Remandergrowth Archive

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5	How to look more sexually appealing as a woman. Nah, i get it. Those are two very distinct demographics. So appealing to both simultaneously might be difficult. I think the biggest thing is ensuring that both groups know you are open and available. As a straight man, if a woman looks too queer I won't try because I dont think she will like me. And for woman its the same. If you look too straight, it stops them. So your biggest goal should be finding a happy enough medium between the two such that people know you play for both. So I would pers…	/r/seduction	24/11/25 01:57 PM
1	How to look more sexually appealing as a woman. Okay, and can you list the types of women/men you are attracted to? Apologies for asking a lot of questions. It matters because different social groups value different things.	/r/seduction	24/11/25 01:25 PM
12	How to look more sexually appealing as a woman. Are you trying to appeal to women or to men?	/r/seduction	24/11/25 12:47 PM
1	How to become a good talker It's not that difficult. Just actively follow your passions.	/r/seduction	17/11/25 12:01 AM
2	I don't think race that matters when it comes to seduction It does, though. Depending on your racial makeup, certain "archetypes" are more or less acceptable, and this affects dating. There are also racial preferences.	/r/seduction	21/10/25 07:13 PM
1	Where to meet white women as a black man? Sports bars that show the NFL	/r/seduction	08/03/25 07:51 AM
1	I built a game that help you pass her sh*t tests This is awesome man! I love it!	/r/seduction	12/02/25 12:16 AM
3	My Limiting Belief: Girls Don't Want Me to Approach Them This is elite advice	/r/seduction	30/10/24 08:24 AM
1	Is it normal to approach women at shopping malls, stores and the street? There are a few factors that exist when it comes to finding good spots to pick up women. Duration. How often do women typically stay in said location? For shopping malls stores and the street, no one really wants to spend a long time, so you will not really get the opportunity to build rapport and attraction. Remember, the longer you talk to a girl, the more likely she will remember you, sleep with you, etc. Fear factor. Do women feel safe in said location? For example, in bars, women often feel…	/r/seduction	08/09/24 12:46 PM
6	I ended a 6 year relationship. Now I want to casually get back in the game, but I feel lost. How should I go about it? Some people on this subreddit are really scared of hitting on girls. They will go to the gym, improve their wardrobe, get their money right, and improve their social skills. All just to be the weird guy sitting at the corner of the bar staring at all the girls. Or even worse to have platonic conversations with women and never make a move. The final point is blunt because it needs to be blunt. You have to hit on girls. Try to get their numbers, flirt with them sleep with them etc. There is no way…	/r/seduction	03/09/24 12:56 PM
18	I ended a 6 year relationship. Now I want to casually get back in the game, but I feel lost. How should I go about it? Map your area. You have to go out with the intention of figuring out where girls you would be interested in will be. If you do not know where they are, it will be hard to game them. Just take a Saturday and go out to a few bars, stores, or restaurants. Take into account which places you find most of the women attractive and add it to your map. Take advantage of your friend circles and their female connections. More likely than not, there is a girl there who has been waiting for you to be single.…	/r/seduction	02/09/24 10:51 PM
0	I approach 10 people. Now what? Try to figure out if there are any skill deficits from the approaches you did. Did you not try to build rapport properly? Did you also ask for the number too soon or too late? Did you not identify proper opportunities? Watch channels that help with those deficits. Charisma on command is a great channel for focusing on weaknesses. Approach again, trying to apply a new skill you are trying to hone. For instance, practice storytelling, rapport, etc. Follow all these steps until you naturally feel c…	/r/seduction	02/09/24 10:44 PM
1	Leave an approach when the conversation hits a high point A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush. Simply, if a girl is interested in you, go for the kill there. If she rejects your shot, you can go for the number and reassure her that a date may be in order. I have made this mistake many times of quitting the game while I am winning.	/r/seduction	27/08/24 12:27 AM
16	For Men, Incompetence is Death Stupid advice	/r/seduction	26/08/24 11:29 PM
5	I need advice en help. This is my story m23 Analyze why you want a GF. This is something I had to do a while ago, and I find it is really important. I realized that a lot of the motivation I had to have a GF came from a place of emptiness and insecurity. I wanted a gf more because all my friends had one, and it would signal that I was more attractive. I essentially wanted a jerkoff doll i could show off. These were very shallow reasons to want to be with someone. I also really didn't care who was my gf, which was reflective of objectifica…	/r/ExRedPill	25/07/24 02:47 PM
42	As a woman, what signs should I look out for in a man that might indicate whether or he is a misogynist? Honestly, the best way to see is to see how they react when you do not give them what they want. Most red pillers are similar to nice guys. They are covert and will rarely ever voice their opinions when they arent in an echo chamber. You can also lead them along. Say something intentionally red pill and see their reaction. For example, say, "I believe women are meant to be in the kitchen." If they debate you on that, you have a good person. They are willing to defend women even if it makes them …	/r/ExRedPill	21/07/24 09:46 PM
1	Calling NYC men of this sub Dm me	/r/seduction	01/07/24 06:46 PM
15	How to be happy alone Don't wait to build anything or reach any goal before you go after women. This is a mistake I see men make all the time. They wait and wait until they reach some arbitrary goal and waste time. You have to learn to seek multiple goals at once. Getting a GF may be 1 goal, and getting in shape may be another. And you can do both at the same time. Now you don't need to learn to be fully happy single but you can't let your singleness stop you from enjoying the pleasures of life. Another mistake I see…	/r/seduction	01/07/24 12:05 PM
