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My what?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 04:28 PM
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Good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/26 04:27 AM
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I am happily married and not interested in complications.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 09:36 AM
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This will depend on where you live.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 01:12 AM
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15, delivering weekly newspapers.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/26 12:44 AM
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You do have a point. But then, both you and me are on reddit. Surely that's not the best we can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/26 07:37 PM
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On average, men need more calories than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 10:59 PM
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I am maybe attracted to 1% of women, if that. That's not a problem. It only becomes a problem if everybody is attracted to the same 1%.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 04:31 PM
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Grandma wants to not see her grandchild.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/26 07:32 PM
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I don't remember. Wasn't anything important, I think. The point is that I sometimes think when other people say something without thinking, and that noticeable change in conversation flow can creep out some women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/26 03:09 AM
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Women have suddenly lost interest in me. In one case, the date was going well, until the moment it took me a while to answer a question, because I had to think about the answer. I could see the switch flip right there.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/26 10:06 AM
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Some men do. I don't. The only time in the past I felt that way, I ended the relationship because it was broken.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/26 10:46 PM
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The difference between meeting online, and meeting through a dating app.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/26 09:44 AM
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So, what did you eat today, weird BMI obsessed guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/26 12:10 AM
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I think you may have that backwards. Women who date an asshole often know that the guy is an asshole, and date him nevertheless for a variety of reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/26 08:40 AM
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Look at old inflation rates from approximately 1970 to 1991. US numbers here: https://www.usinflationcalculator.com/inflation/historical-inflation-rates/
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/26 09:43 PM
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No deals with devils and demons.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/26 10:53 PM
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"short" as in "seriously restricted dating opportunities"? 5'6" and shorter, I estimate.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/26 07:20 AM
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Of course the "Labor Theory of Value" is a myth. Unfortunately, one hour of Lady Gaga or Taylor Swift on stage has slightly higher value than one hour of me posting on reddit. Mathematically, the Labor Theory of Value can be made work if the input-output system is linear and positive semi-definite. But in the modern world, the output does not linearly depend on input; creating copies has become much cheaper than the initial development. There there is all that waste which has negative value.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:51 AM
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I feel negatively towards OnlyFans creators when they spam dozens of subreddits trying to create more business for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/26 05:42 AM
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I feel happy for them and will get them a gift.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 11:27 PM
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You seem to know a lot of people who end up in jail.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/26 12:52 PM
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Seems she decided to keep her maiden name Epstein as a middle name when she married Jesse Howard Israel.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/26 07:58 AM
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I am related to a couple that just got married where she is his first girlfriend, literally. I know more examples like that, and I don't have to go back to my parents' generation. Doesn't have anything to do with culture; some people just have their first relationship work out, and that number isn't even that small. Not having to move to a different city for studies or work helps, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 08:43 PM
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She bench presses two plates.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/26 11:47 PM
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I knew about her height but not about her absurd working hours.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/26 12:01 AM
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I'm 6' and I have dated a 6'3 woman. Didn't go anywhere because of her working hours, but that's a different topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 09:22 PM
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With a 60/40 ratio of women to men, yes, some men will take advantage of the situation. My ex studied at a university where the ratio was approximately 75/25, unsurprisingly it was extra bad for the women there. Don't play those games, look for potential partners outside of the professional school.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/01/26 12:47 PM
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The kitten distribution system will take care of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 09:14 PM
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I assume that every subreddit has some bots which downvote literally everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:19 PM
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Women occasionally do make the first move, even when not drunk.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:18 PM
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I would not date my current self due to bad health, but I would date my younger self.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 07:15 PM
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I would not date a woman I do not consider sexually attractive, but that's not the same as looks. Looks then are not static. People can lose weight or gain weight, take better care of themselves, and even being in a different mood affects looks significantly. On a longer train ride, my seat reservation put me opposite a woman of my age. We had a really nice chat, and after two hours she looked much, much better than when she boarded the train.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/26 05:59 AM
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Q4M: do y'all assume that every coupled men you see out in the wild is unhappy in his relationship or the woman settled for him? No, of course not. If not, what do you assume when you see a couple out in the wild? I see some happy couples and some unhappy couples. Probably more happy couples than unhappy couples, but I am not keeping count.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 06:08 PM
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Too harsh? I am confused, clearly stringing him along when you're not interested does not help him at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 05:37 PM
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I'm not into hookups, but I don't see the problem when two consenting adults do adults activities outside of a long term relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/26 10:18 AM
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My wife does not have my last name. I wanted it this way, because she had earlier changed her first name, and I felt it might at some point become too cumbersome for her to proof her identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/26 04:10 PM
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Different people have different preferences. I would not date a dumb/stupid woman, regardless of how good looking she is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/26 12:55 PM
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My wife thinks I spend too much time on reddit (true) and that I write lengthy arguments where one liners would be sufficient (not true).
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/26 03:41 AM
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Never appealed to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 07:42 AM
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You talked to guys who did not even know how dating worked 30 years ago. Going to bars and approach? LOL. Bars were full of men, hardly any women there. BTW, dating apps already existed 30 years ago. The underlying technology was different and looks mattered less than nowadays, but the ratio of men to women was pretty bad back then, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/26 03:25 AM
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No, I would not consider that weird. That much said, I was the one who proposed to my wife, and she probably wouldn't have.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/26 06:48 AM
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Young women, yes. Old women, as in 60+, compared to men 60+? Doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/25 06:24 AM
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Yes, these women exist. Also, some people genuinely do not notice when other people try to hook up with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 08:54 PM
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Our neighbors celebrate X-mess twice - she is catholic, he is orthodox.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/25 07:18 AM
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I support your right to smoke. I still think it is a bad choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/25 11:33 AM
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Yes, that is a relationship, albeit an unrealistic scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/25 11:47 PM
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Don't overlook that "bad guys" will jump onto some opportunities which "nice guys" will let go for various reasons. Back when I was 32, a decent looking 18 year old girl wanted me to take her v-card. She was quite immature for her age, thus I declined the offer. I did not want to take advantage of her immaturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/25 01:02 PM
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That profile was created by some guy to test how many matches a woman can get on Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/25 03:33 PM
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You should. But as a contraception method, condoms have a rather high failure method even when used correctly. Now, if you were to do that just once to lose your virginity, the risk might be considered reasonably small. But you suggested to "slowly make steps upward from the bottom of the barrel".
