RatchedAngle Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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35	Men Want Us To Be Better Than Them (from “Fascinating Womanhood”) I agree with this wholeheartedly. It’s something I’ve noticed out “in the wild.” Men, especially men with a history of “bad behavior,” become obsessed with women whom they deem morally infallible. I have started to wonder if I’m autistic because I have extremely rigid morals when it comes to infidelity, flirting, etc. My current boyfriend is obsessed with me because I struggle to lie, and I’m strictly faithful (I wouldn’t even speak to my current boyfriend until I was legally separated from my e…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/05/26 06:46 PM
2	Would you date a gamer? There are “12-hours a day if they can get away with it” gamers and “3 hours a week” gamers. If I was single, I’d be willing to date the latter. My ex-husband is the former and it was miserable. Playstation turned on first thing in the morning on the weekends. No activities other than gaming unless I begged, and by the time he relented, I was too resentful too appreciate it. Never again.	/r/RedPillWomen	25/05/26 12:36 AM
12	About men's mentality Yes, men are visual creatures. Men are also far more forgiving than most women expect. They don’t care if you have a little stubble on your legs. They don’t care about stretch marks. They don’t care if you have cellulite. My boyfriend (who is genuinely attractive and has women approaching HIM on social media) has not noticed or cared about the cellulite on my ass that had me not even wanting to get undressed in front of him. Men are visual and will notice if you smile big around them. They’ll no…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/04/26 08:32 AM
1	Do women who still believe in saving love for one lifelong partner still exist? How do you know when the time is right? If you’ve never had a relationship, if you’ve never experienced romantic love, sex, living with a romantic partner…how do you know it’s the right time to settle down? You’re imagining a woman who is so high up on a pedestal that she magically knows, via…what, womanly intuition? that a man is perfect for her despite having zero prior experience with men. Do you see how absurd that is? Most women want true love. It can take at least a year to truly know some…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/03/26 06:35 PM
18	I want to escape my body sometimes.. Therapy can’t fix a spiritual issue. This is the type of problem that would require a group of grandmothers, elder women, healers, etc. You should know that your pain is a woman’s pain. Feeling used during sex, objectified, etc. I’d say that’s an intrinsic pain that women are born with. It lives inside of us. That’s our war - men go out and fight each other, but women’s battles are largely internal. You should know that this pain that you feel is centuries old, primordial, belongs to all women. …	/r/RedPillWomen	24/12/25 11:14 AM
13	Boyfriend won’t cook and there’s no food in his house either You want a man who is self-sufficient. Your boyfriend has shown you that he is not self-sufficient. You can’t force him to be the man that you want. You can’t pull and twist and shove him into a box. The more you try to change him, the more inadequate he’ll feel. Men who feel inadequate fall apart quickly. Contrary to popular belief, men are extremely fragile. You can’t try to change him. Even if he’s perfect besides that one thing, it won’t work. My best advice would be to break it off and keep…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/25 08:06 PM
27	Bad friends or products of liberal dating culture? A lot of men who judge women for their body count, in today’s world, are hypocrites. They fail to uphold traditional male roles but expect traditional women. I do believe that radical feminism is the result of breadwinners failing to uphold and honor traditional femininity. If women overwhelmingly felt protected, adored, and safe as SAHMs, they never would’ve chosen to join the workforce. There’s a reason so many grandmothers want their granddaughters to be financially independent. Keeping your …	/r/RedPillWomen	28/11/25 01:34 PM
22	I have an imbalance in the men I’m attracting (22/F) I think the word you’re looking for is “genuine.” If a low-value man approaches everyone, he’s looking for any companionship he can secure. The opposite high-value men are usually looking for a woman who can elevate their status. Either way, both men are looking for something other than a genuine emotional connection. The men in the middle are looking for a partner, soul mate, whatever you want to call it - they want something genuine. The only way to attract genuine is to be genuine. Don’t play…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/10/25 11:51 AM
24	Met a guy at the club — not sure if I’m overthinking or if he’s playing some kind of game Sounds like manipulation to me. If you’re already confused, he’s not a good captain. Good captains don’t confuse women.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/10/25 11:26 PM
4	Can a guy truly move past a girl’s past if he really loves her? He’s experiencing retroactive jealousy. People on Reddit froth at the mouth over it, but it’s a natural thing. If he was a virgin, or had a very low body count, I could understand his jealousy. But nonetheless it’s his responsibility to decide if it’s a dealbreaker. If it’s a dealbreaker, he needs to end the relationship. If it’s not a dealbreaker, he needs to learn how to handle it without constantly shaming you and/or letting it affect your relationship. This is where you find out if he’s a go…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/10/25 06:55 PM
13	Are men’s ways just hard for me to tolerate or is it the men I’m dating? I would be cautious of female social media influencers who make a career out of “defending” men. A lot of them are extracting money out of men the same way OF models do - they’ve just found a much sneakier way to do it. Convince men you’re on their side and then milk them for every dollar in their wallet. A lot of these men want authority without responsibility. They’re the same types to donate money to online influencers.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/07/25 10:04 PM
2	What power do women hold other than pussy power? Men who discard women after using them are often weak on the inside. The “player womanizer” persona is, and always has been, a way for very fragile men to protect themselves in a shark-eat-shark world. They’re little boys who ultimately want that delicate mother love - the one that says, “I can see how bad you’re hurting, let me hug you” even when those little boys are being shitheads. It’s genuine sweetness and vulnerability that eats away at them. When they KNOW you SHOULD be mad at them and y…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/07/25 10:03 AM
41	Discussion: Lessons Learned Sexual attraction is a necessity for women. Meaning, you (as a woman) must be sexually attracted to your man. Not just, “Oh he’s kinda cute when he smiles” or “oh I could see myself having sex with him after a good date.” If you aren’t actively craving him, fantasizing about him, wanting to touch him…it won’t work no matter how good his personality is. Men want that. They want a woman who wants it. He doesn’t want a woman who allows him to touch her. He wants a woman who craves his touch. Once h…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/07/25 02:28 PM
5	I propose the following definition of "feminist": anyone caught using the term "mainsplaining" unironically. This post isn’t cute or funny like you think it is. You claim we shouldn’t take it seriously and it should be a joke, but if you have to tell people not to take something seriously, that’s a good sign that your post is lame.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/06/25 09:52 AM
31	How to graciously receive gifts that aren’t my style— while staying in my surrendered feminine? Maybe have him focus on buying things you’d wear in the bedroom. That way he can satisfy his desire to buy clothes for you, and you only have to worry about his eyes seeing them. Plus, it becomes an intimate bonding routine. A good provider - a good leader - will accept a compromise. You should feel safe being honest with him about your clothing preferences and why the gifts aren’t working. I would start by saying hey, I love that you’re buying me these clothes, but they aren’t my style. How I d…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/05/25 10:56 AM
9	Once respect for him is lost, it doesn't come back. There is such a massive difference between the answers I’d give with my ex-husband and the answers I’d give with my new man. This is an excellent list and I’m happy to have read it because it reaffirmed the fact that I made a good decision. Thanks, OP.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/05/25 10:38 AM
22	Is a spark important in a relationship? To me, only two things matter (and both are requirements): Do I feel comfortable and safe with him? Do I feel the primal desire to fuck his brains out? Number 2 might seem shallow, but no man wants a dead bedroom. In order for me to want sex, I need physical, primal attraction to my partner. Fortunately, number 1 heavily influences number 2. What is a “spark” to you besides those two things? Something to think about.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/04/25 01:10 AM
40	my (25f) bf (30m) lied about his sexual history multiple times and i don’t know if i Lying is an instant dealbreaker. Why? Because a man who lies is either (1) ashamed of the truth or (2) feels he is entitled to control your perception of reality. Neither quality makes for a good leader. If that’s his go-to defense mechanism, you’ll never have his respect. Good, solid, traditional men don’t hide from the truth. They tell you uncomfortable truths and work through it with you. Oh, and I promise he’s still watching porn. This isn’t the only lie. That’s another reason lying should b…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/25 08:48 PM
24	Thoroughbred and Clydesdale Horses don't clean stalls. I never ask my husband to do any chores, cleaning, handyman, or household work. The vast majority of women here, and on Reddit in general, are not (and will not) date men wealthy enough to hire cleaners, handymen, and maids. That’s a rich wealthy woman fantasy. It’s also fueling the male mental health epidemic. Because you’re ultimately encouraging women to only date massively wealthy men - and most men are not “machines” or “work horses.” They’re humans who get tired, have needs, etc. It’s easy to give other women advice on how to “never complain” when those women are sitt…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/03/25 09:50 AM
2	How do you guys afford to live while getting wrecked by child support? How is this helpful to OP? He came here for help so you can rub it in his face? For Christ’s sake.	/r/MensRights	24/02/25 11:16 AM
7	Weaponsied Incompetence Basic logic and common sense? If I’m washing dishes or folding laundry, do I really need to be distracted with 5 different phone calls asking me where shit is in the store? Go ask somebody. Come on. Is the bar really that low for grown adults? If you did this at your job, you’d get fired for being criminally incompetent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/02/25 05:54 PM
64	I'm trying so hard not not resent men but the internet is making it difficult. I'm starting to regret ever standing up for them as a conservative woman. How do I get over this feeling? Reddit really does feel like “the majority” when you’re on this platform, but Reddit morality is not the same as real-life. The majority of people will say “huh?” when you ask them about Reddit in the real world. Also, remember that people unleash the absolute worst parts of themselves on the internet. A lot of the people here are more gracious, more forgiving, and more compassionate in the real world where their actions have actual effects on others. It’s easy to call someone a mean name when i…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/02/25 01:38 PM
5	women are screwing themselves over by supporting feminism On what fucking planet can you be financially independent by working part-time, OP?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/25 01:14 PM
22	Petty Revenge Just don’t. Move on peacefully. The man you’ll marry, the love of your life, will see you in a more positive light if you avoid petty revenge and choose the moral high ground. I did a lot of things out of anger that I’m not proud of. It seemed right in the moment, but now those actions have become “red flags” that men don’t want to deal with when dating a new woman. I wish I could take those actions back. I wish I could preserve my morality, my character, etc. You don’t want the next man, the on…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/02/25 01:07 AM
5	The true RP position is that male friendships, not romantic relationships, are the answer to the male loneliness epidemic I don’t think male vulnerability is the issue but rather the way it’s presented. So many men waffle between two extremes. So outwardly, 97% of the time, you’re this happy-go-lucky normal everyday guy who perfectly conceals all of his problems. And then the dam breaks and all the sudden you’re sobbing and having a mental breakdown. I’m not saying this is the case for all men, but it’s another angle to consider. And you expect the woman in your life to handle that transition flawlessly. It’s just …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/25 09:16 PM
10	Why It’s Easy To Be A Misogynist Nowadays. Men love porn stars. Men love porn stars so much that they will watch porn even if it hurts their wives. Women start engaging more in porn/OF because we realize that’s what men like. Men get mad at us because we’re not supposed to profit from making men happy. Also, wives aren’t supposed to be sexually appealing. Wives are supposed to shut up and accept playing second fiddle to escorts/porn stars/strippers. And now women are bad for…doing what men want, but not what men want, but exactly what me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 08:57 PM
9	Adulting is realizing all you need is a home, stable income and a peaceful partner. Depends entirely on what you want for yourself. Some people crave the instability and spontaneity that comes with travel. Ultimately I’d like to have a life filled with travel. I want to see this world that we call our home. But I’d like to travel with a stable partner. We’re all different.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/25 05:39 PM
3	“Women live their life on easy mode” I agree in the sense that women often enjoy greater access to compassion, empathy, etc. I can act cute and innocent and stupid and most people assume I’m harmless. I’ve had grown men ready to fight after a fender bender instantly calm down when they see me getting out of my car apologizing looking innocent and small. That being said: It’s extremely frustrating to not be taken seriously as a woman. You’ll often hear people say “man I wish I was a kid again” but no one really means it. If you magi…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/01/25 11:01 PM
39	Trying to take the red pill or asked permission to leave I feel like you’re being disingenuous. Anyone who hears the phrase “ask permission” will automatically think your husband is abusive. Did your husband tell you that you had to ask permission, or did you choose that phrasing? Your husband wanted to be invited on a family trip to the park. That’s perfectly normal. He might have been eager to wake up and enjoy the day with his kid only to discover she’s already worn out and ready for a nap because she went to the park. …	/r/RedPillWomen	12/10/24 05:21 PM
63	Partner says I’m like a man What am I missing? It sounds like you’re missing vulnerability. You give him a lot but you don’t create an opening for him to give you anything. You don’t need. Have you ever had an overpowering craving for a certain type of food? To the point where it’s all you can think about? A man can tell when you’re in the mindset of craving him. Not only physically, but emotionally as well. When you crave food, you salivate. There are subtle signs of emotional craving, mainly a look in the eyes. The way y…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/24 07:15 PM
39	How to translate my helplessness into my man's proactiveness (lol) Run yourself a bath. Shave, put on your favorite lotion, etc. Whatever makes you feel good (self-care is vital when you’re fatigued). Put on your favorite set of pajamas and get cuddled up on the couch. If you live together, or if you’re spending time at his apartment (whatever the arrangement may be), he will inevitably notice you engaging in self-care. When he cuddles up to you (as any hot-blooded male would when he sees his freshly-showered girlfriend on the couch in her favorite nightie), ex…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/09/24 08:40 PM
98	I've gotten Girl Game all wrong. (Reflecting on my Observations) The ideal ratio is 90% good girl with 10% slut (forgive my language, I promise it’s relevant and necessary). When I was younger and single, I worked a summer job where I quickly became known as the “shy quiet girl.” No one really talked to me. I went over to one of my male coworkers and told him I needed a form. He clearly didn’t want to get up, so he dryly responded, “Do you need it or do you want it?” I smiled and leaned forward. In a quiet flirty little voice I said, “If I want it, that means…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/09/24 03:41 PM
66	Husband being inappropriate online A traditional man should be aware of the image he presents to the world. Right now he is presenting “horny teenager” versus “mature adult man.” Mature men don’t feel the need to voice every stupid horny thought they have. Him commenting under those photos is a way for him to mark his territory, to display his virility to the world. He needs everyone to know that his dick still works. But it’s embarrassing. A lot of men don’t realize this, but women look down upon men who comment under these phot…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/09/24 12:29 PM
9	Career vs Wife Is there any way you could work as a legal consultant for a non-profit? I’m not sure how it works in the world of law, but if pay isn’t a huge factor, shouldn’t there be some low-stress and/or part-time jobs that allow you to take on a more nurturing role (i.e., charity)? This thread might be helpful: https://www.reddit.com/r/Lawyertalk/comments/12d2pck/what_are_the_least_stressful_lawyer_jobs/ I found it by Googling “low stress lawyer jobs.” The top comment mentions government positions that fe…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/09/24 01:59 PM
61	Do you think it’s better to be perceived as sexy or adorable? I prefer being cute because men get used to it and then they’re shocked when you get filthy in the bedroom. I like to be cute and adorable. Then, when they’re least expecting it, you say something filthy. Immediately revert back to the adorable self and it completely hooks them. Cute and adorable should be 90% of who you are. Or, if you want to be more mature, graceful and elegant. Filthy sexy should be the 10% that comes out just enough for his mind to start wandering.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/09/24 01:10 PM
18	Was Banned from r/offmychest bc I commented here. It is common. The red pill has a very bad reputation due to the men’s red pill subreddits, which can be genuinely misogynistic. People who are vulnerable and looking for help often get trolled online, so those subreddits have to be extra harsh with their moderation. And the mods, who are NOT getting paid, probably don’t have time to scroll through every red pill subreddit to see which ones are toxic and which ones aren’t. So they ban them all. To each their own. No one has a right to comment in …	/r/RedPillWomen	08/09/24 11:37 PM
2	If you had the chance to be a stay at home dad would you? Being a stay-at-home parent sounds good until your spouse cheats or dies or becomes sick and you need to re-enter the workforce with a massive gap between jobs, no work history, etc. I know a lot of men wish they could stay home. Women romanticize working the same way men romanticize staying home. But there’s an entire generation of SAHMs who forced their daughters to go to college for a reason. You don’t want to be the guy who found out your kids aren’t yours, your wife cheated, or she won’t ha…	/r/MensRights	08/09/24 01:51 PM
9	What to do when you fuck up? The first step is to take a deep breath and collect yourself. You don’t have to respond immediately when he says something inflammatory. Take a breath, calm down, center yourself. Then take ownership of your mistake. “I’m sorry. I should have been clearer when I told you my location. I know being late for work is stressful.” At that point, it’s his responsibility as a leader to also take ownership of his emotions. There’s no point in him berating you. It’s not productive. This: He got angry at m…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/09/24 10:19 PM
28	Back To Basics September: Hypergamy, Wandering Eyes and Monkey Branching I would give this advice to any woman experiencing hypergamy: If you’re not willing to be single as an alternative to your current relationship, then you might want to think twice before leaving. It’s one thing to say, “I want to break up with Steve because Tom is so much better than Steve” (only to later discover that Tom isn’t so great). It’s another thing to say, “This relationship with Steve is so intolerable that I would rather be single than stay with him.” Tom can come along later, at whi…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/09/24 03:17 PM
33	my fiancé got mad then cried? Men have a lot of pressure to perform in bed. If things go wrong, even if it’s not his fault, it creates an intense cycle of self-hatred and self-criticism that will destroy his libido (and yours, eventually). For both of you: stop viewing sex as a measure of attraction. His lack of erection can be due to stress, performance anxiety, fear that he might hurt you, etc. Also: stop viewing sex as a scored performance. This is something he needs to work on. When a woman becomes aroused, ideally her v…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/09/24 02:18 PM
41	how to help my bf quit smoking without nagging him ? The golden rule for women: Never try to change a man. There’s no workaround for nagging. There’s no such thing as “gentle encouragement.” There’s no magic solution to change a man’s behavior without nagging him or using sex to get what you want (which will harm your sense of attraction to him). Your “gentle encouragement” will be ignored, you’ll build resentment, and he’ll end up annoyed. Doesn’t work. My dad is a traditional man. He quit smoking when he wanted to and not a day sooner. I encoura…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/08/24 05:27 PM
15	Is tattoo removal dishonest? No, it’s not. The only time a tattoo is a “red flag” is if you spent money irresponsibly (meaning: no retirement, bills weren’t paid, no emergency fund, but still spending money on tattoos). If a man asks, be honest and tell him you had your tattoos removed. Never lie. The guy who said that was trying to knock you down a peg because he’s neurotic and weird.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/08/24 06:37 PM
3	Scared of becoming a liability You need to treat yourself. If you had a hard semester, set up a spa day for yourself and laugh about all your failures. Maybe read some funny memes from other students who are struggling. Forgive yourself. Laugh, cry. Comfort yourself the way you’d comfort a child who won third place and feels sad about it. It’s okay to struggle. When your boyfriend comes into the bathroom during your luxurious spa day, smile and give him pouty lips and say, “I had a hard semester, so I’m nursing my wounds with…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/08/24 10:01 PM
59	How important is physical attraction (Most) men want a woman who is enthusiastic about sex. If you aren’t sexually attracted to him, the honeymoon phase might be enough to inspire sexual enthusiasm. But once you start learning his personality flaws, once you have your first fight, once he does something to upset you - the lack of physical attraction will slowly turn to disgust. And you won’t be able to overcome it after that.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/08/24 02:43 PM
39	Boyfriend wishes I was more girly and fun I, 28F have been dating 34M for a little over a year. Recently he has become very critical of my behavior, saying he is not happy with me. If he’s not happy with you after only one year, then that’s a sign you aren’t compatible. I would say that the first two years are still within the “vetting” stage of a relationship. This is where you learn whether or not you’re truly compatible with someone. It would appear you two are not compatible. Also, his critiques are a bit extreme for a man in his 30…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/08/24 07:36 PM
21	7 Year relationship. He just confessed to kissing a girl 5 years ago while drunk. I would take the redpill men’s advice with a grain of salt, even the ones who are endorsed. A lot of redpilled men come to this subreddit to comment, and they will also upvote the other men’s comments. Redpilled men tend to be more lenient about cheating. And they do have a “bros before hoes” mentality. Even if they know your boyfriend is trickle-truthing, they will tell you not to worry about it the same way they’d tell you “yeah he’s with me” even if he was at the club with another woman. Get …	/r/RedPillWomen	06/08/24 09:23 AM
38	How to overcome attraction to physical appearance? You can’t overcome raw physical attraction. And you’re not shallow. It would be shallow if you dated someone you aren’t attracted to and used him as a shoulder to cry on/financial support while giving him little enthusiasm in the bedroom. A lot of women do this. They marry “great men” that they aren’t physically attracted to and then expect those men to accept lackluster sex lives because “sex shouldn’t matter anyway.” If those men express a desire for more enthusiasm in the bedroom, they’re lab…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/07/24 10:16 PM
24	The burden of striving for perfection and meeting beauty standards has been really crippling I don’t feel like it’s worth even trying to be sexy, charming, attentive, when other women will always be better. Your sex life will improve when you stop viewing your sexuality as a product to be consumed by men. Sex is a spiritual, sensual act. Not only are you exploring your intimacy with a partner, but you’re also connecting with your inner self. We spend so much time worried about bills, school, work, drama, etc. Sex is the one time when you should be 100% focused on purely physical pleasur…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/07/24 11:00 PM
15	Are my perspectives delusional? His “multiple businesses” will likely fail. He’s in for a rude awakening when real life hits. It’s time for you two to part ways. You’re too young to chain yourself to a relationship with this much drama. And he’s naive if he thinks he’s going to keep a wife and kids while sleeping around with multiple women. His girlfriends will tear him to pieces as soon as they feel like they’re not getting a fair share of his resources. Men all throughout history have lost everything because of one wayward m…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/07/24 01:05 PM
17	The man I'm dating has brought up my potential future career as a potential issue and I'm not sure how to approach things I think it’s wise of him to bring this up now rather than later. I’m a big fan of cutting to the chase and weeding out incompatibilities early. There’s no point in “getting to know each other” if you end up at a dead end. Let’s say you fall in love with him. Are you genuinely willing to give up medicine? That’s what he’s asking. He doesn’t want to fall in love with you only to discover that it won’t work out. Last time he made some comments about "other guys", or would look over my shoulder to s…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/07/24 03:24 PM
76	Ideas on threesome with future husband Consider how you would react in the following scenarios: The other woman (OW) in the threesome is very sexually engaged and your husband has unique sexual chemistry with her that you don’t have with him (i.e., you can see him making sounds/facial expressions that he doesn’t make with you) The OW shows little interest in you and instead focuses on him. Your husband discovers that he really really enjoys sex with other women and comes to the conclusion that he wants an open relationship. Your husb…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/07/24 11:18 AM
–	It’s 2024. “Go to the gym” and “be confident and maintain frame” is the new “buy her flowers and hold open doors” The goal is for men to pursue self-improvement that isn’t based solely on impressing women. You should go to the gym because it’s good for you. So many men do things to get women. Once you have a woman, your brain shuts down because you no longer have any motivation to do anything. You’ve achieved your sole purpose in life, so you become a boring aimless bot that relies on your girlfriend wife to tell you what to do (beyond the most bare minimum survival). Women find this shit unattractive. The …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/07/24 07:13 PM
5	Thought this was brilliant There’s a common form of false confidence where people will smile smugly and say “I’m unbothered by drama, I don’t give a damn what people say about me.” Yet it’s so very clear that these people are bothered and are trying so hard to project the image of being “unbothered.” The true key to being “unbothered” is to openly admit when someone’s behavior is troubling you. Your man’s ex-girlfriend accused him of downgrading? It’s okay to admit to others that it was a hurtful comment and it upset you.…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/06/24 10:25 AM
6	Femininity is largely considered inferior to Masculinity and there are no good reasons for women to embrace femininity Jesus, you completely misinterpreted the tone of OP’s post.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 03:40 PM
32	Femininity is largely considered inferior to Masculinity and there are no good reasons for women to embrace femininity You have been fooled into thinking society doesn’t respect the things you’re good at. You think women don’t have plenty of real-life examples growing up of men disrespecting the feminine role?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 03:38 PM
7	Men care too much about women's approval and getting laid. Oof. Not recognizing satire. Another blow for redpilled men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/24 03:29 PM
-5	The bar is on the ground for men is an incredibly toxic statement A lot of women are happy if they can find a man who picks his own socks up off the floor and can wash dishes without being told to do so. This is what it means when women say “the bar is on the floor.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 09:43 PM
-5	How men feel about women is similar to how women feel about lipsticks (or handbags, dresses, what have you) OP explained it pretty clearly. You don’t have to agree with it, but the fact that you couldn’t figure it out from the post means our reading comprehension is falling apart in modern society.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/24 09:42 PM
5	Men who are trying to "woo" a woman (by working out, getting hobbies, dressing better, being charismatic/funny, getting rich, etc.) need to ask themselves if a girl would ever do that to get him. Imagine needing a woman as motivation to dress well, take care of your body, work out, etc. The bar is in hell for both men and women. No one should be content being a lazy slob even if you’re asexual and aromantic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/24 08:00 PM
38	My boyfriend doesn't want me at his girl best friend's birthday party If your goal is to pursue a traditional relationship with a HVM, I would question the values of a man who thinks it’s appropriate to attend a multi-day birthday party with a female friend. Would he be okay if you did the same with a male friend? The party is technically two days Friday wine tasting at a winery, Saturday bar hopping and they're all supposed to sleep at her/her parents house. This all seems very excessive. The amount of alcohol consumption, the expensive activities (bars and wine …	/r/RedPillWomen	13/06/24 02:26 PM
84	It's not that men want submissive women, we just want agreeable women. It doesn't mean you always agree with whatever the other party wants, but you're up for discussion, communication, and compromise That’s a two-way street, though. A woman shouldn’t have to fight you to pick your socks up off the floor. And if your answer is “it doesn’t matter, it shouldn’t bug you, it’s just socks,” you can’t accuse her of being the disagreeable one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/24 09:51 PM
4	What is men's obsession's with dating and boinking teenage girl? Part of it is physical (younger women appear youthful, shocker). Another part of it is younger women are more easily impressed. If you can change a tire, a younger woman is more likely to “ooh” and “aah” over it. I remember being 19 years old and being impressed when a man had a retirement account or gasp paid his own bills. Now those things seem like the bare minimum to me as I gain financial wisdom.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/24 03:16 PM
68	Women are dishonest about their appearance Women fundamentally know the world treats them better when they look better. Is that women’s fault? Don’t worry, though. Men present a false image, as well. Any man who cleans up his apartment better than he normally would prior to his girlfriend’s visit is presenting a false image. Any man who cleans his body better than he normally would before a date is presenting a false image.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/24 01:31 PM
1	People that play games, why? Be honest. A lot of people express desire toward a goal without any intention of seriously pursuing that goal. This is a common trait of ADHD and it’s becoming more prevalent as people’s attention spans become shorter. A lot of people are just floating through life going where the wind takes them with zero intent to create any goals or follow through with them. They will say “I want a serious relationship” “I want to lose weight” “I want to go to school” but they never actually work to achieve those goals.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/24 11:20 AM
5	The only ones who really care about 30+ year olds dating 18+ year olds are older, and/or unattractive and unable to partake Men: “Women are gold diggers, they commit paternity fraud, they will baby trap you and take all of your money for the next 18 years!!!” Men when an 18-year-old man starts dating a 42-year-old single mother: “Haha hell yeah man get it! Total MILF! You’re a grown adult you can do whatever you want to!” Older women can and do manipulate young men. If men truly gave a shit about each other, they would advise young men to avoid these women. Instead, you say “they’re 18 they’re adults they can do what…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/24 07:52 PM
–	What happened to the post about Toxic Masculinity? I was writting a reply then when I went to press the "comment" button it told me that they was a server error. Here is my reply. Toxic Masculinity is exactly what I think it is! OP, you’re misinterpreting the article. Imagine this: you’re a man who feels like you’re only valuable as a breadwinner and provider. You build up resentment toward your wife because you feel like she only loves you for what you provide. You cheat on her and excuse it because “she’s only with me because I make money anyways.” You constantly accuse her of cheating and also accuse her of viewing you as a “deadbeat” because you don’t make enough, etc. That’s toxic masculinity. A man who’s more in-t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/24 02:18 PM
–	Why is there this obsession in the manosphere with wanting to ‘replace women’? Because redpillers always imagine women “seething” at the idea of being replaced.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/05/24 07:42 PM