7	How do you guys cope? A beautiful person is a dime a dozen to me. But then again, I am a man and find most women attractive.	/r/seduction	27/06/24 05:37 PM
4	Today's Most Men Are Probably Doomed with No Solution Well I'd argue a large aspect to your success on a date is your ability to talk to a stranger (in this case the girl you are taking out) and making her want to engage with you further. I likely should have been more specific and said that the cold approach develops your ability to socialize with strangers, which is pivotal to dating success.	/r/seduction	27/06/24 11:04 AM
16	Today's Most Men Are Probably Doomed with No Solution Cold approach is foundational to any success anyone will have in dating. You need to be able to talk to strangers to meet new people who may someday be your gf or a hook up. I feel this sub sufficiently emphasizes the need to level up one's appearance. We are constantly reminded to lose weight, improve our fashion, etc, and if a person does these things, there should be a positive result. People like to emphasize cold approaching completely random people, ignoring that you can use the skills fro…	/r/seduction	27/06/24 10:13 AM
1	Going for a Hike with a Girl I Like This Weekend - How Can I Make Our Relationship More Intimate? I used to go on hikes with this girl I liked, and I did a few things to get her to like me a lot. To the point she stalked me for a year after I was over. Readjust her hair if it gets caught in her face from sweat. Cheap excuse to make intimate contact with the girl. Show your athleticism. Hikes are great for showing off. Be playful but don't make her feel unsafe.	/r/seduction	04/06/24 10:09 PM
15	How to date as a 25 year old late bloomer? Find a third place or hobby. A place where you can regularly see the same people over and over again. Start to talk to those people and use your conversational skills with them. Over time, they will get more and more used to you. Get contact with the girls you find attractive at these functions and ask them to hang out one on one. Because they know you better now, they will be much more gentle on the rejection as they now care about your feelings. If they reject, you keep talking with them and b…	/r/ExRedPill	02/06/24 04:56 PM
1	For the guys who had zero experience with women Take small steps, but make sure to keep pushing for progression. When you identify a problem, work to fix it quickly, and you will notice you get better faster. Here are the steps I took to get better at talking to women. Small talk with baristas and cashiers. It's just simple things, how was your day, etc etc. Id also make small comments about things around me so they can comment as well. I then started engaging in longer conversations with friends of friends. What do you like? Where do you han…	/r/seduction	05/05/24 09:17 PM
27	Why is all red pill/anti incel advice geared towards the lowest level when many incels are normal people who are just ugly? Because of that I am 100% sure I am an incel because of my looks No, you are an incel because you are not willing to try with women enough. I am honestly sick and tired of incels claiming they are too ugly to attract women when the reality is they are just so scared of rejection. I used to think I was an incel but the reality was I would only ask out like 4 girls a year. Women found me attractive, but I ignored them and couldn't tell they liked me. I'm not the typically incel who never goes outs…	/r/ExRedPill	09/04/24 06:15 AM
3	My observations about my former male classmates Your grades in school are mostly due to a desire to please other people. People pleasing leads to poor performance with women. Bad grades force people to learn to not people, please, as most people will give you issues for not performing academically. These people become more forceful and therefore go after the women they like and eventually get them.	/r/seduction	24/03/24 05:14 PM
3	In a slump need general advice Honestly, hook up at the girls' place. You have the best excuse in the book.	/r/seduction	23/03/24 01:11 PM
1	25M and still a virgin. Need help and advice on how to lose it Comedy open mic, book club, dance club etc	/r/seduction	22/03/24 09:19 PM
1	Measures to get over a crush. Have fun by yourself and do the things you have always wanted to do. This will subconsciously teach you that you can find joy without this other person and will make it easier for you to get over them. I did this when a girl I liked hooked up with my friend. I bought a bicycle, started a philosophy club, and went out with my friends weekly. Within 2 months, I was feeling free.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/03/24 05:26 PM
1	25M and still a virgin. Need help and advice on how to lose it Join a club or group activity and talk to some of the people there. Men and women. Eventually, get their contacts and try to schedule time to hang out. Do this consistently for about 4 to 5 months the and you will have friends, which makes it easier for you to get laid.	/r/seduction	22/03/24 04:40 PM
4	What’s your process and mindset when you go to bars/clubs alone? I do not club alone, but I do go to bars alone. I find clubbing alone to suck. You end up in a massive crowd dancing in hopes some girl abandons her group of friends for you. It usually doesn't work. Bars, however, are different, especially if you are a good conversationalist. I usually just sit at the bar and talk to whoever sits next to me. I usually look to see if there are any drifters. Any people who are alone like me. They are the most willing to have a conversation. If I find one, then go…	/r/seduction	20/03/24 04:42 PM
1	It feels like gym reps and I'm losing hope I think you should focus on figuring out where would be best to approach and then approaching exclusively there	/r/seduction	20/03/24 03:58 PM
