| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 29 | “Suspended Billing” Rage | RANT | Sbplaint | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 01:26 AM |
| 18 | Just Go, Dog! | MOOD FOR LIFE | Sbplaint | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/20 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts? Feelings? | DISCUSSION | Sbplaint | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 02:47 PM |
| 1 | Datelining Friday Fun | FDS TRANSLATES MEN | Sbplaint | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:49 AM |
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| 1 | Datelining Friday FunOkay now I’m embarrassed and definitely deleting this whole post...Better making an ass of myself here on reddit than texting a guy back who just thinks of me as some true-crime obsessed psycho unmarried lady he knew from college, was my thought process...I thought it was funny but maybe I’m too old and moldy for post-COVID-era FDS. :( Your comment though, especially if it was meant sarcastically, was actually brilliant, so not necessarily responding all upset to what you said...just want to exp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 07:11 AM |
| 2 | Datelining Friday FunLol it’s more just funny....boy sends true crime book in the mail that was super thoughtful and sweet...girl tells him Dateline is on and he suddenly forgets who he’s talking to? Maybe it’s not as apparent in my post as it should be, haha...just screams typical LVM. “Why vs. Why Not?” Omg. Also, to make this funnier, we have known each other since college and never slept together. He lives on the East Coast and I haven’t seen him since around 2007, yet I’m the primary contact for his Maltese at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 04:39 AM |
| 3 | Datelining Friday FunAlso, I don’t think I can edit, but the context that is important to add is this guy sent me a super obscure book today in the mail about one of the true crime cases I follow, that he has also read a lot about enough to know about this book that was written by the original detective on the case...so texting him about Dateline being on when we’re all on quarantine anyhow wasn’t as pickmeisha as it may appear in that exchange. Ugh, why am I even defensive? 👎🏻👎🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:58 AM |
| 6 | If you're a male lurker here, and you're triggered by the content, its because you're the definition of LVM.Lol I was 5 years old when some older boy across the street I used to play with threatened to shoot me with a BB gun unless I touched his penis. Spoiler alert: I did NOT touch his penis, and he was (thankfully!) not what you would call a BB-gun marksman...however his twin brother came over the next day on his bike with a notepad to “interview” me about the incident. Can you imagine that happening now?!!! Coincidentally, these were the same twin boys who taught me every bad word ever...in fact, I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/20 04:02 AM |
| 3 | No more guilt tripsWhat I saw (as someone who already agonizes enough about how Britney and Jessica, hell, even Selena, Miley and Demi at this point, are feeling; more than is normal for someone in her late thirties, childless and unmarried probably should, lol...but I digress...) was two legendary female performers who first came-up back when I was in high school 20+ years ago straight OWNING that whole stadium, not to mention every tuned-in living room across the world!! Like, you don't have to be a fan of Lady … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/20 07:41 AM |
| 14 | I got a dog and it’s cured my Pickme-itisHonestly, the only clinically-proven treatment for Pickmeisha Virus there is! LVM/HVM ain’t got nothing on a frosted face! Congrats on your new addition!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/20 03:19 PM |
| 3 | THISAh, the glorious "dating phase," the proverbial calm before the inevitable storm LVM Reveal Party. #notbitter | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 03:28 PM |
| 3 | All I did was ask him what his does for a living. That was my second message and he sent this 🚩🚩🚩Oh totally, and you did it so beautifully and tactfully! I just couldn't help but laugh at the absurdity of what a thoughtful and polite discussion we had debating OP's compatibility with a dude who may or may not crap his pants at his pizza job, on a female empowerment-aimed subreddit, at that!! 😅🤣😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 03:07 AM |
| 4 | All I did was ask him what his does for a living. That was my second message and he sent this 🚩🚩🚩As the one who harped on about kindness, understanding and empathy for all people (yep, even the LVMs!) with disabilities/chronic conditions above, I don’t want this to sound like I’m making light of that guy’s condition (and certainly not autoimmune/digestive diseases as a whole)...buuuut, still can’t help myself from giggling at how you so diplomatically and matter-of-factly stated: “However, it's also possible that working at a pizza shop - and perhaps not literally crapping his pants during … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 12:59 AM |
