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| 9 | I'm not funny. Any tips on how to fix this? | Rreptillian | /r/seduction | 23/12/12 04:48 AM | |
| 4 | Tinder- matches; no conversations | Rreptillian | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 05:58 AM |
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| 2 | DONT BE AFRAID TO LOSE SOME FRIENDSWith a long-term relationship, you gain the ability to sit them down and explain in clear terms what about their behavior upsets you and give them a chance to react as they choose. They can either correct their behavior and preserve your relationship, explain why your request is unreasonable, or simply choose to be selfish and throw the relationship away. In any case, you don't have to feel any guilt about destroying an old friendship. Ideally, I wish I could do this to everyone since I think gh… | /r/seduction | 13/07/19 07:36 PM |
| 1 | Askwomen sub "why a second date?"I'm not saying said books don't exist but I don't think they would be the most efficient way to improve. I think that like with any other skill, it really comes down to practice. Theory can help get you off the ground but there's more than enough of that in this thread already. | /r/seduction | 21/06/19 03:54 PM |
| 1 | When you stop and think about it, it's crazy how much society pushes this idea that you are not good enough for beautiful women...Get rekt. Those boys should have held out or got a good career. | /r/seduction | 28/05/19 07:48 PM |
| 2 | When you stop and think about it, it's crazy how much society pushes this idea that you are not good enough for beautiful women...Agree completely. I made peace with perhaps being lonely forever. If that's the price of high standards then so be it. I'm in medical school so worst comes to worst I can always afford a mistress. | /r/seduction | 28/05/19 06:28 AM |
| 3 | When you stop and think about it, it's crazy how much society pushes this idea that you are not good enough for beautiful women...I think that's because our society pushes marriage for the wrong reasons, and not because marriage itself is doomed to fail. Pick a woman whom you respect and who wants to work together to build your lives instead of marrying the first hottie who falls for you and you're much less likely to end up sad and/or divorced. | /r/seduction | 28/05/19 02:32 AM |
| 0 | I'm ready to be the girl who has game.That's fair enough, but OP literally said "I shouldn't have to be the one doing the approaching." I agree women should take a more active role in their dating but this is not that. | /r/seduction | 30/04/19 02:54 PM |
| 6 | Numbers GameThis is actually pretty telling to that point. Think of how long it takes you to get 86 matches. I can get a phone number a week off of day game easily. So I can do in three months what takes me over a year to do by dating apps. | /r/seduction | 07/04/19 09:50 PM |
| 36 | I finally talked to a girl without giving a fuck.Precisely. You do your part, then ask, and from there it's just a series of dice rolls. Some proportion will say yes, then some proportion will actually show up to a meeting, then some proportion will actually see you again. At each step, demonstrate interest without dependence and amuse yourself and the rest will follow. | /r/seduction | 01/03/19 04:08 AM |
| 2 | I don’t understand how people meet women in college.or just... do yoga? it's legit decent exercise and more difficult than it looks. do hot yoga instead of saunas on rest days it's actually pretty great | /r/seduction | 23/02/19 01:50 AM |
| 5 | How to respond to girls who have difficulty opening up?Bear in mind, if you're looking for something long term girls like this are likely pretty insecure about themselves and therefore not ideal for a relationship. Be sure you're good with that. | /r/seduction | 29/12/18 02:49 AM |
| 1 | This Youtube video I found kind of fucked with my head and made me see something in myself that was holding me back a lot. I'd never heard any one else talk about it so I thought I'd share (TL;DR stop chasing self-esteem/confidence in life, instead just try to be as self-compassionate as possible).I think you need both. As you said esteem without acceptance causes narcissism, but acceptance without esteem allows weakness. Drive yourself to improve but accept that you are doing your best and and failure is necessary for improvement. | /r/seduction | 05/12/18 05:27 AM |
| 5 | Got my first date this weekendthat sounds ideal. you've done your part by planning. now go in with the mindset of finding out whether she's fun enough to keep around or not. | /r/seduction | 14/11/18 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Why you should ALWAYS try to number-closei'm just some squid but i really like your perspective on social media. i haven't seen that kind of manipulation firsthand but i totally believe it can happen. but i'm sure i think so because it's convenient for me to believe since i have virtually no social media haha | /r/seduction | 27/10/18 04:39 PM |
| 1 | So the good looking guy in my friend group is a virgin but the obnoxious one who pees on cars gets laid all the time?d | /r/seduction | 24/10/18 07:47 PM |
