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| 1 | A more comprehensive post on why women handle being alone better than men, and why we need to find solutions to that.TLDR; The only debates with you I would have would be that we agree, based on entirely different thinking. There isn't a loneliness epidemic amongst women. There is for men. The answer seems to be that men need to practice how to have meaningful, supportive, communicative, and intimate PLATONIC friendships ~ with a variety of gendered people, but especially other men. I support what you mention in your original post BECAUSE I believe that women and families require a different kind of support th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/04/24 04:27 AM |
| 1 | Why do so many women still deny that men are way hornier? This is the source of 99% of the issues being discussed here.Horny is a state of being, and as a woman, casual sex is usually mid at best, and that's what I set as a base expectation. You could be as horny as you want but if you only orgasm 1/10 sexual experiences with a new lover, it's not as addictive. Casual sex doesn't seem like it'd be so hot. When you've repeated the experience enough, denying it in the moment can be difficult but ultimately worth not feeling like you've wasted your own time, and didn't even have that much fun in the first place. Me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/24 12:53 AM |
| 0 | Women's infatuation with the lives of celebrities is a male ickTLDR; This is a thing people say but men are just as into the lives of celebrities THEY find interesting. Hating on women's interests is acceptable and encouraged. She also doesn't care about all your stuff, but she probably expects you to be as supportive in listening, at least as she is willing to be about the stuff that gives her the ick, like 3+ fantasy teams taking up months of your time like an infection. Erm... as a woman whose male friends tell me more about their celeb interests, I am S… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/24 05:30 AM |
| 2 | Most of the time when a woman cock blocks her friend at the bar, it is out of jealousy not to “save her” as most women will try to claimYes, That would be because our sober friends and the ones who aren't talking to him may be able to read the situation better. What you're describing is trust in our friendships and the people we choose to spend time with, over a random person at a bar who we have no reason to trust anyway, sober or not. I am never angry when a strange man is talking to me and my friend comes over to ask if I am okay. They are never crossing a line there if their concern is my safety and if I'm comfortable. If it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 07:51 PM |
| 6 | Most of the time when a woman cock blocks her friend at the bar, it is out of jealousy not to “save her” as most women will try to claimThis actually made me laugh. And really shows that you do not understand the female experience and how we have to interact with the world at large. We go out and groups so that we don't make stupid decisions when we're under the influence, We go to the bathroom together so that we aren't followed by some creep, We make a rules that we go together and leave together to stay safe. Men are statistically the number one reason for women's deaths, outside natural causes..This is a verifiable fact, not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/03/24 07:44 PM |
| 5 | CMV: It makes sense that men (particularly ones who had a glow up) don't treat women with much respect.Did they despise you for real though? That seems like some mighty projection - obviously I don't know you or if it was made known daily how despised you were, but most women, even teenagers, simply ignore men they aren't interested in speaking to. You have to care very much about a person one way or another to despise them. Most people don't care about people they don't know enough to feel that strongly about them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 08:31 PM |
| – | Women should admit it is kind of a privilege that they essentially control the couple's social lifeI do feel bad now that I assumed OP was a man - but I guess I'm just disappointed that women are still internalizing all this BS | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 04:56 PM |
| – | Women should admit it is kind of a privilege that they essentially control the couple's social lifeSeems like you got literally all of these from red pilled men on the internet. My parents, along with many of my friends parents, are divorced. Closeness to family needs to be fostered if mom fostered an environment where her parents were around a lot they'll be closer to her parents. If he wants the same, it's up to dad to make sure his parents are involved. Grandchildren will be closest to whatever grandparents they are around the most. That is subjective to A) how much time grandparents are a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/06/23 04:55 PM |
| 13 | Women are ultimately hurting themselves when they refuse to approach and caution guys against approachingWomen don't approach because they don't want to lol. Women have a ton of options. Women are finally centering themselves and their needs over everyone else, the way men often do. If men made women feel safe many more of us would actively seek out companionship with more strangers. Unfortunately, a strange man more often than not causes us to feel unsafe by default because that is how we have to live to keep ourselves safe. That's not positive motivation to give a stranger the benefit of the doub… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/05/23 08:40 PM |
| 0 | The mockery directed toward's peterson's crying on live Tv is proof of women's loathing of weak emotional men.Nah dude, When I see a vile predator cry it makes me feel good. He is not some innocent victim being shamed for having emotions lol. He's being laughed at for thinking that his tears are somehow going to change his image among those who see him as the fucking worst. I don't particularly like watching anyone cry generally but there are just some people who are laughable when they cry. It's not a gender thing to find some satisfaction from watching someone absolutely awful + financially and otherw… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/23 06:57 PM |
| 4 | Would artificial wombs end the struggle between genders?I don't actually believe it's the family part a lot of men want. They want the luxury of a family without the labor that goes into taking care of it. That's very convenient and almost guaranteed if you have a wife at home. I do not actually believe most men would become single fathers, given the opportunity, without someone to raise it with them. And would bet that many would underestimate the amount of exhaustion parenting brings to everyday life. I am not saying it would never happen, but ther… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 01:37 PM |
| -1 | In dating, whats the biggest - men/women say they want X, but their actions suggest otherwise?Yeppppp. Had a FWB once that always paid for shit and wanted to go on dates but reminded me all the time he wasn't my boyfriend so I had to end it because he refused to stop behaving like a boyfriend | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/05/23 12:42 PM |
| 11 | Would artificial wombs end the struggle between genders?Absolutely not - because men who want women to be primary care-taker to their children will still want a mother to their children. The ones that don't would be fine, but I doubt many would be single dads on purpose the way women would decide to be a single mother if they don't meet "the right guy" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 11:00 PM |
| 2 | No one ever seems to want to acknowledge that women consistently go for abusive, bad natured men. If you bring this up all they do is shame you to silence the discussion, and this is probably the most prominent example of gaslighting in dating/gender dynamics.Experienced abusive men do not show those tendencies until very far down the line because they are excellent manipulators. What you are describing is not women "choosing" abusers. It's women getting into relationships with men who they believe are not abusive. You are straight up conflating two different things and using it as an excuse to victim blame. I would say the same thing if the genders were reversed. Abuse is abuse. Victims are torn down over time, people who stay with abusers are in da… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/23 09:37 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Claiming that "women make guys they like wait for sex because they don't want to be viewed as slutty" is dumb and makes no sense.It's a reach to say that someone who has never cheated is more likely to due to a period of casual sex, if they've had longer term relationships where they managed to stay monogamous despite what you see as an indicator of future disloyal behavior. It is more likely, obviously, that one who has cheated, and has in general been more sexually active would be prone to cheating over the former. If 7 is repulsive to most men, at what point are men going to slut-shame themselves and other men who have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/04/23 06:23 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Claiming that "women make guys they like wait for sex because they don't want to be viewed as slutty" is dumb and makes no sense.And if you actually believe what you've just stated is a problem (I am glancing over the disrespectful language that was invented specifically to demonize women. You would not refer to women as whores or sluts if you respected them), and see it as a non-issue with men - then it is abjectly a sexist misogynistic point of view that absolves men of any responsibility for participating in the sex they chose to have with those women. You wanna call people whores and sluts, go for it - but don't prete… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 09:24 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Claiming that "women make guys they like wait for sex because they don't want to be viewed as slutty" is dumb and makes no sense.I did grow up with that messaging and it took nearly a decade to let go of. It fucking sucks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 09:13 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Claiming that "women make guys they like wait for sex because they don't want to be viewed as slutty" is dumb and makes no sense.No, I believe they were referring to the men who say it is a reasonable preference to want a woman with no or low body count. Honestly you just have to scroll the subreddit, there are plenty. It's a regular topic here, usually brought up by men. Women, when we do complain, it's because the men asking for that are usually giant hoe bags looking for vulnerable, inexperienced women 10 years younger than they are - not Jesus loving religious people who are waiting until marriage but want someone who… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 08:50 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Claiming that "women make guys they like wait for sex because they don't want to be viewed as slutty" is dumb and makes no sense.There are MANY MEN IN THIS SUB that cannot stress enough how having a low body count is ideal, if not a requirement to be a sigh high value woman. But those men also want to be the one that woman chooses to fuck. The whole POV demands that women both actively turn down men for sex - while also making it possible for those same men to call a woman prudish for refusing to compromise on that firm boundary and make one exception for them. It's hypocritical. If you want a woman with a low body count,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 08:46 PM |
| 5 | realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in menI know there aren't a lot of women in this sub, but trust me, it's enough to ruin the illusion of men being worth our time, in general. Surprisingly though, despite the shared experience of most women who've been regularly harassed from adolescence into early adulthood and sexualized by men 4x our age before we even hit puberty - women still choose to be in relationships with the men who prove they are considerate and treat women like we are human and genuine in our thoughts and feelings. Y'all … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 04:47 PM |
| 3 | realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in menFrom what I just read you either don't talk to women besides your mom - or you can't see the difference between your adult 50yo mother having male suitors and a 50yo man sexually harassing an 11yo on the street. One causes conditioning and acceptance of abuse - one is an adult who knows how to hold their ground and tell people to back off when needed. Everyone should absolutely judge people by how they act, if those actions go against what they are saying. It is ridiculous to immediately discred… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 04:39 PM |
| 4 | realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in menThat's a disingenuous question considering women have been boxed out of STEM long into human history. A woman created the basis of what is now wifi - we would not have the internet without her. Enstein may have been a genius but his wife was with him and contributed to his success and research by working with him - yet she gets little or no credit. Women, historically, have had male pen names because even men knew that women would not be taken seriously as authors. You cannot as a society box an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/23 04:35 PM |
| 15 | realising that the pool of suitable men for marriage is dwindling rapidly in your 30s it's the female equivalent of the shock that the redpill causes in menWhile I do agree, as a woman, that 1/5 men are actually worth my attention (this is mostly a joke but also - so many douchebags are out there ruining women's experiences and expectations of men), this is not a shock to women. At all. It has nothing to do with age, however. M any of us are well aware in our 20s that most men don't know how to talk to us like a human - they treat us the way they treat women which is to say, they don't address us with the same amount of general respect and it shows… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 09:24 PM |
| 2 | CMV Since the Andrew Tate mindset GUARANTEES succes with women, its very hard for many off his fans to not support him and believe himAndrew Tate (who is in prison for sex trafficking and abuse) may say those men are guaranteed to have success - but that is not a true guarantee of success. Anyone who had a business to push like Andrew would logically make that guarantee. But those men aren't learning how to be successful in a relationship - they're learning at best how to get laid more easily, and at worst they are learning how to skillfully manipulate women into believing they are not scummy fuck boys when they most definitel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 09:03 PM |
| 2 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?Those of us who see it as a simple courtesy to their fellow humans won't take it as a mixed signal lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 05:19 AM |
| 2 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?I'd much rather have someone build furniture with me than see it as an equal task to things that need to be done daily/weekly at home. Car maintenance is not a weekly task - but the whole house needs to be dusted, vacuumed, disinfected, mopped twice a month for the standards of a normal person. That takes hours. For many it's up to 7hrs a week in additional labor compared to their partner. Mowing the lawn is not something that needs to be done every day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 05:17 AM |
| 3 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?It's not practical to relegate tasks like that IMO. If we have furniture to build, whoever is first available to start builds it. I have lived with roommates and learned how to repair a garbage disposal. I have had male roommates who not only keep up with cleaning shared spaces, but scrubbed the entire place up and down because he had time and let me tell you, that was a solitary experience in my life living with men. Living together is actually very nice if you aren't expecting each other to fi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/23 05:11 AM |
| 2 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?Women: Open doors for everyone, including men, because mom taught us it's the considerate thing to do when they are following just behind us. Men: "I'll stop opening doors for you if you insist on not doing the many many many many many hours or manual labor and lost free time of being 100% responsible for yourself, the house, the kids, and putting dinner on the table as my loyal wife (insert "bangmaid" here or replace with "I can't figure out why she always says she's too tired for sex and gets … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 09:15 PM |
| 4 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?The founding fathers were radically against exactly what you are talking about bro. They believed in freedom from religion, and specified how important it was that the church cannot write our laws, because if one religion becomes law, anyone who practices another is now forced to follow the morality of someone else's faith. Many of them being Christian does not mean they wanted a Christian Nationalist nation. That would be the antithesis of what they practically pleaded for in the separation of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 09:08 PM |
| 3 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?Probably because her hands are fatigued from spending hours baking 75 pies. You see the problem here? They should be helping her bake the pies, not watching her slave over the kitchen and only jumping in to open the door. You should also maybe consult a few medical journals. You don't develop autism from ADHD meds, and you don't get prescribed Adderall if you are diagnosed with ADHD. I also have ADHD and lemme tell you, people who take know not to take it an hour before the Thanksgiving meal lma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 09:04 PM |
| 5 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?If by tit for tat you mean equal amount of time and labor exerted by both partners on things that are shared household responsibility, yes. Fuck holding the door open. I'd rather we both take turns washing the bathroom every 2 weeks and I can open my own doors. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 08:58 PM |
| 2 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?Like doing her man's laundry and making sure she always knows where his keys because he never does? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 08:56 PM |
| 2 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?Yeah, bro. This is a messiness issue - not a gender issue. Women statistically do an astronomical amount of additional domestic care tasks/year than men on average. I'm sorry for your experience, but it seems like your ex had some mental health issues that got in the way (often doom scrolling is a symptom of executive dysfunction) or depression. Many who have difficulty cleaning have trauma surrounding cleaning tasks. I hope you find a less messy future partner. Maybe one who isn't a person with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 08:56 PM |
| 3 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?I am a woman and I open doors for people regardless of gender. It wasn't until I saw men talking about opening doors for women as chivalrous that I considered men so this specifically for women because they are women and not for men. Why would I want someone to open a door for me just by virtue of being a woman? I'd rather have someone who opens doors for whoever is behind them because it's the respectful thing to do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 08:51 PM |
| 1 | If expecting a woman to cook/clean *because she’s a woman* is misogyny, then wouldn’t expecting chivalry from a man *because he’s the man* be misandry?Edited to Add: I am not defending chivalry or this concept, simply always had an interest in Brit Lit and Chivalry is very much more of a literary narrative than it has been a realistic occurrence. Chivalry is a concept from long ago. A knight who was chivalrous and had affections for a lady put her on a pedestal. The lady was sacred. Chivalrous love specifically is "look but do not touch", it is making gestures and expecting absolutely nothing in return. The idea of chivalry, had to do with "la… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 08:45 PM |
| 1 | The way the manosphere express their preferences is far more problematic than the preferences themselvesPeople have told me, who is a woman and has lived and been treated as such for 3+ decades, that my expectations are too high and if I want to marry someone I need to lower them. My standards are for someone who has the basic capacity to feel, process and express their emotions in a healthy way. I want someone who I have similar values to, and someone I find attractive. Attractive to me is subjective and depends highly on personality. If you are not intellectually stimulating, you also are not se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 08:34 PM |
| 1 | The way the manosphere express their preferences is far more problematic than the preferences themselvesI was about to disagree with you about body count until you specified that it's reasonable if you are a traditional man to want a traditional woman with low or no sexual experience. It just gets me so heated when some men argue that it's reasonable for men to cheat - and then move the goalpost and say it's different for women and they just don't value themselves enough if they're giving their body away. Choosing to share a special experience is not giving yourself to someone. You still belong to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Men control relationships, but only men that have been chosen by women in the first placeI feel like you are conflating a complaint by women of the men they've chosen ending up far more controlling than they let on in the beginning (which is something someone manipulative and controlling does, because no one would fall for someone awful and controlling on the first date. I am not in control of the relationship I am in and neither is my male partner. We decide things equally when it is something that affects both of us. We decide how we want to spend our individual time and hobbies, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/04/23 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Now that we live in an era where women work and make their own money, why is a man's money/career still so important for women?I'm really only addressing the parental thing here - but a parent is not owed the sacrifice of their child taking care of them if they were not a good parent - or even if they were. Many parents only have children because they felt obligated, those kids can tell. It is unreasonable in this economy, when we are not given the generational wealth so many others have been afforded - to expect someone who doesn't even expect to retire themselves, to take care of family (or necessarily even have the t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/23 04:29 PM |
| 1 | Now that we live in an era where women work and make their own money, why is a man's money/career still so important for women?You can have a bad job and still not be a leach, though. No, it will not support a whole family, but that isn't very realistic for most these days with inflation and rent prices as high as they are. Homes being 600% more expensive than they used to be. It's not my goal or ambition to take care of my parents someday, either. I don't think that makes me a bad person, but I also don't think it's an invalid reason for seeing me as a compatible partner. I just don't think that most women are demandin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/23 05:31 PM |
| 1 | Now that we live in an era where women work and make their own money, why is a man's money/career still so important for women?If his requirement is that between the two, one needs to be able to work (meaning simply that both partners work) it is not misogyny. My partner has never demanded that I make a certain amount of money. I do not care if he makes an average wage as long as, between the two of us, we can be financially stable enough to live our day to day lives. I could not sustain two people on my income and neither could my partner. It isn't a choice either way or a demand that I could reasonably make as I do no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/23 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Your own language/expressions betray you: "lower your standards"There are such things as unrealistic or unreasonable standards. It is probably not too hard to find a virgin, if you start going to her church, convert to her religion, and marry her (assuming she likes you, that is). There are some who want a virgin but also wouldn't stand to be made to wait 4 months to have sex. You can't really have both unless what you want is for your standards to change based on what's better for you at the time. So that would be moving the goal post. If you want someone w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 03:17 AM |
| 1 | Your own language/expressions betray you: "lower your standards"I see men telling women their standards are too high to meet all the time, but more often than not women are pointing out a young and inexperienced woman's proclivity to naivete and vulnerability to manipulation. It isn't the virginity itself that is enticing, it's that they are decidedly less sure of themselves and far more impressionable, without knowing what they want in their life long term, what their personal goals are outside of a relationship, how they'll support themselves etc. A woman … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/04/23 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Q4women Does saying guys should work on themselves first to find dating success make any sense when it's women deciding what men should become?IME, most people, in general have struggles and have had some type of trauma. Vulnerability doesn't have to be pretty for it to be okay. I think that trauma and struggle can make things complex - but humans are complex. Truthfully, I do not think that a majority of people are going through life with no baggage. I find it wildly unlikely. And I think that anyone with their own baggage would be a hypocrite to demand with be with someone who has none - or to be cruel to them for having any at all. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 04:42 PM |
| 3 | Practically no men are "obsessed" with sex, they just can't satisfy their healthy, normal desiresI would bet that they aren't demanding their girlfriends who have pegged former partners to peg them just because they did it with another person 😑 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/04/23 04:33 PM |
| 7 | Practically no men are "obsessed" with sex, they just can't satisfy their healthy, normal desiresYeah, and I imagine they don't consider that their gf discovered, by doing the thing they now won't do, with an ex partner - that they discovered it made them uncomfortable/they didn't like it/it was not pleasurable etc. Or, they felt obligated to perform for their past partner, in an unhealthy and possibly abusive situation. I want to know why someone's current partner would go into intense detail about the explicit sexual acts she has done with those she's been with in past in the first place?… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 09:48 PM |
| 3 | Q4women Does saying guys should work on themselves first to find dating success make any sense when it's women deciding what men should become?Working on your inner struggles/unpacking trauma/learning to speak your feelings out loud and to feel them - learning to communicate all matter for a relationship. But the things you do for you and for the betterment of your individual life can and will often be attractive to women who are interested in men (well anyone). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 05:15 PM |
| 1 | Chat GPT - Is there such a thing as a "right" or "wrong" sexual strategy? Discussion ThreadA sexual strategy is not a strategy to be successful in relationships - unless you are doing so to manipulate someone - which would make it wrong, unethical etc. Using deception (which is decidedly purposeful) or manipulation to harm or violate consent is rape. Full stop. Deception is not something that happens by accident. I think that promoting healthy sexual behavior specifically would involve comprehensive sex Ed, which includes teaching about what is unethical and what constitutes enthusias… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/04/23 05:13 PM |
| 2 | ALL men who want to date should go to the gym and take care of themselves, and women are reasonable to demand that.No one is stopping you from dating a virgin if you can find one who is interested bro. But it is ridiculous to make demands of people who you are not interested in and who may have no interest in you. I'm not gonna find a skinny emo guy and then try to change him and request he becomes a gym rat. If I wanted a gym rat, I would go find one. You set the standard for yourself. That standard is the defining factor in the amount of people that would fit that standard. If it is very few, you have very… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 09:12 PM |
| 1 | ALL men who want to date should go to the gym and take care of themselves, and women are reasonable to demand that.I guess I agree that it's reasonable that women are interested in men they find attractive rather than giving people a chance when they have no interest - buuuuuut I don't think anyone should demand that. Plenty of dudes who don't go to the gym still take care of themselves without being jacked and that is fine. No one should have to demand what they want - if someone lacks something you desire, the easiest thing to do is not date them and look for someone who already has a similar mindset to yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 09:08 PM |
| 7 | Has anyone else noticed a lack of "mixed gatherings" post Me too?I agree. I was much more social in the years before the covid lockdown - me too didn't affect me in the sense that nothing in my life changed, in terms of being invited/being willing to invite people to outings. I think part of it in the post-covid social world is that it is less accepted to bring a virtual stranger to a BBQ - used to be personal safety from covid but people have gotten used to not meeting people. I think that social media is also a culprit - people don't have to meet others in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 08:29 PM |
| 4 | CMV : Its hypocrisy to hate on Andrew Tate and his Mindset, and then proceed to date a guy with a "Tate mindset"You know that most people who acknowledge we live in a patriarchy do not do so to uphold it - it is not in the best interest of women to encourage them to forego further education for housewifery and being a SAHP for various reasons - one being that most people these days require two incomes simply to survive. The other being that what you see as "good advice" is only something that would benefit young boys. Good advice would be to develop your own character, interests, and future life goals and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 08:09 PM |
| 2 | CMV : Its hypocrisy to hate on Andrew Tate and his Mindset, and then proceed to date a guy with a "Tate mindset"I mean, I do agree that dating someone with a Tate mindset is hypocritical if you don't prescribe to it - but it's also likely dangerous. I'm assuming your scenario is a hypothetical - most people would not say yes to a date with a rando without actually talking to them and determining if they would want to spend more time with them and get to know them. I say this outside the "That person is really hot and I'd fuck them" people who aren't looking for a relationship because that's a whole differ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 06:32 PM |
| 7 | Since we live in artificial times why don't we implement artificial solutions? Make a dating app which allows women 50 swipes per day while men are only allowed 1 swipe per day.Plenty of dudes will pay and extra $10 to find out who super-liked them on Tinder. I would bet it would be profitable af | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Since we live in artificial times why don't we implement artificial solutions? Make a dating app which allows women 50 swipes per day while men are only allowed 1 swipe per day.Dating apps, like all the others, benefit from more people using them - they would not logically make it "fair" because it would undermine their profit margin. Do you think a woman would choose a dating app that only allows her 50 swipes/day if she repeatedly swipes left on all 50? Maybe 51 would be the one she would actually want. I don't think a man would want to join a dating app that would limit him to one swipe per day either. I guess the ones who do would have to be interested in actually … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 06:19 PM |
| – | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/19645027/ My "utter horse shit" has been studied - I didn't just make up that statistic. I am unmarried and in my 30s, it is not a conclusion I would jump to simply to make you look bad. Gender disparity in the rate of partner abandonment in patients with serious medical illness "Results: Women composed 53% of the patient population. Divorce or separation occurred at a rate similar to that reported in the literature (11.6%). There was, however, a greater than 6-fo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 02:53 PM |
| 0 | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.Well I'm sure your experience is universal and it has to be women that are the problem on the whole - rather than, you matched up with someone you were incompatible with more times than you'd prefer. It's funny you mention the vows thing, because 1/3 of husbands are statistically likely to leave a woman or divorce her when she comes down with a fatal illness - that is not mirrored for wives of husbands with illnesses that need care or that they won't recover from. I did not say women are disinte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/04/23 04:28 AM |
| 11 | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.Well, there is a difference in a therapist who gets paid to unpack and help someone work through their trauma. The key word there being trained, hasn't they went to school and got a graduate degree. When women say we don't want to be someone's therapist, what we mean is that it isn't healthy to expect us to be the only person that you go to with emotional difficulty. One person cannot be your support system. Men often confuse their girlfriends and wives for their therapists, bang, maids, and mot… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.It's very weird as an adult to talk about the dating preferences of pre-teens | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 09:44 PM |
| 0 | Women lie about their partner preferences. They self-report preference for intelligent and ambitious men, but they chose the most attractive ones ignoring other traits.Oh, this post for the 3000th time this year. If you won't listen to women, who are not going to agree with this - because it is untrue on the large scale, are you looking for validation? Does this make you feel better about your own chances? Or is it just better than feeling like you don't have one? So much projection in this POV that I think I've seen this exact post more than 10 times in the last month | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/04/23 09:42 PM |
| 1 | CMV: The fact that Red Pillers still want their daughters to be educated girlbosses is hypocriticalCan you name one "limit" to women's sexuality that would not be considered inhumane treatment or any course of action for what happens when women do not live within said limits that wouldn't be an unconstitutional leveraging of governmental power, or imprisonment without legal cause etc? Women can only be pregnant 9 months at a time, with, usually, one child. The easiest way to solve a problem is at the cause. The cause in this case - is men ejaculating inside women and getting them pregnant. Su… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/23 08:21 PM |
| 1 | CMV: The fact that Red Pillers still want their daughters to be educated girlbosses is hypocriticalEven if women's oppression was the only guarantee that humanity survived, I'd rather see it all burn than know my future (forcibly birthed) daughters were destined to be classified as nothing more than cattle. Humanity does not deserve to keep going if the cost is dehumanizing an entire gender due to their biological sex organs. It's disgusting to even think that some people think it's reasonable to guarantee female companionship by subsidizing relationships and regulating government sanctioned … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/23 08:04 PM |
| 1 | CMV: The fact that Red Pillers still want their daughters to be educated girlbosses is hypocriticalI'm wondering why this discussion moved from its original topic to single-motherhood and how they are responsible for fathers leaving their sons fatherless for reasons of their childs safety or just abandonment. Also, having kids with the sperm of 2 different men is not a health risk or an issue as long as those children have positive influences of a variety of genders - including men obviously - because that is known to be good for children. SINGLE is not an insult nor does it have an automatic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/04/23 07:59 PM |
| 0 | 90% of what gives women ""the ick" is just men failing to live up to masculine gender stereotypesWhat is unfair is that women made men absorb the cost of their liberation, which they promised they will not have to do, and then refused to hold any of thei promises. What? That's some backwards thinking if I've ever heard it. Why would you think that women, or ANYONE, would promise that our having and fighting for rights we didn't originally have would have no effect on men? I really cannot see any reason men would be promised anything except an expectation of the same amount of civility a per… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 11:35 PM |
| 0 | 90% of what gives women ""the ick" is just men failing to live up to masculine gender stereotypesThat fact your infer that women are "escaping" their gender role in itself infers that women, like men, are trapped by the gender binary and the roles within it. Being trapped infers that they are being held unfairly to standards or social norms that are not fair. The idea that education and therefore, knowledge and financial independence that comes from that frees us from our gender-assigned assumed role in a heteronormative lifestyle may be true. And if it cements men into his assigned gender … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 07:07 PM |
