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I think you’re just proving my point, if anything
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 03:11 AM
2

What do you think is so different?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 02:59 AM
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FDS is to women what TRP is to men. They’re parasitic dating strategies that selfishly prioritize superficial qualities and personal gain, and prefer shaping partners to nurturing them. They externalize blame, so are comically incapable of genuine self-reflection. Independent people who are capable of communicating like adults generally don’t put up with this bullshit, so these ideologies self-perpetuate through confirmation bias. How surprising that treating others like shit is going to make th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 02:19 AM
5

Use shitty bait, catch shitty fish.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/19 01:58 AM
3

I know there’s no one right answer to shit tests, but my knee-jerk response to that one was “Depends, did it work?”
/r/seduction11/11/19 05:02 PM
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With the caveat of only being able to answer this from a man’s perspective: Sex is easy, but if you want to retain a guy, make sure you add value to his life. Know that value and don’t waste time on a guy that doesn’t recognize if you add value to his life, regardless of how much you’re into him. Be someone he’s comfortable bringing home to mom. And LOOK GOOD. Most people can be a 7+ if they get into shape and get good haircut/style/hygiene. Make friends with guys in stable relationships.
/r/seduction09/11/19 02:53 AM
3

“Yeah, that’s why I transitioned”
/r/seduction09/11/19 02:42 AM
5

Being very agreeable is fine, neediness is not.
/r/seduction01/11/19 07:32 AM
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Or you could give a shit but have other priorities too, so there’s no acting involved
/r/seduction01/11/19 07:16 AM
1

Why does how many women you slept with matter? Why are you posting this after posting a week ago that you think sex is a waste of time? You need to develop a sense of identity and decide what you want first.
/r/seduction10/09/19 02:59 AM
1

The conversation is bland af, but potential hookup gets my vote. She’s on a dating app on her last day in town in a foreign country. What do you think
/r/seduction10/09/19 02:21 AM
2

If it’s consistently happening after sex, the bedroom is likely to be be where the problem lies.
/r/seduction10/09/19 01:16 AM
1

Holy fuck that was cringey.
/r/seduction10/09/19 01:11 AM
2

Who the fuck cares? If you cultivate a fun and interesting life, looksmaxx, and learn how to fuck really well, you’ll have plenty of women chasing you. Obsessing over imperfections is a sign of insecure mindset. Insecurity is the kryptonite of an otherwise attractive man. PS if you do get rejected for your height, treat it as a shit test.
/r/seduction10/09/19 12:58 AM
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Sex tips are quite on point. A few additional points: Focusing on her is really #1. Not just how she reacts, but also the rhythm of her body. When you fuck her, let her set the rhythm first, then jump in and accentuate it, then lead. Escalate gradually, but keep the same rhythm. If she’s close to coming don’t radically change what you’re doing. Focusing on her also means not focusing on you. By that, I mean that I suspect most people focus way to much on whether what they’re doing looks right (t…
/r/seduction05/09/19 03:00 AM
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The only “power” here is possibly one of self-fulfilling prophecy. She believed that he would come back, which changed the way she interacted (or didn’t) with him in the meantime, which may have ultimately influenced his decision. It’s also possibly just coincidence.
/r/MGTOW03/09/19 08:31 AM
1

Fuck him in the ass to show him who’s boss, prison-style. Seriously though, don’t worry too much about it. When I meet a girlfriend’s family, I approach it from the standpoint that I’m evaluating them just as much as they are sizing me up. I’m a generally responsible adult with a good career. There’s no reason to be afraid of her family. Rather, I try to evaluate whether I can put up with them long-term if things get serious. If you’re treating his sister well, then stick to your guns. You’ve go…
/r/seduction23/08/19 07:26 AM
1

Stick around and you might get to see Superman
/r/seduction23/08/19 07:09 AM
1

Depends whether you think you’d actually be good friends or are just friends to get in her pants.
/r/seduction27/07/19 09:09 PM
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If you’re unwell enough to be in a psych ward, focusing on getting your shit together is priority. You’re obviously in a vulnerable place, do you think that there’s anything positive to be gained by hooking up with someone who’s guaranteed to be psychologically unhealthy for you? Fix your shit and focus on girls that aren’t likely to mess it up even worse.
/r/seduction25/06/19 07:51 PM
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Your funeral. There are plenty of sane chicks who are good in bed and are straightforward about what they want.
/r/seduction24/06/19 02:31 AM
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Dude... It’s not worth sticking your dick in crazy. Not just a lesson in seduction, but also a life lesson. If you need to play games, it’s not worth it. It should be as simple as you are both attracted to each other, enjoy each other’s company sufficiently/don’t think the other person is nuts, and want the same thing. It’s simple, but not always easy. This way means getting laid with minimal drama, though.
/r/seduction24/06/19 12:37 AM
2

She probably wasn’t that interested to begin with if something so benign was her excuse to dip out. Last week, I sent a girl my address by mistake (was meant for a different one). She figured it out quickly. We’re still on for this week, and it actually seems to have set the tone of the encounter as more casual.
/r/seduction23/06/19 02:46 PM
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Alternate opinion: I’ve worked in bars before. It’s a high school popularity contest, with minimal job security at the best of times. Unless you’re desperate for the money, I say go for it. If you are desperate for the money, you should be looking for a more stable source of income.
/r/seduction23/06/19 02:34 PM
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The question you’re really asking is “can I rely on a crutch to get laid?” The answer is possibly. However, appearance, status, money, and charisma are all generally more effective aspects of seduction that can be relied upon as a crutch. And worse, there’s not much you can do to optimize your dick size/shape, but there’s a lot you can do to optimize all the other categories. As far as crutches go, you picked the weakest leg to stand on (totally intended). Now, you can choose the level of depth …
/r/seduction09/05/19 04:47 PM
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Of course he is. Playing games isn’t “fun”, it’s insecure. It’s people who lack the confidence that they have something to offer who feel like they need to disguise their own personality with mind games in order to attract others. This isn’t the same as the push-pull of flirting. Flirting is showing attraction in a way that has plausible deniability: it shouldn’t make you question whether he’s actually interested.
/r/seduction08/05/19 07:52 PM
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You get called ugly by ugly people because you wear your heart on your sleeve to the extent that you might as well walk around with a billboard advertising your insecurity. Besides, why is being ugly the worst thing in the world? Looks fade.
/r/seduction04/05/19 06:03 PM
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It definitely brings up an interesting point in terms of nuance. How do you draw the line between reasonable embellishment and false advertising?
/r/MensRights04/05/19 04:29 PM
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Oh god, this post resonates. Being falsely accused also kind of permanently alters how you see the world. When people you’ve known for years turn their backs on you, more because you’ve become a pariah than because they have any actual knowledge of the situation, it’s hard not to think poorly of them. You really can’t unsee how easy it is for people to turn on each other, on nothing but hearsay.
/r/MensRights04/05/19 04:10 PM
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Treating sex like it’s not a big deal and ensuring she feels that she’s in a non-judgemental environment >>>>> complimenting sexuality.
/r/seduction20/04/19 05:09 PM
2

