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Haha sorry, I was making a pun. I just meant that I'll get to keep my home and be free of her technically owning half.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 08:27 PM
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It hurts. I miss my kids terribly when they're gone, but I guess its just human nature to adapt. I started going out and enjoying my time to myself more. I've done things I couldn't have done if my kids were here, I've bought things that are just for me, I've eaten whole pizzas on the couch at 2am in my underwear. It gets to be a sense of freedom you didn't realize you were lacking, and it eventually starts feeling normal. I'm sorry you miss your kids. I know it hurts.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 08:23 PM
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And moms don't get 50% custody unless the dad fights his absolute ass off to get it. Fucking bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 08:21 PM
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Hey I'm the same! I bought our first house with a VA loan, and since she wasn't working, we didn't put her on the mortgage. Once the judge tells her she isn't getting half of the house because we're technically upside down on it (overpaid during market spike and it tanked in my area so I technically owe more than it's worth after realtor fees) I'll be literally home free!
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/23 08:19 PM
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I won't be celebrating losing my best friend, but I will celebrate starting a new chapter of my life and the opportunity to make some positive changes. I'm gonna buy a motorcycle and go on a cruise by myself. I have suffered and barely survived this past year, I deserve to celebrate my survival.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 03:07 PM
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Yeesh what a soy boy you are. My ex didn't sacrifice shit to be a mom. Non of them do. They want to be house wives and do nothing all day. She'll be paying me child support soon and that's justice.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 03:04 PM
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Yeah, mine said she wanted a divorce because she "wanted to be single." Well we all know what that means. SHe introduced my kids to her affair partner the day she left.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 03:01 PM
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Strike hard and true, my friend. Send that hoe to the streets.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/23 02:59 PM
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My therapist admitted to me last week that he has intentionally tried to break up married couples who are clearly toxic. Kind of bothered me that he said that. He has also told me I am entitled to wanting revenge and that he'd understand if I went and physically assaulted my ex's affair partner. That's weird, right?
/r/Divorce_Men06/05/23 07:56 PM
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Well, for what it's worth, women use sex as a tool to get what they want. They also don't know what they want. She didn't actually want sex from him, just attention. Women never grow up.
/r/Divorce_Men03/05/23 12:09 AM
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Jesus you have too much faith in her. I drained all the accounts, gave the savings to my lawyer for holding, and left her penniless. Judge did not give a fuck.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 04:16 AM
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Fighting for it is already a good sign. Think about it, these judges deal with absolute shitheads all day every day. They often see deadbeat dads who don't actually care about the kids. Wanting to have your kids already looks good on you. Being a good man and providing a stable environment for the kids is what the judge is looking for. In my state, moms aren't automatically entitled to more than dads. My STBXW is about to get 20% custody and pay me child support because she fucked up really badl…
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 04:13 AM
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Fuck no wonder I can't get anyone right now. I'm only 30. All the girls I want to date are interested in guys older than me. So unfair because I obviously can't shoot for younger :(
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 04:09 AM
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Hey, I'm dealing with the same thing! Divorce isn't over yet, but she screwed up so badly in the first hearing and it's looking like I will get primary custody and child support. She is telling my kids she is going to buy a house and move out of her mom's basement as soon as I "give her her money" (she means half of my savings that she never contributed to, which is a negligible amount and certainly not enough for a down payment on a house.) She just doesn't realize she doesn't get to use my VA …
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 04:05 AM
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Well when you decide to pull the trigger and leave her, lock your social media down and call a lawyer. Pronto. She already sounds paranoid and psycho. The moment you say you're out, she becomes your absolute enemy. Everything she says or does will be to hurt you, even if you believe otherwise. Mine told me she was going to leave me on a Monday and stayed till Friday. Looking back, I realize now the whole week she was trying to instigate fights with me and try to get me to hurt her so she could g…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 12:15 AM
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Good reminder.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/23 02:52 AM
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It's easier to enjoy a sandwich that hasn't had someone's dick in it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/23 02:52 AM
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Start moving money now. Every time you go to the grocery store, every time you get gas, as much as possible. Hide cash now. Yeah, it's "iLLeGaL" but everyone does it. You will regret not starting now. When you do leave, DON'T PHYSICALLY LEAVE! Stay in the house, do not leave the kids. Ever. Always stay one step ahead of her. Best thing my STBXW did was move out of the county. Then the idiot file for divorce in MY county, which is one of the most conservative counties in the nation. I have a fema…
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 11:18 PM
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As long as women keep demanding it, men will do it. Sex drives a lot of decisions. I will tell my next wife that I will marry her in church, we can have a ceremony and wear rings, but I'm not filing it with the government. They don't get to be involved in my love life.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 10:56 PM
