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ResistingTemptation/r/seduction19/08/15 08:53 AM
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Do you have a link? Seems interesting
/r/seduction21/05/16 10:20 AM
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Yeah there's no reason why you can't be genuine, take the lead, be a man and be nice, all at the same time. Most nice guysTM are generally not nice anyway. They behave in a needy / desperate way and are only nice because they want something from the girl, which is actually selfish when you think about it, then blow up when they get rejected. The key I think is you demonstrated value, whilst most nice guysTM take away value which is why they're not successful. Good field report.
/r/seduction20/05/16 07:50 AM
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Have a look at this post, posted literally yesterday: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/4jytae/after_100_first_dates_my_rules_on_making_them_go/ What I can add, is that if it is your very first date, just be realistic with your expectations. Dating is a skill, so don't be too self-conscious, over-aware or harsh on yourself for this date. Just enjoy it, even if it doesn't go anywhere. And make sure you don't catch oneitis now :). I think I did my very first date but it's all a learning …
/r/seduction19/05/16 06:54 PM
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Value doesn't have to be tangible. But basically go with the motto that with every person you meet, you will try to leave them better off than before you met them. Making someone laugh / smile is adding value in itself. Being needy and draining their energy / time is taking away value. Don't be that person. Achievements and social status demonstrates your value but isn't required to add value. Put yourself out there and the achievements and social status will come naturally over time.
/r/seduction10/05/16 11:56 AM
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That's why I said 'winner'. You can fake it till you make it but you have to start off self-confident. So yes confidence is sufficient as long as you believe in your own value, have actual value to give and can express that.
/r/seduction09/05/16 08:10 AM
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I'm pretty sure he was just joking. Lighten up a bit
/r/seduction09/05/16 12:19 AM
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Conversation should generally have a goal; whether it be building up rapport, setting the mood, or setting up future opportunities etc. If you just talking fluff, people aren't going to buy it and they're going to want you to go away; you're wasting their time. Fundamentally you have to become an interesting person. A person you would want to be friends with. A person who makes you laugh, is passionate and inspires you. If you're just talking to girls about the weather, you're not going to go an…
/r/seduction09/05/16 12:12 AM
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People do care where you've been if they're interested in travel. Clearly you're talking to girls who aren't interested in travel. It might also be more to do with the way you come across; insecure perhaps (?), aloof perhaps (?), disengaged (?), awkward (?) as opposed to the topic of conversation. You should have some go to anecdotes about your travels too. That's usually how I introduce the travel topic subtly and conversation is more natural. E.g. Let's say I'm a bit late for a date. Me 'Oh so…
/r/seduction09/05/16 12:03 AM
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There's no quick fix in life. No one wants to hang out with an insecure loser. Become a confident 'winner' first. The fact you have no friends means you'll get too emotionally attached to any girls giving you attention and it'll fuck you up when you end up scaring them off. So focus on your life first before seduction.
/r/seduction08/05/16 11:47 PM
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If you've already kissed her before and it wasn't drunken making out (on the first date), I've generally found a hug then a peck on the lips when you meet for your second date is usually more than fine and also breaks the tension. Hug her then hold her close, look into her eyes and give her a quick kiss. Obviously I can't advocate for all girls, but I don't see why you can't, unless you clearly see she's uncomfortable doing so. I've even said 'Give me a kiss (smile)' after hugging. Not really an…
/r/seduction03/05/16 09:12 PM
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I think if you want to get a girl you have to be willing to lose her. By that I think the other poster is right, set boundaries etc. Most guys with a hot girl would be pussyfooting over her every move and doing everything to 'please' her. She's got enough of those men. But don't play games. Just know your value. You value your time. You got your own shit to do. If you're doing something interesting next week, let her know in advance. 'Hey, I'm planning on going to xyz museum next week. Wanna com…
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:54 PM
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Abundance mentality and reality. Have options and date around.
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:41 PM
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Are you taking action? Tell me what steps you have made in the last year to progress in seduction. Your dream girls aren't going to magically appear out of nowhere. You can do many things; approach more, build self-confidence, try escalating, workout, get a better style, try new activities expand your social circle... the list is endless. Start that self improvement journey today. Are you an interesting person? Would your friends say you're an interesting person? Also you sound bitter with resen…
/r/seduction27/04/16 10:37 PM
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Hey man, I'm a Londoner. I'd still say most people are friendly tbh if you approach. I've never gotten a negative reaction yet. Just remember because there's so many people in London people often don't give a shit about who you are lol but I guess that can come across rude. Also an annoying thing is whilst you get foreign girls (which I like), you also get tourists who often have no interest in a relationship since they're off the next week anyway hah. I have heard it's much friendlier up North …
/r/seduction27/04/16 07:45 AM
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Yeah go with the advice here. Natural is the best way. The only reason I suggested clarifying is sometimes if you're just starting out / anxious you might feel you need reassurance / certainty before you act. I sometimes did, especially when a girl one time asked me whether she could bring a friend. I replied 'No lol, it's a date!'. Even if you do clarify, it should be playful anyway. With you, I'm assuming the girl you like knows you like her. You probably have a gut feeling whether she likes y…
/r/seduction26/04/16 11:05 PM
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Yeah there's a difference between coffee and coffee date OP. I've made that mistake multiple times; one time it was pretty cringe-worthy; I thought it was a date, she thought it was just as friends and it was awkward as fuck once I caught on (too late, might I add). I'd either just go with the flow (no expectations but use social intelligence to assess escalation) or clarify with her whether it's a date or not. Since you're inexperienced, I might suggest clarifying so you know where you stand. A…
/r/seduction26/04/16 06:52 PM
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Why not both? Who's to say that cold approaches aren't authentic? I like to think I'm authentic when I cold approach. This isn't a case of choosing one or the other.
/r/seduction24/04/16 08:49 AM
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Imagine if the roles were reversed and the girl didn't want the male waiter's attention. He'd be labelled creepy for stalking her up from a credit card. I still find it a bit creepy tbh but whatever works hah.
/r/seduction14/04/16 12:46 PM
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Do you not find it weird that she basically stalked you? How did she find out your name?
/r/seduction14/04/16 11:54 AM
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She already told you she's busy tomorrow lol. You should've suggested another day. Whatever, win some, lose some bro. She may still reply. Some girls take hours to reply.
