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5

I'm not going to comment on your past marriages. But going forward you should consider solo travel, dating and pay women to go away.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 05:14 PM
10

If she has a new guy, she's had him a while and just made the decision to monkey branch. She is no longer your wife, she's your adversary and you need a lawyer. Start protecting assets and all communication goes through your attorney
/r/Divorce_Men17/07/26 11:09 PM
22

Pretty good chance whoever she was seeing isn't seeing her anymore. So. You are the backup. Stay no contact and move on. Get your head on straight, stop drinking and thrive.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 04:40 PM
9

Get off Reddit, get to a lawyers office. Start protecting assets and get ahead of her. Your marriage died after her first affair, you just refused to accept it. Man up, grow a spine and go to war
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/26 01:01 AM
17

The coaches wife deserves to know.
/r/Divorce_Men22/06/26 04:17 PM
21

He needs to just say " my body, my choice" over and over and over
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/26 03:53 PM
2

This is a great statement. I'm going to remember this one
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/26 09:37 PM
9

If my memory is correct, NC is an attorney fault state. Get a lawyer and go scorched earth.
/r/Divorce_Men08/06/26 07:47 PM
3

And do exactly what he tells you. As for not caring about money, she earns more. Use that to your advantage.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/26 03:44 PM
3

If you do decide to be a manager for the property, make sure you have a contract in place. Fees, expenses, costs, etc.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 06:21 PM
5

Keeping them is just pain shopping. Delete them and don't look back. It's unhealthy to pine over an ex spouse.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 11:43 PM
7

It's all about money, and hiding her affair. Stay strong. Fight for 50/50. She wants your resources and the lifestyle, ot you
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 02:30 AM
8

She wants to remain in the residence for your resources. Do not reward her. If she wants to be single, then seperate her from as many resources as you can. Get your attorney and listen to them to the letter. You shouldn't be forced to fund her single lifestyle. File first and keep her responding to you, not the other way around. Good luck
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/26 11:27 PM
23

Your STBXW is now just an adversary and you need to go gray rock. You need to record everything also, and should have been doing it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/26 04:28 PM
12

Breathing and having a pulse
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 11:25 PM
3

Once you've made that decision and set your goals, your STBXW is now an adversary and needs to be treated as such. Get a good attorney, explain your goals and do exactly as they say.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/26 09:31 PM
1

It's a shame in your case, the trash only took itself halfway out
/r/Divorce_Men30/03/26 12:24 AM
8

Go camping with your son this summer. Do some fishing. If he's old enough, drink some beer. Also hit the gym. Get some therapy if you think it will help.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 08:37 PM
9

Because deep down, she's miserable and this is a way to try and show the world she is doing great. If your doing great you don't need to broadcast it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 08:42 PM
13

At any function for the kids where you are both present, do not sit anywhere near her. Do not interact with her. Just gray rock her. Only interact with the children. When she asks ( she will), just tell her you are no longer married and have no desire to watch her make an ass of herself in front of the children.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/26 09:36 PM
7

Im guessing you've discussed the issues until you were just exhausted. Her saying it's on you to fight for the marriage is pure manipulation. She didn't make an effort for years when you asked, don't let her guilt you
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 07:57 PM
15

Sounds like you'll be better off longterm
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 11:15 PM
9

Women want the wedding, not the marriage
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 02:10 AM
11

Never leave the house until your lawyer has a separation agreement in place.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/25 08:48 PM
2

Make sure your attorney is kept fully informed. If he's good and experienced, he's this shit before and can start a strategy to counteract this crap
/r/Divorce_Men09/10/25 12:51 AM
11

You're wondering how long to put up with it? My man, not one second. File for divorce. Listen to your attorney. Why would or should you put up with this crap? Man up
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/25 06:45 PM
9

It rarely is,then they learn too late
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/25 02:15 AM
18

90% chance that there is another guy. Protect yourself, get a lawyer. She's no longer your wife, she's an adversary
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/25 03:49 AM
3

Harlottl Wench Jezibelle Trollop Garden Tool Bicycle
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/25 02:18 AM
5

