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It comes at midlife when we lose our estrogen.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/25 12:57 AM
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I always make them wash their hands first. You can't trust that they've done it.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 04:25 PM
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You mean it doesn't rock your world when they go down for 30 seconds and then try to fuck? Lol The spit thing is the absolute worst.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/25 02:47 PM
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Bingo
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/25 06:53 PM
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Their fantasies always seem to involve pain for us. I just had a guy tell me he wants to "break" my pussy. That's not what I'm into at all, but it comes up again and again with dudes. Im over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 09:20 PM
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Exactly.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/25 09:40 PM
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It's hard to hold a conversation with someone who talks nonstop about the mundane details of their life. This is my recent experience with the last 3 or 4 guys I've gone out with. It's excruciating.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/25 03:01 PM
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Is it about "going the extra mile," or just a woman having preferences?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 04:24 PM
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Yes, this is exactly right.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 08:15 PM
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Most guys really only care about what they want during sex. Women's orgasms aren't a priority, especially if they have trouble in that department. It's a sad state of affairs.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/24 05:49 PM
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My guy is fairly conservative, although certainly not Maga, and I am fairly liberal. I respect his point of view, but I do not share it. I will add that we're adults in our 50s, so we don't feel the need to agree on everything. It's ok to have different world views as long as our core values are aligned.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 01:40 PM
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Or they'll just keep their real beliefs to themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/24 12:50 PM
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No, I wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 10:34 AM
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90
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 10:15 AM
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Not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 10:06 AM
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The attractive poor man. I've never really cared about money.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 10:17 PM
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I've always liked chubby dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 08:12 PM
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Really? I feel like it's a lot of sexy men lathering up. Maybe that's just how I see it lol.
/r/MensRights01/01/23 04:03 PM
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I met the love of my life at 42, and have had no shortage of attention from men at any stage in my life. That said, I don't get aggressively cat called like I used to and I couldn't be happier about that. 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 01:10 PM
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Exactly, I know quite a few women over 40 (including myself) who still look great. The difference is that we're not trying to look 25 forever. Aging is a natural process and there's nothing wrong with looking your age.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/23 12:51 PM
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Yes, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 12:05 PM
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Sure. As long as he didn't want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:37 AM
0

That a woman should let the man do the pursuing. Play it cool, sis.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 02:06 PM
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Men don't understand themselves any better than women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 07:29 PM
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Amen, sis. There's no excuse for a man in his 40s not to know the basics.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 01:00 PM
1

She probably needed to use it and had to clean it first.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:59 AM
1

It's weird that you keep a count.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 11:19 AM
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It's hard to be a feminist when you have nuanced opinions about the big issues. I've always tried my hardest to see both sides and that has gotten me banned from several feminist subs. It's frustrating. That said, the feminists i know in real life are good people who care about women and men.
/r/MensRights11/05/22 10:46 AM
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Sounds like flirting to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 10:13 AM
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That's not true.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 10:12 AM
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Maybe if they're both unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 10:09 AM
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Never.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/22 09:13 PM
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His ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 10:06 AM
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I've known many strippers who married up, including one who married one of the richest men in our city. It happens every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/22 09:49 PM
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Pete is more alpha than Kanye.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/22 11:45 AM
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Yes, assume that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 11:46 AM
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It's fun to watch you guys argue with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 01:08 PM
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It would mean we were living completely different lifestyles, and yes, that would be a dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 01:24 PM
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Pete is adorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/22 04:29 PM
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Exactly. This is why men don't understand the attraction for Pete Davidson, but women adore him.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/22 10:55 AM
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Not true at all in my experience. I know so many pudgy guys with hot wives and girlfriends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 07:52 PM
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I know this will be hard to believe, but TikTok is not reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/21 11:35 AM
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My ex husband is gross and unkempt and I left him.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/21 02:06 PM
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Sure they would.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 11:12 AM
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I don't know, but it's pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 10:17 AM
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It makes me feel like he's a man who is in touch with his emotions. I don't want to see it every day, but I don't think he wants to see me cry every day either.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/21 12:11 PM
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All of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 08:13 PM
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It rarely works for anyone.
/r/MensRights09/10/21 10:33 PM
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Smoking, drug use, video games, motorcycles......I'm not interested in anyone who has these hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 11:10 AM
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I once read that a guy saying "I don't have sex on the first date" is a guarantee to getting laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:41 PM
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Jesus, don't think like that. The men in this sub are not representing all men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 11:48 AM
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That's shitty.
/r/MensRights21/04/21 10:02 AM
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I do a lot of yoga and running and pilates still kicks my butt.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 01:34 AM
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Pilates is hard!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/21 12:53 AM
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Never
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/21 11:12 PM
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Cite?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 10:59 PM
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And that strawberry smelling vape shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/21 09:01 PM
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It certainly helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/20 01:04 AM
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Fun and profit
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/20 02:57 PM
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Definitely because I'm older.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/20 10:17 AM
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When I was younger it happened every day, nearly every time I went to a gas station or grocery store, or even working in my yard. The last 5 years or so, I'm 46 now, it's changed from aggressive harassment to more polite compliments and occasional catcalls. I don't miss the harassment at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/20 10:03 PM
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I have always worked out. I run 6 days a week and do yoga.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/20 07:44 PM
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That sounds awful.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/20 05:19 PM
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Sure, if it was a really good restaurant.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/20 07:27 PM
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Is that Big Ed?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 10:19 PM
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I don't mind if men look at me.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 08:41 PM
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Women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/20 04:06 PM
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I'd be awesome as a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/20 10:01 PM
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How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/20 07:13 PM
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I like my guy to be dominant, but I would not be ok with any of the stuff in that quote.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/20 09:19 PM
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Mostly, we want to get off without having to rub it out porn style.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/20 11:37 PM
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I like guys with a little extra weight. You could say that I'm a chubby chaser.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/20 05:33 PM
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I think you're onto something here. Most people eat terribly and unprecedented numbers of people are on heavy duty psych meds that screw with their bodies and minds. And the worst thing is that they're absolutely convinced they need the stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 11:00 PM
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They're not present in their lives. They don't have the same amount of face to face interactions as previous generations, instead preferring Facebook, Netflix, and video games. Obviously, this doesn't apply to every young person but I think it applies to a lot of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 10:54 PM
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I don't know about barn wood, but I clean upper middle class houses and all of them have those signs about wine and coffee all over their houses. Other than that, they don't really fit the stereotype. They're nice, educated people, but they do have terrible taste in decor
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/20 10:10 PM
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Marilyn was actually pretty tiny.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/19 03:01 AM
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Staying fit is an investment in your future. Sadly, most people don't seem to care about that and would rather eat horribly and sit on their couches. They're not writing the great American novel, they're watching Netflix.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 01:06 PM
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I guess it comes down to whether or not being a healthy weight is a priority to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 12:30 PM
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For a woman, keeping her daily calorie intake under 1500 (or a little more depending on height) should be enough to do it. Excercise helps tremendously, but it's not as important as diet. I do yoga about 4 times a week and walk about 6000 steps a day, as well as tracking calories. I realize this is more than most people are willing to do, but it's a lifestyle choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 11:58 AM
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Frankly, if you can't get up and walk a bit and pay some attention to what you eat then it's your own fault you're fat.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/19 12:57 AM
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Well, Patton Oswalt has gotten two wives so being funny must count for something.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/19 07:42 PM
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Robert Plant
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/19 09:42 PM
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I don't know. I live in the midwest and I'm one of the only thin women in my social group. Around here, most women seem to give up entirely once they hit 30. It's sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 06:49 PM
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Those women are only going to get bigger and bigger.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 06:27 PM
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I'm actually a fully functioning adult who thinks for herself. Life isn't black and white.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/19 06:19 PM
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Not at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 07:52 PM
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Other than working out, those things just make women look worse. Of course, I'm genetically blessed so it's not that hard for me to look great at 45. ;-)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/19 10:10 PM
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We're in our '40s, I never even think about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/19 10:46 PM
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My mom and I couldn't be more different. I'm more like my dad. I don't talk to either one of them about my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/19 05:28 PM
0

And that male pleasure is the goal.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/19 12:48 PM
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That's funny because when you are an above average looking stripper guys tell you you're too pretty to do that job. I guess they envision these attractive young women as trophy wives or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/19 06:02 PM
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70 helpers, 30 dangers
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 11:25 PM
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I don't care about anyone that I "used" to have feelings for.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/19 02:02 AM
1

He's cute.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/19 10:18 PM
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They might go and take up space but they do not spend money or get dance after dance the way men do. There is absolutely no comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/19 10:04 PM
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I had terrible taste in men when I was younger. I have much higher standards now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/19 08:18 PM
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They used to do a male review at a strip club I worked at and most of the women would be tipping female dancers after a short while. Male dancers tend to be sweaty and aggressive, not the sort of thing most women enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/19 11:09 PM
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Is it so hard to believe that we're attracted to guys who aren't physically perfect? It's not all or nothing you know.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/19 11:58 AM
1

Luckily I've never given a shit about being a "normie."
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 01:25 PM
1

Please tell me you're joking.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 11:48 AM
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It's bizarre to me that people actually keep count.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/19 11:47 AM
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I definitely have. I was attracted to his mind, his dark sense of humor, and his confidence. He got all sorts of attractive women and he was not good looking by anyone's standard.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/19 02:56 AM
1

Sure, I probably did every variation of these things in my single days.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/19 01:02 AM
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I'm a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/19 07:05 PM
1

How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/19 10:20 PM
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My intention was always to hook up. I pumped and dumped them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/19 06:09 PM
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I'm both of these things and this post is just fine with me. Feminism is supposed to be about freedom and choices, and this doesn't conflict with that at all imo.
/r/TheRedPill22/03/19 01:37 AM
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Like this guy? https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Watts_family_homicides
/r/MensRights19/03/19 07:46 PM
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I'd move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/19 04:16 PM
1

I'd be such a stud.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/19 11:31 PM
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I've been harassed plenty, but I've never been afraid of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 03:09 AM
1

I don't want to see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/17 08:21 PM
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What is your point? I, and others, have asked you multiple times, but you seem unwilling to clarify.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 08:31 AM
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For the most part, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 08:11 AM
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I didn't say he was unattractive, I said he doesn't do anything for me. People have different types and preferences, it's not rocket science. For attractive women, "getting" Chads is like shooting fish in a barrel, hardly a challenge. If you're actually interested in learning about women, stop with the assumptions and listen to what we say. Asking questions and then calling people liars when they answer is a good way to alienate and piss people off. And negging is incredibly transparent, so unle…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 08:09 AM
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"Here is a philosophical question. If you spent your whole life with a man who hated you and thought you were disgusting, but you would never be able to tell by his actions unto your deathbed, would it matter to you?" Wait, you think that a woman having an amazing lover in her past is analogous to being with a partner who secretly hates you and thinks you are disgusting? Please tell me I'm misunderstanding you here.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 07:30 AM
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So, why can't "chubby hubby" meet her halfway? It might be easier to come up with the requisite enthusiasm if he got himself into decent shape or made some effort to spice things up on his end. It's pretty difficult to resuscitate a dead bedroom when only one of you is willing to put in the effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 07:18 AM
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Back in my single days, it seemed like every other guy I dated was pushing for a serious relationship by the third date. And my single, male friends are always asking me to fix them up, they are terrified that they're going to end up alone. Don't get me wrong, I've known women who are on that track as well, but in my personal experience, the whole "desperate to get married " stereotype applies just as much (If not more) to men as it does women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 06:26 AM
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I understood it in a general way, but I was pretty naive about sex as a young teenager. Other than making out, my sexual encounters were pretty limited until I was in college, so what guys did or didn't want wasn't really on my radar. Of course, coming of age in the' 90s was a lot different than coming of age now. I had to go to the library to find information about sex, it wasn't like I could just hit Google. People weren't nearly as open back then, so most of us just learned as we went.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 05:19 AM
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What do those comments have to do with this? You are all over the place. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm starting to get the impression that you're one of these types who blames "political correctness" for not being able to express sexist and racist viewpoints without being called out on it. Harboring hatefulness and bitterness, and making women out to be the enemy does absolutely nothing to further RP's goals. In fact, it's quite the opposite, if people think that RP is a hate group, they will…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 05:01 AM
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Vilifying women, and making us out to be the root of all of men's problems doesn't "protect" anything, it just feeds the belief that RPs are paranoid misogynists. If you're worried about men's issues, focus on those issues! There are plenty of things you can do to help, but hating on women and feminists won't get you anywhere.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/16 04:17 AM
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I'm a woman, and I actually agree with quite a bit of the RP's take on the male/female dynamic, and I think most of the advice they give men about dating is good. However, a lot of their "insight" about women borders on paranoid and hateful quite a bit of the time. Not all RPs are bitter, but there are certainly a few whose deep seated issues with women color their entire viewpoint.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/16 12:40 PM
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You're right, most male strippers don't find regular work, or make anywhere near what women do, unless they work in gay clubs.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/16 09:43 AM
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When you say Chad, are you referring to any attractive young guy, or is there a more specific type you're talking about? I ask because the guy in the photo doesn't do anything for me, personally. Assuming that any attractive guy will do in this hypothetical scenario, only your second "reason" comes anywhere near explaining my rationale/ motive for hooking up with a hottie. I've never been on the hunt for a baby daddy, and the idea of dating someone to make my friends jealous is just silly. Even …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/16 09:18 AM
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That wasn't my comment, but I don't have a lot of sympathy for deadbeat parents (of either gender) either. Providing that the amount for support is based on the parent's income, I don't understand how anyone could say that it's unfair, especially in situations where the non custodial parent isn't there for the child. In those cases, paying a little bit of support is the least they can do. I've known parents, myself included, who have had to fight tooth and nail to get their exes to do anything. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/16 01:19 AM
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Ah, that makes more sense. I don't blame you a bit for adding your own.
/r/TheRedPill04/09/15 02:16 AM
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I'm a little confused about this as well. someone had cleverly drawn a "shocked" face around the word door with the 00 being made into eyes. I finish up in the bathroom and exit, help one of the guys label/price some of the wares for the store and run across one of those "cute" signs that women love to hang up in bathrooms. you know, the one that tells men that their genitals are smaller than they think, and insists that laddies "remain seated for the entire performance". so i toss it in the gar…
/r/TheRedPill04/09/15 01:46 AM
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I've worked in strip clubs for over 20 years, and one of the biggest changes has been the influx of female customers. When I first started, we'd see them occasionally, but now they're in every other group. They all think that they are "just one of the guys," that their presence has no affect on the behavior/experience of the group..........which is complete and utter bullshit. Men behave very differently around women (duh), and the whole vibe of the club changes when a bunch of women are hanging…
/r/TheRedPill17/08/15 12:03 AM
1

