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I was imagining you meant be directly confrontational against bad actors. Which in my experience has gotten dudes in a lot more trouble than if they said nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 11:23 PM
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Calling it out is a tricky situation due to threat of violence. But everything else isn’t too big an ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 11:19 PM
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What would that look like? Curious
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 11:08 PM
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I think those guys are dumb too. Argue the person and their points.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:39 PM
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You need charts for every social scenario? Come on be so fucking for real girl. Even other woman acknowledge this point. You’re insane if you can’t or playing dumb. Get off your horse that motherfucker is unreasonably high and I worry for your safety if you continue riding it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:30 PM
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I don’t live in a shitty area now and still see the hoodlums that migrate in and out of my nice area still massively successful. I don’t think it’s necessarily a moral thing or liking bad men. I think it’s bad men capable of pulling something out of them that make it attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:44 PM
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As someone that has been around criminals as a child they are wildly successful with women. Regardless of how trash said women may be it’s a wildly different world than what an incel or just regular lonely man can access.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 11:53 AM
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Where?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 01:23 AM
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Something weird is going on between men and women. I was just about to say “well maybe you just run into the sex only men” then I realized the obvious rebuttals of maybe I run into all the money crazy women. Then I got to thinking… maybe we just all treat each other terribly for one reason or another and it will never make sense?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 11:48 AM
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One I said that it was an exaggeration in the first sentence. Two I think you’re playing ignorant. I meant in a romantically pursuit sense which should be obvious considering the subreddit we are in. Not trying to be rude, genuinely just trying to figure things out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:50 AM
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Do you know of such spaces and how to find them?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:22 AM
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I don’t have a problem just talking to a woman in a trivial and regular sense. But that’s not what we are here to debate about. What’s more is I never faulted women but i do believe it is this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 01:49 AM
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HoI could they be if I did not meet them? Or you saying what happened to me didn’t happen or what?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 12:35 AM
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Such as?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:15 PM
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Good reply. Only problem is opening with a sorry I’d a usual killer from what I’m told. Makes you seem weak yadda yadda.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:05 PM
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Women are more willing to accept other women at a higher rate than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 07:02 PM
1