Get your own attorney and start protecting your assets. If it's legal, start recording any and all conversations to protect yourself. Stay calm, never raise your voice.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/25 03:55 AM
3

If legal, record EVERYTHING.Every interaction.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/25 08:34 PM
3

She's no longer your wife. She's now your adversary, and the sooner you treat her as such the better the outcome will be for you
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 04:57 PM
6

Your lucky she was too stupid to finalize the previous divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 11:48 PM
4

Sometimes you need to send a shock to the system. Get an attorney and file. Have her served. It's what she wants, but also wants you as a backup plan. Choose yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/25 01:34 AM
2

Hire one
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 07:14 PM
7

I think you should consult an attorney. At this point she is your adversary and should be treated as such. You want 50/50, have your attorney force it. Give her nothing except what the court orders
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/25 07:10 PM
7

Things get better two ways. You get an attorney who sets her straight. You also stand up for yourself and set boundaries
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 01:43 PM
2

Any children ? Melt it down and make a pendant or something. Otherwise, sell it as scrap metal. Take the $50 and treat yourself to McDonald's
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 09:28 PM
17

But, but, but. She's a strong, independent woman. This is your chance to try for more custody if you want it
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/25 05:19 AM
5

You should get a voodoo doll that resembles her.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/25 09:05 PM
9

You need to have some self-respect. She's sleeping around. The other guy has been in the background from before she moved out. File and follow through. Tell her other than about the children, you will no longer communicate with her except through the lawyer. Everything else strictly via text or e mail.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/25 08:59 PM
3

Do you want your children to think this is normal ? It's better for them to see a happy parent separated and living more healthy than miserable together.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/25 02:54 PM
10

If she's not getting it from you, she's getting it somewhere else.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 12:31 AM
4

However you pay, you need to be able to prove it. A buddy of mine paid what he needed to via bank transfers, but his ex would ask for extra to buy the kids stuff. He had her sign proof on a receipt. Later, she tried to drag him into court for more child support. He presented the receipt book showing he was paying more than the court ordered. The judge told her to pound sand.
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/25 11:00 PM
2

Private investigator for a week. Anyway, like you said. No fault, State.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 08:21 PM
3

There's nothing wrong with becoming an asshole. She's decided to upend the family life. Once reality sets in, she's going to try and "work it out" with you. If you think there is infidelity, you should get proof. If not, just understand that no matter what she says, she no longer loves you, and you should divorce her.
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/25 08:02 PM
1

If you have a lawyer, ask them. But I would imagine that's OK to do as long as nothing is disposed of
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/25 10:36 PM
3

Boundaries is the answer. When she asks for help with fixing a toilet, car repairs, or anything outside the children. The correct answer is, that's a job for a husband, oh wait ! You don't have one anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 09:00 PM
3

If legal, record every conversation and interaction. Lawyer up and listen to your attorney
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/25 08:15 PM
10

She's checked out. It's time you called her bluff. She has a delusion of how great life would be without you. You'll take a big financial hit, but regain peace in your life.
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/25 04:01 PM
7

Of course, it's monetary. She's going to go right back to her old ways within 6 weeks if you get back with her. Best thing you can do is cut her off completely
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 04:35 PM
3

Time to take a vacation to Thailand and reboot your life
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/25 11:04 PM
8

In most jurisdictions, unless co mingled, an inheritance isn't factored into divorce finances. You need to talk to an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 01:21 AM
15

You or your attorney need to demand vaccination and medical records on the dog. If they say that they don't have them, the veterinarian certainly does.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/24 11:37 PM
15

Why do you need counseling with her ? You didn't do anything. She's more worried about her reputation and finances. The sooner you file, the less financial damage
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/24 04:17 PM
12

Why are you an emotional Tampon ? Just cut her off and learn to move on. You do know she actually enjoys causing you pain.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/24 03:23 PM
10

You tell her, since you are no longer her husband, you will not provide husbandly benefits.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 06:36 AM
13

She wants you to be an emotional tampon. Why put yourself through that
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 02:53 PM
6

The absolute legal minimum. Why would you pay to be cucked by the other guy ?
/r/askMRP11/11/24 12:09 AM
2