Yeah, it would be difficult to get objective data on such a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/15 07:57 PM
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I haven't seen anyone defend the judge on this, pretty much everyone thinks this is excessive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/15 07:16 PM
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Just the opposite, he's saying that it's circumcised men who ejaculate sooner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/15 06:53 PM
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I'm a stripper and I get a lot of customers who seem to think they're the exception, that the other guys I deal with are pigs but they are special because they look me in the eye, or put the tip in my hand instead of tucking it (like I give a shit, lol). Occasionally, I'll get one who actually believes I'm getting pleasure from dancing for him. It's safe to say that the majority of my customers are beta.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/15 06:31 PM
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That's ridiculous. It's unreasonable to expect your partner to do something she found painful and unpleasant just because she tried it with someone else. Why would you want her to do something she doesn't enjoy?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/15 06:04 PM
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Aren't quotas more for hiring purposes? If someone gets hired, but ends up being incompetent, they probably won't last long. Eh, who am I kidding? Companies are full of lazy morons, but that's hardly limited to women, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 05:39 AM
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What kind of women do you date now?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 05:32 AM
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Capitalism may be blind, but human beings are anything but objective. The objective of feminism, or any other anti-discrimination policy, in the workplace is to level the playing field and create an environment where people can be rewarded for their performances rather than factors beyond their control.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/15 05:28 AM
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It's incredibly patronizing how some feminists will argue with actual sex workers about our experiences and opinions on the nature of the work, regardless of the fact that most of them have no firsthand experience and have not bothered to consult anyone who does when forming their opinions. They don't seem to comprehend that a feminist telling women how to live their lives is just as presumptuous and inappropriate as when a man does it.
/r/MensRights04/08/15 05:05 AM
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I'm no stranger to men's conversations about women, but they don't typically admit to actually hating us, which is a running theme on RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 09:22 PM
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I don't know what the feminist take on it is, all I know is that the youngin's have been coming out of the woodwork the last several years. I'm 41 and get hit on by young men at least 3 times a week. And this is while wearing a wedding ring and avoiding eye contact! Granted, I don't think these guys have any idea that I'm as old as I am, which is undoubtedly part of it, but it's still weird. I didn't have this many 20-somethings hitting on me when I was 20-something, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 09:18 PM
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This thread is about frustration with BP's not understanding you, and that's why I offered my opinion on it. The hostility is ridiculous. As the saying goes, carrying bitterness and anger around is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 02:35 AM
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What do you mean by weakness? A period of depression? Job loss? Illness? I can only speak from my own experience, but I think most adults understand that there are going to be ups and downs in any relationship. When you start getting into hard times that go on indefinitely, that's a different story.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 02:17 AM
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I agree with most RP theories on the male/female dynamic, and I don't have any issues with guys using the strategies to get laid. And I think BP's are a bit ridiculous when it comes to their misrepresentation of your ideas. That said, I don't think the cartoon villainy is all that much of an exaggeration. There is a lot of hateful, angry shit that is said and regularly repeated that it is impossible not to see it as a real element of RP. I realize that those views are not shared by all of you, b…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 02:03 AM
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I'm a woman, not entirely RP or BP, and I could not even begin to count the number of times I've turned guys down over the years....hundreds, probably. It's not always pickiness, but more inappropriate/awkward timing and the wrong approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 01:21 AM
1

Sounds like your dad's heart is in the right place, but his advice is pretty awful.☺
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 01:08 AM
0

Surely there has to be some middle ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 01:04 AM
-1

What is it that you disagree with?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 01:02 AM
1

I thought she was referring to being taken seriously, and other things related to her actual job. Seems like she just wants to keep the environment professional.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 12:57 AM
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Yeah, I'm not BP, but I agree that it has gotten absolutely vicious lately. People don't even attempt to be civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 12:49 AM
2

You have me confused with someone else you're arguing with.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 12:45 AM
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I wasn't trying to prove anything, I was responding to your little scenario about the woman who divorced her husband to chase sexual fantasies. Not sure why you feel the need to insult me over an innocuous comment.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 12:34 AM
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I could have kept sowing wild oats indefinitely if that's what I wanted to do. But I grew up, fell in love with a great guy, and have never looked back. It's been 10 years so far, and I haven't had any trouble staying faithful and being a good partner to my husband. Believe it or not, people can grow and evolve and enjoy different things as they go through life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 12:24 AM
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Here's the thing, both sexes are attracted to the superficial.......and there's nothing wrong with that as long as looks aren't the only quality you're looking for. It's crazy to suggest that you should force yourself to get with women you aren't attracted to. There's nothing noble about that, in fact it's pretty patronizing. Nobody wants to be the pity date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/15 12:00 AM
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And I can only speak from my own experiences, but the men I've known have been just as, if not more, interested in relationships as the women. These old stereotypes need to go.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 11:48 PM
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Most 18-year-olds haven't even begun to understand or harness their sexual power. There's a reason why young guys are fixated on older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 11:36 PM
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That's what strip clubs are for, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 11:24 PM
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It's funny to me that RPs are convinced that all women are desperately and helplessly attracted to the "Chads" of the world. I have no doubt that those guys bed a lot of women, but plenty of us are turned off by the cocky, player shtick. There are plenty of attractive guys out there who aren't douchebags. We can be as picky as we want to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 11:12 PM
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It's actually changed my impression of guys I was initially attracted to. A lot of them don't realize that you don't have to be Mr. Studmuffin movie star for women to give you a chance. Lose the self deprecating remarks and flattery and just talk to me like a human being. I'd rather talk about anything than have a guy fixate on my looks.....there's just not much to say when they do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 10:55 PM
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This guy is saying that women are whores for expecting a man to have a job, as if that's so unreasonable. Personally, I think it's a pretty basic standard for both genders. That doesn't mean that I would divorce my husband if he lost his job, but it would be a problem if he had long stretches of unemployment without trying to do something about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 10:40 PM
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Yeah, when everyone is having fun, comments like that are just a playful part of the flirtation. It's not as if he was ordering her around like a jerk. And you're right about the ass kissing thing. It's actually cringeworthy the way some guys will go on and on. A compliment is great, but when he's saying it for the third time I'm losing respect for him. That might sound bitchy, but it's an awkward situation to be in. Guys with confidence don't have to try so hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 10:17 PM
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Expecting a potential partner to have a job is the most basic of standards. That doesn't mean that I need a man to take care of me, it means that I want an equal. If a man can't pull his half, that's a real problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 09:42 PM
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I think the point is that these guys have been given the wrong advice their entire lives. The blue pill is not an accurate concept of the way women and men relate to one another, and when guys mistakenly take that approach they fail.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 07:07 PM
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I'm a 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 06:24 PM
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Oh, good! Haha. It's sad that I've seen enough serious comments like that that I can't recognize sarcasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 06:03 PM
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In my experience, cocky guys like that are intolerable to be around. There's no shortage of sexy guys who don't have the attitude that they're god's gift to women. As much as you want to believe otherwise, cock is abundant, and even the most marginally attractive woman can be as picky as she pleases.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 05:57 PM
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I can only speak for myself, but I think that sowing my oats and getting it out of my system put me in a good position for my marriage. It's been almost 10 years and I haven't had any trouble staying faithful and being a good partner to my husband. Of course, I don't have much in common with the type of woman you've described, so that probably helps, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 05:39 PM
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Well, any of the times in my single days when I hooked up. I didn't count them, but there were more than a few.😈
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 05:27 PM
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Seriously? She was very much into it, asked him if she could sit on his lap, and still fantasizes about it months later. There's a big difference between being so drunk you don’t know what's happening around you, and having an enthusiastic drunken make out. Hell, in my single days I probably never had a sober hookup, but no way does that mean they were assaults.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 05:25 PM
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Wow, thank you for the detailed response. That's all very interesting. I guess I've been lucky, I've been shaving for over 20 years and have never had a problem. At this point, I've got it down to a science, lol. I can do it all in about five minutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/15 04:31 PM
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They make you incompatible because your needs aren't being met. It makes more sense to find someone whose desires align with yours, than to try to convince your girlfriend to do things she doesn't want to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 02:12 AM
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Have you considered that the two of you just aren't compatible? There are tons of artsy women who wouldn't think twice about you drawing nudes, and they'd probably be more sexually open minded as well. And they probably won't see any reason why these things should be at odds with feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 01:14 AM
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And 74% of men are overweight or obese, which is a direct cause of erectile dysfunction. It's unfair to blame it all on women.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 12:58 AM
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Have you got a cite for the claim that shaving is unhygienic? I get that some women think it's a pain, but it really doesn't have to be that laborious.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/15 12:48 AM
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I just want to maintain my current physique, not sure what my actual measurements are, but I'm 5'4, 120 or so pounds, 34 D, and pretty much toned all over.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/15 11:03 PM
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This has been my experience, for the most part. In my single days, I found it a little weird that most guys seemed ready to jump into a relationship after two dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/15 01:07 AM
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I don't see why traditional gender roles need to be done away with as long as we aren't tied to them. Freedom, and opportunity, to choose for ourselves is the point of feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/15 12:51 AM
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Hmm, how about how I can walk into any strip club, get hired, and walk out with a wad of cash that very night? Men have nothing comparable. There is very little demand, or opportunity, for male strippers, yet there are gentleman's clubs in just about every city. Not to mention, it's an environment where women call the shots. A lot of feminists will insist that all sex workers are victims, but they are very wrong about that. You will not find an environment that is dominated by women more than th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/15 12:42 AM
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I consider myself a feminist and I've been banned, pre-emptively in a few cases, from every feminist sub just for disagreeing or trying to have a discussion. It's ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/15 12:33 AM
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Wow, when you look at it that way, everything is sexist. Acknowledging the differences between women and men is not sexist unless you're using it for discrimination.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/15 12:25 AM
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That's certainly their prerogative, however, it seems like a smart, strong, alpha type would prefer a woman who is their equal rather than someone who doesn't challenge them in any way. That's the way most of the men I've known are, but it sounds like things are much different in Poland.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/15 12:17 AM
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I work in a strip club....they know what they're walking into, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 08:34 PM
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I've left a few broken men in my wake, but i have a terrible guilty conscience , so I don't make a habit of it. I still make a living off of betas, but now I've been happily married for almost 10 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 08:25 PM
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Lol, that was partially a joke. I've mellowed considerably in my old age, but I still cuss out the occasional catcaller. Not sure if I'll ever be able to resist that!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 08:15 PM
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Also, I figured out a long time ago that you have to play to your strengths. Good looks and charm will take a woman a very long way in this world.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 07:53 PM
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I'm a bitch, but I've always been good looking, and physically, I'm most guy's "ideal." Maybe I should have said it's easy for attractive women to get men to do what we want. I figured that was a given.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 07:48 PM
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Agreed. I still identify as feminist, but I've been banned from every feminist sub on Reddit just for having a different opinion or asking a question.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 07:41 PM
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I agree. My husband fought for years to see his kids, always getting screwed out of the summers and holidays that should have been his. It's heartbreaking, really.
/r/MensRights05/06/15 07:36 PM
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I've never, in 41 years, not gotten a man to do what I've wanted. And it's been all sorts of different types....not just beta losers. I actually have a very low tolerance for ass kissers like that. And my god, regular guys will do anything, but beta guys are ridiculous. It's almost too easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 07:33 PM
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They're thin because they're teenagers! Lol, seriously, youth probably has more to do with those "virginal" qualities than anything else. I was pretty sweet and submissive when I was 18-25, but no one would use those words to describe me now.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 07:25 PM
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Feminism or not, it's always going to be easy for women to get men to do what we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 07:18 PM
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What woman can't open a jar? That's just silly.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 07:03 PM
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I couldn't agree more. Back when my husband and I were first dating, I worked in an office full of engaged and newlywed women who talked about nothing except diamond sizes, wedding details, honeymoon destinations......every superficial thing you can imagine. I've always wondered how many of them stuck it out after they discovered the mundane reality of married life. Don't get me wrong, I like being married, but people who go into it expecting things to effortlessly fall into place are in for a r…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 12:55 AM
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I don't think of love as an uncontrollable emotion so much as something shown, something that we can consciously choose and improve upon . Ideally, love is something that grows and matures as time goes by, but it's absolutely conditional.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/15 12:01 AM
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For a lot of guys, child support is literally the least they are willing to do.....correction, the least they can be forced to do. Unfortunately, not all dads want to be in their kids' lives.
/r/MensRights04/06/15 11:27 PM
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What's the alternative, letting him off the hook? I don't agree with outrageous child support orders, but it's not unreasonable to expect people to share the financial burden of raising their own child.
/r/MensRights04/06/15 06:15 PM
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I'm not against the idea, per se, but it seems like there would be countless cases where the fathers would opt out, only to re-connect once the child was over 18.
/r/MensRights04/06/15 06:07 PM
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Valid and valued, absolutely, but not to the exclusion of everything else. You guys like to make it sound like men will choose the younger woman every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/15 11:10 PM
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Both sides have a tendency towards black and white thinking, and they both hold onto their ideas no matter what the other one says. The funny thing is that they find these traits infuriating, yet they're guilty of the exact same thing.......sometimes in the same conversation. I actually agree with a lot of RP ideas, far more so than the BP, but some of their harsh beliefs about women immediately put me on the defensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/15 10:21 PM
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I'm saying that when it came to casual sex, whether or not the guy I was interested in "deserved" it never even crossed my mind. It was based on my interest/attraction. I don't see how those are the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/15 09:14 PM
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How do you explain all of the young guys who like older women?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/15 09:02 PM
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In my single days, I based my decisions about sex on whether or not I wanted it, not if the guy deserved it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/15 08:58 PM
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My husband is 5'8 and I'm 5'4. I've never cared about height, so it doesn't bother me at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/15 08:45 PM
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Unless someone's behavior affects you directly, why do you care?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/15 06:44 PM
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Because it's none of your business what other people do in their bedrooms?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/15 06:38 PM
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You're right, one person's observations do not count as evidence at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/15 08:55 PM
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If you don't think that sexuality defines a large part of most men's identities, then you don't know much about men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/15 05:45 PM
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What makes you think women rarely get lonely? Do you have any kind of facts that inform this opinion, or did you just pull it out of your ass? Sorry to be harsh, but you don't know what you are talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/15 05:38 PM
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This is a good point. Everyone has heard of feminism, and most people probably get the basic gist of it, but few have thoroughly studied feminist doctrine. For instance, I've always considered myself a feminist, but relative to what's out there I've only studied a fraction of the literature. So I find it frustrating when ideas like the ones in sumant28's comment are attributed to feminism, because they're so far removed from what I believe. I hate that people think Tumblr and SRS-types represent…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/15 02:24 PM
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I'm definitely against adultery in my own marriage, although I could probably forgive a one-time indiscretion. An ongoing affair would be something else entirely. Sex is one thing, but the idea of my husband having emotional intimacy with another woman would break my heart. I've seen some marriages destroyed because of cheating, and as much as I try to refrain from judging how other people conduct their private lives, I think most cheaters are selfish assholes. And now, with Facebook and other s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/15 08:59 PM
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Is this based on your personal experience, or something else? I ask because I see this generalization a lot, but it doesn't match my experience at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/15 05:09 PM
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Don't forget how they patronizingly act like sex workers are all unwitting victims of the patriarchy and couldn't possibly make that choice freely.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/15 11:18 PM
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There's a difference between saying that women have flaws and shouldn't be put on pedestals, and comparing us to children and dogs and saying we make terrible friends, etc. I think women would find the RP a bit easier to swallow without the hateful bs.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/15 02:40 AM
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I don't think men should lower their standards either. And I don't think it's sleazy for men to be choosy or for him to have women interested in him. The reason I mentioned women having plenty of options is because a lot of RP's make it sound like we have to scrape the bottom of the barrel to find a guy once we hit 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/15 02:22 AM
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RP's seem to think that women over 30 are so undesirable that we have to settle for men we don't respect, and aren't attracted to. This is contrary to my personal experiences and observations, but I'll save the anecdotes, except to say that the women I know who have gotten married in their '30s (including me) had plenty of interested men to choose from. Additionally, we were all financially stable, so choosing to get married had a lot more to do with love and attraction than it did with desperat…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/15 12:17 AM
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He may not be RP, but he definitely doesn't sound like my idea of BP either. As with most things, I think the ideal is somewhere in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/15 07:34 PM
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I can't believe I'm about to say this, but this thread is useless without pics.😊
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/15 03:17 AM
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I think they like this type more than they'd ever admit.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/15 02:21 AM
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As long as he didn't seem to have an underlying hatred and distrust of women, and wasn't overtly manipulative, I don't think I'd have a problem with a guy who believed in the more reasonable points of RP. Of course, I don't consider myself entirely BP or RP, so I might be more open minded than some. I also don't think it's diabolical to have a strategy for pursuing sex partners and dates. Any theory can be made to sound manipulative, whether it's work out and get a high paying job, or be non thr…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/15 02:19 AM
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It doesn't take a sixth sense to recognize a guy who doesn't like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 10:52 PM
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I'm sure I'll regret posting this, but fuckit, lol. Here's a campy video I did for my friend's band a few years ago. I'm the killer.😈
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 10:32 PM
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I looked good in my '20s, but now I'm about 20 pounds lighter, much more toned, and I have a more flattering hairstyle and better sense of personal style. And, of course, I have more confidence, and a secure sense of who I am. I'd never trade how I look now for the way I looked back then.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 10:06 PM
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I'm in the top five earners at the best strip club in Indianapolis. I routinely out earn girls who are half my age. You can believe what you want, but there plenty of women over 40 who look great.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 07:30 PM
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Is it that hard to believe that someone could get bored with partying? I also met my husband around that time, which had a lot to do with it as well. And I know that RP's don't think women can look good past 30, but I'm as much of a bad ass at 41 as I was at 25. I've never had any trouble getting laid.😉
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 06:49 PM
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Well, there's certainly no shortage of judgmental people who, for reasons unbeknownst to me, are very concerned about the things other people put in their bodies, and do in their bedrooms. I think it's perfectly reasonable to have standards about a potential partner's history, but I fail to see how anyone else's drug use, or sex life, is anyone's business but their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 06:42 PM
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It doesn't make sense for a feminist to be anything but sex positive, imo. If women deserve equal rights and freedom, then our sexual behavior should be included in that. Over the years, I've gotten into discussions with feminists who insist that all sex workers are unwitting victims of the patriarchy. They can't get their heads around the idea that a woman would do that kind of work by choice, so they assume we're all victims. It's incredibly patronizing. If they believe that women are capable …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 06:11 PM
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Well, there are morons who say all sorts of things, it doesn't mean they speak for the entire group.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 04:06 PM
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What do are you referring to when you say that "the US is quickly pushing typical morality out the window?" Gay marriage? An increasingly secular society? People want to live their lives without being discriminated against, but that's very different than expecting not to be judged by your past behavior. I don't know anyone who thinks it's unreasonable to want someone who shares your values. Saying that society "demands" no one be accountable for past behavior is a warped exaggeration.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 03:28 PM
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Yeah, that would be off putting. I don't know why anyone would brag about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 02:36 PM
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I liked him as soon as I saw him, and my interest increased as I got to know the character. I find his aggressive ways incredibly hot.😊 Interestingly, while I wouldn't throw him out of bed for eating crackers, I don't find the actor nearly as sexy when he isn't dressed as Drogo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 02:31 PM
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I'm a woman, and I'm not BP or RP.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 02:23 PM
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Lol, I don't know if it's classic, but it has definitely given me considerable insight on the male (hell, human) psyche.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 02:18 PM
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After I turned 30 or so, I basically lost interest in partying/casual sex. It didn't have anything to do with a lack of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 01:02 AM
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I don't think that desiring an attractive mate is hypocritical at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 12:53 AM
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What kind of man are you sexually attracted to? Khal Drogo from Game of Thrones is my ideal man, as far as looks go. So yeah, it's safe to say I like a masculine guy, lol. Are you sexually dominant or submissive? I've always taken a more aggressive role than I would like. I'd prefer a dominant partner, but it's never really worked out that way. Would you describe your sex drive as high or low? It was definitely higher when I was younger (I'm 41 now), but I still have a pretty high sex drive. Wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 12:32 AM
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Good point. It's all but impossible to communicate your wants and needs when you aren't familiar with your own body.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 12:15 AM
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What advice would RP give her?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/15 12:06 AM
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I work at a strip club.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/15 11:57 PM
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How much time does one have to spend in the gym to get/maintain a body like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/15 11:50 PM
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The RP's I've met irl (4-5) have mostly been mid to late '30s, reasonably fit, and well dressed. One in particular had a big chip on his shoulder, but the rest were personable enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/15 11:31 PM
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I'm just wondering because if I start talking about sex to a guy, it's because I'm interested. Is that a possibility?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/15 11:13 PM
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How old are you? What kind of social situation are you in when women tell you about their sex lives?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/15 01:54 AM
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Do you think that might just be because the men are different too?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/15 11:40 PM
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According to this article, divorce rates have been declining for the last 30 years.... http://mobile.nytimes.com/2014/12/02/upshot/the-divorce-surge-is-over-but-the-myth-lives-on.html?_r=0&referrer= But you're right, women initiate divorces most of the time. There are quite a few reasons for this, most of which are quite rational, imo. Of course, I don't think there's any pride in staying in a miserable marriage, so I don't think divorce is always a bad thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/15 09:41 PM
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The irony is that most wives mother their husbands as much, or more, than they do their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/15 09:21 PM
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It's a bad strategy because you have to be a sociopath to use and discard people like that. Luckily, I don't think I know anyone who actually behaves this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/15 09:12 PM
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That's why I asked. I thought we were talking about hypergamy. IMO, you would have to be pretty cold-hearted to be ready to dump the person you're with if someone better came along.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/15 01:38 AM
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I don't understand what you're saying. Not to toot my own horn, but I'm very attractive and have never had a problem finding men who want to commit to me. In fact, in my single days I had the opposite problem, guys wanting to get serious after the first date. Actually, I think RP has its good points, but so much of what you guys claim as truth differs from what I've seen and experienced over the years. Of course, most RP's aren't interested in what women have to say on the subject, so I don't wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/15 01:31 AM
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Are you suggesting that men behave rationally when choosing a mate? In my experience, both sexes are pretty emotional when it comes to relationships. Honestly, this idea that women are irrational and emotional, yet have the foresight and distance to be ready to trade up whenever a better man comes along just doesn't make sense. Either you think we're diabolical ice queens or overgrown children, it can't be both.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/15 01:09 AM
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I'm not arguing that socialization doesn't define gender roles/behavior to an enormous extent, I just don't think it's 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/15 10:01 PM
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Different people, different experiences. I wouldn't say someone is irrational without knowing anything about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/15 09:45 PM
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I understand the difference between sex and gender, but there are varying opinions on how much of our traditional gender roles are ingrained, and how much of them are dictated by outside influences. It's not outrageous to suggest that it's a combination of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/15 09:42 PM
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I don't think I'd feel threatened or secure. I probably wouldn't think twice about him unless he started talking to me. Honestly, I can't relate to this article at all. I'm certainly not naive to the harsh realities that a lot women of women have to face, but I have never personally had a reason to be afraid of men. I've been cat called and hit on more times than I could ever count, but it's more annoying than threatening.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/15 12:25 AM
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It might not be stated in the same way, but there is a ton of advice about getting in shape/looking better, and improving self esteem, that is directed at women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/15 11:26 PM
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I don't think it's black and white. Gender is part nature, part nurture.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/15 11:13 PM
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Do you have a link for that? I don't doubt what you're saying, but I'd like to see the source.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/15 04:24 AM
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I think it's pretty rude to disregard people's lived experiences, but I do agree that hypothetical situations and reality tend to differ quite drastically. I think I'd be receptive to the idea of my husband being a stay at home dad, but I can see how it might not go so well. Luckily, our kids are grown, so it won't be an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/15 04:19 AM
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In my experience, men are just as prone to jealousy as women are when it comes to their SO 's opposite sex friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/15 03:49 AM
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This is pretty close to how I feel, although I don't consider myself Blue Pill, and I think Red Pill actually does have many solid points.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/15 12:55 AM
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It's not about keeping secrets, it's just not something that has ever come up. I don't really want to know details about my husband's previous sex partners, and I assume he feels the same way about mine. It doesn't mean we're hiding anything from each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/15 07:35 PM
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When it comes to partner count, I think a "don't ask, don't tell" approach is best. I didn't realize so many people shared this info with their S.O. Obviously, it's important to have a sense of your partner's past behavior, but I don't see any benefit in putting numbers out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/15 11:49 PM
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It kind of blows my mind that so many women don't masturbate before they have sex for the first time.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/15 11:32 PM
3

