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I have a similar experience and I think there's an element of worrying that I'll be able to keep up the act that she finds attractive. I'm quite introverted and it's a lot of effort for me to make small talk, I worry some times when things are going well how long I'll be able to maintain it for before I get stuck for things to say or behave awkwardly or say something weird. A couple of weeks ago I was talking to a girl I found really attractive and she was clearly really into me and I was asking…
/r/seduction30/09/22 11:57 AM
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Not at all, burying your head in the sand will not help you at all. If you believe this stuff then you're less inclined to sort out your looks. Looks are very important and they can be fairly easy to fix for many people. Losing weight if you are over weight can massively improve your chances with women, improving your style can massively improve your chances. Not doing these things because "confidence is all that matters" is shooting yourself in the foot.
/r/seduction30/09/22 09:59 AM
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I think with women it's more of a combination of looks and personality than with men, so looks are less important to them on their own. If you're cousin sees a really attractive man with an unattractive personality she's not the least bit interested in him which is why she thinks this. But if a short, bald, overweight, badly dressed guy had an amazingly attractive personality asked her out she probably wouldn't be interested in him.
/r/seduction30/09/22 09:52 AM
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Not necessarily, some women have very poor social skills or are really introverted and it's really hard to progress things with them. There is a woman I know who I think likes me as she lingers and clearly wants to talk to me but it's quite hard to progress things with her as she's really shy and doesn't even maintain eye contact when I try and talk to her. I've met women like this before and it's really hard to progress things with them, it's near impossible to flirt with them. I suppose all yo…
/r/seduction27/09/22 09:26 AM
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He mentions social skills as a separate point to status, status in and of itself isn't really that important. From my personal experience living in a developed western country money isn't either. This whole Look Money Status concept was invented by incels about a decade ago I remember there used to be an incel website called PUAHate where these ideas took root, men who had never even kissed a girl decided what qualities women look for in a man.
/r/seduction26/09/22 08:10 PM
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Generally agree but I think the status bit is untrue. I know lots of guys who have status as you've described it and they have no success with women. I also know guys who had no status at all, they were pretty much bums but were good looking and had excellent social skill and they had amazing success with women. I think status is one of those things that we assume is really important but isn't really unless you're the lead singer in a rock band or something
/r/seduction26/09/22 05:45 PM
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Girls don't universally shit test you, there are lots and lots of girls who don't behave like that. Like the guy Above I avoid women who behave like this, its a red flag for me.
/r/seduction25/09/22 07:45 PM
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That's not my point, my point is that girls who aren't evenly mildly interested in you will happily give you their Instagram if it isn't private and you're then wasting your time messaging them. At least asking for a phone number which is a bigger ask filters out the girls who aren't interested in you. I'm not suggesting that a girl who's interested in you won't reply on Instagram.
/r/seduction24/09/22 02:54 PM
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Yeah but if you approach 100 girls you could end up with 100 Instas and only 5 go on a date with you or 25 phone numbers and again 5 go on a date with you but messing around with messaging 95 girls on Instagram who were never interested in you is hard work.
/r/seduction24/09/22 02:40 PM
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It's much easier but is it as useful? If a girl gives you her number that's something she maybe only gives to guys who want to date her but you can give anyone your Instagram. Do you generally have much success when you get their Instagram? With a phone number there's about a 25% chance it'll lead to a date.
/r/seduction24/09/22 11:56 AM
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No worries, the example above was just an example be kind to yourself plan a pace that you think you can realistically stick to and if you get stuck at any point just rewrite your plan of progression. Even if it take you 3 months to get to a point where you're comfortable having a 3 minute conversion with a girl that's a bit flirty and ends with you getting her number that's fine, see what works for you.
/r/seduction23/09/22 08:00 PM
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That's true, it's all part of the game unfortunately. It's not even necessarily pretending, there is some attraction there if they play along and are often considering you as a possible option but eventually you have to push them to make a decision and it wont always be the one you want.
