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So…what are the nuts and bolts of this? Like, is there a Constitutional amendment? Is there a Federal Bureau of Partner Assignment? Do they have a secret police force to ensure compliance? Have you considered these questions?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 08:46 PM
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Step 1: Show off your breakdancing moves at the office Christmas party. Step 2: Have sex with Holly from accounting Step 3: Take Holly out to Olive Garden
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 07:55 AM
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I am saying you should get to know someone before you take them out for dinner
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 07:25 AM
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That’s what I’m saying! Only go out with people you already know and are comfortable having sex with
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 07:15 AM
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There is a great way to avoid this “will I get laid if I pay for dinner problem?” Y’all ready for this? You only go out for dinner with people who you are already fucking! Then you get to enjoy your food with a person that you are already comfortable with and have some awesome and non-awkward sex after! You’re welcome!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 04:45 AM
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But can anything be done to address systemic inequality in dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 04:21 AM
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Noting wrong with venting. Just wondering if anything can be done from a policy perspective to address structural inequality in dating. If you look at my post history you can see I’ve brought this up before.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/24 12:17 PM
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Ok, so what is “brain cancer bullshit”? And how is it keeping women away from what they really want?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 05:25 AM
9

So, progressive politics is causing women to put up with deadbeat dudes?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 05:20 AM
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How to return women to their “raw instincts”?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 05:06 AM
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So, what would represent a non-flawed world view for modern women? In your opinion, of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 04:44 AM
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OP, this is probably about the 100,000th post that is making this exact point. Do you have any proposal for how to address this inequality or do you just want to vent?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 04:42 AM
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There are a lot of deadbeat boyfriends that sit around on their girlfriend’s couch playing video games and smoking pot that you might want to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 04:38 AM
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I guess it’s possible to get all those things without sexual intimacy but, it’s much less likely. We tend to form bonds with people that we fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/24 03:02 AM
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That happened exactly! I got laid off in 2017 and was dependent on my wife for over a year while I got a teaching certificate and was able to get back to work.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 02:57 PM
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Fair enough. What would be satisfactory for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 02:46 PM
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I think the most valuable things in life are intangible but I do have two beautiful children, they can be touched and held and there are the nice clothes and my favorite books and my guitar that my wife thoughtfully gifted me. Do they count as tangible benefits?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 02:37 PM
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My experience is completely the opposite. But, maybe women are not your thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 02:19 PM
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I really don’t think you can get the perspective, support, love and affection of another person without being in a relationship. And raising kids is possible on your own but it’s a lot more difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 02:18 PM
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I’ve been with the same woman for over a decade. She offers me the following: Affection (both sexual and emotional) Support (both emotional and financial) Advice (both professional and personal) Companionship - we like to do the same things and we enjoy each other’s company. I reciprocate on all of the above. And we also have two kids. That’s a big deal. Does sound like enough benefits for the both of us?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/24 08:23 AM
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All right, then! I won’t have sex!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 08:04 PM
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The more you obsess about sex, the less you will have it. I guarantee.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:58 PM
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Here’s the trick: don’t put getting laid at the center of your existence. If you have something else that matters more to you than busting a nut and/or validation from another person, it’s going to show. And it’s hot too! People gonna dig your attitude. Et voila! No more settling, no more whining, no more resentment of the opposite sex. P.S. - this approach works for men and women, gays and straights.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:30 PM
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Seriously though, no appetite really pisses me off
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:12 PM
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I went out with a girl and she did not finish her dinner. She wanted to have sex after and I was like, “Nope! No dessert!”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 06:07 PM
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Time to start being evil, OP! 😈
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/24 02:56 PM
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I really dig it when women like to try new foods and I absolutely cannot stand fussy eating.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 06:38 PM
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We met at work and, no, I was not her supervisor. But we really liked each other and then, one day, after several months of flirting, we kissed at an after work party. Never looked back. Pretty much moved on together the next day. That was over 11 years and two kids ago too.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 06:37 PM
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This article is hilarious. It’s really not hard to understand the reason for this, however. I think it’s baked into every biological female’s inner psyche somewhere, that sex might lead to pregnancy so can we really be surprised when women are just a little bit more selective about who they fuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 11:50 AM
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What country are you from?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:43 AM
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What’s crazy is that I’m a straight guy and pretty much all the long term relationships I ever have had are (including my wife) with bisexual women, and I mean really bisexual, not just playing for attention. I didn’t really seek this out, I just never found myself attracted to the “girly girls” and they themselves were never into me. Time and time again, I heard from my girlfriends, however, “you act just like a bitch! I love it!” I think part is the reason a lot of the guys on this sub can’t g…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:43 AM
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Isn’t that exactly what I said?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 04:14 AM
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Men here say that they have lower standards because they will have sex with almost any willing partner. Women are the opposite, they would rather not have sex at all than have sex with a partner who they don’t find attractive. And this simple fact is the root of all the angst we see here.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 03:01 AM
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Just put a wig on your buddy, pop a few viagra and away you go!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 08:17 PM
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Psst…it was sarcasm
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 05:57 PM
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What if people could travel at the speed of light? Would airlines still be a thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 05:56 PM
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So, how do you entertain yourself? Nitrous balloons?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 04:34 PM
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I’ll vouch. Those things you listed are super icky.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 07:17 AM
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Wow! I could not come up with this if you paid me. You are aware that you can have sex with other dudes, right? I know it might not be your top choice, but surely it’s better than wallowing in agony.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:29 AM
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Wait, there are people who don’t have sex and they don’t drink? That is no way to live
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 04:59 PM
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It’s a fantasy that there has to be some kind of future retribution for not wanting to fuck dorks when they were young.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 04:50 PM
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In my experience if you just say up front that it takes time for you to feel comfortable being intimate with a new partner, women really respect that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 11:37 AM
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Well, I can tell you from personal experience, it’s absolutely possible. My wife is 11 years younger than me and I married her at the age of 38
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 11:32 AM
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If you find a younger woman that’s into you, than just date her. Do you really need permission from Reddit?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/24 10:22 AM
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So, you date women that you are not attracted to?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 05:20 AM
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Do you use logic when you choose a sexual partner? If so, that is extremely rare. Most people cannot really understand why they are attracted to the people they fancy. Since you are complaining about the actions and sexual behavior of women, I would say that the logical thing to do is not have sex with them. It’s probably easier to relate to men, no? Why not date dudes? I’m getting a feeling that as logical as that might be, you really wouldn’t like it.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 04:46 AM
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I wasn’t joking 🙃
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:52 AM
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If you could date out of your “league” (as if that was actually a thing that really exists) would you or would you not? I cannot imagine any person saying, “I’m sorry but, you are far too attractive, emotionally stable and financially secure to date me, please go find someone in your own league.” Does that sound realistic to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:18 AM
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They can be a lot of in the sack tho!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 02:14 AM
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Wars don’t really do any good, though. Like if all men refused to go to wars, the world would improve markedly
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 08:52 AM
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Your post starts out making a bit of sense. It is true that unrealistic expectations are placed on men. But you cannot sincerely want to bring legality it to dating and courtship, right? I understand that you are frustrated and I sympathize but if there were one way to actually make dating worse, it would be to involve the government in it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/24 07:14 AM
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Louisiana is a great place to get your dick wet in any kind of weather
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:52 PM
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How come there’s never a natural disaster when you need to get your dick wet? That’s what I want to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 05:34 PM
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What kind of social programs do you envision to address female privilege in dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 09:59 AM
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But wouldn’t that seem arrogant and condescending? And would it change the fact that millions of men are lonely?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 07:56 AM
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Women do have an equally strong sex drive. But it manifests itself differently. It’s not as automatic and it’s easier for it to be turned off.!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 07:49 AM
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“Men just want women to acknowledge their privilege”. Ok. How many men want this? And how many women have to acknowledge said privilege before these men are happy? I’m guessing it’s not possible to improve the situation by “acknowledging privilege”. Some white people have “acknowledged privilege”, others steadfastly refuse to accept that any such privilege exists. But white people (as much one can ascertain what a “white person” is) continue to have higher incomes, better education, more nutriti…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 07:31 AM
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I’m sorry to hear this. I think that there’s a better life for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 07:13 AM
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I think what this all boils down to is that sex drive manifests itself differently in men and women. And this has the effect of making women less desperate to have sex and more selective. And that can be very frustrating. But there’s really not much to be done about it. This is just how things are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 07:00 AM
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If you’re not that into a girl, maybe don’t have sex with her?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:53 AM
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Another hard truth: Whacking off to porn all the time makes it hard to get it up if and when you find a person who actually wants to experience your penis inside them. Wait…that’s a soft truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/24 06:37 AM
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Just stop worrying and put your penis to work!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/24 10:17 AM
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Do you honestly think that the default setting for men is zero sex or romance? Also, do you think that men never experience unwanted attention or women are never sexually frustrated? Both happen all the time and no one, of any sexuality or gender enjoys it. So, why does it have to be get unwanted attention or get no sex? I don’t understand the comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/24 02:40 PM
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Here’s the thing: If you can talk to a pretty girl and act really cool but don’t let on that you want to stick your peepee in her vajayjay, you will create doubt in her mind: “What sort of man is this? He is so comfortable with himself and he seems not to want to fuck me? I wonder how I might earn his favor.” You think you can pull that off? Can you stop being so fucking obvious? If so, you’re ready to take some poonani to pound town, my friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:42 AM
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There is such a big difference. The secret ingredient is self assuredness.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:35 AM
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This is such a fucking great response. I’m pissed off that I didn’t write it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/24 05:33 AM
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But this friend group met Mr. Chad on their 4th meeting. How close could they have been?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 09:26 PM
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I’m gay homeboy. I’m usually too busy sucking cock to get pussy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:39 PM
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I’m calling bullshit. I think OP must have sucked his dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:23 PM
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Trash people!!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:21 PM
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How is it that you have such remarkably accurate statistics of the salaries, number of times you have encountered one another and object rating of attractiveness of each member of your “friend group”? I’m usually not gathering data when I hang out with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 06:19 PM
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This seems like a really long winded way of avoiding answering the question. If a person is making an effort to spend time with you, and you are genuinely interested in and attracted to that person, why not go ahead and reciprocate? I feel like any other response is madness.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 07:54 PM
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I’m intrigued by the fact that you say are playing games with this. Just want to clarify, you date women that you are genuinely interested in but you pretend to be aloof anyway just so they won’t lose interest and then that has the effect of you losing respect for them because they seem desperate. Is that more or less what you are saying? If so, why not try just reciprocating interest in the women who seem to like you? Like, have you really never had a relationship that lasts longer than a coupl…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/24 02:24 PM
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Women are not a video game quest. Truer words have never been said. There is no “cheat code” to getting a girlfriend. Having said that, I doubt there are many heterosexual men who are talented singers or dancers who have trouble getting laid. And I’m equally certain that unemployed, overweight men who never hang out in mixed sex groups or socialize outside of their own homes are ever very lucky with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/24 12:00 PM
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My hobbies are eating, drinking alcohol and having sex. And I love to share
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:37 PM
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Dude, isn’t this a reason to love summer? Am I missing something?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 03:35 PM
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I think the answer here is quite obvious to anyone who cares to think about it. “The ick” occurs when someone does something that is socially awkward or unacceptable. Usually because the icky person is not savvy enough to understand that what they are doing looks ridiculous. Abusive people are necessarily socially adept. How else would they get to a position where they can put people under their spell? They are also really good at identifying people with no self esteem who they can manipulate an…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 05:30 AM
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She made a sarcastic comment about my brother (who is a complete loser, to be fair) to one of her friends while I was there. Later on I was like, “Not cool. I don’t like you making fun of my family”. And she accused me of “censoring her” and I told her I wasn’t, she just doesn’t need to be such a know it all and the next thing I know she is sobbing. Then, of course, it’s not about my completely reasonable request, it’s about her hurt feelings. Manipulative and toxic, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 05:58 AM
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Crying when I offer constructive criticism to my girlfriend. Can’t stand that shit
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 05:38 AM
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I think the problem is that disappointment feels humiliating. So, no matter how nicely someone rejects, that rejection is still going to sting. And for a lot of people, I would say men more-so than women, feelings hurt can turn into rage really quickly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/24 01:44 PM
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Fussy eating. That’s a big no no for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 04:26 AM
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Emotions are reality, dude. There is nothing more real than how you feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/24 01:30 PM
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I respect the decision anyone who chooses to abstain from sex until marriage but I also imagine that anyone who does so is going to think, “is that it?!” when they do finally have sex. Personally I think it’s better to practice before committing.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/24 04:57 AM
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We never really dated. We were coworkers and friends for months and then we hooked up at a party. That was twelve years and two children ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 05:05 AM
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But in order to touch grass I would have to leave my dungeon of Hentai porn and video games
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/24 04:50 AM
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Do you have an example of a time in the United States when a man was arrested just for reporting his wife for abusing him?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 07:35 AM
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I think most people believe anyone reporting a crime. If someone ran down the street screaming, “Stole that guy! He stole my wallet!” You would probably believe it. Similarly, if a friend of yours said, “a girl I met a party is claiming I raped her, but I didn’t. She’s lying”, you’d probably believe him too. Being the first to report something is a great advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/24 04:49 AM