Have you considered practicing with a small dildo/vibrator? It would help you get comfortable at your own pace, and masturbation in general will help you figure out your likes and dislikes. The more you know about yourself, the better sex will be.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/15 11:28 PM
1

That seems to be the popular assumption, but my experience is the exact opposite. It's guys who have wanted a serious relationship/commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/15 09:18 PM
3

Why did you delete your comment?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/15 11:48 PM
5

Do you feel the same way about husbands who want their wives to do a MFF threesome?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/15 11:31 PM
2

Obviously, you can't change your actual penis size, but getting rid of extra weight around the middle will make it seem much bigger to your partner.
/r/MensRights04/03/15 12:25 AM
5

Interesting. I met my husband a few years after his divorce, which was a result of his ex's multiple affairs. She almost immediately jumped into another marriage, which she clearly felt was an upgrade. Up to that point, they had pretty amicable relationship with regard to their two small kids, and since she had gotten everything she wanted, there was no reason for her to be upset at all. All of that changed the literal instant she met me. The shit hit the fan, and it hasn't stopped....in over 10…
/r/TheRedPill10/01/15 02:24 AM
1

Didn't she have an ongoing affair? Or would you be ok with an open marriage like that?
/r/TheRedPill10/01/15 12:51 AM
1

Unless I've misunderstood, I think he's talking about a situation where the guy has gotten consent, but the woman changes her mind sometime during without saying anything. It's unreasonable to expect him to be a mind reader, and I do think it's up to her to speak up if she doesn't want to continue.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/15 12:55 AM
0

Actually, I was very much the aggressive one when I started dating my husband. We never would have gotten together if I hadn't initiated contact. But now that I am married, and wearing my wedding ring all of the time, I am not interested in chasing, or being chased. For the record, I have always enjoyed attention from men, but there's a big difference between flirting, or giving a sincere compliment, and leering, yelling across a parking lot, or walking behind a woman while talking loudly about …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/14 09:14 PM
22

Because we want less attention from aggressive assholes, not more.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/14 09:33 PM
0

The OP said that a man would be in prison, I'm saying that's bs. Believe it or not, not everything is men vs women or MRA vs feminist.
/r/MensRights24/06/14 05:41 AM
-3

This is horrible, and she definitely deserves to be held accountable for her crimes. That said, there are countless cases of male stalkers who never get in trouble for their crimes. People get away with psycho behavior like this every day.
/r/MensRights21/06/14 11:15 PM
5

Do you have a cite for this claim?
/r/TheRedPill28/05/14 08:44 PM
1

Neither of those say anything about witness protection.
/r/TheRedPill27/05/14 12:30 AM
2

I don't remember learning anything in high school about what kind of money/job it takes to live in the real world. The message I got from my college prep classes was that I'd be ok as long as I got a degree, which was, of course, bullshit. We don't do kids any favor at all by sugar-coating the real world. Imagine how many problems could be avoided if every kid was required to take a class that covered the basics of running a household, how to avoid getting bad credit, and frank discussion about …
/r/TheRedPill02/05/14 07:32 AM
3

I think that approach would be better for everyone. Girls don't enjoy lectures any more than boys do. Anything that gets students to actively participate, rather than just sit there, would be a huge improvement.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/14 06:07 AM
1

FTR, most girls find those books boring as shit as well.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/14 06:01 AM
3

I think a big part of the problem is that a lot of college-bound students would be better served in vocational training or trade schools, rather than a traditional university. They'd save time by skipping the general studies classes that are required for a bachelors degree, and be prepared to join the workforce in just a few years, with a fraction of the debt.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/14 02:38 AM
2

I get the distinct impression that the men on here don't believe that unwanted attention like this could actually be a problem for women, and/or they think we're exaggerating. Maybe it is the type of thing that's hard to believe if you haven't experienced it firsthand. I don't know, but if I had to estimate, I'd say it has happened to me no fewer than three times a week, for the last 20 years It's not the worst thing in the world, and I don't hate all men because of it, but it gets old. It facto…
/r/MensRights28/04/14 12:50 AM
1

I have it happen to me almost every day. Again, I'm not saying it's traumatic, but it does get old.
/r/MensRights28/04/14 12:05 AM
-3

Women do experience this kind of shit. We don't all find it traumatizing, but it does happen.
/r/MensRights27/04/14 05:13 AM
-3

When I'm at the gas station (wearing my wedding ring, not making eye contact) and try to ignore the guy who is shouting "hey' at me, calling me "baby girl," and making comments to his buddy about my ass, I'm not playing hard to get.
/r/MensRights27/04/14 05:10 AM
0

Shit like that happens to me almost every day. This "simulator" names it out to be a lot more sinister then it actually is, but this stuff absolutely happens.
/r/MensRights27/04/14 05:01 AM
2

I'm not at all attracted to beefy guys like that. In fact, it's a turn off. Also, not all fake tits are freakish like that, so I don't think it's an accurate comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/14 04:51 AM
3

Or maybe she isn't inviting him because it's a girl's night. Would you honestly want your girlfriend tagging along when you go out with your guy friends?
/r/TheRedPill14/04/14 09:15 PM
1

Got a link to those statistics?
/r/TheRedPill11/04/14 07:25 AM
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He's a rageaholic.
/r/TheRedPill03/04/14 08:58 PM
1

This is what she said: If and when the staff at the Hospital ask me it's just a simple. "Is anything wrong between you and your husband?" How is that inappropriate? As a medical professional, if you overheard a man calling his pregnant wife fat and lazy, it would be irresponsible not to take her aside and ask if everything is ok.
/r/MensRights01/04/14 02:57 PM
5

That doesn't sound outrageous to me. They overheard your husband saying things that would be hurtful to a lot of women, and asked you if everything was ok. They don't have any way of knowing your dynamic, or what goes on at home. It's their job to ask those questions.
/r/MensRights01/04/14 02:48 PM
-5

You guys act like there aren't a large number of rape victims who are vilified, blamed, and otherwise tormented to the point of suicide. This one was 14 and raped by a teacher This one was 15 and gang raped, then bullied. This one was 15 and also bullied after being raped Yes, false accusations are devastating, but the numbers aren't even in the same universe as real victims who have their whole lives put on trial and who are still doubted, blamed, and humiliated on a regular basis.
/r/MensRights30/03/14 12:03 AM
0

Unless she's 13.
/r/TheRedPill21/03/14 06:23 PM
8

So, it's ok for you guys to acknowledge that porn can have a negative effect on men, but you have a problem when women say something similar? Despite what the guys on here seem to think, women don't share a hive mind. Different people, different opinions and priorities. Some women have issues with pornography, others do not.
/r/TheRedPill17/03/14 11:26 AM
1

Which is why I said, "I think we should teach boys and girls about issues of consent, and also how to be proactive in looking out for yourself and your friends. "Teach boys not to rape" alienates too many people to be truly effective IMO."
/r/MensRights14/03/14 08:23 AM
1

I'm saying that it isn't a black and white issue.
/r/MensRights13/03/14 08:38 PM
1

