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The feed back is all relevant to you and not to your wife. That's why you don't get it.
/r/askMRP18/03/21 01:35 AM
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Body psychotherapy, meditation, yoga, martial art. Cool your amygdala from below. Its the long game
/r/askMRP29/05/19 01:33 PM
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No its for you. Interventions are primarily for the family. To find boundaries. Boundaries may affect what the alcoholic does, or not, but the alcoholic doesnt get to choose your boundaries
/r/askMRP15/05/19 09:41 PM
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Best to see a chemical dependency specialist that specializes in interventions, not that interventions always work but it helps sort out enabling
/r/askMRP15/05/19 01:01 PM
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Leading is not the same as getting someone to follow
/r/askMRP11/05/19 03:13 AM
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It's not (exactly) what you do, it's why you do it
/r/askMRP13/09/18 02:51 PM
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Common thread in post is maybe the masculine seeks and forms hierarchies, sometimes based on competence (OP emphasis), sometimes based on power or tyranny (some commentors emphasis). JBP speaks to this a lot
/r/TheRedPill23/07/18 03:24 PM
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Its not what you do but why you do it
/r/askMRP06/06/18 04:02 PM
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respect is one of those things that can't be negotiated. You could try to negotiate the public expression of disrespect but the woman will be careful consciously for a short time at best and then fall back into the unaware basic attitude of disrespect. Sure you could end relationship, but check first that you respectable. If you are not respectable, drawing some line in the sand is setting her up for failure--which is your failure
/r/askMRP28/05/18 01:32 AM
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There's a difference between approval and attraction Are you getting laid this way?
/r/TheRedPill22/05/18 02:49 PM
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Exactly. With an ultimatum the focus is on the other person. A boundary is about what OP will do. It could be the same if-then conditions but the frame is different. If OP had more abundance (rather when he has), he'd be more in his own frame
/r/askMRP05/03/18 04:58 PM
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Dread Levels 3-7 at once! Dread doesn't work instantly, it takes work and real change. OP doesn't seem attractive enough to this woman for ultimatums
/r/askMRP05/03/18 02:43 AM
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Pilates will do wonders for the clumsiness (poor motor recruitment) and therefore ameliorate the unfamiliarity of mind with body. Your visual spatial will improve. You also practice fixing things
/r/askMRP04/03/18 01:56 AM
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the sub is not 'anti-redpill', it is 'ex-redpill'
/r/ExRedPill20/02/18 11:33 PM
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How is this exredpill? You sound like you never seriously entertained or understood RP.
/r/ExRedPill19/02/18 04:34 PM
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Women throwing panties is a symbol of sex appeal, you're not supposed to use them yourself.! I was being ironic as well.
/r/askMRP18/01/18 03:16 AM
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Not every woman shits her panties! The higher the SMV prob the less it happens. Have you looked into Asperger's?
/r/askMRP18/01/18 01:37 AM
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The real question is why you would ask such a whiny little boy qustion, and posters are answering that question.
/r/askMRP16/01/18 07:43 PM
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Thats true if having sex for validation rather than pleasure (and to be fair it does sound like OP is after validation)
/r/askMRP25/12/17 10:54 PM
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Assertive does not speak to penetrating., which is an important aspect of masculinity.
/r/TheRedPill18/12/17 03:29 AM
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'why' questions like these are putdowns. They imply culpable severe ignorance.
/r/askMRP13/12/17 10:10 PM
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Oh she wanted an intangible like respect or loyalty. You made it sound like fixing the roof or something...
/r/askMRP09/12/17 06:00 PM
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Sounds like you were offerred an overt contract. Just a quibble.
/r/askMRP09/12/17 05:55 PM
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If you disgusted her she wouldnt bother getting nervous
/r/askMRP02/12/17 08:30 PM
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Men project the anxiety they would feel in that situation. A woman cant be attracted to a man who is unable to attract another woman as hot as her. She is almost relieved to experience her man as attractive to others. Competition yes, anxiety not so much
/r/askMRP02/12/17 04:24 PM
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Dread doesnt work through fear despite the name. It works by causing attraction And yeah you do it for you anyway (selfrespect etc..)