23	Women enjoy sex, but is it ever mentally "fulfilling" to them? It’s hard for sex to be validating when you’re the one being “taken” versus the one doing the “taking.” Even women who enjoy sex and enthusiastically consent are still living in a world where the sexual dynamic is one of “taker” versus “taken.” Women would enjoy sex more on a mental/emotional level if we felt our men were enjoying it on an equal level versus “he’s using my body to get off.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/05/24 06:30 PM
5	One of the most important things for men to realise is that women don't actually care about you as a human being. Well, to be fair, in his mind all the uggos who would pay for their half of the bill don’t count as “women” because, you know…they’re ugly.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/24 12:52 PM
11	Blue Pillers and Women reveal some truths when they criticize Age Gap Relationships and Passport Bros The truth that is revealed here is that men without dating options are fucking losers. Conversely, we can deduce that a man with plenty of options is the man that women want. No, the truth that’s revealed here is that most men want a woman and women are aware of that. Most women wouldn’t call an aromantic man a loser. If a guy decided he doesn’t want to date, is asexual, doesn’t experience romantic attraction - most women wouldn’t think he’s a loser. And, in fact, most women don’t even give a sh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/05/24 12:47 PM
–	““I think it is you, the women who have had the most diabolical lies told to you,” - what are your thoughts on the Harrison Butker commencement speech scandal? Plenty of women get married and become SAHMs only to end up broke and destitute once their husbands decide to upgrade to a newer model. I doubt Butker would ever defend those women and say they were sold a “lie” about the life of a homemaker. Any man who says “I’d love to be a stay-at-home husband!” is imagining a future where his wife never leaves him, cheats, or abuses him. He’s never imagining that his wife could fall out of love with him. What happens when you try to enter the job market aft…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/05/24 05:06 PM
4	What if men were allowed to choose between a bear and a woman in a forest? Statistics show women more frequently assault men than bears - why hasn’t anyone pointed this out yet? Why does the “man = bad” paradigm fit so well in our society? Men really underestimate the psychological impact of knowing that the other gender is, in general, more physically powerful than you. Men walk around and know that most women they run into are physically incapable of hurting them. IMO, only very small men (5’ 4” and under) can sort of understand what women feel. No, not all men are bad. But almost all men could physically overpower me if they wanted to and how am I supposed to identify the good men versus the bad? There are men who can’t figure …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/05/24 02:18 PM
0	What do you think of passport bros? I think a lot of passport bros are going to foreign countries and using PUA tactics to blow through women there. This is the same behavior that contributed to feminism and the modernization of western women. Pick-up artistry and cheating will always drive women toward feminism. The most traditional women will put up with it, but their daughters and granddaughters will grow up resenting that behavior in men. Cue western feminism. The only good thing about “passport bros” is they’re starting to re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/24 05:12 PM
4	Covert Narcissism and the Red Pill Man Probably men in communities that are explicitly stated to be redpilled communities. This isn’t difficult, man.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/24 06:12 PM
7	I need help being more dignified, feminine and hygienic It would help if you described your current routine. For example, do you wash your face in the morning? When and how often do you shower? Do you exfoliate? I would describe your general hygiene/beauty habits and then the ladies here can build from there.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/05/24 07:56 PM
19	Using Irony to Combat Misandry? Drizzle Drizzle the Male Gaze argument? I think you should unironically make these arguments. Not as a “gotcha,” but as a legitimate complaint. Because men are often held to unrealistic standards in regards to musculature. A lot of women believe that these Hollywood body types are obtainable naturally. There are a lot of men destroying their bodies with PEDs. This is a legitimate issue that should be addressed. Everything you just posted is an actual problem. I don’t think this highlights how “silly” women’s arguments are. I think it …	/r/MensRights	01/05/24 11:51 AM
–	How Should Women Hold Themselves Accountable? If you only fuck top 20% men, stop complaining when they don't commit to you. If you go to Walmart right now and look at every couple there together, are most of those women holding hands with a top 20% man? Or do you just not notice the “uggo” women at Walmart? Is it only the hot Insta models who matter in this equation?	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/24 02:19 PM
32	Why do husbands have to beg their wife to have sex with them? I think a lot of men fail at the art of seduction. Women are trained early on to attract men. It’s almost unavoidable. By the time a woman reaches college, she normally understands the “type” of personality men prefer. She knows to tip her chin down and look up, smile, and flutter her eyelashes. Her laugh, her outfits, her makeup - all of it is enticing to men. Women pay attention to such subtleties. Men, on the other hand? I see a lot of men failing to seduce their wives because they do not und…	/r/RedPillWomen	26/04/24 11:06 PM
6	Billie Eillish and double standards in sexuality Billie Eillish talking about masturbation: “I masturbate in front of the mirror because it helps with my body dysmorphia, I hated my body for so long, this is a form of self-love and connecting with my body” (obviously not verbatim, but a good summary nonetheless). Men talking about masturbation: “Haha yeah I had a date with Rosy Palms the other night if ya know what I mean. Beatin’ the shmeat. Jerkin’ the Gherkin’. You know me, I’m a man of culture. I see tiddies, I upvote.” And yes, it really …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/24 09:24 PM
–	Changes post “I do” Cleaning. You go to his apartment when you first start dating and it’s spotless (because he wants to make a good impression). You get married and suddenly he doesn’t “understand” how to clean a toilet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/04/24 02:10 PM
85	Would you let your boyfriend sleep in the same hotel room as a female friend? A wise man would never sleep in a hotel room alone with a woman that isn’t family/wife. Even if he’s single, it’s unwise due to the possibility of false accusations and/or other forms of drama. If you have to tell a man not to do this, he’s foolish. You shouldn’t trust his judgment, especially as a leader/captain.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/04/24 07:37 PM
5	How do I fix this? Know what we know about men, I think a significant portion of his pain (if not the majority of it) is based on the fact that you’re the breadwinner and he’s contributing “only when he can.” For men who want to be dominant leaders, an imbalance in earnings is going to cause problems regardless of how gracious you are about it. It’s going to be difficult to submit as the breadwinner. Realistically, he should be the one doing the majority of house chores. Now, he can still “lead” if he’s owning his…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/04/24 03:40 PM
2	“It is a red flag to date a woman who accepts you as you are, because it means you won’t reach your full potential” do you agree or disagree ? I think men use this argument as a way to justify the inevitable loss of attraction they’ll experience (toward their wife) once they do become successful. I think one of men’s biggest “icks” is when they have a woman who saw them at their lowest and still stuck around. Once he becomes successful and younger, hotter women start paying attention to him, he will inevitably stray. This is because he’s ashamed of his “old self” and his wife is a reminder of the “old self” he once was. The old wife ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/24 01:29 PM
3	These women who cry on social media about being single and childless at 30 would not make good mothers anyways, and we shouldn't care And this is why I’m blackpilled. I wouldn’t laugh at lonely men. People are human beings who make mistakes for fuck’s sake But also These women who cry on social media about being single and childless at 30 would not make good mothers anyways, and we shouldn't care	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/24 05:09 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Men when an 18-year-old wants to sign up for an 84-month car loan at a 23% interest rate: “Hey, I can see you’re a young person who’s ignorant about buying a car. You probably shouldn’t sign up for that loan because you’ll be in debt forever. A better option would be to save up for a cheap used vehicle until you can improve your credit score. Also, you’ll need someone to help you negotiate a better deal. Car salesmen can be pretty shady.” Men when an 18-year-old wants to date a 40-year-old: “THA…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/24 07:11 PM
10	Late stage feminism leads to population collapse ithout kids you have a good guarantee that nobody will care about you when you're old. I’d rather die alone than force a 40-year-old to spend a decade worrying about my health and caregiving. If I had kids, I would want them to enjoy their lives. I wouldn’t want them sitting beside me in the nursing home being depressed and miserable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/24 02:14 PM
0	The beauty of motherhood is not in reproduction but in inclusion – to experience another life as a part of yourself I think glorifying motherhood in this manner is what causes so many marriages to dissolve. How many men are going to enjoy hearing this quote one year into a sexless marriage with a wife who’s still breastfeeding and struggling to lose the baby weight? Don’t get me wrong: it’s wonderful to bring new life into this world, but there are a lot of miserable parents out there and it’s not just women. There are a lot of men struggling as well with the stress that children bring into their lives and ma…	/r/MensRights	06/04/24 04:39 PM
25	The One Who Got Away Personally, I would show the message to my husband (for the sake of transparency) and then block my ex without responding. If you delete the message or simply block him, and your current boyfriend ever discovers it, then that could look bad even if you didn’t respond.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/04/24 04:02 PM
30	Society looks the other way a lot more with women's toxic behavior in heterosexual relationships than with men's I guarantee, though, if you posted about a man popping a woman’s zits without her consent even after she asked him to stop, the comments would be calling the man an abuser. OP simply chose a horrendous comparison for that one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/24 12:47 PM
3	I got banned in r/offmychest for being part of this one lol Other subreddits have the right to decide who can and can’t participate in their communities. This subreddit has restrictions on men who can post and comment. It’s hypocritical to call other people snowflakes while simultaneously participating in a community that also restricts participation. Getting heated over something so silly is not worth it. Who actually cares if you were banned from one subreddit. Why does it matter?	/r/RedPillWomen	27/03/24 02:49 PM
8	Why not liking sluts is such a big thing for women? Men: I want sluts to have sex with me and create porn for me to jerk off to, and I would be furious if all porn disappeared tomorrow Also men: but porn stars and sluts should exist only on the outskirts of society If you derive any benefit from sluts, you lose all rights to complain about them. Including your wife, daughter, sister being one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/24 12:35 PM
12	What do you all think of the 'manic pixie dream girl'? I think the manic pixie dream girl (MPDG) is the most harmful manifestation of certain fantasies that redpilled men often promote. The “perfect woman,” as described by the manosphere, is childlike, innocent, and cheerful. She brings light into the man’s brutal world. When he comes home from the battlefield (i.e., the 9-5 grind) she is there with a smile and a massage and a hot meal and a blowjob to make him feel better. Similar to a golden retriever, her job is to have very few needs (food, wate…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/03/24 08:30 PM
4	Why would women be jealous of a young woman getting married, if they want to ride the CC instead? Is it considered jealousy when older divorced men advise young men not to get married? Are all the divorced MGTOWs jealous of young men getting married? Why do men have such a hard time believing that a divorced woman could come to the same conclusions as a divorced man? That marriage is a sham and getting married young is a bad idea? I can tell you one thing for certain: a lot of young women value romantic love and ideals over primal sexual attraction. They will marry for personality over looks…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/24 05:41 PM
5	There's no such thing as having standards set too high I would tend to agree with you. I think a lot of people see “salivating at the thought of your partner” as unrealistic. Most people have never, and will never, experience that level of sexual attraction toward their spouse. Especially women. Very few women see their husband and want to jump on his lap or tear his pants off. A lot of them would scoff at the idea. People prefer a more “comfortable” type of attraction. Meaning “I like you for your personality, not your looks, and I like having sex …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/03/24 02:44 PM
14	How casual sex is perceived for men and women because it’s something that men do to women Yeah, that’s the problem. That’s actually the underlying problem to the entirety of gender discourse. Men see women as objects. And this doesn’t just hurt women - it hurts men, too. It’s the reason so many men are miserable and sexless and lonely.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/24 09:02 PM
12	Men shouldn't dismiss so quickly the idea that unequal distribution of housework/childcare contributes to divorces Most men would feel happier and more loved if they had a few drinks and a fun evening with their wife in a messy home with a microwaved meal, The problem is a lot of women don’t feel sexy in a messy environment after eating a microwaved meal. Many women feel gross/bloated/yucky in a messy house eating junk food. And a woman who feels gross/bloated/yucky won’t want to have sex. Men severely underestimate how important environmental factors are in regards to a woman’s libido. We can’t force oursel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/24 10:39 PM
–	Can guys please get over themselves Men: “women only want men who are good providers, they don’t care about men as people” Also men: “lol look at all these women dating losers and shitbags and thugs, these men can’t even pay child support, lol why do women date men like that” The guys who make these complaints simply cannot acknowledge their own confusion. Plenty of women date poor men, losers, couch surfers, etc. The only reason you can’t get women as a man is because you’re socially awkward or unattractive. That’s it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/24 01:23 PM
85	If men can pump and dump, can't I just do the reverse and use them for dates and provision, etc without giving my body? I view men who pump and dump is immature, vile, and narcissistic. I would view a woman who does the female version of “pumping and dumping” as equally immature, vile, and narcissistic. Because not every guy you run into is an asshole looking to pump and dump. Your soul mate might end up in that group of men you’ve termed “assholes” and you might end up lonely and miserable because your life revolves around tit-for-tat and bitterness and power dynamics.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/03/24 12:42 PM
26	How stop obsessive thoughts about a person and focus on yourself? How can I escape these thoughts? You stop trying to escape the thoughts. The more you agonize about intrusive thoughts, the more you analyze them and try to conquer them, the more you drain your own energy. Let the thoughts exist like background noise. Don’t beat yourself up for having them. Don’t try to ignore them. Don’t feed into them. Let the thoughts exist and think to yourself, “These are intrusive thoughts. I know these thoughts happen. I am not choosing to think this way, and I will not …	/r/RedPillWomen	02/03/24 12:45 PM
5	Overcomplexity in Dating and Society It was embarrassingly simple. I built a strong platonic relationship with 1 women and made her laugh (feels) and opened up about a few of the minor (office politics - gossip) things I was going through (emotion) and it was like that was enough of a vet for every women in the office to feel safe around me. Do men really not comprehend this? As a woman, I see this as basic common sense. This comes naturally. OP, do you think this concept of “making a woman comfortable around you” as you described …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/03/24 12:34 PM
12	A video of a group of girls dancing during Mardi Gras went viral on social media and provoked a strong reaction from some in manosphere. What are your thoughts on the controversy? Redpill men will marry trad virgin women and then cheat on those women with the Mardi Gras girls. This is what they mean when they say they “don’t want western women.” They want to fuck western women. But they’re angry that all the trad virgin women got tired of being cheated on and just decided to join the dark side and start hoeing around.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/24 11:41 PM
16	How should a RPW treat simps? I tend to be brutally honest. I will tell a man exactly why I’m not attracted to him and exactly what he’s doing wrong. If he gets offended, oh well. Red-pilled men claim (keyword: claim) to be rational, logical, and unemotional - therefore, I expect them to take my advice without wallowing in self-pity or lapsing into a rage. Self-reflection and strong emotional control are key features of “evolved” men (according to redpill theory) and holding men to this standard helps them grow. I don’t use …	/r/RedPillWomen	01/03/24 09:35 PM
1	man seeking perspective/advice from solid women is a sex tolerance break normal/does that sound familiar? For women, yes. We have a hormonal cycle that tells us when to have sex and when to stop having sex. Women typically experience a higher libido during ovulation and can experience low/no libido during other phases of the menstrual cycle. Men are the “chasers” and women are the ones who are pursued. Men get into this habit where they feel like they are owed sex 24/7 without the burden of chasing because you have committed to her. The probl…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/03/24 01:28 PM
20	Guys and watching porn Because no man who watches porn would be okay with his girlfriend making it. He sexually prefers hot crazy women but his girlfriend is stuck being the “safe good girl” who’s marriage material. He will watch porn but simultaneously denigrate porn stars. Porn stars are allowed to be hot and sexy but his girlfriend is required to be pure and innocent and sweet. It’s the double standard. Women don’t want to be the “safe option” either. Watching porn usually means you aren’t putting a lot of effort i…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 10:04 PM
8	If it’s not acceptable for older men to pursue 18 women then we shouldn’t allow 18 year olds to birthday debut on OF There are 18-year-old men who watch porn. Should they be limited to watching older women only? The reality is that men are going to be shamed for being creepy and there’s really nothing you can do about it. Men have two options: A) you can jack off to barely-legal teens and be seen as a creep and accept it; B) you can show some restraint and reign in your sexuality and suffer the absolute misery of not jacking off to barely-legal teens. Either way, this debate boils down to: people who expect me…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 02:04 PM
–	Cheating when you have a dead bedroom isn't justified but it is understandable. If he’s cheating I’d rather know than not know so I can go out and get some too without feeling bad about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/24 12:58 PM
–	Are there a lot of good women out there like you guys My advice would be to stop labeling women “good” and “bad” and instead think in terms of “compatible” or “incompatible.” Thinking of women in terms of “good” or “bad” is both morally and intellectually reductive and it’s going to make you feel bitter as you move through your life. There are plenty of women out there who are compatible. But the point of this subreddit isn’t for men to stroke our egos about us being “good women” or to remind you that there are “good women” out there.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/02/24 11:52 PM
–	Sexism in disguise A lot of modern feminism is just revenge. Imagine you’re a 1950s housewife. You’re the pure virgin that every man wants as his wife: you cook, you clean, you raise the kids. But your husband, a red-blooded male, despite having the ideal virginal wife, still checks out other women in public. He stashes dirty magazines under the mattress. He flirts with the slutty secretary. Of course, he loves you because you’re his wife and the mother of his kids. He has duty sex with you. But who does he lust a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/02/24 12:18 AM
33	He lied about everything OP, I mean this with all the love in the world: You’d be a fool to keep dating him. He showed you who he is.	/r/RedPillWomen	21/02/24 12:08 AM
–	How to tell if she is witholding or really not interested? Very few women are down for sex 100% of the time. We get periods. We get sick. We get tired. Sometimes we’re not in the mood no matter how attractive you are.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/24 01:04 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Question: Are there people who are genuinely - and I mean genuinely - physically attracted to their spouse even after a 100 lb.+ weight gain? Without it being a “chubby chaser” fetish? I see a lot of men saying “oh my wife gained a ton of weight but I still think she’s sexy.” I see women saying the same thing about their husbands. That’s sweet and all but I get turned off whenever I see a big belly hanging over someone’s belt line and no amount of emotional love will ever allow me to overcome th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/24 09:12 PM
65	Tips on getting husband to want to spend time with me again? I would say that it’s time to retreat from your relationship and perform some major self-care. When I say “retreat,” I’m not referring to divorce or separation. Sometimes we need to enter a sort of spiritual cocoon where we can heal and refresh ourselves without interference from those factors which stress us out. You’ve been through a lot: pregnancy and childbirth, a betrayal, etc. I think it’s time to focus your energy inwards rather than outwards. You need to stop asking him for attention or …	/r/RedPillWomen	18/02/24 03:18 PM
6	Women, what do you bring to the table? So if you don’t care about her income, does that mean you’ll be willing to move her in and financially support her? If not, you care about her income.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/02/24 12:01 PM
26	Men are apparently bigots for not wanting to cross-dress. I feel like there’s a different argument that’s far more effective in communicating your point. If your daughter felt uncomfortable in a dress, would you tell her she’s insecure and has toxic masculinity? If a trans man (born female, identifies as a man) feels uncomfortable in a dress, would you accuse that trans man of having “toxic masculinity”? Ask them those questions and watch their little heads explode. It’s apparently perfectly fine for tomboys and trans men to hate dresses, but if a born…	/r/MensRights	18/02/24 11:54 AM
85	Have you ever had to lower your standards in the caliber of men you date to be treated better? How can I do this? There are plenty of attractive men who don’t fit into the “rich” category. There are blue collar workers who make enough money to support a wife/family but wouldn’t fit in with the Kevin Samuels of the world. You have to work on linking your sense of attraction to the treatment you receive. That will take some internal work and re-evaluating the way you receive and process male validation. You have to start calling yourself out every time you fall for cheap male validation. A woman’s job is to v…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/02/24 10:13 PM
9	“Be nice” was NEVER code for “Being nice to women gets them wet for you”. Nice guys lie to themselves. Because boys are being fucked up in the head by the single moms raising them Correction: boys are being fucked up by their fathers who abandoned them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/24 09:54 PM
7	CMV: it is a huge red flag if a woman uses the terms "pickme" or "nlog." RUN. Men will date pickmes, get brutally mindfucked and emotionally abused by said pickmes (because these types of women feed on male validation and typically become abusive when they feel they aren’t getting enough of it), and then claim women are all evil. Yet, when women call out pickmes for that exact behavior…you’re mad? Pick a side. Let me guess: you’re the type who thinks JustPearlyThings and Andrew Tate are on men’s side?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/24 08:47 PM
5	Grieving parents of 'kind and happy' man, 24, stabbed to death by his girlfriend, 47, say they 'begged' him to leave when he came home with cuts, bruises and a black eye but pretended he'd fallen off his bike THIS is why age-gap dating is a problem. I get that 18 is an “adult” but this man was clearly vulnerable and he was manipulated and abused by a woman much older than him who was in a position of power. He was too young and naive to recognize the red flags. I did so much dumb shit at 24 and I’m happy there were older people to guide me and help me pull my head out of my ass.	/r/MensRights	17/02/24 05:13 PM
49	I want a man taller than me, and I don’t get why people think that’s shallow. It’s typically women who accuse men of being shallow for wanting a fit woman. Men, usually in retaliation, accuse women of being shallow for wanting tall men (tit for tat, basically). The only difference is men actually have a point because height is out of someone’s control whereas weight is not.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/02/24 02:09 PM
26	Have you ever heard a woman say of her male partner "He makes me a better person."? It’s actually not healthy for someone to say “I’m pursuing sobriety to be a better person for you” My husband used to say that about any life improvement he made. “I’m doing this for you.” He was losing weight for me, pursuing an education for me, learning how to clean for me, etc. It made me cringe because I felt like his mother. In the movies when mom corrects her son’s posture and smooths his hair and kisses his cheek before sending him off to school? That’s how it felt. You need to better yo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/02/24 11:01 AM
40	Boyfriend only wants me to wear skirts/dresses majority of the time You are getting played, OP. He owns five properties and he’s in real estate? He has the ability to provide right now. He’s stringing you along.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/02/24 04:26 PM
11	How Women Keep Score This is where females, sadly, become too passive. Women very rarely confront of discuss their desires for small /thoughtful acts from their men. Women who do this are often accused of nagging and told to STFU, even on this very subreddit. “Don’t be a pain in the ass to your husband. Smile and be pretty and be a soft place for him to land, and then he will naturally give you what you need.” At some point we need to admit that we’re giving women mixed advice. And what should women do if the man do…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/02/24 12:32 AM
2	Why do majority of women say they want their man to be a confident leader, yet most women today are reluctant to be obedient/submissive? Very few men are good leaders. You’ll often hear traditional men justifying bad behavior (cheating, gambling, ignoring wife’s needs, etc.) by claiming “I’m the breadwinner! Therefore shut up and sit down and don’t talk.” If a woman asks her husband not to drag dirt onto her freshly-mopped floor…”I’m the breadwinner, shut up.” That’s why women went into the work force to begin with. We were tired of hearing “I’m the breadwinner so shut up.” Okay, fine. I’ll make my own money.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/24 01:06 PM
10	"What do you think?" - how the heck do you respond to this question?! I respond to “what do you think” with 100% blunt honesty and I expect my man to handle that with grace regardless of my answer. He can disagree. He can be bluntly honest in return. But for him to get emotional/angry would reduce my opinion of him. We give men authority on the basis that they are more logical and rational than women. We give men authority on the basis that they are less emotional than women. Because why else would they be deserving of authority over us? So if a man gets easily up…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/02/24 12:49 PM
16	Quietness is not a feminine trait. When a woman says “I am not your therapist,” it’s usually in response to a man expecting her to solve his problems. Venting is one thing. “I’m sad about my mom forgetting my birthday” is a lot different from “I got fired from my job because I got into an argument with my manager and now I want you to tell me what to do about it.” Women want men who are functional yet able to discuss their emotions. Too many men confuse dysfunction for emotional vulnerability. “Complaining” is different from emot…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/24 11:47 PM
-8	Healthcare women receive vs men. Plenty of women are accused of “nagging” when they demand their husbands go see a doctor over a weird mole or a random pain. I’m sorry but men do need to take some responsibility for this one.	/r/MensRights	06/02/24 12:51 PM
-3	Boyfriend lied But that is what the redpill preaches, so that is the standard to which we should hold our men. If the redpill believes men should be given authority based on their logic and rationality, it’s our responsibility to hold them accountable. We can’t give men authority while simultaneously dancing around their feelings. Too many people here expect women to obey men and coddle them.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/02/24 11:01 AM
6	Boyfriend lied What is a graceful way to approach this situation that will allow him to explain himself and not feel attacked? Men are rational and logical (whereas women are emotional and sensitive). Just be direct and honest. A HVM values honesty above all and does not play head games. HVM do not lie to “protect your feelings” or “avoid making you upset.” HVM face challenges head-on. This will be a good chance to vet him and decide if you want to move forward with the relationship or not.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/02/24 05:28 PM
19	what do you think of loyalty tests There are people who remain faithful in the beginning of a marriage and cheat later during a mid-life crisis or some other event that leads to a breakdown in their moral code. Just because someone is strictly faithful at one point in their life doesn’t mean they will remain faithful. Therefore, your loyalty test is worthless. It won’t prove that your partner will be loyal 15 years from now.	/r/RedPillWomen	03/02/24 11:10 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread You act like we’re making life-changing decisions on a constant basis. The biggest decision I make most days is what to eat for dinner. And when I’m on my period it’s usually some junk food.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/24 03:13 PM
–	Average men struggle because standards of living have raised in the past 20 years and average is no longer good enough for anything Average performance at work will get you fired. Every single time I order fast food, despite making my order clear, they fuck it up. If I order a burger without ketchup, I can guarantee 70% of the time there will be ketchup on my burger. Those people still have jobs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/24 03:11 PM
19	Not Just For Anyone I think there are two primary things a woman must do to be happy in a marriage: Learn to be humble and listen. This is a skill that men and women must both learn. The universe can teach you nothing if you are not listening. Learn to stop putting so much information out and start taking more information in. Learn how to vet properly. Number two is so important. When you vet for the right man, it’s easy to STFU. It’s easy to STFU and focus on happiness when you have a man who shares your values an…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/02/24 11:19 PM
108	Men do not have high beauty standards Most men just want somebody willing to touch them because for most men no one is willing to do that. Men will whine endlessly about women “settling” for them but can’t comprehend why women don’t want to be settled for. No woman wants to be the “one who happened to say yes” for a man who would fuck anything that’s willing and alive. Also, a lot of women will date/settle for an average-looking woman. That doesn’t mean you’ll treat an average-looking woman very well, and that’s the problem. For a l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/02/24 07:55 PM
5	honestly for those who defend the mutilation of boys because "religious freedom" should be asked if people should be able to cut on girls genitals(FGM) in the name of "religious freedom" So you’re openly admitting you require a surgical procedure to keep yourself clean because you don’t properly wash yourself	/r/MensRights	01/02/24 12:27 PM
135	Why is it normalized to disparage the genitals of genital mutilation victims? Men really need to adopt the “if women don’t love a man’s natural body then they aren’t real women” mantra that feminists rave about. Even if you are circumcised and happy about it, start vetting and shaming women who prefer you circumcised. They’ll get the message eventually.	/r/MensRights	31/01/24 05:27 PM
10	Extremely different sleeping habits Separate bedrooms. I’m considering this with my husband. He has RLS and it keeps me awake. Also, he likes to stay up later than me and it wakes me up when he comes into the room. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Plus, with separate bedrooms you can sneak into each other’s rooms and feel like teenagers again which reignites the spark. Win-win.	/r/RedPillWomen	30/01/24 01:34 PM
25	Accused of being the cause of his sister dying? Two failed previous transplants is a grim outlook regardless of whether or not he’s a match. There’s a strong chance he will lose a kidney and his sister in the event he is a match. He needs to think rationally. Living with one kidney means no drinking, eating a strictly healthy diet, and exercising regularly for the rest of his life. Is he prepared to radically change his entire lifestyle to prevent his own medical decline? Doubt it. Then his mother will be grieving two children rather than one…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/01/24 05:41 PM
26	Snoring boyfriend :( He needs to see a doctor and request a sleep study. Snoring can indicate sleep apnea and sleep apnea can be deadly. HVM take care of their health. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. The “I don’t go to the doctor because it’s not manly” types cannot, by definition, be good protectors and providers because many of them will die when their families still need them.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/01/24 02:02 PM
