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| 1 | What's your go to outfit for a night out (bar/club)? Should it be any different from your day-time casual wear?Yeah of course it's important and mostly for the first impression, women screen guys the way their style is, and what I suggest you is follow like what the local club promoters or high value people who are in the scene wears. | /r/seduction | 05/05/20 03:22 AM |
| 3 | How do I get over the occasional negative thoughts about my self worth?You gotta make a decision about changing your life and grabbing the life from it's balls. After you make that decision stick to it. First step is going out and meeting a lot of women even at first you suck at it but still show up and you'll see everyday you'll be improving %0,01 and in the long chunk of a time of consistency like 3 to 6 months that will see first big changes in your life. | /r/seduction | 03/05/20 06:43 PM |
| 2 | How can I boost my confidence?Gather reference experiences, jump into cold ocean, get out of your comfort zone so you can say I've been there I've done that. | /r/seduction | 03/05/20 06:38 PM |
| 5 | Overcame fear today..Welcome to the other side my friend. | /r/seduction | 03/05/20 06:35 PM |
| 1 | How to continuously keep a girl interested in you/seduce her even in a relationship.First, you should be maintaining the same magnetic characteristics she found attractive at the beginning and she also should know if the time comes you'd be able to find another girl as quality as her and if it's time to walk away you'd do that without hesitation. You are the most engaged but least attached. | /r/seduction | 02/05/20 07:05 PM |
| 1 | How to go out regularly when you have to get up earlyGo out for shorter times like 30 mins to an hour. You can also take your lunch time as cold approach for example just be creative with the time you have! | /r/seduction | 16/04/20 07:04 PM |
| 5 | How and when to qualify yourselfOf course you never want to brag about yourself, so you don't want to come as show off, that's very unattractive to a girl cause you are basically trying to reach out to her. That's why indirectly you can bring the subjects which would qualify you like, if you are a successful public speaker you don't want to just bring the subject out of the blue ''Oh I just gave a speech to 15k people'' instead if you've been talking about something about speeches already so it won't be show off. Basically, yo… | /r/seduction | 16/04/20 06:58 PM |
| 1 | Should you keep texting your fwb during quarantine even if you don't see them?By the way it doesn't necessarily mean that you won't see each other in quarantine it's probably a temporary emotional decision. | /r/seduction | 15/04/20 07:38 PM |
| 1 | How do you get a girl to open up?You can also start opening yourself about your own childhood, hard times you've been through makes you vulnerable as much as good things and then let her do the same on any subject that you'd like her to open up. | /r/seduction | 15/04/20 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Is it a good or a bad thing if a girl makes you feel nervous?It is what it is, you don't fight with your emotions or resist them remember whatever you resist you persist, so be okay with feeling that nervousness and still go for what you are nervous of, that's what brave means. | /r/seduction | 15/04/20 07:18 PM |
| 1 | How to approach/seal the deal when you're attractive but not exactly fully confident?First off specially since you are not sure of the vibe you put in just own that you are there to talk to her simply because you are a man and she is a women even though that's causing sort of fear that's how you stand out as first step. | /r/seduction | 15/04/20 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Trying to fuck my long mature crush and family friendShe might be busy, forgot or whatever reason just initiate a conversation again and do not take things to a sexual level with texting, keep the pressure low and escalate things when you get together. | /r/seduction | 19/02/20 10:56 PM |
| 1 | How to get myself out into the world?You should check youtube channels like The Natural Lifestyle and Todd V it’d help with your social and your own inner perception etc. Also get into social gatherings for example latin dance courses, yoga, boxing going to gym etc. to start building social circle. | /r/seduction | 17/02/20 05:34 AM |
| 1 | Got a first date and trying to get laid the same night. Any idea for a good place to go?Jusr go to a Bar/Cafe closer to your apartment. So logistics can work for your favor. | /r/seduction | 16/02/20 03:01 AM |
| 0 | Dance floor game; more physical less verbalIf the environment is loud where she can barely hear you, even if she stops for 2mins won't go further and she will most likely be dancing with her friends so it can be also hard to get her out from dance floor. My suggestion is right off the bat be more physical and keep it less verbal. If she talks more that's what you want anyway but if it's not going anywhere, it's just because of the dancefloor, only thing you can do is not being an obstacle for her goal, so keep dancing with her and increa… | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Any tips, book, video, podcast or vlog to help learn the game?Follow Todd V, The Natural Lifestyle, Alpha Male Strategies and Alex Social 4 week Natural on Youtube. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 07:08 PM |
