TheRedArchive

~ archived since 2018 ~

RedditDude07467 Archive

View 3 posts and 61 comments by RedditDude07467 on TheRedPill subreddit and various other subreddits related to The Red Pill community.
Search in:
In subreddits:
More
Filter by year/month:
Upvotes Comment on Subreddit Date (UTC)
1

Jiu-jitsu
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 01:39 AM
-4

Not sure where you are located but here in the US traditional roles are trending among Gen Z. That’s why the New York Post wrote that article trying to steer young women away from it.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 06:52 PM
-2

“Traditional Role” advocacy has become my wheelhouse since divorcing four years ago. Defined gender roles where the man protects, provides, and guides while the woman creates, nurtures, and submits are definitely the “back to the future” path we need as a society. The Gen Z folks are moving that way hard. Tradwife/housewife burn out is definitely a thing. In older days what prevented it was spreading the housework load among a multi-generational family living together and/or polygyny with multip…
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/26 06:28 PM
1

It’s already over. She is 99% already seeing another guy/gal and just feels guilty so she’s trying to break it to you slowly. Get a lawyer, jettison this baggage, and start rebuilding your life. Sorry you are going through this but the sooner you get clarity the better.
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/26 03:03 PM
19

At its core, monogamy is a monopoly—a power structure where the woman becomes the sole supplier of intimacy, emotional support, and companionship. And as with any monopoly, it is not the consumer (the man) who holds power, but the supplier. In business, a monopoly leads to inflated prices and declining quality. Why? Because there is no competition, no incentive to improve, no accountability. The customer is lucky to receive average service—mediocrity becomes the norm. So too in monogamy. When a …
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/25 10:59 PM
13

Because I was living in a grey soulless haze. My marriage had slowly dwindled to roommate status like a frog in a boiling pot. I was just hanging in there telling myself “it will get better when the kids are out of the house”. It took an aggressive and super hot woman 30 years younger to ask if she could call me Daddy before I snapped out of it. Very grateful she did.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 03:44 AM
6

Yes. “Cheating” on a 15 year dead bedroom marriage opened my eyes that there was more to life and I punched out. One year later very happy I did.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 03:06 AM
9

Make no mistake she is testing you right now and you only have one chance to get it right. Your only good move is an immediate “fine, we are done, GTFO” and scare her, then start lifting weights. She will either reconsider (win), or leave (already heading that way), but you will at least retain your dignity and a strong chance of her coming back. If you grovel and beg or otherwise negotiate you will completely lose her forever. Good luck amigo.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 03:10 PM
5

Yes, trust your gut. Your best course of action is not to press an investigation because as you correctly observed that can cause its own issues. Instead you need to back away. Stop calling her when you normally do, stop with the good morning texts, stop being available. She will either chase you or not, and then you will have your answer.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 02:49 PM
4

Such a great comment here
/r/RedPillWives01/02/24 04:26 AM
3

Had a boss babe wife, that’s what drove me to discover tradwives🤣 I actually haven’t seen the trend you describe, but if it’s accurate then those guys looking to “convert” boss babes are in for a lot of pain.
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/24 04:00 AM
1

So sorry, very tough situation. So first off welcome to adulthood, which begins when you realize your parents are just big children too who can make selfish and inconsiderate ego-driven decisions. I think you delicately but firmly have to tell mom and dad 1) you will not tolerate hearing them talk bad about one another, it will destroy your relationship with them if they continue. 2) you would prefer to have time with both of them, but if one of them can’t accept that you don’t need to be with t…
/r/Divorce_Men12/09/23 12:34 PM
38

Do you think that He in His perfection would have created the hormone factory in you that urges you towards mating and then wanted you to feel guilty about those urges? Be kind to yourself. You don’t have to have sex, don’t have to masturbate, but feeling guilty about wanting to isn’t necessary. Praying you find a resolution that gives you peace soon🙏
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/23 01:10 PM
3

Young guys need to date older women to get experience, not traumatize young women while they figure it out. Benjamin Franklin had it figured out: https://theredheadriter.com/2013/02/benjamin-franklins-advice-on-sex-marriage-older-women/
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/23 12:23 PM
12

Your pain is valid and understandable. You are in for an unpleasant but necessary ride through the stages of grief. Acceptance is your goal, that’s where the pain ends and you rediscover yourself in a new position of opportunity. 35 is still very young. The dating dynamic is completely changed from 20 years ago thanks to the internet and a renewed interest by young women in being traditional stay-at-home wives. Get help from your friends, ask for help here, know that you are not alone. 🤜🤛
/r/Divorce_Men13/05/23 11:59 AM
1

Tag for interest
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/23 12:12 AM
7

TRP is the core ideology, the understanding and acceptance of female hypergamy and strategies to prevail in that reality. There are other subreddits that address TRP within marriages etc, you can find what you looking for there.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 11:44 AM
7