3	Most women want socially liberal men who are capable of engaging in “benevolent misogyny “. Eh, I disagree. I think most women enjoy chivalry but not when it results in a lack of respect toward women. If you hold doors open for me, work as the breadwinner, and I’m the housewife, that doesn’t give you the ethical right to dismiss everything I say, demand sex at the drop of a hat regardless of how I feel, and spend all your free time (outside of sex) ignoring me. That’s the position a lot of housewives were in throughout history. Woman wants to spend more quality time with her husband be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 12:34 PM
–	In your opinion what does put the pussy on a pedestal mean? I think a lot of men idealize women. This is the true meaning of “objectification.” We know that (1) men are immensely attracted to women’s bodies. Testosterone has a powerful effect on men’s brains. So it’s easy for a man’s brain to focus on a woman’s body rather than her personality. I don’t think this is purposeful on men’s part. I think, when you’re overwhelmed with testosterone, it’s very easy to see someone attractive and automatically minimize their personality. So what do men do? They fi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/01/24 12:21 PM
11	I’m tired of seeing men dating younger women as predatory I wouldn’t be too happy if my 20-year-old son started dating a woman in her 40s. I would definitely wonder if she had some sort of ulterior motive. She wants a young stand-in daddy for her fatherless kids? She wants a man who’s financially ignorant so she can get marriage without a prenup? She’s looking for an easy meal and a place to stay? I think my husband would chew out any older woman who pursued a young son of ours and I’m 100% in support of that.	/r/MensRights	27/01/24 11:16 PM
24	Why are so many men subservient to their wife/gf? Men than can't make any decision without their wife's approval. Because a lot of these men don’t know how to make a decision without their wife’s approval. I once saw a video where some guy asked his wife “hey honey, the baby shit his diaper, do you want me to change it?” When men are asking questions like that, no wonder they need constant validation from their wives. I fucking promise you these women wish their husbands would stop asking for approval, help, and validation to complete simple ta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/24 10:51 PM
-7	Why are South Korean women exempt from millitary service ? In any country where women are drafted along with men, the birth rate risks going down. A man can impregnate a woman and die the next day and the woman can still give birth. One man can impregnate multiple women, but a woman can only be impregnated by one man and then she’s done for at least a year. Women not fighting has always been, throughout the entirety of human history, a way to preserve the birth rate. We need a sizable portion of the population giving birth and staying pregnant. It’s not…	/r/MensRights	27/01/24 11:45 AM
-18	We Really Should STFU Even if you were in the right, using your MIL as an “example” to show how you’re the better feminine woman is just…not proper feminine behavior. Unless she’s abusive/cruel, it’s not right to make a fool of her in this post even if she “did it to herself.” If you’re going to do the right thing, then do so without patting yourself on the back. Be humble. And also recognize that mothers are not required, nor should they be expected to, submit to their adult sons the way they submit to their husband…	/r/RedPillWomen	25/01/24 01:01 AM
4	does social proofing on attraction show how women have lower levels of free will or independent thought? Men misinterpret this phenomenon. If a man gets more attention after getting a girlfriend, it isn’t because he’s been “pre-approved” and now suddenly women are attracted to him. It’s a competition thing. A lot of (not all) women experience a thrill from taking a man who’s already taken. A woman pursuing a taken man couldn’t care less about the man - she’s primarily focused on proving her superiority to the other woman. It’s almost sapphic in a weird way. It’s one woman dominating another woman. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/24 12:46 PM
22	Feeling insecure about partners female friends who I’ve never met But when I try to open a dialogue about these women and ask questions about their personality or relationship my partner gets quite impatient and wants me to stop asking so I drop the topic. This is not good leadership. He should be communicating with you. I would stand firm on this topic. Reverse the genders and we would all say it’s unacceptable for a woman to do what your fiancé is doing.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/01/24 12:17 PM
12	My predictions about the future of sex technology due to the sexual power inequality between men and women You really think women won’t have 6’ 4” muscled like a bull sex robots with 8-inch dicks? Women will be jumping for joy if sex robots become a thing. It’s a myth that women only desire relationships and not good sex.	/r/MensRights	23/01/24 11:23 AM
17	Using RPW theories with men in your life that are not your partners I have noticed that smiling, being energetic (but not overbearing), and acting bubbly but not stupid tends to win men over. I watched The Nanny recently and have started taking on some of the gestures of Fran Fine. For example, the way she walks with her arms up, bent at the elbows, and the way she uses her hands when she speaks. I’m already a “use my hands a lot when I talk” type of person, so it sort of became a natural habit since she’s one of my all-time favorite sitcom characters. It’s asto…	/r/RedPillWomen	22/01/24 06:21 PM
5	How to teach men around the world to stop simping and give undue power to women on social media? You would have to begin by reducing their horniness/sexual attraction to women. Until then there’s no point in even trying.	/r/MensRights	22/01/24 04:00 PM
4	Why are men's music choices judged more? It was extremely common to mock “Beliebers.” In fact, 4chan managed to start the trend “cut yourself for Bieber” and “shave your head for Bieber.” At this point it’s almost very common for people to mock Taylor Swift fan. I’m not saying men don’t face discrimination but this is one area where I think you’re getting in your own head. Music snobs target everyone.	/r/MensRights	21/01/24 12:16 AM
6	Why Young Men Aren't Growing Up So what’s the alternative? What I’m saying is: if a married woman is the victim of abuse/infidelity, and she doesn’t have a career, she’s pretty much screwed. She can divorce and struggle or she can stay married and be miserable. Ultimately, if men were the SAHPs and women worked, men would fall victim to the same problem. Say you married a woman thinking she was amazing, didn’t attend college, and turns out she committed paternity fraud. Or cheated. Or did some other horrible thing…and now you …	/r/MensRights	19/01/24 05:25 PM
5	Wish he was more independent. Or he could develop an actual hobby that keeps him appropriately occupied. Why does this subreddit have such a low opinion of men? It’s either “he needs to spend every waking moment with you” or “he’s going to become a porn addict or a video game addict if you ask for alone time!” No. Men are better than that. We can hold them to higher standards.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/01/24 02:56 PM
31	The vast majority of men should NOT be performing oral sex As long as you don’t expect her to suck your dick, I don’t see the issue.	/r/MensRights	17/01/24 05:15 AM
78	Loose vagina This isn’t a debate. Your vagina does not get looser from penises. That’s a medical fact.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/01/24 04:46 PM
95	How can redpill women be happy? Vetting is important because you need to choose a man who values a woman beyond her physical appearance. Men who only value youth/beauty often end up “simping” for women which reduces their value as men. A man who values traits beyond youth/beauty (personality traits such as nurturing, maturity, grace, etc.) will still be attracted to you even when the youth and beauty start to fade. It’s your responsibility as a woman to vet for the proper man.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/01/24 02:34 PM
15	Annoying comments from Husband Shouldn’t we hold HVM to a higher standard of communication? Making “cryptic jokes” is feminine behavior. If he wants more blowjobs, he should say so directly. Not make silly jokes. Why do women have to be more direct because “men can’t read minds,” but it’s okay for men to be cryptic and we need to read their minds? He does need to grow up a bit and be more of a leader. Leaders are clear and direct, not silly or childish.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/01/24 02:30 PM
26	Prenup fights make me want to reconsider marriage He's like "why do I have to pay you for your time sucks for you I'm the one with the money." He does not respect the role of a SAHM and the risk it involves. He’s not a HVM. I would end this before the circus can continue.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/01/24 02:12 PM
11	Men are infinitely more forgiving towards women flaws yet women keep pretending men and women are on an even field with dating. Men are more likely to forgive a woman’s flaws, yes. But women are more likely to respect a man’s request (for example, if he asks her to pick her socks up off the floor). Whereas a man will dismiss that request as “nagging.” It’s a trade off. Men forgive women’s physical flaws because they know women have to deal with not being taken seriously. Women don’t forgive men’s flaws because if he’s going to ignore all of my requests/desires then he better at least be attractive to make up for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/24 06:06 PM
3	Women’s Attraction to Dangerous and Violent Men No one bats an eye when a man feels attraction toward a crazy woman. Gypsy Rose Blanchard got hundreds of letters in prison from men all over the world. Mind you, she plotted with her boyfriend to kill her mother and now her boyfriend is spending life in prison while she walks free. Men frequently date dangerous women. I know many many many men who have put up with all manner of abusive behavior from women because she’s hot or the sex is good. The question is why men expect women to be any bette…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/24 06:04 PM
83	Why do some women go out of their way to tell me they have a significant other? I have always told people I have a husband upfront at work because a lot of people like to troll for affairs at their job and I want everyone to know I’m not up for that. We had a new guy start at our work and one of the first things he said when introducing himself was “I have a wife.” To me that’s code for “I’m not interested in cheating.” Especially working in an office there’s always a clique that likes to flirt and test boundaries. To me it’s a subtle way to remove yourself from that circle…	/r/MensRights	11/01/24 08:28 PM
50	How to RPW a controlling boyfriend I have a wonderful traditional boyfriend, and we have great plans for the future in which he will provide and I will get to rear children! Slow your roll, OP. You and your boyfriend are still very young. fortunately I found the rp before I could make too many mistakes. He was the first one I have slept with, and I was also his first. That’s great! The same is true for me and my husband. It’s nice to skip the drama that comes with hookup culture. However, this also means that you lack relationshi…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/01/24 10:12 PM
53	I (F27) discovered boyfriend's (M27) hidden home videos with his ex; he lied about deleting them. Would you break up? I would not continue a relationship with a man who feels comfortable lying to you and who also is still attached to his ex (even if that attachment is sexual in nature). He has displayed a serious lack of integrity.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/01/24 10:05 AM
14	“Cancer-stricken man, 31, says he could have avoided terminal diagnosis - if he hadn’t tried to ‘man up’ and ignore tell-tale symptom”. I think one thing that can cause men to delay is talk of “man flu” and other belittling of men who mention symptoms and concerns/worries. This is why I’m not ashamed to be a nag when it comes to doctor/dentist appointments. Cancer cases are becoming more prevalent in young people. Please take care of your body and wear sunscreen outside.	/r/MensRights	09/01/24 09:16 PM
45	I dont like dating promiscous men There are two branches of the redpill. The branch that supports and nurtures the Madonna-Whore Complex. People within this branch will often talk about men sleeping around as if it’s a natural and important aspect of male development. Women within this branch are often high on copium (i.e., “he slept with a lot of hoes but I’m better than them because he married ME”). These are usually the redpillers who accept male infidelity. The second branch actively opposes the Madonna-Whore complex. No, I …	/r/RedPillWomen	07/01/24 06:04 PM
5	I lost this report from the male birth control trials Is it really “nagging” when so many women actually do experience nasty side effects from birth control? Even the redpill is beginning to recognize it. Weight gain, lack of libido, depression - all of these traits make women unattractive to men. We can say that women should take the responsibility for birth control, but just know that if your wife magically becomes moody and depressed, can’t seem to lose the baby weight, and suddenly her entire personality could be defined as “gray blob”….it’s pr…	/r/MensRights	06/01/24 12:25 PM
28	The Curious Case of a Married Couple's Strange Interactions #1 Yes, beta women exist. There’s a difference between a submissive woman and a beta woman. This subreddit often gets confused about the difference. Note: I can’t talk specifically about the woman in your example. It’s hard to interpret tone, humor, and playful banter through text. So I’ll instead speak in general terms. A beta woman will shut up 100% of the time and accept almost any behavior from her husband regardless of how harmful/destructive. He insults her? She sighs and stays quiet. He chea…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/01/24 10:23 PM
28	Struggling with submitting and STFU I think 100% submission and “shutting the fuck up” is unrealistic. If men want to marry adult human beings, then yes, women are going to speak up and disagree sometimes. True leaders are capable of listening to and acknowledging criticism as long as that criticism is delivered respectfully. If your marriage’s intimacy suffers because you said to your husband “hey, maybe buying a brand new 2024 vehicle with a 20% interest rate is a bad idea since we can barely afford food right now,” then your hu…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/01/24 11:13 PM
16	CMV, women have a low tolerance for male vulnerability which perpetuates men not expressing their thoughts and feelings I can only speak for myself. Every time my husband has opened up to me, it has resulted in sex. Every time he closes himself off to me, we end up experiencing prolonged dry spells. He’s been opening up a lot to me, even used the words “I’m trying to be more vulnerable with you,” and shocker…our dry spell ended once again and we’re having almost daily sex. Of course, my husband also needs to acknowledge and support my emotional vulnerability in order for me to acknowledge and support his emotiona…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/24 08:08 PM
129	What’s up with wives refusing to have children? Do you want women with severe mental health issues, narcissists, and morbidly obese women to have children? Do you think those women are in a place to be good mothers? Do you think those people never existed throughout history? It’s not a new “phenomenon” Unfit parents have been popping out babies for all of human history and children have been suffering because of it. Now you’re mad that unfit women are recognizing the fact that they’re unfit to be mothers and choosing not to have a child? What…	/r/MensRights	03/01/24 10:06 AM
2	Let's Stop Being Simp! The only women who would be opposed to this are sex workers. I’m sure there are plenty of married women who would be thrilled if their husbands would stop simping for porn stars and every hot woman they see out in public.	/r/MensRights	02/01/24 01:48 AM
6	Women saying they hate their husband is so common on Reddit Throughout most of human history, it was status quo for men to hate their wives. Man gets out of work? Better go to the bar to let off steam. If his wife complains about the lack of family time, she’s a nagging bitch who needs to get off his back because he works so hard. Husband has the weekend off? He’s gonna go golfing. Wife complains? She’s a frigid prude trying to ruin his only days off during the week. Man is getting married? Better lament his life stuck with the old ball and chain. Do men…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/24 06:26 PM
2	Men who realised that they were conditioned to be Beta Bucks... Aren’t women also conditioned to be “beta bucks”? Except we don’t call it “beta bucks.” We call it the Madonna. So you’re going to learn how to cook and clean and do makeup and be a good virgin girl…meanwhile men get to sleep around and act stupid and have fun throughout their youth because “boys will be boys.” While he’s sleeping with hot women in college to “get it out of his system,” you’re staying home and watching Hallmark movies and baking. Then when he’s ready to settle down, he finds a “…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/12/23 12:35 PM
72	I think I triggered his fear of commitment and scared him away A man who wants you will commit very openly and clearly. He was dragging you along.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/12/23 08:27 PM
19	The more you understand women, the less you'll fall in love them. That’s because the only thing that would make a man happy is a woman who: never complains, never has any needs, always does what he wants, never talks unless he wants her to talk, and devotes all her time and attention to his needs. What men really need in their lives is a golden retriever. You can treat it like shit and it will still love you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/23 07:26 PM
18	Question for Women: Would you date somebody who was neurodivergent? My husband has ADHD and it has been an uphill battle. Sometimes I think about driving my car off a bridge because of how frustrating it is. He can’t remember important things, so it’s my job to remember those things for him. For example, I was renewing my car registration one year and thought to myself, “Hm…seems like we haven’t renewed his truck tags in a while.” I asked him to go to his truck to grab the little paper so I could check the date. He argued with me. Told me it wasn’t expired. Thre…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/23 03:31 PM
55	Perspective of a grandfather who married and had a successful wholesome relationship with a foreign women and how it’s shaped my view on the passport bro movement He completely adored the food and culture and was a kind patient man. The passport bros who just want a quiet obedient bangmaid are probably not kind and patient men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/23 03:55 AM
0	Why is there a shame in expressing your masculinity? Not indulging in dark or sexual humour with women in order to not "be a typical insensitive man" If men can be turned off by women farting and not shaving, then women are allowed to be turned off by men who are crass and classless. Masculinity is directly tied to maturity. What you describe is dumb dudebro fratboy behavior.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/23 08:59 PM
–	"Nice guys are just being nice to get sex" and so is the majority of men This is the reason why many women are childfree and single. We know men don’t actually like us. Actually, it seems like most men don’t even like their own children. My brother-in-law hides from his kids every time he gets a break from work. Yet he talks about how hard he works to “bring home the bacon.” Sounds like he actually enjoys working because it gives him a break from the kids he claimed to want in the first place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/12/23 03:13 PM
14	Do y'all let your husband cheat on you? If so, what are the agreements and terms of your relationship and at what point do you consider the boundaries to be crossed meaning divorce may be on the table? This is how I see this problem, and I’ll use redpilled men’s logic: My husband can cheat on me as long as I’m allowed to go on dates with men who are richer than him. After all, men are naturally nonmonogamous and women are naturally hypergamous. If he can freely practice nonmonogamy, I can freely practice hypergamy. My husband doesn’t want me to go on dates with other men. So he doesn’t get to sleep with other women (not that either of us wants to do those things).	/r/RedPillWomen	21/12/23 11:07 PM
62	We keep arguing over the smallest and stupidest things So I asked my husband to grab me some chocolates while he was at the gas station and he happily did That’s very kind of your husband. it tasted gross like it tasted expired How is that his fault? Did the package say it was expired? Did the packaging look tampered with? Does your husband have psychic powers and he was just supposed to know that the chocolate would taste bad? I threw it out and said it was gross That’s pretty rude. You could have said, “I’m sorry but I don’t really like the flavor…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/12/23 08:03 PM
21	Is my bf right to refuse to tell me who he talks about our relationship to? Does he hold you to the same standards? That would be my question. If you wanted to discuss your arguments and feelings with other people, and you refused to tell him anything about it, would he respect that? If so, I think it’s a reasonable boundary. I don’t think he’s shit-talking. He probably needs someone to help him work out his emotions. If he talks to you now before coming to peace with how he feels, he might say something stupid/wrong/offensive without really meaning it. As long as he co…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/12/23 09:46 PM
84	Dating Red Flags He’s puffing his chest out to try and make himself look bigger. Men like this aren’t good leaders. That’s why they have to make aggressive power moves like this so early on.	/r/RedPillWomen	19/12/23 08:04 PM
29	I oversexualized myself and I fear I can't turn back without it hurting my relationship, help A lot of men refuse to wait for sex because they’re worried they will end up in a dead bedroom with a woman who doesn’t actually enjoy sex. In my opinion, the fact that you were willing to do that should show him that you have a healthy sex drive and you’re giving in the bedroom. If anything, he should be more willing to wait.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/12/23 11:32 AM
70	He goes out while I stay home with the baby but every time we discuss this I want to control him A true leader would not waste money on weed when he has a child and a wife who is forced to work because he doesn’t make enough money on his own to support the entire household. If he truly wants the privileges of a traditional man (no nagging, obedience, etc.) he needs to actually be a traditional man. The only reason he can even afford weed is because you’re also working to pay rent. In other words, he’s relying on you financially. These “fake alphas” keep pushing the goalposts. First it’s “we…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/12/23 12:25 PM
32	For the “by other men” argument that feminists love to use, If you can’t come up with a good counter argument on your own, then you’re not thinking hard enough about the topic. You’re looking for someone else to do the thinking for you so that you can mindlessly repeat it in arguments. The truth is a lot of men are cruel to other men. Your goal is to help men who are victims, not defend men who are perpetrators. Tell them, “And the perpetrators are wrong, but I’m not sure why you’re taking the focus off of male victims and putting it on male perpetrators…	/r/MensRights	16/12/23 07:42 PM
29	boyfriend says he wants a strong woman, can’t figure out how this fits into softer energy? he likes the idea of a women ‘wanting but not needing him’ (strong independent women?), and doesn’t want a women who solely relies on him for every need. i’m not sure how this aligns with the softer, feminine energy, and would love some help or insight into how to showcase that ability Women shouldn’t need men. You are an adult who is capable of caring for yourself. You follow a man’s lead not because you’re incapable of making decisions, but because you choose to trust him as your leader. At an…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/12/23 05:53 PM
69	Is anybody here a survivor of Schrödinger’s Patriarchy Honestly I blame feminism for making men so comfortable saying that domestic work is just regular human responsibilities instead of a labor they need to pay for. (Crappy) men have always made this argument and it’s one of the reasons women turned to feminism. Now, let me make it clear: I would prefer a world where men and women can have happy traditional relationships. But I recognize that’s a rarity in modern society and I refuse to place the blame 100% on OF models and feminist Instagram influ…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/12/23 11:37 AM
3	I'm a woman, and I'm angry. I'm coming to the source to ask for advice and insight. You need to go speak to people in your community who are already doing this work. Go to the local men’s shelter and ask how you can help. Do you have a big brothers/big sisters style program? Go there. A lot of those kids are facing homelessness/are in the foster care system. This post is a nice way for a woman to get internet points with the men’s rights community, but men telling you “I want safe shelter and clothes and food and someone to validate my problems” isn’t actually going to help any…	/r/MensRights	16/12/23 11:06 AM
26	Why are women freaking out over abortion post roe v Wade? Because sometimes, when a woman has a miscarriage, her body doesn’t succeed in evacuating all of the fetus’ remains. As a result, the woman becomes vulnerable to sepsis. So she needs to get a procedure similar to abortion in order to remove the dead tissue. And in some states, like Texas, this would become a legal issue. There are also situations where the fetus is not viable but still technically alive, so the woman is at risk of death but she can’t get an abortion until she’s literally bleedin…	/r/MensRights	14/12/23 09:59 PM
19	Robot and AI girlfriends I think AI girlfriends will initially be seen as a sign of shame for men who can’t get “real” girlfriends. I also think a lot of these men will be LIVID when women start buying sex robots with 8-inch penises and 6-pack abs. The male sex robots will also do chores and listen when the woman talks instead of smiling and nodding. Funnily enough, AI can mimic real human conversation better than some men can. Overall I think it will be a great solution for everyone (except the men who want to use robo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/23 01:44 PM
29	The Real Reason So Many Women Are Doing OnlyFans \| Lib Turned Red Pill Female Perspective A lot of women throughout human history were married to men who still lusted after (and slept with) women that they would deem “whores.” The other day me and my husband went to a restaurant and there was a man in the lobby chewing out his date for wearing revealing clothing…yet, I guarantee he masturbates to women and stares at women who wear that same style of clothing. A lot of women are simply tired of being traditional when they aren’t rewarded with true fidelity. Nothing is more embarrassin…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/12/23 10:05 AM
6	Is it wrong of me to expect my older boyfriend to teach me about "adult things" I disagree with everyone else saying you should display “competence” in this relationship to add value. Redpilled men will tell you they pursue younger women for the following traits: youthfulness, a lack of baggage, fertility, and beauty. They never mention financial stability, careers, or competence. Because those are masculine traits. Your role is to cook and clean and provide babies. If he wanted a woman who can manage her own finances and make her own adult decisions, he should have pursued…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/12/23 10:19 AM
138	He isn't masculine and it's getting me down The problem here is that he probably feels ashamed of himself and men who feel ashamed sink further down into the pit of despair and give up. I have found that it’s best not to change a man. Find one who’s already masculine and protective. Break up with the ones who aren’t. If I could go back and teach my younger self any lesson, it would be that.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/12/23 02:37 PM
4	Why aren't there more male mentors? I've always wanted one even now I'm a middle aged man A lot of men want the privilege of leadership (i.e., authority) without the responsibilities of leadership (i.e., actually mentoring younger generations).	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/23 07:08 PM
16	I made one comment in this sub and I got banned from other subs wtf This is Reddit. People have the right to moderate and control their own communities. We all might disagree, but getting so worked up over it will only do damage to your body (stress is not good for you). These adversities are an opportunity to refine yourself. You got banned from another subreddit. Oh well. Let it roll off your back with grace and keep enjoying the communities in which you’re still able to participate. Don’t validate the people who banned you by throwing a fit.	/r/RedPillWomen	09/12/23 02:19 PM
37	Signs he’s a good leader He is capable of living independently (i.e., he can cook for himself, manage his own health, make his own appointments, remember to renew his license, etc.) This is important because it is a leader’s job to delegate tasks. In order to delegate a task, you should understand the ins-and-outs of completing said task. If he’s going to delegate the tasks of cooking, meal planning, making appointments, etc., then he should be capable of performing those tasks independently first. He makes an effort to…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/12/23 12:58 PM
9	Question for men who want "traditional" gender norms Do you think women are enjoying their lives, hobbies, and friends while he’s doing lawn work? I’d gladly mow the lawn and shovel snow if my husband would plan meals and cook. To me shoveling snow is the easier job out of those.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/23 11:55 PM
80	“Beta Batman” I have noticed a trend of young men mimicking “alpha” traits and young women falling into their trap and then patting themselves on the back for being “good submissive women.” Any man can give orders. Any man. Any man can tell you what to do, how to dress, etc. It’s so easy to be dominant. It is far harder to be a leader. I once saw a woman come here for advice because her boyfriend/husband (can’t remember which) would always shut down and isolate himself from her every time he was struggling em…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/12/23 09:25 PM
0	Having a job sucks; much rather be a stay at home dad Every day I go to work, I’m thankful I’m not my SIL. She is a SAHM and harshly traditional. Her husband has 100% control of the finances so she doesn’t get a say in how he spends his money. He gambles. He bought a dog that’s too big for their house and spent thousands on training the dog. They’re 30k in debt. She’s also done having kids (they have 4 already) and the birth control is actively destroying her body, but she knows he might want another, so she won’t get her tubes tied. Her reasoning?…	/r/MensRights	03/12/23 05:37 AM
66	How to make HIM the leader - not you - fast! Identify when you are the most sad. When you are in a bad mood, this turns him away from you to seek other mood-lightening distractions. I expect my husband to comfort me when I’m sad and vice versa. I don’t exist solely to brighten his day - I’m a human being who also deserves to have her day brightened. Similarly, my husband’s existence does not boil down to “work horse and money-maker.” I make an effort to connect with him when he’s struggling and I expect the same. The role of a leader is to…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/12/23 02:20 AM
14	Partner & Onlyfans The person you responded to never questioned it.	/r/RedPillWomen	29/11/23 10:04 AM
35	Juice Cleanse The reason a “juice cleanse” feels so good is because you’re consuming stupid amounts of sugar. People who drink Monsters and 5-hour energy will feel the same “good” energy. Juice is garbage. Even the all natural “healthy” juice is garbage. And your body doesn’t need to be “cleansed.” Your liver does a fine job of detoxifying your body. There’s no such thing as “cleansing out the pipes” when you fast. There’s no toxic material sitting in your digestive system just waiting to be cleared out with …	/r/RedPillWomen	19/11/23 10:15 PM
0	What do you think about pregnancy being used as a tool of body shaming against men and support for male-only draft? Throughout all of human history, it was an incredibly stupid idea to send women to war. Men would have fewer young women to mate with and the population would inevitably decline. One man can impregnate multiple women. A woman gets pregnant and then she’s infertile for the next nine months. From a purely biological perspective (and people throughout history operated under a purely biological perspective), it makes more sense to risk losing your young men vs. young women. Now, for a long time preg…	/r/MensRights	19/11/23 02:08 PM
3	What I learned about respect at work Or it’s possible that he has caused damage trying to fix things before, and the wife rightfully tries to prevent those financial losses. Men should be respected and honored, but at the end of the day, they need to uphold a standard of competence. If that standard of competence is not met, then the captain needs to recognize his flaws and stop costing the family money. There comes a point where the emotional needs of a man need to take a backseat to the financial security of the family. Trying to…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/11/23 09:35 PM
33	Husband going on a weekend away, I might lose it. A man neglecting his responsibilities will always be wrong. Grown men should not be spending entire weekends high on shrooms. That’s college boy behavior. If a woman was acting the same way, men would call it a red flag and rightfully avoid her. In fact, redpilled men regularly and enthusiastically trash women who party and take recreational drugs.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/11/23 09:26 PM
49	Attempting reconciliation while keeping traditional gender roles A man sacrifices his right to a traditional woman when he fails to uphold the values of a traditional man. He’s not proving himself to be a good captain. He’s dishonest, dismissive, and disloyal. These types of men are often kicked out of traditional male hierarchies for these reasons - even other men don’t want them around. Our job as women is to choose good captains. What you need to do is stand back, truly evaluate his behavior, and decide if this is how you want to live the rest of your life…	/r/RedPillWomen	11/11/23 11:48 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Male sexuality is amazing until it becomes cringe. “Ah, a man of culture I see” makes me want to puke in my mouth. Men are so big and strong and their sexuality is thrilling…and then they ruin it by being awkward and weird.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/23 03:39 PM