Do you have a cite on the 50/50 thing?
/r/MensRights13/03/14 12:08 AM
0

Did you happen to see this ask reddit thread asking for rapists to tell their sides of things? The theme that presented itself over and over again was that people are easily confused about consent, especially in the heat of the moment. I think we should teach boys and girls about issues of consent, and also how to be proactive in looking out for yourself and your friends. "Teach boys not to rape" alienates too many people to be truly effective IMO.
/r/MensRights13/03/14 12:06 AM
2

To be fair, the Canadian justice system is quite different than the U.S.'s.
/r/MensRights10/03/14 06:14 PM
1

Not funny, although that chick does a pretty good Sophia Vergara impersonation.
/r/MensRights09/03/14 08:36 PM
4

You better make sure she's into that sort of stuff before you try it. If she isn't, your little dick is going to be the least of your problems.
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/14 09:28 AM
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Im guessing that he loves you just the way you are. As they say, if it ain't broke, don't try to fix it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/14 11:38 AM
2

Give yourself a break. Have you asked him about it? My guess is that he's down because of his job situation, rather than anything to do with your appearance. The first couple of years of being married are the hardest, IMO. It takes time to find your rhythm and learn how to communicate as a married couple. And sex drives fluctuate. There will be ups and downs, but the important thing is to address it as it happens.
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/14 08:46 AM
1

Yeah, I'm skeptical of that too. It reminds me of an acquaintance of mine who is always convinced that people are talking about her and watching her eat ( like anyone cares!).
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/14 08:37 AM
1

I took it to mean she is looking for a one night stand, and that she favors "jerks" because they aren't afraid to go after what they want.
/r/TheRedPill21/02/14 10:27 AM
3

I don't think it counts as cheating if you and your partner have an understanding, as Frank and Claire clearly do. Let's not forget that he carried on with Zoe for quite a while last season. As he said to Adam, their relationship is far too strong to be phased by the occasional fling.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 05:27 AM
3

If any of my friends posted this, they'd hear about it. I know too many amazing dads to go along with such a bs sentiment.
/r/MensRights18/02/14 04:49 AM
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In my single days, it was one of my biggest pet peeves for a guy to ask me out and expect me to decide where to eat, which movie to see, etc. It puts the woman in an uncomfortable position, and makes the man seem indecisive, which is a big turnoff.
/r/TheRedPill18/02/14 04:13 AM
1

Heh, I wouldn't normally do this, but I can't let that go. I'll be 40 in 3 weeks, these pics are between 2 and 3 years old.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 06:53 AM
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If that's how it's coming off, I need to rephrase. It's hard to convey tone online, thus the smiley. I did have a lot of partners in my single days, but it doesn't bother me if someone thinks I'm a slut I've been called worse. :-) Edited to add: But I don't think that having a lot of partners means you necessarily disregard your health. If anything, it made me more vigilant. Also, in 30-something years of being single, I had somewhere between 75 and 100 partners. I didn't count them, so I can't …
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 06:42 AM
1

After reading most of the links on the sidebar, I have to say I agree with quite a bit of it. I've actually been giving guys red pill advice for years (in my job as a stripper).
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 06:27 AM
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"Sluts have a lot sex -> sluts are more likely to get a STD -> Women are too stupid to get checked for STDs -> sluts are more likely to stay disease ridden." Ok, he doesn't hate them, he just thinks they are stupid and disease ridden! :-) It's pretty hypocritical to be angry that women are the "gatekeepers" of sex, but have contempt for the ones who say yes. The theme seems to be that if she doesn't give it up, she's a manipulative bitch, if she does she's a vile slut. She can't win.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 05:24 AM
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The OP himself talks about hating sluts, and his whole post is about how they all have STDs, etc. Surely you can see where an outsider might get the impression that you aren't our (women) biggest fans. And before anyone assumes anything about me, I'm not here to judge you. I'm genuinely interested.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 04:56 AM
1

That's why i asked.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 04:44 AM
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Is there anything you guys don't hate about women? You've got all of these links about how to get laid, but you "hate sluts." But you are also jaded about relationships and having families, believing that women are out to trap you with both, which makes me think you hate that type of woman as well. If I've got it wrong, please let me know.
/r/TheRedPill10/02/14 04:15 AM
1

I grew up with both sets of my grandparents being more or less happily married for 50+ years, parents have been married for 43 years (and currently enjoying a luxurious retirement on Marco Island Florida), multiple aunts, uncles, and cousins with solid marriages, etc. And my husbands family is the same way. I always knew that a lot of people were miserable in their marriages, but the relationships that I had modeled for me were almost all solid. It would have taken a lot more than run of the mil…
/r/MensRights10/02/14 12:16 AM
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When you are the one making the claim, it's on you to provide sources. But feel free to look at my last several comments where I posted many links for this topic.
/r/MensRights09/02/14 10:54 AM
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My behavior? Lol, you mean posting links to back up my points? Apparently that's an outrageous thing to do around here. My "ax to grind" is I'm sick of people stating opinion as fact and not being called on it. Why on earth would anyone take the word of some stranger on the internet just because they claim to be an expert?
/r/MensRights09/02/14 10:51 AM
1

I think the answer to that is the same for everyone...take the time and effort to really get to know the person, and make sure you share the same beliefs and values with regard to raising a family. If you feel it's necessary, work together to come up with a detailed prenuptual agreement that you both feel is fair. There's never going to be any guarantee when it comes to relationships, but we will keep trying because it's human nature. And frankly, the idea of life without love and family is too …
/r/MensRights09/02/14 10:37 AM
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Every statistic and "fact" that isn't backed up.
/r/MensRights09/02/14 03:10 AM
42

Skepticism is absolutely warranted when someone makes statements like this with no attempt whatsoever to back them up. The internet is way too full of trolls to believe something just because the person claims to be a doctor,
/r/MensRights09/02/14 12:01 AM
3

That's actually not too far off. Scroll down to the part about health discrepancies.
/r/MensRights08/02/14 11:53 PM
1

Wow. That's disgusting.
/r/MensRights12/01/14 07:09 AM
3

A lot of gay men think nothing of groping women either, so I don't know what that's about. As for women, I've worked in strip clubs for many years, and they are the absolute worst. I've had more women try to grope me and make rude remarks than I can count. It's bizarre. And when I worked at a club that had male dancers, those women customers were crazy the way they grab all over those guys. If any male customer did the crap these women do, they'd be thrown out in a heartbeat.
/r/MensRights06/01/14 02:28 AM
4

I've worked in strip clubs for close to 20 years, and, in my experience, the vast majority of men like an hourglass figure (I've been between 125-135). That's not to say they don't also like petite women, but curves definitely rule in that universe. Honestly though, if a guy really hits it off with a woman, he'll probably be pretty flexible as far as "type" goes. Of course, that's true for just about everyone, I think.
/r/RedPillWomen01/01/14 04:34 AM
6

That's fucking awful.
/r/MensRights01/01/14 04:06 AM
8

My husband has been getting the short end of the stick, with regard to custody, since his daughters were little kids (they're 15 and 16 now). Their mother is a narcissist who has been abusing them, verbally and emotionally, their whole lives. They technically have a joint custody arrangement, but she screws with his time with the girls, and won't let them stay with us on school breaks. In order to fight for the time that is rightfully his, it would take thousands of dollars in legal fees. And it…
/r/MensRights29/12/13 01:02 AM
1

Oh, I don't agree with treating people like shit, im just saying I can see how someone might get that way.
/r/MensRights27/12/13 02:11 AM
2

In their defense, it would be hard to do a thankless job like that without becoming bitter and jaded.
/r/MensRights27/12/13 12:00 AM
5

It could be in part because children with homosexual parents grow up in an environment where it's considered normal and natural, rather than something to be ashamed of. If the studies done by Alfred Kinsey are to be believed, the vast majority of people have thoughts about homosexual experiences at some point in their lives. He found that few people are 100% straight or 100% gay, that most are somewhere in between.
/r/MensRights04/12/13 04:02 AM
2

When I saw that Jezebel article, my first thought was, "So what if they do?" Talk about much ado about nothing.
/r/MensRights31/10/13 04:22 AM
2

Not to mention, there's a significant imbalance in power when a teacher has sex with a student.
/r/MensRights24/08/13 01:32 AM
9

My husband and I have wanted to fight for custody of his 16 year old daughter for a long time. He's terrified to do anything without first going to court, but it's very expensive to get a lawyer. Meanwhile, she's being mentally abused by her alcoholic, unspeakably cruel mother (and her mom's boyfriend and random friends who come around). The worry has us both awake at night. I can absolutely see why some men are hesitant to have children. Fairness and what's really best don't seem to factor in t…
/r/MensRights01/07/13 02:11 AM
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Yeah, men are definitely not the only ones who can be sexist.
/r/MensRights24/06/13 11:17 PM
9

A biological female who identifies as male is a transgender man, not a transgender woman.
/r/MensRights24/06/13 11:04 PM
1

What I've read about Rosie the Riveter, and the women who went to work at that time has been mostly positive. I'm not seeing the negative things you're referring to. http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosie_the_Riveter http://www.nps.gov/pwro/collection/website/rosie.htm
/r/MensRights17/06/13 04:01 AM
7

You guys act like women have so much to gain from keeping men away from their kids, because we just love to watch our babies get their hearts broken over and over again.
/r/MensRights17/06/13 03:17 AM
4

Of course men are capable of taking care of children and running a household. I don't know any women who think otherwise. The fact that it's becoming more and more common for men to take a larger role in this area has been a big relief to a lot of women. It wasn't very long ago that we were expected to get married, pop out 2.5 kids, and stay home raising them...whether we wanted to be mothers or not. It's just what people did. And a man's worth was directly tied to his ability as a provider, whi…
/r/MensRights17/06/13 02:02 AM
8

Most models don't actually do whatever it is they're advertising, which isn'ta problem, in and of itself.
/r/MensRights17/06/13 12:11 AM
1

Being a feminist means different things to different people. You guys might not accept that, but it is the truth.
/r/MensRights16/06/13 01:45 AM
1

I'm sorry I made that assumption. This topic hits close to home, and I'm having a hard time with it this year.
/r/MensRights15/06/13 11:46 PM
2

It's amazing to me that you assume that's true. There's no love lost between my daughter's dad and me, but I have never kept her from him. Quite the opposite, actually. I let him be in and out of her life for years, even though it broke her heart every time. This time it's been five years since he's seen her. I have no doubt that he tells people it's because of me, but we live in the same place, and have the same phone number we've always had. There's nothing, and no one, stopping him, but him. …
/r/MensRights15/06/13 10:14 PM
1

Posters in here do blame all feminists for the acts of a few. Every day. And they downvote anyone who disagrees, no matter how civil they are.
/r/MensRights15/06/13 10:05 PM
3

You're kidding, right? I see negative things about women and men all of the time on FB. I'm not one to put private stuff on FB, so I won't say anything tomorrow. I'll just let it be the knife to the heart it is, and hope the day goes by fast.
/r/MensRights15/06/13 10:00 PM
2

The funny thing is how they assume that every woman who does something bad is a feminist, while simultaneously bitching about how much they hate it when people make generalizations about men.
/r/MensRights14/06/13 09:15 PM
1

What country is that?
/r/MensRights14/06/13 05:16 AM
0

That's the basis of this sub. It's not about tackling men's issues, it's about how much they hate feminists. And they downvote the shit out of anyone who disagrees or attempts to defend themselves (as they're doing to your civil, coherent posts).
/r/MensRights14/06/13 05:13 AM
1

Yeah, I have never heard of feminists making excuses for women who hurt children.
/r/MensRights14/06/13 05:08 AM
6

Yeah, I have no idea why this particular faction has glommed onto atheism.
/r/MensRights13/06/13 02:09 AM
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Atheism plus is a joke, and it's not well regarded by other atheist groups. I got banned for asking a question, and trying to have a discussion, rather than blindly agreeing with something that had been posted. I'll never understand why people create subreddits and then discourage discussions and ban people the second they disagree. It's kind of ironic, considering that atheism and skepticism go hand in hand.
/r/MensRights12/06/13 10:38 PM
0

I think you're right about that. I know that a birth control pill or patch for men has been in the works for some time, and I think that would be an excellent way for men to have more control over who they impregnate. And just so you know, I think it would be great for both men and women to change the status quo. I've got a lot of girlfriends, and all but a few are almost exclusively interested in a self possessed man who isn't a doormat or a yes man. And while they like a man who does well for …
/r/MensRights12/06/13 04:05 AM
0

I'm very much against circumcision. Luckily, the US is starting to follow suit with the rest of the developed world, and circ numbers are declining. The issue of men not having options once a woman is pregnant is something that is never going to have a solution that men are happy with. The only feasible solution to give men a choice is giving them a way to opt out financially. I imagine that we will see something to that effect in the future.
/r/MensRights12/06/13 02:33 AM
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It's pretty convoluted. Some people think verbosity equals good writing, but when readers can't figure out the point you're trying to make, the piece has failed. He needs a good editor.
/r/MensRights12/06/13 02:15 AM
2

I thought both of those blog posts were hard to get through. He needs a good editor to turn all of those passive verbs around and cut it down by about half.
/r/MensRights12/06/13 02:07 AM
0

Colonialism is responsible for a great number of the problems in African countries.
/r/MensRights12/06/13 01:54 AM
0

You guys get (rightfully) angry when people group all men in with rapists or abusers, because it's ridiculous to blame an entire gender for the crimes of a few . I'm very much a feminist, but it's unfair to expect me to speak out against all of the things that radicals are trying to accomplish. I'm much more inclined to look for other people who share my values. It's been said again and again, but there are many different types of women who identify as feminist. We don't all agree. I get into de…
/r/MensRights12/06/13 01:51 AM
-1

I get that there are legitimate problems with feminism, but how do you figure that women's reproductive rights "far exceed those of men?" It's hard for me to understand how anyone could have a problem with people having choices about their own bodies. That's not just a feminist issue, it's a matter of human rights.
/r/MensRights12/06/13 01:24 AM
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Most modern feminists consider Dworkin to be radical. I would not say she's highly regarded.
/r/MensRights29/05/13 07:26 AM
1

It's really more about what's best for the child. If there's no father or family to take the child, it makes sense to let the mother keep it in one of these facilities. Foster care should be the very last resort.
/r/MensRights29/05/13 04:26 AM
2

Most of these women will be raising the children when they get out. It's not as if you forfeit your rights as a parent because you've committed a crime.
/r/MensRights29/05/13 04:16 AM
1

If a woman gives birth while serving a short sentence, it seems unbearably cruel to rip the baby out of her arms and give him or her to a stranger to raise until she gets out. Those early weeks and months are crucial bonding time, for both mother and baby. I can see how it might not be appropriate in every case, but when possible, I think it benefits everyone to keep mothers and babies together. And that's especially true when there is no father or family member who can care for the child. Just …
/r/MensRights29/05/13 04:11 AM
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It's amazing that anyone would believe that this is something most feminists agree with. I'm fine with taking a critical look at feminism, but the stuff in this subreddit borders on absurd.
/r/MensRights29/05/13 02:37 AM
1

The first thought I had after outrage was that this girl is a high suicide risk. I hope she finds a way to have a good life after all of this.
/r/MensRights21/05/13 09:22 PM
1

I get what you are saying. I don't know if the woman has actual mental illness.
/r/MensRights10/05/13 09:01 PM
2