/r/seduction23/09/22 07:31 PM
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If a female friend will go on a date with you she'll happily flirt with you so flirt with her first and see if there is any interest. Its jarring for a girl if you've only ever acted friendly towards her and then suddenly ask her out. Little things like maintaining eye contact during deliberate pauses in conversation, casually touching her arm when talking, teasing, complimenting her outfit, leaning forward when talking to her. If you do these things gradually over a period of time you can get a…
/r/seduction23/09/22 07:16 PM
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I don't think cold reads are supposed to create attraction, they're really intended as a way to kick start a conversation with a complete stranger. You can make any assumption about her, it doesn't matter if it's wrong it's just a way to get a conversation started until you get to the point where it's Flowing naturally. The most common one is guessing where she is from, her answer will give you a little bit of information about her that you can use to eventually talk about something more interes…
/r/seduction23/09/22 05:40 PM
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I know everyone pushes direct openers but If you have this level of social anxiety start with indirect openers. Start with being super indirect and have no intention of asking the girl out etc and over time slowly build up to having longer and longer conversations, when you get better with that start introducing intention and eventually ask for her number or Instagram. Have a plan written down of how you intend to progress and try your best to stick to it. For example Monday - ask 20 girls for d…
/r/seduction23/09/22 04:36 PM
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Yeah, the point of the post isn't to wear these exact clothes, they represent my personal style more but how to annalise a look you find yourself online and copy it. Like in the first photo you posted noticing the cut of the jeans which actually look to be skinny jeans, skinnier than the ones Gosling was wearing, notice that the sleeves of his top are rolled up, notice that there is some sort of layering going on at his neck, either a neck scarf or a shirt worn underneath, notice the type of hat…
/r/seduction23/09/22 07:23 AM
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I know, I get women constantly commenting on how well I dress. A woman in my social circle said to me last week that I'm always perfectly dressed. When I was in a night club once a woman come up to me just to tell me how good I looked and like you I'm not in exceptional shape either. Women notice and appreciate well dressed men.
/r/seduction22/09/22 10:24 PM
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Because looking physically attractive and having poor confidence is unattractive. But a physically attractive confident guy will be more attractive than a less physically attractive but equally confident guy. If you haven't had any problems online then you must be attractive as you're looks and the quality of your photos is the number one determinant of success online. If you look bad women won't match with you
/r/seduction22/09/22 09:30 PM
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Your confidence isn't going to shine through when a girl is swiping through tinder bios or checking out your Insta after you've swapped details, she's going to judge you almost purely by your looks. Looks aren't the be all of attraction, I never suggested they were in the original post but they are an important part of attraction. Most girls have a ball park that they operate in when it comes to looks and dating and if you fall outside of their minimum looks requirements they won't consider you …
/r/seduction22/09/22 07:34 PM
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I'm not a fashion guru I have an interest in fashion. One thing I forgot to add as every overweight women in the world knows well is that dark colours particularly black are really good if you're overweight. A pair of black jeans with a black t shirt with an unbuttoned cardigan or shirt layered on top will really disguise your size. Light colours particularly white show every bump of your body as they reflect light. Black has the opposite effect as it absorbs light and will hide most of the bump…
/r/seduction22/09/22 07:20 PM
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The only body type that's really a problem is being fat, I mentioned in a comment above that layering can help with this, the last image of Hemsworth wearing a suit and sneakers can work well for chubby guys as it hides your belly and if worn unbuttoned it's harder to see exactly how fat you are than if you just wore a t shirt on its own. But we all know what the real solution is if you're fat and want to improve your appearance, lose weight, no one needs to be told that every fat guy knows it. …
/r/seduction22/09/22 06:38 PM
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Believe it or not the chubby redditor will look much better if he's wearing the exact outfit Hemsworth is wearing in that photo than if he wore the baggy jeans and anime t-shirt he usually wears. That look is particularly good for someone who is chubby because of the suit jacket, if you wear it with the buttons undone and have a baggy t-shirt underneath it hides your beer belly a bit. He won't look as good as Hemsworth but he'll be maximising his personal potential looks wise. This mindset is pa…
/r/seduction22/09/22 06:22 PM
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I said an environment where you're directly interacting with them, that's not the case in a night club or bar or any of the typical places people go to socialise. If you're at some sort of workshop or class where everyone is interacting with one another you're not just relying on your looks, you're personality will come through and that can interest girls too. And I'm not talking about socially awkward unattractive guys, I'm talking about average to above average guys, women aren't coming up to …
/r/seduction21/09/22 05:25 PM
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Dude, honestly most guys are not getting women coming up to them saying "what's good on the menu here" stuff like that only happens to a tiny percentage of guys on anywhere near a consistent basis. No amount of self belief is going to make attractive women initiate a conversation for the average guy. I do accept what you're saying about IOIs like constantly looking over at you and smiling etc but even that is directly linked to your attractiveness, plenty of guys rarely even get this. For most g…
/r/seduction21/09/22 03:06 PM
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I don't think this is the only reason behind this. I've been in this situation before and self doubt and lack of confidence is also an issue here. Sometimes you eject yourself from the situation because you believe you're not very good at this and the longer you keep going the greater the chance you'll slip up and she'll realise how bad you are at it. You anticipate this upcoming embarrassment and end the conversation early to try and avoid it. Similar to what you said about embracing rejection …
/r/seduction20/09/22 09:01 PM
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Get charged with sexual harassment because you didn't really understand the book
/r/seduction20/09/22 08:49 PM
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I would add to this and say also make sure you have fun. If she says something even mildly amusing laugh, enjoy yourself and enjoy her company. Fun and laughter are infectious, people enjoy making other people laugh even more than they enjoy laughing.
