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Red Pill TheoryReddened/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 05:13 AM
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Nah this "use the original James Bond to transition the role" trick might work to make this movie profitable. But good luck making a profit on the next one when it's her solo outing and there's no Daniel Craig to help carry the movie anymore.
/r/MGTOW18/07/19 08:15 AM
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I gotta give you props man, even though it didn't go exactly as you wanted, you cold approached and that takes balls, especially with someone that tries to freeze you out immediately like that. Lots of people will read every article on TRP but never actually put themselves out there. Anyway even if she was a HB9 the personality leaves something to be desired, so I don't think you missed out on much there. But I'd say it was still worth the attempt just to get more comfortable approaching chicks.…
/r/TheRedPill07/04/17 07:18 AM
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If this is a troll it's the most pathetic output I've ever seen from one. Someone literally taking the time to learn TRP enough only to craft a post that pretends to be the epitome of the type of spineless man that needs TRP... It's mind boggling the things people do to get a hit of whatever emotion they're after.
/r/askMRP03/08/16 08:57 AM
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You didn't leave your home which was smart, you're in a more powerful position remaining in the family home. The only thing I want to really drive home for you is this: This woman called the police on you for no good fucking reason. She wasn't getting her way so she tried to get the authorities involved; these are the actions of a person that is irrational, unreasonable, and likely just generally mentally unstable. From here on out do not be alone with her; if for any reason you are in the same …
/r/askMRP01/08/16 01:30 AM
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Cool idea. Just a heads up, I noticed the "other" option for one of the questions didn't present a text box when checked off.
/r/RedPillWives27/07/16 10:49 PM
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If you don't escalate when there's sexual tension, women make negative judgements about you and their attraction for you decreases. I recall my 17 year old BP fuck of a self had chatted up and made out with a cute red head a few times, and we had made plans to hang out out at my place a particular afternoon. Cut to me and her playing video games in my bed room with no one else in the house. Unsurprisingly her interest in me waned not too long after that.
/r/askTRP25/07/16 06:13 AM
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"She started talking some mess about how I had forced her into this." Titanium grade hard next.
/r/askTRP25/07/16 06:02 AM
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I don't think you lost out on much here, but if you had actually wanted to hook up with her it probably would've been better to not ask her "if she was still down" and instead assume the sale so to speak, especially since you guys had already exchanged nudes. Something like "I'm free at 8PM, make your way over and be ready for some intense hand holding.". Or even just make it a neutral reason for her to come over to help her overcome her ASD, then escalate when she's actually there.
/r/TheRedPill20/07/16 07:01 AM
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That is hilarious and saddening at the same time.
/r/TheRedPill19/07/16 08:40 AM
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There's real power and value to be found from exhibiting traditional feminine traits. Congrats on getting some positive feedback for yours.
/r/RedPillWives17/07/16 07:05 AM
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My worry is that for a lot of these absurd and sexist policies it's not just men vs. women, it's men vs. women and a large percentage of blue pill men that go along with it because they don't approach anyway, they're not getting laid anyway, and it just makes them angry to think that some guys are having success. Considering most people around here say only the top 20% of men are the ones getting women, that leaves 80% - a large majority of men, as guys that could potentially be manipulated quit…
/r/TheRedPill15/07/16 11:09 PM
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God some people of my gender are pathetic. Even the smallest wiff of an opportunity to get laid and they're prostrating themselves before the woman, ready to do her bidding. It's no wonder the dating market is so skewed towards women with men like these out there.
/r/RedPillWives09/07/16 03:55 AM
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Even though it didn't go as hoped, a cold approach like that takes balls and puts you above the majority of guys, especially if she truly was a 9 or a 10. Keep at it, it's a skill that you can hone like anything else.
/r/TheRedPill02/07/16 08:09 AM
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I'm not against having women as friends, but anyone that's in your life should be bringing value to it in some way. Reading your story I'm not hearing of any value, or really anything positive you're getting when you give her your time. I would consider why you have continued to be friends with this person as long as you have; my suspicion would be sunken cost fallacy.
/r/TheRedPill30/06/16 06:41 AM
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The only part that stuck out as a bit heavy handed and out of place to me was the dialogue in the throne room between Daeny and Yara. Yes we get it, they're empowered women in a world that doesn't normally allow for that.
/r/TheRedPill24/06/16 07:22 AM
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No wonder she thought that was the funniest thing ever, that was golden.
/r/TheRedPill18/06/16 07:05 AM
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I think the challenge is that sometimes it can be very difficult to determine which of the two categories this type of offense falls into, so the law is applied in a very black and white way. For example is the child saying they wanted it and initiated it because they are ashamed to admit that they were manipulated and used? I think you would need to have a forensic psychologist do an interview to get an accurate read on the situation. In clear cut cases though it would be good if the criminal p…
/r/TheRedPill16/06/16 09:26 PM
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Mods can we remove this shit-post? This is either a shoddy attempt at trolling or an entry for worst post of 2016.