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I think that’s just what I don’t like about it. There is no mystery or ambiguity, no surprise or spontaneity. Everyone knows why they’re on the app. Yuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 07:20 AM
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Hmmm…interesting perspective. I thrive in ambiguity and maybe that’s why it sounds so awful to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 06:20 AM
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So go out with friends and coworkers. I only had a “cold approach” that turned into a relationship once.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/24 06:20 AM
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I read this and my mind goes into haiku mode: Man cave challenged now Drizzle drizzle deviate Soft guy era shift
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/24 06:21 PM
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You are accusing me of bad faith while calling me stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:52 PM
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Conscription absolutely can and should be abolished. I think men also date across and up. People generally only date people that they are genuinely attracted to. I think that’s a good thing
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:50 PM
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I would just like an example
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:48 PM
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How can you call the most technologically advanced and abundant society in history “ destroyed “
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:43 PM
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But some examples of different types of men in protagonist roles. Do you have any of those?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:41 PM
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Can you name a female privilege that can be systematically dismantled?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:40 PM
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I think you are just repeating something you heard on a YouTube video or something. If you want to know where your tax dollars go, have a look at this..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 08:37 PM
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Sounds like a conservative response to someone who faces systemic barriers. “Just pull yourself up by the bootstraps!”
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:47 PM
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Elaborate
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:45 PM
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No. Just give me some time examples
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 06:44 PM
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So like, have Indiana Jones be an unemployed morbidly obese man who lives in his mom’s basement?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:44 PM
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This is a truly creative solution. Don’t know how it would be enforced, but I like it!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:42 PM
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Lots of countries, most countries have legal abortion
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:39 PM
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Women experience plenty of consequences without having their bodily autonomy revoked
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:38 PM
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Go on…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:23 PM
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Well, it does require social skills to get laid if you’re not living in a society where marriages are arranged.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:21 PM
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The old “not a democracy, it’s a republic” schtick. Is that you, Stephen Crowder?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 05:18 PM
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That’s interesting. What causes male loneliness or is it just an internet thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 04:04 PM
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I totally agree. I also don’t believe that anyone should or even can lower their standards if they have agency over their bodies. No one, not one person, ever willingly had sex with someone because they felt that it was the “fair” or “just” thing to do. People have sex when they want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:38 PM
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Ok. Thanks for the warning, friend. Do you have any answers to the “mad scientist” questions I posed in the post?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:36 PM
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Dude, you are one plane ticket to Afghanistan away from living in paradise
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:33 PM
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I notice that you are calling yourself a communist. Do you see a Marxist solution involving proletarian revolution to the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:31 PM
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How many women do you think want to be sex workers of the sort who actually have penetrative intercourse with random clients? How much do you think the price would be for such encounters?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:30 PM
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Probably the best answer I’ve seen. Addressing the problem looks like enacting social democracy, which I am 100% in favor of
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:27 PM
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I’m sorry. I really didn’t mean to upset anyone. Just wanted to point out the absurdity of such approaches.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:14 PM
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Self-respecting is a pretty low bar
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 03:05 PM
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I think what the commenter meant to say is that, in order to be attractive to women, men have to appear not helpless. And that is not a prerequisite for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 02:52 PM
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Some you want to incentivize living in fear to address this problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 02:19 PM
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And what does that look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 02:18 PM
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Taliban style solutions. Let’s not throw away rights please.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 02:16 PM
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Not having sex is unethical?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:50 PM
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I don’t see government subsidizing bad decisions where I live and I don’t see how punishing children would address this problem
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 01:47 PM
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So, without destroying individual rights, most men are just screwed? You may be right, but that’s really scary.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 11:00 AM
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Those all sound like excellent policy suggestions but I’m not sure if they would address the problem and I promise you they would be extremely difficult to implement in the current political climate of the United States.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:59 AM
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So, limiting civil rights? I’m not sure how you legally force someone to make good decisions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:57 AM
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Yeah, that’s pretty much what I think too. I never once used a dating app when I was single, just hooked up at parties and work events and such. I can’t imagine how weird it must be to meet a stranger with the expectation of possibly having sex. No wonder anxiety is such a problem these days
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/24 10:56 AM
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Again you are looking for value judgments. It was the setup that was available with the technology at hand. Now we are set up to afford more rights and choice to people because of the vast increase in wealth and productivity in the past 200 years. This is the reason that increasing opportunities for women was inevitable and unstoppable as long as we remain in a super abundant society.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 06:26 PM
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Did I say anything about oppression? My point is simple and non-controversial. Throughout the preindustrial era, people lived lives that were largely dominated by impoverishment and hardship. The few people who were able to make a living from their talent and creativity, however, were almost 100% men. Not making a value judgement here. Just stating a fact. And now, in our era of hyper abundance, this has changed. People have agency and choices. Women can choose partners and careers. It’s a profo…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 06:08 PM
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Yeah, but how many pre-modern women achieved notoriety from their creativity compared to how many men? To suggest that women had the same agency as men in the preindustrial world is pretty absurd
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 02:33 PM
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What are you referring to?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 12:35 PM
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Come on. Shakespeare was not an aristocrat, neither was Mozart, Rembrandt, Descartes, Dante or about a hundred other men whose achievements made them household names. There are many less such women from that era. This is a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 06:21 AM
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I seem to have hit a nerve. I wasn’t suggesting all men do anything. I’m just saying lust is a very powerful thing and it can cause us, all of us, to lose sight of the feelings and value of other people beyond their sexuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 05:52 AM
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You are correct that most humans were peasants or serfs in the agricultural era. However, the overwhelming majority of those who did manage to become something else: artists, writers, academics, explorers, scientists, philosophers, were men. The only women who achieved greatness outside of their own homes in the preindustrial era were either monarchs who achieved their station by the accident of heredity or extremely rare exceptions like Joan of Arc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 05:23 AM
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I think experiencing lust is natural and unavoidable. You do have to remain cognizant of the fact that the object of your attraction is a human being with agency and not someone who exists to fulfill your desires, however. This can be challenging for all people in relationships, as their partners change and/or behave in ways that they wish they would not.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 05:13 AM
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I think that you are missing something. You seem to think that it’s just pretty women that are the objects of male lust that are at issue. But it’s not, it’s all women. It’s taking measure of a person’s worth based solely on their sexual attractiveness and/or experiences. So, in the 1960s, for example, a married woman in her 40s was would have been disqualified from a job as a flight attendant because she was unavailable to flirt with and she was past her sexual prime. That 47 year old woman not…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:47 AM
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Sexual objectification is not looking at a person and thinking, “damn! I’d hit that!” That is just biology doing its thing. It is seeing a person as intrinsically sexual, that the measure of a person’s worth is their sexual history and/or physical appearance. All else is secondary. And that is how women were viewed in our society for a long time and it’s still how a lot of people see women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 04:23 AM
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Historically, women took value in two ways: through their sexual purity (virgins, marriage material) or their promiscuity (whores, saddle up and ride). Hence they were objects, not beings with value and agency apart from their sexuality. While a man could be handsome, his value more often came from the profession he chose: doctor, mechanic, Supreme Court justice, soldier, construction worker, etc. A man’s value was not specifically measured in his attractiveness and sexual experiences. This is c…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/24 03:57 AM
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No. You cannot choose your sexuality but you can lower your standards to what is available. Non-homosexual men in prisons often form very tight sexual bonds even and then return to heterosexuality when released. I see no reason why frustrated men cannot form a group to perform sexual favors for one another. It’s just that they adhere too much to some “standard” they set for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 10:57 AM
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I mean, you could just ask easily say this about men. I’m pretty sure that if all the involuntary celibate men would just have sex with each other, they could solve their problems, right? Why don’t they do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 04:22 AM
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Really interesting question, OP. I think what you are missing here however is that women are more likely to get off to ideas rather than images. So, just looking a naked cocks is not likely to really do it for a woman because if the guy behind that cock isn’t interesting to her, it’s really not that exciting. Notice how male strippers usually don’t take their dicks out, right. That’s because of a woman hasn’t explicitly decided that she wants a man inside of her, his penis is likely to either be…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:21 PM
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This comment contains a Collectible Expression, which are not available on old Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 05:07 PM
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I will answer logically and truthfully…yes. And this also works for hiring or just meeting people in general. If you heard someone is cool from someone you respect, it gets things started right.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 06:45 AM
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Does this guy want turn my epidermis into a pelt or just fuck me and send nude pics of me to his friends? Hmm…let’s see. He seems to have all of his teeth, he makes eye contact, he’s not wearing a Rick and Morty T-shirt…I think he looks safe! Let’s see if I have any more condoms in my purse…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 06:34 AM
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Ok. If you don’t give a damn about being friends with them, I wonder how deep this friendship really was and we’re back to where we started. You disdain women because you don’t understand them, you don’t understand them because you don’t know them or you don’t care to really open up to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:54 AM
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Ok, my bad, I misunderstood. But what is the problem then? You have lots of friends. I’m assuming some are women, are they so mysterious to you? Are you not able to vent your frustrations directly to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:48 AM
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So elaborate. What is the point that I was not clever enough to grasp?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:40 AM
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You’re upset because people get their hearts broken? That is not a woman thing, it is not a man thing, it is not a straight thing or a gay thing. It is a person thing. It is why we have literally thousands of years of poetry and love songs about heartache and loss and disappointment. It sucks being dumped and cheated on. But this is not a reason to disdain anyone. And yes, people date assholes sometimes. People also promote assholes, vote for assholes and shell out hundreds of dollars to see ass…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:22 AM
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I can do it for him. There are also women who go on dissociative rants about how much they hate men. It looks a lot like what you wrote. I would say same thing to both you and them, if you hate the opposite sex so much, maybe get in touch with your bisexual side.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:08 AM
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Dude, you have basically turned 50% of the world’s population into a white whale. And this is why you view women with “hatred and disdain” and this is precisely why you can’t get laid. It will be close to impossible to deprogram you but please try to stop thinking about what you have been told about being “nice but not too nice” or whatever else and focus on yourself. Go out, have fun, sing songs you like, tell jokes you think are funny, talk about what you like to talk about and stop thinking a…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/24 05:04 AM
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Most of the women I’ve been with including my wife have been kinda butch and formerly lesbian, as in have ex-girlfriends. But I’m a straight guy. It’s weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 10:47 AM
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You know you’ve got a keeper if that approach works 😀
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/24 08:42 PM
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Yeah. I’m not Jreg but I wish I was and I would totally fuck him.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 03:52 PM
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I find that a good rebuttal to any political argument is an eye popping orgasm
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 03:51 PM
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I like people with totally wacky political views, doesn’t matter if it’s extreme left, right or even something totally off the charts. The conversation never gets stale and they’re nearly always lots of fun in the sack.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/24 05:50 AM
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Yeah, that’s a big reason why pregnancy was nearly constant
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/24 05:21 AM
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Inflation is temporary. Technology replacing jobs has been ongoing for about two hundred years.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 08:04 PM
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Did not mean any disrespect to blue collar labor, my friend. It’s just that jobs like these often don’t pay at the same rates as jobs requiring college degrees which are increasingly held by women. Also, if we’re comparing to the pre-industrial era, which ended about a nanosecond ago in world historical terms, the demand for male or even animal physical competence has been dramatically reduced by machines. That’s not a value statement, that’s a fact. There is a reason why first wave feminism sta…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 06:11 PM
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Yeah, but you also don’t see other animal species that make music, tell jokes, have complex speech, etc. Humans are really special
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 04:52 PM
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I would actually say that’s a perfect example of what I’m taking about. People have a problem with stay at home dads because of our cultural heritage. There’s nothing wrong with it though. The kids will still turn out fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 01:46 PM
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By and large, what are known as traditional gender roles come from our nearly universal human heritage of living in small farming communities for hundreds of generations. When food comes from the ground that is worked by people, having lots of kids is not a lifestyle choice, it’s a matter of survival for the family and the community. So, as a result, women were constantly pregnant which severely limited their freedom of choice. Women stayed home because that’s the only thing that made sense. In …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 06:07 AM
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It probably has happened but it’s not common. A sudden confession is not an attractive act. I think most heterosexual women would think, “if he likes me so much, why doesn’t he just kiss me?”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:21 AM
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If you don’t mind a little unsolicited advice (and if you don’t like it, just tell me to fuck off), I think you did things in the wrong order. I think that the thing to do is go out for romantic dinners after the sexual chemistry has been established. I think if she had agreed, it may have been really awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 06:20 AM
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So, you told her you like her and she said that she wasn’t into you in that way or something? It is a tough situation and I’ve been in your shoes and hers and in both cases it’s awkward. It creates an imbalance in the relationship that is not conducive to actual friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:59 AM
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That suck dude. I’m sorry. May I ask how the situation went down?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:52 AM
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Here’s the mistake that people make with “the friendzone”. They attempt to force romance to happen unnaturally. Either by blindsiding someone with a sudden confession (super awkward) or asking a “friend” out to a romantic dinner and the like, in the hopes that this will turn into sex (never gonna work). It’s important to treat friends like friends. Hang out, have fun, be yourself. Tell the jokes that you like to tell and be open about your feelings. If you’re just sitting there just listening to…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 05:45 AM
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Are there rules? Is it a game?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 08:30 AM
