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SailorAground/r/askMRP02/09/17 12:34 AM
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Basic QuestionSailorAground/r/askMRP26/10/17 07:55 PM
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So are you just looking for other people's approval for you to leave your girlfriend?
/r/askMRP20/06/20 11:06 PM
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but I can see how some aspects of my approach are controlling, especially around money because she almost never had her own reliable income. The "emotional abuse" part is absolute BS unless switching from DEERing to ignoring her hysterics falls under that category. Stop, just stop. It's look you're looking for a reason to run back inside an empty burning building. If you are going to be this much of a coward, stop the conversation now and run back to your wife. You're literally burning daylight.…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:47 AM
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Fair point. If I may ask, how old was your mother and are the two of them still together? Why should that matter?
/r/askMRP06/05/20 08:35 AM
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The only reason I'm thinking about jumping back in is because I have little confidence that I'll be able to do better in the little time (~5 years till I turn 40 and then I can forget about ever having kids?) I have left. Tons of men have kids after 40. Trade your wife in for a younger model. Men don't have the same time limitations on kids that women do. You're a king, act like it.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 08:32 AM
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Also, don't move in together. You are ready to live under the same roof as a woman. Plus, if you live in a common law marriage state, you may be seeing yourself up for heartache later on.
/r/askMRP24/03/20 06:56 PM
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So what's the TLDR here? Ain't no way I'm reading your novel.
/r/becomeaman28/02/20 07:15 AM
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OP, separation is not permanent or final or even legally binding (in some States). Your plan seems to be working so keep focusing on you and then see if she comes running back.
/r/askMRP02/01/20 02:22 AM
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The whole point of all of this is that you don't hold onto one person/relationship/life. You sad sad man. Really, I can hear you kvetching and whining from hear. I get it; I've been divorced and my ex fucked off with my kid halfway around the world and is still a royal pain in my ass demanding I pay her more money in order to see my daughter. But guess what; those aren't your kids. And that woman you're moping over, she was never yours in the first place. You need to return the focus of your lif…
/r/askMRP10/12/19 10:36 PM
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Do NOT hire her. If you can't handle dealing with her at home, inside bringing her into your work life. Any problems with her not respecting you or not doing what you want/need her to do will seep into your work life. You will go from the boss on top of his shit to the poor guy who owns the company and lets his wife walk all over him. Spez: I just re-read your post and your lack of frame is disgusting. You are literally letting your wife (who does not respect you in the slightest) guilt trip you…
/r/askMRP29/11/19 06:37 PM
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Talk about price inflation.
/r/TheRedPill26/11/19 05:45 PM
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Necessary reading on the difference between male and female social hierarchies, lads: http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/08/the-male-social-matrix-back-to-sandbox.html http://theredpillroom.blogspot.com/2012/05/female-social-matrix-introduction.html
/r/TheRedPill21/11/19 06:54 PM
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To be fair, AIDS is largely a homosexual and drug addict problem.
/r/TheRedPill19/11/19 01:07 AM
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If this dude doesn't already have a pre-nup, he better get one. With 11 dudes, plus the ones she doesn't talk about, I highly doubt her ability to pair bond is still intact. It sounds like she's got OP on the line for beta bucks and cushy lifestyle since his family is so powerful and he's likely a prince of sorts. Also, don't ever move in with an LTR before marriage. Terrible decision.
/r/askMRP04/11/19 08:29 PM
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Why haven't you gotten a lawyer? You are entering into dangerous waters without having legal counsel to help you. You are NOT legally separated and need to get the paperwork squared away before you do anything else. Stop telegraphing your moves and telling her what you're going to do and just do it. You're about to go to war with this bitch and need to be prepared for it. Since you seem incapable of figuring shit out for yourself, here's the plan you should execute: Go here: https://www.martinda…
/r/askMRP14/09/19 09:41 PM
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So what you're saying is that you want to slow roll the divorce, because that's where this is heading. You don't just demote your second-in-command. You either work with them or part ways. This is obviously going to end with you parting ways but I can understand why you would want to delay that for your sake and the kids'. So, here's the plan: Go find a lawyer. In that process pay for consultations with all of the top lawyers in your area so that they can't represent her. Choose the one whose pr…
/r/askMRP18/08/19 06:24 AM
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You misunderstand the point of that meme. The whole idea is that it's descriptive of a population as a whole which means there's a higher likelihood of blacks being violent than Europeans or Asians. It's the same with the IQ studies and statistics that say that there is a higher likelihood that blacks will have an IQ in the 80s while Europeans will have a higher likelihood to have an IQ hovering around 100 while Asians will have a higher likelihood to have an IQ hovering around 110. It's all abo…
/r/MensRights08/08/19 05:43 PM
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Boys need challenges and rites of passage in order to prove themselves as men. That proving themselves bit is as much for him as it is for other men. What have you done to challenge him? What have you done to train him so that he has confidence in his abilities? What have you done to give him opportunities to learn self-reliance, self-discipline, responsibility, leadership, etc.? Reading your post, it sounds like you've allowed him to drift in the wind or just haven't done any work to help him. …
/r/askMRP07/08/19 04:32 PM
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Interesting. Thanks for explaining that.
