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Never understood guys who pushed back when women would post crime, pedo and sa stats about men. My mentality on that has always been “That’s messed up, but I’m not one of those guys”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 09:22 PM
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Lol oh fuck off.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 02:06 PM
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I think most men just want women that aren’t ran through. I want a virgin rhetoric is mostly from inexperienced man who wants a girl in a similar vein
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/26 09:20 PM
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They usually start doing that after being butt hurt learning that their romantic ideals are meaningless and won't get them nowhere with alot of women
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 11:57 PM
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As long as it’s Anonymous yes , the internet counts as one space
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 11:05 PM
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Not a fan of lift but he’s right here Some of y’all are too obsessed with posting chad pictures “Y’all must love this huh?” “I can‘t imagine all the chicks he’s banging” “Sexy ass physique. I know you girls love it” There’s no chicks with fat asses on your algorithm? It’s a fair question
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 09:56 PM
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So you support faking something for a long time as long as you can make it come true? Like loving your gf?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 08:04 PM
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Responsibilities. If you have money you can make someone else's life happier and provide a a good foundation for your family. The money you make or don't make doesn't have to center around yourself. You can be miserable and still be a person of value
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 07:55 PM
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Lol so random I really liked her too. Early hells kitchen was peak reality tv
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/26 03:43 AM
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You really listed genetic unavoidable traits as a counter example to a bad quality that women form from their own choosing? Fucking double agents in here smh
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 11:09 AM
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Then why are you posting him for strangers to judge? I’d probably off myself too If had you as a buddy
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:25 AM
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I’m gonna assume that’s actually you and not your made up friend You’re average bro. Hit the gym and diet. You’ll develop a jawline and then you can get something going.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/26 01:17 AM
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Are you older than 25?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 11:41 PM
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I rather not know. As long as you’re healthy, I'm good
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 11:40 PM
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Remember when he called out that reporter on the red carpet for calling him corny in high school? That black incel angst is oh so familiar lol. I know he had a good sleep that night
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 11:13 PM
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Is this guy your friend though? It sounds like you don't even like him too much
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/26 09:11 PM
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Being friends with women is too weird. They're very affectionate. Between sharing sappy love songs, constant heart emojis and all the positive reinforcement, it's like bruh I kind of wanna fuck now.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 07:54 PM
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Good strategy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/26 01:52 PM
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Call me jaded but I genuinely don’t believe half of the girls here who say they are married are actually telling the truth. I can’t wrap my head around normal women hanging around this sub let alone a woman who’s actually married. I wouldn’t be surprised if a good number of them are mentally ill living with family but play up their good life to trigger some of the dudes. I’d probably do the same because a lot of the men here aint shit anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/26 03:23 AM
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Of course. Good Chocolate has basically been a cheat code for me when I use to date around. The key was doing little stuff like that outside of gift giving days like valentines day,bday etc.All of that shit is obligatory if you're with someone seriously. Also, I don't think there's a red flag more obvious than a girl not sharing food she really likes or rejecting an expensive gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:47 AM
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saying,cool/corny shit while giving her expensive chocolate.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/26 12:07 AM
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We need more cat fights to spice things up a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:57 PM
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In today’s landscape, where the Red Pill, incel/manosphere conversations and spiteful men are everywhere , if you ever see an older women actually admit this kind of stuff BELIEVE her. An older colleague of mine once admitted something very similar. At the time, I didn’t think too much about it, But later in the conversation she revealed that she had been in multiple relationships where she was essentially treated like a punching bag. Usually women who go through the" toxic"wheel house just end …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 11:43 PM
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What? Is that the vibe you get from men who think your posts are dumb? Ok then lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 09:51 PM
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Negging is basically how middle and high schoolers flirt. When it starts getting into mid to late 20s it’s basically people who never grew up imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 09:42 PM
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Although it’s rare , I love seeing disagreements between women on this sub or Reddit in general. The tension is different lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 09:30 PM
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The expectation is only there because many women allow it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 01:04 AM
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new redpill is black pill coded
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 11:17 PM
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Women aren’t really interested in change from Men. They want the attractive men to choose them, and they want the unattractive men to either disappear or just be friendly( not involved in their lives romantically or sexually.) When you actually look at a lot of the complaints, it’s usually framed as “Why are men like this?” instead of “Why can’t men be like this?” They’re more in tune with what’s natural, and they don’t really wrap their heads around growth or development when it comes to the ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 06:28 PM