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I’ve got an idea. Treat everyone as an individual and not a monolithic group. Be open and friendly. Share your interests and sense of humor. And find a partner like that!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/24 06:32 AM
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I think generally speaking (there are exceptions, of course) it’s not a good practice to comment on how attractive a third party is in front of your SO. This is not a man thing or a woman thing or a fat thing or a straight thing. It’s just a person thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:41 AM
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Married men know how to fuck. What else do you need to know?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 11:19 PM
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We all have our own journey. Dating advice isn’t like a fire code or something. Sometimes you have to figure it out for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 11:17 PM
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What is a hyper-feminized man or hyper-masculinized woman? Like what are the traits of such a person?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 05:51 PM
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Ok, Romeo. What’s your love potion then?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 12:07 PM
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I honestly can’t imagine how a heterosexual person who has lots of friends of the opposite sex that they hang out with and party with would never find a mate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 10:35 AM
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Well, the way some people whine on this sub you have to wonder.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 08:02 AM
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The reality of “dating” is that one should not do it. The much more emotionally fulfilling choice is to have a wide circle of friends of different genders and backgrounds, to consume a lot of alcohol with these friends and to occasionally have sex with them when the spirit moves you. Eventually, you’ll have an encounter that is so good that you’ll want to “put a ring on it”, literally and figuratively. That’s basically the story of my 20s and 30s. Now I have two kids! Get out there and fuck each…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/24 05:51 AM
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So, everyone just sits at home at waits for a sex angel to descend from heaven or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 08:10 AM
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I’m sorry but I don’t believe that. People still go out for drinks after work and they still have parties.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 07:57 AM
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I’m a little older, but I find it really hard to believe that human behavior has changed that much since the early 2000s
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:41 AM
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But winning the lottery is based on random chance and is less likely than getting hit by lightning. Hooking up with friends at a party is something that was regular stuff in my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 06:27 AM
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“Dating” is a horrible idea. By that I mean that going out to dinner with someone you barely know with the expectation of having sex is bound to be fraught with awkwardness and misunderstanding. Much better is to go parties and happy hours and naturally hook up with acquaintances and then go out to eat, after you have established sexual chemistry. The “Friendzone” is a great place to find love. My wife was a very good friend for several months before we became romantically involved and I had dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 03:35 AM
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Just about all the people I ever had sex with, including my wife, were people I was well acquainted with before the sex thing happened. What I’m saying is, hook up with friends and coworkers, then start the going out bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 12:58 PM
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Yeah, but what it you have sex with people you already know socially?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 11:43 AM
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Why do people complain about “the friend zone”? Best road to the “with benefits zone” in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 10:53 AM
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If the sex was shitty you don’t have to have dinner
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 10:44 AM
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Nothing boring about sex! But…setting that aside, there’s also nothing fun and having a horribly awkward dinner with a person you don’t know. Seriously…does anyone like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:52 AM
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I’m in my 40s and I’m married with kids and I haven’t been single in 12 years but…once upon a time, I had lots of romantic adventures, I swear. Anyway, I see all this “who gets the check?” stuff on the internet and I just wonder what people are doing. Why would anyone go out to eat with a stranger? In my day, we hooked up at bars, parties, after work happy hours, and such and only after a few hook ups started the going out to restaurants part. Don’t people do that anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:42 AM
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Easy fix. Don’t go out to eat until the sex part happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:37 AM
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I have an even better idea, don’t go out on “dates” at all. Instead, hook up with friends and coworkers and don’t start the going out to eat part of the relationship until after you started having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/24 05:35 AM
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This really is not that hard, guys. You should never “confess” your feelings to someone. Of course, that’s going to be awkward and weird. You wait for the magic moment and move in for the kiss. And if you know what signals to look for, it never fails.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/24 05:59 PM
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Anyone, man or woman, gay or straight can do what you are describing
/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 05:57 AM
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That’s how it worked for me. I had a really bad breakup followed by a really bad rebound relationship and fell into a terrible depression in my mid thirties. Started drinking like crazy and having one night stands with strangers. Then I decided to clean up. Got a new job and moved, stopped drinking and gave up going out at all, focused on work and fitness. Within a year of starting my new job I discovered I was in love with my coworker and we started making out at an office Christmas party. We’r…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 06:14 AM
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Will people on this sub ever get bored with posting this kind of stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 06:10 AM
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The thing is that total assholes have a lot of confidence and charisma. They know what they want and they know how to say it. It’s charming…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 02:25 PM
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That’s interesting. I had not heard about this. Neckbeard Muslims! Hilarious!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 02:11 PM
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Yeah, totes also what I have noticed
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 02:09 PM
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And I think that’s the problem a lot of guys on this sub have. They desperately wish for a world where women can climax to the image of their sweaty ballsacks. But that’s not how things are ever going to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 02:00 PM
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Which is not something that heterosexual men usually do
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 01:52 PM
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I have often told people on this sub that if they’ve starved for attention from pretty girls they should go to Bible study and express some interest in finding Jesus. It might be annoying but you’ll find a lot of people who will give you their number and not ghost you. Going to an immigrant community is also an idea of a guy is disgusted by American women of his own age, however, it’s not going to be so easy for a couple of reasons. First many immigrants will not date outside their group. They a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 01:48 PM
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Women also don’t masturbate to photographs of naked men. That’s another key difference
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 01:40 PM
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I think that it’s just that horniness manifests differently. Women can be more horny in a relationship and they often are. But men are more willing to have sex with someone that they barely know or are not particularly attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 04:29 AM
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Some people are shitty. Don’t date them. It’s really that simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 08:20 AM
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Yeah, you are probably right. But if a man does not meet any of the criteria you mentioned (other than height), why would anyone want to date him? Sounds like a lack of ambition and interest in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 10:36 AM
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I’ve got an idea, have sex with people you already know and you don’t have to worry about approaching strangers
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 07:12 PM
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Best way to answer this question is to do some field research. How about you have sex with ten “Western women” and get back to us?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 06:56 PM
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Dude, didn’t you know that autistic women are the best in bed!? 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/24 05:27 PM
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Your strategy works great for communities where food is obtained through subsistence agriculture and there is a high premium on producing lots of kids to work the land. In urban, money based societies with a mage abundance of consumer goods, not so much. When people have more than they no what to do with in unlimited quantities, they start to focus on what they really want. It’s not necessarily a good thing, but it is a fact. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 06:02 AM
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It wouldn’t be precisely the same but it would lack a culture of respect for diversity and tolerance which are absolutely rooted in the Enlightenment. Not sure why you included Romanticism. In my view that’s where we can see the origins of fascism as it rejects the logic of the age of reason. The elephant in the room that you are missing in your OP is the Industrial Revolution. Without that you don’t get the hyper abundance and urban lifestyle that enabled the sexual revolution. I’m guessing tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 05:55 AM
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I have fantastic news for you, OP. You can relocate to Afghanistan or Saudi Arabia and live your dream life devoid of laws protecting individual rights and freedom of expression.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 05:39 AM
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People pick shitty partners. Not just women and not just for relationships. They elect shitty politicians, promote shitty bosses, adore shitty celebrities, and so on. This is because shitty people are often really good at being charming and manipulative. They zero in on what they want and don’t give a fuck about what it takes to get it. That quality shines through and is magnetic for a lot of people. It will likely always be this way. But here’s the good news, you can choose to not participate i…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 06:07 AM
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I have fantastic news for you! You can fuck dudes!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 08:19 AM
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Wish?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 08:53 PM
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What you’re describing is why I always prefer work hookups to OLD. Office Christmas party + Punch + 90’s hit playlist = balls deep in Holly from accounting. No internet required!
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/23 07:19 PM
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Well, I’m a dude and I hero worship John Lennon. What do you think about that?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 04:30 PM
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Ever heard of Beyoncé?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 03:45 PM
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Will be? There isn’t and there shouldn’t be. Why would you settle for shit sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 04:03 PM
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It’s like whiskey connoisseurs keep a little book of what they’ve tried and what they like or whatever. I do the same for people I’ve had sex with. I also have had sex with 15 men. Had to make sure that I wasn’t missing out on anything really important. I liked it ok. But fat ladies are definitely my thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 09:26 AM
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There is a lot of sexual repression on this sub. I wanted to stir things up with a little kink!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:46 AM
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I have a fuck journal
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:30 AM
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Send ‘em my way! I’ll put some chips on their shoulder and then some!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:28 AM
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I think I’ve laid out my theology quite clearly. And I do mean laid quite literally! 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 06:25 AM
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Date or date not, there is no try - Yoda
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:46 AM
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Sometimes you need to exaggerate a little to make an important point!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/23 05:36 AM
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Now that I have kids I don’t really think so. I would love to be a stay at home dad. I think I would love it. But sadly we cannot afford.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 10:35 AM
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In my experience, friendship is a short hop to with benefitship
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/23 07:36 AM
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I took it more to mean that what she finds sexy has evolved as the reality of life with two kids has sunk in for the both of us
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 07:20 PM
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I asked my wife this very question and she was like “fuck yeah, I’d like you to be a stay at home dad!” Then I asked her what she would have thought if I had told her that was my ambition when we started dating and before we had kids and she was silent for a really long time and then said, “I don’t know”. I think that says a lot .
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 03:51 PM
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I don’t know what advice I could give you really. You will not be able to form meaningful romantic relationships with people that you find alien and untrustworthy. I understand where you are coming from but there is no “hack” here. You must be able to be at least somewhat at ease around women if you hope to share your vulnerability and anxiety about intimacy. I don’t see any other way
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 11:34 PM
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I understand what you are saying. You fear them because they have something that you want very badly and which is mysterious to you. I get it. Nonetheless, I assure you there is nothing to fear. The first step is to become comfortable around women, to learn to joke about yourself, to be at ease. And the best way to do that is to put yourself in situations where interacting with women is unavoidable. Work is a good place to start because you already have share experiences regarding successes and …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 01:54 PM
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Christmas is right around the corner and there’s sure to be a boozy party at the workplace. Get some disco holiday hits pumping on the office sound system, mix up some good egg nog and start busting a move on the dance floor. You’ll be balls deep in Holly from accounting by the Christmas Eve, I guarantee!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 11:49 AM
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So there is an attractiveness bar to having friends?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 10:00 AM
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It depends on what you mean by dating. If it means meeting someone that you barely know in a bar or restaurant and hoping to have sex, then yes. This is one of the most unnatural and awkward situations you can possibly but yourself in. But if it means spontaneously hooking up with friends and coworkers in social settings and then finding out if you are romantically and sexually compatible, then no. That is lots of fun at the beginning stages, though it does end in heartbreak very often. Overall …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/23 05:39 AM
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Here’s the best bit of advice ever: enjoy yourself! If you’re having fun, if you dance and sing and tell jokes and smile at people. If you enjoy the company of the opposite sex and don’t spent all your time worrying about whether or not they fancy you or resenting them for liking other people, you’re going to come off as much more likable and attractive. Gold pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:56 PM
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Well, I certainly condone your honesty. And I agree that you have rejected liberalism. For my own part, I feel that feminism is the inevitable outcome of a technologically advanced society. The world where women were subject to men worked in the highly agricultural past when large families were necessary for survival. In the modern money based economy women’s intellectual power is unstoppable and women will continue to control more and more of society’s wealth and power. The only way to reverse …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 07:18 AM
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It kinda sounds like you don’t think women are fully functional adults. Like if you think that they are not capable of critical thought, they’re more like children. Children don’t have full civil rights nor responsibilities. Should women vote? Should they own property? Sign contracts? Stand trial? The ancient Greeks and Chinese certainly would not have thought so, what do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:51 AM
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Well, you sound kinda pissed off
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 09:19 PM
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You think 80% of women think the same and want the same stuff? I’m sorry, that’s an internet thing, I see zero evidence of it in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 09:19 PM
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80% of women are bots?! And you still can’t get laid?!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 08:06 PM
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They certainly did and they still do in much of the developing world
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 08:05 PM
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Nobody likes lies. But you’re on the internet which is full of them. I repeat, treat people as individuals not institutions and get off the internet for a bit. It’ll help.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 08:04 PM
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Just chill out, man! Stop thinking of men and women as institutions instead of individuals. Start enjoying yourself instead of being resentful about what some random strangers said to you on Reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 07:54 PM
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OP has written a thoughtful and well written piece in response to an utterly absurd assertion. No one needs to “obey” their spouse. That is the opposite of what a mature relationship should be.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:00 AM
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Dude, you are talking out of your ass. Raising kids is a ton of work
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 10:58 AM
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What’s the fix? I think Congress should create a Bureau of Male Self-Esteem Improvement. They could temporarily assign a supermodel to virgin men and have them give sex lessons until their confidence improves enough to approach women of comparable attractiveness. Seems fair given centuries of systemic discrimination against dorky dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 06:42 AM
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You are not seen as a real man unless you’re straight by a declining subset of the population whose economic and cultural power also on the wane. Among educated, wealthy and urban Westerners, acceptance of LGBTQ lifestyles is the norm. The same does not hold true in other parts of the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 09:26 PM
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Well, if a person seeks to participate in a modern economy where people earn money to purchase goods in shops and online retailers, there is no society more accepting than the west of LGBTQ and diversity in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 08:59 PM
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But what are those cultures? I’ve heard of them too, but what are their names? Can we move to them? Is there a safer place for LGBTQ people who prefer a developed, modern lifestyle to live than the west?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 06:48 PM
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I’m a bi-dude and I was born in the Soviet Union ( not the west). I’ve been with men and women from all over the world. There’s no where more accepting of non-traditional gender and sexuality than the west. It’s not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:09 PM
2

