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No, you didn't. It isn't fair to her and now you're bringing a child into the mix. Now your child will deal with the separation and be robbed of a good life with both parents present. Respectfully, I'm disappointed in you. You should've left.
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 01:21 AM
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I know exactly what you're going through. Ex wife cheated, nuked the family and also told everyone how "possessive and controlling" I was. Man, these women must have a playbook passed around on how to be professional victims. Anyhow, best winning move is to not to not play. Be cool, calm and collective. I know the burning sensation inside that just wants to react. But don't. You'll always lose and it will only work against you. Be a good and present father. My ex does the same sh!t. She acts lik…
/r/Divorce_Men29/10/22 01:19 AM
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I'd be interested. Cover on how to deal with her when she thinks you can still be friends after her adulterous relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 07:18 PM
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You have honored your vows, but clearly, she doesn't feel the same way. I remember being in this same situation as you, using the "hope" strategy that she would wake up from her fog and come running back to me. So I'll give it to you straight up; SHE DUMPED YOU, AND RAN WITY ANOTHER MAN. Who knows what did they did together behind closed doors. Are you actually ok with this? Brother, you shouldn't. Best thing I did, as painful as it was, is cut her loose. Start rebuilding your life without her. …
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/22 07:11 PM
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If you're a man, STAY AWAY FTOM MARRIAGE!!!!! Marriage today only incentivizes woman. With so much statistical data on marriage and divorce, why would any logical man sign up for it? Hard pass for me.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 12:48 PM
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As a previous post said, there is another bull in the ring or her friends are encouraging her. STOP the favors. Don't go doing the "pick me dance" either. This is not the time for emotional weakness. I'm sorry that you're having to deal with this, I went through the same thing seven years ago. First thing, don't go groveling for love and attention. If she wants out, open the door and show her the way out! Start exercising immediately. Start a hobby or two. Maybe enroll back into school to learn …
/r/Divorce_Men20/07/22 01:02 PM
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Stay AWAY from meds! Hit the gym, get a dog, go hiking to clear your mind instead.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 02:27 PM
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Bro, same here. Was married 15 years, we share four children. Separated 7 years now, officially divorced four years. She cheated and it destroyed the fuck out of me. Was a wounded deer for a good 3 years until I had to accept the situation. You gave this brother great advice. Life is better for me now, I hope he too finds a way out. A lot of good men being destroyed out here and society just turns a blind eye on us...I'm glad this forum exist for us to support and encourage each other.
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 02:23 PM
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For me, it took a good 5 years. But what I can share with you is that it all depends on you. I started dating right after we split up. In fact, I was really enjoying myself but yes, I was deeply broken inside because I was still mourning the death of my marriage and the breakup of my family unit. You gotta find your way now: start a workout routine, learn a new skill/trade, read books, go fishing/golfing, get a dog, groom better or get back to school to learn photography or whatever your intrigu…
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/22 02:14 PM
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The good thing is that many men are waking up to these injustices to them. If you are currently dealing with separation/divorce, it's important to keep your emotions in check. I know this can be easier said than done but remember, women get a pass for being irrational, men do not. This shall pass and life will get better, be strong. And if you have children, stay involved in their lives. Children need fathers.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 11:14 PM
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Do the 180! It will help you to cope mentally and emotionally. It was the total game changer for me. Google "A BEAUTIFUL MESS 180". Most importantly, lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/22 09:44 PM
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DON'T DO IT!!!!!! With so much information about the gynocentric court system, you would be signing a contract with the state. You will always have that proverbial "gun to your head" should she ever feel the urge to move on. You will be DESTROYED in the family court industrial complex. DO NOT DO THIS!!!!! 🚫
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/22 06:53 PM
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Not gonna lie, there some very low and dark times during this process. Talk about being an indentured servant! By the way, my original lawyer was a total waste of time and money. He hurt me more than he helped me! I had to fire him immediately because I was losing every battle with him representing me. My second lawyer was awesome though! She put a stop to the misery!