/r/askMRP01/12/17 10:14 PM
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You can't negotiate desire, certainly not covertly but also not overtly either. Covert contracts are disastrous among other reasons because they try to negotiate un-negotiables but the covert nature delays the folly getting exposed. Being overt saved you a little time, and yeah it does seem like you failed a test or two as well.
/r/askMRP30/11/17 11:19 PM
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Why didnt he just write that. Instead of a poor comparison to using statistics
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 12:37 AM
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Your post is a manual for an abuser
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/17 12:31 AM
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There arent many bioenergetic practioners, but you could read Alexander Lowen ( a lot of somatic so called practioners just think about the body and dont move it Lowen is the opposite). Also look up the work of Kit Laughlin for stretch.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/11/17 03:38 AM
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I don't think its possible to hide your feeling state from most women, they just pick it up, as do adept men, that's why congruency is so important. I changed my body alignment through bioenergetics and Pilates and stretch therapy and that lessened my social awkwardness much more than any cognitive work
/r/MarriedRedPill12/11/17 02:17 PM
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Feeling yourself being felt is the fundamental building block of connection, because by definition you are having a shared experience. This exactly what aspie-tending men cant do. Usually they learn its do dangerous to approach any woman. Even if there was initial interest, not being 'read' by the man is a strong turnoff I started life as an aspie, slowly at midlife I learned ways to increase my awareness in real time of other''s feeling through body work
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/17 07:46 PM
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I think the sense of creepy comes from penetration (of bounderies) without connection. That's why aspies that study pickup are at risk. Before when they didn't try to penetrate lack of connection wasnt creepy With connection, nothing is creepy although sometimes the answer is still 'no' but no harm done.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/11/17 11:57 PM
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I get the lack of polarity in the relationship is a problem but... Presumably she makes way more than the payments on this car so why do you OP act like you're being taken advantage of?
/r/askMRP06/11/17 02:44 AM
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To make a lasting change in posture you need to change your motor recruitment. I suggest Pilates. Just trying to pull yourself up wont last and is probably far from perfect hence the pain. Deadlifts if done with correct form are good too
/r/askTRP01/11/17 10:02 PM
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You dont want her to need you, that sets up resentment., you want to want you, or even crave you
/r/askMRP31/10/17 08:45 PM
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You already lost if you were unaware/clueless about the kids going to bed. A captain has situational awareness and would have already planned to himself or delegated the first mate to handle it. There's no way you can respond well having been caught clueless. Your wife could either nag you or resent you. In the big picture you should be able to say no to things but it won't work to say no just because you were caught unawares
/r/askMRP24/10/17 04:47 PM
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Sounds like she wasnt receptive to your kino because she wasnt already turned on by your masculine presence. Rubbing a woman who's not turned on usually annoys her
/r/askMRP12/10/17 01:08 AM
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This is subtly dominating behavior, you are right. A lot of exercise class teachers use this. Do you tell her to do things, even things she isnt about to? This more a sidebar/early dread game issue than it is an in the moment tactical isssue.
/r/askMRP10/10/17 06:35 PM
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Men just awakening to RP tend to project and believe that women are like them, basing everything on physical attractiveness. But women are really attracted to men they respect, while respect is not important for men to feel attraction.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/17 01:35 AM
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Crying for help meaning she's actually asking, or do you mean you are crying for help with her behavior towards you and you are trying to get her to do your work?
/r/askMRP01/10/17 02:36 AM
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Is she asking? Or are you trying to get her to be easier on you trying to be captain?
/r/askMRP30/09/17 03:54 PM
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The attempted manipulation here is blantant. If OP doesnt draw the line here, then where?