No matter what your overall life goal is, if it involves women your success goes back to your ability to hold frame and keep your value high. If your purpose is to have kids and keep their mother in your circle so you can see them you must hold frame. The moment you start slipping frame or losing value you start drifting towards the “billpayer babydaddy” cliff.
/r/TheRedPill06/05/23 11:13 AM
2

Oh, open marriage is the way to go first. For your wife, that’s really no change right? She’s not having sex with you already, so nothing’s gonna change there, the only difference is, you’ll be out of the grey world and into happy life. Plenty of women interested in dating, many in same situation you are. And the best part is if the wife says no then you don’t have to feel bad about divorcing her.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/23 08:39 PM
7

I mean it’s extremely likely she intended to go be with another guy in her country, felt bad about it so she gave it all away in the divorce, but her other man ditched her and now she wants back in your life. Don’t be her fall back plan.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 02:02 PM
2

Start looking around 25, they are looking for you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 01:55 PM
15

Based on that behavior she has someone else already lined up. Get a lawyer and hire a PI to get evidence if you are in a state that does at-fault divorces. Marriage is over, grieve when you can but immediately start protecting yourself. Sorry for your loss
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 06:54 PM
2

As much as you want to stay entangled with her I’d ask for an open marriage and just save yourself the divorce headache.
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/23 01:20 PM
1

Seriously this is a common “cuckold” kink, a bit off with the killing you part. I wouldn’t ascribe too much meaning to it. That said too much porn is def a problem you can and need to tackle. Good luck sir.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/23 11:49 AM
-7

Try this exercise, go back to Gen 1, and start reading with the understanding that the Holy Spirit moving/hovering/brooding over the waters represents the divine female. Thus the Holy Trinity is fundamentally about family.
/r/RPChristians24/02/23 10:08 PM
4

TBH men don’t even understand your crazy rant here. Nothing personal but try r/divorce to get some female brains on this for you.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 04:52 AM
6

Bro, you actually get more desirable to women as you get older. No worries. Just take care of yourself, stay in shape, keep improving where you can.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/23 03:32 AM
1

She’s like 75yo. Are you recommending her or her firm?
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/23 03:34 PM
3

Reading this it sounds like he was being a weak husband, failing to give you clear guidance on his expectations. Then when you acted outside his expectations, like spending too much, rather than correct you he chose to just grumble. That in time turned into deep irrational resentment. Now he has this mental list of the things you did/do that he doesn’t like, and it basically triggers negative feelings about you every time he’s reminded. This resentment is going to be very hard to reverse, and is…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/22 01:07 PM
1

Thanks for the bump!
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 05:57 PM
1

Wow sounds like good advice. Will do! Thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 05:55 PM
5

Really not a big deal to have two parties, kid would be thrilled. She can do her party on her day.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 12:25 PM
2

15 paragraphs and you take zero blame. The best you can hit him with is “emotionally cheating”, not actually cheating or you certainly would have said so. The fact that he wants his own kids and you wouldn’t/couldn’t give them to him is justification enough to divorce. But the fact that you would post in this sub crying about being the victim speaks volumes. #adiosamiga
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 07:44 PM
5

Most others hit the main points but I’ll add a few. Texas is a “no fault” state, but they will still punish cheaters on the asset split saying you “dissipated marital assets” while engaged in an affair and can be very punitive well in excess of any amounts actually spent on an affair. You didn’t mention the “reasons” for the divorce here so I would caution you to TELL YOUR LAWYER EVERYTHING, so they can prepare properly. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men22/10/22 05:39 PM
5

Was faced with similar situation two years ago. Went for it. No regrets, we are both absurdly happy together. Downside: the world is full of judgy bigoted people who proclaim “love wins” until it involves elements of patriarchy then are told they should hate instead. Many of these people will be in your families. Many people will never really accept your relationship. Upside: unsullied traditional minded 10/10 Christian woman who is your dreamgirl and you are her dream man. Disclaimer: age of co…
/r/RPChristians21/10/22 10:16 PM
2

The gifting question is probably to find gifts to an adultery partner which could be construed as “wrongly dissipating marital assets” and affect the common property split.
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/22 03:49 AM
8

The problem is the fact that the mother-in-law is the pediatrician. Wives have all kinds of issues with mother-in-laws to begin with, and issues about breastfeeding, and your mother being the pediatrician too creates an imbalance of power that she is resisting. Find a new pediatrician, take the child there, and do what they say.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/22 09:54 AM
1

The sooner you divorce the less of your retirement she’s going to get. As of today it’s going to be 17/40ths of your retirement check if you drop at 20 yrs. Those kids are so young now is the time to divorce. As they get older it gets a lot worse. Go for custody because it sounds like you are doing it all anyways.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/22 01:51 AM
15