/r/askMRP27/07/19 05:02 PM
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So what does "power" mean then? Doing them from the floor has always been what differentiates them from hang cleans to me.
/r/askMRP27/07/19 07:59 AM
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Doubtful. The family law system is heavily biased against men and is used as a way for women to win "cash and prizes" once they have torpedoed their marriage or gotten themselves knocked up.
/r/MensRights14/07/19 12:16 AM
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You've obviously never had to deal with the mother of your child keeping the kid from you while also demanding multiple thousands of dollars in child support. This is a common occurrence in the US and yes, if the mother is struggling to raise the kid and the father doesn't have to, then the father should get the kid. Arguing otherwise shows that you have no idea what you're talking about and are biased against fathers.
/r/MensRights14/07/19 12:13 AM
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I have the opposite opinion: I always thought they were kind of chick cars.
/r/MensRights10/07/19 05:46 PM
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Man, this clown world is great, isn't it?
/r/MensRights07/07/19 04:05 AM
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That's why I'm upvoting this.
/r/MensRights01/07/19 10:12 PM
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Let a lawyer make that decision. You have started talking to one right? How's your war chest coming along? Have you started setting up separate accounts for your exit (please tell me you control the finances)? Your wife sucks and there's no way to fix it. It sounds like she's already checked out and has crossed the point of no return. At this point she's just a practice target as you get ready to leave. You need to stop doing MRP for her and doing it for you and your kid. There's no salvaging th…
/r/askMRP30/06/19 06:47 PM
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And then everybody clapped.
/r/TheRedPill27/06/19 04:38 PM
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The rural parts and small towns if this nation aren't that bad. I would bet that many people who are struggling to make end meet in cities like Los Angeles, San Francisco, or New York while working minimum wage or service industry jobs would do just fine out in the country. Many, like you, just don't want to give up their Bohemian lifestyle and have been programmed by the media to be prejudiced against "flyover Americans."
/r/MensRights24/06/19 03:18 PM
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Shit, I knew there was a reason I never cared for Rollo. You hit the nail on the head.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/06/19 12:39 PM
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The more I see, the more I think feminism is just a massive shit test. It's like they actually want to be put back in their place.
/r/MensRights13/06/19 06:57 PM
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Well that's even worse. That still backs up my claim that men are and have been the disposable sex.
/r/MensRights09/06/19 04:23 PM
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Well then, in a few thousand years when our psychological responses have evolved to meet up with our changing society, that might be valid. As it stands, women still don't respect weak men, still lust after men who are dominant, still perform fitness tests to see where the men around them fall, and the weaker men will buy into these tests instead of batting them away as they should. The MRA agenda, as it stands, is never going to be realized as long as women are allowed carte blanche socially, a…
/r/MensRights08/06/19 12:53 AM
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The thing is, all of these issues are carryovers from the long history of men being the disposable sex. I can't remember whose report it was, but there was an anthropological report a few years ago that found that throughout human history, only about 60% of men actually reproduced while nearly every woman reproduced. Men were the ones who had dangerous jobs and fought wars. It's ingrained in us psychologically and truly, a woman dying is a problem due to the fact that it's one less woman to give…
/r/MensRights07/06/19 09:33 PM
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Honk honk!
/r/MensRights06/06/19 08:41 PM
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That's cool, but it's obvious to me from your posts that you're not emotionally ready for this marriage to be over. That's okay and I've been there but there comes a point where you realize that all that yelling and fighting and nagging isn't fucking worth it. You need figure out for yourself if this cluster fuck is even worth saving and then you need to rip the bandage off. If it was me, I'd kick that bitch and her brats to the curb. But that takes balls and a spine to do.
/r/askMRP30/04/19 03:02 AM
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Well cease your worrying because it's already been set on motion. She's probably already talked to at least three lawyers and is setting things up. Go through your finances and feel phone bills: All those random payments? Those were for consultation fees. All those strange phone numbers she kept calling? Those were to set up the consultations. You better get hot on finding a lawyer and getting your war chest ready because she's gonna rake you through the coals. If you handle this divorce smartly…
/r/askMRP30/04/19 02:23 AM
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My two cents: Start quietly shopping for a divorce attorney. Start your search at martindale.com. Start saving money for the war fund because you're about to get fucked in divorce court. Have a threesome or two and enjoy the ride as your marriage crashes and burns. Try to turn some of the other women into plates when you get your inevitable divorce. Your marriage is beyond repair.