12	According to feminists, the fact that women still aren't allowed to talk about their periods at large is a sign we live in a misogynistic society, where are feminists then fighting to take the stigma off of men having erections in public or being open about their sex drives then? From a woman’s perspective, I think these are reasonable expectations: I expect to be able to tell my husband when I’m on my period. As in, “No, I don’t want to go swimming today, I’m on my period.” Or, “Hey, can you grab me some ibuprofen from the cabinet? I’m having awful cramps.” I expect him to handle that information maturely and not wince just because I said the word “period.” I won’t ever give him the gory details purely for shock value. That’s immature. I don’t like it when men discuss t…	/r/MensRights	08/11/23 02:40 PM
30	What is your Preference for Male Body Type? Men who appear “ripped” (visible abs) are often dehydrated. Bodybuilders at their peak performance are insanely unhealthy. Also, if you imagine a “ripped” guy in your head, chances are you’re seeing someone who is on gear. Most celebrities who get really muscular for action movies are on PEDs (steroids). In fact, a lot of men you see at the gym are on steroids. Tren is a really big problem right now in the male fitness community. A lot of women are turned off by that look specifically because we…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/11/23 12:43 PM
2	The “Higher-Testosterone Men Like Thicker Women” meme is based on literally nothing Anyone who would call her frail is an idiot. She’s probably far stronger than the average woman and you can tell by looking at her. Then again, I’ve seen some men say a woman’s ass is flat if she doesn’t have a Kim Kardashian ass.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 06:56 PM
20	How can I have him understand that he hurt me without “nagging” I’m genuinely curious. With this mentality, at what point do you draw the line when your spouse does something genuinely wrong and expresses zero remorse? For example, if he cheated and expressed no remorse, or otherwise failed as a captain and expressed no remorse, what should OP do? Where do we draw the line and how do we draw it? What does that look like?	/r/RedPillWomen	01/11/23 02:54 PM
12	We raised a generation of progressive men and traditional women. Women dropped theirs because we saw no benefit in being a traditional housewife. Cook, clean, take care of the kids while your husband flirts with the secretary (and gets away with it because male infidelity was seen as very normal and hush-hush)? Nah. Might as well become an independent career woman. Modern (loyal) men should blame their grandfathers for this mess, not their grandmothers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/10/23 08:46 PM
33	The “girlfriend effect” Personally, it happened to me. My husband neglected his health severely before we got together. I was the one who pushed for him to start seeing a doctor and a dentist on a regular basis. Now he’s losing weight, lifting every day, improving his testosterone levels (they were low), got a set of braces which he has always wanted but could never afford, and has learned how to style himself better. But the downside of that is that forcing him to improve made me feel like a mother. Yes, he’s much hap…	/r/RedPillWomen	30/10/23 01:27 PM
58	Cheating If men are predisposed to non-monogamy, and women are predisposed to hypergamy, then: He can cheat as long as I’m allowed to continue dating and looking for a higher-value man who might want to commit to me. Would a HVM be okay with that? No? Then he can squash his desire to sleep with other women.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/10/23 05:58 PM
17	Double standards are valid since... men sleep with women they would never date and women sleep with men they can never date. His future wife never has to feel insecure since she's most likely his best partner in nearly all aspects. The women that men “settle with” usually aren’t the best sexually that he’s ever had. She’s usually the best mother, the best woman to have children with, the one who will give him the least amount of drama. But she’s definitely not the woman who gave him the best sex (the best sex was probably with the crazy ex who tried to slash his tires). It’s important to note that women have been put …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/10/23 02:58 PM
3	Giving boyfriend your card under the table so it looks like he’s the one paying EDIT: saw the clarification. I would be more turned on if a man was proud to let me treat him. I see it as submissive if I’m the one paying for his meal. I hope he would be proud and pleased to see a woman openly choosing to pay for his meal.	/r/RedPillWomen	26/10/23 06:31 PM
6	men need to stop projecting and understand/accept that women’s sexuality will never be the same as theirs A much as men do not accept female nature, women also do not accept male nature and the desire for men NOT to be the “safe guy”. She typically never understands why it’s so insulting for the man to be the safe guy. You just described the Madonna-Whore complex. Men don’t understand how insulting it is to be “wife material” when your husband sexually prefers sluts and whores.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/23 03:27 PM
–	Seriously no difference There’s absolutely a difference. These people always reduce sex to a purely physical act. Penis going in vagina. That’s the red flag: if sex is only physical to you, then yes, it’s the same. Doesn’t matter if it’s one person 100 times or 100 different people one time. These are often the same people who settle down in LTRs and then end up with a dead bedroom because “sex isn’t a big deal” and they “don’t really need sex” and “just masturbate, it’s the same thing.” They view sex as purely physica…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/10/23 03:24 PM
-1	How can I help my boyfriend deal with his ADHD without mothering him ? As someone whose husband has ADHD, if OP actually asks him this question, she will probably get some variation of “uuuuhh…I dunno, just clean and stuff?” as an answer and any attempt to specify will be met with more non-sensical rambling. People with ADHD have a horrifically tough time communicating their needs. It’s the number one reason why men with ADHD are very bad choices to be the captain in a relationship. They are not leaders. OP will inevitably end up in a mothering role. If I could giv…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/10/23 08:30 PM
7	Why girls don't want a househusband I don’t want a househusband because I know he would be incapable of cleaning the home to my standards. He would probably make a hot dog on a slice of bread for lunch and then pat himself on the back for it. I refuse to stoop down to the living arrangements of a bachelor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/23 06:05 PM
37	Telling men that "improving" their "personality" will improve their romantic and sexual results is like telling a politician or a company that honesty and quality will get them success addiction? lots of addicts have lots of relationships and lots of sex. Yes, with other addicts. If you look at the average woman sleeping with drug addicts, she’s probably not the type of woman you’re seeking. men who are scumbags, evil, psycopaths, and have no morals and little or no empathy get rewarded in many ways The women who are so easily manipulated by these men are usually vulnerable cluster-b types with daddy issues who can’t function on their own. Once again, the types of women you pr…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/23 06:03 PM
78	My boyfriend comments on how hot other girls are, continually follows other women on Instagram, talks about his past sexual experiences, watches porn whilst being sexual with me There isn’t a man on the planet who makes enough money for me to deal with this behavior.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/10/23 05:57 PM
7	One of the biggest mistakes men make is marrying women who want to be SAHMs It is hard, but it's only really hard for the first 4-5 years. That’s assuming you have one kid. If you have four kids with at least 2-3 year age gaps, it’s hard for a lot longer than that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/10/23 12:18 PM
5	This explains a lot: Majority of Women declined sex due to body insecurities, dating app finds Yall get insecure over porn and reject a guy that likes you that doesn't watch porn. Where are these men that don’t watch porn? Maybe in the Amish community?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/23 04:33 PM
54	This explains a lot: Majority of Women declined sex due to body insecurities, dating app finds And yet, men invariably choose porn with a shaved vulva. In fact, it’s actually difficult to find porn with pubic hair. You almost have to search for it. Women look at how men actually behave, not what they say.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/10/23 04:32 PM
22	Being engaged (thus not pursuing other women) has me unsure of my attractiveness. Is this a common issue for married men who aren't actively cheating? Although I'd prefer not to act on it, my ego would like to know if women are interested in me or not. Plenty of people (men and women) struggle with this problem. Part of being an adult is calling yourself out on your own bullshit and snubbing your insecurities to maintain your moral standards. Even if you aren’t morally opposed to cheating, at the very least you understand the chaos and instability it causes in your life. The question is simple: at what age will your insecurities stop being the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/23 07:35 PM
57	Is marriage inherently emasculating to a man? As we all know, a woman’s baseline goal is to get commitment and the focus out of the highest quality man she can find. There’s always a higher-quality man out there in the world who is willing to date any given woman. Before you jump on that, let me clarify: say Mary is married to Ed. Ed makes $100,000/year and at the time Mary married him, he was the highest value man in their city who was willing to commit to Mary. Now let’s say five years pass and a new man moves to the city. He makes $200,0…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/10/23 03:55 PM
60	Those of you who waited until marriage to have sex, was it worth it? And those who did not, was no big deal? I lost my virginity to my husband. However, we weren’t married at the time. I dated him for two or three months before sleeping with him. I do feel happy that I lost my virginity to him. Our bond has an extra sprinkle of specialness because we were each other’s firsts. However, I think that if I met my husband for the first time today, and we both came to the marriage with prior sexual experience…I would still feel confident and happy with our bond. I wouldn’t view myself as lesser. I would say,…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/10/23 09:52 PM
12	The body-shaming of short men on social media has reached epidemic proportions, yet there seems to be no mainstream discourse about it. Why? I remember thinking I would never be a real woman at the age of 14 because I knew I’d have small breasts (genetics). I have seen plenty of men joke about how women with small chests aren’t real women. In fact, there are plenty of memes about it. Men just act like they don’t see that shit. Or you act like it doesn’t matter because a man will fuck you even if he thinks your body is below average. And somehow women are supposed to think that makes it better. My point is: short guys are just gonna h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/23 10:28 PM
97	My husband said he "lowered his standards" dating me We were telling his friend about how my husband and I met when my husband turned to me and said "You're not going to like this, but I lowered my standards to date you." I feel like everyone is glossing over a major red flag, here: Your husband knew this would hurt your feelings before he even said it. He knew it would hurt your feelings and he still said it. Not only that, but he said something that he knew would hurt you in a situation that was completely casual. You weren’t fighting. You weren…	/r/RedPillWomen	02/10/23 07:54 PM
–	Women have a zero tolerance policy when it comes to socially awkward men I’m going to disagree with the very obvious portion of your post where you seem to argue that women’s zero-tolerance policy is unreasonable. How exactly is a woman meant to differentiate between a man who is “socially awkward” and a man who is actually dangerous? It’s unfortunate because men do understand women. You do understand why women are so afraid of “socially awkward” men because you also take those precautions. If you were in a gay club and a man who was clearly into you approached you, …	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/10/23 12:47 PM
8	Are single moms the "red flag equivalent" of older men? Would you feel the same way about a 23-year-old man dating a single mother who refuses to sign a prenup, demands a wedding ring in the tens of thousands, and constantly hangs out alone with her baby daddy? You really wouldn’t say to yourself “that poor bastard, he’s an idiot”?	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/23 12:19 PM
-2	Guy approaches young woman in a viral video, gets rejected with news headlines calling him a "creep" Because you know the ugly gross woman has zero ability to hurt you. If she got angry and tried to physically harm you, you would have no problem knocking her out. Now imagine that the gross person flirting with you is a 6’ 5” gay man who’s absolutely ripped and giving you body-language that he is willing to use physical force.	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/09/23 12:17 PM
12	Women can post in male Reddits but I asked women for their perspective about a man who gave up his career for a woman and they began harass me. A moderator told me that only women can ask. You really don’t need a synonym for “women.” Reddit isn’t a creative writing contest. If I was writing about men, I wouldn’t be thumbing through a thesaurus looking for synonyms of “men.” You’re overthinking the rules of writing. You don’t need synonyms for every noun and you don’t need to spice up your writing that much, especially online.	/r/MensRights	29/09/23 08:28 PM
16	Why are women immediately turned off by guys who lack experience? Personally, I prefer men who don’t sleep around. My husband was a virgin when we started dating. He lied and told me he slept with a bunch of women. When the truth finally came out, I was disappointed because I would’ve respected him for choosing to reject the advances of other women. I wish he had been more confident about his virginity but I understand why he wasn’t. Women have power over men when it comes to sex. If a woman goes up to a random single guy and offers him sex, there’s a good cha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 08:24 PM
32	How often do women dote on/serve you? OP is a stay-at-home mom bragging about taking care of her husband when she has all the time in the world to do so. Check her post history. SAHM. And she takes her kid to daycare at the gym. WhY DoN’T WoMeN DoTe On ThEiR HuSbaNds Idk some of them work? Lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 01:40 PM
4	Men get destroyed by divorce because they view it as a moral failing. If men adopted the mentality "she's not yours, it's just your turn" they wouldn't get devastated by divorce Men are destroyed by divorce because it usually takes them by surprise. Even if a woman says “I’m not happy, this is a problem for me” men tend to ignore it and pretend everything is fine. She’s just nagging, she’s just on the rag, she’s just being a woman complaining, etc. Then when she actually hands him the divorce papers, he’s shocked. I think men have a biological tendency to dismiss women’s complaints because women are generally smaller and weaker. The same exact complaint made by a man wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/23 01:13 PM
15	Do you care if you see a man dating a woman who is 10, 20, or 30 years older than him? Do you think he needs you to 'save' him from that woman? Personally I would care. Women can harm men through various means: paternity fraud, baby trapping, alimony, parental alienation, etc. An older woman is more likely to be well-versed in those tactics and a young man is less likely to have a solid defense against those tactics. Young men are less likely to ask for a prenup. Young men are less likely to ask for a paternity test. Young men are more likely to trust a woman when she says “yeah I’m on birth control!” Young men are more likely to take o…	/r/MensRights	22/09/23 08:55 PM
2	JustPearlythings and other female creators are a net positive to men’s rights as they spread heaps of awareness on issues even if they’re just doing it to ‘grift’. Awareness and knowledge on men’s rights and issues should be spread as far and wide as possible! Thoughts? JustPearlyThings has completely screwed over multiple employees (including men) with garbage contracts. She’s a “boss babe” through and through. She runs her own company, and she has openly questioned male rape victims. She does not support men. She’s just making money off of men the same way sex workers do, just with a different form of parasocial brainwashing designed to catch men’s attention. Women recognize her game and that’s why she’s hated among women. Some men recognize her game and call…	/r/MensRights	21/09/23 02:40 PM
9	Tom Leykis A man with a beer gut and a double chin ranting about women after multiple divorces? It’s the equivalent of obese women ranting about how men ain’t shit after her third baby daddy cheated on her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 12:27 PM
77	My Boyfriend is S*it Testing Me - How to respond The question is how will he behave when he’s genuinely upset with you? My husband grew up in a family like this. Their “frequent jabs” would manifest as passive-aggressive insults whenever people were upset with each other. My husband and his brother still engage in this behavior. Rather than talking about their issues, they poke and prod to elicit an emotional response. To me it’s a sign of insecurity. Rather than open himself up and be vulnerable, he’s placing himself in a superior position to…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/09/23 11:28 PM
7	Does a man have to be better in some aspects than a woman in order for her to be attracted to him? At this point I’d be happy with a guy who does the dishes without being asked.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/23 09:46 PM
3	today on r/TwoXChromosomes which — and I swear I'm not making this up — has rules against misandry and "tactless generalizations" Ladies... why do men have their own opinions, and are attracted to whoever they want? I really believe men deserve respect but it’s hard when a thread featuring this woman is filled with goofy dumbass comments like “I would walk across glass to suck a fart from her asshole” and “yeah she’s a POS but I still would.” It’s not your attraction that’s bad. No one would be shocked that you’re attracted to a young woman with massive breasts and nice skin and pretty hair. The problem is when you feel th…	/r/MensRights	17/09/23 02:14 AM
9	My boyfriend had just broken up with me and I feel like my world is ending He more than likely gave his parents and his best friend a sob story to make them hate you. He never treated you like a serious girlfriend. This guy is trying to spin plates and he was mad that you sniffed him out and called him on his BS. Bullet dodged.	/r/RedPillWomen	16/09/23 09:14 PM
10	What exactly do RP men want? in exchange men had to stay loyal when she got older and less attractive and stay monogamous. Men as a whole failed on their end of the bargain throughout most of human history. At one point it was 100% expected for a man to take on a concubine or a mistress. It was socially acceptable. Even in the 50s and 60s there was often a “don’t ask don’t tell” culture among wives. Women decided to stop holding up their end of the bargain and now men are angry they can’t have their cake and eat it, too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/09/23 06:43 PM
122	Struggling with new BF's clothing preferences for me He said he wanted me to wear something sexier even outside the bedroom so that if spontaneous sex were to happen, he wouldn't be turned off. Cotton underwear is ideal for your vaginal health. There are styles/shapes that complement your figure. If that’s not good enough, I would question whether or not he has a porn addiction because I can’t imagine a man with an erection seeing fitted cotton underwear and immediately losing interest in sex. It’s not like you’re wearing granny panties. By the ti…	/r/RedPillWomen	15/09/23 12:42 AM
10	How should I proceed? I would tell him the reason why you want to avoid a picnic. If he doesn’t understand why a woman would want to avoid being alone in a secluded area for a long period of time with a man she barely knows…well, at least you know he isn’t much of a protector.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/09/23 03:59 PM
17	Back to Basics September: The Slut, and how not to be one. Second, that she has been allowed, by men, through the gate of relationships very few times... This is the fundamental flaw with this article as it relates to modern dating. The population of men desperate not only for sex, but relationships, is increasing. There’s a reason we keep hearing about the loneliness epidemic for men. I have not known one single “slut” who ever had a problem finding a man to date her. My husband’s ex has slept with many men and she’s also had many long-term relationshi…	/r/RedPillWomen	14/09/23 11:50 AM
13	Given the status of the dating market it is completely acceptable for men to lie/use immoral means when it comes to dating Is this any change from the status quo? In the 50s, a man would romance a woman, treat her like a queen, give her all the love and attention…and then once she had a few kids (resulting in stretch marks, saggy boobs, etc.) he would be flirting with the secretary, stuffing dirty magazines under the mattress, etc. Are modern men really under the impression that their fathers and grandfathers treated women like goddesses and now it’s time for the good men to revolt because women are just so greedy a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/23 07:21 PM
8	What’s the reason women as a group in general seem much more angry about guys playing video games than guys being drug addicts, alcoholics and criminals? Do women really need to point out that drug addicts, alcoholics, and criminals are bad? Isn’t that just preaching to the choir? Once we’re in agreement, we move on to the next thing instead of beating a dead horse, yeah? It’s more infuriating when an unacceptable behavior is generally accepted. For example, a guy playing video games for 8 hours a day even though his wife works full-time and still has to do 100% of the chores and the childcare.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/09/23 10:03 PM
14	Is the vitriol against promiscuous women a tactic to convince women to not sleep around? It’s a way to keep women’s power in the sexual market in check. Men know that women dominate the sexual marketplace. For most men this isn’t a conscious thought - they just know it instinctively. A lot of men (especially redpillers) want to sleep with lots of promiscuous women and then settle down with a good woman. So you need a good supply of promiscuous women and a good supply of “wife material” women. How do you keep them both in their place? Shaming promiscuous women is about “keeping them …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/09/23 03:58 PM
40	I like older men but feel repulsed when they show interest in me A lot of women experience disgust in response to reciprocated desire from men. It’s a common phenomenon. For me personally, I think it has to do with the fact that I have a low self-esteem (there must be something wrong with anyone who is attracted to me) and I’ve always experienced romance/sex from a third-person perspective (romance novels, porn) so being actually involved was waaayyy too much. Men experience the same thing when it comes to sex workers/strippers. They sexually desire these wom…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/09/23 11:38 AM
4	Please help - I don’t love when my husband is silly leading up to sex Yeah, but not everyone thinks it’s cute. And not everyone is turned on by cuteness in the bedroom. Personally I’m similar to OP: I don’t like cuteness or silliness in the bedroom. I’m not going to say what I do like because it will be too explicit, but it’s the exact opposite of silly/cute. I think all of the people telling OP to just accept it are taking their own preferences into account. If this genuinely turns her off, then it’s something she should be allowed to express.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/09/23 11:20 PM
16	Escorts and strip club should be normalized for people who have no other options It is problematic. Your mental health issues mean that you’re going to most likely project a lot of your own bullshit onto the sex worker who has to work with you. You have an intense craving for human affection and genuine love. Strippers are sex workers. They can give you a lap dance and that might satisfy the urge for a little while, but eventually you’re going to want more. And more. And more. Until you end up stalking her, texting her multiple times, demanding her attention, etc. Women are …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/23 01:42 PM
49	What’s the Matter with Men? New Yorker article There are multiple issues at play, here. One of them is the lack of rewarding physical labor for men. We know that men benefit from physical exercise - lifting weights is almost a necessity for a man’s health and happiness. It boosts testosterone and burns fat. Excessive fat is bad for everyone but it’s especially destructive to the male body and psyche. Imagine you’re a young boy living in a small village. You see your fathers and uncles gathering material to build a hut. Your grandfather is to…	/r/RedPillWomen	23/08/23 05:36 PM
28	Modern feminism is actively oversexualizing women Correction: Men oversexualize women. And modern feminists realized that you can monetize that oversexualization. Modern women have also stopped shaming each other for promiscuity, so the social pressure to remain “pure” and “innocent” is gone. Men have historically relied on women to “keep each other in check” while men have their cake and eat it, too. For example: you cheat on your wife. Instead of your wife divorcing you, she instead goes after the mistress. You stare at another woman. Instead…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/23 03:17 PM
22	Should the higher earning partner delegate their household work to the lower earning one? The amount of housework done should be based on hours worked alone. The physical labor aspect of the job should also play a role. I make more money than my husband, but he works more hours, so I do the majority of the household chores. I think that’s fair. I think the partner who works more hours should do fewer chores regardless of income. There’s an assumption that the higher earner would naturally work more hours. Not true. There are SEs who work 40 hours a week and make $100k+ Compare that t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/23 03:09 PM
4	Do women care about men's looks? I care about the effort a man puts into his looks. Most men are capable of being attractive. But a lot of men put in zero effort. You should know what haircut suits your face, what style of clothing suits your body. You should be working out and dressing well. You should smell good. There’s nothing that pisses me off more than a good-looking person who appears to be ugly and acts like a victim solely because they don’t put in the effort. You can go from “eh” to “holy shit he’s hot” with very min…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/08/23 09:44 PM
86	Good for the boyfriend, ngl Honestly it’s so good to see men growing some balls finally and refusing to just allow their girls to give in to greed and materialism and draw a line in the ground. Don’t forget that men are the ones who created this monster. For centuries housewives were staunchly anti-porn. If you were a man who went out to a “whore house” back in the day, best believe your wife would throw an absolute fit. Good ladies didn’t behave that way. But men continued going to those places anyways. And purchasing dir…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/08/23 12:37 PM
10	Why do we always hear about "unrealistic female beauty standards" when male beauty standards are far more unrealistic? Female beauty standards are basically "don't be fat" and learn how to apply makeup. This is the requirement men have for dating and maybe marriage. So for the low cost of “not being fat,” women can become a bangmaid. No, he won’t take you on dates. He won’t romance you. He won’t treat you like a queen. He will come home, grunt in response when you ask him how his day was, wordlessly eat the food you made, play video games for the rest of the day, and then expect sex when he goes to bed. Rinse an…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/23 05:36 PM
7	If you enter a Karate class first time wearing a Gi and a black belt, knowing what it means is disrespectful because you didn't earn it. why is it normal that women get married wearing a white dress? Because a black belt is a sign of hard work and dedication. It requires years of training. It requires skill and experience and devotion to martial arts. A white dress just means a penis hasn’t entered you yet. In today’s world, very few people are virgins when they get married. Most men don’t give a damn if their non-virgin wives wear white wedding dresses. I have only slept with my husband but we had sex before marriage. He won’t care if I wear a white wedding dress. It’s bizarre that we even …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/08/23 01:13 PM
107	Would you forgive cheating in my situation? I disagree with everyone here who thinks this isn’t a big deal. If a woman did this to her husband (drove a man home and flirted with him), I don’t think people would be saying, “Well your husband should just forgive you! It’s not that big of a deal.” If he brought her home because she stroked his ego…it will happen again. He will be tempted again. Strong leaders and HVM don’t engage in appropriate behavior solely to stroke their own ego. And that’s the big problem, here. This is a big character…	/r/RedPillWomen	12/08/23 06:32 PM
39	What are your opinions on Ben Shaperio's review of the Barbie movie? I used to like Ben but now he gets worked up and whiny over the most arbitrary subjects. This trait of his is very unmasculine.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/08/23 09:49 PM
17	How do you stay positive, soft, and feminine when your busy with work and life? I let myself be tired and vulnerable. You don’t have to “relax.” Trying to relax is a contradiction. It’s not possible. I’m also a naturally anxious person, my life is very tightly managed, and I handle all the finances in my household. I just let myself be tired and quiet and vulnerable. The right men will see that and step up to fill in where they’re needed, and it makes them feel important. Like a damsel in distress situation. I don’t hide my stress. I’ve got a lot on my plate and sometimes I…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/08/23 01:21 AM
–	Autistic men struggle to hide their keenness/attraction and this puts people off. Imagine if you had “tons of options” to eat but your options were burnt steak, 5-day-old soup, and a sandwich that’s been sitting out in the sun with bugs on it. And then you find a delicious tasty-looking lasagna but when you bite into it you find a cockroach in there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/23 12:38 PM
10	Men treating their partner/spouse like women treat theirs is considered abusive Man controlling a woman: “Don’t wear that top because it shows some cleavage and I don’t want other men seeing it.” Woman controlling a man: “It’s gross when you have shit streaks in your underwear, please wipe better and also make sure you put your dirty clothes in the basket so I don’t have to pick them up” Men’s “controlling” typically revolves around wanting women to be invisible to other men Women’s “controlling” tends to be things that make her life easier (i.e., asking a man to be cleaner…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/23 04:31 PM
42	There’s a good reason men get praised for sleeping around and women don’t So let me get this straight. Men think they are more valuable because “slutty” women want to fuck them. But at the same time, men do not value “slutty” women. The “pure virgin” that you want to marry should value you more because you fucked a lot of “slutty” women?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 11:29 PM
5	Q4W: How true is it, in your opinion, that women are attracted to strong, take-charge, alpha males? I think a lot of modern men are lacking in maturity. It’s not their fault: they were raised on anime and video games. They were raised in a “let kids be kids” environment that allows children to be immature as long as possible and then expects them to magically transform into responsible adults the moment they hit 18. For example, I have a BIL who is 30 years old and still smokes weed and acts like a loud drunk idiot at parties. Sometimes he goes on long-winded emotional rants that no one cares …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/07/23 02:12 PM
10	Us men who want a traditional wife to stay home while we work and support the family actually couldn't do that in this economy/ inflation. Which sucks. You think women did zero work throughout all of human history? They didn’t build fires or help maintain the shelters or sew clothing or cook food? This is why the economy sucks. People legitimately do not understand how labor works.	/r/MensRights	22/07/23 04:42 PM
24	Why don't women compliment and approach men? I can only give my own personal perspective. I have always felt intimidated by men. When I was young, my brother was a shit-talker and he could be mean. As I was growing up in school, I would hear boys say all sorts of horrible things. I was very sensitive and shy, so hearing boys swearing and making “your mom” jokes and insulting other people’s looks…it made me terrified to approach them or talk to them. Men often talk about having low standards, but with the way a lot of boys talk in school, y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/07/23 02:15 PM
11	Should I pick out his clothes? With all due respect, this advice is very melodramatic. The words “command” and “demand” are going too far even if you’re just being cheeky (which I don’t think you are). Men who comment in this subreddit are supposed to be older and married. You’re 32 and don’t appear to be married since you broke up with your girlfriend…what, 70 days ago? “You look so handsome and strong in your blue polo and khaki’s” My husband would laugh in my face if I hammed it up this hard. I would say something more lik…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/07/23 02:35 PM
10	Are Romance Novels a Good Indicator of What Turns Women On? Thoughts on "It Ends With Us" Women and men both have “fantasy ideals” and “real life ideals.” Male fantasy ideal: hot porn star with perfect breasts and hips, super sexual, slutty, etc. Male real-life ideal: obviously varies by preference but 100% is usually not a porn star Female fantasy ideal: bad boy, super hot and muscular, edgy, dominant Female real life ideal: obviously varies by preference, but most women would cringe if a man behaved in real life the way most fantasy male characters do Both men and women have the re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/23 08:16 PM
6	How to be More Mature Step back and observe. I find that a lot of immaturity stems from blurting out words, not thinking before you speak, not taking the time to assess the social situation before you insert yourself into the dynamic. Sometimes I say things and later think “oh gosh I wish I wouldn’t have said that considering what was happening at the time” Also, processing emotions before you react. This is one I struggle with immensely. When something significant happens, really step back and try to process your em…	/r/RedPillWomen	16/07/23 08:09 PM