How do you own a yacht but can’t afford to go “back East”?
/r/MGTOW14/04/19 06:54 PM
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Look, This isn’t really TRP advice as it is relationship advice about sex. Personally, I think most guys in TRP play way too many stupid little mind games (which isn’t really conducive to a good relationship anyway), when being direct and from a position of confidence works better anyway. I would tell her that I’m not satisfied with our sex life, and though I’d prefer to be with her, I can’t continue to live like this and at some point there will be a breaking point that will lead to me looking …
/r/askTRP16/03/19 09:00 PM
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It’s cute how you like to pretend to be a dom
/r/seduction13/03/19 04:37 PM
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You’re referring to your mouth I assume? Because clearly much more shit flows out of your mouth (and probably in too) than any of your other orifices.
/r/seduction13/03/19 03:25 PM
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Exactly. “Daddy” is far too insecure to show off his dick. He clearly prefers others sticking their dicks in his ass.
/r/seduction13/03/19 01:05 PM
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Stop asking her for kisses/sex. Either move on or meet her friends and hit on the hot ones mercilessly. Don’t bother trying with her. Most likely way to get her to come around, just as good for sleeping with her friends. Honestly though, seriously could you really take someone who treats you this way anyway? On a side note, if you date someone and they want to be friends but show zero interest in fucking you anymore, you need to up your sex game.
/r/seduction13/03/19 10:46 AM
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This is garbage. The proportion of male executives was similar to the proportion of male workers, with a job described as underpaid and dangerous by the article, which threw a shit fit over the fact that there isn’t enough diversity among executives and suggesting changes, while giving a minimal obligatory nod to those on the work floor. So it’s okay for men to take all the rough, dangerous work, but god forbid they do anything but hire an arbitrarily-based demographically “balanced” board of di…
/r/MensRights10/03/19 05:27 PM
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Yeah, at the point of a month, this probably falls more into the relationship advice side of things than seduction. More a matter of how to address issues in an honest and fair way.
/r/seduction02/03/19 07:31 AM
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How long have you been dating/fucking? Need to put a frame of reference on this.
/r/seduction02/03/19 07:04 AM
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If they amputated your left arm at birth, and you survived and grew up never experiencing what it was like to have a left arm, would you feel the same? Also, don’t forget that you have a degree of bias because you didn’t suffer complications from the procedure.
/r/MensRights02/03/19 04:56 AM
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Hey humans commit all crimes against humans, so naturally we’re all at fault and shouldn’t have prisons.
/r/MensRights02/03/19 04:50 AM
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Yes, a lot of the problems are related to the material that people consume, but I still believe there’s a component to those beliefs that’s more deeply engrained, and a logical product of a shift in sexual power and abundance for an individual that was previously, and to some degree still is, constrained by a “male pursuer” dynamic. When you give a previously sexually powerless man sexual power, there will always be some people who will have greater tendencies to abuse that power.
/r/seduction01/03/19 10:28 AM
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Becoming decent or better at attracting and bedding women means that a lot more self control is needed than before, especially if you want a relationship, but even to continue to be a decent man. It’s a lot easier to stay faithful to your partner when you don’t have many other options available, compared to when you have attractive options offering themselves to you on a regular basis (especially at bad times, like when your relationship is hurting and you’re drunk). Sexual conquests can become …
/r/seduction01/03/19 10:12 AM
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Totally. I find it interesting that early on in my journey, I found the self-actualization part easier than the seduction part, but once I developed the tools to have the sex life I wanted (and much more), keeping up with the self-actualization to keep those tools in check becomes the harder task. Is this something you see often in your students?
/r/seduction01/03/19 07:43 AM
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Thanks man. Unfortunately, I know this mentality too well on a personal level. I think people forget that being able to know when you’ve got someone worth holding on to (ie out of choice and not desperation) and being able to say “no” to everyone else is an alpha as fuck move.
/r/seduction01/03/19 07:18 AM
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Ugh. I really don’t like pickup guys like these. In fact, unless you want to live a sleazy selfish life that puts chasing tail above all else, I think they’re an example of what not to be. In fact, despite how little regard they seem to have for women (and most people in general), I find it ironic that they put pussy as their number one priority in life. This is the toxic side to seduction. The guys who get the most airtime are the ones who make seduction their lives, at the expense of all the s…
/r/seduction01/03/19 03:41 AM
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Thanks. I responded to an earlier post about that, so please check that out for the details, but to paraphrase, escalating sexual tension without pushing for sex subtly prods her into taking the initiative to progressing things toward sex (and thus makes her want it more due to cognitive dissonance).
/r/seduction21/02/19 11:05 PM
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Depends. Most of the women I attract these days are conventionally attractive, fit professionals (which is on a fairly equivalent league to me). That said, I can’t speak for anyone else’s experiences, so YMMV I suppose?
/r/seduction21/02/19 09:39 PM
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This. Women are freaky, but generally seem to be more inhibited about expressing their real desires than men. Making them feel comfortable is everything, and even makes a big difference in whether they cum or not.
/r/seduction21/02/19 09:03 PM
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As long as you’re good at building attraction quickly, you should be fine. IMO, people push an “approach machine” mentality far too much. An aggressive salesman will make more sales than an overly timid salesman, but the best salesmen are neither pushy nor timid. Rather, they just influence the interaction in a way that promotes prospective customers to come to the conclusion on their own that they need the product. I have a few good friends who adopt more conventional, approach oriented methods…
/r/seduction21/02/19 08:59 PM
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Same idea. Keep escalating sexually, but most guys will tell you to have sex ASAP. Instead, I tend to hold out slightly longer than she expects (in reality it adds an additional date or so), but with the end result of having her somewhere between begging me for sex, and wanting to tear my clothes off. Once she reaches that point, I completely reverse the dynamic and stop playing coy. Once you get to the bedroom, everything changes and it’s time to show her what you’ve got.
/r/seduction21/02/19 02:23 PM
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You lack confidence. Work on things that build your confidence. That includes starting conversations with people, including, but not limited to, hot girls. The goal here isn’t to play a numbers game, it’s to teach yourself the same lesson I teach myself every time I jump off something really high. The fear never goes away, but my confidence in my ability to deal with those situations that cause me fear grows every time I pluck up the courage to try. True bravery/confidence isn’t lack of fear, bu…
/r/seduction16/02/19 02:17 AM
1

It’s not really the norm. If anything, I seem to recall reading that millennials have less partners on average than baby boomers. If you meet a lot of people in places people go to casually hook up, you’re not exactly seeing a representative sample of the population. Same thing if you casually hook up with a lot of women. The women you casually hook up with are generally probably have more casual attitudes towards sex than the average woman. You’re experiencing a confirmation bias. It’s the same…
/r/seduction16/02/19 01:03 AM
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Depends on context. If your previous interaction was flirty, she showed clear signs of interest, and/or you guys talked about an actual date, then yes, she’s interested. Anything else, who knows? Just do your best and see what happens
/r/seduction16/02/19 12:43 AM
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She’s coming to you. That tells you everything you need to know about her intentions. When she’s cold, it’s probably because she’s anxious, so focus on building comfort and not making her feel pressured to escalate. When she’s hot, escalate sexual tension, but don’t go 100%. Hold back and be a bit of a tease (ie 2 steps forward, 1 step back). Quite likely, she will be the one to initiate sex. If she’s coming over to your place to “watch a movie”, she already subtly has.
/r/seduction25/01/19 07:53 PM
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No, but I look at dates differently. I like dates. I mean, do what you gotta do to feel good about yourself beforehand, but it might be worth considering that dates play to your favour, not counter to it. Meeting a woman and maintaining enough attraction for her to go out with you is the hardest part! That’s the most work, and my philosophy eschews unnecessary work. A date is a scenario in which you control far more variables than any earlier stage in the seduction process. You pick the activity…
/r/seduction22/01/19 06:39 AM
1

Do you actually think that you’re going have more than a snowball’s chance in hell of fucking anyone who is genuinely questioning your sexuality if you leave it ambiguous?
/r/seduction22/01/19 05:57 AM
1

True, but an attractive doctor/firefighter/astronaut instantly upgrades him to being the hot guy, when he’s competing against regular attractive guys.
/r/seduction22/01/19 05:54 AM
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No, but friends with expectations does.
/r/seduction22/01/19 01:19 AM
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Sounds like she either wants a relationship or is very sexually inhibited. Not ideal. If you just want sex, might as well try being honest about what you’re interested in and see how she responds because you’ve got nothing to lose, and anything else is wasting both of your time.
/r/seduction22/01/19 01:15 AM
2

YES. I did it. It means paying attention to your fitness, style/fashion (go for timelessly cool looks if you can pull it off, fuck fads), and hygiene. By hygiene I don’t just mean showering and stuff, but skincare, dental care, hairstyle, and more. Other related (ie very superficial) things matter too: high value friends/preselection, a “sexy” job, money (though not as much as you might think). It’s a lot of work, but the difference between being “hot” and “attractive”, is the difference between…
/r/seduction22/01/19 01:10 AM
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How interested does she seem? What do you want out of this? Who pays for the dates?
/r/seduction22/01/19 12:41 AM
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Never goes well, and torpedoes any chance of things going in that direction in the future (which MAY happen). OP should just treat it as no big deal and move on, continuing to improve his SMV and move on to other women. OP, please don’t follow the above advice. Burning bridges needlessly only hurts you.
/r/seduction11/01/19 04:22 PM
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N-count is meaningless, and only serves to validate insecurity. Guess what? You’ve fucked 30 women. If you can do that, you’re probably good enough that you can feel comfortable knowing that it shouldn’t be more than an ordinary inconvenience to get another one if you need to. Do you think that fucking 20 more will give you that sense of security? How about 50 more? How about 200 more? My n-count is similar to yours (not sure, lost track). Have been offered and had an FFM and more in the past. M…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/01/19 03:27 AM
1

It’s as simple as this: you always have to be the benevolent alpha to your kids. If you don’t, who will teach them how to be that person?
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/18 04:32 AM
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Sorry, but I’m going to have to give you a hard disagree. That sounds like a very scripted way to approach social interaction. I much prefer an approach that teaches the “why” instead of merely the “what”, because only one of the two methods gives you an approach when things don’t go as planned.
/r/seduction20/11/18 01:09 AM
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Keep trying. You’ll get better with practice. I’m a huge believer in inner game. I rarely, if ever, am the pursuer anymore. Think about why that fucking ne’er-do-well hippie dude who quit grad school to travel the world and has no end of interesting stories gets laid. He leads an interesting life that he is completely passionate about, and has the confidence to live the life he wants to be living. Guys like that stand out. I’m not saying to copy him: I’m telling you to stop doing things that oth…
/r/seduction19/11/18 09:38 PM
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It’s not about helping. I just think it’s funny.
/r/seduction19/11/18 07:05 PM
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These articles are so dumb. And women wonder why men treat dates like job interviews, asking question after question? Questions are one of several tools in your conversational toolbox, and shouldn’t be relied on exclusively. In fact, you can ask the dumbest questions, but it’s really not a big deal if the rest of your game is tight. It’s just easier for recent online college “journalism” grads to write articles about good questions to ask on dates than it is to write “How to be funnier than Russ…
/r/seduction19/11/18 06:07 PM
2