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 03:06 AM
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This will be a lot of fun when that 300 lb girl becomes pregnant and does not want an abortion.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/25 02:43 AM
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Most virginity stats put virgin men in their 20s at around 10-15%. Yeah, that looks like a realistic range. However, that's a statement about virginity, not a statement about relationships. Sexlessness numbers, the percentage of men who did not have sex the past year, are much higher. Furthermore, the percentages will be higher in some populations, for example among socially awkward nerds who still live with their parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/25 04:42 AM
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Why do you not respond with the proper courting dance that we agreed as a society makes for a good dating experience for everyone? LOL, you're not even on the same planet as reality. That is not a good dating experience. Not at all. Nor does it "attract the right kind of man". Nor did it in the old days.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/25 05:47 AM
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These days, I only date my wife. Way back before I got married, my goal was a long term relationship. I never was interested in hookups, those don't work for me emotionally. I need the love.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/25 09:12 AM
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No. A computer program, no matter how sophisticated, is not a human.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/25 02:49 PM
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A valid question. There even are relationships where the woman physically abuses the man. But overall, I think it is not the same. In the woman with the "bad guy" scenario, the woman complains about the "bad guy" to her Nice Guy[TM] friend, using words such as "why can't he be like you" (but she would never date the Nice Guy[TM]). The woman's focus is on trying to fix either the "bad guy" or "fix" herself so that the "bad guy" stops abusing her. In the man with the "crazy woman" scenario, the gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 04:52 AM
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There's also other risks. Just started with the pill? It will take some time until it actually works. Got sick and everything came out at both ends? The pill might not work for a while. In some combinations of anti-depressives and the pill, the pill won't work. Did your doctor check counterindications before they prescribed the pill or the AD?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/25 03:49 AM
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Before the internet, It used to be people would only date for the following social norms. Marriage (Religion played a part in that) Financial Gain (Society loved rewarding couples with money) Children (Back when that was affordable) Family Appeasement (Get the folks off our back about it and get them grandchildren) Love (Yes people would just do it for love) Nope. Many people, men and women, dated because they enjoyed sex. Just look up, say, the number of illegal abortions in the 1950s.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 05:02 AM
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I am happily married even though my wife had multiple past partners. Best decision of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/25 04:57 AM
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Probably not. I don't see anything in your example why I would want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/25 04:10 PM
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So why is this such an issue for a lot of men? Is it? I don't even remember the last time any man has complained about that in real life (rather than online). A prostitute (prostitution is legal in my country) works out at my gym. I have not ever seen anybody complain about the way she dresses.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/25 04:32 PM
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Training for a marathon is not a red flag. She is at least somewhat in shape, which is a good thing. Extensive training can, however, contribute to a cramped schedule with not much room for romance. If we can meet only once every six weeks because she never has time, this won't go anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 11:27 PM
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Looks at those studies: from when is the data they are using? From where is the data they are using. For example, there is such a study from Poland, using data going back to the 19th century. Well, back then the risk of malnutrition during or after a pregnancy was massive, there were no vaccinations against many diseased, antibiotics hadn't been invented yet, and even the risk out death was significant. But that's Poland, over 100 years ago. Such ancient studies are not relevant to modern life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/25 02:28 AM
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Probably a compliment. You are doomed either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 10:07 AM
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Don't forget Oscar Pistorius. History of reckless behaviour with guns, murdered his girlfriend, but then had a fan club of dozens of women (if not hundreds) outside the court house.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/25 10:06 AM
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I am happily married and not interested in complications. I could easily end up friend zoning a woman I consider attractive, albeit I would not first let her think that I might be interested. Some people are in a bad mental state, for example after a break up. That can lead to conflicting emotions. Around age 15, there was this girl I liked, and she clearly was interested, but my mother and her mother successfully sabotaged the whole thing. Years later, she approached me, but I could not handle …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 02:36 PM
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Wow. I did not know that asking guys out can be this difficult for a woman. Two of them have told me they find me super hot and it’s just awkward to sleep with a friend. That's the friend zone. Definitely a thing. Some indeed are scared of dating a friend, some just use this to word the rejection politely. One even said he had a crush on me. So duh I asked him out, I like him back. Then the minute I showed that level of interest he got weird. I have had things go south very quickly on various oc…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 02:18 PM
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10 million bucks? Definitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/25 02:05 PM
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I never was interested in hookups and I never was interested in shitty, dysfunctional relationships. Am I supposed to envy the 16 year old who had to drop out of school when she got pregnant? Am I supposed to be jealous of the 22 year old who moved in with his girlfriend he did not even like? My buddy whose fiancée cheated on him a few months before the scheduled wedding date? The 23 year old who decided not to have an abortion when the sperm donor promised to raise the child together, only for …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/25 05:02 AM
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Well, this depends on what type of relationship you want. Do you want a relationship where you make his lunch and fold his laundry? Then make his lunch and fold his laundry. Are you not interested in doing that? Then don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/25 07:40 PM
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Sounds like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/25 08:01 AM
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Lack of self control, really. For example, he banged his best buddy's girlfriend. More precisely, he banged his best buddy's girlfriend even though he had better options. Obviously, that guy is just a sample size of one.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 03:39 AM
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One guy I know entered midlife crises in his 20s. He married very young, they had a child, then he got FOMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/25 03:26 AM
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When I was buying a flat, my bf said I should have put his name on the mortgage despite him not contributing to the downpayment. Bad idea. Really bad idea all around. People who come up with one such bad idea usually come up with more bad ideas. In my experience, dating men who earn less, even when you’re discrete about your income inevitably leads to them resenting you. Resent you because you make more than them? Probably not. But they may not be getting the relationship they want. Obviously, s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 10:52 PM
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Do you genuinely believe that a "traditional" female role is important and honorable? 150 years ago, yes, but that changed decades ago. In many locations, the "traditional" female role is not economically viable. Housing and food are too expensive, most men don't make enough to feed a family when the base rent for a two bedroom apartment is 3k/month, or even more.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:54 AM
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When I still lived in my home town, the ratio in the age group 18-35 was about 65% men - 35% women, I kid you not. Now do the math.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/25 02:43 AM
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Nope, not interested in that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/25 10:16 PM
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As a man, you never know what any individual women might consider creepy behavior by a stranger. In one particular incident, at a gym, all I said was "great lift". Just a random compliment because she was lifting quite heavy. That was sufficient to trigger an over the top aggressive reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 01:07 AM
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Your observation is correct, some men avoid dating single moms. On average, dating a single mom is more effort, higher risk and more complications for less in return. Would you want to date a childless guy who is seeing his ex-wife three times per week, or would that feel weird to you? Would you want to date a childless guy who can meet you only once or twice per month because of his gazillion other obligations?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 12:50 AM
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I consider it much more of a red flag if people want to have sex without a condom right away (without any std tests or whatever). That guarantees that they had sex without a condom with others before, and that's a much higher risk of catching stds than the number of previous partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 10:03 PM
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I would not. I am not interested in such complications.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:55 PM
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Some people cheat, some people won't. Unfortunately, it is difficult to figure out who will cheat. But it is a red flag if somebody has cheated before. My ex is only a foot taller than me Is that a typo?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 08:07 PM
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Don't get me wrong, my wife is wonderful. At the time, we had been dating for two years. She had been fired several times, and the job market was just horrible. She would have become homeless in a month or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 06:39 PM
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Seven. Usually I have between 5 and 10 open.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 06:21 PM
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Does marrying her count?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 06:17 PM
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The UK birth rate already dropped massively towards the end of the 19th century. That should tell us something. https://www.statista.com/statistics/1033074/fertility-rate-uk-1800-2020/ I think there is a combination of several factors: * Fewer unwanted pregnancies because of improved contraception methods and better access to contraception. See the drop of the birth rate during the 1960s. * Similarly, better education. When was the last time you heard nonsense such as "you can't get pregnant dur…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 06:13 PM
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Intersex is a medical condition, not a choice. For example, people born with ambiguous genitals are intersex. The exact boundary between people born male, people born female and people born intersex is difficult to define.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 11:27 AM
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Woman 1 does not appeal to me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 05:36 AM