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I meant posts and comments Why are you hiding shit?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 02:13 AM
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I can’t see your comments or post history so you’re way more of a suspect
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 02:06 AM
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How common are bots in this sub?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 01:48 AM
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How can you really claim perspective on what men experience in real life? Most people go to work, go home, stay in their own social circles, and repeat that routine. Are you actually outside having real discussions with men about their experiences? Or with people outside your demographic at all? You can’t really have perspective on another gender unless you’re consistently interacting with them and actually discussing these dynamics. Otherwise, you’re just assuming. For most women on here the on…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 11:19 PM
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What does a non normie life look like? Hanging with mental health patients and fat men playing yugioh?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 02:00 AM
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The person I’m directly engaging with in the story said not to argue with women. What can’t you understand? Can you read?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/26 12:59 AM
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I’ve heard it said before. Granted the women were from more conservative backgrounds. It’s not unheard of But this comment gives more clarity into what I mean https://np.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/s/JACX4zy1Q8
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 09:15 PM
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? “And your arguing with a female homophobic slur” Translation: Hey feminine man. Why are you arguing with me. I’m a woman (female)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 09:01 PM
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It’s all stemming from the same ideology though.Happy wife, happy life,” “just let her vent,” “don’t argue with women” all that shit, it all implies there’s a special way you’re supposed to speak to women. It suggests you have to cushion things more. Be more restrained. Handle disagreement differently than you would with a man. That’s my issue. If conflict happens with a man, it’s normal. If it happens with a woman, suddenly it’s inappropriate or you “should’ve handled it differently.” Why is th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 08:58 PM
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I’m referencing a criticism I’ve seen used in general — not something directed at me personally. The whole point is that these criticisms are rooted in undermining women. The message behind them is basically: women can’t handle logic, can’t handle passionate debate, and you have to speak to them like kids. That’s what I’m pushing back on. So how the hell did some of you interpret this as me saying people are constantly telling me to stop screaming at women? That wasn’t implied anywhere. Yall are…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 09:22 AM
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Address my points all you've been posting is fantasy scenarios of people yelling at cashiers and customer service reps Please, stay on topic and debate or don't reply
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 09:13 AM
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Huh? So you've never had to raise your voice to speak to a group of people? An audience or a meeting so they could hear you? When did raise my voice universally mean screaming rage or anger? Isn't raising your voice a universal a classroom term?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 08:56 AM
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Stays at what level? I'm confused by the question. "Do angry men not exist in your world?" Sure man. But it seems like your trying to say there's no difference between a passionate debate and anger. It's just not true. A Passionate debate, a heated debate and anger fueled arguments are all clear distinctive things. And a man can engage in all of these things and still may or may not be an Angry man. Can we agree with this point??
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 08:02 AM
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No, it's not. Have you ever been to a barbershop? A soccer game? Have you ever had male friends? Some times a debate can get passionate. If you think some dudes at a rec center debating LeBron vs MJ Passionately is the same as anger we can agree to disagree. It's fine. I promise you they won't get arrested. If you think they should, again, i respectfully disagree.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 07:32 AM
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Bro, you have to post of quote of me stating i started yelling at this person. Read my comments before replying. Don't strawman. Also, no shots were thrown at her unprovoked. I threw one at you though, admittedly. Feel free to report me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 07:23 AM
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Never had had any issue with the law and my relationships are solid Peace to you, bro
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 06:54 AM
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So when I mentioned voices getting raised did you actually take that as constantly rising intensly and never falling?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 06:04 AM
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Go outside bro. People don't get arrested for getting frustrated at the department of motor vehicles I know reddit had squares but some of the comments here are baffling. This other poster suggested I might get shot lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 05:46 AM
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Cheers bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 05:08 AM
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"Y'all are ghetto. No one argues where I come from " Copy Only thing I can add is I moved away from the environment where a heated debate happened a little bit more often.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 05:04 AM
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That people reframe the shit out of everything. The only relevant comments I see are all ” Because men are scary. Talk to me nicely ”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 03:19 AM
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Not really sure who you are. Have we had issues online?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:31 AM
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Fair point.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:24 AM
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Let’s do this the right way. There are actual markers for someone being mentally unwell. It’s not like I was dealing with someone babbling psychotically on Skid Row smelling like urine. Public emotional blowups aren’t rare. They don’t automatically equal psychosis. Are you from a socioeconomic class where this is foreign to you? Someone being impatient or emotionally dysregulated does not automatically equal “crazy.” At the same time, someone blowing smoke, trying to threaten me/ and getting tou…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 02:20 AM