Honestly, if he's already getting divorced, I wouldn't care if she freaked. I would, however, keep the information in my back pocket as leverage
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/24 12:17 AM
28

She's been having an affair for a while
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 05:00 PM
6

Once you find it/them, just give it the finger every time you walk by. Since you know there's cameras, act accordingly. Pretend to be on the phone and tell it how much you love her, how her best friend is an ass. Just mind fuck with it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 12:40 AM
3

She doesn't care about you, no matter how many jobs or how much money. It's either you're never home, or you don't earn enough. It takes two to kill a marriage, she can own her half.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/24 12:32 AM
5

Record everything, get a few spycams around the house. If it gets that bad, move out
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/24 12:50 AM
13

She's scared for her financial well-being going forward. She's not really considering you. She's just trying to manipulate. You don't go from not in love with you anymore to in love again like that.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/24 12:39 AM
5

Retired cop here. DV laws are written with wording "shall," leaving no discretion as opposed to "may" leaving discretion.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 03:21 PM
3

Success is the best revenge
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 09:24 PM
11

I would tell her, " That's something a loving husband does, it's a shame you don't have one anymore"
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 06:49 PM
3

Is this a temporary agreement for the separation? For divorce and a final custody agreement, you need to get 2 weekends per month minimum, plus the weekdays you already have.
/r/Divorce_Men07/09/24 07:04 PM
2

If she loses her job before divorce, it could affect alimony. Yes of course tell the other spouse
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 10:12 PM
9

Just remember, she is no longer your wife. She is an adversary and treat her as such. Get yourself an attorney, strike first. Make sure that ALL contact is through the attorney and protect yourself and as many assets as possible. If you do speak with her, make sure to record everything and always remain calm and cool. She's going to try and get you to lose control so she can claim abuse. Control the narrative and let her family, your family and friends know what's going on. Do not report to her …
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 09:28 PM
3

My son has a 50/50 schedule. They swap every week. He takes them to school his weeks, and his GF picks them up. If your schedule is every other day, that's insane
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 03:38 AM
3

The outcome from this hearing can affect you for years. Have the lawyer handle it. Do you know why divorces are expensive ? Because they're worth it
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/24 12:35 AM
8

You need to toughen up. She's no longer your spouse. She's an adversary and needs to be treated as such. She's going to try and destroy you. You need to protect yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/24 03:05 PM
4

If you're the one providing all the financial support, cooking, cleaning, helping with her child, laundry, etc, and she's not doing anything. It would appear you don't have a wife. You have for lack of a better term, a freeloaders roommate
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 09:58 PM
3

Ask yourself one question. What does she bring to the marriage ?
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/24 09:28 PM
5

Hate to say it. No girl is amazing. Every one of them will drop you for more money or status in a heartbeat. She's just a girl. And until she proves she's worthy, treat her as just a temporary distraction.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/24 03:59 AM
6

Getting over a failed relationship takes time. For some, it can be months, others years. If you've lost the love, you will only be miserable trying to stay together. Don't let her manipulate you.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 05:51 AM
14

Don't offer to help her with things. That's husbandry duty. She's indifferent to you. You need to at least act the same
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 07:00 PM
13

You can't set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. Sometimes divorce is the final answer.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 06:48 PM
11

I hope you get the ring back. Obviously, she's been cheating on you for a while. You didn't dodge a bullet, you dodged a nuke
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 10:06 PM
15

You tell her "It's a shame you don't have a loving husband who gives a shit" Then you take the kids and leave.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/24 07:24 PM
4

Dick move, but just trash the stuff. If she can't be there to receive it, them porch pirates suck.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 05:11 PM
3

Roxanne, you don't have to turn on the red light.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/24 05:34 AM
5

Just keep in mind, as you thrive and her life crashes, she's going to play the hoover for a while and try to suck you back in.
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/24 05:02 AM
11

If you want a friend, get a dog
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/24 04:02 AM
4

When she says it, tell her no, but you are more than welcome to move out.
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/24 05:18 PM
2

It has more to do with leftist societal decay than anything to do with men's rights
/r/MensRights03/08/24 02:13 AM
3

