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GLOBAL RESISTANCESaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 12:55 AM
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QUEEN SH*TSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:23 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:32 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!Saturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/07/20 10:40 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 02:03 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:31 PM
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STRATEGYSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 05:01 PM
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RANTSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 03:50 AM
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REMINDER 👑Saturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 02:11 PM
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MALE DEPRAVITYSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:13 PM
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PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAMESaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:35 AM
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FDS SUCCESS!Saturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 12:14 PM
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ROAST-A-SCROTESaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 07:27 PM
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QUEEN SH*TSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 08:30 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 11:15 PM
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CULTURAL MISOGYNYSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 10:28 PM
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LEVEL UPSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:12 PM
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QUEEN SH*TSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 11:04 PM
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QUEEN SH*TSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 10:35 PM
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LIES MEN TELLSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 11:52 PM
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DISCUSSIONSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:44 AM
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LEVEL UPSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 03:51 PM
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PORN SICK, LIMP DICKSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 11:45 PM
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FDS SUCCESS!Saturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:52 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTESaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 10:28 PM
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DISCUSSIONSaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 01:00 PM
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SEEKING ADVICESaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:35 PM
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SEEKING ADVICESaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 01:15 PM
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GLOBAL RESISTANCESaturnsloverr/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 08:57 PM
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The worst part is we can't even get the validation of calling it rape because we said yes. And I'm so sorry that happened to you :(((
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 10:43 PM
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Honestly I did this one and it felt like rape. I clearly was not into it but said go ahead and he did. I guess I actually did it as more of a test to see if he would do it. He knew he would be using my body even if I said yes. He said he tried to finish faster since I wasn't enjoying it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:53 PM
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Gail dines!!! She's an amazing anti porn activist! Also maybe you could interview some ex prostitutes/porn stars etc to show it isn't all money and glamor but actual rape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 09:24 PM
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Lol are you me? This guy said the exact same thing me to me. "Sorry if that was awkward, you were just so hot"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:25 PM
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Wow this perfectly explains what happened to me. My ex boyfriend groomed me and assualted me. I didn't realize it was assault until months later and he said stuff like I'm your boyfriend so I couldn't rape you which didn't help. But after it happened I got so depressed and started self harming and dropped out of colllege (I'm back now). I thought it was college that was making me so depressed but now without him I actually enjoy it. I did frequently feel anger and hate toward him and wanted to c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 02:16 PM
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Thank you for writing this!! My ex boyfriend was 25 and I was 18. I would always say yes but mean no. I was clearly in pain and uncomfortable the whole time and he knew it but because I said yes he didn't stop.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 12:59 PM
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Thank you!!! I'm over all the trauma now. I just need to the clarity even though I know it's rare to get.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 12:03 AM
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...sex would never end then lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 11:52 AM
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What would you say about this situation? If you say yes but it's very obvious you're not into it and are actually in pain This was basically my entire relationship. I don't want to call it rape because I said yes but at the same time I was very obviously not into it and hurting and he would continue. Edit: Also he was 26 and I was 18.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:13 PM
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I totally understand you! I've never been catcalled by a white guy, only by black guys. I just don't understand it. One day I catcalled three times in a row by three different black men. Also I'm half south African with white skin. So I look ethnically "exotic" but not black.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:01 AM
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Amazing! How did you learn so many languages?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:59 PM
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I understand the premise, but I wouldn't want to date the kind of guy who only does these things to get a girl. I would want him to have his own internal aspirations and motivations to succeed not do it to impress me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 07:16 PM
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Your kids should have your last name. You're the one who carried them for 9 months and went through a traumatic birth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:26 PM
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Girls are outperforming boys in school, college, workforce, etc. Hopefully that will help to increase women in leadership positions. I do think porn will be the biggest unspoken problem my generation faces. If we can't ban it, it will rot our generation from the inside out affecting girls as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 12:24 PM
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I used to live in Japan and the men dressed so much better than they do here. I'm talking like business suits everyday. They were also so much more attractive because of the healthy diet and all the walking, they had great physiques. And their skin was incredible! Asian counties in general are much more respectful. (I know all the problems with porn, etc, but I was there for 7 years so I know want I'm talking about) This one man walked two miles to help my family find the US embassy and my mom l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 06:17 PM
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I've got scars on my arm from a past absuive relationship...how should I handle this if I choose to date? (Right now I've got no desire whatsoever to, but I may in the future)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 02:39 PM
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Yeah I did the same before I knew how bad porn was. It's honestly so traumatizing to even see the titles. I highly recommend gale dines. She's got an amazing lecture on YouTube that really opened my eyes to how terrible porn is. And the men would never do that :( not when they're the ones getting off to the girls in tears from being gagged and choked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 06:11 PM
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Porn is way worse now. On the front page: Barely legal Stepsister/ father or brother Incest Bdsm Choking Hitting Rape fantasies Rough anal I don't want to traumatize you but it's important to be aware unfortunately :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:43 PM
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Ummm...report them!!! This is the one time I'll say to reverse the genders. If this was a girl you would have called the police or told management. This is rape and he doesn't deserve this. Please report them! Edit: I just realized it was a couple of years ago..okay well I still hope you reported them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:09 PM
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"Porn tells lies about women, but the truth about men" It's men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 04:56 PM
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Yeah exactly, I would even say 99% since that's exactly how many men watch porn and porn automatically = low value
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/09/20 08:43 PM
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u/ThrowRA-Wife Come here!! NTA NTA NTA! He didn't want to grow up and take responsibility that he had a child on the way. You did everything you could! He's an immature, selfish, terrible expectant father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 08:22 PM
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I updated my comment with the link :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:28 PM
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I actually updated my comment with the link since my messages are being weird haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:27 PM
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That's so weird..I guess my messages aren't working haha I'll try private messaging you! Edit: do you have your messages turned off?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 10:19 PM
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I messaged you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 09:52 PM
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Just messaged you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:57 PM
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Hey, I actually created a radfem website. I can message the link to anyone who wants it :) Edit: here's the link :) radfem website
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 07:44 PM
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Writing a letter is a great idea! Something I did was create a Google docs and write in it everytime I wanted to text him. This went on for weeks, but eventually the urge went away. You can also "trick" your brain by being like well since it's all here I can send it to him whenever I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 05:14 PM
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My dad is a narssistic nvm but when a pitbull charged at us, he scared it off. This video brought me to tears. The poor girl crying daddy and running and he's not doing anything :(((
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 12:41 AM
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My ex boyfriend did this with my profile picture. I was 17 in it and he was 25.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 02:46 PM