/r/seduction20/09/22 08:38 PM
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Honestly, it's much much harder than you think it is. I used to think that my experience was normal but it's not. I've been involved in this community for a very long time and I've met tons of guys all having varying levels of success. Approaching girls and getting dates is possible for almost any guy. But I've only seen a handful of guys who get approached by women, they've all been exceptionally attractive in some way. Most guys have never been approached by a woman on a night out in their ent…
/r/seduction20/09/22 05:44 PM
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No but having something about you that makes you stand out, in my case it's my height for you it might be your pretty face or your charismatic demeanor, isn't easy. Understanding style and fashion isn't easy for everyone and takes time even for those who have an eye for it. And developing a social environment where there are lots of attractive women and its easy for those women to approach you also isn't easy. None of this is an easy fix and it's just impossible for many guys. Only a small perce…
/r/seduction20/09/22 04:42 PM
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Problem with this is that this isn't the reality for most men and it takes a while to achieve even if you can. I also get approached a lot by women but I'm 6'3" I'm really into men's style and fashion and I have a social environment where I'm constantly chatting with women without having to cold approach and it's easy for women to talk to me if they want. Saying wait for women to approach you isn't something that's going to help most guys, particularly those on here.
/r/seduction20/09/22 04:11 PM
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That's generally true but you can't always tell. Sometimes you have an amazing conversation with a girl, she seems really enthusiastic about you then she doesn't reply to your texts. Other times a girl doesn't seem super engaged and you wonder if the number is flaky but she's really easy to get on a date. I think unless it's a complete car crash or you really didn't like her go for the number, some girls are just shy and unintentionally give off disinterest.
/r/seduction20/09/22 03:56 PM
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Giving someone a reason to do it is also important (the "because" part) , it's a famous principle of persuasion. https://leversofpersuasion.medium.com/because-to-persuade-give-a-reason-5f532f5b558a#:~:text=%E2%80%9CBECAUSE%E2%80%9D%20IS%20EFFECTIVE&text=%E2%80%9CA%20well%2Dknown%20principle%20of,in%20line%20at%20a%20photocopier.
/r/seduction20/09/22 03:35 PM
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Have a scripted line to end conversations with in this situation when you feel you want to run away. EG "I'm gonna head off but you're gonna have to give me your number because it was really fun talking to you". Repeat something like that to yourself every time before you go out to the point where saying it becomes automatic and when you feel you want to leave at least you say that and see how she reacts. Doesn't matter how she responds as its a step forward from just running away without asking…
/r/seduction20/09/22 03:03 PM
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I have a feeling this is closer to what the OP meant then the answer above.
/r/seduction20/09/22 02:43 PM
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Thanks to covid I go out every night now that working from home is a thing. Finish work at 5, no commute so can relax for a few hours then head out at about 8pm. The alternative is to stay home and watch TV or waste time on things like Redit. Also younger people have almost limitless energy and are restless so could happily do the same even if commuting to work.
/r/seduction20/09/22 02:38 PM
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Again, untrue. Girls are really picky about their "type" and are super selective about who they date. Just because they don't want to date you doesn't mean that they don't like you as a friend . There's a big difference between wanting to be friends with someone and wanting to date them. This goes both ways, there are women in my social circle who I really like and I'd happily have them join me on a night out or invite them to a party but I'm just not attracted to them and wouldn't want to date …
/r/seduction20/09/22 01:44 PM
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Every friend you make expands your social circle, she probably won't be setting you up on blind dates but you can end up being invited to parties or nights out that include her other friends. A lot of guys who get into this do so because they have very limited social circles or they have social circles that are bereft of women. Making female friends has upsides.
/r/seduction20/09/22 12:42 PM
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I have ADHD and one thing I've learnt as I've gotten older is to not pressure myself to try and get along with girls who are very different from me (ie many neurotypicals). There are just as many neuro diverse women as there are men, find those girls and your awkwardness won't be as much of a problem as she'll be so self conscious about her own awkwardness that she may not even notice yours . You're probably not going to meet women like that at nightclubs. Many girls like this have difficulty so…
/r/seduction20/09/22 12:10 PM
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That's not true, my two best friends are girls who I was interested in, they weren't interested in me so we became friends. One of them ended up being the "Best man" at my wedding because she was my closest friend. If you become friends though you have to fully accept that you are friends and not hope that you can turn the friendship into something more.
/r/seduction20/09/22 11:52 AM
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