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SELF IMPROVEMENTRasphodi/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 01:20 PM
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I can help answer that! My husband and I were a long distance couple through COVID lock downs. When he could come to my city to visit (he did most of the visiting), I spent most of the time with him (did not sleep over at where he was staying though). I also planned the activities/ dates since it's my city and cooked meals at home that I took over if we were staying in. Since he was working from home, he'd come visit and stay a few days at a time, and he'd visit every couple of weeks. That's how…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/23 03:32 PM
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I would absolutely love to join as well! I follow Laura's work closely and attempt to implement it always
/r/RedPillWives02/04/21 08:00 PM
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Yes! Take some time and think about these things, read about them too and see where your values and morals are. Also, your decision doesn't have to be set in stone, you are free to change your mind as new things happen in your life and acquire more dating and relationship experience
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/21 04:53 AM
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I agree with you, I've mostly seen the wait until marriage done in more religious couples, it's why I recommend the book which takes a secular look at the issue and provides tips to know when the relationship has moved to that level, also ways to have these conversations. I fully understand how the majority of people do have sex before tying the knot, especially with the longer courtship period in today's society. Ultimately, it's up to the person to make that judgement in that relationship. Gen…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 04:20 PM
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I was in a similar predicament as you, and had many, many guys leave after I mentioned that I am waiting until marriage. There were a few guys who are religious (like myself) and also traditional who didn't mind this and wanted to see where things go. Currently, I am engaged to a wonderful man who understood when I said I am waiting until marriage. The book "Not tonight Mr. Right" explains these things really well as well as different timelines for different women as to when they might want to b…
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 03:01 PM
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Thank you for the heads up!
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/19 04:07 PM
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Honestly, from what I've learned, you cannot really control who your partner talks to or texts and if you try you'll come across as insecure and controlling. What you can control is your response or reaction to it. I know it feel yukky, and it sucks. I would remind yourself that while he thinks your friend looks good, he is dating you and not her. I would start worrying if they spend more and more time alone together (in public or private). Keep in mind, that men in general like to help women wh…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 03:14 PM
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I see. I personally would trust him, if he hasn't acted in a way to show that he is not trustworthy. I would be careful to make plans with him, say for your special day, a couple days in advance so he knows he has this time booked off to spend with you. If she then calls him for whatever reason, he can say sorry I'm busy with my girlfriend. I'm not sure about you or your social environment, but most people plan activities at least a day or two in advance since they have other things going on in …
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 03:01 PM
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I see. This sounds to me as one of two things. She either likes him and is looking for excuses to hang out with him one on one, or she genuinely needs help and he is kind enough to provide it when her other friends don't. I'd be happy about the fact that he told her no in your example. The fact she got mad means that she was expecting him to drop everything and help her (unless he agreed previously to drive her and he forgot).
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 02:55 PM
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I see what you are saying. While I would look into the extent to which the person was this close with this friend before me dating him, I am noticing this trend with a male friend of mine. This has me wondering about guys who have a lot of close friends who are girls, especially girls who are older or younger and live alone in the city. The guys always appear to be helping out these girls in one way or another and talking to them on a daily basis. At social events, I've noticed these girls alway…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/19 02:45 PM
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I am really glad you reposted this! This is something I am working on, accepting human weakness and failure within myself and others :) will be checking out the movie
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/19 03:38 PM
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I'm the same height and have similar weight to your original weight! Would love to be your weight loss buddy
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 08:02 PM
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Hello! Would love to have a partner to help each other move forward :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/19 01:59 PM
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stick to my diet and workout regimens lose 2-3% body fat take the stairs at work everyday I'm at the office wake up early enough to dress well and do light makeup before work
/r/RedPillWomen02/04/19 12:40 PM
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For me personally religion is important, so I ask his religious affiliation (if it is different, how willing will he be to attend my church for example), I look at his religious devotion (in actions in public and the way he lives his life), I look for leadership qualities usually (assertiveness, able to make decisions and follow through, keeps promises), I also observe the way he treats service staff (waiters, clerks, and how polite he is), I observe his behaviour around food and alcohol (especi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/03/19 07:19 PM
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This is very helpful, thank you. I will be watching my behavior more closely to see if that's how I communicate. There is a good chance you hit the nail on the head
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 11:21 AM
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Hehehe true and I do admire my father :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 01:24 AM
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Will keep that in mind, thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 12:55 AM
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There is truth in what you say for sure, and I can see guys who feel the girl is out of their league not approaching her. It's like the classic question some girls get, you're so great how come you're single?
