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Unless this thread is relating to a specific podcast
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:24 AM
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Is this live? Because i want to disxuss this : reddit admin undergoing investigation Not gonna mention their reddit name as i don't want to be banned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 02:23 AM
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Yeah it was insane I never thought they'd approve such a paper for publishing... But I guess men are audacious and institutions need to stay relevant so they'd do anything. It was a poorly written nasty article by a sex seeking old asf academic rating women based on his campus cohort and their dateability 🥴🥴🥴??? I'm glad he got a backlash though, academia is supposed to uphold standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:47 PM
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Are you at lse/UoL lmao? I was in an institution close by when it happened To this day i don't know how he published that scientifically wrong racist charlatan article But you're right, there's one rule for the students another for the academics, esp the ones with a tenure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 10:42 PM
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That's actually smart, it's just a lil too much work for me, but I might consider it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:33 PM
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Perhaps that's what it is, Thx queen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 09:33 PM
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There's more to it than that, if you robbed a store at knife point (that's bad i know..) you'd get a longer sentence in prison than brutally raping someone (and men assault men too). At least where I am, the latter sentence carries less serving term, the victims during the trial period have no access to counselling until the ordeal is over (so many drop the cases) our courts are so inundated with a backlog of such cases victims see justice on average after 24 months of the incident - during whic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:28 PM
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Sorry babes, I didn't mean his online business you helped him with, I'm only suggesting perhaps he ended up getting scammed recently? The day he pulled out the 600 bucks, or the day he asked the friend to borrow money? Best of luck though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 08:19 PM
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You're absolutely right. I have nothing to add other than beaver shovel faced The Weasel Cruise is incompetent and he knows it. That's why he comes for female politicians. He's a no back bone career weasel and anyone who speaks to him sternly is an enemy. He needs to pay for what he has done to texas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:49 PM
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Hi, I hope all you queen's are doing great. The sub seems kinda low on traffic, i guess everyone moved to the website huh. I came to ask if there's a way to hide my most viewed subs on my profile page, as I'm getting hounded in other parts of reddit or just brigaded and down voted for no reason. Thank you?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:29 PM
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Oh my god, How do ppl look sexual groomers in the eyes and think, let me hire this person to be around children??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:26 PM
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I'll take another view point : You mentioned he's pretty crushed about his retirement business, I'm thinking maybe he got embezzled in those scam that target ppl who are desperate to retire. If your dad has not gambled or taken mistresses throughout your childhood and adult life, why do you have that hunch? Usually where there's smoke there's fire, but you need to tell us a bit more. Is there a way you can peek at his finances, see where the money went. Maybe he's investing it in those paying in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 07:25 PM
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Can you link the adhd women sub?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 10:39 AM
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Will you guys take mod applications in the future? I would like to participate and help keep this place running efficiently
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:29 AM
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Never again
/r/askFDS13/09/20 11:53 AM
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Done! Beloved, we moving on.
/r/askFDS13/09/20 07:44 AM
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Done babes! Woke up, sobered up, he's gone! Finally
/r/askFDS13/09/20 07:44 AM
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True
/r/askFDS13/09/20 06:02 AM
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Done, here's to hoping i never do that again
/r/askFDS13/09/20 06:02 AM
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I did, easier said than done sis. Especially when you have emotions at stake.
/r/askFDS13/09/20 06:01 AM
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Absolutely lol. It's just a tough step to take fr.
/r/askFDS13/09/20 06:00 AM
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NYT Shere Hite, Who Challenged Myths of Female Sexuality, Dies at 77 Her 1976 book, ‘The Hite Report,’ touched off ‘a revolution in the bedroom’ and has sold tens of millions of copies. But harsh criticism drove her to self-exile in Europe. Shere Hite in 1976, the year her book “The Hite Report” helped awaken women to their sexual power and advance the Second Wave of feminism. Shere Hite in 1976, the year her book “The Hite Report” helped awaken women to their sexual power and advance the Second…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 04:09 PM
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Holy shit, i clicked on his user account and i saw a dick... I'm out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:52 PM
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u/human3pod
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/20 03:50 PM
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It's an overarchiever problem, at least what i like to think, and not in a healthy way. For me, i gravitate because I don't have that yet, that's my dream, therefore he's my dream. I also hope it's a temporary thing, all I need is a foot in the door in my dream career and I'll stop idealising people like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 09:19 PM
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Runnnn He obsessed over a woman eight whole years??? RUN OP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:40 PM
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I remember being asked this once, and i was caught so off guard I didn't say anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:34 PM
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I find that I'm like the too, I recently hit up someone i used to talk to against my better judgement because he reminds me of me, and because he's everything i would wish to be. However, it doesn't mean he's right for me. It made me do a grievous mistake lol. I had a terrible moment of vulnerability expressing my feelings to someone who'd moved on. But it made me realise that, it's not just him that I'd admired, it's what he had, that I wanted to have too. Maybe you're like that too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 08:23 PM
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Things like these make me want to have a female mentor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 12:34 PM
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How did you become adept at it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 11:26 AM
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I wanted to post enlightening and wholesome content : All-women and mixed-gender US fund teams outperformed all-male portfolio management teams so far this year, according to a Goldman Sachs analysis that raises fresh questions about the investment industry’s progress in addressing its gender diversity problems. To mark the centenary of US women winning the right to vote, Goldman analysed 496 large-cap US equity funds with combined assets of $2.3tn to compare the performance of funds where at le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 03:01 AM
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It's called smh opinion dot au 😭 😭 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 01:23 PM