/r/askMRP19/04/19 02:30 AM
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Welcome to clown world.
/r/MensRights10/04/19 01:00 AM
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What works? The fact that the more dicks the woman has, the harder it is for her to settle down? You just repeated exactly what I said.
/r/TheRedPill12/03/19 07:37 PM
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I downvoted you and here's why: There is strong scientific evidence that shows that the more partners a woman has that it degrades her ability to pair bond (the thing needed for long term successful mating relationships) and not just a little but an exponential drop off. And this doesn't start at the fourth or fifth partner, it starts at the first. Ancient societies understood this intuitively and so prioritized female virginity because it helped ensure that you would have a successful mating re…
/r/TheRedPill12/03/19 07:19 PM
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I'd like to get off the ride now; it's not fun anymore.
/r/MensRights08/03/19 01:57 AM
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So you're saying this is all being pushed by the media and Marxists? So who owns the media companies?
/r/TheRedPill07/03/19 11:53 AM
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Good God that's terrible. It'll be interesting to see the studies on the long term effects of being on hormone blockers for these kids. There's no way the end result is a positive one. Also, their hypothesis that these kids are "blank slates" is not supported by clinical and research literature which show distinctive cognitive differences between men and women prior to puberty. I find it telling that Johns Hopkins and the Mayo Clinic, who helped develop the techniques of hormone replacement ther…
/r/TheRedPill07/03/19 11:18 AM
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The hardcore conservatives said it was a slippery slope to allow gays to marry and nobody believe them. I work we had. I really want this crazy bullshit to stop.
/r/TheRedPill07/03/19 11:11 AM
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Why does he not divorce her? I wouldn't put up with that bullshit.
/r/MensRights28/02/19 03:21 AM
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Holy shit, you need to get yourself and your kids out of this situation. You're beyond saving this thing. You now need to end it as quickly as you can to limit the damage.
/r/askMRP27/02/19 05:31 AM
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OP, Search for lawyers on Martin Dale. It's a lawyer search site that has reviews of lawyers from their peers. It's how I found my divorce attorney and how I recommend finding yours. They will all likely be expensive, but hiring a lawyer is one of those things that you get what you pay for. Also, go to ALL of the highest rated attorneys and pay for an hour consultation. This will poison the well and prevent her from being able to use them. Remember that she no longer loves you and that any affec…
/r/askMRP27/02/19 05:24 AM
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I sure do miss your posts. Got the nail on the head as usual.
/r/askMRP23/02/19 09:59 PM
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This. Some women (and men) are just losers and will never be happy or well-adjusted no matter what. You need to cut these people out of your life even if they are your wife. Other women also are just psychotic (like NPD, BPD, and HPD) and will never be right in the head. I don't understand the need to keep justifying keeping a woman around who will be nothing more than a drain on your financially, emotionally, and mentally when you could otherwise cut her free and have some semblance of happines…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/02/19 11:32 PM
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Jesus, that's a string redpill to swallow right there. That is a classic example of a woman not being able to handle make weakness or emotion and losing attraction because of it.
/r/MensRights15/02/19 05:00 PM
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Stop giving a fuck about your wife's lies! You're about to blow up your marriage and play right into her hands. This is like showing your hand at a poker game. You need to contact an attorney (better yet, contact five and poison the field for her) because dollars to donuts she already has and is already thinking about branch swinging away. If you are really going to torpedo your marriage, you need to have a solid plan that involves a good attorney otherwise you're going to lose and it's going to…
/r/askMRP21/01/19 06:07 AM
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I'm with you on this being a LARP. He's at DL8, which means he's seriously contemplating the potential of fucking other women, leaving the relationship, or both, and he's thinking about having another kid with this broad?
/r/askMRP15/01/19 11:56 AM
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All women are capable of that. AWALT.
/r/askMRP10/01/19 03:57 PM
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This is a terrible idea. You don't telegraph your moves in shit like this.
/r/askMRP10/01/19 06:49 AM
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Dude, you need to cut the shit. You're literally sitting on a ticking time bomb here. It's not a matter of if but when her crazy finally gets to her why she actually follows through on her threats and embroils you in a legal nightmare that you are ill prepared for. Here's a little thought experiment: What happens if a friend or two sent her divorce attorney recommendations prior to her pulling the post down? What if next time she loses her shit, a divorced friend of hers (you know, the strong, i…
/r/askMRP10/01/19 06:48 AM
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You da real MVP.