/r/TheRedPill24/09/17 05:41 PM
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Tl;dr Is this a video game forum? If someone has a point to make, make it in plain English and make it reasonably quickly
/r/MarriedRedPill24/09/17 05:35 PM
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By no means certain but a woman wanting a trial separation can mean she has someone else and she wants to make it easier to see him without pulling the trigger on divorce. Separate if you have to, but what makes it a trial, and a trial of what? Of course her weak response to your new game could reflect weak/fledgling game, but no game will work if she is on to someone else
/r/askMRP22/09/17 03:56 AM
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OP she's not that into you, and hand wringing wont help. Sidebar
/r/askTRP18/09/17 02:41 PM
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Most times, accusations of callousness are shit tests cause you're generally classed by her as a girlfriend who is supposed to value her feelings beyond anything else. Once you gain her respect and attraction, you stop hearing about it unless you are actually cruel which I doubt Does she actually put your needs ahead of her own? If she did your relationship would be much easier. Perhaps she does for you what she wants to do for you and has a covert contract about it. Big difference
/r/askMRP18/09/17 01:35 AM
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As described, he's not reading her mind but rather reporting her obviously pleasured response, I don't see where there is anything beyond the minimum potential for projection of any interaction. The seeming beta in tow could have not gone shopping, but since he did the next best thing is setting the tone and taking the lead, as did the OP
/r/TheRedPill17/09/17 01:12 AM
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Yes not doing the work (sidebar) doesn't exclude asking to be spoonfed. In fact not doing the work and expecting to be spoonfed go together. Probably is the core of your problem
/r/askMRP11/09/17 12:41 AM
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Then why are you here instead of finishing the sidebar?
/r/askMRP09/09/17 06:58 PM
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Do you want to be with a woman so dead she never notices an attractive man. How would you generate any attraction in such a woman?
/r/askMRP09/09/17 12:40 AM
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how specifically do you think talking about redpill contributed to OP's downfall in this situation
/r/TheRedPill06/09/17 12:50 PM
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this is just repeating the traits for alphas and betas and calling it Chad and orbiters. True but no real new information
/r/MarriedRedPill24/08/17 02:51 PM
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Well what has happened so far apart from your fantasies? Concretely? She's been friendly? You haven't tried anything?
/r/askTRP21/08/17 03:30 PM
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Sidebar sidebar sidebar. Don't come here expecting to be spoonfed
/r/askTRP21/08/17 03:25 PM
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You have ended up an orbiter. Escalate (skillfully of course) until you either a fclose or get a hard no. Don't remain an orbiter. And what would you let this guy know anyway, that nothing happened but that you find his ltr vivacious and lust after her a bit?
/r/askTRP20/08/17 11:47 PM
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I don't agree. You can't assume that, unless there is info that you haven't posted. But of course you can game her
/r/askTRP20/08/17 11:39 PM
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Seeing feminine desire and delivering is a masculine function. ."Smashing face in pillow" is an action oriented descriptor, although. OP added it just to try to make a point about supposed power over
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/17 05:44 PM
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Only a very lazy captain thinks in terms of a co-captain. A competent captain might have a first mate. It seems that you have changed your expectations without changing yourself. Changing expectations is by far the smallest part of the whole deal. Sidebar. Sidebar. Sidebar.
/r/askMRP19/08/17 04:47 PM
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Sounds like she is not turned on when you 'initiate' The goal is to have her so turned on my your masculine presence that she's going crazy waiting for you to initiate, or being seductive. How are you doing with tuning the rest of your ship.