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/22 01:20 PM
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I did have success in obtaining my 50/50 custody split. Originally, she lied to the court, saying I only wanted a 50/50 split to avoid child support, and because I wasn't the involved father I claimed to be. She was just pure evil! But I fought hard for my children and was eventually awarded 50/50 custody after 2.5 years. It was very hard for me emotionally and of course, financially. I started paying $1,640 a month! I had to work a side hustle and was still struggling to make my rent, pay child…
/r/Divorce_Men11/02/22 12:18 PM
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Careful with the now plunging real estate market.
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/22 07:59 PM
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Don't do it. It was a waste of time for me. Nothing came of it because my now ex-wife would not accept accountability and only accused me of being "controlling and abusive". The feminist therapist was not much helpful. Seriously, a total waste of time 👎
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/22 10:04 PM
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The only winning move is to not play. It's quite simple, DON'T GET MARRIED!!!! 🚫
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/22 03:37 AM
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Say no! Why would you even entertain this bullshit?
/r/Divorce_Men24/01/22 03:46 AM
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Get a lawyer, immediately!
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/22 01:07 AM
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Amen! Women will ALWAYS be dependent on man, whether it be the husband or the state. I've checked out after being put through the meat grinder family court industrial complex.
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/22 12:30 AM
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Stop trying to force anything and file for divorce if you feel that you two have come to the end of the road. As for the home, if you have good equity, maybe buying her out can benefit you. Don't worry about her living arrangements, I can assure you, she most likely won't care about yours. Good luck and be grateful this was only a five year marriage, most guys aren't as lucky and get ran through the hot Coles in a more tenured marriage. Go out and live your life, unapologetically.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/22 04:16 PM
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Speak to a lawyer to get straight answers. I "gifted" my son our 1965 Split window bus for his HS graduation gift, six months prior to our separation. She eventually went after that too. I fought tooth and nail for it but had to eventually pay her some cash for it. You don't know your wife till you meet her in divorce court.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/22 04:17 AM
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I did it and was very helpful and therapeutic. Paid $25 for the booklet. I highly recommend it to anyone dealing with a bad marriage situation, going through divorce or post divorce. Do it, you'll be glad you did.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 03:10 PM
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Also, not sure if you're religious or not but, most Christian churches offer "Divorce Care". It's a wonderful support group series that helped me out so much. It's a 3-4 month session, they are everywhere and it made a huge difference for me. I even made friends there too. It cost about $20, they just ask that you pay for the booklet. Check that out too. I'm very sorry that you are dealing with this, don't be too hard on yourself. Get out there and live your life!
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 07:35 PM
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Do the 180! Do this for yourself, to protect yourself and to avoid yourself any further emotional trauma. I was married 15 years, that wasn't easy to give up for me. Look up "A beautiful mess, doing the 180". It'll set you up well. This too shall pass, life does go on. How you live it, is your choice.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/22 07:10 PM
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Ignore her. You can't control crazy. Also, be VERY careful with her trying to bait you into a situation you can't get out off. She sounds dangerous, don't let her get the best of you. Keep your mouth shut and stop all communication with her if possible. Keep it simple and quick, only about the kids. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/21 05:28 AM
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I sympathize with you, I went through t hgt e same bullshit. I got through by picking up an extra hustle to get me through. Find a way to make more money to keep you afloat. I know you're in a bad spot but be strong and don't let this shit beat you down emotionally. Find a support group, that is always good.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/21 03:26 PM
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Forget about college! Focus on your son first. Most colleges are crap nowadays. Nothing but indoctrination camps. Anyhow, if you're lawyer isn't working hard for you, fire his/her ass immediately! Get yourself a good one that has years experience and has proven results based in his reviews.
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/21 04:24 AM
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I completely understand and sympathize with you, brother. The family court system is corrupt and unjust. Keep fighting the good fight, be patient and do nothing that will hurt your chances at more time with your child. Do you have a lawyer? Sounds like you don't. If you do not, and you want to increase your chances at a 50/50 custody share of your son, I strongly suggest you lawyer up! I was in the same boat you are now, got hosed by the judge with child support and visitation. I got a lawyer an…
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/21 01:54 PM
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Act like you don't give a shit! You need to start keeping yourself busy. Go join a gym, join a hiking club (get the "meetup" app) or start a hobby. This too shall pass and if you keep your mind off of her fuckery, you'll be winning. I know it's easier said than done when people you care and love to this to you. Nonetheless, learn to give ZERO fucks!