/r/seduction12/04/16 11:02 PM
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Considering your text, she had no obligation to reply. Ask how her day went or something tomorrow. Chit chat a bit to build comfort then ask her out for coffee again. Oh and don't apologise. I've made that mistake too many times; apologising shows insecurity. Also don't ask if she got the message. 99.9% chance she got it.
/r/seduction12/04/16 10:37 PM
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Well you can argue all you want. Sometimes you do have to be bold. Sometimes use your common sense. No need to get sucked into the specifics. That example from models is merely just reinforcing the idea that if you try 1000 times, you'll eventually succeed i.e. don't make excuses for your lack of success. He didn't say to behave like this guy nor did he express that no tact is the most successful method. He also didn't say what happened in the 20 minutes he didn't see the guy. All he said was he…
/r/seduction05/04/16 10:07 PM
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Hmm...maybe you're coming off creepy. Kino works for me. Tbh I only started seeing real progress once I implemented kino into my interactions. Just have a bit of social intelligence when you're doing it. Subtlety and tact will get you far.
/r/seduction05/04/16 08:26 PM
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IMO, do low investment, multiple girls. If you're confident in your abilities in person, you're perhaps doing something wrong textwise. If texting, signal your interest through a date i.e. suggest / ask going somewhere specific together on a given date. Once you've done this, don't put the pressure on if you can help it. Keep texting to a minimum. If she's interested, she'll respond in kind. I honestly believe texting can never build true attraction, but you can easily lose attraction through te…
/r/seduction02/04/16 11:20 PM
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Honestly, sometimes going direct via msg can scare girls off. Happened to me before. Just tell her she seems like a cool person and you want to grab a coffee with her. Then ask what's the best way to contact. Judge her reaction from there and judge whether you want to escalate once you're getting to know her better; subtle kino etc. Note; most of the attraction building will be in person. She will come out if she's open to meeting you but this could either be as friends or something more. It's u…
/r/seduction02/04/16 12:24 PM
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If it's a date then tell her lol. It's not really a test; she just wants to know if you're meeting as friends or perhaps something more. Call it out. Normally I'd say 'No lol, it's a date!'. If she responds negatively she wasn't interested anyway. If she responds positively then you've moved forward! Honest action, as Mark Manson says. Never be afraid to be genuine.
/r/seduction02/04/16 09:20 AM
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You came, you saw, you conquered. Julius, that was pretty epic.
/r/seduction09/03/16 12:34 PM
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I agree with this wholeheartedly. I've actually fucked up multiple times when I called it out on what it is instead of just leading the interaction sexually.
/r/seduction03/03/16 03:39 PM
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One day is not long lol. But yes, move on if you can. Easier said than done. If she's interested she'll get back to you.
/r/seduction02/03/16 08:33 PM
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Perhaps consider an escort for your first time. There's no pressure, you can take your time (as long as your willing to pay haha) and you'll get over this mental barrier of 'virginity' holding you back. Treat it like a learning experience. You'll get it done and over with, and sexual escalation may not be so much of a barrier for you later on when you interact with 'real' women. In terms of pick-up, get yourself in the right frame of mind. Become your best self, and maybe get a wingman to go out…
/r/seduction02/03/16 05:13 PM
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Excuse me is better than sorry. Try that
/r/seduction02/03/16 05:07 PM
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You have to take the lead. She's done a fair bit of the work. Tell her when and where you want to meet her and see if she's up for it. Basically she's telling you to come over to her place. So tell her when you want to come. If she can't make that time, reschedule it. Also don't send her too many messages.
/r/seduction02/03/16 05:06 PM
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Nearly all the YouTube videos are fake I.e. they're paid actresses. It's pretty obvious. Don't go for broke straight away. You'll be left disappointed. Go for instadates or numbers instead. Then you can escalate and kiss.
/r/seduction07/02/16 07:11 PM
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Also don't ask random girls to kiss you off the cuff. It won't work. You need to build comfort at least; the girl doesn't even know you. You kiss on a date or in a club. If you're basing this off videos, those YouTube kiss 'pranks' are fake as hell.
/r/seduction07/02/16 06:21 PM
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You're clearly over thinking which is leading to neediness and over investment. Same issue that I have. I have no idea what you're on about too. Get to a point of not caring and just be honest in your approach. You can never over think if you do this.
/r/seduction07/02/16 12:51 PM
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Just curious, did you end up going on a date with her or it didn't actually get to that point?
/r/seduction07/02/16 12:29 PM
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In Models by Mark Manson he pretty much narrows down 1000 women to 50 potentials. I think it goes like this; Of 1000 women 500 will be physically attractive to you Of these 500 250 will be physically attracted to you Of these 250 100 will be single or available Of these 100 50 will be actually compatible short / long term Of these 50 Maybe only 20 be compatible long term So that's 50 you can have fun with but only 20 of these 50 you might be compatible with in the longer term. If you're insecure…
/r/seduction27/01/16 03:50 PM
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You answered probably the least important question on my list. What about the other questions? Improve yourself instead of being bitter and projecting your hate on others.
/r/seduction27/11/15 06:31 AM
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If the feeling is right I usually just say (very casually) "Give me a kiss". It's usually reciprocated.
/r/seduction26/11/15 09:51 PM
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OK let me ask you: 1. How many women have you approached in the last year i.e. outer game? How have you worked on your self-esteem and confidence i.e. inner game? How physically attractive are you i.e. are you fit? Where do you live? How often do you fantasize, look at porn and masturbate? How big is your social circle? What is so amazing to you about white women? Fine to have preferences but a beautiful woman is beautiful in my eyes. These are the questions you should be asking. We could all be…
/r/seduction26/11/15 09:48 PM
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This is why I don't like long conversations before meeting. You build up an expectation for the other person, and then the reality may not be the product of the expectation. I understand obv since this was a FB meeting you had to build up some form of conversation on-line first though. Some girls I speak to on-line sound so self-assured, and then irl they're so shy and nervous, which can be frustrating. I'm sure she was expecting you to kiss her on that date. You should have just said something …
/r/seduction26/11/15 09:36 PM
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Well I honestly don't know why you care so much about his opinion tbh considering you don't find him attractive and why you assume he has such a harsh opinion of you. Work on yourself and your self-esteem, don't rely on others for validation and his opinion of you will have little impact.
/r/seduction04/11/15 10:25 PM