/r/askMRP09/11/18 02:15 AM
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Yeah. When I went back to SWOS for ASAT, the CO bragged about how many people get out as O3s and go into private industry. I've never seen any organization that prospers when its leaders make it a point of pride of how many people they drive out. I'm happy as hell I redesignated to EDO. I get a free Masters, free project and program management training, and free industry connections for when I punch out.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 06:09 PM
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Have you looked into the reserves? Not sure what branch you're in or you're paygrade (guessing O4), but the reserves could be your lifeline to get your 20, guarantee your retirement, and still provide you the opportunity to do something you like as a civilian. I would shy away from the National Guard since the pensions and everything ate drawn from a different pot of money and a lot of the management relies on each state.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 06:55 AM
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The SWO community is still a complete shitshow, BTW. Getting worse, too. You definitely made the right call pulling chocks.
/r/askMRP03/10/18 06:53 AM
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Thank you for the info.
/r/MensRights29/07/18 09:08 AM
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You may be as shocked as I was to find out that there are supermarket chains in Southeastern Europe (Hungary, Romania, etc.) that use the same logo as Food Lion. I wouldn't have believed if I hadn't seen it with my own eyes. Source: Am North Carolinian who's been to Eastern Europe.
/r/MensRights29/07/18 09:07 AM
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Then why get married? Why not just live as a couple? If there's no advantage to bring married then there's no point in entering into that legal contact.
/r/MensRights28/07/18 08:24 PM
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Then why get married? Why not just live as a couple? If there's no advantage to bring married then there's no point in entering into that legal contact.
/r/MensRights28/07/18 08:23 PM
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Get a pre-nup now. Hire a good lawyer and protect yourself in case of disaster.
/r/MensRights28/07/18 08:19 PM
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Sorry to hear that, dude. I'm hoping you were at least in CONUS when she left and now getting fucked while you were deployed. I've seen too many dudes feet fucked over by their exes while deployed.
/r/MensRights28/07/18 08:17 PM
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Anecdotally, my marriage wasn't worth it. It wasn't worth the money, the time, or the misery. The only worthwhile thing that came out of that relationship was my daughter. The divorce on the other hand was worth every penny of the $30k I spent.
/r/MensRights28/07/18 08:15 PM
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If you live in the United States, get a lawyer, find out what your situation is (other unmarried dudes, don't live with a woman until your married for this very reason), and get a pre-nuptial agreement written. This was advice from my divorce attorney.
/r/MensRights28/07/18 06:07 PM
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Hahahahahahahahahahahahaha -- breathes -- hahahahaha.
/r/MensRights02/07/18 11:33 PM
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Correct, if you pay them for an hour of their time for a consultation, they can no longer be retained by her due to a conflict of interest. At least that's how my attorney explained it to me. It's probably a gross over-simplification for the layman, but it's a decent strategy. For maybe a $1000 (which is chump change for a divorce), you can clear the field of all of the high-priced, highly-skilled attorneys, or at the very least take out the ones who may stall just to run up billable hours.
/r/askMRP02/07/18 01:44 AM
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Ask your lawyer about a private investigator or provide proof of the affair. This could allow you to file an at-fault divorce, which means that she gets no alimony and you don't have to wait the full year of separation. At this point, move in secret and let the lawyers and courts do the talking. Like a boxer, you don't want to telegraph your moves. Depending upon where you live in the state, see if you can file a restraining order to prevent her from taking the kids across state lines (Ask your …
/r/askMRP01/07/18 10:02 PM
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I was in a similar position as you not too long ago, so here are some bits of wisdom and advice: 1) Is she a drag on your life? If she brings no value to your life, what is the point in staying married? If she's never coming back and is intent on stealing your kid from you, what is the difference if you stay married and faithful to her or not? 2) Unfuck yourself, now! It's a long process and even I'm nowhere close to where I want to be, but it helps to take it a bite at a time: living situation …
/r/askMRP01/07/18 09:53 PM
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Better yet, contact multiple lawyers so she has a smaller pool to draw from when she decides she wants to walk away.
/r/askMRP01/07/18 09:12 PM
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Sounds like she's got some serious issues the likes of which you can't fix and it seems that she can't either. I'm not a shrink so I'm not gonna give you a diagnosis but these are enough red flags that you need to cut and run. If she's truly depressed, you can't fix that! If she has BPD or is Bipolar, you can't fix that! Also, if her mother and family are fucked up, that will bleed its way into your relationship. In order to make marriage work, you need to have supportive families and communitie…
/r/askMRP01/07/18 07:02 PM
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Oh boy, you sound a lot like me with my ex. She was cool to be around, before the marriage, and the sex was good, before the marriage, and sometimes she cooked and cleaned, before the marriage, and then we got married and it all went to shit. She will continue to not clean and then get pissed off at you when you tell her that you don't like it. If she's like my ex, she'll resent the fact that you make her act like a grown-up and then make you the bad guy in her head. Until you can set boundaries…
/r/askMRP16/06/18 02:22 AM
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I had a Marine buddy who used to say: "You gotta cross into the blue to get the pink."
/r/MensRights25/04/18 03:04 PM
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What if the man is drunk and the girl is sober?
