| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 5 | Abortion starting to be banned in many states. No exceptions.The 4 months thing is bs. It takes way longer to prove incest/rape, and rape isn't taken seriously anyway 99% of the time. The new abortion laws have changed my mind about having sex. If I choose to date again, I won't be having sex until I'm married. It doesn't completely take away the risk of needing an abortion, but it helps. The right wing anti-woman laws are another reason I'm a gun owner. I can see more women opting for sterilization to protect themselves from the right wing baby trapping … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 07:57 PM |
| 15 | All those men that you've made a first move on in the past never wanted you.Big big ick. If I could go back to my pick me days and slap myself I would. And that smugness men get when you love them more than they love you. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/22 06:24 AM |
| 83 | High-value actions that stood out to youI've never dated one myself but some HV behavior I've noticed were with my 3 male cousins who won't let any female guest in their homes touch the dishes. I'm not sure if their wives have ever done a sink full of dishes before because the guys do all of the housework as well as work full time. Another time, one of my(now ex) husbands friends offered to detangle my fishing line since I had my hands full with my kids (and husband was drunk). He is married with his own kids now and I'm super happy f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/22 03:40 AM |
| 466 | Never EVER take or send nudes. This poor woman had then used against her 12 years ago and then spread around town recently by her neighbor who got access to her case. The post was made by the woman's husband.They aren't usually in legal cases, but they're allowed as an intimidation tactic by opposing counsel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 11:18 PM |
| 30 | How do you perceive big d*ck energy?Good energy+attentive+generous+confident-arrogance=BDE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 07:10 AM |
| 165 | NVM Single Dads100% about the legitimately problematic women being very obvious. I went to an educational meeting at a local spot last weekend where I learned that the typical buyer of sex trafficked children is a "35 year old married man with children" and that put a whole new spin on how I think of single dads. I wonder how many divorces are initiated by women trying to get away from their child predator husbands. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/22 12:46 AM |
| 444 | NVM Single DadsThis is why I won't date a single dad. I trust his ex's judgement. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/22 11:40 PM |
| 8 | Chronicles of the Modern Day “Gold Digger”: It’s more than just the moneyIt's another case of pure projection from LVM. I've never heard a wealthy man worry about "gold diggers", but I see men mooching off women ALL the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 03:13 AM |
| 27 | Positive stories of finding a HVM or enjoying singlehood?Enjoying singehood as a single mom yes. Just being able to do stuff alone or stuff with my kids without my (now ex) husband hovering, getting his parents involved, treating me like Cinderella, or being on edge if I leave the house because he's going to be texting me within 5 mins asking when I'm coming back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 01:03 AM |
| 24 | A decent strategy guide to land a man /sBonus tip: scream at your boyfriend when you get mad at your video game, and make another dent in the wall. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 11:11 PM |
| 30 | 'Men age like fine wine' 'Women hit the wall'Men age like moonshine. Nasty, bitter, and might make you go blind. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/22 12:39 AM |
| 7 | Podcasts"Chloe_" on YouTube. I feel a lot stronger with her advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/22 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Men stating they fear “Marrying the wrong woman” is a mind game and power play.99% of the stuff men say about women is pure projection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 04:43 PM |
| 83 | War on Women vs War on MenWho are killing the men? Ah yes. Men. It's men again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 03:05 AM |
| 4 | What do y’all think? I personally love it.Yes. And even if I get engaged again, I still won't be making him the center of my world, especially on social media. I think I'd go as far on social media as showing my ring but I wouldn't even mention his name. People don't need to know his name. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:21 AM |
| 40 | In.ce.ls and Their Link to Violence Against the StateGun owner here too. Fu** the police. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 02:15 AM |