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Imo, you got personal multiple times under this post You implied I couldn’t tolerate feeling "dominated" and had to start a scene to save face to a crowd of random people, implied I had emotional disregulation, You implied I needed to assert dominance on a woman and I wouldn’t do that to a man because I would be scared of physical consequences. Lol you can't cut someone on line and curse them out for calling security. It's just standing on principles. To frame that as a loose cannon that's putti…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/26 12:28 AM
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You sound really naive and I have the feeling you've gotten bullied a whole lot in your life lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 11:08 PM
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More psychoanalysis and assumptions. But a better response that a person can reflect on. Thanks for your input!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:51 PM
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I just replied to your comment earlier saying that I wasn't arguing with a customer service representative. Maybe I shouldn't have mentioned my ethnicity but there's a lot of weird reframing going on in these comments
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:41 PM
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I can’t really engage with you further on this. One, you didn’t actually address the points I made. Instead of responding to what I said about context, threats, and boundaries, you reframed it into something else entirely. Two, you’re attributing motives to a situation you didn’t see. You’re assuming this was about asserting dominance over women (maybe that stems from men who caused you trauma, I don’t know), when you weren’t there and don’t have that information. That’s speculation, not good en…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 10:31 PM
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Post anything that I suggests I have had multiple screaming matches with random people in my personal life. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 09:46 PM
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Can you elaborate? Are you implying that if I get disrespected and verbally assaulted in public and I defend myself, I should be on medication? And who am I arguing with? This is a debate sub and I’m having a discussion. A very civil one at that. Either post examples of me engaging this way or Go try trolling somewhere else. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 09:42 PM
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See, I mostly agree with you. I really do. reacting emotionally to unstable people can create a bad situation and I’ve personally seen it play out the wrong way many times But some situations is more nuanced than just “ignore crazy people.” Not everyone who behaves aggressively is “crazy.” Some people are abusive. Some people intentionally bully others. Some people use intimidation tactics because they assume the other person won’t push back. That’s not instability, that’s manipulation. There’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 09:34 PM
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This wasn’t a lady in a customer service role. It was a lady on line at the DMV who tried to cut me on line and when I called here out she trashed me verbally for maybe 5 minutes straight before I replied. No sane person here would have saw it and thought she was on the right. I assure you lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 08:51 PM
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lol, thanks man. You’re kind of explaining it even better than I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 07:55 PM
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Even better advice is don’t emotionally attack somebody if you’re not ready for the energy to boomerang back to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 07:46 PM
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Where did I say they are equal? Im saying a disagreement CAN turn into that. It happens. I’ve had disagreements with people I was relationship and we’ve both raised voices and the conflict was resolved peacefully, Also , I’m black. I’ve often been around people who talk abrasive and loud as hell and it’s been nothing but love. It’s probably something you don’t get but it is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 07:43 PM
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I’ve heard it countless times from both men and women and different scenarios, This post is actually inspired by some random women at the dmv today who started shouting and disrespecting me and when I started to fight back she said out of her own mouth,And your arguing with a female homophobic slur It was obviously low life ghetto shit, but it wasn’t just a one off thing. Women have lot of leeway when it comes to engaging with men a certain way. If they start getting emotional and irrational it’…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/26 07:24 PM
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Go jump in their dm
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 08:42 PM
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Qfw If you caught your male friend giving glances at your ass body etc . Would you confront him on it , cut him off or just ignore it? What if he was attractive? Would that change your answer?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 07:28 PM
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I had another girl tell me the same thing but when I reminded her of another dude she mentioned before she said “ew he doesn’t count”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/26 09:44 PM
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So you’d rather hang out with someone born into generational wealth and have faith that person not be a complete unrelatable weirdo? Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/26 10:29 PM
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Nah in most friend zone situations the girl would rather not know lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 09:18 PM
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Wow you still post here everyday huh? Some of y’all are bigger losers than I thought lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 08:08 PM
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Kevin Gates and his girlfriend https://www.google.com/search?q=kevin+gates+jeleny&udm=2 If you follow hip-hop discourse, Kevin Gates (39) has been getting backlash for posting pictures with his girlfriend. A lot of comments are calling it “sickening” and saying she looks too young for him. She’s 26 btw What do y’all think?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/25 07:53 PM
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Schlesinger is an emotional moron with a big platform. To her, ‘incel’ means a terrorist group of Elliot Rodgers or Andrew Tate types that are looking to rape and kill. She’s not even aware there’s another side; guys who are just down on their luck, dealing with social barriers, or struggling with life in general, and a modern/social system that shapes them a certain way. She tosses in a token mention to mask her vitriol towards men, but it’s obvious she never gave the discourse more than five s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 09:30 PM
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Doesn’t it literally have the highest unemployment rate of any sector?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:51 PM
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That’s assuming people can clearly tell the difference between the two. Once attraction is tied to it, it’s a lot easier to be fooled arrogance looks like confidence until it actually gets tested.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 03:39 PM