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Thank you for this! It's hard to accept that it's rape as I consented and initiated occasionly. It was extremely obvious that I was in pain and wasn't enjoying it the whole time though. I think it also verged on me using sex as another form of self harm though. And thank you!! I always felt extremely guilty as I know from the outside my actions would have been deemed abusive and I believed I was the case of the downfall of the relationship. I think it's because the assualt was a huge trauma for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/20 12:26 AM
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Wow she is amazing!! I wish more people knew about her. I only just learned this today. History class is misogyistic :|
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 03:07 PM
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Hi I'm 19 and I've been trading for a while. I've grown my account 30% so far. I mostly trade gappers. If that's in line with what you're doing it would be fun!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 12:25 PM
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They have less testosterone because they're watching porn all the time now haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:49 AM
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Yeah it's like women sing songs for men and men sing songs for men but no one does anything for women :| Edit: thanks for the suggestions but I mean mainstream popular music is mostly for men. Of course there are except but they are the 1%
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 11:22 AM
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This should definitely be in the handbook!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:52 AM
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I love president Obama and I think he's a hvm. He was in love with this woman before though who he had to break up with because she was white. He wanted to go into politics and believed he couldn't it wouldn't work if she was white. So he basically choose his career over her. I'm glad he met Michelle though. She's amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/20 01:47 AM
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That's terrible :( you should show her fds to help her get some confidence!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:36 PM
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I think that's a really good point about the girls never having been with their type. My ex boyfriend was abusive, but I was lucky enough that he was 6ft and had abs. I gave a couple of "dad bod" guys a chance and I was so turned off the whole time. The best sex I had was with a physical trainer so I'm never going back haha I also think society shames women into not having standards. We're expected to look like pornstars, but aren't allowed to want a 6ft model boyfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:35 PM
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Yeah I think people were missing the point of this point. I know society was terrible for women back then, but it was just nice to see men actually wearing suits. Guys nowadays just look terrible with their athlete wear, bald heads, and ungroomed beards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:32 PM
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That's intresting! Their causal is still way better than ours though haha My ex boyfriend used to consider a button down short as formal :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:30 PM
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Thanks for the suggestion! It sounds interesting!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 09:29 PM
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I've heard that as well and I think it's true. However, it's a way for them to deal with rape/assault trauma and they've been groomed by society to think it's alright. They need therapy :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 12:18 PM
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Honestly I agree. It's kind of like the whole libfem thing where girls think owning derogatory words makes it better. (I'm half south African also) She can talk how she wants though, but in my opinion you didn't Gaslight her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 02:26 AM
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Yeah I think it would be impossible to find someone who has had no casual sex and the reasons like you said do matter. Personally, I think more than 3 hookups is too much as they should realize it's not fulfilling. I could understand a fwb arrangement as long as it was equal (which is rare)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:59 AM
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Yeah I understand! I was meaning it in kind of a generalized way like being toned/healthy not a body builder physique.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:50 AM
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I definitely understand that don't worry! This isn't really about their character. I've just never seen men actually care about their appearance or seen so many in suits before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:50 AM
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I hope this is allowed! It's pretty shocking to me honestly because I'm used to t-shirt, sweatpants, and flannel guys. Men used to care about their looks :0
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 01:44 AM
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Yeah I don't understand it either. And what's up with all the girls who say they like them?! Who would choose that over abs?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 10:50 PM
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Tell her parents or call the police. Seriously! He's a pedophile. She will hate you but understand later. Just imagine how many other girls he will do it to. I'm only 19 but I was groomed by a guy 7 years older. Now I feel so disgusting and traumatized by it. He assaulted me and wanted me to do weird porn things like ddlg. Please get her out of this. Let her read these stories.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 08:03 PM
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I agree that most men see it as okay and OLD has really exacerbated the problem, but at the same time 99% of men are lv, not hv. So I guess I'm asking wouldn't a hvm not have causal sex? He should instead want a loving relationship. By having casual sex, he immediately become lv and we shouldn't want him. I understand doing it a couple of times but when it's a pattern, there's no way he can be hv right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:21 PM
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I mean if they're hv I would think they wouldn't. This is the point of OPs post. If they treat women like ONS then they're not high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:14 PM
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The biggest revenge is not caring so NC is a great start! Hate/love are passion. Indifference is the greatest insult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:10 PM
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I didn't have a boyfriend until I was 17. It's normal I guess but most of my friends dated around 13... The first guy I dated groomed and assaulted me. The second guy assaulted me. The third...best sex I ever had but he never made me cum (says everything about the other guys abilities before haha). The fourth, a sugar daddy 20 years older than me. The fifth, I really liked, even loved. He was an ivy league med student. After we had sex, stopped talking to me. He's the hardest to get over. I stil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:08 PM
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That was actually a really interesting video to watch. He took a piece of beer glass and made it into a ring. It's cute as a gift but definitely not for a proposal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 12:00 PM
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Do you really think even a hvm would have tons of casual sex? :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/20 11:56 AM
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Those are the ones where it's really hard for me to know what to think. If it's so young, it's basically sexual abuse so you can't blame them and then it turns into an addiction. Men who start at 18+ should really know it's wrong, but when you start so young it's impossible to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:25 PM
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He is so amazing but it breaks my heart because all those girls look younger than 13 :((
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:19 PM
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Wow I'm so sorry! Your messages were so sweet and understanding and his are just full of abuse. I don't understand how easily men can be so rude and violent to another human being.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 10:57 PM
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Yes!! I vote you get a cat! Cats >>>>> men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 10:36 PM
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Yeah I was going to say this as well. It sounds like the trauma was sexual and he took advantage of her vulnerability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:57 PM
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I second this except I have 3 cats! I'm never lonley :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 08:49 PM
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I'm really sorry but you were coerced. The same thing happened to me and I spend a lot of time wondering if it was assault or not. It is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:06 PM
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Yeah that's what I was thinking too. Fds isn't just the man does everything. It's about both genders being high value. And this is just either really lv or lack of interest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 04:04 PM
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Hahaha I have way too many pictures of my cats. I take like 10 a day..it's an addiction
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 08:34 PM
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Haha good point! Sometimes it's hard to know where to draw the line with all the fds rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:26 AM
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I'm really curious what the fds opinion is on this position. It's pretty degrading but also kind of a standard one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/20 03:17 AM
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I feel the same way! So many of these posts are down voted for responding or acting in a pickme but they really help me identify red flags better!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 04:41 PM
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Hey at least you learned from your mistakes! That's incredibly high value in my option. | "One true tell to me. Is if a man is kind to strangers and his family, he will be kind to ya ass well. " I actually have to disagree with this. I think a guy can be kind in public and abusive in private. Lundy bancroft talks about this a lot in his book. But the argument thing is so true! My abusive ex boyfriend had to be right in every single one. He would make these crazy irrational arguments and I would …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:46 AM
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Why is it always guys in trucks?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:40 AM
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Yeah definitely! This would be for a more established relationship or a newly committed one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:40 AM
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I think it's a case by case basic like if it's just now comvient to take an Uber. If I had the money I would just do that all the time because I'm really scared when I drive haha However, it shouldn't mean all the driving falls on you. If he expects that, he's just entitled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:39 AM
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Really? That's pretty odd. I don't know what to make of that. I still wouldn't say he's high value though because a high value person would care about the passenger and other car's safety. I would be curious to see what other's say though. I heard once on here that one low value trait is low value overall not high value with a bad characteristic though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:37 AM
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I'm sorry :(( Definitely try to avoid driving with him again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:29 AM