/r/MensRights02/03/18 03:43 PM
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Good advice. For any of the military bubba's on the board, make sure you read up on your Service's regulations regarding spousal support. I might have gone along with the no lawyers plan, but my STBX's opening salvo was to use JAG to go after half my pay and benefits. That shit would have left me destitute so I lawyered up and put a child support plan in motion and drew up a separation agreement that allowed my CO to tall her to pack sand. Really, the key is to avoid being vindictive. You want e…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/18 11:51 PM
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Deep down they're cultural (or literal) communists just like Antifa. And as we all know, communism is a totalitarian ideology.
/r/MensRights11/01/18 02:38 PM
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This is an interesting perspective. To carry it to it's conclusion, with the declining birthrates in Western Europe due to the Feminist agenda and birth control, we can easily assume there are fewer mothers. Therefore, these single women are less inclined to remain loyal. Therefore, they run off to become the wives of ISIS and "blanda up" with Muslim rapefugees. To go off on a bit of a tangent, this is why we need trad-thots. Do they espouse original ideas? No. Will they fight to the death to de…
/r/TheRedPill09/01/18 04:07 AM
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What I found odd was that I needed to make the approach. I've never been in a club where the dancers didn't swarm me the minute I sat down. A month ago, I would have just pouted and left the club. Approaching the dancers definitely affected the quality of service I received, based upon the few other dudes I saw later in the night who were having way less fun than I was.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/17 02:06 PM
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8th OYS: Took a break for a couple of weeks as I really worked through and tried to internalize NMMNG, WISNIFG, and MMSL. I keep thinking over and over about what the over-arching lessons are here with MRP and how to apply that in all aspects of my life and I think it's this: be honest. Be honest with yourself, your family, your friends, and everyone around you. I have a deep-seated loathing of buzzwords and acronymns from my time in the military and have been trying to translate as much of what…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/11/17 07:36 PM
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While I've toyed with red pill for over a year, I've only really taken it seriously for the last 3-4 months after my wife walked out and I, too, have had that fear that I'm really operating under a super-secret-double-probation covert contract. I'm glad I'm not the only one as I think this is a natural progression sort of like a philosopher questioning whether he is really perceiving reality or a figment of his imagination. I think, and this is speculation, that eventually you get to a point whe…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/11/17 10:27 AM
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Sounds like she's checked out of the relationship. Has she made any big financial moves, opened new accounts, or gotten really interested in the family finances lately? If she's not already done so, she may be planning her exit and life without you.
/r/askMRP23/11/17 08:19 AM
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Where does "hairy bag" come from? Have never heard that before. Is it Royal Navy slang?
/r/askMRP17/11/17 01:12 PM
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If you're worried about the Navy finding out, try going the Fleet & Family route. They don't report anything to the Navy unless you're planning to kill yourself or others. Having someone to talk to who's in the same room as you can be a huge benefit. Also, if you absolutely DO NOT want to the Navy to find out what's going on in your head, talk to Chaps. The Chaplain is the only person who has fully-inviolable confidentiality no matter what.
/r/askMRP17/11/17 01:07 PM
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Shipmate, I'm in a similar position and completely understand how you feel. If you have it available, check in with mental health and Fleet & Family to take full advantage of their counseling services. It seriously helps with working through this shit. As you already know, being fat body ain't good in any way. So hit the gym and use deployment to get shredded. If you're underway, stay away from the auto-dog, hard pack, and gedunk.
/r/askMRP15/11/17 01:59 PM
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This a concept I'm having trouble reconciling with. At one point we all saw value in our wives, and our wives saw value in us. I can accept that it's my fault that my wife and marriage is shit, but I have a hard time accepting that if it's all my fault, I can hardly place blame upon my wife for acting in a way that I conditioned her to act. I guess the question is: At what point do we stop blaming ourselves and start sharing blame with our wives?
/r/askMRP12/11/17 07:49 PM
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I've noticed this as well. I'm starting to realize I've made a covert contract only after I make it. I notice my increasing emotional agitation, and ask myself why, and then I see the contract I made. I assume this is only the first step. Eventually, you detect the covert contract as you're making it, and then you cease making covert contracts at all.
/r/askMRP05/11/17 05:32 PM
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You starting counting on your toes, too.
/r/askMRP05/11/17 05:29 PM
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Already doing that with my lawyer.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 08:35 PM
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7th OYS, took a couple weeks off due to work. Goals: Get back to having a 36 inch waist and walking-around weight of 215. Find a more fulfilling career, transition back to the civilian world and Reserves. Get more involved with Freemasonry, get my advanced open water cert, be able to pick up and play any guitar decently. Get out of my wife's frame. Build/maintain a deep connection with my daughter even though she's 6000 miles away. Sort out my sleeping issues and depression. Reading: Just about …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/11/17 07:49 PM
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Thanks
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/17 05:55 AM
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How do I document how I've contributed to my child's well-being if my wife left the home and toollk my kid? How best to do it if I'm deployed overseas?