3	Need help getting women (24m) There are a couple of things you could be doing wrong. Only approaching the club. The club is a terrible place to meet girls for us average looking people. It's loud, overpriced, and incredibly physical. If you are average, you almost automatically lose. On top of that, women go there with their friends, so even if a woman likes you, you might have to fight with her friends. I've had more success chatting up people in places where they are alone (bookstores/libraries/bars/comedy shows). The only…	/r/seduction	20/03/24 03:18 PM
1	are some girls actually mean to the guy the like? Depends on the context. Sometimes, men with big egos see playful teasing as a girl being mean. Some girls will insult you as a tease to test and see whether you can stand on your feet or if you'll roll over under pressure.	/r/seduction	18/03/24 01:31 PM
2	Would the gym help (19M)? Yeah, muscle will help, but avoid becoming a gym cell. I have seen a lot of people who go to the gym to get a girl, but do not focus on their social skills/life or their grooming. They become gym hermits, and instead of going out socially and meeting people, they spend every spare moment at the gym and wonder why girls don't immediately notice their big muscles. Make sure to develop a workout program that leaves you enough time to still socialize and develop game. 4 to 5 times a week. Heavy lift…	/r/seduction	18/03/24 12:31 PM
1	Where is the best place to meet women in their late 20s and 30s during the day? Maybe it's a location thing. I live in NYC so they are all over the place	/r/seduction	18/03/24 12:15 PM
3	Austin or Dallas? Need to move out of this college town I have no experience in either city, but I think either city would work. So long as it has thriving industry, you should see older women working jobs. Who would be your targets.	/r/seduction	17/03/24 10:27 PM
1	It feels like gym reps and I'm losing hope How do you typically go about approaching women? Want to see if I can give you some pointers.	/r/seduction	17/03/24 10:10 PM
2	It feels like gym reps and I'm losing hope How do you typically approach? Asking a girl out is more like chess in that you have to set up the move. A good 20 - to 30-minute conversation is important to show interest and get the girl more interested in you. You do not have to immediately be flirty, but you have to show your ability to entertain and create a good vibe. It also helps you better weed out the people who will reject you from the people who will give you a chance without ever having to ask for the date. For example, in a coffee…	/r/seduction	17/03/24 09:59 PM
1	Where is the best place to meet women in their late 20s and 30s during the day? Bar happy hour during the weekdays. Those places are often full of women after work, grabbing a cheap drink. Like 4pm on a Wednesday type deal.	/r/seduction	17/03/24 09:54 PM
1	Is following red pill content pages a red flag? Ask about it. Most people do not take who they follow that seriously. Especially if they possibly outgrew the philosophy.	/r/ExRedPill	08/03/24 06:30 PM
15	"Women on average handle being single better" That is true, but there is also the biological issue of men having a much higher sex drive and finding more people attractive. I have sisters, and they say they meet people they find undeniably attractive like once a month. I see an attractive woman almost every single day. Also, men build their value partially on who they can sleep with. I don't agree, but it's true. Women's value systems, at least among each other, don't involve men as much.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/24 01:27 PM
27	What do other girls think when they see you approach? There are so many girls that even if you fail with 1000 of them, you still have a good chance of meeting a good fit. Assuming you live in a city, there could be thousands of women near you. Think of it as training for the right one. The right girl needs you to have these skills to find her so every failure helps you find the right person. Make sure to form strong morals around what you do. It is easy to recover from rejection if you believe you did nothing wrong. Many men have been conditioned t…	/r/seduction	13/02/24 06:11 PM
4	Is approaching women on the street weird? Approaching women in the street isn't weird, but it depends. People are more open to be approached in places they plan to stay for a while. If a person is walking from point a to point b running errands, they likely will not have much time for you. For example, if someone is reading a book in the library, they are more likely to give you the 5 minutes you need to build rapport before asking for the number. Or if someone is sitting in a coffee shop.	/r/seduction	13/02/24 06:06 PM
12	I want go villain arc I just really i was delusional beta orbiter the whole time (need advice and motivation) Yeah, I can relate to this feeling. However, I will be honest in saying the blame lies with you. The most important thing in relationships is finding someone who likes you first. This girl made it clear she didn't like you as a romantic partner, and her actions showed that. She met other men and talked about the other men she was interested in with you. You should have just moved on. Doesn't mean you can't be friends. Now, on your villian comments. It is very common among nice guys to think prio…	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/24 03:58 PM
1	Anyone seen the channel ArakoTV? ArakoTV is misogynistic. Next question.	/r/ExRedPill	04/01/24 02:55 PM
18	My Dating experience has red pilled me See the problem here is you. There is nothing wrong with having issues with a drug problem. The problem is that the entire point of relationships is to seek to understand and empathize with people. You show no empathy for her problem here. Nor do you show any attempt to understand the situation first. Had you done that first, then rejected her, it would have been better.	/r/ExRedPill	29/12/23 06:01 PM
0	This entire sub is based on one thing and one thing alone. 90% of men have to put in work to get laid and 90% of women don’t need to do anything other than show up. Another stupid Red Pill post.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/12/23 02:20 PM
1	Does anyone else’s family make fun of them for never having a girlfriend? What hobbies do you do?	/r/ExRedPill	28/12/23 01:14 PM
3	Who are some of the most hilariously idiotic manosphere influencers? I'd definitely put Austin Dunham up there. The guy has the worst takes ever.	/r/ExRedPill	26/12/23 03:06 PM