/r/TheRedPill16/06/16 07:31 AM
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Since it started 6 months into the relationship it's possible it could be that you have been too tolerant of bad behavior so now she feels okay to really let go when she's feeling emotional. However it doesn't matter whether you could stop her physical tantrums or not by altering your behavior, the answer is that a woman who is prone to this type of behavior when unchecked is not someone you want to remain with, due to the potential consequences Archwinger outlined. Be honest with yourself. Is t…
/r/TheRedPill16/06/16 07:24 AM
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I think the key is to make sure that they can connect their bad behavior with your withdrawal. For example withdrawing immediately after the behavior occurs. However I don't think there's anything wrong with giving a statement before withdrawing. Something like "I don't tolerate X, I'm going to the gym/store/random thing.". If it happens again, then you don't need to give a statement, you've already ensured she already knows what the boundary is. Though Archwinger is right that there are common …
/r/TheRedPill16/06/16 07:09 AM
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I'm surprised you would get that impression. Any time a story of a failing relationship is posted on TRP the comments almost always dissect what the man did wrong to elicit the behavior from the woman. In fact if you spend the majority of your submitted post blaming the woman for the relationship failing you're typically going to get ripped to shreds in the comments. Even though he does use BPD to explain some of the woman's behavior, the majority of the "lessons learned" he posted have to do wi…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/16 10:02 PM
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One thing to keep in mind is that a lot of the worst male horror stories on TRP involve a woman with BPD. The ones with false rape accusations, divorce rape, child custody nightmares, and other terrible things. On TRP it's advocated to not get into an LTR with a woman that has any "red flags" present and unfortunately BPD is considered a red flag due to the prevalence of horror stories that involve BPD women. It is unfortunate that there are women like yourself who get a negative stigma for it w…
/r/RedPillWives13/06/16 09:57 PM
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You know I could maybe understand you posting this if OP's post was just whining, but it's not that. It's an acknowledgement of a set back and the ways that he's worked around it to achieve success. Someone posted stats from OKcupid below that clearly show a preference for white males. That doesn't mean you're screwed as a minority, it just means you might have to work harder than others. I'm not a minority so I don't really have a dog in this argument, but you're basically gas lighting these gu…
/r/TheRedPill12/06/16 06:49 AM
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All good advice, except one thing I would point out is he said he's the lead on this project, so if he were to go along with these two bozos he would likely catch some shade as well, if not more than them.
/r/askTRP10/06/16 08:14 AM
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She's likely on the fence, that's all. Pass enough shit-tests & defuse her ASD and she'll climb all the way over the fence, assuming your SMV is high enough. However why bother man, plenty of single chicks that won't run you the risk of claiming rape so they don't have to admit to cheating, or the risk that the boyfriend finds out and maims/murders you. Edit: If you just let the conversation end after she made the comment about respecting her boyfriend then you failed that shit-test.
/r/askTRP10/06/16 08:07 AM
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For the males present, it's envy and/or jealousy. They have to shame you into feeling inferior, because if you aren't an inferior woman what does that say about their partners that aren't as giving? As for the women they likely feel threatened; if you treat your partner this well, well god forbid their men get the idea the ladies in their lives should also be so thoughtful. If I were in that situation I would keep my composure and say something dismissive like "Yes sometimes I do kind things for…
/r/RedPillWives10/06/16 07:58 AM
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Yeah, a lot of them were pretty painful to read.
/r/RedPillWives10/06/16 07:49 AM
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Who's saying he's now nominated as some kind of official TRP champion? Most of the comments I see on here are saying he's an idiot. A few empathize with his anger, but that's about it. It's just an example of what not to do, and of the double standard between men and women (women can post or message anything they want on dating sites or apps).
/r/TheRedPill10/06/16 07:14 AM
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Yeah, dude just seems pathetic. Who invests that much energy into responding to someone they've only known for like 20 seconds?
/r/TheRedPill10/06/16 07:09 AM
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Too cringey, I couldn't watch the whole thing, but I saw enough. Seems like it's just going to keep getting easier to stand out as a man these days.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 07:20 AM
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That might feel good in the moment, but would just come across as being bitter or butthurt. A better win to strive for would be to gain the ability to pick up a hotter chick than her at that same bar and walk out like you don't give two fucks. She wants to know it bothers you that you don't get to have her; don't give her the satisfaction.
/r/TheRedPill05/06/16 07:14 PM
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I think if you hit a woman for anything other than self-defense you're an idiot considering how much it can fuck your life up, plus it's like the epitome of losing frame. However the guy did just lose his mom, so even if he did throw his phone and hit her face, you'd think she'd connect it as "Oh hey, this is way out of character for JD and he just lost his mom 3 days ago. I don't need to stay with him, but maybe I don't tear his reputation to pieces during one of the hardest times in his life o…
/r/TheRedPill02/06/16 03:55 AM
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Without things like her tone of voice and how he came up in the conversation it's tough to tell if this was just her playfully shit-testing you (while obviously also conveying some truth about her attraction to him), or if she was being intentionally disrespectful by throwing it in your face that he's more alpha than you. I also don't know your history, for example if you guys typically tease each other about a guy/girl nearby that is attractive. The fact that she was drawn to him and the fact t…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/06/16 02:59 AM
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You suspect her of having some kind of subtle emotional affair; okay. Regardless of whether that's what's happening or not, no you do not want to post a reply on a public forum connected to all your friends and family, especially a reply that will just broadcast your insecurity about your relationship to your LTR and everyone you know. Next time when you're wondering whether something is a good idea, think about what your goal is. In this case I would assume your goal is to become her primary fo…
/r/askMRP28/05/16 09:06 AM
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True. The way I look at it though is the more that women get caught pulling this kind of sinister shit, the more skeptical the public becomes of these kinds of false accusations, which is a good thing for the manosphere given all the horror stories on here. To each his own though, could see why you'd want to stay out of it.