/r/MarriedRedPill30/10/17 09:55 PM
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All numbers are 5x5. I've always been really damn strong, so really, I won't count it as progress until I'm back to squatting and deadlifting 350 and benching 300.
/r/askMRP27/10/17 03:56 AM
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I'm thinking that might be the best plan. Coming up with meaningful ways to connect with my daughter while half a world away has been part of my MAP. She's my top priority after myself.
/r/askMRP26/10/17 09:37 PM
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Kid's mine, no doubt about it. I was still alpha when we conceived her. But you're right, unless she cooperates, I'm stuck in limbo as I can't take any sort of legal action without opening myself to horrible liabilities (e.g. I lose my right to be present at legal proceedings). The funny part is, any benefits she's entitled to from me, I'm entitled to from her since she's a veteran as well.
/r/askMRP26/10/17 08:42 PM
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She left, took the kid, and is now a pain in my ass. I'd have ghosted her already if I had the kid.
/r/askMRP26/10/17 08:23 PM
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Thanks, dude. Just do it.
/r/askMRP26/10/17 08:18 PM
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We've got a 2 year old daughter and my wife is 30 and I'm 29 and I'm fine with killing the puppy. The only reason I'm expending any energy is she won't respond to me or my attorney and is doing her best to make it difficult to talk to my daughter (I'm overseas and she's back home in the US). Also, I want her to cooperate with the legal process for the divorce, otherwise what should be an easy divorce will become a long, drawn-out legal nightmare. She's so far refused to sign separation agreement…
/r/askMRP26/10/17 08:17 PM
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Wife and I are NOT living together currently. We lived apart initially. She later moved in once she left the military and moved out again a few months ago. The LDR and early marriage were not ideal and were not out first plan. I guess what I mean by adjusting the dread levels is how do I apply dread to a wife that's AWOL and how best to overcome the part of my brain telling me not to cheat on her? What about my lifts is not making sense? My lower body and leg strength have always outpaced my upp…
/r/askMRP26/10/17 08:08 PM
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Dude, just look at men like Harvey Weinstein. Everyone knew what his game was, and even though he's not a good looking dude, the money and power allowed him to fuck whoever he wanted.
/r/TheRedPill19/10/17 12:01 PM
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So you're saying we're more like the Jesuits or Benedictines?
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/17 07:45 PM
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Off-topic but I used to love reading Esquire magazine. It had great advice for looking and feeling your best and had interesting articles about things men would find interesting. I don't know how or why it was overtaken by SJW Feminists, but it's such a shame.
/r/becomeaman18/10/17 03:18 PM
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If you don't mind me asking, what was your response?
/r/askMRP18/10/17 11:15 AM
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So what's the difference between your bullshit boundary of no emojis and your real boundary of no cheating? Why would you confuse her like that? Why would you affect your frame by establishing bullshit boundaries that you'll cave on? What happens when she pushes through your bullshit boundaries and starts breaking your real boundaries?
/r/askMRP17/10/17 04:00 PM
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So, if it's a test, and you don't care, why are you concerned if she violates this thing you don't care about? What happens when you set actual boundaries that you really give a shit about? What if instead of an emoji it was her choking on his cock? Would you care then?
/r/askMRP17/10/17 10:44 AM
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My worry is that my frame is so shit that I'll fold and end up getting sucked right into any woman's frame I try to game. But you're right, I've got a mental block that needs getting over. Also, I'm currently stationed overseas and my language skills aren't the best with the locals, which adds to the awkwardness.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/17 12:21 PM
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You're right. I went super rambo on her, lacked OI, lacked abundance mentality, and my frame was absolute shit. Hell I even stopped any kind of kino towards the end because I was so butthurt. I've since torched my shit frame and am rebuilding it. I'm nowhere near ready to start gaming other women yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/17 10:11 PM
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6th OYS Goals: Get back to having a 36 inch waist and walking-around weight of 215. Find a more fulfilling career, transition back to the civilian world and Reserves. Get more involved with Freemasonry, get my advanced open water cert, be able to pick up and play any guitar decently. Get over my failed marriage and out of my wife's frame. Build/maintain a deep connection with my daughter even though she's 6000 miles away. Sort out my sleeping issues and depression. Reading: On Chapter 13 of MMSL…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/10/17 06:49 AM
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I think the communication techniques in NMMNG and WISNIFG are best implemented as soon as you finish the books. Running active dread and removing your presence is probably a terrible idea, though.
/r/askMRP10/10/17 09:13 AM
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I like ice cream and chocolate. I've found that I can control my consumption of both by buying the individually-wrapped chocolates and ice cream bars. When I feel like indulging, I have one, and it scratches my itch and I move on. Diets, cheat days, etc. are all bullshit because they're simply ways of punishing yourself to fix the symptom and not the underlying problem, which is the way you approach food, exercise, and your health.