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It’s crazy how the last few autism posts I saw here had 400+ comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/25 02:05 AM
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Find your mate value (according to your mate value) After that it’s a coin flip
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 11:38 PM
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Posts like these put neurodivergent and autistic people in a really bad light. They reek of entitlement. 1) the actual percentage of autistic people is very small, so it’s unrealistic to expect women to adjust their dating standards around that. In a pure numbers games they can afford to not bother unless they are looking for a specific type of man. 2) the whole argument about “masking” misses the point. Both men and women want to be with someone’s authentic self. You’re basically saying: “If I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 08:54 PM
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Op has a gf/home girl and is posting her thoughts or is a larp. If you scroll the history it’s mostly woman coded with women logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/25 03:16 PM
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How often have you made someone visibly uncomfortable and you were aware of what you did? And what did you actually do if you don’t mind sharing?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 08:15 AM
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Since you want play therapist or unnecessarily dig for info, I’ll bite. Anecdotally no I personally haven’t. I’ve socialized a lot since I was young, and one thing you notice is how people get treated differently. Sometimes rumors get spread in schools, in workplaces, in social circles. I’ve seen guys get fired over false accusations, I’ve seen women and men weaponize stories against others. Just because you haven’t seen it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. I’m not making anything up , I’m pointin…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 07:01 AM
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Brody, how often do you take theoretical examples as a personal confession/admission Because if you do that often and reply as such , it’s very unlikely you’re an effective debater here.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:41 AM
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What he did isn’t respectable . His anger should’ve been directed at his dad, not taken out on somebody in a wrestling ring who was just doing kayfab. I despise abusers and bullies. I don’t mind seeing them get the justice they deserve ; even if it’s vigilante justice sometimes. But I’ll never condone someone taking their inner demons, mental illness /unresolved trauma out on innocent, unsuspecting people. If you really want to ‘man up,’ then direct that energy at the people who actually hurt yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:31 AM
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Because of consequences. For example, let’s say I’m just awkward , I’d rather be called that, not instantly labeled a predator, a creep, retard or have rumors spread just because of a girl’s “gut feeling.” It’s kind of like how it wouldn’t be right to call a fat girl lazy or disrespect her to her face. In both cases, it’s jumping to the harshest label instead of recognizing the nuance of what’s really happening.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 06:09 AM
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“Most men can tell when their attention is unwanted but some can't or don't care, they tend to creep people out more often. “ lol that’s an assumption. What’s your reasoning for this assumption? Besides the man being ugly. A lot of women think men SHOULD know and that’s what makes it creepy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:51 AM
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You’re probably the only person here who kind of understands where I’m coming from with this post. Women hardly ever check for “I wonder how nice he is?”. Even if it’s not giving adice; For example, if you actually talk to a girl or slide into a DM and things get moving toward dating, the first things she’ll ask are: What are your hobbies? What do you do for a living? How tall are you? Stuff like that. What she won’t usually ask is: Are you polite? Are you agreeable? Are you pleasant to be aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:15 AM
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Pleasant, agreeable, kind, accomdating My main point I was getting at in my op is that I hardly ever hear women explicitly say “be nice “ and you would do better dating women. In fact I’ve heard the reverse way more often You’d think with the amount of guys complaining about this, you’d actually hear women explicitly say it directly but you don’t. They don’t say “be nice and you’ll do better.” Most don’t even imply that it would help you in any kind of sexual dynamic. Especially new gen women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 05:04 AM
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You know women have it good when they can legitimately afford to kink shame men who are actively into older women Imagine neurodivergent men saying “ you only like me cause I’m weird!”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/25 04:05 AM
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😆 vegeta gif got me good
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 03:50 AM
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His standup or movies? Or are you saying he was never funny
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 03:35 AM
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Q4w 1) Do you like men that drink and smoke(ganja)? 2) is there and age limit you accept this behavior from your man?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 03:23 AM
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Which is dumb. The world was a better place when people didn’t put as much value into celebs throwing their 2cents in.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 03:07 AM
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The only places that are actually good for dating are the ones where you have a decent number of chances to shoot your shot. Hobby groups are too passive for that. You’ll be labeled a creep very easily. Only way it could work is if you’re attractive and women are frequently throwing obvious signals at you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:28 AM
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Christ have mercy; None of that shit is “work” It’s bare minimum. If work to you means giving men they are attracted to a chance so they can perform court charm and do all the bullshit than yes , they work harder for those men than the other men they are not as attracted to ( which they most likely wouldn’t bother dealing with anyway)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 02:17 AM
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Her whole post is basically asking whether I would rather deal with the extreme bad side of lust or have none at all ; and in doing so she under minded the good side of lust and sexual attention which is actually the most relevant to most people’s lives So yes if left with a ridiculous false choice of getting raped/trafficked or pestered/ coerced into a relationship by a woman I can’t get hard for vs being a virgin I’d take the latter. My comment was trying to convey that outside of the extreme …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 01:55 AM