28	CMV Many Women claim "a man can be soft" or "a man can cry its no issue" but they don't date those dudes, in fact they date the Guys that would be in the "toxic masculinity" bracket, and this is kinda funny lol See, this is the problem. Women say we want a man who can handle his own emotions in a healthy way. Your dad died and you had a bad relationship with him? We want you to talk it out instead of playing video games for 12 hours a day. We want you to talk it out instead of getting drunk and mean. Or high. Or coming home pissed off and stomping around the house but refusing to answer whenever someone asks “you okay?” No woman ever said “I want a man who is mentally weak.” Men made that up. We want y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/23 02:30 PM
52	3% of women are virgins/wait to have sex before marriage I didn’t wait until marriage, but my husband is the only man I’ve slept with. 100% of my sexual experiences have been with him. The only thing I did with anyone else was a peck on the lips when I was 14. I’ve been raised in the traditional mindset “sex is for baby making”. This could be a problem. Although I consider myself traditional, I think this mentality is harmful. By advocating for this mentality, traditionalists guarantee themselves a dead bedroom. Women who feel ashamed of their sexuali…	/r/RedPillWomen	13/07/23 01:21 AM
54	Thoughts on p*rn in relationships he's just using her body, he doesn't care about her as a person-so it doesn't make me jealous as long as he's not an active "fan" of a specific girl, and just views them literally as stimulants basically. This is a common illusion that women fall for - the Madonna-Whore complex. In your mind, you’re superior to these women because he only cares about their body. Therefore, they are no threat to you. After all, he will still come home to you and let you live in his home and let you raise his chil…	/r/RedPillWomen	10/07/23 08:59 PM
-2	Will men be shamed in the future for bit wanting to date "soft" sex workers? (OF models, sugar babes etc.) Yes, they will. For decades women were shamed if we didn’t want our husbands openly staring at other women, watching porn, going to strip clubs, etc. The woman who caught her husband stuffing dirty magazines under the mattress was called a horrible nag, a prude, insecure, etc. Well, now the shoe is on the other foot. Now men got what they wanted: women are more promiscuous than ever. It’s easier now, more than ever, to actually date the girl you jack off to. Oh, wait. You don’t want to date that…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/23 11:24 AM
6	How can women tell if a guy is 'inexperienced' or a virgin if he lies? My husband lied. He was a virgin. I thought he slept with 9 women before me because that’s what he told me. It wasn’t his skill that tipped me off. It was his complete and total inability to lie consistently combined with my very-intense interrogation skills when I sniff out bullshit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/23 02:16 PM
6	CMV: Say what you want about TRP, but it's messed up that nice, perfectly normal dudes struggle to get basic women while literal thugs and walking red flags slay with women just because they're overconfident. It’s weird you think all women are just chasing after thugs. My husband is a good man. His friends and family are all good men and they’re all married. Plenty of good men are married. Why do you focus on the very small subset of women who have mental health issues and pursue thugs? All the women married to good men are invisible to you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/23 11:47 AM
0	Q4M: an enthusiastic 3 or a starfish 10? The men saying “neither” are the ones that will fix this fucked up dynamic that exists between men and women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 04:18 PM
50	What is realistic to expect? I’m obviously not perfect, but I think my RMV/SMV are pretty high, and the guys I’ve attracted/dated reflect that. Do they? Because it sounds like you weren’t truly happy with any of them. They might have ticked all the “high RMV/SMV” boxes but that doesn’t mean jack diddly-squat in the type of marriage your parents have. Long-lasting marriages are not built on RMV/SMV nonsense. It goes deeper than that. The high value man is the one who makes you happy, first and foremost. Everything else comes…	/r/RedPillWomen	03/07/23 11:19 PM
37	"Men only think about one thing" is projection from women Thank you for proving to OP that it’s not a lie. Men are the ones saying “all we think about is sex.” Women simply believe it when men say it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/23 01:23 AM
5	Why is it so common for straight people to complain so much about the opposite sex? What the hell is a gay man going to say about other men? “Yeah men are shit, all they do is cheat and lie…” “Aren’t you also a man?” “Well yeah…but, but-“ It’s impossible to shit-talk your own sex without sounding stupid. That’s why we make fun of pick-mes and their male counterparts. It’s a lot easier to shit-talk a demographic that you aren’t part of.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/23 01:21 AM
0	Is is true that being a single mother penalizes a woman more than dating than being a single father does for men? For a woman, being a good mother is the bare minimum. It’s not necessarily an attractive trait - it’s expected. For a man, being a good father is considered going above and beyond. It’s an attractive trait and women appreciate it immensely. I’m also noticing more and more men who don’t value motherhood or motherly traits. They want a woman who is nurturing and soft and sweet…but only for their husband. For example, a motherly woman would absolutely be opposed to an 18-year-old girl dating a 40-y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/23 04:46 PM
7	CMV Its so hard to become High Value as a Man, that its absolutely logical that most men off this caliber want to have sex with other women besides they're Wife/Girlfriend, i am really curious if someone can change my view on this. Can a HVW say the same? Say you have the ideal housewife who worked really hard to be that way. She’s sweet and feminine. She’s gorgeous, she works out. She’s great with kids, she knows how to cook fantastic meals from scratch, and she keeps her house spotless. She’s the ideal wife and many men want her because she has worked so hard to be the “ideal woman” in a man’s eyes. Doesn’t it make sense that she would also want to enjoy attention from multiple men? After all, men want sex, and women wan…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/06/23 01:18 PM
5	Soybean Oil Destroys Oxytocin. Could this be one of the reasons when it comes to certain women not able to pair bond? My husband and I recently took “the plunge.” Eliminating as much processed food as humanly possible. We eat the following foods: fresh vegetables roasted/fried with 100% olive or avocado oil, eggs, fresh meat (no deli meat, no bacon), and potatoes/fruit for carbs. Oh, and Oikos Triple Zero yogurt. That’s the one I couldn’t give up but it appears to be minimally processed. It’s hard. We’re so accustomed to processed food. I used to eat Kraft Macaroni and Cheese like it was the food of the gods.	/r/RedPillWomen	28/06/23 12:52 AM
10	Why aren’t more women very promiscuous Because the idea of pregnancy is terrifying when you know you aren’t ready to be pregnant. Even when I was on birth control (99% effective), the thought was always in the back of my mind. Each day that my period was late terrified me. Mind you, my husband is the only man I slept with. I wasn’t even afraid of having a baby with him specifically - I just knew that we couldn’t afford to give the baby a good life. Men would be more cautious too if they had to endure pregnancy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/23 01:45 PM
3	Women getting upset over the fact that Men like younger women is mainly irrational You realize that older women dating young men is also a problem, too, right? I watched my mom drain the bank accounts of several young men. She was almost 60 dating a 30-year-old. Convinced this guy to sell his house and move in with her, then used the proceeds on massive amounts of booze, partying, and vacations. Now the guy is broke and single. And an alcoholic. Women want to protect their children. Redpill men always go on and on about how they want women who are “motherly and nurturing” but …	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/06/23 05:08 AM
22	Femininity is not valued in our society This is 100% true for a lot of redpilled men. A man wants a woman who is sensitive and soft…but if she cries because he wants to go to a strip club, she’s annoying. A man wants a woman who keeps the house clean…but if she complains when he walks through the kitchen with his boots on, she’s a nag. A man wants a woman who takes care of herself…then gets annoyed when she spends a lot of money and time on her beauty routine. Redpilled men want us to be soft and emotional and sensitive, but don’t you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/06/23 03:05 PM
2	Learning how to receive and let him provide - talk to me please I’m going to be honest. Your attitude is not very feminine to me. You have a more masculine way of approaching relationships. but he is the one who will be carrying the role of spending money on the date because I refuse. This is not a submissive attitude. This is the mentality you read about on hyper-feminist subreddits like female dating strategy (which may have been banned? I’m not sure). Here’s a great question for everyone to ponder: if a man wants you to pay for a date, and you do, that’s …	/r/RedPillWomen	24/06/23 02:21 PM
29	What to do when partner stops pursuing you Don’t chase him. This is a great time to focus on improving yourself. My husband has ADHD. He frequently disconnects from me. During those times, I try to focus on personal projects (i.e., practicing a hobby, making new friends, deep-cleaning the house, etc.) Recently, while my husband was disconnected, I really wanted to focus on improving my social skills. I got dolled up and went to a local concert. My mom was a social butterfly who could go to an event completely alone and leave having made …	/r/RedPillWomen	23/06/23 09:23 PM
4	How do you define "manipulative" behavior When two humans exchange bodily fluids, both people should be upfront and honest in stating their intentions if the subject comes up. If a woman asks, “What are we?” If your thought is: You are a fucktoy and have zero chance of becoming anything more to me But your real-life response is: “Right now I’m enjoying my time with you, maybe later it will be something serious” Then you are being dishonest. Dishonesty is wrong especially when someone has expressly asked you to clarify the status of the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/06/23 12:59 PM
24	Traditional or 'pick me' women are the smartest people on Earth, outside the elite few men who run the world. because society pushed for you to have wife and kids, Aren’t you the one who said that men love women “holistically” and that all the romance movie tropes are true for men? If that were true, wouldn’t these men be ecstatic to be married and working hard to provide? But now you’re saying those same men would prefer to spend their money on “women” (plural) and booze? You’re contradicting yourself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/06/23 01:25 AM
3	The reason why we forgive men more for picking crappy women So people here genuinely believe that if a man did have options, he would not choose the hottest woman available to him regardless of her crazy-level? And we’re also assuming that men would learn to properly distinguish a crazy abusive woman from a good woman? Because I highly doubt it. Andrew Tate supposedly has plenty of options, and yet he chose women who went to the police with accusations against him. Johnny Depp had plenty of options and picked Amber Heard. Give me a break. Men are just as…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/06/23 01:10 PM
3	Skyla IUD Hormonal Experiences.. is my IUD causing my depression? I had a horrible experience with the depo-provera shot. I’m now 100% unwilling to use any form of hormonal birth control. I use the copper IUD. If the copper IUD didn’t work for some reason, I would use condoms and the pull-out method combined. But I would never use hormonal birth control unless absolutely necessary for medical reasons (I am using it purely as contraception at the moment). For some women, hormonal birth control is medically indicated. I am not one of them. Doctors often fail to …	/r/RedPillWomen	15/06/23 02:55 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Not my former roommate who’s in his 30s with zero savings but somehow has enough money to buy a new gun/attachment/body armor every week. Nope, it’s only women who spend money on dumb shit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/23 12:41 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Low testosterone that endocrinologists refuse to treat because it’s “technically in the normal range.” My husband’s testosterone is in the 300s and he’s symptomatic but the endo won’t treat it because he’s “technically in the normal range.” There’s something in the food supply. Unfortunately I didn’t meet him until he was 19 and the damage was done. We cut out processed food and exercise regularly, but 19 years of junk will make you feel like shit 24/7 even if you switch to a healthy diet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/06/23 12:36 PM
8	Her friend wasn’t cockblocking, you just missed a signal or there was an agreement before they even left Men fail to understand female social dynamics once again. A friend who consistently cockblocked her friends would be kicked from the group pretty swiftly. And viciously.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/23 09:24 PM
12	CMV: Women age like milk while Men age like wine is a fallacy Men don’t want objects that are used up. When they treat women like objects, then the woman is considered “used up” because she has sexual experience. No man wants a car with a lot of mileage. The car is an object. They also don’t a woman with “high mileage” because they view her as a similar type of object.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/23 06:16 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Aren’t men the ones who get pissed when women call them “horn dogs”? If men are horny dogs, then no man should have a problem with his wife looking through his phone. After all, men are dogs…right? We shouldn’t expect them to be faithful. No woman should be sending nudes to her husband. After all, men are horny dogs and we know those nudes will get spread around…right? According to your mentality. Men want women to recognize and accept male sexuality. Okay, fine. But don’t get mad when women tak…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/06/23 02:12 PM
9	Female women, would you forgive if your significant other cheated on you? Possibly. We’re married, so cheating isn’t an automatic dealbreaker for me personally based on my marriage vows. With that being said, I would probably demand a hallpass (I probably wouldn’t use it, but I would want the power of knowing there is some equality in the relationship since I would also have the option to sleep with someone else if I wanted to). My husband would have to do a lot of work to help me heal. He would have to be remorseful. And he would have to deal with a lot of pettiness …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/23 11:38 PM
107	has the pain of male infidelity always been this way? Redpill men insist on applying “facts and logic” to human behavior while simultaneously ignoring the irrationality and emotionality of human behavior. Infidelity hurts because it makes us feel inadequate and insecure. It makes us feel like we can’t trust our partners and it undermines our sense of safety in the relationship. Redpilled men assume women only want financial commitment (and are therefore accepting of male polygamy as long as financial commitment remains secure), but this is because …	/r/RedPillWomen	08/06/23 01:15 AM
3	Since when did requiring physical attraction for a romantic relationship make you superficial? Since most Americans are now medically obese, more and more people are adopting the “looks don’t matter” mindset because otherwise over half of Americans would be undateable and unmarriageable. There are more and more people who are leaning toward asexual marriages where the only thing that matters is the emotional connection. Because they’ve simply given up on sex. They’ve given up on their bodies. They view sex and sexual attraction as “childish” and completely separate from an emotional conne…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/23 11:43 PM
94	The Ole Double Standard She wants 100% authority over the kids but 50% responsibility for them. I think Jordan Peterson talked about this. How women see themselves as the “high priestesses” of childcare. She will demand assistance (50%) with the kids because it’s what she wants. She will also demand that you bend to her whims because it’s what she wants. At the end of the day, mother’s desires > father’s desires. A lot of women fail to recognize the double standard. They rally against being seen as “incubators” and “bi…	/r/MensRights	07/06/23 01:35 PM
2	Men are more superficial about weight than women I’m a woman and I am 100% not attracted to fat men. Nor am I attracted to men who smoke, suntan, eat a lot of processed food (even if skinny), never work out, etc. There’s no way to be “superficial” about weight. It’s 100% normal not to be attracted to people who don’t take care of their bodies. A lot of obese people have disordered eating but refuse to get help. I want to be with someone mentally healthy. Part of your personality is “do you take care of yourself?” If you’re significantly obese,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/06/23 12:50 PM
–	Question for everyone : How can you sleep at night knowing you “plugged into” somebody else’s money via marriage or a partnership You realize the clitoris is an internal organ that wraps around the vagina, right? And many women can stimulate the clitoris both externally and internally?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/06/23 01:25 PM
11	circumcision is child abuse My husband is uncircumcised. I have never seen or tasted smegma on his penis or underneath his foreskin. Keep sipping that kool-aid.	/r/MensRights	06/06/23 01:11 PM
15	circumcision is child abuse How is circumcision beneficial besides “it looks better to women in the United States”?	/r/MensRights	06/06/23 01:24 AM
61	circumcision is child abuse Women will roast men for not being able to handle a woman’s “natural body” (stretch marks, sagging breasts, large labia, etc.) But many women despise a man’s natural body (uncircumcised penis).	/r/MensRights	06/06/23 01:23 AM
–	Why do women prefer black men for hookups? Oh boy.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/06/23 07:44 PM
3	Women in the USA/CANADA treating husbands as second option during birth If you want an honest answer: Stress during childbirth can adversely affect the baby’s health. It can lead to health complications for both mother and baby. And a lot of women are stuck with men who stress them out (you know, the same way a lot of men fucked up and married women who stress them out). Imagine you’re going in for one of those “stay awake” brain surgeries. You know, the one where the doctors keep you conscious while performing the surgery so that they can properly gauge any damage …	/r/MensRights	03/06/23 10:46 PM
3	Fashion and Models with morbid obesity how do you explain the simultaneous massive growth of the diet and wellness industry over the same timespan? Not everyone is drinking the Kool-aid. Most people who give in to the “fat is beautiful” movement have only done so after trying fad diets and giving up specifically because these diets are designed to make money, not actually help people lose weight. A lot of fad diets encourage disordered eating specifically because it contributes to the “restrict/binge” cycle that makes so much money. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/23 07:14 PM
1	Fashion and Models with morbid obesity So you’re saying that companies should promote anorexic models so that we can boost their self-esteem?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/23 07:09 PM
2	Fashion and Models with morbid obesity Would you say the same about companies which promote models who are clearly anorexic? What about companies that feature models smoking cigarettes or suntanning? These women will suffer when they hit their 40s and 50s from health problems. Why does nobody care about them but we rally to protect anorexic models from fetishization?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/23 05:02 PM
5	Fashion and Models with morbid obesity But more importantly, what does this mean for society ? Capitalism benefits primarily from people who over-consume products. In the US, medically obese is called “chubby” and chubby is called “skinny.” We think it’s normal for a 5’ 4” sedentary woman to consume 2,400 calories a day. Corporations profit immensely from this mentality. Obese people are the ideal consumers in a corrupt capitalist society. Your average obese American: eats a lot, doesn’t care about the ingredients in their food (mean…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/06/23 04:56 PM
6	For guys who want an active woman, why and what does that mean to you? It’s actually extremely important for disabled/ill people to find some sort of physical movement that they can do as a form of exercise. Especially as people age, exercise is incredibly healthy for the mind. It’s astounding that you think this is “woo.” It’s not even something that requires a study - it’s like saying hydration is good for you. Find any facility with chronically ill or disabled people and it’s someone’s job to make sure those people are getting some form of exercise (unless they’…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/06/23 03:20 PM
47	Boyfriend's acquaintance keeps crossing the line. How to address this in a RPW way? Or do I STFU? Bring him your problem, not your solution. Tell him that she makes you nervous. You have a woman’s intuition that she’s bad news and you’re concerned for his well-being in the workplace. How he responds to your concerns will tell you whether or not he’s a good partner and future husband. You definitely don’t want to be the woman who has to tell a man how to protect himself from women. You’re absolutely right that she has the ability to destroy his career - more and more men are finding themselve…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/06/23 01:17 AM
24	Discussion : Women are not complicated in their attraction, just indulge in your NATURAL masculine behaviour and they’ll be drawn to it Ehhh not every man has a reliable “masculine instinct.” Some men have the instinct to stare at women’s breasts/ass to the point where it’s noticeable in public. Some men have an instinct to jack off in public. Some men have an instinct to browse porn all day even when they’re sitting in a doctor’s office where everyone can see their phone. There are men who have organized alphabetized spank banks that are encrypted. They obsessively collect all the nudes ever sent to them as a trophy case and hi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/05/23 02:22 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Yes, obesity increases the risk of some health conditions. I’m a nurse and I work in assisted living. My obese residents struggle immensely more than my residents who were healthy/fit. Your mobility naturally declines as you age. Being obese makes that decline way more dramatic and painful. As your mobility decreases, so does your ability to perform self-care. It is immensely taxing on caregivers to lift someone’s belly to clean underneath their folds while they’re standing or sitting. It is imm…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/23 07:07 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread People have a moral obligation to live a healthy lifestyle. I’m not saying you have to eat kale and never have fast food again. But people who say “it doesn’t affect you!” about smoking and obesity are misinformed. Hospitals are already overwhelmed. We need to reserve space for people who contract diseases beyond their control. Soon we’re gonna run out of nurses and hospital space for people who knowingly make themselves sick with shitty habits. Someone who ate himself to 300 lbs. should not get…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/05/23 06:57 PM
28	Genderflip - if men chose "bodice rippers", what would they choose? The male lead would be an everyday average joe, and the female character would be an innocent virgin who suddenly becomes an insatiable sex goddess when she’s alone with him. Her entire life would revolve around him. She’s start cooking three meals a day for him, working out to look hot for him, taking nudes and sending them, etc. “What You Know Bout Love” by Pop Smoke describes it pretty clearly (it’s a song, not a novel). He wants a woman who wakes up early to make him breakfast, works out, lo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/05/23 01:33 PM
9	Being a tradwife, RPW in this day and age is likely to attract narcissists Andrew Tate: “I’m going to teach men how to control women so that they will bend to your will and be submissive, that’s my entire brand” Also Andrew Tate: “I got thrown in jail for a substantial amount of time based on accusations made by the women I supposedly have complete control over” He can’t even exemplify what he’s supposedly teaching men to do. Even if the accusations are false, that makes him look worse because he got played hard by the same women he claims to have control over. He sing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/05/23 01:01 PM
18	Makeup is a deceptive and unfair advantage that women have in dating, I have seen girls who look completely unrecognizable without it. This gives them an extreme upper hand by wearing a disguise whereby they are able to play several points above their actual league. Let’s talk about vetting. You know, the redpill man’s favorite trump card. Any woman who ends up marrying an abuser or a cheater “should have vetted better.” Listen: It’s super easy to vet for makeup “fraud.” If you know a woman for a week or two, sleep over at her house, shower with her…you’ll see what her real face looks like. She will take the makeup off before she goes to bed. If she doesn’t, then congrats, you now know she has bad skincare habits and that’s a red flag in and of itself. Seri…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 09:42 PM
22	Women don't appreciate male breadwinners The problem is that a lot of these women are doing 100% of the household chores for husbands who create big messes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/05/23 09:17 PM
6	What is a low value man? Why would a man be valuable just because other women want him? A woman will sleep with a man just to piss off his girlfriend. Or for validation. Or sexual attention. It’s a low bar.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/23 11:42 PM
5	I once had no rights to my son. I’m 21 years old and I have full sole custody of my 2 year old son. It’s a popular opinion among women that men have zero right to know about their own children. Usually with the excuse of “he could be dangerous.” It’s disgusting. But we don’t talk about the attack against men’s reproductive rights…you know, the right to be informed that they have a living breathing child? The right that so many women take away every day under the excuse of “well he could be dangerous tho…”	/r/MensRights	18/05/23 04:58 PM
11	Struggling to support my (25F) partner (32F) and his mental health My husband has ADHD. He is very similar to your partner, and everything you’ve described in this post is textbook ADHD (especially in males). It’s not the cute quirky disorder that Tik Tok and ADHD influencers portray it to be. It’s an incredibly complex disorder that can lead to abusive relationships. Rejection sensitivity dysphoria, lying, compulsive behaviors, vulnerability to substance abuse…all of these are traits of ADHD. My husband’s RSD can get so bad that he yells and shouts and follows…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/05/23 01:07 AM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Because it’s illogical. Men want their wives to dress more modestly…then jack off to women who are naked or in revealing clothing. The wife can only conclude that, in order to obtain more sexual attention from her husband, she must look like the women upon whom he focuses his sexual attention (i.e., porn stars). Women want to be sexual beings, too, y’know. If men want women to dress modestly, you’ll start worshipping modest women the same way your worship porn stars and Instagram models.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/23 08:13 PM
12	My baby brother was circumcised. Local anesthetic is not always given in America. I’m a nurse. I watched a circumcision while in school last year. The only thing they gave the baby was some sugar water to distract him. I literally had to write out a med list for the baby so I know everything they gave him.	/r/MensRights	16/05/23 03:25 PM
9	Women Cannot Detect a Red Pilled Man If He Knows What He's Doing The bluepill also pushes working out to get access to sex. Getting in shape to be more desirable is the most basic of basic advice.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 11:30 PM
–	Let's talk about the recent TwoX post and the concept of "emotional labor" Man comes home from work. He’s pissed off. In his mind, he’s doing a good job of hiding it. But everyone else in the household (kids included) can sense the impending doom of dad coming home and stomping around/slamming doors, etc. Mom wants to keep the peace so she asks him what’s wrong. “Nothing” he says aggressively. For the next week he’s withdrawn, won’t talk to the kids, barely speaks to his wife, won’t touch her, etc. Wife finally puts her foot down and tells him this isn’t okay. He calls…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 08:17 PM
–	How do you treat unattractive people? How is anything in the above paragraph not treating someone like a human?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 06:00 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread If you’re burnt out, that means you’re doing too much. Don’t quit entirely, but reduce your routine to something more manageable. This is why people fail to lose weight. They go in way too hard, fail, and then lose all the motivation they had in the first place. But you set yourself up for failure when you put too high expectations of yourself. You should’ve started with a 30-minute walk 2x a week and then worked up from there.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/05/23 01:23 PM
43	Am I wrong for really only caring about circumcision? I remember a post on AITA (I think?) where the OP had complications with his circumcision and ended up with permanent sexual/urinary dysfunction that made it almost impossible to maintain a healthy sexual relationship. He hated his parents and couldn’t forgive them. People kept commenting that he should “let it go” because it wasn’t his parents’ fault, it was a different time, it was expected for parents to circumcise their boys, etc. It’s completely fucked. No one would expect a girl to forgive…	/r/MensRights	14/05/23 12:17 AM
–	Women, how much did your relationship with your father affect that with men? My dad was a great man. He was intelligent, honest, and dedicated. He was a hard worker. He was honorable. He was also a complete dumbass when it came to women. Evidence: my mom. Started dating a woman with obvious cluster B traits, got her pregnant (whoops) and got stuck with her because he’s a good man and wanted to be in his kids’ life. She did her cluster-B thing, cheated, destroyed his mental health. Destroyed his life. My dad is now MGTOW even though he doesn’t know what “MGTOW” means. He …	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/05/23 02:33 PM
18	What is your unpopular opinion regarding your own gender that could make others call you a gender traitor? That’s funny. That’s the same reason I criticize men’s hypersexuality, because I know that women will easily and happily take advantage of it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 02:20 PM
15	What is your unpopular opinion regarding your own gender that could make others call you a gender traitor? How does punching a hole in the drywall solve a problem?	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 02:19 PM
7	What is the relationship between feminism and hookup culture? Feminism allowed women to participate in hookup culture. Prior to that we were required to be faithful lest we lose our financial security (husband). Prior to feminism, hookup culture was far smaller and existed primarily between married men and their mistresses. This dynamic (married man and his mistress) inadvertently showed wives how much power women have in the sexual marketplace. If a man will risk everything (illegitimate child, his reputation, etc.) just for sex, then women must have a lo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/23 09:21 PM
9	Q4W: Have you ever lost interest in a man because he was too nice? Why or why not? To clarify, by nice I mean polite or kind I have lost attraction to men who fall for the “damsel in distress” routine that some toxic women use to get attention/resources. Our roommate (and my husband) both recently fell victim to this with roommate’s new girlfriend. She’s an alcoholic whose ex-husband brought her back from the dead, drove her to her AA meetings, etc. She decided to leave her husband and start dating our roommate. Why? Because her husband is controlling. Because he doesn’t like it when she goes out to drink or hang out …	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/23 08:26 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread gambling and betting How much money are we talking? Because there are plenty of people over at r/wallstreetbets who had plenty in their savings account…until they didn’t.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/23 12:51 PM
14	Why Your “Fat Reduction” Workouts Aren’t Working. Also, start with small goals and work your way up. If you’re eating fast food 5 days/week, don’t binge on Sunday and then plan on “starting fresh” Monday. You will be completely overwhelmed trying to cook your own meals (especially if you have little cooking experience) and your fast-food cravings will eventually win out. This is why so many women give up and then blame the “diet industry.” Of course eating healthy seems impossible when you attempt to overhaul your entire life in one day. You ne…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/05/23 10:49 PM
42	Ungrateful - An Update Never perform wife duties for a man who hasn’t put a ring on your finger. That’s probably the reason why he feels so entitled.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/05/23 02:24 PM
31	As RPW, what are your opinions on age gap relationships? I think the strongest bond you can build with a man is when you stand by his side while he’s still building. I was loyal to my husband when he was young and broke and nobody. When he’s making good money and of high status, he will remember the woman who stayed by his side when he had nothing. You can’t say the same for women who married their husbands after they were already established. That “ride or die” loyalty has not been proven. Not saying those relationships are lesser…they just appear to…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/05/23 04:00 PM
1	What's the difference between "toxic masculinity" and "toxic femininity"? Or it's just that there are toxic people? I’d say that toxic masculinity is fist-through-the-drywall type stuff. Whereas toxic femininity is “I’m going to give you a compliment that’s actually a backhanded insult” type stuff. It’s pretty easy to tell the difference.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/05/23 10:17 PM
28	How to come to terms with male sexuality? Tell him you’re going to sleep with other men. If he doesn’t like it, he can seek a divorce. RP men are terrified of divorce. Before you do this, make sure to collect evidence of him saying he will sleep with other women.	/r/RedPillWomen	06/05/23 12:48 AM