/r/askMRP08/10/17 09:08 AM
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You're right. It's comments like yours that remind me just how far I still have to go to get out of her frame and rebuild my own.
/r/MarriedRedPill07/10/17 03:43 PM
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Fifth OYS Goals: Get back to having a 36 inch waist and walking-around weight of 215. Find a more fulfilling career, transition back to the civilian world and Reserves. Get more involved with Freemasonry, get my advanced open water cert, be able to pick up and play any guitar decently. Get over my failed marriage and out of my wife's frame. Build/maintain a deep connection with my daughter even though she's 6000 miles away. Sort out my sleeping issues and depression. Reading: Through the first q…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/17 07:27 PM
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Bro, do you even sidebar? You just proved him right with your comment.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 11:40 AM
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How do you vet therapists/counselors? Looking back, I've fucked this up in the past when I made my wife go to a shrink and it only made her see me as the bad guy and blame me for all of her problems.
/r/askMRP03/10/17 11:17 AM
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I'm right there with you. Reading it, I realized just how much I self-edited my speech and how much I let others' opinions of me and my ideas affect me. Fogging, negative assertion, and negative inquiry were game changers.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 09:36 PM
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Exactly why the order to read the books in should be WISNIFG first and then NMMNG.
/r/askMRP29/09/17 09:24 PM
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Fourth OYS Goals: Get back to having a 36 inch waist and walking-around weight of 215. Find a more fulfilling career, transition back to the civilian world and Reserves. Get more involved with Freemasonry, get my advanced open water cert, be able to pick up and play any guitar decently. Get over my failed marriage and out of my wife's frame. Build/maintain a deep connection with my daughter even though she's 6000 miles away. Sort out my sleeping issues and depression. Reading: Through the first …
/r/MarriedRedPill27/09/17 06:32 PM
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Have you contacted the cell phone company to see if they can provide you with transcripts and the types of files being transmitted? They could probably do this for you with relative ease. I have access to all call, voice, and data records through my cell phone company.
/r/askMRP27/09/17 10:29 AM
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Look up a book called Buddha in Blue Jeans. Very simple and easy. It's the perfect starting point to mindfulness and meditation.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/17 08:24 AM
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Bro, I've lived through/am unplugging from a similar situation. Here's the plan: Read the damn TTPs: When I Say No I Feel Guilty and then read No More Mister Nice Guy. You need to know how to communicate before you start completely unplugging (the exercises in NMMNG). Head over to MWR and get a trainer at the base gym; bonus points if she's hot. Tell her you've never lifted before and start at the basic powerlifting movements. Show her the Strong Lifts 5x5 program and use that. Tell your PCM tha…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/09/17 08:17 AM
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So does this just mean that when you are physically present you pay attention to what she says and provide the comfort/good feelz she needs? How do you provide the same when you are NOT physically present?
/r/askMRP22/09/17 11:04 AM
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OP, this is great advice, dude. I was butt-hurt and rambo'd my wife super hard because I wouldn't take the time to do some self-introspection and work on my own anger issues and fear of rejection. This is why the red pill tastes so bitter: It points out ALL of your flaws and challenges you to fix them. I pushed my wife away hard for like 6-8 months, and eventually she left to move back in with her folks. You gotta confront yourself, bro. Then and only then can you start making progress with your…
/r/askMRP22/09/17 09:46 AM
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This morning another shit test about our sons birthday, I wanted to invite my uncle and cousin. She said she doesn't want to see my aunty in a snarky voice. I said " you don't have to be there" She stormed out and left for work. Yes it sounds a bit nasty, but my wife will find issues with most people, and I am getting sick and tired of losing family, and friends because of her. I'm working on Dread Level 1 and trying to recognize shit tests and comfort tests. What would be the appropriate respon…
/r/askMRP22/09/17 09:38 AM
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Third OYS Why I'm Here: I'm unhappy with my life and the direction that it's taken. I want to get back to the awesome dude I was back when I graduated college. I owned my shit and did cool things and generally charted my own course. Captain of my fate, master of my destiny type of shit. I NEED to kill my ego and stop being defensive when I get criticized and throwing pity-parties when life kicks me in the nuts. My marriage is failing/has failed and it's because I let it happen. Reading: Through …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/17 06:24 PM
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I second your take on NMMNG. It feeds directly into the anger that a lot of guys just unplugging are experiencing. I think ideally, WISNIFG and MMSLP should come before NMMNG. If I hard read both of those prior to NMMNG I don't think I would have been tempted to rambo so hard.
/r/askMRP15/09/17 09:47 PM
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Is there a good cheat sheet for Rollo? I've tried reading Rational Male, and I know he's right, but I'm having trouble grasping exactly why. It's like he's talking about theoretical particle physics and I'm still working on understanding Newtonian mechanics.