/r/TheRedPill28/05/16 06:49 AM
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That's fucking awful man. If they do that you should send an anonymous letter or something in to let the administration know it was a planned character assassination and has no actual merit.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/16 10:21 PM
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Just wanted to say that this part: "Strangely, as I initiate more, he seems to be less interested, and sometimes falls asleep early due to working hard all day, or even ignores me for video game or tv, which hurts when I am throwing myself at him. It shows me what he has felt like when I have said no, I'm too tired/stressed/busy in the past." Shows good introspection on your part. I was expecting a more self-centered end to that paragraph like "it's like he doesn't realize how unattractive that …
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/16 06:16 AM
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You're likely struggling to let her go because she feels like a part of your identity and there's an emotional attachment there. That's something that needs to change; you need to be your own man, one that isn't defined by the validation he gets from a partner. That doubt you feel, about whether you should end things with her? That's insecurity. Fucking hit the gym and squash that shit; truly believe that you can do better than a jobless, ungrateful, cheating bitch. Then you need to thoroughly r…
/r/askMRP25/05/16 07:34 AM
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I think that the women of this sub are likely far more self-aware of certain negative female traits (negative in the sense that they work against your long term happiness). This self-awareness would make you more open to input (straight talk) from your partner, which would likely make conditioning less necessary from the man in the relationship. However I think many of the men in the TRP sub unfortunately have observed better results from conditioning than from direct communication. By results I…
/r/RedPillWives21/05/16 10:31 AM
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Nailed it there. Not to mention she'll start to be "bored" more often due to how mundane her primary role will become: doing menial labor, not working with a team of people, and spending more time with kids than adults. So then you get home and she's more needy about how much of your time she gets, and if you don't balance it right then she's even more likely than usual to seek out thrills or validation outside of the relationship. Hard pass for me.
/r/TheRedPill21/05/16 06:18 AM
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Yeah I understand that as well. To borrow /u/momomotorboat 's statement, acknowledging or responding to a greeting is typically a fundamental expectation true, but for example in Western culture saying "Hey, how's it going?" has essentially become just another way to say hi or acknowledge a person's presence. Whereas in some other cultures it would be a fundamental expectation to actually respond to the person as if it were a genuine question. You have to be familiar with the landscape to know i…
/r/TheRedPill20/05/16 04:33 AM
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I was arguing a black and white view because that seemed to be what your stance was, that it was flawed for me to suggest that there are different caliber women out there because all women will let you down. This was your comment right? "Sure some girls won't leave, but you can bet your ass she will fuck around behind his back if she gets the chance. I've been the man nailing the loyal wife of a taller, wealthier, better looking man quite often. It's so fucking easy to get her to cheat, especial…
/r/TheRedPill20/05/16 03:44 AM
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Given the right circumstances anyone will cheat, even men, that doesn't mean you should give up looking for a quality LTR if that's what you desire. If you want to argue that women are more likely to cheat I would agree. However if you want to argue that every woman will cheat on you after a long enough period, that I disagree with. They have the capability within them for sure, and under specific conditions it is more likely, but that doesn't mean it's a guarantee and that's a pretty bleak outl…
/r/TheRedPill19/05/16 09:49 PM
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There are people on here who believe there are women that can stay by your side if you remain a high status male and there are those like yourself who don't think they're ever capable of long term loyalty. I personally believe that some men have just been fortunate enough to find that rare high quality woman and some haven't. TheFamilyAlpha is a good example of someone who's had an LTR for quite some time and remains happy and I personally had an LTR that I was quite happy in for about 9 years. …
/r/TheRedPill19/05/16 05:49 AM
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Yes this is a good point as well. Some things are fundamental expectations that only a flawed or uncaring person wouldn't meet.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 06:43 PM
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Sorry to hear you didn't find any value in the post. Seems that others did.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 06:37 PM
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I disagree, and I think you missed the intent of my post. This isn't an argument for NAWALT, it's for NAWATS. As in yes they are all driven by their imperative to get those beta bucks while also wanting an alpha, but that doesn't mean all women are exactly the same. You can be cognizant of women's nature while still being discerning. To make a really simple example, would you LTR (or even FWB) a woman that's borderline or bi-polar? Might as well right, because AWALT! No, some women are higher va…
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 06:10 PM
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I agree, it's something I am trying to work on. It's been tougher to avoid covert contracts with family I've found; I think I expected more from them without needing to be explicit about what my expectations are. I see that's not realistic, being family doesn't magically make them mind readers.
/r/TheRedPill18/05/16 06:00 PM
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Yeah there's nothing good about her making that decision. Either She wanted to be seen as available She didn't want to be seen/associated with you She thought she would have a worse time with you present than without you present Or some combination of the 3. Pretty disrespectful behavior, especially since she didn't ask if it was okay, she just stated that's what she wants. For the first 2, it could've been that mega Chad was going to be there, but more likely it's that you need to work on raisi…
/r/askTRP01/05/16 09:27 PM
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I haven't read anything here to suggest she was worth keeping as an LTR let alone a wife, seems you made the right call.
/r/askTRP29/04/16 03:15 AM
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I believe in AWALT in the sense that women typically have certain tendencies, however sociopathic fuckdolls incapable of empathy is a bit far, even for this sub. Women are certainly capable of cruelty, but I've known plenty that have displayed empathy as well.
/r/TheRedPill25/04/16 03:15 AM
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I understand the goal and my suggestion would be to help achieve the goal by reducing or eliminating your anxiety about sex in general. You do you though, only you can know what feels like the best path to tackle this problem.
/r/askTRP24/04/16 12:11 AM
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Therapy is certainly an option like others have commented, but if that still doesn't allow you to get rid of your obsession and insecurity about being a virgin, maybe just consider hiring a pro to get it over with? Don't cheap out if you do and make sure to know the laws in your area. It would likely do wonders for your confidence the next time you're in a position to potentially hook up with a girl.