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If you give this vibe to everyone then the only thing they should think is that you're a flirty, touchy-feely girl. If he thinks differently then that's his problem. If you just flirted with him only...then why? You don't like him. Either way it's not a mess if you all you've done is play with words. No one should judge you harshly for that.
/r/seduction02/11/15 09:02 AM
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Sounds like you've had the answers all along! You just needed a probing question to unlock them. Definitely use kino. I'm a big fan of it as I can see the major difference it does to relieve tension and build comfort. Touch hands, then arms, then lower back, then face, legs etc. Build it up slowly as you want to build up comfort and a safe environment. I'm guessing you've had a substantial amount of time with these girls on these dates (~2+ hours I'm guessing) so don't rush. Generally you should…
/r/seduction29/10/15 10:48 PM
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You didn't mention anything about kino. Do you escalate with kino throughout the course of your date?
/r/seduction29/10/15 10:04 PM
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Can I ask why did this got down-voted?
/r/seduction25/10/15 11:26 AM
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Try practicing cold reading rather than direct questioning. It excites the conversation and you never lose. 'You seem really approachable and kind-hearted' 'You're adventurous...aren't you? 'You're Italian, right?' Also read the news and have a few stories in mind ('I read an interesting story the other day...' or 'What do you think of this article I heard the other day...')
/r/seduction24/10/15 10:03 PM
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HOW TO INITIATE I'm not a big fan of telling inexperienced ppl to just go for it. When I first started out, I was too much of a pussy to 'just go for it'. I needed some extra guidance to get me started. What I usually do to initiate the first kiss (after building up attraction) is play a game. For you as a kissless virgin it'd be ideal because you might find it awkward just going for it during a conversation lull / moment of silence. Just tell her to play rock paper scissors or a similar light-h…
/r/seduction24/10/15 09:44 PM
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Girls do this all the time because it's easier to reject you by ignoring you than saying it to your face. As a guy, I usually do 3 strikes then out. After sending 3 non-needy texts 1-2 days apart if I get no reply a day or two after the last text I just forget it and move on. It's usually nothing personal and you shouldn't be angry (alrhough I'm usually a tiny bit annoyed) otherwise you're merely demonstrating how over-invested and needy you are. Also it kinda goes without saying that you should…
/r/seduction16/10/15 11:29 PM
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'Yesterday you said tomorrow, so just DO IT!' Shia LaBeouf
/r/seduction30/09/15 06:22 PM
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I don't really see many popular posts about people boasting about their lays, just offering advice about how to get there. Of course, people are at different stages in life and will want different things. For some guys, they don't want to settle down. For some guys, they will want a meaningful relationship. Seduction is about being the best person you can be and having success in all aspects of life, including women. That success can be defined in a number of ways. Girls like confidence, drive a…
/r/seduction25/09/15 07:50 AM
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Good job. Hmm no condom though...did you pull out? And might be a little complicated since she's your co-worker no?
/r/seduction25/09/15 07:30 AM
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Wow that was pretty comprehensive. Thank you! Would you say vaginal sex with protection is safer than oral sex without? And would you normally give oral to a girl you hook up with / just met? Sorry for being naïve. I've just never thought about giving girls oral so soon; more penetrative sex first. Is that stupid to think like that?
/r/seduction18/09/15 09:32 PM
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Just a noob question but do you ever worry about any risks of giving a girl oral on the first date?
/r/seduction18/09/15 05:29 PM
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Well why can't he call her at least? Some of my mates live two hours away and I call them. Texting shows a lack of respect.
/r/seduction16/09/15 07:28 AM
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I think it's about intention. If I'm hitting on girls then I want something from them. If I'm flirting then I may just be playful / having fun. Basically if I had a gf, I wouldn't hit on girls, but I'd happily flirt with them, just not pursue it any further.
/r/seduction16/09/15 07:26 AM
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I'd say if you can make the drive, do it. If not, then Skype her. Either one, you keep it short and sweet. Don't get sucked into an argument.
/r/seduction16/09/15 07:22 AM
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Over text is even worse than a phone call wtf!
/r/seduction16/09/15 07:21 AM
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When you set up dates you lead the messaging. Don't say shit like 'Umm do you want to meet up sometime?' 'I'm free all week. When are you free to meet and what should we do?' You convey low value and low confidence if you don't lead and are too available. Say things like; 'Hey, I'm free on Tuesday / Wednesday evening this week. Are you up for a drink at xxx club?' 'You free tomorrow or Monday for a coffee at Starbucks?' If she says no and doesn't suggest anything, try one more time then don't bo…
/r/seduction16/09/15 07:19 AM
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Hmm you clearly get your validation from girls. Not a good place to start. If you know you can get girls interested at least to start, well go out there and get more! Where is your abundance mentality? More experience is always useful.
/r/seduction16/09/15 07:07 AM
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You're more invested in her than she is with you. Move on or just be direct and ask her out one last time I.e. cut the bullshit and give her one more chance but be prepared to leave.
/r/seduction16/09/15 07:04 AM
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Basically you need to look like you take care of yourself. Girls want a guy who is confident and takes pride in their appearance.
/r/seduction16/09/15 06:59 AM
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Even if it is bs, the points that make him attractive are valid points that people can still find useful
/r/seduction15/09/15 03:31 PM
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Perhaps she's having buyer's remorse :(
/r/seduction11/09/15 09:57 PM
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Surely you just block them if things go South.
/r/seduction11/09/15 11:56 AM
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Oh jeez not this bs again
/r/seduction11/09/15 08:11 AM
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LOL!!
/r/seduction09/09/15 02:36 PM
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You can go and overcome it by approaching. Once you realise you'll get mostly positive responses I'm sure your perception will change. But work on inner game in the meantime too.
/r/seduction09/09/15 02:35 PM
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Wait why did you tell us this? Is this an FR or are you asking us a question lol?
/r/seduction09/09/15 02:32 PM
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Meditation helps. Acknowledge these feelings but don't necessarily try to find a solution i.e. searching through social media is NOT helping. Leave her alone. Why contact her? You know she's bad for you. Focus on keeping yourself busy and enjoy life. You're probably stuck at home or at least have time on your hands where you end up thinking about her so go out and realise that there's more to life than one girl who makes you unhappy
/r/seduction09/09/15 02:29 PM
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Meh. You'll mature more if you don't pursue anything with her and look for other girls. But if you truly want her, clarify with her that not dating is ok, and that you just want to enjoy each other's company for the time she is here. You both need to agree not to get too attached though, otherwise it's a ticking time bomb lol. So I'll say again, best case scenario, look elsewhere.
