. Enough of these limiting beliefs.
/r/seduction29/01/15 03:25 AM
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Even quicker if you have some natty ice.
/r/seduction20/01/15 06:24 AM
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Don't worry about being so analytical in the moment. Just enjoy every interaction. You've evolved to pick up on this shit subconsciously. You'll feel a girl that's into you and it'll be clear when they're not. When they're in the middle, keep the convo going as long as you like the girl. Girls know how to get out of an interaction they don't want to be a part of. Same with us dudes when we get red flags.
/r/seduction25/12/14 11:16 PM
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It's natural to love a certain girl, or fantasize about one if you're not yet together. Girls have those feelings too. Oneitis/needy behavior is just when those feelings cross certain boundaries they shouldn't. It wouldn't be rational to love someone you don't actually know, or chase after someone who doesn't reciprocate those feelings. You say that "to me this is somewhat what love and women are all about." Yeah, you're right. We are driven by emotions, but if you're stuck on a girl you know do…
/r/seduction24/12/14 03:50 AM
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Take this with a grain of salt, but next time she starts validating herself to you (like when she said "i would rock your world"), ask her to prove it.
/r/seduction24/12/14 03:32 AM
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It took a few months with a shrink. Somethings to think about... most hunter-gatherer societies have rights of passage where a boy becomes a man. The ritual sort of grounds an individual as the community treats them with the respect they deserve & vise versa. In today's world, we don't have these rituals, plus many of our fathers are fucked in the head and don't know what to do with us. The way I see it, it took over 13 billion years of random events for my brief existence to happen. I'll be dam…
/r/seduction23/12/14 04:21 AM
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I think this goes back to the whole pedestal thing. There seems to be a group of people that you think are worth more than you. I think you need to work out whatever is keeping you from thinking you're the shit and an equal to others, not beneath them.
/r/seduction23/12/14 03:50 AM
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OP fed it to his date.
/r/seduction21/12/14 11:44 PM
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Sounds like she wanted it in that moment and the feeling passed. I wouldn't say you blew it. You got her interested in the first place. Next time you can't find condoms, keep in mind you can get each other off without sex. An orgasm is better than no orgasm.
/r/seduction20/12/14 06:29 PM
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They why ask about maintaining them?
/r/seduction20/12/14 07:47 AM
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Hmmm, I have something similar. There are a few songs that really pump me up & make me feel good. Different ones for different occasions, ranging from a date to doing public presentations. I play them in my head when I need a little boost.
/r/seduction19/12/14 07:24 PM
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Great idea. Perhaps a pic swipe feature can be added so two wingmen can begin an interaction knowing the other had some interest. I'll show myself out.
/r/seduction15/12/14 05:10 AM
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If it was creepy for men to introduce themselves to women, none of us would be here. There's nothing wrong with wanting women and women understand that because they want men in return. If you don't introduce yourself and make a first impression, then she has no basis to judge whether she likes you or not in the first place. More importantly, you don't know her, so how can you even like her? Stick to what /u/rbjm said about a simple introduction. It's clear you're in your head, because you sound …
/r/seduction15/12/14 02:52 AM
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I love insights gained while tripping. In a dialogue, Alan Watts once claimed the greatest responsibility of taking hallucinogens is bringing something back to share with others. You did that quite well. Good on you, friend.
/r/seduction14/12/14 08:27 PM
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Soy un perdedor.
/r/seduction14/12/14 12:06 AM
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I thought I did. Man and Woman meet. The woman gets turned on by the man's personality. The man escalates, and the two have sex.
/r/seduction19/11/14 09:45 PM
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I think women are attracted by behavior, or persona, much more than they are by looks. I've even had a psychiatrist, someone who devoted his life to studying the human brain, tell me this. Two of the most successful dudes I've met are both about 5'6" and look average. Humans have been hunter gatherers for 99% of our existence. Most of that time, we all had facial hair, long normal hair, etc... Looks played no role in our survival. However, being clever, being a leader, those characteristics grea…
/r/seduction19/11/14 03:58 PM
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If you're comfortable, then just don't worry about it. I had a friend in one of my classes that always slouched and seemed so effeminate I thought he was gay until I saw him with his wife and kid.
/r/seduction18/11/14 08:56 PM
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I don't think the attitudes contradict. Not giving a fuck really just means being "outcome independent." That is, you're a good person (your best self), so being turned down won't make you think less of yourself, and in that act, you're not giving a fuck. Also, some people completely over dwell on body language. Somebody who feels comfortable won't have bad body language because your body will naturally look comfortable.