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/19 12:54 AM
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A bossiness problem as in "my way or the highway"? If not could you please give an example, preferably in social interactions
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 10:25 PM
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I'm not sure as it's based on the assumption that all men won't approach and think logically / statistically. Maybe it has a bit of merit?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 10:22 PM
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I'll check it out, thanks
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 10:17 PM
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Yes! I want to also track what I bring to the table :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 10:00 PM
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Thank you :) I am familiar with fascinating womanhood and elegant woman website. I will be giving them another visit to refresh my memory. I'll check out the other website you mention too
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:52 PM
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Interesting analysis but quite accurate if I say so! Inspiration to improve actually came from this sub honestly and introspection about who I am and who is the type of man I see myself with
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:48 PM
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I see, thanks :) however I tend to feel I'm intruding or asking too much?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:43 PM
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I don't want to change who I am per say, however I don't want to come off as intimidating / a bitch (pardon the expression) to others. The way we express ourselves verbally and non verbally can convey an opposite message than what we want to convey I feel
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:39 PM
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Yes trying to listen more and ask questions about what the person has just said
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:37 PM
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While I have no issue apologizing and working with constructive criticism, I do need to smile more in public. I feel I come across like I'm on a mission when walking down the street!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:36 PM
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I'll check her out. Never heard of her to be honest. How would you compare her to Caitlin stark from Game of thrones if you how the character?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:34 PM
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Intetesting, I tend to get a good score on agreeableness whenever I do the personality tests. When I do argue (I try to avoid) I tend to use logic most of the time which stems from my education I'd say
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:33 PM
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I like this. Also saves from being a push over
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:31 PM
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Yes! And I definitely need more work to lower my wall as to say and be more open /vulnerable in general. I can't say I've come across a man who hasn't reciprocated my trust or has misused it :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:30 PM
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I see what you mean, helpful tips about being nice in general and giving people the benefit of the doubt
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:29 PM
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I am trying to understand if the two traits are mutually exclusive or not and as others pointed out (which i appreciate) they don't have to be :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:27 PM
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Interesting differentiation between being submissive and diffirential. That's my line of thinking too, that how will my submission to my captain be special if I submit to people in general
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:24 PM
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Thank you for the tips, will be actively working to implement them
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:23 PM
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Yes, having more open body language is something I'm working on more now. Both in social settings but also in general as I go about my day
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:21 PM
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Have you heard of the Carol syndrome by any chance? It looks at mathematically justifying why some attractive women are almost never approached
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:20 PM
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So would asking a guy for help with things I need help with communicate my need for him? Eg review a job application?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:18 PM
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I have considered this as a potential item in my vetting strategy. Any recommendations about how to get options (other than online dating)?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:17 PM
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Wow thank you for this thoughtful and detailed reply. I appreciate your use of Bible verses (I am Christian) and indeed the women in the Bible do provide good examples. I will be saving this comment as a reference :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:15 PM
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Sure I'll check it out but I gotta be honest I take horoscopes with a mountain of salt
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 09:07 PM
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I'm a scorpio and I believe INJT on the myers brigg types
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 08:28 PM
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Interesting, I've read this somewhere else before too that it's more féminine to trust originally unless shown not to trust. Can you provide some examples of vulnerable trusting?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 04:14 PM
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thank you for this, this is insightful. I definitely do come across as having things together in my life, from finishing education to a good job that's full time. Can you elaborate on examples where it was just too much work? could it be that she was super opinionated? argumentative? cannot take "no" for an answer without an explanation?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 03:06 PM
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see that's what I thought as well so I have been actively changing my behaviour to be more of "go with the flow" with group decisions/ dynamics. I do project my opinion from time to time but tend to keep my most extreme, unpopular opinions to myself or state them in a funny manner so not to offend. I usually ask more questions such as "how about xyz" or "what do you mean by xyz"
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 03:04 PM
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thank you both :) while I work hard to maintain good self image, confidence and be assertive I do agree that one can be submissive and keep these traits. Any tips you can provide for coming across as more submissive?
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 03:02 PM
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interesting that many men tend to be intimidated by mild mannered women. I am thinking it could be the way I converse or carry myself that comes off as too serious
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 02:59 PM
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Could be the weakest men are intimidated. I definitely know what I want in a man and have certain things I won't compromise on, religion for example. I don't believe I'm special per say but do have confidence/ knowledge based on my accomplishments and experiences. Maybe it's really finding the right man to whom I can submit.. Thanks for the reassurance :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 02:29 PM
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I agree with you in terms of conversation and I've been making a concsious effort to ask more questions about the person and their topic of conversation while adding in a bit of my experiences. I am definitely assertive but also nice and aim to have clear boundaries. I have had a brief relationship where I've naturally submitted to the man and it was wonderful, however I feel the man needs to earn my trust for me to actually submit? I don't blindly trust people. I'm also working on being more in…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/19 02:25 PM
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Your reply made me think of my own personal situation, especially thinking why do I need a man? I can never seem to pinpoint this aspect beside having a partner to support each other as we go through life and potentially a father to our children. I am currently single and looking to date, however I still need to figure out how a man can help/ enhance my life? at this point I'd like to have that deep connection to someone but I can go on living without it if I don't meet said person. Can you prov…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/19 01:47 PM
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agreed, as soon as I realize there is no potential for long term dating with the person (usually within first - third dates) I let them know and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/19 02:10 PM
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Personally for me smoking is a deal breaker, regardless if kids were to be had with a prospective match, simply because I cannot stand the smell and know what it does to the body (I always do my best to take utmost care of my health and expect some effort from whoever I end up spending my life with). Having said that, if you are interested in the person and smoking is the only issue, you can bring it up when you guys decide to take things seriously or he asks you to be his girlfriend. Something …
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/19 01:06 PM
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Thank you all for the advice and happy new year
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/18 09:13 PM
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Thank you. I have read secrets and it was a quick and pleasant read. I didn't do the assignments as I don't have a SO yet but I read it out of curiosity. It sounds like Fascinating womanhood is a more expanded/ elaborate version of Secrets of fascinating womanhood. I am wondering if it is worth purchasing the Fascinating womanhood book since I have the Secrets one.