| 0 | 90% of what gives women ""the ick" is just men failing to live up to masculine gender stereotypesThere are no hard and fast rules beyond one's ability to be attractive to the person they desire. If they aren't attracted to you, for whatever reason - it is not unfair because romance is not a commodity to be doled out to ensure everyone has a romantic partner. It's completely fair to shoot your shot, and have it either accepted or rejected. It would not be fair to insist women accept less than they want simply to satiate the men who feel it is unfair that they do not get chosen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 06:54 PM |
| 1 | 90% of what gives women ""the ick" is just men failing to live up to masculine gender stereotypesDo you see a benefit in anyone settling for a romantic partner they do not see a future with? I'm genuinely curious to hear your answer on this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 06:48 PM |
| 1 | 90% of what gives women ""the ick" is just men failing to live up to masculine gender stereotypesWomen do not have an abundance mentality in the sense you think they do IME or IMO unless you consider that many of us see an abundance of men who do not fit our idea of a good partner. It's like going to the grocery store and finding that a majority of the bananas have rotten but looking through them for the ones that have not arrived rotten like the rest. For most of the women I've spoken to, they aren't juggling men - they'd just rather be alone than settle for someone out of fear of being al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 06:41 PM |
| 1 | 90% of what gives women ""the ick" is just men failing to live up to masculine gender stereotypesI'd like to point out that emotional labor is not equal to emotional availability. Emotional labor (and the lack of it that women complain about) is in reference to the care tasks women are assumed to execute and the things often just left for us to plan (as in tasks that keep the household running but specifically tasks done for or on the behalf of others). The ask here is for the men in these relationships to do their part so she doesn't feel she's picking up the slack. When one person is give… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 06:34 PM |
| 1 | 90% of what gives women ""the ick" is just men failing to live up to masculine gender stereotypesHave you met most men? I grew up in an Italian family - lemme tell ya, my male cousins are just as loud with their hands as they are with their vocal chords. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 04:36 PM |
| 2 | 90% of what gives women ""the ick" is just men failing to live up to masculine gender stereotypesYeah, I did not see one well known gender stereotype on that list of icks. Like, being ignored by a bartender is not a personality trait - it's an experience a person has. 3 sounds high tbh. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/04/23 04:34 PM |
| 1 | Women's passivity and ease of dating makes it hard to feel sympathy for their dating strugglesIs it threatening to have someone want to get to know you before taking things there? How would you know how long she waited to have sex with past partners, and why does it matter? Are you dating her in the present or competing with the men that were incompatible with her in the past? This isn't even about "her". This is about your need to feel you are better than anyone else she's ever dated because you are comparing yourself to her past lovers. Relationships do take effort, some people like to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 10:18 PM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.Nothing is a guarantee, dude. It's a calculated risk. Probably good to abstain from marriage if the possibility it doesn't work out is too scary for you. I pointed out that the divorce rate is pretty low amongst people who wait until their late 20s and 30s to do so. So it would factually mean you are more likely to divorce if you get married in your early 20s or to someone who is in that age range. Everything in life comes with risks. It's up to the individual to decide what risks they feel are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 08:59 PM |
| 0 | What passes as 'creepy behavior' is entirely subjectiveThat's risking aggression - some men would actually hit a woman for that. It isn't wise to antagonize strangers, in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/04/23 04:24 PM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.I see nothing wrong with being traditional if that is what people want. I do not think that it is a safe option in the US. Other developed countries with low rates of homelessness etc, have resources, healthcare, food availability etc. And those resources are vital to stop the infighting. Once you put your trust in a partner to be the sole breadwinner you no longer have power there. You have sacrificed for as long as you choose to, career advancement & earning potential. In another country with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 06:07 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.Pls cite your sources for that? I am not arguing that there aren't a lot of women who are stay at home parents, but much of them are in a lower economic class and choose that for financial reasons because it would be a wash to have both of them work when one salary would simply be used for childcare. For those who are privileged enough to have sufficient finances to afford it and have the luxury of choosing to be a housewife. Most don't. Over half the country needs more than one income to surviv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 05:54 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.You would have to enlighten me on what dating strategy you are talking about - mine is finding someone compatible with me and, among other things, expressing to them how I feel about the predatory nature of the purity culture you promote that only applies to women. If you have spoken to an adult woman, she starts losing her innocence when little boys bully her and grown men drive by and catcall her in elementary school. I do know that you specifically meant sexually innocent - but as a victim of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 04:52 AM |
| 2 | What is more important to some ones happiness- their partner or their job?I'm prefacing this by saying that I do not know how old you are, but my perspective is that if someone who had their wild 20s college life BS, dated multiple men seriously over the years, and very much like the comfort of having a partner. We do not live a life a luxury. It is comfortable enough, but we don't take many vacations and we don't spend much money outside of our living expenses. I'm nearing my mid-30s. I want to love who I am with and I am definitely not looking for the next hot rich … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 04:03 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.Surely our time would be better spent memorizing the parts in our engine or the stats of our favorite athletes, discussing our assets. I'd put a lot of money on saying men likely read far more about dating strategy than women, considering most of the men in this sub preach about how women don't actually have to do or be anything but hot. We can even be stupid and boring and that is more than enough for long term happiness for many of them from what I've seen. Seems like it'd be lonely in 50 year… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:44 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.Innocent women are naive. Naive women are not rich, they are easily taken advantage of. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:38 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.It does seem like a very simple answer 🤷🏻♀️ and I think those woman are not compatible for him anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:32 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.Disagreeing with a man does not make one argumentative. But insisting that women are argumentative simply for disagreeing and having strong convictions. Why is conviction only a thing men are allowed to have? Why would you want someone knowingly weaker of mind than you? Wouldn't it make sense as a strong, confident man to want a strong, confident woman? As a team, they can bolster each other and challenge each other to grow into better more successful people. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:31 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.Can you give me a list of what these needs are so simple? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:27 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.Literally half of the us is living paycheck to paycheck, most of know that luxury provided by a man due to financial success is a pipe dream for the most part. The tip 1-10% aren't hanging out with normies and most of us, you know, work for a living to pay our overpriced rent and just pray we don't break our legs so we don't go bankrupt paying the medical bills our taxes should be paying for. I'm happy with someone whose salary combined with mine gives us a comfortable enough life to have retire… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:25 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.If too much swiping is a massive amount of effort - I can't help but laugh at that. So many men will demand that women on dating apps plan a date with them immediately and then antagonize them for wanting to actually get to know them before meeting in person when they say they want to talk more. It really shouldn't be that much effort until you've actually met someone and put that effort into showing them you like them and developing a connection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:17 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.It might be easier to focus on one woman when you don't right swipe all of them, including the ones you personally consider unnatractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:14 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.When men see women who are confident, assertive, and with a healthy amount of self worth as narcissists it really reinforces the idea that what they actually want is a woman who questions herself and listens to him above her own intuition. It's time to stop dismissing our intuition IMO. If my self worth is threatening to some men, they have no reason being in my presence in the first place. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:09 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.Me? Nah. I am actually very happy and in a relationship with a man who likes me for more than just what I give him. It's pretty great ngl. I hope y'all go get therapy and work through your issues with women though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:05 AM |
| 2 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.Johnny Depp and Brad Pitt are old men and these dudes are unironically getting boners for them and calling them a gigachad. Seems a little gay to me idk | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:03 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.|Mine is based on research.It is a generalization because men of all ages,looks,incomes go abroad for women,actually most men that find foreign wives are top 10% income| So essentially they are rich enough to not have to put in any modicum of effort into caring for or supporting their partner because they are looking for women who believe their purpose is to be a good wife and only that. If she chooses it, cool. But if your end goal is that men shouldn't have to put effort into meeting or wooing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 03:01 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.Actually, yes. Most divorces are people who repeatedly divorce. Most marriages that last over 5 years will last much longer. Amongst millennials alone, the marriages that last over 5 years have a divorce rate of below 25%. Because millennials are waiting longer to get married and actually getting to know each other before they decided to legally bind themselves to each other. People also divorce less often when they get married later (as in, not in their early 20s. Any of us in their 30s here I'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:56 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.Ding ding ding. They want to be with someone who needs them to survive. Aka - they want a woman who is 100% settling for them for superficial reasons, claiming they will find "emotional satisfaction" in that relationship. I imagine the satisfaction comes from feeling like they have control and agency and a woman who wouldn't feel confident enough to question them, their choices, or their vices. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:50 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.What men claim makes them happy is the disproportionate sacrifice of labor and time women put in unpaid at home, saving those men the labor of doing it themselves. If not wanting to cook every dinner or do all his laundry and deal with childcare and not expect him to participate when he gets home from work - I'm cool with those men believing that prioritizing my own health and protecting my peace and agency as selfish or uncaring. Men can be happy in an egalitarian relationship if they actually … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:41 AM |
| 2 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.I read the first 3 novels but unfortunately don't have 3 hours to read the rest of your manifesto. I hope you get some help. I also hope that "help" isn't financially trapping a woman in the US who would be deported or homeless if she tries to leave you because you've removed her from her entire support system. Why would I give someone who would write what you did reason to date American women? It is of no consequence to me (and also not our job to convince men to keep seeking us) whether you li… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:23 AM |
| 1 | CMV:Passportbroism,not the BP,RP or BlkPl is the solution for men to become happy.Right? It's like putting a puppy in a cage without food or water and then telling people your great pet owner because you never forget to feed it for too long. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/04/23 02:21 AM |
| – | CMV: Women on PPD exaggerate how much women generally work and earn.It's very clear that you value a financial contribution over the physical and mental one of being a SAHP + household maid + family cook + event planner. She's saving you money if you have that and sacrificing her own future earning power. Any woman in that situation really needs to trust their partner, women are at far more risk for poverty after divorce than men are. No one deserves to do 100% of the household care tasks, parenting, cooking, and planning simply because they don't make a paychec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 09:29 PM |
| 2 | What is more important to some ones happiness- their partner or their job?I don't usually like to use this played out line - but who hurt you? You sound bitter AF This is not realistic. Most people do want a committed relationship. And the ones that don't want that commitment are not obligated to be in one. I surround myself with people who have no problem being loyal to their partners. I'm not even hating on casual hookups if that is what someone wants. I've had times where I enjoyed being single and did some of that myself - it got tiring, and the sex was mostly bad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Women say look out for signals to approach, what are the signals?I really didn't mean to write a novel and while I'm not deleting all of that - TLDR; Most of the time it is unadvisable to approach a woman alone. If you're in a public setting with people around, it's at least somewhere she likely won't feel like she is in an immense amount of danger. If you are alone on a quiet road or in a parking lot and so is she - DO. NOT. APPROACH if there is no one else around you. She might be nice to you and not brush you off immediately but that's because she is afrai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 03:37 PM |
| 1 | Beauty standards for men are far more unrealistic when it comes down to datingI mean, your points, if they are valid, could be backed up by data. You compared doing a background check for safety and being angry at men for lying about things to asking women body count. You compared makeup to being manipulative and I mentioned you could easily ask those women not to wear makeup if you are that pressed. And then linked a bunch of YouTube videos I am not ruining my YouTube suggestions to watch. Seems like a you problem. Don't date women who wear makeup if you think it's manip… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/04/23 12:41 PM |
| 1 | What (do you think) causes some people to want role reversal in a relationship?I think the roles need to be destroyed for a more egalitarian approach and honestly would be insulted if the man I chose wanted me to act soft and to follow his lead in all situations. I do not believe in "feminine" or "masculine" interests. People have decided they are feminine or masculine, but even in studies done - children don't know the difference and are not naturally more or less dominant or submissive and will play with a variety of toys one would consider masculine and feminine. I thin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Ladies do any of you here NOT want a relationship?If this one doesn't work out, I'd like to be single for a very long time. I love my partner but if it doesn't work out I am never living with another human being again unless they really make me want that. But I am hoping this one works out. That, or I'd date women strictly from that time forward. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 09:14 PM |
| 1 | Female women, do you search about dating advice on the internet as much as men do?Ah, a gentleman who respects women. We love to see it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Are female beauty standards really that bad?But did you shave your legs with the aim of them being baby butt smooth regularly? Every two weeks wouldn't cut it. I'd have a veritable forest on my legs if I let it go for over 5 days. This obviously varies depending on your genes but there are a lot of people in the world who have thick body hair. I want to clarify that when I say clean and healthy, and hygiene - I mean what is necessary to keep your body healthy, not what society sees as healthier for arbitrary reasons. Having less body look… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Female women, do you search about dating advice on the internet as much as men do?The only men who deserve anal are the ones that don't ask for it in the first year IMO - and that's on the off-chance the woman actually likes anal or is willing to try it. This is so heavily pushed nowadays that I see so many posts from women about how their partner surprised them with anal - which is dangerous to ones mental and physical health and can cause a lot of issues if you aren't warmed up and ready for that. It's also sexual assault to do that without prior consent. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 09:02 PM |
| 2 | Female women, do you search about dating advice on the internet as much as men do?Right? When I was 16 I read an article about how if you use a hollowed out grapefruit along with your mouth you'll give your man the best blowjob of his life. Like wtf kind of advice out there is like "Put the citrus on the dick and then suck it" without thinking about the health issues that could cause. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 08:59 PM |
| 1 | Female women, do you search about dating advice on the internet as much as men do?The terminology you are looking for is Cisgender Heterosexual woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Female women, do you search about dating advice on the internet as much as men do?Literally never. Though you can leave out the "female". I identify as a human woman and think all women are women whether they are born female or not. We all know you mean Cis-Het women. If anything I search "effective ways to communicate" more than anything but that applies to usually people who are already in a relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 08:55 PM |
| 1 | Q for Women: Does it bother you, not bother you, or flatter you, or just not care if men check out your ass while you walk by? I mean if they do it discreetly, and you notice it, and not overtly ogle you like a mouth breather.If it's the way you described and I noticed. NBD. The issue is, a lot of men don't know when they are staring and will legit stare you up and down like a cartoon with it's eyes popping out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 08:53 PM |
| 1 | If you had to choose between these 2 men, who would it be and why?Assuming both of these men aren't boring and I like their company and find them easy to spend time with - A. Confidence can be worked on, so can sex life. If A is boring, then I'd rather be alone. It's nice to be nice, but that's not enough of a reason to date someone you aren't interested in intellectually or otherwise B doesn't seem awful either but I don't like men who only seem interested half the time and I am a bit of a romantic. Though I do believe people change, it would depend on how mu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Are female beauty standards really that bad?"Don't be hairy" is asking women to sacrifice literally multiple days a year shaving the large extremities of their bodies. It is an unfair beauty standard that only exists because razor companies wanted to make money off women. Before that, women largely did not shave their legs or the rest of their bodies at all and it was not seen as an issue. And the moment women started buying, the razor industry boomed. Women need to use and buy more razors if they shave regularly, and at an increased cost… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Are female beauty standards really that bad?There's a lot there, but let's say as a less extreme example of a "healthy" woman. A woman who doesn't follow fashion trends, cuts her own hair, doesn't own makeup and doesn't shave her body, at all - but showers regularly, always wears clean clothing and treats people with a general amount of respect. This what a lot of men do. They aren't paying thousands of extra dollars for razors, spending over an hour a week shaving their body, spending 30 minutes a day on wearing even a small amount of ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 08:27 PM |
| 1 | How many of you genuinely love your partner?Sometimes the reality of the situation is that she didn't just magically "lose interest" in you or in sex. Usually it's because something else is off the relationship and while you may be right that there are things that cause women to lose interest in the sexual part of the relationship, it is generally tied to a problem in another part of the the relationship (unless it's a health concern or undue stress because life is very stressful sometimes). What I see a lot is that men simply decide that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 08:15 PM |
| 1 | What do you think of the stereotype that woman are deeply complex creatures with a myriad of wants and needs whereas men are simple creatures that are very easily satisfied?I think the woman stereotype is only considered a stereotype on this and red - pill subs. That's just what all humans are. We are all deeply complex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 07:40 PM |
| 3 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?I honestly think the wild difference is in how people think about dating. People who are very possessive or very jealous and insecure will likely have an issue if you aren't "together" within a couple dates or if you go on one date with them they expect you not to go on any other dates. While I do prefer and adhere to monogamy, I think there is a lot you should know about someone before making it official. For me, if I've asked for that - it's because I seriously think the relationship could las… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 07:00 PM |
| 4 | What is more important to some ones happiness- their partner or their job?But OP said "happiness". I don't qualify simply surviving as being happy and thriving. I am not a one dimensional character who is happy whenever my basic needs for survival are met. I need food and water to survive as well but that doesn't mean I'm happy all the time just because I have those available to me. I personally am almost anti-traditional - but I think it's wild that you so badly want to judge those who are looking for a traditional relationship. It takes a lot of energy to want to ch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 06:47 PM |
| 2 | What is more important to some ones happiness- their partner or their job?I guess if she's a gold-digger for men who live with their parents, or has 5 roommates and can barely afford to buy dinner. 🤷🏻♀️ That's literally poverty. Someone who's only income is that low would barely have the extra cash to pay for dates. I never said people didn't do that - I just think a majority of the men in this sub think that's the norm and what most women do when that is absolutely not the case. Women are a large portion of the work force. If they were all choosing to gold dig and b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 06:31 PM |
| 8 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?I live in the US and as a woman this has been my experience as well. My current partner and I weren't official for close to half a year probably. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 04:01 PM |
| 7 | Given we are living in an age of sexual liberation and mutual promiscuity; why is there still a narrative that men “use” woman for sex?Women are told that by men often enough and expected not to be offended. To be clear, I'm not saying it isn't offensive. It absolutely is, regardless of gender. But the men in this sub really like to push the "women are only good for sex and reproduction" line of thinking and go further to ask why we even think men like us. It's very strange to be told I should value myself based on how promiscuous I am and my ability to sexually satiate my partner as if that is at all healthy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Beauty standards for men are far more unrealistic when it comes down to datingNo. Wearing makeup is not a manipulation unless you're a baby that can't tell what a little makeup looks like. Do you see a fully grown beard hiding a weak chin as manipulation or is diminishing the things you see as flaws only manipulative when women do it. If someone sees my dark eyeliner and blue eyeshadow and thinks that's how I'll always look - he should probably get out more. Would you see a woman asking a man to shave off his whole beard so she can see if he had an ugly chin he's hiding t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:16 PM |
| 1 | Beauty standards for men are far more unrealistic when it comes down to datingAnd just as an aside, asking someone their body count is not a background check. One will tell you if a person has been arrested for domestic assault, things about their driving record etc - the other may be important to you but it is not going to tell you if the person you go on a date with stabbed his last romantic partner and put her in the hospital. You can absolutely ask - but she has no obligation to tell you - and you have no obligation to stick around if she refuses to answer because she… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:10 PM |
| 1 | Beauty standards for men are far more unrealistic when it comes down to datingI mean, I'm seeing about 5 red flags in this response alone. That being said, women don't all have the same ones. If men should be more discerning about LTR then maybe they should take responsibility for getting into relationships before they've properly vetted. Your insistence that women are dramatic for being fearful of men shows just how willfully ignorant you are being. The rates of domestic abuse have drastically increased in the last 6 years, and a huge majority of SA is committed against … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:03 PM |
| 2 | Beauty standards for men are far more unrealistic when it comes down to dating-Why have you never dated someone shorter than you? I think it’s because those men are unfit to you and you don’t even see them. There is a very simple reason for this - I haven't been asked out by a man shorter than I am. I'm not a tall woman and most men aren't shorter than I am. I have been asked by the shorter ones not to wear heels because they don't want to seem shorter than me, however, so I don't think the issue with height was mine in that situation. The people I have chosen as romantic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 02:33 PM |
| 3 | Why some women struggle to keep a relationship going?I think women just know they have to kiss a lot of frogs to find someone they are compatible with long term. I've had 5+ serious relationships in my life and I'm in my 30s. There were a few short flings in there but they simply ended because I couldn't see a future with those people. A lot of this argument seems to me, a complaint that women aren't settling with men they don't want. The goal is not "keep the man" the goal is to find someone worth building a life with who you are mutually compati… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 02:01 PM |
| 5 | What is more important to some ones happiness- their partner or their job?It isn't that difficult to have that discussion when you're dating about what they want the future to look like. Many women work full time, single or married. I know plenty who have only stopped working to take Maternity leave when they give birth. Almost as if different women want different things. Also worth mentioning that unlike you, there are a lot of very traditional men in the world that want to be the breadwinner and pressure their partner into being a stay at home wife or parent when th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 01:46 PM |
| 6 | What is more important to some ones happiness- their partner or their job?The divorce rate among millennials (who are in their 30s & 40s) now, is less than 25%. Divorce can be terrible, sure - but if you are divorcing your partner, you likely were not happy with them in the first place. A meh job would make most people happier than a messy divorce. I assumed OP was insinuating that it was a decent relationship and a likeable job in this scenario since in general I sincerely doubt a large majority of people like their job (or working in general) very much or find it mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 01:37 PM |
| 3 | What is more important to some ones happiness- their partner or their job?I would choose my partner over my job any day - and honestly don't really know anyone who finds more happiness (or usually much if any) working rather than being with the person they love. If you would choose your job over your partner, or feel your job makes you happier IMO you likely are not meant to be - people over profit, in all situations. But there's so much more involved with life that can affect those things. If you don't have a good external support system and the only person you rely … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 01:34 PM |
| 6 | Why some women struggle to keep a relationship going?10 boyfriends over a lifetime really isn't that much if you're looking for the person you want to marry and don't want to settle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 04:22 AM |
| 4 | If and when technology reaches a point where artificial wombs and photorealistic VR sex becomes the norm; what do you think will happen in terms of the male/female dynamic in society?There is a valid argument IMO that if it is remotely possible you have created sentient life that it would be highly unethical to use that creature as a sex slave. It would also give men the idea that since these robots with AI are "indistinguishable" from real women, that they would likely treat real women the way they treat the one they purchased. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:58 AM |
| 1 | If and when technology reaches a point where artificial wombs and photorealistic VR sex becomes the norm; what do you think will happen in terms of the male/female dynamic in society?A very small percentage of men would use those artificial wombs assuming they had someone to donate the eggs. Most would not because they would not want to bear the brunt of parenthood alone, since they only have VR sex and according to many men "would have no use" for a woman if not for the ability to procreate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/23 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Women say look out for signals to approach, what are the signals?If they answer questions curtly and don't inquire about you etc, it's fairly obvious they do not care to know you further. If they aren't looking at you or seem distracted, they may be wary of your presence or just want to be left alone by everyone. Some people go out alone, because they like their own company. Stoves are also still hot after they are turned off and can burn you when they are not actually glowing red, kindof like men who seem harmless might follow you to your car after you turn … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 10:03 PM |
| 2 | Beauty standards for men are far more unrealistic when it comes down to datingAlso you don't have to be open to a background check, no one has to actually tell you they've run a background check on you. Though if it were more affordable I'd say women should be background checking anyone they go out with, especially the ones they meet online and have no mutuals with to know whether or not to back out of that date before putting themselves at potential risk - because every single date is risky if their date is a man. Women are more discerning and do care about how honest yo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Beauty standards for men are far more unrealistic when it comes down to datingIn case you haven't realized it even the slightest deception by a man that lands a woman in bed is virtually a capital crime. If a man says I love you baby we'll be together forever, fucks her and leaves, is considered a manipulative exploitative scoundrel. If he said it to manipulate her into sleeping with him then, yes. That would, actually (and factually) make him a manipulative exploitative scoundrel and she would have every right to speak about it to whoever she wanted. There are plenty of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 08:22 PM |
| 0 | Beauty standards for men are far more unrealistic when it comes down to datingAre STDs just not a concern here? Please enlighten me. I got off BC forever ago and wouldn't let a man who regularly raw dogs his hookups to get anywhere near me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 08:14 PM |
| 0 | Beauty standards for men are far more unrealistic when it comes down to datingExcept for the ones who are forcing others... Are you FFR? Birth control is also used to treat other health conditions related to hormone imbalances outside of its general use to prevent pregnancy. There are also alternatives to hormonal birth control. They are called condoms, and highly suggested as a second form of birth control (by literally any doctor) on top of the pill to add additional protection if that birth control fails and protects that person and their sexual partner from STDs. You … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Beauty standards for men are far more unrealistic when it comes down to datingOnly the women who are loudly proclaiming that actually care. If you only use studies based on OLD - you can't expect those to be accurate to how people interact in the physical world. I have dated men of varying height - from my height exactly to a foot taller than me and greatly prefer to be with someone who is more eye level due to how my neck dislikes looking up all the time. Yes, I am simply one woman, but we all have subjective ideas of what we find attractive. So it's disingenuous to say … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 07:48 PM |
| 0 | Beauty standards for men are far more unrealistic when it comes down to datingOr they can eat as much cake as they want and choose a man who accepts them and their body type as is 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 07:28 PM |
| 4 | Beauty standards for men are far more unrealistic when it comes down to datingEven just using objective observational skills, there are plenty of fat/short/bald dudes with women I would consider far more attractive than they are (objectively). Most of the arguments here ignore the fact that most women include your personality in what makes you attractive. You are immediately not even on the board for me if you are rude to the service staff for instance. Even the celebrity I find most physically attractive could walk into the room and if I saw him act like a bigot or make … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/23 07:27 PM |
| 2 | Do people who end a relationship “on good terms” actually stop being attracted to each other or not?I fully agree. I just think it depends on the couple. For some, one will see a statement of "I feel neglected and don't see this relationship working out if x, y and z are not addressed" as less urgent than "I'm going to leave you if you don't step up" or see both statements as baseless threats until someone actually follows through. And I think for some, it's a matter of not being willing to put the effort forth until their partner actually leaves, and at that point it's usually too late. I sai… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Do people who end a relationship “on good terms” actually stop being attracted to each other or not?I think what the commenter you replied to means is that for some men, what would make them happy is the exact state of the relationship that makes her miserable. And IME once you get to the "indifference" portion of the mental breakup, a lot of men will see that as everything finally gets better because she isn't nagging or bothering him. Probably also not asking about his day, planning to spend time with him, reciprocating compliments etc. Then they are shocked when she cares so little she fina… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 08:54 PM |
| 3 | Do people who end a relationship “on good terms” actually stop being attracted to each other or not?Nah, if I've LEFT it is because my needs have been continually unfulfilled despite basically begging to work together to improve communication, intimacy etc. What looks, to you, like flipping a switch is more like a fire slowly dying. Once the smoke dissipates after (hypothetically) months to years depending on the length of the relationship, there is nothing left to grieve. I once left someone and was shocked that he felt blindsided when I'd repeatedly been called a nag for asking to have a con… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 08:47 PM |