Do you ever actually respond “sweet Jesus that was a car crash”? I feel like one way or another that’d be fun to do
/r/seduction19/11/18 05:16 PM
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What have you done so far? I might try something like take her to an escape room, then walk to a nearby pub for wing night and a pint or two (ie not 7). While in the pub, make sure your conversation balances DHV and comfort. If you haven’t found an opportunity to go in for the kiss, go on a walk after and attempt it. If unsuccessful, play it off like no big deal, walk her to her car, tell her you had fun and put her on the back burner for a bit - see if she comes to you (if not, next her). If th…
/r/seduction06/11/18 01:57 AM
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Why is it so cynical? Would you want the hot, fit professional you married to go completely downhill after the ring goes on her finger? Is the inner game you developed something you went through the motions for in order to get a woman, or is it a part of who you are? It doesn’t mean you have to always be hitting on women after entering a relationship in order to prove your worth (I don’t). It’s about continuing to be your best self, the person she fell for and that a lot of other women might too…
/r/seduction05/11/18 10:21 PM
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Not necessarily the reason here, but there’s no reason you need to wait for the end of the date to kiss her. When you were teasing each other and you gave her a big hug to warm her up, it sounds like a perfect opportunity to initiate some eye contact and smile. If she follows suit and lingers with eye contact a little too long, go in for the kiss. Maybe she didn’t kiss you because she’s shy, maybe she’s looking for a more organic moment to kiss than obligatory end of date kiss, maybe a bit of bo…
/r/seduction05/11/18 10:10 PM
2

Women in their late 20s onwards are much more straightforward about what they want. If they want to have sex with you, it will be much clearer. They tend not to dance around with hot/cold games nearly to the same extent most 20yo’s do. Having your shit together becomes a lot more attractive. You don’t necessarily have to have a lot of money now, but progressing along a life plan becomes a much more attractive trait. 30+ women of quality also tend to have a much better knowledge (and thus confide…
/r/seduction21/09/18 10:39 PM
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Do it
/r/seduction20/09/18 10:07 PM
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NWA-Fuck tha Police, Slayer - Angel of Death, Amon Amarth -Victory or Death, 3 Days Grace - I Hate Everything About You
/r/seduction20/09/18 06:45 AM
1

Who the fuck cares? Are you trying to hook up with that dude? No? Then who gives a flying fuck about whatever dumb shit he wants to interpret about your sex life
/r/seduction19/09/18 11:38 PM
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Because bars fucking suck. I’ve worked in the industry long enough to be over them x 10. I hate acting like some kind of performing monkey, trying maintain some drunk ass chick’s interest and isolate her from other dude trying to do the exact same thing every 15s. It’s like you’re playing the world’s worst “follow/protect” quest: not only do you constantly have to be on top of your game to defend against/avoid foes at every turn, but you charge. In typical AI fashion, can’t even seem to decide i…
/r/seduction19/09/18 11:36 PM
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Who gives a shit if you want to play on easy mode for the first run to get a feel for the game?
/r/seduction10/09/18 05:17 PM
1

Send it to her parents.
/r/MGTOW02/09/18 05:27 AM
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Respond casually and don’t get your hopes up. Rule number one is if she wants to make time for you, she will.
/r/seduction24/08/18 12:12 AM
1

Malta?
/r/seduction23/08/18 10:43 PM
1

How long were you together? If you broke up around 3mo ago, why do you expect things would be different this time?
/r/seduction23/08/18 10:40 PM
1

About 24-25. The past 2 years have been something else though.
/r/seduction17/08/18 07:38 AM
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YES. I can relate completely with this. It took me almost a decade before I got the love life I always wanted. I’m very much the same way with long-term goal setting, and I think that it’s something that’s highly underrated here.
/r/seduction17/08/18 01:00 AM
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Maybe you have done everything else right, but I can still see why no one would want to date you, even as a faceless stranger over the internet. Your attitude is fucking terrible. The “crap” is that you claim to be some successful dude who is above every woman, and would rather resort to the most transparent of narcissistic facades and bitch and moan about your dating life over the internet than actually take ownership of your situation. There isn’t some global feminine conspiracy against you, t…
/r/seduction17/08/18 12:50 AM
1

Yes, that must be it. I was once like you, so here’s what you need to hear: cut the crap. The ego defence mechanisms, self-pity, and fragile “superiority”. It’s time to admit the harsh truth that you aren’t attractive to women in the slightest and that it’s nobody’s fault but your own. But you can change that. That’s the hardest part, but also the best part. Own your shit and get to work.
/r/seduction16/08/18 10:50 PM
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The whole point of a stable relationship is that you help each other solve problems. Why would anyone want to date someone who doesn’t care about them or their problems? Yes, it’s reasonable to expect women to act like independent adults. It’s not reasonable to blame women for what is natural to be attracted to. Final questions: is what you’re doing working for you? Are you happy with your dating life? If not, then why continue with the same mindset?
/r/seduction16/08/18 07:31 PM
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Look at Jerry from Rick and Morty (yes, I know). Watch it if you haven’t started. He is a perfect example of the polar opposite of the guy described above. Fuck your analytical side and answer me this: if you were a woman, would you honestly date the guy?
/r/seduction16/08/18 06:58 AM
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Not necessarily. It’s circumstantial. Having a lot of discussions about feelings and shit early on helped my current relationship along quite a bit. Of course, she knew me as a bit of a manslut with a wild sexual past that included various types of group sex and other crazy shit. It only works well in the circumstance that comfort is needed more than establishing value.
/r/seduction16/08/18 06:47 AM
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Stop asking her permission. If you think she’s attractive and fun, suggest something fun to do together. If she thinks you’re attractive and fun, she’ll be only too happy to go along with it. Then you exchange contact info as a means to an end. Don’t treat a number or a date like an end in itself.
/r/seduction16/08/18 06:36 AM
1

This is actually really fucking funny
/r/MGTOW15/08/18 02:58 AM
0

Dumbasses like you only hold yourselves back with your inability to realize that it doesn’t have to be one or the other.
/r/MGTOW10/08/18 05:50 PM
1

Enjoy it while it’s still fun. After doing it for a few years though, you realize that it’s a shitty job that underpays you horribly for the shit you have to deal with and the risks you have to take.
/r/TheRedPill10/08/18 11:55 AM
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First off, 5/3/1 is a completely overrated program made any a guy who’s a great self-promoter, but a mediocre powerlifter. I know many guys who have better Wilks scores who weigh less and are natty. Second, have you ever considered that your problem might be you? I’m not tall by any means, and I’m not even particularly interested in taller women (I like fun-sized women), but I haven’t noticed anything. Sure, there are some women who make it a big deal, but there’s a lot that don’t. I haven’t had…
/r/TheRedPill02/08/18 01:06 AM
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Was she white by any chance?
/r/MGTOW26/07/18 02:34 AM
2

Dude, she’s taking you for nights out. Next her.
/r/seduction25/07/18 08:25 AM
1

He has a conventionally attractive face, nice hair, and is quite lean. So yes, he is attractive. Personally, though, I think he would benefit substantially by adding more muscle to his frame.
/r/seduction24/07/18 12:49 AM
1

Fuck. This could pretty much be my story right now. I had one of those moments too, and I fucked it up big time. Here’s where I’m sure I fucked up and where I’m guessing your likely failing would be too: don’t ever become the chaser. Let her pursue you, even if it’s hard to hold back. She should be the one pushing to define the relationship, not you. It is so much harder when you have the skills to get a woman into bed, the skills to give her amazing sex, and find that she is one of the rare one…
/r/seduction20/07/18 05:11 PM
1

Your openers are boring. Women get 10 million matches online. If you can’t hook her through text game, you’re going to get lost in the piles of matches. You need to stick out.
/r/seduction20/07/18 04:59 PM
1

I work in a field where 50-80h weeks with inconsistent hours are the norm. I’ve still managed to maintain a very high level physique and am almost never short of pussy. It may be difficult, but it’s doable. If I can do it, so can you. Nothing worth having is easy, remember that. Being able to balance a professional career and a life is about prioritizing.
/r/seduction18/07/18 10:17 PM
1

Happened to me recently. She liked it. We started doing anal semi-regularly.
/r/seduction18/07/18 06:35 PM
1

What’s awkward about that? She’s clearly already a confidante
/r/seduction16/07/18 07:58 PM
2

How you avoid her thinking that you’re trying to get in her pants again is by avoiding ambiguity and being straight up with her.
/r/seduction16/07/18 07:42 PM
2