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This post is ridiculous. I’m not going to go point by point, because as a rational person I think the answers to most of those questions are already a given. But this is a relevant post to get some shit off. not every act of sexual violence is driven by hatred. Sure, the morality of it is pretty clear cut, but the motivation behind it can be very complex. That’s why I don’t understand why lust and hatred are always framed as if they have a high chance potential to lead to sexual violence. Someon…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 09:18 PM
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I think the framing here is off. Men don’t really make women work hard , they’re the ones doing the work. If the critique is that men put in more effort to impress women they find attractive I agree. But that’s not the same as women having to jump through hoops in a relationship. . The person with the most options are usually the one who opts out /phone in effort anyway. So in a realistic scenario, the woman will always have less incentive to “work harder” ; she can just jump ship if things aren…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 07:59 PM
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This works for a lot of things a lot of women would be disappointed to realize that the qualities they hold in high regard ; the things they think are uniquely meaningful to them ; often aren’t unique at all. It’s more like a manual most guys can study and apply, rather than some special, unique connection. Nobody actually likes being judged or reduced to a box , even if people act like they’re above it, it still stings when someone strips away their sense of individuality. a lot of the pill stu…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 06:29 PM
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I always thought the pushback on this was weird and maybe an online thing. Women irl have no problem telling you they’re attracted to a specific type of man and don’t find most guys attractive. It’s even encouraged because they don’t want to look easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 03:31 PM
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Any woman or high value man who actually posts here are weirder than most the men that dwell here. Especially if they post frequently. I get my mind blown every time I scroll a post history and it reads like an actual woman
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/25 02:29 PM
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Yeah it’s strange it’s like wanting to identify and own their insecurities and failures. When I first started to get semi sexually active I never wanted to be associated with that word again. Even in retrospect.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 03:15 AM
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Edit: You edited your comment: this was a reply to your first one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 01:59 AM
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Honestly I don’t even see it on Reddit very commonly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 01:35 AM
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So on Reddit you’ve seen men ask for advice because they’re struggling to with dating , and women , in turn, respond saying you have to be kind empathetic ,considerate and polite?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 11:36 PM
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lol what's the difference. honest question. every girl I've ever dated, and I wanted, I also wanted to sleep with very quickly. I'm pretty odd and naturally reserved so, All my approaches when it comes to women are heavily curated. I have a wheelhouse of things I know I have say or do based off of trial and error. But it's not completely made-up shit. It's usually authentic to my character. But it's always a performance
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 06:23 PM
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Is this really how most women see it? I got into redpill because I wanted to attract women, and I’d bet that’s the main reason most guys end up in these spaces. From what I’ve seen, many of the troubled men here don’t admire anyone except the women they lust after but can’t get. even themselves. A lot of it feels more like ego-driven, narcissistic behavior than anything else. What really stands out is how much guys here care about how women see men; or what they think women see in men. The criti…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/25 03:40 PM
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… is this a geechi gotti reference?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 09:59 PM
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You’re not attractive. Besides being a convicted pedo he’s probably charming interacting with women
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:09 AM
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The reason people don’t draw the line on traits like autism or other neurodivergent conditions in the context of relationships ,and attraction is because, at a societal and even biological level, there’s an underlying agreement that something is wrong with those people. If those traits carried visible social or biological value, there’d be pushback the same way there is with race, gender, or other categories. But since they’re seen as useless “low value”, nobody feels the need to defend them or …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 12:57 AM
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In the context of relationships, that’s a much harder spin. Even if we frame it as ‘I’m not unattractive/worthless/unwanted/weird, just different,’ the reality is society doesn’t see it that way and they have strong stats that back it up.When it comes to attraction and dating, people don’t treat difference as neutral they treat it as a negative. The only counter narrative would be to reconceptualize healthy relationships themselves and to push the idea that they aren’t essential to a fulfilling …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 11:52 PM
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👍🏾
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 10:54 PM
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Can you read?? The person you’re replying is saying the autists called the pedophile out And the neurotypical defended them in a nuanced way. The neurotypicals in this specific case where the one with problematic thinking and solutions that were harmful to society
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 10:43 PM
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It's true. I think the tougher question is can you be friends with someone you are attracted to and still keep it cordial.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 03:33 AM
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confident women don’t want peace? I'd imagine so, like every other woman. You have to compromise peace for a relationship to remain peaceful. And what's peace to you, can be chaos, extra effort, and unreasonable expectations on my end. It's all circumstantial. We both have to be in agreement. Most of the time, I'd like to think it's a compatibility issue. This is the important part though imo, men and women are just different. A lot of it is conditioning , sometimes biological, sometimes social.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 02:32 AM
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I didn’t think she was ugly. Which I found the clip though so I can take a second look. I think the comments here were she was kind of mid.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/25 01:17 AM
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This exchange might be buried, but if you make a separate post, I don’t mind tackling it with the same points Your post was probably aimed more at the person you replied to ; but I think a lot of guys, myself included, don’t really subscribe to the whole “trad wife” fantasy either. I don’t expect or want a woman to be my maid or cook for me. I already handle that on my own. What I want in a relationship is simple: peace. I’m not desperate to get married or start a family, and that’s probably why…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 11:51 PM