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No. I will eventually find out. BTW, some women wear long sleeves all the time because they have been cutting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 03:43 PM
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Q4M: You find your girlfriend's reddit account, and notice she asks lots of absurd questions about made up relationship scenarios. Do you continue the relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 01:21 AM
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It leads to an unhealthy lifestyle with very little physical activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 07:35 PM
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Even been to Boynton Beach?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:51 PM
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Wile you do have a point, I will claim that there is something wrong with a man whose only interests are videogames, board games, and anime.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 04:38 PM
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That's a weird definition of "average". Average height or tall "Tall" is above average. Average height of American men is 5'9". earns enough to be comfortable That's well above average. Many people are living paycheck to paycheck and are struggling to pay the rent. It isn't normal to not have a stable career at 30+ The bulk of men on this subreddit are younger than 30. It is perfectly normal to not have a stable career at age 20 or 25.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 07:26 PM
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You must be living in some cheap location. Where I live, rent for a two bedroom is about 2k/month, and then you still have to pay utilities. Meanwhile, the taxman also takes a big chunk of those 70k. Oh, and daycare isn't affordable either.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 02:28 PM
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It is normal to be frustrated one way or another after a breakup. It is not normal for that frustration to last five or more years.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 02:19 PM
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More overweight people can sustain a larger calorie deficit and thus lose weight faster - for some amount of time. Yes, losing weight is difficult where you are. Your maintenance probably is somewhere around 1400 kcal, +/- 200. There isn't much room there for a significant calorie deficit, and just one big meal can wipe out your deficit for a whole week. And you might be in a range where your body wants to hold on to the remaining body fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:31 PM
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When you're working 70 hours per week, you're married to work, not to your wife. Your wife and kids don't even get to see you much Monday through Friday. No, that guy does not "look well after the children", because he is not even at home.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/24 04:43 PM
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If only the first three bites tasted good, those people would never have gained the weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 05:18 AM
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There also is being short, as in 5'3" and shorter.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/23 04:52 AM
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Big mistake. You should have offered him some of the coke.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 02:59 AM
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Therapy is tricky. As you already wrote, therapy is expensive if it is not covered by your insurance. On top of that, you need to find a good therapist (many therapists are not good) with an approach that matches your needs. And that good therapist then has to accept you as a patient. "I'm sorry, but we're not taking any new patients at this point." Once you have cleared all those hurdles, then therapy does help.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/23 02:15 AM
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I have done that. I was slightly uncomfortable with the situation, but it wasn't a red flag. I did not date the single mother whose room mate was the father of her child. I deemed that too risky.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 05:09 AM
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SCNR=Sorry, could not resist.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 10:45 AM
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Caution. Now that you have been promoted to wife status, he might be looking for a mistress. SCNR.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 07:17 AM
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You're in your early 20s. That's not too bad, quite a few women haven't gotten any by your age.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 05:28 AM
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True. My wife, who is half Jewish half Japanese, had a Nazi co-worker who always wanted her gone because of her race and falsely claimed that my wife doesn't get any work done. On my wife's last day, the Nazi had a complete breakdown. Waaaah, I get more work now. Woe is me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 03:50 AM
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This is normal. Many women behave like that. They will bitch at their boyfriend or husband if the guy doesn't do what she wants him to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 10:20 AM
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I am not materialistic and perfectly fine with a middle class income. I take option 2, but consider this a close decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 08:18 PM
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My memory got worse as I got older. When I was severely overtaxed at work for several years in a row, that really did a number on my brain.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 08:15 PM
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There is "pump and dump". Some men will pretend to be interested in a relationship, even though all they want is a one night stand. Women who just want a hookup don't have to worry about that. Women looking for a relationship might feel a need to filter out those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 08:40 AM
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Women are rude and aggressive in different ways. That can be misinterpreted as the average woman being nicer than the average man, because she will backstab you rather than hit you in the face.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 04:42 PM
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She is listed as 5'7", 176 lbs. Yes, that is overweight. I would not call her fat, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 03:25 AM
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Looks impact what people think about you. A black man with lots of tattoos can expect a much tougher day in court than a 75 year old white lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 09:41 PM
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I remain calm because anything else won't improve the situation, and might possibly cause me to make bad decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 01:14 AM
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Snowfall at the bus stop - extra cold approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 08:16 PM
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In most marriages, the husband is several years older than the wife. Meanwhile, women have a significantly longer life expectancy. Thus, it is quite common that the wife survives the husband by 5 years, 10 years, or even more. The bulk of those women then stay single for the remainder of their life. Obviously, at such an age relationships are about the companionship rather than about sex, but these widows have to do without the companionship as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 06:45 PM
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Women hit the wall when their 75+ year old husband dies earlier than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 04:17 PM
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The risk of him cheating appears to be rather high.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 07:20 AM
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Some men will sleep with (almost) any women who is not up on a tree on a count of three. Some men won't. Some men think mainly with their dick, some men have a brain they actually use. Some women think mainly with their vagina, some women have a brain they actually use.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 04:45 PM
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The difference between theory and real life. In theory, they say they are not interested in a "hoe" with an N count of 25. In real life, most of them will have sex with a willing "hoe" if either the "hoe" is sufficiently hot or they are sufficiently thirsty.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 01:34 PM
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My life improved significantly once I had found some non-male dominated interests I actually enjoyed. And no, I did not go there with the intention of finding women to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 08:33 AM
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I have a strong preference for dark hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 06:44 AM
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That was obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 06:43 AM
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Domestic violence is neither funny or acceptable. However, that does not imply that jokes and sarcasm must avoid this topic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 06:38 PM
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Never having been to a party by the age of 20 is rather unusual. No birthday parties?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 01:12 PM
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Don't go on vacation with your in-laws if they behave like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/23 08:29 AM
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There was significant variety, but the total number was rather low.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 12:43 PM
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At least $7.25/hour. SCNR.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:54 AM
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She wears a nose ring, she has bad tattoos, her boobs are sagging, and while she isn't seriously overweight, she looks out of shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:08 AM
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If I ignore that she seems to be crazy, I'd give her a 5.5/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 02:33 AM
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Yes. And, to answer your follow-up question: he is short.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 12:02 AM
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Genuine Italian Grana Padano or Parmigiano Reggiano.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 11:59 PM
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I went to a boys only school which just started to allow girls. The year above was 100% boys only, my year was about 85% boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 10:51 PM
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I'm getting the popcorn ready.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 05:38 PM
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My wife never wanted any children.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:38 AM
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Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:37 AM
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Not untrue, but for the most part irrelevant. The young men who struggle can't get any dates, exactly zero dates for several years in a row. Anything that might later cause a relationship to fail doesn't matter at this stage. Conversely, the people who can get into relationships relatively easy will eventually figure out that the real world does not work like a movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 04:28 AM
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Below, something to know about partial differential equations: Real world (systems of) partial differential equations consist not only of the equations themselves, but usually also of initial conditions and boundary conditions. For example, to compute a weather forecast, the current weather need to be known. These initial conditions and boundary conditions need to fulfil the partial differential equations. If they don't, the problem you're trying to model is poorly defined, and attempts to solve…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:17 PM
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Are you sure you want me to post about partial differential equations?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 04:20 AM
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Doesn't take the internet for that. Just look at how people are driving.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 02:23 AM
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Don't be silly. Men also care about food (including alcohol) and about sports.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 07:28 PM