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Must be nice :((( I'm kidding though haha you're very lucky. It's really important for parents to be good examples when driving!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:29 AM
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Yeah he's always driven dangerously. I can't avoid driving with him sometimes though :( Wow that is scary! Definitely test a guy's patience before driving with him like arrive early for a movie or something. I think that could help a bit to see if he has the potential for road rage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:28 AM
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Hahaha I think that's almost red flag in itself. Most likely expect you to do all the driving. There are situations where it's understandable. A hvm would always take an Uber or something though. One guy I saw for a bit was in that situation and took ubers a couple of times, but then started complaining and making me drive even though he knew I wasn't comfortable going on the interstate. Super low value. He was constantly pushing my boundaries.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 03:26 AM
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It's not perfect obviously but it's pretty accurate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/20 06:16 PM
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I think it's better to explain why it's bad then force it because that could cause the opposite effect. Also I know you said it's not possible to leave but as soon as it is I highly suggest you do. No matter how good your parenting is, the example set by your lv husband will influence your son.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 09:06 PM
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Gail dines has a section on her website about raising kids without porn. It could help
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:09 PM
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Yeah ever since I discovered fds I've been doing that! If something seems off I call it out, they start falling over their words trying to rationalize it haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 10:02 PM
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Yep :( but worth it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/08/20 01:46 AM
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I think to just follow the handbook and not say anything about your past history. Take it very slowly. 4+ months. He should prove himself to be high value up until then (no evidence of porn or abuse). I think it's important to say in your case that you are a virgin but only when you're ready to have sex, but by that point you'll know if he'll be creepy or if he's just looking for sex. This is just an idea. Maybe other advice will be better but definitely wait a couple of months to say that you a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 08:14 PM
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Leave now without any explanation. He's starting to become abusive. The most dangerous time for a woman is when she's breaking up with a guy. If he knows where you live get a friend to stay with you for a while or go visit your parents.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/20 12:19 PM
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It's alright! I'm going to try to go back part time...I can only take lvm in low doses haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 05:35 PM
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I feel like that as well. I never wanted to have sex with my ex boyfriend, but I felt I had to because he would give me oral. It never felt good and hurt every time. It's like imposter syndrome where you know you consented but it feels like rape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:05 PM
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I'm 19 and I had to drop out due to depression from my abusive ex boyfriend. When I was there though I absolutely hated it. The guys were terrible and so rude. I also got assaulted by a guy who goes there so I'm scared to go back in case I see him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 02:01 PM
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Honestly it's so scary because high schoolers listen to her. I'm all for she can do what she wants but at the same time she has a level of responsibility (all singers do) since her age group is younger. Music is literally grooming these kids to act in porn ways.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 01:59 PM
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He was probably thinking of them too :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 03:40 AM
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Yep haha just disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 03:38 AM
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Fixed it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 12:29 AM
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That's really smart actually but I think this is because I've made a lot of posts in the trading community.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 12:26 AM
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Thanks, but I use private message to help other traders so I'll just have to live with these messages haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 12:23 AM
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I'm 19 and I was going to have sex with this guy (pre fds) and he couldn't get it up haha. He was 19 as well. I asked him later if he watched porn and he said he watches a ton of it. I was actually so grateful to porn at that moment because he was disgusting and I did not want him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 03:29 AM
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Yeah I'm in the same position with my mom actually. My dad is a narssistist and incredibly low value so seeing that as well as reading fds has helped me to have higher than the sky standard haha It definitely is sad at only 16 to mistrust men so much but it's a lie that ignorance is bliss. Ignorance gets you raped and abused :( I really hope she stays this way! She sounds amazing and so secure with herself which is honestly incredible since high school is terrible for self esteem. You should int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 01:33 AM
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That's the idea :) I hope it saves you from the hordes of lvm I used to play piano but my mine broke so I had to stop. I know how hard it is though so that is quite an accomplishment :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:59 AM
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Wow you are amazing! I'm so impressed at how accomplished everyone here is. I've never ever seen a community uplift, inspire, and motivate their members as much as this one does!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/20 12:57 AM
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Your daughters is amazing! May I ask how you raised her to have fds principles? I'm only 19 now but I really want kids. I'm scared they'll grow up to be lv due to peer pressure though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 12:59 PM
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Ummn you're a model and you're writing comedy?! You're amazing!! :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/20 03:30 AM
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Hahahaha yep they deserve only the best! Also I think cats have the attitude we should all have towards men haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:59 PM
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Wow that is amazing! So many people are saddled down with student loans but you payed it all off :0 And I love traveling too :) I've been to 4/7 continents. So in this thread we have a cat mom, plant mom, and dog mom. These men will have to work hard hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:58 PM
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Wow really?! How did they get in? If the answer is probably parent's donated, how does Harvard maintain such a prestigious status if most of the class is stupid? And yeah I was impressed with the Harvard status, but I really liked his personality so that was the hard part. It was when I just discovered fds so I was halfway between pick me and queen haha and ended up having sex with him on the second date...from there he texted me less and less until I finally just said goodbye. It was hard to le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:55 PM
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This is a really good analysis! You should consider putting it in a seperate post because it's pretty helpful and insightful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:50 PM
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I'm really impressed with the renovating! The shows about it are so intresting. I would love to try it, I just need a house first haha Also that is so amazing with the shows! Fds has some really accomplished women! Hahahaha I guess your plants are like my cats :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 11:48 PM
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Yeah her profile was full of porn. She was posting it too. I think it was a girl I didn't check to see haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:30 PM
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All they have to do is yell upstairs (since they're living in their parents basement) :p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:30 PM
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Oh I like that. Maybe we can use brian to get of the misogyistic term Karen. I also had someone message me women watch porn with a study linked. I never said they didn't haha. If they do it's usually lesbian though. And if they watch abuse they've probably been raped. 99% of men watch porn and congress is mostly men so I don't see what they're trying to argue. Look at the studies buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:25 PM
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Really? I've seen some good quality posts but have noticed some lv comments. They did a poll a few days ago showing like 60% men so I guess that would explain why hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 04:23 PM
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Yeah I think so too and a blog is pretty cool. I'm not sure what OP is going for here. He travels, owns properties, doesn't have social media..seems alright.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:46 AM
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I saw your oginial post and I just want to say that you are so strong for doing this. HVM are so rare and you still left him because he didn't fit what you wanted. It's easy to leave an lvm but extremely hard to do this so yeah you are amazing and I hope to be like you one day haha :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 03:43 AM
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Yeah it's so insane that loving intimate sex is seen as boring and violence cool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 02:55 AM
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I thought it was empowering as well, now I'm a huge supporter of the anti porn, etc movement. And I think lots women here were in my situation as well. They were pickmes and kinkmeishas then discovered fds and realized the truth. When everyone else is doing it and you're constantly told from social media, teen magazines, friends, boyfriends it's pretty convincing. Now these girls are being told at 12 and under that they have to be choked to get a boyfriend. It's grooming on a mass scale by the P…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 01:00 AM
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On a post linking a petition to congress to ban porn, someone says this. Unsurprisingly, their profile is full of porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/08/20 12:37 AM
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Gail dines has a section about raising kids on her website. She's an anti porn advocate so I'm not sure it would apply here but it could be helpful to check out :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 06:37 PM
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I used to have it then I quit OLD. There was a good selection at first but I don't think many people use it because by the end it was just repeating the same guys over and over again. I think app idea is the best chance at starting a relationship but it's just not popular enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:17 PM
1