/r/seduction18/11/14 04:37 PM
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Strike up convos with random people throughout your day. Makes approaching someone attractive second nature as you do this with everyone.
/r/seduction17/11/14 04:53 AM
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Men are attracted visually, and usually like a light switch. I'm sure you can recall walking a space with many women doing the "yay/nay" thing in your head. Women are attracted to behavior. Behavior reflects your inner world, and since yours is so negative, (don't worry, I've been/am there at times. Lost Vcard @21) that's what draws women away, not your looks. If you start up a convo and get a good response, keep it going in a sexual direction. You have a dick. Women know it. They're biologicall…
/r/seduction16/11/14 11:59 PM
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Get really worked up about it, pick up the bags, then drop them half-way in a fit of passive-aggressive rage because you fear that you only exist for women to use you. Really though, I'm likely to do it because it makes me feel like a big man. I might joke about it, saying "you/this make(s) me feel so masculine."
/r/seduction16/11/14 11:45 PM
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if she doesn't, Looks like i'll just have to ask someone else out :) Ask 'em out to Applebees. Bitches love Applebees. Kidding aside, congrats.
/r/seduction16/11/14 02:52 AM
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Newbie here. Rejection feels so much better than the what if. That shit lasts for months. I can shake off a no in about 5 minutes.
/r/seduction13/11/14 08:39 PM
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Woosh
/r/seduction13/11/14 06:43 PM
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This right here. These girls wanted sex, but didn't want to feel used. I mean, the first one, OP knew because he picked up her friend, so she didn't want to come of as easy. I wouldn't be pissed at hearing this from a girl. It's a sign she's really into you.
/r/seduction12/11/14 01:20 AM
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Personality is important, but girls of all characters come in hot and not. Sounds like you assume all hot girls are superficial and all okay looking girls have great personalities. Sometimes that's the case, often times, not. Try assuming all people have some good in them and you bring it out with your own goodness. Sidenote: entertaining people can be an added source of revenue.
/r/seduction11/11/14 08:40 PM
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It's actually very humbling to know there are people with experiences similar to mine. Here's to us and the road to improvement.
/r/seduction11/11/14 05:21 PM
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I apologize if it made you uncomfortable, but that's just a small slice of my life. There's also a lot of good in it. There's no one else I'd rather be. If you felt overwhelmed by it, than maybe your experience is a bit better, meaning therapy will be even less of a process for you than it was for me. If you feel as depressed as you do, seeking help will be a greater investment than buying property. Comparatively, it's chump change. You might even be able to do both.
/r/seduction11/11/14 06:02 AM
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Life is beautiful.
/r/seduction11/11/14 04:29 AM
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Hey man, I've had a fucked up background as well. I was born in another country and came to the states to live with my mom and step-dad. While I faced minor physical abuse, my parents mentally conditioned me to feel worthless. At age 8, my step-dad told me to get dressed because he's taking me to the beach to bury me alive because I'm so worthless. I actually got dressed and waited for 7 hours to accept my fate, only to realize in the morning, the asshole was bullshiting. When I'd get into scrap…
/r/seduction11/11/14 03:22 AM
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It's not because of your major. By that logic women would be turned off by doctors and lawyers. Intelligence is sexy in both sexes.
/r/seduction10/11/14 09:45 PM
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you have to judge the girl according to your own values and beliefs Would you fuck her? How about her, if she tells you how much fun she has clubbing baby seals?
/r/seduction09/11/14 08:39 PM
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Hey, I'm new as well, so take this with a grain of salt. Treat any non face to face means of communication as a tool to set up face to face meets. If logistically, you can't meet for a while, use texts/fb just to keep a girl on your mind with "statement" texts, i.e. ones where you're not looking to start a convo, you're just sending a message to keep yourself on her radar, like "you're on my mind, hope you're enjoying yourself." Maybe send a funny pic relating to a common interest or something y…
/r/seduction09/11/14 04:38 PM
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The stuck up girls have huge insecurities and that bitchy outer shell is a defence mechanism. Shit happens when parents don't love you.
/r/seduction08/11/14 10:38 PM
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As someone starting out, this was awesome. I appreciate the tip about staying silent. Kinda reminds of this time sophomore year in college when I started making out with this girl at a stereotypical frat party. We danced for a while, then I left to piss. Came back to the dance floor and just started going at it. My roomie asked later what I said to her to get her hot, and I replied "nothing."
/r/seduction08/11/14 03:17 PM
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Great read, though I've read other studies showing that girth is important. The end was great though, you can still rock her world without penetration. Either way, you have the dick you do. Remember it's there for your pleasure as much as hers.
/r/seduction06/11/14 06:19 PM
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