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I've never dated so I have nothing compare to, as far as an ideal. I'd prefer someone who either didn't work, worked part-time, or made a lot more than I did. Aside from that and an interest in men, none of those things would be important to me. I'd have to get to know a lot of different people before I had any semblance of an ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 08:55 PM
2

Why would that be a guy’s problem? People who aren’t interested in you cease to exist in your life, for all intents and purposes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 03:02 AM
2

I don’t know. Maybe “self-improvement,” is BS?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:19 PM
-1

In my opinion, only one person should be working. I realize that isn’t possible in every scenario. Otherwise, the person earning less should be doing the housework or lion’s share of the housework.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:29 PM
5

Of course it’s okay. Most people I know are not that interested in social climbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:18 PM
11

Prostitutes owe you sex if you pay them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:10 PM
1

I've never had a girlfriend. I'd think in-person would give you a better chance. You know you are talking to an actual person you are (hopefully) attracted to. Online, you may be talking to someone entirely different from who they portray themselves to be or not an actual person. You have the benefit of bypassing a lot of dead-ends. On the other hand, you can probably contact more people online if you could somehow figure out who is the real deal and who isn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 04:32 PM
2

Try the easiest answer first - they're not looking to meet someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 04:15 PM
1

I wouldn't say I'm ready but I don't have much of a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 04:14 PM
5

He's giving them a chance to show interest in him, if they might be interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 04:06 PM
1

When you're approaching people, you're looking for someone who doesn't mind you approaching them. Unless it is a family member, who knows you approach females and doesn't like it (this would be an exceedingly rare thing, probably not worth mentioning), whomever doesn't like you approaching people will play no role in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 04:01 PM
0

What? Paying for something and getting nothing is much worse than deception for sex. An unforeseen event could leave you in need of that money for a utility or housing payment. Having sex with someone and regretting it is just a case of bad tidings. Nothing compared to loss of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 02:48 AM
1

Well, I haven’t been on many dates in my life but I think the idea that females are more worried about what you’re offering and less interested in becoming more appealing to you is not a good sign. They should be trying to show you why they’re worth it for you, not whether or not they have any particular feelings about the situation in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 11:10 PM
1

I’d have no problem paying if I knew I was getting something in return. I’ve been ripped off before by someone framing a meetup as a date but what they really wanted was to try certain restaurants. Unless I have something in writing, I’m not falling for it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 02:21 AM
1

Sorry but that dumb story sounds made up. Nobody would confuse a greeter for someone trying to hit on a 14 year-old. You’re not living in reality if you buy that. “I don’t think guys shall be concerned?” Do you live on planet earth? Nobody actually talks this way. This entire thing has to be fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 04:12 AM
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I don’t think people who say they’re average mean they’re actually dead center on the curve. It’s shorthand for a regular guy, indistinguishable from other guys who may or may not have had such poor luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 05:37 PM
1

I’ve never felt the urge to lie. I always thought there would be plenty of people who liked me for who I was even though it hasn’t worked out for me so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 01:07 AM
1

I think so. I'm not entirely sure. I probably have a few things I would never give up but most of the other things in life are not a huge deal. That said, I've never had any kind of girlfriend or anything. You're asking the wrong guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:58 PM
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Not that many guys are interested in dressing sexy so she will have a hard time finding someone. In all seriousness, I don't think there are very many females out there with similar interests to me. It's not possible for all of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:54 PM
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Well, probably more experience than I have. I thought you were talking about some kind of flesh eating thing when you said munching. I'd never heard that one before.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:50 PM
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No. It isn't a blowjob for a vulva. You have your terminology mixed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:45 PM
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You're talking about a female with a penis? I'm an inexperienced guy but I've never heard of oral sex on a female referred to as a blowjob.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:41 PM
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What is munching?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:36 PM
1

Ridicule is the answer, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:24 PM
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I'm not familiar with either industry but it would depend on the hours more than anything. I don't care about the actual job or education level so I disagree with that part.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 08:16 PM
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As much as I hate social media or online dating and try to avoid them, I don't think things have changed as much as you want to believe. My problems meeting someone have been pretty constant through the late 90s. Things were probably headed in this direction way before either of those things came along.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 06:05 PM
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I’m in my early 40s and I’ve never had a girlfriend. Until about five years ago, I’d have wanted to meet someone, get married, and have a family. At this point in my life, I’d still like to meet someone but I’m not particularly invested in how things play out. I think the long-term disappointment drained me of that desire to some degree. I can’t speak for other guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 12:58 AM
4

Introduce yourself to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 11:20 PM
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Whenever I’ve tried to join something (I stopped a long long time ago) to meet someone or people, it’s always left me depressed. It was never going to happen, I didn’t particularly have an interest in joining whatever it was, and I thought I was an idiot for wasting my time doing something I didn’t care about. Since then, I’ve just tried to approach females at places I usually go - gas station, supermarket, any kind of retail. This way, I’m not going out of my way to have no luck, I’m trying to …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 02:03 AM
7

Easier to reassure yourself it won't happen to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:43 PM
3

I’d think at the level of wealth he supposedly has, spending money on an elaborate date would be the equivalent to spending a few bucks for the average guy. I think there may be more to this story than he’s saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:52 AM
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I’d never been on a date until my 30s and I’ve only had one date my entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:47 AM
3

I can’t speak for other guys but, for me, the entire experience of trying to date is one big joke.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 07:18 PM
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I probably overlook the advantages as a single guy my entire life, in my 40s. I don’t have an obligation to anyone aside from parents and siblings. I can watch whatever I want on TV, go to something if invited. I don’t have to worry about another person’s feelings. Those advantages are probably not insignificant but I’d have to something to compare this life to before I can say whether they are so great or not. If someone would like to be my girlfriend, let me know. I will be able to give you a …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/23 03:07 PM
1

Dribble?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 12:13 AM
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Thanks. I have no commentary on that exampl because I don’t know anybody similar to that example.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:43 AM
8

I only briefly used online dating - and haven’t used it in over 10 years. I haven’t been able to find a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:13 AM
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Not sure what planet you live on.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 06:13 AM
2

Yeah. I think along the same lines. I wish I had the opportunities at a younger age. I don’t want my job to matter for better or for worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 05:21 AM
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I actually do find cashier to be an interesting job but I don’t care what a female does for work. I’d rather she didn’t work, if that were something I got to choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 05:16 AM
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I was going to say. I’d never heard of this case but he’s only accused at this point. There is not a lot of relevant commentary anyone can give, from the outside, about the guy’s personal life, from what I saw in the article.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 03:36 AM
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Not entirely familiar with the term, “incel,” but certainly lacking female attention. No. Yeah. Yeah. Three. Sports. I played three in school. A few, not many. I don’t know anyone who I can say had a ton of success. As far as those I know that have had more success than I have, there isn’t anything obvious that I can point to. I am probably no different from a lot of guys who have had more success. It just never happened for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:16 AM
1

You read an article, wow. That settles it!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:46 AM
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Not exactly happy about it but not a lot I can do at this point. If it hasn’t happened yet, it probably isn’t going to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 01:28 AM
1

Which planet do you live on because I don’t know a single man like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 01:21 AM
2

All right. Well, I have no idea where you are coming from but it all sounds very wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:49 PM
2

I don’t. Where are you getting that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:20 PM
4

Depends who the large group is, where the large group is, and how large the large group is. Too many factors and no I don’t have to just, “take your word for it,” which is what you’re indirectly trying to ask me to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:16 PM
3

Get help.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:13 PM
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You seem very confused so I will help you. Just call it an experience. Why do you need to preface with, “lived?” There are no experiences, you have, that didn’t happen to you personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 09:55 PM
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The majority of females aren’t in all places at all times. Many places are self-selecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 09:51 PM
3

What is the difference between a “lived,” and, “unlived,” experience? If it didn’t happen while you were living, it’s not your experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 09:50 PM
1

I’m a situationist through and through.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 08:33 PM
2

Yeah. This person does not deserve a response.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 05:14 PM
1

On what planet? I think someone should let you know that using the word, “literally,” does not add emphasis to whatever it was you were trying to say, if that was what you were trying to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 04:06 PM
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Ya. Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 04:06 PM
4

Well it is other people who don’t find them desirable. The grievance isn’t entirely unfounded.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 03:41 PM
2

Feel some kind of way? The way people usually feel is bitterness, resentment or something along those lines. It’s not very mysterious.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 03:34 PM
3

Yeah. Undesirable people should just be happy about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 03:25 PM
4

It’s human nature to have bitterness if people aren’t attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 03:00 PM
10

Join the club.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 03:03 AM
2

I suspected something along these lines was going on when I last used online dating in 2010-2011.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 10:42 PM
3

I would rather just offer regular females money for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 06:46 PM
15

It feels worse and I would be less likely to pay for this than a prostitute. The expression is, “actions speak louder than words,” for a reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 03:57 PM
1

I am in my early 40s with nearly zero experience. I’ll take whatever I can get. I’m not necessarily looking for anything long-term at this point but I was when I was younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 02:19 PM
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You can find a ton of unusual points of view online. It doesn’t mean very much in the grand scheme.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 02:15 PM
2

Why would you think you can make someone care about something just because you want them to?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 02:07 PM
2

I’ve been myself my entire life and no luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 01:43 PM
2

I don’t know. I’m pretty casual about it but have only had it twice and both times were purchased.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 01:40 PM
1

I don’t think it’s necessarily looks insofar as attractiveness but I don’t think personality is the critical mass. Contrary to folklore, you just don’t know very much about someone’s personality for a while. I think factors such as status, social caste, wealth, background that people believe they can eyeball (whether they actually can or not) are important.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 11:25 PM
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No. I’m sure it can happen and has happened but it’s not something that happens reliably. “It happened for him but it’s not going to happen for you,” is a pretty good rule of thumb. That is not to say you shouldn’t try but try within reason and don’t expect very much.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 11:10 PM
1

I tend to agree with some caveat. I am from a very small town with almost very few attractive females. I think we all knew it was bad to some degree but there were enough people that were somewhat attractive to not make it something always discussed. Once I moved to a larger city, I think it just reinforced how ugly my town and school was but it was workable if you had people interested in you. An added emphasis, if you will. I didn’t have anyone interested in me in either place so neither was w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 10:52 PM
2

I played three sports (football, baseball, basketball) through the end of school and I’ve still never had a girlfriend. I don’t know if it’s taken on a different meaning but nobody referred to any of us as, “jocks.” I don’t know what planet this is from.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 01:44 AM
1

Well I have no female friends or partners but not necessarily by choice. People say a lot of BS. I don't take it that seriously/literally. There is a lot of "exaggeration for effect," in modern discourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:45 PM
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I think people are talking about a lack of opportunities which is a different problem than having no skills at all. When someone says they have few or no opportunities, the idea is either too hard to fathom/unthinkable for some or too scary an idea (that it could happen to them) for others. Naturally you are going to hear a lot of unreasonable or just missing the point responses.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:43 PM
1

I don't know. It's hard for me to believe guys think that much about their appearance to have a strong opinion about where they fall on the continuum. I am almost completely agnostic about my appearance and I think most guys are.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:34 AM
1

I think that's part of the problem. For a lot of people, it's probably just the natural course of action and not something they had to consciously try to do. They have people interested in getting to know them and they return the favor if things line up on their end. If you're in a position where you have to, "try," you're probably working from a disadvantage..
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:31 AM
1

Even if true, what are they supposed to do? Cut off their nose to spite their face? You can only go out with those who will go out with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 04:22 AM
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I was going to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 03:01 AM
1

I wasn’t told anything. I don’t think parents are equipped to help their children in that realm. Dating is just not that similar for different generations or across eras. Even I if I had great luck growing up, I don’t see how I’d be able to advise a teenager or person in their early 20s today.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 11:57 PM
2

I don’t know any females outside of my family so I am throwing darts at a board. I’m guessing many aren’t and many are still dealing with people they grew up with or people they’ve known for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 11:48 PM
3

I don’t know what you are asking. Refer to last comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 03:22 AM
1

I am not very bright.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 03:19 AM
1

You’d think I’d find people more relatable.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 03:02 AM
1

People often don’t like what other people mean.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 02:39 AM
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That’s great that you can have that attitude. I’m in my 40s and I’ve never had anyone interested in me. If some female suddenly shows interest, I’m probably going to give it a chance whatever my gut feeling about it at the time is. I’ve waited long enough. I’m not waiting around another 40 years and change.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 04:29 AM
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I’d have no problem with it but nobody I work with has any interest in me so that is not going to work out. It would almost be ideal otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 04:08 AM
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I am in my 40s and still waiting.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 04:01 AM
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Not sure how true this is but let us suppose it is true, for the sake of argument. Why are you talking as though the females are so innocent here? People usually go for other people similar to themselves, I would think. The females going for these types of guys are probably jerks themselves in the majority of cases. I am skeptical that these are otherwise wonderful people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:34 AM
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I’m sure all of those things are wonderful rules of thumb for you but not everyone is you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:30 AM
1

You won’t. It’s a bizarre internet myth. I’ve done it a ton and never had success but nothing terrible ever happened either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:24 AM
1

I’ve always approached them and haven’t had one yet but I agree with you. They’re not approaching me so what choice do I have?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 02:22 AM
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I don’t know the first thing about celebrities but they’re known quantities. I don’t think they have to look.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 08:41 PM
2

What do you mean by, “female intuition?”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 08:39 PM
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I am not against it but not sure there are many females out there interested in watching and talking about sports. Otherwise, we wouldn’t have a lot to do or talk about. Maybe old TV shows because I don’t watch TV anymore. Also, it’s not, “comedy stint,” you doofus. It’s comedy skit.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 03:37 AM
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The entire thing was from outer space. I’m not sure I should have responded. It could very well be fake.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 04:26 PM
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I am not sure what you are talking about. Nobody in life is immune from criticism. What does that mean to, “value us as people?” When is someone valuing a female as a person and when are they not? It’s not your decision what someone is interested in about you and why would you ever think that is something you decide? It’s completely out of your control. I wonder what you are expecting in life that you think your treatment from men is so beyond the pale. You’re not giving anyone anything to discu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 03:30 PM
1

I have nothing to say about equality of the sexes, or whatever you’re calling it, but I’ve always loved the freedom-to-do-something-almost-nobody-wants-to-do argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 01:36 AM
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Interesting. I’ve wondered about that. I haven’t had a girlfriend and I am in my early 40s. I don’t know how true it is, what you say. I’ve known a few people that never had anything until well past their teenage years and seemed to do okay. I think desirable people just have more opportunities earlier in (and throughout) life, in general. I could see what you’re saying as true for an undesirable person who got lucky early on in life. The problem is if those opportunities don’t continue to prese…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 04:31 PM
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I think you are confusing cause and effect. Guys are desperate because they don’t have anywhere to go. They don’t not have anywhere to go because they’re desperate. That doesn’t make any sense. People aren’t poor because they act desperate for money. Desperate people are hated before anyone knows they’re desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 03:24 AM
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I don’t know. I don’t care either way. She isn’t interested in going out with me instead or anything, so I don’t see how I could care.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 02:55 AM
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Weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 11:07 PM
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Yeah. I thought I clicked on a different title.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 01:49 PM
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I’m not even sure what you are talking about but I’d rather be molested while incapacitated than robbed. I’m probably not getting the money back. You can molest me all you want if I’m never going to remember the experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 05:51 PM
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I guess I endorse traditional marriage or whatever in that I think it’s dumb for both halves to work. Whichever works and whichever doesn’t doesn’t make a difference to me. I am not getting any kind of girlfriend or spouse anytime soon. Let us suspend reality in air for a second, however. The odds are she would make less than I do so she would stay home. If roles reversed, than I’d stay home.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 04:48 PM
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Hi, how are you doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 10:48 PM
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Haha. I didn’t see that one. Well that is one way to brag about your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:29 PM
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I know. I was kidding.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:28 PM
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I don’t disagree with you but unless you live in a large city 120 females approached is not that easy to make happen. I live in a very small town. It would not be an easy thing to pull off, that kind of “approaching in volume.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:05 PM
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The internet is for losers such as me to complain. What are you doing here?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:43 PM
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He didn’t digress.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 07:41 PM
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Well, my dealings with females outside of my family are pretty much nil aside from retail or customer service. I haven’t attempted to get a date since 2019 or so. Fortunately, I don’t think I am in any way qualified to ascribe malice, incompetence, or something else to the way they are towards me. I’ll never know the reason and I don’t think the females out there want me to know. The only thing I can say, is there really is nowhere for a lot of us to go. How many ‘a lot’ is is up for discussion …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 06:27 PM
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Yeah.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 06:19 PM
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Hahaha. It’s survivorship bias. The people for whom it doesn’t work out (such as me), you never end up hearing from because they have nothing to report.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 06:17 PM
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I don’t know. I’m in my early 40s. I will never try to entertain a female in any unnatural way. I’d be happy to tell them anything and everything about me if they were interested in getting to know me. That hasn’t happened so far. Maybe begging would get me somewhere further but probably not much and not for long. I wish I knew the answers to these types of questions. If you’re considered undesirable, you only have questions. If you’re considered desirable, there is no reason to ask, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 06:14 PM
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Depends who earns more money not the number of hours worked.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 11:01 PM
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I am like this. No sexual history, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 04:45 PM
4