1	My own opinion I think you are projecting the audience onto the content creators. Even if RP creators can verify they are getting women, it doesn't mean they are right. And some of them might be successful. I do not know, and it would not matter. Women are people and can not magically sense a red pillers rotten core. They know their audience is that group of men that have been hurt by a woman or women as a class before. So they make their content specifically to appeal to those men.	/r/ExRedPill	22/12/23 06:07 PM
6	Are there options for my affectionless and sexless marriage besides divorce or living with it? First, thanks for coming here to get non red pill advice. My first suggestion is healthy communication, and by that, I mean you have to both communicate what you feel and give her an opportunity to express her side of everything. You need to figure out why the marriage became sexless. From my experience sexless marriages happen for a number of reasons, and you need to determine why your marriage has become this way. It could be that she doesn't feel attractive. It could be that she has trouble o…	/r/ExRedPill	21/12/23 01:59 PM
1	How can one break away from this view of the world when it's been their exact reality? Firstly, I want to commend you for coming to this forum and being willing to engage with us on this subject. And I can understand why you feel this way about dating. I felt just like you a while ago, and every now and then, I struggle with Black Pill ideology. But I remember that often the Black Pill is wrong for a few reasons. Before you say anything, I want you to know I am a 5 foot 8 Black man who suffers from acne and weighs over 200 pounds. By no means am I a prime specimen. While attractiv…	/r/ExRedPill	18/12/23 02:50 PM
12	Fresh & Fit/Whatever Podcasts are complete BS So, I believe the red pill space grew for a number of different reasons. Social Isolation. The internet has created a lot more social isolation, which makes it easier for people to believe red pill theories. With the Covid 19 pandemic, social isolation got much worse, which made it much easier for RP to grow. A genuine contradiction in societal expectations. Romance, as we know it has been built out of patriarchal expectations. Men are expected to lead, fund, and earn affection. Many feminists (…	/r/ExRedPill	01/12/23 03:52 PM
15	Fresh & Fit/Whatever Podcasts are complete BS I think there is a middle ground. On one end, FnF and the Whatever podcast set the women up to fail. They bring women with no knowledge of the topic and a much more limited education. Sometimes, they bring them directly from clubs. I am not sure if they are fully sober in all the episodes. They shut them down with screaming and threats when they make a good point. On the other hand, they don't choose the smartest women to debate. They have never debated a college educated feminist or an actually…	/r/ExRedPill	01/12/23 03:26 PM
7	Tai Lopez finally joined fresh and fit It shows you that all the scammers don't care about morals.	/r/ExRedPill	13/11/23 05:57 PM
24	Do women like bad guys? Women don't like bad guys but are victims of bad guys. Just like men can be victims of bad girls. Bad guys are willing to lie, cheat, and steal to attract women. They are willing to manipulate emotions, create tension, and destroy people out of selfishness. Using those terrible tricks can often be effective against the population, especially susceptible people. A bad guy is willing to lie about his intentions, finances, belief systems, etc. for women. A good guy will tell the truth and likely wi…	/r/ExRedPill	07/11/23 03:44 PM
3	Is this red-pill content? Well maybe he is not a red piller but he is likely a fraud. Any rich man who makes it part of his brand to flaunt his great wealth is often not the type of person to take advice from. In his case I can almost assure you he has a ln over priced course that peddles some get rich quick scheme system.	/r/ExRedPill	01/11/23 12:23 AM
3	What's the worst piece of advice you've ever heard from RP? Yeah, I get it. There are a few rules to making it work.	/r/ExRedPill	14/10/23 09:06 PM
5	What's the worst piece of advice you've ever heard from RP? I do not think it is predatory so long as you live by the same rules and make the same disclosures to your partner. Red Pillers often fuck this up by demanding " rules for thee but not for me" treatment.	/r/ExRedPill	13/10/23 02:22 PM
24	What's the worst piece of advice you've ever heard from RP? Female friends are users and you shouldn't have them. If your goal is ultimately to date women, having female friends is a great way to not only learn how to treat women but to stay in good proximity to them to be a good partner.	/r/ExRedPill	12/10/23 07:49 PM
1	Do lack of women make an incel or being an incel results in lack of women It's usually the former. Men have issues with women. They go online. They find the incel community. They become incels.	/r/ExRedPill	17/08/23 07:59 PM
2	What redpill book best represents the movement? I feel the rational male is the original and why women deserve less is the copy.	/r/ExRedPill	16/08/23 11:26 AM
6	Is Sex really that important? Sex is important, but the more important question is how is that sex being had. Is it being had in non abusive non manipulative situations, or is something else going on. In my opinion, I believe the source of the sex is much more important than the frequency of it. If we are having less sex but more sex is in loving relationships and is without abuse, I do not care. The problem I often see with Red Pillers is that they rarely care about the source of the sex. They do not care if men pay for it,…	/r/ExRedPill	04/08/23 01:22 PM
1	Does Charisma on Command Really Work? I think he offers a good beginner's guide to understanding body language and improving communication.	/r/ExRedPill	01/08/23 02:14 AM
3	Why do we glorify the act of black men hating Black women? 🤔 A response to RedPill. Examples. O.J. Simpson trial. Black women were among O.J. Simpsons' biggest supporters during the trial helped him win as part of the jury. They also was among the protesters who protested for his release. R.Kelly. Black women supported child molester R.Kelly in his first trial for child pornography. They protested, and he even found some of his later victims as protestors in his crowd. Chris Brown. It is publicly known that he hit/beat Rihanna, but he still puts out charting hits and performs a…	/r/ExRedPill	28/07/23 12:09 PM