| 2 | Approaching girl at loud bar soloIf the environment is loud where she can barely hear you, even if she stops for 2mins won't go further and she will most likely be dancing with her friends so it can be also hard to get her out from dance floor. My suggestion is right off the bat be more physical and keep it less verbal. If she talks more that's what you want anyway but if it's not going anywhere, it's just because of the dancefloor, only thing you can do is not being an obstacle for her goal, so keep dancing with her and increa… | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 05:25 PM |
| 1 | Anyone else find themselves *way* better at flirting in their non-native language?They say when you speak a different language you get into a different character. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 05:22 PM |
| 1 | What's your opinion on dating and picking up in cities vs smaller coastal towns?Well the good part about smaller city is it's always easier since there's not much of a competition and it's also funny how girls get surprised when you approach them because they never got cold approached before. If there's a dense area where people walk, you can always go do daygame in there or like wholefoods etc. Besides that my suggestion would be going to local gyms, yoga, dance classes etc. where you can meet with a lot of girls. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Feeling uncomfortable pulling to my small studioThat's even better, hey it's not me it's the apartment and right now I am on a part of my life that I prefer to be minimalistic. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Should I give upYou know it in order to build muscle you have to break it first, keep doing it and you will see changes and results in big chunk of times like 3-6 months after taking action and being consistent. | /r/seduction | 31/01/20 12:37 AM |
| 2 | Need help with dancefloor game for tomorrow night.If the environment is loud where she can barely hear you, even if she stops for 2mins won't go further and she will most likely be dancing with her friends so it can be also hard to get her out from dance floor. My suggestion is right off the bat be more physical and keep it less verbal. If she talks more that's what you want anyway but if it's not going anywhere, it's just because of the dancefloor, only thing you can do is not being an obstacle for her goal, so keep dancing with her and increa… | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 07:17 PM |
| 1 | girl always cancels date and reschedulesWomen are driven by emotions so even when they promise it comes from their momentary reality causing by the emotions they feel at that very moment. That'll happen a lot, always have back-up plans in your mind. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 07:14 PM |
| 1 | What do you do if a girls is frequently glancing at you or simply staring at you?If a girl looks at you that's great, take it as invitation and just say hi also don't limit yourself with girls only who looks at you. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 02:43 AM |
| 2 | Any good first date ideas?Having a picnic would be my favorite with a nice view to city. For the second date cooking steak on candle-lights and nice music. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Is it worth cold approaching, if one has 0 luck onlineCold approach is also one of the best things you can to do improve yourself as a man! Things you learn along the journey is just life changing. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 02:33 AM |
| 1 | 23(M) seeking hook-up advice after leaving long-term relationshipStart watching dating channels on youtube, like Todd V, The Natural Lifestyle etc. | /r/seduction | 30/01/20 02:17 AM |
| 2 | Stuck in my own mindJump into cold ocean water man! Teach yourself to do things you are scared to and walking to the unknown. The reason guys are scared to escalate is they don't want to blow things out and loose her so that's why you have to see where she is at emotionally so you can go from there. Compliance tests is the way to go, escalate and then calibrate, so you can actually see where exactly she is at emotionally, if it's a red, yellow or green light etc. Basically start from very light things like holding … | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 08:14 PM |
| 1 | How to meet girls in college as transfer studentIf there are dance courses like, Bachata, Salsa etc. They would be your best bet. | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 08:06 PM |
| 1 | First time going out solo, let’s goooProps to yourself man, remember to write a field report and enjoy your private victory! | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 08:04 PM |
| 4 | Hearing disability and trying to pick up womenJust tell them that upfront, that will also build trust, showing that you are at ease in your own skin. | /r/seduction | 26/01/20 07:58 PM |
| 6 | Going Solo TonightPrivate victories man! That’s great. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 05:24 AM |
| 5 | Tips for hooking up at a dance and grind clubIf the environment is loud where she can barely hear you, even if she stops for 2mins won't go further and she will most likely be dancing with her friends so it can be also hard to get her out from dance floor. My suggestion is right off the bat be more physical and keep it less verbal. If she talks more that's what you want anyway but if it's not going anywhere, it's just because of the dancefloor, only thing you can do is not being an obstacle for her goal, so keep dancing with her and increa… | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:45 AM |