Maybe Congress should create a Bureau of Male Self-Esteem Improvement. They could temporarily assign a supermodel to virgin men and have them give sex lessons until their confidence improves enough to approach women of comparable attractiveness. Seems fair given centuries of systemic discrimination against dorky dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 04:40 PM
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Here’s what you do: When the waiter brings the bill for dinner, there might be some uncertainty about who will pay. You must whip out your cock and bust a nut on the table. Then you say, “I think that covers it. Let’s go back to my place.” That’ll let your date know that even though you drive an M3A3 Bradley you’re still not a soy boy cuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 02:30 PM
1

Yeah, I can’t disagree. And yet, I find this sub very entertaining
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 01:08 PM
2

Yeah, I think being 6ft is a bit of a handicap for a woman, however. Honestly, I find these kinds of discussions are rather pointless. People are going to like what they like regardless of what anyone else says
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 12:00 PM
3

I don’t think that there are many women that prefer short men, but…short guys do get laid! As far as being dominant, I think that there are plenty of women who like to take charge.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 11:43 AM
3

Well it’s certainly no secret that they were annoyed that he let her into their recording sessions. But I’m sure they weren’t like, “yeah, that’s the only way John can get laid”.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 08:16 AM
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Attraction absolutely cannot be quantified. Just look around the world or at old art for evidence that what is and is not considered attractive changes over time and space. My favorite example is the country of Tajikistan where women paint unibrow on their foreheads if they can’t grow them naturally. Can you imagine a sorority sister doing that?! Another great example is John Lennon. Probably one of the most popular and admired men who ever walked the earth, surely had sex with hundreds if not t…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 08:07 AM
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It’s really hard to reject someone in a friendly way. I’ve tried it and it usually works like this: the other person thinks “Well, you’re still being nice to me so I guess I still have a chance!” Eventually it comes up again, “Why don’t you want to date me?” or “Can we please start dating again?” And it doesn’t feel good to be wanted when you don’t want that person back so…eventually you have to start being cold and unfriendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/23 05:39 AM
7

That’s why I always roll up to a dinner date in an Abrams tank
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 07:04 AM
8

Telling people not to be disgusted isn’t going to make them less disgusted
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:36 AM
1

Can’t argue with that!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 06:42 AM
3

Absolutely a sexist double standard. It’ll be interesting to see if it goes away
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 06:42 AM
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That’s a really good question. I don’t know the answer but I think that for straight women it remains really important that their man is “not a loser”. An unemployed person of no means is less likely to have the confidence to charm an older woman who knows what she wants and what she likes. “Not a loser” tends not to be an issue for most straight men. When you think about it, we almost never describe women this way at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 06:00 AM
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Women do find youth attractive. And so do gay men, for sure. Youth is attractive. Young people are at the peak of heath and fitness. However, for an older person to actually be with a young person they typically must two to things: Be the provider: Young people typically don’t have much money so you need to give them a reason to stay with your old ass. Men are richer on average than women and, for whatever reason, women tend to be turned off by men of no means. But this is changing. And I don’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 05:50 AM
0

With that attitude you’ll never get a shot for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 04:15 PM
13

I’m 47. I bet that’s super old to you but I’m married for over five years and I had three long term relationships before that and I don’t know how many mini-romances with men and women, of all ages. So, here’s what I can tell you. If you’re liking it, chances are she is too. If you’re both huffing and puffing and laughing with bloodshot eyes when it’s done, you did a good job! If you’re worrying about how the last guy she fucked had a bigger dick and lasted longer, you psyching yourself out and …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 12:47 PM
8

There’s a really good way to stop worrying about this: be awesome at sex. You’re welcome.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 11:13 AM
3

Are either of those ever premeditated?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 09:31 AM
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Well, has that ever worked for you? What you are describing sounds more like an HR hiring strategy and not love. It kinda has to be spontaneous
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 09:19 AM
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I’m asking if you had fallen in love. Because you would know that it’s an individual experience that one does on one’s own with any kind of premeditated plan or solitary with others.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:29 AM
20

