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DISCUSSIONRuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 04:05 PM
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FIELD REPORTRuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 11:24 PM
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NICE FOR WHAT?Ruinedgirl22/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 07:03 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYRuinedgirl22/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 10:56 AM
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SELF IMPROVEMENTRuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 02:21 PM
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FIELD REPORTRuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 06:19 PM
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ADVICERuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 03:26 PM
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FIELD REPORTRuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 08:54 PM
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ADVICERuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 11:59 PM
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DISCUSSIONRuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 02:35 AM
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DATING ADVICERuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 10:29 PM
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DISCUSSIONRuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 12:23 PM
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DISCUSSIONRuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 02:51 PM
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Ruinedgirl22/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 09:05 PM
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ADVICERuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 10:57 AM
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DISCUSSIONRuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 04:40 PM
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DISCUSSIONRuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen13/10/18 02:31 AM
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ADVICERuinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 01:13 PM
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Ruinedgirl22/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 08:07 PM
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LEVEL UPRuinedgirl22/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/19 10:31 PM
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Pre fucking cisely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 10:04 PM
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SPOT. ON. The most popular roms/novels have this storyline exactly (fifty shades, anyone?). It’s really no wonder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 08:53 PM
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Why else would they try to oppress us so damn hard?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 10:49 PM
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I’ve been thinking about this a lot actually. Another reason why it’s SO batshit that men think we’re controlled by our vaginas when they can’t go a few hours without stroking their penis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 10:47 PM
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Holy shit! I thought I was alone in that I fall asleep right after an orgasm. Every other woman claimed it had no effect on them and they just want more. Now I realized they said that because they were having sex and didn’t actually orgasm. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 10:43 PM
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You know what’s funny? The reasons you listed for disliking men are genuine things they can help. The reason the manosphere lists for disliking women are things we can’t help (not wanting to fuck them, liking alphas over betas, decreased fertility with age etc).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 03:36 PM
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Mental strength, an innate sense of worth, abundance, a big heart, whatever the opposite of a herd mentality is, no fear of not fitting in/looking bad in front of the boys, independent, naturally attractive is good but knowing how to take care of his appearance is better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 02:44 PM
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My thoughts exactly!! I can’t even fathom being bitter at someone for something they so obviously didn’t control just because it doesn’t benefit me. Men are something special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 05:22 PM
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Honestly I don’t like giving so much attention to these subs but if reddit ever decides to quarantine or ban us, they better take them down, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 04:29 PM
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Girl you are AMAZING!!! A true queen! 👑I know many, many women (me included) desired a community just like this but were too afraid to make one knowing there would be a crap ton of backlash. Yes, there IS a crap ton of backlash but it’s also growing like crazy. You should be sooo proud you did something not many have the guts to do. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 03:56 PM
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Holy shit exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 11:20 AM
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This is it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 01:13 AM
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Every other post was hear wrenching as hell XD the stuff they let their “captains” put them through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 01:12 AM
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Awww thanks sis. ❤️EXACTLY!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 01:11 AM
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This is very very true. Experienced it myself in a different situation.
/r/RedPillWomen08/10/18 10:58 AM
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I think that’s awesome! If you’re able to spend that a month, why not? Obviously I’m biased but I think it’s worth it especially since painting them isn’t an option. Having them done is so important to your overall look (and confidence).
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 02:44 PM
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Oooh I never thought of getting the top coat! Getting that today lol. Yeah I don’t blame your husband. Life would be great if I could spare that much a month but, yea, not smart at the moment
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 02:37 PM
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I totally agree with you although this is pretty controversial. You don’t have to be all dressed up and you don’t even have to wear makeup- just make sure that you look at least feminine. I personally love wearing camisoles and short sleep shorts. They’re very comfy yet they show off my figure.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 01:43 PM
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Same lol I’m always naked XD I don’t think my man will mind
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/18 01:38 PM
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Where I’m from, thick/curvy women are the absolute IDEAL. The golden rule to be as thin as (healthily) possible has always kind of confused me. Men don’t tend to like women thin over here. From your picture, you look great! I’m envious lol EDIT: I’m in an area that’s majorly Hispanic/Latino and we’re pretty much renown for liking a bit of meat on the bones. So, there’s that
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 06:53 PM
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I honestly really appreciate you saying this. I’ve definitely been stuck in a negative, self-hating rut and I was too deep into it to realize how I’ve been coming off.
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/18 02:18 AM
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Sadly, I just kind of accepted that I’ll always be attached and remain celibate.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 07:05 PM
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This hits HARD.