Yes she’s obviously 100% playing a game. She’s gonna move the goal post so on you and say “well your proposal is a good starting offer, here’s my counter-offer” and be able to look like she still being reasonable. You need a lawyer ASAP.
/r/Divorce_Men17/05/22 04:32 PM
7

Yes, you being way too generous. Crush her.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/22 01:39 AM
13

Well not just biblically but legally if she is being held against her will (and will tell the cops that) force is legally justified to separate them in every US state.
/r/RPChristians14/05/22 11:46 PM
4

Try jiu-jitsu or some other martial art. It’s really helped a lot of guys trying to regroup their lives.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/22 05:25 PM
7

Well, counseling. It sounds like you are self aware enough for it to help. That said you are probably just super introverted too.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/22 02:04 PM
5

Yes sounds like a very familiar story. I really wouldn’t be upset with the kids at all. She is intentionally attempting to bias them, there’s no good reason she needed to let teens in on the affair and “her side of the story”. I would talk with the kids from the “there’s two sides to every story” angle.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 08:19 PM
3

Does the journal tell “her side” of why she felt justified cheating on you? It seems possible she intentionally let the kids find it on the tablet, so they would learn about the affair framing the affair as an unfortunate but understandable consequence of what a jerk their dad was. Reading about something first is a very powerful way of inserting bias into the reader as compared to hearing about something.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/22 07:58 PM
16

I know most guys are not planning on remarrying anytime soon but keep in mind another woman isn’t likely to want to live in that house with you.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/22 04:07 PM
2

Well it’s social control to approve who married who and it always has been. Same with divorce. Historically the church and state were the same thing, so no one noticed when the modern separate state assumed the role of “licensing” marriage and “granting” divorce. It’s an anachronistic concept that needs to go, along with “common law marriage”.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 12:46 PM
1

F no. The only thing certain about this entire Covid debacle is that giving up your rights “just for two weeks” means you are giving them up forever. Same applies in this case.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/21 10:25 PM
5

Do a push-up every time you think about being alone. Your future twentysomething girlfriend will thank you.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/21 12:03 AM
3

Great advice. Yes I do need to mentally, financially, and legally prepare for worst case response. But I feel like since I have so much time before I file maybe it’s possible to set all those protections in place but still ease her into it. If she’s going to go nuclear option anyways then I lose nothing but possibly gain some nice guy points. Thanks for your thoughts, obviously I have a lot to sort out.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/21 12:30 PM
0

Well I’d be doing counseling basically to help get her to start coming to grips with the fact that this marriage is dead dead dead. But yes, if the result of that is a biased counselor just steering her to thinking she’s an innocent victim that’s not productive either.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/21 12:26 PM
2

Yes, deep down I know I have to plan for worst case scenario vis a vis her having a victim-revenge response. That’s what I would really like to avoid. Fortunately I retired from military to raise kids and she earns 25x more than I do so hopefully I’m not at risk of alimony other than part of my retirement. I know I can find someone else, and I know she can too. Just wish there was a way to gradually shift her to realizing that it would be better to be divorced, sort of start the grieving process…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/21 12:19 PM
2

Yes I’m definitely taking this advice. We live in a small town. If I go consult now with one now and then she tries to hire the same lawyer for advice in a few years do they have to stonewall her and refuse?
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/21 12:14 PM
0

Yes, I have been thinking about this. I probably will need to basically start a part time job selling all the hobby crap I have collected over 25 years of homesteading. I know once I decide to file I don’t want any emotional attachments to material things.
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/21 12:12 PM
2

Ugh, just terrible to add trauma drama to what is already a done deal. I definitely see your points though. As far as leaving early I have an amazing interaction with the kids right now, am primary caretaker, and getting them across the finish line is the only thing that has kept me in the marriage this long. I could probably get custody and child support from wife but that seems too cold blooded at this point. I appreciate your comments, I know I’m probably too optimistic vis a vis her response…
/r/Divorce_Men03/06/21 12:10 PM
5

No way, she’s a) already seeing someone else, and b) has already talked to a lawyer who told her go for the mutual agreement because she will get slaughtered in a contested divorce. You need a solo consult with your own attorney before you do anything. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/21 06:01 PM
5

Jiujitsu. This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men04/05/21 09:57 PM
1

Airsoft gas gun with blowback, it’s entirely possible. Don’t fear inanimate objects, and definitely don’t teach your children to be afraid of objects.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/21 04:18 PM
4

Just go visit the subreddit r/deadbedrooms and you will see it’s filled with people 20 and 30 years into a marriage regretting the fact that they stayed with a low libido spouse.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/21 05:21 PM
2

Jiu-Jitsu and a knife, pistol, both, or whatever the most capable tool is you can carry under your local laws. Good luck.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/21 01:37 PM
3

Similar thing for developing competent self-defense skills. Once you understand how pathetically vulnerable 99% of the population is you never want to be like that again.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/21 12:18 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.
created by /u/dream-hunter