/r/askTRP23/04/16 07:40 AM
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That's got to feel like a major kick in the balls, however I get the impression that you have read very little to no material from the sidebar or this subreddit in general, otherwise after reading your own post there would be very little mystery to you as to what happened here. At first once you start reading TRP material you're likely going to feel angry and frustrated at yourself for driving your relationship to its end, but the good news is that she ended it before you got married, bought a h…
/r/askTRP23/04/16 07:20 AM
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I agree that MGTOW and Alpha are not mutually exclusive. Perhaps what would be more accurate to say is that Batman is typically always an alpha, one that sometimes chooses to be MGTOW. As for what makes someone an alpha yes of course there's more to it than simply being able to get commitment free sex, but I completely disagree that it doesn't make you an alpha. How many betas do you know that are able have casual hook ups whenever they want? Maybe you inferred that I was suggesting you are a be…
/r/TheRedPill23/04/16 03:33 AM
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I've been reading all the RP subbreddits for a long time now (first as a lurker, and now with this RP specific account) and I have to say I appreciate your willingness to spend the amount of time that you must spend writing up posts like this. I've yet to read a comment of yours that I didn't find some value in. You've got a real mastery at dissecting people's posts and providing pointed advice. I hope you keep comments like these coming.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/04/16 06:58 AM
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It varies quite a bit depending on which story line you were to consider, but overall he's typically either an Alpha - he'll hook up with catwoman or talia al ghul, but doesn't have a relationship with them. Or he's a MGOTW - his mission comes before everything else; he doesn't have the time or desire for a relationship, or even a ONS.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 06:14 AM
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Points for working in the butler quote
/r/TheRedPill22/04/16 03:43 AM
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I originally wrote some other stuff here but ultimately I don't disagree with your recommendations about ghosting, so I've edited the defensive shit out of here and admit I made a mistake in suggesting any alternative to just going no contact.
/r/askMRP20/04/16 01:55 AM
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@4rtifactMX if you read this, what bogey and others have echoed is true, the best course of action is to simply not give her the satisfaction of a reply and focus on you. I was trying to acknowledge the fact that it can be hard to ghost an LTR, especially after a betrayal like this, but it's not doing you any favors if I tell you to indulge in that emotion and do anything other than go no contact.
/r/askMRP20/04/16 01:52 AM
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A good reminder. I know as I was reading Redwood's post I was thinking "man I really hope any dudes considering this do a bit of research first". I don't have an issue with the post being allowed as long as it's understood it's anecdotal and not taken to be taken as scientific gospel. Inevitably though there will probably be someone that just gobbles down a shit ton of supplements solely based on that post and that's just Darwinism for you.
/r/TheRedPill19/04/16 05:59 PM
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Edit: enabling bullshit removed.
/r/askMRP19/04/16 05:03 PM
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No you don't want to blanket no all requests because that wouldn't be confidence and enforcing respect, it would be being a dick heh. It depends on the context; it's usually quite obvious if it's a shit-test. Would it be just as easy, or easier for her to complete the task herself? Then it's a compliance test which is a particular type of shit test. Is it logical for you to do it because you could do it better, faster, or because logistically it just makes sense? Then yeah go ahead and take care…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/16 12:41 AM
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Hypergamy is a drive that needs to be overcome, but that's assuming that your partner is someone that is meeting your needs as the other two commenters have mentioned. That doesn't mean find some small excuse as to why you deserve someone better (we can justify anything in our minds), but give some serious consideration to the big stuff and whether he's meeting your needs. Is he fun to spend time with? Does he dress well, exercise, and take care of personal grooming? Good in bed? Has ambition an…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/16 12:34 AM
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Essays and arcane rules? If that's how you view some of the fundamental content of this subreddit there's not much hope for you man. If you're posting here it's generally expected that you have at least a decent grasp of the core TRP concepts.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/16 10:33 PM
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Depends on the type of man you are in my opinion. Are you taking care of your shit around the house, in good shape, and putting the amount of effort in that you should be? Then yeah you're probably attracting attention from other women and if your wife isn't holding up her end of the marriage then I wouldn't fault a man for seeking sex outside the marriage. However if you're carrying an extra 80lb, lazy around the house, and have zero ambition, then no you shouldn't be surprised your wife doesn'…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/04/16 07:36 AM
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Heh of course she doesn't believe you yet. It's not personal, it's actually pretty rational in this case. She knew the old version of you for just under 2 years, and she's seen this new improved version for only 3 weeks I think you said? It's going to take more time for you to demonstrate this isn't just an act and that this is who you are now. Obviously you don't want to indulge in her shit-testing and get into arguments (you're doing well by not engaging, or not prolonging the arguments when t…
/r/askMRP18/04/16 07:15 AM
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Dude you're 5"8? Seriously the only problem with that is the one in your head. That's 1" less than the average height of a man in the USA, and it's a good amount taller than the average height of a woman. No you don't have the panty moistening advantage that 6"0-6"4 Chad does, but as long as you're taller than the woman that's still a pretty great starting point.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 06:33 AM
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Man your comment made me chuckle a bit. Yes it is pretty typical and I certainly experienced it with my wife. Prior to getting into TRP she always told me I didn't need to work out, liked me the way I was etc. It's really just insecurity, mate guarding, and a desire to not have to put in more effort themselves. They don't want you looking better and attracting a new woman, they don't want to feel insecure about their weight after you're looking all lean and muscular, and they don't want to have …
/r/askMRP18/04/16 06:11 AM
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For women, generally, when commitment goes up their effort level goes down (and for a lot of men too let's be honest). It's pretty rare to find a woman with self awareness of her natural inclination to stop investing in the relationship once she feels secure, and to also actively work against that selfish instinct. You already proposed so it would be disingenuous to just suddenly back out and want an LTR only, but that doesn't mean you can't take a serious look at her to see if she seems like a …
/r/askMRP18/04/16 05:57 AM