2	Why do we glorify the act of black men hating Black women? 🤔 A response to RedPill. The whole black man black woman argument was created by white people in the 70s and 80s to try to blame Black people for systematic racism. It attempts to morally condemn an entire race of people for systems and problems out of their control. Slavery ended in all American states in 1901. Segregation continued into the 70s and still affects many today. Red lining destroyed Black Wealth and forced many black people to live in underdeveloped urban centers to be overworked and policed. This was just…	/r/ExRedPill	28/07/23 11:45 AM
1	For ex-redpills: do you still keep up with any content creators in the Manosphere ? I still watch RP content but really not out of choice. The YouTube and Tictok algorithms push that stuff on me even without my consent. However, since detoxing, a lot of the RP content and debates come off as stupid and asinine to me. I find myself easily debunking, like 80 percent of the content in my head.	/r/ExRedPill	25/07/23 10:20 AM
1	Exredpillers, did your game change the more you liked someone? and it what ways? I'd say I stopped trying to play games all together, and it has worked well for me. Girls appreciate the authenticity, and I save myself plenty of time.	/r/ExRedPill	20/07/23 09:53 AM
7	“Sexual marketplace value” This is also false if you look just at American celebrities. If we go further out internationally it becomes even more apparent that there is not as much of a pattern for what is found sexually attractive as you think.	/r/ExRedPill	16/07/23 10:50 PM
22	“Sexual marketplace value” Haha, yeah, SMV sucks and is stupid as a term for one central reason. It ignores the reality of sexuality which is that people like a variety of things, and there is no clear value system. It is not that x is better than y, but that x is different than y. Just as men are often attracted to many different types of women at once, women have the same feelings. This becomes very apparent when you look at celebrities. Beyonce, Taylor Swift, Salma Hayek, Ashley Graham, and Rubi Rose are considered att…	/r/ExRedPill	16/07/23 08:25 PM
20	Are redpillers happy? The problem with Red Pillers is that they create their own hell. They claim that no good women exist while displaying qualities that repel the "good women" that they desire. It is like having a disease but blaming everything else for your worsening physical state. If you truly want to get better, you have to cure the disease, but red pillers refuse to do so. Because unhappy people are easy to sell things to.	/r/ExRedPill	11/07/23 06:40 PM
4	1STMAN disses the entire manosphere and TRP, quits the male self help industry I never liked 1stman. He, like many other grifters, tries to expand his base by claiming his beliefs are fundamentally different from the rest of RP when other than some minor nuances, they are the same. Just look up "1stman modern women" and you will see a list of videos reflecting all major Red Pill talking points.	/r/ExRedPill	06/07/23 02:22 PM
5	Resources for people who are recovering from dating a red-piller Dr. K has great relationship content that could help.	/r/ExRedPill	04/07/23 11:05 AM
1	Stop caring, she starts chasing I think this is true, but again, red pill and sayings exaggerate things. I also dislike how gendered this is when, in reality, this works for both genders. People need space to find you attractive. If you are smothering a girl texting her every day trying to hang out every weekday, you scare her away. Being clingy makes it hard for people to like you. She isn't chasing, but now that you have reduced your output, she will seek you when she wants you. It's the same with male friendships. My male f…	/r/ExRedPill	05/06/23 11:48 PM
5	podcasts for ex redpill/belief questioning podcasts? Dr. K on YouTube is also a great resource.	/r/ExRedPill	30/05/23 03:28 PM
65	Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving? People are the ends, not the means. You must learn to appreciate people for who they are versus hating them because they are not who you want them to be.	/r/ExRedPill	28/04/23 02:23 PM
31	I think hamza is slowly moving away from the red pill Even if Hamza is turning away from Red Pill, he is still a bad person for the following reason. He sells overpriced courses centered around helping men "become better versions of themselves." Which is just the same as all the scummy business courses that claim to teach you how to get rich. And why is this such a good business model? Because it gives him plausible deniability. Let's say you buy his course and follow it to the letter and still don't feel like Adonis? Well, it is because you didn't…	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/23 11:57 PM
2	(21m) I’ve been miserable for the past few weeks? Hey man, first I have been where you have been before. I was 21 and felt like shit because all my male friends were hooking up and had relationships while I was alone. However, I was able to figure myself out as I got older, and I'll give you the steps I used to do it. I would recommend therapy as well. Dedicate more time to your self development. Oftentimes, people who suffer from issues with women have issues with self-acceptance. They do not like being alone and think that finding a woman or …	/r/ExRedPill	15/04/23 03:30 PM
8	Why does AlphaM get so much hate here? There is nothing wrong with Alpha M from an ideological standpoint precisely because he avoids taking strong viewpoints on anything. I would compare him to Courtney Ryan. The problem with Alpha M is the fact that most of his advice does not work. Rather than focusing on the biggest determinant of whether men have relationships with women or not (conversation skills and the ability to maintain friendships with women over time), he wants to sell men on fashion, abs, grooming, his over priced men's…	/r/ExRedPill	15/04/23 10:34 AM
3	Stuff I learned after quitting the Red Pill (almost one year) Yes, indeed. Also, no one wants to or should want to be dominant all the time. Everyone wants a space where they can be vulnerable.	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/23 07:43 PM