/r/seduction09/09/15 02:24 PM
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As an Chinese guy with a naturally round face and no facial hair, I doubt I'll ever get 'sexy' from a first glance face profile. I always get 'cute' but in all honesty I'm not complaining. Better 'cute' than 'urgh' :)
/r/seduction09/09/15 02:18 PM
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Do you meditate? Try that. There's an audiobook called Mindfulness if you're into audiobooks. Reflect each day. 3 positive things and 3 things you can improve. You're not ready to approach girls or seek a relationship atm. Work on yourself first. It's frustrating, but you know you need it.
/r/seduction08/09/15 11:07 PM
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I'd nope out of this one personally. Not to be harsh, but you sound like one of these 'nice guys' preying and waiting for the girl to leave her 'douchebag' boyfriend. Too many guys do this then end up disappointed. Move on.
/r/seduction08/09/15 11:02 PM
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Let me ask you a question...what do you think about girls lying when they say they have a boyfriend but don't? Would you rather they say that although they're single, your nose is too big, you're way too awkward and you're too ugly (for example)? I don't have a problem with little lies like 'I have to go soon etc.'. It's the same principle. Would you rather be honest and say 'I want to set a time-limit on this interaction so that you don't feel too awkward and wonder how long I'm going to stay t…
/r/seduction08/09/15 08:54 PM
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How often do you approach? Do you have a mentality of abundance and not settling? Do you feel needy when you talk to girls? So let me give you my perspective. A few weeks ago I was talking to 0 girls. Now I'm talking to 3, because of approaching and on-line dating. If 1 girl leaves, then whatever. If 2 girls leave, then whatever. If 3 girls all leave, then that's pretty hilarious...but whatever. I know I can find girls I'm attracted to who are attracted to me. This is the mentality that you shou…
/r/seduction08/09/15 09:58 AM
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If you say a dick joke, then say 'Well I've mentioned one thing you're passionate about ;), tell me about your other passions / interests'
/r/seduction07/09/15 08:46 PM
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Sounds like she liked you and she's a go-getter. We need more of them imo. Makes our lives so much easier. Not many girls are like this, especially if they are very attractive because they're used to guys chasing them at the start. So don't get used to this! But enjoy it if it happens.
/r/seduction07/09/15 08:44 PM
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You haven't really told us much about your dates tbh.
/r/seduction07/09/15 08:40 PM
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If you could've isolated her at the party and attempted, then you could see what her intentions were like. She's definitely having regrets somewhat IMO and doesn't want a paper trail. Suggest to see if you can meet her innocently then escalate once you're there if you think she's still game. Just remember if she cheats with you, she can easily cheat on you.
/r/seduction07/09/15 08:31 PM
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It always amazes me how many quality girls we pass daily without giving them a second thought e.g. at the bus stop etc. Gj.
/r/seduction07/09/15 08:25 PM
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Mehhh she's a girl with a bf who's reluctant to meet. I'm not trying to be a white knight but I'd give this one a miss tbh. I don't think she wants to meet and there's potential trouble anyway with mutual friends etc. finding out. Too much bother for what she's worth, even if she was willing and discrete.
/r/seduction07/09/15 08:23 PM
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The whole point of your post is to say you benefit from doing this by having reduced approach anxiety later on, is it not? If you don't see any benefit, then what is the point if your post...
/r/seduction02/09/15 07:02 PM
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You're basically putting other ppl in awkward situations for your benefit. In principle I don't believe in that.
/r/seduction02/09/15 02:03 PM
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Doesn't really sound like a date to me. Isolate her i.e. go somewhere else. Meet somewhere else first perhaps. Or go somewhere else completely. Would save you a lot of trouble.
/r/seduction01/09/15 11:37 PM
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Did she ask a question or did the convo just fizzle out? If it's the latter, there's no need for an apology. If it's the former, a brief apology i.e. sorry for the late reply will suffice. If she's still interested she'll respond to your msg
/r/seduction01/09/15 11:29 PM
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Imo in seduction you should always leave people at least better off than when you first approached them. That's why I dislike this method. You're frustrating others for your own benefit. Not cool.
/r/seduction01/09/15 11:25 PM
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I respect your choice to go for ltr women. But you should respect other people's choices and not call them disgusting. Your attitude stinks
/r/seduction01/09/15 11:14 PM
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Online dating can be used but always as an aside. Don't expect jack all from it. As an Asian guy currently on tinder, I've done over 600 swipes and gotten only 2 matches this past week. And I'd rate myself no less than 6. Women have choice online and the upper hand. There are so many thirsty guys lol. Did you hear about Ashley Madison? A fucking sausage-fest lool. So go out there and approach or meet girls in real life.
/r/seduction27/08/15 11:34 PM
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I don't know what you mean exactly but any form of long term waiting is terrible advice. We should be proactive in our endeavours. I waited 20 years and fuck all happened. And I was not and am not stupid or ugly. You are also limiting severely who you can date. Don't wait IMO. Go out and approach.
/r/seduction27/08/15 11:28 PM
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Wait why would you have to break it off?
/r/seduction27/08/15 10:53 PM
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Just physical touch to build comfort. You have to initiate though.
/r/seduction26/08/15 10:39 PM
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If you feel like you need a girl's approval to be happy, you're not ready for a girl. Simple. Work on yourself a bit more. Get yourself to a point where you've created an interesting life for yourself and you're happy and comfortable in that life. Then go hunting. Good luck!
/r/seduction26/08/15 10:33 PM
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Have you met her before? How do you know she's the prettiest girl you met? And don't ask her if it's a date lol. You're meant to lead as the guy. Tell her it's a date. Try not to obsess over the date though and do plenty of kino! Sounds like you have oneitis even before meeting her so deal with that too.
/r/seduction26/08/15 10:29 PM
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These are generalisations of girls you've dated, but not IMO feminists in general. Most of the 'feminists' I know are prudes, moan about the patriarchy 24/7 and are a 7 at best. See...now you've made me make generalisations lol. But joking aside, perhaps this depends on where you live more than anything. I doubt 'feminists' in the Middle East share the same traits you just described.
/r/seduction26/08/15 10:25 PM
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Tbh this one's a bit tricky but you should've just gone for it. If you handed her your phone whilst saying the line then all she has to do is put the number in, alleviating a bit of the pressure off her. Either way having the boss there does make it more difficult. She may have said no even if she was interested, just to keep a good impression. On the other hand if the boss was cool, she would have been like a wingwoman. Still worth a try though imo. Now you're stuck with what if. Better luck at…
/r/seduction26/08/15 10:17 PM
16