Well I'm really proud of you! It's so hard! I begged my lvm to stay...it was before fds haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/08/20 03:19 AM
1

Yeah listen to us please and leave them!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:18 PM
1

I love that haha. Honestly it would be fun to go on a date with a nvm then just leave in the middle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:18 PM
1

That's amazing :)) I'm really happy for you! And yes, you deserve the world :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:17 PM
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I'm really glad you figured that out! Fds is amazing for teaching you to be confident alone and that you don't need a guy to be happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:15 PM
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Yeah I feel the way. There's always something. He can be perfect in every way except he watches porn. Or he doesn't watch porn but he's abusive. And I'm really happy you got rid of him :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 04:14 PM
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I'm part of it already :) It's so freeing haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:53 PM
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I'm so sorry! You're friends are disgusting. I can't believe they would do that. Until you find real friends again we're here for you :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:52 PM
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Yeah that would be amazing haha. Maybe we'll have a convention one day. You shouldn't have train a man haha. Get a dog instead...They're more fun :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:48 PM
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Wow I am so sorry that happened to you. I can't believe your sad would say that. My dad is NV and I'm sure he has wanted to hit me in the past but he has never joked about it. Well he did joke about being a real man because he treats women badly....what is up with fathers these days haha I'm super happy for you though :) it's hard to do fds in the moment but totally worth it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 09:47 PM
2

Could he be arrested for child porn? They should get police involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 04:18 PM
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Yeah I definitely get that. When I first started reading it I thought it was a little over the top and the rules were restrictive. Then I read the violence of pornography blog and I was disgusted by what men get off to. And for the rules, I had sex on the second date with a guy I really liked and who treated me great. Then he told me it wasn't going to work out. So never again haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:40 PM
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You should! If you have doubts you're probably right and you don't want to start a marriage strong considering leaving him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:38 PM
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You're amazing haha! But seriously you are because it is so difficult to not fall in love with potential, but potential isn't reality. Yeah I can't watch mainstream TV either. The women are treated so terribly. My brother was watching family guy yesterday and Meg is treated horribly. It's awful. And you sound really happy and confident :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:37 PM
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I used to do the paragraphs thing to do. It's emotionally exhausting when you write a while book and he's still like I didn't do anything wrong. Time to write a sequel I guess haha Yeah I think our mothers are especially liable to being pickmes because they were born when women we expected to do everything. I'm at that point as well where being alone is better. It's freeing. You sound very confident in what you want and it sounds like it has changed your life so I'm really happy for you :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:34 PM
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Stopping being jealous was so hard, but then I realized porn used to be embarrassing and shameful. Why should it be any different today? By flaunting their porn addiction, they're just saying I've got nothing better to do and their life is pathetic. And I'm really proud of you for saying no. It's hard because we're expected to say yes to everything so I'm happy for you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:30 PM
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Hahaha yes we're all jealous of you. Women are so much better. Also you're amazing for supporting all of those causes :) And I just want to that I'm really sorry you went through the abuse and I hope you're doing better now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:27 PM
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Discovering it early especially in the time of libfem and mainstream bdsm was so helpful but fds is great for any stage of life. It's never too late to learn! I see things so much clearer now too! It's incredibly powerful to be able to see reality through all the manipulation and gas lighting. It's like the matrix haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:24 PM
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Merci :)) Well I've just started so I only know the basics haha. But once I progress maybe we could actually practice conversations? I don't know anyone else who's learning it. And for resource, I've heard babble is good but you need a subscription.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/08/20 12:21 PM
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He should have made the reservations after you agreed to the date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 10:46 PM
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I think it's a good standard to have. However it would be very hypocritical if you use reddit but expect him not to. It it was the other way around you'd be upset at the double standard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:56 PM
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Thank you :)) that's so sweet!! And please tell others because I only have like 14 members so far hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 06:28 PM
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Thanks for the suggestion! I'll try it :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 01:19 AM
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Hi, a while ago, I posted about creating an app and you expressed interest. Well I've since created a website. ! I can't send a private message to you so I thought I would just post it here haha https://flowerpowerfeminis.wixsite.com/flowerpowerfemisim
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 07:03 PM
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That's insane! Can you eat it? It sounds super cool haha like yep I'm just casually cooking some molecules over here You definitely should :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:36 AM
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That's amazing! And molecular cuisine kit?! What is that haha? Atomic cooking?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 03:12 AM
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I already know how to code :) I really really like this idea! So how do you pick topics?? Just whatever interests you? I'm kind of doing the same thing I think. I've been reading all of olaf stapledons books because I love his philosophy and I want to learn as much as possible about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 11:00 PM
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That will be really exciting! I've gotten a lot of language suggestions so I'm about to download duo lingo and learn French :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:57 PM
2