What’s jfc? Sorry don’t know that. I guess I’m just missing something there. Socializing isn’t bad but most people especially women don’t like people they don’t know unless actively seeking new friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:29 PM
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Speaking to them with interest of getting to know them. Which I’m sure you already knew that but are intentionally forgetting the point of this post to be snarky I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:28 PM
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You ignored why I said what I said to reinforce your pointless part of the argument. I don’t treat women different because I think they are different. I approach with caution because *They* act a type of way if they don’t know you making both the man and woman uncomfortable. If you can’t agree then cold approaches should be fine by that logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:26 PM
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Still I wonder why you said I treat women like alien creatures. I’m just being honest that the dynamics are different depending on who it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:24 PM
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True. Just don’t even know how to look for those things.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:18 PM
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I don’t lack social skills. I lack getting my foot in the door skills for sure, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:18 PM
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You have to meet people to get to know them. If you have trouble with the “Meeting” part because introducing yourself is met with cold eyes then yeah I’m not really sure how I could actually apply the tip. I want to And yeah I’d say so? If they assume a man talking to her is dangerous it’s because I’m a man. Woman to woman cold approaches are fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:16 PM
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How do you start a conversation with someone that is probably introverted and most likely doesn’t want a cold approach?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:14 PM
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Guess it depends on who you are and who you approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:11 PM
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How would I get to know someone whose first thought is usually “ugh what does this guy want?” Secondly treating them as people is easier when they don’t do the same and judge you for being a man. It’s dishonest to think someone coming to discuss this is acting in such a way. The truth is any given hypothetical approach was never going to work from the start or it was always going to work from the start. Gotta get lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:09 PM
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See this comment has so many unfair assumptions it’s gross. One I’m not so pussy starved that it’s the first thing I’m hoping for when I talk to women. Secondly, treating them like people is fine, but they are women and the dynamic of approaching one as a man they don’t know *Is* different than as a woman. You can’t act like it’s not true. Sometimes it’s cool to do a comment on their interest but most times they aren’t trying to talk unless you know them.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:07 PM
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Well firstly I think it’s unfair to assume that I wasn’t trying to get to know the people I do find myself talking to. Plus seeing women as people I already do but since we are going with that assumption it would be easier to do if I wasn’t judged for being a man they don’t know. Being fair we both know the dynamics of a random encounter is different when it’s man to woman instead of woman to woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:02 PM
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Genuinely how would anyone meet anyone if you can’t meet someone you haven’t met
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 12:04 AM
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I mean, we have to try if we want to get anywhere in the romance department. And it’s not fun for dudes either
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:32 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:28 PM
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It’s genuinely all of those haha
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:27 PM
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True mostly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:26 PM
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Based on what I’ve seen? Yes. And plenty of women are taking nothing too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:25 PM
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Can you help me understand how and why exactly? Are you absolutely certain to fully bet on the idea some regular behaved dudes are just left behind in the market?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:22 PM
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How when they don’t even wanna talk to a guy they don’t know?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:21 PM
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Don’t be sarcastic please. I meant romantic
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:16 PM
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Odd. Is it like morally wrong to make a calm and kind and respectful approach with the hopes of getting to know someone?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:14 PM
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Must’ve missed the unanimous vote. What’s with the hive-mind belief? Besides I think based on the way you talk you’re an extremist. Normal people aren’t that cracked in their beliefs
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:13 PM
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I’m in a relationship. Don’t hate myself. Main struggle is finding community and people to be around consistently.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:11 PM
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Women outnumber men they don’t like most of the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:09 PM
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Not even talking about sex
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:08 PM
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No. Most women don’t like most men
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:06 PM
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Not what I said
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:03 PM
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Yeah underrated advice. If you have time and money meeting them would be easy and a lot of girls from Games are attractive. If you don’t have the time and money that’s rough. But also a lot of them are also taken
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 05:03 PM
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It took 26 years of life to meet one person. I’m her fifth
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:14 PM
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They can’t argue that so there probably won’t be a reply
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:14 PM
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All. Average, cute, no body below 5/10 looks wise. Which is average.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:12 PM
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Yes but I mean people I see on a consistent basis without even making a pitch for asking them out are doing this and it’s obvious I can’t or shouldn’t make it if they are that close with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:11 PM
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I feel like this doesn’t change the truth in what I said
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:10 PM
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Where?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:10 PM
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How do we navigate when the reality I proposed is the one I live? I’m not trying to knock your perspective and I believe it but what do people living through what I did do?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:09 PM
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I’m in a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 03:07 PM
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I can’t give you the full scope. You didn’t even tell the full story either. So… Basically if I had a wife and I grew old and had a family and she passed I would wait for my own passing. Simply put. There wouldn’t be an answer. That’s the truth. I would probably be silently begging to die sooner. Is that what you want me to say? Because it’s what I’d do. I’ve been single my whole life. None of my achievements matter in the face of singledom.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:27 PM
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That’s an extreme example. Plus she’s lived with love in her life and built a family. At that point they already made it. And yes it’s still easier to go out where you’d always be accepted and finding someone that will take you than to have no one accept you at all under any circumstances.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:17 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:53 PM