| 7 | The current dating situation is the result of women's free sexualityFor a while BC was only available to married women 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 02:38 AM |
| 1 | The way men get porn brain, can women get “attractive guy they had sex with” brain when it comes to sex with future partners?I'd say if anything women would be more likely to have the same issue with porn. It depicts sex as much more exciting, no one ever doesn't finish etc. Sex with a man isn't better because he's attractive, unless he's very good at sex. At least as far as myself, I don't really have a visual memory of sex in the sense that I can remember it was good, but not really remember it lol. Then again, I have always been focused on my partner if I have one. Also, porn is something men partake in even in rel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/23 02:03 AM |
| 1 | Why aren't men's bodies lusted and desired as much as women's bodies are lusted and desired?Someone else said this but - gay men. A woman will appreciate your body if she's already turned on, but likely has to be mentally aroused before she feels the desire to physically engage sexually. You are not the only man bothered by this but at the end of the day - you can't change it. I think my partner is hot af but if I'm not in the mood, his body is not going to change that I am not in the mood. Women are not usually as visual as men - that's why many men have spontaneous desire, they see s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/03/23 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Change my View : Men have a way more calculated and performance oriented Dating Strategy then Women.Kids age people. No one thinks I am my age and I think I'd look much older if I had children | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:29 PM |
| 4 | Male Birth Control Will Never Be Commonly UsedNo, but it is weak to complain when you intentionally did nothing to avoid that outcome. In 2023 even without pill contraception, men have the choice to be sexually responsible with their ejaculate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Male Birth Control Will Never Be Commonly UsedLmao no, unwanted children are things that happen to people who knowingly raw dog their sexual partners and ejaculate inside them. You can't justifiably know how an egg is fertilized, cum in the place that it could become fertilized, and say you had no part in making that happen. Your presence and ejaculate would be the only reason it happened in the first place. That or the unwanted pregnancies of children who live in places that refuse to teach actual sex Ed. All the other ones are created by … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:24 PM |
| 6 | Male Birth Control Will Never Be Commonly UsedBro, he and I could be on hormonal pill-based birth control, and I'd still be asking where the barrier form of birth control was and why he didn't bring a condom. If a partner in a relationship with me chose to use it I'd be fine with that. That being said, I am not on birth control at all because I cannot be for health reasons and I refuse to get an IUD because I'm not going to be traumatized by putting myself through that. But yes, it is fair to expect men to take the possibility of the women … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:20 PM |
| 3 | Male Birth Control Will Never Be Commonly UsedWomen have their highest levels of testosterone when they are menstruating, causing them to be more irritable, impatient, and often aggressive in comparison to when they are at their highest levels of estrogen. You know you also have estrogen levels, yeah? Men do not own testosterone. We'd all be dead without it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Male Birth Control Will Never Be Commonly UsedAnother reason being, why would a man in a relationship take it if his partner is already on birth control? Why would two people do something when only one has to just to "make things fair". No. The reason would be so that you are both using birth control. Any doctor worth their salt would highly suggest using two forms of birth control to make up for the failure rate that is automatically higher when you only use one. Since men really only have condoms or vasectomy as their choice of birth cont… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 07:53 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Pretty women don’t even understand the value of money or how much things costThat's literally the opposite of what OP said. He said that wealth is not enough to keep a pretty girl around. The ones that specifically seek wealthy men might, but most people in general wouldn't stay with someone who is abusive or someone they are completely incompatible with for 40+ years regardless of their wealth. Personal happiness isn't hinged on having access to a high amount of wealth, it's about having financial stability and the personal freedom to enjoy life. Ideally with someone wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 04:15 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Pretty women don’t even understand the value of money or how much things costMaybe he just doesn't want one and likes his car? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 04:09 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Pretty women don’t even understand the value of money or how much things costYeah, I didn't see complaining in his statement. Just that he's had enough experiences to realize women are not shallowly looking for material goods over someone whose personality they vibe with. He said he has an expensive car, not that he is consistently flaunting his wealth. It may not be a novel realization for a woman but considering the massive amount of people in this sub who believe the opposite of what OP is saying, he is going against the grain of much of the content here in reflecting… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 04:05 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Pretty women don’t even understand the value of money or how much things costI really thought this was going a different way LMAO. Personally, as a woman myself, I don't know and don't care how much the average [insert $70k-300k] car would cost a person and likely would need to read the make and model to even know what kind of car it is - I could gain some knowledge in that area, but I don't necessarily care to because I don't find that interesting or impressive. Women, pretty or not, who have had to support themselves, will know on average what it costs them when they g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 04:00 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: How do you feel about taking male birth control?That on the assumption that the person you are sleeping with is willing to wear a condom or okay with using a female condom instead. I personally am fine with both, as a woman. (Respectively, at least. They definitely are not meant to be used at the same time) I'm not saying most men are resistant to wearing a condom but more of the men that have wanted to sleep with me were 100% okay with me being on BC and going in raw than were willing to wear one without complaint or even suggesting it himse… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/03/23 01:34 PM |
| 1 | Change my View : Men have a way more calculated and performance oriented Dating Strategy then Women.And the guy in the truck would probably blame women as being the driving force that convinced him to hit someone with his truck. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:47 PM |
| 2 | Change my View : Men have a way more calculated and performance oriented Dating Strategy then Women.Bro is not living in this the year of our lord 2023 if he thinks women suddenly start aging at an increased rate when they turn 25. Im into my 30s and don't have wrinkles, my friends in their 30s are gorgeous and thriving - I think he must just never go outside. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:45 PM |
| 2 | Change my View : Men have a way more calculated and performance oriented Dating Strategy then Women.It is exhausting lmao. As a woman in her 30s that gets frequently approached by men who think I am in my early 20s and sometimes ask when school starts back up these must be very young men. I remember when I thought 25 was old. The year I turned 25 was around the time I finally started analyzing my motivations and setting personal boundaries that I never would have before - but without the personal experience of being 18-25 I would never have realized I was a people pleasing doormat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Change my View : Men have a way more calculated and performance oriented Dating Strategy then Women.Where is the laugh react - do you consume any media? Women in their 30s are gorgeous and you usually cannot tell a 32yo woman and a 23yo woman apart (well, the men who talk to me can't, at least.) Women don't even grow into their bodies until midway through their 20s. I know dozens of women above 35 that are absolutely gorgeous, and plenty more that are 26+ like you must be on crack. You couldn't point out a 26yo woman from a foot in front of you without asking her for her ID to check. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Change my View : Men have a way more calculated and performance oriented Dating Strategy then Women.And the pickings are slim | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:35 PM |
| 4 | Change my View : Men have a way more calculated and performance oriented Dating Strategy then Women.It is very weird to look for the best instead of the best for you It's unlikely anyone would fall in love just anyone who has all the qualities OP named for what men are looking for. If the man from the example (let's say he's 33) hypothetically went out with a woman who has half of these qualities, but they have great conversation, hobbies in common, mutual sexual tension and they are enjoying themselves - I have a large amount of doubt that her sense of independence or her age being closer to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Change my View : Men have a way more calculated and performance oriented Dating Strategy then Women.OP, if you were a woman you would not consider your value to be lower simply by aging. Additionally you would likely resent the viewpoint that having male friends is "hoe-like" behavior Unless you came from a traditional household where purity culture or religion play a part, you likely would not be thinking about how your value declines at 25 because you wouldn't consider virginity sacred and you would not center your entire world around finding a man. You likely would not see marriage as the e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.She doesn't even know what love that isn't her first serious HS bf is but okay. I didn't ask to give you approval, j just said it's predatory. Full stop. You don't have to agree, but you'll be judged by all the people who play the "Is that his daughter or his date?" Game. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 01:17 PM |
| 2 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.I was specifically talking about people who are experienced. Most people into their 40s have had multiple LTRs. That alone is enough experience to fool an inexperienced young person into falling for their manipulation. I'm not worried about the awkward 40yo that may still try but have no chance because he hasn't had the experience to be a successful groomer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 01:16 PM |
| 3 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.How is being hurt by someone your age equal to being groomed by an older person who knows how to manipulate you? I did not say that women cannot be in abusive situations with people their own age - but that doesn't change at all the validity of what I said. It's not the exact thing. Older men will ply you with gifts, and time and anything they can - they'll tell you they can treat you better than any man their age and about how mature you are (they are not. None of them) It's creepy, and predato… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 01:14 PM |
| 1 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.People who are older should know better. A naive 19yo may legally be "fine" but that person will likely not realize if their partner is being manipulative or if they are being treated badly if it's someone who is skilled in doing so without making it obvious to everyone around them. Your morals should not end where the law does - if that's the case in some places you can legally marry a 10yo. Question for you - if it's legal as a fully grown adult to marry a 10yo with her parents permission, do … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 01:07 PM |
| 1 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.Good news for you, then! You don't have to actually care whether you are predatory to behave like a predator | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:13 AM |
| 7 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.I think I'm getting the vibe here Hot teen girls love my car and so do their dad's Inexperienced women with little life experience are easy to impress They laugh at my unfunny jokes I am income and they find that incredibly impressive Did I mention my car? Hot chicks love my car and most of them haven't learned when they are performing for the male gaze and I prefer that to grown women who are not trying to earn my validation Older women are far too interested in whether or not we could possibly… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 06:09 AM |
| 10 | Age gaps don't matter. Attraction does.If your morality about dating naive teenagers is simply "it's legal" then you have none. Am 18yo may technically be an adult but all the 30+ women here are telling you that we've lived it and it is predatory behavior to want to date someone with so little experience. I've finally hit what most men would consider a stride because both very young and much older men have expressed interest in me. The old dudes are creeps, the young ones are just.. so young they seem like children. I am not looking … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 05:56 AM |
| 2 | Are women more content with being sexless?First off, medicine has come a very long way. Women are routinely having children between 30 and 45 years old with very little issues. Those pregnancies do come with a little more risk, but on average not that much. I do admire you for holding yourself to the same standard if you are interested in a woman who is also sexually inexperienced - but I assume you know the best way to do that would be specifically date or look for someone who holds those same trad values. I take issue with men who ins… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Are women more content with being sexless?Well if they've internalized that they are creepy, my assumption is that they've been that and think women intrinsically see incels as gross and creepy. Which, if said incel is talking about how women should be given away as wives like a commodity because it's unfair that some men aren't guaranteed love and affection (because literally no one is guaranteed that) and in doing so suggesting women are given away by the government like property they are entitled to - then yes, they are creepy. Incre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/03/23 12:05 AM |
| 1 | Are women more content with being sexless?I only wish I had the self-assurance as a woman in her early 20s to do the same. Thankfully I'm past my 20s and won't put up with that shit anymore | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Women getting all these degrees is really just intrasexual warfare the upper classes and beta males trying to take all the women.Did you not read that the study that alpha male stuff came from was debunked entirely? I mean, it's a better take than the idea that it's unfair for women to excel in college more than men. But this is still asinine as fuck and an easy way to justify why you suddenly are not having success as an adult with women without taking any responsibility for why it wouldn't be working for you otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 10:51 PM |
| 7 | Are women more content with being sexless?Don't tell the men that - they'll preach for days that we should do it and then get frustrated when we don't cum even though we tried to give some light guidance. One dude to me literally said "Will you just let me finish this?" When I asked him to eat me out differently and my exact thought was "Well I guess I'm definitely not finishing." He then told me it was my fault I didn't orgasm and I should have relaxed more 🤦♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 10:37 PM |
| -1 | Q4W: are you intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men?I am only intrinsically grossed out by chronically single men if their personality is mostly just complaining about women not wanting them. My litmus test for men is usually their ability to have and keep platonic friendships with women and the way they treat the other women in their life - but that is something you actually have to talk to and get to know someone to find out. I only date men who have sisters 🤷🏻♀️ because IME they are less dramatic/more understanding of menstrual stuff (also mo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Single Parent Inherent Rights and Financial Abortion.I just want to point out that in many places, surrendering your parental rights will often incur a demand of supporting that child regardless. The money is used usually to make sure that foster parents get their payment or for adoption agencies (which I don't think should be for profit, but are). Even people who have their kids taken away are expected to pay child support for the care the state gives them until you get them back much of the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 10:26 PM |
| 2 | Men have learned to disregard women's claims to moral superiority because women themselves admit how often their horniness overrides their moralityIf you look at this sub, men also speak as if they are monolithic, but all of their views will be wildly different depending on what post you are reading. I think most of us pull from our experiences and those of the people we speak to. I don't disagree that women can be shitty. We're all human, some are shitty - regardless of gender. I personally don't adhere to a timeframe to sex - the timeline for me is "Do I feel this person is trustworthy? Do I want to have sex with them?" So not my issue b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 10:21 PM |
| 1 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?I'm not saying the responsibility lies solely on one party. I have always been the kind of woman to specify what it was I was looking for in a situation. That being said, if you absolutely know you only want something casual, it is worth asking if that's okay with the other person. (Which is exactly what I have done in the past because I don't want to feel as if I was giving the wrong impression with my advances). If you flirt with someone, take them out, spend time with them as if you are datin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 08:03 PM |
| 6 | Are women more content with being sexless?Besides this massive assumption, who told you that they would seek as much as sex as man do? I did not say "as much" I said "more than they do" though you seem insistent on twisting my words. I used specific language and gleaned something I did not say or even intend my statement. Indeed, talking about anxiety. Even when asked to have a sexual encounter with no risk of pregnancy (oral sex; chat sex; etc) women a less incline to say yes than men. Even in the most safest of the enviroments, the de… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 07:46 PM |
| 2 | Are women more content with being sexless?Men often have a higher degree of spontaneous desire than women do - so I agree with that entirely. Evolutionary, that makes sense. Men are more visual. Women more often than not have a responsive desire, so while they do not (usually, but some do) go and seek out sex. Seeking out sex as a woman is inherently more dangerous for women than it is for men. Since women are more cautious, which is reasonable considering one of the highest causes of death for women is murder by a romantic partner - th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Are women more content with being sexless?This is just me speaking generally on observations about a lot of topics but spaces like these are often a canary in a proverbial coal mine. 10ish years ago incels were weird dudes who congregated on a few super weird corners of 4chan that existed more or less explicitly so they'd stay there and not bother the rest of the internet. The thought of them gathering the numbers they have is still kind of mind numbing to me, let alone hearing about them on the news or seeing them come up in magazine a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 07:07 PM |
| 1 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?Who said men who are promiscuous are abusive? I certainly did not, so thank you but don't put words in my mouth. But this has the energy of a guy who says all his exes are crazy. You are either very young and hanging out with the same kind of women reoeatedly, which I would think you'd recognize. You also mentioned that they are deeply hurt to find out you don't want something serious. That's a discussion that should be had before you fuck someone. Full stop. They should not even be under the im… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Honest question. Women who are in relationships, what do you bring to your relationship?My partner can be very hard on himself (IMO to a degree that is not helpful in personal growth perspective) and I do my best to remind him that he cannot expect perfection from himself all the time, especially when both of us or just him are going through a difficult time, and that we have to take into account the additional stressors that sometimes get in the way of or pause that progress. I would like to think that I bring friendly companionship and understanding. We play various kinds of game… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:39 PM |
| -2 | Men have learned to disregard women's claims to moral superiority because women themselves admit how often their horniness overrides their moralityWhy are men so hell bent in focusing on what a woman chose to do in the past? Why does it matter that she fucked someone on a first date 5 years ago but made her current partner wait a couple months? (Which isn't even a very long time tbh) So much of this is hyper specific to certain kinds of people - not women in general. Men also end up in abusive situations and stay. I am not saying that to victim blame (though that was the vibe I got from your comment about women staying with abusive dudes),… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Are women more content with being sexless?I honestly think that is a mainly reddit thing. I do remember that a few years ago, and that was literally Steve Harvey's whole thing in the early 2010s. He encouraged women to wait 3+ months to have sex with men they date because, according to him, he will sleep around or not take them seriously for "giving it up" too quickly and disrespecting themselves - so more shaming of women's sexuality and tying that sexual behavior to a woman's self-worth (which is not a way I like to think about sex bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 05:18 PM |
| 6 | Are women more content with being sexless?FR I'd rather eat a 3 year old Twinkie than knowingly go into sex being absolutely certain I am not going to enjoy it. I really don't know why that's a shocking revelation to anyone, especially men, who seem to enjoy sex most of the time. Sounds nice to enjoy sex from the get go. Men talk about losing their virginity (which I truly believe is just a social construct specific to describe cishet PIV sex and literally never used to describe a so-called gold star lesbian who's never slept with a per… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 05:04 PM |
| 12 | Are women more content with being sexless?I was pointing out similarities in experiences that women have. If you would like to reduce my entire point down to me blaming all men for everything, go for it. I don't have the power or desire to stop you. But for the men who act in the way I described, yes. It is their fault. Not the fault of your entire gender. I've met plenty of men who are nothing like what I described and don't see them as a problem unless they adamantly deny the specific struggles women have that men do not. That is not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 04:56 PM |
| 3 | Are women more content with being sexless?Men in the real world are also not represented by the small subset that can be found on this subreddit. This is essentially an echo chamber with an exponentially small amount of people with often similar views that do not reflect reality off the internet. I admit that I am fascinated by some of the limiting POVs I see from men here - not only of what they are supposed to do with their lives, but how they believe women manage to hate men but also constantly want to be noticed by them, or center m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 03:05 PM |
| 4 | Are women more content with being sexless?There's 100% a lot of women who come to subs like these who either have really low libidos, or are clearly not sexually attracted to men, or who have sexual requirements for a relationship that are so far beyond the statistical norms they make up probably less than one percent of the population. What do you consider "sexual requirements that are so far beyond the statistical norms"? Having regular orgasms? That's usually what women want when they have sex. All I've ever wanted or asked for was s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 02:50 PM |
| 30 | Are women more content with being sexless?That is the dichotomy society has demanded for decades. Men pursue, it is women's responsibility to deny the men who aren't worthy. I'm not saying that's true for myself, but the body count argument lines up with it. If a man wants a woman with a low body count, or a woman feels devalued because she's been taught that having sex is shameful, she is not likely to seek it out recreationally. A lot of men want a woman who's 25, (this is an arbitrary number but I've seen it anywhere from 20-30yo wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 02:45 PM |
| 2 | Are women more content with being sexless?Being sexless doesn't mean being sexually unsatisfied. For many women who are content with their life, family, friends, hobbies etc - having enough platonic love in your life and the accessibility to masturbate is more than enough. (Which is something I've done consistently since I was 12 so it's not a new things for me or a novelty, just the way I often use to release stress or frustration whether it's sexual or otherwise) Also, one night stands with men are disappointing IME and I'd rather tak… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 02:33 PM |
| 11 | How many people know guys that have women on a “rotation”?I refuse to believe in any reality that you are not a literal cartoon. You can't have this many critical things to say about women you've slept with and not have behaved cruelly to them if they reacted that way. If any of this even happened. This was a beautiful work of word vomit and you gave me some laughs - are you even a grown adult? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 04:47 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Being a strong independent woman is no big deal at all.Why is it women's problem that the men who make laws saw it fit to leave the women at home? There have always been women participating in wars, just not on the front lines. Who would you have suggested should stay home with the kids? Their siblings? That argument isn't even valid anymore. The draft hasn't happened in 50 years and people who join up and get killed I'm battle signed up voluntarily to do so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 10:12 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Being a strong independent woman is no big deal at all.Anyone who calls themselves a nice guy is not usually nice for any reason but what they can get you to give them. Nice guys are actually the worst and the ones I and many other women are most wary of. It indicates feeling entitled to a certain behavioral response from women when you insert niceness points and how unfair it is when women don't acknowledge the nice thing you did. I've been in relationships with plenty of good, kind men who never once expressed bitterness towards women about their … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 10:10 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Being a strong independent woman is no big deal at all.40% of police officers of domestic abusers. It was legal to beat your wife for speaking out of turn. The violence against women act was not signed into law until 1994, and it wasn't until the 90s that it became illegal to have unconsenting sex with your wife. Spousal rape was legal until the 1990s federally. It was absolutely commonplace to be beaten by your husband. That's why there are so many jokes about wife beating. That is why there are tank tops we all lovingly call "wife beaters" - becau… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 03:28 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Being a strong independent woman is no big deal at all.That's exactly the point. It is only a "benefit" until the man doesn't feel appreciated and decides to beat you instead. Many abusers are like this, many men who aren't planning to be abusers are socialized to perform benevolent misogyny. I had a man yell at me once for not running 50 yards to a door so that he could open it for me, as if I needed or wanted that. He was doing it for the thank you, and literally wanted recognition for having thought about opening the door for me. Benevolent misog… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 03:23 PM |
| – | The 'Sexlessness Rise' is not specifically male-drivenYeah, the idea that women before the 1960s had the agency to go to nightclubs alone to meet men is laughable to me. Not to say it would be no women, but not many. Up until far more recently women had to worry about their reputation because their livelihood much of the time (at least for white women who are expected not to work) would hinge on finding a husband which would entail partaking in purity culture of a sort. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/03/23 03:08 PM |
| 1 | RP men don’t like women, they’re just attracted to themWomen who avoid men who play video games likely do so because they are concerned that is indicative of an addiction to gaming, or they've been with someone addicted to gaming. Yeah, some may hate video games but a large portion of women play video games themselves and just want to know that their partner is able to tear themselves away from the screen to spend time with their romantic partner. I've dated a gaming addict. We barely spoke to each other because he'd play for hours and claim "I have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:58 PM |
| 4 | RP men don’t like women, they’re just attracted to themYou have to see women as individuals and humans to actually like them. Women are not trying to "be liked" by everyone. Humans do not always get along and aren't all compatible. Dating is about finding someone you are compatible with. Assuming that is the case, that person will more likely than not, like you and your company. Being liked for reasons beyond our body, by the people we choose and choose to be with us, is just asking for basic respect and recognition that we are complex individuals, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:55 PM |
| 3 | RP men don’t like women, they’re just attracted to themWomen don't demand to be liked - we just expect that anyone who chooses to be with us and be emotionally and physically intimate in the boundary of a relationship actually likes us. That usually means one person. Who gives a fuck what the rest think? If you go into a relationship with someone you don't like that's just cruel and unfair - regardless of gender, and not what most people do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:47 PM |
| 13 | The 'Sexlessness Rise' is not specifically male-drivenI'd say it probably was not the main way of meeting for a millennia. In the early 1900s communities would have played a large part and you'd have met a gathering at one of your neighbors or at school, but it wasn't often that women were to clubs alone. Maybe with their husband or an established romantic partner. But there would still have been very much a feeling of women needing a chaperoned on dates. I realize it would have been slightly different for those that were poor or working class, but… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 10:12 PM |
| 16 | CMV: Being a strong independent woman is no big deal at all.What you described as benefits is actually benevolent misogyny. The way men will protect you only when they feel you are worthy of that protection, insist on paying in dates etc because they want the credit for doing so. That can after time turn into hostile misogyny which is a transition into abuse. The things you see as benefits are things used to control us and keep up with gender norms. It's not for us, it's because you have been socialized to believe that is your job. Not every man is aggre… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 05:00 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.On the base level but we are far more evolved. A study on apes is not sufficient to describe how human behave and structure their groups. We have human psychology and sociology for that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 04:52 AM |
| 0 | The issue is not dying alone, but spending most of your life aloneThe Alpha/Beta thing has been disproven. Women don't actually contemplate what percentage of men they are looking for. They also generally do not refer to men as high value. That's a man thing. Wolves do not have a hierarchy the way we've all been socialized to believe. Men and women are fundamentally different, and women are more privileged when it comes to ease of sex, dating and relationships. Women are murdered by their romantic partners at record numbers and SA's exponentially more than men… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 01:08 AM |
| 6 | Do you plan on having children?You are in a very privileged position compared to much of the US population working multiple jobs and still remaining under the poverty line. The middle class is dwindling away as the level of impoverished increases. That doesn't make you a bad person, but it does guard you from the realities of those who don't live with that privilege | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 06:24 AM |
| 15 | Do you plan on having children?Wow, good one. s/ Weirdly, women who want to live child free usually know from a young age. Some people like the idea of parenting. Some of us don't want our lives to change the way having a baby would change them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 06:19 AM |
| 1 | Do you plan on having children?You know there are more hungry people without housing or food in the US than any other developed country? That's not exclusive to other places. We have more homes than needed to house every homeless person. Every. Single. One. But hey as long as you're set for the zombie apocalypse, who cares about the well-being of society or being enough of a patriot to want better? One can be grateful for what they have and critical of the people making decisions on our behalf because we believe improvement i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 06:13 AM |
| 1 | Do you plan on having children?The UN is being urged to intervene in the US for issues regarding inhumane treatment to its citizens in light of the Roe V Wade overturning, Florida doesn't have books in schools. Colleges are being discredited and in some places government representatives want to bring back the electric chair, hanging from trees, and firing squads for the death penalty. The US is an absolute dumpster fire. The big news recently and only good news is that insulin is now extremely affordable in comparison to the … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 06:08 AM |
| 11 | There is no easy way to get women other than going after very unattractive womenApparently the only women in the world are young hot skinny chick and disabled obese ugly ones. At least he wasn't being ableist though 🤷🏻♀️ /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:45 AM |
| 7 | There is no easy way to get women other than going after very unattractive womenA fisherman is a predator. Weird that people keep saying the quiet part out loud and not seeing how problematic and horrifying that metaphor is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:42 AM |
| 7 | There is no easy way to get women other than going after very unattractive womenAs a neurodivergent woman I am inclined to agree with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:41 AM |
| 6 | Men in your 30s, do you actually not want to date women in their 30s?Have you considered that sometimes women just want to be left alone for personal reasons externally in their life and would still not want to talk to Chad or be warm to him for reasons that have nothing to do with him? Hugh Hefner wasn't actually having that much sex for a very long time at the end there. There are interviews that say as much. He provided them with comfort and publicity that they were able to benefit from and cultivate a following. Kendra did really well for herself. Obviously t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:39 AM |
| 3 | Men in your 30s, do you actually not want to date women in their 30s?You realize that would be entirely dependent on the 21 year old right? She would be a person who may or may not be into guys who look like Chris Hemsworth. At 21 I still knew that the talented people I idolized were just regular people and did not sexualize them to that degree. Most people don't act or even plan to act on every sexual urge they have. Women can, shockingly, recognize an extremely attractive person and still not want to give them the time of day, nevermind conversation or their bo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:26 AM |