3	This sub: "If you're a man, you should focus on TRP." Also this sub: "A man with RP knowledge is a red flag." You’ve already gotten more relevant answers, but just to give you a heads up on what the women have to deal with when searching for a partner. There are two types of redpill (in regards to men): You have traditional-minded men who value monogamy and fidelity. They engage in active self-improvement and self-care. They have high morals. They want women with similar values. Then you have the (rapidly growing) pick-up artists and Andrew Tate types who hate women, think men should be allowed to sleep…	/r/RedPillWomen	04/05/23 08:14 PM
-2	Just pay attention to her And women can usually tell the difference between “I really like you as a person” And “I really like the fantasy ideal version of you that I’ve built up in my head” And invariably all simps are the latter because simping is borne of delusion. If you see a girl as she truly is - flaws and all - you’re not gonna simp unless there’s something seriously wrong with you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/23 10:38 PM
4	How important is preselection when it comes to a woman choosing a partner? The more women a man dates/has dated, the more potential drama I have to deal with if I start dating him. When I first started dating my husband, his ex-girlfriend suddenly started messaging him wanting to “know how he was doing.” I realized what her intentions were immediately, but it took more overt flirting for my husband to realize it. She’s one of those girls who keeps all her exes/past hookups on the backburner for easy access when she wants attention. Bonus points if she can cause drama w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/23 07:02 PM
18	Male Widowers getting re-married quicker is better explained by female pre-selection Your argument completely ignores the agency of the widow/widower. Even if I have men falling at my feet, I wouldn’t want them during my period of grief. In fact, I’m certain I would find it difficult to date at all several years after my husband passed away if not longer. Just because a woman wants to be with you doesn’t mean you automatically have to marry her. The difference here is that men have an easier time separating their grief from their desire for a new woman. They don’t feel like they…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/23 02:11 PM
3	Men’s insecurity about sex toys I think it’s because a lot of men fail to please their partner in other ways, forcing her to purchase a sex toy. He throws a fit and then she is forced to go without an orgasm because the man is unwilling to try anything other than PIV to get her there even after the woman explains her case. A lot of men are simply unwilling to accept any constructive criticism or guidance in the bedroom. Either it hurts their feelings and they shut down or they do the “smile and nod” thing that men sometimes do…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/23 10:50 AM
17	Do you think it’s possible to be a mainly stay at home wife, only working part-time and have my man be the main breadwinner if I don’t want kids? You have an extreme misunderstanding of how women operate.	/r/RedPillWomen	01/05/23 10:08 AM
18	Is sex tourism a hidden gem for men who want causal sex? I thought men were biologically evolved to recognize obvious signs of danger. In Colombia you will be robbed and potentially murdered. Not worth it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/23 12:15 AM
6	What do you consider the most important things you've learned since RPW? What were the first steps you took to grow as a woman? Learning how to stop bullshitting myself. Learning when I was using an entire conversation solely to seek validation. Learning to call myself out when I had “ulterior motives” to any sort of engagement. Learning how to be humble - truly humble and to speak honestly. A good example is when women argue with each other and they do the whole “if you want to hate me that’s fine but I wish you love and peace.” We tell ourselves we truly believe that when we say it, but it’s often a passive aggressive …	/r/RedPillWomen	30/04/23 05:17 PM
4	Your feelings are valid.... 🙏🏼 I empathized with men in my comment. You came to a place where men are able to express their feelings and told them how they need to heal to deserve a woman like you. There’s no way to spin that around so it isn’t cruel and tone deaf. That’s like going to a subreddit for female victims of sexual assault and telling them how they need to heal to deserve a good man. Not the right time, not the right place. Incredibly tone deaf.	/r/MensRights	30/04/23 02:28 PM
10	Your feelings are valid.... 🙏🏼 I’m sorry to say this but some men fail to recognize when a woman is manipulating them and this is one of those cases. Women are very subtle with our language and we know how to spin things socially to appear benevolent while simultaneously manipulating others. OP came to a subreddit where men can discuss their trauma and their suffering and tried to spin it as: “you need to heal from that trauma so you can deserve a woman who is special like me. She took a subreddit for men and made it about he…	/r/MensRights	30/04/23 02:24 PM
58	Your feelings are valid.... 🙏🏼 Please don't be mean to me in the comments. This subreddit is a place for men to express their feelings. Women can comment, but if you’re coming here then you should have the emotional intelligence to understand that this is a male space and it’s not okay to come in here and demand validation from men. Men are already pressured to validate and praise women on a daily basis everywhere else in society. They shouldn’t have to worry about that here. I’m also a woman. I try not to make posts here. I …	/r/MensRights	29/04/23 10:10 PM
17	How would you handle? Watch your boyfriend. Don’t act: you have made it known how you feel. Now is your opportunity to sit back and judge whether or not he will be a good leader. Shit tests are bad because it requires us to “set a man up.” This isn’t a shit test - the universe offered you this situation on a silver platter. Now you get a chance to really find out if your boyfriend passes the “future husband” test. This is part of vetting. If he allows his mother to disrespect him (and that’s what she’s doing by conti…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/04/23 03:33 PM
21	My (26F) long term partner's (32M) response to the Crowder marriage video has me seriously considering I change my mind on marriage and kids with him. The way Crowder behaved was not only abusive, but it was embarrassing. He had very little emotional control in that situation. He was intentionally escalating the hostility (chest-beating behavior) in an attempt to gain control of the situation. This is not the behavior of a leader. It’s not the behavior of a strong, composed man. I’d be wary of any man who doesn’t see Crowder’s behavior as completely unacceptable. Entire kingdoms and empires have collapsed due to the emotional hypersensitivity …	/r/RedPillWomen	29/04/23 02:14 AM
6	Do women really care that much if a guy has done gay stuff or swings both ways? I also find bisexual men arousing, but I’m the opposite in that I prefer tops. Dominating a woman? Yeah, okay. A man who can dominate other men? That’s advanced domination.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/23 11:53 PM
2	A man got angry at me for being submissive. OP explicitly said, “I thought men were supposed to like a submissive woman” (not verbatim because the post was deleted). Her submission is borne of insecurity and a desire to be liked by men. Some men (especially older men) can sniff this out and will rightfully reject a woman from his social sphere who’s trying to use him for validation points. Men don’t have time for those kinds of games. In other words, this guy can tell she’s drama. He can tell that her “submission” is an intentional act wi…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/04/23 12:45 PM
99	Do men actually care if a woman is smart/professionally successful or not? When I was in nursing school, most of the surgeons I met were married to other surgeons. Most of the doctors I worked with were married to other doctors. Redpilled men will argue left and right that men don’t care about a woman’s education or her career, but when I look outside of redpill spheres, I’m seeing a lot of men who absolutely do care about these things. Also, I don’t know any man who wants a woman that will just blindly agree with everything he says (unless it’s Andrew Tate or Sneako).…	/r/RedPillWomen	28/04/23 12:39 PM
4	Let Men Own You. But you still want a guy that can at least fuck you how you like to be fucked because if he’s not doing it right then how is he gonna do anything else right for you?? Don’t men feel the exact same way about women? I have never met a man who was happy with unsatisfying sex from a woman. I have, however, met plenty of men who wish their woman would push them down and tear their clothes off and rock their world. What you describe as “being owned” is more like “I want someone to passionately love me…	/r/RedPillWomen	27/04/23 11:54 PM
9	A man got angry at me for being submissive. Part of the redpill is confronting hard truths. The hard truth is that some men don’t like submissive women.	/r/RedPillWomen	27/04/23 09:06 PM
29	Let Men Own You. To sum up: we want to be owned. We want their cock to give us stability and completion to our existence. Alpha widows are women who were given consistency by a consistent cock but were then discarded. A subpar penis is equivalent to no penis. Plurality of penises is equivalent to no penis. Stability for women is only guaranteed through one consistent penis. Do men think women talk this way?	/r/RedPillWomen	27/04/23 08:24 PM
28	realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in men The Wall is a cope that redpilled men tell themselves to feel better about women’s exponentially-increasing power in the sexual marketplace (power which, by the way, originates from men). Look, I wanted to believe in The Wall. I really did. I started dating my husband when I was 19, lost my virginity to him, married him at 24. I was the “virgin good girl” that redpill guys wax poetic about. I believed in The Wall for a long time and I was terrified of it. Then I realized how stupid it was. My mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/23 05:56 PM
8	Good female role models That’s because they take Peterson out of context. Peterson is partially to blame for that because he chooses to articulate his points in paragraph format, where the first sentence is required context for the 50th sentence, but if you listen to everything he says most of his points make sense and he has never said anything cruel about women. They like to boil his points down to “he said women shouldn’t wear makeup in the workplace because it tempts men!” They take the most bad faith interpretatio…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/23 04:20 PM
–	How divorce affects women financially The problem here is that it’s infinitely more beneficial for a child’s upbringing if they have a SAHP. Part of the reason we have so many kids acting like maniacs in public schools is because they have working parents who are too busy to actually manage their kids’ behavior, so they rely on teachers for babysitting and daycare. The burden for correcting a kid’s behavior is now placed on the teacher rather than the parent. If SAHPs are ultimately beneficial to children, then we need to create a s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/23 04:16 PM
62	Theories on why Average and Underaverage women are harsher on men than actually Cute women A lot of sexy women do treat men like garbage, you just don’t notice it because you’ve got the penis-blinders on. Hell, half of the posts on r/nicegirls are from hot Instagram influencers. Take OF girls for example. Some of them hire people to answer their personal messages for them - so you have a man responding to all your “hey baby how was your day?” messages pretending to be her. Does she feel bad about it? No. Do you care if she’s doing that to you? Of course not. Because she’s hot. I have …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/23 02:22 PM
5	As a straight man, being hit on by gay men is what it must feel like to be a woman being hit on all the time by men you're not attracted to The problem is that there’s no inherent power differential between white and black people. If you pick a random white man and a random black man out of a crowd, sometimes the white man will be stronger in a fight and sometimes the black man will be stronger. It really is a toss-up. Skin color has nothing to do with physical strength. As a woman, I know that 99% of grown men I run into are physically stronger than me and could easily overpower me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/23 02:35 PM
19	CMV: “Insecurity” and “Trust” are words increasingly being used to gaslight men I can be uncomfortable with a wildly inappropriate situation even if I trust that my partner didn’t actively cheat. If my husband chose to drive drunk, I would be livid even if he didn’t get into an accident and made it home safe. Same logic applies here. There is no scenario besides gun-to-head fantasy where anyone would be forced to sleep in the same bed as an ex. If I had to sleep in the same room as an ex, I’d sleep on the floor.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/23 02:27 PM
3	We hear enough about red flags on this sub, what are some of your dating green flags? Oh trust me, we can tell when you’re pretending. That’s why so many men are in miserable marriages and they can’t figure out why. “I pretend to listen to her just fine, she should be on her knees every night!” We can tell.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 04:06 PM
11	Though on the intention of patriarchal tradition The reason you keep women safe is simple: You need someone to keep giving birth to sons. If the birthgiver and incubator dies in war, you no longer have anyone to produce children. Also, women would be considered a burden to any military squadron. Imagine trying to protect someone with a screaming crying infant when you have to be stealthy in the jungle. This system wasn’t borne of love or honor toward women: it was simply practical to keep women out of war. “Love” wasn’t really a factor through…	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/23 02:12 PM
38	Permanent ban off another subreddit for “participation” in this one weird flex but OK Matrix It seems like we have these threads once or twice a week. It’s always the same subreddit and it always turns into a circlejerk about how the mods over there are terrible and fragile. It’s starting to get old.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/04/23 12:57 PM
4	Tradcons have no place in TRP And women’s natural tendency is to pursue the top 5% of men and simply accept that these men will have other women. So I guess you’ll have to accept 95% of men being involuntarily celibate and miserable. Unless, of course, you’d like to pursue some sort of system that forces both men and women to compromise so that we can both be happy? Something like…monogamy?	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 12:42 AM
2	Wildfire of Accusations OP, I wouldn’t be posting anything online about this case while you’re still actively involved in the legal process. I’m shocked your lawyer didn’t already tell you this.	/r/MensRights	18/04/23 11:10 PM
-1	CMV: Dumping awkward or unattractive guys into the Alaskan wilderness in late winter might make them more attractive. Adversity makes you less of an awkward weirdo because you stop worrying about dumb shit while socializing with others. This could actually work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 11:51 PM
6	Women in no kids relationship with a man who severely outearns you: do you reciprocate his contribution in any way? Bro she doesn’t want to do traditional stuff. Like staying home instead of working? Oh, I see, I see. You want her to be a western woman (keep working babe!) and a traditional woman at the same time (but also cook me breakfast and take care of me!) Pick one. Can’t have both.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 11:24 PM
5	Do you think in general having high social status allows men to get the highest quantity/quality of woman? Or because there are tons of women who are married to men not of “high status” and it comes off as insulting when you indirectly degrade our men by suggesting women don’t pursue other high-value qualities?	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 11:18 PM
4	We don’t talk enough about the “Settle Down” woman enough My husband doesn’t fit into AF/BB. He’s both - he’s the safe guy that I feel comfortable with and he’s also the hot guy I want to fuck. Neither men nor women want to be stuck in a single category. And there are plenty of women who are being treated as non-sexual beings by men who would rather watch porn or chase after hotter women on social media.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/04/23 12:05 AM
11	We don’t talk enough about the “Settle Down” woman enough Commitment isn’t that great if you’re still playing second fiddle sexually to porn stars and influencers. Let’s be honest. A lot of wives lament about how their husbands can’t get it up because he’s watching so much porn.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 11:16 PM
5	How do women feel about OF girls absorbing 80% of male discretionary income? So would you also argue that men are immoral when they use a woman’s desire for attention/validation to use her for sex? You know, when men give the illusion of a relationship even though he’s actually only looking for sex? Or is that the woman’s fault for not vetting properly? Because for me personally, I would say it’s the woman’s responsibility to vet properly and stop chasing men who give her tingles.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 04:23 PM
7	CMV : As a Man i believe using Game and Manipulation is immoral, but i believe u have to do it because otherwise u cant compete, and this is actually sad. So is it morally okay for a woman to lie about her sex drive so that a man will marry her?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 02:59 PM
27	Why do women continue to write articles trying to convince themselves they are happy? I really didn’t get the “bitter old girlboss” vibe from this article. This is a woman writing about her thoughts as she copes with aging. She realized that she’s getting older, society no longer sees her the same way, and she’s choosing to be optimistic rather than miserable. Where exactly is the issue here? I don’t see any man-shaming. I don’t see any criticism of the boy who called her “auntie.” I don’t see any hatred or cruelty. Even if she was happily married with kids, she would be experien…	/r/MensRights	16/04/23 02:35 PM
13	How do women feel about OF girls absorbing 80% of male discretionary income? The entire redpill is full of men who want to fuck promiscuous women and then settle down one day with a “good girl.” These men are perfectly fine with promiscuous women…as long as they can sleep with them behind closed doors and continue degrading them. EDIT: I also should’ve added: almost all men who hate OF models and porn stars still watch porn. And trust me, I tried to justify that cognitive dissonance in my head for a long time. But I couldn’t. There’s no logical reason to shame promiscuou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 01:29 PM
13	How do women feel about OF girls absorbing 80% of male discretionary income? If you think OF women are abusing their clients, then I can only conclude that you think men are incredibly weak-minded. All they have to do is…not buy porn. There’s no chemical dependence there. It’s 100% psychological. Again, women have been against porn forever and we were horrifically shamed for that stance. I’m done taking that stance when it’s men who make fools of us for having it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 01:26 PM
3	Female women, how would you feel if you learned that your boyfriend/husband used to do things for his ex that he never does to you? Depends on the context. If he tried BDSM once and decided he didn’t like it, that’s fair. If he did BDSM regularly with his ex, enjoyed it, but didn’t want to do it with me because “it was special with her” or “I don’t want to degrade you because I love you,” then we’d have a problem. And I would feel the same way if the genders were reversed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 03:54 AM
27	How do women feel about OF girls absorbing 80% of male discretionary income? What am I supposed to be holding women accountable for, exactly? Giving men what they want? Women should hold women accountable for abuse. So paternity fraud, false accusations, physical and emotional abuse, etc. A woman selling content online is not abusing men. A woman selling content to men who want to buy it is not abusing men. Men should hold each other accountable for abuse. Verbal and physical abuse, sexual assault, sexual harassment, etc. There’s a small minority of men who genuinely bel…	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 03:45 AM
97	How do women feel about OF girls absorbing 80% of male discretionary income? More power to ‘em. Look: if men want virgin “good girls” for marriage, and men are going to complain about how there aren’t enough good girls, every woman has an OF, blah, blah, blah…I’m not doing the heavy lifting for them. I’m not gonna shame OF models so that men can have more “good girls” to pick from. For centuries it was women who had to “protect” their men from porn stars and strippers and nasty mistresses. It was always the evil wife who had to guard her husband from his concubines. At s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/23 09:05 PM
-5	Q4women Does saying guys should work on themselves first to find dating success make any sense when it's women deciding what men should become? Men: “I can’t get a girlfriend!” Women: “Well here’s how you need to improve to get a girlfriend.” Men: “But that’s not the type of self-improvement I want!” Well, tough shit, then. The “women’s ideas on how to improve” really only matter when a man is trying to obtain sex or a relationship with a woman. In which case: beggars can’t be choosers. If you want to improve your life, feel free. No one’s stopping you. Women generally only give our opinions after you’ve complained about how we won’t fu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/23 03:12 PM
1	Why body count is different for men and women I’m chining in to add that I’m the same as you. My husband is the only man I’ve slept with and I would have left him early in the relationship if I found out he slept with a lot of women. Sleeping with a lot of women is an achievement only in men’s eyes. Just because something is difficult to achieve doesn’t mean it’s a positive thing. It would be extremely difficult for me to cut my own arm off with a butter knife. Doing so would prove I have grit and determination. Still a massive red flag, de…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/23 12:25 PM
6	Q4Women How have you changed or improved yourself to improve your chances of getting the kind of relationship you want with the kind of man you want? I started yoga/working out when I was 15 (to the point where a physician mentioned my “abnormally strong abdominal muscles” during a head-to-toe assessment). I asked my mom to set me up with a therapist when I was 16. Started getting help for my poor mental health. Bought dresses during high school and college because I saw online that a lot of guys like sundresses. Started learning how to style my hair properly. Definitely got positive results.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/23 01:05 AM
64	Men who advocate for trad relationships, what do you expect your relationship to look like in the future? This is what redpilled men don’t understand about the feminist movement. It was primarily driven by women who were the victims of culturally-approved male infidelity. This whole “men and women are different, women don’t care if men sleep around” rhetoric is hilarious considering the fact that male promiscuity drove women into the workforce to avoid being financially dependent on promiscuous men. Unfortunately, modern men who are loyal and faithful are being punished for the sins of their grandfa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 10:22 PM
7	Boyfriend making comments about women multiple times Men don’t value their looks the way women do - most men will not care if we comment on another man’s looks. Instead, comment on other men’s wealth. “Oooh, he has a nice car! I bet his girlfriend is gonna get a big diamond ring when he proposes…sigh lucky girl.” That’s the true equivalent.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/04/23 09:26 PM
2	Boyfriend making comments about women multiple times Your comment specifically cited the portion of OP’s post where she mentions comments, not stares. Read the first sentence of the snippet you quoted and then your response to that snippet.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/04/23 09:23 PM
-4	Would you agree that a lot of Red Pilled men suffer from the Madonna/whore complex? Most redpilled men can tolerate sex with the wife, but they would invariably prefer sex with the whore.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 07:48 PM
2	Would you agree that a lot of Red Pilled men suffer from the Madonna/whore complex? If you want to sleep with lots of women, but you only want to marry a virgin, then you have a Madonna-Whore complex. So, yes. I would argue that most redpillers do have a Madonna-Whore complex. They see some women as “fuckable” and other women as “marriageable.” The woman who becomes his wife will always be sexually inferior to the women he fucks. Because he will never be fully sexually attracted to a “marriageable” woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/23 07:47 PM
6	Boyfriend making comments about women multiple times In and of itself, this is not the end of the world. Men look at women all the time. We ALL do it. And for you ladies thinking "Not MY man!" yes, your man, too. Glancing at other women is fine. Commenting on other women is not fine.	/r/RedPillWomen	13/04/23 05:17 PM
3	whats the problem with a woman getting with a beta bucks? Men who lament about AF/bb seem to forget that women have our own version of that: the Madonna-Whore complex. Housewives have been playing second-fiddle to their husbands’ mistresses (or concubines, or gomars, whatever term you want to use) for centuries. If you were lucky you might be the center of your husband’s attention for a year or two after marriage, but after that it was considered normal for him to seek out other women. And this wasn’t just “alpha” men doing this. Even your average mech…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 08:56 PM
15	Should I be honest about my shameful past? If he finds out from someone else, it’s over. Are you willing to live with that fear for the rest of your life (assuming you do get married and stay together)? Always wondering if he’s going to run into a former partner of yours or someone who has a big mouth? What happens ten years down the line if he finds out from someone else? I don’t think I would want to live with that fear. Especially if I planned on bringing children into the mix. I also wouldn’t want to live with the knowledge that I’m …	/r/RedPillWomen	12/04/23 08:49 PM
37	Why don't women understand that men have to work and have money? Confirmation bias. There are plenty of men spending half their paychecks on weed, Magic cards, and $60 video games (not to mention in-game purchases). My husband was one of those guys. I took over the finances. I’ve been paying off his debts, his credit score looks great, and I have started a Roth IRA for him. I’m also pushing him to sign up for his 401K but he has ADHD so he keeps forgetting. Either way, I’m the one who’s financially responsible. Him and his (male) friends are all completely co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/04/23 04:20 PM
3	Marriage is not healthy for Red Pillers or the women with them. And most women are into monogamous marriage because they don’t want their provider to impregnate another woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 02:13 PM
35	CMV: The fact that Red Pillers still want their daughters to be educated girlbosses is hypocritical The only reason college and work is “poison” for women is because it gives us an escape route should our husbands turn out to be pigs. And men don’t like that. You want your wife to be a beta bux homemaker while you continue to chase after alpha fucks promiscuous women behind her back. Let’s be real: redpillers want women to be financially dependent on a man so that she can’t complain when he’s ogling other women on the streets or going to strip clubs or seeing a mistress. That’s the entire reas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 02:11 PM
1	I don't even post here often. Often times I don't even agree with half of you, but it is clear to me that we are used as objects of mockery, the topics of mens rights, and men's mental health, is a dog whistle for some very bad toxic people who delight in the suffering of others. The internet really is not the place to post about your poor mental health. It would be like going into a COD lobby and talking about your depression. Women also complain about getting random dick pics and men soliciting them for sex when they talk about their problems on the internet…same response from me. The internet is a brutal place. Of course you deserve respect and dignity. But the internet is simply not the place to look for it except in heavily-modded subreddits, and even those have the…	/r/MensRights	11/04/23 02:00 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Nah, just no pitbulls.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/23 11:14 PM
13	Does your husband support your hobbies? Why should a woman’s life revolve around her role (caring for husband and kids), but a man’s life shouldn’t revolve around his role (working and providing)? Why do men get a break from their role and women don’t?	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/23 10:37 PM
0	Is this a red flag? I would avoid dating men who invest in crypto currency. Their financial decisions should not be trusted. Big gains, even bigger losses. And often big temper tantrums/emotional outbursts when those losses happen. You dodged a bullet.	/r/RedPillWomen	10/04/23 09:42 PM
25	Are men genuinely worse potential partners these days? If every man was successful, would these problems still persist due to hypergamy? Women no longer need to rely on a man for a stable income, so women can afford to have a higher set of standards. Men aren’t worse partners - it’s just that (as a whole) men were never the greatest partners to begin with. Remember: it used to be considered normal and acceptable for men to cheat. I work with the elderly and I’ve now heard multiple old women in their 70s and 80s talk about the “look the other way” attitude women had in the past in regards to their husbands’ infidelity. Boys will b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/23 09:32 PM
–	In response to the 'young women are treated like children' ideology. Older redpilled men seem very concerned about paternity fraud, baby trapping, divorce-rape, and other forms of female-on-male abuse. But men seem to be unwilling to admit that young men would be more vulnerable to this abuse from women. Especially older women who have dated around enough to know how to manipulate a young man. I think of all the ways I as a 26-year-old woman would be able to manipulate an 18-year-old boy. I could probably destroy his credit score, get myself pregnant (all I’d hav…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/04/23 08:58 PM
3	If you consider the need for a paternity test to be mandatory for raising a child, you probably shouldn’t be dating in the first place Plenty of paternity fraud victims trusted their partners not to cheat. “Trust” means nothing when it comes to any legally-binding contract. Don’t put your signature on anything legally-binding based on “trust.” This includes a birth certificate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/04/23 10:54 PM
23	CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD. Why don’t men want to protect young men from crazy women? There are plenty of young men who are paying child support for the next 18 years to batshit crazy women. Young men who have been the victims of paternity fraud, baby trapping, verbal/mental/physical abuse from women. Young men who can’t see their kids because their baby mamas engage in parental alienation. Why the FUCK wouldn’t men want to protect each other from this fate? You’re really telling me if you had an 18-year-old brother who wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 05:00 PM
9	CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD. I’ve seen plenty of young men stuck paying child support at the age of 18 because they slept with a crazy woman and ended up getting her pregnant. Maybe older men should stand up and start making a stand to protect young men from stupid decisions. But men don’t care about each other.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 04:27 PM
12	CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD. I don’t. I think older women who date young men are creeps and should deal with the consequences if they get pregnant. If paper abortions were legal I’d 100% help my 18-year-old son pursue one if he was dumb enough to impregnate an older woman. And then I’d lecture him about the idiocy of his choices.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 04:25 PM
14	CMV: Men see younger men as other men, where women see younger women as little children. This is at the core of many disagreements on PPD. Every man says this until his 18-year-old daughter is dating a 40-year-old. Then suddenly she’s a child who can’t make her own decisions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 04:22 PM
2	CMV: "The bar is in hell" is a true statement.......but only for modern women. Okay, then men might have to go sexless for a while to correct the power dynamic. As long as more men participate, the chances of this correcting in the next 10 years go up. The only problem is you’d have to convince more men to basically go MGTOW.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 01:30 PM
1	CMV: "The bar is in hell" is a true statement.......but only for modern women. Criticizing modern women will never work. As long as you keep fucking them (even if it’s the “I’m using her for her body” type of fucking), they have zero reason to change their ways.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 01:28 PM
6	CMV: Women not wanting to be judged and having terrible judgement are two sides of the same coin What? I’m pretty sure OP is saying that these women don’t want to be judged, and they also don’t judge others…which is why they end up in abusive relationships. Because they don’t judge men for their red flags. That makes them not hypocritical at all. But still unintelligent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 01:26 PM
–	Daily Community Chat Megathread Men: I want a good woman to marry Good woman: Okay but the fact that you’re sleeping around with a lot of different women is a red flag to me Men: how dare you it’s natural male instinct we are master keys and this is a sign that we are valuable	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/23 07:52 PM
23	I can't cope with my non-RPW past It’s okay to be unhappy with your past actions. However, living in shame will offer no benefit to your future relationships. This shame will affect your ability to express yourself sexually with your future husband. Because I can tell you’re already starting to think of yourself as “not pure,” and that shame will blare bright red when you’re getting intimate with your future husband. It will put a wall between you and him. As I said, it’s okay to be unhappy. It’s okay to wish you hadn’t done tha…	/r/RedPillWomen	06/04/23 02:20 PM
6	Chris Brown gets heat to this day over what happened in 2009 and lost a lot career wise in a situation in where both him and rihanna were in the wrong on top of receiving tons of abuse? But how on earth does Mary J Blige get away with it and perform at the superbowl 2022?! Rihanna forgave Chris Brown. But people don’t accept that because “abuse victims will always forgive their abusers because of trauma.” Then they will simultaneously go on to talk about how Rihanna is so strong and empowered and badass…but when it comes to Chris Brown and her forgiveness of his actions, somehow she’s a weak victim whose word means nothing. “Well she forgave him but I didn’t!” Way to make her domestic violence experience about yourself. I don’t know any other word to describe it b…	/r/MensRights	06/04/23 01:41 PM