Yeah I would to paint! I'm terrible at drawing though knowing there's YouTube tutorials gives me hope!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:56 PM
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Thank you! I really like that belly dancing idea! I wanted to learn pole dancing too but I still live with my parents hahahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:55 PM
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I work out but I absolutely hate cooking :( I've tried to like it but I just can't haha and I'm vegan so it's even worse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:53 PM
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That sounds awesome :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:53 PM
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Oh my. You're the lucky one haha. I loooove the Beatles!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:52 PM
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That's such a pure hobby haha. You sound really sweet :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:52 PM
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I definitely agree with you! I typically learn everything from YouTube but getting certified would really help!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:51 PM
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That's a cool idea! I think I'll try YouTube first so if I go to a class I won't look completey stupid haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:50 PM
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Oh that's good to know! I wasn't sure if you could become fluent with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 10:49 PM
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Thanks! I'll try these :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:53 PM
2

I love dancing! When I have more money I think I'll take a ballet class.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:53 PM
2

That's awesome! My dad has tons of records probably thousands of dollars worth. I would lend then to you if I could hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:52 PM
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I'm going to learn the violin after guitar :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:52 PM
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Thank you these are great ideas :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:51 PM
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Hahaha I'll stick to my car for now. It's better for the world :p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:51 PM
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I run as well! And a language is a great idea!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 05:50 PM
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Just something to think about if he's going out of peer pressure that means his friends aren't hv and shows he isn't either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 12:57 PM
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It's really okay! I've recovered and I learned what red flags to look for in a relationship :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:32 AM
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Ohh lucky you haha you can be with a woman! I considered switching to BFF mode too but then the pandemic started.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:32 AM
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Thank you so much! This is a brilliant analysis! He never ever took the blame. I was always the one who was wrong. And he never apologized of his own accord. I had to cry for days before he realized he might have actually messed up. It's actually traumatized me to the point of being fearful in arguments with men. But thank you again! I know he was an abuser but at the same time it's hard to step back and actually analyze what happened because I'm too close to it and it's all confusing. So this r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:30 AM
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I'm halfway through it :) I do agree he speaks like an abuser and I'm curious what exactly you see in his words so I can identify it better next time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:18 AM
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I'm sorry but that's great that you learned :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:17 AM
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Yeah it's the place where all the lvm go to gather. We'll just have to fine a hvm out in the wild.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 12:17 AM
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I just messaged you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 10:11 PM
2