| 15 | Men in your 30s, do you actually not want to date women in their 30s?It's called a geriatric pregnancy but that does not mean she'll have trouble conceiving. All my friends have waited until at least 30 to have a kid. My grandma was in her 30s when my uncle was born. My brother was born when my mom was 40. A lot of people have what many would consider to be old parents. My friend's parents were in the latter part of their 50s when we were in high school. There are more risks but they aren't nearly as steep and people would believe. Additionally, unless you've had… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/03/23 05:10 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.You can't be a trad wife and work outside the home full time 🤷🏻♀️ That is the opposite of traditional. Trade wives are homemakers who are the house manager, maid, cook, primary parent etc. They do not have time to do both. And women who aren't trad wives are often expected to do all of that and work full time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 09:59 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.This is a study done on animals. Care to find a credible study with the same results done on female humans? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 09:57 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men are frustrated, and potentially giving up, because of wildly differing opinions from women on the core aspects of relationships.I see a lot about how men are not thoughtful or caring lovers in relation to relationships and how problematic it is to not care about your partner's pleasure. Also a lot of reactions to men claiming women withhold sex and explaining why it is not possible to withhold something that doesn't actually belong to you (that being our bodies), and why women often withdraw physically when other emotional needs are not met by their partner. It doesn't look good for the "women need men argument" And lesb… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThey also have routinely taken credit for women's inventions. Also not true in the slightest. Are you for fucking real? Hetty Lamarr pioneered the technology that formed the basis of today's wifi. You wouldn't even be able to comment on this post without her invention. Marie Curie was a scientist - yes, she worked with her husband, but he clearly saw her as an equal in both value and intelligence. Why would there be a history of women inventors when men have insisted for so long that women do no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 07:59 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when 'Chad' starts flirting with you and you are in a relationship? How do you feel?No? How does being attracted to someone mean you actually have a desire to cheat? It's called self control and having critical thinking skills. Making choices. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 05:15 AM |
| 0 | The two steps to flipping the power dynamic in datingI made a longer comment but after a reread here are my thoughts. Slut shaming went out the window very slowly, due to social changes that gave women more freedom than they ever have (that they deserved and should have always had) like being able to work, own property, have a bank account and support themselves. Birth control gave women the freedom to have actual control over whether or not they become pregnant, and with whom without having to trust a man to wear a condom and leave it on the whol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 02:30 AM |
| 1 | The two steps to flipping the power dynamic in datingPerfect is a subjective term and depends on the person. There is no way all men are going to do this. There would be a far better chance of women en masse swearing off sex with men than men deciding to prove whatever the point of this would be in not dating anyone average. Y'all would largely be disadvantaged by choice while you shame all the men who have successful relationships. I'd love a post where men don't equate power in the dating world with ability to have sex whenever they want. Maybe … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 02:24 AM |
| 0 | Marriage is a good deal for women, and a bad one for men.Yes, the reason women don't prefer STEM is because it isn't encouraged in young girls. We were not raised to be scientists or engineers. We grew up watching our mothers work waitressing jobs (which is hard with and fuck anyone who says otherwise) and nurses (who deserve more than surgeons IMO), more women are teaching young minds than men. Childcare workers do some of the hardest work and get paid garbage. I know enough women in STEM who said it's absolutely awful and the work culture is toxic t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 12:29 AM |
| 3 | Marriage is a good deal for women, and a bad one for men.Do you think women sit around at home playing dress up and putting our makeup on? I rarely spend time with women who are wearing makeup in casual situations. You are describing a cartoon woman written by a man. Not an actual realistic human being | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 12:21 AM |
| 1 | Marriage is a good deal for women, and a bad one for men.I really just need to ask though - do you think the state changes women's names when they get married? They either need to pay a service to change their name on e v e r y t h I n g or need to make those calls to their bank, credit card companies, workplaces, social security office and need to get a new driver's license. But it's not a legal requirement to do so and many are just changing their name on social media these days and keeping their last names | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 12:17 AM |
| 9 | Marriage is a good deal for women, and a bad one for men.Not really the case. Women often work the same amount of hours. And if they work less, it's likely because they are expected to get a job with more flexibility for childcare. The only reason men with families can work long hours is because they have someone available, intentionally, to take care of the housework, parenting, and keeping kids alive. Taking time to schedule and bring them to doctors appointments, school, extra curricular activities. Schools will largely call mom when kids are sick … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/23 12:11 AM |
| 8 | Marriage is a good deal for women, and a bad one for men.So you have a sister and a brother. Was your mom a SAH parent? If she was, she was working without pay to raise you. Therefore, contributing equally and making it possible for your family not to spend an entire years salary on childcare. Unpaid labor counts towards equity in a marriage, especially when you have children. I say this regardless of gender. A lot of men are getting on board with being SAHD while their wife works if she makes more. Which should be the norm IMO. Whoever makes more mon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 10:50 PM |
| 6 | Marriage is a good deal for women, and a bad one for men.FR. My mom was only working part time when she and my father were divorced. He paid no alimony, she gave him the house without arguing, and he paid very little in child support (like he should have been paying so much more lmao) because she didn't demand much and they used a mediator. They split custody 50/50 and neither of them put me in the middle of anything. They co parented well and I'd be happy to invite them both to my wedding, if I ever get on board with that, because I know they would h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 10:46 PM |
| 1 | Marriage is a good deal for women, and a bad one for men.Also the government doesn't need to approve in the US if you file for a no-fault divorce. They can't actually tell you that you aren't allowed to divorce. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Marriage is a good deal for women, and a bad one for men.Men's earning potential increases when they get married, a woman's automatically lowers. Men's earning potential also increases in case of divorce. More women end up homeless post divorce than men and their earning potential becomes lower. Men absolutely gain more from marriage. More physical labor done by the women (in the home - idc what either of them do for work because it's irrelevant as both would likely be working outside the home) in home care tasks, parenting, etc. Men who ask for custo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 10:37 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when 'Chad' starts flirting with you and you are in a relationship? How do you feel?lol in a long term relationship you aren't in the honeymoon phase forever. It takes work. Loving someone and keeping the relationship alive is very different from having a failing relationship. No one is infatuated the way someone would describe as "crazy in love" for very long. Failing means there have been issues that have either been ignored or that attempts to find a way to make it work have not been working. Getting butterflies is also not indicative of a desire to cheat or a decision to le… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 09:53 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when 'Chad' starts flirting with you and you are in a relationship? How do you feel?Most people who have a deep connection with their partner simply aren't attracted to other people. What you've described in your post, while by men may be considered flirting, is what I would describe as friendship. I'd say it would be extremely presumptive to assume someone is flirting or interested when they suggest something that seems appropriate for friends to do together. There are those that would say women should always assume the men in their life want to fuck them, but on the opposite … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 09:42 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when 'Chad' starts flirting with you and you are in a relationship? How do you feel?I'm not judging someone for flirting with me regardless of them being a "Chad" (not that I actually find that desirable in a person in the first place. I don't actually judge how I feel about a person's desirability until I actually speak to them because they become unnatractive when I take the time to actually listen to them) I am usually very clear that I'm not interested and don't tell men anything about my relationship status unless they are the pushy kind of man that only backs down when th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 09:33 PM |
| -2 | Signals it's overWell, there's open communication and overcommunication. I like having a partner that cares and is there for me but that's why I said healthy communication. Being honest about your feelings to better learn from each other is important but there are also things you should keep to yourself, for yourself. Just like it's healthy to have platonic supportive relationships so you don't overwhelm your partner by having them be the only person you vent to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/23 12:18 AM |
| 11 | Signals it's overI mean, if you follow your own rules you won't have a relationship based on numbers 1 and 2 alone. Do you expect to be able to find genuine connections without sharing your inner thoughts with your partner? No one will want a relationship with you long term if they can't form a genuine connection and can feel that you aren't being your full self with her. Hypothetically, if the garbage disposal stops working, you Google it but can't figure out what's wrong or how to fix it - but you know that sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 11:19 PM |
| 3 | Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperateThese last two comments of yours have very strong "I like when women suffer vibes" and while it's horrifying it is also boring and played out | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 10:23 PM |
| -2 | Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperateIdk about you but my parents chose to have a child together and consented to do so. Is that not what happened to get you here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 10:22 PM |
| 0 | Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperateThis is extremely rational, good advice. Letting the world make you paranoid about what other people think about your choices doesn't matter unless you let it. It's about making choices you, personally, feel good about. If men & women stopped vying for male approval this would be a moot issue (and tbh I think men want male approval far more than women do) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 10:16 PM |
| -2 | Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperateThis seems like a genuine threat - wtf do you mean by "make" them care? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 10:11 PM |
| 2 | Younger men cannot try harder on dating without being desperateIME men bring up struggles that they have usually as a way to derail a conversation already happening surrounding women's issues. Though I have not seen menstruation and "women's moods" as a news headline unless you're referring to Florida wanted a report of every female sports players menstrual cycle .. which is deeply problematic and not to the benefit of women. I agree that men receive little empathy from society, but disagree that women somehow are granted more. I am also wondering how young… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 10:11 PM |
| – | Being single as a man outweighs being in a relationshipPlease don't take this as criticism but you'll likely feel very differently about dating and what you get out of a relationship in 10 years. The availability of a large variety of people to sleep with will end with college and you'll care more about shared values. Doesn't mean you'll change your mind about marriage, but I doubt casual flings will be satisfactory for you forever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 09:33 PM |
| – | Women and girls are reading the manosphere forums and subs, that makes them less likely to date.I agree with most of what she said but as far as the laws and bodily autonomy issues/suggesting women shouldn't vote etc just lines up with the Evangelical Christian industrial complex (which I assume is made of a majority, if not entirely men) that wants desperately to pass laws that limit women's options so much that they would have no option but to have babies and stay in the kitchen essentially acting as broodmares. So I see it as a patriarchy issue but it's not men on these subs that have t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 07:32 PM |
| – | Women and girls are reading the manosphere forums and subs, that makes them less likely to date.I more recently started reading this stuff and if I'm being honest - if my current hetero relationship doesn't work out I will likely strictly date women. I am genuinely concerned at the amount of closet Andrew Tate fans who know it would blow their shot if they were up front about TRP/MGTOW mindset up front. Too many of them admit that they are lying to get women and it's just not cool. INB4 "but women lie when dating" some people always will but I'd rather you lie about something small than th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 07:17 PM |
| 1 | Are hot women in their 20s actually interested in men in their 30s?Really wish I could go back in time and not waste so much time turning down men who were older - I'd have just ignored them and walked away at the age I am now rather than placating to not hurt their feelings. Men keep telling us when we're very young that we love dating men a little older who are more established and then those same men call us shallow for wanting to date someone who's in the same season of life. I went out with a 26yo on 2 dates when I was 21 - he was a condescending tool with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 06:05 PM |
| 4 | The best thing any man can do is to stop dating, and to also forget about marriage.It's up to the individual to decide what has meaning and value, and how much time and effort it is worth to put into that. So if that's your perspective, you're doing the right thing. But it's not pathetic to find value in something another person does not, or to see marriage as a risk worth taking. I'm not a woman who wants to convince every man that marriage is the right move, because for many, regardless of gender, it is not the smart or reasonable move. But that essentially depends on the st… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 02:49 PM |
| 1 | are a smaller percentage of men considered attractive compared to women?Hi - woman here. To answer your question, no. A smaller percentage of men are not considered attractive compared to women. I wholeheartedly agree with, and have experienced what you've described in your post. I have never once thought I had a type. Etc. I've dated fat men, skinny men, short/tall. I was attracted to every last one, but more importantly I liked them and their presence. The ones that didn't work out were because of compatibility issues not having to do with physical attractiveness.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 01:10 PM |
| 2 | 60% of young men are not chronically single because they "lack emotional skills"I think men often see physical attraction as the end all be all. Edited to Add: Nowadays with the prevalence of OLD, I do think many are not using it and having more success that way. It is much more difficult to make a connection when the person has to critique your OLD profile before they even get to speak to you. So you're rejected more and more swiftly because that is how it's designed. Men literally right swipe everyone, including women they find unattractive. Women often rarely swipe right… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/23 12:53 PM |
| 2 | 60% of young men are not chronically single because they "lack emotional skills"I do think that up until way more recently parents were not teaching their children much about emotional intelligence - including little girls. We are taught more because we are socialized as women to do more mental work based around care tasks and taking care of others so it makes it easier, I think for us to learn emotional intelligence because it's an advantage in a way. It's also a negative, little girls are often socialized and expected to be far more considerate of others and growing up, m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 07:12 PM |
| 4 | 60% of young men are not chronically single because they "lack emotional skills"No one magically gains personality - but people in general do have more experience/sense of self/ability to think critically in their later 20's and early 30's. Young men are probably getting less dates because women expect very little from them and won't accept what they feel is less than the bare minimum (I'm not saying this to attack those dudes, either. Just that as someone who has higher standards now, in my 30s - I feel like 10 years ago I had none compared to what I know is necessary to h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/23 05:56 PM |
| 3 | Question for girls who had a "party phase" but moved onI had a solid 4-5 years of partying in my early-mid 20s. Most of that time I was in 1 of 2 serious relationships so it wasn't 4-5years of hot girl summer if you know what I mean. I mostly spent my partying years with my best friend being degenerates and sleeping at her place drunk on a whole bottle of wine. I did have short periods of time where I'd engage in casual sex but it never lasted long because the sex was mostly bad and honestly the flirtation and planning necessary to meet up just to g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Is raw confidence only an aphrodisiac if there's already a fair level of attraction?THIS. If your first impression is absolutely terrible it does not matter how charismatic or confident you are - you've usually lost your shot | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 09:55 PM |
| 1 | Men are more superficial but women are more shallow.You said specifically that he doesn't make assumptions about her personality - and then named a condition in which "he" in fact, [absolutely would] make assumptions about her personality. It can't be both. Either he doesn't make assumptions or he does. His assumptions based on her clothing infers that he is assuming something different about a woman's personality who doesn't show a lot of skin. That's like saying "I don't judge others unless I think their outfit is trashy." Just because it's inc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/02/23 03:00 PM |
| 4 | Men are more superficial but women are more shallow.He doesnt make assumptions on her personality. Unless she's wearing something obviously revealing. I mean, you've disproved your point entirely in that one statement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/23 03:08 AM |
| 1 | CMV: In today's age, men are expected to take on both the feminine AND the masculine roles in a relationship, while women are only expected to take on the feminine roles.That's because those tasks are only socialized in society as "more feminine". They are all the things you should be able to do on your own before you get into a relationship - so it should be shared equitably depending on if one/both work outside the home. I say equitably because if both work full time, but one person works an extra 10 hours, it would make sense for the other to pick up some of the duties their partner would not have time for. Women are expected to take on every role as well. Ev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/02/23 01:36 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on having kids without being married but making the woman stay loyal to you?Because it's inhumane to murder someone for wronging you and making you feel bad. Also hard pass on bringing that back like wtf We aren't living in Gilead yet, let's at least give it a couple years. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 09:35 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on having kids without being married but making the woman stay loyal to you?Could be a SAHD and not have to worry about it 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 08:49 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on having kids without being married but making the woman stay loyal to you?Also men are more likely to stay in a relationship they're unhappy with , not run. Yeah, that's called settling. Why should anyone stay in a relationship that is not working for them? Better yet, what if a once-great relationship now makes them absolutely miserable? If they have kids, it is not healthy to stay for the kids. Yes, kids who come from two parent families are often more well-adjusted, but many of those two parent households include those of divorced parents who split custody 50/50 Me… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 08:44 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on having kids without being married but making the woman stay loyal to you?... correct. Loyalty is all well and good but you literally cannot cause happiness for someone by forcing them into a lifestyle they don't want. That's called oppression and misery. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 08:27 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on having kids without being married but making the woman stay loyal to you?If monogamy is what you want - yes. But you can't guarantee that someone won't cheat on you. You just have to have a healthy relationship and have enough trust in your partner to feel secure. No woman wants to be with a man that would need to force her into anything to feel secure in the relationship Being married isn't going to stop anyone from cheating, kids or not, if they are likely to cheat. Most divorces are no fault divorce even in the case of infidelity so it's not like there's a legal o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 08:26 PM |
| 3 | New study finds men are leaving the workforce en masse, why work hard if you are not entitled to a wife nor children? This already happened in Japan by men turning into Hikkikomori and japanese economy is in the brink of collapse, men have left the plantation since there's nothing left for themWhy would anyone, ever feel entitled to a spouse or family? If simply doing the bare minimum to take care of yourself financially (ie having a job) is such a grand gesture that should earn you a family, women would be demanding SAH dads. Be interesting and actually attract a spouse - that's called evolving with the times. Women have access to anything we could ever need to live our lives on our own, self sufficiently. The "good old days" were back when women weren't legally allowed to file for d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 07:50 PM |
| 1 | Women of PPD: How do you prefer a man shows off his masculinity: Thru status and wealth, thru wisdom and knowledge or thru competence and actions?I think you're mistaking someone pushing boundaries for having a safe place in a relationship. Edited to Add: I honestly think we agree, but I think you may be attributing voluntary emotional vulnerability (which is what I consider to be emotional availability at it's core) with someone being naive and inexperienced or an open book to everyone with their emotions. I think trust comes first, most of us aren't demanding strangers share their emotions and in a relationship no should feel to feel en… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/02/23 06:07 PM |
| 1 | Women of PPD: How do you prefer a man shows off his masculinity: Thru status and wealth, thru wisdom and knowledge or thru competence and actions?I am absolutely not confusing it with emotional vulnerability. Both matter deeply for a long lasting connection. One cannot be emotionally available if they aren't willing to allow themselves to be vulnerable with their partner. I'm not suggesting looking for a manipulative partner, but a deep connection infers trusting someone enough to be vulnerable around them about their emotions due to feeling they are an emotionally safe space. If your partner does not seem like a safe person to come to wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/02/23 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Dating is just a waste of time and money these days.Just to isolate the part about love being conditional - I disagree. I do think that having a sustainable relationship comes with conditions, however. Many people will leave someone if that person's presence does not add to their life (I don't mean monetarily - I mean adds to their sense of satisfaction). A lot of inequities in relationships will end up being deal breakers if the pattern continues long enough - and that doesn't mean that the person who decided to leave didn't love you - it just m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/23 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Women of PPD: How do you prefer a man shows off his masculinity: Thru status and wealth, thru wisdom and knowledge or thru competence and actions?If you can't be vulnerable with your partner that is a clear signal that it is not going to last. Most people who actually want a partner won't put up with that for their entire life. I absolutely wouldn't | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/02/23 01:32 PM |
| 1 | What do women first think of when trying to obtain a man?Do I enjoy this person's company? That's it tbh. I've also never really had a plan to find a man at all. I've happily made the first move but the men I've done that with I met organically when I wasn't looking for a partner. I wasn't even necessarily looking for a man - just that if they catch my eye and we have a nice chat, I'm not going to let them assume I'm not interested so I always got their socials and sent a message before leaving. Otherwise it's a matter of hanging out one on one and se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Should Courtship Be Regulated?I don't need to read this to have an answer. The answer is no. Regulated courtship is a nice way to say "government control of reproduction and relationships" I'd take regulation of pharmaceuticals any day though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 04:37 PM |
| 5 | Women of PPD: How do you prefer a man shows off his masculinity: Thru status and wealth, thru wisdom and knowledge or thru competence and actions?I agree, but that natural aura is usually just self assurance and confidence in themselves and who they are. Which is simply being authentic. People like authenticity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 04:33 PM |
| 5 | Women of PPD: How do you prefer a man shows off his masculinity: Thru status and wealth, thru wisdom and knowledge or thru competence and actions?Big agree. I was trying to come up work an answer to this that wasn't "none of the above" lol. I want a man secure enough that he sees emotional vulnerability and intimacy as a trait of a man confident in his masculinity . I'd prefer a man who is secure about who he is and confident enough to be authentic. And I find it difficult to believe that men who are analyzing their masculinity and feeling pressured to perform as such as being authentic. Performative masculinity, in the way that men perfo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/23 04:31 PM |
| 1 | CMV: You can't claim that women are as capable as men if you support menstrual leave policiesI'm talking about the US lol. Big doubt that any time off for health reasons would be paid unless PTO were used to make up for it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 08:11 PM |
| 1 | What's the problem with casual age gap relationships?I think for men the danger of a casual encounter would be if it's with a man that has repeatedly only dated very young women. It could be casual and just sex, until it isn't. An experienced manipulator can fairly easily convince a young woman that she actually wants more than that with him. And later on that they are meant for each other until he either leaves her or leverages control in some way after a while. I do not inherently see an issue with age gap casually provided both are adults and n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 08:07 PM |
| 1 | I don’t think dating gets easier for men in their 40’s and beyond.100% agree but based on what I've seen in this sub people seem to think 40+ year old men are somehow more attractive to young virile women than young virile men lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 07:57 PM |
| 2 | I don’t think dating gets easier for men in their 40’s and beyond.It is absolutely untrue for the most part. Women in the 20yo see 40yo men the same way they see 40yo women, as being old. Some of them like that but a majority of women would rather date someone within their age range | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 05:59 PM |
| 1 | If a straight man is (at least partially) unattracted to femininity, what does that mean?All it means is that you have a preference. I'm sure some here would tell you that it's wrong to not want to be dominant in a hetero relationship with a woman or that society has brainwashed you somehow but it's perfectly normal to have preferences. Everyone has a variety of feminine and masculine traits - I think that so many are performing masculinity and femininity so hard due to social conditioning and against what they actually want out of life that many men and women are settling for peopl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 04:31 PM |
| 3 | CMV: You can't claim that women are as capable as men if you support menstrual leave policiesMany women cannot be on birth control for health reasons and it would be unconstitutional to encourage them to get rid of their periods. It's a natural cycle and there for a reason. While yes, birth control is often used to help period symptoms, it can also affect fertility later on and make getting pregnant very difficult after being on it for a long period of time. Women already go through extreme pain getting IUDs with nothing but Tylenol offered as a pain med for a procedure where they stab … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 04:03 PM |
| 2 | CMV: You can't claim that women are as capable as men if you support menstrual leave policiesI think menstrual leave wouldn't be necessary if 2-3 days every month anyone could take a mental health/sick day etc. Women would just use it as such. Most probably wouldn't need more than one day unless they have an actual health issue around menstruating like endometriosis as many of us only have 1 very bad day and can get through the rest. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 03:53 PM |
| 1 | CMV: You can't claim that women are as capable as men if you support menstrual leave policiesBasic daily life is predicated on the 9-5, which revolves around the males 24hr hormones cycle. What that means is that men's hormones cycle daily, so you won't deal with fatigue one day and insane focus the next. The female hormonal cycle has multiple phases. Not only is a flex schedule realistic for everyone these days to be productive outside of and at work, but women still meet their goals despite the days they are in immense amounts of pain. We are also half of society so it doesn't make se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/02/23 03:51 PM |
| 1 | Most women would rather have a placeholder boyfriend than be singleThe 2-dimensional NPC energy is strong in this comment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 09:52 PM |
| 2 | A Common Sentiment These Days is That Men Are Generally Trash Partners. But If a Man Works to No Longer Be Trash What Incentive Does He Have to Now Commit To a Woman?Most men enter monogamous relationships when they have them. No hate on being poly but if that's the angle you're going with it's not entirely relevant IMO. Whether or not that is what they want only matters if they have the guts to say out loud they want a change to the relationship dynamic and to open things up. But if you're with someone long enough to live with them and have a life together, it wouldn't make sense to have that and then make joint decisions with someone else lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 08:09 PM |
| 1 | A Common Sentiment These Days is That Men Are Generally Trash Partners. But If a Man Works to No Longer Be Trash What Incentive Does He Have to Now Commit To a Woman?The same incentive as before that any human with basic needs and wanting a companion would want - a loving relationship that can build and grow so that you can enjoy each other for the rest of your lives while you cherish each other and ideally both splitting the emotional, mental, and physical labor equitably that the household is taken care of. If that isn't your cup of tea - consider hiring all of these professions below bc this is the stuff that women are expected to stay on top of according… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 08:05 PM |
| 10 | Men and women not owing stuff to each other.I truly think that a majority of people have the ability to think more deeply about this topic, but doing so for many would mean a lot of uncomfortable self-reflection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 07:38 PM |
| 3 | Men and women not owing stuff to each other.Do you have a healthy opinion of sex yourself? I think I do, yes. As best a person can who grew up learning about it from porn and what I was told growing up as is possible. I think most of us have to unlearn a lot to have a healthy opinion of sex and get rid of the shame, and on the opposite end, expectation that sex is supposed to be like porn. I say that more specifically because much of what women do in porn is very performative and unenjoyable and there are a decent amount of men that want … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 04:49 PM |
| 7 | Men and women not owing stuff to each other.Genuine question for OP: Do you consider sex to be the only form of intimacy that matters? Would you be fulfilled in a relationship with sex, but no emotional or non-sexual physical intimacy? (Affectionate kisses, cuddling, knowing that person on a deep emotional level, and being each other's cheer leaders and support system) Why would anyone get into a relationship with someone they know will withhold all of those things if there is a lull in their sex life? This can happen for a variety of rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 03:55 PM |
| 29 | Men and women not owing stuff to each other.According to you and by the logic of this post, sex is traded for the love and affection people should naturally show one another if they care about each other. That is a wildly fucked up concept for a genuine relationship. Sex is a part of making that genuine connection and should make it stronger - not be the catalyst for being treated with consideration. It is not given by nor inflicted upon one person in the party having it. It should be a shared, pleasurable experience for everyone involved… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 03:48 PM |
| 6 | Men and women not owing stuff to each other.I'd go further and say we owe everyone the courtesy of showing them a very basic form of respect that we would expect shown to us - until they prove they are worthy of our genuine respect or they aren't. Basic courtesy is polite enough. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 03:00 PM |
| 5 | CMV: individual women take general criticisms of female behavior personally because they are solipsistic, invalidating the purpose of this subIf you believe this then it is 100% reasonable to assume teenage boys who play violent video games actually want to be in a warzone shooting and killing soldiers or dying by the hands of a zombie apocalypse. (Which we all know has been debunked). You're insinuating that the theme behind a YA vampire novel is indicative that women are secretly harboring an interest in fucking a serial killer which is entirely an offshoot of the original conversation. The discussion was not about entertainment tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 02:52 AM |
| 0 | CMV: individual women take general criticisms of female behavior personally because they are solipsistic, invalidating the purpose of this subOr being told that women would rather knowingly marry a hot man who would abuse them than be alone or marry someone average and likeable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 02:43 AM |
| 3 | What, or when, do you think the breaking point will be?I don't usually go with Darwinism, but adapt or die, you know? There's no other solution to make lonely men who don't want to evolve with the times less lonely without somehow forcing women to be with them, which is a clear human rights violation. Asking women to just give up their freedom and agency and time to leave the work force to be mothers and homemakers is not realistic, unless, again, it's due to human rights violations. I don't think there will be a breaking point. Much of it is that w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/23 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Do men really think 30 year old women are past their prime?There are 1,000 understandable ways to communicate that, all of which are not unnecessarily offensive. Your choice of words really says a lot about you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 10:03 PM |