Have you ever fallen in love?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:13 AM
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Whenever I see posts like this I wonder if the writer thinks that “Men” and “Women” are like countries that make decisions in executive cabinets and parliamentary committees and the like. Men decide to “lower their standards” and “forgive certain traits”. Women “trade looks for money” or whatever is imagined. OP, do you not realize that people are individuals and that dating especially is a highly personal experience? People have vastly different tastes and standards and they are constantly in f…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 06:45 AM
3

This is like Lysistrata for men. Interesting…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:03 PM
2

At last the real truth is available. I’ve been so confused 🫤!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:35 PM
4

At last the real truth is available. I’ve been so confused 🫤!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 03:35 PM
1

Right on. I was misinformed. So what’s his schtick?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 08:50 PM
3

I’m not that familiar with Andrew Tate. I was under the impression that he advocates having sex with minors. Is that what rich white liberals in Seattle are keeping to themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 05:43 AM
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I love sucking cock 🤤
/r/AllPillDebate06/11/23 11:58 AM
-8

Here are my thoughts: Y’all have come up with some really compelling arguments to not trust women. So, don’t. I have the perfect solution. Have one of your buddies come over and take a big dose of viagra. Then pull out your phones and put on some Hentai or whatever it is that you imagine women should be and then suck each other off or even put it in each other’s asses. You can still hold the phone while you’re doing that. Then you can cuddle afterwards.
/r/AllPillDebate06/11/23 05:48 AM
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Have you actually spent time in the country that makes up your username? Because and I know it well and I promise you, dating there carries a lot of challenges.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 05:20 AM
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I’m in my late 40s and have spent approximately half of my adult life living and working in other countries. I guess you could say I was a “passport bro” before that was even a term. It’s much easier to make friends and have romantic hook-ups when you live abroad. You are automatically interesting to the locals because you are foreign and exotic and other Americans/Canadians/Brits (and more) are also interested in you because you’re sharing the experience of living in a different place. As a rul…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 05:18 AM
1

Jubilation! What was in that pill?!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 11:33 AM
1

What happened after you took the red pill?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 11:05 AM
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“She” is some 49 year old neckbeard in mommy’s garden shed jerking off to hentai. This was not written by a woman. I stake my fat nutsack on it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 07:08 PM
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I have a strong feeling that an incel male wrote this. It has that, “I have no idea what women actually think like” vibe.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:26 PM
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You see, this is exactly what I’m talking about. It sounds like you really hate women. Maybe heterosexuality just isn’t your thing. Have you tried sex with dudes? You might find that less frustrating. I’m being totally serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 06:56 AM
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Pfft…I always give blow jobs instead of tips when my Uber Eats cums 🤤
/r/AllPillDebate02/11/23 05:20 AM
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Boils down to feelings about sex over all. Lots and lots of people are profoundly uncomfortable with sex. Seems to me that a lot of men (especially here) hate themselves for being attracted to women who they don’t like and understand and resent women for not giving them what they want, which is sex. So they end up hating women who have sex, which is essentially almost all women. Sex workers have the most sex so they hate them the most. Yes, they could just pay them and get what they want but I’m…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:54 AM
1

Why do so many people on this sub think women hate sex ?
/r/AllPillDebate01/11/23 03:03 PM
1

Good take. Can’t disagree with anything you said
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 05:59 AM
1

This is a really good question. I guess I believe in the sanctity of the human soul and the beauty of imperfection. Particularly when finding a mate. I guess I’m just an old fashioned guy. And I’m totally ok with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 08:41 PM
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I’ll be honest, I didn’t watch it when I first replied but now I just did. Here’s what I think: I don’t need to be convinced that dating apps are terrible, or that social media is manipulative. I know it is. It’s as obvious as the nose on my face to me. However, I’m very wary of anyone who seeks to limit the choices of adults. Maybe some form of regulation would be prudent but again, by whom? The government? Doesn’t sound good to me. There are also things that I just straight disagree with in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 08:33 PM
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I’m sorry. You have every right to be bitter. I feel for you and I hope you find love.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:27 PM
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I totally, totally agree. But I don’t believe that it is incumbent upon the government to decide for people what is most fulfilling or healthy. I believe people should have a right to decide how to live their lives as they see fit. For the record, I also believe all drugs and prostitution should be regulated and legal. I’m basically a libertarian socially.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:25 PM
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It kinda sounds like you are blaming women for not being attracted to certain men. If they are not attracted, I don’t know how that can be forced or brought about by logic or duty.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:22 PM
1

I don’t believe in limiting people’s personal choices. Full stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:19 PM
1

I’m totally anti-dating app for the record. But, if other people like it, why should we wreck their fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:14 PM
1

Well, you sound content. Kind of. Are you happy with this solitude that you have chosen for yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:12 PM
1

I don’t understand what you mean. Expect what?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:10 PM
2

True that. So what’s your thing, man? What do you really like doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:28 PM
1

I’m confident that as that as people from those traditional cultures gain more affluence and opportunities, their women will have more agency. Just look at the behavior of many Indian and women who are 3rd generation in the United States. They start to act like Americans.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:27 PM
1

Meeting strangers on the internet seems nice to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:44 PM
2

Did that lawsuit work or was it thrown out?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:42 PM
1

Look what happened in Vietnam
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:38 PM
1

So, in my experience, the thrill of being in a new and unfamiliar place kinda gives me a buzz and makes me more confident and fun to be around. I’m just pitching you ideas
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:33 PM
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I’m not strawmanning! I love your example! Anyone following this exchange please check out the link he posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:32 PM
2

You might have a point in the second bit there. In fact, I would go so far as to say that feminism must exist because we live in such a peaceful, affluent and technologically advanced society. There is no logic in women being baby factories anymore as we don’t really need kids except to make ourselves happy. And for that same reason I promise you that American men are not going into battle or into coal mines and steel mills anytime soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:26 PM
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What I’m saying is that you know people, like people, get drunk with people, hook up with people and then start dating. That’s the formula that worked me. No online dating required.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:23 PM
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Yeah, have you considered trying what they call the “passport bro” route?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:21 PM
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Well, I’m pretty sure that lonely men would have no problems getting laid at that particular male only space.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:19 PM
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I’m going to make a gross assumption here and assume that you are American. If that is the case, the number of native born American males have not been working in physically demanding jobs has been in steady decline for about 50-60 years. Military conscription has not been used since 1973 and even then it was easy for educated men to avoid the draft. The last really significant conscript Army in American history was WWll. And since widespread acceptance of feminism stated about 50-60 years ago, …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:18 PM
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I understand and respect what you are saying. And I get that these situations are scary for very introverted people. However, at some point you must take a risk and socialize. There is no other “hack” to getting in actual relationship that does not involve interacting with others. I’m suggesting that this is easier to do with people that you already have shared experiences with (your coworkers) than with people you met on a dating app.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 01:11 PM
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I admire your candor. I can’t say that I look forward to it but it may be what’s on the horizon. And, as a futurist, you probably know they lifespans may dramatically increase in the future. You may have hundreds of years of pleasure on the way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 12:13 PM
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Ok. I can kinda see that. I can also see how it might lead to some sort of Black Mirror dystopian future where people won’t interact with other people because they’re more interested in having sex with robots with no actual personality or agency.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 12:09 PM
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Ok, man. You do you. Happy trails!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 12:07 PM
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I think what you are describing comes from the internet and not real life. Yes, everyone knows that some men sexually assault women. It happens, it would be foolish to discount this possibility. And yes, some women are manipulative and some women find toxic men attractive. Some men find toxic women attractive, some gay people find toxic people of their own sex attractive. Toxic people are pushy and they’re good and getting their way. That’s not good but it’s how things are. Why worry about it? I…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:38 AM
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Did you read what I wrote? I’m suggesting getting rid of the “dates” part completely. Like when I was single and had someone I was hooking up with, I might say, “let’s go grab some sushi and white wine”. If it was my idea I’d probably pay for it but I really wouldn’t give it too much thought or keep a tally in my head or who paid how much for what. It’s exactly the same as what I do with friends I’m not having sex with actually. What you are suggesting sounds like you’re overthinking things. Jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:29 AM
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But that would be totally against the principles of liberal democracy. People like dating apps and social media. Are they unhealthy? Sometimes, yes. But so is drinking and smoking and drugs and driving and gambling and skiing and boating and lots and lots of things much more dangerous than internet apps. What you are suggesting is not serious and realistic in our society.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:09 AM
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I’m sorry, man. I can tell that you’re really upset. It’s frustrating to be lonely. My advice is to not give up. Nothing comes from pessimism at the end of the day.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:06 AM
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Mandate means that something is not optional, and you must do it. As such, there is almost nothing that is mandated in education apart from multiplication tables and five paragraph essays. There is nothing in education about dating, nor should there be. It’s a highly subjective and personal experience and no one really decides who is attracted to what. So, what lies are you referring to? And who told them? Certainly not your teachers.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:04 AM
1

That’s really depressing. Robots are the solution to maladjusted people who can’t find love? Doesn’t feel right to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:35 AM
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What happened to the female friends you had if you don’t mind my asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:34 AM
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Ok. What you are describing sounds really scary and authoritarian. Mandate education about the “true nature of women”? What is that? I may be reading it wrong but it sounds kinda like you are paranoid and afraid of women. Which makes me wonder if maybe heterosexuality is not really your thing. If you don’t like women, I don’t think romantic relationships with them are going to work for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:32 AM
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But does society tell women that they are better? I really don’t see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:29 AM
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Sure! I also had hook ups with random strangers at one time. For me, it felt weird. I found it felt more authentic with people I already knew.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 09:02 AM
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I don’t think you have to do it the way I suggested, I’m just saying it’s less awkward than trying to meet up with a stranger than you encountered online. That to me sounds very uncomfortable and unnatural.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 08:59 AM
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Well, if you were dating in 2008, you aren’t exactly a spring chicken yourself! But seriously, how could it have changed so much? Don’t after work happy hours happen? And Christmas parties and Halloween parties?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:56 AM
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That’s not how it looks with the young folks at my workplace
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:48 AM
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I think we are in total agreement
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 06:39 AM
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Ok, then. I’m on board!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:54 AM
1

Good take!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 05:53 AM
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I started dating my wife nearly eleven years ago now so I’m not very well versed in being single these days and I never used a dating app at all but I still think I know a bit so here’s my two cents… No one should “date”, as in go out with someone you barely know with the expectation of having sex. When I was single, I would hang out with friends and coworkers and inevitably hooking up would happen, and then you go out for dinner and movies and stuff. After you already know you like each other. …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:27 AM
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As I said in the post, I don’t think shutting down popular websites is the answer. Has there ever been a time other than prohibiting drugs and alcohol (which also doesn’t work) that government took from people something that they liked.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:30 AM
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Shutting down massively popular websites is in essence reorganizing society as we would be dictating to people what’s good for them. Also, look at the trajectory of our society. It’s been moving toward permissiveness and tolerance for about 200 years or so. You are suggesting a massive shift towards authoritarian control. Finally, I really don’t think lessening the options available to women is desirable or necessary. The fact that you would suggest it at all makes me think that you really don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:27 AM
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I think any attempt to provide public education to instill “masculinity” will be a nonstarter as it’s inherently exclusive of girls. But I see no reason not to have entrepreneurship classes and vocational education available to everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:21 AM
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Based on the comments you are posting, it sounds like women are totally alien to you. I’m guessing that this is the big problem. I don’t have any advice right off the top of my head other than to just tell you that they’re just people. No need to be in awe of them or intimidated by them. I realize that may be hard to really realize internally.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:18 AM
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That sounds totally reasonable. And it sounds like something you can get from just having close friends of either sex around.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 03:15 AM
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It all comes down to class in my opinion. I feel like it’s the one form of discrimination that gets overlooked and given a pass these days. Most “leftists” don’t even care about it anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 08:27 PM
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I think all that tech is just holding them back, honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 08:25 PM
2