/r/askMRP15/09/17 08:17 AM
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If you don't mind talking about it, how did you walk back from the brink of divorce? My situation looks like yours: little to no self-introspection, all anger and no action, and just general controlling, assholish behavior.
/r/askMRP15/09/17 08:04 AM
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Second OYS Why I'm Here: I'm unhappy with my life and the direction that it's taken. I want to get back to the awesome dude I was back when I graduated college. I owned my shit and did cool things and generally charted my own course. Captain of my fate, master of my destiny type of shit. I NEED to kill my ego and stop being defensive when I get criticized and throwing pity-parties when life kicks me in the nuts. My marriage is failing/has failed and it's because I let it happen. Reading: Finishe…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/17 07:36 PM
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This brings up an interesting question, can we ever really truly be free from ALL of our delusions/blue pill rationalizations? I don't think we can because they drive our wants and desires and make up parts of our personalities. Really, as I force down the red pill, and our rather clinical explanations of interpersonal behavior, I'm left wondering how much of our personalities and individual traits affect how we act and how our women act. I believe that they play a larger role than we admit or p…
/r/askMRP14/09/17 10:57 AM
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Thanks. I guess it's like the old adage says: all things in moderation.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 02:39 PM
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So if your woman has self-esteem issues and needs a lot more reinforcement, is it better to remain overt or try to have covert signals (more time spent together, buy flowers, etc.)?
/r/MarriedRedPill13/09/17 03:18 AM
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Dude, British sailors become incomprehensible when drunk. Oddly enough, the Scottish and Welsh dudes with the thickest accents were completely understandable.
/r/askMRP13/09/17 02:51 AM
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First OYS post since I got my ass roasted in AskMRP. For all the guys who responded to my post, I really appreciate your help and advice. Why I'm Here: I'm unhappy with my life and the direction that it's taken. I want to get back to the awesome dude I was back when I graduated college. I owned my shit and did cool things and generally charted my own course. Captain of my fate, master of my destiny type of shit. I NEED to kill my ego and stop being defensive when I get criticized and throwing pi…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/09/17 10:58 AM
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"I've come to the conclusion that 90%+ posts here are all about someone whining because they honestly, really, deep down inside in a place they don't talk about at parties, do not want to actually DO all this work AND put in all the TIME it takes to be successful." This right here is what made me the angriest and the most depressed. Still does but it's becoming less and less as I progress through the sidebar. This is what made me go full rambo on my wife. This is what made my hamster go nuts as …
/r/askMRP04/09/17 06:04 PM
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How old were you when you joined? Based on your post, I would assume you to be enlisted and would also assume you to be about mid-career, but I could be wrong. I was 23, commissioned through OCS. I've been in 6 years. Why this chick? I know how it is around military bases. Their either taken or wanna-be dependapotumuses with very little in between and even less quality. So, what was it that drew you to this particular woman? What drew her to you? How long did you date before you either decided t…
/r/askMRP03/09/17 12:44 PM
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Thank you for the detailed reply. I really appreciate it.
/r/askMRP03/09/17 04:36 AM
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She wanted a powerful man, so she got him to be powerful with her. She wanted money, so she used her submission to win them the bet. In the end, she appears tame, but it's all just an act to get what she wants - and if he starts to slip, ceasing to be what she wants, then she'll destroy him like the shrew she never stopped being - the side of her she merely controlled to her strategic advantage. Isn't this hypergamy in action? I feel like your professor intuitively understood women's nature and …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/17 12:54 AM
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My bad; I misunderstood what you were looking for.
/r/askMRP30/05/17 11:17 PM
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Read No More Mr Nice Guy and When I Say No I Feel Guilty. Then start digging into the rest of the sidebar.
/r/askMRP30/05/17 10:14 PM
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As the great poet J. Cole once said "Don't save her, she don't want to be saved."
/r/MensRights31/03/17 07:06 AM
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Try doing some research for your state. I did some googling and was able to get a ballpark figure. For instance, in the state of NC, it'll cost about $30k.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 04:31 PM
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New to RP, under 30, married for 2.5 years, with a 2 year old daughter. We lived apart due to my job for the 1st-year-and-a-half of our marriage and then I took an overseas assignment right after we moved in together. To say it's been difficult is an understatement. I've been aware of RP for a few years but I always thought my special snowflake was different. . . and now I understand AWALT. I am in the early stages of RP: I am finishing up NMMNG and will start WISSIFG in the next couple of days.…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/03/17 07:28 AM
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They also take a different test which is brutal and I don't foresee women passing that test. It's a 500m swim followed by push-ups, sit-ups, pull-ups, and then a 1.5 mile run, all within 30-45 minutes.
/r/MensRights31/05/15 03:16 AM
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