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But I also feel like this comment is essentially saying “well yeah but no.”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:11 PM
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I agree. Thank fuck I don’t say that haha
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:10 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:08 PM
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If there’s nothing to choose there is no better.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 10:08 PM
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Right
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:48 PM
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I’m in a relationship. I’m speaking for chronically single men. Since I was in their position I have empathy for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 06:44 PM
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Until I was 25
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 05:07 PM
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Aren’t women exceeding men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:21 PM
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They deserve guidance.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:14 PM
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There isn’t much freedom that makes it special.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:12 PM
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But it was missing what I wanted till I got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:54 PM
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That’s one thing I mentioned. Why is it so bad to want a relationship to you guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:15 PM
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I am confused. Sorry. I have trouble understanding what you mean by the homeless people argument. And honestly what definition did I use for a women that I didn’t use for a man? And you pretty much ignored my comment to focus on these things
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:07 PM
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Guess so
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:47 PM
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We aren’t talking about the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:43 PM
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If they want a relationship, why would they be? Back when I was stuck I wasn’t. I wasn’t an asshole about it but it was saddening.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:42 PM
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I love your comment first of all. But I do have to say there’s a strange belief that men who are chronically single are ignoring options. I’ve been single my whole life until 20 and since then every relationship lasted only a few months. About three total. My current relationship is the best I’ve had and only got lucky. My point is I’ve been on dating apps since I could and did not get even a single match that led to a phone number. Haven’t even had a real partner yet besides sex. Trust me when …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:41 PM
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If I did that I wouldn’t be here today.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:33 PM
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I’m arguing for hurt people that are scared of dying alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:33 PM
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Not only. I talked a bit extreme but I believe what you want should be taken seriously by yourself. Why shouldn’t it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:31 PM
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In my eyes peace is lost if my desires are not met. I want friendship and romance. Can’t live without that and just smile. It sucks. Everyone admits it sucks. No way I’m staying in that lane.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:29 PM
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Yes I am in that category. But I used to be chronically single and it was hell until I found my way. And I still feel for those who can’t so I make these posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:28 PM
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What a great way to live, not taking your own desires seriously. I really wish I could see what you mean, maybe my autism is keeping me from doing so but I prefer romance in my life. Thank god I found my way because your advice sounds depressing
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:27 PM
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How about fixing it? That’s what I did and would reccomend? Why are the only options lie down or pretend it isn’t an issue when you want it fixed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:23 PM
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Not if being single isn’t something you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:22 PM
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The advice I would give and “just get over it” aren’t even in the same league. One is practical and the other one isn’t giving anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:22 PM
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I think that’s a matter of perspective. Yes literally you can be fine without it but most want it. Arguing on a dating subreddit how useless dating is is really weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:21 PM
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I’ve never thrown out good advice. I can’t argue for these red pill men but I haven’t done that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:04 PM
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It says anyone who can’t achieve it men or woman. Though men are more behind when it comes to finding new relationships, it was mostly neutral.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:59 PM
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The final word being interesting put me on the path of thinking that was what you thought rather than a genuine question. My apologies for the misunderstanding. But nah. I’m not. Reason why I’m here is to give my personal opinions on approaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:54 PM
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Because romance is something I want in my life. So it’s a problem in the sense of if it’s something you want to achieve it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:51 PM
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When I was single, yes. I’m not doing them now so… what?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:50 PM
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Yes. That is what I said.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:47 PM
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I think language is the issue. When I say fight I mean I had to find my tribe. And that ain’t easy with no contacts. I had to be loud and proudly the silly man I always was. Broadcasting my personality so that all would hear me. It eventually found me my people. And my love. That advice to me? Sounds like lay down and die with the cards you were given. Not to go find more.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:46 PM
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I wouldn’t even say ultimately. It’s just… a problem? If you want romance in your life you gotta look at it objectively. If you are single and want it to end you gotta find out why. For me it was lack of community. And there’s nothing wrong with putting romance first. You will probably be disappointed more often than not but as long as you don’t truly lose sight of yourself it’s not so wrong to desire it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:44 PM
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Yeah it’s not. I don’t agree with that mindset either.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:43 PM
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I had been alone my whole life up until 25. So I was a little hurt yes. But I don’t broadcast misery. I’m a loud goofball that tries to make everything fun and silly. And I’ve dated plenty of times but still, being single crushes my soul. Dunno why.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:42 PM
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Yes. Community is how I got out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:41 PM
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I have hobbies, dreams, friends and a relationship. I hang out with friends frequently and chasing my grander ambitions, but if I was single I’d be pissed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:39 PM
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I’ve been chronically single too. Had to fight like hell to get out of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:39 PM
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When I was 18 I was on every dating app until I was 24 and didn’t get a single match that led to a date. I can probably count the amount of matches on a single hand too. And I was one of the lucky chronically single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:38 PM
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The point of me explaining that aspect is the people with options are not gonna die on the hill. If you get too close to the edge and want to change being single you are taking the last train home. You are not gonna die on the hill.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:35 PM