Yeah, she's happy with the new shiny toy she clicks with until real-life hits. Paying bills, having to get things serviced, doing laundry, you know, the same shit in your life now. Just set him free as painlessly as possible. I'm sure he deserves better than you. Who wants sloppy seconds.
/r/Divorce_Men02/08/24 02:52 AM
11

She needs to be on her own. Don't be her economic or emotional tampon
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 09:59 PM
0

Just remember, you are now adversaries. Get legal representation and settle for nothing less than the law says you are entitled to. If that's 50/50 plus child support, stick to it.
/r/Divorce_Men25/07/24 08:20 PM
5

She doesn't want you. She's annoyed that you're thriving.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/24 08:23 PM
5

And on the 14th day, God created divorce lawyers.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/24 04:07 PM
23

I'm really sorry about this. 5 years isn't really an affair, it's a complete hidden life. DNA tests the child, get an STD test. Consult an attorney and be strong. The ball is in her court, don't play the pick me dance. She sleeps on the couch, she leaves the house, not you. She fucked up the marriage, not you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/07/24 08:35 PM
1

Move out to a more friendly state, establish residency, then file before she does.
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/24 03:49 PM
3

You should keep her crap until the divorce is final, then have your attorney send a certified letter giving her how ever much time you want to pickit up, or it will be considered abandoned and disposed of. Alternately, you can place it in storage, pay one month, and give her the key with the same explanation. Disposing of her property could be looked at by the court as a dick move if you end up going to trial.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/24 11:44 PM
5

It's a shame she doesn't have a loving husband to fall back on. Obviously, she wants you as an emotional tMpon
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/24 05:40 AM
13

The sooner you file, the less it will cost in the end. Control the narrative. You've given her control of the narrative
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/24 05:28 AM
15

You're trying to white knight. You can't fix broken. Let her go before it costs you a ton of money 💰
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/24 05:08 AM
25

Women who have more assets than men, never respect the man in the relationship.
/r/MensRights16/06/24 02:13 AM
6

Filing first helps control the narrative. Your STBX is now an adversary, not your friend. Everything not concerning children goes through an attorney. Make sure you have pr[of of this infidelity and if legal record all conversations. Expect things to get ugly pretty fast
/r/Divorce_Men09/06/24 03:57 AM
19

My son divorced in Texas, his ex tried to take the kids away. The judge ordered she had to remain in county and the kids remain in the same school district. Get a good lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/24 04:36 PM
1

The courts may not care.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 04:46 PM
7

You do know that most jurisdictions will automatically consider you the father. You need to lawyer up, get her served, and a court ordered paternity test. It's going to take 9 months for the divorce to go through. No court will divorce you while she's knocked up. Get ahead of this man.
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/24 03:21 PM
6

Gray rock and 180. Playing the pick me dance only makes you look weak to her. Lawyer up and play hardball.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/24 06:12 AM
2

See if your attorney can recoup legal fees. That threat might help.
/r/Divorce_Men12/05/24 10:52 PM
19

You should get CS just on principle. Put the money as an allowance for your daughter when she goes to college. Why let the ex off the hook. She didn't let you slide.
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/24 09:57 PM
9

Cash and prizes , marriage isn't worth it
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/24 03:39 AM
4

Call her bluff
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/24 09:08 PM
3

Just ignore it. Stop going at the same time. Only wives deserve this. You can, of course, just laugh 😃 at her. That will make her really annoyed.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/24 01:25 PM
9

Your still not thinking with the big head
/r/askMRP19/04/24 03:26 AM
16

Also, the notion that going through her phone is wrong. If she's giving off red flags, I don't care if she thinks it's wrong. There is a difference between privacy and secrecy
/r/Divorce_Men13/04/24 06:05 PM
13

She cheated, monkey branched. The branch broke, and so is she. You're stable she's not. She wants you to support her while she plays single and cheats more. Unless kids are involved go no contact.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/24 03:19 AM
28

It means her life sucks. But, she can't admit to doing anything wrong. Just ignore her and live your best life
/r/Divorce_Men01/04/24 02:23 PM
5