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It's on Netflix
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:26 AM
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The two edits took me out lmao, that link from page 7 on Google and that last edit... Oh my...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:17 AM
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I recommend that show 10/10 satire and formidable writing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:15 AM
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I felt this on an existential level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 08:15 AM
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He's basically a man version of Taylor swift. He went from "tell me pretty lies, look me in the eyes" to "if i could go back to that day we met i prolly would just stay in bed" to "I'm the queen of brokenhearts" 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:35 PM
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If you ever make a group, can you add me?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 08:29 AM
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Ok i will 👌🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 07:49 PM
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Lmao, i need to fetch my 9 digit pin afterall
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 04:42 PM
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Can you write a detailed thread about them types? I seem to come across them frequently, but I never could put it into words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 03:55 PM
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I take anti depressants, loads of vitamins, try to stay busy, etc But this winter I'm not trying to touch them pills, and I'm noticing the blues creeping in very slowly, I'm normally distant, but I'm becoming melancholy - and just seeking self sabotage rly. It's affecting my relationship judgement and need for companionship. I have no clue what early humans did during the long winter months. I'm already dressed for autumn and all cosy, but in the uk it's dreadfully dreary and gray.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:43 PM
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You're right, over the years I learnt to spot it when it's creeping in It don't mean it's easier to deal with, it's not. But it's like my brain knows my own trick so it's getting noisier in there. I wish I could just revert back to my non-chalance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 04:57 AM
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This Check-In is actually getting down voted to hell lol. Girls, who else gets the winter blues? And needs affection a lil disproportionately during the cold season. I feel like right now I'm in an emotionally vulnerable position, because I'm actually emotionally invested, and idk if that's a byproduct of being melancholic or I'm crushing on someone who may have mentally moved on. Anyhow, I'm overthinking it. Here's to hoping all your troubles will be sorted ladies, and mines too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:14 PM
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Happy cake day and congratulations!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 08:16 PM
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That's not a man, that's a dog with no house training.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:21 AM
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I made eye contact, with one who thought he was sneaky by pissing in a side road, broad daylight.... Kill me now...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 10:06 AM
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This ^ always trust your woman's intuition!!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 10:20 PM
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This got to be comedy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 11:42 AM
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They're corny, sis.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:46 AM
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Someone's history is on point 💀
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 08:12 PM
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It's a single size bed, i know the mattress length is 90cm x 200cm lol It had to fit in my room lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 05:59 PM
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Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 10:52 PM
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It's comfy fr :3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 10:34 PM
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Thank you sweetie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 10:34 PM
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Thank you queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:50 PM
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Thank you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:43 PM
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I want peace on the inside just as much as my surroundings tbh 🙏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:43 PM
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Me too, i hope i reach it fully :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:42 PM
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Thanks a lot hun! I want colour in my life again, some happiness, means a lot to me. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:42 PM
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Thank you I only hope to upgrade more in the next few months
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 09:41 PM
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Thank u boo, thats what I'm trying to do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:43 PM
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Thank you. I'm endeavouring to make every breakfast like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:26 PM
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Thank you beloved!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 07:02 PM
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Hi there beautiful ladies, I've tried to hide most of the posts on my userpage so I can browse reddit in peace. So i don't know if you all recall but I had a post about calling the police on a housemate in a bad situation and another one about my creepy fiancé eloping. As much as that may seem dramatic, this has been an ok and somewhat blessed year for me. Y'all homegirl finally graduated a couple of weeks back, I have a place of my own that I've decorated as you can see. And I am now trying to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 06:27 PM
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Bless sis 🙌🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:20 PM
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I need to get my 8 Digit code. I forgot I'll do it later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 05:18 PM
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I'll definitely say the latter bit. That i only want reasonable hot guys and he can take his incel ass elsewhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:17 PM
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Fr, there should be a way to mark em forever so future women can beware.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:16 PM
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Zzzzzzzap time 🌩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:16 PM
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I genuinely hate it, and i hate to see it being propagated. Makes my blood boil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:15 PM
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He's mentally stunted clearly, can't keep up with women his age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 05:14 PM
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Self awareness is not his forté.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:48 AM
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Definitely porn sick, but also that 19 yr olds are immature statement was a cope out, he sought me out because I look younger than my age, he wanted a pre-pubescent to teen woman. It's sick, it's vile, women at 25 don't look bad, or old, and they certainly don't look as gross as the men that age. He was fugly af, but still had that to say, there's way too much to unpack.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:47 AM