You're an idiot if you think passively running a small business is something accessible to more than very few people. What are you, in your twenties?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 01:38 AM
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That is a small sliver of the population and no, small business owners actually work longer hours and can usually ill-afford to take time off. You're making up a fantasy scenario that almost nobody experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 01:05 AM
2

I don't think the word, "happy," is the best word to use. You can almost never tell who is truly happy or unhappy, even if you ask someone directly. I ignore any survey claiming to measure happiness. I do think you are right that those kinds of surveys aren't talking about the same conditions however.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 12:59 AM
2

I don't know. They're not interested in letting me find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 12:48 AM
7

If you're relying on a job for this freedom, it isn't exactly freedom.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/23 12:29 AM
1

There are no signals, just do it if you want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 11:40 PM
1

You can suggest anything you want. I answered the question you asked me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/23 07:49 PM
1

No. I wouldn’t understand it if I were having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 02:39 PM
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It’s not something I think about. I’ve been single my whole life so I never had to assign roles to myself or someone else and vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 12:27 AM
3

On what planet are nurses masculine? It’s one of the most female-dominated jobs out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 09:16 PM
2

No. I am in no position to say what is going on. I am just not sure if the number of guys she’s asked out is very high or not. If she’s never actually asked to meet up with a lot of the guys and just inferred they weren’t interested, I’m not sure that tells me or her anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 07:43 PM
1

That is not the same thing as asking someone out and them declining. Those scenarios are very gray areas. Those guys could have been interested in someone else or something else could have been going on. She’d have to ask out at lot more guys before anyone can say for sure that there is some kind of problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 07:20 PM
1

She would ask a guy out on a date every time you went out together?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 07:04 PM
1

I don’t have sex. That part just sounded a little strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 06:44 PM
8

Why is it a guy’s responsibility for you to, “feel safe?”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:55 PM
1

Haha. That’s fine with me since they probably won’t be interested anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:51 PM
2

It’s not worth it if you can find someone else. If you can’t find anyone else, it might not be worth it but depends on how much time, energy and money it requires. As long as it is not an unreasonable expenditure, there isn’t much to lose if you can’t find anyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 05:28 PM
1

Sure. Sounds reasonable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:52 PM
1

I used to approach females with no luck before covid. I haven’t tried since. Usually they weren’t rude or anything but I guess a few were. Have they just gotten nastier? I haven’t done it in a few years so I am way out of the loop on what has changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:31 PM
1

Social spheres are limited, even large ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:17 PM
1

Some people will have a niche but most people won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 03:10 PM
1

How many guys has she asked out?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 02:57 PM
1

I’ve never had a girlfriend but I hope you aren’t trying to sell yourself to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:42 PM
1

I’ve never dated.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:41 PM
1

I’m about 10 years older than you. Going back to the mid-to-late nineties, guys were always somewhat discouraged from approaching females they didn’t know. I don’t think for the same reason as today, exactly. People did it but it was considered a kind of silly thing to do. Some would suggest you should just leave the females alone. I didn’t do it for years but eventually started to approach strangers because I had no other way of meeting someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:33 PM
5

I would like to know how many people each of these females asked out. Otherwise, I don’t have nearly enough information to have a commentary.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/23 01:26 PM
3

You ask guys that you don’t know to come and hang out with you and your friends? I thought you meant a group outing of some kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 02:11 AM
2

I don’t really notice it in advertising but I don’t consume that much media. What bothers me is female sales or customer service people acting nice to me in a way that no female ever has in any other context. I almost want to ask them out just to make it an uncomfortable situation for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 02:00 AM
4

I had to pay for it. That isn’t the same. Stats don’t take into account a a particular person’s situation. They’re just a snapshot of a population at large. I’d like to see the numbers of guys in my situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 01:52 AM
3

I’m am in my early 40s. I have exactly one date to my name. No girlfriends, purchased sex twice in my early 20s. Maybe it happens someday but it probably won’t at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 01:34 AM
1

I don’t have any of those things but thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 01:28 AM
5

Let’s face it, we’re probably screwed if we need a strategy and I need a strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:51 AM
1

I wouldn’t know because I don’t know any females outside of my family. It’s a curse but sometimes a blessing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 12:43 AM
1

It’s easier not to answer a question when you change the subject.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:36 PM
1

What’s the underwear, “scene”of your city?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:33 PM
1

It’s easy to make a lot of money when you have a lot of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:27 PM
1

It has never happened to me but legend has it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:25 PM
3

Start it as a group thing? What does that mean? What kind of group were you assembling trying to seduce these guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 10:20 PM
1

As a guy who has never had sex that wasn’t purchased, if some female slept with me, why would I just leave and never talk to them again? It was too hard to find to give up that easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 09:58 PM
1

What on earth are, “slutshaming,” and “purity culture.”. As a guy who is having no sex, I’m all for stuffiness but they ought to direct it my way once in a while. That said, I’m guessing the real slutty females are probably few and and far between, possibly the stuff of urban legend. If there were enough of them out there, they ought to come my way once in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 09:12 PM
4

Ya. Well, it’s even worse than that because most single females out there aren’t interested in meeting someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:59 PM
6

I think the females out there think everyone needs 15 friends. Most of us guys have one or two friends and don’t really think about having any more. A lot of guys don’t know any females anyway so it’s not getting you an in as much as they’re implying.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:53 PM
3

It says third place not third space. Do you people actually talk in this way? A lot of guys don’t care that much about having more than one or two friends. It might hurt the feelings of some but I don’t think most.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 08:47 PM
0

I’m a straight guy. No. I don’t have a wife or girlfriend or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:32 AM
2

Hopefully you don’t join my club at 40 but, as you know, there is not a lot we can do either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 10:55 PM
1

Maybe there are guys who don’t have to but I’ve never had a female introduce herself to me or ask me out on a date. For some of us, we have to ask or we get nothing. I get nothing either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 10:44 PM
3

Well no one that I tried with liked me. Someone could have but I didn’t know about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 07:18 PM
2

I know. I was just curious what kinds of reasons were good or bad, from your vantage point.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 06:12 PM
3

Hey, then I’d be happy to cook, clean, do whatever you need. I’d rather not work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:42 PM
1

Not much. I don’t know if I am interested in you or not. You probably aren’t interested in me anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:40 PM
-2

Job/cash/money. Whatever she needs me to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:38 PM
0

Bare minimum. I’m not a romantic guy anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:36 PM
5

I’m in my early 40s with no experience. I’ve never had to explain it to someone but I would just say no one has been interested in me, if someone were to ask me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:32 PM
2

Sounds plausible.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:18 PM
4

In that case, why even bring those guys into the equation? I don’t know of any of those guys but you do or have you heard stories about them second hand and thought you should address?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:14 PM
1

Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:09 PM
3

Interesting that you are attracted to and have sexual chemistry with guys who can’t do those things. I don’t think I know of a single guy that doesn’t do any of the things you alluded to. I guess surgical procedures are on the table but not something I or any sane person would expect someone to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:09 PM
4

Who are you going out with? Those things are pretty unremarkable and not hard to find. There is no other contraception for a male if the couple doesn’t want to use condoms, as far as I know. I don’t have sex so I may be wrong but why wouldn’t the female have that responsibility in the scenario you presented?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:02 PM
2

I guess nothing. I’m not exactly a romantic guy or anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:55 PM
2

Meeting that low bar really drives me wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:49 PM
3

Yeah. Maybe you’re right. I don’t know any females outside of my family. My point of view here is pretty worthless. I also haven’t used online dating in over 10 years so I don’t have a lot to contribute in terms of that realm.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:47 PM
0

I don’t think of those things as, “acts of service.” They are the bare minimum for a wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:41 PM
25

In a perfect world. That kind of thing doesn’t exist for a lot of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:34 PM
1

Show up but that is asking a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:33 PM
-3

None of those things. Keep a clean house, cook, do what I ask her to do, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 04:31 PM
1

I have no dating experience but it doesn’t take any to realize most of those things don’t work out in the end. Seems silly to hold a grudge or make the other person out to be something terrible. It usually doesn’t work out and there isn’t necessarily anything wrong with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 01:54 PM
1

Some guy on here told me he knew a female that was unable to meet anyone and very unhappy about it. I asked him how many guys she’d asked out on a date. You can guess the answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 01:03 AM
1

I hate my job. If I ever met a female (slim chance), I am telling them I’m unemployed. All of that said, I don’t think the words rhyme.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 07:17 PM
4

Anything in person is better than something online. The problem is making it happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:59 PM
2

Probably but not online.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 07:58 PM
6

I think you are sorely mistaken. People love the illusion of control.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 06:40 PM
2

I can’t speak for anyone else but I’m not.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 06:37 PM
3

Yeah, maybe you’re right. I’m too sheltered in my life to have a good answer in either direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 04:48 PM
1

I’ve never dated anyone but if you can, why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 04:36 PM
5

I don’t know that there is a divide. The division is my (and maybe your) personal experience but not necessarily present on a large scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 04:35 PM
1

They’re insulting you. Why are you taking it literally?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 04:33 PM
1

Did someone tell you to do this?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 04:23 PM
1

I wouldn't know. I don't know any females outside of my family.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 06:38 PM
1

There are very few females looking to meet someone and certainly nowhere near enough to go around. I've lived it firsthand my entire life.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 06:35 PM
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I was close to both of my parents. I think parents' role in dating success is overblown. As great as they were to me, they weren't capable of going out and finding me a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 05:46 PM
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Nothing out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:46 PM
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No experience with either.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 09:45 PM
1

I’m a pretty logical guy when I’m not upset.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 08:47 PM
2

What does, “is it always been the same?” supposed to mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 04:35 PM
1

I’m sure that it happens often where money is the initial attraction but they grow to like other things about a person. They no longer care about money so we may never know. I don’t think it’s as universally doomed as some make it out to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 05:20 PM
1

I think (there is no way for me to know for certain) they stopped looking because there is nothing out there. I don’t think that is the same as not wanting.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:34 PM
0

Men don’t hate fat women. Where does this BS come from? Go anywhere under the sun and you will see a fat woman walking around with a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:36 PM
3

I tried online dating back in 2010-2011. I didn’t have a phone then. It seemed like a complete scam. I haven’t used it since. Until the last few years, I just tried asking people I saw while I was out doing whatever I normally do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:18 PM
4

I am not interested in this kind of discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:13 PM
4

Hahaha. I’m sure whatever I’ve done, you will say it wasn’t enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 03:12 PM
2

Ignoring a question is rude in my opinion. Lying is the rudest but only if I knew it was a lie. Knowing a lie, in real time, would be unusual. I’m sure people have lied to me but I never had information to confirm at the time they were telling the lie.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:48 PM
3

Ha. I guess I disagree with one thing in that I was delegitimizing her experience. I really don’t have any familiarity with her (I think she’s female) experience so I am unable to legitimize or delegitimize. My opinion is irrelevant to her experience anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:18 PM
3

I don’t disagree with anything you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:14 PM
2

Yeah, well not to me, but secondhand. I don’t talk to people about their girlfriends or wives. I only have a few friends and they are single guys. They’re similar to me in that they would rather meet someone than be alone but there is no one out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:02 PM
2

You hear whatever you want to hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:54 PM
5

It isn’t worse for everyone but it is for some people. You haven’t been in a position where it might be worse, so you (and I) can’t say to someone that they’re better off alone if we don’t know how bad it is for them when they are alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:53 PM
4

You can say that because you can just move on to someone else. You don’t seem to understand that not everyone has that luxury. You’d have to weigh a bad situation with a female against being alone - another bad situation for a lot of people. Not everybody has a choice between good and bad. For many, the choice is between bad and less bad. For people who have to choose the least-worse scenario, they don’t expect to be happy but it’s better than the alternative.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:45 PM
10

Unfortunately, I can’t populate the earth with females interested in meeting someone. Creating people out of thin air is not that easy, even for someone as incredible as me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:31 PM
10

A lot of those people don’t have that luxury. You just have to work with what you have or wait around for a very long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:24 PM
21

How do you vet when you have no dates? If I miraculously get a date in the next few years and she doesn’t pass my vetting process, I’ll wait another 10 years for a date and hope she passes? Like it or not, some of us don’t have the luxury of vetting. We have to work with what we have or wait around for years. I don’t have any interest in paying for someone who I’ll probably never see again anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:07 PM
1

Why would it just flip? I have no way of knowing if it will or will not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 02:05 AM
1

Buyers remorse distorts the memory, I would think.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 05:39 PM
5

Lack of opportunities. Opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 05:26 PM
5

That isn’t the same thing as pairing off with another female.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 05:17 PM
1

I don’t think it’s as easy to find as you are saying. This sounds pretty unusual and not something most guys - even in the same position as this maybe fake guy - would be able to hang their hat on. I would probably not have a problem with this but it is far from ideal. Better than nothing but far from ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 05:00 PM
7

One way of saying, “the way I think you are supposed to.”
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 04:53 PM
8

Curious to know about the men who were not looking to date. I would bet most of those guys were looking to date within the past few years. I don’t buy that they have no interest in dating. My guess is they know they can’t date people who aren’t there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 04:47 PM
40

I don’t think there are more female same-sex couples than male. I don’t have the numbers but I would be surprised if the difference is large.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 04:42 PM
1

I don’t know any females outside of my family. I have no commentary outside of that. I was just speaking as a guy in his 40s who makes over $100k - nobody knows nor would they care. If I made a million a year, I’m sure I could, “buy,” a date here or there but that sounds less than ideal, to put it mildly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 04:40 PM
1

I tend to agree with you but I do think things get a little grayer at much higher levels of earning (let us say $500k a year or more). That said, I don’t know that many females are meeting guys with that type of money. If they are, they may not know and it may be only once or twice in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 04:08 PM
1

I don’t disagree but it’s not as transparent as you think. You’d be very hard-pressed to eyeball wealth. Many people with a lot of money, don’t want people to know how much they have. At least, they don’t want people they don’t know very well to know what they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 04:04 PM
2

I’m in my early 40s and no, not in my experience. It’s the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 04:02 PM
3

Not necessary. Most of us are fine how we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 04:01 PM
0