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A lot of physical insecurities aren’t warranted. Men usually don’t notice the details ; it’s just hot or not.Women are more critical and notice flaws men overlook, so they often get confused thinking their lens is the same as a man’s. I think another reason this happens is because the compare themselves to women that very high value men have and take it as law.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:30 PM
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There was a post on the daily chat where a woman in a dating show expressed that she was into the things you similarly picked here She didn’t get picked by any guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 06:14 PM
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Trust me, I’m fully aware of what I’m doing and transparent about it. Every time I see women take shots at supposed “inferior” men by holding up superstar gifted athletes as the standard of masculinity and a rational benchmark I’m taking aim. It’s just funny to me. Feel free to block me cause I’m gonna do it every single time I see it with context or not. If the allegation is there I’m going for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:46 PM
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No I get that. But eating the same food everyday is wild lol. I switch it up. But yeah the whole restaurant hopping/ordering thing women tend to do is exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:36 PM
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This is more individualistic perspective in contrast to men imo
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 04:21 PM
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Two of those guys you mentioned had rape allegations on them
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/25 03:57 PM
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I do like confidence because confident people in general are just easier to communicate with. It saves a lot of time when you’re navigating a relationship. The problem, though, is that fewer people in average strike the right balance. Sometimes confidence crosses the line into arrogance, and I can’t stand that. I don’t mesh well with arrogant people at all, To the point where sometimes I won’t even bother giving someone the benefit of the doubt if I sense they’re doing a little too much. That’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 08:48 PM
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It’s jarring because the entry level jobs to about mid level- pretty much universal Flooded with women. So just having a job get you points and recognized easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 08:06 PM
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Yeah they got it rough over there. All the intergender dynamics in those realms are very different than the rest of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 05:21 PM
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Bro lot of posts here aren’t genuine advice , they’re just therapeutic analysis talk points designed to get so called “undesirable” men stuck overthinking why they’re undesirable, instead of actually helping them improve. It’s less about solutions and more about pushing them out of the dating world. Ya'll need someone to punch, that's cool, punch at right people who have actual harmful rhetoric. And sure, the dudes here aren’t actively targeting young women, but they sure as shit dream about it …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 03:48 PM
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Late bloomers aren’t a threat to younger women in any real and relevant sense. People here take anonymous posts way too seriously, when most of the time it’s just men who hate women camping out on these subs or guys who are clueless about dating. The real threat to younger women comes from manipulative men in their actual lives ; uncles, cousins, “family friends”, boyfriends/girlfriends, who groom, coerce, and fuck them into trauma. Those are the guys that “heal yourself” type posts should be ai…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 03:19 PM
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“boring” is a bit harsh, it’s just that introverted behavior isn’t as relevant in the realm of attracting women and forming relationships as extroverted behavior is. If you’re introverted yet still interesting, you can definitely end up befriending women (or getting friendzoned pretty easily) and men. An introverted woman will accept an introverted man as long as she knows he can navigate outside his own habitat. Especially if they are introverts themselves. going into the social realm ; being o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 08:13 AM
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What’s actually amazing about them? Can they cook good food? Do they have a good range of taste in art and music? Do they know how to have fun beyond just going out to eat and vacations? What kind of things do they post on social media? Glamming up carries more red flags and stereotypes than simply being chill and attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 05:11 AM
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take off the jason mask and try again.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 04:28 AM
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Go to the mall and do what he does and see what happens
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 04:22 AM
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Intentionally negging is corny; people see right through it. The only time it works is if you’re naturally funny. Real humor brings levity. If you have to cut someone down just to talk to them, you’re not clever, you’re just a dick. The goal is to connect with women and smash not hurt them. Funny people enjoy negging everyone If you don’t joke like that with everyone else, why force it? Play to your strengths.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 04:08 AM
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Wait , do you mean being in a sexless relationship? Or a relationship in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 01:09 AM
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Most people would be better off just observing how the opposite gender actually dates. Instead of asking directly, Look at what they respond to and the quality of the person they are with ; then draw your data from there. Asking won’t get you anywhere unless your do it online.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/25 12:44 AM
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stfu. only teenies you're seeing regularly is on porn hub. I abandoned this post because I realized most of the people in here are fantasizing anyway. It was a low effort post.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/25 09:40 PM
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I actually don’t. I was gonna delete but I got a lot more replies than I thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 05:26 PM
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combination of the job market and today’s high housing prices has a major effect on men’s dating prospects . it’s probably the biggest factor separating the older generation from the newer one. Just a whole different game on how to become what’s considered high value
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:19 AM
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I can see Donald glover and cumberbatch being career virgins and possibly jaded if they didn’t have money.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 02:11 AM