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But I'm afraid of that, I'm afraid for the other women in his life, and the unwitting young women who think being with older men is "hot" and I'm afraid for his future neighbours and his homie's daughter.... Ppl like that are vile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:45 AM
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Damn lol. Some serious issues right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:43 AM
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Babe, I added one guy to my snap, he snapped me a short clip of him licking his teeth with the caption "you know what time it is"? Yh buddy, block time lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 10:42 AM
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Yes sis, its that app, Usually they are more subtle than that, but some folks have no grace 😔.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 06:30 AM
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Idk, didn't think of the logistics, but he seemed delighted i looked like I'm 19, and changed his tune when I called out how messed up taht was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:48 AM
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He blocked me after I called him an incel. I hope no woman ever goed out or settles with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:47 AM
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Makes no sense, he's a 30yr looking for someone who's still a teen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:31 AM
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Fr fr and he's 32 😭 the conversation seriously caught me off guard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 05:17 AM
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Lmao, they're delusional. But i don't get it, is it so younger women don't think they look too old?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:36 AM
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That too, But i think he was straight up a pedo. When i said don't call me fresh I'm not some meat, he said "should i use fertile" instead.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:16 AM
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Needless to say he blocked me afterall that lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:01 AM
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For the record, I'm in my mid 20s... It was an insane convo He said i looked fresh and like i was 19. I said wtf, so he'd switched it up as a compliment meaning my fashion was "fly" and linked an 80s song titled "she looks fresh". It didn't make sense à propos the age association, and when i pried further this is what he had to day. Another guy on the app 40yr old, hmu and when i asked him why he had the audacity, he told me if i met him irl he looks young and i can't tell... And it's a good thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/06/20 04:00 AM
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Happy cake day
/r/MuslimRedPill17/06/20 09:49 AM
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You speak for black men, yet you're not a black man. Tf you on about, you must live in a bubble to believe that the sole attitude of black women is to disrespect black man. And to answer the brother's question, you won't see many desi girls on muzmatch because if her family finds her there's a reckoning. All them sad documentaries about South Asian girls being in danger for openly dating. It has a lot more to do with the demographic that finds the app to work for them. You don't find the same ma…
/r/MuslimRedPill17/06/20 09:48 AM
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Girls I can't access the FDS wiki no more, the page is down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/20 03:16 PM
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Her story is actually sad, she's met countless men who demean her, has an incredible channel about women's issue and confidence. But sis... Is... Still... Not... Right - Same kinda man, different typpa cloth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 10:38 AM
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Ok, will do! Thx sis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 06:16 AM
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I'm going to do some long and hard introspection. I don't have a particular type of guy that I pick. Most seek me out, and often times its the one's with emotional issues and mummy issues, I'm about to spot it and avoid the worst of them, but I still fall for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 12:00 PM
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Pink pill subbreddit?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:15 AM
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The beautiful ones don't need apps/OLD as much as they find their partners easily irl. At least in my theory.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:12 AM
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That's bless sis, keep those standards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:11 AM
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Plants help too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:10 AM
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I'm now lazy with answering back. If the aforesaid last message isn't important or intriguing i leave it for when I'm free. And i find it physically painful to answer 'wyd' texts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:10 AM
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Good riddance babes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:09 AM
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Depends, for me yes. My attraction is more than just physical, i hung out with pretty boys and handsome men, but no connection there just made them not attractive to me. But when i have a connection with someone, that's when i entertain romantic ideas. Idk why i function like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:08 AM
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How do i stop being the other woman, or the woman getting cheated on? Sometimes after reading all the handbooks and tips i still wonder what I'm going wrong since it repeatedly happens to me (look at my post history) I am not desperate or needy for attention. I'm self sufficient and don't need men in my life. Yet my romantic partners are not truly in it for the long run. Or just lie.... Why are liars attracted to me like moth to a flame -
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 04:06 AM
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DM me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 05:51 AM
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We're soldiering on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/20 10:26 PM
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I'll never take him back. But now I'm regretting all the good men i knew and distanced myself from when he'd asked to be exclusive and official. And I'm too proud to hit them up now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/20 06:41 PM
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I'm petty, i just wanna see him grovel 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:19 PM
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I learnt my lesson. I made use of the resources you all sent me, and i couldn't be more thankful!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:18 PM
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Via text 😔 no spine. And of course i will!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 04:17 PM
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I'm waiting for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 02:17 AM
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I will, thank you so much for your supportive words!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:36 AM
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Men really be having this 'marriage fever' akin to baby fever where they just want to marry and impregnate someone. Yes sis, men lie and only look out for their own goals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:36 AM
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It might hit me later. But since, I've watched the whole season for unorthodox and watched killing even. Post men world here I come.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:35 AM
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They have experience I only wish to gain (with no more pain of course 😅). I feel like the full blow of what happened much hit me later, I'm not grieving him yet. But I find myself thinking on him now after the initial shock of the situation is wearing off. I'm so greatful. He's a wasteman 😔.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:32 AM