This is called an emotional affair
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/24 05:22 PM
2

You should have gotten a lawyer months ago. . Depending on the state, it's not illegal to record as long as one party consents (you). I would have told the police that without a warrant, they could pound sand. Now start separating yourself from her and don't interact. Just record everything and keep it backed up in case your attorney needs it.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/24 07:43 PM
15

Women control access to sex, and men control access to relationships. She may think she has a relationship, but I can almost guarantee she's being used for sex and it will crash and burn eventually
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 04:46 PM
21

Next time she asks, answer her, "It's a shame you don't have a loving husband to help you"
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 03:00 AM
10

Speak with your attorney, if she re married, Alamony may be thrown out.
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/24 09:20 PM
8

Because you loved her more than she EVER loved you.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/24 10:23 PM
11

Then you have your answer. You're setting yourself on fire to keep her warm.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 12:31 AM
13

The best thing is to call her bluff, file first. If she's just spouting nonsense, she'll want counseling. The power rests with you when she realizes she doesn't control the situation anymore.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/24 12:28 AM
1

The faster you file, the less it costs long term. Get out before the courts determine you are required to pay more and more.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/24 04:23 PM
2

I wish OP success. His XW failing is and of itself, unfortunately a form of vindication.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 11:18 PM
5

Get a lawyer to start protecting yourself
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 07:58 PM
4

Take your life back. She gets nothing unless legally required. Why are you paying for her to go play with another man ? You need a good kick in the backside.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 11:13 PM
2

What's the definition of insanity ? 🤔 why would you set yourself up to be with a serial cheater ? You know she hasn't changed. Your the backup financial plan.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/24 05:31 PM
8

Congratulations, hopefully you were awarded child support as icing on the delicious victory cake 🎂 🥮 🍥 🥞 🧁 🍰
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/24 01:01 AM
2

Now that she can see you are perfectly OK with the idea of living without her, she is in a panic. This turnaround is temporary. it's called love bombing. If it hasn't happened, next if bit hasent already happened, comes the hysterical bonding. She will want lots of sex. Don't get baby trapped. All this is temporary until she feels she has you back, then gradually she goes back to her old ways. I'm not saying you should or shouldn't go back to your marriage, but just be aware and cautious about t…
/r/Divorce_Men10/02/24 02:45 AM
2

Only fans . 😆
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/24 07:42 PM
2

Affair Potato
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/24 01:18 AM
6

You should have divorced 4 years ago. The longer you wait, the more likely you will be paying alimony. Usually, 5 years is the threshold.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/24 05:18 PM
11

Stop setting yourself on fire to keep her warm.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/24 12:55 AM
6

Judges have seen and heard the crap your STBXW is spewing over and over. It's not anything new to them. Unless you have a really biased judge, it should be an even split. So you both get screwed evenly
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/23 02:40 PM
4

Why would you take back used goods when you can find a new upgraded model ? She wants back so she can take you to the cleaners later. She wants back for your income, not you. Follow your lawyers advice, then make her prove herself , if it works out, get a strong prenuptial agreement. She needs consequences for HER bad choices
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/23 01:12 AM
35

As someone else posted. "It would be nice if she had a loving husband who gave a shit" She burned that bridge
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 11:59 PM
2

She wanted out, figuring everything would be rises, rainbows 🌈 and unicorns 🦄 . She literally fucked around and found out. Honestly, I would divorce her, and if you feel inclined, make her date and win her back. The stronger and more resolute you are, the more respect she will have. Even if things somehow miraculously worked out, I might not even re marry, but draw up a cohabitation agreement.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/23 10:21 PM
2

So, you have to "hange. She's not accepting that maybe she needs to dome change also. Get yourself an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/23 06:14 PM
5

Congratulations, you'll be in an even better place a year from now
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 02:59 AM
24

Just tell her it's too bad she doesn't have a loving husband to ask for help. Then block her
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 12:39 AM
47

She's getting married She wants you back She's pregnant
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 10:27 PM
3

Just introduce her to people as your EX tramp EX Trollop EX Harlott EX wench EX receptacle
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 09:55 PM
6