Just be wary that most girls who tell you that they have a boyfriend AND they are not interested are usually not interested. An outright and firm 'no' should mean no. I would be inclined to believe it may have been a fake number. Nonetheless good job on approaching. This is the most important thing. Keep it up.
/r/seduction26/08/15 10:06 PM
1

Actually people play games with each other all the time. Let's say a sensitive girl asks you 'Do I look nice?'. What if she doesn't? Option A is to lie. Option B is to tell the truth. If an argument is to be avoided then choose A. Is this not a game of paths and outcomes? Let's take a look at this situation. Most people don't like change. Let's say this guy acted like a slave to this girl and put her on a pedestal before and now he's not takingher shit anymore. The girl will not like that and of…
/r/seduction26/08/15 09:59 PM
1

Mate. Wake up. You stink of desperation and you lack in action. If you're fat, you can lose weight. If you're anxious you can build confidence. Getting girls for you should not be a priority atm considering your attitude. It's like me complaining about erectile dysfunction but whacking it off to porn 30 times a day. I'm not going to get any better by whining or focusing on getting Viagra. I'm not dealing with the source of the problem. Work on building a social circle and enjoying your life befo…
/r/seduction25/08/15 10:55 AM
1

If you like languages, try a language exchange group in your local area e.g. Mundo Lingo
/r/seduction24/08/15 10:35 PM
0