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Thank you so much! To you and all the sisters who commented. That day I was showered with words of encouragement and useful resources, and of course the experience of so many users. Frankly, this sub has now become for me a sort of safety net. Where honest women share honest advice. I've never felt so much love and I'm glad I found this place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:30 AM
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A bougie drink! I'm in!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:29 AM
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I'm here to stay. Fuck men seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:28 AM
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I do want to see him crawl back because I'm petty. But unfortunately I already blocked him everywhere.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:28 AM
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This is true. I don't know how he can't see that he is a rebound. And how it took such a short time for him to forget all the time we had together and just ditch it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:27 AM
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Babes i already blocked him. I made sure to tell him there's no way he's going to be on my friend circle. What he did to me is unforgivable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 01:26 AM
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Can't access r/fds is that another sub?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:13 AM
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Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 12:47 PM
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What's her ticktok! I want to look her up!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 04:49 AM
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Can you explain this concept to me? Is it the culmination of your experience dealing with people in general, or like a particular instinctual gut feeling?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 03:49 AM
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Let me start by saying I'm sorry you're going through this. As the other comments reiterated, his loss not yours. Don't go back and be blindsided again. Everyone has a different coping mechanism, for some people it's to keep busy, others introspect and for others it's spend time with friends, for me it was rebounds, going out of my way to go to social circles and meet new people, and it worked for em. Do what you're comfortable with, no matter what don't hit him up again, and eventually within a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:34 PM
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He's mentally stuck as a teen tbh. He's yet to mature up, and given he's 30 it's too late. I bet some mental health issues is involved too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 02:19 PM
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Did you pass the verification for the fds discord? I work night shift on an opposite time zone, never had the chance to. So i was kicked - That's OK, what you can do and what one of the mods offered me is to DM them privately and do it all over again. However, I still did not find the time for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 01:27 PM
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How are scrotes downvoting your thread?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 05:57 PM
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Don't sis! Every recommendation is appreciated!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 07:30 PM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:51 PM
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Link lmao?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 06:43 PM
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It's a habit that's really hard to break. I notice women sometimes say "just" like "i just wanted to let you know" instead of "i wanted to let you know" because we've been conditioned to tiptoe around what we mean.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:33 AM
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Lmao 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:31 AM
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Yes, the misogyny is in the details!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:19 AM
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Yassss
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 10:14 AM
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For now i won't run, i may have misjudged it all. But i will definitely keep my eyes peeled. I think the more i keep reading the advice here, the more I'm realising maybe I'm not looking at this as objectively as i should.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:05 PM
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Lmao, I'll definitely check the subreddit! I need an awakening
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:04 PM
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Ahhh didn't know about that. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:14 PM
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He'd said he had been thinking about it, and he's planning to pop the question in the next few weeks to a month. That's how i know about it. Idk what he's planning or how he's planning to ask it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:13 PM
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I've yet to accept. He mentioned he'd do it. So we'll see... :/ but i know he's prepping for it, when to pop the question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 03:12 PM
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I did speak to his mum n his lil brother however.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:52 AM
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Damn... This was a much needed stern advice.! Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:49 AM
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Thank you sis i will!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:40 AM
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I'm saving these!!!! You're right, thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:39 AM
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Very good point. I'm told I'm aloof, i tend to withdraw when I'm unsure. But i am surprised in the sense, I'm not as crazy about him as he is of me. And this talk kind of came out of nowhere ngl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:29 AM
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Nope
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:22 AM
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Taking everyone's advice here on board I'll bring it up with him at my first opportunity. And keep a closer eye 😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:21 AM
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Is that the cut off point where the honey moon stage of a relationship fades out?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:20 AM
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Don't apologise sis,. I'll definitely take what you said on board -
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:19 AM
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Eh 👀 y-yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:15 AM
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Absolutely. You're right, and maybe i have these rosy tinted glasses for now which i need to take off. Thank you for the advice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 06:15 AM
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I did talk to him about his choice of phrasing. Took me off guard. But defo I need more time. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 05:05 AM
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That's the thing. I'm trying to look at all the reasons you mentioned. I don't know about the narcissism bit (but then what narcissist would reveal their true colours?). We're both in our mid 20s. I'm not worried about the relationship, per say. It's just that phrase caught me hella off guard and he'd repeated it. Yes I'm going to drag the engagement period. But also after reading everyone's comment I'm going to be more vocal about how marriage isn't the end all and be all for me, so he repeated…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 05:04 AM
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I'll watch this too and bookmark it. Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/20 04:58 AM
3