| 5 | All I did was ask him what his does for a living. That was my second message and he sent this 🚩🚩🚩Oh, I wasn't saying you did at all, and I agree that his response was a bundle of red flags! Sorry if that wasn't clear. My point was just that if things really were they way he said, then he really was very sick, at least at some point, which seemed especially important to him to convey. Clearly he's battling a lot of shame and insecurity that on a basic human level we can (and should) feel some basic empathy for. Doesn't make it your problem, and doesn't mean you need to date, or even respond … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 06:35 PM |
| 19 | All I did was ask him what his does for a living. That was my second message and he sent this 🚩🚩🚩I can weigh in here. Of the hundreds of Crohn's cases I've seen in the last 5 years or so adjudicating disability cases, I have granted maybe 5 of them, if that. So yes, it is an extremely high standard to qualify at his age, so if there is any truth to his claim that he was indeed on SSDI in his twenties, it means he would had to suffer through chronic anemia, multiple hospitalizations requiring blood transfusions, serious fecal incontinence, on a narcotic/steroid cocktail, etc. I hate to defen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else feel like there are NO attractive men out there?What in the actual Chuck?! I always pegged Blair for the FDS type too, damn! Almost as depressing as watching Rob Lowe on this post-NFC game show with deep lines on his face showing (finally). Ugh, I hate the world! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 03:23 AM |
| 2 | Am I crazy of is this type of thinking extremely pathetic? Maybe she's a housewife, but damn. She's posting in the cooking sub praising her husband for eating her food. Slurping up the compliments from male posters.Nooooooooo! FFS (fucking Frank's sauce) is worse than my ex's Tapatio! Sending support! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 03:09 AM |
| 2 | Am I crazy of is this type of thinking extremely pathetic? Maybe she's a housewife, but damn. She's posting in the cooking sub praising her husband for eating her food. Slurping up the compliments from male posters."Advocatey about oatmeal," hahahahha! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 03:07 AM |
| 2 | get off r/SkincareAddiction and dump himDrives a Mercedes too, while keeping an impressive array of like 50 pairs of colorful shoes that my trusty female instincts tell me have something to do with what happens when you mix oxygen with either Michael Jordan or Kanye West, on full display! No shame there, ugh! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 01:57 AM |
| 6 | get off r/SkincareAddiction and dump himHilarious!!! It's so funny looking back on it now...he was the first Bumble date I went on after getting out of a 7 year relationship (w/dries-his-hair-with-a-hat guy mentioned below, lol). Of course, I had some reservations that he was a practically a foot shorter than me and didn't go to college, but I told myself that us winning at bar trivia on the first date meant that he was one of those super smart guys who doesn't need college...I mean, at least he's not $350k in student loan debt like I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 07:46 PM |
| 5 | get off r/SkincareAddiction and dump himI was with someone who used to "dry" his (naturally curly) hair after a shower with this musty, sweaty, used-to-be-white hat he had from back in high school. He was convinced that this tight-fitting hat was the one and only way to make his sopping wet curls stand down after a shower. I tried everything from gentle suggestions to buying him manly hair products that I casually left in his bathroom drawer to even coordinating a haircut with my (expensive) hairdresser to really show him instead of j… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 06:55 PM |
| 8 | get off r/SkincareAddiction and dump himYep! The last guy I dated has his 11 year old daughter sleeping on an air mattress!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 05:04 PM |
| 3 | get off r/SkincareAddiction and dump him...with dish soap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 05:01 PM |
| 6 | get off r/SkincareAddiction and dump himLet's not forget the Cerave-in-the-tub enemas and Paula's Choice pow wows! 😅 You're in a niacinamide cult, Becky! Call your dad!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 04:57 PM |
| 3 | Don’t let men guilt trip you into carrying a baby you’re not ready for: 99% of Women Say They Feel Relief 5 Years After Abortion. Exercise and protect your reproductive freedom!This is 100% correct. What people don’t always realize is that most of the providers who offer these services are some of the most caring and empathetic practitioners you will ever come across in healthcare, especially in the current climate! A patient who regrets having an abortion is the last thing ANY provider providing these services wants...which is every reason why they typically require a pretty comprehensive screening process at the outset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 09:44 AM |
| 31 | get off r/SkincareAddiction and dump himRight?!!! What is it with guys and buying pillows?!?! Like, we get it, you hate our love of throw pillows...but spending half your life with your face and/or back of your head glued to a flattened $3 pillow from Target that low-key resembles a murder scene, with nothing but a dirty pillowcase you never wash as a buffer seems a bit extreme just to prove a point, Tommy. Jesus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 08:11 AM |