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There's more nuance to it, but essentially her behavior translates to this: "It really seems like you've turned into a leader alpha male that I'm attracted to, but I'm not sure I buy it. Is this really you, or is this just an act? Okay if I'm going to let you be the household leader I need to thoroughly test to make sure that this new found masculinity is really you before I begin to defer to your leadership." To pass these shit-tests as well as possible (and some comfort tests) I'd take jeeohnj…
/r/askMRP18/04/16 05:37 AM
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You walking out when Chad called wasn't bad. How could it be bad when you want the relationship over? Now she knows why you're breaking up with her without you having to say anything. The only way it would matter is if you were planning on staying with her, are you? Because you don't want to do that man, you'll just be doubting her loyalty the whole time until it inevitably ends anyway. Just get the rest of your shit as soon as possible and don't keep in touch with her. She's knows what she did …
/r/askMRP18/04/16 05:29 AM
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You're seeing some shit testing as well as some comfort testing. Is she a good LTR? Regular sex, doesn't put too much of a drain on you emotionally, puts a lot of effort into the relationship herself? If it feels good to have her as an LTR and she's adding value to your life, then you need to start passing some of her comfort tests to reduce the amount of shit testing. Her saying she's not your priority and that you don't communicate with her enough is her trying to manipulate you into making he…
/r/askTRP18/04/16 05:16 AM
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What did she text you two hours ago? Probably not relevant, you most likely want to just ignore now.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 04:36 AM
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Then I think you made exactly the right call and your results from tonight seem to provide further proof of it.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 04:31 AM
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You want to set the expectation that short notice cancellations like that are unacceptable, but you want to do it in a not pissy way like you DGAF. Something like "I expect more of a heads up if plans need to be cancelled, I don't appreciate disrespect of my time." Then when she inevitably replies back with something that completely excuses her of any responsibility for her lack of courtesy, that's when you stop replying and let her hamster it out.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 02:39 AM
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Really depends, when you say "planned on her finishing it tonight" does that mean you guys had an agreement that you were going to watch it tonight? If so then yeah you can't reward that bad behavior and I think you made the right move by continuing with the plan anyway when she decided to go out with girlfriends instead. If the plan was not clearly agreed on then that's a covert contract which you really want to avoid. If you had to stop halfway into an episode and you assumed she would finish …
/r/askTRP18/04/16 02:31 AM
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You could post this there, but you would have to clean out the RP terminology and focus on the self-improvement angle.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/04/16 07:43 AM
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I buy into your reasoning somewhat regarding having kids without marriage, it raised some points I hadn't considered. I'm genuinely wondering though what your reasoning is for women to want marriage if they're not starting a family, or perhaps do not want kids? If it's commitment related, my understanding is that your behaving like a high value RPW should be what maintains your partners commitment, so I'm wondering why marriage is still the goal for women? Curious on your thoughts.
/r/RedPillWives16/04/16 12:28 AM
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Regarding this part "I have suggested this, however he was not interested. He only likes it in the missionary position, which sucks because I'd love to try other things but he just doesn't want to. I told him missionary was boring and he got kinda mad so I didn't bring it up again. He did try 'girl on top' with a previous girlfriend and told me he didn't like it so we can't do that. I don't know if he's done anything else (I was a virgin before him so I've only done missionary with him)." Seems …
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/16 08:13 PM
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Man I hope you called that friend on having zero tact.
/r/askTRP15/04/16 06:46 AM
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Shitty hygiene? That's like one of the most controllable factors of physical SMV, why have you not fixed it....?
/r/askTRP15/04/16 06:44 AM
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" of don't have the patience to wait until it starts working. I'm sure if I keep implementing dread for a month or so I'll see some results, but I kind of want sex now." Man, re-read that paragraph and give your head a shake. Adopting TRP principles is not a quick fix, it's a long term committment to being the best possible version of yourself. If you're not willing to put in the time and effort you're not going to get results.
/r/askTRP13/04/16 10:01 PM
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No problem. Given her stance from the beginning was no sex, playing it safe is always the better option if her body language is unclear. Your initial impression made it seem like she was into it, but if it wasn't that clear then yeah you don't want to get into non-consensual territory. However there's ways to verify if she's into it other than directly asking "are you okay" which kind of kills the mood of the situation. You could say something directly sexual that requires her to respond. If she…
/r/askTRP12/04/16 06:03 AM
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I get why you feel this way, but the reality is that the more beta you act the more likely it is that she will leave anyway. Do as others have said and speak with an attorney to have a game plan in case she does try to run with your kid, then stop always bending for her. When you start keeping frame and calling her bluff on leaving she'll either start treating you better or she will in fact leave, both options are better than being a doormat for 18 years. Also think of the example that you want …
/r/askTRP11/04/16 07:49 AM
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I get the impression that you sometimes are grappling with a sense of urgency, for example you've decided you're going to re-engage so you have to text right now before you lose your edge, or a feeling similar to that. The trick is to squash that feeling. Remind yourself "Hey, it doesn't matter if I text this chick now, later, tomorrow, or not at all, because even if she doesn't respond positively there's another girl that will. Not only that but the longer I keep her waiting, the more her hamst…
/r/askTRP11/04/16 07:34 AM
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Sorry to had to experience that at such a young age. It's tough when the male role model(s) in your life present such a poor example for you and when the partners they choose are poor quality. My dad is heavily BP as well and I've only just recently been able to accept it about him. As expected my stepmom treats him quite poorly, but there was never a catastrophe quite as bad as you've highlighted, probably because she was already close to or past the wall when she and my dad met. Glad you were …
/r/TheRedPill11/04/16 01:53 AM
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I'm not sure if I agree with showing such heavy interest, but if you're really adamant about re-engaging again I'd use a different line. While it is a good line, it'll have a diminishing return with you having used it so recently. The activity you have in mind has potential, I might try something like "Tonight I'm baking some cookies and you're my final ingredient, starting at Xtime."
/r/askTRP09/04/16 09:59 PM
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That depends, how did she respond to your last text of "let's make it happen"? If she didn't propose an alternative or agree with the text then you probably don't want to be the one to re-engage.