9	Stuff I learned after quitting the Red Pill (almost one year) See, dominant and non dominant people exist. However, the world is so multivariate that it is impossible to be dominant in all circumstances. So a person who may be dominant in one location might be weak in another. RP likes to act like there are people who are alpha in all situations when that is clearly not the case. A great example would be right-wing or leftwing commentators. When put in a room full of people who agree with them about everything, they seem bold and open. But put them in a ro…	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/23 03:03 PM
2	How do I become content with my lack of a romantic life in my 20s as a single man? Okay, man, I get you. I am 23, and I was in the same situation. I still struggle, but I feel my love life is a lot better now than it was before due to a few big changes I made as I got older. I feel you could benefit from these same changes. I took the pressure off myself by not being social specifically to meet women. For example, when I went to parties, I would talk to the men and women equally. If a man was having a cool convo, I would join. If a woman was having a cool convo, I would do the…	/r/ExRedPill	13/03/23 01:22 PM
8	After leaving redpill and fully recovering do you think that it’s possible for them to convince you to be redpill again? I have watched red pill content after leaving, and I'll be honest. I can not watch that cringe anymore. 10 minutes and FnF made me want to break my computer. I was debunking shit they were saying almost every 10 seconds. When you become sufficiently anti red pill, it's hard to fall for old tricks.	/r/ExRedPill	23/02/23 12:01 PM
2	What is a "nice guy" exactly? I am not sure if I can make a very good definition here, but let me list some characteristics that need to be in the definition. Ultimately, the idea that service can compensate for a lack of attraction. So most nice guys implicitly believe that if they are the perfect emotional partner, physical attraction will naturally form, ignoring the fact that attraction is necessary and is often something we can not control. They believe that if I am always their and I am the perfect friend, she has to f…	/r/ExRedPill	20/02/23 04:03 PM
14	Manosphere guys and the dark triad I would have to read the dark triad research to really have an opinion, but here are the primary reasons why I think RP types like the Dark Triad myth. It creates a moral justification for not being good with women. Implicitly, if you have to be a sociopath to be good with women, it is moral to remain not good with women. Incels and RP types can claim that they are better because they won't play these manipulative games, or they can claim women are worse morally for liking these types. It can ea…	/r/ExRedPill	17/02/23 12:58 PM
2	How To Survive Without Hamza Making Videos Lmao was gonna be angry at first but then watched the video.	/r/ExRedPill	16/02/23 11:01 PM
10	No one talks about the loneliness men go through. Here is the thing. People do talk about male loneliness. People have written books about the male experience. There are multiple podcasts and research papers talking about male loneliness. The problem is you do not like answers these discussions produce. People have become millionaires talking about male loneliness. So let's not act like there is no discussion when their clearly is and all you need to do to access that discussion is type the words "male loneliness" into a search bar. The problem…	/r/ExRedPill	16/02/23 11:34 AM
2	How to stand out as a mediocre guy? Haha but am I wrong?	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/23 12:50 AM
5	How to stand out as a mediocre guy? Here is what I think you should do. Invest in female friendship. This will not only give you a safe place to learn how to treat women in your life but will also help remove a lot of your neediness. Knowing you have a healthy source of feminine energy makes it much easier for you to approach women. Understand that all good things come with difficulties. I am still not the most successful with women, but I am miles ahead of where I was in college. Focus on the progression over success. I went from…	/r/ExRedPill	14/02/23 12:49 AM
2	What do people think about sa ra Garvey (aka TheBlackOpinion) We think the same thing we think about all the other red pill hacks. I do not understand why you guys keep asking this question like it will change our mind.	/r/ExRedPill	13/02/23 06:35 PM
13	Impossible standarts A couple of things you need to do. Evaluate your standards. Are they realistic? Red Pill often puts so many expectations on women that are impossible to fulfill. Many red pillers, just like the women they bash on their podcasts, have unrealistic standards. Evaluate yourself. Are you actually good enough? Do you take care of your health? Are you educated? Can you hold a good conversation? Are you confident? If you lack in any one of these areas, it will make it harder for you to attract the oppos…	/r/ExRedPill	12/02/23 09:46 PM
6	What pulls people down to the Red Pill? Red pill allows men to shy away from uncomfortable realities in dating. The reality of dating is that you have little control over who finds you attractive or whether a relationship between the two of you can work. You can only hope they love you back. RP gives men a sense of control. If they become alpha, all dating issues get solved, which is not the case at all. It allows men who have issues to feel they have the upper hand simply because they are men and provide a consolidation prize to men …	/r/ExRedPill	10/02/23 11:47 PM
3	What do you think women refer to when they say dating apps are full of low quality sexual offers and very few actual options? There are biological indicators that suggest men have higher sexual desire than women, but I believe what you said is part of the problem. I also mentioned what you said in my post.	/r/ExRedPill	09/02/23 01:03 PM