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Both times my wife had been in our house for like a straight month in towns where we knew no one. Both kids were military brats conceived right after a PCS.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 10:42 PM
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Communications aka. poor people theory
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 10:41 PM
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As I said to someone earlier, I'll date and I may even fall in love, but I will tell her that I don't need marriage to stay faithful to you, and please don't ask me to strap a bomb to my chest to prove it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 10:08 PM
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Yes, I agree 100%. Sadly, at my age, there are zero eligible women out there. I'm 29. They're all just now getting out of the first marriages, have multiple kids, or are altogether shit people. No one is worth my time anymore, and its hilarious how these girls on dating apps think they're worth so much more than they are.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 09:23 PM
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It's hard because my self-validation comes from my ability to provide and protect. It's what I love to do. I loved working and earning because it meant I could give to my family. I need to provide for people at my core, and I instinctively view women as fragile and deserving of compassion. It's hard to ignore those instincts.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 09:16 PM
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If I'm worth my income, they are worth their holes.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 08:56 PM
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It wouldn't matter. Growing up I watched my folks get divorced twice each. Toxic marriages all around. So much loss and misery. I grew up swearing I'd never do it. Then I met the girl who made me think otherwise. We always think we're the exception and we seldom are.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 08:54 PM
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I didn't know anything about that. See, I'm already ahead of where I was yesterday. You're making the world a better place one prospective men's rights attorney at a time.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 08:28 PM
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Yes. It is. Monkey grabs the next branch first.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 08:27 PM
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Yes I know, lol. They are mine.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 08:26 PM
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Either way, I want to do something about this issue I see, so this is my way of doing that. I can always specialize in family law arguments that favor men. I can develop strategies that help men. I'm sure I'll take all kinds of clients, but I want to do this because I wish someone did it for me. It's my way of turning this tragedy into a positive.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 08:14 PM
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I'm pretty sure they're hers.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 07:39 PM
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And it's something I hope I can explain to a woman if I meet one. "I love you, and I trust you not to hurt me, but please don't ask me to strap a bomb to my chest and give you the remote."
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 07:30 PM
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I'd like to know that as well. She left in July and I have been making payments on my house and I have been saving a lot of money that I don't want to give her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 07:12 PM
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Yeah, I guess. I just think generations of women seeing they can walk away and the court will automatically award them with whatever they want has ruined marriage. Women have no incentive to stay when they get bored.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 06:37 PM
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I will likely get full custody anyway because she left the county and moved three hours away to be with her boyfriend who has criminal convictions. Still hurts like hell to find out that she never loved me despite my willingness to die for her.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 06:33 PM
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Well it may be more than that. I don't know. But she will file for the child tax credit anyway.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 04:28 PM
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This time fortune will favor the swiftest and best informed.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 12:41 AM
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I am. I've done lots of research today. I'm qualified because I paid more than 50% toward my household costs and I have a qualifying dependant.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 12:40 AM
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Well HOH is the better option so I'd do that. Now that I've thought about it more I'm definitely going to file quick then amend it later. With having not paid any federal taxes this year I absolutely have to have the child tax credit or I'm fucked. Her tiny income won't even help me.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 12:00 AM
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I caught my wife in her affair before she could do any real damage, but after she left I discovered all sorts of papers and letters and search history about domestic abuse abuse. She even searched "how to accuse a man of abuse." I got screenshots of everything and gave them to my lawyer. The judge immediately declared there were zero signs of abuse nor neglect and would not consider them any further. Women are fucking snakes.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 10:22 PM
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The greatest gift my STBXW gave me was being a fucking idiot and screwing up literally everything during the divorce. The idiot moved three hours away to live with her boyfriend and abandoned our kids with me for two month until I demanded child support. Now suddenly she wants them and thinks the judge will give her primary. HA! Women are so fucking stupid.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 10:20 PM