/r/askTRP09/04/16 06:37 PM
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Yeah as others have said you're too emotionally invested to be able to easily keep her as a plate, best to move on. How you decide to end the relationship is up to you. Others have highlighted a bunch of things you need to work on, but for what it's worth it's much more challenging to maintain attraction and interest from a woman when you're long distance like the two of you are. You're playing on hard mode when you're not ready for it.
/r/askTRP09/04/16 09:28 AM
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When he comes to you for advice, be honest and explain why his approach not only won't work, but will push her further away. If he doesn't ever ask for your opinion on it unfortunately you just have to let it go. You can't help people that aren't ready to be helped.
/r/askTRP09/04/16 09:23 AM
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I think the main thing to work out first is what is your main goal right now. Do you want to improve your game with women and just in general become better practiced with them? Then yeah Tinder is fine, you'll get a chance to practice some text game that moves onto an actual meet up somewhere. Do you want to find out why you don't have a very high drive to pursue women? Do some research and see a doctor. I can't tell you what's important to you, you have to decide that for yourself and then deve…
/r/askTRP09/04/16 09:21 AM
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You had some serious missteps along the way which vandaalen pretty much covered. Asking if she's seeing someone is essentially telling her "hey I'm into you enough that I care if there's other guys interested in you, aka you've already won me over completely and can proceed to be bored by me." Then when she rebuffs you for sex without any legitimate reason provided, you reward her with tons of affection, thereby reinforcing her behavior. Not only that but you ask her if she wants to keep seeing …
/r/askTRP09/04/16 09:08 AM
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Yes it's possible that seeing you be weak (even due to death) could cause a woman to lose attraction for you. The thing is, attraction isn't all-important for every moment of life. If it does cause them to feel slightly less attracted to you for a bit who gives a fuck? Take care of yourself during this tough time. If you're really worried about it, just take some time to be alone for awhile. They don't need to see how hard it's hitting you, just text or say "my x just passed away, not gonna feel…
/r/askTRP09/04/16 08:58 AM
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Dread is good and will increase her attraction, but that alone may not be enough for some women, especially this one where she might be refusing sex to keep her trump card, or because she's too comfortable. Maybe dread alone will be enough and you'll see sex increase, but with only her being allowed to initiate I doubt it honestly. Since you've already painted yourself into a corner, this is what I might do to avoid direct backpedaling and loss of leadership; give it a week or two and then come …
/r/askTRP07/04/16 10:57 PM
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Wow some of the replies in this thread, it's like people think condescension makes you more of a man or something. I'm on board with tough love, but the guy's asking for help in a pretty genuine way, why not try to give it to him without being an asshole?
/r/askMRP07/04/16 07:02 AM
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Lots of good answers here. Only thing I might add is if she mentions some of her friend's poor behavior, don't always put down your wife's friend. Most of the time I'd just act like you don't give a fuck and continue to maintain your own relationship boundaries, but sometimes take the opportunity to highlight what a schlub the husband is. If your wife's friend is always hanging out with other men it's not always "wow she's not very loyal and respectful of her husband is she" it's "wow John's kin…
/r/askMRP07/04/16 06:35 AM
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What's your method then, you leave right then to go somewhere with her I take it?
/r/askTRP07/04/16 05:56 AM
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Yeah definitely don't explain yourself, what is there to explain anyway? You want her to think that your behavior's not out of the ordinary for you. You're unpredictable, spontaneous; no woman can figure you out. I like the line for Saturday, but be prepared for a shit-test or rebuff, if she does and there's no offer of an alternative hang out, just ignore her like you did before.
/r/askTRP07/04/16 05:52 AM
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What about your body language is conveying that you're not an equal to them?
/r/askTRP07/04/16 05:47 AM
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I feel the same, really not a fan of piercings other than earrings. I see facial/body piercings as kind of non-feminine, same with big huge tattoos; smaller tasteful tattoos are not a deal-breaker.
/r/askTRP07/04/16 05:45 AM
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Seems like she's grappling for power in the relationship. Especially in your update where you say you can see her after the gym, she specifically asks at 5 or 6 knowing you'll likely agree, only to then propose a different time to draw you into her frame. I think the key thing here is that if she takes issue with your response to her behavior in the car, don't deny your reaction, you need to double down that whatever she wants to call her behavior (a joke yeah right), it wasn't amusing; there's …
/r/askTRP07/04/16 02:32 AM
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I don't know about the TRP community, but as a decent human being I'd say you owe her a direct conversation when ending it. Based on your description of the relationship below she doesn't deserve ghosting. Yeah maybe she's a bit selfish and not into you the way you'd like, but I'm not reading that she cheated or exhibited any other major bitch behavior. Not to mention that if you do just ghost her there could be negativity being spouted about you that you don't need if she decides to share what …
/r/askTRP05/04/16 06:31 AM
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Pretty fucked up thing to say to someone who said they're somewhat suicidal.
/r/askTRP04/04/16 03:17 AM
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Your main post is some quality content man, but you really need to learn to not be so defensive. A lot of these comments aren't even attacking you it's just differing opinions and you're responding like they're trying to tear you down or something.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/16 07:38 AM
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Which stuff pushes the bluepill tentacles deeper, DD's stuff?