If you have an attorney, tell her ALL communication MUST go through your lawyer. Then just block her and do not respond to anything.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/23 05:59 PM
2

Insanity.
/r/MensRights22/11/23 07:26 PM
-2

Ask your attorney
/r/Divorce_Men20/11/23 03:34 AM
8

Many states do not leave the officers a choice. In cases of domestic violence, the state can be the complainant, and there isn't anything you can do about it. The only thing you can do is testify on her behalf that you believe her actions were the result of PPD and hope for the best.
/r/MensRights20/11/23 01:06 AM
16

Tell her when the divorce is done that she can use her settlement money. Otherwise no
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 11:12 PM
17

Yes, let her know. If you have proof. She's at risk from the STD.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 03:59 PM
42

Take the maybe out of that sentence
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/23 11:42 PM
1

It wasn't ever a bank. It was a bucket with a small hole in it. It drained within a few days no matter how fast you filled it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 01:58 AM
16

Amicable or not, just gray rock and ignore.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 06:42 PM
7

Said so much better than I could. Why is it your responsibility to change to suit her needs. She doesn't want to compromise.
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/23 11:25 AM
2

A previous tax return should have the SSN
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 05:13 PM
7

Gray rock her
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 12:46 PM
70

The truth is almost always considerably worse than what you thought you knew.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 12:51 AM
25

Equality for all
/r/MensRights13/10/23 05:00 PM
4

Just address them as Trollop and Asshat
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 10:48 PM
20

In the meantime, she's telling them you're the bad guy for divorcing. Your children are pretty much old enough to be told the truth. You owe her nothing. She destroyed your family.
/r/Divorce_Men11/10/23 12:22 PM
2

Even in a long-term marriage, she should only be entitled to equity from the time the marriage occurred. Any equity previous to marriage isn't community property unless she helped with down payment or mortgage payments.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/23 10:56 PM
4

Lawyer and a custody agreement, then change the locks
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/23 12:30 PM
1

As others have said, get a lawyer. Also, fire your shitty cousin.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 02:46 AM
1

Obviously, your living rent free in her head. She parces it as contacting your son. Just delete the texts unless it actually is something requiring attention.
/r/Divorce_Men22/09/23 01:33 AM
32

Keep declining. She's trying to hoover you slowly
/r/Divorce_Men11/09/23 10:49 PM
24

You need your own lawyer
/r/Divorce_Men10/09/23 10:07 PM
1

You don't say how long you were married ? Hopefully, not long enough to deal with alimony
/r/Divorce_Men30/08/23 12:42 AM
3

Lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/23 05:57 PM
12

You should fly back twice a year. Take your wife with you and play tour guide and visit family. Divorce over homesickness seems like least valid reason.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/23 01:33 PM
2

She's keeping you on the back burner because at 36, she's approaching the wall where her value drops. In the meantime, your value is still peaking. As for not having an affair, this may be true. But I can promise it's not for lack of trying because marriage isn't fun anymore. Her journey is not going as she hoped. She has to compete with late 20s and early 30s women. Plus, her biological clock is getting closer to that alarm going off. Your best course is to go ahead and file
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/23 03:49 PM
6

5 prenuptial agreement
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 10:05 PM
14

Now it's your turn . Make a police report, In my jurisdiction, it's criminal mischief. The you take out a protective order on her
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 04:09 AM
3

Until a separation agreement is in place or court ordered, there is no reason for one of the parties to move out and jeopardize their interest in the property
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/23 01:30 AM
31

Always yell the unvarnished truth. "She's fucking someone "
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 02:29 AM
2

Lawyer up. She isn't your friend anymore. She's an adversary. She's going to go after the property and your retirement. Plus alimony and child support. Find out if your state is one of the few that doesn't indulge infidelity.
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/23 01:47 AM
8

Launch a suit against AP for alienation of affection. That'll get her attention
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/23 04:20 AM
13

If my wife were cheating and I was filing, I would cut off all non-essential services until the court ordered me to continue them.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 04:16 PM
5

You did well. As far as I would be concerned, she has her boyfriend, she gets the divorce, and she can get the consequences. I'm ASSuming she cheated and now gets to see what her actions have brought
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 04:12 AM
1