| 161 | In.ce.ls and Their Link to Violence Against the StateEven the unibomber was an in.ce.l. A few months ago in Waukesha WI a guy plowed thru a Christmas parade. He had just gotten done with assaulting one woman, and had gotten out on parole for running over (with a VEHICLE) one of his baby mommas about 2/3 weeks before. And the cops and news are like "nobody could have predicted this what a senseless tragedy". Men let men be murderers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 02:14 AM |
| 8 | Vetting strategy – women's periodsAgree 110%. Just another example of LVM not being able to think past the length of their dink. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/22 01:44 AM |
| 70 | New Secret Service report details growing incel terrorism threatReports? Admits. Admits is the word they should use. There's always a trail of violence leading up to an attack. Anyone doubting this should read The Gift of Fear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 06:05 PM |
| 82 | I haven't had the sex I want eitherI never have. Like they'd purposely mess up if I asked them to do something specific (not crazy or super different). Or if I started to enjoy what was going on they'd always ruin it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/22 12:34 AM |
| 57 | I matched with a man on OLD and posted his ass on the local Facebook group for his gf to findQueen shit If we all did this, men would be too scared to cheat | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/22 11:23 PM |
| 235 | Don't cry, beg or show emotion or over communicate. State what you want then leave when it's not met. Men enjoy the begging, crying and emotional outbursts because they know this means you're wrapped around their finger and will stay. It is a massive ego boost for them to have that power over youWomen's pain is what men masturbate to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/22 06:02 PM |
| 3 | A simple trick to combat negging...I like saying "you better ask God for forgiveness for that one, because it's out of my hands now 😎" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 06:15 PM |
| 2 | How can you tell if "My ex was controlling, abusive, crazy..." etc is the truth from a guy?99% of the time they are lying. Lundy Bancroft explains it in his book "Why does he do that". Usually men complain about their exes so you switch into "I won't be like (this) other girl!" Mode And walk on eggshells from the beginning. Like, my own ex should be in jail for what he's done to me and our kids and I still wouldn't go around saying he's crazy. I say "it's taken me some time to learn how to manage his behavior towards myself and our kids". If his ex is legit "crazy" you will literally … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 06:11 PM |
| 37 | Rape caseIt took me 2 years after my ex tried to kill me to report. If I would have reported it, he may have killed my mom and kids while I was in emergency surgery. There are medical records to back it up. It hasn't gone anywhere and the police I reported to kept spitting on the ground during the report. I'm 110% in support of adding social workers to the police force so violence against women is actually taken seriously. Something like 40% of police officers are domestic abusers themselves. So evil pro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 10:21 PM |
| 5 | Rejected by 300 "hot girls", NVM cries about having to settle for "average" girls to get laidThose aren't standards. He's just stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 10:14 PM |
| 159 | What is the most low value reason a scrote has tried using to manipulate you?"My therapist says you're acting like this because of pregnancy hormones". My youngest was 7 at the time and I hadn't even had sex with the scrote who said this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 10:06 PM |
| 33 | Can an LVM turn into a HVM later in life?They can Level up but they'll never be HV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/22 09:18 AM |
| 6 | The Bite-Size Guide to Vet a Potential Suitor: Does he uses FILLER WORDS?1000% good tip. Comments are not compliments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 06:56 AM |
| 119 | FDS lingo is catching on!1000%. It's one of the clearest most easily understood boundary setting tools ever. Instead of spinning your wheels and wasting your energy, you realize "if they wanted to they would" and move on with your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/22 05:43 PM |
| 35 | The occupation of men on OLDAgreed. Where the hell are the plumbers and carpenters and electricians? At the bar? I bet they're at the bar trying to pick up women lol. I've never seen one on OLD. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 11:20 AM |
| 205 | This is why I refuse to date single fathers. Being childfree keeps certain drama out of your life.Men babytrap women 100x more than women babytrap men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/22 04:28 PM |
| 19 | Feeling Extremely Disheartened By My Mother Victim Blaming One Of Her Coworkers For Getting RapedIt's dangerous to keep someone like her a regular in your life since you know she will take the side of anyone who has done things to you, and that could be detrimental to you mentally and legally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 01:41 AM |