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Right. I guess the secret is don't get married ever again. For real though, I don't think I will. I want someone to love, but I will never put her name on my property, and I'm already sterile. Never going through this again.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 10:01 PM
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Thanks! The secret is to marry someone who will make really bad decisions when they leave you.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 09:17 PM
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Yes. She abandoned everything here and moved three hours away. She has since come back for the kids and the court ordered us to temporary 50/50 custody with no child support, but in a month we are going back to court to settle things (hopefully) and I expect to win primary custody. She admitted to the affair in court and that she made zero attempts to reconcile despite me begging her to come home for the kids' sake. The judge was absolutely pissed and even went off on her lawyer for a bunch of s…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 06:26 PM
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We are already in the process. I have a great lawyer and she thinks I will get primary custody.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/22 03:57 PM
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I mean, I am too. I'm not used to being alone. I hate it so much. My wife of six years had an affair a few months ago and walked out the door abandoning me with my two toddlers. I'm not used to sleeping alone. I hate it.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/22 03:18 PM
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My mom tried to move us ten minutes farther from my dad to live in a much better area with better schools, and my dad still got it stopped. I don't understand how she could think you can't do a thing about it.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 09:43 PM
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Good to know. I thought maybe this one was a fluke and I could do it again. I won't ever do it again.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 09:40 PM
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That's the case for me too. My ex hired some fresh-out-of-law-school feminist who spent more time dissecting every word I spoke and making it a personal attack on women in general than doing anything remotely helpful. She thought that attacking my character would go over well with the judge. It didn't. The judge finally told her to sit down because she was wasting everyone's time.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 09:38 PM
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It hurts like hell. I hate it so fucking much. I'm sorry yours went that way.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 03:46 AM
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Same here. My wife and her lawyer are morons. Her lawyer might have had a chance but she is going entirely on the lies my wife is telling her.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 03:34 AM
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I'm just curious what she may be up to. She's not very bright, but this seems just too stupid.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 02:54 AM
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I'm 28. We do have two kids, and I don't currently want more, but I'm sad that the decision was made by us as a couple since she had very hard pregnancies. I might have wanted another with someone else, I just never considered I'd ever be with someone else at the time. She really pressured me into getting one.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 08:49 PM
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I cry at every one.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 08:38 PM
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That's my feeling too. I am almost guaranteed to get primary and cs from my stbxw, but I still lose my best friend and lover. I still have to pay more now for child care than the CS nets me and I have to do everything on my own. Still hurts terribly.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 08:34 PM
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I got one last year at the bequest of my wife. Less than a year later she had an affair and filed for divorce. I regret it now.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 08:33 PM
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My 6th was a few weeks ago. It killed my inside. Caught her cheating in July and she left that day and filed. I drank myself into a stupor last night and just cried myself to sleep.
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/22 08:25 PM
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Missouri for the win. She won't give in. She can't at this point. She has lied to so many people about this whole thing and now she can't find her way out of the hole she's dug.
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/22 03:26 AM
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I agree, we are all losing. But I am winning the lawsuit. And I don't really care about the coworker. I just have to work with her so...
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 09:18 PM
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I'll keep that in mind.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 03:03 PM
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They rationalize it because they are irrational. Women in this day and age see themselves as a prize to be earned by men. They see us as tools to use. When we've lost our utility (say, when she forces you to get a vasectomy and then realizes she regrets it a few months later) they see us as used up garbage and leave.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 03:03 PM
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If you can believe it, the judge is a woman.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 03:01 PM
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Yeah absolutely. I wish she would do that, but she never will.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 03:00 PM
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I'm in a really good spot right now. She moved three hours away, refuses to work, admitted to the affair on the stand, has threatened to hurt herself and the children, and got caught lying on the stand about money and expenses. Not to mention she filed for divorce here where I live, which is an ultra conservative area with ultra conservative judges. Our judge is an alumni of the local school, which is one of the best public schools in the state. I'm gonna get primary.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 02:59 PM
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I do have an attorney. I just thought to ask this community too.