Dude, that entirely depends on her relationship with that guy and what she is comfortable with. But if you’re comfortable enough with her to talk about your suicidal depression with her, what’s so hard about being straight up with her about why you want a cuddle?
/r/seduction16/07/18 07:07 PM
5

Set goals and accomplish them. Lift, eat better, pursue professional success, challenge fears, expand your mind, do interesting things, hit on more women, etc. Confidence comes not from having things, but rather having security in your ability to get those things if you want.
/r/seduction15/07/18 07:16 PM
1

I’m late 20s, but am also in a professional career, so I tend to date other professionals. To be honest, I’m not quite as established (yet) as many of the people I date, so that might play into it.
/r/seduction15/07/18 12:41 PM
2

You got me. I can’t explain why it seems to work out that way. I usually date women who make good money and are really into me, so maybe that’s it.
/r/seduction15/07/18 11:57 AM
1

Hmm you have an interesting perspective on dates, I’ll give you that, but it might just have to be one that we agree to disagree on. I don’t disagree that taking women to BBQs and house parties and shit is fun. But I disagree that dates necessarily aren’t. Personally, I like having a bit more one-on-one time. I like having a bit more of a connection with the women I fuck. I like having a bit of a tease beforehand. You don’t need to love the dance, but I do. It can be pretty damn hot and fun.
/r/seduction15/07/18 11:48 AM
1

If you think dates are gay, all it says is that you don’t know how to do them well. Stop thinking in you vs her terms and worrying about frame so much, and focus on having a good time with someone else. Dates are awesome because they give you the ability to have complete control over her experience, plus it can be a really good time. They are probably the most powerful way to take a woman from interested in you to into your bedroom. And it doesn’t have to cost a lot, either. Not only do I go on …
/r/seduction14/07/18 07:43 PM
1

When you make eye contact with them, smile. See if they smile back.
/r/seduction14/07/18 04:59 PM
1

Yes, waiting is stupid and unnecessary. Call > text. She was probably at least somewhat drunk when she met you, so build some rapport during your call before asking her out.
/r/seduction14/07/18 04:58 PM
1

Haven’t had a lot of experience here, but I have a date on Sunday with a recent arrival by offering to show her around some local places.
/r/seduction12/07/18 05:14 PM
9

She’s totally hinting. Go for it,
/r/seduction12/07/18 05:13 PM
2

Dress well and start lifting heavy. I can’t tell you how to get over your physical hangups any more than you can tell me how to get over mine. In my case, I’m short. It’s easily enough compensated by working on being attractive, fit, and confident. You should do the same, except you have the ability to fix your problem.
/r/seduction12/07/18 05:12 PM
1

Yeah, I believe it from what I’ve seen too
/r/seduction10/07/18 05:00 PM
4

Make sure to make it clear that it’s just for funsies, then go for it. If you and girl B have gotten drunk and have had good sexual chemistry, why hasn’t it happened yet? Sounds like you just need to take the initiative more. Invite her over to your place for a nightcap. A few drinks + a solid mutual sexual vibe in the privacy of your own home is a recipe for success.
/r/seduction10/07/18 01:05 AM
2

It’s Tinder, who gives a fuck? Seriously, if you think she isn’t that into you, you can’t trick her into being into you. Seduction doesn’t work that way. It’s not about tricking women who aren’t into you into sleeping with you. It’s about maximizing opportunities and minimizing fuckups with women who already are at least somewhat into you. Messaging a hot girl on Tinder is a good way to be buried in the mountains of messages she receives from every horny dude she matches with. Grab her phone num…
/r/seduction10/07/18 01:00 AM
10

Sure, but that’s where the whole “fake it til you make it” part comes in. I followed a lot of dumb (but necessary at the time) rules carefully early on. There aren’t any kind of hard and fast rules for me now. The idea is that you eventually get to a point where you don’t need to follow rules to portray an attractive and charismatic personality, but rather that you develop an attractive and charismatic personality.
/r/seduction08/07/18 04:10 PM
1

Libido Girl sounds a lot like my ex. Amazing woman who changed my views on sex and dating dramatically. Every guy should be lucky enough to encounter a Libido Girl.
/r/seduction08/07/18 01:15 AM
3

Being a little cocky is hot if she already thinks you’re hot. Full blown arrogance is always a turn off. Excessive humility is also a turn off.
/r/seduction07/07/18 07:24 PM
1

When someone would try to get with my girl, I enjoyed it. I know that I satisfy her sexually and I want to show that I am not worried and don’t consider him a threat. I’ve gone as far as pulling up a chair right next to them and making a show of watching their conversation with a shit-eating grin plastered on my face. My (now ex) GF would always jokingly complain that I’m such a dick for making her sit through all these guys hitting on her while I enjoy myself. She knows that I’d respond if it w…
/r/seduction05/07/18 09:52 PM
2

Turning into a fuck boy doesn’t solve all your problems and actually comes with it’s own unique problems. Seduction (and attractiveness) has fucked me over in some ways. I can’t really have authentic relationships with most women anymore. I genuinely miss having normal relationships with women. I’m not telling you what to do, but if this is a path you want to pursue, you should know that it’s not all sunshine and roses on he other end either.
/r/seduction03/07/18 07:17 PM
9

Dude it’s not your body. It’s your mindset and social skills. Trust me, I’m not a very masculine guy on paper, either. Much worse than you. I seem to land as “questionable” on pretty much everybody’s gaydar. And I do well. I’ve got a friend who’s far less masculine, less successful, and less attractive. And he does better than I do. Look how much Justin Bieber can get FFS. Do you think that hard-drinking, gun-toting, construction workers who listen to metal and talk about how they voted Republic…
/r/seduction03/07/18 05:27 PM
3

This so much. OP, when reviewing context, please consider: Why she is doing it? I don’t care about someone who just likes sex a lot, as long as it hasn’t caused problems in her past relationship history. I would consider someone who sluts for validation or because they can’t hold on to a partner a red flag. How ethical has she been with regards to her promiscuity (and in general)? Does she want a relationship with you? Do you want a relationship with her? Is she still doing it? Edit: I would SER…
/r/seduction03/07/18 04:58 PM
2

Because society cares more about your productivity than you health, obviously.
/r/MGTOW30/06/18 01:35 AM
1

Out of curiosity, why do we need gendered bathrooms anyway? Why do people make such a big deal out of this?
/r/MensRights29/06/18 11:06 PM
1

You know, I’ve always found that when they push an agenda in such a biased way, it actually does a real disservice to the actual issues. I believe that women in Western society actually do have to deal with an unreasonable amount of body image expectations. Of course, that’s buried underneath bullshit wage gap claims, categorizing anything and everything as sexual assault to feed rape paranoia, and the trivial shit (like manspreading). Also, hand-holding is not empowering. Perhaps if you can ref…
/r/MensRights05/06/18 08:46 PM
1

I disagree. Even after you fix your own issues, you can’t change the fact that other people will see you as a rapist or abuser without a shred of evidence. A false accusation can have very far reaching effects.
/r/MensRights05/06/18 08:25 PM
9

That doesn’t make it right to do the exact same thing, though. We should be better than that.
/r/MensRights19/05/18 05:12 PM
1

No, they’re trying to encourage you to be more Chadly. If you actually are a Chad, they’re actively trying not to do anything that might push you into her pants. They operate on the basis of perceived risk of harmful effects of their offspring being a total loser with women vs the harmful effects of having a tendency to stick your dick in places you shouldn’t. If you were a Chad, you would’ve known that.
/r/MGTOW23/04/18 07:18 AM
20

I agree with this 100%. If I was to sacrifice my health and wellness for my SO, it wouldn’t be so that she could sacrifice entire her life to care for me. I would want her to live her life to the fullest. If it were a temporary situation (eg I’m going to die of cancer in 6 months), it would be a different story.
/r/MensRights19/04/18 09:04 PM
31

I’m not sure what this has to do with men’s rights, but it has to be acknowledged that situations like this are more complicated than our initial emotional knee-jerk reaction may be. When you work in healthcare, you see caregiver burnout all the time, and you do develop a great deal of compassion for the healthy who devote so much to care for their disabled loved ones. I see so many people who feel horribly guilty when their sick SO finally dies because of the relief that accompanies it. It’s ve…
/r/MensRights19/04/18 08:50 PM
2

Oh no, any negative effects in our lives are also due patriarchy, but we get all the sympathy that society usually gives men over it. Besides, we created patriarchy, so it’s totally our fault and we should absolutely be paying reparations to women for an indefinite period of time (until all women FEEL that it’s fair). /s
/r/MensRights15/04/18 07:06 PM
10

Clearly you’ve never been falsely accused at a postsecondary institution and had to deal with their kangaroo courts and, worse, the court of public opinion. People you’ve known for years and considered friends turn on you. Faculty conspire against you and your success. You really learn who your true friends are. You don’t really see other people the same way afterwards. The article writer’s pandering sickens me though (but I will acknowledge that it must be an even worse environment at a liberal…
/r/MensRights06/04/18 02:38 PM
38