/r/RedPillWomen02/10/18 05:25 PM
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You put a lot into perspective for me. You’re right- I wasn’t even trying to truly see their POV. I just had this mental image of these care-free, validated alpha men who get women as easily as an average girl gets men. In all honesty, I would HATE to be an average man. I thank my lucky stars to be born female when compared to that. I didn’t really consider that a lot of TRP men started off as average men and had to work gruelingly to get to where they are.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 12:08 PM
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The thing is, I look a lot smaller than what I weigh. I’m not exactly sure why/how. Everyone always guesses 125 or so. Plus I wear smalls in everything. When I was actually 125 lbs, I had people telling me to eat a burger.
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 03:01 AM
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Omg congratulations!!!!! How exciting!
/r/RedPillWomen30/09/18 01:10 AM
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“Sex is so unimportant to the value of a man that history books do not even bother listing the sex life of the great men.” Man, that’s a good point that I’ve never thought of. Also a good point about TRP rants. I was too focused on all of the field reports and the praises the OPs got.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 12:27 PM
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The last paragraph gave me a bit of hope I haven’t felt in a long time. :) Thanks for the input from the other side.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/18 12:23 PM
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I can’t even begin to tell it all! 😭
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 07:30 PM
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Very true! Great point
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 06:57 PM
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You’ve put a lot of things into perspective. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 05:23 PM
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This is true. But in a silly way, this also gets me down. These alpha men are special- they’re doing something that doesn’t come easily to other men. Smiling and being pleasant might be easier but damn if there aren’t billions of other women who can do the same.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 05:21 PM
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I admit- I was only talking about the rare kind of man that can achieve those things. I definitely wasn’t talking about all men. Just men who have swallowed TRP and used it to their advantage.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/18 05:13 PM
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You sound exactly like me! Except I can’t even fantasize because the connection has to actually be there. I always thought that I was the norm as well until reality slapped me in the face lol.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 07:21 PM
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You’re getting downvoted but I 100% agree with you. The vast majority of people, men and women, have sex drives. They’re able to be horny and look at someone attractive and want them. Not everyone actually has sex with the people that they want for one reason or another, but the want is still there. People think “demisexuality” is just a term for people to feel special about not having sex with everyone they’re attracted to. They can’t fathom that there are people who actually don’t feel attract…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 02:40 PM
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Are we the same person? I honestly feel like we’re the same person. I’m kind of still going through the same thing but what’s helped me is good old fashioned time. Block him from everything and just go day to day. You still may not feel attraction to other men, but you will eventually be content without him.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/18 02:32 PM
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Very true. :) thanks
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 02:14 PM
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Haha I won’t lie, this made me feel 10x better.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 02:08 PM
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This is awesome advice, thanks. :) Looking back at it, those kinds of women weren’t ALL he went for- I think I just blew them up in my mind because they were so different from me. You also have a huge point about assuming his thought process was the same as my own naturally hypergamous one when men can find multiple kind of women appealing.
/r/RedPillWomen22/09/18 02:08 PM
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The women he went for tended to have these features: Light-colored straight hair (usually long) fair skin, light eyes, kind of “mature” features and bodies on the thicker/curvier side. Me on the other hand, I have dark curly hair (shoulder-length), Olive skin, dark eyes, a baby face (lol) and a body on the petite side (I have curves but not “full” ones like them).
/r/RedPillWomen21/09/18 10:51 PM
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I wasn’t stereotyping the men; I was explaining exactly how I know that SMV matters (at least to me). I was saying that Guy 2 had nothing BUT sexual attractiveness and he’s the one I loved more.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 03:48 PM
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They’re tight curls, I’d say 3c according to the chart. It was only not hard because I was going through a rough time and I was anxious to get rid of something that reminded me of it lol
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 09:36 AM
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I actually cut all of my hair off almost 2 years ago (it was badly damaged) and now it’s a little over 12 inches. I know that only time can help it grow but I’m soooo impatient to have long hair lol
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/18 12:22 AM
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Basically the ability to make a woman feel like you can get other (most likely better) women
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 11:14 PM
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Yeah. Especially if you’re close to the height of an average US man (like 5’10) and he’s 8 inches taller (6’6). That’s a tall man!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 10:52 PM
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I always heard that all-natural remedies were the best way to go. I use African black soap to wash and then witch hazel on my face to tone/clear and shea butter on my body for softness. Haven’t had any issues at all with this simple regimen but I do wonder if branching out to store-bought items would help even more.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 08:03 PM
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I’m very happy and proud to say that I pretty much do all of this except for the hair washing. My hair is super curly (like tight curls) and gets dry very easily so I’m better off shampooing it weekly. Moisturize it daily, though. Thank you so much for the informative tips! :D
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 07:19 PM
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Awesome!!! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 06:02 PM
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It’s kind of crazy. Where I’m from, women who are really skinny are seen as 0s. Obese women aren’t attractive either of course but the perfect body would be a curvy, busty, slightly thicker one (think plus-sized models. They aren’t fat at all but curvaceous). I used to be naturally underweight (5’4 105 lbs) and no one was attracted to me at all. Now that I’ve gained weight (I’m now at 5’4 140 or so) I get a lot more attention. Granted I do look smaller than I am. I’m really just trying to make s…
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 06:01 PM
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I’ve been doing a daily 15 minute work out that targets my core/waist and my butt/hips. I’m trying to maintain an hourglass figure. Can one be curvy and lean? Hmm I heard that pineapples are good for the vaginal area. Definitely going to take in more of those. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 03:55 PM
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It does!! I never used to wear makeup and lately I’ve started wearing a little eyeliner, mascara and lip color and I’ve been feeling 1000x better.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 03:30 PM
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Geesh lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 03:15 PM
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Good point. Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 02:20 PM
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I know I shouldn’t be so cut and dry but seems to me like this relationship isn’t worth it. He’s made it clear that you don’t mean as much to him as you should. I believe that it’s better to have none of somebody than only half of them. Let him go.
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 10:14 AM
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I’m honestly unsure. I think so? Lol
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 12:13 AM
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I agree with every word. The reason I still struggle with respecting myself is because I stepped over a boundary (sleeping with someone who slept with a friend) and thus lowered myself. Especially the kind of guy (he was really only high value looks-wise and had a good humor. He had VERY low integrity).
/r/RedPillWomen19/09/18 12:05 AM
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Thanks for the good insight. “Men may come and go, but friends may come and go too.” I hadn’t thought of it like that. They were f*ckbuddies to be crass.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 10:13 PM
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I know, but she was still my friend and I should have respected what she had with him a hell of a lot more than I did. And I agree. You never know if things will last with a guy and friendships are usually more stable.
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 08:28 PM
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I’m going to strip myself completely naked right now and confess to something horrible. I once betrayed a friend for a high value “alpha”. Granted, our friendship was rocky, she only knew the guy for a few days and she had a boyfriend, but the fact still stands. To this day, I can’t look in the mirror without feeling absolutely pathetic. I let my instincts (and other stupid things I won’t get into) overtake my good sense. I have had a very difficult time respecting myself since (this was 2 years…
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 08:10 PM
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I won’t lie, this question had me thinking very deeply lol
/r/RedPillWomen18/09/18 05:06 PM
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Ha!! I guess by “bucks” I meant “emotional connection”.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/18 03:07 AM
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Ahh!!! That’s so beautiful. :) I’m so happy you found that kind of love,
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/18 09:35 AM
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Damn lol
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 11:43 PM
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See this makes a lot of sense and I’ve definitely thought of this. But I have a lot of reason to believe that he has a lot of women after him. I’ve seen it first hand on multiple occasions. However, I wouldn’t be at all surprised if he gets them but can’t keep them. I have him blocked from everything, I really was just curious because this seems to happen to a LOT of women.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 08:28 PM
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Man, I can’t lie. This kind of depressed me. Basically, you can love a person and it still not be enough. I guess it was good to hear, though. I have a very Disney-like view of love. To me, if you love someone, nothing else will matter and you won’t have eyes for anyone else. It was easier to believe that he didn’t love me than to have to accept that love isn’t as all-encompassing as I thought. Still hoping that I’ll one day get to be loved the Disney way, though. Lol Thanks for this!
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 06:10 PM
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I have. This is just curiosity
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 05:15 PM
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I know he isn’t a hot widow because he’s gotten hotter girls. He was seeing his absolute dream girl and still sending me “I miss you/I want you” texts. I also wasn’t red pill when we were involved- if anything, I treated him the worst out of every other girl he’s been with (they all fall all over themselves trying to please him and I didn’t really do anything for him). The only conclusion I can come to is that he wants some kind of ego boost out of making sure I stay in his life/attached.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 05:10 PM
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Great point!
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 01:31 PM
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I totally agree that this absolutely sucks for the average man. No way around it. I’m honestly ashamed of how much it takes for me to want a man sexually- it makes me feel shallow, greedy and vain (I’m unable to be attracted to a guy on my “level”). It really isn’t something that can be helped, though. All men really can do is work hard to be the best that they can be. I guess that’s what TRP is for.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 01:30 PM
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Like I said in the last paragraph, I know that this quote doesn’t fit everyone. I was mainly speaking from my own experience and in general. Also, I wasn’t saying that women don’t enjoy sex- just that a lot of us tend to have high requirements for our sexual partners.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/18 01:19 PM
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I can relate to this soooo much. I felt this exact way when I saw the exes of the guy who alpha widowed me (lol). This changed when I found out that those objectively low value women were his preference. So, technically, in his eyes, I was the lowest value woman he’d been with.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 05:46 PM
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Man, that is a lot for your early 20s! This is so inspirational, thank you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/18 04:10 PM
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This is funny. When I was seeing a high SMV out-of-my-league guy and I found out that his exes were even lower in smv than I was, I immediately lost some attraction for him. This was until I found out that his exes were his “type” (AKA high smv in HIS eyes). Then I became basically addicted to him. Lol
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/18 11:49 AM
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I definitely don’t have daddy issues- my dad is like the perfect man, treats my mother like a queen to this day. I do have immense guilt about having had such a healthy view of marriage from a young age yet being in the state I’m in, though. I was very much so an outcast in school and teased by girls and guys alike. I was extremely socially awkward/inept and had very hard time fitting in. I’ve worked on this and although I’m still not as social as I should be, I don’t think people could call me …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 01:30 PM
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This is awesome. I don’t even have many words to say besides that lol. Thanks so much for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 01:11 PM
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How can one even begin to transcend their biology? Therapy? Meditation?
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 01:07 AM
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I just went on amazon and ordered that book. Thanks a lot! EDIT: The fact that you met such a wonderful man after divorce does give me some hope.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 12:42 AM
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I definitely know that he was an awful, awful LTR candidate (for other reasons I neglected to add to my post) and while this does help, it also kind of makes things worse. In the end, he’s the one in the back of my mind instead of my extremely-LTR-materiel ex. It saddens me that red pill ideologies aren’t socially acceptable. They really do hold SO much merit. I don’t even want to think about what children born today will become.
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 12:40 AM
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Thank you so much for this. I’ve definitely learned my lesson. Sucks that I had to learn it the hard (but most common) way. The memories of my utter stupidity will haunt me forever I bet. Doesn’t help that I’m still not really over the guy. It’s like I’m an animal or something- all he really sparked was my primal, sexual attraction yet he’s the one I’m still thinking about instead of my ex who sparked actual an actual love connection. All I can do is work on myself. Thanks again
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 12:36 AM
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It’s at 2. My first boyfriend and the jock. Any number above zero lessens a woman’s RMV
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/18 12:28 AM
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Almost 23 now. Thanks, though. Can’t really see that happening for me but it’s always a good hope.
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/18 11:45 PM
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Very true, even in your own eyes. I haven’t truly respected myself since I did it. I was someone before, I had a light of uniqueness that I could take pride in. Now? I see myself as any basic bitch.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/18 11:09 AM
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Hey, girl. I need to tell you my own story, just concise and to the point. I swear we’re the same person. Are you 21? That’s how old I was when I dumped my first boyfriend of 5 years because I felt I could do better, because I let all the people saying I was out of his league inflate my ego. So I dumped him. I dumped him and a month later, slept with the first hot guy who came onto me. Let’s just get to the point. My user describes exactly what I am. I seriously don’t think I’ll EVER be happy ag…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/18 04:23 PM
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Great points!
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 08:29 PM
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I don’t know another reason. They all brought up seeing me as a “wife” and seeing me in their future. Like the liked the idea
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 07:55 PM
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They actually did want to “wife me up” but it was moreso to feel good about themselves. They didn’t truly love me.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 04:08 PM
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High smv men have wanted to date me, but I don’t think they’ve ever been able to fall in love with me. I think they all liked the idea of having me as a girlfriend, but it was always just that- the idea.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 01:23 PM
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“Anytime an alpha commits, you will inevitably stop seeing him in an alpha light” this is painfully true.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 11:37 AM
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I needed to see this.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 03:31 AM
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This is true. They just seem so rare- like Disney princes.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 03:00 AM
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Everything you said was just awesome. I shouldn’t put labels on guys- like you said, it just makes things simpler. I know exactly what I want (he was actually pretty far from it) and I just need to take time to care for myself and hope I find him.
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/17 02:59 AM
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