I haven’t used online dating in over 10 years but I don’t buy that this person had hundreds of messages. Some of the females on online dating sites looked pretty good but nobody was that desirable. You certainly see much more attractive people in day-to-day public life. I did find it strange that a lot of the females on there did not respond to a message. I don’t understand why you would go onto a website to meet someone and not respond to the people that may be interested in meeting you. It’s p…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/23 08:17 PM
1

I don’t know what you are referring to. I think it’s pretty transparent I don’t believe in giving or taking advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 04:10 PM
11

I’ve been there minus the female friends. The problem with opinions and advice is that when someone gives you bad advice or an opinion that is not true, they don’t pay any price. People will dispense BS early and often when they have nothing to lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 07:17 PM
1

Makes no difference unless you are talking about gay dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 07:09 PM
1

I’m not sure what planet you live on. Females don’t even like me but they (and males) seem appreciative if I help them with carrying something heavy or anything along those lines. I know they’re probably not interested in me but I’ve never had a bad experience just helping someone out if I’m there and able to. That would be an unusual scenario if that somehow caused you a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/23 03:11 PM
1

Discussion of feelings and commiserating.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/23 04:06 PM
1

I read it. I can’t answer whether that kind of person is out there. I don’t know any females outside my family. I wouldn’t be able to tell you. You probably know more than I do but who you know is still considerably limited by many factors. I don’t think everyone has an aversion to thinking of themselves as agreeable so someone out there as you described is plausible from my point of view.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 10:24 PM
2

I thought females were suited to that kind of thing and liked it. I don’t know any outside of my family but I guess legend has it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 09:58 PM
6

Well I have never dated. I was asking a question.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 09:44 PM
2

Isn’t it the female’s job? I don’t see how it is a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 09:35 PM
2

I am attracted to females my age (40s) or in their 30s. They do not like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 09:30 PM
3

He may not be looking to appeal to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 09:26 PM
1

Why does anyone need to improve anything? A lot of us are fine with who we are but would like to meet someone. Wanting to meet someone doesn’t mean anybody should change who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 09:18 PM
2

I don’t know if appearance is the culprit because I think I am a pretty average guy in that regard. I can say that no female has gotten to know my personality so it certainly can’t be my personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/23 09:10 PM
1

I have never heard of SOC-8 and know nothing. I vote a straight know-nothing ticket.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 06:34 PM
13

Apologies if this seems like a stupid question but I don’t read a lot of this online material or talk to anyone online but what are the problems females have that you are referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/23 03:29 PM
1

I don’t think that plays as big a role as it sounds. I don’t think anyone would tie their, “self-worth,” to being a roommate but listen to the woman in the article.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 08:31 PM
1

I’ve done it many times. Although, I haven’t since covid started. I know other guys who have. I don’t know if it’s the norm in 2023 and I am not sure why that would be important. If you’re looking to meet someone, you do what you have to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 06:33 PM
1

You didn’t ask me if I would say the same thing to a man (I would). You asked me, “ How many socially well adjusted men with decent jobs and stable mental health cold approach random women who has done nothing to indicate interest not even a smile?” Your english is terrible. I desperately hope it is not your first language.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 06:23 PM
1

“women who has done?” Is english your first language? I will answer your question, however. I don’t know. I don’t know how I would be angle to get that information. I am not particularly interested in knowing or getting that information.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 06:12 PM
1

You’re not looking to meet someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 05:50 PM
1

She could always find out for herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 04:33 PM
1

I don’t know or haven’t known them well enough to say either way. Do they like me?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 04:12 PM
1

Who cares about feeling desired? I’m sure desirable people feel undesired and undesirable people feel desired. The question is whether or not you are desired and the proof is in the pudding. I am undesirable (by track record) and I am leaving my feelings out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 04:10 PM
1

I don’t think you’re saying anything new when you say men with fewer ties think they have nothing to lose and are willing to take more risks for their personal gain.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/23 03:30 AM
0

Why do both need to work? I’m sorry but that is overly dramatic. Parents berating their kids isn’t, “traumatic.” If you’re an adult and your parents berating you caused you that much distress, your problems run much deeper than whatever your parents said to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 10:27 PM
1

Feel heard/unheard? Is this some new way people are talking?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 09:55 PM
1

I don’t have anything to add but we sure are more propagandized than even when I was growing up, a time not in the distant past by any stretch. I am very much out of the loop and even I have noticed this. So many people seem to have some kind of, “belief system,” for every little thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 08:35 PM
1

Has that been a recent change? I think 2003 or 2004 was my first experience going to bars (I was never a drinker) and it was about the same back then. The females seemed very, “on guard,” and reticent to converse with someone they didn’t know. I did approach a ton of females there but in retrospect there was probably no chance of it working. They had no interest in conversation or anything along those lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 06:23 PM
3

If many people are having the problem how can you blame it on a particular person’s behavior? A single person usually isn’t able to buck demographic trends. Not everyone is able or wants to move just to maybe one day meet someone. You, yourself are telling us it took five years. Places with higher population density and female-to-male ratios are cost-prohibitive for a good deal of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 05:55 PM
7

I don’t know about his location or any other important factors but the pool is very limited for a lot of us. You can’t meet people who aren’t there.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 05:10 PM
8

I am not so sure it’s his friends who are the awkward ones. Joking aside, a lot of females - by that I mean the overwhelming majority - are not interested in meeting someone they don’t know. Conversation needs to be cooperative on both ends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:35 PM
1

30 dates? That is many. I’m in my early 40s. I have one date (and one scam date) under my belt. At least you have strength in numbers or numbers working for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/23 03:32 PM
0

Hahaha. I am not in favor of bullying but I think it isn’t the worst thing in this case. The last thing anybody should encourage people to do is spin their wheels for something that won’t make much of a difference in the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:49 PM
1

Evidently. Some of us just want someone interested in who we are. Incredible concept to these genii.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:43 PM
0

BS self-help advice. You’re just wasting time and money most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:41 PM
1

I haven’t used online dating in over 10 years but I don’t remember the females being particularly attractive. Some of them were okay but nothing special. There may have been one or two very attractive females on there but nothing I can remember offhand. I’d say they were below average in attractiveness, on average. I can’t gauge men’s attractiveness so I have no commentary on men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/23 09:31 PM
2

Ha. I’ve never had a female friend. Are you calling me ugly?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 03:04 PM
1

I never drew a picture in my mind’s eye but I know it when I see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 03:04 PM
0

I’m inexperienced in my 40s and the other person’s experience level doesn’t matter to me. The only person who took advantage of me didn’t know about my experience level, so I can’t tell you whether it makes a difference or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/23 03:02 PM
2

Core member of Generation Z? I didn’t realize who you were.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 02:08 PM
6

Did you actually spend time thinking up this weird scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 02:08 PM
1

How is it a good investment? Your employer doesn’t care about you. If you are self-employed- and want any degree of success - you will have no life. Also depends on the skills. A lot of skills expire into obsolescence. Sure, some people have a great job or whatever but the odds are against it and that probably won’t be you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/23 05:37 PM
1

I still say if you are looking to meet someone, the very first thing you would need to do is ask a lot of people out but I guess that is asking too much. Incredible.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 11:56 PM
1

I’m not sure what your entire anecdote is about now. You said you knew of many females who wanted to meet someone but were unable to. You provided this particular female as an example. Then you tell me she met someone already? Why exactly were you responding to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 08:47 PM
1

I don’t buy that for a second. If she wants it bad enough, she will do whatever it takes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 11:23 PM
2

“She’s not going to actually try to meet someone. She’s going to hope they try.” If she were truly looking to meet someone, she would do a lot more than hope they asked her out.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 03:58 PM
2

Not an answer to my question. She will ask many out if she is looking to meet someone. She will then ask out more.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 12:12 AM
2

How many people did she ask out?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 11:53 PM
1

I don’t even know what that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 09:11 PM
11

Ha. Who knows? Stay tuned for my story about the one time a female did complain to me about trying to meet someone. It was amusing, to say the least.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 02:40 PM
79

You’re going to the internet where undesirable guys similar to me go to complain. Undesirable females do the same. The reality is that very few single females are actually looking to meet someone and have no reason to complain about something that isn’t a problem for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 02:32 PM
8

I’m surprised someone is saying this here. In many aspects of life, a lot of us have no good option. We work with what we have to the best of our ability. It is not even good and far from ideal, but better than nothing and less worse than many alternatives. Not exactly inspiring but something everyone should learn about decision making in life. There are some things that are pure damage control and nothing more.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 02:18 PM
2

They can go back in time and find me someone to have sex with 20 years ago if it is so upsetting. Unless they are capable of that, their opinion surrounding this doesn’t hold a lot of water.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 02:12 PM
1

Your 60% number is from anonymous surveys designed to capture, “unreported,” (to law enforcement or other authorities) abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 07:00 PM
1

Not true. Self-reports of, “abuse,” are extremely subjective and unreliable.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:38 PM
1

Keep up? You think you are so ingenious because you went to college or so much, “faster,” I guess?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:35 PM
1

Misery loves company. I never went to college and never wanted to but the entire thing sounds terrible. What is supposed to be so great about college anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:31 PM
1

I am not familiar with any of these scenarios first hand so it is not fair for me to offer any commentary. I do agree that our reputation or perceived reputation precedes us.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:24 PM
1

You saw posts here and you are asking the people here, in this very niche group whether something is true? Is this a serious question?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:07 PM
3

Maybe they are picking assholes because they are assholes themselves. What makes their character unimpeachable?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 03:15 AM
1

Go back to lifting weights (and dropping them on your noggin, evidently).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 07:16 PM
1

Online.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 06:02 PM
1

No it didn’t. You can’t eat at a restaurant over a wire.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:51 PM
2

Not really sure where you are going with this train of thought. E-commerce did not replace chain restaurants.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:51 PM
0

I don’t know. It’s not something I am particularly interested in but I guess other people are. From what the guy is stating , she was fine with it. Why should I be upset if she isn’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:33 PM
3

Not all risk has to do with the law. I am not sure why I am telling you that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:22 PM
3

If they were so upset about it why would they call him again? Do you think you’re being some kind of hero for someone that has no problem with the situation as far as we know?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:16 PM
1

They use reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 09:52 PM
3

You’re actually doing something that helps people, or automotives, at the very least. Working a bureaucratic, BS job - that so many of us work - is pretty low status in my book even if it pays more.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:32 PM
1

I don’t know why anyone would care about the type of job you have unless they had to go to work with you. I could see caring about hours if you’d never see the person on their schedule. Otherwise, it just sounds as though someone is inventing a reason to care about something that doesn’t affect them.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:29 PM
4

All the behaviors you cited are pretty obnoxious, from anyone. In my experience, females have no compunction about being rude to me. I can’t speak for other guys but I doubt I’m the only one.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 08:19 PM
2

If the females are looking to meet someone, it doesn’t matter, they’re doing what they have to do. If otherwise, they will make up any excuse for why someone should not try to meet them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 05:10 AM
2

Please tell me English is not your first language. I don’t know if I agree or disagree with what you wrote. This was too brutal to read.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 01:31 AM
0

You are right, of course but dealing with the cult of, “self-improvement.” God bless you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 12:06 AM
1

Devil’s advocate but I pay a lot of people that do work for me in cash. A lot of people do because they’ll give you a little bit of a deal for paying cash. When you’re getting into thousands of dollars, you need to use $100 bills. People who take cash will have a lot of $100s laying around.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/22 02:03 PM
1

That is not exactly my definition of a friend. It wasn’t anything directed at the person that was obnoxious but what you said.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 08:58 PM
1

I tend to agree with you. I just don’t think many females are interested in meeting someone. You’re working with a very limited pool of candidates and there probably aren’t nearly enough to go around. Unfortunately, a lot of us are going to be left out completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:26 AM
0

What?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 01:45 AM
-2

You have to give it up before a guy can make you enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 01:33 AM
2

Completely meaningless if they’re working backward from what they already know about a person. Unless they can predict who is bad and unsuccessful beforehand, they’re just rationalizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 11:53 AM
1

Haha. I’ll leverage anything for it at this point. “Bad,” I can live with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 11:03 PM
1

I live in a fairly remote area and the answer is that you don’t. With all of that said, I didn’t have any more luck in a large metropolitan areas. I am happy to provide these words of encouragement at any time.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:46 PM
1

I’ve somewhat given up since covid. I haven’t really given up, it’s just not the same approaching people any longer. There isn’t a lot of fun involved when the result is the same every time. There just aren’t females out there looking to meet someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:18 PM
1

You can pretend some other female is right around the corner but if there is no one there, you’re just cutting off your nose to spite your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 05:15 PM
0

I have a similar outlook. I am a very inexperienced guy. I haven’t had exposure to the other wonderful things about females that you might learn as you get to know them, whatever they are. The only thing I have access to is their sexual attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:58 AM
2

I think many people and I have worked under that assumption. I think we were wrong. Many females - whether they are truly, “happy,” about it or not is another discussion - would rather be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:52 AM
1

That is because it isn’t as much money as it sounds in some areas. There is a level of wealth where you could probably, “buy,” nearly any female. I am talking about something - many times greater than $400-$500k yearly - where spending money on an extravagant date is the same to them as spending a few bucks for you or me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:47 AM
1

Tell me where to go if it’s so easy to find. I would like an address.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 03:42 AM
1

It’s not impossible but nearly impossible with females on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 01:11 AM
2

In a perfect world, I think the latter followed by the former but I wouldn’t ever want to live alone. I’ve never seen things go well for someone who lives by themselves. I don’t think it is good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 10:12 PM
2

Stop discussing with these people. They’re not arguing in good faith. “Be somebody else,” is these people’s go-to when they’re out of ideas.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 10:04 PM
1

Not everybody can just make themselves, “high value,” or get a well-paying job. Unless you are saying, “your best bet is to be lucky?” I would agree with that. I would rather be lucky than good.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 08:18 PM
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Sounds like advice but someone has to work the low skilled jobs. What are those people supposed to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 06:55 PM
2

I think it’s something similar to social skills online. The term might not be the best fit. For example, I live a fairly isolated life and don’t know many people. A good deal of online - and other types of - jargon is lost on me and I know I am missing a lot of what I read. For instance, I am unable to completely understand over half of the comments or writings on here because they’re saturated with a lot of terminology I don’t know. I think if you don’t know that online jargon, you’re not going…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 02:30 PM
2

As a single guy in my 40s, with no dating experience, I don’t think people see me as a, “violent threat.” They may see me as a sad loser or something or something along those lines - and that is fine - but I’ve never had the feeling I am scary to anyone. I guess I could be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 02:24 PM
3

“If everything isn’t perfect, in my distorted view, why bother?”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 01:48 PM
2

Females are usually not actually looking to meet someone, even when they say they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 01:46 PM
2

Okay, makes more sense and forgivable. My apologies.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 07:03 PM
1

According to you, english is your first language.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 05:06 PM
0

I never didn’t try to get to know them as people. I don’t think they see me as a person, to tell you the truth. This must be a false narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 05:04 PM
1

How would I know how they work when females will not talk to me?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 01:49 PM
1

What is a 3d place?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 07:13 PM
1

Ha. I actually don’t know any females aside from family members, don’t go out to bars, and gave up on trying online dating many years ago for the reason you lay out. So I am in agreement with you, to some degreee. The problem is, I’ve approached and tried to get a date with so many females, with no luck, that I think online dating is almost ancillary to this problem. There just aren’t many females looking to meet someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:54 PM
1

I think a female paying for a date - I’ve had one date in over 40 years and even I know this - requires such a suspension of disbelief that it isn’t conceivable to most of us. Of course I would prefer her to ask and pay but if this actually happened to me, I’d be sure it was some kind of scam or strategy. It’s so rare that it has become a reality test. Survey and polling data surrounding this question requires a lot of context.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:41 PM
1

Haha. I’m sure you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:31 PM
2

“This type of posts?” “ This types of comments?” You do understand the difference between the word, “this,” and, “these,” I hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:21 PM
1