That’s disgusting Edit: by that logic, does a serial rapist get to have his/her rape history omitted from future court decisions because it’s a part of sexual history?
/r/MensRights01/04/18 09:27 PM
3

Go to malefashionadvice if you want to dress like a goofy hipster, wear pants that are 6” too short, and engage in online circle jerks with other goofy hipsters. I find the shit most of them wear comical, as has every woman I’ve shown the sub to. The style of an attractive man is not about being on top of trends or making a statement. It is about expressing masculinity in a way that is congruent with your looks and personality, maximizing your good features, and minimizing your bad. The style gu…
/r/seduction28/03/18 12:58 AM
1

Dress up as a woman, have sex with him and tape the encounter. Slip an envelope with the pics in her locker with instructions to open them up in private in her room later. Then move in while she’s vulnerable.
/r/seduction22/03/18 01:19 AM
1

Flirt with her and see how she reacts.
/r/seduction19/03/18 11:21 PM
3

Not true at all. You’ve experienced this side of women because you’re not attractive to them, and it sounds like you don’t know how to be attractive. When they want it, they’re insatiable.
/r/MGTOW19/03/18 12:21 AM
1

My mom tells me that I’m a playboy and shouldn’t get married as I’d likely be unhappy.
/r/MGTOW17/03/18 07:17 PM
3

You’re too invested. Why do you care so much about some guy you’ve only been on 3 dates with and haven’t even slept with? Consider whether it’s worth wasting your brainpower on. If he’s interested, he’ll keep coming. I wouldn’t bother trying to figure him out. People are fucking crazy. The more you try and figure out someone who’s acting odd, the less satisfied you’ll be with your conclusion.
/r/seduction16/03/18 04:48 AM
2

Why does it matter whether he is or not? If he is, he’s shit at it. Either way, the bottom line is that he hasn’t tried to get into your pants yet.
/r/seduction16/03/18 04:38 AM
2

If he was any good, why would he not have tried to make a bigger move by now (ie try to get in your pants)? If he’s trying to use game, he sounds horribly incompetent at it. Use your brain, OP.
/r/seduction16/03/18 04:34 AM
2

Honestly, it’s a great and terrible feeling at the same time. I have hot, educated, well off women offering themselves to me quite frequently. It’s become a problem. How easy do you think it is to maintain a stable relationship when you have temptation biting you in the ass all the time? You can’t have a good, healthy relationship if you treat it like a casual job and keep trading up. The problem is that it’s hard not to when opportunities are constantly coming to you. When I always have several…
/r/seduction09/03/18 02:12 AM
2

That’s because you worry too much about what she’s thinking about you! Honestly, she’s probably nervous too, and just wants a guy who helps her let her hair down and have a good time. Are you a fun, chill guy to hang out with? If so, all you need to do is be that guy who can show her a fun time and make sure to physically escalate enough to kiss her. It’s really that simple.
/r/seduction07/03/18 07:55 PM
1

Anybody who texts “ily” instead of actually loving you enough to write it properly can’t be that in love with you.
/r/seduction07/03/18 07:42 PM
1

Dates are fun! I much prefer dating as it puts all the power in your hands: where you go, what you do, not having to deal with drunk assholes, etc.
/r/seduction07/03/18 07:32 PM
1

Coffee puts a lot of pressure on you to entertain, so if you’re not good at talking to women, you’re shit out of luck. Second, it’s a very public place that sober people of all ages go. Even if you’re smooth enough to sell shit to a sewer cleaner, you’re playing with an environmental handicap in terms of physical escalation. Finally, unless you know a super cool local coffee place, it’s boring and uninspired. Doing something exhilarating is more likely to make your date feel attraction (this is …
/r/seduction07/03/18 07:22 PM
1

Dude... You fucked her once. She doesn’t owe you shit. Go bang someone else while you still have the freedom! Why do you care whether someone you casually slept with is sleeping with someone else?
/r/seduction06/03/18 11:29 PM
1

Coffee is a bad date idea, see if you can change it to something else.
/r/seduction06/03/18 11:15 PM
2

This x2. Once I spilled soup all over myself on a first date. I laughed about it, and we fucked later as well.
/r/seduction06/03/18 11:12 PM
1

Honestly, it doesn’t really matter. If a date went absolutely superb for both of us (and it’s obvious), I’ve told her in person before the end of the date and talked about setting another date up. The “when” matters less than how well the date went.
/r/seduction06/03/18 10:29 PM
1

As far as the sex anxiety goes, if you’re halfway competent with your hands and mouth, don’t worry too much about busting early. Just make sure she cums a few times before you start banging, and you’re good to go.
/r/seduction26/02/18 07:46 PM
1

Your whole attitude screams “I’m needy and don’t fuck regularly”. Asking how you stack up to every other guy she’s been with at any point sounds like a powder keg of validation-seeking that no sane person would want to touch again even if the sex was mind-blowing. If you’re good, she’ll tell you. If she wants more, she’ll be back. Even if that’s not the reason you’re asking, just trust me that it doesn’t come off well.
/r/seduction23/02/18 06:44 AM
2

Coffee is a terrible idea for a date for many reasons I won’t get into here. It sounds like you approach dates in a very formulaic (in a bad way) manner. The conversation topics you mentioned are probably the most generic way to talk to someone. I’m not saying avoid them at all costs or anything, but rather that by focusing on those things instead of taking risks and being more authentic, you come off as boring and fail to make genuine connections. Tell interesting and funny stories that show pi…
/r/seduction23/02/18 05:55 AM
1

Ugh. Coffee dates are the worst, especially at soulless coffee shop chains. They’re bland and force everything on you to constantly keep her entertained, while escalating, but not too much (when’s the last time you saw someone making out in a coffee shop?). Since you know her well, make sure to make this different from your regular interactions. Flirt and escalate physical contact.
/r/seduction23/02/18 01:39 AM
1

Here’s what I learned from having ADHD (I have a hard time following conversations to begin with, especially if there are more than 2 other people). ask a question based on some keyword in the last sentence they said. I’ve been called a “very good listener” while having almost no investment in the topic. Break up the conversation with humour. If you can get everyone laughing, you also have a good opportunity to steer the conversation into a better place. Just interject with something random and …
/r/seduction23/02/18 01:18 AM
1

Respond in a similar tone to the call out. If it’s angry, don’t bother. If it’s serious (but not angry), be direct. If it’s playful (I’m assuming it was), respond in a playful way. Saying something like “no... but now I am!” and grabbing her hand is probably what I would do.
/r/seduction23/02/18 01:03 AM
2

Just NO. Stop it. You can ask for feedback (don’t ever ask how you compare for gods sakes, it’s not your business, and the answer will either make you complacent or insecure) AFTER you’ve started a pattern of banging regularly. It’s really useful to know what gets girls off in a general sense, but there’s no point working towards tailoring it to an individual unless you already know you’re going to keep having sex with her for awhile.
/r/seduction23/02/18 12:54 AM
1

Well, obviously you suck at dates. You’re going to have to give us a lot more info on what actually happens on these dates, so we can find out what areas you suck at. Where do you go? What do you do? What do you talk about? Does she laugh a lot? If not, does she seem engaged in the conversation? Do you kiss? Do you enjoy the dates? How are they rejecting you after? When is the turning point where she seems less interested?
/r/seduction23/02/18 12:32 AM
1

Confidence and narcissism aren’t the same thing
/r/MGTOW22/02/18 08:39 PM
3

Talk to a lawyer and cut her out of your life forever. You have a sister no longer. I went through something similar with an ex. It was hell. But you’ll get through it in time.
/r/MensRights20/02/18 07:59 AM
4

Here’s some brief, hopefully idiot-proof guidelines (for dates) from my experiences: 1) “Ok, I’m comfortable enough to know that you’re not an axe-murderer” - if she’s at this level, occasional friendly conversational kino is good (eg touch forearm, shoulder, upper back, friendly hug) 2) “I feel safe with you” - you can touch in a way that friends might (eg touching leg, lower back) Keep comfort-dependent kino (ie steps 1 and 2) light and brief (a few seconds or less). 3) “I feel safe AND I thin…
/r/seduction15/02/18 03:06 AM
1

Take an honest look at yourself, and answer this question: if you were a woman, would you date yourself?
/r/seduction15/02/18 01:31 AM
12

Oh this is so sad! It’s so painfully obvious that I got in your head and you’re trying to beat me at my own game (and failing laughably hard). I like to play fair though, so let me give you a handicap: Since you’re so hung up on whoever I was in high school for some reason, let me help you along. I had glasses, braces, no sense of motor coordination, poor social skills, and no idea how to dress. A few girls somehow liked me still, but I had no idea how to act on it. I wasn’t a happy kid. I just …
/r/seduction13/02/18 05:15 AM
1

You know the situation best. Do what you think is right. Just know that you can’t (and shouldn’t) force her to be friends. If it’s heartbreaking for her to be just friends with you, it’s not fair to try and make her stay friends.
/r/seduction13/02/18 04:23 AM
21