Thank you! You too :)) I'm aquarius. How did you narrow it down to those two choices. I didn't know reddit listed birthdays haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 10:04 PM
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Wow I am so so sorry :( He is an absolutely disgusting pedophile. I really hope you're doing better now and can heal from it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:27 PM
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I have deleted it before but always came back. This time will be different though because I noticed I started swiping left on attractive men who had reasonably good profiles. I figured that there's a 99.99% chance they are low value so why take the chance. Then I realized I don't need OLD haha. That is amazing! I hope to be like you one day :) OLD is a massive waste of time and energy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:26 PM
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Hahaha thank you :) it's very much appreciated especially during this lonley quarantine!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:22 PM
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Yeah that's a really great analysis. There were so many red flags that I missed just because I was 17, a virgin, and inexperienced with relationships. Like I said I loved him and then he said he wanted to have sex with me. I put up with so much haha. And thank you :)) it's honestly okay because I am much stronger than I would have been without his abuse. And fds has been an incredible help in my recovery!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:21 PM
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Hahahaha two of mine do that too! I used to think cats hated me because my third didn't want anything to do with me but it turns out she's just weird.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 09:19 PM
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Thank you so so much! This is such an amazing comment :)) What he did was extremely wrong but I am a much better person now and so much stronger. Thank you again and you write beautifully :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:09 PM
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Oh my God that's brilliant! I would love that! Or to admit to dick pictures in front of their mothers. And thank you so much :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:07 PM
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Thank you :) I hope to as well as soon as the pandemic is over!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:06 PM
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Haha anything at all, literally anything, is better than a man at this point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:06 PM
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That's really awesome that you're starting a business! I wish you the best of luck :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:05 PM
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Unfortunately the whole gender is rapidly declining haha They will emerge hairless, beer gutted, and even more insufferable then before, that is the ones who did not die because they broke quarintine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:05 PM
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Yeah it is impossible! Everyone is glued to their phones. The fds policy is to meet them through hobbies like cooking class, etc but pretty hard during a pandemic. If you are in college that's another place, but otherwise maybe get a social group who share these values and meet people through them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 08:03 PM
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Oh yes definitely. Don't worry I did it again. I think my message came across as wrong. But yeah I fully support std tests!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:47 PM
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Hahahha yep he better be really amazing for me to like him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:46 PM
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Oh yeah it is terrible. The bar has bored a hole in the earth straight to China that's how low it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:45 PM
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Haha I feel more happy with a cat's love honestly. Men's love is easy to get but cat's are so aloof. But now I've got 3 who love me more than a guy ever could!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:45 PM
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Yeah I have learned my lesson with nvm. The first red flag is goodbye. Thank you :)) FDS is amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:44 PM
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Thank you so much :)) I am doing so much better now that he he is gone and I have discovered fds!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:42 PM
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Yeah he was definitely pornsick. He didn't watch it that much when we dated although every time we fought he would. But yeah he wanted to a bunch of stuff from porn to me so I was definitely just a hole to him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:02 PM
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Oh yeah definitely! Don't worry. I got tested after we broke up and I'm clean!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:01 PM
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Hmmmm new plan :p let's go found a women only planet haha this one is dying anyway. Let the men die with it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 06:00 PM
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That's pretty sad actually :( I'd rather be alone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:59 PM
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Thank you so much! It was hard. I felt like I was going crazy most of the time, but I discovered FDS and it changed my life! It helped so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:18 PM
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It's okay I'm a lot better now :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:17 PM
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Haha well probably so few women put up with him he wouldn't even have the chance to get an std
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:17 PM
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Yep. I'm surprised the world has lasted so long with men in charge. It's a miracle
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 05:16 PM
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This was his reaction when I brought up the assault later. And I really am okay with it. I can make fun of it now and that's the sign you've recovered :) imgur
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:53 PM
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Hahaha I'm pretty sure I'm nearing that point. Men are disgusting. I've only had one guy be incredible at sex but he didn't even make me orgasm haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:52 PM
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Well he got one before and was clean so I didn't need one but thank you for your concern :))
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:46 PM
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Hahahahahaha let's hope so! He was terrible at sex so it's not like he needs it anyway :p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:46 PM
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Thank you :)) that's so sweet!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:45 PM
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It's alright, I learned a lot from it. The worst part is I dated him for another 6 months after he raped me haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 04:45 PM
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Yeah whenever I think of him touching me I feel really disgusting after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:30 PM
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They never are haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:29 PM
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Yeah I was really shy. But I was also only 17 and he was 25 and I think that says everything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:29 PM
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Yep he was. But at least I know now when to run haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:28 PM
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Do you really think he was? We were long distance and met on a pen pal site. I texted him first. He did have a ddlg fetish though. And I'm really sorry that happened to you :((
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:28 PM
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I think she's saying just because he's committed doesn't mean you have to have sex right away. You don't owe him anything. It's okay to wait until you're ready. Correct me if I'm wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 03:04 PM
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Unfortunately he was my boyfriend at the time. But he was my first relationship and I had no idea this was so wrong. Actually though now that I think about it he talked very sexually to me before we started dating and he said he masturbated to my profile picture which was just my face and I was 17....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:41 PM
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Yeah :( luckily I had enough common sense let not to let him do it but I didn't realize in the moment the gravity of what he was saying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:40 PM
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Yeah and he was my first relationship at 17 so I missed all the red flags...and there were so so many looking back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:39 PM
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This is exactly what my dad does in arguments with my mom. He's a complete narssistist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:35 PM
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He's been to taught to confuse pleasure with pain from porn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/08/20 02:34 PM
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Oh well it's a separate sub so different rules. But I do understand if the mods remove it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:42 PM
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No I definitely appreciate it! And I think especially people like us are more aware than the average person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:42 PM
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Oh yeah I'm definitely aware of the risks. I think it's worth it though because I've never met a radfem in real life or an antiporn person. I think with heavy moderatation it's possible because somehow fds survives and it's the most hated sub on reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:41 PM
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Yeah I definitely understand the risks. I think with heavy moderatation it's possible and I will also eventually make it private and only people with a radfem post history can join.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/08/20 02:07 PM
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Men want to own you. So if you're with another man fine, but if you decide you don't new men they go crazy because they can't have you. Pickmes kind of have the same mentality. Being with a man is the end all be all. They're probably jealous of your confidence and security.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:32 PM
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Haha they will be the magical life changing dick that makes you realize wow this is overrated. Plus vibrators are better :p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 01:48 AM
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Yeah just because you have one thing in common with her doesn't mean you are that living breathing person haha But it actually makes me think how little representation child free women get if those people can only compare you to one character in a show made a decade ago.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:12 PM
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Your welcome :) Sadly it's one show out of so many misogyistic ones though :( The office is just as bad. It would take millions of years to find all the sexism in it. I liked them all at first but I watched them when I was like 16 and still brainwashed by libfem. I'm so thankful to fds because it's really opened my eyes. Now I've got to apply to it to the shows I watch too hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 10:10 PM
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Yeah I thought that was really great too! She was very ambitious about her career too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:43 PM
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Wow really?! That's actually really amazing. And I loooove gail dines!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:42 PM
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Thanks for these points! They are really good! I completely forgot these.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:04 PM
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Yeah I was so shocked when he said he accidently sold a women like what the heck?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:03 PM
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Yeah I loved it also but the second time around it made me so worried about where society is going with just blatantly insulting women like that. If it were rasicst there's no way they could get away with it but sexism is a free for all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:03 PM
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Yeah that was so odd. He's a love bombing narssistist with a huge sense of entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 07:01 PM
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Yeah honestly I think barney was better for her than Ted, but I mean better as less bad instead of actually good haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:35 PM
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The only jokes he makes are at the expenses of women. That really says something about people who think he's funny. I do think it's hilarious that he's gay in real life but plays a pickup artist on the show.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:35 PM
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Oh thanks for the link. I'll have to watch that! I definitely agree with you. From the very first date Robin set her boundaries and then for years afterward Ted pressured her into saying yes. It's rapey behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:33 PM
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I definitely agree that ted is way worse than barney. Barney at least admits he an awful person and he did have a terrible childhood and bad role models. But Ted is the stereotypical nice guy who thinks everything should be handed to him on a silver platter. And when he does something wrong the show makes it seem endearing and sweet. Like when he stood the girl up for dinner because he still loved Robin. He asked her to reschedule then never showed up..just incredibly rude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:31 PM
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I think all of society thought the show was like a guide to life or something :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:28 PM
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Your ex was right in that the woman were always seen to be wrong....the show constantly blamed them. When Ted invited a random girl to lily's birthday party, she got mad (rightly so), but in the end she conceded. Marshall invited lily's abusive dad to Thanksgiving and in the end she made up with. The women always had valid concerns, but then they eventually gave in and agreed the men were right. It made me so mad hon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:26 PM
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Wow that is just embarrassing for him honestly. And earlier he went on that blind date with the girl and said guys want to pay...so hypocritical.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:22 PM
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Yeah I think that's a really good point you made to not fall in love with potential. Barney is great in theory, he has a great job and good apartment but he's actually an awful human being. Hookup culture is literally the most misogyistic thing possible but the libfems have brainwashed going girls into thinking it's empowering and cool. Also I'm really sad to hear it's spread to Europe now...it seems nowwhere's safe anymore :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 05:21 PM
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Yeah I definitely understand needing male validation, but at the same time surely they have even the tiniest bit of common sense. I used to be a pick me but I would never post such graphic stuff because I knew anyone could see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 03:06 PM
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I don't understand why these women tweet such graphic sexual things. They would be incredibly embarrassed if their parents saw these things. And if they go to a job interview, I can't imagine anyone would hire them. What's on the internet is they're forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 12:56 PM
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We should start some sort of petition for that. I wonder if the mods would help us out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 10:39 PM
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Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 07:20 PM
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That's awesome! Which app is that by the way?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 06:15 PM
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I feel exactly the same way. I'm actually kind of worried about it because with Coronavirus I'm not able to work and I have absolutely no desire to go out at all even with precautions. I just feel like all the strange men I would pass in the store or wherever would all be pornsick. There's no way of knowing. I just don't want to be in their presence at all. The world is just so messed up and I have absolutely no desire to rejoin it. I'm good with my pets and books haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:31 AM
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I think that's a fantastic idea. I've thought about that before too. Do you have anything specific in mind?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/07/20 01:01 AM
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Haha I do that too! Hinge has an undo button which is awed, but usually I go back, take a closer look, then swipe left again so congratulations to those guys, they got swiped left on twice :p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 10:16 PM
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Yeah its hard though! I just don't want to come across as selfish. Although I love the idea of getting oral without the expectation of having to give a disgusting blowjob after!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:09 PM
6