| 1 | If a girl hookups with u does that mean she finds u attractive?Look man, if a girl doesn't see a guy as an option she doesn't have sex with him. Even the situation worked for your favor big time if you were not a good sexual option she would not go for it. Remember girls always can have sex with anytime they want, they have abundance, if you're not high value you on her eyes you are not getting laid. Props to yourself! | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:39 AM |
| 2 | I'm on such a dry spell. I now overthink every text. I just sent something that was like 'Hey if you need a break from studying (big test coming up), and want to grab a bite, HMU, I'm around. I now think this was way too non-assertive. Best action: text again or let it sit?Leave it, if she doesn't response which means that her investment level is quite low and if that's the case offer value by sending anything reletable to her, like inside joke from the time you spent together etc. or even better send funny memes and gifs. Offer value till she actually sees you as a real option. | /r/seduction | 25/01/20 02:13 AM |
| 2 | Tips for a 24 year old virgin (male) for when the time comes.It's evolution man, trust the fact that your body perfectly knows what to do when it comes to having sex just trust that. For the first time just focus on mutual bonding, looking at her eyes feeling each other's body. (Missionary) | /r/seduction | 23/01/20 05:51 AM |
| 1 | Girl did 99% of the work?The reason guys are scared to escalate is they don't want to blow things out and loose her so that's why you have to see where she is at emotionally so you can go from there. Compliance tests is the t go, escalate and then calibrate, so you can actually see where exactly she is at emotionally, if it's a red, yellow or green light etc. Basically start from very light things like holding her hand and later on depending on if she is receptive and go with her hair and then hugging, leading etc. I do… | /r/seduction | 23/01/20 05:47 AM |
| 0 | how does sex “just happen”?You are having such a great time together, all those commonalities, having trust to each other in that moment, goals and expectations basically all of these matching values and then no one really questions that what is going on and since the very moment is very beautiful it just happens. | /r/seduction | 23/01/20 05:38 AM |
| 2 | In your experience, what are the best places to pick up women?Most consistent and easy way would be dance courses and yoga studios, since they actually have mirror exposure with you and that builds trust and commonality. | /r/seduction | 21/01/20 11:32 PM |
| 2 | Gonna approach at least one girl this weekLet me give you an advice as someone who is in this for years. Just put yourself out there vulnerably with clear intent and jump to the cold ocean water and remind yourself that you really want this for the next chapter in your life. | /r/seduction | 21/01/20 09:53 PM |
| 3 | First ever cold approache(s) (at 25 years old)What the hell man, you don't judge yourself in your first time cause of the same reason you didn't judge yourself at the time you couldn't go for slam dunk when you were 4 feet tall. Tap yourself on the shoulders and say who really can talk to a stranger on Walmart specially when you are sober? Probably not the %99 percent of US. Give yourself props and focus on sharpening your skills and let me tell you this man you will be seeing differences in big chunk of time, so stop judging yourself weeke… | /r/seduction | 21/01/20 09:49 PM |
| 2 | OvercompensationYou have to have strong beliefs for the things you do, the way you act and who you are, so when someone tries to test your reality you stand in your ground hey this is what I stand for and this is who I am, I don't compromise for that and when you can convey that confidently and non-reactively you are golden. | /r/seduction | 21/01/20 09:40 PM |
| 1 | Weeknights in Los AngelesI mean it's a small venue man you can only hope for making the best out of it. | /r/seduction | 20/01/20 09:45 PM |
| 9 | Small town dating tipsLike starting a conversation and not giving direct indicator of interest, I mean not like hey you are cute wanted to say hi etc. You can start the conversation with a situational thing on TV at the gym or something interesting that you see around or something you realized about the way she walks etc. whatever is about her so she can relate, then start the conversation with things like that and then you can change the tonality of the interaction. | /r/seduction | 20/01/20 09:36 PM |
| 0 | Getting infornt of her or tapping her shoulder from behind?When you stop her while blocking her way basically it requires high compliance from her and usually people during the day they try to walk from point A to B so you can be an obstacle as well. I suggest, tapping on her shoulders while I am 2-3 steps ahead of her so she knows that I am not following her. You can also do that from behind, also remember micromanaging the approach with this exact angle or this perfect handshake is gonna put your head so be aware of that! | /r/seduction | 20/01/20 09:30 PM |
| 3 | Weeknights in Los AngelesAlso try, The Den, Ep&LP (WeHo), The Victorian (weekends), Clifton's in DTLA, (weekends). Tenants of the Trees (Silverlake), Lincoln(Venice) | /r/seduction | 20/01/20 09:18 PM |
| 1 | Fear of repeat approachesThat's why you don't want to use canned-materials, so girls get ah you already said the same things before remember? When you approach girls just because you are a cool guy who doesn't have any problems with meeting with people is a way better place to come from. And if a girl in a situation comes like that anyway, stay in your ground hey, I talk to girls that I feel like I might like so yeah I might have approached you before. With another approach you can be also exaggerate it and be like ''oh… | /r/seduction | 20/01/20 09:08 PM |