The only thing sadder than someone bragging that they were cool in high school is going through someone’s comment history in ridiculous detail to read an extremely long post with the hopes of being able to burst my bubble. I’m flattered that someone as cool and important and very ultra secure as you took the time to do that. But it’s okay, I give you permission to quit doing your homework and go to bed now. I mean, it’s already clear that I got under your skin, isn’t it? You pathetic narcs are s…
/r/seduction13/02/18 04:15 AM
1

Yeah just try and act like you’re friends and see what happens.
/r/seduction13/02/18 04:06 AM
16

Alright, you caught me, it was a leading question. I already know the answer to my question. It’s because you consider insecurity to be the greatest insult, the worst quality a person can have. To the point that you’re fucking terrified of it. Your desperation to hide your own insecurity with this ridiculous bravado is transparent to everyone but you. You crave validation from others to the extent that your pathetic brain rationalizes that anyone who doesn’t kiss your ass must be insecure. Can’t…
/r/seduction13/02/18 03:12 AM
1

You want one thing, she wants another. The same thing happened to me fairly recently with a good female friend. In my case, I was in a rough patch with my GF, at a time when we were both hanging out with this friend a lot. In my case, things actually did heat up between us somewhat, but ended after my GF got uncomfortable. Both girls essentially told me, “it’s me or her”. I chose to work things out with my GF. Honestly, though I did have a thing for my friend, it was my GF I wanted all along. I …
/r/seduction13/02/18 02:54 AM
1

When she files a restraining order
/r/seduction13/02/18 12:16 AM
11

Many narcissists don’t consider themselves narcissists. Writing a long ass rebuttal about how secure you are doesn’t sound very secure to me at all, but whatever man, it’s your life. I just have one question for you: why is it your knee jerk reaction to assume that other guys you don’t like are insecure?
/r/seduction13/02/18 12:11 AM
1

Do: keep it light and fun, be able to laugh at your mistakes (I spilled soup all over my pants on a first date one but I kept calm and made a joke about it, and fucked her that night), genuinely try to have a good time first Don’t: miss the opportunity to go in for a kiss if it arises, worry about fucking up
/r/seduction12/02/18 11:43 PM
3

Skyn or bust
/r/seduction12/02/18 11:29 PM
1

I guess you’ll just have to help me get more practice then
/r/seduction11/02/18 08:15 PM
1

Not an AFC anymore, but I used to be. When I was young, I hated school. I was an uncoordinated late bloomer who did ridiculously well at math contests and that kind of thing without even trying. I hung out with other guys who were on the path to neckbeard-dom. I was very depressed from junior high onwards. In high school, I was pathetic. I wanted to be accepted so badly that it turned others away. I started making strides afterwards, but it was still incredibly frustrating. I still had a lot of …
/r/seduction10/02/18 02:24 AM
1

Meh, there are decent ones if you know how to look. In my area, there’s always at least one other couple that’s very fuckable by regular bar standards. Thing is, is that there really isn’t much competition from the other dudes. I can pretty much pick out whoever I want to, start a conversation with them, and ask them if they want to play.
/r/seduction10/02/18 01:48 AM
5

“I see what you’re trying to do, but sorry, I’m just not a threesome kind of guy. You’ll have to take turns.”
/r/seduction10/02/18 01:39 AM
5

Tell me what kind of 23-year-old virgin throws herself at the first dick to show interest while at a bar and tries to have sex with him then and there. She’s no virgin.
/r/seduction10/02/18 01:34 AM
10

That’s exactly the point. How much learning goes on in an echo chamber? If one is to learn about Descartes, one must also learn about weaknesses/criticisms of his ideas, as well as counter arguments. It is very concerning that schools promote doctrine over discourse.
/r/MensRights08/02/18 07:40 PM
1

Thank you for a very well thought out and rational response. I agree with much, if not all, of what you posted. There is always risk in entrusting everything you hold dear in the hands of another person, and I understand what a raw deal this is becoming in this day and age (especially for men). Traditional family structure is breaking down, and I don’t think it’s good for society. Here’s what I can say about my relationship: it’s a stable LTR and there’s no push for marriage, which is a good thi…
/r/MGTOW01/02/18 10:10 PM
-1

Hmm yeah the moderate side doesn’t seem to show through enough though.
/r/MGTOW01/02/18 07:27 PM
-1

Uh... thanks?
/r/MGTOW01/02/18 07:25 PM
3

I doubt it’ll be a cultural shift as much as a loss of Western cultural and economic hegemony over the rest of the world. It’s easy to forget that countries like Russia and China, which don’t have the greatest track record in terms of treatment of women, are vying to be the next superpower. They will call us weak, stupid, and whipped. And they will be right. All this whinging about social justice and partisanship along demographic lines is doing is weakening us and making us ignorant of the fact…
/r/MensRights25/01/18 12:47 PM
1

Be as social as you can, and start hitting the gym hard in the meantime. Also, consider whether it’s better to be the guy who waits for interesting things to happen or the guy who makes them happen.
/r/seduction18/01/18 03:22 AM
39

Yup. Can confirm as ex-bouncer. Drunk women are the worst. Drunk men cause trouble more often, but they all have a fear of being hit. Drunk women who decide to cause trouble think they’re fucking untouchable.
/r/MGTOW16/01/18 07:55 PM
14

Because physical communication can be ambiguous. Hell, I’ve starfished on occasion when I’ve been very tired or intoxicated, but that doesn’t mean that the sex was unwelcome. Saying “I don’t want to fuck you, I’m going home” is not ambiguous, though. We shouldn’t infantilize women. If we are to treat women as competent adults (which I wholeheartedly support), then they must be expected to act as competent adults. Expecting someone else to read your mind and blaming them when they fail to comply …
/r/MensRights15/01/18 08:25 PM
30

Should men be educated on subtle cues women give, or should women be expected to act like adults and openly communicate their desires? I have to say that I much prefer partners who are willing to be honest with me about what they want, and it leads to better sex. FWIW, I have no idea how much this would apply to the situation you described, as what you described sounds pretty rapey, but I don’t know all the details and don’t want to jump to any conclusions.
/r/MensRights15/01/18 07:55 PM
1

Easy. I pull up a chair, sit down and enjoy watching their conversation with a shit-eating grin plastered on my face. I’m not worried about my girl, and it’s always fucking hilarious when the guy notices me because they always get super weirded out.
/r/seduction05/01/18 05:24 PM
1

Example one: the last thing you want to do EVER is let her know she’s gotten under your skin. You can use just about any technique to respond: agree and amplify (like was suggested above), disqualify, straight up ignore, etc. I might respond with something like “you’re cute when you get bitchy”, chuckle, and continue talking about whatever the fuck I was talking about. Example two: Friend is shit testing you. I really don’t like playing games where I have to defeat the cockblocking friend(s), so…
/r/seduction05/01/18 05:21 PM
1

A guy who can fight, but chooses not to, seems to be preferred in my experiences. As long as you’re not butthurt about the situation (ie you clearly wanted to fight but didn’t), it shouldn’t negatively affect you. People know that I can fight and am unafraid to. I try not to, though. Risk vs reward is not in your favour.
/r/seduction05/01/18 05:04 PM
1

I’m not sure about the idea that they’re no different. I’ve had some experience with models, and I can tell you that every model I’ve met seems to base her self-worth on her looks FAR more than most girls. You walk in carrying an attitude that says “yeah, you’re alright in the looks department, what else ya got?” and they panic a little (and sometimes more than a little). I suspect it’s the consequence of working in an industry that only values you for what you look like, and can be both incredi…
/r/seduction05/01/18 04:19 PM
1

Rejoice in the fact that I’m 20 again.
/r/seduction05/01/18 03:35 PM
3

Best thing to do is turn her into as many ridiculous memes possible and spread it all over the internet
/r/MGTOW31/12/17 06:07 PM
9

r/MensLib is “I’ll stick up for myself, as long as she lets me”.
/r/MensRights29/12/17 04:45 PM
1

Just whip it out
/r/seduction27/12/17 09:06 PM
10

I wonder if she posted on r/changemyview after
/r/MensRights02/12/17 12:31 AM
1

Dates are actually quite easy once you get the hang of them. The beauty of it is that, as a man, you have a lot of control over the situation. I liked bringing girls to bars back when I was single. Having a few drinks loosens the mood, as long as neither of you gets drunk. Also, I would pre-select the bar(s) to be bars where I knew a lot of staff/regulars. It looks really good to take a date to a bar where you are well-connected, and get free/discounted drinks. Then all you have to do is not fuc…
/r/seduction27/11/17 10:52 PM
1

Have done it before when I need to quickly grab something to eat before going out. 9pm is perfect timing for shittily planned last minute dinner before going out. Even so, I’m the last person others would accuse of having a boring life, but I don’t go out every weekend. Sometimes I want to fucking sleep or chill when I have time off. I wouldn’t judge too harshly, unless it’s the same dudes coming every weekend or something.
/r/MGTOW27/11/17 04:07 AM
36