Oh yes sorry I meant to say oral but not sex. Don't worry I didn't read your post then completey miss the point haha So with the second paragraph if I say next time that he should be only the focus, should be reciprocate then without me asking for it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:07 PM
1

How do you say you want sex, but not oral? Also I would feel selfish if I didn't reciprocate so do to say you're tired after you finish or something?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:27 PM
3

Hi so a few were from my senior graduation pictures and some others were from a photoshoot I did with my aunt whose a professional photographer. The session was pretty cheap and I could pick 3 outfits. They had a beautiful area with lots of different settings to take pictures like a lake, a bench, willow tree, bridge over creek, etc. To buy the pictures was pretty expensive though like $700+ It was definitely worth it though because the pictures turned out beautifully! You could also just take s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:19 PM
5

"And men are the visual creatures"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:15 PM
5

I feel like my thumb will be permanently pointing to the left eventually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:14 PM
1

There's been studies showing men like smiles and women like brooding so maybe that's where he's coming from. But dominance is completely different from the brooding/thoughtful look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:13 PM
2

Hahahaha yes I see so many guys posing with 1992 junkyard cars. Like it's not impressive sir
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:12 PM
3

I just don't see how any women even if she's the biggest pick me in the world could swipe right on these men. They're disgusting and just completey turn me off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:11 PM
2

They've been brainwashed by society and believe that they're all entitled to a hot 18 year old porn star no matter how horrible they look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:10 PM
8

Sometimes I see guys take shirtless pictures and they don't even have abs or a flat stomach at least. It's insane. Like no one wants to see their beer bellies, but I guess their minds are so warped they see it as "muscles".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:09 PM
5

Me too! I feel like going on a date with a girl just to try it out. I heard lesbian sex is more sensual and infinitely better than straight sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:07 PM
1

Yeah he's awful. I was actually genuinely mad at the amount of entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 02:37 PM
19

Hahahaha exactly And how does choking and hitting women show God's love?!?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:57 PM
2

https://imgur.com/gallery/b6wrgwY
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:55 PM
5

https://imgur.com/gallery/b6wrgwY there you go :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:55 PM
8

Yeah I noticed that too. Super odd!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:36 AM
6

Hahahahahahahaha that hilarious!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:36 AM
1

I'm taking it very seriously, but yeah I know what you mean. My aunt (a trump supporter) and 60 years old drove to a hotspot with her son and grandson to visit her other son. Then drove back to go see my 80 year old grandma. Like how stupid can you get haha Our state is actually okayish. Still increasing but not as badly as the others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:38 PM
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We're not in an epicenter. I feel our governor handled it much better than most. We've got a mandatory mask order in the biggest city. We have about 20k cases but 3/4 have recovered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:12 PM
0

Yeah we are in the south haha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:10 PM
2

Yeah I definitely would not go to anyone's house for the first date. I did that once (before fds) and got assaulted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:06 PM
2

Yeah washing hands is the bare minimum. You do that even without Coronavirus going on haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:05 PM
1

Yeah I noticed that as well haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:05 PM
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Haha what makes you say that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 03:03 PM
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Yeah I also wasn't sure. I definitely wouldn't meet him unless he quarintined for two weeks. I guess I'll just see if any more red flags come up because so far I had a lot of fun talking with him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 12:43 PM
8

Someone posted this same profile on here already. You two must have matched with the same guy and both been horrified enough to post it hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 04:00 AM
1

But yeah it's embarrassing haha. How can they think akmeone would swipe on this? Do girls swipe on these sort of things?!?! It's a dating app not a babysitting one haha. We're looking for relationships not a grown kid to mother
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:06 PM
1

Wait sorryyyy I confused this reply with another comment I made on a completely different post haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:04 PM
2

Oh jeez well I'll pray that the chicken protects you. Tinder is brutal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:45 AM
2

Hahahahaha amazing! In all my searching I have not yet found a non raw chicken solution out there :( So hinge is so much better because you only get a limited number of likes per day unless you pay for premium. So you don't waste your entire life swiping left on lvm haha Usually if someone likes me and their profile is reasonably good I'll match but at the first red flag or feeling somethings off I unmatch. All OLD sucks honestly, but hinge is like the least bad. I've tried bumble and tinder and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 03:28 AM
5