Is english your first language?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 03:09 PM
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I think there is a lot of ignorance when people discuss the past, that did not live through it nor understand that changes that we regard as, “good,” are actually not enjoyed by everyone nor necessarily needed. I can’t comment on dating because I was too young to date but life in the 80s and 90s was far superior for me and many others compared with today. People will point to statistics such as the drop in crime. That only - or mostly - occurred in major cities and some medium to small cities. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 02:47 PM
1

I doubt it makes much of a difference. You can’t see those things when a guy is wearing clothes. Most of the time guys are wearing clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 06:17 PM
-1

I tend to agree with you. It’s called the golden rule. Whomever makes more money (has the gold) makes the rule. Why does reddit think it’s luck when the guy makes more?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 03:13 PM
1

Cooperation and deference.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 02:47 AM
2

I tend to agree. The question I always ask is, “confidence in what, exactly and why should this person be so confident?” In most contexts, I think it is not a good thing because it’s not always easy to separate luck from skill. People who under promise and a over-deliver probably don’t appear as, “confident,” but have a better understanding of whatever they’re talking about and I would take that person over a confident BSer in almost every scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 01:26 AM
1

Speaking as a guy in my early 40s who has never had a girlfriend, if I had one at 18 or 19 (or a few years older), I would never have any intention of staying with that person forever and neither should she. Who would want the rest of their life tied to a decision they made at that age, when we all know so little? People should be allowed to respect their own ignorance.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:34 PM
1

Scarcity mindset? What are you talking about? Females looking to meet someone are few and far between. In many places, they hardly exist at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 08:28 PM
0

Depends what you mean by struggling. You could have one parent staying home, ability to save for retirement, and maintain an emergency savings. If that is all sustainable but you don’t go out to eat, your kids get clothes second-hand, and you don’t go on family (or any) vacations; I’d say one parent staying home is worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 04:07 PM
1

A lot of cash and a lot of cachet.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 04:00 PM
12

Because you were born in 2005.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:30 PM
7

What? Remind me never to listen to anything you ever say.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 08:28 PM
1

Apologies if I am taking this too literally or reading too much into it. Are you saying everything is held constant except for changes in the body and sexual orientation?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 04:50 PM
1

I am surprised you are allowed to post something so reasonable. I will chalk it up to some kind of a systemic failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 04:38 PM
2

I don’t see how someone can record until they realize the guy is trying to get a date or phone number. If someone took out their phone and held it towards me as though they were recording, I would just walk away. That seems easy enough to avoid and fortunately, I’ve never seen it, as far as I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 04:20 PM
2

I haven’t used one since around 2011 or so but one thing I didn’t like about them is the bio. I actually don’t want a lot of information on someone I’ve never met. I’d rather learn that through question and answer. I didn’t really buy a lot of the BS I’d read on there but it was concerning what people thought would make them sound appealing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 04:13 PM
0

Social science studies are almost completely worthless. They’re the dumbest people in research. Almost every single one of I’ve looked at has several methodological flaws and I never even went to college or took any kind of course on research. It’s almost a joke how stupid psychological researchers are, in particular.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 03:50 PM
1

Huh? Are you a nutty female?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 12:40 AM
1

Sounds nice in theory but when there are virtually no females looking to meet someone, even if they are single, a person’s likability is wonderful but it has nowhere to go. You can’t go out with someone who isn’t there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 05:55 PM
2

You see females of all sizes walking around with a guy. I don’t think it is much of a problem for them to find someone if they’re looking to meet someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 05:52 PM
1

I don’t think it destroyed anything and I had no luck when I tried it over 10 years ago. It’s a scam but dating was probably ruined before it ever came along. It would have died on the vine if so many people weren’t desperate for an alternative to the pre-online dating dating world.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 05:41 PM
1

The people on here are incredibly dumb and even that is an understatement. They think one, “study,” makes something true. They think stats are the cause and not an effect of something. Too nerdy and not even smart. Their idea of physical activity is an indoor gym since they aren’t athletic enough to play any kind of actual sport. It’s sad and pathetic. This from a guy with one date in over 40 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 05:22 PM
1

With the amount of time and BS I’ve had to deal with, she should be buying me a ring. Of course, I don’t wear jewelry so I will take a really nice couch instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 01:35 AM
1

You’ve lost me at night life. I live in a small town where that kind of thing does not exist. I couldn’t dance or whatever is they do at these place to save my life so I am probably not missing out on anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 01:29 AM
1

I haven’t tried going to a bar in almost 20 years but it doesn’t sound as though a lot has changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 12:46 AM
2

As another unlucky guy, bars are an enormously overhyped waste of time. Just ask people out in the places you normally go. You won’t think you just spent a ton of unnecessary time and money to try to get a phone number.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 04:15 PM
6

I don’t think I was allowed in and I don’t think I am now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 08:30 PM
1

Nudity.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 07:48 PM
0

Reddit is not representative of the world at large. What users on here think doesn’t mean very much in the grand scheme. In my upbringing and day-to-day life, I’m not sure Ive ever heard someone with strong opinions on this kind of thing for whatever that is worth (probably not much). Traditional roles often just play out without any real discussion or resentment by anybody, I would think. It’s probably just a vocal minority who has a problem with them. Who knows? I’ve never even had a girlfrien…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 07:30 PM
6

Easier said than done. When you have no access to sex, you end up setting aside a period of time for nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 07:07 PM
3

In all seriousness, going shopping with you at WalMart, on a Friday evening is probably exactly what these overly obnoxious types need.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 05:24 PM
1

Wow. What a shock.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 05:22 PM
2

Anybody can say anything online. There is transparently a lot of public relations BS if people are that loudly telling you about their background before you meet them.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 05:17 PM
1

I think it’s fine as long as I don’t know who they slept with. I’d probably question their head if I knew the person was ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 01:12 PM
1

I’m in my early 40s and I don’t even really see people more than a few years younger than me as actual people, so I can see the confusion over these kinds of situation. In all seriousness, if it’s that upsetting to so many, they should try to change the law. The anger sounds misdirected.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 01:07 PM
1

I don’t think commentary on appearance has much or anything to do with attractiveness or even appearance. People make those kinds of comments because they get the intended effect - hurting your feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 12:23 PM
1

I would like it but since it has never happened to me, it just screams scam. I wish it weren’t the case but I am not sure what else to think.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 03:23 PM
1

Less than one percent is a, “high percentage,” in your book?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 03:16 PM
1

I'm 41. I don't know any people in their 20s and I am not sure that I want to know whatever it is they do. Where do you, "keep reading?"
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 11:44 PM
1

Stupid question. Ask them questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 11:43 PM
1

The person is manipulating, "us," the reader. I just have no understanding of why anyone would post a private conversation on the internet, especially for polling purposes.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 05:38 PM
1

It means nothing, it's one study from 20 years ago. Do you understand the volume of research out there?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 01:45 AM
1

Confident in what, exactly? We are just about completely in the dark about others’ internal thoughts and feelings - there is no evidence that anyone is very good at detecting these things - so yes, outward behavior means very little in terms of insight into people’s internal thoughts, feelings, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 08:57 PM
2

Having a female friend growing up, having a girlfriend as a teenager, having one as a young adult. I’m skeptical as to whether those experiences actually mean all that much - I guess I can’t say since I don’t have them - but I think other people care.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:28 PM
1

Thank you. I know it isn’t impossible and I still will always hold out some hope. I do think it is impossible to ignore that regularly missing the kinds of milestones - that I am supposed to have hit - puts me in a pretty significant jam.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:32 PM
4

This place is off its rocker.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 08:18 PM
1

Thank you for the goodwill. It is appreciated. I am in my early 40s. My window of opportunity is just about closed.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 05:34 PM
1

No. I have looked into them but I couldn’t find anything in my area.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 05:22 PM
2

I doubt that. There are very few females looking to meet someone and males who are looking to meet someone have them outnumbered by a good margin. It shouldn't be that hard to find a good guy with the numbers strongly in your favor.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:52 AM
0

It is probably a lot less unusual than you think. A lot of scammers will keep it to themselves. It's rare that someone is so open about what they're doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:49 AM
1

I don't think many do date seriously, if they do go out on dates. There are just very few females looking to meet someone. With this scarcity, the guys who are looking to meet someone are easy prey for any number of scams. I learned the hard way - never pay for a date. If they are serious, about meeting someone, it would not be a problem. That said, don't use online dating. You are making it easier for the scammers.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:47 AM
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I've tried it and believe it could be a great help but the bad therapists outnumber the good therapists by a wide margin. If you are like me and have no females interested in you, most of them seem pretty lost on how to help you. The best they can do is tell you to join a club or an activity. Never mind how many things have to go exactly right for that kind of thing to work. I tried it. It did not work. I think for many therapists, it is an unfamiliar problem and they are out of their depth.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:43 AM
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Thank you for disturbing me. I guess I am in the minority here, if that is true, but I prefer females in their 30s and 40s physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:19 AM
1

I sure am. New and relatively infrequent.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 09:33 PM
-1

Is english your first language?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:17 PM
1

Haha. If you are eight, thirty is old. Otherwise, I’ve never heard of 30 as an older age. Although, I did think when I reached my late 20s, or so, that I couldn’t use immaturity as an excuse any longer. How wrong I was.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:15 PM
1

One idea I’ve wondered about is some kind of dating registry maybe kept by state or local departments of health (if in the US). People who would like to get married could put their name in the registry and you would meet other people in the registry. The problem is, there would be almost no females in the registry. You would have to meet people that want to meet someone so it would be a kind of, “put up or shut up,” scenario. If these supposed single-not-by-choice females really wanted to meet s…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 02:09 PM
1

I don’t follow the news. When was this reversal? I think most people are like me and don’t pay attention to what is going on in the world. I doubt it would affect many people’s thinking whether it should or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 10:48 PM
5

I am a male and I would say that is my experience with females.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 08:15 PM
1

I think the men females hate are actually rare. As a guy that females are indifferent to, I think indifference is much worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:55 PM
2

I can’t speak for females and I’ve never heard that complaint. If they were significant in numbers, I’d have people seeking me out. I haven’t had one. I’ve asked a ton out. Nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:36 PM
2

No. I haven’t. There are single females but they aren’t looking to meet someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:23 PM
1

I’m 41 and I’ve never been asked out on a date. If there were, I’d have a lot more interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:19 PM
1

I’m glad someone said something. It’s hard for many of us to have a lot of commentary about extreme outliers when a lot of us don’t even know any of these people ourselves. I’ve never had a girlfriend and only one date my entire life. If you saw me or met me out in the world, you’d have no idea. You’d just think I was a regular guy. I don’t know how many people share my experience but I’m pretty certain most of us are pretty average/boring/pedestrian looking and will continue to be the rest of o…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:17 PM
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I don’t know. I’m a guy but when someone is upset, I feel bad for them. Usually people aren’t angry for no reason. Often, it isn’t their fault either. Whomever they’re lashing out against doesn’t make a difference to me (even if it’s me), I just feel bad that they’ve had bad breaks in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:11 PM
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I don’t know. There are almost no single females looking to meet someone. I don’t see how you can make generalizations about that small a sample size.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:06 PM
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It’s probably just something slowly building for 50 years or thereabouts. Maybe sometime in the last 10-15 years, we reached a tipping point. Not sure. I’ve had trouble my entire dating-eligible (25 years) life so I haven’t seen any recent changes of note.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:01 PM
1

Haha. A female can call me whatever she wants. If she’s not interested in me, the result is the same. If someone is telling me they like me and still calling me names, then that is another problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 11:02 PM
1

It’s not within their control so I wouldn’t hold it against them. I am probably too old to have a family anyway, although I would have liked to have had one. I am not familiar with how adoption works - or its expense - but it seems like a good choice to me if it’s workable.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 05:56 AM
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No problem. I wasn’t upset or anything and I am not well-educated either. I just didn’t really see such a rare thing as a gauge for a regular guy or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 07:35 PM
2

I am not a researcher but shouldn’t controls reflect some kind of normalcy? Asexuals are so few and far between, I don’t see the value of using something that far out on the margins as a comparison point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 07:04 PM
0

What is her race and why would she hate white people? This sounds like a nutty person so I wouldn’t go too crazy over whatever they’re saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:39 PM
0

I’ve never heard of an asexual person. I’m sure they’re out there but I doubt they’re significant enough in numbers for anybody to care. I’m guessing it’s environmental exposure to neurotoxins that would be the culprit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:36 PM
1

It would be funny if people didn’t willingly participate in this scam en masse. Most people could do a lot of these exercises watching television, on commercial breaks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 04:56 PM
1

How about doing actual exercise and not just pay money to do an endless series of repetitive movements? I played sports throughout my childhood and the idea of paying money to go to a gym to do the same boring movements indoors ad infinitum just sounds like torture to me. It’s also a scam - gyms don’t actually want you to show up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 09:41 PM
1

You need to pry. Again, people reveal themselves with their responses and how they respond. If you’re afraid to ask people questions about themselves, then you need to get over that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:30 AM
1

Read it again. You didn’t read closely enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:11 AM
1

Read again.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:06 AM
1

Not everyone looks at other people and thinks about what, “they have to offer.” A lot of us would just like to get to know someone and hopefully find we enjoy their company in the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:05 AM
1

What is so great about social media and why should anybody care what you see on there?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 01:02 AM
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All you have to do is ask many questions. People reveal themselves in their responses and how they respond. If you want to know someone, you have to pry and find out for yourself. Otherwise, you’re left with their (maybe) calculated way of projecting themselves to you. Don’t just take someone’s word for who they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 08:16 PM
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We hate to say it but it’s true. Often we can’t just, “move on to someone who likes you.” We can only work with what we have and that usually involves trying to convince someone to like us. I think people neglect to realize that a lot of us don’t like the strategy, we just have no other choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:50 PM
1

I don’t go to bars so maybe that is why. I was going to say, I wouldn’t think that kind of thing happens very often. I am sure it has happened somewhere and maybe even more than once.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:47 PM
2

My online dating experience is from over 10 years ago so things may have changed and I may be off the mark. When I tried it, it was the females who couldn’t maintain conversation. Trying to get anything out of a female online was like pulling teeth. At least it was back in 2010-2011 or so.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:17 AM
2

I am in my early 40s with no options and nothing on the horizon, for whatever that is worth (not much, I know).
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:12 AM
2

No one has liked me yet and I tend to agree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 12:03 AM
1

My mistake. I apologize.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 03:06 PM
1

Unless you were talking about someone else. You said would give advice to a friend that you thought would keep them out of trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:33 PM
1

“Keeping them out of trouble.”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:59 AM
1

Sorry, “keeping them out of trouble.” Tomato/tomato.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:03 AM
1

I have no idea. You’re not, “saving,” anyone. You’re just making yourself look pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 12:00 AM
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You talk like a teenager.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 11:51 PM
1

You think you’re a hero. Joke is on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 11:45 PM
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Not unkind at all. You are being obnoxious with your incoherent, confused opinions and you expect people to just accept them. They’re terrible. No commentary about you as a person but you clearly are not that bright. Not bright is fine but you appear to have no ability to step back and realize that and maybe withdraw a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 11:31 PM
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It’s you’re not, “your.” If you want to have an opinion, you would need to know the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 11:05 PM
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The solution is to eliminate online dating entirely. Stop being a nerd who thinks you can just, “improve it.”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:11 PM
1