Dude. You talked a rando up to your apartment. That’s a pretty solid step in my books. Celebrate little successes and keep trying. Consider his a learning experience.
/r/seduction25/11/17 02:43 AM
1

Hmmmm good insights. Glad there was someone here with some knowledge about this stuff. I’ve definitely already been rejected tons of times by women who don’t understand my relationship dynamic. That’s okay, I haven’t had a terribly hard time finding partners if I want to. Having the time to is another matter entirely.
/r/seduction25/11/17 02:40 AM
2

Look is a component of the image you project. Dress in a way that complements your goals.
/r/seduction24/11/17 09:34 PM
1

I wouldn’t do it like that. Too butthurt. Accusing her of hitting on you can have an amazing effect, but you have to do it right. Ex. “Heyyyy, I’m not that easy, you know! I know you’re trying to get in my pants, but you’ll have to work harder than that.”
/r/seduction24/11/17 09:30 PM
2

Agreed. A & A is generally both a safe and fun way to handle this stuff. Depending on the vibe, you could also consider using it as an opportunity to playfully accuse her of hitting on you. OP, my experience has been when girls think you’re actually a manwhore, they don’t outright say it. They just treat you like a sex toy. I used to get called a fuck boy more often. Pretty sure it’s a shit test that says “you’re trying a little (but not a lot) too hard to get in my pants right now, dual it back…
/r/seduction24/11/17 09:20 PM
4

Get some food, watch something. Gradual physical escalation the whole time. Once you it is clear that she is physically very comfortable breaking the touch barrier, create a “kiss me” moment, where you lock eyes for just a second to long. Kiss her without hesitation. If she’s into it, see where it goes. If you get a kiss moment earlier, take it. There’s no better way to screw up than to miss the moment.
/r/seduction24/11/17 09:10 PM
2

Oh I have an idea for a special dinner planned. Going to dress up really fancy, have a friend be out chauffeur, go to a fast food restaurant where I will have a pre-setup table with fancy cutlery and a friend dressed up to be our server and another to film/take pictures. Should be a good time.
/r/seduction24/11/17 09:01 PM
1

Definitely! I will do that, and it really isn’t hard to do. All my friends say they wish they could have a relationship like this, but they don’t see that we have probably spent more total time at Bed, Bath & Beyond than having wild sex with other people.
/r/seduction24/11/17 08:24 PM
5

Trust me, my life is not any more interesting than yours 99% of the time.
/r/seduction24/11/17 08:21 PM
1

Just to clarify: my main partner has no issues with sex. She enjoys slutting me out to other women. The issue is more with emotional closeness, and why that is pursued. She’s not against emotional connection if it is healthy and doesn’t affect our relationship, and she’s into me boning other women. Edit: also, thanks for the long and well thought out response. I appreciate it and will definitely do some thinking about it.
/r/seduction24/11/17 08:18 PM
1

What kind of girl is she and what do you have access to (e.g. car, booze, etc)?
/r/seduction24/11/17 04:58 AM
2

How so? Look, I’m not really a big believer in rules or anything like that to make come off like you’re not desperate. I’d rather just approach it from a mindset that is not desperate. Whatever’s on the inside often shines through, regardless of what we do try and cover it up. Inner game, my friend. Don’t act like a seducer, be a seducer. I don’t really see calling someone I’m supposed to spend time with who hasn’t gotten back to me in a reasonable amount of time as desperate. All I am doing is …
/r/seduction24/11/17 04:55 AM
0

Relax, it’s not worth trying to figure out. If you don’t get a response by tomorrow morning, I’d give her a call and see if she’s still on for the evening.
/r/seduction24/11/17 04:31 AM
1

Well, on that note, things went quite well with my 2 ladies, as well as another one from the club. Also, looks like I’m going to be starting a job as a stripper soon. Was a really excellent day. How was yours?
/r/MGTOW19/11/17 12:27 PM
4

Nope, and 2 weeks ago.
/r/MGTOW18/11/17 08:38 PM
-3

I’m going with 2 young hotties to a sex exhibition, then we’re getting drunk and going to a sex club. So yeah, I’m letting the cupcakes control my life today, but I ain’t sad.
/r/MGTOW18/11/17 07:24 PM
1

Who cares? Why are you so worried about coming off as creepy? Edit: to clarify, this probably works better if you’ve built a little comfort first, but the truth is, I say shit like this all the time and it’s quite consistent with my character. Doesn’t seem to come off creepy at all for me. I have noticed that the people who worry too much about being creepy tend to come off as creepy.
/r/seduction30/10/17 07:16 AM
1

Do it. Just calibrate it to the vibe.
/r/seduction28/10/17 09:30 PM
1

Eh not exactly. Once you get all muscly, there is a certain type of woman that goes crazy over it, but otherwise you don’t get any benefits over a regular fit guy for looking muscly. I get a lot out of it because I have a history as a competitive powerlifter, so I’m quite a bit stronger than your average bro lifter and I like to show off the fruits of my labour and give bystanders a good time when I go out. That’s why it helps ME. But seriously, squat. If there’s any body part women seem to love…
/r/seduction28/10/17 07:20 PM
1

I feel like if Johnny Bravo wrote a narcissistic pickup blog, it would be like this
/r/seduction28/10/17 06:09 PM
2

Sometimes I do. It’s funny as fuck. More often they ask me. Sometimes after they feel my pecs or my ass (don’t neglect squats, my ass got me more ass than my arms ever have), I’ll say “my turn” and grab their tits/ass. It’s always funny as hell and never gets old. I’m built like a fairly decent classic physique competitor though (but not as lean), so my experience with muscle might be different, as I have a LOT more meat on me than most “muscular” guys.
/r/seduction28/10/17 06:05 PM
1

How often do you think it fails to make a girl wet when I walk up to her on the dance floor, pick her up and throw her up and catch her as easily as most guys would pick up a 6 year old?
/r/seduction28/10/17 05:55 PM
0

I dunno. I prefer turning things into jokes as a default response. Mirroring makes for pretty bland conversation. If the vibe of the conversation was appropriate, I might respond with “accounting is boring? Oh that makes sense why nobody makes porn about accountants.... NO, I DEFINITELY haven’t been looking for it or anything”. I mean, you can’t be a jokester all the time but everybody loves a funny person. Mirroring is great for keeping a conversation alive when you haven’t been paying attentio…
/r/seduction28/10/17 05:53 PM
1

Not everything has to be smooth. The smoothest things are things that are said in the moment and not scripted. That only comes with practice.
/r/seduction28/10/17 05:45 PM
1

Could be. But it might also be because they have a bad working relationship or she just flat out hates her on a personal level. Not worth wasting your brainpower on.
/r/seduction28/10/17 05:38 PM
3

Hit the gym, take up a new hobby, spend more time with friends. You need time to learn that being single can be fun again.
/r/seduction28/10/17 05:34 PM
1

Yeah it’s almost too easy. You can master any interaction by owning it and saying/doing the gayest thing you can get away with in public.
/r/seduction28/10/17 05:32 PM
3

This. I’ve noticed that I do much better with women by leading an interesting life, taking care of myself, and especially being the life of the party than by trying to pick up or do any kind of routines or following any kind of rules. You like to be around fun, interesting people, so it shouldn’t come as any surprise that women do too! The other side of the coin is sexual confidence. As your confidence grows, you will have an easier time being overtly sexual around women and talking frankly abou…
/r/seduction28/10/17 05:28 PM
1

Do you know how to text in a non-needy way? Good. Do that. Once you develop enough inner game to have the self confidence to not be needy, texting rules are pointless.
/r/seduction28/10/17 05:17 PM
1

Send something brief but unique that references a fun moment you had with her last night
/r/seduction28/10/17 05:14 PM
1

Love life’s pretty good. Having a great time with my fiancée. Our sex life has been getting more killer over the past few months. My last hookup was 2 weeks ago, haven’t gone out to hunt since. We’re working on a girl together, which has been slow-going, but seems to have a lot of potential to bear fruit. Will try to pick up a random for a 3some together while dressed as drag queens next weekend. Have some cool ideas for events, but nothing on the immediate horizon. Been much busier working on m…
/r/seduction21/10/17 12:59 AM
10

A lot of men are alright, some are cunts who post shitty ads to subreddits, which one are you?
/r/seduction20/10/17 12:43 AM
2

Thanks. It’s a lot of work to maintain attraction and keep your relationship fresh, but it’s a lot less work than trying to make up for a lack of it.
/r/seduction19/10/17 08:35 PM
1

Yeah definitely don’t rush it. Let things progress naturally and see where they go and learn from it.
/r/seduction19/10/17 06:17 PM
1

I like trying to find deeper understanding in how I live my life than just throwing out approach algorithms. It’s a min wage job, nobody cares if you’re fucking, and if things go south, they will side with the better employee. Regarding the music/sensitivity thing: if that’s you, then make it work for you instead of against you. Like I said, the hipster scene would be a good place for you.
/r/seduction19/10/17 06:12 PM
1