/r/TheRedPill03/04/16 07:22 AM
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Why are so many people in this sub such dicks? If you have a point to make that has value just be direct and make the damn point instead of tearing people down. In any case I disagree with your argument. Even if we assume that this new group was full of low status people (which isn't a fair assumption), learning how to be the most alpha person of a particular group is better than not being an alpha in any group.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/16 07:06 AM
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A great reminder for many. Good post.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/16 08:48 AM
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You've touched on quite a few things in your post, but at the heart of it what I'm hearing is that you're feeling discouraged about one factor of your SMV; your physical attractiveness. The only thing I can tell you to try to feel better about that is to do whatever you can to maximize your physical attractiveness, mainly lifting. If you have like some kind of facial asymmetry that could be corrected with cosmetic surgery I suppose that's an option too, but there's no penis or height enhancing s…
/r/askTRP01/04/16 08:06 AM
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Yeah man that is a shitty hand to be dealt, however it almost feels like you want us to agree with you here "Yeah man just give up, there's no way you can overcome both being short and a small penis". Well I'm not going to tell you that. Does shortness and a small dick make creating and maintaining attraction more difficult? Yes. Does it mean you're fucked? Only if you keep the same mindset you have right now. If a woman lacks attractive features, she is almost completely sunk. She can work out …
/r/askTRP01/04/16 06:53 AM
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I agree that men can be disloyal as well, but I think we're less prone to it than women are; it's why the majority of divorces are initiated by women. Men don't need to strive for the absolute apex attractive woman, they'd be happy with one that's attractive to them, is good company, and treats them well. However women's hypergamy leads them to branch swing even when they already have a good man at home. Part of the problem too is that if a man's in a relationship it's safe to say that he's pick…
/r/TheRedPill18/03/16 12:55 AM
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Haha that's awesome. So wait it was an LTR but you told her you weren't going to be monogamous? Wouldn't that be a plate? Or is the distinction that it was an LTR for her but non-LTR for you? I'm intrigued.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/16 06:18 AM
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Interesting report, thanks for sharing. As for this bit: "They play the innocent shy girl but for some reason they feel this need to pretend to keep the charade going, like as if they think being an innocent shy girl is "attractive" and so it's very possible for them to act totally kinky/evil around men who can see through that." I think it is viewed as attractive, if it's for real. Many on TRP regard those with a low N count as better LTR material, and shyness & innocence somewhat imply a low c…
/r/TheRedPill16/03/16 01:44 AM
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So many people are like "DUMP DUMP DUMP", that won't fix everything here. He's just going to have similar problems in the next relationship if he doesn't correct the things redcarpet just outlined. Yes have the abundance mentality, but don't go nexting girls just because you don't know how to lead and create passive dread yet.
/r/TheRedPill16/03/16 12:33 AM
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The suggestions I gave don't guarantee a lack of flaking, it just improves your odds. I agree that you must be exhibiting some alpha behavior since you're getting numbers, but every time you put the ball in their court for plans it demonstrates a lack of leadership which is beta behavior. If they offer an alternative, yeah for sure jump on it if it works for you, but don't suggest they pick an alternative, or suggest that they tell you when they're free next. By default we normally make the plan…
/r/askTRP16/03/16 12:22 AM
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Yeah I'm thankful to have the RP awareness now. I certainly didn't have it when we got married and I'm lucky to have found it before my marriage had time to unravel. Nah that's fair, I see how that would come across that way, it is scarcity mentality somewhat I suppose. Normally I'd agree and say you just need to have the abundance mentality and not agree to marry until you have a woman that would agree to terms that protect you (and her as well potentially). Except I think the stats on marriage…
/r/askTRP15/03/16 10:19 AM
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I'm married, so I can't fully take up that mantra haha. I also agree that different behavior prior to marriage could've allowed you to be more discerning if she had thrown up red flags when you requested a pre-nup or other protections. However even a lot of "good" women will balk at a pre-nup due to romantic notions that "we'll never become such enemies that it would be a problem", or thinking patterns similar to that. Then of course the reality is that when things go sour in the relationship an…
/r/askTRP15/03/16 08:48 AM
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Sorry to hear man. You hear of stuff like this and the whole "don't marry" mantra on TRP starts to make sense.
/r/askTRP15/03/16 05:49 AM
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It gives her the impression that she has you; she's already won you over. If it's that easy for her to impress you, how high status/alpha are you really? It can be just strictly a shit-test you need to pass, but sometimes (depending on her body language and tone) she's actually also saying "I'm into you, and I'm wondering how much you're into me." It's a good opportunity to bring her into your frame and condition her to realize she needs to actually win you over, rather than vice versa. You coul…
/r/askTRP14/03/16 08:04 AM
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There's a lot here, but I'll address the part you say here: "Whats up this is 'my name' Whats your week/weekends look like ill figure out something fun for us to do?" Abdada's comment about giving your name is spot on. As for the rest, here's how it's received: "Hey my schedule is empty and if you give me any indication that you're interested in spending time with me, then I'll expend the effort needed to act like I'm taking the lead and have a plan. Also since I don't have anything going on I'l…
/r/askTRP14/03/16 07:38 AM
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That's really shitty man, thankfully I haven't heard of too many other examples like this. Though you have to wonder, how often would you really know if your ex-wife had help like this? It's much more likely that you wouldn't discover it and would just think she was the master manipulator. I'm curious though, what was the end result for you? Did the court system buy their game, or were you able to offer evidence of the baiting and lies they were going to use/used?
/r/askTRP14/03/16 07:19 AM
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Sounds like you need to work on your confidence, so maybe this will help; as a male if you've had that many approaches over only a couple of years your SMV is likely through the roof, especially given the beta body language you have been exhibiting yet they still approach. Feel good about the fact that you have been blessed with good genetics and if you're not already, start going to the gym to go from hot to godlike. Anxiety is an attraction killer and what might help you is to get a prescripti…
/r/askTRP14/03/16 07:12 AM
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I'm not sure we know enough to write her off as a next that quickly, especially since she wasn't trying to initiate unprotected sex with him.
/r/askTRP14/03/16 07:01 AM
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I think abdada's point (which could have been more direct), is that it's up to you to decide how often you want to see your LTR as the man in the relationship. If you're trying to get a sense for the minimum/maximum before it will become a negative thing for the LTR, I'd say there is no maximum as long as you're the one taking the lead and not coming across as needy in your behavior. As for a minimum, probably 1-2 times a week to avoid her starting to shop around for a new partner.