People let it go? You have to be kidding. This story has been all over the place since it happened, and people want to see her fry. You are probably correct in assuming that entitlement played a big part here, but that's true for a good number of men's crimes too. After all, you don't hold people captive as personal sex slaves unless you feel entitled to something that you haven't been getting.
/r/MensRights10/05/13 07:39 PM
11

The bloodlust with these cases is unsettling. People get strangely invested. It's sick.
/r/MensRights09/05/13 09:20 PM
11

No amount of hotness can compete with the level of crazy that woman has coursing through her veins.
/r/MensRights09/05/13 09:17 PM
3

It's not a contest.
/r/MensRights30/04/13 03:24 AM
3

I don't know, but there are hundreds of these kinds of places. This is just one example. This site has many survivor stories from both men and women....... http://www.fornits.com/phpbb/
/r/MensRights29/04/13 11:17 PM
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Oh, I just posted those as general info. Here's an example of girls being abused in one of these places... http://healthland.time.com/2011/07/12/former-students-of-a-school-for-troubled-teens-sue-for-emotional-sexual-abuse/. You might also look at r/troubledteens for ongoing updates.
/r/MensRights29/04/13 10:59 PM
13

Ugh, I'm sorry you had to go through that. Learning about these "troubled teen" programs is like peeling an onion....just layer after layer of horrors. Most people have no idea what these places are really like.
/r/MensRights29/04/13 09:59 PM
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Girls get sent to awful "troubled teen" programs all of the time, maybe not quite as often as boys, but it's a problem that affects both sexes. Maia Szalavitz has done a lot of excellent writing on the topic........ http://helpatanycost.com/ and several articles for Mother Jones..... http://www.motherjones.com/politics/2009/05/americas-tough-love-habit
/r/MensRights29/04/13 09:54 PM
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There are reasons why certain things appeal to young people and not to adults who have actually worked and lived in the real world. Obviously, there are some adults who like Rand's philosophy, but I think they are short sighted and out of touch as well. :-) As for meritocracy, I don't see how you could say we have too little of it when it's the basis of the American Dream, a beautiful idea that sadly doesn't fit with reality most of the time. If it did, the working poor wouldn't be the fastest g…
/r/MensRights25/04/13 04:12 AM
1

Have you ever actually read Ayn Rand's work? I'm guessing no, because if you had you'd know there's a lot more to it than simply "not giving stuff to people." I was a big fan of Rand when I was a teenager, but as soon as I got some life experience I realized how short sighted, cold, and unrealistic her worldview really is. Rand's philosophy hinges on meritocracy, the concept that the most gifted people rise to the top and contribute the most to society, and the ones at the bottom contribute noth…
/r/MensRights24/04/13 11:46 PM
2

He wasn't advocating pedophilia as a lifestyle.
/r/MensRights22/04/13 12:08 AM
1

Rand was a sociopath, not someone I want to take my life lessons from.
/r/MensRights21/04/13 10:02 PM
1

That's interesting. I've known a lot of passive aggressive men, and a lot of aggressive women (including myself), so I don't know about that. The older I get, the more I think gender stereotypes are pretty useless. As for bland, I don't really think talk shows, reality tv, and all of this public drama do anything to make the world exciting and interesting. Of course, they have a huge audience, so I'm probably in the minority. However, it's very different to be entertained by someone else's bad b…
/r/MensRights05/04/13 07:09 AM
3

I'd judge anyone who did something like that. There are cheaters and victims of both genders, so let's not pretend like men are the only ones who get hurt by stuff like that. I also judge people who air their dirty laundry on talk shows and reality tv. You put it out there for the world to see, you better be prepared for people to have an opinion on it.
/r/MensRights02/04/13 08:51 PM
4

Putting your dirty laundry out there for the world to see has nothing to do with balls. Do you think the people who drag their spouses to the Jerry Springer show are also showing balls? Because it's the exact same thing, IMO.
/r/MensRights02/04/13 07:40 PM
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The second one does say the responses weren't all good. I don't see a big difference. On another note, what kind of person puts a sign on their house like that? That's some shameless shit.
/r/MensRights02/04/13 01:29 AM
1

For what? That first relationship was over 17 years ago.
/r/MensRights31/03/13 05:15 PM
4

Hey, I try, but people don't want to listen when their minds are already made up. I'm convinced that a lot of feminists don't actually know very many men.
/r/MensRights28/03/13 11:32 PM
0

Actually, I think the OP's girlfriend treated him that way because he was a doormat and she knew she could get away with it. I'm ashamed to admit that I behaved similarly in one of my first relationships. He had no backbone, and it brought out the worst in me. The more he kowtowed to me, the worse I treated him. His ass kissing made me sick. I couldn't respect a man who didn't know how to stand up to me. Obviously, I handled it poorly, but I did learn from the experience. I have a dominant perso…
/r/MensRights28/03/13 11:28 PM
1

You made the claim. It's on you to back it up.
/r/MensRights18/03/13 10:58 PM
1

I completely agree.
/r/MensRights18/03/13 10:53 PM
2

Got a cite for that claim? It's not that I don't believe it's an issue, I just haven't heard about it being that prevalent.
/r/MensRights18/03/13 01:01 AM
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That's what you took from that thread? That women aren't clear with their signals? And you guys wonder why MRAs get such a bad rep.
/r/MensRights18/03/13 12:49 AM
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I don't know. This thread about rape makes it clear that issues of consent are not black and white, and that "normal" guys rape too. http://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/x6yef/reddits_had_a_few_threads_about_sexual_assault/ I'm not saying that women don't also rape, or that men are the only ones who need to be taught about issues of consent, but I don't think it's outrageous to say that we need to teach people not to rape. It makes more sense than acting like it's on the victim to prevent …
/r/MensRights18/03/13 12:35 AM
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It's a tragedy that you've had to fight like hell and go through financial ruin to get what you should have had all along. There will come a day when your son will be old enough to comprehend all of the damage his mother has caused with her selfish machinations. And when he asks her why, there will be no answer she can give that he won't question. I hope this all works out so you can be with him soon.
/r/MensRights08/03/13 03:54 AM
1

You say that like there aren't shitty writers everywhere.
/r/MensRights04/03/13 02:37 AM
2

Female victims often feel ashamed too. It's an unfortunately common thing with this sort of abuse.
/r/MensRights04/03/13 02:28 AM
3

I got into an exasperating argument with someone who couldn't (or wouldn't) seem to grasp that it's hypocritical for a pro choice person to argue that men should not have a choice because they need to "take responsibility" for their mistake.
/r/MensRights04/03/13 02:13 AM
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I will say this about r/mensrights, it's made me start to question everything I thought I knew about feminism. I've identified as feminist for as long as I can remember, and I probably always will to some degree, but my view on some of it is changing. I'm going to have to do more reading on this.
/r/MensRights20/02/13 09:49 PM
13

That's just not true. I can't imagine anyone saying that this doesn't count as rape. Lately, this subreddit seems much more like a "we hate all feminists" club than anything having to do with advocacy of men's rights. This article has nothing to do with feminism, but here you go with it. It's hard to take you seriously when it's all you ever talk about.
/r/MensRights20/02/13 09:32 AM
3

I've identified as a feminist for more than 20 years, and while I have heard a few wacky opinions, the majority of feminists I come into contact with are moderates who harbor no ill will towards men.
/r/MensRights18/02/13 08:55 AM
13

I'm being sincere when I ask, why is it a bad thing for President Obama to say he wishes he'd have had a father around?
/r/MensRights18/02/13 08:54 AM
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I think it's good advice to tell a guy to start or join groups that align with his beliefs. MRA has plenty of support from women (even some feminists), it's just unfortunate that you guys think we're all out to get you.
/r/MensRights18/02/13 08:40 AM
1

I wish I could believe that there aren't really deadbeat dads in this world. Unfortunately, my daughter's dad hasn't seen her in about four years, and is over $10K in arrears. I realize that anecdotal evidence is not data, but I can't dismiss the facts of my own life.
/r/MensRights17/02/13 09:44 PM
1

Without a system in place, a lot of people would never receive a dime in child support, and yes, that's a feminist concern. However, the incompetence of most bureaucracies isn't of our design. :-)
/r/MensRights17/02/13 05:09 AM
2

What it sounds like to me is that the children's father was inconsistent with his support payments, and when he finally did pay, the mother assumed that the money was for arrears. People who don't get regular payments will take what they can get.
/r/MensRights17/02/13 01:59 AM
1

I'm interested in what you are saying, but I don't have time to watch lengthy You Tube videos. If you have some text-based links, I will check them out. I'm 38, and have identified as feminist for most of that time, and have literally never spoken to another feminist who has said anything about penetration denigrating women. I believe you when you say you have, but it seems rash to assume that the majority are in alignment with the radicals based on s couple of conversations.
/r/MensRights13/02/13 09:07 PM
1

Do you really think most feminists believe that penetration denigrates women? I've heard it said by extremists, but I don't think I've ever met anyone who thinks that way. Of course, I've always ran with sex positive strippers and whores, so maybe that's why. :-)
/r/MensRights13/02/13 05:21 AM
3

I was referring to your original comment about men being able to express themselves and choose what sex they participate in. If something that benign gets you flamed, I'll be kind of surprised. Of course, I've had it happen when giving my POV about sex work, someone basically said I'm a victim even if I can't see it myself, and that I betray the sisterhood by choosing to do the job. It's funny, because it doesn't seem to matter whether I'm here or on one of the feminist subreddits, it's almost g…
/r/MensRights13/02/13 05:14 AM
2

How about 2x? I didn't realize it was Fat Tues, that means it's time for King Cakes!
/r/MensRights13/02/13 03:01 AM
4

That's funny. If you look at my post history, you'll see that my opinions do not align with SRS. You guys need to get over this attitude that anyone who disagrees with something here is a troll or a member of SRS. I subscribe to r/mensrights because I believe in some of the same things you guys fight for. I think there's an unfair bias against men when it comes to child custody and domestic issues, and that society sends young men confusing messages about what it means to be a man, among other t…
/r/MensRights13/02/13 02:55 AM
2

Luckily, she doesn't speak for all of us.
/r/MensRights12/02/13 10:13 PM
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And I've met plenty of men who seem to genuinely hate women.
/r/MensRights12/02/13 10:10 PM
3

Go post it on a couple of the feminist subreddits and see if it gets flamed.
/r/MensRights12/02/13 10:08 PM
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A woman who calls other women "hysterical," how nice. Fyi, none of what she said is true for me. I'm heterosexual, and I like men just fine. It's frustrating to see something like this with so many upvotes. If you guys honestly believe this woman is describing the majority of feminists, I don't know what to say.
/r/MensRights12/02/13 10:05 PM
2

That's interesting. Thanks for the link.
/r/MensRights12/02/13 03:28 AM
1

Haha, yeah, I don't know where that expression came from.
/r/MensRights11/02/13 11:43 PM
2

Do you have a cite for that claim? I've always read that women (in the US, at least) tend to do the majority of the house work and child-rearing, regardless of whether they also work outside the home.
/r/MensRights11/02/13 11:42 PM
4

Actually, I think most feminists (and women in general) would be happy to have things be 50/50. I don't know many people, female or male, who expect to lounge while their partner does all of the work.
/r/MensRights11/02/13 05:09 AM
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Be careful with generalizations like that. I've always done the lion's share of our household/yard chores, and I know quite a few other women who do as well. However, I don't assume that's the case in every relationship.
/r/MensRights11/02/13 05:04 AM
1

The Reader wasn't controversial? You need to check that again. Any movie or play that deals with this sort of thing is going to get some people angry. The Vagina Monologues has had "much controversy" as well.
/r/MensRights08/02/13 09:10 PM
1

Absolutely. I like all kinds of art, not just disturbing stuff. A few examples..... Pollack, Kandinsky, Warhol, erotic photography, burlesque, striptease, Russ Myer, John Waters, cult classics, Bukowski, Thompson, and most of the Western canon. And everything from the Velvet Underground to Leonard Cohen to the Rolling Stones to Motorhead and so many others. I try to be well-rounded. :-)
/r/MensRights08/02/13 05:41 AM
2

We could debate all day about the purpose of art, and neither of us would be wrong. I enjoy beautiful works of art, but they rarely challenge me the way other types of art do.That's not to say I find value in every shocking piece, but I'm not offended by them. It takes a lot more than a vulgar piece of art to offend me. If something isn't my taste, it's easy enough to move past it. If I find I can't move past it, or get it out of my head, I'll reconsider. I'm ok with feeling upset or uncomfortab…
/r/MensRights08/02/13 02:56 AM
2

I'm referring to the movie version from 1997, not the novel. I should have specified.
/r/MensRights08/02/13 02:10 AM
0

When an adult has sexual contact with a minor, that's tantamount to rape in most people's minds. But forget Hedwig, I've got two other examples......Pretty Baby and Lolita. Pretty Baby had a few people upset, but got mostly good reviews. Lolita wasn't controversial, and got mixed reviews. Both depict adult men having sexual relationships with adolescent girls.
/r/MensRights07/02/13 02:12 PM
0

Yes. I've seen and read far worse things without feeling a need to condemn them. I'm not a hypocrite.
/r/MensRights07/02/13 01:47 PM
2

The question of whether violent entertainment causes violence has been answered a few times over the years. It doesn't.
/r/MensRights07/02/13 01:43 PM
2

You were saying that people would be up in arms if a man depicted the same type of thing, which is not necessarily true. There are enough examples to prove that this particular double standard doesn't exist. The merit (or lack thereof) of the works is a whole different debate.
/r/MensRights07/02/13 07:21 AM
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So you think he makes these types of movies to inspire people to commit murder? That makes about as much sense as blaming Marilyn Manson for Colombine. Unless I'm misunderstanding your point.
/r/MensRights07/02/13 07:16 AM
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It's been years since I've seen the Vagina Monologues, but I can tell you that I wouldn't condemn it just because it made me mad or uncomfortable. That's the whole point of art, to challenge us and stir something within, and to make us have discussions like this.
/r/MensRights07/02/13 05:44 AM
5

If that's true, do you think Quentin Tarantino legitimizes ultra violence because he depicts it on screen?
/r/MensRights07/02/13 05:29 AM
7

There's a musical/movie called Hedwig and the Angry Inch in which the protagonist gets seduced by a significantly older man, gets a (botched) sex change so he can accompany the man to the US, and goes on to become a rock goddess. At one point, Hedwig tells a story about being a nanny and jerking off the family's teenage son. They go on to have more sexual contact. I don't think John Cameron Mitchell was endorsing these acts just because he depicted them in his show. There's a lot more to it, but…
/r/MensRights07/02/13 05:27 AM
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I don't know. I see women referred to as "it" and "that" and other words typically used for inanimate objects, so it wouldn't surprise me. At least cunt would denote some humanity.
/r/MensRights01/02/13 05:59 PM
1

I agree. Unfortunately, it's a lot more complicated when that happens. I don't know what the solution to that would be.
/r/MensRights31/01/13 01:22 PM
4

Getting an abortion when you know you can't raise a kid IS taking responsibility for yourself. Birth control fails sometimes, but it shouldn't have to be the ruin of a person's life.
/r/MensRights31/01/13 07:47 AM
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There definitely aren't as many as there were in the days before paternity testing.
/r/MensRights31/01/13 07:43 AM
3

Big difference between being cuckolded and knowingly choosing to raise a kid who has a different father.
/r/MensRights31/01/13 07:41 AM
2