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/22 02:55 PM
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She has no clue about any of that. We're in Missouri. She has never been through this, whereas my family is full of veteran divorcees.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 09:16 PM
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Her mother's employee. And she just got hired there too, so basically a new coworker. Her mom set them up and told her to leave me.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 08:16 PM
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She cheated and filed for divorce the day I caught her.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 07:58 PM
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My coworker is mad at me because I'm winning. She thinks men shouldn't get the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 07:56 PM
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No lol. I haven't seen that. I do hate that so many call themselves Extroverted-Introverts. That is so stupid. No I just like the MB results. They accurately describe the people I know, so I feel like it probably has some merit.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 07:31 PM
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Yep. We've already been to trial for a bunch of temporary motions she filed. She got none of them and the judge yelled at her for wasting their time.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 06:08 PM
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I was so glad I got to share with this sub a month ago how trial went. 50/50 temporary custody and no child support or maintenance. Not everyone is as fortunate as me (or married someone so dumb I guess) so I wanted to share.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 06:08 PM
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I love verbal sparring. I'm an ENTP, if you buy into Meyers-Briggs. Arguing with a lawyer was a thrill for me.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 06:07 PM
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I will, I just figured it couldn't hurt to ask here first.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 06:06 PM
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I begged her even this morning. But I feel like my drive into work opened my eyes. No matter how much I love her, she will never be trustworthy. She cannot come home, and I cannot stay married to her.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 06:05 PM
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She fucked around, but did she find out?
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 05:13 PM
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Yep. Already in the works. It's all one big "dissolution with kids" case, so one of us is getting primary and child support. She got some bad advice from her parents and thought that since she's a woman it was impossible she wouldn't win. Our judge gave her a dose of reality.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 04:56 PM
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No no, I don't want the trial to end. I just want to make sure she can't end it.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 04:55 PM
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You should've seen how me and my attorney wiped the courtroom floor with her and hers. It was fun.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 04:54 PM
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I'm in it to win it. She cheated and abandoned me with our kids. She moved three hours away. She gets what she gets.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 04:28 PM
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Heck no. I just don't want her to stop this train. She lit the fuse, and now it's gonna blow up in her face.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 03:54 PM
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I'm definitely not giving her an out. I realized just today that, even if she wanted to come back, if she won she'd just leave and if she loses she'd only stay for the kids and she'd resent me. I'd still make her pay child support and rent. Today I realized that, even though I didn't file, I want the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/22 03:54 PM
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We have already been to court once. They gave us 50/50 and did not award her child support. My lawyer thinks I will get primary custody in a few months when my daughter is old enough to go to school. And believe me, I would love to find another woman. I am horribly lonely. But there are zero girls my age in my area. It's horrible.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 08:24 PM
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She filed for divorce immediately. Completely pulled the rug out. One day my family was happy, the next she is gone and hasn't been back in months.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 08:01 PM
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Lawyer says all signs are pointing to me.
/r/Divorce_Men03/10/22 05:08 AM
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She doesn't. But no such requirement in my city.
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/22 05:09 AM
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Yep. She is running around telling everyone I was "emotionally abusive" because I asked her to control her emotions and not hit me hen she got angry. I asked her to respect how hard I work (she refused to work) and not spend all of our money frivolously. I asked her to love me exclusively (six year marriage and two kids) and she cheated. But I was abusive?
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 07:56 PM
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I LITERALLY SAID THIS YESTERDAY! Sorry for the three-year later reply.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 07:42 PM
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It's been 2.5 months since she left and I do this at every exchange. Instant tears the moment I drive away every time, but never sooner.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/22 07:41 PM
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