| 1 | The Illusion of Beautiful Womenthere's a way less extreme way to avoid idolizing. just decide beforehand what set of traits (personal or physical) are important to you in a potential partner. once you've mentally flipped the game to you selecting them and not them selecting you it gets way easier to maintain frame. | /r/seduction | 24/10/18 05:37 PM |
| 5 | I don't care about girls. Is it something wrong with me?I'm kind of the same way, just 7 years older. I've found that what you're doing is basically what's good for me too. Just take care to make sure you are making yourself do enough social things to maintain a social circle sufficient for your needs. For me, that means playing a game or two of DotA with my college friends and meeting my high school friend for dinner each week. I usually want to do these things, but not always. But I make myself do it anyway because I need those people to keep me ba… | /r/seduction | 21/10/18 07:55 PM |
| 1 | X-year-old still a virginTruth. | /r/seduction | 14/10/18 06:17 PM |
| 2 | X-year-old still a virginWell, it's a little more complex than that. Basically it's insecurity. A little is good, motivates you to improve, but I have more than a little. Unfortunately, there's no easy way to conquer insecurity. I just have to go about the process of improving those things in myself I can control (discipline, exercise, work). It's slow but it does get better. I'm 23 and kissed my first girlfriend a little over a year ago FWIW | /r/seduction | 14/10/18 04:10 PM |
| 15 | X-year-old still a virginIdk where you live, but here in Texas your work mates are usually not your "mates." It's actually quite rare we end up making friends from work. | /r/seduction | 14/10/18 04:06 PM |
| 5 | The Difference Between the actual person and the person you think you knowthis sub is like Batman. it was there for us when we needed it, not when we deserved it. and now, the time has come. it takes the fall, but one day... when night is darkest. it will return. | /r/seduction | 15/09/18 04:25 AM |
| 1 | I would just make girls like me but after that I would realise that I dont like her, I just like being liked.They never learned how to appreciate the benefits of a long term relationship. They focused instead on the rush of an attractive person's attention. I think this is what you're describing and you're not wrong, it is a hell of a rush. Problem is that if this is what you look for, you'll look for a woman who gives you the strongest rush. This selects for extremely attractive but also extremely narcissistic women who enjoy playing the relationship like a game. I don't know about you, but that sound… | /r/seduction | 08/09/18 03:34 AM |
| 28 | I would just make girls like me but after that I would realise that I dont like her, I just like being liked.I agree. And, to OP, you've just successfully discovered a psychological trait in yourself which is highly adaptive for your current life. The caveat is I've met a lot of people who are disabled in long-term relationships by this approach. If that's ever something you want, you will have to change this about yourself. | /r/seduction | 06/09/18 07:34 PM |
| 39 | I approached a girl for the first time todayWas 22 when I got with my first gf. Don't sweat it. | /r/seduction | 24/04/18 05:17 PM |
| 4 | Clubs suck for meeting women. Do you agree with this article?Yeah, if you're white. | /r/seduction | 14/10/17 07:42 PM |
| 7 | Solid AdviceOk, take this example. I'm currently chatting with a girl who works as a librarian. The conversation turned to why I like sci-fi and she proceeds to destroy me for holding an opinion she doesn't agree with. This would be fine if done in a teasing manner, but everything about her tone suggests she is simply trying to pick a fight and intimidate me with her intellect. I have seen this same behavior pattern before in a family member, and I know from experience that their issue is fundamentally one … | /r/seduction | 14/10/17 03:00 PM |
| 1 | The girl in my math classI wouldn't worry too much about her friends. Ideally you might be able to find a time when they are otherwise engaged but I would say not wasting your time is more important in this case so the next time y'all walk in before class actually starts just say hi to all three of them, apologize for interrupting, and ask the girl out for coffee or something similarly casual. | /r/seduction | 11/10/17 03:43 PM |
| 1 | Tinder- matches; no conversationsDope thanks for the write-up! | /r/seduction | 09/10/17 07:13 PM |
| 7 | The most unforgettable date, with motivation from this sub (I'm female)She never asked for anything, and even attempted to contribute several times. Not her fault, although what you have described does happen and is certainly worth being vigilant for. In this case, I can only hope the guy is wholeheartedly happy to have spent so much without any erroneous expectations. This is possible if he is either above average wealthy or highly driven by emotional reward. | /r/seduction | 17/07/17 02:50 PM |