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Meghan Trainor.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 10:49 PM
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The RN payslip I got to see was quite impressive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 09:29 PM
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Would you not dump your current partner to go be with this person instead? No, I would not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 08:27 PM
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Financially, yes. Eternals made 400 million at the world wide box office. Marvels will maybe make 200 million.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 07:46 PM
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Ouch.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 07:41 PM
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You can negotiate harder when you don't need the job.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 06:21 PM
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If your estimate is correct, you should be able to eat up to 1500 kcal on your Amazon days and still lose weight at a decent pace.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 06:20 PM
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Agree with the principle, but how much calories does pushing packages burn? Or do you have to run back and forth between different conveyor belts?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 06:04 PM
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Women do that because they don't want to sit next to an unknown guy, not because that guy is ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 05:50 PM
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Unfortunately, weight loss is difficult at your size. I can eat 2000 and lose weight. You probably need to be around 1100-1200 to see progress. That's already rough. At only 700, there isn't enough fuel to keep you going while working two jobs.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 05:42 PM
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Eat more. Your calorie deficit is way too steep. Can't work two jobs while starving yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 05:21 PM
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Not very long. We fart a lot, that got sorted out quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 12:52 PM
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If your relationship does not work out, get engaged. If your relationship still does not work out, move in together. If your relationship still does not work out, get married. If your relationship still does not work out, have a child. If your relationship still does not work out, buy a house. In modern times, not necessarily in the above order.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 03:15 PM
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Luck is important, but so are accomplishments. There is the genetic lottery. A 6'1" man will have better dating opportunities than a 5'1" man. There then is situational luck. You meet somebody who considers you attractive. Well, are they currently single, or are they currently in a relationship? The outcome will be quite different. One of my relationships started as follows: both of us were going to the same event. The event was cancelled without notice, so we decided to go for a coffee. Wasn't …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 02:07 PM
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Wear whatever you want to wear. I don't care. No, doesn't make me jealous.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 07:26 PM
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It helped, but moving to a better location was more important.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:36 PM
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Are you getting stronger?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:33 PM
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Cheating is a crime in Saudi-Arabia. Do you like Saudi-Arabia's legal system? I don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:37 AM
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I would spend time with that ghost, but I would not consider that dating, as having sex with a ghost seems impractical, if not impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:35 AM
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This language usage is at least 30 years old. It became popular when people stopped marrying quickly, and started living together for several years before getting married.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 10:30 AM
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Some men like to chase. They are hunters by nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:38 AM
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Some of them have hit on my wife when I wasn't there. Doesn't happen often, less than once per year, but it does happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 05:49 AM
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On this side of the Atlantic, the homeless seem to gravitate towards public transport hubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 12:22 AM
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Are you working in a homeless shelter?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:46 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:23 PM
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Depends on where you live. In most European countries, employees can indeed just call in sick and still get paid and not get fired. They then might need a doctor's note, but that's not difficult. Never had a doctor who wouldn't write one when I needed one. That's in addition to 30 vacation days per year.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:44 AM
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"You're so lucky" (that she sexually harassed you) sounds even worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 07:10 PM
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Agree. And then they are surprised when the right wing party takes away their support, such as the Italian government just did.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 06:09 PM
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People still shit on the unemployed and on low income people, especially if they happen to have the wrong skin color or the wrong religion. Right wing/populist parties all over the world run on a platform where poor people do not deserve to get government support. And people vote for those parties. In the US, the Federal minimum wage has not been raised since 2009.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 06:01 PM
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Sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 05:29 PM
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submissive, all about the family, marriage and keeping the house clean. I'd run as fast as I can.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 02:30 PM
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That's funny. I like that. I'm glad you got rid of the loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 04:31 AM
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I have a PhD in mathematics. I usually don't mention that, because many people hated math in school. But if asked, I do tell people that I studied mathematics. Sure, they will remember that they hated math in school. But they also will automatically think that I'm smart.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 04:30 AM
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The very same people also tell you that you should buy a brand new car which you cannot afford.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 04:23 AM
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Others would ask if I was an “assistant or a receptionist”. How very nice of them to just assume that you have one of the unskilled jobs in the law firm. But assuming that the person you were talking to had a better job, and weren’t lying to puff themselves up. Which I see as very different than lying about height or weight or age. Doesn't make much of a difference to me. The fact that she is willing to lie or even prepared to lie is problematic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:27 AM
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Depending on how exactly those discussions went, that one lie could be a deal breaker for me. How am I supposed to trust her if she lies to me just like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 12:01 AM
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Just the four gym sessions. No cardio because of a minor calf injury.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 11:55 PM
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That person clearly is a survivor of emotional abuse. Surprisingly, while physical and emotional abuse are quite common, many therapists are rather clueless at helping abuse survivors. "Your mother meant well" is not what an abuse survivor needs to hear from their therapist, regardless of whether it applies or not. These poor people go from therapist to therapist and can't find the help they need.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 09:34 PM
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Both the question and the answer are dumb. For the overall benefit of society, they should stay together and thus remove each other from the dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 09:19 PM
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With all this talk about how men view relationships, it does feel like no matter how few people I have sex with, the man will still consider me “used goods” even if he’s the only one that was using them. There is some truth to this, but I believe it depends on age. An 18 year old is more likely to consider a women "used goods" than a 30 year old. The above assumes that you don't live in Saudi-Arabia.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 09:15 PM
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C
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 12:12 AM
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How much variety do you think there is in terms of who we consider attractive? Significant variety. While it is unlikely that your 10 will be my zero, your 9 can easily be a 4 or a 5 for me. That much said, some of those differences are cultural, and furthermore people who spend a lot of time with each other tend to have similar preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 11:25 PM
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Once, I made the mistake of staying in a bad relationship for too long. It wasn't working out, and it wasn't getting any better. I learned from that mistake, and did not repeat it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 08:23 PM
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Some people feel fear when alone at night in the forest, where wild animals might be around. That is natural. But we don't live alone in the forest. We live in apartments and houses, and those typically don't contain wild animals. Living alone is not inherently dangerous. It is not something you should fear. You might dislike living alone, it can be uncomfortable if you don't know how to cook, but such feelings should not be confused with fear.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 04:33 PM
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This varies a lot, and depends heavily on location and environment. At the time I studied in my hometown, in the age group of 18-35 there were 65%men/35% women in the city overall, and 85% men/15% women at university itself. That's just toxic, and even Chad couldn't get much going. Some men live at such a location, and they need to realize that and start looking for women elsewhere, or possibly move. Then, some men only have "male" interests, and everywhere they go is a sausage fest. That can be…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 06:18 AM
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If as a man you fear being alone, you are weak. What is strong or tough about fearing being alone? I agree that many men have only limited dating options. Thus, men can't be too selective. But that does not imply that a crappy relationship is good. A crappy relationship is still crappy if the man has no options. A crappy relationship is rather damaging on the long run.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 05:50 AM
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Why would you want to be with a women who won't support you when you're sad because a friend died?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 11:17 PM
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I just want to be able to get matches on Tinder and meet women at bars that want to talk to me. If that's his approach, average looks likely won't be sufficient.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 10:16 PM
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I am athletic but I have no sense of fashion whatsoever.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 07:05 AM
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Your money, your choice. Just don't complain if a man who has four times more assets than you does not want to marry you because of financial considerations.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 05:27 AM