–	If it wasn't for sex, most men would not bother with women. I actually enjoy my husband’s company. In fact, many women enjoy men’s company. We want to talk to you and be part of your life and hear about your day. But men complain about that. Men complain when women want to talk about your day and spend intimate (not sexual, but emotionally intimate) time together. But that’s us saying “hey we like you and want to be with you.” It’s weird how men resent women for trying to be emotionally connected…then simultaneously argue that women only want men for res…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/04/23 12:34 AM
13	When they ask what you do for work? You’re in the wrong subreddit. We don’t shame aspiring SAHMs, here.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/23 02:12 AM
71	When they ask what you do for work? You tell them the truth. Whatever the truth is, that’s what you tell them.	/r/RedPillWomen	05/04/23 02:10 AM
1	Why are female role models all so poor? Because, contrary to popular belief, women enjoy sex. We know that we have power in the sexual marketplace. So women like Cardi B and the Kardashians would be the female version of “Chad.” These are women who could have literally any man they want. So they are at the top of the sexual marketplace where women have power. Women want to be hot and sexy and empowered like Cardi B. Don’t get me wrong: I wish women would value things other than their looks. And there are certainly women who do value t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/23 11:02 PM
45	It seems to be pretty common especially with dating apps, etc that young girls are lying about their age to sleep with older men.. Young girls want to grow up faster and faster. Male sexual attention is rapidly becoming a hot commodity among young women. When I started dating my husband (he was my first relationship), I was 19 and super naive. His ex-girlfriend, who cheated on him, started texting him as soon as she found out we were dating. Asking him how his life was going, how he was doing, etc. Then came the flirting and the questions about me. She then started a “social media” war with me. Posting thirst traps with cap…	/r/MensRights	04/04/23 09:18 PM
11	Western men deserve to get a girl more attractive than them CMV It’s not about what you “deserve.” Men have rock-bottom standards for who they will sleep with, and women have learned to profit from that (either from OF or the simple thrill and enjoyment of casual sex with lots of men who offer unlimited attention). It’s not women’s fault that men primarily value looks. It’s also not women’s responsibility to avoid taking advantage of men’s sexual desperation. Men can’t demand respect when you’re spending hard-earned cash on Belle Delphine’s bath water. You c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/23 07:08 PM
7	How can I support my s/o? You could always plan some activities (massage, foot rub, etc.) for him when he returns and excitedly tell him about your plans when you do call. “I got this nice lotion that helps with aching muscles, I was thinking of giving you a back rub when you come home!” Not only does this show that you are thinking about him, but it also gets his mind focused on back rubs and physical intimacy with you…which will hopefully distract him from the hostility at work.	/r/RedPillWomen	04/04/23 02:23 AM
7	What do you think of the stereotype that woman are deeply complex creatures with a myriad of wants and needs whereas men are simple creatures that are very easily satisfied? I think men are equally as complex and difficult to understand. The really fun thing about men is that they will describe themselves as simple…while simultaneously having their own irrational quirks. The Madonna-Whore complex is a fantastic example. Look - it’s in the name! Madonna-Whore complex. You could write an entire book about it. The female version of alpha fucks/beta bucks. Men were doing AF/bb long before women thought of it - they just had a different name for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/23 08:59 PM
27	Why some men have absolutely no standards? I have a friend on social media who posted about how her grandmother died of breast cancer and it was this long emotional post about breast cancer awareness, etc. One of her (male) friends responded with something like, “Yes! I love boobies ;)!” I sat there for a good long time and wondered what was going through his head. Did he think he was making himself look good? Did he think this would turn her on? Was this his way of flirting? I can only conclude that he’s so horny and so desperate that h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/04/23 08:56 PM
–	I have a hard time believing Dad bods are in By “dad bod,” most women mean “muscular men with a little bit of fat.” Women who want men that are legitimately overweight are abusive and their opinions should be disregarded anyway. Those women are the types to bring you a Big Mac in the hospital room after your triple bypass and piss off all the nurses and doctors who are actually trying to help you. I also think part of it is that some women want men to be low-energy, passive, and high in estrogen (fat tissue is the primary source of estroge…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/23 11:35 PM
6	Currently being harassed by Feminists for posting on this Subreddit. (Serious Slander) Men: “I don’t want to date girls who go clubbing in revealing clothing…” Women: “We NEED to figure out who is RADICALIZING these men they are becoming VERY DANGEROUS and I’m scared and-“ Lol ok.	/r/MensRights	02/04/23 11:01 PM
-2	How do women honestly feel about guys that are genuinely going about improving themselves but still can’t get laid? If you can’t get laid then that’s a green flag in my eyes. It means you’re probably a good guy. The men women like to casually sleep with are generally not very good men. When I see a guy sleeping with a lot of different women, that’s a good sign to me that something’s off about him. Virgins are husband material.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/23 07:46 PM
3	Has anyone here ever read Mark Greene and Man Box Culture? Both men and women would benefit taking a page from the opposite sex’s playbook.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/23 04:01 PM
9	Curious what everyone here's stand is on the porn/OF industry But we look like fools when we shame them. Men praise us for shaming promiscuous women…while simultaneously sleeping with and validating them. The wife who shames her husband’s mistress (as opposed to her husband) looks like a fool. That’s why I refuse to shame promiscuous women. I have zero power to change this dynamic. It’s men who need to stop sleeping with them - that’s where their true power lies.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/04/23 02:11 PM
12	Curious what everyone here's stand is on the porn/OF industry Traditional women are slowly starting to avoid men who sleep casually with lots of women because we see that you are enablers of promiscuous women. And we hate being in sexual competition with promiscuous women. I think a lot of traditional women are starting to reject the Madonna-Wh*re complex. I would not have married my husband if I knew he slept with a lot of “304s” before me. I don’t select for men who validate and encourage promiscuous women by sleeping with them.	/r/RedPillWomen	02/04/23 02:07 PM
37	Men are not insecure. You just don't provide security. Women want men to protect them and there is immense social pressure for men to fulfill that role. A man who doesn’t adequately protect his woman is called all sorts of names that I won’t repeat here. Well, if you have the socially-designated responsibility to protect, then you should also have some authority. “I can do whatever I want!” Okay, but don’t expect your man to deal with the fallout when you went somewhere dangerous against his judgment and ended up hurt because of it.	/r/MensRights	02/04/23 01:55 PM
0	Western Women hate it when men have sexual access as easy as they do CMV I don’t hate men having easy sexual access. What I do hate is when men have lots of sexual access and continue to shame the women they’re sleeping with. While simultaneously complaining “there aren’t any good wife material women left!” Of course not. Because you’ve made it more profitable, fun, and validating for women to be promiscuous. Why be a good girl when I can sleep with lots of Chads? Don’t need a husband anymore to support ourselves financially. Birth control makes it so I don’t have to…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/23 11:21 PM
8	Western Women hate it when men have sexual access as easy as they do CMV Isn’t it men who are complaining about how there aren’t enough “good girls” left to marry, only sluts and OF models? Women are starting to realize that being a high-end escort is preferable to being a wife. Hell, even being single and an OF model has more benefits than marriage to a man for a lot of women. Which is fine. But it seems to be men who are asking “where have all the good girls gone”? And then having the nerve to act like it’s the sluts’ fault that there are no “good girls” left?	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/23 11:16 PM
24	Curious what everyone here's stand is on the porn/OF industry I used to be one of those women who “slut shames” others. Then I realized I looked like a fool and I was wasting my breath. There are women out there who are genuinely enjoying the promiscuous life and who will have zero regrets even in their 50s and 60s. Why should I keep exhausting myself trying to shame them when it’s men who give them the motivation to be promiscuous in the first place? Besides, shaming other women was making me feel bitter and harming my personal sense of femininity (which …	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/23 10:19 PM
96	Curious what everyone here's stand is on the porn/OF industry I’m not a fan of it. But I have been told not to police men’s sexuality. So if women want to sell their pictures/videos, and men want to purchase them, it’s not my problem. If men are angry that women can make so much money simply by getting naked, then they should stop consuming porn and encourage other men to do so. If men dislike promiscuous women, they should stop gifting those women with sexual validation (and contrary to popular redpill theory, women do desire sexual validation). It’s not …	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/23 08:01 PM
62	Dear women reading this: you're not competing against other women. As a woman I don’t think this sounds ridiculous at all. I wish more men felt this way about themselves.	/r/MensRights	01/04/23 07:51 PM
9	The Whatever podcast: breakdown of woke OF girls and what it means for the rest of us! I feel as though women have been rallying against porn/paid sex for a long time. The wife who nags her husband about going to the strip club. The girlfriend who laments that her boyfriend watches porn. In response we were always told: “You need to learn about male sexuality! Men need variety! He chose you so stop being insecure about his porn habits!” I don’t think it was ever about insecurity (at least, insecurity wasn’t the only motivation behind our discomfort). I think myself and other women…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/23 03:18 PM
87	The average misandrist If “all men could potentially attack me” is a valid reason for a woman to be paranoid around men, then… “All women could potentially commit paternity fraud” is a valid reason for a man to request a paternity test.	/r/MensRights	01/04/23 01:47 PM
21	What is day-to-day, concrete ways to show respect to your husband ? Do not mention problems unless you want solutions. I feel like this one is the odd one out. Sometimes men and women both have needs that go against the others’ nature. For example, we recently saw a post where a woman started initiating sex with her husband even when she didn’t feel like it. She did this because she knew that sex was a need for him and she wanted to make him feel loved even when she herself didn’t feel interested in sex. And it helped! Her marriage grew stronger. Sometimes women…	/r/RedPillWomen	01/04/23 12:59 PM
41	How to help my husband with his porn problem? The only type of porn that I can imagine having legal ramifications would be child-porn or other non-consensual porn. If that’s the case he needs to face those legal ramifications and undergo extensive therapy.	/r/RedPillWomen	31/03/23 08:58 PM
6	What is the appeal of younger men (mid 20's) for older women (30's 40's)? The same appeal that younger women have to older men: young people are more easily impressed. Also, young people are more likely to believe you have your shit together. I remember when I was 19, my oldest brother seemed like he had the ideal life. He was mature, charismatic, and really portrayed himself as someone who had his life together. Always had “wisdom” to share with me. Blah, blah. He always seemed so cool to me. Now, as I get older, I have started to recognize the red flags that his lif…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/23 08:40 PM
3	How much do you relate to traditional gender roles? I feel more feminine naturally, but being in a relationship with someone who has ADHD has forced me to take on more masculine roles (managing our finances, making sure his license and registration get renewed upon expiring, making sure our debts get paid, helping him get a driver’s license, etc.) So I’m kind of a hardass in my relationship because it’s the only way we’ve managed to stay out of debt and on track to a normal retirement. Also, being told constantly as a child that I was a “crybaby”…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/23 07:49 PM
5	I'm sick of women complaining about "mental load" I’m confused by all the people here trashing the concept of “mental load” since I’ve seen plenty of men in this position. You can find them in the relationship subreddits, the marriage subreddits, etc. Working full time while simultaneously being responsible for 100% of the childcare, doctor’s appointments, remembering school functions and sports training and everything else that’s required to keep your life a well-oiled machine…it’s a lot of work. I’ve seen men complain about carrying the “ment…	/r/MensRights	31/03/23 04:34 PM
16	"But slut shaming is counterproductive wth bro ?!" What motivation lies behind slutshaming ? Promiscuous women will always have some level of control over men, and men hate it. It’s why some men get aggressive and angry when they feel sexual attraction to a woman. It’s why men feel the need to demean and shame promiscuous women. Yes, I want to fuck your brains out. I want to fuck your brains out so badly it actually keeps me up at night and will psychologically damage me if I don’t achieve that goal…but don’t you dare get arrogant thinking you have any power over me! You’re a whore! Pro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/23 01:05 PM
6	How much do antidepressants and birth control have to do with the libido gap? Women have a monthly cycle that greatly affects our mood, libido, energy levels, appetite, sleep habits, and even our bowel habits. Some women experience shortness of breath prior to their periods. Some women (like me) experience insomnia during ovulation. We have very little understanding of this cycle. I didn’t learn about it until I took an anatomy and physiology class in college. Until then I thought I was a nutcase because sometimes I would be super unbelievably horny and other times sex di…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/23 10:32 PM
1	my hawt takes on dating/relationships. What r urs A hot take that’s been brewing lately in my head: Contrary to redpill belief, I don’t think women rely on other women’s opinions to select for men. Redpillers constantly talk about how women choose men who are trash, and trust me: women know it, too. I would never trust a woman’s opinion on who’s a good guy and who isn’t. If I see a lot of Instagram influencers or toxic women trying to get with you, that’s actually a red flag. The common argument is: “If a guy is popular with women, then more wo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	30/03/23 09:29 PM
6	Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ? I’m 100% fine with men being hesitant to get a vasectomy. I would be too if I was a man. I would never demand that my husband get one, even if we didn’t want kids. The problem is when you treat your male body like it’s some sacred temple that should not be medicalized while simultaneously demanding that women take birth control so that you don’t have to become a father while sowing your wild oats. Not you in particular, but many men have this mentality. Unexpected pregnancies suck for both gende…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 11:59 PM
19	Men want women who look promiscuous but don't actually act promiscous It would appear that men want women who are promiscuous for easy sex and women who aren’t promiscuous for marriage. The problem occurs when married women realize that the promiscuous women will always have some measure of power over their husbands. Whether it be through porn (and subsequent unrealistic expectations), actual infidelity with a mistress, visits to the strip club while the wife’s at home breastfeeding…non-promiscuous women do notice the sway that promiscuous women have over men. And…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 10:15 PM
5	Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ? Or you can use your rational male brain and think to yourself: “Hm, this girl says she’s taking the pill, but people regularly forget to take their medications. Maybe I should take responsibility for my own body instead of throwing a woman in jail because she forgot to take a pill.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 09:41 PM
1	Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ? I would love it if people would do that, but we live in the real world where men want to fuck lots of different women and women want the sexual validation that comes from fucking lots of men. So we need to prevent these people from breeding and birth control is the best option we have.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 09:38 PM
6	Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ? Plenty of women have been raped and denied abortions. Not sure what you’re on about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 09:29 PM
4	Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ? Oh please, you’re not perfect. I guarantee you’ve missed a dose of medication before. Everyone has. It’s why nurses are trained what to tell people to do when they miss a dose of an antibiotic or an antidepressant.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 09:28 PM
8	Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ? Okay. The IUD can perforate the uterus. I have a friend whose IUD ended up by her liver and she needed painful surgery to remove it. I know women who had to stop taking birth control due to the horrific mood changes it caused, including suicidal ideation, not to mention lack of libido. Oh, and I know two girls who developed blood clots from hormonal birth control. One of them died. Welcome to the club.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 09:25 PM
12	Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ? Birth control increases a woman’s risk of blood clots, heart attack, and stroke. I know a girl who lost her 18-year-old sister after she developed multiple blood clots from the Nexplanon implant. I know another girl who just went to the ER for a DVT and pulmonary embolism. Depo provera. Not to mention all the hormonal changes that come with birth control (loss of libido, weight gain, mood changes, energy loss, etc.) Yet, if a woman was complaining about men who take off condoms or who poke holes…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 09:22 PM
15	Does the Rarity of "Nun Abuse" Cases Prove That Women Are Better at Handling Isolation and Celibacy? There have been documented cases of nun abuse. However, as with all cases of female pedophilia, it’s less likely to be reported. It’s often considered “normal” for women to touch each other. I remember my mom’s friends casually seeing me naked when I was a young girl. If I had any sort of medical problem, it was not considered strange for my mom and her female friends to take my clothes off and examine me or even touch me. I never thought of it as weird until I started thinking about how I’d lik…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 09:09 PM
77	Should “trapping a man” count as rape by deceit ? I do think it should be a crime to lie about being on birth control or to impregnate yourself with a discarded condom. BUT men will have to deal with the same problem that female rape victims deal with: these crimes are very difficult to prove. It becomes a he-said, she-said situation. You can’t prosecute a woman who genuinely forgot to take the pill. And all it takes is one missed dose to affect the pill’s efficacy. All a woman has to do is say “I forgot to take it.” You would have to prove bey…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 03:17 PM
9	All other things the same would you choose an 8 in intelligence and a 6 in looks, or an 8 in looks and a 6 in intelligence for a wife. How can you barely spell and still claim you’ve never met a woman you perceived as intellectually superior?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 01:34 PM
9	Everyone man should make a dating profile as a moderately attractive Woman and see how you feel. You can see how desperate some men seem.. Try responding to the “hey beautiful” messages and see how quickly they ask you to send nudes. Or send a dick pic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 01:33 PM
3	Identifying toxic and predatory women Men don’t see a problem with fucking toxic women because, in their minds, you can only hurt a woman by fucking her and who cares if men hurt toxic women? In reality, toxic women love the sexual validation that men give them. That’s why they chase after married men - they love feeling superior to a man’s wife and the mother of his children. The man thinks his wife is unaffected and the mistress truly desires him - in reality, the mistress only cares about upstaging the wife. The man is just a too…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 01:22 AM
4	Identifying toxic and predatory women Look at all the women responding and offering genuine red flags that men will continue to ignore because “me want sexy sex”	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 01:18 AM
14	Myron from FNF is the best thing to happen to men, specifically younger men Isn’t Myron the guy who told a bunch of women, “You have to call out people who have stupid opinions. Even if it makes them uncomfortable, you have to call them out.” (I can’t remember what he said verbatim, but it was to that effect). Then, when he had an admitted rapist on his show, he tucked his tail between his legs and said nothing even though he was clearly uncomfortable? This is the guy who’s a role model? The guy who shakes in his boots when other men are around?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/03/23 01:15 AM
3	Is the high rates of mental illness amongst women contributing to the dating/relationship disparity? It is so incredibly easy to be diagnosed as bipolar. I was diagnosed as bipolar by a social worker. When I went to a psychiatric hospital, the psychiatrist started prescribing me meds before even meeting with me. I don’t believe I’m bipolar. I think I had PMDD mixed with a really abusive household. Once I moved out of my mom’s house, 95% of my symptoms mysteriously vanished. But no one even tried to actually figure out what was wrong with me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/23 11:08 PM
77	Man must consent. Man stupid for not having sex. A man denying sex is a very powerful thing. It completely robs women of power in the sexual marketplace. Up until this moment she truly believed that all men were pathetic enough to instantly pop a boner the moment she offers sex. And now she has finally met a man with self-respect and boundaries and dignity. She’s shaming him now, but she will 100% always think back to him. The guy who “wasn’t like all the others.”	/r/MensRights	28/03/23 08:18 PM
6	What would happen if women lowered their standards? Women’s standards don’t matter. Whoever has control over commitment is the dominant force in society - that’s men. It has always been men. The problem is that men have historically given over some of this power to women in exchange for sex. Here’s an example: Married man starts an affair for some good old sexual variety. In other words, he is no longer offering his wife total commitment (he broke the contract). His mistress knows that she can completely ruin his life. All she has to do is contac…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/23 02:49 PM
13	"The Hoe Phase" We understand the analogy. But a man becomes less valuable as a husband when he’s been passed around. No woman wants to deal with all your ex-hookups and fuck buddies who are bragging about how they “had you first.” The mistake men made was thinking they’re a key. A key opens a door and lets me somewhere useful. You’re not valuable to me as a key if the only thing you’re opening is another woman’s legs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/03/23 01:24 PM
5	The rise of Andrew Tate is due to a lot of men seeing women only chase successful men and(To Tate fans) he shows a definitive path to becoming those men… Let’s assume (for the sake of argument) that the allegations against Andrew Tate are false. Let’s assume his supposed victims are lying. Isn’t Andrew Tate the king of “I know how to manipulate women”? Isn’t he the guy who tells men how to be successful with women? The same guy who is now in jail because of the very women he claimed to have complete control over? Men need to decide what they want. If you want sex, and you’re willing to do anything to get sex, then don’t call yourself a good man. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/23 09:14 PM
23	Thoughts on Jazz Jennings? Apparently Jazz was drawing breasts and anuses in school as a child. She also had issues with wetting her pants well beyond the age that this is normal for a child. I use “she” pronouns because this is Reddit. These are obvious signs of sexual abuse. A child who has a history of sexual abuse and who is exhibiting gender dysphoria should not be given any form of gender reassignment treatment until they have gone to extensive therapy to treat their trauma. No one with unhealed trauma should underg…	/r/MensRights	27/03/23 02:50 PM
1	Do RP men who are extremely discouraged by dating ever consider how their attitudes come across to women? It’s actually hilarious how some of the comments are: “Well I wouldn’t tell her I feel that way! She wouldn’t find out!” Ironically, women use the same dishonesty to hide their body counts. And men get pissed about this type of dishonesty. Rules for thee, not for meeeeee	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/03/23 12:57 AM
67	The word "Incel" should never be used as an insult People only seem to care about the quirky “haha look at my dinosaur footsie pajamas” type of neurodivergency. The hyperactive chronically-childish adult who hates the sound of people chewing too loud and can’t order their own food over the phone. If your neurodivergency includes any sort of awkwardness, flat affect, creepy jokes that you genuinely intended to be funny…people suddenly lose all patience and are very quick to tell you that “neurodivergence isn’t an excuse.” Only feminine-style neur…	/r/MensRights	26/03/23 09:37 PM
2	The reason why older male/younger female age gap relationships are shamed: The double standard exists because men are far less likely to see themselves as victims. Not because of physical strength, but because they’re so desperate for sex. In a man’s mind, a woman can’t be a genuine threat when she’s offering sex. An older woman can’t hurt you by having sex with you - she can only give you a good time. Anytime a female teacher rapes a male student, it’s always men who comment: “Lucky him!” That’s why the double standard exists. Men only want to be victims when it suits…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/03/23 12:00 AM
29	Bill Maher just can’t help himself. After an earlier segment talking about the struggles men face with Scott Galway he sets up his New Rules segment implying a 14 year old boy should be grateful that he was sexually assaulted by school lunch lady. This is the problem. “Was the kid forced?” This mentality. This right here is a big reason why women stop seeing men as victims. When one of us (and I am a woman) tries to stand up for a young male victim, you pull this rhetoric. “He wasn’t forced! He wanted it!” Trust me: there are plenty of teen girls who want to fuck their hot teachers. You’d still be frothing at the mouth if any of those men slept with your 14-year-old daughter. I would love to protect young men from obviously-unstable older…	/r/MensRights	25/03/23 08:24 PM
5	N Count Weekly Discussion Thread I mean…if I had a car and the engine was destroyed because the previous owner somehow broke it, and I knew I’d have to replace the engine, I wouldn’t buy the car. You also want a car with lower mileage because it means your engine will last longer. You kinda picked a bad analogy to prove your point. Cars are not people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 07:57 PM
13	I’m curious what this sub thinks of Aba and Preach’s latest video on Fresh and Fit interviewing a rape advocate laughing about rape with no pushback. No one knows what Preach’s wife looks like. A bunch of people tried to find her, but the pictures they found turned out to be of a former coworker/fellow dancer. Not his actual wife.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/23 07:31 PM
1	Mating Strategies You’re absolutely right. There’s no guarantee he will be loyal. He has all the green flags of loyalty, but you simply can’t ever know. I will put my faith in him the same way he put his faith in me. I’m sure it was hard for him to believe I’d stay faithful during his darkest days, and there were some moments of insecurity on his end, but ultimately he trusted me. So I’m going to try to trust him as well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 09:39 PM
2	Mating Strategies He gets a 5-7mm kidney stone every year. We have a yearly trip to the ER for dilaudid, Flomax, and sometimes a lovely stent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 09:37 PM
4	Mating Strategies I would say I’m an average woman. I started dating my husband when I was 19. He thinks I’m a 10/10 but I’d say we’re both average from an objective standpoint. I’m his “ideal type” physically. My “strategy” is simple: I’m giving my “prime” (according to the redpill) years to my husband even though he’s nowhere near his “prime.” I’m loyal to him. I love him. I have stayed with him during the hardest times and I am busting my butt to help manage his finances since he has zero idea what to do with …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 05:47 PM
6	Should I cater to my husband even when i work? You have to contribute something to the relationship that isn’t money, as men can make money themselves. It would appear that OP is working to supplement her husband’s income so that they can save for a down payment on a house. OP, is this job something you pursued in order to speed up the process of purchasing a home, or did your husband ask you to work? If it’s the latter, then the above principle becomes moot. A man cannot “make his own money” when he’s asking his wife to work.	/r/RedPillWomen	24/03/23 05:25 PM
4	Being attracted to 18 year old's is comparable to a high n count women It’s also reality that women prefer 6ft.+ tall men with 8 inch dicks, but men here have zero problems complaining about that and calling it disgusting when women choose “Chad” over average-looking nice guys. Women’s natural tendency toward hypergamy should be criticized because it often leads to instability in society and fucks over good men. Men’s natural tendency toward non-monogamy and pursuing very young women (versus staying loyal to the aging wife) should be criticized because it leads to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/23 02:18 PM
-2	Tired of sharing opinions like this and being called a "pick me" by catty women. How can anyone argue that women behaving like this isn't abusive? Turn the tables and women would lose their minds. Imagine if a man wrote the same post about other men. He would (rightfully) be called out for pandering to women. A man who demonizes other men in an attempt to elevate himself will always be an asshole. This is why we call out male feminists - they don’t actually care about women, they just repeat what feminists say in the hopes that they will get more dates. And there are women who do the same shit to men. It’s one thing to call out abusive behavior in cases where it’s relevant. But ranting an…	/r/MensRights	23/03/23 06:24 PM
3	Interesting series of posts about infidelity and divorce from r/relationship_advice, your takes? Ah, I’m sorry. I understand why you think and live the way you do after an experience like that. I would be the same. But if my husband were in that position I’d be by his side.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 02:11 PM
29	Interesting series of posts about infidelity and divorce from r/relationship_advice, your takes? So, first of all, the swelling that his wife experienced was fluid retention. I’m not saying she didn’t gain weight…but the swelling that made her look like a “monster” was beyond her control. A woman’s body takes time to return to its normal homeostasis after a pregnancy. OP’s wife was only eight months post-partum when they started trying for another baby. This is most likely the reason why her second pregnancy was such a shit-show. OP and his wife gave her body very little time to recover fro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 02:09 PM
3	Interesting series of posts about infidelity and divorce from r/relationship_advice, your takes? In this case, you’re not talking about love but a partnership. By that logic, if the man gets cancer and stops working, it’s okay for the wife to bounce.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/03/23 01:44 PM
8	Resentment over superior male strength drives female grievance politics As a woman, I’m just going to throw this out there as food for thought. Jordan Peterson once described how there is an underlying reality of physical violence to every male interaction. As in, most men who are interacting with each other are subconsciously aware of the fact that the conversation could escalate to physical violence. Thus, men have a natural tendency to size each other up even when they aren’t consciously planning on fighting. In other words, if another man is a lot bigger or stro…	/r/MensRights	22/03/23 05:19 PM
110	Rapper Waka Flocka walks off Fresh and Fit podcast over debate about rape culture and body count. 6 girls leave as well. Myron says rape culture is a myth. Was he being way too insensitive with this topic whether it’s true or false? If 1 in 4 girls have experienced sexual assault by the time they turn 18, and 1 in 6 boys have experienced sexual assault by the time they turn 18…I’d say we have a problem, here. Not sure why Myron feels so comfortable being insensitive about this topic when he knows that young boys are victims, too. Your sons are just as vulnerable as your daughters. And your sons are less likely to come to you because of the stigma that boys experience as victims. None of those men care about other men or boy…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 09:07 PM
3	To all the women coming to my profile to find dirt on me because of my post in offmychest How does your wife feel about the fact that you’re gay? If she does have any negative feelings about it (insecurity, hurt, etc.) those feelings are bound to show up front and center when she’s pregnant and hormonal. The way pregnancy hormones affect a woman’s mindset can be unpredictable and these changes can be permanent. It sounds like you have a good partnership, but it would be wise to ensure your wife doesn’t harbor any hidden negative emotions. These things can bubble up over time and dest…	/r/MensRights	21/03/23 08:59 PM