How can you expect to have a girlfriend if you take no action? Start approaching. Remember outcome independence too.
/r/seduction24/08/15 10:29 PM
3

Good speaking terms my arse...
/r/seduction24/08/15 10:27 PM
2

Just depends on your standards tbh. Being too picky is obviously a problem but not wanting to date overweight girls is not too picky. I would never date an obese girl, even if she made me banoffee pie every day of the week.
/r/seduction24/08/15 10:26 PM
1

Ask her if she's free next year sometime, maybe after Christmas. But on a serious note, I think this is probably a lost cause.
/r/seduction24/08/15 10:20 PM
1

Uh I don't think will be an issue UNLESS you make it an issue. You should've laughed it off imo but it doesn't matter now. Don't talk about the incident and if anyone raises it up just don't give a shit and laugh, address it then change the subject. I'm pretty sure if I was there I wouldn't be discussing the strategy of someone's 'dibs'.
/r/seduction24/08/15 10:17 PM
1

ALL your classmates are boring as fuck? Jeez you must be so cool... Jokes aside, if you're in high school (which I'm guessing), imo you're better off befriending a few people and expanding your social circle than cold approaching, especially if your high school is relatively small.
/r/seduction24/08/15 10:08 PM
4

Why did she meet up with you if she was going to act so disinterested / not even try to have fun? Either she's a complete plonker or you fumbled somewhere. Or both. Onwards and upwards either way
/r/seduction24/08/15 09:31 PM
5

What did you do to get rid of the guy talking to your girl?
/r/seduction22/08/15 09:27 AM
1

Good job on progress. I'd be cautious about getting oneitis though. This girl is attractive, but that's all you know about her. Plenty of attractive girls around the world.
/r/seduction22/08/15 07:23 AM
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True. Which is also why he should talk to his sister about her beforehand anyway.
/r/seduction21/08/15 04:07 PM
3

Whilst this is funny, to be fair, seducing a woman is a lot about taking a leap into the unknown. You follow a natural progression (note natural and not systematic) of kino and comfort and escalation. Giving advice on drawing an owl should be in clear steps. If you draw it wrong you can rub out your mistake. Sometimes seduction is not so clear. If you say the wrong thing, the mistake cannot be rubbed out but merely drawn over. A lot of people on Seddit complain about their issues and take no act…
/r/seduction21/08/15 02:02 PM
2

What is so great about the girls you knew before?
/r/seduction21/08/15 01:56 PM
10

Uhh.. Why don't you talk to your sister about her. Your sister will be able to tell you her relationship status, whether she likes you etcetc. Use you sister as a wing.
/r/seduction21/08/15 01:54 PM
1

I tried Facebook. Only one girl wanted to meet up out of like 20 or so. Not worth it.
/r/seduction20/08/15 06:59 AM
2

Looking at your previous posts, I'm sure you're not the perfect guy. Problems with co-workers, failing out of med school, issues with parental figures etc. I'm almost certain you have perhaps bad habits or arrogance or something that is putting these girls off. The fact you cannot determine a fault of your own is indication of that. Get honest advice from a friend or ask him to see how you are on dates.
/r/seduction20/08/15 06:55 AM
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Tbh it should be mutually beneficial. With my previous wingman, we took it in turns to approach. I would choose a girl for him to approach and vice versa. Then I would give him feedback on his body language etc., and vice versa. Not only do I find it more fun to have a wingman and approach but it forces you to take action, because if you're on your own you only let yourself down if you give up, but if you're with someone else, you're letting another person down as well. I'm assuming there are ot…
/r/seduction19/08/15 09:27 AM
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I wish more girls were like you haha.
/r/seduction19/08/15 07:17 AM
2

You haven't fucked up. You've got your own life to deal with. If she can't understand that she's not worth your time.
/r/seduction19/08/15 07:16 AM
1

London?
/r/seduction17/08/15 08:57 PM
1

I could've guessed. It's the same with me. We tell ourselves we're not attracted to girls who show interest because it's out of our comfort zone; we don't want to push the boundary; we want to stay comfortable. I think you have fear of success, like me. But you need to push past it.
/r/seduction17/08/15 08:17 PM
2

I did enjoy reading this. Must have taken you ages to write though haha. Just be careful about over-analysing things.
/r/seduction17/08/15 08:54 AM
2

Fear of success? How many times have you been recently laid?
/r/seduction16/08/15 09:38 PM
1

Tbh she probably was just sad you were leaving and didn't know how to deal with it so closed off a bit.
/r/seduction16/08/15 09:30 PM
2

The day before the date, text her 'I'm looking forward to our date. See you tomorrow. x' Her response will tell you whether she's interested as a friend or a date. Conversation-wise, you have mutual friends. There is a fuck load to talk about. 'What do you think of Jeff?' 'Did you hear what Bill said?' 'Have you seen Taylor lately?' Then just get to know each other better. Try to do some natural kino; fake palm readings work well. Just remember silences don't have to be awkward unless you make t…
/r/seduction16/08/15 04:09 PM
2

Coffee (I assume), then dinner, and then concert tickets. All for free! You're spoiling her a bit too much imo. I wouldn't have done dinner on the second date tbh. Good luck though.
/r/seduction13/08/15 10:36 PM
8

It doesn't have to be awkward. E.g. I was crossing the traffic lights with my date and the lights were changing quickly so I held out my hand whilst jogging and she immediately grabbed it and came with me. Another time she was describing to me an object and I told her to 'draw' it on my hand and she did it playfully. Just pretty basic but subtle bits of kino which seem natural IMO. It could have easily been no kino if I didn't take the lead. If you feel awkward just randomly touching, do similar…
/r/seduction13/08/15 07:52 AM
2