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The trick is to not be average throughout. A man who is average in everything, that's almost hopeless. You need to have some strong sides, then you can also have some weak sides.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:51 AM
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I rejected slightly more than half of the women who approached me.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:44 AM
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Slightly above average for age 40 as he doesn't have grey hair yet nor is he fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 12:08 AM
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I am not "incredibly super duper attractive". But I have been approached by women. You're exaggerating quite a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 08:20 PM
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Approaching is not always creepy. Approaching is sometimes creepy. And this depends not only on the situation, the man's looks and his way of approaching, but also on the woman's state of mind, which in turn can depend on location. Generally speaking, if a woman has already been cold approached 20 times today (and another 20 times yesterday), she is unlikely to react nicely to number 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 02:24 PM
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No, I would not break up with her because she's boring. If I'm with her, presumably I already knew that she has boring interests. This isn't something I suddenly realize after six months or six years.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 07:54 PM
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Women get away with different awkward and shitty behavior than men. If the kids are doing poorly in school, the mother is much more likely to be blamed than the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 04:53 PM
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Being in a theater group for a few years helped me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 03:23 PM
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I believe that more than half of all adults in a monogamous relationship would cheat at some point if the right person was interested and they were confident they would not be caught. I believe that less than half of all adults in a monogamous relationship would cheat right now if the right person was interested and they were confident they would not be caught.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 08:33 AM
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Yes, but today I pulled something in my right calf. Thus, my exercise volume will be lower the next 1-2 weeks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 10:30 PM
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"Both" is a bad combination. I don't see the point in dating somebody you're not attracted to, but then if you're only attracted to a tiny percentage of women, you need to meet more of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 05:11 AM
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Are you generally encountering only very few women, or are you encountering lots of women who don't appeal to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 11:48 AM
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8.5/10.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 04:36 AM
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How do you intent to prove to your wife that none of the other babies born in your city is yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 10:18 PM
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Yes, on several occasions.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 01:36 PM
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Match.com became available early 1995. They were not even the first online dating service.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 03:00 PM
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There were dating apps in the 1990s already. They just worked a bit differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 09:58 AM
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According to a Russian friend, Moscow men are lazy alcoholics, too.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 01:46 PM
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Being only 6' tall. (At the time, some projections claimed that the average man would soon be 6'4").
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 01:18 AM
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Did you parents tell you anything regarding dating? Absolutely nothing. They did not even try to tell me anything about dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 01:08 PM
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Germans don't need English in daily life. Movies are dubbed, books are translated into German. Of course Swedes and Dutch will be better at English than Germans.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 01:06 PM
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Approaching a stranger in a public space with the intention of getting a phone number, a date, or similar.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 04:09 AM
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Your title is incorrect. Many women will be very reluctant to date friends because they fear to lose the friendship if the relationship doesn't work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:38 AM
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What is the solution, in your humble opinion? Patience. While you're single, enjoy life. Do what you want to do without having somebody nag you. Meanwhile, improve your overall situation. Exercising is good for you even when ignoring that it can help finding a partner. Taking good care of yourself is good for you even when ignoring that it can help finding a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 12:03 AM
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Not Chad. Why are you even asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 04:32 PM
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No. I might take a sip if my wife gets a coffee, and that's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:16 PM
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He isn't asking you out because he thinks you're way above his league.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:15 PM
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I think your messed up the height requirement. Women are significantly shorter than men. Searching for women 5'7" and taller is much more restrictive than searching for men 5'7" and taller. You'd rather need to search for something like "women shorter than 5'9".
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:20 AM
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Are you trying to claim that women in the 1970s did not sleep around, or that they did sleep around, but without any expectation of it turning into a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 04:31 AM
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"Ideal" does not exist. Even if you somehow would find such a person, chances are they would not want to date you. Or they have some other relevant flaws and/or incompatibilities you previously did not think about. Try to find somebody reasonably close to "ideal". Furthermore, it is likely that your preferences will chance significantly once you have been in a longer relationship. Relationship experience also might make you a better partner, which will help when you meet someone who is close to …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 04:25 AM
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Some would, some would not. Some definitely would prefer money and/or fame and/or power over physical attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 03:17 AM
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Do you consider Lizzo physically attractive? Oprah? Angela Merkel? Susan Boyle? Surely those and other successful women are not considered "unworthy".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 11:35 PM
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I am that old. Dating was more difficult before the internet. I had literally zero dates before the age of 25, and so did many of my buddies. Initially, the internet made dating easier. And no, not the shitty dating sites of the early internet, but the simple fact that the internet made getting to know new people much easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 04:23 AM
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Dating is fun only if you have a decent success rate. If your success rate is very low, dating is just hard work with no pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:20 AM
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Somewhere in the range of 30 to 35. Late 30s is when I started to decline physically despite exercising. Recovery from injury or illness takes so much longer now.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:17 AM
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From my experience, the above is the type of guy men consider assholes, and then are surprised that women date and even marry these assholes. Also, I do not claim that women who marry these assholes have said "I don't want an asshole".
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:25 PM
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Your premise is wrong. An "asshole" beats up his wife, or yells at her for half an hour for no reason at all. An "asshole" thinks that he should be allowed to fuck other women, whereas his wife is not allowed to see other men. An "asshole" tells his wife that she should kill herself. An "asshole" tells his wife that her cancer, with which she was diagnosed by her doctors, is imaginary. [All real life examples, and I could continue this list for quite some time.]
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 04:09 PM
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6818?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:30 AM
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Social circles. People hung out together in their spare time, smaller groups of people who hung out together frequently formed from there, and then couples from those groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:49 AM
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Cold approach only worked for Chad. For the average man, cold approach did not work in the 2000s, it did not work in the 1990s, and it did not work in the 1980s either.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 04:01 PM
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This is reddit. Some people downvote everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 06:58 AM
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Dating is difficult for short men, but not hopeless.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 07:28 AM
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Above average, but not top 20%. He is tall, and he has a decent face. But he also is overweight, his face isn't top 20%, and he doesn't look like he is exercising.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 07:21 PM
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But is that the truth, or is it only a trope? I know quite a few women who went into a horrible relationship knowing that the relationship would be horrible. Reasons ranged from not wanting to be alone to being in a desperate financial situation to being an abuse survivor who expected to be abused.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:13 PM
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I don't see how it would change the relationship significantly. Rather, if she does not make me feel loved, there won't be a relationship. And that, in turn, does not depend on income.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:05 PM
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This depends on how hot she is. If she is a 9/10, then 85% of the guys want to fuck her. If she is a 4/10, then her boyfriend has no real reason to be concerned.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 12:01 PM
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It would not hurt my "fragile male ego" if my partner made more than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 06:35 AM
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Germany.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 04:19 AM
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Hamas is a terrorist organisation. I don't support terrorists. Israel itself is a complicated topic. https://www.theonion.com/god-re-floods-middle-east-1819566424
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 06:25 PM
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Oh, I understand what you are doing here. American culture is so prudish. Seen from the other side of the Atlantic, this is quite puzzling.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:30 PM
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I dated a non-promiscous women. It was a trainwreck.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 09:40 PM
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The gangbang girl. Not because of the gangbang itself, but because that's her total bodycount. That's so weird. Why did she decide that's the way to lose her virginity, and why did she then never have sex again? What is going on???