/r/askMRP18/08/17 10:44 PM
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the point of the post is not about avoiding the dentist, which might have several elements, but avoiding 'captain of the ship' responsibility about your own life and body
/r/TheRedPill14/08/17 03:53 PM
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Feelings initiate behavior. Any particular feeling does not compel a particular act, but over a lifetime with one subject or within a large group of subjects, feelings will lead to trends or tendencies in behavior. Hypergamous trends are being observed, and hypergamous feelings are being inferred and confirmed by conversations. This is how most knowledge production happens in sociology and psychology--'scientific' studies in those fields are late products that come along after concepts have been…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/17 04:02 PM
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Yes my point is that all women are hypergamous, not by chosen behavior, but by biological yearnings. You seem to think that all life happens in the arena of conscious and deliberate choices. Hypergamy is not behavior, it is feeling (perhaps inclination) . If a women is less restless in a relationship, it is because the man's behavior still attracts her strongly. What a woman does with the restlessness (the behavior yo speak of) can vary. With greater social and economic freedom, women are now in…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/17 04:05 AM
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Sounds unfriendly
/r/askTRP06/08/17 12:58 AM
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Big difference between leading and controlling. Leading works through attraction.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/17 08:59 PM
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You want validation from your friends about your red pill decisions and they can't give it from their blue pill place. STOP NEEDING EXTERNAL VALIDATION
/r/askTRP05/08/17 08:05 PM
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The Narcissism of Small Differences. It the case with all human beliefs. Nothing specific to the manosphere
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/17 07:58 PM
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A woman could stay in a relationship for 60 years and still demonstrate Hypergamy through frequent shit tests, testing the fitness of her partner and he could keep failing them and they could stay together and be miserable. It doesn't "have" to be that. Unlike most blue pill concepts Hypergamy isn't aspirational, it just is. It is a pragmatic concept. We don't choose nature. We are part of it. We may observe it, or we can cloud observation with often childish idealism and thereby diminish the po…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/17 08:45 PM
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In this case the bias is the other way, towards believing that woman are loyal (which often the consciously held value) rather than hypergamous, which is the biological trend and now with much more (appropiate) freedom to act hypergamy is being acted upon much more regularly. The observation of hypergamy is consistent with my observation as a licensed therapist as well as of a man long married who hasn't nexted anybody in years. Once I was given the heuristic of hypergamy, I was able to see hype…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/17 04:28 PM
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Yeah but what I'm saying is those generalisations are wrong Here we agree to disagree
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/17 12:46 AM
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that is the purpose of a generalization, to increase the signal to noise ratio. Generalizations and red pill concepts like hypergamy are about what usually happens, not what sometimes happens or what could happen. All sociology and psychology consists of generalizations
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/17 07:45 PM
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But it happens with most women and with most men it doesn't. Its called a generalization--they can be quite useful
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/17 03:07 AM
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Whether the woman is turned on already is the difference. Something sexually suggestive is creepy if the woman is not turned on. The attractive guys probably besides looks have masculine presence which turns on women in vicinity
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/17 06:58 PM
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yes but the point is only some men are like that where with women's hypergamy AWALT
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/17 05:21 PM
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Hypergamy also encompasses women being restless (even if secretly) in a lot. Men likelier to settle into oneitis
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/17 03:16 PM
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even if she had done nothing wrong you still would have done nothing wrong. Her feelings, even if sincere are not the arbiter of right or wrong
/r/askTRP31/07/17 04:06 PM
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You did nothing wrong, violated no boundaries, its your stuff and you didn't break and enter
/r/askTRP31/07/17 04:03 PM
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what disgusts you, the bj?
/r/askTRP29/07/17 03:39 AM
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you are almost surely an orbiter to her. try to escalate and see where you get
/r/askTRP29/07/17 03:37 AM
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OP sounds somewhat reflexively unwilling to consider the instructors point of view, but an action can't be declared wrong or creepy just because one person did not like it and complained. There needs to be stronger more objective criteria
/r/askTRP27/07/17 01:35 PM
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It wouldn't mean that she was sexually attracted necessarily. But if she was just using you, she wouldn't bother to put some work in on your apartment. Cleaning your apartment for you presumably without being paid indicate some type of respect. some people including many women say they'll do things and then they don't
/r/askTRP27/07/17 04:15 AM
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Did she follow through and clean your apt properly?