| 9 | Would you rather date a man who is left wing economically but socially conservative or date a man who's right wing economically but left wing on social issues?Neither is an option. The politically conservative guy will vote for policy that hurts marginalized members of society. The socially conservative guy would just be insufferable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Do men really think 30 year old women are past their prime?There is so much to unpack here on your end I don't even think there is a constructive thing I can say in response. Are you living in 2023? Did you travel here from a time where women weren't allowed to work and have bank accounts? Do your due diligence and sign a prenup - and maybe don't get married if you think it'll always end in divorce in the first place. Are you suggesting that when you marry a woman who doesn't want kids, the only reason to do it is because of the sex? Because dude, livin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 09:50 PM |
| 2 | Do men really think 30 year old women are past their prime?I think you got my point exactly, which is to ask and not assume either way lol. Whether you do or do not want kids - many people actually marry even when they aren't planning to have kids. Some people won't marry someone until they've already had kids together. A lot of people do want children but if you wanna get serious probably a good idea to bring it up earlier in the relationship bc if one absolutely doesn't and the other absolutely does - that's usually a huge incompatibility that is diff… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Do men really think 30 year old women are past their prime?I'd say it's also worth asking anyone you date if they want kids A lot of women are child-free by choice in their early-mid 20s at this point and many of us that are 30+ who may want kids but only if circumstances would work so as not to put us as a serious disadvantage for the rest of our lives. So probably best not to assume that every woman in their 20s, regardless of fertility, even wants to be a mom. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Men aren't interested in becoming fathers because we have basically no rights when it comes to fatherhoodWomen are more likely to fight for custody and show up to court. Stats show that men who ask for custody and show up to their court dates actually do get custody a majority of the time. Women just get custody more often because they make it a priority and show up because they know if they didn't they would not get custody. You can absolutely be a father and have custody 50% of the time if you ask for it and there is no evidence of neglect or abuse. Men can know their child is theirs - You answer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you feel the need to control interactions on dating apps even unconsciously and if so why?I'm not saying there is anything wrong with that. For me, it would be too soon to make a decision like that. For some women, it's a matter of seeing how patient that person is, because lack of patience can be a red flag depending on who you're talking to. For me, definitely. But I don't think it's about control so much as thorough vetting most of the time. It may not necessarily be a demand but it is a deal breaker for you to not meet sooner. But I'd consider at least giving it a week before ask… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 05:11 PM |
| 1 | I tried Andrew Tate's method. It worked. Now I understand why people love him.Yeah, I agree lol. It's wild out there. Women know that it is not all men that are dangerous, however, it's not something that can usually be easily vetted so an abundance of caution is really the only way to stay safe. You can have 20 drinks in front of you and know that only 4 are poisoned but there is no way to know without having them tested for poison which ones they are. Just like it isn't safe to assume that a snake that bites you isn't poisonous when it could be. There are enough dangero… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 04:56 PM |
| 2 | What caused you to raise your standards for dating someone?Sounds like a good way to find a doormat who lets you walk all over her. At best she's not homeless anymore. At worst she's miserable, in an abusive inequitable situation with a man who expects everything while giving nothing but financial support. Also wreaks of insecurity. You want someone dependent on you for all their material needs. Not someone who values your partnership and who you are. You can say she's taking advantage of the situation but you are the one admitting to seeking out someon… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 04:14 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Do you feel the need to control interactions on dating apps even unconsciously and if so why?How quickly are you asking to meet in person? I wouldn't even entertain the idea until I'd been talking to the person regularly for a while - like 2 weeks ish and it'd be a coffee date lol. Maybe a dinner that I would meet him at and leave separately. I ghosted a lot of dudes who were pushy about going out even though I didn't know anything about them and they didn't know anything about me going into it. Dating is risky for women, so yeah. If you ask, you have to realize that she's either still … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 04:00 PM |
| 0 | I tried Andrew Tate's method. It worked. Now I understand why people love him.Problem with that is that someone who holds the mindset of an incels, whether they are able to get laid or not, is that it will be extremely difficult to find someone to love them if they truly believe women are inferior and meant to be used unless those women also only value themselves for what they can give to men. So the women who go for it have a lot of trauma and will likely be the "crazy girl" who ruined his life later on - even though that is exactly what he wanted, sought out, and attain… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 03:35 PM |
| 1 | I tried Andrew Tate's method. It worked. Now I understand why people love him.What you described (to me, at least, as a woman) is confidence. You asked her out, had a date and time in mind, planned it, scheduled it, and allowed her to decide if that would work for her. It doesn't seem like it came off as over-confident or cocky and that's usually where the instant turn-off comes into play. It also helps that she wasn't a stranger. It may have been too forward if you asked someone you'd just met but if you weren't pushing for any private information like her phone number o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 03:22 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have long term relationships with guys they don’t physically desire?You are aware that women also fish? It's very weird to gatekeep something that is a non-gendered activity. I know it was a lazy analogy but most people who actually fish either kill and stuff the fish they caught as a trophy on their wall, or eat it. They aren't trying to sustain a healthy long term relationship. And they don't expect the fish to have preferences. Most assholes are easy to spot once they open their mouths. It is definitely more convenient to believe women would prefer a conventi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/23 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have long term relationships with guys they don’t physically desire?lol no they up their standards | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/23 01:55 AM |
| 1 | How I imagine life as an attractive woman is likeNo, women's looks are what misogynistic men value women for. Not how women value themselves. It's a convenient yet untrue belief that you need because if you begin to realize how untrue it is you'll have to re-evaluate how this perspective has affected your treatment of women subconsciously. I know self-reflection is difficult but it is a way to become a more evolved human who sees all of humanity as complex rather than just men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 04:59 PM |
| 5 | How I imagine life as an attractive woman is likeThis is the realistic answer to OPs jealous delusion about women's lives. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 04:53 PM |
| 1 | How I imagine life as an attractive woman is likeIf women are so unlikeable I'd suggest not looking for a relationship with one 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 04:49 PM |
| 5 | How I imagine life as an attractive woman is likeEven teen tv shows don't show those girls lives as easy or effortless lmao. Unless it's a dream sequence lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 04:47 PM |
| 3 | How I imagine life as an attractive woman is likeMaybe men should learn to do more thorough vetting of their friends and higher their standards of what friendship means. What you described is the antithesis of friendship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 04:41 PM |
| 2 | How I imagine life as an attractive woman is likeMust be a nice delusion to have because none of this is based in reality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 04:39 PM |
| 3 | "Why a shortage of Mr Rights means single mothers hold the key to the falling birthrate"lol, no. I want men to stop seeing their 40 hour work week and salary as equal to a woman working a 15-20 hour day unpaid. Being paid does not mean that women have more time, energy, or ability to work long hours like that without having time to themselves. You want time to yourself? You both get it after the kids go to bed. You want to go out for a drink after work? Don't assume she's cool with it without at least making sure she isn't overwhelmed at home with the baby. You wanna golf every Sun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Why do women have long term relationships with guys they don’t physically desire?Yeah, my apologies. I meant to respond to the person below yours lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 01:05 PM |
| 2 | Describe your semi-ideal society in regards to male female social structureI don't think we'll be able to eradicate maternal death rated entirely, but I do know that it's extremely high where I am compared to other developed countries. That alone is reason to be wary of even our doctors putting our well-being as top priority. There are birthing centers near me that are supposed to be very well run - assuming they take your insurance (assuming you have health insurance in the first place). I don't expect men to be able to gestate or give birth lol, but I do think that m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 01:04 PM |
| 0 | Why do women have long term relationships with guys they don’t physically desire?... do you see cat-calling as a compliment? That explains a lot. If anything that would be considered INCREDIBLY forward and masculine in the US. It starts before puberty and we stop getting cat-called by men before we graduate high school. There is the rare occasion that I'll have to ignore men now that I'm 30 but I'd take being left alone over the harassment that started and nearly ended while I was still a child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 07:21 AM |
| 11 | Why do women have long term relationships with guys they don’t physically desire?Thanks for sharing your preferences of male celebrity - but you're still so, so wrong. We recognize that men are attractive - but looks are not what gets me going. I personally do not play for a specific team so whatever the gender, if you don't behave attractively it will not spur desire. Women are cerebral. A man can look like Chris Hemsworth but if he acts like Harvey Weinstein - that's what we think of when we look at him. (Also FYI Tom Hiddleston is the innately sexy one and it's all in the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 07:16 AM |
| 9 | Why do women have long term relationships with guys they don’t physically desire?😂 Absolutely the truth | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 07:07 AM |
| 14 | Why do women have long term relationships with guys they don’t physically desire?I wrote a much longer response but to answer your last question - Most women lose desire for men they find visually attractive once they have a conversation with them. The anticipation builds up but then much of the time those "hot" men are straight up douchnozzles. I assume that you can identify with meeting someone very attractive but absolutely awful to be around. Women do that all the time lmao. How hard is it to just trust what women say? Long term, no one is going to get all hot and bother… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 07:03 AM |
| 4 | Why do women have long term relationships with guys they don’t physically desire?That was a very long explanation to twist what it seems like she said - which is that what she finds desirable and attractive in a man has evolved over time. Do you still look for the exact same things in a partner that you did a decade ago? Our standards get higher. Young women, like men are much of the time just as horny and dtf - so it absolutely makes sense. Additionally, a 20yo is a baby when it comes to experience compared to someone who is 30 with over a decades worth of dating. Fuck boys… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 06:53 AM |
| 2 | Describe your semi-ideal society in regards to male female social structureWhether you're using sugar cubes or a whip, it's still oppression. One just looks better on paper. Using sugar implies that the whip is the punishment for not behaving. But women are not animals to be bred. I do agree that parenthood should be prioritized, but men aren't really on board with the fundamental change idea if the answer is "Men need to evolve so that motherhood isn't a direct disadvantage to the agency/freedom/health/and earning power of a woman." They much more easily will jump to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 05:54 AM |
| 2 | Describe your semi-ideal society in regards to male female social structureI do agree that fundamental change is needed. I think a lot of the time the "low birth rate" discussion is had it becomes "How can we punish women who don't have kids so that all the other ones will fall in line?" And tbh if that's the only answer people can agree on I'll unalive myself the day I'm forced to have children I don't want. And I don't think I'll be the only one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 04:54 AM |
| 2 | How would feel if someone you were dating - received roses today - from their ex-husband?Yeah FR, either he added the balloons and a long letter after the fact because he felt dumb, or neglected to add it to his post asking if it's s too romantic to simply bring your ex-wife roses on Valentine's day because.... It would be too relevant? No one would have disagreed had OP included all of that in their original post lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 04:42 AM |
| 2 | How would feel if someone you were dating - received roses today - from their ex-husband?My dad used to pick up little things for my mom after they divorced. But they were co-parenting. So IMO that's just setting a good example to your kids. They may have seen their parents divorce, but that doesn't mean he needs to set the example of ignoring her or treating her badly in front of her kids. My parents never talked badly about each other. My dad always got a little plant for my mom for mother's day. I can gladly say that if and when I choose to get married or have a holiday at my pla… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/02/23 04:36 AM |
| 10 | "Why a shortage of Mr Rights means single mothers hold the key to the falling birthrate"Yeah. The nuclear family is what ruined this country IMO. The phrase "It takes a village to raise a child" literally comes from the fact that families and communities used to support each other. A single family unit was not expected to do it all without outside help. I don't see anything wrong with a woman wanting to stay home and be a homemaker but I know many who did it out of lack of choice. Which is very sad and honestly that is my biggest fear. I do not. Ever. Want to be a SAHM unless I hav… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 09:31 PM |
| 0 | "Why a shortage of Mr Rights means single mothers hold the key to the falling birthrate"As a certifiably cishet woman, I disagree. I have never once asked or cared about how much my partner makes so long as we can support ourselves (assuming we live together or plan to). Women are for the most part being raised to work along with the rest of the human population and that is not only accepted but expected by our parents and potential spouses. Just because many men are afraid to buck traditional gender roles doesn't mean they don't have the luxury. They just don't want to make the sa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 09:24 PM |
| 1 | "Why a shortage of Mr Rights means single mothers hold the key to the falling birthrate"You are correct that most women outlive their husbands. But simply being married to a man statistically means our life expectancy shortens. When a man marries a woman his life expectancy increases. I think life expectancy of men would be much higher if they were less resistant to going to the doctor before health issues get out of hand but that's a whole other thing. I think women having less sex has more to do with men projecting when they make less than their wife. If making less money decreas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 08:45 PM |
| 19 | "Why a shortage of Mr Rights means single mothers hold the key to the falling birthrate"I 100% agree. I am a woman who works full time and even staying home to do childcare all day is so exhausting and more time consuming than a full time job. Which is why splitting duties and passing off bath-time and recreational weekend days would need to be equal for me to even consider it lol. I do think more men will need to step up and make an equitable sacrifice of their time as well otherwise women will continue the trend of not having children at all. The ones who really want kids absolut… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 08:09 PM |
| 6 | "Why a shortage of Mr Rights means single mothers hold the key to the falling birthrate"No. I don't think most women actually lose attraction when they are the breadwinner of the household and I think they appreciate having more free time and not being overwhelmed with household care tasks. I don't even think men should necessarily do a majority of the housework, it should be split how the couple feels is equitable and should be a discussion that leads to a joint decision. I would be more anxious if I didn't have an income and feel entirely trapped if I thought I couldn't support m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 08:00 PM |
| 9 | Why is attraction important when selecting a life partner you will spend 50+ years with?The most important sexual organ is the brain. So I think when many say attractive - they mean overall. It is still important to find your partner attractive to cultivate an initial relationship. But one can also look like a troll like my first crush and still be incredibly attractive and stimulate a person's mind. Most women don't experience spontaneous desire and many prefer audio erotica to video porn because it's not the physical aspect that gets them in the mood. If you can stimulate her sen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 05:53 PM |
| 2 | Describe your semi-ideal society in regards to male female social structureWithin relationships which sex is expected to be in charge? It would be a team sport where both parties consult each other before making any large decisions. Anyone who would see themselves as "in charge" of anything I do is not someone I would entertain being with. What are some rules that are exclusive to one sex but are excused for the other? None that aren't strictly biological. Can't expect a man to gestate and give birth if he wasn't born with the papers to do so. I would however, expect h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 05:40 PM |
| 34 | "Why a shortage of Mr Rights means single mothers hold the key to the falling birthrate"Yeah - from what I'm seeing and hearing from women who are single and/or childless that are close to me, they are deciding against it because most of them are in a household with two working adults and and feel that despite that, those women are doing a majority of household care tasks and planning etc. To many women that would also be an indicator of a man that either wouldn't do his fair share of parenting duties. I've also seen many women have children and spend the first 4-5 years with their… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 04:42 PM |
| 44 | "Why a shortage of Mr Rights means single mothers hold the key to the falling birthrate"At least in the US, motherhood is a huge sacrifice - in developed countries with paid parental leave (of up to 1 year), mandatory 30+ days of paid vacation etc and accessible childcare I could see why it would be more feasible and less destructive to potential future earnings and ability to live a fulfilling life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 04:20 PM |
| 4 | When a woman earns more, her man should be proud of her and support herThe studies actually cite that women under-report how much work they do and men largely over-report how much they are doing in terms of house work and mental load/equitably splitting parenting duties. Which makes sense to me. Men often dislike when their wife makes more so the only way to "logically" make him feel better about that is to do more housework and delude yourself that you are doing less. Women, regardless of how much they make, still do 3-4x the amount of housework than their male co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/23 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Artificial womb, solution to abortion?It's not a solution if the answer is to surgically remove an implanted egg from the body of an already pregnant woman and risk her life in the process. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 10:56 PM |
| 1 | Women Aren't Lying, They are just being PoliteThey also do it in case the person they reject would retaliate with physical violence. Someone who already had the proclivity to probably doesn't want to be told she finds their sense of humor distasteful and unattractive - and probably also would react badly to being told directly it's because she finds him ugly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 09:44 PM |
| 2 | Do men have ANY advantages when it comes to dating?It seems especially disliked on this sub as well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 09:32 PM |
| 4 | If there are more single men than single women, then women would rather be a side piece than date a man in their own leagueHave you considered that many women like none of the options available to her and don't want to lock down anyone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 08:50 PM |
| 0 | If there are more single men than single women, then women would rather be a side piece than date a man in their own leagueI think what you mean is, women are not always straight and the heteronormativity in your post infers there aren't many people who are on the LGBTQ spectrum of sexual preferences. Many straight women are single. Many women are dating women. Many women are open to dating trans/non-binary individuals. It is widely accepted to say you are straight but in many homes/localities it isn't an option to be open about your sexuality if it isn't "I like having sex with men" It isn't 50/50 where all women e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 08:48 PM |
| 2 | Men should enter marriage as virgins to increase the stability of the marriage and their marital happinessIf marrying a virgin is the only thing that matters to a person - marriage is probably something that person should stay away from. I'm not hating on religious people who are of the same mind on the topic - but if you're going to legally tie yourself to a person, you should at least like them and see a future where the both of you can grow together. Marriage lasts a long time if you stay together. Most of your life or until death if you don't divorce. Many divorces IMO happen because one or both… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Apparently "reading the room" is harder than people here claim it isKids are far too young to even recognize ROFLMAO as a historically relevant acronym. I'm not leaving the LOL because I was laughing at you. As in, I actually laughed out loud at some of the ridiculous beliefs you hold as universally true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 05:25 PM |
| 7 | Do men have ANY advantages when it comes to dating?Sexual choice being judged as harshly as in - women being judged based on body count. Men are not shamed for having had multiple sexual partners where women much of the time are. I've seen men say a woman shouldn't have more than 2 sexual partners in a decade. Which is unrealistic unless you grew up with and adhere to purity culture - in which it would be safe to assume she has had no sexual partners whatsoever. "No one would prefer a car with 200k miles to one with 20miles" "A master key opens … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 04:54 PM |
| 3 | Divorce rate after 5 years hops from 7% to 18% to 30% for people who have 0, 1, and 2 premarital partners respectively. After that, it stabilizes in the 30s for 3+ partners.Most people don't fuck on the first date. I'd argue that more don't than do. I have had multiple long term relationships - and I'm in one now. I don't remember sex with any of my exes beyond the fact that I know it happened. The human memory isn't that good. 10 years after the fact you might remember that someone was a great kisser - that's not going to be on their mind while kissing their current partner unless they've been obsessive about it for a decade, which would indicate that they need a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 04:15 PM |
| 0 | Apparently "reading the room" is harder than people here claim it isL O L that is a rare reality these days. Women are more educated, and at this point many are the breadwinner in a relationship. Most of the friends I have that are women not only own a house first but out earn their partners/husbands by a lot. A majority of women who are SAHPs in this country additionally do not have a choice if they make less than their partner and childcare is the cost of a years salary. Most people in this country make less than $50k/year. A lot more women would be single if … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 04:12 PM |
| 2 | Apparently "reading the room" is harder than people here claim it isCall me at 3am and you're going straight for VM 365 days\year. Who tf has time for that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 04:05 PM |
| 15 | Apparently "reading the room" is harder than people here claim it isThis is a shocking thought process - women have external life events that also cause them to feel/act a certain way? Damn! Who woulda thunk? /s Almost like women are not a hive mind that all act the same way, like the same things, or look for the exact same qualities in a partner. 🥱 It seems like a simple concept. I rarely see people who post here mention the importance of having similar values, things in common, or having a similar idea of what they want in the future mattering but I'd say that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 04:02 PM |
| 1 | Divorce rate after 5 years hops from 7% to 18% to 30% for people who have 0, 1, and 2 premarital partners respectively. After that, it stabilizes in the 30s for 3+ partners.You did not. The article did, multiple times. Unless that is somehow not an important part of the post. Do you think we'd all be better off if men and women both saved themselves for the person they choose to marry? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Divorce rate after 5 years hops from 7% to 18% to 30% for people who have 0, 1, and 2 premarital partners respectively. After that, it stabilizes in the 30s for 3+ partners.You did not. The article did, multiple times. Unless that is somehow not an important part of the post. Do you think we'd all be better off if men and women both saved themselves for the person they choose to marry? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 03:43 PM |
| 2 | Divorce rate after 5 years hops from 7% to 18% to 30% for people who have 0, 1, and 2 premarital partners respectively. After that, it stabilizes in the 30s for 3+ partners.I'd love to see a study cited where there's data saying that men would be better off being a virgin and having 0 body count before meeting their spouse but I'm sure that doesn't exist because it would damage the argument men like to make as if women aren't also human and function exactly the same in most aspects outside of the way out reproductive system is set up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 03:29 PM |
| 2 | Divorce rate after 5 years hops from 7% to 18% to 30% for people who have 0, 1, and 2 premarital partners respectively. After that, it stabilizes in the 30s for 3+ partners.Eh, this study is just religious propaganda IMO. Women who are highly religious are far more likely to be virgins on their wedding day, and they are discouraged from ever masturbating or finding out what brings them pleasure. Adding to that - many won't divorce because it is "against God" This to me, is not a sign of a successful marriage - it's just a sign that those women are more likely to accept abuse/unhappiness longer than, or even for the rest of their lives in comparison to more worldly … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/23 03:25 PM |
| 1 | Social circles are really not a good way to meet womenI don't think all of them do. I do think many like having sex with women, but don't actually like women in the general sense, however. From comments on this post alone, many only see "friendship" with women as a useful vehicle to meet other women. (Which means if they didn't see us as a vehicle to do so, they wouldn't seek us out for friendship in the first place.) No one, including women, would be interested in befriending someone who's only doing it for ulterior motives. I also think it's fair… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 08:17 PM |
| 2 | Social circles are really not a good way to meet womenYeah, disagree. I have no issues getting along with and shooting the shit with my male friends. I have a large friend group and it isn't a problem. Those men also don't make jokes at the expense of women (in general). The only men I've had issues with are the ones who think their jokes are hilarious but decidedly offensive to the group they are joking about. Like, don't make jokes about women and expect the women around to genuinely find them funny. Aka the "Get a sense of humor" guy who is just… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Serial monogamists are worse than sexual promiscuityI hope you've been tested for STDs in that time. Women are not locks to be opened and your penis is not a skeleton key. I personally am not one to ask how many people someone has slept with but this would be an instant red flag to me unless that person had recent STD testing results to show they were responsible to keep themselves and those 100+ sexual partners safe. I'd also see that man as someone who sees their worth increase by boosting their own ego rather than what they bring to a relation… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 05:10 PM |
| 2 | Serial monogamists are worse than sexual promiscuityInfatuation or "the honeymoon phase" doesn't usually last 3 years. By then, you've decided to stay because you think there could be a future with that person. You're moving in together to see if you can tolerate living together and further get to know them. 3 years is a long time dude. Aside from cheating (which I agree is deeply unethical and hurtful) - your points about women staying with someone abusive are objectively victim blaming. Women are in more danger of being murdered by their abuser… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Serial monogamists are worse than sexual promiscuitySo would someone who has had 4 LTR that were, let's say 2+ years long fit your description? Most women wouldn't consider it a monogamous or even serious relationship if it only lasts a couple months. I have been in multiple long term relationships. None of the ones I was serious about were trivial or meaningless, otherwise I wouldn't have been with them for so long. Giving a guy a chance for a month and deciding it's not going to work out is pretty normal if you're looking for something long ter… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 04:58 PM |
| 0 | Social circles are really not a good way to meet womenAlmost seems like they want us to agree smh 🤔🙄 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 04:50 PM |
| 0 | Social circles are really not a good way to meet womenI said absolutely nothing about seducing anyone in my comment. But try wearing a name tag that says "Looking for sex - I'll be your friend if you set me up with your hot friends" and see how that works instead lmfao Didn't know "see women as people" is somehow out of left field but I think thats mainly on subs like these from men who clearly see women as less worthy of genuine friendship | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Social circles are really not a good way to meet womenlol you are probably right - I shouldn't be shocked many commenters on this post wanna know why women aren't setting up their male friends to have their dicks sucked rather than seeing the value in having platonic female friendship and the benefits of it even beyond being more attractive to women on the peripheral of those social circles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Social circles are really not a good way to meet womenRight. Well, for the record - women in a social group with their friends aren't usually trying to get their male friends laid. I'm talking about meeting women that you'd be interested in having a relationship with. Sex is just sex. You can have it once and it can be meaningless. Why would any woman care to make sure their male friends are getting laid? Assuming he's a good dude and a genuine friend, if I saw him make a connection with a single friend of mine and she asked about him I'd vouch for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Social circles are really not a good way to meet womenYeah. This is why it wouldn't work for many. You have to actually see women as eligible platonic friends for other women like say - their friends who they've brought with them - to notice you in that way. Men who don't see women as an option for friendship make it clear, because they'll be surrounded by women in their friend group and not even speak to them. You can't see women as a vehicle to get other women if you want those women to see you as capable of treating us like a normal person and n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 04:39 PM |
| 0 | Social circles are really not a good way to meet womenWhy bring racism into this? Do you think we're out here assuming white men aren't raping and murdering women? My assumption tbh is that white men more dangerous due to crime statistics But yeah, being a long wolf is fine - it just won't get you women if you're alone in a bar. If you hang out with friends, and there are women within that social circle, and other women see you commiserating with your group of friends (including the women) someone who notices you will notice that those woman can ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Social circles are really not a good way to meet womenAs someone who has met all of my male partners through mutual friends, I partially disagree. I do agree that having your friends set you up is unwise. I did that for a friend and ended up losing both of them. I'll absolutely vouch for a friend but I think it can happen organically without someone specifically trying to be your wingman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Double standard and hypocrisy in the satirical “you look like a man” movementThis whole post is hypothesis about a hypothetical movement you've arbitrarily named based on what data? There are not enough women body builders for this to be a very large movement... Seems like speculation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/02/23 05:59 AM |
| 1 | Q for men: Do men very concerned with unintended pregnancy come inside women?Yep. There are very small comments that still make me viscerally upset as an adult. I had to speak to a couple of my partners about how they absolutely cannot jokingly or otherwise call me lazy because it's just painful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 10:24 PM |
| 1 | Q for men: Do men very concerned with unintended pregnancy come inside women?I had to unlearn a lot to get there. I'm just thankful I didn't keep berating myself for forgetting everything - It was not easy to address issues when those close to me just told me "if you cared, you would remember" My worry is not for myself but for others who have similarly undiagnosed conditions that they are shamed for rather than addressed. A young girl like me could have had a similar experience but ended up pregnant, unlike me - I was just lucky. And from the amount of men who have basi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Q for men: Do men very concerned with unintended pregnancy come inside women?I mean, I don't think many women would just say "oops" and forget about it considering pregnancy affects them primarily. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Q for men: Do men very concerned with unintended pregnancy come inside women?For some it is likely that they would miss multiple. I got a false period 3 times in a month once because I had forgotten more than one day in a row. So that additionally is not good for my body. I had the self awareness to know that a daily pill would never be the BC for me. My mindset now is that we always use protection and if the condom breaks there's always Plan B at the pharmacy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Q for men: Do men very concerned with unintended pregnancy come inside women?lol its not the kind of thing that is effective if you don't take it at the exact same time. I would in theory take it right when I woke up. But if I forgot whether or not I took it and went to work, I wouldn't know for sure until I got home. I have spent so much money replacing items I've lost with no memory of putting them down or even picking them up for that matter. Chronic forgetfulness is incredibly frustrating. I used to have AAA just to have them come unlock my car when I locked the keys… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 09:39 PM |
| 6 | Q for men: Do men very concerned with unintended pregnancy come inside women?Hard pass | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 09:32 PM |
| 2 | Q for men: Do men very concerned with unintended pregnancy come inside women?Tell that to people who forget whether they've taken their meds or not because they did but don't remember or think they didn't and end up taking a double dosage. Memory issues are a thing people have. Most of us do have ways to make up for it but it is not 100%. Forgetting to do something is commonly mistaken for not caring, but that is factually wrong and honestly detrimental to so many people that it's such a pervasive belief. You seem very narrow-minded and I can feel the harsh judgement fro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 09:30 PM |