The question is why someone from the outside would think they need to have a commentary or get involved, from the outside, at all. I’m a single guy and I have no interest in other people’s girlfriends or boyfriends or spouses. The rule of thumb is stay out of it unless it is a family member of yours involved. Anyone from the outside with a strong opinion is begging to be viewed with suspicion.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:06 PM
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Irrespective whatever changes are to blame, the implication is that single guys aren’t capable or, “good enough.” Well, at one time those same men probably would have been considered capable and, incredibly, the world continued to turn on its axis.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 11:06 PM
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If it’s poor people’s fault that they’re poor, then why help them? They could have been rich but just decided not to be. What good would helping them do when it’s their fault they’re poor to begin with? They had a chance to be rich, decided against it, and now they want us rich people to help. Why should we? We decided to be rich when we had the chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 10:52 PM
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I think this is lost in these kind of silly, reductive statements the poster is making. Most single people would not be single if they lived in a different era. If that’s not proof that the climate for meeting people has changed, then I don’t know what is. People didn’t just become much more intolerable to live with within a few generations. Sure, some people can do everything in their power and overcome their shortcomings but most people won’t be able to.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 04:13 PM
1

There is no reason to believe anti-depressants work better than placebo as far as I can tell from what the literature says. Nobody serious even pretends to believe the chemical imbalance theory any longer. I’d bet a significant percentage of people prescribed probably only have mild depression anyway. While not ideal, life with the condition is livable and not worth unnecessary medical intervention.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:54 PM
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I’m not sure what you’re talking about. My family didn’t talk to me about meeting someone or going out on dates. I could be a nice, great guy or I could be a terrible guy. My problem is that females don’t talk to me at all so they’ll never find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:36 PM
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I’ve tried it. It was just a waste of time. No one was interested in me and I was stuck doing activities I didn’t care very much about to begin with. I wasn’t so concerned about keeping my good name or anything. I just got no traction with anyone. I just moved on to approaching females in the usual places I go - grocery store, gas station, etc. I never had any luck but at least that way I wasn’t going way out of my way or spending a lot of unnecessary time trying something that probably didn’t h…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 12:33 AM
2

I’ve never received one but females don’t talk to me so that is an important proviso.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 11:19 PM
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It’s a lot bleaker than that, I would guess. The number of females in any given group is limited. You will have to be able to find a single (well, maybe not) female and one who likes you. You will have to continue to attend the group’s functions for a while. If it doesn’t work out, you will need to find another group. It’s a theoretical way to meet someone but hardly a great way, when you take a step back.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 09:42 PM
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I’m 41 with no female experience. The only thing you can do is do the best you can and proceed as though it doesn’t matter. I wouldn’t say I go out of my way to tell people I don’t have experience but if someone asked me about my past, I don’t have any reason to lie or conceal the truth. If I could have chosen, I’d have gotten the experience when I was younger but it wasn’t an opportunity I ever had and here I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 12:30 AM
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Identical experience to you. I’ve had a few who were borderline rude but nothing too overt. I can’t speak for what they truly thought about it. If they weren’t willing to let me know, it’s not my problem or concern.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:38 AM
1

I never used an app. I used online dating over 10 years ago, before I had any kind of smart phone and that was clearly a scam. I’d imagine it’s only gotten worse. The whole thing seemed broken from the beginning. I won’t do anything online anymore. I don’t trust it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:20 AM
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I think a lot of them look great and may be interesting (or may not be) but I haven’t known any females outside of my family. You have to take them one at a time and not think of them as a group anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:59 PM
1

I did and, as I said, I live in a small town that is not close to a major metropolitan area (you would know this if you read). None of what you said in your response applies to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/22 02:23 PM
1

a) I don’t know why I wouldn’t be. b) Until the last few years with Covid, wherever I usually go.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/22 12:01 AM
1

I stopped listening to any type of male or female advice probably 10 years ago. There is nothing wrong with the idea of advice, in theory, but no one has ever given me advice that actually works.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 07:45 PM
2

Hahaha. Probably truer than any, “study,” can capture.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:50 PM
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I don’t know if they’re happy or unhappy and I’m not sure I’d say anyone knows. I know they aren’t looking to meet someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 11:36 PM
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Guys such as me, wouldn’t be single with one date in 40 some-odd years if a lot of those females out there weren’t okay with singledom. A single female looking to meet someone - actually looking, not just paying lip service to the idea - is an extremely rare thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 09:19 PM
1

I never asked you. I know you want to share but share with people who are interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:58 PM
1

I don’t need any information from you. It’s pretty transparent you’re trying to market yourself in some bizarre way, to a person you don’t know, for some reason only a nut like you can possibly rationalize.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:40 PM
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You are certainly a nut. You just wrote three paragraphs full of information I never asked you about.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:36 PM
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If you’re so desirable, you would not be spending this amount of time on reddit. Nice try.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:12 PM
1

I think you must be a nut. Nowhere did I read anything about three dates a day.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:03 PM
1

There are plenty of inexpensive places for a date. Talk about deliberately obtuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 08:01 PM
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I know you’re trying to sound, “smart,” but I desperately hope english is not your first language.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 07:55 PM
-1

May look differently because different people want different things. If someone’s idea of reciprocating is doing something other than what the other person wants, they are not holding up their end and there is no “balance,” as you say.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:41 AM
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Not everyone is involved with online dating. You talk as though there is no other world.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:16 AM
1

Do you realize what you’re writing? Reciprocation is what balances things out. You must be in some kind of trance.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 02:04 AM
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It’s amazing because whatever language that was written in is remarkably similar to BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:56 AM
1

I’d be happy to be friends with a female. It takes two to tango, so what I want doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/22 01:51 AM
0

You sound out of your bird brain. The glare? Does the sun also intimidate you? Estimated time of arrival? I doubt these guys laugh and stare at your daughter. You’re letting your imagination run a little too wild.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 02:31 AM
2

Smoking outside of a coffee shop is your idea of a threat?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 09:17 PM
0

I don’t doubt that people lie, just don’t make it a problem. I do see that term, “objectification,” thrown around a lot on here. It’s certainly a misnomer - no person sees someone else as an, “object.”That’s absurd. People don’t even see people they dislike as objects. I don’t disagree with you there.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 06:30 PM
1

Who cares? Height is something we have absolutely no control over. Whether the females out there care or don’t doesn’t matter. There is nothing you can do about it so why worry?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 05:13 PM
2

I can’t say I’ve heard of the derogatory things towards men. That is probably because I don’t spend time with any kind of females aside from family members. I’m just guessing but it doesn’t sound as though the people who say those things really mean them. They are probably lashing out at their disappointment with a very limited number of men. I don’t think you should take those kinds of comments so seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/22 04:54 PM
1

Who cares what men say? You see overweight, unattractive females with guys all the time. It’s not unusual by any stretch of the imagination. You can’t eyeball the other two attributes but I doubt it’s a lot different.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 06:20 PM
1

I never went to college. What’s so great about college anyway?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 05:57 PM
5

I think undesirable guys - such as me - have a hard time understanding females because they don’t really want us to understand them. They don’t see me as someone worth spending any amount of time with. This means they’re not going to be inclined to explain their train of thought or find “common ground,” for understanding, as they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:41 PM
1

I tend to agree with you. Naturally, we can all “blame,” the people who aren’t interested in us but it is not exactly their fault. You also have to consider declining marriage rates - many single people probably would be married if born in a different era - where we may just be talking about a poorly timed birth.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/22 04:33 PM
4

I think we are at an impassé.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 09:13 PM
3

Self improvement is BS. You are what you are and deal with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 09:07 PM
3

I think politics might be a female thing. My male friends and I just barely know who the president and vice president are. If you asked me about 99% of what is going on in the news, I’d have no clue. Sports, I can talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:46 PM
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I am a guy and not that interested in any of those things - maybe investing slightly. I think it is a nerdy guy posing the question. I am not very interested in the things he referred to as female interests either so I’m probably not a candidate for conversation with either of his demographics.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 08:07 PM
1

Different story, in that case. Otherwise, asking for naked pictures is fair game.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/22 07:59 PM
0

It’s fine. If the females don’t want to send naked pictures, they don’t have to. Guys asking is not a problem and on no planet was it ever a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 05:08 PM
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I don’t disagree. Nothing presented was anything more than pretty typical behavior from 18-21 guys. Nothing to bat an eye over. I don’t know why someone who never asked you, would care about you owning some kind of store.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 03:46 PM
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I don’t need anything from her. I’m just not sure why you’re taking the worst possible interpretation of someone transparently misrepresenting something and deciding these people are doing something terrible.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 03:36 PM
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I don’t particularly care to talk to someone clearly distorting information. I don’t know how you can read that and not dismiss it out of hand because it’s pretty transparent.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 03:23 PM
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Sorry but unless the person he’s asking is underaged - she didn’t say anything about that - I’ve never heard of asking for naked pictures as an illegal activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 03:09 PM
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Is something wrong with you? I didn’t see anything criminal or “harassing,” (whatever that means) in those examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 03:04 PM
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This is the reason I gave up online dating over 10 years ago. I have no idea if they were abandoning me for other guys or just jerking me around for their amusement. Someone who can’t keep their word for a pretty unremarkable meeting at a coffee shop, is not someone I want anything to do with. That was all online dating had to offer me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 01:41 PM
0

This is a lot of BS. Of course you’re going to get goofy behavior from guys aged 18-21. I’m not seeing anything unusual from what you’ve said.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 01:20 PM
1

I have never heard of Ned Fullmer and don’t know why I am supposed to care, according to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 05:54 PM
1

I didn’t need a lot of research to confirm my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 03:50 PM
1

My friend - who is not a lot older than me - took me. It was a good deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/22 07:48 PM
1

No. I’m not.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 08:04 PM
2

Well someone’s kids have to be “low,” in status. At least, relative to those high in status.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:17 PM
1

I don’t think so.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 07:08 PM
1

Well, whatever you want to call it. I don’t want to ever think I’m, “connected,” to someone I hardly know, I have to say. It would be nice to date one day.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:32 PM
1

Ya. I think my lack of experience leaves me with no commentary on the spark thing, as you call it. Sounds like fun though. I think I don’t even consider that kind of thing because it’s not something I’ve experienced.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:28 PM
1

I can understand joking around or having similar sense of humor. I would never go so far as to call that a, “connection.” That seems nutty. With dating (I’ve never done it), I think it’s just a slow process of getting to know the other person or that is my impression. The more you know and like, the higher likelihood of something going longer term. That’s my impression, no experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:19 PM
1

Oh okay. It’s just getting to know someone, not dragging something out. That usually takes a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:17 PM
1

I have never heard of anything like this and it sounds like unstable behavior and thought patterns. I am not sure about the question you are asking. What do you mean when you say, “staging something out?”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:13 PM
1

I’ve never dated but I couldn’t fathom thinking that about someone I am just getting to know. I could see a lot of excitement and hope for the future that the person may turn out to be what you hope they are. Aside from that, I think I’d build on what I know and understand about the person and hope I continue to like what I see and hear.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:11 PM
1

That is bizarre as hell to say you have some kind of, “connection,” with someone you just met. Just get to know them by spending time around them, ask them a lot of questions about themselves, their family, etc. Once you learn a good deal about them, maybe that can develop into a, “connection,” or whatever you want to call it, one day. You’re talking about starting from degree zero and you’re somehow, “connected?” Maybe in a movie or something. That doesn’t sound anything resembling real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:06 PM
1

What on earth are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:03 PM
1

For all you know, the other person could be a scammer in that short a period of time. Something is wrong with someone who thinks they’re, “connected,” to someone they hardly know.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 06:01 PM
1

I couldn’t imagine thinking I was somehow, “connected,” in any way to someone I haven’t known for years. We would need to know a great deal about each other. You can’t do that in a short period of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 05:59 PM
1

“Connection,” probably takes years. How would you know this in the first few months?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 05:40 PM
3

Anybody living in reality knows this to be true but the vast majority of people would rather pretend that it isn’t and dispense BS self-help.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 04:47 PM
1

No it was just a joke directed at anyone using that terrible metaphor.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 04:44 PM
2

As someone who hasn’t had sex since well before 2008, I am happy to be ahead of the curve.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 04:37 PM
0

Is the box cardboard or made of, “sterner stuff,” as they say?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 03:44 PM
1

I turned down a woman in 1992 because she had a Body Count CD and I did not want to dust some cops off.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/22 03:28 PM
2

Haha. Talk about deliberately obtuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 08:11 PM
1

I don’t think any guy wants to be with a dumb female. It’s just not as important to most guys as you seem to want it to be. I don’t know that I’ve ever heard of a guy that cares about a female’s, “personal achievements,” unless they’re someone he already knows and cares about. That is not to say there aren’t guys out there who do care about that kind of thing from strange females. They’re just not that important to most guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:27 PM
1

Shouldn’t the females out there just be honest in the beginning about exactly what it would take for a guy to have sex with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:05 PM
2

I wouldn’t mind paying if I knew what I was getting out of it. I’ve been scammed in the past so that ship has sailed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 07:01 PM
1

I don’t have any real problems with life aside from no females, sex, etc. I’ve thought about it a little but it’s hard to get a feel for a particular female or or where they’re coming from without getting to know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 11:15 PM
1

I wish I did. My experience with females is minimal outside of my family. I have some hope I can get to know a few and maybe date a little bit but in my early 40s, with nothing happening yet and nothing on the horizon, that is looking more and more unlikely to ever happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 10:58 PM
1

What do you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 09:50 PM
1

I’m sure they’ve cursed at me. I don’t really know nor does it matter to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 09:48 PM
1

I’d need to hear an example of what you mean when you say, “in the street.” I ignore panhandlers but don’t have any problem with them trying. They’re just doing what they think they need to do. If you’re talking about a similar scenario and have a similar line of thinking towards any man talking to you, then what is the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 09:41 PM
0

Where do you live? I don’t think I’ve ever known a guy who, “doesn’t see females as human.”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 09:30 PM
2

Everyone? I’m just looking for someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 09:15 PM
2

Those kinds of things are great, I guess, but not going to help with getting to know someone that doesn’t want you to know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:58 PM
0

No one should take you seriously after that kind of statement. Putting the word, “literally,” in front of whatever you’re trying to say doesn’t make it true.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:35 PM
5

Ha. I’ve been interested in getting to know females my entire life. The problem is they’re not interested in me getting to know them. It has to be a cooperative experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:34 PM
1

I’m not entirely sure if you’re referring to interest or attraction. I think they are not the same things. If you are referring to interest, there is not a lot to disagree with you about. If you’re referring to attraction, I think there is. That isn’t something a person can consciously choose. As an inexperienced guy, with no qualifications to make this observation, I would guess people often confuse one for the other. What people may call interest may just be attraction with a little wishful th…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:32 PM
1

I think whomever better keep it private.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:28 PM
0

All right, “and such.” Inflation has only been a problem for 18 months, if that (I don’t follow the news). You sound like someone who is captivated by whatever new buzzword or trend is popular lately.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:27 PM
2

Are you one of these people that thinks everything new is better?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:13 PM
1

I think it’s rude to ask anyone that kind of question. Besides, what someone says they, “bring to the table,” and what they, in reality, bring don’t have a lot to do with each other. Usually, you’ll have to find out that information for yourself as you get to know a person. Taking the word of someone you don’t know very well or at all isn’t a shortcut.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 08:02 PM
1

Take the $100k salary and multiply by five, I would say. You wouldn’t be able to pick a guy who earns $100k out of a lineup. The level of wealth needed to, “show it off,” without trying to show it off or be over-the-top obnoxious about it is extremely high. $300-$400k is not very much in a lot of US metropolitan areas.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/22 07:59 PM
1

I guess you didn’t read what I wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/22 12:08 AM
1

I could see how maybe a disabled type of person (not trying to be funny) might misunderstand porn or implications of porn. I think just about everyone else knows what they're watching.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/22 04:14 AM
1

I see this on here a lot. It’s complete BS. Almost no person sees another person as an object, even if they’re treating them poorly. It must be an idea someone wrote about years ago with little basis in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:31 PM
8

It’s incredible how people on here just regurgitate BS they think is settled science just because they’ve heard it somewhere a few times.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 09:40 PM
1