Yeah these guys are awful. They're the type who will expect their wife to lose the baby weight two days after. I do think shallowness (to a reasonable degree) is a reality we have to accept though because attraction is part of a romantic relationship. It is horrible but it will always be there if you have eyes but it should never be used to hurt someone. There's people attracted to skinny, people attracted to curvy. There's always someone who will find you beautiful! I'm not trying to minimize e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 10:30 PM
11

I honestly hope no girl falls for this. How messed up is he that he tells girls he's looking to date he's a son?!? Maybe some oedipus complex stuff here haha Yeah I agree that most men aren't funny. What they think is humor is just veiled insults and negging. Easier for us to identify the red flags though haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:51 PM
9

Yeah I definitely agree that the expectations for women nowadays are just completey ridiculous. I didn't like the reasons that these guys gave either and thought they were pretty LVM. (I mean to write a whole article about is just so embarrassing..don't they have any shame?!) From the title though I just wasn't sure if OP was meaning they had to be attracted to overweight women so I said it's okay to have standards. Honestly, I think women look so beautiful at any weight. We put so much work int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 08:47 PM
13

I did mention they are nvm. My point was just it's okay to have standards without insulting people. These men did have standards but they were rude which is not okay.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:42 PM
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Oh commenting on weight is extremely negative value. I'm sorry that happened to you :( They definitely do it to make themselves feel better. It's called negging which is a huge red flag! And tinder sucks haha. I've had better luck with hinge. Nothing worthwhile yet but the guys are more attractive and respectful :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:22 PM
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I might get down voted for this, but oh well. The men in this article do sound really awful and entitled. It's okay to have standards and attractions but they shouldn't be flaunting them like this. Keep them private. However, I personally would not date an overweight guy. I eat healthy and exercise and I would expect my partner to do the same as well. I just couldn't be attracted to someone who doesn't. I put a lot of effort into my appearance, it's reasonable or expect the same. These guys look…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 06:03 PM
3

Oh my gosh I'm so honored hahahaha That made me smile :) I love us too :p
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 07:49 PM
11

Hahahaha wow!! That's crazy! What's wrong with men these days?!?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:51 AM
29

"I'm not a dog" I had a guy do this and this is what I said haha Good luck :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/07/20 04:38 AM
15

Oh wow that's intresting! I read about a lot of people peaking after GC was banned so that's definitely a factor!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:22 AM
36

Wow awesome for her!!! This sub has completey change my life and not just with dating. I'm much more confident in general and I know what I want to do with my life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:01 AM
9

I've never heard of that! What is it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:00 AM
19

It's active but I don't think lots of people are posting there yet. I've gotten my code but not confirmation for an account.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/07/20 03:00 AM
6

Hi, I just messaged op! I sent her a link for a discord so she can send it to you or if you message I can.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:24 PM
2

Pornfreerelationships was actually made private but gender critical was banned :( It does feel like 1984. They're censoring women for speaking the truth. It's awful :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:44 PM
1

Yes I'm aware of that. The security part is where I'm thinking we might need some crowdfunding to hire someone because I realize privacy is a huge concern with stalker LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:43 PM
2

I'm thinking I will call it fight the Patriarchy but if fds is still here I will make a post about it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:42 PM
2

I want it to be a social network type thing for radical feminists. I'm still working out the details though. I'm aware of spinster but I didn't like the layout and I think an app could reach more people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:40 PM
2

We could definitely use your help when it comes to designing the app logo!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:39 PM
5

I'm hoping we'll be able to do it for free but that's a good idea if we can't!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:38 PM
1

So it was just made private apparently, thank goodness!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:18 PM
7

Oh okay well that's good to hear!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:59 AM
8

Oh are you sure? Gneder critical said on Twitter that they were banned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:36 AM
54

Yes unfortunately It's almost criminal. That was a sanctuary for women recovering from porn addicts, probably the only support they had :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:22 AM
8

That's so sweet of you to offer! Hopefully we will be able to build it for free but if we can't I'm glad to know we have a backup :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:12 AM
13

Hahahaha I will make sure to remember that!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 03:11 AM
8

Any help is welcome! Also it will take a while so you can still join later if you want :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:27 AM
15

Well hopefully from the ios/ android store in a couple of months!!'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:26 AM
14

Awesome! I'm trying to set up a github chat so if you want to pm me your username I can invite you to it! Or if that doesn't work then maybe discord or group me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:48 AM
36

I'll post the name of the app so you can check! I'm thinking: fight th patriarchy or something :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:38 AM
15

Well it definitely take a while, so hopefully they won't ban us for a long time!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:25 AM
32

Hi, I messaged you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:16 AM
16

Hahahaha I will take any support at this point! Yeah that will the hardest part I think. I'm used to just games where there's not much need for security so I definitely need help in that area. I was thinking of setting it up like reddit with posts and mods but also maybe a newsfeed and some other things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:06 AM
31

Awesome! Do you have experience with coding?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:04 AM
19

For some reason I can't see replies on this (I get the notification though) but that's awesome that so many of you are interested! I'm trying to figure it out so I can reply directly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 01:02 AM
3

Wow this is fascinating to me because I thought fds didn't support sex work. Although, from my experience I think sugar dating is very lucrative. It is risky but less so than vanilla dating because the expectations are very clear for both parties.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 03:43 PM
6

I've heard a lot of girls switched to sugar dating because vanilla dating was in such a bad state. When I was doing it, I definitely noticed the guys were much more respectful and the conversations more intellectual. No dirty pickup lines, " u up", etc Old rich men looking for a sugar baby definitely treat you better. I think it's okay to realize that as long as it doesn't get romantacized and you still remember that they are predatory. But yeah why go on an awful 50/50 vanilla date when you can…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:18 PM
5

I think some glamorize the men too much in sugar dating like they have this amazing emotional connection, but they're really just predatory men. Their strategies definitely work though!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 12:14 PM
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I'm not judging just stating an observation. Back when I was really desperate for money I got a sugar daddy. I've stopped now and I absolutely don't support sex work anymore! This is really similar to the techniques used in sugaring. Here's an example of some techniques used by this girl who became insanely rich doing it. Notice how similar it is. "Date multiple wealthy men at the same time. Until the day you are married, you are single. It prevents you from getting emotionally attached, and you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/20 03:09 PM
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