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Still don’t understand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:34 PM
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I was single a very long time. And I fought like hell to fix it. Eventually I got lucky. That is all.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:33 PM
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Not sure the point of that question because I’m debating in favor of those who are lost.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:30 PM
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The post is talking about this very thing. You were single five years yes but you definitely could have been proactive about finding someone and it would have probably been easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:29 PM
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If you want a relationship, being happy is achieved through it. There is a practical path. People need guidance to get there. Not useless platitudes. So much berating is received from wanting to fix that issue and it’s always dismissed or downplayed how you are treated lesser if you are chronically single.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:24 PM
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I cope with all my issues just fine. Finances are fixed by hard work determination and working smartly not just hard. I have community, it’s what saved me from being chronically single, I have friends, I have passions and goals. I would hate being single and I would fight like hell to fix it if I was single again.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:22 PM
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Okay see the problem I have here is the assumption of entitlement. When I was chronically single I hated it. Did everything I could but ultimately community is what saved me. For the people less fortunate than me… those on the verge of utter despair and destruction. What you’re saying is so hurtful and insincere and dismissive of the very real suffering they are enduring. And you are in a relationship. Your perspective comes from the very place this post is talking about. An ivory tower argument…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:21 PM
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Because it’s the number one advice when looking for something practical. It’s used so often in debate as well even though it’s a nothing statement.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:17 PM
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No options isn’t a mindset it’s recognizing the situation at hand and desiring to do something about it is treated as sin.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:13 PM
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Doesn’t give you much to work with at face value either though. Feeling bad? Try not doing that! Good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:12 PM
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Okay if someone doesn’t want singledom for their life they have every right to not like it and seek practical advice. “Just be happy single” isn’t saying anything or giving anything they can tangibly strive for. And the assumptions that come with people saying that are also lame. Like just have friends and hobbies like all chronically single people just sit there… staring at the wall at home. Simply not true and weird that the assumption is always the craziest negative rather than shit luck stra…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:06 PM
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What metric would anyone go about proving how other people feel about a situation you aren’t experiencing?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:01 PM
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Not at all the point of the post. And I’m not redpill so I don’t know why they are brought up. It’s not saying to not take advice or not change. It’s saying that specific advice piece does nothing for someone who wants a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:58 AM
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If they don’t want that for their life, “give up.” Is shitty advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:57 AM
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Okay I seriously don’t think you did because the stuff you are saying is literally why the post was made
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:56 AM
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Genuinely must ask if you read the post because your very question is answered in said post. I won’t credit myself with being an amazing writer but no way I screwed up that badly… I hope at least! 🥲
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:53 AM
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If that’s what you think then your opinion will never be towards the romance people here tend to seek. It will never be coming from a good place if you don’t like relationships in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:50 AM
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I do have friends and hobbies and currently taken, that don’t mean if I was single I’d be fulfilled romantically and if that’s what you want out of life you should pursue it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:49 AM
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I occasionally do but I am conflicted especially on cold approaches. I’ve been given so much advice for why and why not that it’s hard to come to a conclusion. I’ve been told approaches are gross and imply that you are so commanded by their beauty that you had to make a move which can make women think you are lame for being so drawn by it. I’ve been told it’s creepy. Even my current partner says if she met me on a cold approach she would have been scared. Luckily my female friend of ten years in…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:46 AM
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None so far. I’m 26
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 11:42 AM
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First paragraph what do you mean? Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:40 PM
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In your example you made a comment about something, why not ask for what you wanted instead? Does there *Need* to be some odd thing like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:57 PM
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Right there why not just ask direct? Seems weird really
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:37 PM
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Attractive women can be desperate if the guy is fire enough
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:35 PM
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That had nothing to do with that and with how many mind games you truly never know unless you hold all cards
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:53 PM
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So a roundabout way of saying what you just ridiculed? He still had to build himself into that man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:49 PM
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So it’s seemingly better to be an aloof asshole? Doesn’t not needing a you mean you are disposable? When a lot of men reach abundance capability they are quick to turn to that type of behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:48 PM
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I think you skipped the fact that it isn’t talking about ignoring the true essence of you. He simply wants to not be single as well. Why can’t both be true. Single people find romance to not be single that’s how the transition happens in the first place, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:47 PM
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I think there are levels to it though too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:45 PM
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So do you want avoidant detached and aloof?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:45 PM
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If they do actually like you what’s the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:45 PM
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I think anyone stuck single wants to get out of it to an extent. Calling attention to the fact you want to alleviate said problem doesn’t change much. It seems especially women have more of a problem with calling attention to a reality more than the reality itself. If I improve to get women that’s wrong. But if I improve and happen to get women as a result suddenly it’s different. One man is honest about the why, the other keeps it quiet but that distinction matters most for a lot of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:44 PM
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I think people who spent their entire life alone know how to be alone. They want a break from alone. They drown in alone. Even if you can find joy in it doesn’t mean your desire should be forgotten.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 06:41 PM
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I don’t dislike her behavior this whole thing was an assumption pie.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:19 PM
-1