9	Honest and genuine question. What is it that women actually want? Oh, well. That explains why women don’t want most men, then.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/23 02:09 PM
-6	Thoughts on your man going out all night with friends This would be a huge issue for me. I respect a man who knows his place. Alcohol is a drug that will bring the strongest man to his knees. Doesn’t matter how big or tough or how smart he is - there are grown men right now, as I type, lying in puddles of their own vomit because of alcohol. There are grown men sobbing and trembling and drooling in the hospital because of alcohol. There are grown men dead in the ground because of alcohol. Any man who thinks he’s above alcohol is childish in my eyes.…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/03/23 12:17 AM
13	Benevolent sexism is underreported I would argue otherwise. Believe it or not, most women hate nagging. If I see that the dishes need to be done, and I (hypothetically) have a husband who does not actively do chores, I have two options: A) I can nag him to do the dishes. This means that I will have to hover over his shoulder to make sure he actually completes the task and continue nagging him if he doesn’t. This pisses him off and makes me feel like a nag which harms our relationship as a whole. B) I do the dishes myself and avoi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/23 11:40 PM
2	We all know how men feel about women's body counts. How do women feel about a man's? Thank you. We have our problems, but I’m happy with him. Neither of us had examples of healthy relationships growing up, so we are definitely still learning.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 11:42 PM
17	We all know how men feel about women's body counts. How do women feel about a man's? I prefer men with low body counts. My husband was a virgin when we started dating, and so was I. I would have been less attracted to him if he had a high body count. I know this because he initially lied to me about his body count (he was young and dumb). He eventually admitted to being a virgin and my attraction to him increased.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 10:58 PM
18	Men should stop trying to rationalize and justify their body count preferences. That’s what a lot of redpillers don’t understand. There are plenty of women who aren’t promiscuous or who want to wait until marriage to have sex. The problem is that a lot of men who prefer virgins/low body-count don’t hold themselves to the same standards. They will sleep with (or at least try to sleep with) women on a casual basis while still pursuing a virgin for marriage. And women who are more conservative/traditional find that behavior disgusting. Redpillers keep trying to convince women …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 08:23 PM
53	Q4W: How would you console, and what advice would you give to a hypothetical son who couldn’t get dates? If my son had diagnosed autism, I would set him up with a specialist from an early age. The specialist would work with him to help him manage his sensory issues and to learn proper socialization with others. This time period is critical. People with autism are not doomed to a life of isolation. People with autism, if they receive proper guidance starting at a young age, can socialize pretty well with others. The problem is most autistic adults today grew up without that guidance. I would have ta…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 02:11 PM
13	Femininity can basically be bought from the store in the form of cosmetics, hair style and different clothes. This viewpoint originates from men’s (not all men, mind you) interpretation of what a woman is. If this were true, then you could look at a drag queen and think, “Yup, that’s definitely an actual woman.” But you don’t. Because you know that most drag queens are cis men and you can recognize that underneath all the makeup and prosthetics and wigs. A lot of men (not all) are incapable of looking beyond their initial physical interpretation of a woman. You see breasts and hips and a beautiful face …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 01:19 PM
1	Separated spouse wants a sports car “[Husband’s name], I love you very much and I believe you deserve nice things. I think we both deserve nice things. But I want what’s best for our children, and sometimes that means sacrificing my own desires to give them a better future. For that reason I cannot support you buying this car. I know that getting older is scary, and sometimes you look back and feel like there’s so many things you didn’t get to do. But I love our children and don’t regret them for even a moment. I’m proud to call y…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/03/23 12:20 AM
79	Do you see men's very low standards for sex as a good or bad thing? Here’s the problem: Men (primarily redpilled men) believe that women value commitment 100% and sexual attention 0% So it goes like this: Men want sex, women want commitment. The truth is that women also desire sexual attention from men. I want my husband to think that I’m hot and sexy. I want him to lust after me the same way he would lust after a porn star. In other words: I want him to see me as the Madonna and the Whore. For example: when my husband left his ex for me (she cheated on him), hi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 07:16 PM
0	Beware the "Unicorn" I’m not entirely sure how you even thought of this woman as a “unicorn.” It seems obvious to me from the get-go that she was problematic. I’m guessing she had many other red flags, but the “I’m only friends with guys” bit should have immediately meant no contact, end of story. I know we often criticize women for failing to recognize red flags in men, but it appears that men also struggle to recognize red flags in women.	/r/MensRights	18/03/23 06:42 PM
8	You should not shame people for liking someone that's fat, it's already hard enough to date as a fat person I will shame anyone whose beauty standards involve unhealthy habits. You like anorexic women whose ribs are sticking out? Shame. You like men who need actual steroids to maintain their physique? Shame. You like obese women who need to increase their risk of heart disease, stroke, diabetes, and mobility problems just to get your dick hard? Shame. Our healthcare system cannot afford more sick people. Some people get unlucky. They eat healthy, work out, take care of themselves…still get cancer or P…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 06:18 PM
21	My husband hit on a 19 year old when he was 39, makes me feel uneasy. F25 with M42. A man who is still “growing” at 37 is probably not an ideal partner for you. You’re not overthinking it. You’re starting to recognize red flags that you missed previously.	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/23 01:03 PM
108	My husband hit on a 19 year old when he was 39, makes me feel uneasy. F25 with M42. Personally, I don’t think the redpill is correct in advocating age gap relationships. Typically the suggestion is that men in their prime (32+) should pursue younger women after building a good career. I think the healthiest male-female relationships are the ones where a woman dates a man her own age while he is still “growing.” She stays loyal and faithful to him while he works his way up to his prime (working up the career ladder) and that gives him the motivation to remain loyal to her once h…	/r/RedPillWomen	17/03/23 12:43 AM
2	" I prefer women that allow me to physically discipline them,have a low body count, at the age of consent " are not preferences. Let’s see. Financial abuse is a big one. Find a young ignorant kid and use their name/social security number to open credit cards that you can now use freely to run up a debt. I know many people in their early 20s who are completely financially illiterate. Find a nice young man/woman with a good inheritance who’s head over heels for you? Not too hard to convince them to “invest” that money into your own accounts. Isolating them from their family is another one. Making them feel guilty for hangin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 12:29 AM
9	Only women are told to ‘choose better’ whereas men are always the victim Every man who was “divorce graped” should have vetted better and chosen a better woman. That’s the point of the post.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 12:25 AM
7	Only women are told to ‘choose better’ whereas men are always the victim Mainly if she looks very attractive, men are most likely go negate the problems she has for the time at first thinking the benefits will outweigh the risk. So your argument boils down to “men have dumb caveman brains and stop thinking if a woman is hot enough.” Because if so I don’t know why we would allow a demographic of people like that to lead armies, run nations, and maintain our country’s infrastructure. Clearly men are smarter and more capable than you give them credit for. If you think w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/23 12:23 AM
10	He's terrible at driving? My husband didn’t get his driver’s license until he was around 23. I never let him drive my car because it was the only car we had to get both of us to work and we couldn’t afford to lose it. My husband accepted this because he knew the reality of our financial struggles. As a man, he knew that being a provider sometimes means taking a (metaphorical!) hit to the chin. I would stand your ground.	/r/RedPillWomen	14/03/23 01:10 PM
1	Do women want another guy when they end a relationship? I broke up with my husband the first time we dated. I was 17 at the time. I broke up with him because I couldn’t handle the responsibility of a relationship. I was living with my mother at the time who had undiagnosed and untreated BPD. Every day was a living hell. I didn’t fully realize it at the time, but my mom destroyed my ability to connect with other humans on a deep intimate level. Getting “close” with a boyfriend scared me. Kissing, holding hands, talking about our feelings. I broke up b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/23 12:29 AM
16	The reason the manosphere is mad about AF/BB is because, while, even though the majority of women may not fit the archetype, it is a really smart stratergy I think men are more frustrated by the fact that women have their own version of the Madonna-Whore complex. Women have been told that it’s a compliment to be “wife material” (the same way nice guys are told it’s a compliment to be the one she settles with after riding the carousel). We have been told that it’s a good thing to stay home and cook and clean and care for the kids while he’s in the bathroom jacking off and fantasizing about the porn stars he’d never marry. Sometimes cheating with the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/23 11:49 PM
9	Support = Success! It’s strange to me that this even needs to be said, but it definitely seems like a lot of people aren’t openly supportive of their partners’ hobbies. Which is ironic because I see a lot of women complaining that men have nothing going for them/no hobbies, etc. I’m glad you were there to support him, OP. It’s the little things that build up a relationship! He will remember this for a long time.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/03/23 05:43 PM
4	The elephant in the room is the libido gap between men and women I genuinely believe that women would have higher libidos if we recognized, honored, and nurtured the differences between male and female sexuality. Also, it’s hard to be a high libido woman. Especially if you’re traditional (which most people were up until now). Think about it this way: if I give an amazing blowjob or demand wild sex on a daily basis, and my husband goes to his traditional redpill friends and tells them about this. What are his friends gonna say? “No way she was a virgin when sh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/03/23 02:27 PM
1	For the committed ladies: how do you feel about your husband/boyfriend hiding money and investments from you as a backup plan? I would want him to tell me about it the same way I told him about it. I didn’t feel comfortable about the idea of squirreling money away without telling him - it felt immoral to me. So I would hold him to the same standard. My reasoning is that if we stay together, we can use those accounts at 65 to go on a nice “neither of us had to use our divorce funds” vacation. He has chosen not to have that sort of fund. But I do plan on starting a Roth IRA for him and maximizing it yearly ASAP. I have al…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 10:20 PM
11	Male Birth Control Will Never Be Commonly Used If a woman can “baby trap” you, then you’re basically admitting you have zero agency as a man. Isn’t that pretty weak?	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/23 06:08 PM
36	Is playing video games an ick be honest? It wasn’t an ick when I first started dating my husband. We both played together. It became an ick when I realized it was the only thing we could do together. His first instinct in the morning (on his days off) was to turn on the PS4 and play for 12-16 hours. On days he worked, the PS4 went on as soon as he got home. Eventually I had to tell him that video games aren’t the only thing I want to do together. Also, a lot of gamers are immature. I get the ick anytime I go into a lobby and people say…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/23 11:48 PM
1	i feel horrible and feel that my femininity is ruined It’s a bit cruel for him to tell you that you turned him off today. No woman is on top of her game 100% of the time and you were obviously already aware of how you looked. If you plan to have children together, he will see you wearing paper underwear. If he watches the birth, he might witness you poop yourself while pushing. If these things will ruin his image of you, then he needs to do some soul-searching. My husband has heard me pass gas (I do in my sleep despite taking simethicone). He has s…	/r/RedPillWomen	07/03/23 09:27 PM
1	Why do they say men are logical and women are emotional? What does it really mean? Okay, but oftentimes we’re talking about interpersonal problems that inherently involve a level of emotionality. You aren’t going to apply logic and empirical data when your daughter comes home crying because she bled through her pants at school and someone made fun of her for it. “Well statistically honey, 31% of girls have had similar experiences so…” Your daughter will hate you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/23 09:17 PM
7	Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men? He was 19 and had learned from his friends that women wouldn’t date a virgin. His friends were obviously idiots but so are a lot of young people. He’s grown a lot since then and now we laugh about the stupid things we did when we were younger. But yeah, he definitely had a lying problem at that age that got hammered out as he grew older and became a grown man. I was an absolute monster for a while because I didn’t trust anything he said.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/23 06:14 PM
34	Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men? No. I’m more attracted to men who are picky about the women they date/have sex with. My husband initially lied to me when we first started dating (he gave himself an extensive sexual history when he was actually a virgin) and I ended up losing attraction to him because of it. When he told me the truth (that he was a virgin) it saved our relationship. The assumption here is that women inherently trust the judgment of other women. How does that make logical sense? Truly? The most sexually successf…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/03/23 03:02 PM
12	Whats your opinion on pre-nups? If he wants me to be a SAHM, I will not sign a prenup. I want some sort of safety net in the event that he cheats and/or becomes abusive. If I’m able to maintain a career, I will sign a prenup because then I will have a way to support myself if he cheats and/or becomes abusive. My husband and I don’t have a prenup because he A) had zero assets and tons of debt when we got married and B) he wants me to be a SAHM.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/23 03:05 AM
4	Dating outside the US is easier for men I have heard that Europeans typically have more lax boundaries surrounding socializing with the opposite sex/nudity/sexuality. Granted, I could just be an ignorant American. For example, on the relationship advice subreddits you’ll often see posts like “my wife wants to hang out with her ex boyfriend next weekend, what should I do?” A lot of the Europeans who comment (especially Germans?) are often the ones who criticize the OP for being insecure or controlling. I saw one post where two German w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/23 06:08 PM
3	Q4Women, can you meet your own standards? I’m attracted to my husband for his personality, but he also needs to make a certain amount of money for the lifestyle we both want (me being a SAHM). Men constantly bash women for not vetting properly. If you want a traditional lifestyle, then by default the man has to make a lot of money to support a SAHM and kids.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/23 02:11 PM
26	The obsession the manosphere has with "single older miserable women" is bizarre. People seem to forget that she’s had multiple strokes and has suffered permanent brain damage because of it. And continued acting despite the strokes that happened while she was filming GoT. If she was a man, the redpillers would be calling her an absolute badass.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/23 02:08 PM
7	ladies, how do you feel about the idea of being a stay at home mother and housewife I want to be a SAHM. I refuse to have children if I know they’re going to end up in daycare. I believe one of the reasons younger generations are going to shit (public schools are horrible right now) is because you have both parents working full-time. The sentiment for SAHMs is that you should return to work once your kids start school. I remember coming home from school and having an hour or two to do whatever I wanted until my mom came home from work. At nine years old I could do whatever I wa…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/23 02:03 PM
12	Men Don't Blame Chad Because Chad Is Inherently Beneficial To Have As An Ally/Friend It sounds like Chad caused the drama in his own life by impregnating Becky. I don’t know why redpilled men insist on operating under the “me dumb monkey, me no can make good decision” mentality. Evolutionarily it might feel great to stick your dick in Becky, but use your brain: any woman you impregnate is someone you’re stuck with for the next 18 years and you have zero right to complain about it. Becky nowadays can do a lot more than seethe. Now you’re forking over 1/3 of your paycheck in child…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/23 03:36 AM
9	Discussion: there are two walls and one of them is about relationship value not sexual value. It works if 40- and 50-year-old women are looking for men in their age group (also men who are also divorced and not looking to start a family). I don’t think most 40-50 year old women would be shocked if a young man who wanted kids didn’t want to date them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/03/23 01:45 AM
29	Every single plot for women main characters is them getting wet over a bad boy when they dont want to Aren’t the women in these movies also extremely attractive? They’re actresses. Are you saying you’re mad that a woman attractive enough to be an actress is pursuing a Chad? Or are you mad that average women have fantasies about being in her shoes? If that’s the case, there’s a problem with every man who watches porn and wishes be could fuck the porn star. As for your claim: Plenty of Hallmark movies involve women who pursue just one guy and he’s usually a pretty good guy even if he’s a little co…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/23 05:51 PM
9	Understanding Romance From A Male Perspective (Explaining The Disconnect) I mean…if a good man had this type of unconditional love, you wouldn’t notice it because he’s not doing any horrible stuff to test it. So “unconditional love” almost requires an abusive relationship to prove that it is in fact unconditional love, otherwise you could always argue “well she would leave if you started drinking” or “she would leave if you started beating her” etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/03/23 01:10 PM
10	Scenario. Imagine you’re with your EX boyfriend, and your CURRENT boyfriend comes into your life at work or a social event etc. Now what do you do? If I had the knowledge that 14-year-old me had, I would’ve rejected my husband and stayed happily in love with my boyfriend at the time (he’s the only ex I have). If I had the knowledge that I currently have, I would break up with my ex and date my husband. But this is like one of those actual shit test questions like “if your mom and your dad were hanging off a cliff, who would you save if you could only save one?” or “if I was a worm would you still love me?”	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/23 01:18 PM
0	Have you ever shut down a man BECAUSE he talks normal with you, barring other external factors? My husband asked me out on a date to the movies and that worked out just fine. Before that, when I was still single, a guy I saw regularly at the drive-thru asked me out after handing me my order and I said yes. I legitimately cannot think of a time I rejected someone for asking me out normally. I actually thought the way my husband did it was sweet. And when I think about it I still get butterflies. I was driving him home from a friend-group hangout and when he got out of the car he stopped and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/23 01:11 PM
7	CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships. This is shown in our going along with shit-tests instead of shutting them down, accepting blame for when a woman picks a fight with us, and being flexible to switch paths when the woman changes her mind. Trust me when I say this: women can sniff out the “fakeness” in all of these actions. I can tell the difference between a real apology and an apology that’s only given to pacify me. I can tell when a man is acting a certain way outwardly while maintaining his own internal monologue that complete…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/03/23 01:00 AM
59	Signals it's over I don’t feel like my husband’s therapist when he opens up to me. Opening up is normal. It’s not the sort of thing that requires therapy. People who ask for help, open up about sensitive things, and cry sometimes don’t require therapy. They are normal humans. I felt like my husband’s therapist when he would come home from work, clearly pissed off, and pace around the house slamming doors while simultaneously snapping “I’m fine!” whenever I asked him what’s wrong. And then when he would finally te…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/23 11:07 PM
6	The widespread research declaring that women are happier single has long been retracted and refuted by experts as well as the original researcher. It’s actually astounding how many men are getting triggered by your comment. But if you were a man talking about how difficult it is to find a woman on your level (not promiscuous, good job, etc.) I wonder if they would have the same responses. I didn’t see anything arrogant or narcissistic in your comment. Nobody - not one person responding to you - considered that it might be particularly difficult for virgins/non-promiscuous people to find each other in a culture that’s highly sexualized and …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/23 06:44 PM
10	The widespread research declaring that women are happier single has long been retracted and refuted by experts as well as the original researcher. It’s astounding how much redpill speak also works when you replace “women” with “men.”	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/23 06:35 PM
92	How would you feel if your long term boyfriend had a personal "# of blowjobs before cohabitating" rule? I would find it lacking in emotional intelligence that he felt the need to set a “rule.” This rule forces blowjobs into the category of “chores.” Even if I enjoy giving them (I do), this forces blowjobs to become “something I have to do” versus “something I want to do.” So now I no longer feel like a blowjob is an act of love but rather a demand that I’m fulfilling. The more women engage in “duty sex,” the more their libido decreases. You’re basically admitting that you aren’t going to figure ou…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/23 03:11 PM
20	Does status indicate sexual success? My husband was making $13/hr. at the bottom of the totem pole when I started dating him. The way I see it is…I stayed with him, loved him, supported him, and was faithful to him during my “prime” (according to the redpill). So I expect him to do the same for me once he’s in his “prime” and I’m no longer in mine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/02/23 12:27 AM
10	The Manosphere (Red Pill whatever you want to call it) is a movement that is more about woman slander than helping men and boys. Andrew Tate got banned off of social media platforms because he openly admitted to using manipulative tactics to recruit young women into sex work. He openly admitted that he doesn’t go after “rich girls” because they aren’t vulnerable enough to be submissive to him (i.e., they have family to go to and money). The only crime here is that women aren’t also banned for discussing how to manipulate men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 11:43 PM
16	Which man would you pick? Tom. Multiple sexual partners in the past can easily be a red flag. My husband was a Tom.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 07:44 PM
51	Do men really want traditionalism more than women? That’s exactly what happened to women, though. Women who were traditional often had to deal with abusive husbands, unfaithful husbands, etc. Let’s be honest. This wasn’t a situation where women had perfect kind husbands and magically decided to join the workforce because we’re evil monsters who want to hurt men. A lot of women started pushing for “equality” in the workforce because they realized the whole SAHM life was a lie. Cook, clean, take care of the kids and your husband will treat you rig…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/02/23 01:58 PM
11	Some questions for women No, not for me. Sex is intensely emotional for me. Yes. Although this was due to a lack of communication between me and my husband. He thought I was into it, I went along to be a good wife. No harm was done. I love him so we can have good sex even if I’m not horny. No, except maybe sleep. I think it would be beneficial for men to be less desperate for sex. I don’t think it’s healthy for young men to be spending money on OF. I don’t think it’s healthy how many men have “spank banks” that they obs…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/02/23 09:59 PM
6	What is the "ick" and what triggers it for you? Performative behavior. If I can tell he’s trying really hard to be anything - funny, charismatic, etc. You can’t force a personality. General ignorance and crudeness toward women’s anatomy. I saw one guy say that, since they made a Disney movie about the menstrual cycle, should we also have a Disney movie about shitting? The menstrual cycle isn’t just gross bleeding. It affects a woman’s mood, her appetite, her libido, her energy levels, her sleep, etc. Understanding the menstrual cycle and how …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/23 11:40 PM
35	How to get the attraction back to my man? It sounds like this is an internal battle that he needs to pursue independently. Throughout history men have had “rites of passage” or tests that allowed them to pass from boyhood to manhood. Men no longer have access to this sense of community (with other men) or these rites of passage that would have once given them confidence as men. My husband has gone through the same issue. We have to remember that young men simply aren’t in their prime. Confidence for men develops with achievement. Way ba…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/02/23 11:07 PM
19	What do you do for work? I’m a nurse. An LPN, to be exact (some people will tell you I’m not a real nurse but they can kick rocks). I work in LTC so I was able to keep the job I already had…I just moved up in the company to a position that requires a nursing degree. I work part-time and still get to spend time with my husband at home. Pros: nursing allows a lot of flexibility. If I want, I can work PRN, which only requires 24 hours a month. I am now able to stomach any and all bodily fluids I know how to clean up poop r…	/r/RedPillWomen	24/02/23 10:24 PM
3	Modern dating is better for liars due to the lack of vetting Short-term dating? Yes. Long-term? No. Eventually you’ll get caught and the ensuing drama will make you want to rip your hair out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/23 09:37 PM
28	Are women really not able to love unconditionally? You can’t accuse women of loving assholes who treat them like garbage while simultaneously arguing that women aren’t capable of love. Do redpill men not see the contradiction? You have women out here dating men who offer zero benefits. Drug addicts who are unemployed with a criminal history, deadbeat dads, literal abusers. Women financially supporting these men and staying with them even when they cheat. Redpill men love to (rightfully) criticize these women for giving so much love to men who gi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/23 07:51 PM
7	Boyfriend/Husband Material Men Getting Less Than What Other Guys Got I feel like that’s illogical. Make this make sense to me: a woman breaks up with her boyfriend because he wants her to lose weight. She then loses the weight and sleeps with some random guy to get “revenge” against her ex…by doing exactly what he wanted her to do. So she could’ve done the exact same thing and kept her relationship. So now she’s single and fit when she could’ve been with her boyfriend and fit. Bonus points because all the guys who want to bang her now still only want her because …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/23 03:56 PM
4	Boyfriend/Husband Material Men Getting Less Than What Other Guys Got It’s weird to me how people try to compare weight gain with uncontrollable changes. “You’re going to get old and wrinkly and fat no matter what! Looks shouldn’t matter!” Uh…one of these things is not like the other. Old and wrinkly? Of course. Fat? Nah.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/02/23 03:50 PM
1	CMV: attractive RP men SHOULD care more about a woman’s financial status and intellect The problem here is that you are devaluing the SAHM. A woman who prioritizes her career probably won’t want to stay home with the kids. If you go on YouTube and look up videos from school teachers, you’ll find that we currently have a crisis in public schooling: kids are acting completely insane and teachers are sick of dealing with it. What’s causing kids to develop such shitty habits? No one is home to raise them. 10 year olds are coming home from school and sitting on the computer while mom a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/02/23 02:18 PM
7	What do you think of same sex cheating, compared to opposite sex? My sexual risk is at health whether my husband cheats with a man or a woman. The only difference I see is that same-sex cheating is often excused when the cheater claims to be “discovering their sexuality.” Also, a lot of people are more likely to cover up same-sex cheating to avoid “outing” a bisexual or gay person. To me this makes same-sex cheating more morally abhorrent. Because people are more likely to protect the cheater. If my husband cheats on me with a woman, no one (except maybe redpi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/23 08:32 PM
3	Women of PPD: How do you prefer a man shows off his masculinity: Thru status and wealth, thru wisdom and knowledge or thru competence and actions? Competence and action. Wealth and status, to me, isn’t an indicator of masculinity. A lot of kings throughout history got fat and lazy and became alcoholics due to their wealth and status. GoT even mocks this tendency with Robert Baratheon. Wisdom and knowledge is great but it’s too easy for edgelord beta males to feign wisdom. You know the type. The proclaimed male feminist who still manages to talk down to women. The benevolent sexist. The man who thinks he’s the first person to have discovere…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/23 11:45 AM
5	Do women really want a man who opens up in a relationship? My husband has cried in my arms and honestly it’s one of the closest and most intimate moments I’ve had with him. It made us waaayyy closer.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/23 02:07 AM
5	Do women really want a man who opens up in a relationship? My relationship improved when my husband opened up to me. He was being extremely distant due to the anniversary of his brother’s death. Always refused to talk about it. One day he broke down and cried and actually spoke his feelings about it. I held him while he cried. That night we had extremely intimate and loving sex. We were going through a dry spell prior to that, I genuinely was starting to feel like my libido disappeared…and magically it was back again. To me there’s a certain level of ma…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/02/23 02:03 AM
8	Older men like younger women but how true is it that younger woman actually like older men? Older men are obviously attractive because they have traits that I would instinctively desire: maturity, leadership skills, life experience, etc. But I also recognize that truly mature older men wouldn’t enjoy the company of someone my age (26) because I simply cannot match their level of maturity or life experience. So if an older man did want me…I’d assume there’s something seriously wrong with him that isn’t immediately obvious. It’s not all about looks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/23 11:59 PM
26	Anxiety/imposter syndrome I believe historically women have been compared to water. We adapt. We flow. We can change shape to fit into difficult spaces. And, with enough time and patience, we can carve a canyon out of the toughest stone. Femininity is not a rigid concept, and womanhood is not a rigid concept. A woman who uses her construction skills to build a home for a family is still being feminine. How? She’s showing compassion and kindness to people in need. Our sisters working in construction are real-life Disney p…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/02/23 10:18 PM
3	If a straight man is (at least partially) unattracted to femininity, what does that mean? Submission and dominance are extremely complicated concepts that we oversimplify for the sake of redpill/bluepill talk. You want a woman who will be a strong mother figure to your children. Part of that means being dominant. A man who is out of the house for 8-10 hours 5 days/week cannot be the sole disciplinarian to children. How can he be when he doesn’t see them most of the day? So women need to be strong leaders too, right? If we’re going to be good mothers? Otherwise our kids would push us …	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/23 10:01 PM
39	If a straight man is (at least partially) unattracted to femininity, what does that mean? I don’t think it means anything. We spend too much time overanalyzing our own preferences. Back in the day you’d be a guy who prefers tomboys. It’s common. That would be the end of it. Nothing is wrong with you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/23 05:49 PM
6	A friend is married to a man who refuses to do a job and just sits at home while she brings in a significant pay check & she’s encouraging me to tolerate the same. Thoughts? Well, if he’s taking out the trash and cooking meals, he isn’t “doing nothing.” He has simply taken on the feminine role. Which is okay. Like you said: to each their own. I would sit her down and explain that you respect her lifestyle, but it’s not for you and you’d appreciate it if she stops pressuring you into it. If she doesn’t respect that, then it might be time to reconsider the friendship.	/r/RedPillWomen	18/02/23 03:21 PM