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 09:30 PM
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The British Royal Family.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:20 AM
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Looks photoshopped.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 03:56 AM
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That is one possible approach, but it is by no means necessary. Some people can rely on good instincts, other people are very good at realizing they made a mistake and quickly cut their losses.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 03:54 AM
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Germany used to have a large surplus of old women, because so many men died in WW II. Almost 80 years after the end of the war, that effect now is gone. Germany then still has cities where in the age group of 18-35, there are 60% men/40% women, or vice versa (the numbers used to be even worse). That will impact dating. I.e., as a single man, avoid German cities with a large technical university and not much else. Karlsruhe, Darmstadt and Aachen come to mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 10:04 PM
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I'm in Germany, and I'm older. Even 30 years ago, women could have an n-count above 50 and except for some immigrants and perhaps some old people, hardly anybody would care.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 09:40 PM
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I think this depends on where in the world you live, and can be different even in different parts of the same country. Religion also will matter, resp. how religious/brainwashed by religion people are.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 09:17 PM
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My wife would see a target for her anger, and would go totally apeshit. [My wife is an abuse survivor.]
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 12:34 AM
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Education in Germany is managed by the individual states, and thus differs significantly by state. Especially, the school breaks also depend on state. You can find a table here, under "Herbstferien": https://www.schulferien.org/deutschland/ferien/2023/ You can see that some states have a school break first half of October, some states have a school break second half of October, and some states have only a very short autumn school break. October isn't a major vacation season for Germans. No, the …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 02:15 AM
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I will claim that on average, women have lower self confidence than men. Not because of biological reasons, but because the genders are socialized differently and because the beauty industry tries to guilt trip women into buying their products. Approaching somebody when your self confidence is low can be quite difficult even if chances of success are somewhat decent.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 02:00 AM
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Not really. Women can, for example, give advise on how to dress. But they usually have very little clue about the root causes of an individual man's problems with dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 01:54 AM
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It would definitely increase the murder rate and the suicide rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:01 AM
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I was on the bus when some creep tried to drag a child out of the bus. The child did not seem to be his. Other passengers and me ganged up against the creep. The bus driver locked the doors and called the police. The police showed up after a few minutes and arrested the creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:31 PM
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On the internet, nobody knows you're a dog. Men might behave one way on social media but then have a totally different personality in real life. On misogynist guy I remember was quite aggressive on the internet. In real life, he was a wimp who was physically abused by his wife. So he took out his anger on random women on the internet.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:28 PM
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Procrastination.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 06:34 PM
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but there are about 40 men for every 60 women on many college campuses Even if true, that does not help those men who are students at other campuses where the ratio between the genders is much worse for men. Below the numbers for Georgia Tech: https://irp.gatech.edu/disclosures/student-demographics Undergraduate students: 60.7% men Graduate students: 72.6% men Overall: 67.8% men [I am not associated with GT in any way. GT just is a university where I expected more than 50% men.]
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 12:55 PM
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This depends so much on location and environment. When I was a student, my home town had a gender ratio of 65% men/35% women in the age group of 18-35. University itself was 19k men/3k women. Even the tall, good looking guy with a lot of money from his famous father was single for quite some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 04:13 PM
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2120 - I want to know how the show ends.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 11:57 AM
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A single mom is not a "red flag" as such. Relationships fail, and contraception can fail. It can become a red flag if, for example, the "single mom" is still living with her ex. But beyond that, dating a single mom is complicated, and many men don't want such complications.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 05:36 AM
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can lift her over his shoulders I wonder how heavy she is. Is a push jerk allowed, or does he have to strict press her overhead?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 07:23 AM
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Some women are turned off by that, some women aren't. Different people have different preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 03:33 AM
3

Sometimes, all that is needed is a change of location or a change of environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 02:14 AM
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Forget about looks for a moment. Consider two identical twins. One of the twins is very religious and wants to wait for marriage. The other one is a party girl with an n-count above 30. Which twin do you think is easier to get? With which twin would you expect better sex? Which twin would be a better match for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 10:02 AM
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This depends heavily on location. In the US, cops don't have a duty to rescue, and furthermore calling the cops can sometimes make things worse than they already are. In the European city where I live, cops will be there in 5-10 minutes (BTDT), and they have gone through several years of training. They know what they are doing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 11:15 PM
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5 is average. 4 is marginally below average. ghastly looking is a 2.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 11:22 AM
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Nothing useful. My parents were not helpful, and neither was their weirdly dysfunctional relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 09:47 PM
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Here's a real life scenario. I rejected a good looking woman because she was literally stupid as fuck. That is, she was so stupid that perhaps she wasn't even legally able to give consent. Do you really think I should have told her "I'm not banging you because you're stupid as fuck"?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:42 PM
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Stay away from the idiots who claim that women having male friends is a red flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 08:33 PM
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No. In any case, weight is overrated, as it can change relatively quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 09:00 PM
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A Hitler haircut and a Hitler moustache.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 08:36 PM
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Q4Men: How often do you think about the Roman Empire? Less than once per week. Why would I?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 08:33 PM
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People want to have sex, but don't want to be in a relationship, as that brings additional obligations.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/23 08:20 PM
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It depends. There is a skills component there, some guys are just better at dating. It depends on looks and on height, short men are at a disadvantage. It depends very heavily on location. On average, it is moderately hard. The average guy does not have to put in too much effort to get at minimum several dates per year. Dates with women he considers attractive, that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:15 PM
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That whole "league" thing is just nonsense. There are no "dating leagues". What is attractive, how attractive individuals are, is very subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 03:06 AM
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No. However, I sometimes wish that I could switch genders once in a while.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 05:07 PM
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Absolutely correct. If the Prince does not slay a dragon for you, he is no Prince. You deserve much better than such a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 07:04 PM
2

The average young guy 50 years ago was in much better shape than the average young guy nowadays.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 06:40 PM
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Stay at home all day long. Close the window and wait for your prince or princess to knock on the window.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 06:37 PM
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The other way round. Lack of self confidence is unattractive, resp. attracts only a women who are looking for a relationship where they can dominate and/or control their partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 04:57 AM
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Well, that same guy also considered Margot Robbie a "mid". I think Emma Stone is about a 7, and Margot Robbie is at least an 8.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:12 PM
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Plot twist: he's a millionaire in Zimbabwean dollars.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 10:09 PM
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Yes. So far, 20 miles of running and one hour in the gym. That's still below my normal average, but was sick for two weeks in August, and thus not yet back to my normal training volume.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 07:50 PM
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This is a two-edged sword. Yes, older people are more experienced and might be able to share relevant information. OTOH, the situation of young people now is different to both the situation of older people now and the situation of those older people when they were young.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:08 PM
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No, and I did not expect it to do anything like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 07:04 PM
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No. No. No. No. No. Yes. No. No.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:35 PM
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I have rejected a woman who wanted me to bang her, and once she realized I really wasn't interested, she went straight to some random good looking guy and they disappeared into the night together.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 02:33 PM
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1947??? No. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_Japan#/media/File:Births_and_Total_fertility_rate_of_Japan.svg Japan had a population boom after WW II. That population boom ended in 1951 when the Japanese government decided to heavily promote birth control. The Japanese timeline for hormonal birth control is very different. The IUD was legalized in 1974, oral contraceptives were legalized only in 1999. https://www.latimes.com/archives/la-xpm-1999-jun-03-mn-43662-story.html
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 01:33 AM
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No. If anything, my "biological duty" would be to not spread my genes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:35 AM
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The birth rate declined in the 1960s, when reliable contraception became widely available.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/23 02:33 AM
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As I already explained elsewhere in this thread, at the time, the gender ratio was 65% men/35% women in the age group 18-35. The environment that created was the reason for those over the top aggressive reactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 03:14 PM
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Nah. For example, I was at the gym working out. A woman lifted some impressive weights at the leg press. Thus, I gave a her a harmless compliment, not thinking much about it. I wasn't actually interested in anything at the time, albeit there was no way for her to know that. That already got "Fuck off, asshole".