This may sound cynical, but you'll have to adopt the kid if you want to have a relationship with him if you end up getting a divorce. Of course, you should think long and hard before making big commitments like these.
/r/MensRights31/01/13 07:38 AM
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Or a guy who falls for a woman who already has a kid, and chooses to take on the responsibility. I can understand why some wouldn't, but there's nothing wrong with those who do.
/r/MensRights31/01/13 07:33 AM
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Recently, I've been sort of amazed by the number of comments from women who seem to live in fear of being raped, assaulted, or otherwise degraded by random men. There's a thread in AskWomen about whether or not it's easy for women to get laid, and even though I'm familiar with the extreme bitterness of Reddit, the responses still kind of floored me. It seems they've only ever had bad experiences with hooking up, and are filled with anxiety at the thought of rape, pregnancy, std's, and bad sex. I…
/r/MensRights31/01/13 07:10 AM
3

Point taken. You are right in this case.
/r/MensRights25/01/13 12:17 AM
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It's been quite a while since I've posted much in this subreddit. I'd have to go back and look through my posts to find a good example. The discourse in 2X or some of the other feminist subreddits is also mostly civil. Unfortunately, the bad apples always spoil the bunch, which is one reason I hate generalizations about either group. There are always going to be examples of rabid feminists who hate men, and there will always be some MRA's who actually do hate women and blame us for every problem…
/r/MensRights22/01/13 02:41 AM
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Yeah, SRS is awful. I consider myself a feminist, but SRS is just ridiculous.
/r/MensRights22/01/13 12:08 AM
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So you think this is true for feminists, but not for MRA's? Give me a break. Pretty much every time I've disagreed with something in this subreddit it's been met with hostility and downvotes, regardless of how civil it is. I actually agree that a lot of feminists don't argue fairly, but it's true for a lot of MRA's as well. Feminists don't have a monopoly on emotional, defensive debate tactics.
/r/MensRights21/01/13 11:36 PM
1

Thanks! (I'm not a bro though, lol)
/r/MensRights18/01/13 09:23 PM
1

Every time I read stories like this I think of Wendy Maldonado and her son sitting in prison for killing her abusive (documented time and time again for 20 years) husband. [http://tv.nytimes.com/2009/12/14/arts/television/14life.html?_r=0](Link for those who aren't familiar with the case.....)
/r/MensRights18/01/13 08:36 PM
5

Ever heard of the Kinsey scale? Very few people are 100 percent gay or straight. Most of us fall somewhere in the middle of the two.
/r/MensRights14/01/13 01:20 AM
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There have been countless incidents of female rape victims being shamed and shunned and all but ignored by people who had the responsibility to help them, so let's not make this into a gender issue. This would be an outrage whether the victim was male or female.
/r/MensRights14/01/13 01:14 AM
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The bottom line is that there are a multitude of reasons why a lot of fathers are not in their childrens' lives. It's not a black and white issue, which is why it's ridiculous to lay the entire blame on ONE gender. There's no further context necessary to concede this point. As for the topic of this thread, I can't take a stance on the issue just yet because I'm still thinking and developing my opinion on it.
/r/MensRights08/01/13 08:07 AM
1

I'm not denying that it happens. I'm saying there are also a lot of men who abandon their children. It's foolish to put all of the blame on women.
/r/MensRights07/01/13 11:46 PM
1

I had someone argue with me just last week when I said that it's unfair to put the blame on women for absent fathers. He went on and on, telling me I was wrong, that deadbeat dads are a myth and that women are in a big plot to keep guys from seeing their kids. We weren't talking about child support or courts, but situations like mine and the one CanadianAsian described. Here's a direct quote from that exchange, "Well mothers have the power to largely determine who get's custody of the kids in di…
/r/MensRights07/01/13 08:55 PM
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That sucks. My daughter's dad is also a deadbeat, hasn't seen her in four years or so. He was all about bringing her into the world, but ran for the hills when we found out she had autism and developmental issues. And, just like yours, he went on to have another child that he actually raises. Men's Rights likes to say that deadbeat dads are a myth, that women are to blame for fathers not seeing their kids, but I know differently.
/r/MensRights07/01/13 04:48 AM
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Deadbeat dads are plenty common. You need to get off this idea that women are to blame for all of men's problems. Your comments here are just illustrating my point.
/r/MensRights01/01/13 12:11 AM
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Or it's because the guy walked away. There are tons of examples of both, and it's unfair to put the entire blame on women.
/r/MensRights31/12/12 10:44 PM
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There was a thread about kids wanting a dad for Xmas where it was suggested (multiple Times) that women are the ones to blame for men not being involved in their childrens' lives. Not feminists, but women in general, and the comments disputing this "fact" were pretty much downvoted. I try to be reasonable with my comments in this forum, but they almost always get downvoted anyway.
/r/MensRights31/12/12 09:08 PM
3

This right here is why people have a hard time taking MRA seriously. I'm actually with you guys on a lot of issues, and I defend the movement when people reduce it to a whiny, women- hating group, but this type of comment (and things like the OP's example) makes you into a caricature. And it's difficult to want to defend a group that paints all feminists with the same brush.
/r/MensRights31/12/12 08:47 PM
1

I bet she was raped as a child. That would explain where she got so twisted. This whole thing is tragedy upon tragedy. I'm sorry you had to go through it.
/r/MensRights28/12/12 09:49 PM
3

How many times do you agree to let dad pick the kid up, only to have him no show or cancel at the last minute? At what point do you say " I'm not going to allow you to break this child's heart again." There's no good answer to that question, and no winners. I can't imagine any but the most heartless parent who would put a kid through that if they didn't have to. And you're right, it isn't one-sided. That's why it's ridiculous to blame women for dads not being in their children's lives. The invol…
/r/MensRights25/12/12 08:38 PM
0

You guys make it sound like it's our fault that these sperm donors aren't in their kids' lives, when in reality, the single and re-married moms I know would love nothing more than to see our children's fathers do right by their kids. What would you say to a child who thinks her dad doesn't come around because of something she did? My husband is an amazing stepfather, but she still asks me about her daddy. It's been almost four years since he's seen her or even called to see how she's doing. I'm …
/r/MensRights25/12/12 06:20 AM
2

Those stories are horrifying. The glorification of vigilante justice in this country sickens me. We see it in every news article about violent crime, people talking about what the accused person "deserves" even though they have very few details and no way of knowing if the person is actually guilty. Nasty stuff.
/r/MensRights14/12/12 04:11 AM
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Honey, you are the "bitch" in this situation. What makes you think you are entitled to a woman's time and energy for free? This wasn't a singles bar, it was a strip club. By walking through the door it is implied that women will try to entertain you and they will expect you to pay them for that privilege. The fact that you only brought $9 makes you a jackass. You're lucky you didn't get your ass kicked by the girl whose services you stole.
/r/MensRights14/12/12 02:31 AM
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You erased your post, but from the comments it looks like you took $10 to a strip club. That makes YOU the asshole, not the strippers or the club. Respect goes both ways. Come into my club and I will show you the best time you've ever had, but bring $10 and you'll get laughed out of the place. You aren't entitled to my (or any other stripper's) time and nudity.
/r/MensRights14/12/12 02:24 AM
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I've worked in strip clubs my entire adult life and it is very common to allow touching (the amount varies from club-to-club) in private dances and VIP rooms. And there aren't usually bouncers or anyone watching to throw guys out for it. That may have been the case 20 years ago, but I couldn't tell you the last time I've seen anyone get thrown out for something like that.
/r/MensRights14/12/12 02:17 AM
2

You guys constantly shit talk feminists, so it's not exactly paranoia for us to feel like MRA's are anti-feminist.
/r/MensRights01/12/12 12:45 AM
1

I can't tell you how many times I, as a sex worker, have been told that I'm undermining what my feminist sisters have worked for by being a part of the "problem." It's aggravating and incredibly hypocritical for people who supposedly fight for autonomy and freedom of personal choice to sit there and tell me I'm hurting feminism by doing the job I do. And naturally, most of the women who spew this bullshit have absolutely no firsthand experience with what they are talking about, nor do they give …
/r/MensRights26/11/12 02:15 AM
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And no, I'm not suggesting Bieber is a pussy for recoiling, just that he probably has a lot less experience with this sort of thing than someone like Halle Berry. Unwanted advances are par for the course for a lot of women.
/r/MensRights20/11/12 08:12 AM
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I don't think she was any more into the kiss than Bieber was into the ass grab, just better at playing it off as no biggie. If she had made a face or recoiled in horror, people would have accused her of being humorless or overly sensitive. And I don't think it was setup, because they couldn't have known ahead of time that Brody would win that award. I'm not saying it's a perfect comparison, but it was the first thing I thought of when trying to come up with an example of a guy doing something un…
/r/MensRights20/11/12 07:44 AM
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We clearly have different interpretations about what happened here, because I think Halle was quite startled by Adrien Brody shoving his tongue down her throat. It's not like she was going to recoil in horror in front of such a large audience, but she sure looked taken by surprise to me. And despite looking 12, Justin Bieber is legally an adult.
/r/MensRights20/11/12 01:07 AM
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I think it's pretty comparable.
/r/MensRights19/11/12 11:43 PM
-2

People were pretty cutesy and dismissive when Adrien Brody layed an unwelcome kiss on Halle Berry at the Oscars several years ago.........
/r/MensRights19/11/12 10:05 PM
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And people think I'm joking when I suggest that men should have the women sign a waiver before having a one night stand or drunk sex. It's kind of ridiculous, but the way the law is I think it makes a lot of sense.
/r/MensRights18/11/12 03:05 AM
2

Your son is lucky to have two sensible parents that care deeply for him and are committed to co-parenting in the most fair way possible. Actually, all three of you are lucky. It doesn't seem like there are many exes who can come to such an agreeable and reasonable system of raising the child.
/r/MensRights11/11/12 06:51 AM
1

I've always heard that Baltimore has so much serious crime that they can't even take care of all of the violent shit that goes on. Anyway, it's pretty wild that your wife would do all of this over absolutely nothing at all. Are you sure there wasn't some sort of catalyst for all of this?
/r/MensRights08/11/12 08:37 AM
2

This is interesting to me because I've known several women over the years who were legitimately, severely stalked by ex-boyfriends and had a difficult if not impossible time getting police to help them. One in particular had mountains of threatening emails and letters and proof that her home and car were vandalized, and proof that he violated the restraining order and could barely get help. After years of this, she was able to take him to court over it, but it was not easy at all. It just seems …
/r/MensRights08/11/12 12:36 AM
3

Ha! As a recovering addict, I think that way too.
/r/MensRights06/11/12 09:48 PM
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That's great. I also like when places offer a "Family Bathroom" so that anyone can go in with their kid.
/r/MensRights06/11/12 03:28 PM
2

Don't feed the troll!
/r/MensRights27/10/12 07:02 PM
2

Ad hominem attacks are the last refuge of people who know they don't have a real argument.
/r/MensRights27/10/12 07:01 PM
2

I'll be honest, I only read the points, not the entire article. I didn't think it was particularly good, but her list seems like common sense stuff to teach boys and girls. It's unfortunate that some women don't respect men's instincts as fathers. However, not all feminists feel that way. My husband has more parental intuition in his pinky than I do in my whole body. Frankly, I don't think I could be attracted to a man who could be pushed around and made to take a backseat with regard to parenti…
/r/MensRights27/10/12 04:06 AM
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I couldn't agree more. It's not a gender issue, but an issue of teaching children to be decent human beings and to respect other people regardless of gender.
/r/MensRights27/10/12 01:18 AM
1

There are plenty of domestic chores that aren't common sense. I have daughters, but I'd teach a son the same things I teach my girls. Everyone should know how to do laundry, iron a shirt, cook some basic stuff, etc. Her point about "you aren't what you eat" wasn't about being overweight, but about not reducing people to their physical appearance, that there's more to a woman than her rack.
/r/MensRights27/10/12 01:14 AM
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Her advice was basically: 1. Teach boys about sex, rather than letting them figure it out via porno 2. Teach boys basic domestic skills 3. Teach boys that women are more than just the sum of their parts 4. Try not to fall into gender stereotypes 5. Teach boys it's ok to have emotions 6. Be a good role model How are these feminine qualities?
/r/MensRights27/10/12 01:09 AM
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The part where she couldn't get him to let go of her is why it's hard for me to shrug it off as a simple misunderstanding. I don't know if I'd call the law over it, but I can see how it would be scary.
/r/MensRights27/10/12 12:38 AM
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Ftr, I don't agree with that. I'm not talking about legal terms, but in terms of young people learning about consent along with other sex ed. That's something that's beneficial for both sexes. I really don't see a downside to it, but clearly I don't completely get the point of view of MRA's. So tell me, how is it that you can turn learning about consent into a negative thing? I'm not talking about prosecuting everyone who doesn't get a yes in writing, but basic communication that could help both…
/r/MensRights20/10/12 11:15 PM
0

There's nothing at all wrong with pro-actively teaching people (of both sexes) about rape and consent. Plenty of people don't understand that the absence of a no does not necessarily mean yes. Better to start the conversation early, rather than wait until after the fact to do damage control.
/r/MensRights19/10/12 02:04 PM
2

You might also ask them how many of them actually agree with this extreme version of feminism. It seems like a lot of the MRA's here really think that the majority of feminists are man-hating "feminazis" who want nothing more than to strip men of their rights while twisting their genital in a vice. I won't deny that there are feminists who are hostile towards men, but I'd argue that most of us are focused on what we can do to help women, not what we can do to hurt men. Believe it or not, there a…
/r/MensRights14/10/12 12:14 AM
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Women do not need special protection from men. It's appropriate to have laws and protections in place to protect people from people, but to go out of our way to make it where women can avoid men entirely because of some paranoid fear is unreasonable and an overreaction. All it really does is teach girls that men are to be feared, which in turn teaches boys that they might as well be mean and violent because they're going to be branded with those labels anyway.
/r/MensRights13/10/12 11:42 PM
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How big an issue is cab driver on passenger violence? Unless we're talking some widespread phenomenon, I don't see why it can't be dealt with on a case-by-case basis the way it is now. It's a huge overreaction to develop an entire business based on an irrational fear of something that isn't even that big of a problem. I've known several women who have had bad experiences with male cab drivers, but I still think this is absolutely ridiculous. Sexual harassment and other issues could be alleviated…
/r/MensRights13/10/12 11:37 PM
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I think it's great to have a service to help girls home from a night out, but I don't see why it's only for women. Makes sense to me to have a service like that for everyone.
/r/MensRights13/10/12 11:29 PM
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I've known several women who have had bad experiences with male cab drivers, but I still think this is absolutely ridiculous. Sexual harassment and other issues could be alleviated by background checks and better defined rules about what companies expect from their drivers. This is so sexist and unnecessary, and I wish I could say it surprises me that anyone thinks it's ok, but it sadly doesn't.
/r/MensRights13/10/12 11:22 PM
2

The lack of Reddiquette with downvoting gets on my nerves. It's not supposed to be a disagree button, but that's how people use it.
/r/MensRights13/10/12 11:19 PM
1

I'm so sorry. It's hard to imagine many things that would be tougher than being in such a powerless situation. I wish I had more advice for you, but the only thing I can think of is don't give up.
/r/MensRights13/10/12 10:51 PM
1