| 50 | How'd You Find FDS?Two FDS members were in my DMs of my old reddit account after I posted about some BS I was putting up with. A week before the messages had come in, I had done a ritual for the goddess Kali (Kali is seen as the ultimate mother figure, protector, and liberator) and asked to have connection with other women, because I felt so alone in my relationships with men, and I couldn't make female friends. I can't even trust my own mother. I definetly didn't trust men (and rightly so). After finding FDS I am… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 08:00 AM |
| 88 | An example of a LV Valentine's day gift. The bar is so low, that she's so excited about receiving this "gift" 🤮The only Dyson product Id ever accept is a hair tool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/22 02:12 AM |
| 10 | It wouldn't have anything to do with that hateful, repulsive personality. Nah, must be the cheekbones. B*tches so picky 🙄Next it will be "bedframes are a social construct" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 05:05 PM |
| 4 | In Australia one step back. This timeline is need fudged…Sex trafficking they mean. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 09:07 PM |
| 10 | Even on Airplanes in business class we are not safe.If women do this often enough it won't be seen as "sexist" anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/22 06:33 AM |
| 23 | How many of you ladies have found HVM since following FDS?Life is about avoiding LVM as much as possible because they still pose a danger to you if they're around you platonically. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 09:10 AM |
| 236 | How many of you ladies have found HVM since following FDS?I haven't looked at all but I notice LVM immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 12:43 AM |
| 165 | Talk of wealth is a redflag"The truly wealthy are quiet about it" wise words. If he's "hesitant" about dating because of his "wealth" he's both broke and dumb and probably in a lot of debt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 09:48 PM |
| 9 | for all those single dads who think I REALLY, REALLY NEEEEEED to marry again... what possible value would it bring to my life?I've never met a HV single dad. Their gf's/wives got rid of them for a very important reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 05:46 PM |
| 1 | Does a HVM have anything to gain from dating a FDS woman?None of the things you Or he mentioned are HV. Neither is attacking women online. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 10:17 AM |
| 2 | Does a HVM have anything to gain from dating a FDS woman?Height insecurity is not a HV trait either. You mentioned it. Not me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 10:10 AM |
| 6 | Does a HVM have anything to gain from dating a FDS woman?Doctors are actually off the list of men to date for FDS. Plenty of money but not worth the ego(not saying that's your problem but it happens too often to bother with). HV is measured by how you treat your partner. Being in shape, knowing basic adult stuff like cooking, having a job are simple basic things that make you a functional adult, not a HV man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/22 06:34 AM |
| 41 | He accused me of being a “gold digger” and threatened to end the relationship after me not wanting to put out on date #5. It backfired. How grey rocking can protect you!!!Him accusing you of being a gold digger is very telling too. The only men who worry about "gold diggers" don't have any gold to be dug anyway. The men who do have "gold" know how to protect their assets legally from anyone who might actually use them for their money. They also have a budget for dating/spending on their woman already figured into their finances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 02:14 AM |
| 38 | Why do men think their sudden, unplanned, SpOnTaNeOuS trips are a positive?It's just them bragging about how careless and LV they are. Men who go get lost in the woods/go out and about for days without any phone/communication when they have a wife and kids at home are massively selfish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/22 06:48 AM |
| 10 | Where is your kids dad? Not 1 mention of him. Be careful who you procreate with.Her daughter bosses her around because the dad lets her/encourages her to. Parental alienation happens most to moms, not dads, and it starts even before the child is born in most cases with the father (and his family) negging the soon to be mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 04:34 PM |
| 26 | Men need to stop being celebrated for the bare minimum. 👏🏼 All neurotypical/able-bodied adults should know how to take care of themselves & have their basic needs met. The coddling needs to stop.Came here to say this ugh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 02:15 AM |