I'm sure there are clubs for mountain biking, fishing, hunting, kayaking and being more culturally inspired by reading never hurts.
/r/seduction12/08/15 07:42 AM
1

I don't think you should use it as a real tool. Face-to-face is always better but if you like using it for fun anyway then maybe you can use it to get out of your comfort zone e.g. practice escalating the conversation sexually etc.
/r/seduction12/08/15 07:40 AM
1

Girls like to flirt so this is not a big deal. If you want to escalate you shouldn't talk about her bf with her (steer the subject - don't want gay best friend vibe) Try escalating kino and see how she reacts. She told you she's got a bf so in her head she's now less guilty if something happens. Don't push it if she doesn't react well to kino. Congrats on entering the friendzone in that case. Buuttttt... IMO if you shit where you eat you're risking your job.
/r/seduction12/08/15 07:32 AM
3

'What are they' lol :p It's a book that's a staple in seduction.
/r/seduction10/08/15 06:46 AM
1

Thanks :)! Just note you won't win them all though. I've had plenty of girls ignore me completely so don't be too disheartened if she never replies. Keep searching!
/r/seduction10/08/15 06:28 AM
1

Just send her one text tomorrow afternoon saying you hope she got your voicemail and if not would she like to meet up this week. Just leave it like that. If she responds, great. If not, don't send her any more messages. She will have received your text with 99.9% certainty. I did this a few weeks ago. Girl didn't reply for like 3 days. Turns out she was in hospital. We're now meeting on Tuesday. If I had blown up her phone..I would've looked needy as fuck. She was interested; but I understand I …
/r/seduction09/08/15 10:46 PM
4

We don't have low IQ. Why the hell you repeating each paragraph twice lol?
/r/seduction08/08/15 07:14 PM
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Waitresses are essentially paid to flirt in a sense, because they get more tips that way. Also they get paid to notice people, in case you want to order something else etc., so I'm not sure you can rely on eye contact tbh. The advantage is they will be forced to let you down gently if they do reject you because they're working. You'll have to just bite the bullet and be short and direct. Just don't make her life difficult if she says no. Good luck.
/r/seduction08/08/15 11:52 AM
2

When I was depressed I made shit decisions with poor results. Now I'm out of it I'm making better decisions with better results. Your attitude has a huge impact on how you act and how others perceive you. Posture, confidence, clarity of thought etc. Go into this with a renewed focus. How many approaches have you done yesterday, in the last week, in the last year? I went out for my first day game session with a wingman this week and did 15 approaches and got 2 numbers. Each approach is an opportu…
/r/seduction16/07/15 07:08 AM
1

I'm down bro
/r/seduction11/07/15 10:57 PM
2

That last text is pretty cheesy lol. I cringed at the 'crackalackin' bit. Imo texts are for setting up dates, not casual conversation (especially if it's cheesy haha). You did start off a bit on a tangent regarding the Ipad. Leave the stories e.g. the IPad until the actual date. Just text to set it up. Part of the reason you shouldn't text 'filler' is because; It leaves you open to making a mistake You hardly know her anyway yet You're using up your allowance :p You're using up potential convers…
/r/seduction25/06/15 06:50 AM
1

I would honestly not shit where I eat. How do you know she is DTF as opposed to just wanting to be friends or be polite? There is no sexual contact seemingly and sometimes guys (myself included) can often misinterpret conversing with flirting. I wouldn't risk anything if I were you.
/r/seduction01/06/15 09:37 PM
1

OMG GUYS! I hugged her and... she hugged me back! GUYS! Pursue your dreams, don't let your hug anxiety get the better of you! It's all in your mind!
/r/seduction01/06/15 09:56 AM
1

I agree but it'd be nice to know an example for inspiration.
/r/seduction01/06/15 06:44 AM
1

What was the improv scenario?
/r/seduction31/05/15 09:22 PM
1

Right?! There is literally no sign of the girl showing interest. If passing a house is interest then I have like 500 girls interested in me every day lol.
/r/seduction30/05/15 10:59 PM
1

'Hi, how are you? I just want to say that you look very nice and I had to come and say hi. My name is...' Talk for a bit then try to number close. Keep it low pressure. She has to be nice to you as she's working and you don't want to take too much of her time so this should be an in-out thing; 1-2mins Max. Her smiling might just be her being polite. You can only determine interest if you go for it. But build a little rapport first.
/r/seduction30/05/15 09:40 PM
1

Also, reading your description again, how is she showing interest?! She's just passing your house bro. She could just be a neighbour lol. Lastly, how old are you?
/r/seduction30/05/15 08:15 PM
1

Just smile and say hi. Say how you notices she passes by and ask whether she's local. This is completely non-threatening (if she is a neighbour, this sort of conversation is expected and won't make things awkward). Smiling is important though, you don't want to come across like a creep / stalker haha. If you go for the direct approach and she rejects you, you're going to have to keep seeing her and that'll make things awkward so I wouldn't do that. Assuming you're good at conversing and she's in…
/r/seduction30/05/15 08:13 PM
1