| 3 | Q for men: Do men very concerned with unintended pregnancy come inside women?lol no you absolutely can get pregnant if you forget to take it for one day. It isn't a guarantee but there is a risk there. I went off birth control over 5 years ago so it's not an issue for me anymore but I forgot to take mine every day. It was the ADHD I didn't know I had. Weirdly, dental hygiene is also a common struggle to remember for those with ADHD. That's why there are things like the IUD or the DEPO shot. You don't have to remember to take it at the exact same time every single day. Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 09:25 PM |
| 1 | Q for men: Do men very concerned with unintended pregnancy come inside women?Did you simply not worry about it as much until it happened to someone else? That's how it should be every single time, even doctors suggest two forms of birth control if possible because neither work 100% of the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Many female users here claim that they commonly see "attractive" women dating "less attractive" men. Does makeup explain this?Not being able to tell doesn't make it a lie. It means they should pay more attention to what "the natural look" actually means. There was a time when women were expected to wear makeup to seem professional and "make an effort" Things have largely changed as I don't often see women wearing makeup at work unless it's going to benefit them. My mother and grandmother are very pretty but both still do and have always worn makeup to the grocery store. Your average young woman at the gym/grocery store… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 07:41 PM |
| 1 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysEvery girl doesn't lmao - they still had attractive men throwing themselves at them before social media. I'm not saying you should tell them it is their fault. But you would be a better role model if you also encouraged emotional maturity, positive self talk, and working on them feeling whole, worthy, and valid without women's affection before they seek it out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 06:53 PM |
| 1 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysLmfao an allegation may get someone famous cancelled but it likely won't cause you to lose your job unless someone reports you to higher management. Women rarely go to the police when they are SA'd nevermind for harassment or anything else. The police do not protect women. It takes longer for them to test a rape kit than it does for a woman to get through and entire pregnancy. Colleges discourage women from going to the police and judges more often than not don't charge men when there is an over… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 06:50 PM |
| 2 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysSo if you're 34, why do you assume that women who are as young as these men are looking for the same things you seemed to think they did 14 years ago? Do you assume the next generation of women is exactly like the last? I have a lot of hope for gen z being better than any of us. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 06:38 PM |
| 2 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysIf you stopped putting yourself in tiny boxes to fit into a certain ideal and accepted and loved yourselves in your own this would be far less of a problem but keep on basing your worth on your performance of masculinity for the rest of the boys in this group. It won't make women like someone who is bitter and jaded. Why expect to find someone if you can't even open yourself up and be vulnerable? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 06:29 PM |
| 2 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysFor a person who's into that and wants casual sex, sure. But long term it is absolutely a deal breaker. I am not a woman who cares how tall my partner is. I have dated men my height (I am 5'4"). Most of them were bitter AF and tried to make up for it by telling other men to stay away from me etc and were generally far more aggressive than men who were secure about their height. I never made fun of, commented on, or looked down on them for being short. They weren't tubby either, they worked out. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 06:15 PM |
| 2 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysI mean, look at animals in nature. Male birds are vibrant and colorful, perform beautiful dances to attract the females of the species. If the equivalent of that in humans is complaining that women don't like them because they are ugly and there is Nothing they can do to change how desirable they are then put on a better performance. Your personality and bitterness will not go away once you've reached the goal of having a nice jawline and ripped physique. No one wants someone with a chip on thei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 06:06 PM |
| 6 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guyslol that's not about rejecting men - that is just a fact. Accidental pregnancy is a risk if you are sexually active and potentially a risk of death and serious health complications for those who choose to keep said pregnancy. Women might be turning down men who do not share their views on how to proceed with an unexpected pregnancy or may be concerned if he is insistent on not wearing a condom and therefore turn him down. But no one actually has to tell you why they turned you down. They can jus… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 06:02 PM |
| 5 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysNot worth arguing with men who will cite BS studies done on 400 people and cite them as fact when the results agree with their opinion but refuse to acknowledge actual violence statistics as fact because it's inconvenient to believe that women are reasonable in being wary of strange men. Not to mention the high chance of a man leaving his wife if she becomes seriously ill. Nurses prepare women for this by having them read about how to prepare to be left by their husbands. Women rarely leave thei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 05:57 PM |
| 3 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysStatistically it is not. Men commit the most (a vast majority) of violent crime. Men commit the most violence against other men. Men commit the most violent crime against women. Men are literally the #1 cause of death for women. A woman who is pregnant has her likelihood of being murdered highly increased. Women commit and infinitesimal amount of violent crime in comparison. The numbers are laughable. It is not equal. It is not a genderless crime. There are hard facts that prove otherwise. You j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 05:50 PM |
| 3 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysNo one said women cannot be violent in reaction. Y'all like to remind us how easy it would be overpower us if you wanted Do you feel that same fear from a woman half as strong as you? Because I know that a strange dude could strangle me to death but if I did the same he could most likely easily escape my attempt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 05:46 PM |
| 5 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysI'm not diminishing the severity of being stalked - but women are killed for simply ignoring strange men who want their attention. It's reasonable and far safer for us to kindly decline without saying "it's because you suck" and hoping he doesn't flip his lid. That's also incredibly rude, one can easily say "I'm not interested" it's just that men will literally try to wear you down as if that is attractive or appealing. Or they'll get angry for being politely rejected. Or message you later calli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 05:43 PM |
| 8 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysDo you like being demeaned? Why would you want someone to tell you why they aren't interested? Their preferences have absolutely nothing to do with and are not a judgment of you. Would you rather get rejected and then told it's because you're ugly? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 05:39 PM |
| 5 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysDoes the reason matter? Most people who reject an advance aren't telling them why because it's irrelevant. If I asked someone out and got rejected I wouldn't rather be told that it's because I'm ugly - I'd assume there was a reason and not want to be with someone who wasn't interested in getting to know me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 05:38 PM |
| 6 | The pregnancy risk is certainly true but overblown as an excuse to reject average guysYou don't have to use pregnancy as an excuse. No one even needs to give you a reason. They can simply reject you politely. Then again the risk of pregnancy would be much lower if more men didn't whine about wearing condoms. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 05:36 PM |
| – | 63% of men under 30 describe themselves as single, compared with 34% of women in the same age groupIf men are so butthurt women aren't doing these jobs, why are they creating a hostile work environment that discourages women from doing them? That's like taking away someones baseball glove and then asking why they didn't just catch the ball? Men don't want women working with them in manual labor jobs. A lot of women will open their own business rather than work with men as well. I myself would absolutely prefer to have a woman plumber/roofer/mechanic than hire a man. I trust a woman much more … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 05:28 PM |
| – | Why is sex framed as something a woman “gives” and a man “takes”?We spend our entire lives observing the behavior of men who approach us and who are around us. Why do you think women are so dim-witted that we can't tell when someone is an asshole? We aren't just wishing on a star that the men we choose are good guys. We do hope that the behavior they exhibit from the beginning continues, but the men we spend time with don't start off treating us badly. We do pick up queues however of what to stay away from in terms of partner. Abusive men are not up front wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 05:05 PM |
| – | Why is sex framed as something a woman “gives” and a man “takes”?Yeah wtf does this even mean. I was fully unaware people were hyper analyzing this as if it's a business venture. All of this is strictly reddit and social media theory unless you refer to men who are still listening to advice from books like "The Game" which was written by a man who looked up to a psychopath and then tried very much to back pedal his involvement later on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 04:52 PM |
| – | Why is sex framed as something a woman “gives” and a man “takes”?Sex is not usually awesome until you've had it enough with the same person to learn what each other likes and what will get them to the point of orgasm. We aren't "filtering" for good sex first and foremost. We filter for chemistry, yes, but sex between any two people can be improved over time - this is not a difficult concept to grasp. Familiarity will lead to better sex. Women have sex with men they find attractive, who treat them with decency. Unless your idea of a filter is to not take any m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 04:41 PM |
| – | Why is sex framed as something a woman “gives” and a man “takes”?That's not true lmao. It is illegal in most places. Being an escort is legal because technically speaking, they are not directly getting paid for sex. Being a sugar baby is legal because it is not a job, it is an agreement between two people - and much of the time not sleeping with the people they are spending time with. A lot of lonely old men want companionship, someone to talk to, and to not feel alone. So they'll pay someone rent or give them a monthly allowance to agree to spend a certain a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 04:27 PM |
| – | Why is sex framed as something a woman “gives” and a man “takes”?Are you willing to pay for it? Or is that something you are misunderstanding as paying for dinner. If you went out with someone who isn't a sex worker and she said she'd sleep with you if you pay her (paying for dinner doesn't count) - would you pay her and be happy with that situation? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 04:24 PM |
| – | Why is sex framed as something a woman “gives” and a man “takes”?Unless you're talking about paying sex workers that is inaccurate. If you want a transactional relationship then hire someone to do the labor of sleeping with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 04:22 PM |
| – | Why is sex framed as something a woman “gives” and a man “takes”?It shouldn't be. It's very weird to me that some men think women are giving them something when we want to have sex with them. We aren't giving them our bodies, because our bodies belong to us. We are willingly engaging in a consensual shared experience. Men aren't taking anything from us by having sex with us either, though if they see sex as transactional like that chances are lower they'll actually give us an orgasm. I understand that some people are into kinky things like Dom/Sub relationshi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 04:20 PM |
| – | Why is sex framed as something a woman “gives” and a man “takes”?That didn't answer the question though - if two people are having sex she isn't giving sex to him. They are sharing the act of sex - which requires two people to participate and share the experience. I can give someone an apple and he can eat it - but I am not sharing that experience. The inference that women give me sex infers that it is not something women do because they enjoy it, it is done out of obligation and done "to them" rather than "with" them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 04:13 PM |
| 3 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?Eh, every woman who's responded to something like this disagrees when men tell us what "women are generally long for" so the evidence says that y'all just want us somehow to be different, or ugly, or not your average woman so that it fits some ridiculous statement like "women don't like dad bods" or "women only want you if you're jacked" Convenient that it's easier to correct us on how women actually think - hint, women talk to each other about what we like, in large groups. We're not bragging a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 03:17 AM |
| 0 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.This is an honest question - if you were suddenly being called a boy almost strictly and people stopped referring to you as a man, would you notice? I don't mean just by women, I mean by everyone. To the extent you rarely were referred to using the word "man". Would that bother you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 03:08 AM |
| 3 | How do you solve the "The Fatherless Crisis"?I'd argue that getting the divorce is taking responsibility for their bad decision and leaving men they don't want to be with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 02:18 AM |
| 9 | How do you solve the "The Fatherless Crisis"?How does getting divorced require you to also divorce from your kids? What am I missing here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/02/23 02:07 AM |
| 0 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.Dating children is very weird and I'd suggest not but that's up to you and I guess, the law, to figure out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 10:15 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.Women and men all find certain things attractive that and have celebrities that turn them on. I think Henry Cavill is gorgeous, but that is not the standard I hold men to when looking for a partner, nor is any woman I know with someone who looks like a super model. Just like I know men who think Mila Kunis is 🔥🔥🔥 but love and are attracted to a wife that is very pretty but looks nothing like Mila. Dating preferences and what people find attractive are not the same thing and most are not holding … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 09:51 PM |
| -1 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.No, you have studied based on people using OLD hookup apps that don't reflect reality. Idk how old you are. And maybe that is why I can see outside of that perspective but when you actually meet people in person, they aren't judging you from a picture and bio first. Part of it IME is that men on dating apps have horrid profiles, usually no bios, low quality photos at bad angles etc. It's much more difficult to meet people and their standards OLD nevermind the amount of men whose bios are more th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 09:44 PM |
| 3 | How do you solve the "The Fatherless Crisis"?You'll have to ask the absent fathers, they chose to leave. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 09:15 PM |
| 4 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?It absolutely is and they just want us to agree that we are subhuman by insisting female is an acceptable way to describe women but will keep on calling themselves men even though they clearly need a few better examples of manhood to stop acting like immature little boys who refuse to pronounce a word the correct way because "Who cares how I say it? It's what I intended to mean that matters." I'd love to teach a class in the importance of impact of intent in communication | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 09:14 PM |
| 4 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?One is purposefully dehumanizing because it can be used to describe any mammal or egg laying creature. Y'all wouldn't be so pressed about using the correct word - which is woman - if you didn't at least a little bit - feel like it gives you an advantage. Women do it as well, and I cringe every damn time. I should just start calling men semen squirters at this point. Y'all are little boys | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 09:11 PM |
| 3 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?No, mother doesn't infer a marriage status. Just that women and men cannot have a genuine discussion about these things if one is insisting that the word they are using is being used to describe a certain age, size, attractiveness, marital status and the other (aka women) are using it in its general term - that asking women to understand that implicitly is ridiculous. Additionally, why would I assume age when this sub has posts from people of varying ages? Should I assume any man, even on 50+ wh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 09:09 PM |
| 0 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.I may have responded to you instead of someone else. I just really think men need to stop and think about if they can say how most women feel when they only know a teeny tiny portion of women. Maybe you just need to get out more. Thing is, women know that many (notice I did not say most) men will go for any attractive woman regardless of their personality - but most of us don't actually want someone who doesn't care about our personality. We would like someone more discerning rather than worry a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 09:02 PM |
| 2 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.Shhhhh someone's just gonna chime in that you're the exception to the rule. Even though we both know that isn't true. My friends complain to me about men being creepy at the gym fairly often. I work out in nature for that reason lmao. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 08:54 PM |
| 3 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.I'd argue that I speak to more women than any man on this sub and therefore have a much better grasp on that than you would. You might as well have said "You're not like other girls" Never heard a woman say "Yeah he's emotionally abusive but he's hot so long term I don't see that being a problem at all. He'd be a great dad!" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 08:50 PM |
| 1 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?So you went right to the uncommonly used definition rather than the numerous examples of how the word "female" is primarily used? That's incredibly convenient for you. I looked at the same definition. You put effort into dismissing the primary definition of a commonly used adjective. You know, the one that pops up on the screen immediately? You are so smart! I bet you're gonna be a very smart male one day! Your female must be so proud! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 08:48 PM |
| 2 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.You came here with baseless assumptions that you're touting as fact. I'm simply responding in kind. You get what you give. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 08:39 PM |
| 7 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?Are you comparing retirement to motherhood? There are plenty of hot single moms out there in the dating market. I'd say that speaking to older women with experience would actually be beneficial if you want to know how to hold onto a woman long term, but that doesn't seem like the goal here so just keep being yourself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 08:35 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.Do you know what gaslighting even means? You're the one doing it my dude | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 08:34 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.It really isn't. All the hottest men either add to or take away from their level of attractiveness by showing us their personality. I have had some of the absolute dullest times with men I found highly attractive until I spend more than 30 minutes with them 1 on 1 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 08:33 PM |
| 2 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.And yours was? Half of you are so dismissive - it's a shock women would be disinterested in being in your presence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 08:30 PM |
| -2 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.Keep calling grown women girls if you want but that word specifically describes children who are female. You've got much bigger issues than being attractive. You also need to have desirable personality traits Similar values Similar goals in life long term The ability to listen without telling a woman what she actually thinks And generally, her friends need to like you Women all have different subjective definitions of what they find desirable aesthetically - men are the ones pushing for this "pe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 08:26 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.Cool, be a gym bro and then come back here and complain when women still aren't interested because you're boring. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 08:12 PM |
| 2 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?I don't even know how to respond to this when every definition of female I found is an adjective An adjective is used to describe a noun or pronoun. Female is a word you could use to describe literally any creature that lays eggs or gives birth and is able to gestate. Otherwise you could be talking about the female end of a charger adapter, a dog, a cat, a ski instructor, a president, a line cook, a student. Would you really rather state something objectively untrue because you want it to be cor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 08:09 PM |
| 5 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.I was giving no such advice lol. It's just very weird how often men tell women what women want as if we somehow asked you what our opinions are or what we find attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 07:52 PM |
| 1 | When it comes to dating, asking for people's opinion will get you nowhere. You need to pay attention to what people DO.It's absolutely more nuanced. Most men aren't jacked, most men who are average can find a girlfriend. The instance that it is not nuanced is what is stopping people from finding long term partners | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?I'd give them the same treatment but many of them don't actually mind being called male and being reduced to their reproductive biology that could easily be mistaken for a cat or a mongoose | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 07:29 PM |
| 5 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?According to them we shouldn't even be on our radar lmao because it's all about what they find valid and how they define, I guess, anything | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 07:18 PM |
| 4 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?Female is an adjective, not a noun. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 07:16 PM |
| 34 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?As a woman, when I say the word women, I am including all women. Young, old, fat, skinny, has kids or doesn't trans/cis. All women. I may relate to women my age but I am not thinking specifically of women my age as I have learned a lot from older women and use that knowledge to make the decisions I do. I also think about younger women who I want to protect from the things I now know that I didn't until I grew older. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 06:31 PM |
| 15 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?Maybe they should be more specific or get a reality check and realize they are the only weird subset of people that think this way. I wonder what word the use to describe the gender of their older, married, mother who birthed them. Is she also a subhuman who doesn't get the title of "woman" in their eyes? No way any woman is going to see the word women and assume they mean "Only the women I find a attractive" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 06:26 PM |
| 1 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?What will we call all the [insert gender here] that don't fit our specific definition of a man? 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 06:19 PM |
| 13 | Do male and female PPD users use the word "women" differently?Women - an objectively easy definition so it's weirdly specific to use it to only describe young, attractive, single women without kids. How would you describe a not relatively young, unattractive woman with kids? Is she a different gender? This is asinine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Is It Ever OK To Romantically Approach A Woman On An Online VideogameI don't usually play male characters but I never use voice chat. Had enough experiences met with hostility from boys and men for simply having a woman's voice that it wasn't worth it, sadly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 04:55 PM |
| 3 | Is It Ever OK To Romantically Approach A Woman On An Online VideogameI don't necessarily see a problem with it as a woman - as long as you don't respond to rejection with verbal abusive language or send unwanted pictures of your genitals lol. That being said, as a woman, I personally would ignore 99% of the messages sent to me by people I didn't know or didn't play games with regularly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 04:52 PM |
| 4 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upWell you went through the effort of calling me ugly - most people don't make the effort unless they want their words to illicit a negative response. I assumed there were adults on this subreddit and not children who resorted to something so immature. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 12:22 PM |
| 1 | Do older women have less value in the dating market than younger ones ?Are you saying there is a visible difference between the appearance of a 20yo and a 22yo? That would be impressive but also objectively not possible lmao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 03:04 AM |
| 1 | Do older women have less value in the dating market than younger ones ?Because the fact that they are hotter does not change the fact that it's grooming behavior to want a young, inexperienced barely out of high school girl who is basically a child. It's understandable that you wouldn't see the problem as older men probably didn't attempt to groom you at a young age. I'd go as far as to say some men think 20yo women are hotter than 25yo women only once they find out their age, and wouldn't know by looking. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upI really don't see how that is relevant to proving my point but you've proven it further so thank you 🙏 I really appreciate the A+ effort to hurt my feelings | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/02/23 02:57 AM |
| 1 | Why do some people claim the reason theyre single is because of their looksIt's called - get a personality and stop using the excuse that your average - joe looks are holding you back. Average looking largely have no issue getting women when they are likeable. If you aren't likeable, it doesn't matter that you're attractive. Not long term, anyway. Though someone might fuck you and ghost because they know you aren't bf material | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 10:31 PM |
| 0 | Why do some people claim the reason theyre single is because of their looksMen have literally been doing that forever lmao. I've met fat men who won't even entertain the idea of dating someone who is also fat. You can call it a preference but when women don't give the average-looking guy a chance it's somehow inherently vapid when most men want a fucking supermodel regardless of how they look. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 09:51 PM |
| 1 | Why do some people claim the reason theyre single is because of their looks"it's my face bones" 😂😂😂😂 that's a good one | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Why do some people claim the reason theyre single is because of their looksBecause it's a convenient cop-out when the issue is much deeper and more difficult to solve. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 09:48 PM |
| 8 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upWeird to think that men wouldn't want to be the kind of man they would want any daughters or future daughters to seek out as adults - it's a clear double standard. Men will tell us that all men are just sex-deprived animals that can't be trusted to actually care and then in the same breath say "wait, wait, I'm a good guy. Why would you not inherently trust me?" I have a wonderful, sensitive, caring father who spent years dedicating himself to learning effective communication within a relationshi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 09:46 PM |
| 7 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upYeah. And the good guys don't walk around telling people they are good guys. That's a giant red flag. Or they pretend we're living in a dream world where women aren't providing for themselves. Or the problem is that women are providing for themselves and by doing so taken away men's purpose in life - for women to need them. It's very clear that a lot of men are floundering over what their purpose in life can be now that having a stable income, place to live, and a decent car doesn't get them a w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 09:39 PM |
| 7 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upYep. I am very thankful to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't internalize all this toxic BS. I've even seen posts elsewhere from women who were perfectly happy with their caring and considerate partner until they started drinking the Tate Kool-Aid. So it's not only single lonely men who are ruining it for themselves, it's the ones in functioning relationships who suddenly want a wife that is their maid, cook, and childcare. I cannot imagine how jarring the sudden disrespect would be i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 09:37 PM |
| 1 | Is status that powerful in attraction?lol same. Pete Davidson IMO seems like a better choice for Kim lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 09:28 PM |
| 2 | Is status that powerful in attraction?What do you mean by powerful and aggressive? Aggressive in what way? What is your definition of powerful? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 08:42 PM |
| 1 | Is status that powerful in attraction?I'm sorry what??? Most of those women are raising kids while their husbands spend most of the year on the road for work - or going to the games with them. Sports stars are a very small, very specific percentage of the population and not something one would reasonably think mirrors the lives of regularly people who don't live in the spotlight | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 08:39 PM |
| 0 | Is status that powerful in attraction?They are not missing your point. They asked for reasonable clarification which you refuse to give for some reason. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 08:38 PM |
| 2 | Is status that powerful in attraction?Idk about you but I've been waiting for Kanye to notice me for years. I think it'll happen. Very realistic | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 08:37 PM |
| 3 | Is status that powerful in attraction?No, they gave realistic examples. Celebrities are not living the same lifestyle your average person is. Most people date those who are in the same socio-economic class. There is no high status job that is in itself attractive without good personality traits behind it. What motivation would a person have to fuck a rich dude they have no interest in ever seeing even one time? Most of us don't have the dedication to fake it until he dies and leaves us his money. Do you have married friends and fami… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 08:36 PM |
| 3 | Is status that powerful in attraction?Can you give an example of status for someone who isn't Kanye or a highly wealthy sports star? This is not the average experience. Kim K is a celebrity, I'm sure she gets harassed by your average Joe paparazzi regularly. It makes sense that she at one point chose someone that she sees around - and your average middle class dude can't just pick up and leave his job to go to France for the week lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 08:31 PM |
| 1 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?Side note: who cares who's on the cover of vogue? Magazines have been toxic in conditioning women for decades, why would you want to do the same to men? People love dad bods. If that's not body positive idk what is. With as much body positive posts about fat women, there are just as many who ridicule those women. Probably more, actually. The idea is that healthy doesn't look the same on every body. That doesn't mean being horribly obese is healthy - but hating yourself for being horribly obese c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?Yeah, but a lot of people need more than just a healthy lifestyle. A lot of them need therapy and don't see a benefit. My little brother is still pretty young, but children soak up the things parents say. His father would reprimand him and ask "Why are you acting like a girl?" Repeatedly when he was upset/crying/etc. It's not difficult to believe that growing up in a household like that would cause one to internalize feelings to the degree that they have to come out eventually & and in unhealthy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 07:51 PM |
| 0 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?I agree with you that internal and external things are intertwined. But I also think that knowing you are internalizing rejection can help a person see how that is causing them to treat others/expect to be treated by others. If you're expecting the worst, you aren't putting your best foot forward. We all need validation, but we also have to validate our own feelings, putting the lion's share of that on your partner is not healthy and will eventually lead to resentment. I think in a partnership i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 07:40 PM |
| -1 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?That's because we don't want guys to be NICE. We want men who are kind and considerate. The "nice guys finish last trope is true" - anyone can be nice as a means to an end. I'm nice to people I don't like all the time - I'm not expecting them to give me a prize for that. And that is not even close to enough to bring someone satisfaction in a relationship. Neither is all the other material goods to named. We all need financial stability, somewhere to live, and a job. But those are personality tra… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?The gender binary and so many people insisting that men and women don't all have feminine and masculine traits is such a problem. They'll try and make you believe a woman crying is somehow more emotional than smashing things with their fists, because that's manly, not an emotional violent outburst they could talk through if they put the effort in. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:59 PM |
| 1 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?Well according to this dude the problem is not emotional men not being able to regulate their emotions or work through them - women should see nothing wrong with their partners punching the walls when they get angry. It's normal! And healthy! And not a reason to be concerned at all.... 🙄 /s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:56 PM |
| 5 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?Stop! You're being too rational. Men are animals who only want sex and a woman to keep the house clean, kids taken care of, and food on the table. (While working full time and also having hobbies and being interesting and always being ready to fuck) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:49 PM |
| -1 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?Why does the attractiveness of their wife matter to you? If he's happy and fulfilled I don't see how this would matter. And what mentality? Should women adopt healthy masculinity? Last I heard men prefer feminine women. Women aren't trying to fix men (well, the ones who are looking for a healthy relationship aren't) - you've gotta work on yourself for your own well being. It just seems like men are motivated to work on themselves to earn the attention of women rather than to instill self-love an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?Would you care to address the suicide rate in men? Or is that something society should write off as normal because "men don't feel things" so hard they kill themselves successfully at a much higher rate. Women attempt suicide as often, for the record - men just choose more effective/violent methods | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:38 PM |