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Yeah that was cringe you’re right. I take back what I said
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 12:29 AM
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Dawg?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 12:27 AM
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Nobody in the real world considers you a loser and 80 percent of the men HERE would do a backflip to date you . Despite all the mean shit they say here.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 12:23 AM
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this is your op I replied with this My reply addresses EVERY single comment you made under my post. ALL of them Don’t engage with me anymore there’s a communication problem and I sense you don’t give a fuck what I have to say. The feeling is mutual. Beat it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/25 12:08 AM
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I wanna say Lizzo, but i think her face card is decent. Alot of folks regularly dunked on her when she came up tho.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 11:10 PM
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it's the driving factor to alot of decisions. Never questioned it either
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 10:28 PM
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Like a normal human being, we want to know you before we commit to and marry you. Unfortunately, sex usually happens before we come to that conclusion Just because we acknowledge attractive women, and we also acknowledge some who are more attractive than you, doesn't mean we'll cheat and we don't love you. (this works both ways)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 10:23 PM
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Why do they have to look for a signal? She should walk over to whoever she sees the most fit and ask for a #. That's the ideal right? Fuck the signals. Go for what you want. It's easier and faster for everyone without standing in a crowded room playing mating call games. I know the reasoning why this happens. And like I said in my Op, I've accepted. This isn't a debate, I acknowledge and agree with your point lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 10:17 PM
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The only real options seem to be the same indicators of interest that women use ;eye contact, a wink(lol idk) , standing next to her being stoic cool and handsome etc. The thing is, in your earlier comment, you imply that you consider those as approaches. By that logic, women do approach more than I am initially claiming. But I personally don’t count those as approaches. I think of an approach as when you take the most initiative . for example: Asking someone on a date Saying, “Hey, can I talk t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 09:56 PM
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When women communicate their expectations, they are already pissed at you for not accomodating those expectations. You are expected to figure out what they want you to do without them telling you anything. This is managable once you get used to it and start feeling the vibes of disapproval. This ties into why I think women's standard of competency(social competency especially) is so valued by women, which stands in contrast to men. Social savviness, being able to read the room, picking up on uns…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/25 09:02 PM
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Never. I think it’s good practice for guys to switch it off. Honestly, it’s scary seeing some of this rhetoric spill over onto IG and Twitter ; it feels a little too close to real life for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 10:10 PM
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Were you diagnosed?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 08:06 PM
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Oh, but surely you’d think they’d be aware their advice and experiences differ from both straight men and straight women. You think they don’t realize it? Is it a low IQ thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:31 AM
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The” just date men” advice trend in this sub is so strange.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 04:05 AM
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Being in a relationship isn’t solid proof someone regularly gets attraction signals. Plenty of men had to initiate and may not get much passive interest at all , you’re assuming everyone who paired up is automatically desirable. That also ignores dead bedrooms and low day to day romantic energy. And when a lot of guys come out of a long-term relationship, they’re basically clueless in the dating world , it happens all the time. Do you honestly think the dating world is in a good place? You think…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 01:26 AM
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What about women? Skewed left?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 01:09 AM
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Sounds good, but it’s not realistic. The looks threshold applies to everyone. If someone keeps dating a person they genuinely find unattractive looks wise, there’s usually something else going on I’d rather a girl see me as kinda mid but almost there.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 12:58 AM
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I found it on my phone by scrolling down 3 seconds You’re weird and I’m getting larp vibes have a nice day.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 12:37 AM
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Yeah lol. IMO some women surround themselves with girls they believe they look better than on purpose.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 12:32 AM
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? It’s in your history scroll down. Not really hard to find at all
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 12:25 AM
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Definitely get it. I wish more women would just be open about that kind of insecurity. For some reason, they’re not. Just admit you think you’re on a higher plane than some of the guys who talk to you , it’s okay to admit it. (And they are, in Tik tok etc”) I’ve had moments where I was hit on by men, and it made me feel insecure, like, “Do I act feminine? What’s going on?” It used to annoy me, but as I got older, I started thinking, “Maybe they see something I don’t see and I should appreciate i…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 12:22 AM
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I agree, but do you really think they do that with anybody? In every workplace I’ve been in, the people playing that game ; even if it never leaves work and never turns into anything real are usually at least fairly attractive or matched. There’s still a science to who gets included in the b.s
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 12:11 AM
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Yeah, but they don’t do that to ugly men. So even if their attention is worthless to you, there’s still a reason they’re giving you attention they see something worth engaging with.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 12:05 AM
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Some girls are straight up dimes, and they present themselves as such . They show up in form fitting jeans or leggings, expensive purses, and already have a cute face on top of it all. Gym bods and all that. That whole package. You can tell girls who make their appearance and finding a high value man their entire priority. I don’t even bother lol no shame in admitting that. I have surprised me self though in regards of who I’ve been able to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/25 12:02 AM