Do you work with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 07:53 PM
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I don’t understand how hanging out in male only spaces increases the chances of finding a partner. I think the answer is to seek out the company and friendship of women
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 07:50 PM
6

I know, right? How hard is it to give a hand job?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 07:48 PM
8

That sounds a little classist
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 07:46 PM
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When has anyone sued for creating a male only space?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 07:43 PM
6

What is this plan you speak of?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 07:41 PM
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You know, when I was single I always had the best luck with women I already knew. I found the “friend zone” to be a place where it was not too hard to be upgraded to the “with benefits” variety. I’m saying this to suggest that maybe going out with the expectation of hooking up at all might not be a great idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 07:38 PM
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If you are referring to the United States, quotas are illegal. https://www.dol.gov/agencies/ofccp/faqs/AAFAQs#:~:text=No%2C%20OFCCP%20regulations%20do%20not,They%20are%20strictly%20forbidden.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 07:15 PM
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But, invest how? What kind of investment can we make to ensure these guys get a sexual partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 07:12 PM
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This makes absolutely no sense
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 06:58 PM
9

You’re obviously not writing this in response to what I wrote.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 06:57 PM
2

Good observation
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 06:56 PM
1

This actually makes a lot of sense. Good response!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 06:30 PM
4

These are solid suggestions. I like!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 06:29 PM
7

It sounds like you are being very general here. And a little unfair too. I recommend not dating men. You don’t like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 06:26 PM
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You sound a little upset. I would seriously recommend not being heterosexual to you. It sounds like you don’t like women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 06:25 PM
9

This is just a rant. It sounds like you didn’t read anything and you are just responding to some post you imagined in your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 06:20 PM
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This is true, I believe sympathy and not mockery is in order. But, I think many bring it on themselves when they trash women for their sexual choices. This is not a good look.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 01:18 PM
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Can’t argue with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 01:16 PM
4

Meaning what exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/23 01:14 PM
1

I used to go to church with girls I liked just for shits and giggles. I thought it was fun. They can’t make you believe anything. But the people are often really nice
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 12:16 PM
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I’m married and I met my wife and work. And that was not the first time that I had dated someone I worked with either. I’m not saying, I was looking for it but I always thought it was kind of natural to form strong bonds with coworkers. I mean, you share ups and downs, you can joke together about your asshole boss, your creepy coworkers, your annoying clients, and you know each other. All it takes is a little sustained eye contact at an after work happy hour or a slow dance at the office Christm…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 10:46 AM
2

Why not just go to church? You don’t have to believe. And they’ll pay attention to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 10:01 AM
3

There was an episode of Black Mirror about this. People were paired up with someone and there was an expiration date on their relationship from the beginning.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 05:21 AM
1

Never heard of project pat
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 05:56 PM
1

Paula Abdul had a song about people like you back in the day
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 02:34 PM
2

Owwwwch! Don’t call me daddy, u/call_me_daddy98! You’re hurting me feelings!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 12:34 PM
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Oh no! You’re breaking my heart, dude! I was never a Chad! Nooooo! 😩 I’ll give you a little free advice. None of this “Chad” Shit matters. Just date who you like and enjoy life!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:53 AM
3

D’oh! My Chad card been revoked !
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 07:11 AM
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So, since we’re kicking it anecdotal, I can tell you that I dated an single mom for about a year and half once. Her ex was an absolute loser (and I’m a fucking Chad, of course). The kind of guy who told her she’d never find anyone because she had a kid. Went ballistic when started dating me. Threatened to get his friends to kick my ass and stuff. Never happened, of course. I don’t know how that story can compare to the empirical data on display in Daddy’s Home 1 & 2, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 04:47 AM
3

Yeah, because Chad is the dessert! I’ll be broccoli sometimes gets jealous of chocolate cheesecake, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 06:16 PM
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This pretty much sums it up. And like dessert. Sometimes you really want it bad. But you never need it like the main course And there is nothing wrong in this. That’s what so many guys on this sub don’t realize. It’s ok to not want sex like a man wants sex. Learn to be the dessert!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 05:27 PM
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I feel like I’ve seen this exact same thing here before. This is not comparing apples to apples. The first set of phrases are what people say to explain why women sometimes put up with sexual harassment and even abuse. They don’t feel powerful enough to say no. The second set of phrases are what people say to a man (or woman) who is making people feel uncomfortable. How are these two things alike?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 02:45 PM
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Follow the path of least resistance, friend. If a girl likes you and you like her back just go with it, dude. It’s not like you have to get married. For the love of Christ, don’t cut your balls off.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 10:50 AM
3

I have some social skills, that is correct. But I do understand that socializing is challenging for some. Nonetheless, sexual intimacy is an inherently social enterprise. How could one expect not to develop social skills and find sexual satisfaction? It seems a bit unreasonable and unrealistic to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 08:51 AM
1

My friend, just focus on enjoying yourself. Appreciate the company of friends. Tell jokes, laugh, sing songs, dance, tell stories, listen to others. Having a good time is sexy. It will increase your “market value”. Does thinking of it like that help?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:56 PM
2

So, making life harder for poor people and easier for multinational corporations is your approach to making it easier to get laid for men? I don’t get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:37 PM
1

That sounds really depressing and demoralizing. Do you think anything can be done to improve the situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 06:26 PM
-1

You see, I feel like you’re treating men as if they’re victims somehow. And I don’t really see that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:42 PM
1

I understand things have changed but…after work happy hours still happen, right? How about office Christmas parties or Halloween parties? Surely these still exist. I know because I go to them and watch people hook up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 05:00 PM
3

Precisely what I’m trying to say!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 04:54 PM
7

Well, social media was there already when left the dating market back in 2013 but it was not as developed as it is now, that’s for sure. Nonetheless, I still believe that people fall in love with someone because there is a natural connection and, in order to make that connection, you need to relax and enjoy hanging out with people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 02:23 PM
-1

46, 6’1”, Jewish
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 02:07 PM
7

Nobody has sex with someone without anything to offer. That would be ridiculous. How would that even work?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 02:07 PM
6

Everything at once. I am in my late 40s and I’ve been with the same woman for 11 years. Married with two kids. Talking to people on Reddit is what I do while I’m pooping and need some alone time. But anyway, I was an “incel” back in the 90s long before anyone had come up with that term. I just decided to stop worrying one day and focus on having fun. And, guess what? I had a blast! I’m not sure if I had “an abundance” of options but options were certainly available.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 02:01 PM
7

I mean, yeah. I think they enjoyed hanging out with me. Otherwise…sex would not have happened, right? But no, I was never paying for a bunch of shit or even inviting girls out on formal dates, at all. Hooking up just kind of happened at parties and after work events and then we took it from there. I feel like this isn’t that tough. Why do people do the internet dating thing at all? It must be super awkward.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 01:56 PM
7

Yeah, there are lots of reasons to take care of yourself professionally and in your health that are not connected to sex too
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 11:56 AM
8

Dude, oh my god! Just relax and enjoy yourself. You’re overthinking it. Sex is supposed to be fun!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:33 AM
16

Oh yes. It will increase for sure. But, that doesn’t mean it’s essential.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:30 AM
12

In order to have sex, you have to have something to offer. This I agree with. And no, I am not a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:15 AM
6

Yeah, no. That is absolutely not my experience as a man. I pretty much always hooked up with people I was already on good terms with. And then finally married a woman that I worked very closely with. Status was never a factor for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 09:14 AM
1

I mean if someone is cheating on you, cheating back can be very empowering. Worked for me. Ultimately that marriage did end. Thank God. But I think the revenge cheating was part of my healing process. And now I’m married again. Been in the relationship for over 11 years. We still have lots of fun and lots of sex too. So…I think it can work!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 08:25 AM
14

I’m not a woman actually. And I’ve never really understood the “pills” approach to relationships. That’s not to say I’ve never known heartbreak or disappointment, I have. But ultimately, following my sense of joy and adventure worked out for me. I can’t imagine how developing a strategy of any sort is a healthy approach to love.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 08:15 AM
3

Cheating is a two way street, you know?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:48 AM
7

Why does there have to be a “dating market” at all? Go out with people you like (like people you know from life, not the internet), hook up with the ones you like best, see how that works out, repeat until you find the right one. I understand I’m oversimplifying (but really not that much, tbh) but I think the problem is that you are treating it as a “market” at all. Have fun among friends and enjoy yourself. Having sex is part of the journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/23 07:47 AM
1

Seems like a simple enough recipe to follow
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 08:15 PM
13

There is no catch all formula to get laid. Is this a surprise to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 06:13 PM
2

The question is what to do about it. Is there any kind of policy decision that can be made to address these problems or they just the result of personal decisions?
/r/AllPillDebate12/10/23 04:07 PM
1

Well, it’s important to be true to yourself, I firmly believe that. But, at the same time, maybe try a different approach. Like, if you know what is weird about you, maybe dial it back a bit. What do you think?
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 05:15 PM
1

But…how much of a weirdo are you? Like what are you doing?
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 04:43 PM
-6

That’s true, back then I was using Facebook to flirt with girls I already had met
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 03:26 PM
-3

How about not use Tinder? I always did well at after work happy hours and Christmas parties and the like.
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 03:24 PM
-14

I used social media to meet ladies back in 2006-2012
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 03:19 PM
-16

Why is it tough to be a man “right now”. I’m Gen X and I’ve been with one woman for about ten years. When I was single I did all right though. What is it that has changed? Men and still men, women are still women, right?
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 03:16 PM
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The thing is that the first set of phrases (“she was raised to please” etc.) are meant to explain why women sometimes tolerate sexual harassment and even abuse. They feel disempowered to say no. The second set of phrases (“he should learn to read the room” etc.) is what people say to men who get rejected by women that they are attracted to. So are you comparing being sexually assaulted to be being turned down? Because that sounds pretty ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 01:23 PM
1

I never heard of that before now but I guess I don’t as in a ton of situationships before I married my wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 05:29 AM
1

As an older guy who has been with lots of younger women, including a few single moms, I’m gonna say both are beautiful green flags!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 07:59 AM
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Are you expecting people who define their lives by resent and sexual frustration to see women as complex and nuanced individuals beings?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 04:45 AM
7

This is kind of a no brainer, right? We all know it’s hos before bros IRL.
/r/AllPillDebate25/09/23 05:23 PM
6

Any guy who can’t get laid needs to move to Japan with a pair of scissors ✂️ 🍆 💡
/r/AllPillDebate24/09/23 07:29 PM
4