| 16 | Small town dating tipsGyms, Dance and Yoga classes are your best bet. I know it can be hard to approach at the gym but you can always go indirect, just babystep your brain into it. | /r/seduction | 20/01/20 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Knowing when it's appropriate to sexually escalate?Of course this is actually a process and theoretically way things will be in one interaction but remember map is not the territory and escalation will become part of you in time, so start getting out of your comfort zone and baby step yourself into escalation see your progress and it will be part of you after a while. | /r/seduction | 19/01/20 07:32 PM |
| 2 | Do you game when out of state?Action creates emotion man, the alternative is scanning the environment and make excuses and that's gonna make you have a mental fatigue, you get into state while you keep approaching and that's totally normal that you will also be out of it in the same night, yet process doesn't change, welcome the emotional fluctuations. | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 09:18 PM |
| 3 | How can I expand my seduction funnel/apro ach volume in a more suburban setting?Best options in a small place like that are, dance and yoga classes local gyms etc. also use meetup.com to see where local girls hang out. | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 09:12 PM |
| 4 | how often do you run perfect game on a girl but she still isn't attracted and thus rejects you?Everyone gets rejected and no one can attract every girl they want, when you start talking to a lot of those hot girls, you don't even like them most, you are not for everyone that's how it is that's not possible to have chemistry everyone. | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 09:06 PM |
| 1 | Knowing when it's appropriate to sexually escalate?Compliance tests is the way I go, I do escalate and then calibrate, so I can actually see where exactly she is at emotionally, if it's a red, yellow or green light etc. I basically start from very light things like holding her hand and later on depending on if she is receptive I go with her hair and then hugging, leading etc. I don't like to break the sexual tension and not give her all the validation she needs and I prefer to keep the question if he really likes me or not in her head. That's wh… | /r/seduction | 18/01/20 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Can you actually learn game ?Yeah, like most of the people actively being in game for couple of years. I have been in it for last 4 years and I was a guy who was punching walls because I was getting rejected left and right and very scared to even touch girls specially when I was sober and now I am in where I wanted to be. It's just following the proven path of other successful people and doing whatever they tell you to do and after that it's a big commitment of consistency then you will be start seeing results.Those progres… | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 09:33 PM |
| 1 | Any exercises to become more grounded (in your own reality, as RSD would say)Honestly being grounded comes from life experiences, that's why a 35 years old man will be way more grounded than a 21 years old and why he won't be having same type of identity crashes. You gotta be building your self-esteem and core confidence along the way of your journey in life, creating your own design of self-identity the eco-system you build everyday and it's also normal to be dancing monkey or even doing dumb stuff sometimes, gotta accept that there will be ups and downs. Some days you … | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 09:22 PM |
| 1 | How to approach and talk to a girl in a loud nightclub bar? Then eventually dance?If the environment is loud where she can barely hear you, even if she stops for 2mins won't go further and she will most likely be dancing with her friends so it can be also hard to get her out from dance floor. My suggestion is right off the bat be more physical and keep it less verbal. If she talks more that's what you want anyway but if it's not going anywhere, it's just because of the dancefloor, only thing you can do is not being an obstacle for her goal, so keep dancing with her and increa… | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 09:10 PM |
| 1 | Basic escalationSlapping her ass is not gonna make things sexually escalated just to get a response I believe, important thing about escalation is mutually escalating things, I would start getting small compliance to see where she is at emotionally, if it's a red or green light etc. mean by that if she is responding or not, like holding her hand, squaring up and just keeping laser eye contact and adding tension to see if she is responding go ahead go for escalating even more. | /r/seduction | 15/01/20 09:02 PM |
| 4 | My recent experience with the 3 second ruleYeah man first 4 approach doesn't count, you gotta just get them out of your way. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 08:57 PM |
| 1 | You Guys Ever Take Breaks?It was a thing that I was doing when I was on a hardcore learning streak, I was thinking only thing I have to do is going out and approach well that's very one-sided and you forget that you actually have to take a couple of steps back relax, isolate yourself and get perspective on things. It recharges you and there are a lot that you can learn from your isolation about your social skills. It's like going to gym, in order to build the muscle you have to be getting a good amount of sleep. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 08:34 PM |