Well say something then!
/r/seduction30/05/15 08:07 PM
3

You really need to be able to build rapport. Sounds like she was waiting for you to do something if she didn't take her books out initially. Shame you didn't act on it. You gave the impression of a douchebag, then you pussied out. She was probably expecting you to act like an arrogant arsehole, which may have worked: 'Sit down here' 'Do you come here often' cliché, blah blah. Don't act like a douchebag if you're not comfortable being one yet. For someone like you, don't blatantly eye-fuck girls …
/r/seduction30/05/15 10:09 AM
2

Well probe a bit more then. Ask her what she likes about him and how often she sees him. If it matches up to you then you'll know for certain whether she's describing you or not. I reckon it may be you. She may be afraid of rejection, that's why she's not being explicit. After asking her, and if she's still being vague, if you're not afraid of rejection and willing to risk it, just ask her out. Good luck! Update me if you can :)
/r/seduction29/05/15 07:23 PM
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If her crush is not you...then friend zone it is.
/r/seduction29/05/15 07:11 PM
1

She may have done this on purpose or not. But you allowed it to happen so you're at fault here. You could've said no to lunch/dinner at the pricey restaurant, no to how much she ordered. Forget about politeness at that point, she was already being rude herself by expecting you to pay and ordering far more than expected. For next time, keep it casual, at least for the first few dates. Nothing pricey. Coffee, light lunch etc. I personally don't have an issue for paying for that, but you don't want…
/r/seduction27/05/15 03:37 PM
3

Wait why did you tell her that you had a girlfriend when you didn't? Any reason?
/r/seduction27/05/15 10:08 AM
1

Are you fluent in Italian?
/r/seduction26/05/15 09:59 AM
2

So did she have a boyfriend?
/r/seduction24/05/15 05:38 PM
5

It sounds like she can see this as a potential relationship with you. Maybe she doesn't want to seem too easy. Also, she's had 3 LTRs and she's only 23. She might be a LTR sort of girl. Problem is, she's only here a year :/. Perhaps be more direct, say you enjoy her company and you are looking for (choose one of your preference); a) nothing serious b) something a bit more serious c) see where it goes. d) other Basically say what you want and see how she reacts. It's more likely to force her hand…
/r/seduction11/05/15 08:54 PM
2

It's obviously not true in all cases, but this positive mindset yields positive results and ensures you keep escalating instead of being overly cautious. Of course, you stop once there are firm signs of a lack of comfort from the girl.
/r/seduction06/05/15 08:30 PM
1

I actually tried this out last year with some random girls from my uni haha. Didn't really fly with the 6 or so girls I tried it on. I think the issue is they (in my case) literally don't know me very well. We weren't complete strangers but part of the same societies. I guess a message out of the blue does seem a bit weird, especially if it's asking to hang out, and I suppose it can give off a 'desperate' vibe if you don't know them too well. My FB page has a lot of photos and I'm reasonably act…
/r/seduction24/04/15 09:44 PM
3

How does approaching at the gym work? Most people at my gym look way too focussed or put on headphones so I would've thought it's pretty difficult.
/r/seduction15/04/15 11:01 PM
1

Reading articles will do nothing if not applied to real life
/r/seduction10/04/15 05:12 PM
1

The point is you shouldn't be the uncle who is overly touchy feely but you also shouldn't be the nerd who is too scared to touch and only uses the awkward hover hands. Touch stimulates the senses and remember if you're on a date, and if the date is going well, the person will want you to touch them, whether that be putting your hand on their back, innocent kino like hi-fiving and then eventually kissing.
/r/seduction02/04/15 08:46 AM
1

Kino is physical touch in any form I believe e.g. holding holds. It usually helps to break down walls and makes it easier to escalate.
/r/seduction02/04/15 12:10 AM
1

I'd say you should get out of your comfort zone, but only do so in ways in which you see yourself improving e.g. going to the gym, aiming to talk to x number of strangers a day, joining a society at college etc. See if you can also talk to a college counsellor. Usually there are good services in college for students who feel depressed or lonely. I would say whilst seduction is not all about image or looks, you should aim to be the best person you can be, outside and inside. If that requires losi…
/r/seduction31/03/15 07:28 PM
2

Watch his other videos. This guy is smooth as fuck.
/r/seduction26/02/15 10:55 AM
1

No idea. I would expect the unexpected though. Perhaps he does satisfy her. Who are we to judge?
/r/seduction17/02/15 03:32 PM
1

Not saying that this guy is ugly but if he can get a girlfriend (and a pretty decent attractive one) then you can too. Stop wallowing in self-pity and take action. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2951724/Is-nurse-Disabled-man-22-able-bodied-girlfriend-describes-strangers-misconceptions-dates.html
/r/seduction16/02/15 09:46 PM
3

Oneitis hehe. Good job though. Definitely don't go to Germany unless you establish a much better relationship. If you go just for her, she'll probably freak out cos that's creepy. My mate did that once; he took flights from UK to Singapore!?! without even telling the girl until he got there. Omg she freaked out like hell looool. So gj but don't hold your hopes for this girl. There'll be more on the way. Dw.
/r/seduction07/01/15 07:49 PM
1

Oh well then there's no need to even worry about being shit tested. Walking off maybe even gave the impression you were looking for something.
/r/seduction07/01/15 07:37 PM
1

Tbh just embrace it and be honest. Just one question though; why are you looking to pick up if you have a gf? Open relationship?
/r/seduction07/01/15 12:37 AM
0

I believe they're talking about DaygameCoach's awesome response, which is a follow-up from 8sweettooth8's advice.
/r/seduction14/11/14 10:30 PM
1

I'm gonna try that one lol
/r/seduction27/10/14 09:27 AM
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