8	What do you think women refer to when they say dating apps are full of low quality sexual offers and very few actual options? So there are a few different things you have to take into account to have this conversation in good faith. Women do get a lot more matches in online dating. This is just a fact. Men often do not get as many matches as women due to a number of reasons. Women's attraction works differently than men's. Men want sex a lot more than women do. So, with these constraints laid out, let me explain why you are wrong. While women get a lot more matches now than men do, a lot of those matches are from men t…	/r/ExRedPill	09/02/23 11:28 AM
5	What are your thoughts on Jedidiah Bila? I'm not a fan of hers at all. I feel she spews the same rhetoric as Justpearlything and all the other red pill people out there. She is not good for you.	/r/ExRedPill	06/02/23 04:58 PM
3	learning about redpill content is pushing me to lesbianism Well, you will find out soon enough that dating women is equally a minefield. In my experience, women have been just as judgemental and bad as men. Dating as a man has unique issues as well and I do not claim to know your issues. But what is true is that people suck almost equally. I know plenty of lesbians who have had bad experiences. You have to just be willing to work and learn to quickly respond to negative signs.	/r/ExRedPill	05/02/23 09:36 PM
7	learning about redpill content is pushing me to lesbianism My problem with your post is that you are doing the exact thing that we strive to avoid in exredpill. You are letting red pill narratives affect you views around men. Most men aren't like the men trp talks about.	/r/ExRedPill	05/02/23 08:46 PM
4	My story I agree. It's also just another way to sell sex. For example, fresh and fit are two guys with no skills at all. However, they can easily sell men on the idea that they have a secret formula for getting women. And through this program they can sell sex. They are no different than the only fans girls they try to shame.	/r/ExRedPill	05/02/23 08:00 PM
4	Why you are most likely into the red pill I feel the people most likely in the red pill tick many boxes. They likely have issues attracting women like you previously noted. They likely grew up with female purity culture or the idea that women can do no wrong because they are the moral tether of society. This is very common in religious and conservative communities, which put immense pressure on women to be these super moral creatures. They have often been lied to about how to attract women by a media engine that focuses on cope. So when…	/r/ExRedPill	04/02/23 12:40 PM
5	I am developing an eating disorder Firstly I would suggest seeing a therapist if possible. But if that is not possible let me tell you a few things. It's all about health at the end of the day. If you are not healthy now, I would suggest you see a doctor and try and start a fitness regime. If you are healthy I then assume the question has to relate more to the opposite sex in which case you are likely exaggerating the extent to which they care about your body type. Women do care but not to the extent they will disregard you for b…	/r/ExRedPill	03/02/23 01:13 PM
-2	are men and women more similar than different? Men and women are different but often have similar goals. The problem is that red pill attempts to moralize differences between men and women often in men's favor. I feel it is near impossible to deny the differences, especially when we analyze the brain.	/r/ExRedPill	02/02/23 12:58 PM
25	Why do women really get approached so much by men, online and irl? There are a couple of reasons for this. Society puts the pressure of starting relationships on men who often have to make the first moves. Men prioritize attractiveness in potential partners, so once a woman checks the attractiveness box, they often want to shoot for a relationship to see if more is possible. Men are often taught that women are the key to happiness. So unhappy men think women will solve their internal loneliness. Many men are evaluated upon how many women they can bed. There is …	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/23 11:52 PM
10	Is it true that on average women have less dating options once they are over 30 while men have more dating options as they gain wealth and status?? Whether your dating stats go up or down is contingent on a number of different factors other than age. The problem with RP is that it tires to boil everything down into that single statistic when a lot is involved. For example, how well you do has to do with looks, personality, income resources, location, and most of all, what you are personally looking for. For some people, their 30s are their prime, where they are the most successful and attractive. I have seen many women who at 30 look better…	/r/ExRedPill	31/01/23 06:42 PM
9	Young women using Instagram as a dating app. Some but not a lot. The easiest way to get access to women for dating is through mutual friends. Women don't typically respond to messages online from strangers, and again, why should they? You're just a strange man on the internet who likes her because of a bikini picture.	/r/ExRedPill	29/01/23 10:35 PM
3	Young women using Instagram as a dating app. Here is the thing. The vast majority of women are not dating strangers. They are dating acquaintances and people they have met in real life at some point. They use social media to communicate more frequently. There is a reason why 90% have their instagrams on private. They hate random men trying to get with them. So men using social media more won't exactly solve the issue. Men have to build social groups that involve both men and women and then take their shots at female acquaintances. For exam…	/r/ExRedPill	29/01/23 10:23 PM
3	I'm a loser. First, get professional help. Suicide thoughts need a therapist. Then tackle your problem from easiest to hardest. Looking through the easiest problem to solve is the friend problem because you have roommates who can help you out. Ask them to invite you to the parties and other events they go to. And make sure to get the contact info of anyone you have a good interaction with at the party. Message them all the next couple of days after the party, and some of them will reply. Invite them to hang …	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/23 10:53 PM
1	Why Tinder isn't going to get you a girlfriend: Men are an average of 70% of dating app users in the US and 85% in Europe Thanks for explaining. I just think it is important that we remember we may have a lot of RP people looking to learn more so they can eventually leave the toxic rabbit hole and long explanations like this help.	/r/ExRedPill	27/01/23 01:15 PM