| 5 | My recent experience with the 3 second ruleI believe that's a discipline to cultivate into your system, you gotta be knowing that the pain of not approaching is too big, you can take the first minutes of pain by just having that big dive into the cold ocean water at the beginning. Well cause it's just how your brain works if you don't approach, your brain will give you all that shit to drag you down and after you start to think and micro-manage it's all downhill. That's why when I am in the venue or somewhere where I can talk to girls I … | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Going to a after work bar by myselfDefinitely focus on approaching a lot of girls and escalating things, going out of your comfort zone and taking risks in the interaction so the say.(Lazer Eye Contact, Initiation of Physicality, Verbally Teasing, Your Vocal Tonality) | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 08:01 PM |
| 1 | A good tip on what not to do when standing around (body language)When you concentrate about what not to do you will be focusing on those things and it will get you into your head even more, so actually you will be doing the things that you think you should not do. My personal advice is just focus on being at ease with yourself and your surroundings, your body language will be following that anyway. Underlying reasons of most of the guys have bad body language is they don't have awareness of their feelings and what's going on inside of them. When you are aware… | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 01:08 AM |
| 2 | Desperate but avoidantIt's a decision you have to make, we are so attached to our habits we make our identity out of it. You probably think that you can't talk with girls because you are not charismatic or social enough to talk to girls etc. The reason is, that's an area that is unknown for you so it's out of your comfort zone. It's like building a muscle but first you gotta be willing to go to the gym and at the beginning you are not gonna be able to lift heavy weight. Just babystep yourself into talking to women, j… | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 01:02 AM |
| 3 | Post College Pick UpAs far as I get, you moved back to a smaller city, well the good part is it's always easier since there's not much of a competition and it's also funny how girls get surprised when you approach them because they never got cold approached before. If there's a dense area where people walk, you can always go do daygame in there or like wholefoods etc. Besides that my suggestion would be going to local gyms, yoga, dance classes etc. where you can meet with a lot of girls. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 12:45 AM |
| 1 | What are some good hobbies that can lead to self improvement?Personally I enjoy Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, Boxing, Yoga, doing meditation on candlelight, just working out at the gym. They keep your head very sharp and get your vision clear. | /r/seduction | 14/01/20 12:38 AM |
| 2 | How to not feel insecure in a relationship even when there's nothing to worry about.No problem man, also out of curiosity besides this relationship or even with it in an ideal world where your personal dating life %100 epic what would it look like? | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 05:56 AM |
| 2 | Finally spoke to a girl during day game!Honestly if I were you I'd have some couple of back-up sentences on the back of my head can be opener any conversation subjects that you are actually interested in so you can actually talk about it. Because specially girls find things that you are interested in excited cause it shows a trailer of your personality and because of the emotions you bring with the that very topic. Most importantly when you talk to a girl on the street just make things about her specially at the beginning, like her st… | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 05:52 AM |
| 2 | How to not feel insecure in a relationship even when there's nothing to worry about.You gotta prove instead of promising cause when that first thought of she might be cheating comes in walls in your house gets smaller every single hour. What I mean by prove, you can not pause your life while you are in relationship that's why you gotta start building your own eco-system. | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 05:33 AM |
| 4 | How do you pass the initial test?When a girl tests you, specially with a congruence tests, she just checks and even challenges if your reality (what you are made of) is solid or you are just another bullshitter try to act up to a persona or try to look cool. When you stand in your ground hey this is what I am standing for and convey that in a confident way. It creates that oh actually yeah this guy is who he tells that he is and that's how you pass it. | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 05:31 AM |
| 2 | How to not feel insecure in a relationship even when there's nothing to worry about.From my personal experience, you gotta build your own eco-system works for your emotional needs. What I am saying is, nourishing yourself within. First of all ask yourself where is the insecurity coming from and if it is like she is gonna leave me or cheat on me etc. It's just the illusion of scarcity your brain makes. That's why while you are in relationship you have to be keeping yourself sharp. Having other multiple options in terms of girls that you can see, if you would want it or just know… | /r/seduction | 13/01/20 05:24 AM |
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