| 1 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?I'm just trying to find the connection between damaging your own walls because you can't handle your feelings and women being bad drivers. Like, what? At least I'm not smashing my own Xbox because someone pissed me off. Aside considering the fact that punching a wall is a good indicator that it won't always be the wall they'll be punching | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?lol you know that insurance rates for men are higher because they cause more fatal accidents and drive recklessly exponentially more than women, don't you? Insurance companies use a lot of data to come up with those numbers. Women are doing far less damage to their vehicles and others. We might hop a curb but I'm not flipping my vehicle going 110 on the highway in traffic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:33 PM |
| 8 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upWomen definitely have more matches, but it's not because they swipe right on every dude, it's because so many men swipe right on every woman. Our chances of getting a match are much higher due to the volume of men trying to match with any woman which is probably adding to why those men aren't getting matches. Idk how many men told me "I didn't read your bio" when I was on tinder. I also had many who I swiped left on find me on social media to DM me there and ask me to forgive them "if it seems c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:30 PM |
| 3 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upI had similar experiences as a woman tbh. It wasn't for lack of effort - I just rarely met someone who I wanted to actually meet in person. It is much more difficult to form a connection via OLD in general and I think the convenience of it give some men the idea that they can try the same offensive pickup line on every woman until one actually likes it. I used to watch my male friends right swipe on literally every match - so fast they didn't read a profile or have time to look at the women's fa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:23 PM |
| 3 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?I mean, if you don't have empathy you shouldn't even be dating. You can learn to act in an empathetic way - and it is possible to build empathy. Why would anyone want a partner that doesn't even reg to understand their feelings? I didn't say men should wallow in their feelings, I suggested that if you don't work through and process negative feelings you don't just get over it and will eventually feel them when your body forces you too - but it will come out as anger or resentment. Men like to sa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:02 PM |
| 9 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upI also think a lot of women aren't putting a lot of stock in nor are they invested in meeting someone on a dating app. Most are probably just hoping they meet someone they vibe with who doesn't ruin a good Convo by asking for nudes or talking about how good he is in bed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 05:54 PM |
| 6 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upI ignore most of my message requests, but I also am clearly not single so it's less of an issue except for a select few that don't care about that. My point is: simply ignoring the messages one gets now - is not going to change the way a woman feels based on experiences she has had for her entire life - it is constant and the catcalling from old men starts in middle school and ends before you finish high school. That is more than enough to worry about a strangers intent. There are very valid rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 05:51 PM |
| 0 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upYeah, because it benefits the business. If men didn't show up en masse to places women frequented, we wouldn't get in for free. I've never gotten into a place like that for free, personally, as usually there is a limited amount of time that "ladies get in for free" But I also have been to a club once, so not really an issue for me. Too many strangers touching me as if I were okay with that and the whole experience made me feel gross. If I went to a club now I'd probably get escorted out for assa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 05:46 PM |
| 11 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upIt is (sadly) a means to stay alive. I would love to not immediately feel at risk when a strange man approaches me. Whereas I will approach a strange woman, or have one approach me to help carry something etc without fear - because I haven't had any memorably scary experiences in those scenarios Also worth considering that it is our parents and fathers who are the first to tell us to be skeptical of any man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 05:18 PM |
| 3 | Men who genuinely are fans of Andrew tate can I ask u why?I have seen a decent amount of men putting out content that encourages healthy masculinity and personal growth with an emphasis on empathy and the amount of angry men in the comments is astounding. Not as many angry comments as women so say similar things, but still - it's a lot. The ones who don't want to hear it just won't listen. There is nothing wrong with masculinity - but being masculine doesn't have to mean suppressing your emotions to the degree you ignore them. I think a lot of men just… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 05:10 PM |
| 13 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upL O L you still have to physically press the ignore button on DMs most of the time. It's not that it's overwhelming, it's that it's so pervasive that it makes strange men mostly undesirable because we just want to be left alone. I really don't see how that is a difficult concept to grasp. Dudes who slide into DMs aren't bots. They are creepy thirsty dudes who get off on making women uncomfortable. Bots are mainly an issue men deal with. It does happen occasionally but it happens to my partner ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 05:02 PM |
| 7 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upYeah, it's just wild to me how many men are offended at women who put their safety at highest priority or think "I'm not gonna hurt you" is somehow... Comforting coming from a stranger | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 04:51 PM |
| 13 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upIt is not a little bit of spam, over a lifetime it is enough to give you a distaste for anyone who slides into your DMS and an inherent resistance to talking to strange men because of the amount of harassment we have to deal with. Harassment is unwanted attention. Unwanted attention is not a benefit - it's fucking awful. I'd rather be lonely than be afraid the next man I talk to will be another one of those spam callers. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 04:40 PM |
| 4 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upUnless you are a woman you really have no basis to correct us on our own experiences + if even 1 woman has been turned down for sex - you're objectively wrong. And I have sources - hi, it's me, I'm the source. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 04:34 PM |
| 16 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upAre you suggesting women should abandon their preferences and fuck anything that moves? Maybe those men should just stop humiliating themselves for women they don't like. I'm sure those women who like them would be deeply hurt to hear the person they slept with thinks they are the worst of women. It says much more about men than it does women tbh. If you want better, don't sleep with everyone who'll give you a chance? I know - that advice is out there but it could even lead to a fulfilling relat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 04:32 PM |
| 12 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upYou know that women get in for free because the business knows that men will show up and spend more on the women, right? It's not for us it's to make the club more profitable by taking advantage of the fact that men want to be where women are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 04:29 PM |
| 10 | Dating for a women is like shopping on Amazon where as a mans experience resembles building a niche small bussiness from the ground upThis was a whole ass thesis. I don't disagree with all of it but I think it's entirely unrealistic if you're looking at it from the point of view of women and men who aren't using OLD. OLD is not an accurate representation of how people act when they meet people in person, or through mutual friends/acquaintances. Most of the married couples I know met through mutual friends - most of my partners have been mutual friends with someone I already know. Women are obviously going to be more discerning… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 04:27 PM |
| 1 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV shows😂 I am not laughing at you - the ADHD bit is relatable. I'm on meds now, and I noticed that my energy levels are higher and I'm no longer using sex as a dopamine fix. Which is confusing because like, I still obviously want to have sex but it's not the dire need I had before and I can actually enjoy it more now without dissociation. It's still good, I'm just not using it as a coping mechanism and I think that's probably healthier. Desire to masturbate is also so much lower which is honestly aweso… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 03:55 PM |
| 1 | Question for all: If you were born as the opposite sex, what would be the advantages and disadvantages for you?I would have less relationships - which I don't see as a negative. I'd have been encouraged to think more about career upward mobility - probably would have gotten into a manual labor job as I have worked manual labor, but in the industries that hire mostly women (that pay garbage) I would have far more financial stability, would have been diagnosed with ADHD at a very early age most likely, so I'd have struggled less and learned how to compensate for the symptoms at like 10 rather than 28 years… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV showsHate to break it to you but the fact that so many are not givers can ruin sex for women later on and make it very difficult to be vulnerable enough to express what they like in bed even with men who are coachable in that way. I, personally, had to unlearn a lot when being physical with guys who did prioritize my pleasure due to the fact that enough of them in the past were obviously offended that I'd be so hold as to tell them their techniques weren't working and asking if they'd pleasure me dif… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 02:24 PM |
| 1 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV showslolol if someone tells a man that they are "too nice" they are afraid of that man and want to let him down easy so they can avoid any potential violent ramifications. Women want a KIND man. Anyone can be nice to try to score sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 01:25 PM |
| 1 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV showsI was not suggesting that women watch a whole lot of PIV sex lol but sure - I've heard from my straight friends that they prefer lesbian porn and porn made by a specific production company because the women seem to enjoy the sex for the pleasure they are being given rather than the service they are giving to a man in hetero porn. My point was that it's harmful for young people - as someone who discovered porn early - I deeply regret watching it at all for personal and moral reasons. I'd have had… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 01:21 PM |
| 1 | men should never help women with anything unless they clearly verbally request itThis is excellent advice 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 07:28 AM |
| 6 | men should never help women with anything unless they clearly verbally request itFR why would a stranger assume you were coming over for an innocent reason if you don't ask if they need assistance when it seems like they do. I'm imagining someone walking to a woman's car to help her put her groceries in the truck of her car and being offended when she tells him to leave her alone and that he scared the shit out of her because he didn't communicate his intent. It's okay for us to say "No, thank you" so you can move on and not be the savior no one wanted | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 07:25 AM |
| 7 | men should never help women with anything unless they clearly verbally request itAnd if she's gagged and clearly being kidnapped and you have every opportunity to intervene, you wouldn't simply because she didn't ask? This mindset explains why the only people who usually come to the assistance of women when men are harassing them is other women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 07:21 AM |
| 1 | A deal with the DevilThis is a shit deal tbh - beauty doesn't bring happiness, loving yourself does. Also hard pass, I would like a lot less interested attention - this would be a nightmare. Counter offer: You just live the rest of your life with intent and DJ what you can continue to learn, grow, and change rather than place such a high value on something temporary. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 07:16 AM |
| 5 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV showsI wear very specifically talking about you but I'll generalize my statement if you want Men who see women and believe they go for the asshole, are usually the asshole. Additionally, y'all are weirdly obsessed and probably gay for the dude you insist women want. It's a common theme and it seems like all of you want to be the asshole who gets laid rather than a kind man who has an emotionally and physically fulfilling relationship. It's baffling that you've internalized the idea that women like be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 07:10 AM |
| 4 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV showsMuch of what I'm talking about are what men say - not the men I have chosen to sleep with. Sometimes you have to get him to tell on himself to be sure. I was referring to the way those kinks are portrayed. Yes, women do have them as well - but porn that is made to appeal to women is very different. Most porn is viewed through the male gaze - look at POV style, I've never seen a page full of the woman's POV unless it's from a production company that caters to that. Like most things, there is no e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 07:00 AM |
| 7 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV showsActually, no. People like that are deeply boring. Nothing comes close to causing vaginal dryness faster than a dude who thinks he knows women better than they know themselves. But you seem like you really like the bad boys so maybe I'll just take your word for it. I'm sure a disinterested, sexy, dismissive man just gets your mouth ready for insertion | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 06:49 AM |
| 9 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV showsLearn to read multiple paragraphs without losing focus 👅 The post wasn't succinct - why should I be? I'm just matching the energy of this post comparing crab apples to bombs | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 05:57 AM |
| 5 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV shows😂😂😂 All you have to do is read the numerous posts and comments on this sub stating that looks matter more than anything else - almost always men are the ones who are insistent on this while women clearly express wanting someone who cares about them as a person above all else. A hot husband would be cool - but not if he's a boring misogynistic asshole. No one actually wants to date someone who makes it clear they don't like you and have no consideration for your feelings. You really should read a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 05:36 AM |
| 12 | Women complain that men are too influenced by porn, but women are more influenced by romance novels/TV showsHave you read a romance novel...? Yeah, there are unrealistic things, but generally speaking the main male character is portrayed as misunderstood rather than evil or a bad boy. If anything, it's usually that she starts off liking one man - who she thinks is considerate, transparent, and trustworthy but he ends up being the secret baddy who was manipulating her the whole time. And she goes for the one who treats her well and isn't afraid to do so while acknowledging his own flaws. Couples in rom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/02/23 05:29 AM |
| 2 | "If a guy likes masculine girls, he's gay." How often is that accusation true?Literally never. If she's a woman and he identifies as straight it can literally never be gay. Don't let asshats tell you different | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 11:03 PM |
| 3 | Ladies what do you think of Andrew Tate?Out of curiosity - do you actually like women? Think about your answer and if it's a "yes" or a list of things you like women to do with the express purpose of serving you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 10:06 PM |
| 3 | Ladies what do you think of Andrew Tate?Yeah, you are absolutely vocal about your beliefs. I personally think we should treat people with the same basic respect and consideration without making a whole system of how men and women should be treated. You don't have to believe it's abuse for it to be true. Many horrific things have been done by people who believe their actions are appropriate and/or righteous. Must be nice lacking self awareness and an inability to see how harmful Tate fans are to the young people who follow his problema… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Do older women have less value in the dating market than younger ones ?Like bro you wrote a novel saying that men prefer inexperienced women because they are insecure about being with women who have more experience because the bar is set too high if they've had good sexual experiences with other people. That's just telling on yourself, but good for you 👍. You've written a novel that proves my point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 09:56 PM |
| 0 | Do older women have less value in the dating market than younger ones ?I stopped reading when you started comparing women who are older to miles on a car. If you see women as comparable to the ownership and mileage on a car - you should talk to a therapist and unpack why you think that is valid at all. I did read the last about the cat, however. Super glad I only date men who aren't allergic to cats. Also only men who have sisters. It's hilarious that you said "try something new" and cited that the younger woman was willing to try anal. I was suggesting things that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 09:48 PM |
| 3 | Ladies what do you think of Andrew Tate?Lmfao go touch Grass. I hope you say this shit out loud - women appreciate when the red flags are waved in our faces immediately. It saves us a lot of trouble. I'm gonna assume that since you've internalized Tate's ego, you are an abuser who sees his actions as righteousness and not abject manipulation. If men were treated the way Tate says women should be treated - no one would agree that was okay. Weird that men like you want women to submit to weak-minded Andrew Tate cult members | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 09:45 PM |
| 0 | Do older women have less value in the dating market than younger ones ?I asked a question - do you care to answer it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Ladies what do you think of Andrew Tate?I'm only masculine if you consider traits such as having a mind of my own, a specific set of values I won't compromise on, and a sense of agency masculine. Tate abuses women knowingly and should rot in prison like the absolute turd that he is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 09:34 PM |
| 2 | Ladies what do you think of Andrew Tate?You're drinking the Kool-Aid bro. I can tell because you like to correct women about how they've clearly said they feel lmao. He is a predator who clearly says that women are stupid, easily manipulated, and meant to be controlled. Control is not protection, unless you consider the "protection" the mafia offers to be genuine protection. Essentially, "serve me so that I can protect you from the bodily harm I'll provide if you don't" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 09:32 PM |
| 4 | Do older women have less value in the dating market than younger ones ?What do you think women do for random male attention? We are absolutely socialized to buy more health and beauty products - but I'm not moisturizing because I want men to notice. I moisturize because it's healthy and I don't want to have sandpaper skin like men I've dated who think moisturizing and letting soap run down their ass cheeks is equivalent to actually washing their asshole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 09:28 PM |
| 4 | Do older women have less value in the dating market than younger ones ?Only the ones participating in the survey. IRL you could be 32 and most men would assume you're in your early/mid 20s. They like women who haven't had bad experiences with men yet, and don't want women who have matured because they know they are the kind of man those women are staying far, far away from. With age comes wisdom (also much higher standards for a potential partner) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 09:22 PM |
| 8 | Do older women have less value in the dating market than younger ones ?I once had an old man ask me when I was going back to school. I was 26 and told him so, and he said he was disappointed that I wasn't 17. Absolutely horrifying thing to say out loud. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 09:17 PM |
| -1 | Do older women have less value in the dating market than younger ones ?lol - Men who find a 20yo more desirable than a 22yo (they'd only know their age on OLD apps) are looking for naive women they can manipulate. The older you get, the more worldly and learned. You gain wisdom and can see the 🚩🚩🚩 far earlier at 30yo than at 20. That's what they want. To groom young women or to date them without the requirement of putting in the amount of effort they would have to with a woman 25+ who's brain is fully developed | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 09:16 PM |
| 1 | Society tells men to step up and be better but then actively prevents them from doing so.You are admitting in this response that many women have dated short/fat guys. After saying women don't like short men. Do you think the women who date short men choose them out of a lack of interest? Women, like anyone - date people because they like them and enjoy their company. This is an entirely contradictory statement lmfao - you could also say women don't like being lit on fire - and follow it up by saying women often light themselves on fire. Make it make sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Society tells men to step up and be better but then actively prevents them from doing so.Lmfao you're living in a weird parallel universe and talking to someone who has dated tall, short, skinny, fat, blond, and brunette men. Short guys often are assholes because of the weird short fit "no one likes me" chip on their shoulder. I briefly dated a dude my height and dumped him because he was always trying to prove something - sad too, because the sex was great. A man married to a big woman they are attracted to would disagree. We all have preferences. Some people actually prefer someth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 09:07 PM |
| 2 | Society tells men to step up and be better but then actively prevents them from doing so.Good looks only last so long. Gravity will eventually get to all of us, so if beauty is all you're looking for, it's hard to imagine that relationship lasting a lifetime. I want to grow old with someone who thinks my mind is as precious and beautiful as my body - not someone who is ready to leave me if it takes time to lose baby weight or I put on a couple pounds. Desire starts in the mind. If you aren't with someone intellectually stimulating or they show they simply don't care about your opini… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 06:32 PM |
| 1 | Society tells men to step up and be better but then actively prevents them from doing so.I suppose that depends how you measure success. If you're speaking strictly financially and having a stable income/place to live - then yeah I guess having high social status and being rich matters. But without many other qualities that you'd need for a successful relationship to be maintained - that doesn't really mean anything. Money isn't going to keep a woman warm, make her feel safe and loved, wash the sheets and towels they both use an equal amount, or parent their children. I know plenty … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 06:24 PM |
| 3 | What does agreeable mean to you?Yeah, it's a balance for sure. I think everyone deserves basic respect and courtesy, but there's a line - and for some people, they want a partner that is polite to fault and think it's disrespectful to bring up issues/grievances simply because they are offended you'd feel secure enough to call them on it. I also haven't been on OLD apps in a very long time except sporadically and it was a minefield of 🚩🚩🚩- I highly prefer meeting people in person and always have. None of my more successful long… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 06:17 PM |
| 1 | There Would Be Less Angry Men If Equality Was ReintroducedTLDR it seems like many men make a hobby out of telling women that they're actually looking for the things MEN see as high value - and demanding we admit their right because they've spent so long trying to prove to themselves its lack of material goods/an ugly car or lack of wealth that isn't getting them dates. We're tired of it tbh. I've seen many men talk at length about what it means to be a "high value male" or a "high value female", which in and of itself reduces us to our biological sex a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 04:56 PM |
| 6 | What does agreeable mean to you?Nah this is some BS you wanna tell yourself. Obviously in a couple each person excels at different things, which is the point. To grow and learn from each other. Anything less and I may as well look for a sugar daddy who wants to be my "mentor" and teach me how the world works. Do you get off telling women that they are wrong when they say what they're looking for? That's not gonna get you anywhere in person. Everyone looks for qualities they don't have in a partnership, as well as shared values… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 02:55 PM |
| 3 | How are relationships NOT transactionals if most women have "REACTIVE" libidos?Not to mention men also experience responsive desire - they probably don't talk about it very much with other men since it's uncommon and seen as a feminine quality to have. Just like there are women who constantly want sex and don't need to be coaxed into getting in the mood. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 02:41 PM |
| 2 | How are relationships NOT transactionals if most women have "REACTIVE" libidos?It's generally referred to as responsive desire. It is not transactional if the person dating them uses this knowledge to understand that she won't be interested in sex unless you stimulate her brain, flirt, prioritize foreplay etc. That's not transactional, it just means putting in the effort to make sure she also enjoys sex - because those with responsive desire don't spontaneously crave dick. It's simply a difference in how easily one can get in the mood. So if you aren't putting effort into … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 02:35 PM |
| 2 | What does agreeable mean to you?I am absolutely not looking for someone more confident than me, I don't care how big their social circle is (just that they have one), and what they do professionally doesn't matter so long as we can support ourselves with both our careers. Additionally, I have had more dating experience than most of, if not every man I've dated. Idc about your experience if you treat me well and prioritize my pleasure in bed (to the degree that, you know, we both enjoy it) Most women are not looking for a super… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 02:27 PM |
| 8 | What does agreeable mean to you?I think there's nothing wrong with wanting the above definition of agreeability. I just remember men on dating apps using "agreeable" and "cooperative" interchangeably and after inquiring many of them actually meant docile and submissive, willing to compromise my own values to adopt his etc. I also believe that there is such a thing as being polite to your own detriment, because you cannot always be authentic while being polite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Women of PPD, how did you meet your significant other, and what made them/their approach different from the rest?I've had 3-4 LTRs. 2 of those are men I knew in school, but connected with after graduation. Generally though, I met them through mutual friends. One I met through friends but noticed later on a party so I started a conversation, bummed a cigarette and asked him for his Facebook. We talked for a few days and he asked me out. I picked the restaurant and we were together for years. I asked him to be exclusive, and said I love you first. One was also a mutual friend who I barely knew, but he was cu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 02:10 PM |
| 1 | Making the legal right to abortion available only to married couples.I would absolutely get married for the right to abortion in this hypothetical authoritarian dystopic hellscape. But I'd also wanna die a little more every day for having to do so | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 05:29 AM |
| 1 | Making the legal right to abortion available only to married couples.No amount of laws, especially prohibiting birth control for single people, is going to stop accidentally pregnancy. It'll just cause more because no one will be having protected sex... Unless they're married I guess? Absolutely nonsense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/02/23 05:25 AM |
| 3 | 'Leo's doing what every man wishes he could do...'lol oh oops nah, it was a different comment I meant to respond to. Just shocked at how many men truly want to demonize his wife for a decision that was his idea in the first place | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 08:53 PM |
| 6 | Am i wrong? Feminism main belief is that relationship/marriage should be based on loveJust to address the children bit at the end - children are inconvenient for anyone if you consider the freedom one has before having kids. But women's lives fundamentally change when they become mothers - a lot of men's lives don't actually change that much. Women do more child-rearing and housework while they watch their husbands go play golf on Sunday for 7 hours and men are often asked if they are the babysitter when they watch their own children. So marriage and children limits our freedom, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 08:13 PM |
| 1 | What is your ideal relationship dynamic/partner?I agree that many of these if done purposefully can be considered disrespectful. But as someone aware of how things like ADHD and Autism in women affect demeanor and cognitive ability, sometimes when a person shuts down it is a biological necessity to decrease feeling overwhelmed, or prevent a panic attack etc. Long silence can often mean they are deep in thought and want to give a thoughtful response. Sometimes you need to communicate about communication style and how to compromise to make it w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 07:59 PM |
| 1 | 'Leo's doing what every man wishes he could do...'Harry seems very happy with his wife and children, and newfound freedom from the oppressive expectations of the royal family. I'm sure he is confused about all the people who feel sorry for him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 07:40 PM |
| 2 | 'Leo's doing what every man wishes he could do...'He chose to honor the wife that he loves to create a better life and childhood for he, his wife, and children. It wasn't even her idea. Y'all are pressed that he took drastic action to protect his family because you wouldn't make the same sacrifice. He was miserable as a royal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 07:37 PM |
| 1 | 'Leo's doing what every man wishes he could do...'Ehhhhhh, all of these other examples of age gap relationships are at least within 20 years (which personally I would never because I don't want to outlive my spouse by 2 decades if presumably the intent is to stay together for the rest of our lives. Leo is in his mid 50s, if he dates someone 19 that is a 35 year age difference. Intellectually, if you're looking for actual intimacy and a similar outlook on life, it wouldn't be with someone 35 years your junior. A woman's brain is fully developed … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 07:35 PM |
| 6 | What is your ideal relationship dynamic/partner?Okay, second question - what is a disrespectful body gesture??? For neurodivergent folks, body language more often than not doesn't match internal thoughts, so IMO this could lower your chances at happiness with a person if that is the case and you're taking an aspect of their ND behavior as something personal. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 07:22 PM |
| 1 | i truly believe most women are oblivious to how attractive thier partners are, and women value being competent or the illusion of being competentThat's anyone, though. Women are also turned down by men who don't find them attractive. Or worse, men sleep with them and then tell them they are ugly. Usually a person is first interested in looks, that doesn't mean someone who may not be the ideal type to a woman doesn't have a chance. Very attractive men can become very ugly once they open their month vs someone who is charismatic but not an ultra Chad can entertain us for a whole night and be sexually desirable based on their mannerisms/voi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 07:20 PM |
| 2 | What is the issue with women having social media?So you're blaming women who have social media for the attention men give them, and not concerned about the culture that perpetuates men acting like that? I know there are a lot of thirst traps on social media but jfc you speak as if you've never used the internet for anything else. You're going to be hard-pressed to meet someone IRL that has no social media - even boomers do. My dad comments on my Instagram photos regularly lmfao most people aren't trying to get to Hollywood. Having a heavily fo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 07:13 PM |
| 3 | Do Women have an innate desire to have children or only served their survivalNo one would tell men on an individual level that they are unworthy of reproduction (well, in person) unless they continuously prove that they want children as a status symbol or simply a way to continue their lineage, not because they want to be a nurturing father. And someone who thinks a father shouldn't nurture their children means that person is unfit to be a parent and would just do unnecessary damage to that child's psyche. You don't have to be an absent father to feel like one to your ch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 07:06 PM |
| 4 | Do Women have an innate desire to have children or only served their survivalIf you'd willingly express that heartbreak to a grown child you supposedly love, you'd also be sacrificing any chance at a continued relationship with your adult son. Why would you want a child you loved to feel as if they need to fit in a tiny box? Children don't exist to live up to their parents expectations, whether realistic, toxic, or not. They don't owe parents A THING simply because they were born. If my partner ever expressed our deep loving connection and relationship as trivial, I woul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 07:00 PM |
| 5 | Do Women have an innate desire to have children or only served their survivalYeah, as a woman, if the only reason a man can give for wanting children is legacy and they do not aspire to or communicate an interest in active parenting and the raising of that child - 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 That's a dead giveaway they either haven't thought about the burden of parenthood women are 100% cognizant of OR they expect to be far less involved than necessary and can expect to lose most of their freedom and ability to grow as a human on an individual basis because they'll only have time to be a moth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Do Women have an innate desire to have children or only served their survivalSome women know from a very young age that they want children. I grew up assuming I was going to get married, have kids etc from the very beginning. It took until I was a teenager to realize no one ever asked me and I never thought about what I wanted. And realized I didn't really want kids. People do change their mind - some always wanted them and realized after nannying full time that they absolutely do not want to be a parent. I would like at least 1 one child now - can't say I'd want more be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 06:50 PM |
| 1 | QuestionI agree with you - and am in a relationship now with someone who has no problem being guided in a different direction sexually if what's happening isn't working for me. It's the best sex I've ever had. But it's difficult to unlearn things when multiple people tell you you're broken for requiring clitoral stimulation to reach sexual release. This stuff starts when we are young and it hurts just as much to think about honestly | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 06:44 PM |
| 2 | What is the issue with women having social media?Social media is the modern way to share memories. I don't post all my happy memories to instagram - I rarely post photos at all, and more often than not have shared Google photo albums with friends for the majority of it. But I don't follow strangers unless their account is for a specific product/it's a business/they are a personal friend or at the very least someone I know don't dislike. Men largely are not in my DMs and the ones that message me don't even have access to my private Instagram ac… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 06:40 PM |
| 4 | Ladies what do you think of Andrew Tate?He's a grade A woman-hater who's doing well convincing men that women have no idea what they want, can't do math, are naive and easy to fool. Additionally, he is training them to use abusive tactics and to disrespect and neg them into disrespecting themselves or convincing them that serving men should be their highest priority. He isn't gonna help anyone get into a healthy fucking relationship - that's for damn sure. Also he's in jail because he fucked up, not because he's being targeted for cri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 06:33 PM |
| 1 | AI will make the porn sick men problem 10x worseBig agree tbh - especially if you can create your own with images of people you actually know. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 06:30 PM |