Thank you abaayo! 😌 💕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:29 PM
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True true, I'll definitely keep what you're saying on board. I'll keep vetting, and learning more about myself and use the resources you've all linked. I've genuinely reread the wiki several time, and I can't afford some of the books I can't find as PDF... So I'm hungry for resources.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:02 PM
5

Lmao, i made a face when he said it, asked him to reiterate. Then he explained the bit about just wanting to grow old together and him not wanting to mess up yada yada... I did tell him the following day, for me I have deal breakers even in marriage and divorce is on the table. But I don't want to get complacent ever, you're right sounds a lil straight out of American Horror Stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:49 PM
1

Thx! :) 💕 Any advice would be appreciated too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:42 PM
2

I will stay safe. And i will drop in here whenever I need advice! I'll need to start listening more to my intuitions!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:42 PM
2

Bookmarked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:41 PM
8

This is genuinely chilling, wow. I'm going to give it a go and watch it... When i hear stories like that it makes me take a double take. Whew. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:39 PM
9

I will, i keep rereading the FDS handbook over and over again. So far things aren't going south yet. But aside from the obvious why is it giving you a hard pause? Any advice is welcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:36 PM
1

True true. This will be my nightly mantra.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:34 PM
2

But for me, it's always on the table. I never want to fe as though I've been locked!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:33 PM
-1

True true, I am afterall concerned about how fast its going, in terms of the pace of what's socially acceptable for relationships. But i asked my self if i felt rushed or uncomfortable... And i feel neither - Today i was straight with him about his divorce comment, he said its because he's trying to do this right and no mess it up, and wants to grow old together 💀.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:32 PM
2

I'm looking to move out after I assessed the situation. My housemate sounds like she doesn't have much body autonomy if she can't tell a guy to not beat her or take physical advantage of her. In the past I learnt that saying 'no guys over' meant that that the girls would hide their hookups and they would still come. I'm exhausted I've had adrenaline coursing through me for like two days. I just want to look back and have a safe roof by December.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:33 AM
1

I don't know if i can walk in the station and casually do it, and i can't lie and say I don't feel let down and unsure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/20 07:29 AM
1

I will try it, thank you so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 08:25 PM
2

Depends if what Shelter offers is safe. For now yes I have a place to stay. For some better rent schemes from local authorities I will need anything from 3 to 5yrs address history in a given Borough... But I'll give it a go and see if things changed because of the pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 04:12 PM
7

Thank you. Yes my landlady is very helpful. And I'm greatful for it. I just wish it didn't happen at all. Thank you for your kind words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:42 PM
10

I'm trying to coordinate things. I'm good for the immediate moment, but I can't couch surf for long. Seeing you're from the uk, if you're familiar with the rent market, do you know what I can do during this pandemic?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:41 PM
12