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 02:53 PM
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The reactions of women to cold approaching depends very much on the environment. At the time, my home town had a ratio of 65% men/35% women in the age group of 18-35, and university was approximately 19k men/3k women. Thus, any woman who wasn't super ugly and spend some time at public locations probably was cold approached at least five times per day and was totally sick of it. Thus the over the top aggressive reactions. Wasn't obvious to me while I lived there. Became totally obvious after movi…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 12:59 PM
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Using your video game analogy, the goal is to beat the boss. The goal is not to beat the boss using a certain approach. If you tried the same approach a few times, and it never came close to beating the boss, it is time to try a different approach. If the boss does not take any fire damage, you need to stop trying to defeat the boss with flamethrowers. Cold approaching women does not work for some men, regardless of social skills. Cold approaching women does not work in some environments, regard…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 12:00 PM
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Ok, so you cold approach them. They tell you "Fuck off, asshole." You cold approach another one. She ignores you. You cold approach another one. She tells you to "fuck off, creep." You cold approach another one. She ignores you. You cold approach another one. She threatens to call her boyfriend to beat you up. And so on. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. I have had decent success approaching women who have known me for some time. I …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 11:23 AM
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Well, you're painting an incomplete picture of the average man there. He also is a bit overweight, 195-215 lbs. He is financially constrained because of a combination of student loans, car payments, credit card debt and perhaps even child support payments for a child from a previous relationship. He has a misdemeanor on his criminal record. He owns two guns.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 12:05 AM
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Dating applications have been around since the mid 1990s at least. Some of them were phone based, select "1" if you are a man looking for a woman. Some of them were browser based. Overall, they had fewer users than dating apps nowadays. Fatherlessness is a problem, but it isn't the cause for young men struggling with dating. Most fathers can't help their sons, because the last time that father was on the dating market was 25 years earlier when things were very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 08:57 PM
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Self confidence is attractive. "Bad boys" often have decent self confidence. Mistreating women is not attractive. But quite a few women are not in a good place mentally, for example because have been abused by their parents. Those women then might be attracted to men who actually mistreat them. Or they might make poor choices for themselves because they don't expect any better.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/23 03:07 AM
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Family dynamics, probably combined with the pressure to create storylines for reality TV. All Kardashians show some such behavior, Khloe is just the most extreme case.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 10:16 PM
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I don't perceive this as dishonesty. Rather, I perceive it as self damaging behavior. Checking some boxes on some checklist isn't sufficient for attraction. If a woman isn't attracted to you, she likely won't date you even if you are 6' tall (and thus check that box). Conversely, I have a strong preference for dark hair, but that does in no way imply that I deem every dark haired woman attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 09:59 PM
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Sure, good looking men can get away with more. But I don't think that's what's going on here. Khloe isn't taking back Thompson time and again because of his good looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 09:37 PM
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Of course they aren't, or at least most of them aren't. But they provide an example we can discuss. If I were to bring up some women from my personal life who made such decisions, you'd have no clue what I'm talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 09:08 PM
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Her being rude does not cancel physical attractiveness. But, for example, her being an habitual liar does.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 09:05 PM
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Some of what you write is true, but men don't actually resent women for having standards. Rather, men are confused when women have highly inconsistent or insane standards. Consider, say, Khloe Kardashian's relationship to habitual cheater Tristan Thompson. Time and again, she takes him back, hoping that somehow things will be different this time, but of course they aren't. Sure, one could write some lengthy psychology essays on that, but does this look like a woman in her 30s making good decisio…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 08:55 PM
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We have a pretty good idea when the switch from hunter-gather nomadic livestyles to permanent settlements and farming started, about 12,000 years ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 05:47 PM
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Farming started much later. The early humans were hunter-gatherers, nomads, not farmers.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 11:17 AM
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Height needs to be seen not as an absolute number, but relative to the general population. The average young Hispanic, Mexican or Latino American woman is just 5'2.5". Yeah, they will date 5'5" guys. Makes sense. But how many couples do you see where the women is of normal height, and is four or more inches taller than her boyfriend? In my country, the average young man is 5'11.5". There is no relevant Hispanic or Latino minority of any kind. The average young woman is 5'7", and is quite unlikel…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 01:53 PM
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Like I can't think of a single adult man that I've come across in my lifetime who didn't have some kind of a relationship or love life. People who struggle with such basic social skills aren't people in my peripheral. Actually, this often has very little to do with social skills. I even have a female relative who is now in her mid twenties and never had a boyfriend. Slightly above average looks, slightly underweight, extroverted, pretty high social skills. Still nothing, even though young women …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 05:35 AM
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Dating very much depends on location. Do you live in a city with 65% men/35% women in the age group 18-35? Your chances are tiny from the get go, and average or worse below average looks will make your situation worse. Do you live in a city with 35% men/65% women in the age group 18-35? You will do just fine on average looks. Are you trying to find somebody via a dating app? Then looks matter a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 01:15 PM
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You are missing half of the picture. Lashing out against abusers and bullies will often get them to stop. In 10th grade, I knocked out one of the most aggressive bullies. That lucky punch instantly resolved all problems I had with him, he never bothered me again.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 06:41 AM
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Casual sex is easier to get than relationships. For many men, the choice is between casual sex once in a while and nothing for 5+ years.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:40 PM
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I am 6 ft, but my gf has said if I was shorter, she wouldn't have dated me. She has told you who she is. Why are you dating her?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 01:33 PM
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I am saying it is the wrong time. If both them and me were single, the situation would be different, and it would not be the wrong time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 02:15 PM
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In this scenario, they are in a relationship. If they were willing to leave their current partner to be with me, I would not be interested in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:51 PM
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You meet somebody who would be a good match, but they are in a relationship. That's the right person at the wrong time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:36 PM
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I will only date a woman if I deem her attractive enough that I would not leave her for another, more attractive woman. There, personality is relevant. My wife is a nerd, and that is attractive for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 07:06 AM
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I don't care much about weight. That much said, I consider neither super skinny nor morbidly obese to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 06:47 AM
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I don't care much about weight, but lying will disqualify you.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 01:28 PM
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Let me introduce you to the friend zone. Friend zone, this is womanese. Womanese, this is the friend zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 03:10 AM
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That's exactly the kind of reporting expected from the rag known as the Daily Fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/23 02:33 AM
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I can't stand stupidity.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:27 PM
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A relevant minority of men prefer "gorgeous, dumb, immature", but I don't think I can estimate a percentage. I am pretty confident that it is not a majority, at least not where I live.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 08:17 AM
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Your claim that dating is difficult for older women (say, age 60+) is correct. Most men don't say that women would become attractive by being skinny. Men say that overweight women can improve by losing weight. That's not the same statement. Men are not a uniform group. Different men have different preferences. Being slightly overweight is still fine. But for obese women, the dating pool is much smaller. There then are no guarantees, not even for young women. But on average, young women have sign…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 02:50 AM
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If she were just fucking a string of Chads while not getting anything tangible back, that would still make sense. I can see how that would feel good for a while. But she also seems to be willing to bang Chads who are being rude to her. That is self damaging.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 09:48 PM
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Probably not. Doesn't align with my preferences. I might date "fat, interesting, smart", but I would not date "slim, gorgeous, dull, stupid".