If it's allowed in your state, record all conversations. This way, you have proof. Then, as everyone else advises, call 911
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 07:34 PM
18

Lawyer up, and you serve first. Get a DNA test
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/23 05:07 AM
26

File first where it is in your best interest. Control things. She's your addvisery not your friend
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/23 05:44 PM
130

So she monkey branched, the branch is breaking. She has no other option and is trying to get you to be her backup plan. You said cheating was a non-negotiable line in the sand, and now you are starting to cave. If you buckle She would have no respect for you or your boundaries. Do not be captain save a ho. She made her bed and now needs to sleep in it
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/23 04:55 PM
10

The next time she says I want a divorce, you call her bluff. It's emotional abuse from her to do this.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/23 04:46 PM
3

She wants to control you. She wants you to pine for her for the rest of your life. But she wants to not have anything to do with you. Just go no contact and enjoy life
/r/Divorce_Men03/07/23 12:38 AM
10

My grandfather, rest his soul, told me beauty is skin deep, but ugly goes through to the bone.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 08:49 PM
7

You know, and she knows how she treated you. As others have said, her life isn't rainbows and unicorns like she thought it would be. Now she's trying to get you back because you are a stable solid that she can use in her life. Do not entertain any of it. Be the best father for your daughter and be a co parent to your ex. Live your best life to show her how she screwed up. A life well lived is the best revenge.
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 03:22 PM
8

Stop paying her credit cards. Pay only for marital items like mortgage and utilities. Contact an attorney and start separating your finances. She has started the process. You need to get yourself protected and prepared
/r/Divorce_Men19/06/23 04:10 PM
3

This is a shit show, and you need to exit immediately
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 04:08 PM
3

Co parent app only
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 11:15 PM
3

I would set up an auto reply to every text, " Not my Monkey, not my circus"
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 10:54 PM
25

What possesses people to ask for help in circumstances like that under those conditions ? Delusion
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 04:38 PM
2

Alarm, tell monitoring to send Police. If that doesn't send a message, you need to issue a trespass warning. Don't forget cameras.
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 01:17 AM
48

Contact an attorney, have her removed from the house, and get a protective order. If legal, then change all the locks and get some video cameras. Then, have her served with divorce papers. In all likelihood, this is going to get ugly
/r/Divorce_Men29/05/23 03:47 PM
6

He didn't learn the first time
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 08:35 PM
1

Have your lawyer involved
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/23 09:01 PM
3

And here is your answer. She is a snake who will do whatever she thinks will advance her needs. She's talking to other men instead of trying to possibly get back together. She has zero moral compass. You're the only one who wants to be back together. She doesn't give a shit
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 04:29 PM
2

Unfortunately, the best thing you can do is lawyer up and protect yourself. Go gray rock and let her go. Protect your children.
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 06:18 PM
7

Lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 04:20 AM
41

The dudes in Thailand are prettier
/r/MensRights15/04/23 08:20 PM
2

Save all messages. If she's doing drugs, they'll be disjointed and incoherent. Record all conversations.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 05:07 PM
0

Hit a gym. Get back to fighting weight. Once the divorce is final, you'll be in better shape physically and mentally to start dating.
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/23 04:17 PM
1

Unfortunately, you'll have to have your lawyer contact her lawyer. Deduct the hourly fee from the offer.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 03:36 PM
4

Divorce her ass. Have the custody agreement state no travel out of your area. Fuck her, then she can't up and leave with the child
/r/Divorce_Men06/04/23 04:28 AM
2

What someone wants and what they actually get are two different things. Does your spouse work ? That's factored in.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 08:58 PM
5

Ask your attorney, but this sounds unreasonable
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 10:05 PM
1

I retired several years ago. This was a city ordnance back quite a few years ago
/r/MensRights22/03/23 11:15 PM
1

We have-had a city ordnance that was a misdemeanor for using the restroom of the opposite gender. Before retirement, it was one of my favorite citations to write. The look on people's faces when I cited the code was priceless. I'm not sure it hasn't been revoked due to all the gender confusion these days, but a few years ago it was a fun one.
/r/MensRights22/03/23 03:32 PM
6