I tried, he'd dismissed me. And repeated 'i checked, everything is ok, do you understand'. I'm going to coordinate with my landlord on how to get my belongings. And where I'm going to stay next, my only issue is that it had to all happen mid pandemic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 03:03 PM
29

I'm looking into it. This is all rushed, just had my landlady agree to fetch me some things. I'm lowkey worried for her, but idc. I'm not going to ever contact her or reach out to her. I'll figure smt out :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/20 01:04 PM
11

I can't upvote this enough!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 11:17 PM
8

I see, thank you for clarifying :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 02:40 PM
40

How though? Theoretically it makes sense, in practice I don't see myself sticking with someone whom I don't love enough to get married to or aren't as attracted to - is it possible to have the best of both worlds?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 10:40 AM
4

I'm in the uk, but I've lost count of Boris' girlfriend, and all his wee lil wedlock kids whom he don't know about 😭.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 12:10 PM
6

Oh my bad, I'm going to Google who she is, didn't realise she's a public figure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:41 AM
3

Erm, message her directly?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 09:39 AM
10

That last bit cracked me up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:40 AM
2

I love the confidence 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 07:26 AM
6

It's so demeaning. Not gonna lie, makes one feel a lil icky and undervalued.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:29 PM
8

I figured, I checked again during lunch and thought I must've been tripping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 05:28 PM
6

Ohhh, now I know.... Now I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:21 PM
12

NEXT - indeed!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 02:11 PM
16

Why am i getting downvoted when i pop back to check on the thread 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:44 AM
22

Muzmatch 😭. If I don't block em the men can request a rematch incase female users 'change their minds'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:12 AM
17

Yes, the uk babes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:11 AM
22

🤣🤣🤣 I'm done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:11 AM
22

Lol, I'm going to hand you the stick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 11:11 AM
34

The funny thing is that he'd replied so quick too. Where was he the last 4 weeks 💀, man has issues fr.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 10:26 AM
12

🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 09:49 AM
21

Literally her standards weren't too high, all she wanted was a respectful man. A respectful equal partnership - that bitch really said he wanted to be "dominant" in the house and control the finances and what they get?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 12:53 AM
1

Wait - it says i got banned :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:16 AM
1

Can i get verified in there? It's been weeks, I'd appreciate it. Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 05:15 AM
10

On god that's true lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 03:30 PM
4

I think they just sorting out through people 😂 I'm aight then, i thought i didn't make the cut or smt.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:22 PM
1

They need personal agency, we can't just blame society. But i see your point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 10:00 AM
1

Ah good, thanks for letting me know :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:45 AM
1

I think also a lot of guys downplay or water down their views, but hold completely opposite world views on religion and politics in private.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 09:31 PM
1

Thank you, I'll make a list of those questions more personalised. This helps a lot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 08:41 PM
1

Same, tag me too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 10:32 PM
7

She learnt from g eazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 02:52 PM
2

I hear you sis 👏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 10:17 PM
2

Ah makes sense. It's good that you were able to recognise that, i feel like in LDRs there will always be one party more established than the other, and someone who has to take that leap of faith and decide to turn it into an irl thing, which is daunting but also not a light decision. Again thank you for your answer :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:27 PM
1

I am on LDR They also have a somewhat active discord group. But most are young and flexible (and hopeful) individuals. This sub helps me build my self and gives me a dose of reality 😅 which is why I'd thought to ask here. Honestly, I do think LDRs much like OLD are somewhat a vague and new territory, hopefully though you'll get what you want out of it and so will I. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 09:24 PM
2

You know what? I've no clue why i didn't think of looking at the research surrounding it, there must be plenty out there. Statistic really do paint a bigger picture. There's the personal element I wanted to explore, I'm sure LDRs have an emotional toll much like any other relationship, but does the absence of a partner or lack thereof really matter... Idk But thank you either way :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 08:45 PM
1

I see your point. It's completely rational honestly. Can I ask further questions on why you want keen on the expat life? What goals were you trying to accomplish in the usa during that time period which became an obstacle? Lastly, was there the option where he could move to the usa, instead of you to Belgium? Thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 08:01 PM
8

Go sis 👏🏾
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 11:45 PM
4

I'm glad you made a longer thread! :) thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:41 PM
1

It just hurts :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 06:04 AM
2

Guys will say they love you the same though ... But will still pull back on you...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 01:04 AM
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