Unless we’re talking about sex workers, or people from very traditional societies where marriages are arranged by parents, pretty much all people exclusively have sex with people are attractive to themselves. There is incredible diversity in what different people think is attractive, however.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 07:18 AM
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Call me crazy, but I still believe in love
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 09:23 PM
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Yeah, probably because the Olympic athletes were pumped full of steroids in the Communist bloc
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 10:48 AM
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In Eastern Europe there is often a stereotype that western women are very masculine and men are not “real men”. But the reality is that both western men and women have no problem finding dates in countries like Poland, Czechia and Ukraine.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 06:55 AM
2

Wouldn’t you give the same advice to a guy getting into a relationship with a girl from “another country”?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:54 PM
3

What’s your opinion on women who date men from other countries?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 10:40 PM
1

When I was single, I never really “dated” in the sense that I took out women and there was an expectation of someone paying for things. I just went to social events usually through work or study and then hook ups just happened. Doesn’t anyone do it that way anymore?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 05:05 AM
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Your logic makes perfect sense to me. I have reinvented my past several times. I control the truth about myself
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 06:49 PM
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Sounds like the OP is suggesting that every woman is in a polyamorous relationship with the entire world.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 02:49 PM
6

That really sounds innocuous. Are you sure that they think you’re a creep? Like did anyone say anything to you?
/r/AllPillDebate17/09/23 05:35 AM
3

You got branded a creep yesterday? What exactly happened?
/r/AllPillDebate17/09/23 05:04 AM
1

What should men do once they know the truth?
/r/AllPillDebate17/09/23 05:02 AM
5

I think like any person I get an icky feeling when I can tell someone is into me and I don’t feel the same way about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 06:13 AM
1

You don’t have to do anything. I’m just point out that you are probably not in such a bad situation. What is so bad about your life? What is so insurmountable that you think suicide is the only way out.
/r/AllPillDebate16/09/23 05:23 AM
1

I don’t know, man. That sounds like a question for a priest or a rabbi. What I do know is that people live through horrific paralyzing injuries, long term prison sentences, genocidal holocausts and a million other things far more painful than not getting laid and they still manage to make sense of their existence somehow. If your life is that terrible, try doing something fun. Lean to surf, or speak another language, try to write a poem or a song about your struggles. Do anything, something. You…
/r/AllPillDebate15/09/23 06:33 PM
4

Don’t kill yourself, dude! You’re going to die eventually anyway and then you’ll have forever to be dead. Focus on being alive while you can.
/r/AllPillDebate15/09/23 03:14 PM
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I had a two year relationship that ended over ten years ago. It was not a good match and I’m happily married now. But I’ll be damned if I don’t dream of that girl at least once a month. They aren’t sex dreams either. She just comes to me and says, “I really miss you”. Always hard to wake up from. She had something that really captured my heart…and I let her go. All in all, it was the right thing to do for sure. But I miss her somehow.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 05:11 PM
3

You sound like just the fixer upper I’ve been looking for! Feel free to DM me and set up a date! P.S. - I am a Victoria Secret underwear model and I’ve never had sex
/r/AllPillDebate10/09/23 07:24 AM
4

I was pretty much kidding, of course. To be honest, I think that most of men on this sub are focused on shallow people who use dating apps and who focus on surface level appearances. Of course, it’s better to be prudent with your investments. But, if you want a partner who appreciates that, you’ll need to stop looking in the wrong places.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 04:42 AM
11

Fancy toys and bling are where it’s at. What’s the point of having money if it’s in some lame ass “Roth IRA”?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 03:49 AM
1

Anti-white liberals most likely! Another subreddit has become a leftist echo chamber! Pathetic!
/r/AllPillDebate06/09/23 05:22 AM
1

You don’t like mashed potatoes and gravy?
/r/AllPillDebate06/09/23 05:02 AM
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I don’t know about the rest of y’all but I like white guys cause their cum taste like mashed potatoes and gravy! 🤤
/r/AllPillDebate05/09/23 08:27 PM
1

You don’t to like them, boo.
/r/AllPillDebate05/09/23 08:19 PM
2

I hear a lot of people saying what you are saying in this sub. I think this is because many people here are very focused on online dating where people make selections based on a few photos. I never online dated personally. I met women at university, at work, traveling, doing activities, etc. I am not an ugly person but I’m not Brad Pitt either. I don’t think women took one look at me and fell madly in love. People who are not photogenic should stay off the dating apps. That’s my advice
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:28 AM
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Attraction standards are absolutely plastic. I was traveled to the country of Tajikistan and, to my amazement, I found that women in parts of that country paint a false unibrow across their foreheads because that is considered attractive. Can you imagine a woman doing that in the United States? That may seem like an extreme example but consider women in the USA who ruin their natural beauty with lip fillers. That looks about as sexy as a baboon’s distended anus in my opinion. But I assume that s…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 05:10 AM
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This is why I attempt to have sex with all adults that I meet. I gotta know who’s best between the sheets. So I ask everyone I meet if they’d be down for a tumble. It does get me in trouble sometimes, like my HR department put me on leave without pay. But…the old Sikh guy who runs the liquor store downstairs from my apartment turned out to be a real wildcat in the sack! Life is full of surprises! 🤷‍♂️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/23 03:24 PM
1

I seek to share the magnificence of my member with as many people as possible. I firmly (very firmly) believe in its healing and restorative power.
/r/AllPillDebate01/09/23 10:33 AM
2

You must have a hidden microphone in my house. I had this exact conversation with my girlfriend yesterday. Only difference was she gave me all her money after I got her off.
/r/AllPillDebate01/09/23 10:22 AM
2

You got it backwards. I get a lot of hot sex and I reward women by supporting feminism. You’re welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 12:53 PM
6

I was being sarcastic. I know for a fact that you don’t need to stage a fight with your friends to get laid. That is completely ridiculous.
/r/AllPillDebate28/08/23 04:43 AM
7

Yeah, Romans are famous for staging fights with “pizza guys”.
/r/AllPillDebate28/08/23 04:17 AM
8

Riiiight. I assure you that the vast majority of men can find a way to get laid without staging a fight with a “pizza guy”.
/r/AllPillDebate28/08/23 04:16 AM
10

Let’s get this straight: you agreed with a friend that he would come over dressed as a pizza delivery guy, you would get in a fight and he would let you win. This was done in order to impress a lady. Is all of that correct? If so, that is like something out of a bad TV show. And how are women to blame for your childish behavior?
/r/AllPillDebate28/08/23 02:34 AM
2

I just image searched DiCaprio and I think he looks sexy and distinguished.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 02:46 PM
4

Ok, you go grrrrl!
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 02:04 PM
7

Yikes! Body shame much? That’s a pretty ugly statement you just made
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 02:02 PM
1

It’s not a need like food and water are a need but, for most people, it’s a very strong imperative and sexual satisfaction and physical affection is a huge factor in emotional wellbeing. That doesn’t mean it’s ok to incessantly whine about how life is unfair like some people here do, but it is going to be difficult to be truly happy if one’s sexual needs are not being met.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:31 AM
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So, that sounds awesome! You get to release some sexual tension and then you both get on with your lives, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:25 AM
7

I have absolutely no problem with any person being child free. They do what’s right by them. But when they drone on and on about how they don’t like kids and their lives are so much better and yadda yadda…it’s pretty pathetic. It’s like, just don’t have kids and comfortable with your decision. No need to be a pill about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:24 AM
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So, what happens when you actually go out on dates with these older ladies? When I was in my 20s I remember dating a few women in their 40s and I found them to be really clingy and smothering, not demanding at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 11:20 AM
-1

You’ve been friends with them? What happened? Probably they stopped hanging out with you because you wouldn’t put out, huh? Prude.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 01:42 AM
1

Dude, yuck!
/r/AllPillDebate25/08/23 11:21 PM
1

Hmmm…I’m married with kids and both my wife and I work. I can’t really imagine us taking the pay cut involved with stay at home parenting. But…as an idea, I think it sounds nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 09:24 PM
1

What does SAHD stand for?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 09:09 PM
3

I would say that it makes more sense to what the recent behavior is. I can only use myself as an example but I know that when I was coming off a bad break up, I would seek affection from whoever I could and it wasn’t always a good look. And, when I met my wife, I basically had told myself not to look for anyone and to take a break from dating. Lo and behold, I found what I was not looking for!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 07:11 PM
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This is an impressive list of double standards. I think some of them are indeed cultural. Like thinking of stay at home dads as losers. That’s already changing. I think that having a high “body count” or focusing on it at all is pretty immature. From my experience, people who sleep around a lot have low self worth and are not really that happy. And I’m saying that as someone who used to do that. So I don’t think mature, well adjusted people are going to have lots of partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 03:04 PM
1

It’s supposed to mean leader. Like a wolf pack or a group of gorillas will have an “alpha male” who guides the group. I read that in nature, the alpha males actually exhibit kindness and care towards their pride. Making sure the older and sick ones get enough to eat, for example. So, pretty much the opposite of being an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/23 02:48 PM
1

Sure! But it might be several hours before I can respond. I’m about to get really busy with family stuff! But hit me up! I’ll get back to you eventually.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 04:18 PM
5

I know Russia, Ukraine, Poland and Kazakhstan quite well. I’ve travelled widely in the region for work. There are a lot of gold diggers because there’s a lot of poverty. They were never interested in me, however, because I got no gold to dig! Generally, traditional gender roles are more widely accepted there. Which is something I got really sick of at some point. Especially among men. Lots of abusive alcoholics. It’s pretty gross. Women keep the whole society from falling apart more than it alre…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 04:13 PM
2

I know Russia pretty well. I would not recommend going there right now if you’re American. It’s always been a place where it’s really easy to get your ass kicked as an American. Now, you’d be likely to be murdered. And yes, my wife is Russian.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 03:45 PM
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I’m in my late forties and have spent more than half of my adult life in the former Soviet Union and Eastern Europe, I first came right at the end of communism. No one had the terms “passport bro” or even blue and red pill because the Matrix was not a thing yet. And, despite the fact that I wasn’t going there to find women, there were a LOT of causal hook ups and it was generally very easy for American men to find love in the 1990s and early 2000s. Now I’ve been with one person for over ten year…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 02:32 PM
9

I would prefer a magical magnet that attracts horny naked women to my bedside.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/23 01:41 PM
18

Who is “they” in this? If understand correctly, you are saying that there is a group of women who promote the idea that men should provide everything for their partners and ask for nothing in return. If so, just avoid such women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:22 PM
31

Yeah, so I don’t really see a problem. Even in California and New York it’s possible to just avoid the kind of women that you talk about in your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:00 PM
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I am a married man but once upon a time I had a pretty active dating life. I was in a few long term relationships and I never had any partner who expected me to pay all their bills and shower them with constant presents. Such women do surely exist but you can absolutely have a rich and fulfilling love life without ever dating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 03:37 PM
1

Ok. Obviously, you are and incel pretending to be a woman. Nice try
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 05:47 AM
7

Yeah, but when I dealt with my toddler’s tantrum wearing just the frilly apron, my wife was fucking pissed. I was in the doghouse for like two months after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:31 PM
5