| 1 | How To Connect With Girls, By Being Your Weird-Ass Self [xpost from /r/socialskills]No, unfortunately. I realize this may not be the path for everyone but what worked best for me was just nutting up to the fact that some proportion of people are just guaranteed to dislike me no matter what. I think if you can train your brain to not sweat the awkward moments and just do your best to learn from them and enjoy the process you'll start picking up interaction skills quicker than you may expect. | /r/seduction | 22/04/17 04:45 PM |
| 1 | How To Connect With Girls, By Being Your Weird-Ass Self [xpost from /r/socialskills]That tonality and pacing can only be improved by practice. | /r/seduction | 22/04/17 12:03 PM |
| 4 | The most important thing about seduction is not being more emotionally invested in her than she is in you.My experience from my own life is quite limited, but I can offer my opinion. For me, my most healthy and enjoyable relationships have been based upon equivalent levels of mutual interest. Both physical and emotional. I think going for emotional investment imbalance is probably a good way to get laid a lot but may also lead to inconsistent quality of relationships if that is what you are interested in. I think ultimately a lot of this comes down to what you are really looking for. Spend a good de… | /r/seduction | 13/04/17 04:05 AM |
| 1 | I've read about confidence a million times, but realistically how do you start off with flirting with a girl?For me the biggest difference came when I established a different mental frame. I had to sort of tell myself that I was attractive and that my attention is a valuable sexual commodity until I believed it. I started with just making and holding eye contact with pretty girls on campus; some will avoid or ignore you, most will look at you indifferently, some will smile or blush and look away. I used the latter group as reinforcement that I really am attractive to some proportion of girls, and the o… | /r/seduction | 12/02/17 05:25 PM |
| 2 | Mathematically speaking, you're cheating yourself by not talk to "her"Even if "A" or "B" or "C" < "D" "A+B+C" >> "D" It's late and I'm sleep-deprived. Hope that made sense. | /r/seduction | 11/04/16 07:45 AM |
| 1 | Nothing can stop me now!This subreddit is not about learning the skills to improve your success rate with women. This place is about teaching you to have to confidence to slog through failures until you find someone who makes you happy. That being said, good luck. | /r/seduction | 22/02/16 03:37 AM |
| 1 | 9 Types of Girls (Enneagram)Always remember that people can be combinations of these various types. I myself am some hybrid of types 4 and 5. | /r/seduction | 02/08/14 02:11 PM |
| 2 | I'm not funny. Any tips on how to fix this?Solid advice as well. Will definitely take some practice to become spontaneous, but worth the effort. | /r/seduction | 27/12/12 02:55 AM |
| 0 | The Actual Rules of Alpha-Male.You could probably pull this off way better if you get philosophical about it. Like talk about how important you think it is that you can appreciate the sheer beauty of a fit human form, and therefore wish to have one yourself. | /r/seduction | 24/12/12 07:17 PM |
| 4 | I'm not funny. Any tips on how to fix this?Thanks, I think this is what I'll do. Appreciate the advice. | /r/seduction | 23/12/12 05:58 PM |
| 1 | I'm not funny. Any tips on how to fix this?Thanks man, it does. I do realize this may be the wrong subreddit, as I'm just looking to improve what I see as a minor weakness in myself. No big deal, just something I want to do because I can. | /r/seduction | 23/12/12 05:50 AM |
| 1 | I'm not funny. Any tips on how to fix this?See my edit. Do you think I'm fine as I am? I have considered perhaps I don't necessarily need to be funny to be entertaining. It's just that I feel insecure about my inability to make people laugh. Even though I am the leader of both of my friends groups, I am never the one who gets people to literally roll on the floor. Instead, I am the one going crazy laughing. | /r/seduction | 23/12/12 05:32 AM |
| 1 | Alpha guidelinesI enjoy this. | /r/seduction | 29/11/12 04:37 AM |
| -1 | Alpha guidelinesOr Decapitated. Or Fleshgod Apocalypse. Or Psycroptic. OR FUCKIN BOLT THROWER. | /r/seduction | 28/11/12 05:17 AM |
| 2 | Alpha guidelinesGood man. | /r/seduction | 28/11/12 05:16 AM |
| 3 | For newbies, here's how strip clubs can help youNow I know where this lyric at 1:24 comes from. | /r/seduction | 04/11/12 06:14 AM |
| 2 | Short jokes for text game...plot twist - i'm indian. | /r/seduction | 25/10/12 01:34 AM |
| 1 | Is giggling a good sign?she definitely wants the d. | /r/seduction | 24/10/12 04:56 AM |
| 8 | Short jokes for text game...no. black people aren't allowed to have a sense of humor. /sarcasm | /r/seduction | 24/10/12 12:58 AM |
| 3 | What is a good direct opening line?i actually watched that just to see his hair. was not disappoint. | /r/seduction | 22/10/12 04:32 AM |
| 1 | I have problems having one on one conversations. Not just with girls but with anyone. Even family members, and friends. I need help Seddit.when it comes to family and other guys, you don't have to be interesting/funny. talk about anything you want to, including negative things, and your platonic relationships will slowly begin to improve. | /r/seduction | 21/10/12 04:39 AM |
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