I don’t know. I only know what I see and they seem happy
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:24 PM
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Yeah this isn’t an actual conversation. We both know cold approaches don’t work 9/10 times. Men struggling with this don’t have someone they can warm approach. So… what’s the actual solution
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 01:13 PM
0

That is a huge assumption my friend. I’m not even red pill. I don’t subscribe to pills
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:36 PM
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Yes we do. That assumption is bonkers. We are definitely more desperate because no one talks to us until everyone wants to talk to us. Pretty sure the resentment of that dynamic is why bad actors come to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:35 PM
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It’s not a gendered thing for sure. I’m speaking on the male perspective of said phenomenon. I think women don’t understand that the guys struggling aren’t talking to ANYONE they can’t pick better there’s literally no one to pick and even if they were to interact the woman is picking him not vice versa.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:33 PM
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Truly I do not have an answer for that question. I don’t “pick” people. I have never had a relationship where I was the chooser I’d get literally snatched out of singledom by a woman who just happened to pick me up. I don’t ever know what I did and it just happens. Any woman I choose myself doesn’t even wanna talk let alone have a dinner date. So when I hear “pick” someone else it’s an insult to my experience because picking is something that has literally never happened. In my current relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:29 PM
5

Men aren’t even getting anyone to choose.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:23 PM
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When people want someone. They definitely will change for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:21 PM
5

Staying is definitely not a good thing. But you also don’t acknowledge anything about how dry it is out there. Like I said these men cannot realistically ask out even one woman. They don’t have one person they can think of to do that with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:21 PM
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That’s an ivory tower argument. “I have options” that’s the answer. The men who struggle can’t even think of one woman they can realistically ask out in any capacity and being upset in any way by that is somehow a sin.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:19 PM
1

So go do a bunch of cold approaches then?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:18 PM
1

You know I really wish women in this sub would stop with that mindset. Here we are, perfect opportunity to debate friendly and try and reach a good conclusion and you wanna assume I want a slave essentially. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:15 PM
1

Guys struggling like that literally don’t have any emergency women 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:12 PM
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He didn’t make her do anything. She wanted that. I think it’s weird since it’s an old man but she seems happy. Can’t know her I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:58 AM
1

Those aren’t the only two paths. No one who wants a relationship is gunning for being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:31 AM
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The problem is the people receiving the advice suck at getting dates in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:31 AM
4

The problem is they most likely still have no one else and can’t foresee finding anyone else any time soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 11:57 PM
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I mean they seem happy? They don’t have to hate their life just because they’re dedicated to their relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 10:10 PM
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I e seen plenty of times where they do if the man is enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 09:57 PM
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Throwing what I said back in my face would only work if I was hypocritical. I was not. The answer to my concern was to just find the type of person we speak of. Guys act like the yes is important because they struggle to land dates at all let alone with the right person.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:35 PM
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You must not have read it all or chose to ignore the whole situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:26 PM
1

So you could just toss him and not care?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:25 PM
1

The hell does red pill have to do with guys that don’t follow it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:21 PM
7

I think anyone who wants to date would prefer being in one.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 12:59 AM
0