| 26 | Do you talk to your therapist about FDS?Made me chuckle. When my NV ex drug me to marital counseling because I was no longer reacting to his abuse the way he wanted me to, the therapist recommended the book "why men love bitches" to me. He was a 55 year old Catholic man. It think my current therapist may approve of FDS judging by the resources she has recommended to me, and I might bring it up sometime this year. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 09:59 PM |
| 36 | Studying for a psych test. Thought you would appreciate this tidbit- postpartum depression in men is related to feeling “replaced by baby” 😭😭😭Effing pansies. They're not depressed they're spoiled AF. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/22 07:53 AM |
| 1 | Do men get any legal rights or benefits with legal marriage, that they couldn’t get without legal marriage?They get the legal right to stalk, harass, assault, sexually assault, control, and financially abuse any woman they marry, even after she leaves him. They also get a lesser prison sentence if they kill their wife/ex wife (as opposed to a longer sentence if they kill a stranger or gf). They also get more raises at work for having a family (something women get fired for), as well as the social status of being married. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/22 06:57 AM |
| 43 | Work is only okay when I (the man) benefit from seeing woman naked and abused. I’m sorry what???? Sex work is abusive towards women.I got downvoted to hell for saying that men would do sex work if it was "just another kind of work that uses your body". It's almost like men don't want to get paid for letting a man use their body for sex 🤔🤔🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/22 05:24 AM |
| 37 | Why is the blame solely on Meagan Markle and not Harry?Because journalists like to push the "burn the witch" narrative. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Men Who Block For No Reason?110% this. They'll play you off as some crazy stalker when they get caught. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 10:11 PM |
| 18 | Indian scrotes threatening to boycott marriage if marital rape is criminalized in IndiaIt wasn't made illegal until 1993 in the states either, and it's actually rarely taken seriously despite being a law. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 06:28 PM |
| 7 | Scrote insults his girlfriend to his friends, then takes joy in telling her about itTalking with other people about your "flaws" is one of the biggest acts of betrayal outside of cheating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/22 06:25 PM |
| 52 | How to avoid a situationship?The book was written 20 years ago and times have changed a ton. Pretending that we don't want commitment sounds like a cool girl/ pick-me idea in 2022. And I think in this day and age we should be more straightforward and say that we are looking to get married. And then follow every other part of the advice of the book and FDS. If he gives you crap about marriage, into the bin he goes. Next! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 08:59 PM |
| 34 | This trended on r / starter packs with a lot of men gaslighting women’s experiences in the comments 🤦♀️It depends on where you live. You can just drive away and not do the delivery if he area or person isn't safe, and mark the reason why in the app with little to no issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 04:53 PM |
| 294 | This trended on r / starter packs with a lot of men gaslighting women’s experiences in the comments 🤦♀️A female doordasher recently posted in the DD sub about her experience delivering food to someone with a female name on the app. She got there and it was a guy who followed her back outside. Many scrotes trying to gaslight her into not reporting it to door dash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/22 05:29 AM |
| 16 | LostI represent myself against my ex husband in family court. He went so far as trying to kill me, and still abuses me and my kids. However, representing myself has been the cheapest and easiest option for me. Two of the lawyers I hired were absolute psychopaths, and one worked with my ex against me. I know it feels hopeless but numbers don't lie. And if you are already on disability, that's a sealed deal. The only defense you need to state is that: You've been married for 25 years. The law says tha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/22 09:21 PM |
| 27 | Case Study of Dating Mr. Sensitive, Part I: Weaponized TraumaThis is a good lesson for all of us to learn. I've experienced this in my last relationship. It was something as simple as using the same chapstick brand as his (not even abusive) ex he felt he was somehow victimized by. He'd say something "my ex used to use that brand. But it's ok. It's ok if you're using it. I know you need it and it's a good brand. I love you even if you use that brand" If a man was legit traumatized by chapstick (and weird triggers do exist) he'd take himself to therapy to h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/22 08:18 PM |
| 6 | Even OTHER men can sense LVM/NVM/ZVM’s red flags with women at the beginning of a relationship, such as “being too busy.”Watch for Counter Intuitive to Relationship statements from men DURING a relationship too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/22 09:49 AM |