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/18 01:57 PM
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Hello all, how does this book compare to the book titled "Secrets of fascinating womanhood"?
/r/RedPillWomen31/12/18 01:28 PM
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for this month I'd like to achieve a few things: establish a habit of my morning routines and stop snoozing my alarm for work establish a habit of my bedtime routines stay on track for diet and exercise until christmas (would like to lose 1.5 kg) make sure I drink plenty of water and take good care of my skin (especially legs)
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/18 03:30 PM
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Thank you for the elaboration. I too have fallen into the trap of giving too much of myself to a certain date or relationship where the other person was not necessarily reciprocating, and I have been told by friends and family that I am too nice and a "giver", aka don't know how to say no for requests. What has helped me in dating is taking sometime to set my own boundaries, what behaviour I accept, my red flags, the purpose of dating for me (which feeds into what your criteria you are looking f…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/18 12:41 PM
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I'd love to pm you as well :) thanks for your insights
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 12:04 PM
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I am 26 female virgin waiting until marriage too :) it is hard and adds a lot to your value. I argued with various people about this, including atheists where the religion argument doesn't fly. Just make sure that you are confident in your choices and can defend them from your point of view, both religiously and scientifically/ factually. All the best XOX
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/18 12:27 PM
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I am in a bit of the same boat as you. My PMS symptoms used to be extremely bad (during teenage years), even depressing at times. What I think made me cope/ overcome/ control them is journaling for the most part. I used to write down all my thoughts during this period, cry my eyes out when feeling down and laugh my head off at my own jokes when feeling good. Now I don't live with a SO but I do live with my family and siblings. I find the best way to go about controlling reactions or "snapping" i…
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/18 12:24 PM
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my goal is to be lean/ fit but not necessarily athlete level? so I'll aim for low 20s %. thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/07/18 11:58 AM
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What would be a good range to aim for body fat percentage?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 06:15 PM
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such a great idea! Here is how my month is going so far: I have been trying to get back on track with my dieting and workouts but have been stalling/ falling off track due to various interruptions. Getting back on track tomorrow (have a wedding to attend mid August)! I have volunteered at a community organization for the past week and picked up the pace on work/ school related deadlines. I am looking to wrap up the school/ work project by end of July, get back on track with diet and working out,…
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/18 12:27 AM
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I like reading self help and fantasy novels books mostly, also books on topic of interest to me like economics 101. I am into at home fitness and nutrition, I really like my job which has to do with medical research and data analysis. I like to color (not draw I'm terrible at that), and play my flute (I'd love to join a community band). I also enjoy well written films and TV series
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/18 11:50 AM
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Hey I would also to love to do this with you to help me get back on track with my fitness and diet. I also want to build beauty and hair care habits!
/r/RedPillWomen28/03/18 12:27 PM
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things didn't work out between us, and I believe he stopped writing for the website.
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 06:52 PM
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For me, it was seeing my mom go from working as an accomplished engineer full time to being a full time mom and house wife due to a move my family went through. Even then, my multiple failures at handling everything between university full time, extra curriculars, part time work, and attempting to get into medical school also started to open my eyes that I cannot have it all. What really drove the message home was when I started online dating a guy in the USA who is a write for the website Retur…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/18 03:54 PM
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I am also INFJ-T which is the advocate! it does say that we are the rarest breed of personalities :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 01:45 PM
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Interesting! Thank you for this insightful reading. It is true that lately I have been way more emotional, so I will add your advice to my new years resolutions :) hope you had a nice weekend!
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/18 02:52 AM
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Happy new year! It's been a crazy December for me. A major project did not go as planned and a potential romantic interest appears to not be as interested. I'd like to wrap up said project early 2018 as well as get into a serious/ committed relationship in 2018 as I feel I am getting older. So my question really is: will I be able to realize these goals in 2018? what steps can I take to help me with these goals? Thanks for your time
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/18 06:10 PM
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Sorry to hear about your emergencies, and thank you for this. I think I'll be writing down a few things :)
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 11:48 AM
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Thank you for doing this again, I don't have much time to get on the sub a lot, however it tends to be my refuge when things are rocky. Lately I've been under much pressure from school and work, as well as feeling that I'll never be able to find someone to settle down with. So my question is how can I make the best out of my circumstances and manipulate them to my benefit?
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 01:33 AM
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wow, thank you so much. This is what I needed to hear as of late actually :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/17 06:24 PM
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Hope I am not too late to post my question as this seems very interesting. My question is as follows: What can I do to attract the right partner for me? Thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/17 01:27 PM
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