How would you be able to craft a personality - as though that is a reasonable thing to ask someone to do - for someone you haven’t even met yet? I think you are too much in your own head.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 05:53 PM
1

What is, “the belief that good men don’t exist?” I am very lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 05:45 PM
1

I don’t have any female friends. That is why.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 05:35 PM
3

Christ. I don’t believe in online dating, on principle (my experience was that it was a huge scam), but that is the tip of the iceberg. Those raw numbers don’t even take into account scammers and single females who are on there with no intention of meeting someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 05:01 PM
3

I’m in my 40s and was in a similar position at that age. I wouldn’t say I went out or anything but that wasn’t something readily available where I lived.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:57 PM
0

For all I would know she has different feelings after we got married and now does love me. If she is unable to express dissatisfaction that doesn’t mean she necessarily has any.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:45 PM
0

From the way it’s written, it sounds as though I would never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:31 PM
1

I wouldn’t have any problem doing it if it were legal. I live in a small town that is not that close to a major metropolitan area. That kind of thing is just not very available near me. Since it is illegal, you risk extortion and legal expenses, if caught. I’ve heard housing can be hard to obtain if a conviction for soliciting a prostitute shows on a background check. I don’t know how true that is. You probably won’t have to deal with jail time but legal fees and fines are not insignificant and …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:29 PM
0

Not the same types of information on each to contrast and compare. I’m okay with the first one faking as long as I never find out and the faking doesn’t arbitrarily cease. I guess there is no way to know that kind of thing for sure. The second person sounds as though they’re trying to follow a script. I could be wrong. There is not a lot of information to work with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 04:17 PM
2

Yeah. Understandable. Not sure about the leagues.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/22 01:35 AM
1

No faking involved. You keep pulling these malevolent terms out of left field. It’s just working with what you have and keeping an open mind. Are you one of these types that thinks some people are, “good people,” and some are, “ bad people?”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 11:54 PM
1

Why are you using such severe language? Does making it some kind of sinister act do something for you? There is no deception involved.It’s paranoid and neurotic that your mind is going in that direction. Not everyone is able to find their ideal so you look for something that can maybe build. You should be happy if you’re able to find your ideal but there is absolutely nothing wrong with working with the best you can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 10:37 PM
1

You’re off the deep end in your responses. It’s about getting to know someone that isn’t your ideal but maybe you can get to know each other and appreciate each other for who they are/I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 10:24 PM
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Ya. This guy sounds pretty nutty. Bizarre how he said the female was trying to, “emotionally connect,” with him. That sounds as though it could mean any number of things. I am not sure why he used such a vague term and didn’t give a better idea of what happened. Whatever the person said could have been pretty benign for all we know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 10:15 PM
3

Haha. Ya. Good call.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 10:09 PM
3

Do you drive a luxury car and live in a luxury house with a luxury bed and bath?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 10:04 PM
0

Why would someone take offense to another person liking them? Are you losing it?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 10:02 PM
1

Most scenarios aren’t ideal. You must be young. Usually we learn to live with it rather than complain or only the accept ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 09:50 PM
1

Haha. “Intimidation.”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 09:48 PM
1

I think what it boils down to is that some people yell and some people don’t. It’s a stylistic difference that but nothing too alarming or worth getting too upset over. Calling it abuse is just a way of saying one style is better than another.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 08:08 PM
1

I probably won’t find out but not everybody has ideal scenarios to work with. Congratulations if you do but those of us who don’t, have to work with something and something is better than nothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 07:41 PM
1

No. I don’t expect you to know. I’ve just never heard the term used for straight couples. Not good or bad, just seemed unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 07:38 PM
1

Yes. It’s very reasonable to decide you know someone’s childhood home life because you and they have a difference of opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:52 PM
1

No. I don’t buy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 04:16 PM
2

It’s alternate universe, not “alternative universe.” The concept that it is up to you to, “educate,” me is beyond obnoxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 03:03 PM
0

They sure do. You asked about a partner. That is a term gay couples use as far as I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:43 PM
1

I am not gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:41 PM
1

Home slice? Is this your cool way of talking or something? I love how you think you are some kind of authority on this. If you think someone yelling at you is, “abuse,” you need thicker skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:34 PM
1

No. It can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:32 PM
0

Do you seriously talk to people this way? Educating you? Who are you exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:32 PM
1

Seriously, I can see preferring someone not yelling over yelling but it shouldn’t be that distressing to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:27 PM
1

Maybe unpleasant but not abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:25 PM
0

Why don’t you just put it in your own words instead of parroting BS jargon?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:24 PM
1

I wasn’t kidding about the loverly part.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:24 PM
0

Gaslighting?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:16 PM
1

You’ll need whatever you can get if someone yelling is so upsetting to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:16 PM
-2

A wikipedia entry doesn’t require me to take something seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:14 PM
-4

Not real.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:11 PM
0

Sounds lovely.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:09 PM
-3

Not abuse. That’s a physical act.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:08 PM
-4

You need thicker skin. If you can’t deal with yelling, there is something wrong with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 02:06 PM
2

Not a problem. It’s a little difficult to follow but can be understood if you read it through a few times. If it’s any consolation, many native English speakers are worse writers than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:57 PM
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To call it abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:53 PM
5

No. That’s ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:45 PM
7

I’ve seen people refer to yelling as abuse so I would take those kinds of surveys with a grain of salt or many grains.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:37 PM
1

I really hope English is not your first language. I started to read this but it gave me a headache.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:19 PM
1

Yeah, it’s probably a more impossible feat for a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/22 01:43 AM
1

All right. I don’t have strong feelings either way. I don’t know anybody as described so it’s somewhat of a mythology more than anything I’ve known of had an direct experience with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 11:29 PM
2

Haha. Ginuwine? No clue, hasn’t happened to me. I could see myself going out with someone I wasn’t overly attracted to if I thought that could change.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 11:05 PM
2

I know. I just don’t think it’s an indictment of those men, if they would.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 09:25 PM
1

Haha. This is ridiculous. Your appearance is your appearance. I don’t think many guys give it a second thought. I’m not sure where these types of guys are coming from.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 07:53 PM
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I wouldn’t say I’ve given up but I haven’t asked anyone out on a date in a few years and in my early 40s with a grand total of one date under my belt, it’s probably not going to happen for me. Im sure there is some kind of stigma attached to it but I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong so I’m just not going to worry about it or look too far into it. There are just some things that are out of our control. The most we can do is complain but at the end of the day, you can only work with the hand y…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 06:08 PM
0

I talked to a couple of females from the internet a few years ago. I don’t think that is worth much. A lot of what they said could have been untrue. That kind of experience is almost entirely meaningless. My inexperience in this realm is pretty evident.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 04:02 PM
1

Ideal would be a woman truly wanting me. I’d settle for someone who didn’t see me as exactly what they want but thought I was worth getting to know or spending time with. I don’t think there is anything wrong with taking what you can get (I can’t even get that). Nowhere is there any force involved. You pulled that one out of the clear blue sky.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:56 PM
2

Yep.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:53 PM
1

You sound like a nut. Show me where anything I said would lead you to that conclusion.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:42 PM
1

I think they are just older and lived most of their lives prior to internet brain infection taking over.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:41 PM
9

Haha. I have no idea. I only know female family members and they don’t seem in any way similar to the types of females on here or people talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:33 PM
10

I have no idea what you are talking about. “I’m not endorsing “forcing monogamy,” or whatever goofy ideas you have in your head.” How would someone get the idea I am endorsing forcing something on females?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:32 PM
10

Quiet death? I’m just suggesting work with what you have to work with, not what you wish you had. Almost nobody gets what they wish they had. I know these aren’t your words but if that’s true, that is way off the deep end. Doesn’t it go without saying that we probably aren’t going to get exactly what we want in life most of the time?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:30 PM
6

I think you responded to the wrong person.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:28 PM
2

I’m a guy who has never had a girlfriend or a female friend. I have no track record, your hypothetical female has a bad track record. I actually think people should always give either person a chance but it seems transparent to me that no track record is better than a bad one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 03:25 PM
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I don’t think having sex with different people is some kind of corrupt behavior. Of course, I don’t think many people have that kind of thing available to them so I am not in any position to tell you how it would all play out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:09 PM
3

I don’t know that Ive known a promiscuous guy. When I was a teenager or thereabouts, there were guys who tried to imply they were but I think there was a lot of embellishing involved. I never took it very seriously. Actually, there was a guy I knew as an adult that said he slept with a lot of females. I have no idea if it was true or not. I think most guys love the idea but I wouldn’t just take someone’s word for it. It seems extremely rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 02:04 PM
1

I am someone who follows sports and not aware of the sexy pictures you speak of. Do you actually follow sports? I ask because you sound very out of the loop. Wrestling is not a sport, it’s fake. WNBA appears to have some kind of following but I don’t know of a single person who watches it. I guess people watch female soccer but that is another sport that I have not known a single person to watch. Very few people watch female sports in general so the athletes are going to do whatever they can to …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:25 PM
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I’m in my early 40s and no female has “truly wanted,” me in my entire life. That would be the best-case scenario but I’d settle for similar lonely person alliance at this point. Something that isn’t ideal isn’t necessarily bad. I’m not endorsing “forcing monogamy,” or whatever goofy ideas you have in your head. What I am trying to say is life isn’t a best-case scenario or nothing. Almost nobody is able to make that choice in all areas of life. Most of the time we deal with choices that don’t giv…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/22 01:16 PM
0

I’ve never heard of this and don’t think it’s worth concerning yourself with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:22 PM
4

I’m in my early forties and have almost no experience with females. I would say my opinions are mostly from family members. Those impressions are mostly good. That said, they’re almost unrecognizable from the types of people I’ve been around in a work or schooling environment years ago. Those females have been rude, obnoxious, think they know everything, and altogether narrow-minded in many regards.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:57 PM
3

It’s a symptom. There might be some oddball that would rather watch porno than be with someone. For the rest of us, if we use it, we use it because we don’t have anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:24 PM
1

I haven’t really spent time in another country so I can’t comment on the comparison in America. I have noticed that people seem less attractive than in the past. Although, I grew up in a very small town where there were almost no attractive females 25-30 years ago. Unflattering fashion trends may also play a role in that. I have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 02:21 PM
1

This doesn’t even sound like a real story. I’d have made it a little more plausible.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 11:10 PM
2

If that were true, I’d have a lot more than one date to show for my 42 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 11:08 PM
2

I think books may be enjoyable in a food-for-thought type of experience. They're not any kind of guide for living life. Most things we try in books don't work out anywhere near the degree we hope they will.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/22 12:22 AM
1

I’ve never used it but I could have told you this before it came out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/22 01:37 AM
6

Seems to be par for the course on here. Everybody knows what you think better than you yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:42 PM
0

I think we all want them to want to but “owe,” works too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 11:40 PM
1

He can because everybody has a price tag. I am not sure why so many people here pretend that isn’t true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 06:28 PM
1

Money.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 06:27 PM
1

I’m not sure it was ever good advice. Past a certain age, it’s just not feasible for a lot of us. I think that was more true in the past since the marriage age has been steadily climbing. Even so, many single females are not interested in meeting someone so it become very difficult to find places to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 06:08 PM
1

I’ve heard both. It’s not unusual.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 05:58 PM
1

I don’t care about here or the internet in general. I am talking about real life and I’ve never heard anyone ever suggest this in my actual lived life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 05:56 PM
1

Considering I have never heard anything along these lines in my entire life, I’m not sure why I should just take your word for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 05:51 PM
1

The manosphere?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 05:49 PM
1

Haha. Is this a joke? The word female is not offensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 05:43 PM
1

Same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 05:08 PM
1

What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 04:44 PM
-1

Well I thought, “Unemployed and Proud,” was too but the females would probably tend to disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 04:12 AM
0

Lifestyle, sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 03:06 AM
1

If you don’t need men’s money, then why do you need to know about where they might be financially? What does your education have to do with compatibility? Spell it out for me please. I have been taken advantage of with regard to paying for dates so yes, it is important. Any indication that they are interested in how much I might have or what I can afford is a concern for me. Maybe it hasn’t happened to you but it has to me and you just have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:38 AM
1

Why would education level matter to you? Why would financial level? If you want someone who makes a lot, just say that. Do you think they’re going to spend that money on you? Sorry, but you have to get to know someone to know anything about their character traits. You can’t cold read guys off of some online profile. You are going to have to actually spend time with them in person, I hate to break it to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:24 AM
3

You can lie with pictures but the jig is up pretty quickly. It takes a while to get a feel for a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:16 AM
1

Beyond the time invested, it has absolutely nothing to do with me. I just can’t imagine caring. It’s just a stupid job. Do you really want to talk to a guy about his office or worksite? That sounds like the dullest conversation on earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:14 AM
0

I certainly understand amount of time required working but aside from that, who cares what they’re doing to earn a living? That is the place where you are the least involved in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:05 AM
0

I’m just lying and saying I’m unemployed from now on. I’m not getting a date either way. At least this will save me from talking about my dumb job.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 02:01 AM
0

Unless you are going to work with him, why would you ever care?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:45 AM
4

It has to be the money. I can’t believe this female actually cares about what kind of job the guy has unless she has to work with him or something along those lines. I don’t mind if they just say that but the BS about the type of job being interesting just strains credulity.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:44 AM
1

I haven’t used online dating in over 10 years (none success) but I tend to agree - for better or for worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:42 AM
5

People can lie pretty easily. I don’t use online dating but anybody can write any BS about themselves. Until you get to know them - that takes a considerable amount of time - it is completely meaningless. The pictures are at least somewhat accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:40 AM
1

Why would you care about a guy’s job? Unless you would have to go to work with him, I don’t see how that would be important at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:38 AM
1

If somebody tried to present themselves to me as extra-ordinary, I would find that suspicious as hell. I’d rather just get to know someone slowly. Nobody needs to sell me a bill of goods.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 01:03 AM
1

The same thing anybody else does. Someone to keep you company.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 12:42 AM
1

I’m a single guy who never does any of those things. If females are interested in someone who cleans up after themselves, they aren’t doing very much to try to meet me. As far as I am concerned, those are empty complaints and probably about something else altogether.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 12:40 AM
1

Ha. There may be. I don’t know any and that is a good thing. I am already bitter about the entire dating experience to a large enough degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 07:06 PM
2

I can’t disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 04:26 PM
0

I think too many people here just don’t understand this. As an individual person, your capacity for getting other people to do what you want is pretty limited.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 04:06 PM
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I was going to say. I’m not much of a social media user so not too familiar with “Creepy PMs,” but usually you can just block or ignore the person. Unless they’re telling you they know where you live and giving you your address, I just don’t see this as anything worth concerning yourself with. It just seems easy enough to avoid this causing any kind of disruption in your life. I am completely missing how this should affect anyone in any real way.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 03:51 PM
2

I don’t think males have any particular problem with “transactional sex,” if that’s what you want to call it. The price tag - whether it is money or some other currency - should be visible from the beginning, however. I think guys have a problem with the idea of paying a fee in order to see the price tag.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 03:26 PM
1

No. I never went to college and it’s not a term anybody I know ever uses.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 06:43 PM
2

Wouldn’t that be everyone? Everyone has a price tag - some higher, some lower.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:17 PM
2

I don’t know any females outside of my family so my point of view is very limited. From what I understand, there is a lot more cheating by males and females than anyone is willing to admit. I wouldn’t rule out cheating as a motivating factor in this case. That is not to say I am for or against cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 05:13 PM
1

I think what you say is true. Females appear to care about things I would not even think to care about in evaluation of males and I’m sure the reverse applies as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:42 PM
1

I am not educated or successful but guessing as attractive and cooperative as money can buy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:34 PM
1

If true, I prefer low class.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 04:32 PM
1

I know it’s a real word. I just don’t know why it’s so prevalent online but non-existent in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 03:54 PM
1