She's not intersex, she's transsexual. There's a difference. She takes female hormones and is recognized as female by the government, so the least we can do is use the correct pronoun.
/r/MensRights10/10/12 09:01 PM
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I'm a feminist and I'm all about paternity tests. It makes me sick to think of all the men who have been cuckolded like that. If I had a baby and the father wanted a test to be sure, I'd be more than happy to give it to him.
/r/MensRights10/10/12 03:03 AM
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It's more realistic to be proactive, especially when the decision about the outcome is in someone else's hands. It's one of those things that is, by it's very nature, unfair.
/r/MensRights10/10/12 02:56 AM
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That entire blog is fucking awful. I can't even compose a coherent post in response to it because it's just............depressing and frustrating and hateful.
/r/MensRights09/10/12 10:55 PM
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Blickblock's comment was just reiterating that cis isn't a negative term. He wasn't commenting on the article or the person in question.
/r/MensRights09/10/12 10:29 PM
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Wow, that's hateful stuff. And did you really just refer to a human being as "it?"
/r/MensRights09/10/12 12:01 PM
1

And how. ;-(
/r/MensRights09/10/12 11:59 AM
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It's incredibly difficult to prove rape, so I don't know what you are talking about. You're acting like people are being convicted every day on flimsy evidence, when that is not reality. The vast majority of rape is never reported, much less prosecuted (and this includes both female and male victims). I apologize that this article doesn't take into consideration male victims, but it presents some excellent points about the way rape and rape evidence is handled...............
/r/MensRights01/10/12 06:44 PM
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Maybe young men need to keep little "permission slips" on them so they can prove that the woman gave consent. Sounds extreme, but at least they'd have their asses covered.
/r/MensRights21/09/12 10:48 PM
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Please don't think this person is representative of all feminists. She's immature and ill-informed.
/r/MensRights10/09/12 01:36 AM
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I don't know where you live, but here in Indiana parents get a million chances before they'll take the kids. And if they do take them, they look for a family member to place them with before resorting to foster care. I've never heard of anything like what's described in this article going on here in the U.S.
/r/MensRights02/09/12 08:32 PM
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I agree with you that it's awful, however, I'd like to point out that there is also a high incidence of rape in women's prisons. There are systematic abuses that go on in all of these institutions.
/r/MensRights01/09/12 08:02 PM
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You don't think that would be a little much to go through just for child support? My daughter's dad pays $400 a month. My household expenses, including every expense of hers, is well over $2K a month. I'd be pretty offended to have to provide proof that I'm paying my bills..........because if we're living here I clearly am. Not to mention, her dad hasn't even laid eyes on her in well over three years. I don't think it's appropriate for me to have to justify my monthly budget to him. If dad is MI…
/r/MensRights01/09/12 07:59 PM
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This makes me think of when one woman comes along with a group of men to the strip club. She always thinks she's "just one of the guys," and that the guys are cutting loose the same as they would if she wasn't there....which is not the case. I'm not saying they won't have fun, but there's a big difference between the way guys act with a woman in the group and the way they act when it's just them. As a stripper, I'd be happy if women were never allowed in the club! Don't get me wrong, I love wome…
/r/MensRights01/09/12 12:42 AM
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If she's putting a roof over the child's head, paying utilities, food, childcare, medical expenses, etc., it doesn't matter if she uses her paycheck or her child support check for the particulars. This is a concept that is, for some reason, difficult for people to grasp. I see how it might look bad to see someone using child support for something frivilous, but when you look at the big picture you see that it's irrelevant which money she spends where, because it all goes in and comes out of one …
/r/MensRights01/09/12 12:18 AM
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I don't know if they do this in every state, but here in Indiana when you go to court over child support they take both parents' pay stubs and bill receipts, etc. to determine the amount. And if the non-custodial parent stops paying support, the state will go after them. Tell your sister to go online to look for info on this stuff for her particular state.
/r/MensRights01/09/12 12:07 AM
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Sounds like you need to expand your horizons a bit. I think a lot of young women go through phases where it feels like other women really do fit these stereotypes, but after more life experience they realize that it's really just humans in general that suck. I would hate for you to miss out on all the great things that come with female friendships just because of some bad experiences. I love my guy friends too, but having awesome women in your life is a wonderful thing.
/r/MensRights31/08/12 12:25 AM
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Sadly, there are a lot of women your same age who express the same sentiment. Don't give up completely, there's a good chance you all will find each other.
/r/MensRights22/08/12 07:52 AM
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I was with you until "they don't care that they're taking away your worth." That's bullshit. No one can take away your worth unless you let them. Yeah, a lot of men see women as objects, and that's typically the case when it comes to street harassment and that sort of thing. It's a fact of life, and while I agree it sucks, it's not something I internalize, nor do I make it about me. Like so many things in life, you have to deal with it and move on. It's a small part of your human experience, and…
/r/MensRights22/08/12 12:25 AM
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That's manipulation, not objectification. I get what you are saying, and I agree that catcalling and a lot of things that random men say and do to women is objectifying, but I think people are taking issue with using that as a broad brush to encompass all bad behavior.
/r/MensRights22/08/12 12:17 AM
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I think the main issue that a lot of men have is that we face a ton of gray areas. We can be attackers, but we also have to save the damsel in distress. We can get harassed at work, sexually and otherwise, yet we can take it because we are the man. Maybe some of us don't like that, maybe we don't want to have to feel uncomfortable. That really sucks, and I hate that it's hard for decent guys to figure out how to navigate the bullshit and double standards. Neither sex has it perfect, and I think …
/r/MensRights22/08/12 12:09 AM
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Well, how often does it happen? I was harassed three separate times yesterday, once at a gas station, another in a supermarket parking lot, and another when stopping to ask for directions. I was wearing jeans and a baggy shirt, hair in a ponytail, no makeup, and I've been really sick the last 3-4 days. It doesn't matter what a woman's wearing, or the expression on her face, there will be guys who harass us regardless. I don't think any straight guy deals with this the way women do, and that's no…
/r/MensRights22/08/12 12:04 AM
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I don't think that's a good example of objectification either. My example would be when a couple of guys are walking behind me and start talking about my ass, how they would "hit that," etc., basically treating me like an inanimate object rather than a human being who is hearing everything they're saying. That's the sort of thing that makes me angry.
/r/MensRights21/08/12 11:41 PM
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She's talking about people who grow up in conservative or religious families that make a big deal about sex outside of marriage. I don't think most people worry that much about it, but I can see how growing up with religious doctrine pushed on you might make it more complicated.
/r/MensRights21/08/12 02:52 AM
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Add in the fact that a lot of non-forcible rape victims have been raped multiple times, such as when it happens within a relationship, or under the same roof in cases of ongoing incest. In those cases, non-forcible rape seems much much worse to me. You might get physically assaulted and have horrible things happen in a forcible rape, but it's less of a mindfuck than when the rapist is someone you cared about and trusted. We can always come up with reasons why one is worse than the other, and tha…
/r/MensRights21/08/12 02:50 AM
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People don't go from child to adult in a day, it takes time to learn who you are, what you want, what you are comfortable with....all of those things and more. Depending on how someone grows up, the types of role models they have, a young woman might not feel like she can say no. It could be because she feels pressured, or simply because she likes a guy, but isn't quite ready to have sex but is having trouble verbalizing it. The same sort of thing holds true for young men as well. There's a lot …
/r/MensRights21/08/12 02:40 AM
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This might sound like strange advice, but have you considered seeing a prostitute? A lot of sex workers have experience in building men up and helping them recapture their sexual confidence. It might take time to find someone with skill in this area, but your local hobbyist boards can point you in the right direction.
/r/MensRights15/08/12 11:10 PM
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Even if you have a substantial child support payment, you still aren't spending anywhere near as much on the kid as the custodial parent. The child support you pay is supposed to help cover the household expenses that the custodial parent provides for the child. It's not just for clothing and school supplies.
/r/MensRights01/08/12 02:01 AM
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If she has a mortgage/rent, utilities, food, gas, that's all indirectly for the child. So unless you're paying $1000 a month or something, I don't see how she could be spending the money on herself.
/r/MensRights01/08/12 01:58 AM
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Rent, utilities, food, clothing, transportation, etc., are all things that the custodial parent provides. Even if she doesn't spend the child support directly on the child, it's likely that it costs her that whole support payment plus her own paycheck to cover these things. There are a million little expenses when you have children. Of course, I'm going by my own situation where my daughter's dad pays $400 a month ($50 of which goes towards the $20K in arrears from when he didn't pay a cent for …
/r/MensRights01/08/12 01:53 AM
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How is it that you're ordered to pay so much, yet don't have visitation? In my state, child support is based on how much you make, and the non-custodial parent at least gets every other weekend with the child (unless they're deemed unfit by the court). If your income has changed since your divorce decree, you can go back to family court to get it modified. You can also go back to family court if she isn't allowing you to see the child, or is in breach of the agreement. I know that going back to …
/r/MensRights29/07/12 12:26 AM
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He's not being demonized for "not taking a bullet," he's being demonized for dropping his infant, running out without regard for his girlfriend and two children, and driving the fuck off. I don't have to have been in a traumatic situation to know that I'd never leave my children in a situation like that. Hell, I doubt I'd be able to run off and leave another person's baby, let alone my own.
/r/MensRights27/07/12 10:24 PM
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Substitute "people" for "women" and I agree. I'd actually say it's younger people who tend to be passionate about their cause (whatever the cause) and blind to criticisms of what they are doing. I was the same way about animal rights for about six months during my freshman year of college, lol. Then I lived some, learned some, and realized there is no black and white with these issues, only shades of gray.
/r/MensRights24/07/12 09:13 PM
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I'm female, and a feminist and most of my comments in r/feminism and r/twoxchromosomes get heavily downvoted. I've come to realize these subreddits are filled with very young, very opinionated women who haven't yet realized that nothing in life is black and white. I find it very frustrating, which is why I don't participate in those subreddits very often.
/r/MensRights24/07/12 09:07 PM
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I think the fact that men are usually bigger and stronger also plays into it. Two of the women in this article talk about their boyfriends pushing them down and covering them with their bodies to protect them. It would be a lot harder for a 110 lb. woman to do the same for a big guy. Regardless, these men certainly died heroes. Sad stuff all around.
/r/MensRights22/07/12 11:28 PM
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Actually, I do believe in equal punishments for men and women, and I'd appreciate it if you wouldn't make assumptions about me. It is true that there are times when both men and women get light sentences for crimes like this. It isn't a matter of women getting away with it while men are put away for life, and I think it's unfair to write a headline for this story that implies that. I didn't have time to search for a bunch of examples, but here's a story about a man who was busted with a ton of c…
/r/MensRights05/06/12 10:52 PM
2

You think you get happiness by depriving yourself? That's twisted.
/r/MensRights05/06/12 12:54 AM
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So anyone who is having sex for something other than love is a slut? Or just women? I love how assholes who throw the words slut and whore around are always specifically talking about women and not men.
/r/MensRights05/06/12 12:51 AM
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The funny thing is promiscuous women aren't always the same ones who are flashing their tits when they get drunk, or wearing the short skirts, or doing any of the stereotypically "slutty" behaviors. In fact, the only way you'll know for sure if a woman is or isn't promiscuous is if she tells you how many men she's been with.
/r/MensRights05/06/12 12:49 AM
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Here's the thing, the kind of woman who doesn't give a shit what anyone thinks of her sex life isn't going to be attracted to the type of man who would judge her for it. And unless a woman goes around telling people about how many men she's had sex with, there's a good chance you won't even know if someone you're dating has had 10 or 100 or 1000 sex partners in her past.
/r/MensRights05/06/12 12:03 AM
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Slut is just as much of an insult as whore, frankly moreso considering an actual prostitute won't take offense at being called a whore. It's not anyone's business if a woman is promiscuous, so it's inappropriate to call her a slut, unless you are trying to be an ass, in which case, mission accomplished.
/r/MensRights04/06/12 11:55 PM
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Yeah, it would be just as easy to find an article about a man who got a light sentence for harming or killing a child. It happens. Frankly, it's not like this sort of thing is common for either sex, so it's ridiculous to make generalizations about women.
/r/MensRights04/06/12 11:44 PM
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It said he was bullied for being the only boy in a household of women, not that the women were the ones doing the bullying. From the rest of the article it sounds like he was bullied at school, not at home. It's a real stretch to blame this on the mother and sisters, and not attribute it to much larger issues in this child's life.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 02:49 AM
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I don't necessarily disagree with the article itself, that this is a weird commercial with disturbing overtones. That's true. It is. The problem comes in when they discuss the Stamos commercial like it's just fine! Frankly, I have an issue with either sex being knocked out for comedic value. And I never did get an answer as to why they felt the one with the woman was so much worse. (I'm AHodges on there, btw)
/r/MensRights30/05/12 02:42 AM
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If we're talking about the stereotypical rape scene, no, I don't see an ad like this stopping that. But one of those situations where the line between consensual and rape gets really blurry? If it makes even one guy stop and think twice, it's worth the effort. For the most part, I do think this particular slogan is bad, but perhaps there's another one that could address it better....and hopefully not in a urinal.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 02:09 AM
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I'd get downvoted into oblivion for saying this on 2X, but I think we should teach girls and women to minimize their risk factors for being raped AND teach boys and men not to rape, and what behaviors cross that line. And urinal messages about rape? Totally stupid, IMO.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 02:01 AM
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Well, in all fairness, you probably don't go to bat when things make women look bad, and feminists don't notice when men are depicted in a bad light.............because they don't focus on men's issues. And you don't focus on women's issues.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 01:48 AM
1

If you like sparkling wine, try the Schloss Bierbrich from Trader Joe's. It's around $5 a bottle, they have both white and red, and it is fabulous. It's my favorite stuff.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 01:46 AM
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You're missing the point about what women don't like about beer commercials. They don't sit there thinking that they are the hottie on the car, they sit there wondering if their husband is comparing them to the hottie on the car. Now, I know that's not the way most men think, but a lot of women don't understand that at all. It's a rather insidious problem, the way stuff like that has the power to undermine some women's confidence.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 01:44 AM
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Correction, some women bond this way. There are plenty of us who do not have to bash anyone to bond or have a good time. I'm friends with most of my friends' boyfriends and husbands, as they are with mine, and I don't see any of us putting up with "bashing" the way its being described here.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 01:39 AM
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It makes sense to me to give mothers custody if the child is under two, but much past that is wrong. And in cases where the mother has been deemed unfit, I don't think there should be any age clause.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 01:34 AM
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As far as I'm concerned, we can flush ALL the princess/prince bullshit from Disney. It's time to come up with some better stories for our kids.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 01:29 AM
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If you read through the comments you'll see many people bringing up pretty solid points regarding this weird commercial, but when the yogurt commercial where John Stamos gets head-butted gets posted some actually try to say they aren't the same things. I don't always agree with all the content on this subreddit, but when it comes to female on male domestic violence, divorce proceedings and father's rights, I'm very much on board with y'all. Sure, Jezebel has a feminist slant, but I was pissed to…
/r/MensRights30/05/12 01:26 AM
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Yeah, and their rhetoric is all unassisted childbirth, anti-vaccine, extreme attachment parenting, that sort of thing. So take anything from Mothering.com with a few grains of salt. I'm not saying they never have quality content, but you sure have to wade through a quagmire of bullshit to find it.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 01:17 AM
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Most of the women I know would love to have a "true partner." For a man, that means a woman who is willing to work just as hard and not take advantage of you financially, for women that means a man who really will do half the work when it comes to household chores and childrearing. It's unfortunate, but even the most enlightened couples I know have a tendency to fall into the old stereotypical bullshit.
/r/MensRights30/05/12 01:03 AM
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Shit, I have an obviously female username and I get downvoted constantly in 2X, lol.
/r/MensRights28/05/12 11:46 PM
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I agree that plenty of women are just as committment-phobic as any man, but I have to laugh at the suggestion that men are shamed for being that way. I was recently thinking about how a lot of tv shows have a male character who is known, and celebrated, for his womanizing (ex. Sam Malone, Joey Tribbiani, Barney Stinson, the list goes on...). Obviously, attitudes in reality differ from what we see on tv, but I don't see where men are shamed for this sort of thing.
/r/MensRights16/05/12 03:23 AM
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I always wonder how these crazy things get to be stereotypes, because they don't match the ways or values of anyone I've actually known IRL.
/r/MensRights16/05/12 03:07 AM
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Glad to hear this. He was assaulted and I don't blame him for a second for defending himself.
/r/MensRights13/05/12 06:33 PM
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Until we start making sure convicted rapists actually spend time behind bars, I'm not going to be all that worried about the few people who make false accusations going to prison. Don't get me wrong, false allegations are horrible, but I don't think they are worse than actual rape. Let the punishment fit the crime.
/r/MensRights11/05/12 07:04 PM
1