5	Why is JB no allowed on this subreddit? Jordan Peterson is not allowed simply because he serves as one of the first gateways for Red Pillers. As a former Red piller myself, Jordan Peterson was the first step I took in the direction towards RP because he seemed to make such strong arguments about the plight of men in dating. However, it is very easy to slide from him to other pseudo intellectual channels about dating. And then to eventually become a dumb ass Red piller. Now Jordan Peterson isn't Red Pill by any means. For example, on t…	/r/ExRedPill	27/01/23 01:06 PM
1	Why Tinder isn't going to get you a girlfriend: Men are an average of 70% of dating app users in the US and 85% in Europe Could you explain this a little further. Trying to get all the info here.	/r/ExRedPill	26/01/23 01:16 PM
4	What’s the meanest/rudest way someone had rejected you? Yesterday I tried to get a girls numper at the club after we had danced together. She shot me the middle finger and I shot it back to her laughed and left.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/23 06:31 PM
3	Why is youtube filled w red pill? I only know Hamza's definition, which is essentially an average guy. Hamza is also a piece of shit just for your infomation.	/r/ExRedPill	22/01/23 06:30 PM
5	What is the redpill's obsession with Geriatric pregnancy? I do agree that if you are trying to have a baby, it is best to have the child sooner for both men and women. Because the older you get, the more complicated it gets not just socially but economically. I mean, from my perspective, as a man who was born when my dad was entering his 40s, I sometimes fear he won't be able to see his grandchildren. He is also having to pay for my little sisters college when he should be retiring, and it has put a tremendous economic strain on him that I have to help…	/r/ExRedPill	22/01/23 01:23 PM
2	Does red pill encourage guys to get into online forex and crypto trading? It's because Red Pill Gurus love financial instruments where they have plausible deniability. So they can say you lost money in forex or crypto because you did it wrong versus because it is a broken system.	/r/ExRedPill	19/01/23 11:48 PM
2	Why I still lean towards red pill content[19M] I feel you are at the early stages of your red pill journey when things make sense. What red pill does is it gives you a few true things to make you consider it and slowly turns you into a puppet of facts and stats that mean little to nothing in the real world. There is nothing wrong with being masculine. The problem is the call for all men to be masculine and the standards of that masculinity. If the masculinity you speak of is being an emotionally centered, physically fit individual with the m…	/r/ExRedPill	18/01/23 02:45 PM
9	Is Hamza misogynistic? Because women can be good at work. Because women may want to work instead of sitting at home waiting for Adonis to return. Because most households in America have 2 working parents. Because a man would need to make more than 95 percent of men to sustain a single breadwinner household, and most men will never get there.	/r/ExRedPill	17/01/23 11:49 AM
19	Is Hamza misogynistic? I believe he is very implicitly misogynist. Like the whole modern woman narrative is. The idea that women natural purpose is just to have some man's kid. The idea that women should be submissive and just desire to be led by a man when women can lead too is misogynist. In a world where women have shown their abilities as workers inventors, etc, to reduce them to simply the baby maker of Adonis is misogynist.	/r/ExRedPill	17/01/23 11:21 AM
6	Am I redpilled? Thanks for the extra detail. I haven't been following the case that much. But that gives more evidence to my point that he is a shitty human being.	/r/ExRedPill	16/01/23 06:12 PM
4	Am I redpilled? Also, you figure out who the good role models are when things get difficult. The minute Tate got arrested, he claimed all of his online outbursts were him playing a character. He tried to play the family man angle to escape prison, saying he needed to see his 10 kids, whom he had never mentioned before. I am also assuming he has created 10 single mothers. He claimed it was the "Matrix" that caught him when there are literally numerous videos of him admiting to crimes. He admits to tax evasion, f…	/r/ExRedPill	16/01/23 06:02 PM
7	Am I redpilled? Well, he made his money off a cam girl business. Is it masculine to make your money in an exploitative business that requires no skill? I mean, it seems red pillers hate only fans' models, but love Tate even though he would not be rich without the poorer version of them Oo wait it's because he has abs and says misogynist shit mixed in with the basic work hard bs every inspirational teacher online gives. And don't give me the he is not a misogynist talk when he talks about owning women, keeping t…	/r/ExRedPill	16/01/23 05:56 PM
15	Men's anger towards women is misplaced: it should be towards other better men Mens' anger is more placed on the fact that the female criteria for relationships is poor. If a man lost to a rich, attractive, and responsible man, most men would acknowledge they were not better and accept it. However, in most cases, men lose to men who are irresponsible reckless and damaging to the woman who choose them. And then they are blamed for the damage done by the women's poor choice. If women were operating based on appropriate criteria, most men would be fine. But height money and t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/23 04:05 PM
1	Is it a red flag when a woman is attracted to older men? Exactly. I find it condescending when women claim a man is grooming a 24 year old when she is a full adult capable of making decisions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/23 02:27 PM
3	Psychotherapist, PUA and Blackpiller debate on the nature of women Exactly. One thing I hate about this sub is how much attention they give red pill voices. Like we all know they are wrong about women 95% of the time. Yet I regularly see posts of their content or posts like "is x red pill content creator okay?". They are all terrible influences.	/r/ExRedPill	11/01/23 01:26 PM