| 3 | QuestionMany of us have had experiences being open and honest about this and being told that if we aren't cumming, it's a problem on our end - or that we are broken if PIV alone isn't doing it for us. I actually had a guy ask me to "just let him take care of it" when he was eating me out in a way I found deeply unenjoyable | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 06:28 PM |
| 1 | Relationships and value exchangeProstitution is the oldest profession in the world. But women who aren't charging money for sex don't usually look for a transactional relationship like that. Men seek out sex more often with sex workers, that's the only reason women corner the paid sex market. I personally would feel cheap if my partner expected sex for being kind to me or being a good partner. The goal is to both desire to sleep with each other because you're emotionally connected - which extends to the physical one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 06:23 PM |
| 5 | Relationships and value exchangeDo you have a poll with the results from this"vast majority" of women? Sounds like ridiculous conjecture that would be convenient to believe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Men who are 50/50, how do you plan to compensate for child birth?More money isn't going to give a new mom enough sleep unless you're using that to hire a nanny. This is a good question, but I'm more interested in knowing what men are doing to support the new mom in their life in terms of domestic labor and childcare. Sleep deprivation has a cost and often that cost can lead to neglecting a child and causing unrest in the relationship because she isn't sleeping enough to regulate her body and therefore emotions. What steps are you taking to make sure she has t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 06:16 PM |
| 7 | What is the issue with women having social media?If she's posting photos of herself and not of you (not saying thirst traps, just of happy moments in life) would you consider that an invasion of your privacy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 06:07 PM |
| 9 | What is your ideal relationship dynamic/partner?Can expand on cooperative? I ask because I've seen many use this term to mean compliant rather than someone that can reasonably discuss and come to a compromise | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 06:01 PM |
| 3 | What is your ideal relationship dynamic/partner?Most of the posts I see from this subreddit have the "I want women - I just don't like them" vibe but as a woman I want pretty basic stuff Share similar values Want 1 kid (maybe more but depends on a lot of factors - and will actively parent and do the emotional labor that comes with that as much as I do. Has a social circle that is warm and welcoming to me (and vice versa) Trusts me and would never think to be controlling Contributes to domestic tasks equitably (which looks different for every … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Men and women aren’t that differentCan you find a study that correlates the amount of gay and lesbian bars to the amount of gay men vs lesbians? There aren't many lesbian bars in general - there are many lesbians. Many who you'd assume are not lesbians (if we're talking about femme lesbians) because many think you can't be feminine and also a lesbian. Additionally, recent studies show that much more people are bi/pansexual than previously believed, leaving less strictly lesbians or gay men. I don't see any reason you would be mad… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 05:36 PM |
| 2 | There Would Be Less Angry Men If Equality Was ReintroducedJust say you hate women omfg - it'd be easier than pretending you don't | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Men and women aren’t that differentYou lost me at "lesbians are rare" lmfao they absolutely are not | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 04:43 AM |
| 2 | There Would Be Less Angry Men If Equality Was ReintroducedIt did serve to point out that your advocating for letting children starve if their parents can't buy them food - and that you unnecessarily attacked women about an issue that has nothing to do with women (in regards to conscription) I could say the same - women have no choice but to take Maternity leave because they have to physically recover, therefore parental leave should be mandatory from both parties or we should all just let the kids die because it isn't fair that women carry the brunt of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 04:40 AM |
| 5 | There Would Be Less Angry Men If Equality Was ReintroducedMaybe if men stopped constantly putting a value on human beings for arbitrary reasons it would be easier for men to coexist with women. I 100% agree that conscription is a violation of bodily autonomy and freedom of choice and should be abolished. SNAP and social welfare programs (which need to be greatly increased and would not cost more if things like the military budget were decreased) have absolutely nothing to do with that. If the top 1% paid an equitable amount of tax we'd see improvement … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 04:26 AM |
| 7 | What even makes a woman unattractive, really?Having difficulty with social skills may not necessarily make it super difficult for a woman to get a date if she's pretty enough, but it makes maintaining any relationship, platonic or romantic, extremely challenging - that can go a long way into causing issues down the line in a relationship as well. Communication style differences and differences in brain chemistry causes as many issues as it generally will - which is a lot. I'd argue that being neurodivergent makes maintaining relationships … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 04:23 AM |
| 5 | What even makes a woman unattractive, really?Autism is not a personality trait - it is a developmental difference in brain chemistry | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 07:48 PM |
| 1 | What even makes a woman unattractive, really?A lot of your descriptions are things that would be unattractive. Surely having a relationship with someone who has untreated mental illness would cause stress to any relationship. Women are not using these standards of attractiveness when it comes to men - it's wild to me to hear the words "high value" and "low status" because women don't say anything like that generally speaking, unless they've internalized Andrew Tate's misogynistic POV. As a woman, I look for compatibility. In 70 years your … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 07:47 PM |
| 0 | I actually think women SHOULD find a man who has already made itAll pregnancies are technically parasite. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 05:48 PM |
| 1 | I actually think women SHOULD find a man who has already made itYeah - paternity fraud can happen but IMO it will or will not be clear that a child is yours. You do usually have to wait until the baby is born to not risk complications in the pregnancy however. It is sick, but not something that happens to a majority of men. I do have a friend who had to use legal action to prove his daughter was actually his. She looked just like him, and insisted the kid was someone else's, but it didn't take long to demand said paternity test or get that figured out. Like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 04:19 PM |
| 14 | Do you think a man wanting his woman to remain physically fit in a relationship is a reasonable thing to want?Being an active father doesn't necessarily mean they do the majority of housework and family planning. My dad was a great parent but he didn't do a majority of the rest of it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 02:17 PM |
| 1 | Men are judged for "getting" women. Women don't "get" men.Not being objectively attractive doesn't mean they aren't pulling women. Steve Buscemi isn't exactly conventionally attractive but I've spoken to women who find him extremely sexy and I agree with them. Every woman (because we are people) has a subjective definition of what we find attractive. If I went out with all my friends we wouldn't be looking at the same men if the goal was to find the most attractive. I assume men also like traits that are not objectively attractive in a woman. Because t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/23 01:56 PM |
| – | Should it be acceptable to take actions at the personal level which destroy society at the macro level?This is a common philosophy that always entertains the idea that women are selfish if they don't want to procreate for the good of the species. It's abhorrent and only benefits men. Women do not get benefits from this. We are over half the population. You could have proposed something that wasn't innately sexist in thinking | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 09:56 PM |
| – | Should it be acceptable to take actions at the personal level which destroy society at the macro level?If your POV is "agree with me or you don't deserve basic accomodations to live comfortably" you may as well greet every woman with "Hi, are you pregnant yet? Better not go to work, you don't belong there" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 09:54 PM |
| – | Should it be acceptable to take actions at the personal level which destroy society at the macro level?I think if all of humanity hypothetically decides to enslave women as broodmares and SAHMs then yeah. Men like you do not deserve children if you think our primary purpose is child-bearing and repopulating the earth. What a fucking man-centric view. At least those children in the village are getting more parenting because they have a LITERAL VILLAGE taking care of them unlike the dystopia we're currently living in in the US | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 09:53 PM |
| – | Should it be acceptable to take actions at the personal level which destroy society at the macro level?No, but if there were a mass killing of slave owners by slaves and the entirety of society collapsed I'd say they absolutely deserved it for upholding such a disgusting business practice. A person's choosing to not have a child is not "punishing" the unborn, especially if they were never pregnant. That'd be (I guess 🤷🏻♀️ and it's a stretch) punishing the sperm that could have implanted in an egg. The hard reality is that women are not going to agree that they should be broodmares for capitalism… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 09:49 PM |
| – | Should it be acceptable to take actions at the personal level which destroy society at the macro level?If a government cannot formulate laws and policies that make parenting affordable and manageable, women should not have to take the brunt of that bad leadership. People still want to have kids. There is no reality where every person who can be pregnant will abstain from parenthood. If a country cannot sustain the well-being of it's people because it refuses to - which is the actual purpose of government - they are doing the human race the disservice. Not women. Also, fuck that. Women do not owe … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 09:42 PM |
| – | Should it be acceptable to take actions at the personal level which destroy society at the macro level?In most places in the US you can forego the vaccination so for a child if it's for religious reasons based on the fact it is illegal to discriminate against religious beliefs. What that means is that those children will be told to stay home from school if there's a concern they can spread it. It is not illegal to decide not to have your children vaccinated If you want a source for that - it's me. I'm the source. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 08:16 PM |
| – | Should it be acceptable to take actions at the personal level which destroy society at the macro level?There is a large difference in those two scenarios. Largely, men cannot be pregnant or take on the burden and risk of pregnancy/maternal death by deciding to have a child. It is not a risk of death to require all humans to wear masks to protect humanity already living. It is, however asking over half the population to give up more than the other half would ever be asked to. Just like I plan on offing myself if a zombie apocalypse happens, I'd rather all humanity die than resort to the inhumane p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 08:09 PM |
| – | Should it be acceptable to take actions at the personal level which destroy society at the macro level?If society has to force people to have children to continue the human race, we do not deserve to live. I'd watch it all burn rather than see people forced into parenthood they never wanted - or pregnancy they never wanted - or sex they never wanted. If we don't have compassion and can't find a way to incentivize people to have kids and support their livelihood, the world is not better off. People aren't having kids because cost of living is too high to afford it, childcare is a year+ salary and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 08:05 PM |
| 5 | Men are judged for "getting" women. Women don't "get" men.LOL THERE IT IS Worth mentioning that those qualities do not disqualify a person from being a fuck boy. There are plenty of fat balding men that do well with women who happen to be asshats Low-key shaming women for not dating men they don't find attractive (but also WHY would a man want a woman who isn't attracted to him to be his girlfriend? Surely that would feel awful and cause a lot of insecurity) I know a lot of fat balding men who are married to very pretty women - see? I can make broad ge… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 07:59 PM |
| 0 | Men are judged for "getting" women. Women don't "get" men.Calling women sluts is shaming them. Period. End of story. Women are shamed often and judged harshly for being sexually active or having a high body count. Women are not shaming men they are interested in who happen to have a low body - but most of us also are not asking because we don't care and tbh I don't see it as a benefit for a man to sleep with numerous women. That just means said man never slept with one long enough to learn how to please one in the bedroom, assuming they're all meaningl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 07:56 PM |
| 2 | Men are judged for "getting" women. Women don't "get" men.Then again, since you already resorted to slut shaming (since you had the audacity to use that word) I'ma assume you are also a fuck boy | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 07:49 PM |
| 2 | Men are judged for "getting" women. Women don't "get" men.L O L If you ask a grown adult (25+) woman if they entertain fuck boys, they'll tell you they hate them. The only people who like fuck boys are young naive women that don't know better. That, and people who have no idea what a healthy relationship is or what it actually looks like to be treated well by a man. Some of them do put up a good front for a while so it won't be immediately evident and there is something to be said about the fact that attractive people are given a subconscious bias of s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 07:47 PM |
| -1 | It's exhausting to make female friendsIME the men who approach me for "friendship" do so after they inquire about if I'm romantically involved with anyone. Which may (with context) be innocent, but that's also the tactic men use before they try to shoot their shot. And in most of those situations they will still want to be your friend on the off-chance you'll sleep with if you are romantically involved. I agree that it sucks for dudes who are trying to be genuine. My advice would generally be, don't seek friendships with women onlin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 06:27 PM |
| 1 | If a woman has a lot of sexual partners/experiences, does she become harder to please sexually as time goes on?That's cool, I didn't make it up - reddit did | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 05:57 PM |
| 2 | If a woman has a lot of sexual partners/experiences, does she become harder to please sexually as time goes on?Are you a woman? I did not enjoy the first time I had sex and didn't orgasm for over a year when first sexually active, because I did not know what was sexually satisfying from a partner and he didn't know how to satisfy me. The only women who agree with me are everyone woman I've spoken to about it, so you know - I probably have no idea what I'm talking about because women couldn't possibly be asking for what they actually need Sex only gets better with time. The first time with someone is usua… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 01:06 PM |
| 0 | If a woman has a lot of sexual partners/experiences, does she become harder to please sexually as time goes on?Men are mainly the ones that assume women can multitask better. I know that I do not multitask better than the men in my life but they sure af think it's easier for me. We are just expected to be better at multitasking - no human can do multiple tasks at once to the same level as they would be able to if they did those tasks on their own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 01:02 PM |
| 1 | If a woman has a lot of sexual partners/experiences, does she become harder to please sexually as time goes on?9 inches is far above average and for many far too much. That's gotta be something you learned on a porn site. Even 7 is above average and if you're working with something that large a woman usually needs a larger amount of foreplay to even be ready for penetration. It's much easier and enjoyable see - not something that causes orgasm to have sex with someone with an average size penis if you're going for a quicky with little to know foreplay. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 12:57 PM |
| 1 | If a woman has a lot of sexual partners/experiences, does she become harder to please sexually as time goes on?No, that's the science. Less than 10% of women are capable of orgasming that way. We have the same parts for a while in the gestation process. Our clitoris is the equivalent of the head of your penis. Intercourse consistently stimulates the head of the penis. So if you are assuming women are lying about this and therefore not putting effort beyond poking her with your dick, she is not receiving pleasure she knows she can get from someone else who will. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 12:52 PM |
| 6 | If a woman has a lot of sexual partners/experiences, does she become harder to please sexually as time goes on?For real - I dated a guy with a micropenis for a while. We stopped seeing each other because he made absolutely no effort at foreplay. Had he made sure I was enjoying myself I would have had no problem with that as PIV alone does not and has not ever been close to bringing me to orgasm | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/23 12:49 PM |
| 2 | The consequences of sexual liberation have been a disaster for the human race.I agree that former relationships will have caused trauma, high body count or not - man or woman. But to be clear, it is not about body count. I also believe you're being unnecessarily exclusive in gender on this - because men carry as much trauma from bad relationships if they have dated multiple people. Safe to assume that if you're in a serious relationship and have had serious relationships previously, that person has slept with each of their romantic partners while together. It's not about … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/23 05:17 PM |
| 2 | The consequences of sexual liberation have been a disaster for the human race.I don't disagree. I think as humans, we owe each other basic civility and respect unless we are shown disrespect or hostility. Just that it is an invasive question and IME when men have asked (on dating apps - whom I never ended up meeting) and I've asked if they were planning on sharing their body count, they were not. Usually it was met with hostility when I denied their request. I think in certain situations I can be appropriate, but if you're both sexually active and have had multiple sexual… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/23 05:12 PM |
| 2 | The consequences of sexual liberation have been a disaster for the human race.I've been dating for over a decade. Not one of my dates/partners have asked me for a body count or wanted to analyze my former selection of sexual partners. In a relationship now - neither of us asked that question of each other. I am interested in past relationships to the degree that I want to know any trauma or bad experiences they've had that may cause conflict between us in a current relationship - or if it's something they feel important to tell me for some reason. But I genuinely do not c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/23 05:00 PM |
| 2 | The consequences of sexual liberation have been a disaster for the human race.If you are seeing someone romantically, and that person chose you - why does who they've chosen in the past matter? Assuming they are committed to a monogamous relationship, their tastes likely will have changed over a number of years (I know I wouldn't be looking for the same type of person I would have chosen 10 years ago, for instance.) You can and have every right to ask people about their sexual past, but they do not owe it to you to provide an answer. Many would find it disrespectful unles… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/23 04:53 PM |
| 4 | Why haven't women built their own independent, semi autonomous female utopia?Maybe you won't care - but other men will. Ones in government. Also native reservations were the small part of the land we didn't actually steal from the natives. So that's just another form of oppression IMO. If we had a whole continent - I'd be cool with it probably | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 05:50 AM |
| 5 | Why haven't women built their own independent, semi autonomous female utopia?... Because we are over half the population and 1 city would not be enough. Also men would do everything in their power to ensure we didn't leave. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/23 01:58 AM |
| 1 | Women complain the most about male horniness and yet they benefit the most out of itAlso, no one in their right mind would actually want to be treated like royalty. They are held to ridiculous standards by their royal family and additionally society. That's a literal nightmare in real life. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 10:07 PM |
| 2 | Women complain the most about male horniness and yet they benefit the most out of itThe thing about the cleaning? If you don't do it with a partner, you won't do it on your own most likely. Not unless you were always doing it and suddenly stopped when you live together. I had to pick up a rug from my ex about 1.5yrs after the breakup, it had been in his living room the whole time. I did all the cleaning and organizing in our house before we broke up. I asked when her vacuumed it last and he said "I don't own a vacuum" so you can be horny, and even get a relationship - but we do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 10:06 PM |
| 1 | Men are power objects, women are beauty objectsSo I guess if you consider prosperity to be purely financial and military contracts- yeah, I guess. But that would be incredibly an incredibly narrow-minded perspective. We'd be better off of the well-being of the citizens in this country actually mattered. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Men are power objects, women are beauty objectsI'm still waiting to see what that looks like. We're in the largest affordable housing crisis we've ever had, the middle class is shrinking at an exponential level and we have the largest population of homelessness compared to other supposed "1st World" countries. We're number one, at making sure government policy keeps the poor down and oppresses marginalized classes while rampant unregulated capitalism thrives. People can't afford to have children like precious generations and we have numerous… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Men are power objects, women are beauty objectsMen benefit far more than women. A patriarchy is a system run by men (see the ratio of men to women in Congress or the number of women we've had as president - literally none) So any laws being made by and large are not including an equal amount of women's perspectives and lived experiences to make laws that actually benefit women. Men who are married to women, live longer and are happier, where the opposite is true for women on the whole. Men get the luxury of not being expected to take paterni… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Men are power objects, women are beauty objectsAnyone, beautiful or not, can fight back. But against what? Ideally, no one would use violence to enforce their will on another person. I'd go as far as saying that if you have to use physical force to make people feel threatened enough to give you what you want, you are very weak-minded. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 07:32 PM |
| -1 | Men are power objects, women are beauty objectsTreating women as less than is the opposite of big dick energy and charisma. It's usually just negging. We also don't like having to be the ones that move out of the way of you in the street because we know you won't | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 07:25 PM |
| 1 | CMV: lots of young attractive men find Salma Hayek, Halle Berry, Penelope Cruz, and Monica Bellucci extremely attractive and many would happily be in relationships with them.I also don't pay attention to celebrity gossip, but I would be deeply disappointed to find out he'd date a teenager. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 06:56 PM |
| 1 | CMV: lots of young attractive men find Salma Hayek, Halle Berry, Penelope Cruz, and Monica Bellucci extremely attractive and many would happily be in relationships with them.Personally - age difference doesn't matter to me. (also not what I want, but that is irrelevant) Many young people are attracted to older people, however there's a difference between being 35 while dating an 18yo (basically a teenager) and being 35-45 and dating someone whose brain is fully developed. I thought I liked older men until I actually grew up and realized they simply wanted to mold me into the type of woman they wanted because I was at an impressionable age. I think this should be a c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 06:54 PM |
| 2 | Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum?Intercourse itself has a very specific definition, forcing intercourse also has a specific definition. There are a lot of ways to dismiss the severity of violent acts, using inaccurate (or to you, scientific) language is only one of them. One would not address a SA victim and ask if the sex was bad unless their intent was to dismiss the severity of what happened or to convince them it wasn't that bad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 06:47 PM |
| 5 | Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum?Language infers emotion. He used inaccurate language to make it seem like not being able to get laid is akin to being literally raped. The context matters - the words provide context. Weird that I'm using the same word scientists use to describe the violent act of forcing yourself on another person but I am somehow not being scientific in my language. We're talking about people, not an animal species we can't communicate with. There's no need to act as if it isn't an often violent crime. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 06:38 PM |
| 4 | Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum?Sex is a shared experience. It is not sex if there is no consent. That's why we created language to describe the difference. You can't "inflict sex" you can inflict trauma/pain/discomfort and even and unwanted pregnancy. But it is not sex for the person it's being inflicted on. It's just trauma. Not having someone want you sexually is not trauma. It's a choice. Men have that same choice with women they are not attracted to. But the definition of sex (when two people are involved) is on the assum… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 06:34 PM |
| 3 | Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum?I mean he would have called it what it is by definition - rape or sexual assault. That's exactly what it is. He'd at least have been more accurate. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 06:32 PM |
| 2 | Every man pays for sex in one way or another.Also, get off tinder. Most single people are not on tinder - and there are less women than men on tinder so your chances are low anyway - there are plenty of other dating apps more focused on relationships. You can't use r/tinder to determine what the dating world is like realistically. Most matches don't even meet in person. Even tracking the metrics for that, it hasn't been around long enough to be accurate. Get a hobby, join something where you interact with real people. It's much easier to m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 06:14 PM |
| 2 | Every man pays for sex in one way or another.Men in tinder often in their bio or messages treat interactions/time spent with women as transactional - as if it was the paying for dinner that made her want to sleep with him rather than attributing it to have chemistry and a connection with another person. If a woman has sex with you, it's usually because she simply ✨want to - because women like sex 😲✨ So yeah - women charging to speak to them is on par with all the shamelessly hostile men on the app. If you want to treat women as if it's a t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 05:59 PM |
| 1 | If you are a man and you want sex and relationships but aren’t able to get them, you have no right saying women’s standards are unrealisticMaybe the would-be "fit girlfriends" would be interested if you weren't so loud about wanting no fatties and instead only tried to connect with fit women 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 05:51 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Do you ever purposely wipe a smile off your face upon making eye contact with a man?Yes. Almost all the time unless I am alone then I'm congenial until I have reached my car or intended place I'm going safely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 05:45 PM |
| 5 | Question for all: If you were born as the opposite sex, what would be the advantages and disadvantages for you?There also seems to be a decent percentage of ex military women who've been SA'd and nothing has come of it in terms of protecting those women - especially when you bring military law into it. Those women don't even get the opportunity to bring the case to a regular jury. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Question for all: If you were born as the opposite sex, what would be the advantages and disadvantages for you?I'd be a closeted bisexual man who was deeply unhappy to have grown up in a bigoted household that doesn't feel comfortable being my full self with anyone. Not entirely different from now except I'm only closeted to much of my family and not the friends and chosen family I have. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Will dating/relationships/marriage become a thing only the elite/wealthy do?Poor people may put off large weddings, but most households are two adults working full time. So yeah, people will obviously still get married assuming there's an economic advantage to that - but I'd bet you'll see a lot of courthouse marriages instead. Or just people in LTRs that never get married. That's already pretty common. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 04:49 PM |
| 3 | Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum?I agree with most of what you said - but I disagree with focusing on her orgasm. Unless you've communicated that thoroughly and thats her preference. It gets very easy for sex to be repetitive and if you don't focus at all on her orgasm ever, you'll likely find yourself single and she'll move on to someone who does focus on her orgasm. There's a difference between seeking to pleasure someone, and assuming it'll either happen or not depending on her hormone cycle - so you shouldn't (im a caring p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 04:31 PM |
| 12 | Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum?You managed a couple times to sugar coat scenarios that are 100% sexual assault. Someone not being interested in sex with you is not a form of oppression. You cannot say that being denied sexual release (by a woman) because you can definitely do that for yourself is somehow equal to or worse than forcing yourself on someone who does not want you. That is a very, very scary point of view and why so many women are not seeking sex from men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum?I do believe that most people who care about their female partner do prioritize this. But I've spoken to a variety of men who believe women don't actually enjoy sex, and therefore they are not responsible for caring about or pleasing a partner because it's something they expect from a woman. Or that women are lying about not being able to get off with only PIV (even though less than 10% of us can reach orgasm without clitoral stimulation) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 04:11 PM |
| 2 | Why is a man "responsible" for making a woman cum?TLDR - If you regularly knew you probably would not finish during sex, would you seek it as often as you do? (I'm speaking specifically about men here) The idea here is that while mens "clitoris" so so speak is the head of the penis, so it naturally gets stimulated during intercourse. And tbh women do not want to be thought of as objects to be masturbated into. It's about the orgasm gap. Women in hetero relationships have a fraction of the amount of regular orgasms men do. Without stimulating a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 04:06 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Makeup is live action catfishing, it’s sexual fraudThankful not to be on tinder but from what I've seen y'all are failing right at the bio so it'd be difficult to get there | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 12:07 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Makeup is live action catfishing, it’s sexual fraudI'm 100% certain that she doesn't care how you feel about that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 12:05 AM |
| 6 | CMV: Makeup is live action catfishing, it’s sexual fraudI guess we'll have to agree to disagree. She looks perfectly fine before the makeup. You have unrealistic expectations for beauty standards | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 11:22 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Makeup is live action catfishing, it’s sexual fraudUhm, no. Only if your 10/10 is a totally unrealistic woman. No one looks the way she does with drastic makeup on in their natural state. This person is clearly in heavy makeup. It's not a catfish. That same (according to you) 2/10 in a mild amount of makeup would still be attractive to you most likely. Her face looked fine before the makeup - she literally just looked like a woman with a bare face. Y'all think the natural look is no makeup She is very talented, however | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 11:21 PM |
| 1 | QFW: What are some of the doublespeak / between the lines phrases / white lies, that you use to communicate you either are or aren't interested in a guy?To answer your initial question, yes I will refuse to converse with people. Usually when it's an inappropriate place to be approaching women, like at the gas station, while I'm shopping, or if I am clearly concentrating on something (ie/"What book are you reading?" Because now that you've demanded my attention I am no longer actually reading) (Assuming I am single in this scenario) Am I feeling up for polite conversation with a stranger? (I find small talk awful and painful most of the time tbh)… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 09:50 PM |
| 1 | What would women like to hear ?No, rejecting someone can be as simple as that "Sorry, I'm not interested." Trust me, we DON'T care to know why we are particularly unattractive to you. As a general rule - if she didn't ask, she doesn't care to know what you think. She will meet someone who does find her attractive. People often use the words "telling it like it is" after they've said something unnecessary, mean, cruel, or unconstructive criticism which we already hear all the time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 08:58 PM |
| 1 | What would women like to hear ?That is a weird af question to ask unless you are a virgin saving yourself for marriage who also wants a virgin saving themselves for marriage. Like we know it isn't about sexual safety (since many men complain about condoms and have no issue ejaculating inside a woman if she says she's on BC) so it's not about STDs or STIs even you entertain, or even occasionally have casual sex, or short relationships that don't last the year. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 08:53 PM |
| 1 | What would women like to hear ?But people IRL do not act (mostly) the way they do on Tinder. It's easier to tell when something is a veiled insult or micro aggression in person, on the internet not so much. Men don't actually walk around saying "No fatties, must have a dump-truck ass and be pleasant" before asking a woman out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 08:49 PM |
| 1 | QFW: What are some of the doublespeak / between the lines phrases / white lies, that you use to communicate you either are or aren't interested in a guy?For me it's what I'm not doing. If you approach me and attempt to start a conversation and I don't reciprocate with questions about you - I am not interested or even interested in BEING interested. But tbh I am in a relationship and a terrible flirt (bad at flirting lolol) so I just message first and act curious. In the past I've also been the one to ask me out when I'm seriously interested. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 08:03 PM |
| 1 | "Why Blame The Parent That Stayed?"There is a huge difference in being an absent father/leaving your family And Co-parenting when the relationships doesn't work out. So yeah, don't blame a single mom if dad chose to go pick up some milk and never came back. She didn't ask him to abandon his kids. No one who loves their kids and sees their partner as a good father would want that UNLESS he was posing some kind of danger to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 07:48 PM |
| -1 | Women Are Significantly More Likely To Lose Interest In Sex In Long Time Relationships In Spite Of Age, Relationship Satisfaction, Sexual Satisfaction, and Child Rearing Status.And if she's not interested in the sex, make sure you're contributing equitably to the household because a lot of us are exhausted from doing 80% of the unpaid work of domestic tasks and are too tired to be in the mood. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 07:15 PM |
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