Misogyny. I am not even sure how it is pronounced.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:24 PM
1

Is this an internet term or something? I see this word on here all the time but I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone use the word in person. Do people think they’re part of a special club for using these silly buzzwords?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 02:21 PM
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As an normal, average guy who isn’t have sex, I can say you are right. Most of us probably aren’t doing a lot of things you suggest because we know there isn’t anything wrong with us, it’s the situation or environment that is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 05:38 PM
1

Only one date for me. It was more the jerking me around and lack of good faith behavior that jaded me.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/22 04:49 PM
1

Haha. Of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 06:54 PM
3

I’m 41. I think the age threshold is higher. People my age are still pretty clueless or narrow minded to other types of experiences/ideas. I think people confuse neomania with an open mind. It’s a fashion statement more than anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:32 PM
3

In my experience, guys are more open-minded. I think men are generally dismissive of things that can cost a lot of money/sex opportunity or diminish the opportunity to earn money/have sex. Some people consider that kind of thing narrow-minded but it’s more pragmatism than a prejudice. That isn’t to say there is not some overlap so there is a lot of gray. I think on average, men don’t have bias against things that they don’t believe cost them money or opportunity to earn money or sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 05:26 PM
2

Oh okay. I am not in a position to say either way, I just wasn’t sure of the wording. I can certainly understand your reasoning though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:31 PM
2

I haven’t thought about it that much. I don’t know why someone would not get vaccinated aside from some kind of immunocompromise that makes it prohibitive. I haven’t thought about it too much as to whether I would go out with an unvaccinated person or not. It sounds like maybe a not bright person or overactive imagination and that might be a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:19 PM
1

Did you mean to say one is not inherently better? Just curious because of the way it reads. I have never had either so it’s academic for me at this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 03:13 PM
1

There are no solutions to most problems until there are but nevertheless, what is the harm in talking about them?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 02:00 PM
1

I am not interested in my job and like to have somewhere to complain.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:58 PM
2

How would any particular female know if a guy is approaching 500 other females or just that particular female?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 01:53 PM
2

I am pretty average, normal guy who has had one date in 40 some odd years on this earth. I’m sure there are people similar to me in almost every way who have had a lot of dates. I am convinced what you are saying is true. There is an unknown factor or factors that I think is playing a large role. It may be something that no person is capable of perceiving. The only thing I’ve seen are theories that explain a little bit here and there but are by no means robust. I think I just have to be satisfie…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 07:14 PM
1

Talk about hysterical. Your life is not on the line in the public square. Don’t leave the house if you are so sure it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 06:43 PM
1

If she is not interested in him, why would he care if she’s comfortable? I doubt you care whether guys you aren’t interested in are comfortable and you shouldn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 06:39 PM
1

I don’t think anybody cares. Maybe a vocal minority but I don’t think it’s enough to be confrontational about it. There might be someone who has a problem on the internet or something but not in public life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 06:32 PM
5

I’d say this resonates a little too much after over 20 years of trying to get a female to meet me for a date.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/22 02:43 PM
4

I don’t necessarily disagree with (or haven’t entirely read) the rest but I refuse to take an active interest in my dumb job.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 03:30 PM
3

Ha. I’m not quite that person but wouldn’t you think something different is worth trying? That’s funny though, I remember I talked to a female online many years ago. She complained to me how she had such poor luck in finding a boyfriend. We talked online for a while at that point but this was the first time she told me she wasn’t happy with how things were going with regard to meeting someone. I asked her if she would want to go out with me. She told me she wasn’t interested (I don’t even rememb…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 04:13 PM
2

They sure are less interested in sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:35 PM
2

Maybe it doesn’t have to do with men? I don’t know. Females have no interest in me as far as sex or as a friend so I have no real-world insight into this.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:15 PM
1

I tend to agree with you that it’s terrible. I’d rather just walk up to some woman and have her tell me she isn’t interested. No harm no foul. Online, you don’t even know who you are talking to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:11 PM
24

I don’t watch porn very often - so I am probably the wrong person to chime in - but I hardly even notice the male actors. They just seem to be giant dorks. I thought that was a kind of tongue-in-cheek strategy of the industry. That is a little strange that guys are watching pornos and looking at the guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 03:03 PM
3

Is it true that women are more depressed/ unhappy, less fulfilled? I honestly don’t know any outside of my family. I am skeptical because if they’re so unhappy, they would try doing something different. A guy such as me with no female experience would be the perfect place to turn for all of these disappointed females. I’d expect that type of climate to be a windfall for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:24 PM
4

In my defense, I’d never been on dates (this was 12 years ago) and really did not think females were that brazen.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:17 PM
1

I know we are living in the age of everything-online-is-the-most-amazing-thing-and-real-life-sucks but do you not realize the term, “three star,” or “four star,” does not refer to an online user rating system?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:14 PM
3

I could say I’ve had three dates in my lifetime but I have actually only had one. Two (same person, too naive to realize) were from someone who wanted to go to certain restaurants.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 02:08 PM
1

Hateful rhetoric? I would like to know what you are referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/22 01:56 PM
8

It's called envy and it is not that hard to figure out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 04:25 AM
9

I have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:59 AM
3

Huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:45 AM
33

I am a male in my early 40s. I have had one date throughout my entire life. I don't know what it is like to date as a woman at any age but my guess is you'll have two dates before I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 02:04 AM
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I don't buy that women are fed up with dating men. I am a guy in my 40s who has never dated and I have always wanted to. If there were such a groundswell of dissatisfaction someone such as me would be a ready made alternative to that. I have no bad track record and could never stand accused of doing any of the terrible things you talk about. I think whomever is so "fed up," (if there truly are such people, I have no idea) is a very vocal sliver of the female population at large.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:44 AM
2

I don't think anyone thinks it's going to fix everything or even "fix your life," whatever that means. It would just be nice to see what we are missing out on (or not missing out on). Unless they've been in the position with no opportunity or experience, I don't think anybody should be giving advice to someone who is in that position.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 01:32 AM
1

I can’t say I’m familiar with this phenomenon. If a woman is having sex with me, she’s hearing from me again.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 04:05 PM
3

Lack of opportunities.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 03:58 PM
2

I think anybody who shops in a supermarket could tell you most of those things. I don’t use any kind of social media so I can claim some amount of ignorance on what people are looking at. The income thing is up for debate, depending on where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 05:07 PM
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You may be on to something, I am not sure. I have a slightly different impression. I think many guys are just individual and not group oriented. For instance, females always recommend males join a group to meet someone. You just don’t hear that advice from males. For better or for worse, I think many men just think of themselves as themselves and not members of something larger.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/22 04:46 PM
2

It has become a term that people just use whenever they don’t like something?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 09:28 PM
1

Let me get married first before I start thinking about why it didn’t work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:49 PM
1

No clue what that means.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:33 PM
1

You never answered my question but it is clear you are very confused. That is okay. Sit down and think about it for a little bit. You may then have a clearer understanding of what you think you have an opinion about.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:30 PM
2

I don’t care about all of the men here. Where is that coming from? I asked you what is so great about commitment and it was pretty transparent you’d never put any thought into this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:21 PM
1

It’s, “I don’t know,” not, “I dunno,” by the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:18 PM
2

You don’t know. You just decided it’s something you want out of thin air.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:17 PM
2

What is so great about it for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:14 PM
2

Totally? Are you a high schooler? Explain to me how ths, by any measure, answered what is so great about commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:12 PM
2

That has nothing to do with the question I asked you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:09 PM
1

What is so great about commitment? I ask this as an inexperienced guy with no real history of either. At least we know the physical feeling of sex. Commitment sounds nice in having someone to keep you company. At the end of the day, it’s just someone around at the same time as you. I guess it’s better than being lonely but it’s hard to see why someone would get excited about someone else just being around.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 03:01 PM
2

I have to admit I’m not very familiar with the term gaslighting. I think people can change so I can’t say for sure what is going on here. It does seem a little backwards that making someone wait for sex as a reward for more interest. I would think this kind of illogical thinking would carry over to other aspects of life so people would be advicsed to tread lightly with this type of person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 02:49 PM
2

I think probably negative. My impression was that meeting someone for a bite or a movie was a fairly cooperative thing and not an impossible feat. I was a child though and not particularly curious about dating, so I probably missed a lot of what was actually going on. From the outside, something appeared to change in dating by the time I reached that age (early Ohs, I guess). People - by that I mean females - seemed less willing to meet and get to know someone. I don’t have many friends who date…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:24 PM
2

I’m not sure I watched the same type of movies as you. My impressions of dating came from 80s-90s sitcoms, on television. In real life, it was older relatives (I have many). From a child’s point of view their experience did somewhat mirror television albeit in a much less dramatic tone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:05 PM
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Sorry, I don’t buy that at all. I’m sure it has happened somewhere but you’re not under any kind of threat for not, “responding to compliments,” the right way.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 05:00 PM
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I’m not sure. How common that is. I have a sister and I don’t think it was any different for the males or females in the family. I can only think of relatives and friends growing up as other examples. I’ve never seen any kind of different treatment when it came to appearance. I’m not doubting you but it seems unusual to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 04:59 PM
-1

I don’t buy that. Maybe someone can get annoyed but that’s not risky in my book.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:31 PM
-1

I’ve never had a person ask me out so maybe I am missing something. How does it put you in a risky situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 07:06 AM
2

Who cares about standards? You don’t know anyone until you spend a considerable amount of time with them. There is a huge unknown element as to who you will like. I think remaining open minded to different types of people is the best strategy.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/22 12:12 AM
1

I can’t think of a single reason someone shouldn’t give me a chance. Whether or not they decide they like me is a different story. I think just about everyone deserves a chance. There is nothing to lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 08:20 PM
8

Why don’t you believe in asking them out?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:29 PM
1

Ha. I don’t think I would ever view someone in this way and I’m not sure I even understand the terminology. In my internal dialogue it’s usually along the lines of, “seems like a nice guy,” or “seems like a jerk,” or “seems kind of interesting.” I don’t think I have ever or would ever think of someone as “charming.”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 06:16 PM
1

Eh. I don’t buy it. I have a hard time believing parents are always talking to female children about their appearance. If you’re talking about peer group, it doesn’t matter. Peers can stress one thing or another but if you decide to go along with it, that is also your decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 05:26 PM
1

What is a, “locario?”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 03:15 PM
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I don’t have any particular allegiance to men as a group, I don’t think most guys do. I don’t care to hold other men accountable because they’re not going for my approval and don’t care very much what I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:37 AM
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As a reasonably good guy who has never had an opportunity, I would say you may never know but you don’t do a lot to try to find out.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/22 01:32 AM
1

I don’t know what your definition of rich is but at a certain level of wealth - what I would consider rich - you could just buy a date or sex with almost anyone you wanted. I think you are very young and naive if you think money doesn’t make things happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 12:34 AM
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I am not sure If I’m Generation X (I’m 41) but it was never okay for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/22 11:56 PM
2

If you’re 26, you just haven’t lived long enough to have much coherence to your opinions. I’m not terribly familiar with what females in their teens and 20s are wearing now but I remember a lot more revealing clothing growing up. Starting from the mid-to-late 90s through the early Ohs, I thought it was more explicit than what (little) I am seeing these days. That said, I don’t hang around high schools or colleges, so I might not be the best observer.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:12 PM
1

Anyone can embellish their background on the internet. We have no way of knowing (a large amount of the time) if they are what they say they are. Even if everything they say is true, most of those attributes are hidden from anyone who doesn’t bother to get to know you. You could be a great guy, rich, interesting, smart, and a lot of fun to spend time with. If nobody is willing to invest time and effort in finding these things out, no one will ever know. Tragic but we all know this is the reality…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:05 PM
1

You have a lot of ideas with very little information. 26 is too young for sharing opinions, sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:19 PM
3

I went but no one was interested. Are you 25 or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:06 PM
1

How would you have any way of knowing that?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 05:04 PM
1

Most social science is pseudoscience or at least nothing to take too seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:59 PM
1

I was around before online dating. It wasn’t all that great before. I don’t think online is the solution by any stretch but I wasn’t meeting anyone before online dating and I haven’t met anyone since.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:57 PM
9

I wish it weren’t the case but if some kind of female ever started a conversation with me, I’d be sure it was a scam.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 12:00 AM
1

Sorry, but I don’t care about whether it’s a good long-term strategy or not. The person posting was implying that guys would have to spend. I was just wondering if it would even be necessary for that guy to spend. If the female thinks he has a lot, that may be enough on its own.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 09:48 PM
1

No clue what any of those terms mean. I wonder if you need to even spend a great deal. Some females might be interested just because they think you will spend on them at some point. I have no actual experience or idea how it works but that seems plausible to me - females hanging around or going along with a guy because they think there may be a payoff down the line.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 07:26 PM
1

Very inspiring.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 04:02 PM
2

Any amount of waiting is too long.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:44 PM
2

Eh, it’s better to work with what you have than be unhappy you’ll never have exactly what you want. It’s not ideal but if it works, it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:21 PM
1

I have no clue what BB is but I don’t make nearly enough to be able “buy,” a girlfriend in the way you are suggesting. Of course, if I did, I certainly wouldn’t be against the idea. This would be provided we both understood the terms and conditions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:16 PM
2

I don’t think someone should ever have to wait if they want it but I have been waiting for many years. My opinion doesn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 11:11 PM
1

No. It’s called ignoring the noise and knowing what you need to do. I love my mom and I’m close to my mom but I’m not worried about her opinion on my computer football team because I know what I need to do better than she does (even though she likes football and sometimes has sound opinions).
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:19 PM
1

People don’t take the opinions of others into account all the time. Part of life is not worrying about other people’s opinions and doing what you have to do. It has nothing to do with seeing someone else as an object.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 10:03 PM
2

Not familiar with it. You don’t know what anyone is thinking while they do it. It may be something you don’t like but it doesn’t mean you’re an object to them, if it’s directed to you. They may be looking for what you term the outliers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 08:44 PM
2

No idea where these “spaces,” are. Haha. Also now that you mention it, what is with the word “spaces?” It seems as though on here, people say “space,” where I would use “place.” It just sounds unusual as though it’s outer space or just a large pocket of air. Internet lingo, I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:26 PM
2

I completely agree with you about that. Unfortunately, I am not a huge reddit guy and don’t really know what red pill means so a lot of the terminology on here is probably lost on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:20 PM
1

I did. It’s not something I have ever seen in anyone. It seems as though it is a way to just say people who do things that are bad - or that you don’t like or agree with - “bad” people.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:18 PM
2

No way to know for sure. Again, “objectification,” doesn’t seem applicable to this in any way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:13 PM
2

I’ve heard about it. I don’t know how prevalent it is but that’s true it does happen in the US and Europe. It’s somewhat rare and I think mostly with immigrant groups although maybe with poorer youths or runaways as well. I don’t think it has anything to do with others seeing someone as an object, as terrible a thing as it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:09 PM
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I have never heard of a woman losing basic rights for having sex in my country (US) or in most European countries as far as I know. I’m sure it’s a problem in other parts of the world but I am not well-i formed so my commentary is worthless on which countries do this kind of thing and exactly why. I don’t think it has anything to do with people seeing females as objects. I am not exactly following you on that part.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:59 PM
1

Thank you for the link. I do appreciate it. It doesn’t correspond with reality, I am afraid. No man doesn’t understand a female is a person. That type of thinking just does not exist. We all know everyone is a person with thoughts, feelings, loved ones, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:53 PM
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What is this term “objectified?” People on here use it all the time and I have no clue what it actually means. It appears to be a word that people just use because other people use it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:49 PM
1

I’ve only been on one date and I haven’t even had anything unserious with a female. I am not fat and never thought I was ugly but who knows? I would guess I am average (I can’t tell what makes a male attractive or not). I don’t think appearance has a lot to do with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:45 PM
1