You should also check r/infidelity and r/survivinginfidelity
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 05:57 AM
6

Show strength. No contact. In a few months, you'll be much better
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/23 08:54 PM
2

While you may be the only name on the mortgage, are you both on the deed? In my case, I'm the mortgage holder, but both our names are on the deed. You need an attorney.
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/23 12:54 PM
7

That's really horrible. 6 months, should have been able to just get unulment.
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 03:36 PM
8

Where did you live that 6 months in she got so much? This sounds really shitty
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/23 02:49 PM
6

Your wife is 11 years older than you. She has either a lower libido or is low libido for you. When you left the first time, was she ok with it, or did she want you back? Sounds almost like she could care less either way as long as the bills are paid. It's time to get your testicle back and show some spine. She doesn't really respect you. You're still young, don't spend the next 30 years miserable
/r/askMRP15/03/23 08:58 PM
5

He'll if you decide to celebrate 6 months before and again 6 months after and on his birthday, it's none of her business.
/r/Divorce_Men12/03/23 09:22 PM
5

Get an attorney. Work on the assumption that STBX is now your adversary. Use her spending habits against her. She's financially abusive. If you can get better than 50/50 custody go for it.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 07:41 PM
3

If you're not ok with this, it's time to move on. She may say that she respects your choice,but eventually, her urges will overcome her mentally, and she'll go behind your back
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/23 07:43 PM
4

If you're not separated yet, pick up a discreet spy cam. Record everything, so if she claims DV, you have proof. If you have already decided on divorce, move to a different room. 180 and gray rock
/r/Divorce_Men07/03/23 04:14 PM
1

If you didn't care, you wouldn't be human. If you can get some kind of spy cam and place it so it records the front door. A second for the bedroom. Then you get proof.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 10:51 PM
4

I'm close to 65 years old I've been conservative since I was about 12 years old
/r/MensRights27/02/23 09:28 PM
1

Well. You decide. But part of gray rock and 180 is no longer giving a shit what she wants. Going a spine is no longer really giving a shit what she wants. In fact, you can tell her normal is out the window. She decided to end the marriage, and you're helping her with her decision She wants her cake and eat it too.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 08:55 PM
2

Gray rock is only interacting in the most basic form. Yes or no answers. No more hugging, no more planning things together effectively you become a gray rock to her. You can Google both techniques. It's time for you to become strong, lose your co dependence. Act as if you're already divorced .
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 08:41 PM
1

Obviously, you need a legal consult. You should start gray rock and 180 methods. She wants the divorce. You and her are no longer besties she wants out. If she won't entertain marriage counseling, you might hire a PI for a few days to see if she is actually cheating or not
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 08:31 PM
8

I'm a bit of an ass. If my wife said that to me, I would tell her that I agree, and she's free to explore her options after I talk to a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 06:56 PM
12

Get a few spycams and put them in various rooms
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 05:38 AM
16

She's not too smart. All your assets are going to be eaten by the lawyers. You need to get one since she decided to do it the hard way.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 07:23 PM
3

Glad you had that realization. Now you can move on also
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 07:02 PM
2

Pre Nup
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/23 03:28 PM
2

Kids can see these things. They're very intuitive. If you had the money, they could tell.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/23 07:53 PM
6

If legal record everything. Put a spy camera or something in the house and a doorbell cam
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 05:00 AM
5

The only thing you should be paying is bare survival necessities
/r/Divorce_Men28/01/23 06:22 AM
16

Document, contact your lawyer and sue for full custody and support. That'll show you how she has control 😏
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/23 03:55 AM
18

Lawyers and real estate agents, they work for themselves, not you
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/23 01:56 AM
2

Kick her out, replace your stuff. She's got mental health issues
/r/MensRights05/01/23 10:35 PM
6

Eh, her lawyer or her, decided the dog wasn't worth the expense. I wouldn't respond. Just move on.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/22 06:07 AM
4

Yeah, she s ends up winning the cash and prizes
/r/MensRights19/10/22 12:25 PM
1

Yes you compliment.
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