No, I don’t. I meant to reply that to the OP but I saw your username and was sucked in by the gravitational pull. You rock!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:18 PM
3

Should anyone “delegate” anything to their partner? Does that sound like a healthy and reasonable relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:13 PM
2

I feel like anyone who says no to this question doesn’t have a sister.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:11 PM
44

I would say that is there’s no sex in a committed relationship and one party is not ok with it, then it’s probably time to rethink the relationship. Humans (with very few exceptions) really like sex. There’s no point in staying with someone you’re not into
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:09 PM
40

Foreplay does start at breakfast. That’s why I make pancakes for my wife wearing a frilly little apron. And nothing else!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 04:06 PM
-2

Are you talking about my homeboy, Ranjeet?! That dude used to crush so much pussy. Has he finally settled down to just one? She better be like 11/10 to keep Ranjeet tied down!
/r/AllPillDebate18/08/23 03:52 PM
3

Yeah, in all seriousness, alcoholism is about the least handsome thing I’ve ever seen.
/r/AllPillDebate18/08/23 02:29 PM
8

I also met a woman at a hospital. “You’re like a nice looking young man”, she said to me, “won’t you sit with me a bit and listen to my story.” I was taking selfies of my perfectly chiseled jawline to post to my Tinder profile, but I decided to oblige her for some reason. She told me the story of how she was the most beautiful woman in her village. The handsomest and most athletic men in the area came a courting. But she was wise. She chose a 5’4” balding Asian, a 3/10. His penis was shorter tha…
/r/AllPillDebate18/08/23 02:28 PM
1

Are all handsome men alcoholics? I mean, I’m handsome and alcoholic but I did not know it was a rule.
/r/AllPillDebate18/08/23 02:11 PM
-3

I’m new to this sub. I read the OP’s post and my brain is melting. I’ve got news for y’all, you cannot reduce attraction to a mathematical formula. Has anyone considered that those two lovely people in that picture actually like each other?
/r/AllPillDebate18/08/23 12:41 PM
0

Got three words for you: Formula 1 Racing You can thank me by smashing lots of pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 11:56 AM
7

The thing is, unions work because pretty much all workers want more pay for less hours in safer, more healthy conditions. Plus, unions are made up of a specific kind of worker. Unless, you are a communist IWW member, there is no union of all workers. Mostly because there are too many different needs. So it is with men. Not all men want the same thing. Not by a long shot. Some like women athletic, some voluptuous with big butts. Some like stick figure types. Some like older women or even overweig…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 12:33 PM
1

Homeboy shoulda married a woman with more dough than him. Let her worry about this shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 06:36 AM
1

The government wants to criminalize inceldom? Maybe then they could force y’all to have sex?
/r/AllPillDebate15/08/23 10:35 AM
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This is certainly not the case in many Eastern European countries, in Poland, Ukraine and Russia men are absolutely expected to pay. Not that I’m defending it. When I was single I never really went out on “dates” at all. I found that hooking up just happened naturally after hanging out with coworkers and acquaintances.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 04:38 AM
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I’ve never really found this to be such a problem. My wife will sometimes come up to me and say, “I need extra hugs today, my period is starting”. And if she’s experiencing really bad cramps, I will pamper her a bit as she pampers me when I’m having migraines. I think it’s pretty normal to take care of your partner when they’re not feeling well. Generally, however, her menstrual cycles are not an issue in our relationship, nor were they with other women I was with in the past. I’m not going to s…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 04:24 AM
9

I think it would be a society devoid of any respect for women as individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 06:05 PM
5

Lots of people become enthralled by challenging personalities (aka assholes). Men and women, gay and straight. Such people are emotionally manipulative and sometimes they are extremely talented and engaging. Some of history’s great geniuses: Picasso, John Lennon, Alfred Hitchcock were very difficult and cruel, especially for women who loved them. So, what you are describing may be frustrating, especially for the shier, more withdrawn segment of the population, but the sad fact is that people wit…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 01:07 PM
5

I’m mad at you, OP. I wish I wrote this
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 09:39 PM
18

Yeah! We never see men playing the victim card on this sub!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 12:05 PM
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What people want from romantic relationships, much more than money or sex, is acceptance and support as they are. This is also where things get complicated because everyone has a difficult side. So, when boyfriend starts being unreasonable, we are often tempted to tell him so. But what he really wants to hear is, “I love you, even though you are a whiny bitch sometimes.” That can be hard to actually do in the moment, however, because maybe girlfriend is being too demanding or cold and distant or…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 10:49 AM
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That article is about one school district in Silicon Valley and it’s clearly written with anti-woke bias. You’re responding to someone who’s worked in several different places. Probably has some useful insight.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:34 AM
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This is a really great question. I’m impressed and I’m a little out of my depth with the references to classical literature. However, when we look at ancient texts we are getting the perspective of the tiniest sliver of the ruling male classes of that time. The vast majority of people were illiterate until very recently and of the lettered elite very, very few were women. So we don’t really know much about the average person’s experience back then. But…I don’t think it’s controversial to assume …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 05:19 AM
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Met my wife at work
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/23 04:57 AM
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Saying that cultures are different does not mean that one is better than another
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 09:23 PM
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Most people don’t live what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 04:56 AM
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Hmmm… That is interesting. I wasn’t thinking of it like that. Putting it the way you did, I would say that men have always been attracted to strength and confidence and all that. Those things were even more important in the good/bad old days. It was never all about physical attractiveness, and probably even less so back then. Women are just able to manifest their talents outside of the home now because of advancements in technology and economic development.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 01:14 AM
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Do people here not realize that the “rise of liberalism and feminism” is simply people choosing to live their lives according to their personal tastes because we live in affluence and plenty? “Traditional” or “Red Pilled” societies were poor as fuck. Almost everyone was a farmer on the verge of starvation. They were married off young by their parents who desperately needed them to start having children so that they could have someone to care for them in old age and eke out a few grains and cerea…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:44 PM
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I’m sorry. I just feel like life is easier when you don’t take everything so seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 09:16 PM
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You are in your 50s?! I looked through your posts and I guessed you were like a 20 year old who’s been striking out with his classmates But 50s and you believe all this mumbo jumbo about “Chad” and “Tyrone” and jawlines and 5/10 woman with a 7/10 guy? I don’t get it. How are you holding onto your hate for this long, man?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 07:28 PM
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Breaking News: Shallow Person Pays to Have Sex with Shallow People
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 04:45 AM
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Imagine a world where you date actual human beings that you feel a personal connection with and 2 dimensional stereotypes
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 04:11 AM
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Sounds like it’s about time for men to stop being taken for granted and to start doing something for themselves for once! ✊🏽
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 07:43 PM
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I’m new to this sub, what’s with all the talk about jaws? 🦈
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 07:40 PM
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I don’t know that this statement is true. There are lots of married couples out there
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 02:25 PM
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You say most women are no longer willing to settle. When were they willing to settle? What changed? Is not settling a bad thing?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 02:05 PM
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Well, some people also choose to eat shitty food instead of healthy food. Some people choose to smoke cigarettes instead of working out. It make not be a logical choice but they are being selective. Just like you are selecting to complain about other people’s preferences instead of trying to do something more productive and I’m selecting to engage with you instead of getting ready for work
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 05:07 AM
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Why would anyone be less selective about anything? Like imagine you’re buying a car. You do have to buy within your budget and according to your needs but you’re still going to get the best car you can for the money. You certainly won’t just grab the first car you see because it’s “good enough”, especially not if you know you can get one that you like better at a lower price.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:48 AM
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It won’t cost you your job. Just keep it on the DL and don’t make drama
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 08:44 PM
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I look at posts like this and I wonder, “doesn’t this person have a job?” Because every job I have ever had, had women. And because we worked together, we shared experiences and stress, and creepy bosses, and psycho customers and all that fun stuff. And then we’d have some office happy hour or Christmas party or something like that and people started to hook up. It was easy because you already knew each other. I’ve been with just one person since 2013 (met her at work) but doesn’t anyone do this…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 08:31 PM
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Sorry, dude! I’m feeling for you
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 06:25 PM
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Great advice! I feel like a lot of men are more interested in whining than actually doing anything. But this is gold. Dancing is sexy!!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 07:48 PM
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OP, you are probably imagining some perky 19 year old coming up to you and asking to see your dick. How would you feel if a much larger woman, who you find repulsive and threatening doing the same thing? How about a group of them?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:36 PM
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You go, boyfriend! Don’t let any girl not good enough for you tell you to stop smoking pot and playing video games! You the KING!👑
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 10:29 AM
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A lot of men do not. Like very many deadbeats have families
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 08:06 AM
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I’m not making an argument based on evolutionary principles. I’m stating that the sexual behavior of the past 20 centuries or so before the Industrial Revolution was based on an agrarian economy. Those days are gone and we are now primarily city dwellers (I’m assuming you live in an urban society) and we need to find strangers to mate with. We don’t have a village matchmaker anymore. So…the game has changed. No doubt about that. And society is adjusting still. That’s what the feminist movement a…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 08:04 AM
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So why do so many short, overweight deadbeats have kids?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 07:57 AM
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Nothing is 100%. But human sexuality and fluid and so are beauty standards. Just look at how what is considered beautiful changes over time and across cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 07:08 AM
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Goalposts? I’m pointing out that there are no objective standards and anyone can find a partner. No idea what goalposts has to do with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 07:05 AM
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I don’t am are high! There are millions more short, fat deadbeat dudes with girlfriends than there are studies of any kind
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:07 AM
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I’m not a woman, you are correct. But I am a human being who has sex with them, and I don’t think I’m “hot” in the marketable sense of the word. So, I’m walking proof that you don’t need six pack abs or Brad Pitt’s jaw line to successfully mate in the 21st century. The three points you referenced above are all focused on the past. It’s like you are saying that “unattractive” people had an easier time long ago because there were less partners to choose from, food was healthier and women had less …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 04:56 AM
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I’m not so sure about that. There are “classically beautiful” statuesque men and women but but I’m a bisexual male and I don’t really find that look appealing. Like I don’t get what all the hype is about Margot Robbie or Ryan Gosling. I mean, they’re not ugly but they’re nothing special in my opinion. Also, if most women were looking for the statue of David, why would there be such a multitude of different facial features and body types. Clearly lots of people who are not “attractive” by Hollywo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 04:21 AM
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Have you ever considered that there are no objective “standards” and each individual, male and female, has their own personal tastes and sexual preferences?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 04:07 AM
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I’m not sure what bloopies are. OP sounded like he was saying he doesn’t need to have sex with women to feel valuable. I’m saying, “hell, yeah! Now go and do other valuable things that have nothing to do with sex”. That doesn’t make sense?
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen02/04/22 09:15 AM
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Why do you think they “exploited” lonely men? People who patronize businesses are exploited? Are people who go to strip clubs exploited or people who sign up for diet programs? Seems to me they’re using their own money as they see fit.
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen21/01/22 12:52 PM
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Simple. You break up with shallow people because they’re boring. How did she stay with this guy for three years? He’s obviously not much in the sack! 😜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/22 07:47 PM
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