I re read it after apologizing. So now what? Wanna engage properly?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:59 PM
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Yeah. Didn’t read all of it sorry. Women shouldn’t ask for you to open up though. Happened with my current girlfriend. She couldn’t handle me opening up but when I stopped she asks for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:56 PM
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Wouldn’t the best thing to do be not open up if all women felt that way?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:47 PM
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That’s a tough one. Proactive pursuit is to some extent necessary. I’m autistic because patient with me here. When you say let it happen there’s no concrete answer in that and I have a really hard time understanding things when there isn’t a bit of explanation in it. When women like me it’s because I’m around them a lot and my personality shines. You still have to secure that time with them. So you can’t flow into that. Or maybe I don’t understand how? I like debating with you. I find that I don…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:46 PM
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Since that is solid and pretty much how I find relationships I am glad you at least acknowledged and listed effective reasonings. Community is the way. Men who struggle don’t know this for some reason. But I must add even with community you must find a single woman that is open to a somewhat stranger interacting and asking her out and she has to be open to about five more things before you figure out she doesn’t align with you in any significant way. Or stuff just happens to work out it’s funny …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:24 PM
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I think it depends on who for everyone then. Because being honest about wanting a long term relationship has never helped me. The only time I ever get in relationships is when a woman thinks I’m cute and grabs me up.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:19 PM
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You talk about finding new women like a bag of chips at the grocery store. Again you are downplaying how much it’s silent out there for some dudes. Before I found community I would probably meet a girl once every few years. If you want to find romance those are abysmal numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:14 PM
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In my experience telling someone all of that is an instant turn off for them. They don’t want to hear you ask or tell them a list of stuff. I swear it’s like diffusing a bomb. I’m not making it up when I say this shit is common in my experience
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:05 PM
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A lot of women probably majority don’t want you to tell your intent and wants. They don’t want a job interview even if they are interviewing you technically. You’re downplaying the actually mechanics of what’s going on the whole time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 10:03 PM
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As much as I do agree with your answer I have to push back because women don’t wear a sign that says they’re okay with you not paying the first date or even halfsies
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:48 PM
1

Those men would have to go
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:40 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:33 PM
3

No because you would have to either eliminate a threat or be eliminated or mind your business
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:32 PM
1

The part you won’t acknowledge seemingly at least is that violence must occur to maintain the moral comfort of women in those situations
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:26 PM
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Those men are issues and to protect the women they would have to be removed. Which goes back to my lose lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:24 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:21 PM
6

Big moral ones do. You won’t even acknowledge
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 01:02 PM
5

Killing someone or dying? Pretty much go to prison or death sucks whichever prize you get
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 12:57 PM
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Honestly if men have that much of a problem with it, they aren’t even thinking about the women. They’re thinking of themselves and what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 12:54 PM
2

I think a big reason why men don’t say anything to bad men is because it can result in violence. Violence in which the good man has to fight for his life or end the bad man’s life. And that’s a lose lose situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 12:51 PM
2

True. But that’s not the point of the hypothetical
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 12:49 PM
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You don't think there's a healthy version of desiring your partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:47 AM
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I guess. But relying on someone reliable is a high that is amazing. More so than any drug
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:05 AM
0

I don't understand why you wouldn't want to love
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:04 AM
-1

I guess it comes down to the type of need? I need my girlfriend but if she wants me to not need her in my eyes I should leave her right?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:04 AM
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Why is the line either not functioning or completely distant?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 03:01 AM
1

That's gross. I feel for them. I feel like I'm a normal dude. Maybe my level of intimacy is more than most can handle? I wanted to spend time with her just me and her but she wanted us to hang with our friends only. No Privacy. But at first was all about it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:28 AM
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The way I see it is if I don't need them I wouldn't want them. When my last ex told me that I shouldn't need her, I walked went on a small journey adventuring by myself and when she asked why I was distant I just… couldn't love her after and she cried and beg and all I could think was “this is what you asked for”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:24 AM
1

That's what I'm saying though. Being there for each other and wanting to be together.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:10 AM
0

I dunno how else to put it besides the initial post. I'm sorry I really don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:09 AM
1

I think relying on each other is fair and fine. To flex not needing your partner you might as well not be with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:57 AM
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I think you should be able to rely on your partner without breathing down their neck. If I don't need my girl I wouldn't want her.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:55 AM
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Aw shoot
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 12:18 AM
1

Personality refinement, knowledge, community building or being a reliable and valuable part of a community, money or even being funny. Working on those things can help an ugly guy. None of that will make a woman more attractive if she isn't already attractive physically.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 11:09 PM
1