| 31 | get off r/SkincareAddiction and dump himYou haven’t really lived until you get your period early while seeing a dude who is basically staying in his friend’s guest bedroom with a futon. Ugh...I still have nightmares about that! I was so completely mortified, and therefore wanted to straight BAPTIZE this freaking futon cover in heaps of detergent/stain remover before these people he was staying with (that I hadn’t even met) came home...yet when I woke his groggy LVM (admittedly, cable-van-driving ass, ughhhhh) for detergent, the douche… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 07:54 AM |
| 2 | How could I have been so blind??The irony of reading this post while Justin Bieber's "Sorry" plays on my Spotify...just when I thought I couldn't be any angrier too! Sorry Biebs, but Kick Him Out 2020 doesn't have a celebrity exemption! Blocked and deleted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 03:35 AM |
| 19 | get off r/SkincareAddiction and dump himBut which sub is more toxic? Red Pill or SCA? Hahahaha the fact I'm even joking about that is how I know I have spent waaaaaay too much time on Reddit today! Edited to add: I had almost made peace with all the hard earned skin care $$$ that has been tragically swallowed up by the great abyss that is every narcissistic, love-bombing LVM's medicine cabinet I have come across in recent years...until this post! And don't even get me started on my brand new Dior foundation victimized by the Great Gho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 03:11 AM |
| 2 | Don’t let men guilt trip you into carrying a baby you’re not ready for: 99% of Women Say They Feel Relief 5 Years After Abortion. Exercise and protect your reproductive freedom!Oh. My. God. Revolting and horrifying, and I can't even imagine!!!! I'm so very sorry for your trauma!! Sending you the biggest internet hug EVER tonight....ugh! Like seriously, I'm shaking right now just imagining that kind of audacity...I don't even have the words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 03:06 AM |
| 4 | Don’t let men guilt trip you into carrying a baby you’re not ready for: 99% of Women Say They Feel Relief 5 Years After Abortion. Exercise and protect your reproductive freedom!Yes! I feel like it's our duty as women to spread honest, factual information based on our individual experiences when it comes to reproductive rights and other sensitive women's issues....I always try to tell anyone and everyone who will listen how grateful I am to have had the support and resources to terminate the only pregnancy I have ever had (or ever will have, probably!) when I was in my twenties. Of course, I would still give it 0/5 stars on Yelp, and I will live with the trauma of havin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 02:55 AM |
| 11 | I'm quite sure i'm using him...Maybe I'm in a mood, but I say Bobby sucks. Cut him loose...or at the very least, cut off the sex stuff. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 02:51 AM |
| 1 | “Suspended Billing” RageOh, he cared, alright...so much so that he made a screen recording of him deleting all of his OLD profiles and sent it to me. Also made a point of how not swiping was saving him so much money (bc Of COURSE he probably had the most expensive memberships you can buy, ugh) and causing him to take up other honorable digital hobbies...like online gambling. Omg that’s it, this is beyond pathetic...like, I was laughing at the fact he walked around with a parrot on his shoulder this morning, but remembe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/20 12:11 AM |
| 3 | “Suspended Billing” RageThis particular guy made his kids do their own laundry and online grocery shopping, and they are only 9 and 11 years old! I told myself it was just him exaggerating to seem tough/show off, in the same way he made them call him “Sir” at times in my presence (they rolled their eyes doing it, haha), but it wasn’t uncommon for them to have two separate uber eats food orders in a night (one initiated by/for him, one by the kids). Lol, I dodged SUCH a bullet...damn. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 09:14 PM |
| 6 | RED FLAGS: Signs a Man Should Be Cut OffThis is mentioned in my other post in a comment, but I feel like it belongs here as well. At the risk of offending any of the Badass Bird Bitches of FDS, I’m going to recommend against having anything to do with men that keep tropical birds as pets. Specifically, men who send you selfies with some neon-feathered, squawking pissypants on their shoulder expecting you to send them a chorus of heart-eye emojis in response. I mean, it’s really not even about the birds themselves...believe me, I love … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 08:51 PM |
| 2 | “Suspended Billing” RageYeah this guy didn't care about sex really either...it was so bizarre. Also, he used to walk around his house with an angry parrot on his shoulder too, which I feel belongs in this discussion somewhere. 🤦🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 03:33 PM |
| 3 | “Suspended Billing” RageI don't have kids myself, and he definitely had the same outlook about it as you. In fact, I think he looked at me suspiciously for NOT already having been married and had kids yet. I think it's true that I couldn't possibly understand what it must be like for him having full custody, however there is something to be said about NOT having my own kids to prioritize over someone else's. I think that in the right situation, it could have been a really good fit. That's certainly my biggest regret ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 03:16 PM |