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Just saw your photos. You’re good lol Stop fishing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 11:46 PM
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Agreed. .But when women tell you this are these your friends/acquaintances or women you pursued?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:40 AM
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idk, I don't think she's doing her job correctly. Therapists arent supposed to judge you in that manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:38 AM
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Competence and confidence have to go hand in hand for it to be relevant in being successful at life and by proxy in the dating realm. you only build them through trial, error, and wins. In dating, that means approaching, learning, and stacking successes so your confidence is backed by real skill. Women hate idiots, and they dry up to timid, unassured guys too. Confidence matters, but it’s hard to build and it's volatile; you can lose it as quickly as you gain it, especially if you’re unattractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/25 12:34 AM
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So basically, they have their own independent and consistent formula for judging attractiveness ; but a lot of the time, it’s B.S. I’d like to think women in general are better at filtering through that, especially with all the information they’re getting online and other media outlets. I still think they’re better at it than men, though, because the process is harder for men , there’s a bigger variance in what makes a man attractive. For women, it might be more like looks + agreeableness, where…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 11:38 PM
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fair point Not saying there was ever a perfect time, but do you think the accuracy of women’s feedback loop in the West has gotten worse over time? If so, would you agree that today’s socially encouraging/empowering beats , like fat acceptance , are contributing to that decline ,and hurting dating for them?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 11:26 PM
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Spiderman was a bad reference, but my main point is that the feedback and conditioning give women are better sense in general when navigating the dating world in that particular regard.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 11:12 PM
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Solid points, I can’t say I disagree with anything here. Thanks for the reply. I think I had an idea of this in mind, but should have made it more relevant in the OP. I was basically trying to say that overall, women’s “meter” is sharper, but your point about intrasexual competition probably holds more weight than the direct feedback they get from men, even though that can count to some degree. I touched on it in my OP, but didn’t elaborate enough. Quick question though: do you think some women …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:32 PM
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Pretty privilege is like any other kind of privilege; most people who have it don’t even realize they’re benefiting from it. I can’t say for sure in your case, but it’s possible you’ve gotten opportunities, maybe even your current job, partly because you’re attractive. It’s not always about free drinks or strangers carrying things; sometimes it’s subtle and baked into how people treat you in professional or social situations. Honestly, your less attractive friend could probably answer that quest…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 10:00 PM
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thanks for the input. mind addressing comments or op? Nothing you've said so far has been relevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:45 PM
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True , they can be overly critical. IMO it just doesn’t happen as often as them being right on the money. The overrepresentation of women in those discussions shows how much they care. They’re basically practitioners of mate value and looksmaxing by default. Also, when they post there, I think it’s more about fishing for a gauge . I don’t think they believe they’re ugly at all; it’s more of a “Just how hot am I?” heat check.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:37 PM
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I’m doing well, brother, thanks , pretty content with where I am in life. Please address my comment or the OP. All the other nonsense you wrote is just low-effort reframing and projection. I gave no personal insight into my life for this kind of reply, and I don’t care for yours, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 09:16 PM
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I've heard women say this before and I never was on board with the idea. Effort is hard to gauge, especially good effort, because men and women are different. It’s hard enough to compare your effort to others of your own gender, so comparing it to someone of the opposite gender is even more baffling imo I can already imagine a scenario where she says, “I’m working 60 hours a week and he’s only working 40, but for some reason the dishes are never clean, what the fuck? why is his car filthy?” And …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 08:57 PM
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You also need to take into account simps that overinflate egos of women True true. But I believe women put simps on a scale too. A relatively attractive simp gives her way more info than an undesirable one. Even while rejecting both.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 08:08 PM
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For me it's "Go", "no go" and "would but no chance" for women. Don't rate men too accurately but I do have a sense "Can get laid", "Can't". But maybe in the first place that's an artificial construct we don't Agreed, it's awful, but is it artificial? Rating systems might be popularized online, but even without them, there’s still innate human tendency to put things into boxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 08:00 PM
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Yeah, the ratio is bad and you’re always being compared to other guys. Women also have way too much time to judge you purely on appearance. It’s just not worth it. In real life, your behavior can actually boost your appeal. Unless you’ve got an anxiety issue that makes you prefer hiding behind a screen and curating everything, every other option is better. even sliding into a dm on ig or fb; at least there's some plausible deniability there
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 07:44 PM
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Good analogy, and I think while true for the most part, but I’d tweak it Since men have to actually pursue to get most of their feedback, it’s less like spam vs regular email and more like this: women are getting flooded with recruiter outreach when looking for a job. tons of inbound offers, most low effort, but an amazing opportunity might land Men, are sending out applications and only get most feedback when they get a callback or land an interview. That’s one reason I’m probably more finely t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 07:23 PM
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lol pipeline to SA/grapist .
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 06:29 PM
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