/r/askTRP26/07/17 05:25 PM
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Her interest in you has been as an orbiter. It sounds like she's been taking the initiative in this 'flirtation'
/r/askTRP26/07/17 12:46 PM
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Pain of crushed fantasy is inevitable, but more importantly, its not the type of pain that leads to growth. Unless you have a realization about the nature of fantasy.
/r/askTRP26/07/17 02:22 AM
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For instance for many young guys, their mind disapproves of pubic hair, but if they gave it a second., they'd realize their body was turned on by it. Social norms can change in a generation, but biology takes millions of years to change
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/17 02:17 AM
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Social programming can affect what people approve of or what they expect, but attraction is innate
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/17 02:13 PM
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No it's more cushion for the pushing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/17 02:09 PM
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To women, feelings are facts, if a women doesn't feel slutty but feels her ncount sounds slutty she might report a lower one that seems to fit her feeling about herself
/r/askTRP24/07/17 05:26 PM
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Though there is some sarcasm here, I think this reply is spot on. Only by strengthening your perimeter around yourself and your relationship you you feel self-respect. If you eventually feel strong and serene, then you can 'hotwife' this chick but now you adapting out of fear
/r/askTRP24/07/17 02:22 AM
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never met?? You didn't have a relationship, you had a fantasy. Stay out of fantasy. to get over her you have to admit you were used for validation or something
/r/askTRP24/07/17 01:57 AM
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OP seems too smart to shit where he eats
/r/askTRP24/07/17 01:40 AM
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the whole impetus behind this post that it is tricky in these times for a man to try to hard to get a woman fired
/r/askTRP24/07/17 01:39 AM
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What is one penis open relationship?
/r/MarriedRedPill23/07/17 03:19 PM
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What did you make contact with, face or arm or what?
/r/askTRP20/07/17 11:23 PM
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exactly, realizing only in midlife that overwhelmingly people follow their self-interest was a shock to me, but it has made things so much more natural and straight-forward
/r/askTRP17/07/17 04:30 PM
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Is this a humblebrag post?
/r/askTRP17/07/17 04:16 PM
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Having orbiters is not premeditated or malicious. It just naturally arises from being validated by male attention. Getting stuck as an Orbiter really is the Fault of the guy and not making his sexual agenda completely clear and moving on if he meets with low interest
/r/askTRP14/07/17 11:11 PM
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Depends on the girl. Does she seem mentally mature? Campsite rule applies perhaps
/r/askTRP14/07/17 11:05 PM
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Could you be over training?
/r/askTRP14/07/17 11:02 PM
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have you tried getting a coach/mentor in any of those areas. An objective outsider can sometimes see where there is a leak in your game. Obviously you got the effort part down
/r/askTRP14/07/17 03:14 AM
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The tone of her remarks in the letter. I'm not saying OP deserved it but he was asking what do we think is going on with her.
/r/askTRP13/07/17 01:55 PM
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It sounds like you creeped her out and she is seeking validation of her POV and is embellishing a bit. At least you know where you really stand with her
/r/askTRP13/07/17 01:51 AM
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'Bob' wasn't attached to outcome, you were. That is the bit of game you could learn from 'Bob' You don't earn anything taking her on a date. Even RP works by attraction
/r/askTRP12/07/17 11:18 PM
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Not a bad idea to post the pic. OP do you want to totally squeeze the sexual juice out of her? Why not put her in a burqa? The frame of most posters here so black and white. There are ways of managing the ship in between abandoning it, that is nexting her, and just watching stuff happen helplessly. What type of relationship will you ever be able to form with with any woman if you flee when your insecurities get provoked?
/r/askTRP10/07/17 02:53 PM
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I feel it's a compliment if another man looks at my woman, and what makes her feel sexy comes back to me
/r/askTRP10/07/17 02:29 AM
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Well this cleavage pic is what upset you the most because it's all you mentioned at first. Seems like mateguarding
/r/askTRP10/07/17 02:14 AM
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Just cleavage and you lose your shit? That's weak . Why do you feel you need to prove something her?
/r/askTRP10/07/17 01:28 AM
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