| 6 | “Suspended Billing” RageThe span of human suffering is surprisingly narrow sometimes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 04:33 AM |
| 5 | “Suspended Billing” RageI love everything about this explanation...so insightful and spot-on! Damn, maybe I should be thanking my lucky stars I haven't encountered more narcissists along the way. So much shudder! Please enjoy the first Reddit gold I have ever given anyone! 💛 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 03:43 AM |
| 4 | “Suspended Billing” RageWhat a pathetic douchebag. So amazing how they start out so chivalrous and attentive, only to go out with the awful bang they tend to go out with. Ugh! So sorry you got mixed up with his loser-ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 03:29 AM |
| 9 | “Suspended Billing” RageHoly shit...This just occurred to me now! His first wife had a stroke in her early 30's!!!! Whoaaaaaaa!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 03:10 AM |
| 9 | “Suspended Billing” RageIf it's not one thing, it's another...I swear! 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 02:49 AM |
| 6 | “Suspended Billing” RageI think it's a combination of a few things: (A) Affirms his ego as he would like to see himself (wealthy, successful "provider" type, while subtly forging a path of being dependent on him or feeling indebted (power play/control); (B) natural tendency to be preoccupied or otherwise place a higher value than we might on shiny new things such as the latest model iPhone/TV/sports cars/etc; and (C) (This one is my favorite too, haha!) Bc he doesn't understand the tax code and thinks that he can just … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 02:44 AM |
| 11 | “Suspended Billing” RageYep, that’s another nauseating thing...he even used the relatively close proximity of our billing cycle end dates (few days apart) as yet another reason we were “meant to be” or whatever! Ugh, time to throw up in my own mouth again for the third time tonight, ew. Oh, and I forgot to mention THIS part! Dude has like 9 separate lines on his plan, three of which HAVE to be former girlfriends or something, since they showed 0 GB of usage in a screenshot he sent me before things fell apart in order t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 02:00 AM |
| 11 | “Suspended Billing” RageGO AWAY BAD DREAM <covers eyes/ears and screams loudly>! I don’t know about you, but myyyyyy Danny Tanner is out there, just waiting for me to find him so he can follow me around with a bottle of Windex!!! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 01:42 AM |
| 3 | I feel so defeatedMore like a bottle of Boone's Strawberry wine and a couple of stale fun-sized Hershey bars with faded wrappers left over from Halloween! 🤣😂😄 Edit: Men are such trash. This totally reminded me of the dude who "gifted" me a couple of Tootsie roll pops and a portable phone battery charger thingie he got for free from some conference he was at. At the time I thought it was so sweet and thoughtful...fast forward to the end of the conference, and poof, ghosted. Now that I think about it, maybe suckers… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/20 06:53 PM |
| 1 | The devil is in the detailsExcellent point, and you're right! I just wish there was a sub (or better yet, a drug!) to temper that whole feelings-focused thing, bc it is everything wrong with my professional and personal life, sighhhhh. But seriously, thank you for that perspective...def spot on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/20 05:06 AM |
| 12 | The devil is in the detailsWhile I tend to agree with 99.9% of the advice on this sub, these same burning questions have been in the back of my mind as well. Personally, I'm ashamed to admit I have been mostly unsuccessful at finding lasting love through online dating in recent years (me: late thirties, no kids, good career, financially independent, etc), but I would say that I dated mostly, if not ALL, HVM before age 35 (who typically resulted in exclusive, "functional" relationships, but didn't ultimately end in marriag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/20 04:47 AM |
| 18 | Hard pass.HAHAHAHA!!!! Preach. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/20 04:14 AM |
| 8 | RED FLAGS: Signs a Man Should Be Cut OffHahahahahahahahaha! Yessssssss! This is so accurate. My last “relationship” was such a Hun-cringe-fiesta. Fucking LVM Atillas. Every. Last. One. Ew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 09:04 PM |
| 24 | RED FLAGS: Signs a Man Should Be Cut OffYes!!! The future-fake!! I dated a dude who added me to his fucking phone plan a week in, complete with a brand new iPhone and a bouquet of flowers in my favorite color in every room of his house. I felt like a damn princess, but yeah...the flags were there, and they were screaming. Same guy who told me he was in love with me; that his mom got excited about my name with his last name, and even at one point tried to talk me out of taking the morning-after pill bc he “was that serious(!)” about ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/20 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Do NOT date...Omg this is all kinds of crazy, thanks for sharing! I'm licensed in Colorado and went to law school with the attorney who filed the complaint...she's a badass! What a disgusting douchebag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 10:22 PM |
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