I don’t think I have any kind of gifted look considering I’ve only had one date in my life. It’s not something I ever want to worry about, either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:13 PM
2

Ha. Probably true.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:56 PM
1

I’ve never understood trying to make yourself more beautiful to other people. You either have it or you don’t and leave it up to other people to decide on that one. If it’s not meant to be, there is no reason to force the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:54 PM
-1

I see people use the term “value,” on here all the time. Humans are not the same a consumer goods. We more or less know what we are getting with consumer goods. Sure some products fail early but there are warranties because that is a rare event. With humans, past appearance, almost all of our “value” is completely hidden from people who don’t know us. It’s a bad analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:49 PM
1

I’m sympathetic to this. I probably would not have a problem with paying for someone else if I hadn’t had the experience of someone taking advantage of me for freebies.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:32 PM
2

Not a fat person but most overweight people have hormonal problems that developed at early ages - from poor diets - and are metabolically out of whack by adulthood. That is why they usually gain weight when they do lose it - it’s an uphill climb.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 02:29 PM
2

I don’t think anybody is putting their life on the line meeting some guy for a slice. No one is buying that one if people in use it as a serious excuse. As far as interest, I think you are right, there are many females (maybe the majority of single females) that are not interested in meeting someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:50 PM
1

As long as she is willing to meet me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:44 PM
2

Ha. I did not intend to start.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 07:32 PM
1

Haha.Well if it’s technically illegal or not, I don’t think anyone is going to jail for grabbing a butt.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 07:22 PM
1

It’s not a misdemeanor. It’s considered a non-criminal offense. You wouldn’t go to a real court of law or anything, just maybe a municipal judge but probably not even that. I had a fair amount of traffic tickets as a younger person, as you can see.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:31 PM
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Haha. I think my confusion is about how he would ever know? I don’t think people really have the balls to mock and deride someone on the spot, even if they wanted to. The only scenario where he might know is if he were in school or maybe a workplace?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:23 PM
1

I don’t think it’s a “crime.” I think it’s just a minor ticket someone could get similar to traffic infractions, which aren’t crimes. Although, I have never heard of someone actually getting a jaywalking ticket.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:21 PM
2

I’m not familiar with the case but I will have to see what I can find on it. It’s just not something I’ve really ever thought about as a sexually inexperienced guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:15 PM
1

Oh right. You can get an infection from receiving? I guess I hadn’t thought of that so you may be right on this one.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:10 PM
1

He said a pinch or grab of the butt. I don’t think anyone is getting an infection that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:06 PM
1

I’m in the US but ( I am not sure if we are more or less litigious here) I have not heard of this.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:05 PM
-2

Is sexual assault a crime? I thought that it was. I would hope nobody is going to jail or prosecuted over unwanted touching.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 06:03 PM
18

I could see being concerned if I were in school or somewhere where everyone is in some way or another connected but we are talking about the public square where people don’t know one person from the other, even in small towns.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 05:56 PM
1

I never thought of that as any kind of crime (I think sexual assault is but I am not completely sure). It might be rude or show lack of decorum but I hope nobody is going to jail for that kind of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 05:53 PM
20

Yeah. I would have no way of knowing if she were mocking and deriding anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 05:50 PM
-2

I have honestly never heard that. Assault has always been some kind of violent act as far as I knew. Again, not an attorney.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 05:47 PM
-3

Doesn’t sexual assault require bodily injury? I’m not an attorney or anything but assault means violence or injury to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 05:46 PM
1

I have honestly never heard of that. I don’t think either should end up in jail.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 05:43 PM
-1

You’re right. It was a different person who made the, “borderline sexual assault,” comment. I’m sorry!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:36 PM
-9

You said it was borderline sexual assault. I don’t see it as inflicting bodily harm in any real way. Oral sex to someone who is too drunk or passed out is just a waste of oral sex. Haha. I don’t think anyone’s complaining about that kind of thing. People are probably upset with themselves for drinking too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:28 PM
52

I used to - before Covid - approach females all the time. I don’t know if they judged me for it or mock and deride or whatever you want to call it. If they weren’t interested anyway, why should I care if they judge me? They were people I don’t know. I don’t have to deal with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:53 PM
1

This seems ridiculous. A woman has never approached me but I doubt they’re inflicting bodily injury to someone when they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 03:46 PM
1

Is it a guaranteed benefit at retirement?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:46 PM
1

Not familiar with the pension system there. If you have a guaranteed benefit, add anywhere from $10k-$30k (depending on the generosity of the benefit) to your salary. Otherwise, go work for your friend as long as you can get reasonable health insurance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:22 PM
1

I think it might only be a problem for people getting and going on dates. I never attended attended college but no female would know. They would have to have a conversation with me first.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 01:09 PM
1

Which state do you live in?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:34 PM
1

I’m 41 and I have none options.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 11:57 PM
0

I would think guys just want the thing to start with casual sex and then see if something builds. I don't think they're looking for different things, necessarily. No experience, just my impression of things as an outsider.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 02:31 AM
1

Where are you getting the idea that they won’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 02:52 PM
1

No. I just haven’t had anyone interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:17 AM
1

I’ve had it a couple of times over 20 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 03:13 AM
3

First I would need to have it. Then I will decide if I want to talk about it on here or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:38 AM
1

I don’t think there would be any noticeable change. It would have to be legal for long enough to lose stigma and see more females get into the industry. Unless the prostitutes were great enough in numbers and similar enough in attractiveness to females at large so as to create a kind of shadow dating, I don’t think you would see a difference in life. That said, it would be throwing those of us having trouble a small bone and small changes can have large effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:21 AM
9

Tell me what’s wrong and I will tell you why it’s all your fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:11 AM
2

I think you may have me confused with someone else. I have never indicated that I don’t like females.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 06:58 PM
2

I am confused. I don’t know what you are referring to. Could you be confusing me with someone else?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 08:35 PM
0

It’s certainly not my fault. I’ve asked out a ton of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:54 PM
1

Usually my friends and I just go to each other’s houses or out to eat. Those seem to be pretty common places for socializing, as far as I know. Bars are just expensive places to sit, and drink I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:10 PM
1

I am not sure how you would know that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:06 PM
3

It’s impossible to categorize people without enough experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:05 PM
1

That I don’t drink often?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:00 PM
1

I can’t say it has or it hasn’t. I think these kinds of things were always around but nobody had an anonymous forum to complain to before.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:56 PM
0

Yeah. Who knows? I actually hate bars or drinking establishments so it’s not something I’m dying to find out either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:55 PM
1

I think those trends started before the internet. There was no guarantee the internet would be what it became when widespread access became viable. It filled (not really) an already existing void for many.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:49 PM
4

Hey, I found it first.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:25 PM
6

I am mostly happy with things outside of the dating realm but, of course, that is huge. I am not opposed to - or disagreeing with - what you’re saying necessarily but it shouldn’t be this hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:24 PM
1

Not necessarily but I don’t think females are going around looking for male friends at bars. I could be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:21 PM
1

Haha. I have no idea. I guess I chose a bad example.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:11 PM
0

Yeah. That’s true. I have thought about it. I will probably have to give it more serious consideration since nothing else is working for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:11 PM
7

I wouldn’t say I’m unsocial. My friends are just guys so I don’t know many females.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:09 PM
4

Hahaha. Yeah they ought to pull their weight and get me a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:08 PM
6

Hey, that’s great. I’m in a small town in the US. I have no relevant commentary on meeting females wherever you are in southern Europe. I can say there is very little openness from females in meeting a stranger, where I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:03 PM
5

I like my friends. My friendship doesn’t hinge on whether they know any single females.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 03:55 PM
4

You’re single F U is about the size of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 03:51 PM
3

I have male friends but they’re not in contact with any females either.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 03:49 PM
10

The answer for a regular guy who is mostly happy with his life but would like to meet someone is to completely change his lifestyle?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 03:48 PM
3

I don’t disagree that online dating is not the answer. The question is how people are meeting in person and how someone who is having no luck should try to meet people in person. There may be something important that is a difference between those having success and those not having success. These are a limited number of suggestions anyway. We don’t know if these are what is working for people who have met someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 03:47 PM
0

I think that is a level that I’ll never get to. As for lying, I have not resorted to lying but at some point, after continuous failure, you can’t blame some people for taking that route.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 03:14 PM
18

An enormously understated factor. Even a lot of, “free” events require a good deal of travel or time investment that always or often equates to a monetary expenditure. I think most of us guys are willing to spend a few times but after enough trials with nothing to show for it, we get the feeling we are falling for a scam.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:55 PM
23

They keep asking because these ideas don’t work. It might work for someone, somewhere once in a while but not systematically and it’s no rule of thumb. Unless you’ve been in the position as a guy, you will just never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:51 PM
7

The problem is that a lot of single females are not interested in meeting someone. They’re single but not candidates for us or vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:39 PM
-2

I’m not interested in scale modeling - I don’t think many are. It’s just an example of a, “hobby.” Some people are into those kinds of things but it’s not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:35 PM
4

If females aren’t interested in you, they won’t talk to you. Maybe the bare minimum, in absolutely necessary scenarios, but that usually isn’t very much for a guy to work with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:16 PM
1

Anyone I find attractive. Opinions vary as to whether they are universally attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:13 PM
9

The chance of making a female friend at any of those places is also minimal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:04 PM
8

This is probably one of the better suggestions. Of course, you can’t blame people for not wanting to BS through a religion they don’t really believe in.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 02:03 PM
22

Hobbies? I don’t think the scale modeling club is going to bring in a lot of single females looking to meet someone. Sports? Few females are interested. Bars/Clubs? Tried. It’s worse than walking up to strangers in public. All the females appear to be. “on guard,” in those kinds of places. A lot of guys have no interest in going to a bar or club (believe it or not) aside from meeting a female. If we aren’t meeting anyone, we end up spending time in a sad, depressing establishment and way more mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:49 PM
46

Submit payment?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:36 PM
1

I’ve approached or asked out some people that I find attractive, who might otherwise be considered average or thereabouts. I had no better luck with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:36 PM
1

This seems to be a theory spun out of whole cloth. I can’t make any real commentary on female’s personalities because I haven’t gotten to know any females. I will say that I’ve only asked out people I am attracted to and those people have only shown me an uglier side of whatever their “personality,” is.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:34 PM
1

No problem if English isn’t your first language.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:47 AM
1

Do you not know the difference between worse and worst?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/22 01:57 AM
2

I am just looking for someone attractive to keep me company. I’d offer similar returns.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:32 PM
2

There is not a single woman near me - my age, that I am attracted to - willing to have a conversation with me. Once I get a conversation, I will see about meeting halfway.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:28 PM
2

I’m fine with meeting halfway. It’s the other side that isn’t. It takes two to be able to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:25 PM
3

Haha. I sure am not getting dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 08:14 PM
1

I’m not looking to improve me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:47 PM
3

I don’t know if I am or not. That isn’t my call anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:46 PM
1

I asked because the guys commenting seem to think everyone who has no success must have some terrible feeling about ourselves. Most of my friends are pretty unsuccessful (maybe not quite as bad as me) and none of us really dislike ourselves in any way. I guess no one can know for sure but it is in no way transparent. I think we all think of ourselves as good guys who a lot of females would probably be happy to be with but for whatever reason, don’t want to give us a chance or be open minded abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:39 PM
1

I find make up to be weird as hell and I am not sure why females even consider wearing it. If I want to learn something, I’ll learn it because I want to. I’m not doing it for a theoretical female that probably won’t come to fruition anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:32 PM
3

I don’t believe in that. If someone tried to play up their attractive traits to me, that would be suspicious as hell. It’s not that hard to get to know someone a little bit, you just have to be open to it and actually try.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:24 PM
2

Tell me one. I’m not looking to “get someone to like me.” I’m looking for someone who actually likes me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:22 PM
3

The implication was there was some other type of work that I should do as well as ask people out. I have no idea what that would be. I was not the one who said “the work.”. I responded to someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:15 PM
2

Peacocking?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:14 PM
5

I know but what do you mean when you say work? I have asked a ton of people out. I don’t know what other work there would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:13 PM
3

According to the other guy if you have no success then you must not like yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:08 PM
4

Just tell me the parallels with regard to meeting someone because I am not understanding them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:06 PM
2

No. I know. I don’t know that I’ll ever completely “make peace,” with it. It’s the bizarre line of thinking that thinks people who haven’t had success can somehow will it to happen that I don’t understand. We can’t all be successful and some of us will not have any success no matter whom we are or how hard we try. It’s not fair but it’s life. It’s just strange to pretend everyone can have success.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 07:05 PM
2

Haha. I haven’t a clue where you’re going with this. I may not be that bright. Could you explain what the analogy is or what you mean at least?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:58 PM
0

If you’re happy with your cooking, you do know how to cook.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:55 PM
-1

I don’t know what that has to do with meeting someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:05 PM
6

What about those of us who are happy with who we are and not looking to “do the work,” but would like to meet someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 06:01 PM
1

This was about 12 years ago. It was a little bit of a bait and switch scenario. We were supposed to do something else but then she decided at the last minute that she wanted to go to this restaurant. I have to say, I didn’t even realize it was a scam until a few years later. I’m inexperienced in dating and it never occurred to me that someone would do something along those lines.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 05:21 PM
1

My odds in person are bad too but that is fine with me. It’s the bizarre online games of jerking someone around that I didn’t care for. I got one date online and another where - I only realized in retrospect - the person just wanted to go to a certain restaurant.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 04:29 PM
1

Online just seemed like a scam when I tried it years ago. I don’t know how many people agreed to a date but either made some excuse to not actually meet or just stopped responding as it got closer to the date but it was a very high number. I don’t know if that is some kind of joke people play in online dating or if they were misrepresenting themselves and didn’t want to reveal in person or what the story was. It just seemed like a complete scam.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 04:10 PM
1

Females aren’t interested in remarrying.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 03:30 PM
1

I would go - if it were free - but I’m not familiar with anything like this close to where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 03:30 PM
3

As a guy who struggles to get women (to acknowledge my existence), my advice would be not to worry too much about yourself as a guy. They will either like you or they won’t and there is not much you’ll be able to do about it either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/22 03:23 PM
1

I complain on the internet. I think that is just about all the internet is good for.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/22 01:41 AM
1

There just aren’t many females of any age looking to meet someone, relatively speaking. I don’t buy the age 50 tipping point implied.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 04:44 PM
1

Hold a grab of you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 03:31 PM
12

It means they’re lying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 03:22 PM
1

I can't speak for the females but for guys, those having the most sex are enjoying dating a lot more than those having the least amount of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 05:19 AM
2

The lesser the amount of success you have would necessitate casting a wider net. It makes logical sense and I don’t disagree with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 05:13 AM
3

I don’t know very many married guys so I can’t say. I do know that I don’t care for customer service people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 05:33 PM
1

At this point in my life, I think someone “settling,” is about the best I can hope for. I’d rather take what I can get than complain about not getting exactly what I want (the position I am in currently).
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 05:29 PM
2

Haha. Fair enough. No red flags that I am aware of but I am me and probably not the best reporter.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 05:20 PM
0

Give me one and I will check in with reports periodically.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 05:13 PM
7

“Treating them as a person,” doesn’t make someone more interested in getting to know you. I’m not treated as much of a person when it comes to dating anyway, so it also takes two to tango.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 05:08 PM
3

Hey, I appear to be qualified. What do you think about a guy in his early 40s with no female experience?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 05:01 PM
2

I think most people try out of sheer necessity at some point. You tried once and it went well the first time for you. For many of us, it never goes well but it’s good to hear that it worked out (relatively speaking) for you. Hopefully, you’ll have increasing success going forward.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 04:59 PM
3

Attractiveness? Who can say when it come males? Desirability? We all have a pretty good idea through trial and error.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 04:54 PM
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