It amazes me that people have trouble believing a woman could abuse a man. I've known far more violent women than men, and I think it's time everyone acknowledges it.
/r/MensRights05/05/12 03:17 AM
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Only tangentially related, but I've worked in strip clubs for the better part of the last 15 years and the biggest change I've seen is how they've gone from being a men's sanctuary to a place that's open to all. It used to be that women were only allowed in if escorted by a man, but even then we rarely had women customers in the club. The whole tone changed when clubs opened up, and frankly, it was not for the better. It was more fun, more freeing (not to mention more profitable), and more of a …
/r/MensRights05/05/12 03:05 AM
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Good points. I'd just like to add that for all the talk about men being taken advantage of in marriage, I've known several women who have gotten financially screwed in their marriages and subsequent divorces. I understand how something like that can make a cynic out of a person, but remember it goes both ways.
/r/MensRights05/05/12 01:50 AM
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I felt this a lot when I worked at a large company. I try to look at all possibilities before I chalk problems with other women up to jealousy, but in the office environment it's hard to ignore. There were more cliques in that place than there are in most high schools, and I had a hard time navigating the bs. Men are usually straightforward, and less likely to play games, and I prefer that to kissing meangirl ass. Luckily, I no longer work in that sort of place.
/r/MensRights05/05/12 01:27 AM
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Eh, it's not that this is necessarily offensive, but a lot of people just don't find antiquated gender stereotypes all that funny. I can't turn on the tv without coming across bumbling idiot dads, and the shrill, overly emotional wives who nag them for being so helpless. It's just so played out and tired.
/r/MensRights05/05/12 01:04 AM
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Is that really what you think the article was saying? Granted, it was very poorly written, but I took the comments about father's responsibility as a suggestion that young mothers need a lot of support in general, not that a father was to blame in this particular incident. There's not enough information given here to say much at all about the woman, and certainly not that she "killed" her child. It sounds like a terrible accident, but nothing indicates that it was intentional.
/r/MensRights28/04/12 01:02 AM
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I regularly see stories where the mother's boyfriend or husband abuses, neglects, or otherwise harms a child and gets a slap on the wrist. It happens a lot. Not to mention how ridiculous it is to compare an accident (due to negligence) to purposeful animal cruelty. I know you guys need to make everything about how rough men have it, but this is a stretch, especially considering the numerous attempts in many states to criminalize miscarriage and various other craziness. There's a woman here in In…
/r/MensRights11/04/12 01:41 AM
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Being on guard and not taking any chances when it comes to random strangers is the smart thing to do. It doesn't mean we're afraid, or that we think all men are rapists, but that we'd rather be safe than sorry. Honestly, when it comes to this subreddit, women can't win no matter how we react or what we do, it's always wrong.
/r/MensRights17/03/12 04:35 AM
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Absolutely, and considering 9 out of 10 men who approach me or talk to me from their car are trying to hit on me or catcall or whatever, I'd be foolish to give all of them the benefit of the doubt. She didn't say anything rude, she was just short with him. It's not like she said, "OMG, get away from me you pervert!" She was being cautious, which is exactly what any woman walking alone at night should be. Most men just don't understand what it's like to constantly be approached by strangers, some…
/r/MensRights17/03/12 04:25 AM
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There was nothing at all wrong with this clip, and it was obviously just a fraction of a larger interview. Honestly, you guys want to claim that you're not against women, you just want to take on men's issues, but in reality a lot of the posts on here are just insulting women for shits and giggles. You get mad when your concerns are dismissed, yet some of you are claiming you don't get what we're talking about when we say the GOP has a war on women. If you don't see the issues that are making us…
/r/MensRights17/03/12 04:12 AM
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You guys are acting like women in their '30s are all dried up and desperate. That may very well be true in the case of the women the OP is talking about, but I think it's a stretch to say that anyone who is still single in their '30s must have something wrong with her. And to say that about single women and not single men is a pretty offensive double standard. I also think it's a huge stretch for OP to assume these women are sending him messages because they're looking to get knocked up and put …
/r/MensRights17/03/12 03:55 AM
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I can see how it would come off as condescending to have people marvel over you doing basic parenting duties. It's sad that it's considered rare for a dad to be involved like that, because I know quite a few dads who do just as much in raising their children as their wives.
/r/MensRights13/03/12 10:39 PM
2

The commenters at HuffPo seem to have something nasty to say about everyone and everything.
/r/MensRights13/03/12 10:31 PM
4

FYI, I consider myself a feminist and I do NOT think Men'sRights is a hate group. In fact, I find that ridiculous considering the content of so many other subreddits. I don't always agree with the majority here, but I do think you guys raise a lot of important issues that I might not have thought about had I not subscribed to this subreddit.
/r/MensRights13/03/12 09:58 PM
5

The US is behind all other developed countries when it comes to circumcision, but attitudes are definitely changing. Hopefully the rate will continue to go down.
/r/MensRights13/03/12 09:25 PM
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The feminists I know absolutely have a problem with disgusting behavior like that. You've got us all wrong if you think we're all just drooling over the chance to fuck men over any way we can.
/r/MensRights13/03/12 09:11 PM
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I don't know if this is possible, but it seems like hypothetical children could be factored into a pre-nuptual agreement. I do sympathize with this problem because my husband has been fighting with his ex-wife over their two kids since we met over ten years ago. She's a pretty terrible mom, emotionally abusive, etc., and he's a wonderful dad. He would have loved nothing more than to take custody of the girls and bring them here to live, but it would have cost so much in legal fees (with no guara…
/r/MensRights13/03/12 09:06 PM
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I'm guessing this is in response to the ridiculous laws and regulations the GOP is trying to force on all aspects of women's reproductive health. There have been other ridiculous bills introduced to illustrate how drastic and extreme it sounds when this stuff is put on men's health issues.
/r/MensRights13/03/12 08:58 PM
3

Funny, I read the story and all of the comments after it and not one person defended this woman. It was a violent, senseless attack and luckily, I'm not seeing anyone try to say otherwise. Everyone agrees that this woman should face charges.
/r/MensRights13/03/12 08:39 PM
4

Maybe one day the advertising industry will realize that portraying men as bumbling idiots and women as shrill harpies is antiquated and offensive.
/r/MensRights07/03/12 11:55 PM
5

Do you actually believe that Chris Brown is a domestic violence VICTIM? Seems to me the whole Rhianna debacle has only helped his career, not to mention HE'S the one who beat the shit out of HER.
/r/MensRights22/02/12 06:25 AM
4

Damn, that was hard to watch. The idea that a woman couldn't possibly harm a man is ridiculous. Most of us can hit hard enough to black an eye or break a nose, just the same as a man can. And for the record, I would never defend such a thing. No way should men or women be hitting anyone, period.
/r/MensRights20/02/12 12:01 AM
1

No way, this is on him. He knew the condom broke, but couldn't pick up the phone to tell this woman about it. He's just as, if not more, responsible in this as she is. It was his decision to have sex, his decision not to tell her about the condom, and now he gets to be a dad whether he likes it or not. His chance to alter this outcome is long past. I don't see how anyone can put this on the woman.
/r/MensRights15/02/12 05:39 AM
1

You know, the mens rights effort might not be greeted with such negativity if articles like this didn't feel the need to pretend like women are dainty little flowers who never work, sweat, or do anything much at all. Why does every mens rights article have to put women down in order to get their point across? Frankly, this guy was all over the place, so much so that it would take me all day to address each point. I agree with what he wrote about different things men have had to deal with, and I …
/r/MensRights15/02/12 05:34 AM
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Well said, fletch91, I feel very much the same way.
/r/MensRights11/02/12 10:02 AM
5

Lol, I think it's safe to say that men don't always understand female sexuality either. But one thing I love about men is that most of them are more than willing to learn. I think a lot of women underestimate how much men enjoy it when we open up and tell them what we like.
/r/MensRights11/02/12 09:59 AM
5

I come in here because the idea of men's rights, as expressed in this subreddit, is new to me, not because there's a shortage of male opinions and point-of-view on Reddit or anywhere else. Over the last 15 years or so, I've dealt with hundreds men of different ages, races, income levels, and personality types in my line of work, but I've yet to hear any of them mention feeling the way so many here in this forum seem to. The outlook here is definitely new to me, and I find it interesting enough t…
/r/MensRights11/02/12 09:48 AM
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Yeah, with that kind of welcoming attitude I can't imagine why r/mensrights has an "image problem." That comment illustrates my point, which is that even when a woman comes in and is perfectly cordial and open to discussion, someone always has to be a dick.
/r/MensRights11/02/12 09:38 AM
1

That's fucking horrible
/r/MensRights11/02/12 04:23 AM
5

Do you honestly think there are people who are unfamiliar with the male point of view? I have to disagree there.
/r/MensRights11/02/12 04:22 AM
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The irony here is that people see this forum the way you see feminists, which is, to say the least, unflattering. I consider myself a feminist, yet I'm very open to the ideas presented in this subreddit. I like men, and I'm certainly not a simpleton, but I don't appreciate being painted with the broad brush I see used here quite a bit. The word feminist means different things to different people, and making blanket statements about us as a whole doesn't further anyone's cause. It's just more of …
/r/MensRights11/02/12 04:18 AM
3

I've asked a couple of questions and have attempted to participate in discussions here, but have either gotten downvoted or ignored. And the things I've said were not inflammatory or argumentative. If other's have come in here and gotten the same sort of response it's not too difficult to see why this isn't a more popular subreddit. I'm a pretty openminded person, and I try to get the full picture before jumping to conclusions, which I'd assume is the sort of thing you guys want around here. If …
/r/MensRights11/02/12 04:07 AM
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The reality is that most women can't afford to quit working when they become pregnant. I don't think it's unreasonable to ask employers to be a little bit flexible about something half the population goes thru.
/r/MensRights01/02/12 06:58 AM
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Do you really think most single moms are "choosing" to raise the kids without fathers? The single moms I know would LOVE to have more involvement from the child's father. Women don't end up as single moms strictly because of their own actions, the man has a big role in this as well. Good dads will do anything to see their children, and would fight for the right to do so. There seems to be this idea that women are somehow preventing fathers from seeing their children, and I don't think that's acc…
/r/MensRights31/01/12 06:33 AM
1

If you've read one issue of Cosmo, you've read them all. I don't think it has as much influence as you might think, but I get what you are saying.
/r/MensRights31/01/12 06:22 AM
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You don't see how suggesting Seth Rogan is gross is similar to saying a fat Gwynneth Paltrow is gross?
/r/MensRights31/01/12 06:20 AM
1

I agree, garnishment is a much better way of dealing with this than putting people in jail. That should be the last resort.
/r/MensRights31/01/12 01:39 AM
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How would that work when one parent has primary custody and the other only sees the child every other weekend or less? Unfortunately, there are a lot of parents out there (men and women both) who don't want to share parenting responsibilities. My daughter's dad hasn't seen or spoken to her in over two years, paying child support is the only thing he actually does for her. If left to his own devices he wouldn't contribute anything at all, which is unacceptable. I wish deadbeat parents didn't exis…
/r/MensRights31/01/12 01:36 AM
1

That is one hell of a depressing article.
/r/MensRights31/01/12 01:24 AM
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Do you really consider women your enemy? (Btw, most of us don't read Cosmo)
/r/MensRights31/01/12 01:05 AM
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Please don't assume that the majority of women identify with the silliness in Cosmo. I don't know anyone who reads that crap.
/r/MensRights31/01/12 01:04 AM
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You've got to be kidding, there have been a ton of movies where the "ugly duckling" is a woman. Shallow Hal comes to mind. And Kathryn Heigl is awful. I can't believe she keeps getting work.
/r/MensRights31/01/12 01:01 AM
1

I don't get why you think that falls under the "politically correct" label. It's a pretty straightforward statement.
/r/MensRights31/01/12 12:57 AM
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It's clearly hyperbole, but it's still a fucked up thing to put on the cover of a magazine, regardless of who said it.
/r/MensRights31/01/12 12:55 AM
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Some people have the crazy idea that couples ought to share responsibilities and work.
/r/MensRights30/01/12 08:56 AM
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Downvote me instead of answering the question? Gee, no wonder this is such a popular subreddit.
/r/MensRights29/01/12 08:27 AM
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So you guys don't think men should have to pay child support? Why not?
/r/MensRights29/01/12 03:41 AM
1

Have you ever watched The Shield? In one episode the police chief was held at gunpoint and forced to give him a blow job, AND he took a picture of him doing it. It was all very well-acted, because you could almost feel the shame and embarrassment as he tried to get on with his life. It was a sad situation.
/r/MensRights26/01/12 08:48 AM
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I think men shirking or half-assing everything is abuse. And I don't believe in nagging. If my husband hasn't gotten around to doing something I asked of him I might mention it again, but that's hardly nagging. My grandma always told me if you make the mess, you clean it up! And it's funny that men don't even recognize these small tasks until we say something. If he just did what needed to be done, I wouldn't have to mention it, and I wouldn't have to be accused of "nagging."
/r/MensRights26/01/12 08:43 AM
1

I don't think it's victimhood to acknowlege the fact that rape statistics are very high in the US. In fact, it helps keep us mindful and alert so we DON'T become victims. Also, I think when the victim is a man we need to learn to be more compassionate, and we need to take it seriously.
/r/MensRights26/01/12 08:30 AM
1

Aw. ;-(
/r/MensRights26/01/12 08:17 AM
1

So you guys think it's ok for a 10-year-old kid to get a tattoo? If so, I disagree. One of the reasons is because what a kid thinks is badassed at 10 is probably vastly different from what he will like as an adult. That mom should have told him no and encouraged him to find a different way to eulogize his brother.
/r/MensRights26/01/12 08:17 AM
2

One unfortunate problem with the internet is how we see so much about the wingnuts in things like feminism, but not those of us who are much more moderate in our views. The loudest, most controversial types of people are always going to draw negative attention. And the stereotype of the man-hating feminist who is obsessed with her career and is loud in her anti-family pronouncements is just not as common as a lot of people think. So yeah, I consider myself a feminist, but the extremists piss me …
/r/MensRights26/01/12 08:04 AM
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Luckily, a lot of parents in the US are no longer circumcizing, so one of these days the uncut penis will be the norm. And did anyone else think it was funny that the women didn't know if Hef was circumcized or not? Do they expect us to believe they've never had sex with him?
/r/MensRights26/01/12 07:53 AM
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Seeing as how many men serve relatively short sentences for rape, abuse, murder, I doubt he would get much time at all. Don't get me wrong though, what this woman did to her husband is absolutely deplorable, but I think 7 years is fair.
/r/MensRights26/01/12 07:49 AM
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