Ugly men usually work hard to make up for it. If a woman is truly ugly. There isn't much she can do about her chances. Not many are looking for ugly but sweet women. Just sweet and cute or hot or whatever other good word.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 07:00 PM
1

Yes. Context is important though I wasn't being literal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 04:09 AM
1

Nope I’m not. Why?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 07:12 PM
3

Exactly. She don’t like the words.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 05:24 PM
1

I really think the only problem here is you don’t like my words. She was my friend and I loved her. She was not attractive. Heavily overweight, didn’t shave, average face but was mostly unkempt. Sorry but that’s not attractive. I loved her because she was genuine cool, silly and funny but she cheated end of story.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 05:23 PM
2

I think the reason for that is because men are behind when it comes to dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 03:09 PM
1

Why do you assume she was the victim? Though yeah I agree. I needed to end that one.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 03:09 PM
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No. That's what she told me. Not an assumption. I was told that by her for her not all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 09:40 PM
1

That's not what I was saying. I was saying women don't have any defense against a man that has attractiveness down now
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:45 PM
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You're focusing on one word.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 07:40 PM
1

The type of person to exhibit the traits mentioned in the post
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 07:03 PM
1

No. Just regular girl
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 07:02 PM
-1

I know coworker dating women my age (26) at 52. They got something right.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:51 PM
2

The type described in the post. I feel like you're digging for a certain answer for a preplanned line of dialogue. Could be wrong but I'm definitely trying not to play into it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:49 PM
2

Whoops
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:45 PM
0

You're not the type of person this post is speaking of
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:43 PM
-4

I don't mean skill sucking I mean it's not good for them. I feel like your focusing on a part that doesn't matter
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:38 PM
-4

By simping I mean once a woman is attracted to a man she tends to give everything to him and expects him to be as devoted just because he charmed her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:33 PM
2

She didn't even find the person attractive so not really a flex there. I don't know what the point of this comment is though
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 01:08 PM
1

Yes. Definitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 12:30 PM
2

I don’t. Weird how you assumed that. The title is just that, a title.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 10:12 AM
2

What makes you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 10:10 AM
1

We were close friends who started dating. I loved her before what happened. You’re making assumptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 10:09 AM
1

While indont disagree I do think ugly men and ugly women are different characters.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:49 PM
0

No because I loved her. She was a friend first and became a partner who cheated. The looks didn't really matter I liked her.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 11:22 PM
5

Attraction alone won't get me to sleep with someone. But I do think attraction matters for sure. It's just not the only thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:35 PM
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I'm demisexual. I literally can't bring myself to sleep with a woman I don't like or enjoy the company of. So… I don't stomp around looking for living fuck dolls like that reply claims. I'm sure a lot of men genuinely want connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:30 PM
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I did genuinely like her. But yeah she was hard to look at. But impossible to love after cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:26 PM
2

Really? I guess we both haven't seen what the other speaks of. Wonder why that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:22 PM
1

Probably more than one reason that varies between people. I'm just talking about what I've seen.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:14 PM
3

If I look in my replies long enough I definitely could find one. But something interesting if like to point out. What if I'm right for a second? Just lets entertain that idea and see. Why does it matter if I can or can't find the instance? It's there but what does it do once I prove it real? Are you going to address the point?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:10 PM
1

Yeah. Probably. I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:47 PM
5

Overall i agree though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:47 PM
2

The useful quote was a real situation that I witnessed with my ex. But yes when men complain I see women all the time say that we are picky and give the ugly girl a chance. “She will be grateful and kind.”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:47 PM
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Can't be picky if I dated down and got burned there too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:44 PM
5

I really should have included that. A fine point.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:43 PM
5

Yes. That's what happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:32 PM
5

That's literally what she told me. At that point indont know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:27 PM
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Please educate me. I'm willing to learn
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 05:10 PM
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Based on how you're talking I don't think you're willing to engage with the idea in good faith. But honestly hypergamy isn't the problem. Some women are hypergamous but really I would say it's presence and personality above all. I've been loved plenty of times for those two things so I can't see how money is a factor. But honestly it's not your problem unless you decide to care about the dating landscape. If you do then yeah I'd say it's something to at least ponder.ost the men struggling with d…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:29 PM
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Women are. Just depends on with who.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:23 PM
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