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You guys judge harshly. Love is love. I understand where this guy is coming from. I’ve been there. It’s hard. You tell me if your daughter or son had the same addiction you would turn your back? BS. It’s the same with a wife. It’s not conditional. If so than your marriage was doomed from the beginning. I would have had my ex back no matter what. Cheating. Drugs. Etc. Whatever. When you marry someone you don’t sign up for the good times... you sign up to be there for the bad times and to help the…
/r/Divorce_Men01/06/19 10:28 PM
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I didn’t know there was a difference between shy and introverted so I don’t know what I am. I know I am a wall flower that is afraid to talk to anyone I don’t know. But I’ll have to do more research on that. Your story is inspiring but in my situation not only did I lose my wife and best friend but I lost my way of life. I had to move into a small one bedroom apartment that I can barely afford and once child support hits I won’t be able to even afford that. Not sure what I’m going to do. And out…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 07:39 PM
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You are certainly in a good place after only 3 months. I was a complete wreck. Only time I stopped drinking and left my dark apartment was for work. I’m still a wreck but I try not to drink as much. And just for the record I did fuck up my marriage. It was pretty much all my fault. I just cannot get over the regret.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 07:06 PM
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Thanks man. I really envy you guys that are strong enough to move on. I just don’t see that for me. Especially since I will be seeing her so often at kids events. It’s going to be really hard on me for sure because she was my best friend as well. I just miss talking to her in general. But I have talked to few friends but they don’t live around here. Im actually about to fly out this evening to see those friends and family over the holiday weekend. I’m hoping that will help although it may even b…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 05:37 PM
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Unfortunately for me everyday seems to make it worse. Closer to divorce and farther away from being a family. I tried going to the gym but it just makes me sad. All I can think about is how I used to go to the gym and then come home and make dinner. I just have no energy or desire to do anything. I just pine about ways to get her back. To convince her to give me one more shot to be the man I used to be.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 02:06 PM
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How do you do it? At least I’m in the same country. It I only see my kids maybe twice a week if I’m lucky. Otherwise I just sit around wasting my day, and honestly my life. Cause at this time I just do t have much desire to do anything without my family and kids.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 02:04 PM
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I get what you guys are saying. But shoot, I could never be with or talk to another woman right now. And I don’t even want to think about sex with someone else. My divorce isn’t even final yet (July). Plus I desperately want my ex back. I would do or change anything for another chance. As for talking to someone else it would not be fair to her in my current scenario.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 02:01 PM
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I hear you man. I know deep down your right. But honestly I struggling hard right now...
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 03:41 AM
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Honestly, I have no friends. No family. They are all 2000 miles away. All my friends and family out here were hers. I stayed out her for her. Now I won’t leave my kids. So I have to accept being alone and depressed for the next 12 years until they graduate high school.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 03:11 AM
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I don’t believe that. I don’t. She is the woman I dreamed about since puberty or whatever. I know I will love my kids and be there for them always. But I will never love again like I did her. I won’t. Sad but true. I’ve never been suicidal. I don’t feel suicidal. I’ll love my kids always through high school or whatever. But I won’t date. No reason too. No point to settle for second. I know who is my one and only and I blew it. It’s on me. I recognize that. I don’t hate her. No revenge. No ill wi…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 03:04 AM
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Easier said than done. I know I’m in a different place than you. Im still struggling. Still pining for her. But I’m a really shy guy. I’ve never approached a woman in my life. I am really anxious. I would puke in the bathroom before ever asking a girl out. It’s how I have always been. It’s who I am. I’m not fat or ugly I don’t think but I have zero self confidence. I feel like I bring nothing to the table. That’s hard to get over.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 02:47 AM
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Give me an example of how you pushed yourself. Honestly. Cause I don’t know how. Let’s be honest, I was a loser before I met my wife. The reason I love her so much is because she brought out the best in me. I was proud to have her as my wife. But now I’m back to the shy, loser. No confidence. Let’s be honest, no woman wants a guy in his 40’s with young kids who is already grey and divorced. It’s reality. I’m just having a hard time accepting I will be alone forever. I thrive in a relationship. I…
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 02:43 AM
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Do you go on those trips alone? That sounds so boring to me. I don’t know what the hell I’ll do. Other than my kids. But outside of that. Drinking and watching tv.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 02:19 AM
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How old are you guys?
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 01:10 AM
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You speak the truth man. I admit I’m struggling. No hope in sure. I see my kids as much as possible but outside of that I sit home. Drink. Eat fast food. Cry. It’s pathetic I realize. But that’s where I’m at. I signed up for Meetup but I’m too shy to go meet random people. It’s the truth. People say, “just do it, put yourself out there” but those aren’t shy people people. It’s not an excuse, man.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 01:07 AM
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Dude. Come on. I’m not 21. I don’t want just sex. I would rather just jerk off.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 12:27 AM
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I’m so unhappy. Despise being alone. Miss my wife. Miss my family. I made mistakes but never considered divorce. I feel she turned her back on me and our dreams.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 12:18 AM
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But I really don’t believe that. Not only is she my best friend but my dream woman. Moving on would be settling for someone else who isn’t quite her. Plus you add in elementary age children and I will have to see her 3-4 days a week at games and school events and birthdays for at least 12 years. How do I not get sad every time I see her?!?
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/19 12:03 AM
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That is a good point, but when I only see my kids twice a week, it’s tough man
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/19 02:22 AM
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I agree. I made mistakes. And I have been going to therapy for months now. It helps. But I know that she was my person. My one. There will never be another. I will have to live with that for the rest of my life alone.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/19 08:53 PM
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Damn. That’s real. But I hate being single. I thrive in a partnership. I am my best with someone. Alone, I don’t leave my apartment.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/19 03:31 AM
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I just struggle being alone. I’m so shy. I would never talk to another woman on my own. My therapist said I should reach out to support groups. I’m deftly afraid of being alone.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/19 02:55 AM
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I don’t know how. I do love her.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/19 02:16 AM
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I have to comment because I’m your wife. I mean I’m that guy. 12 years of marriage. 3 kids. 10 were great. Mid-life crisis hit and I became an alcoholic for 2 years. I struggled a lot. Drank a lot. It’s no excuse, I know. But I needed my wife more than ever at that time to get through it. To hug me. To tell me she loves me. She turned her back. I don’t know your situation but that hurt the most. I did bad things. Made bad decisions in those two years but I always thought she would be there for m…
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/19 02:06 AM
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