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/21 01:26 PM
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This shall pass. Focus on healing and moving forward. Best of luck and god bless 🙏
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/21 03:01 AM
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She's locking the door because there's obviously someone else in the picture. She locks it so she can communicate with this other person through her phone. Trust me, it's happening! I know so because my ex-wife did the same thing and I soon discovered she was hiding the other guy. Do NOT react to it! Get yourself busy doing something else to improve your life. Your marriage is over, sadly.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/21 02:56 AM
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Walk away! That is not your family anymore. I had a good relationship with my in laws but that soon changed when they began enabling my ex-wife's cringe behavior. Now I don't even acknowledge them because I feel betrayed by them too. It sucks but it's best to cut ALL of her family. Trust me, it's for your own good.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/21 02:39 AM
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Count me in. I'm 6 years out from divorce. Perhaps sharing my experience may help someone. I'm in Los Angeles California.
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/21 03:22 AM
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I speak from experience. Your spouse will feel superior if you start being weak and desperate. As hard as this may be, hold your frame! Act cool. Don't follow them around the house, show content, start making dates with friends to get out for coffee or a drink. Whatever you do, do not fall apart in front of them. I've been there, it sucks, and I never want to experience it again. Time WILL heal you and you WILL come out on top. Be strong.
/r/Divorce_Men21/10/21 12:53 AM
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You will recover. Right now is a very low point in your life, but time will heal you. You just have to do your part by being active. Get in the gym, join a class, begin a hobby and reinvent yourself. Don't live your life depending on others to love you. Suffering is choice.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/21 03:50 PM
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Bro, there is another bull in the ring! Don't kid yourself. I'm almost certain of it. Mine acted the same way, telling me she just "didn't love me anymore". It crushed me. Soon enough, I caught her! She reconnected with an old high school guy. Pay attention to what she does, not what says. At this point, don't go groveling for love. What's done is done and it is what it is. Do the 180 and start living YOUR life. Don't ask her questions about the marriage, don't chase her, don't plead or beg, don…
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/21 03:47 PM
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For me, those first days and months were brutal. What I wish I knew then that I know now is this; don't sit around being depressed for too long. You are definitely in a low phase in your life but, it is up to you to lift yourself up. And yes! HIT THE GYM! Start a hobby or get back to your old ones. You had a life before you met her, start a fresh one again. Remember this though, suffering is a choice.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/21 01:55 PM
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Get a fucking lawyer! I made the mistake of not getting one at first and I got HAMMERED by her lawyer in court. I eventually got an affordable one who really saved my ass in the end. A lawyer will BEST answer all your questions because every state has different laws. Good luck, I feel your pain. Be strong.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/21 10:54 PM
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Bro, grow a pair of ballads and WALK AWAY NOW! You don't realize it now because you're too emotionally damaged but she is doing you a HUGE favor! Use this experience as a lesson and turn the page. Do the 180 and start living YOUR life! You have no control of her. The more weak and pathetic you act around her, the more you'll annoy her and the less she'll respect you. If she doesn't want you now, go be the man she can't have! God speed, brother.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/21 09:02 PM
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Don't leave your home. As hard as that may be, don't do it! Stay involved with your children. Judges will mandate child support if you leave and are not involved with the children. If possible, transfer any paid off vehicles to family or friends AT LEAST 6-8 months before the filing. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/21 08:58 PM
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HELL TO THE NO!!!!! NEVER! NEVER! NEVER AGAIN! The current laws in the family court industrial complex are completely biased against men. Women are incentivized in divorce, while men get the meat-grinder. I was married 15 years. I was a devoted husband and father. She gets bored and tells me "I'm not happy", I knew it was over. We share four children, our youngest had just turned 2. She didn't process or care how my children would be affected. She didn't care how much we built in those 15 years.…
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/21 08:19 PM
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