| 42 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 45 - Lundy Bancroft Takes The Queens Inside The Minds of Angry & Controlling Men (Part 1)Oh hell yes!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 10:08 AM |
| 30 | "When can I do 50/50 with a man?" - How about NEVER?Ugh this. I was a sahm while my ex went to school and got into the workforce. I couldn't afford to work because he wouldn't pay anything towards daycare. He wouldn't let me finish my degree either. And now we split custody 50/50 yet he makes about 100k and I make about 10k without child support included. I end up paying for everything anyway so the kids don't go without. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/01/22 06:47 PM |
| 32 | While I try to support our sisters, this… idk how I feel about this…. Like why can’t we protest woman’s rights.This is a huge doxx attempt trap and I'm willing to bet it wasn't even organized by sex workers. Should be "my body, his choice" on the ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 06:17 PM |
| 23 | Happy New year lasses, and REMEMBERThis needs to be permanently pinned and/or added to the rulebook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 10:38 AM |
| 155 | Was wondering if any FDS ladies on here have lost interest in dating after finding a job with a healthy environment and/ making more money?Dating will definetly jeopardize my life in more ways than one. Getting married to a NVM (and divorced) ruined any potential career I could have had. I have my own small business and I'll be able to live off of other streams of income, but it's still a bummer. Even if I found a man who wanted to pay for everything, they often pressure you to not work and not have your own finances, or just interrupt your work life constantly with their emotional bs. I can't stress this enough: build up your own … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 06:43 AM |
| 3 | Sons of single mothers = a huge red flagThis. So much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:27 AM |
| 9 | Sons of single mothers = a huge red flag1 Happens just as much with married mothers who are married to scrotes and use their sons as "son-husbands". 4 I see this so much especially online. Men of single moms can be huge golddiggers. I am a single mom with a boy and a girl. My son is massively intuitive, and figured out that I left his dad because his dad treated me so poorly. When he asked about the first people to exist, I told him the theory of Adam and Eve, but added in the part about Lillith leaving Adam because he was so terrible… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/21 06:23 AM |
| 149 | Bizarre pickme post in another subreddit: woman so excited that the office "hot guy" flirts with her that she goes out to celebrateThere's a difference between a husband saying "of course he flirts with you, you're amazing" and "let's go out to eat to celebrate this guy hitting on you". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 06:15 PM |
| 5 | Forced Female Bonding Over Kids Though ChildfreeThat too, if you do want kids but can't/don't have them yet, them going on about theirs is just a painful reminder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/21 05:38 PM |
| 11 | Going for a man you think is below you, only to have it backfire. Has anyone else dealt with this?They will always drag you to hell(where the bar is for men). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 11:05 PM |
| 23 | Was anyone else CONVINCED they were asexual?Absolutely. Turns out my ex was just a terrible person and terrible people are a turn off for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/21 12:07 AM |
| 12 | This is why venting is a must! And also, it’s hard to leave an abusive relationship because we can straight up get murdered. Some men can’t take No. Rip to these poor souls.Strangulation actually is a huge sign because it's a direct way to kill someone (as opposed to beating). I had an ex try to strangle me in my sleep. I told people and he was pissed. He wasn't physically violent towards me again until 4years later when he tried to kill me. Telling people what happened and getting medical documentation, and staying permanently away from the abuser is the best plan. Anyone who's ever read Lundy Bancroft knows abuser rehab makes these pieces of trash better at being… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/21 06:36 PM |
| 2 | Everyday I read multiple posts on Reddit about women being abuse by their SO or men in their life. Most of them don’t even realize they are being abused.Excellent list. I'd also add under the belittling accomplishments, they will threaten to break up with you for your accomplishments by either playing victim to them, or by saying something like "Well since you're so accomplished now, I guess we are done. All I wanted was for you to be happy." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 12:19 AM |
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter