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CMVRunsWlthScissors/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 03:25 PM
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I’ll disagree. I think people get polarized more and more these days, so I’ll agree there. That’s a problem though because people are becoming increasingly divided, and if we choose to accept that as a society we are choosing narcissism and close-mindedness as okay traits that should be allowed to persist. The only difference in changing peoples minds today compared to 50 years ago is understanding you don’t get your info from your neighbor like yesteryear and everybody has some psychological ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 05:28 AM
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Oxford: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. How you use it is your call, but understanding it is how you understand people. Add that to conversational awareness and minor levels of creativity and what you say is good to go. After that it’s body language, being relaxed while you do it like you’ve been there before, and a sprinkle of positive energy so people want to be around you. People are gonna sense when you fake that, but if you make that your standard, it becomes au…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 08:32 AM
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Empathy can be used to determine mindsets and how people think. It’s not just think of others, rather their perspective.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 06:54 AM
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It’s Social skills. People just have less experience in general and are worse at it because they don’t have to do as much face to face interaction with phones and internet. So unless you were in an environment where you have to do those things, or you were motivated by other motives to do those things, I think people are just generally worse. Coming from generations of small town southern salespeople, but growing up in a new big city every 4-6 years people think I have confidence and charisma mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/23 02:19 AM
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Yes, fortunately I can be openly opinionated as hell at the cost of internet points. In real life that costs personal relationships and possibly career opportunities, when I’d rather just say something witty get a laugh and let the people who need this in real life run their mouths and pay those costs.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 05:10 PM
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When there is a need to share opinions, it comes from somewhere. Most people don’t need to share though. People tend to be looking for confirmation to boost their confidence on whatever it is when that is the case. That need comes from insecurity. People who have gotten that boost from others with that trait have a harder time finding common ground when disagreements of opinion occur. There’s less room for empathy and consideration when a disagreement itches an insecurity. That leads to bigger a…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 05:05 PM
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Yup. I have plenty of opinions. A lot of them are better left unspoken because they would hurt people when there is no need. Needing everyone around you to know exactly how you feel is just weird to me when you can be confidant in your own feelings without sharing them to all. Lack of tact and social grace associated would make me hesitate at best. With that said, I far prefer people with strong opinions to those with none.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 04:55 PM
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I don’t think this complicated question needs to be as hard as we make it. Someone who meets your standards simply. Send the rest back to app land. We develop them over time, so if you can’t nail down your own yet think about what you have learned through your dating experience or go date. Red flags are a bs term. There are things you can and can’t look past, no need to sugar coat it. Gotta see people as they are and decide at points whether you keep going or not. No right or wrong answers here …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 06:48 AM
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Honestly I’ve been teetering the fence on having them, always have been. But you better be sure as shit I’ll dad the heck out of those little snot goblins if I do. If whoever I settle down with wants them I’m 100% down, I just don’t see a point in advertising it. That’s a huge part sure, but I’m not picking the people I stay with for longer term based on that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 01:48 AM
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You have to understand people have likely been that way for a good while(childhood), and neither understand the difference nor feel they have the ability to lose the weight. I have been 3% body fat, I have been obese at 290. Because I wrestled, I dropped 90 over a summer like it was nothing. People generally don’t have that comfortability with hunger or tie eating to emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 02:12 AM
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Also in priorities and security in self in general. With career, hobbies, and people taking up room, it’s just low on the totem pole whether it happened first night or after a few weeks. When people have nothing else to focus on, or don’t have great emotional stability on their own. People tend to use relationships as crutches to provide that. Nothing wrong with asking where you stand. If you do it that soon after hooking up like we’ve had happen, chances are good it’s not just that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/22 01:08 AM
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Well I think it comes from a trait people tend to have in common, selfishness. People want their kids to have the qualities that lead to success. People also want their partner to cater to their needs and think about them rather than those qualities in their kids. People just tend to have a viewpoint limited to themselves. At the end of the day I’d rather have an equal than someone that caters to me, but I’m sure my life experience that lead to that desire is extremely atypical. Who wants to nev…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/22 05:45 PM
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Real thing. Ruined bj’s for a bit. Had to really cut back and become ambidextrous the very slight amount I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/22 02:46 AM
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Let’s shoot straight here. The people who would ask you that are people who are insecure in their own abilities. Most of us don’t care enough to want to know or would like to not. If we’re going to play that guessing game though, you can’t really be too offended because we deserve it for playing stupid games. After all, the only things you win are stupid prizes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/22 08:09 PM
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Sex is also just one area. If they mention the sex outside of the convos about it. Yeah it probably is that. If not, and they tend to back off more and more over time despite happy initially without that, the picture becomes murkier. Only you know your experiences though and can judge them.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 02:16 AM
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Best way to explain it is wanting to get laid is selfish in nature. Caring about another person is not. A certain level of maturity involved is required for that we just haven’t developed yet when we are younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 07:52 PM
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You know what assumptions make, and there are quite a few here.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 10:17 AM
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I think it’s the Reddit crowd more than anything. It’s probably less creepy to the crowd on here because maturity wise they’re likely on the same level, or don’t have the same life experience. In that case I can’t really judge them by the same standards I hold myself or those around me to.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:29 AM
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I don’t know, whenever one of my buddies will date half a decade or more down we would always refer to whatever girl it was as “the child” and yes to whoever his face was. There were no good job bro’s, we said that cause it was fucking creepy 18-22 year olds are children compared to being in your mid to late twenties and we all know it, none of us want to be associated with that shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 07:25 PM
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I don’t understand the empathy here. When life slaps you like it’s going to, do you lay on the ground and whine or do you get back up and learn how not to get slapped the same way. If you go to a strip club you know the deal. If you get used for your money you are a terrible judge of character. As an adult you should know your finances. All of this is basic shit. I can’t find pity for people who have no good reason to be that stupid. The only situations that deserve sympathy are taking advantage…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 07:19 PM
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I’ll never get that line of thinking but guys like us just think different and more logically, so we’ll never actually be in his shoes
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 04:34 PM
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It’s like instead of trying everything to fix the real problem, he asked the world for answers and picked up some duct tape.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 09:50 PM
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I disagree but I think alpha and beta idea is a huge fucking joke. Wills dad was legit abusive as hell, so that conditioned him to be a lot of parts that make him great and allowed for smacking Chris Rock. Jada is a monster in my eyes, whether she’s beautiful or not is a fucking joke. Got it in with her teenage son’s teenage friend, then proceeded to take Will to red table talk to gaslight him. Lady is a predator in my eyes. Wills past abuse shaped him to take the current abuse. There is some fu…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 02:07 AM
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I am the son of a boomer who had an alcoholic father. People love him and gravitate to him, and I’ve been similar in my mid 20s. When it comes to emotionally connecting with anyone personally, he can’t do it well. He’s good at sensing them, and being kind, considerate, and straightforward as a way of interacting with them but he just cannot express his own like they don’t exist. I’m better in that I’ve come to learn mine watching that, but I also can’t do it. Having people as logic based as my f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:58 PM
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Society evolves. I’m not here to judge, just say the Obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/22 11:41 PM
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I never said Leonardo looks good I’m with you there all day. He’s not better now anyway because the money was already there.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 03:25 PM
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Not at all similar to Jenny from the block days. Yea she’s hot still, but there’s a huge difference. But that’s just imo
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 07:02 AM
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Ashkenazi Jew genes and that dictionary of recessive genetic disorders comes to mind
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 08:36 AM
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More of a shitty SO problem than a personally responsible problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 07:32 PM
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It’s like ice cream. Small gov is tasty until you’ve had too much. Then you get dysentery from Jimmy’s unregulated ice cream cart and die slowly wondering why basic services and regulations that could have prevented this aren’t there to help. I’m probably more libertarian than most and I absolutely recognize it’s weak points like any political stance.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 07:58 AM
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This idea is about as useful as a cardboard canoe. Could it work for you sure, are both of you gonna sound crazy for both sharing and not being slightly weirded the hell out? Absolutely. You are just gonna set your relationship dynamics as being extremely needy and with someone that eats that up if they stay which is a huge yikes. We ALL have some type of trauma and being a little more emotionally needy as a man is nothing to be ashamed of. That said, you are better learning these things about s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/22 11:41 PM
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Asexual reproduction, who knew cells had the answer all along.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 02:11 PM
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Good luck to people, you have to get your timing right too. It takes a few failed kinda okay relationships and learning till you’re any good at it. After that it’s all about having the skills yourself when a right someone comes along or you’ll fuck it up. Only gonna get those things one way.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/22 04:37 PM
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It’s a free country. I come from farming roots where animals are there to work and earn their keep the same as us, but if they fill that emotional need and that’s what you want to do go for it. Make sure you understand you will need an executor to manage that you trust who will not take advantage of that account, without that you might as well sign it over to the state upon death.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:36 PM
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Those with inexperience or insecurity tend to care more. Unless you have certain strict religious values you hold near and dear, I don’t see a reason to care. If health is above board, and hopefully you all are smart enough to pick people who will say something if not, it doesn’t matter or define anything. Usually those of us with higher n counts will tend to be more stable when we do settle, because we know what the grass over there is really like and it’s not as green as it appears.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:29 PM
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I skimmed then went back and actually read it. It’s not my fav take but it’s not the worst. Reddit moment of the day :)
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 10:29 PM
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If there’s something I can improve at I’d like to know. Feeling like you’re the best is great, but if everyone is having a great time does it matter? If I don’t like something I’ll try to tactfully say it, but it will be said. If you don’t communicate there is no chance of getting better. I don’t need to be #1, I just need to be good hopefully excellent. Only thing asking is gonna do is have them lie to you if they are kind, and get your own feelings hurt if they are probably honest. If you are …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 12:27 PM
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Dude above you is nuts. Who gives a F*** if they are #1, I try my best and try to get the job done so everyone has a good time. If I’m not getting it done, I’d sure as hell like to know why what is needed so I can be better for them and whoever else may be next. If they are #1 for me hell yea lucky me, but I don’t have a running list of all the girls I’ve been with because that would be pure narcissism. It’s either good or not and you need to communicate that with some tact, and have it be taken…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 12:19 PM
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That’s why you just never say it. We do it too, being #1 doesn’t matter if you are happy. Happy normally also means sex is good even if it’s not the greatest thing ever experienced by either person.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 12:06 PM
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No, and even if that was the case they make viagra for that. Before kids I get to have some level of selfishness and choose for myself in that department. After that the happiness and wellbeing of my spouse and children will come before that and many other things unimportant in comparison. It is how I was raised, and how I will my own. It’s important to put some attention and care there for both sides, and if it isn’t there for him it could be the male equivalent of post-partum. Overall, no and …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 10:19 PM
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Agree, it was said best here. Also said without the bias thrown into a lot of other comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 01:26 PM
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The whole thing was about his house of cards. Funny thing too, his first wife ended up the best off between all of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 10:46 AM
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There are 35 million people in the US in 25-34 age range for me. If half of those are female and half are single (about 9mill). If one out of 20 is into me for whatever reason, that’s 450,000 possible matches. Chances are good I will at least run into a few no matter where I live if I’m not a shut in.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 09:06 AM
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Recognition of this is key. There is a social drive somewhere to fit whatever we think the mold is. Once you recognize for what it is, just live your life who cares. I remember that time period too though, I never understood the attraction to skinny even when I was a teen.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:51 AM
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That would be a uniform consensus for the one not picked, but we are human which means that chocolate bar if we added 20 people to this it would be to someone’s taste so it doesn’t exist. Even if someone is unattractive, there’s still people out there into whatever that means.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:43 AM
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This. I think a lot of the complaining on here is from men that do not recognize their options or do not like their options. There are solutions to both of those those things, and complaining is fine but it fixes nothing if you don’t like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/21 02:34 AM
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Yea I don’t like objectifying a way of life in a place I am not from, but it is objectively true. I wouldn’t say it’s even close to Muslim people in the west in my experience, especially second generation or later. Our culture, values, and history are just completely antithetical.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 09:08 PM
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I agree with you. I’m at dr. Pepper numbers, and I enjoy my stints where I have no sex much more than with regular sex. Not having to communicate well, consistently keep in touch, or do things I wouldn’t particularly choose to on my own are much more valuable to me in time saved. Anyone saying it is actually a need to survive needs more focus and prioritization in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 08:45 PM
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I’ll pile on I guess. There is a big difference in doing it because culture, religion, circumstance, or choice. Like you it is inconceivable for me, but if it was a choice then I believe consenting adults can do what makes them happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 08:32 PM
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You are quite correct, no one will ever wonder if he had ED I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 08:24 PM
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Try the Middle East in any country under sharia law (due to ta’zir), it’s not even close. Women have the rights in the same way land would there. Want to cheat, sign a one day marriage certificate since polygamy is legal for men. Are you jealous, don’t worry burkas are mandatory culturally and possibly legally being stoned or lashed depending on how a judge is feeling. It is not my place to judge, but If you do not come from that culture or have family there I would be very careful about visitin…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 08:16 PM
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Shiiiit, if you can do that much you’re fine. Keep your hair looking good and you’re killing it if London is anything like the US where people somehow miss the basics. Edit: recently upped my game to a longer top fade with Henleys in the summer and flannel in the fall/winter for what it’s worth.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 10:26 AM
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Women also tend to talk about it much more. When’s the last time anyone’s been chilling with their boys and started a discussion on how they look in their shirt. If you don’t look around and figure it out, you’re only gonna learn what to wear by error. Therefore, men are always gonna be slightly behind till we’re adults and it’s fine. It’s not something crazy or hard to get at a certain point.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/21 02:53 AM
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I’ve never seen men that can talk to women fail to find anyone when motivated. Below average dudes in heights and looks hitting it out of the park seems like a norm to me. I’ve also never seen people that go to the bars as much as I do fail to find someone when they want to. I swear to god, the people on this sub that bitch and moan incessantly don’t even step up to the free throw line. Acting like this is some impossible or hard task. Unless you have a legitimate reason that holds you back, lik…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 05:19 AM
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I do but I’m always joking. Context: one of my lady friends sent me a snap of only having a salad in the fridge after the gym and hating Italian dressing. Never gonna say that seriously. Not my business, I don’t need to know. I’ll listen and be kind when others bring those demons out but I will not enjoy it, as is tradition at this point except for a gf. That’s my line in the sand.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 12:03 PM
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Truly doesn’t matter. Some places like clubs/late at bars will make something happen sooner. More intimate events like house parties, cookouts, or weddings will let you meet friends of friends and have the inside track on whatever it’s gonna be.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 07:33 PM
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If you are average levels of attractive, the more women you meet, the more social events you go to, the more experience you get walking up and talking to them, and less you care about rejection the less this is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 09:00 AM
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Kinda find it weird you think of us that way. Every woman has just been a different and unique experience. Some good, some boring, a lot in between. Anywhere between a 7-10 peaks my interest, whichever of those holds eye contact the longest is who I go talk to first. Anything below that and I just feel like an awful person for a week, because I just fucked someone with no passion involved. I would also start to feel nothing towards people in the periods of life like undergrad where I went out ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:52 AM
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I’m similar. I’m either attracted and go talk or entirely opposed to the idea of not getting to sleep in on my weekends and choose to ignore obvious signals because I don’t care. Gotta be a long dry spell, or I need to be hammered to go talk to somebody I don’t consider above avg.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:31 AM
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Worth it? More personal, but for me yes. I don’t really hold on to emotions from past experiences. If you do you may need to think on this more. The most I do is remember the feelings I felt at the time because they are similar but all different. Other sex pale? No. Every new person is a new and different experience. Dear god please treat it as such, otherwise you’ll be chasing the dragon. Bodies and mind forget? Yes and no. You certainly don’t forget, well except for the blackout nights, but th…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 08:20 AM
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You are confusing “in favor of” with “enforce”. I am in favor of whoever I marry staying home with kids. However, if whomever I marry does not wish to, why would I expect them to lead a life they don’t wish to live. I would like a parent at home with children, but with my career and income it will be unlikely that it makes sense it would be me unless you know any single surgeons or senior business women which is unlikely. That also doesn’t mean I would expect less out of daughters than I would s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 04:53 AM
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I think that position has its strengths. I pick RP due to the fact that it is easier to teach controling your emotions, not caring about the opinions of others enough to be molded by them and being your own man, and to be your own judge of character at least for me. It would be much harder dealing with a very sensitive son, who’s going to have to learn mental toughness being as straight forward, and unafraid of conflict as I am. There’s pros and cons, but a BP son would be tougher with how I see…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 08:05 PM
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Yea, I’m happy w/ or w/o sex. As great as it is, I’m not in the fertilizer industry and have little patience for what I see as BS.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/21 11:26 AM
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I think you are very black and white on this. In general you can make your point, but also take that with the nuance not everyone wants the things you do. This view discounts the fact that people change over time. Would you rather have someone who has never had a wild phase in their lives, but some part of them, big or small, is always going to wonder. Would rather have someone that has had that phase, came out the other side fine and is very content where they are. Everyone wants different thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/21 10:17 PM
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If you want unsolicited advice about how to handle cheating, I can give you this dummy’s guide. 1) People do what they wish. No matter how much you think about, or how much it might affect you at the end of the day you have no control over the actions of others. If you did imagine how much extra work that would be, so what’s the point in worrying about it or letting anxiety build. This stuff effects you over time, and will damage your relationship. 2) If you see something suspicious ask question…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 09:23 AM
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Doesn’t take a lot for me. If the dynamics and communication is whack the amount of time it would take to rewire that would would be whack compared to just being single and the time it takes of finding another girl I want to date after I’ve worked through some things, unless I was married or had kids with someone. Outside of that, things I don’t tolerate, being super unhappy, or just needing space because clarity comes with that. My vices aren’t people, and walking away is the freest thing you c…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 08:56 AM
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Agreed. And it’s something where we all do it if you’ve been there before. I’ve been a plan B many times. I’ve had plenty of women who were mine. When you recognize it you should associate it as unattractive, but jealous type people are going to go the other way and it’s fine. In a healthy state of mind, get what you want out of it whether it’s occasional flirty attention, someone to talk to, fwb whatever. Just don’t expect people to do something they haven’t shown they want or are capable of wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 06:23 AM
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Inatentiveness or bluntness. Alternatively someone who is slightly more emotionally needy, I don’t have a lot of that in me but can empathize. Someone who talks too much to a degree.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 01:10 PM
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Body type: Good shape, not overweight, curvy is preferable but not required Height:5’8”- 6’2” preferred Personality: Extrovert like me, Talkative, sense of humor, enough social grace to not be a nightmare in public, not so much they take themselves too seriously Family: likes hers and mine Romance: likes it? I mean who doesn’t Sex: passionate, adventurous, not a big toys person myself but as long as nothing enters me I’m open to whatever they want to try. Not a big other people person either, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 05:41 AM
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Wow this post has a lot of hot takes. There are many reasons for submissiveness. This post seems to be bedroom focused. Submissive women I have been with, are like that because that’s how they most enjoy sex or they just lack enough experience to be confident enough taking the dominant side. Not everything has to stem from repression or past abuse, in fact it rarely does nowadays. Some people like one or the other and most of the time people like a balance and variety. Brainwashing is just a rea…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 03:23 AM
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Just like any other skill. Practice makes perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 10:49 PM
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Wouldn’t say impossible. Just unlikely and less than ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 02:47 AM
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It’s simple, rather than wishing for a world to be different or suit our needs, it’s up to us to adapt and take it for what it is. A lot of times that means change and being uncomfortable for a bit, and people don’t enjoy that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 12:56 PM
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That’s what my quarterly Amazon delivery is for my friend. On a more personal note, the more dating experience you get the more choosy you are and better you will be at it. It’s knowledge and a skill that’s learned and sharpened like any other. Gotta start somewhere, and there’s no other way to learn than to do it yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 07:17 AM
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I don’t get this train of thought. Only reason the mind wanders is because something else doesn’t hold its attention. Fiancé might be good but good ain’t great. On both of them to not realize this sooner and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 05:30 AM
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If you’re willing to cheat why would you stay in a damaged relationship in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 05:26 AM
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I wouldn’t straight up announce it because imagination plays a huge role in attraction. When there are points where those boundaries might get crossed, say something. If they get pushed uncomfortably, gtfo of there. Nothing goods gonna happen. Definitely harder playing from behind experience wise in that category. A lack of it usually scares me off. I wish you the best of luck, and hope you find a good person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 05:22 AM
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/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 05:11 AM
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I only have my own experience to go by. I think it is important to both genders though, who wants to not feel that attraction to somebody you pick. Only way anyone is ever gonna learn that is getting out there and seeing where you stand, and judging where improvement has to happen if someome does not like the results. Some things are what they are but mindset, what you saying, and to a certain extent looks is something everyone does.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 10:10 AM
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Both if you try to date someone. Show you give a sh**. Don’t be a simp.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:32 AM
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I’m fortunate enough to live close to the area of night life in my city. I meet a lot of women on the weekends so I would guess I’m in the minority on this one for my gender. If desire is not showed on the other side why would I pursue, it’s a waste of time in that department. Friends? sure because they will have other friends and who knows if I’m their taste. Attention makes it more likely I clear some schedule room.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:30 AM
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No. Marying young leads to a lack of personal growth. Having less life experience, independence, and self-sufficiency due to being able to shoulder that will lead to worse marriages even if it means less of them. You grow more on your own than with an emotional support blanket. Sometimes you get emotionally scarred, but most of the time you will always get stronger and better for it. It’s always a risk, and people tend to shy away but how else do you learn other than the adventure experience and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:19 AM
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Casual sex is available to me. It happens on nights when I want to go out and there’s a deal going on like a pint night somewhere. Sometimes it’s the weekends when I go to the bar or club. Weekdays it’s women I know that I just enjoy being around, the sex is nice but I enjoy the emotions and passion even though I don’t feel it outside the moment. Weekends it’s usually strangers, and only when I get drunk enough to forget I enjoy sleeping in my own bed alone on nights I get to sleep in. u/brillia…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 09:54 PM
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Could be case by case. NPD would never do well for long with volatility involved in BPD. That volatility at any time is damaging and I would assume they couldn’t handle that. Definitely could see it though if they are just lacking any validation whatsoever in that arena, pennies for a pound.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 11:38 PM
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Absolutely, balance is key. Have a voice but don’t rule over it. Feel empowered, but don’t abuse that feeling. There’s good and bad with about every philosophy. It’s just basics in personal relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 11:31 PM
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I would say some of the red pill things I hear would make it more likely you meet that type of woman. In all honestly though, narcissists are generally going to find empaths because the emotional needs are very similar even if the end result is super toxic. Narcissism which is caused by severe insecurity, would never go for long with a partner that showed very little, or is more unstable than them.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 11:15 PM
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You’re not wrong with the availability point. The first comment also has validity too. Honeymoon phase is banging about every time you see each other, but after that u/JumboJetz is right in that regard. Sometimes it’s more than me, sometimes it’s less. Last sentence is a little different because people get different things from the experience. I enjoy showing some confidence and charisma at a bar for what is hopefully a hot one nighter. Losing the first half of that and paying more than I would …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 11:07 PM
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Nuance is key for a level head. Some people only see a Boulder on a seesaw
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 10:57 PM
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Depends on age, maturity, and experience honestly. Some people put up with those insecurities. I don’t see a point because people do what they want to do, who cares. I know I’m going to think other women are attractive probably more of the time, and even if I didn’t I won’t say no the sex drive involved there. Unless somebody’s taking action about those things it’s a useless worry, and if they are people give ques in some form.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 10:55 PM
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Yea we also use it as a definitive adjective when in reality if we want to look at it closely we all have some alpha and some beta traits. What comes off more to an observer is the word used to define.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 10:49 PM
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I’d say it’s cultural. If we didn’t watch other people do it for centuries or some variant, we probably wouldn’t do it too. It’s ingrained at this point. Doesn’t have to have a reason just is what it is, neither good nor bad at this point. As a man it’s attractive without a doubt. I’m sure for women there’s a variety of reasons because I’m not the person wearing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 10:46 PM
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Fear in this sense speaks to a lack of confidence in something, usually plural.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 10:42 PM
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Truth, Life hits different and the people around you and you meet do too. It’s one of those things you think you get, and understand how to navigate until you have to do it. Life’s gonna teach a whole lot more than any comments regarding that phase. Only exception is class, if you’re comfortable and have money, you rarely are forced to grow and learn lessons the same way or at the same rate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 07:12 PM
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There’s a difference in submissive being picking your battles, and submissive being never fighting them when they need to be fought.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:22 AM
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I hear about that so there is definitely some truth to it, in my experience if you want it you just tell a girl you’re casual with to bring a friend. How my buddies that have wanted it got it. Never been my own thing though, was invited twice in undergrad and only one of those was two women (the other was a couple who “liked my vibes”) and always at Halloween parties for some reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:14 AM
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Sounds like the type that got married at 19 and should have been divorced by 22, but neither person was brave enough to do it. You see a lot of “interesting” adaptations to the people that were never single as adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:06 AM
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Sure. Worth it for the experience and skill set improved upon. You’re going to be bad at the things you haven’t done much, 99% of the time. Dating is the same. Being better at it yields better results, which is built over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 04:29 AM
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That’s not your job. Your job is raising the little barbarians to be confident, independent, and humble enough to make good enough decisions. If you raise them right, this and other things shouldn’t be an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 02:56 AM
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Exactly, I’d be a liar if I said that’s 0% of the reason I hit the gym. More so my joints work than anything, but that’s beside the point. I do not kill it on the apps. I’m probably not top 20, but whose to say. Regardless, If I want a girl I can walk up to any group of girls at a bar/club with a friend or two, start a convo or alley-oop myself into one if a friend fails, buy a couple shots and take a girl home if I FEEL like it. Do I take care of myself, sure. Do I have abs or will I ever, abso…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 03:25 AM
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Sometimes you state the obvious, sometimes you win gold in mental gymnastics.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 04:22 AM
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Yea. It’s all relative in what you can handle and what you want. For me that’s once every six months if I’m not emotionally anywhere good or bad, and have a fun experience I want to pair it with. Some people can do blow every weekend and will be fine at work on Monday. Some people get fucking warped by it. There’s also escalating levels of danger to what you are partaking in. As long as people know whether they could handle it and what they’re getting out of it, it is fine. Know if we’re talking…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:07 PM
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That was my personal experience. If you read the number of I statements in my first comment, it was painfully obvious. If you need to make it about you and be negative, that’s your decision man. No skin off my back.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:37 PM
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Bold strategy Cotton.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 12:36 PM
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Do what you want, no one here is going to give you all the answers or tell you what to do. I like not feeling like an old man at 26, you do you buckaroo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 12:01 PM
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Shit you could just relax and lift without defying death. Not my favorite thing but it’s become a habit. I don’t lift heavy because my joints are just genuinely horrible thanks to my high school sport of choice, but after about a decade away it’s been nice to be back and work on something. Takes 50 minutes of my day total. I hate cardio, make a point to hit everything at some point during the week. Do shoulders and squats everyday for my absolutely fucked shoulders and hips. Helped me a ton. Hel…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:59 AM
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Reddit’s always a fun time. Glad you’re here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:52 AM
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I am what I am and really wouldn’t mind, I would love to go to that Denmark example. Do you know how many times I’ve said partly cloudy to the weather up here. I think it would be fun to be average height for a month. It sounds like it would be really neat to see what it’s like being 5’6” like one of my littles from undergrad.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 11:46 PM
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ESTP here. Plenty of social circles, Reddit is my adhd escape and my entertainment since there’s always interesting stories and opinions. Reading the profiles makes us sound like dicks. I am one and it absolutely comes naturally, and I really can’t help it only limit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 11:15 PM
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OP, the best I can do is tell you every exaggeration has a grain of truth. “He doesn’t dress up/pay/ whatever the fuck” Yeah the truth is ge probably not super into it, and they don’t think the other person is way out of his league. But it’s a first date and that shouldn’t be what the deal breaker is decided upon. As a man, if I’m taking women out, I’m paying. There’s a sense of pride there whether I’m actually into it or feeling like I’m getting catfished. Truth is it’s never enough that it’s h…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 11:09 PM
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Ahh just a disagreeable guy then. Do, 1.35. Have before, 4, 6, and 6. Seems reading comprehension and googling metro area populations is truly that difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 10:47 AM
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Been to LA, not as rare, also not common. What are you trying to prove friend. Edit: if you’re trying to call me shorter than I think go with something credible like Denmark. I’d be average height or even a little below there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:25 AM
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Memphis metro is about 1.4. I’m also not saying I’m that rare either. I’ve lived in Portland, Atlanta, and Philly in prior moves. Here I definitely am.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:56 AM
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6’4” myself, I am a rarity in Memphis.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 09:12 PM
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Would love a version for us
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 09:10 PM
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Naw my joints don’t stay in socket near as well, compared to my fighting days
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 05:07 PM
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Ignorant optimist all day long. I’m fairly intelligent and make good money. At my best I’m charismatic, drive the party, and funny as hell. At my worst I pick people apart by their insecurities, I’m cold, calculated, and live by a mean streak a mile wide. One of those is going to bring out a better side of me even though I do value a successful woman, but not at the cost of myself. Money isn’t worth being like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 03:10 AM
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Love me the Dinc dream. Kids are cool too, but I’m gonna need a decade to be convinced if you get my drift. Halfway through my twenties and no sign of slowing down yet, other than these old man joints.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 08:51 PM
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You just read body language and go off that, if you get an uncomfortable vibe you slow it down and everyone’s cool. You don’t have to slam dunk or hit a dinger every at bat if that makes sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 12:56 AM
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To answer op. There’s nothing wrong with working part time in your early 20’s, we all have our own journey. There’s no right or wrong way to grow up, but it must be done at some point. Yes I would hope they have the ability to afford whatever lifestyle before me. A Career is a broad topic so field does not matter, but understand that personalities usually share similarities by field. I’m medical field and I’m not a big fan of the commonalities involved in the traditional settings, would not cons…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 11:54 PM
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A true master of putting words in mouth. I would remind op that closed mouth enters no foot. If you don’t have an opinion or a counter-point, there’s no purpose in adding to the convo. My point to the first comment would be social skills and ability to read body language also play a huge factor. If you don’t have those, you’re SOL in that department.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 08:33 PM
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They are valid because there’s never anything wrong with how you feel. How you vocalize, act, and work through this has been the differentiating factor and why I see group A as I do. Opinions can change and might over time. With the square peg round hole reference I do agree because everyone’s dating experience is individualistic. Some people truly don’t enjoy it and that’s ok. My only advice for group A is remember to have fun, be who you are, don’t do anything you don’t want to do, and you can…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 08:23 PM
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From a group C’er, I always analyze three things. What did I like and what did I learn that I want to take with me, what did I not like and how did it make me feel that I don’t want to repeat, and what were the things I did that created a dynamic I did not enjoy. After 2-5 months post a long term relationship I’m usually good to go. Space always helps too. I archive, block, and delete to speed things along.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 01:06 PM
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I find group A to be naive and inexperienced or alternatively, super serious and forgetting that dating is supposed to be fun. Past undergrad, group A is exceedingly rare and that is a good thing. Mature people who have dated enough people see casual and serious for what they are and don’t feel emotionally strained by this. I think unless you ask it’s narcissistic to assume people want what you want. Conversations with actions involved speak louder than any assumptions you might make about your …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/21 12:50 PM
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When you wait for the stop sign to turn green.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/21 05:49 PM
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It truly depends on location. Rural or eastern-Midwest-southern city masculine. City on the west coast, more touchy-feely guys. If Neither, it could go eitherway.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 04:06 PM
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Yeah, ain’t like it’s a competition at the point. Who cares? Bringing shit like this up shows a supreme lack of confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 04:02 PM
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Can’t wait to be a lame duck emperor myself. Not my place to decide how people date.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 03:58 PM
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I think once we’ve been around enough we all have at one point or another. How quick we escape is another story.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 03:56 PM
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I think the loud minority is much louder than silent majority that just don’t care. Personally I don’t really give a damn who strangers date, hopefully it works for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 03:54 PM
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It goes both ways women are just as willing to put up with bullshit and crazy just as much as guys are ok being whipped welcome mats and go along with crazy shit. People make bad decisions, which is ok, and it’s up to them to find clarity to see it and learn from it. Only way personal growth happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 03:50 PM
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To your main point about that opinion, yes I agree it’s both shitty and unreasonable for us as men to think like that. Where I disagree is that there’s only two ways it goes. There’s different nuance, variation, and reasons things go a certain way. If you want to see how open people are emotionally and connect with them on that level, ask those questions. If they’re able to open up and you can do the same that’s how they are regardless of sex. Doing it during pillow talk is much different, and s…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/21 03:26 PM
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Hooking up at its core is a numbers game. More women is more opportunity. Even if 70% of women would never fuck with someone 5’4” (and that’s an exaggeration in my experience), that still leaves you 3 out of ten. If you spend 3 minutes talking to 40 chicks at the bar/club over the course of a night feeling people you’ll probably end up with 5 numbers and going home with one of the ones that was really into it. If you don’t go out or push your luck in the apps you just won’t have near the options…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/21 12:18 AM
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What? My little from fraternity was 5’4” and only had the personality and average grooming going for him. Man had a woman with him 3 nights a week on average and almost never the same one. Literally the most out going person I’ve ever met. One of my roommates from sophomore year of undergrad was 5’5” He worked out 4 hours every single day but his personality spirit animal was the Sahara desert. I met a different girl in the kitchen cooking him breakfast about every other day that got there at li…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/21 05:21 AM
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6’4” man here. The only advantage it gets me is that in a room of people I get noticed first unless there are taller people around. If you’re looking for hookups, you still have to be relatively well groomed, have personality/body language skills, be in some type of generally ok shape, and know when to move on and talk to somebody else.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 06:58 PM
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Yes, us men in general just socialize different. Most of us make friends by hobby and social life activity (same places/frequency) rather than inferred social status. This limits how involved we become with each other lessening the mental valuation of others opinions or how much we regularly share personal info in general. This varies slightly by class. My male friends that have cared too much tend to have done so because of individual insecurity. Men and women are generally different in how the…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/21 06:47 PM
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Way I see it, the worlds gonna take advantage of you if you let it. Women are part of that world same way shitty friends are. Shame on them, but if you’re being taken advantage of it’s on you to realize what’s going on. If you can’t at least do that you get what’s coming if another opinion on the situation isn’t being used to make yourself wiser.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 05:34 AM
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He definitely didn’t read it. Honestly, if you lack a lot of confidence or social skills do both. Apps should be like the range if you need to learn either. Fuck around with how you message, find what works, don’t try and be too cute or offensively creepy. More importantly if you don’t go out and make some friend groups it’s probably not gonna happen for you as often as you like. Friends have friends who have other friends. Keep a lot of social circles, meet a lot of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 05:25 AM
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Dude here, when I watch either my boys fail or other guys they usually lack in social skills and/or confidence, usually attractive guys if they go out a good amount sometimes I’d say better looking than me. When I’m helping my friends find someone out, I literally tell them to pick a group of girls and me or me and another buddy will go chat up the friends. If our boy gets rejected we cycle to the next group we wish to. You would not believe the number of times I’ve been told “you lead”. It’s ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 05:17 AM
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I’m a man. My female friends are interesting. Some hookup with a guy every time we go downtown, others are more conservative usually never meet anyone there. Much less fun to bring out to the party bars when I get ducklinged around the bars while I’m trying to talk to people. The ones that hookup all the time are usually emotionally unbalanced to some degree, and the more conservative ones are usually unconfident or introverted which shows as that. Nothing wrong with either type, just kinda how …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/21 04:35 AM
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Say it out loud Edit: Combine a couple words somewhere in the back half.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 09:43 PM
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It’s hard for me to find similar people with similar experiences. I’ve tried about everything under the sun except for needles, homemade country chemistry, and pain products. Never found anything I really liked enough to do again, tried everything I’d be willing to. Only things I would do again, low dose blue boy fun guys when hiking or a female friend at festivals. I’ll have an advanced degree in nine months with a solid job after, and finding anyone who comes close in experience of many types …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 05:01 PM
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Meet her literally anywhere other than work. We have similar hobbies(hiking festivals concerts neat bars) We have similar vices(Projects) Similar cleanliness Our personalities vibe We’re similar attraction wise (I’d give myself top 20-35%) Is not a medical field person too Good communication Likes my shitty jokes I can put up with her shit and issues, and she can put up with mine Honestly, I’ve never really had gf’s where sex has ever been an issue. Only thing actually holding me back is the las…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 07:04 AM
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Yea, OP is being honest even if it comes off like being a dick. I’m an asshole by nature too, so I get it. I won’t really put that on my profile even though I’m not open to either but hey, to each their own. Not my place to judge someone over a damn tinder profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 05:28 PM
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Margs or daqs? Maybe. Everything else I mentioned? Not a chance, you obviously don’t know what everclear is. But some people feel an incessant need to be right, so best of luck out there. Hope you have get the life experiences to learn.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 12:48 PM
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Counter point, why do you care if someone tells you that? If a girl ever said that directly to me, I’d probably shrug or say okay at the most. I have no reason to give a shit. It’s clear I’m not getting with her and even if I did why would I want to put myself through pillow talk with that. You do you, let them do them. Anyone who thinks that opinion on this topic is world-changing enough it needs saying or is trying to get under my skin can go fuck themselves. That YouTube comment sounds like a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 04:22 AM
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Yeah the nattys millers bud lights and most IPAs of the world taste like shit to me. I’ll take a sour that tastes exactly like boysenberries or a properly made Moscow/Kentucky mule. Make some margs or daiquiris and portion out your Liqour well and you can’t taste shit. Even when I was poor in undergrad, we threw hunch punch parties with handles of everclear and so much Kool-aid/lemonade mix it was just extra sweet koolaid. There’s plenty of options for things that have none or next to no alcohol…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 03:19 AM
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Plenty of delicious cocktails and craft beer out there. Lack of experience is showing young brother.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 09:46 PM
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I think like you said people should follow whatever they choose to. Doesn’t effect me, and the older I’ve gotten the less I fucking care. If you want to only see men for the things you can gain or be an alpha-chad and sleep through 70 chicks a year, it bothers me none. Fuck it, best of luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 09:24 PM
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I would assume validation. You have to think his confidence is low, so attention from a chick he thinks is hot feeds his ego. Even if he has no shot. Also because his confidence is low, he’s probably bad at meeting new people so he needs that dopamine hit and comes back for more. Does he want sex or think he can get there, he probably does. The core reason though is validation because of a lack of confidence and basic social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 11:24 PM
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Might be creepy, but the thought process is extremely normal and most if not all of us guys do it, just not to the point of getting hard or needing to go rub one out. The kid is also 19 and probably hasn’t had enough chances to talk to women yet. For this example, yea, hot chicks are at the gym and the sky is blue. You don’t talk to girls you don’t know or stare other than make eye contact at the gym if you want a shot. Unless a girl makes a point to show you some attention first or look at you …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 10:55 PM
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Yes I find a lot of the questions or views on here… interesting. The responses are also quite unique. Life experience should teach you at lot of this. At the same time if you’re young or havnt had the experiences necessary to learn the lessons, I can understand it to a degree. I agree with you on Cognitive empathy, but the variable involved is critical thinking when presented. This and social skills determines how well you can respond to it and be taken when you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 12:59 AM
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Truth. I’m ADHD which is related to Autism… distantly. I was very very bad at cognitive empathy going into my undergrad years. Now about four years after them, I’m really good at it. I’ve learned what to do to show Affective empathy to people, but unless it’s for an SO or my family I really don’t feel much. Empathy should not have to be a learned skill, but for me it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 12:25 AM
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Honestly, both aren’t great
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/21 03:55 AM
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Depends on age. As a 26M I’m offered a whole lot more than 23, still less than my fraternity days though but that’s a different world. The difference is at this age I know I can smile, buy drinks, go dance, and make someone laugh. I can find a girl to go home with at the bar or club, but I’ve just burnt out on a lot of it in the last year since COVID. I’ve got 6-8 partying hours at the bar in me on a Friday or Saturday. If you have enough personality to make me not want to go home and sleep in m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 10:20 PM
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Yea I’m a 25M myself. I’ve dated or hooked up with most types of looks at this point. If I’m serious about anyone these days, of course I’m attracted, but I judge those people on personality traits and whatever flaws from emotional baggage they have at this point. If it’s shit I can’t or just don’t want to deal with I’d just rather keep hooking up with people when the urge strikes. Once you’ve been around enough who needs the shallowness of a certain type of look? If you’re attracted, you’re att…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/21 05:13 PM
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They never said it was restricting their options.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:31 PM
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Yep you either learn from the lessons or licks you’ve taken thus far in life, or you carry all your baggage around like a VW van and let it weigh you down into becoming a worse person.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:30 PM
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I think the biggest things for me to reflect on after breakups/divorce and what’s helped me, is what were the good things that I should keep going for myself? What did I not like about who they were or how I was feeling? What about the relationship dynamics do I not want to re-occur? Overall, cheating sucks and I haven’t been cheated on by a gf since high school or at least not known about it. It’s important to recognize the things you did or way you were that might have done put somebody in tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/21 09:18 PM
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Guy here. It’s a fucking chore, if someone doesn’t message me why should I care. I probably did the same to at least a few others that day.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 12:57 AM
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25M I notice a lot of dates have some life experience now. It’s nicer. The people who carry a lot of emotional baggage are much easier to spot out and avoid. It’s also a place where if you find someone it’s nice, and if you don’t it’s also nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 12:17 AM
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Sex
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:10 PM
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Also a man. I think we view dating differently. For me it’s an experience more than an end goal. Do I want to find someone I’d like to get to that end goal with? Sure. Do I care if it doesn’t happen? No. I expect to have a good time getting know someone, or being absolutely entertained by bad dates. Even on the good ones I may not go on another. I don’t expect anything, but if we go home together, we go home together. Paying for a date is a good excuse to go do something fun, so I truly don’t mi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 04:38 AM
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I’m 6’4” and fairly attractive, but the women who go after me all love attention usually to an unhealthy degree. I grew up around sales, so when I go out I meet everyone and make everyone laugh. Then by the time I get to them, they’ve watched what I’ve been doing and are extremely attracted to it. Attractiveness, education, and income potential has always been similar. Personality wise have usually been very different. Personally I fucking hate attention but like being invited to go do things, a…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 04:24 AM
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People are more attracted to people others hold in good esteem. It’s basic stuff, but harder in a practice. Next time you go to a party talk, laugh, and have a good time with a lot of the people there before you go talk to who you want to. Don’t try this at a bar, that’s a different beast.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 04:08 AM
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Absolutely. I think it also depends on the man. If you go hiking (or anything outdoors) with me, get me tickets to a concert, game, or movie, I honestly enjoy that shit more than sex. Sex is great, but going on an adventure to see something new is what really keeps my blood flowing and keeps me happy. Being a caring person is not hard, a little bit of thoughtfulness and empathy goes a long way. People and their needs and pleasures are too complicated to put in a simple formula.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 04:02 AM
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Had an agreeableness of 7 but 80 plus in everything else. The thing that has helped me the most is keeping my opinions to myself. I tend disagree with others regularly, but learning I don’t really care if someone thinks I’m right or is just spouting uneducated bullshit has helped tremendously.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/21 03:50 AM
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Can confirm Source: am 25
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 01:03 AM
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Yea dude, self reflection is key to everything you do in life. You cannot make people do it but realization is the first step in fixing your issues. Some shit you can’t fix, but you can definitely work on. God knows I still try and work on mine. Meeting people who are the same way feels rare these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 06:22 AM
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It’s a skill like anything else, the more you do it the better you’ll be. Also you really don’t give a fuck, in a life where we meet tens of thousands of people not one persons opinion really matters. I’m also comfortable around about any situation I come across now, cause I’ve been there before. It has its pros and cons, just like anything else.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 05:25 AM
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Good advice. Your conclusions, are good and come from life experience I would assume most people on here don’t have or haven’t experienced yet. Walking away is a skill that comes inately, or is learned over time. Time is the most precious resource we have, if I don’t feel that spark or am not crazy about something I leave. I don’t have time to spend on girls I am not having an absolute blast with, or I know I won’t enjoy being with more than a few passionate nights or a couple dates. I’m also a …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 05:00 AM
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It really depends on situation. At the bar or out around people you don’t know well and alcohol, not being a nice guy will definitely get you laid more. You also have to deal with a lot more, and hopefully you don’t get yourself in trouble or make a bad name for yourself because that success will stop quick. Personally I’d consider myself a decent guy, and most of my female friends have tried to fuck me at some point. In social circles women will respect decent guys, as long as you’re not pander…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 02:35 PM
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Correct. It’s about possible draw time. If it’s hidden they have to reach for it down the pants or in a jacket. I can beat that depending on where current attention is and space. If it’s holstered and a glock the most common pistol, then I can grab the slide it will not fire. I can’t beat that from two steps. If it’s a holstered magnum or other side arm I’m fucking off. If it’s a rifle or shotgun, well we’re in for a mass shooting so fuck it fight because your life depends on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 06:31 PM
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If they came out with me or they are my friends and are physically assaulted absolutely. My boys have to be their own men, unless it’s extreme danger. The times my boys or brothers in undergrad got knocked out at a bar, they usually fucking deserved it. I’m good at violence and I loved wrestling, occasional boxing, and some limited jiu-jitsu fucking around in off season. I’m a very laid back person, but if I saw a man physically attacking one of my female friends or a girl I was taking out I wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 03:40 PM
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I’ve had the opposite experience with the women I consider friends. I can be an empath when I want to or need to, but my women that are friends are that because I would never deal with their issues like that. That hasn’t stopped them at multiple different points from trying to drag me home when we all go out. Maybe it’s because I keep a level of distance with most people except the best of friends, or that I can connect and make friends with about everyone I come across and do it in a fun way. B…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 03:04 PM
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Oh I definitely do, and that’s why it’s hard to find women I want to date in my mid twenties. I have a lot of empathy for women and what they have to deal with because I’m the one of two dudes in one of my social circles, so I’ve heard bullshit they deal with and how it makes them feel. I’ve also dated or hooked up with it plenty of times. At this point point in my life I don’t have the time or energy to date it again because that baggage comes with a number of issues that gets portrayed in diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 02:20 PM
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Thanks, it feels weird putting it In a step by step list.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 01:53 AM
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I can see that much just by wanting to have the convo. Yea, I think the moderates definitely shine through even when I might disagree. We are social creatures that want to understand each other. If you scroll far enough though you can get a good chuckle. Yea in today’s world critical thinking is a necessity. Each Ideology on here has good and bad points. Just like you must always use good statistics from the outside to come to your own conclusion based on the narrative presented. Even if you don…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 01:35 AM
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I’ll take it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/21 01:22 AM
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Good I’m glad to hear it, most people I know still can’t take rejection or breakups gracefully to different degrees. Yea it’s weird waters till you’ve swam it enough If you have a good heart, which I believe you do for asking do what feels natural and don’t worry about. You’re the person who has to live with what you do, so if you didn’t get the signal and someone just goes with it, there’s not much you can do. Only you know if you were being untoward or disenginuine about the whole thing. Man I…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 05:28 PM
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I get it, and yea it can definitely be if you have not had those experiences yet. My only advice is be ok with the uncomfortable. Learning how to do these things is an uncomfortable process, but pretty important nonetheless. Learning how to socialize well whether with women or in general takes time and a process of trial and error. You can’t be too hard on yourself when things don’t go well because we meet tens of thousands of people during our lives, so no one persons opinion means shit. At the…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 02:16 PM
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Yea man. As long as you’re not a fucking garbage human being you’ll be fine 99% of the time, everyone involved usually just wants to have a good time. This seems like a younger person question, no offense meant.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 09:39 AM
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That’s how I do things, but I don’t fuck around with boundaries or a no. Some friends and guys I know don’t care. Speaks to them, their masculinity, and what they’re there for. I just go out to have fun, drink a little, and don’t really care how the night goes. If I try to up my numbers of girls I talk to I could find much more “success” and have in the past, but at this point I don’t care enough. I’d rather sleep in my own bed alone, and not feel the obligation of morning pillow talk and a ride…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 09:22 AM
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Yea basically, if I’m nice guy AND fun to be around things go well. If I have no interest I’m just a nice guy. Women value us not being assholes, you’ve also gotta be fun , not take yourself too seriously, and have a little gift of gab. Women aren’t going to jump your bones just for meeting the bare minimum expectation, unless they’re hammered and you’re as or more attractive than the rest of the room during the 2am rush (our bars close at 4am). But there’s also a 20% shot you’ll be holding some…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 09:05 AM
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If I’m hooking up, my experience is walk up to girl at bar, connect on something, laugh, drink, awful drunk make-out(optional), bar hop(optional), “want to get out of here”, Uber home with some form of touching, hand holding or other wise, have a hotter make out session at home (at least in my head), start getting handsy, clothes come off, and the rest well... If I get a No at the bar at any point in those steps I fuck off, If I get a slow down or things feel awkward at home we are gonna chill w…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/21 08:51 AM
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No, women are great, of course there’s some that aren’t. Most people are good people just trying to figure it out. For woman, who in general tend to be more upfront with emotions and personality traits, it makes my job as a dude more easier. Easier to call out problems when you can easily see how someone feels and talk about them. Easier as a man to walk away when I see shit I don’t like. Usually, makes me more thoughtful about how I do and approach things. Have had good success dating or hookin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 07:10 PM
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Kinda does to me too man. Every ideology usually has some good parts to go with the bad. Can be good if you critically evaluate it I would imagine. Also some people just use it as shield to avoid self-reflection and change in which case it’s bad. I just learn from my own experience. Times I’ve done things well or poorly whether in dating or life. I hope I learn my lessons and move forward better off, and life’s been pretty good to me so far for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 06:48 PM
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Man here. It’s about approach and place if you want to find that. In a year when you have access to more(21), you’ll have greater diversity of places to look. At a club it’s rare to find quality people but great if you want to hookup. If you’re looking for someone hangout bars are great, day drink a little bit and meet some cool friends of friends or walk up to a group of strangers and start a fun conversation. Even at 25, I still run into a fuckton of emotionally damaged girls that portray it i…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 03:22 PM
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Man here. Yes investing more time, energy, and (for me) money can feel draining. If I’m genuinely having a good time it doesn’t feel like it. If it doesn’t work out for whatever reason there’s lessons to learn if you’re being authentic that you can use to grow. I’ve been on dates with awesome girls and absolute nightmares. I either enjoy getting to know someone, or am absolutely entertained. Even with the awesome ones, if I see personality traits I don’t mesh with or baggage I don’t have the tim…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/21 02:43 PM
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I grew up around sales. Relationships with others and reading people is what I what I learned growing up. I may not be right on the vibes I get from people 100% of the time, but it is one of the things I consider myself damn good at. It’s not hard to tell when you start to get mixed body language and speech cues when something is off about someone. It’s easy to see when people are generally agreeable, maybe somewhat flattering and hide behind their mask showing no authenticity. Not everyone lear…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 08:53 PM
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Haha much love brother. I’m a big believer in boxes, it’s how I process. Big believer in learning through trial and error. I think having a lot of social circles and keeping them separate is great, more things to do, more people you like to be around, not really being involved in drama or caring whenever it happens cause it really doesn’t affect you.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:39 PM
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Talking to people. I can tell in 5 minutes of conversation whether I feel a connection, there’s a difference in a bunch of yea’s laughing flirting and actual input whether witty or intelligent. I know I can take girls home, maybe that’s why I don’t find the same enjoyment I used to, or maybe it’s age.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:19 PM
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If you want to take the convo that way, they may adapt but reading the signs is not hard. I really don’t have many fucks to give, because I don’t mind being alone. I’ve had bad relationships and good ones. The sign of bad ones, is not hard to tell. Sociopathic and narcissistic people or people with the tendencies or insecurities who will do that to you always have their tells. You can’t hide who you are forever. Source: life experience and mental health rotations treating people who actually suf…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 05:14 AM
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I’m the same way. Maybe because I’ve been with enough attractive women in the dating game, but if I don’t feel passion or really like being around someone I don’t really want to deal with them. Texting someone you might hook up with or take out shouldn’t feel like a chore, but for me it does. I have enough charisma to walk up and start a convo with absolutely anyone. I grew up around sales, did the fraternity thing, and go out with my friends every weekend, but finding someone interesting that I…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:59 AM
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I think what would help is going in having no expectations, and learning how to read people better. Latter is done by experience. As a 25 year old man doing the same shit in life, if I’ve done my own assessment of people and I want to date them rather than hook up they have my trust until they lose it. If they lose it, no big deal you just move on. That shit usually isn’t done to spite you, people have issues and you shouldn’t take it personally. Most people want a genuine connection, but they m…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:28 AM
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Just a few. Doesn’t change how we empathize and understand each. Doesn’t change the fact that there’s certain baggage or personality traits you can put up with or would rather walk away from. I don’t think you could simplify dating with one thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:08 AM
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As a dude I don’t get it. I wouldn’t respond because with responses like that, the person isn’t truly sincere. No one wants an invite to a pity party. If you think your weight’s an issue, cut weight, been doing it for sports since high school. Literally a caloric numbers game. Height? Make up for it with personality. My buddy who is 5’4” is massively successful with women. Socially awkward? Force yourself to be uncomfortable, and adapt till you do it well. The bigger issue, is people who come at…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:02 AM
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Yessir undersell, overdeliver. Yea, I think expectations have certainly changed, and in a lot of ways towards the worse. With age and experience it’s much easier to weed out bullshit, but the frequency hasn’t exactly changed it just takes different forms.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 03:31 AM
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I’m a dude, but as a universal truth I understand. If I have choices I get to be picky. For guys who aren’t as fortunate in that department I get it too. It’s just one of the things I need in a LTR. People gotta have their own interests, but if you can’t enjoy some of the same things and make it a routine It’s not as fun. But that’s one piece of the pie.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 10:39 PM
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Then I’m happy being alone. Not really a big deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:47 PM
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Like I said I’ve definitely had some. Just nothing where at the end of the day, I could say I’d be more happy 5 years down the road dealing with unique dynamics each relationship had, than doing my own thing. I’ll probably find that person at some point, but I’m not gonna set myself up to be unhappy later on.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:25 PM
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wholeheartedly disagree, that’s how social circles become incesty in my experience. Finishing conversations over the apps is absolutely boring and a chore. Talking to a girl I don’t know when I’m out takes less than 5 minutes for me to decide if I want to keep talking, or go meet another new person. Talking to people face to face forges a much better interpersonal connection than the apps will ever make.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:19 PM
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It’s just young immaturity. I’m still not great at getting aggressively hit on by women I’m not interested in. I just give uncomfortable body language, then find any reason to walk away. People more immature than I will say mean shit, but we’ve all had mean shit said to us at some point so who cares. Doesn’t mean that women shouldn’t/can’t initiate conversation or interest if they want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:09 PM
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Just teach your kids to be confident and independent. But, I don’t really give a damn if any kids I have fuck 50 people or 0. It’s their life to live. I also don’t think spanking a kid is bad, but I think there are better ways to teach. I’ve been belted and swiched, and learned pretty quick not to do whatever I was doing. Wasn’t a big deal growing up, and doubt it had any long term affect. Wouldn’t put my own through that, but for a lot of parents and kids it works.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:56 PM
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I’m more on you’re side and we each have it tough in some regards. When it comes to initiation, and emotional labor I think that’s a partial lie. We all have different reasons we initiate. For me when I’m in the situation it’s because I have nothing better to do. If I’m at a bar or party of course I’m going to go talk to girls and have fun doing it. That doesn’t mean I actually care or want to take someone home. I find chemistry when people like doing the same stuff I do. They have their own nea…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:40 PM
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I don’t have kids or health issues. My friends go out a lot, so I do too. I’ve always lived in cities. My high schools and colleges were big. I don’t think I’m top 20%, but I have personality, I’m tall, and fairly attractive, talking to people I don’t know is fun to me because I enjoy reading people. I’ve had a serious LTR before and other shorter ones. I’ve gotten to live a lot of places, travel, and meet a lot of people. So only about 19 or 20 is a relatively small percentage of the people I’v…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 06:52 PM
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Evil? Not at all. You can usually tell what people value in a couple minutes talking. If that’s one of the first things I notice, well it’s time to make other plans.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 05:02 PM
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It didn’t for me either but I knew some guys that got really attached around the same time that I played sports with.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 04:06 PM
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Don’t feel bad, just take steps in whatever direction you want to go. Being hard on yourself isn’t going to change anything, stay positive keep working toward the goals you set for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 03:51 PM
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Yea it’s part of life experience. Only the blackout choices would I consider mistakes, but how else are you gonna learn to be more responsible. It’s a journey, not a destination.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 03:46 PM
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I think like 19 but I stopped counting a couple years ago, and it would probably take me a half hour to remember everyone. Let’s see, 5 ex-gfs, around a dozen times I’ve met someone at a bar or party I found really interesting and took home or saw for few weeks-months, and a couple times I got too drunk and woke up next to someone. Again I’m mid twenties, if I hooked up with everyone I’ve had an opportunity with so far, those numbers could be a LOT higher but fucking to fuck makes me feel numb t…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 03:36 PM
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Nope. 25 y.o. M.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 03:05 PM
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Not at my age at this point. It’s a younger people type of question. I won’t say I’ve never been asked in the last year, but it’s much rarer now than say 5 years ago in my early twenties.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 03:00 PM
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Basically. Work on your own issues, otherwise you live a sad existence of not learning from your mistakes. Adapt and overcome, or go through the same cycles.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 10:42 AM
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Yea. Your alcoholics have big bellies for a reason. Fatty liver isn’t fun. Big thing I never want to see in a partner is Diabetes and the resulting heart and kidney failure.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 10:35 AM
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That’s fair I think that’s also the line for serious and not serious. If you’re still seeing multiple people, Ive never been one to be serious there. Usually having a rotation was a stopgap when I was younger between girls I really meshed with. Nowadays it feels like a chore with how busy work keeps me, so I don’t keep one.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 10:31 AM
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I was younger, but I’ve never been quick to emotionally attach to someone on that level. I need a certain level of independence, and I’ve never had a good amount of patience for the types of insecurities that usually follow. There are people out there for late bloomers, but I wouldn’t be a good choice. If you’re having a girls night and going out, I figure you’re gonna get drunk with your friends dance in a circle together and say you had a wild night. Nothing about that bothers me, but I expect…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 10:21 AM
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I’ve taken other peoples, it’s just a lot of instant emotional attachment that I’m not really the person for. Learned my lesson, never again.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 09:58 AM
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That makes sense then. Most one liner comments on here mentioning it are from dead serious people. There’s so many things to judge about someone, and that one thing just doesn’t matter to me personally compared to plenty of others.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 09:15 AM
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I thank god for all my exes, and hope they all find happiness. Just far enough away in the rear view mirror.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 09:07 AM
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More so for future health reasons. I work in health, and I see the end product of that fairly often when I get out of the basement to go see my patients in the ER/ICU/CCU.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:49 AM
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“Unless they show a pattern of behavior” so you agree with my point there. I disagree with the male love being possessive, I’ve just never had that attachment cause people do what they want to do. It’s not my job to be possessive, if you want to be with me that’s your choice. Maybe it’s cause I’m physically intimidating, but no one has ever said shit like what you mentioned earlier. I would assume because most people don’t give a fuck. If I think someone would cheat, why would I be with them. I’…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:46 AM
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I just don’t think it matters near as much as people on here like to comment. And honestly I am pretty turned off by someone my age who is jobless or uneducated. I do think there’s good women in both the traditional and progressive camps. But if you’re waiting on my pay check, I’ll weed that out in 5 minutes of conversation.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:34 AM
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I’m 25 man. 20 people is like 4 people a year since 18. That’s nothing. I can’t judge people for their past unless they show a pattern of behavior. As long as people learn from the stupid shit we all do, why do I care what stupid shit happened outside of life changing things. Somebody cheats on me, I walk away not a big deal. That’s their issues and insecurities, and I’m thankful if I find that shit out.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:09 AM
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Basically, if you don’t see yourself being happy what’s the fucking point. I’d rather be alone, than not happy and married.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 08:03 AM
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I wrestled through school, I’m lucky I picked a sport that it will never be an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:54 AM
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Same brother. Good chemistry is hard to come by. I can put on my social face and talk to a wall, but if I don’t find the conversation or person interesting it feels like fucking chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:51 AM
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Why though, my number count is high, so why would I care if a chick I like enough to take out is larger than mine. Unless she’s got a solid rotation going, which isn’t something I want if I’m actually not fucking around, why would I judge someone for the past. Normally you learn some lessons along the way. I’d rather be with a girl whose number count is above 20 than god forbid a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:48 AM
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Amen.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:41 AM
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I’m like 6’4” 230 I’d say above 28bmi. I’ve always been built from wrestling, but how I live my life or cut weight when the jeans get tight is nothing I would reccomend to others so I can’t judge. As long as you’re at a healthy weight, I don’t take issue because of weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:39 AM
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Honest to god I’d rather just go home alone. Stay below a 28-30bmi and I can’t really judge. Above that and I’m really not sexually attracted.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:34 AM
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Agree. You improve as you do things more. Same goes with talking to women. The less you care, the more likely you’ll be yourself. Also a numbers game, for me if I talk to 10 girls at a bar I’ll find about two interesting enough that I’ll want to talk to them more.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:27 AM
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I’d say 50% of women, but I live in a southern city with terrible health statistics. When I lived in Portland 30%, Nashville like 20%. For me it’s a combination of weight and what I can gather out of a 5 minute conversation. If I get bored talking to someone or see traits I don’t like, I’m disinterested.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:16 AM
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I’d assume that a good portion of men aren’t only there for sex. I go on dates to see if I find people interesting. If I’m bored or see a bunch of flags, why the fuck am I taking that girl home to stay in my bed till noon the next day. Sex without any emotion feels numbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 07:08 AM
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How about we start with empathy, understanding, and humor. You don’t need to be selling a false version of yourself, to make enough of a connection with a girl to take her home. That sounds positively painstaking. I’d say about 70% of the women I’ve had the pleasure of going home with didn’t want a relationship, just someone fun to be with for a night or a few weeks. I’m not a top 20% dude, but why put yourself through that hell when you can just go to the bars, parties, or events and talk to gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 06:56 AM
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Bingo. Learn to empathize and you can better understand women and how to filter men. It both makes your relationships more thoughtful affairs and allows you to read others quicker.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 06:42 AM
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Who actually gives a fuck if someone watches porn? I wouldn’t care if my girlfriends did. I don’t understand the stigma. Why should anyone be limited by how they choose to pleasure themselves in their free time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 05:54 PM
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Man if I don’t feel any chemistry of passion with a girl, I don’t want to take her to bed. My sex drive is attached to passion, so if I don’t feel any it feels mundane. If I find someone interesting looks only matter up to a certain point.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 07:42 AM
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Yup, I’ll add that TRP and FDS are 2 sides of the same coin. Things that could have some good value, but are warped and used as ideological shields by previously broken and abused people. Don’t take your life advice from the internet, live it yourself and learn from what you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 07:29 AM
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I think that once a cheater isn’t always a cheater. People change and grow over time. People at some point have to face their own insecurities. I don’t think you made the wrong call here because there’s no set time period where people make this change, and it doesn’t sound like there would be trust. I also think that cheats on you, will always cheat on you. For people who do get cheated on, the type of growth mentioned doesn’t happen while you are still in the security blanket of a relationship.…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 07:15 AM
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When did I make that point? Do you need help? How are you performing these great feats of mental gymnastics? I’m honestly impressed you can turn casual hookups into a conversation about murder. I hope you get the help you need.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 12:22 PM
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When was abuse mentioned by me or op? Are you ok?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/21 03:20 AM
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Yes. Some of my female friends are like that and isolate themselves. Others stay the exact same. Everyone is different and reacts differently. Important thing is to remember this shit isn’t about you. People just behave differently in various situations. Most of the isolationists shoot me a text whenever they break up or are unhappy and wanna get back in the social circle and that’s cool too. It really shouldn’t affect you either way, this isn’t a personal thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 07:02 AM
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I respect it, and no one is going to go out of their way to teach you that shit. In a world based on relationships with others being needed to get ahead, it does pay off. If you’re looking for dating or relationship advice. I don’t think you’re gonna find it in a book or from any of us. experience. You have to go out and date to get better at it and learn to handle each situation better each time. We each learn at different rates, just make sure you are learning.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 03:40 AM
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1) where are you looking? Some people do better online/others in person. Also includes types of events you’re going to. 2) how well can you have good time and be fun to be around? You gotta be able to strike up conversations at the drop of a hat, and be able to not take yourself too seriously. 3) how do you respond to interest? Are you an emotional person, that’s terrible for casual. Do you blow peoples phones up, that’s bad. Do you want to take someone home that night? Women will smell the thir…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 03:30 AM
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I think the bigger question is how do you want to better yourself as man? For me that’s self accountability, integrity, confidence in myself, and how I can be a positive figure for those around me. That’s what I saw in my old man, so that’s what it means to me and what I try to focus on and struggle with occasionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 03:21 AM
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I mean sure trolls will send hate your way. I think the difference is overweight and obesity. Overweight is fine, on some it’s sexy. Obese and crossing that line of 30BMI is an actual health problem. 33% of healthcare spending in the US is because of that number. Having a partner with a likely future of high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, and many other associated problems combined with lower energy levels and higher likelihood for mental health events just isn’t for me. There are many…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 03:13 AM
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Same dude I can’t finish a quarter of the convos I start. I’ll meet a stranger out and talk for 2 hours. Going out and doing something makes me feel alive, swiping right and repeating a similar conversation is fucking numbing.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 11:16 PM
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There’s also the fact that the apps are boring. I want to go talk to women at events parties or bars. I want to meet interesting people who also wanted to go have fun, I don’t want the other schmuck lying on their couch swiping. I want to talk to someone for 5 minutes to see if I enjoy the conversation, and see who they are in that snapshot before deciding to move on to the next person there. The whole app experience just kinda pales in comparison, messaging is a chore.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 11:06 PM
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Exactly I expect to be chosen first, and no hard feelings if not. Definitely not gonna be waiting around though. Not a reason to ever be mean to someone like some comments suggest, but there’s too many other people to meet to get stuck on one person that said no.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 06:07 PM
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Man, just do whatever the fuck you want. TRP works for you great. TBP works? Cool. Just be authentic in whatever you choose to do and however you choose to do it, or you’ll be miserable. Both have their good points, but have holes and flaws. If you need a guide to meet people and make connections with others in aspects of human interaction, I think you’re missing the point of it. Learning to socialize with the opposite sex whether as friends or more intimately takes time and experience. No manua…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:44 PM
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That’s not a boyfriend that’s an emotional support animal. Well, and someone that needs one. Might be something to look into.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 04:39 AM
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From a male perspective, no to all these things. I think the issue is dating bad people. People who feel entitled to things they shouldn’t are time, energy, and income vortexes. Let the bloodsuckers feast on each other. The actual importance of this is to be able to filter out people efficiently and to be able to do the free-est thing in the world, walk away.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 03:54 AM
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Depends on time period. If that was a year ago I don’t care. If that was last month, would be a red flag. Number doesn’t matter. Why would I ever care how many people you’ve slept with, when the only thing I can make my own judgements on is your pattern of behavior. When one of my female friends who has abandonment issues makes a scene, it is because she needs and likes the attention. That has not changed in years. Another has issues from an over attached controlling mother, and becomes a (fun a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 10:21 PM
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Honestly it’s a broad category for me. Whether it’s one night stands or friends with benefits it all falls similarly for me. But that’s just been my experience. I wouldn’t call it casual if you’re actively going on dates and trying to get know someone. I also think while you’re in a non-committed relationship you can date multiple people. Now you can’t be surprised that when people find out they won’t be hurt by it. I stopped doing that pretty early on in my dating life because of how the women …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 06:41 PM
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How I read it is why I would never ship it. People who like casual sex tend to take comfort in people. I take comfort in music, impulse projects, and my imagination. Taking someone home from the bar means less free time the next day. It’s also an impulsive and reckless decision (because when I’ve done it has been so that’s how I see it). My lizard brain removes sex with any emotional connection, which my partners have not done. So doing it has hurt others in the past, which has removed a lot of …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 09:42 AM
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They are but that’s not the issue. You just got a bad string of dates. Some of us are assholes, some of us are good dudes. Being on the apps means you run into more of the former than the latter. Very few of us on the apps are on there for serious reasons, that doesn’t mean we have to act like zoo animals. Sorry you had a rough go for the last bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 04:06 PM
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12 hours later: “leaving my apartment before noon was also part of the plan”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 04:29 AM
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Idk, I’ve lived a lot of places made a lot of friends along the way. Having good people you enjoy being around is all it really takes. As long as you’ve got the common sense to not give more than you’re willing to lose, or ask more than you’re comfortable taking it’s fine. Yeah the worlds a fucked up place, and people have their issues. But most people don’t think like sociopaths, and it’s pretty easy to weed those out if you have basic social skills. You like hanging out with people you connect…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 12:43 PM
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Real talk, why do you need to get anything out of being buds with your friends. You’ve got to be an absolutely fucked person to think that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 11:03 PM
2

Sleeping in my own bed alone is the best. Sleeping in my own bed with random bar chick is absolutely not the best.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/21 05:18 PM
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I don’t see many of these from my own social circles, but the answer is simple. The freedom that women have gotten In recent years socially, is the same freedom men have come to find now. If I can take care of myself financially, emotionally, and physically, why the fuck would I ever want or need a partner or LTR. I was almost married once, and not going through with it was the best decision I’ve made in my life. I still wish the girl I was with the absolute best, but that relationship and ones …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 12:11 PM
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Key word also
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 02:44 PM
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From TN, fuck this bill. Abortion is also the most godamn cost effective way of population control we have. Does our shitty foster system really need more children to take care of?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 01:55 AM
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Go to the bar with my friends. Talk to a girl who this time isn’t married (two of my last 6 ONS’s), get her number, don’t spend anything on drinks. Go home alone, sleep in my own bed. Nobody stays the next morning till like noon. Woke up remembering everything from the night before. Think about texting the chick then get busy doing things and end up forgetting about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/21 08:47 PM
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You either create your own definition of masc/fem or you accept the cultural norm. Unfortunately for us the cultural norm leaves a lot to be desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 05:07 AM
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I stuck to 1000 calories a day. I was normally eating like 3500-4000. I lost about 7 pounds a week. It’s a bitch to start but after two weeks it’s the new norm till you hit your goal. After, you can go to what keeps you where you are. For me since I’m tall that’s like 2800. 1000 is harsh and bad for you long term so I would try 1500. I ate like a chipotle bowl(w/o queso or guacamole) and a sandwich or a piece of lean protein most days. For breakfast eggs are like 70 cals each.Big thing is just k…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 04:49 PM
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That’s true, but when it comes to your relationship only your own thoughts on the subject matter, why should you give a shit if people don’t think so. If outside opinions change how you or the other person see each other, than someone there still has some growing up to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 02:58 PM
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The point is if you find someone attractive and they find you attractive, your looks match. Nothing else matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 02:52 PM
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They don’t, we all have our own tastes. What matters more goes beyond looks. None of us will look good at 70 anyway.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 02:39 PM
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Projection. People tend to put their insecurities on others before working them out for themselves. It extends across the internet. We all join echo chambers we like. When we’re told we’re right by everybody and they agree with us, how could we ever be wrong? Why do you think we’re so bad at having level headed discussions as a society. Why does the insanity of FDS’s expectation of men exist? No one can live up to that standard, and if they could why would they pick anyone who demanded it. No on…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 02:36 PM
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Number one reason is money trouble. This stems from a lack of communication. Have it and most problems can be easily overcome. Don’t and most people will be seeking other means of dealing with issues or frustration no matter what they are. Unless the authorities are required, everyone has some share of blame in a divorce, and the kids pick up the bill.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 01:23 PM
2

I’m 6’4, when I wrestled in high school I was 190 and shredded, by my second year of undergrad I was 285. Nowadays I’m at 230, got back on the wrestling diet still didn’t go to the gym and lost about 60 in two months a couple years ago. It definitely changes my options. That being said my personality and confidence always remained the same, so quality of person has improved with dating experience. My advice, get that ass out their and start trying to date. The worst anyone will ever tell you is …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 01:13 PM
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Yes as all teenage boys have at one time. Limerence is what gets us to act on our impulses to get learning how to date started. Nowadays I barely think about it. Work and grad school have numbed me to my desires and are constantly on my mind more than any thing else. Enough past relationships and sexual encounters have made me better at wanting to be with people I assess first rather than whatever girl I got drunk with at the frat house. Nowadays It’s hard to actually think about it unless it’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 01:00 PM
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Be yourself. If you find some who likes what you’re selling, and you do for them it’ll work out. People tend to make time for people they want to be with. Cash money wise yes that means a few dinners out, but being thrifty makes you make better choices for the people you really want to take out. After an initial investment and good conversation, you should have reasonable expectations for dates based on what you have going for you. Wanting more than you can reasonably do should tell you enough a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 12:33 PM
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I agree with the sentiment here. I am thankful for everything I learned from being with my ex girlfriends good and bad. I think self-reflection and growth is the ultimate goal rather than needing a LTR or expecting a STR. I also think that if you go in thinking this, this is all you’ll see it as. I think positivity and hope for the future from both sides is important to want to do all the hard things to make LTR actually last AND be good. Having experiences like you mentioned is important for ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/21 12:16 PM
2

Yea just took it and was slightly above average Machiavellian. Interesting stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 09:59 PM
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Rip the bandaid off and stop communicating. Longer you wait harder it is to do. There are lots of people out there I hope you find someone that treats you better. Don’t feel bad for feeling jealous it’s called being human. As long as you don’t act out of those feelings you’ll be alright. In the next person hopefully you build enough trust those feelings are at minimum. Love is a two way road paved out over time. Sounds like you’ve been stuck on a one way for a while. Also sounds like this person…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 09:41 PM
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I don’t see this as a government nor a religion issue. I think you need to communicate this as a need. You all have done a lot together and given up some things but more out of necessity. You have done together things you have had to do. Your thoughts and feelings on the subject matter and should be treated that way. If you feel you need that commitment, he should see that as something important to you. You gotta communicate to the point you agree or find a compromise on the serious things you d…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 09:25 PM
1

Everyone should have their own hobbies and interests. There’s also extremes. If he only talks about it that’s a warning, but if he only talks about it sparingly or when asked that’s pretty normal. People can like some really weird stuff, anime is foreign to our culture in the US but not crazy on the weird stuff meter.
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/21 08:47 PM
5

What’s dark triad?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 08:36 PM
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What I don’t understand with that argument is, are we talking about people at the same job level or just overall across America. Both are bad arguments, one is due to negotiating better, the other is increasingly coming closer so it’s really not a good complaint.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 07:43 PM
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-Independent -has own interests or hobbies -willing to move a lot -conversational -ambitious beyond material things -educated -no neediness or jealousy issues -fun to be around -good around friends and family
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/21 06:35 PM
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Agreed! Have a good one
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 08:22 PM
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Correct and you can see it in their development already. A kindergartner shouldn’t be unable to read children’s books, and it’s extremely unusual that a two year old isn’t saying words yet and only wants to be held by me and the other men at gatherings.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 08:08 PM
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Maturity would be a better word I guess. Youth is more geared to the kids that do it in real life and to the extent of gifts and a legitimate amount of time. That doesn’t really get you where you want to go. But the people who do it the most in real life are high school kids. A couple of my nerdy friends had to grow out of that. I have a cousin that ended up doing that and married the girl. Now I get to watch him have no backbone and no ability to communicate with his wife. They’re broke with ki…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 07:55 PM
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Mental health issues DO exist. Older generations also didn’t have the access to mental healthcare we do today. That said it’s more so how you deal with them and resolve them. I suspect 50% of the population does not have SERIOUS TRAUMA. Being a young generation it’s on us to work through our own issues. The problem millennials and I suspect gen Z has is, that we surround ourselves with like minded people versus our parents who had to interact with their entire community without the blessing of t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 12:31 PM
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Well both Subs make an occasional good point at times and fill in the rest with insanity. FDS serves its purpose for women, MTGOW for men. When you see MTGOW things you disagree with bring them here for debate, it’s why this sub exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 12:11 PM
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How so? I’m not following your logic to get to that conclusion. How did you make the mental gymnastics jump from simps putting people on a pedestal and giving away money and energy is bad and a mistake to be learned from, to child abuse and relationship abuse is okay? Edit: I’m curious more than anything and willing to talk with you about the stark distinctions I read from op’s post to your own thoughts.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 11:53 AM
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Have in the past, learned from it. Better at judging people for it. I thank my exgfs for all the lessons they’ve taught me good and bad, and I hope I have the wisdom to never to repeat mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 11:22 AM
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It’s a waste of money in my eyes if nothing else, but if you find empowerment from it and you have the cash to spend I think it’s fine. People wonder why half of Americans couldn’t find 400 bucks if we really needed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 11:18 AM
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Social circles are overrated and dating within brings drama from experience. When it happens for you it happens, till then there’s plenty of other things in life to focus on. Time spent worrying about your dating life is time wasted where it could be spent elsewhere. Incel is a term used to bash people, or people use who are down on themselves. Either way I wouldn’t use it, if you focus too much on finding someone, you will and you won’t like what you find in the long run. If you’re in the time …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 11:13 AM
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Both people are at fault to a degree. Knowingly taking advantage is bad. Putting someone on a pedestal and allowing yourself to be taken advantage of is also bad. Simping is a mistake of youth. If you do it, you eventually grow out of it. If you do it and it works out for you, I pity it because that’s what a relationship will be started on and that will turn into a very bad thing down the road. When you see women as people no better or worse than yourself, you’ll be able to judge people accordin…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 10:59 AM
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You can control the broke part my man, but money solves very few personal problems. I’ve got plenty of flaws myself. If I don’t get attention from women, no one else cares. Neither should I, nothing wrong with them nor I. When I do half the time, I’d rather be doing something I find more interesting. Focus on what you can control, be a good person, find your own success whatever that means, find what makes you happy in other areas. Pining over women comes from a place of feeling insecure about y…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/21 04:10 AM
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