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 09:21 PM
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Well, if that's how you are, then I would not be interested in having you anywhere in my life. And no, good looks won't change that. And, frankly, with an attitude like this he (chad) can be rude and selfish you're setting up yourself for some painful experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 07:47 PM
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It is easier for an 18 year old woman to be considered attractive than for an 18 year old man. It is more difficult for a 60 year old woman to be considered attractive than for a 60 year old man.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 09:27 PM
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Success in college depends a lot on the total amount of work you're putting in over the years. I believe that on average women are putting more work into their education than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 09:25 PM
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Ah, "online". Quite a few people are turning into assholes online, where rude behavior usually does not have any real repercussions. In the real world, the asshole is sitting in front of his game console all day long, is addicted to alcohol, and does not actually work out. Their fictional online achievements is all they have.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 12:45 PM
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I don't admire men for having sex with lots of women. My typical thoughts are along the lines of "What? You left your wife to bang your best friend's girlfriend, who is 15 years older than you? Do you have your midlife crises at age 25 already?"
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 08:46 PM
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For men: Golf. For women: Dressage.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 11:14 PM
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I am a guy. I had really bad back pain at age 20 already, despite being anorexic at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 12:44 PM
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Subreddits will be flooded with garbage if the moderation does not work. The good content moves elsewhere, and the spam and the memes remain.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 11:03 PM
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I can leg curl 110 kg for a couple reps on the sitting leg curl machine. But that's a meaningless number, as different leg curl machines have different levers, and might be significantly easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 11:01 PM
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The ears are bad, pretty much everything else had held up fine for his age (he's 56). I'd give him a 6.5 for a man in his mid 50s.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 10:52 PM
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Different people have different preferences and may behave differently at different times or in somewhat similar, but still different situations. Thus, don't overthink this. Do what you feel and think is the right thing for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 07:57 PM
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Good question. Physically and/or emotionally abusive, misogynist, egoistic, no integrity.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 07:15 PM
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Yes. Some women care about looks. Some women care about money. Some women care about social status. Some women care about good sex. Some women care about other things. Usually it is some combination of the above. And some women make really bad choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 07:02 PM
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It would be understandable if (some) women had a tendency to prefer good looking assholes over ugly nice guys. Looks are important. But see, the assholes those women prefer over average looking nice guys aren't even good looking. They are out of shape. They are fat. They are lazy. They don't have much money either. Being an asshole is all those men have to offer, and yet that seems to be sufficient. That is the disturbing part, not that good looking assholes get dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 05:31 PM
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I'm pretty sure pigs have been transported by plane before. Thus, you do have a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 01:22 AM
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Different people care about different things. Some guys don't care about anything. 20 years older than him, somewhat ugly, literally the girlfriend of one of his buddies? Doesn't matter. For me, if a woman is smart, that literally will improve my opinion on how beautiful she is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 11:48 PM
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99.99% of people don't want me. I don't want 99.99% of them either. There is nothing insulting in somebody not wanting me.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 05:47 PM
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While being obese is not attractive, being lean and fit by itself does not guarantee dates. It just improves one component out of many.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:33 AM
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Most people who think they are ugly or far below average actually are somewhere around average. To see that, just spend a few minutes on one of those "am I ugly" subreddits.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 03:43 PM
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I would not. Does not appeal to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 04:29 AM
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1, 2 & 8 have some appeal, the others don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 11:44 PM
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It happens, yes. However, often it is more ambiguous than a man would be. "I heard you will be moving. I could travel (300 miles) to your place and help you move." What exactly is that supposed to mean? You don't know, and that's by design.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 09:32 PM
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15-27 I struggled, as did a lot of my buddies, even the guy who looked great and had a shitload of money from his lawyer father. The demographics in my home town were just horrible at the time, with about 65% men in the 18-35 age group.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 05:51 AM
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I think about food more often than I think about sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 10:52 PM
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I feel like there are 10x more single mother than 15 years ago. I don't think so. You're just 15 years older. At age 20, you were trying to date 20 year old women rather than women in their 30s. There are fewer 20 year old single mothers than there are 35 year old single mothers. (Details can vary depending on which subset of the population you're looking at).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 01:48 PM
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I never was interested in dating stupid women, regardless of looks. Not even a ONS. However, that's not a statement about her career or formal level of education. Poverty is fine, I just can't stand stupidity. If contraception fails (more likely than normal if she is stupid), I would be tied to the idiot one way or another for 18+ years. Hell, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 06:19 AM
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Different people have different preferences. You do you. I don't think that for you dating somebody you don't actually want to date would be a "great" experience. OTOH, I do know a guy who for some time happily fucked any woman who was not up on a tree on a count of three, regardless of looks, and that approach seemed to be what he wanted at the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/23 09:24 PM
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No longer in my 30s, but when I was in my 30s, the women I was interested in were approximately the same age, +/- 3-5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 03:50 AM
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I would think that I just found out why his previous relationships failed.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 05:29 PM
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Maybe an example helps. Yesterday, I had a medical appointment. The receptionist made eye contact with me. But clearly, she wasn't trying to signal any interest. Rather, she makes eye contact with the patients because that makes her job easier - communicating with patients is her job.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 01:04 PM
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Different men have different preferences. The beauty industry spreads difficult to achieve beauty ideals so that they can sell more of their products.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 12:43 PM
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If the 12 years younger woman is emotionally mature, then it would not be gross. But the creeps usually look for emotionally immature women with low self confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:16 AM
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Women have a longer life expectancy. When feeling sad, an increased chance that other people will comfort you rather than tell you to be a man and suck it up. When pregnant, you can be 100.00% certain that the baby is yours. People won't consider you a potential rapist or pedo just because of your gender. In quite a few countries, women won't be drafted in case of a war.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/23 11:11 AM
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Eye contact does not mean interest, but quite a few people will misinterpret eye contact as interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 10:52 PM
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Single. I've been in a moderately bad (not even horrible) relationship where the woman even earned a decent amount of money, and it still wasn't worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 04:51 PM
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Do not trust any statistics you did not fake yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 01:18 AM
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I'm not ugly. But I was born in a city where in the 18-35 age group, there were almost twice as many men as women. I no longer live there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/23 02:39 PM
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Multiple hits to the head with a bat. My wife is fearless and your scenario will make her rage angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 06:30 PM
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In your example, that guy is 100% dead. Last mistake of his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/23 05:50 PM
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