As long as you’re trying to prove something, you’ve already lost. It’s not about other people. Fuck other people. Prove to yourself that you’re a person that you like. Ask yourself what it would take to make you that person. You already know that getting laid isn’t the answer. Afterwards, you’re the same person with more sex. Pursue your passions doggedly, and work on becoming happy and secure with your life. Then you work on pickup, and the women will come.
/r/seduction19/10/17 05:54 PM
1

I don’t have a whole lot of facial hair. Not much you can do about it, though. What are you referring to regarding masculine centres? Not sure I understand what you mean.
/r/seduction19/10/17 05:36 PM
1

I am 27. I’d rather not share a pic of my face for professional reasons, but I am Asian, conventionally attractive, and take care of myself (the wife describes me as “metro”). I am engaged, but my fiancée and I like to get sexually adventurous, especially with other women. I am a guy who is not intuitive with women, but learned how to do as well as I want. I don’t slay as often as some of my friends, but I also care a lot less. I am in the early stages of a high-end professional career and just …
/r/seduction19/10/17 05:28 PM
1

You don’t have terrible facial features. Being insecure and worrying that people will treat you like you don’t belong is a self-fulfilling prophecy. You have greater self-confidence issues that need to be sorted out. Women is a band-aid solution at his point.
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:59 PM
2

Make sure she is dressed properly and has proper ID. Wait in line. Pay the bouncer enough. Be friends with the bouncer/management.
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:51 PM
1

Out of curiosity, are you aware of any more advanced subs? I came here looking to learn, but it seems to be mostly pretty easy Q&A and the standard basics.
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:49 PM
1

I’m not much taller than you and weigh 210 somewhat lean (no abs, but no gut). Hasn’t hurt my chances any. Assertiveness is not poking back at people. I’d probably say something like “hey man, what’s up with that? We’re all friends here, right?” He looks like a dick if he says otherwise. Or, you could make a joke. Ex. “If you do that to guys putting their hoods up, I’d hate to see what you do when guys do up their flies in the bathroom!” More importantly, what the fuck are you doing wearing a ho…
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:45 PM
1

Good. Then the latter is what you need to work on the most. Social circle game is a good place to start. If you don’t have the friends, go out and meet tons of new people! If you can pull of the look, try hipster coffee shops and low-key pubs, where being well-read and stuff like doing sudoku competitions will be seen as “quirky”. The gym is also a good place after you see some results.
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:28 PM
3

Stop worrying about not fucking it up or you will almost certainly fuck it up
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:20 PM
3

I like hooking up, but I’m more of a relationship guy. Not crazy about the amount of work texting and gaming multiple women. I have a busy life.
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:17 PM
1

No. Abundance mentality is not about never catching feelings. It is about having the inner confidence to not NEED any one woman because you know that you are capable of finding others. It is about inner security. This is a tremendously attractive mindset to women.
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:13 PM
1

No it doesn’t. You expressed dissatisfaction with how your bar game is, and implied that it’s not a game that plays to your strengths. I stated the obvious in telling you that you are correct: it is not where you are advantaged. If you want to improve your chances in bars, you have a lot of work to do. In the meantime, why not find places that do play to your strengths?
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:09 PM
2

It’s not always about what you do, but how you tell stories. Also, you don’t have to have lots of kk net to do interesting things! I don’t have a lot of free income (yet) and pull very long work weeks. A couple weeks ago, I planned an event where I invited a mixed group of friends over for cocktails and a surprise event. The surprise event was that we all went streaking together. We’ve since decided to make a naked run an annual thing. She’s still going on dates with you, which is a good sign. Y…
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:03 PM
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Here’s my experience, as a currently engaged man (maybe some folks with long, successful marriages would like to chime in and comment on whether I’m right!): A trait that my partner finds very attractive in me is my attitude. I know that if things don’t work out between us, I could find another partner easily. This, she knows that I am with her because I want to be, not because I have no other options. A lot of the platitudes “they” tell you is not incorrect. You will have to learn many skills: …
/r/seduction19/10/17 03:45 PM
7

Relax. It sounds like she’s interested, based on what you’ve written at least. There are lots of women that aren’t super texty. Just keep gradually escalating (2 steps forward, 1 step back) and she’ll make it quite clear when she wants to jump your bones. It might help to know what your dates were like and how she has indicated interest or disinterest so far. Your biggest risk here is letting your paranoia get the best of you.
/r/seduction19/10/17 03:16 PM
2

Dude. A friend who is great with women is a friend who can help you get better, especially by pushing you into environments/situations that will make you get better. Make friends who are good with women. You are the average of the 5 people you hang out with most, or so they say. You can see this friend as a source of jealousy, or an opportunity. Your call.
/r/seduction19/10/17 05:49 AM
1

At 5’7” and 120lbs and with a “meh” sense of style, when it comes to bar game, you’re bringing a knife to a gunfight (even if you can spit game decently). You can’t compete against a well-dressed guy who’s built like a male stripper that walks up to the girl you’ve been gaming all night on the dance floor, picks her up and throws her around as easily as you might throw a small child around. It’s a confident and very effective move. I know because I’m the guy I was just describing lol. Conversati…
/r/seduction19/10/17 04:46 AM
2

Find cool, local pub close to where you live (if possible). Get to know the staff a bit. Learn to make a few chick-friendly cocktails. Take her out for a couple of drinks and charm her. Should be easy with a small amount of booze and a place where you have established social proof. Invite her back to your place for a nightcap.
/r/seduction18/10/17 10:45 PM
2

I’m short and relatively young-looking. It’s actually not a bad thing if you give it some time. You’ll stay youthful-looking for longer, and by the time your face matures a bit, you can easily outcompete those fools by virtue of experience. Beef up and bit and consider trying other environments than bar game. You’re a talker, but not a visual standout, which isn’t a good fit for a bar-type of scenario. Play to your strengths.
/r/seduction18/10/17 10:24 PM
1

Trust me. Wingmanning the folks who need it most is a frustratingly difficult task. Not even because I can’t get girls interested in these guys (I will say that the guys I’ve worked with at least have SOME potential), but because they won’t take me up on it. I can get it to the point of a cute girl agreeing to go home with the guy, and the guy will refuse and nervously say something about wanting to leave with his friends. You can lead a horse to water...
/r/TheRedPill17/10/17 09:00 PM
15

Are they going to change their name to “Politically Gender Neutral Child Scouts” too?
/r/MensRights12/10/17 01:24 AM
4

Agreed. The ex-wife should shoulder all the cost.
/r/MensRights06/10/17 02:44 PM
3

These fall under the broader categories of mental health and trauma, which are absolutely a part of medicine. Advocating for improving safety procedures and mental health and treating associated conditions/sequelae are completely within the scope of medicine.
/r/MensRights23/08/17 12:27 PM
3

These fall under the broader categories of mental health and trauma, which are absolutely a part of medicine. Advocating for improving safety procedures and mental health and treating associated conditions/sequelae are completely within the scope of medicine.
/r/MensRights23/08/17 12:27 PM
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Au contraire. It would seem that these tactics are very successful at creating sweeping generalizations about groups of people. Look at how MRA is viewed as an inherently hateful ideology by large numbers of people who like to label their foes with the title of "bigot". But, you already have pre-existing views, and nobody here is going to change your mind, are they?
/r/MensRights13/08/17 02:26 PM
8

Because math, like physics, is totally not objective and definitely sexist.
/r/MensRights06/08/17 07:02 PM
9

Is it though? Compare the numbers of male homeless to female, the amount of battered women's shelters vs men's, or even the amount of financial aid available just for being born with a vagina. Of course, let's gloss over rates of substance abuse, length of prison sentences, suicide rates, and risk of encountering violence. There is so much more help given to women in need. I won't dispute that the glass ceiling is much higher for men, but rock bottom is correspondingly much lower. I doubt that a…
/r/MensRights03/08/17 02:07 PM
13

Bitch, please. If you think that's hard, you have no idea of the extent of the hours that many doctors pull and the responsibility they have. I know many pulling far longer hours that are not crabby to their patients. Being pissy is a choice. Working long hours is not an excuse. Edit: also the debt is not even comparable.
/r/MensRights23/07/17 05:06 AM
2

This is shameful. They're even saying that she "changed her mind about gender equality", as if to say that anything that questions the prevailing feminist narrative is against gender equality. Even within the umbrella of feminism, different ideas of what equality exists look like, and there are some sane ideas. I find it abhorrent that they shame anyone that would question a transgendered individual's right to label themselves as they please, but god forbid someone refuses the label of "feminist…
/r/MensRights14/06/17 11:45 PM
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It's not a blood thinner. It's a vasodilator, and it even has pediatric indications for that use. Don't talk out of your ass when you have no clue about medicine.
/r/MensRights13/06/17 06:53 AM
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