/r/askTRP14/03/16 06:57 AM
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Yeah man I hear you, that stings. As a man there's no lower blow than an insult to your sexual prowess. Like sexyshoulderdevil said though, all women are capable of being nasty depending on your behavior as a man. In some cases it might not be only your behavior either, if you get with a woman with what they call I believe a cluster B personality; borderline personality disorder, bi-polar disorder etc. all bets are off. You could be fucking superman to them one day and then a pile of toilet scum…
/r/askMRP14/03/16 06:13 AM
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I'm not sure I follow the who's who in your explanation above. Ultimately though if the nasty things this woman is saying have no merit, you need to find a way to get that information to an HR group, or a leader that you trust in one of the two organizations who can do something about it. Ideally you'd also want a co-worker you trust who will corroborate what you report to that leader or HR group. If it's just you reporting it then it will be too easy for them to chalk it up to a personality cla…
/r/askTRP14/03/16 05:52 AM
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Ah I see. If you know a dealer that can be trusted not to give you garbage that could harm you then yeah I suppose that is an option. I'm not a doctor, but maybe it's possible you might be able to get a legitimate prescription? Though I have a feeling they might try to get you to go to therapy first instead seeing as how it doesn't seem to be a physiological issue for you. If it's anxiety/self-doubt that's killing the erection for you (which I get if penetration has been a repeat problem), maybe…
/r/askTRP14/03/16 05:37 AM
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It might not just be lubrication, are you spending a lot of time on foreplay first? I'm thinking maybe she's not relaxed enough before you attempt to penetrate? As for your thought on trying a viagra, normally I'd say a guy your age shouldn't need it, but maybe just to get past your mental block it could help to use it a couple times. It worked for this guy: https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/49p84z/dating_an_alpha_widow_my_2_year_journey_from/ Relevant bit: "If you suffer from anxiety…
/r/askTRP14/03/16 01:37 AM
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I know TRP talks a lot about having a "don't give a fuck" attitude, but you are not trying to date this asshole of a woman, nor are you trying to game someone in the office. This person is smearing your reputation and while it's good that you're keeping a level head and not stooping to her level, it's something that needs to be nipped in the bud if at all possible. What you need are specific examples. She's bad mouthed you to X,Y, & Z person. Are any of X,Y,Z in your corner? Who is someone in yo…
/r/askTRP14/03/16 01:30 AM
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I like stickfiguresk answer the best. It is pretty presumptuous of her to expect commitment after hanging out once, you barely even know this girl. Say something that lets her know this without making it sound like you're angry or give a fuck. (though as others have mentioned you should wait for her to re-engage to do) It may sound crass but your commitment is your pussy, don't give it up easily.
/r/askTRP14/03/16 01:19 AM
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I disagree that it's good social proof. Pre-selection is good, but it should be by passively letting women see that you get female attention. A hickey is too overt, it says "hey please look at me, can't you see that I get laid?". An alpha doesn't need a branding to let women know that he gets attention.
/r/askTRP14/03/16 12:47 AM
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Yeah I'm honestly a bit bewildered that she seems interested in reconciling and he's the unsure one about the relationship. Dude isn't being a man and taking care of his responsibilities. You don't need to be rich to keep a woman but you do need to act like an adult with your money. I'd be curious to know what her SMV is compared to his.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/03/16 12:31 AM
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I agree that some of the responses are hostile and I'm not a fan of that sort of reply, but what you don't seem to be aware of is that your post was somewhat hostile as well. A lot of people are subscribed to this sub and believe in its material, so when you make a post that questions TRP as a whole based on a single book you can see how that might make some people defensive. I'm not saying I support the hostility but: "if everything in this book is considered to be completely true and these are…
/r/TheRedPill03/03/16 07:22 AM
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It could be as others have said, it's not as new and exciting since you've been with her as long as you've said, however one thing I would ask is do you watch porn? It can desensitize you and lessen your arousal for your partner. It's generally not recommended on TRP. During the honeymoon phase where sex with the new girl is still really novel you won't notice it as much, but once that has worn off the effects really start to become noticeable. Assuming you do, give it up for a few months and wa…
/r/askTRP03/03/16 06:53 AM
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It was a shit test to see how'd you respond. The failing response would be something like "oh but I have to see you on my birthday" or another beta response like that where you give the impression that your day will be ruined without her. By saying nothing you get her hamster spinning and wondering "Does he not care? Why hasn't he said anything? Is he making other plans already?" I read something recently where a guy told a girl to send her nude pics. She then listed some kind of condition that …
/r/askTRP03/03/16 06:45 AM
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Man the value I've gotten out of this subreddit is unreal; keep tips like this coming.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/02/16 07:21 AM
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I think this is the best course of action. If you really feel like something needs to be said, giving your feedback to the college directly after the course is completed is your best chance of having an impact on the course without risking your grade being lowered. If you give your feedback in a giant echo chamber it's not going to be heard over the echo.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/16 07:46 PM
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Yeah I remember reading something similar to this from David Deangelo (I don't know what TRP's opinion is on him but I've found some TRP truths in his stuff). Anyway he was talking to some PUA in an interview. He said if you initially tell a girl you don't want anything serious, she might agree at first but then later say she wants an exclusive relationship; if you agree she'll actually lose respect and attraction for you. However if you stick to your guns and say something like "no this was wha…
/r/TheRedPill23/02/16 11:16 AM
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I can see both sides of it I think. On the one hand sure TRP is supposed to be all about OI and doing things for yourself rather than for others (the comment about you working out being something for her I mean), but you weren't being serious (it was a playful response) and responding in the sexualized way you did was likely very effective escalation.
/r/TheRedPill23/02/16 08:28 AM
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