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The main question is: after all you know about him at this point, all the little red flags and green flags, does he show himself to be a man who devalues monogamy/fidelity and values conquest, is okay with cheating if he doesn’t get caught, etc, or to be a man who values monogamy/fidelity, sees desirable virtue in committing to his family and leading his wife and enjoying her as the committed and feminine co-pilot to his pilot? Both types of men can be found on the marriedredpill subreddit. Only…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/20 03:38 AM
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The first thought that popped into my head, though just a small piece of this, is that The same husband who will lovingly, strongly, passionately help his deserving, respectful, valuable wife... is also the same husband who will resentfully, begrudgingly, minimally help his oppressive, parental, nagging wife. (I am not saying that is you. It is an archetype. We all have moments of these archetypes and sometimes under stress, we’re blind to when we’re being one or the other, or when our husbands …
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/20 11:48 PM
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My comment would be to add even more to the definition of Eros above what you have done :). Eros can be objectifying, if twisted through sin. But ultimately it is also a good and pure love. It turns to beauty and purity and goodness and wholeness and the right-ordered attraction to that. Our God, Pure Love, loves us fully, with eros, phileo, storge and agape. together. I add this comment because a woman who would make a good wife might show sings of the right-order of each of these types of love…
/r/RPChristians17/05/20 06:34 AM
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When I feel some of the things you are describing, I always remember Jesus praying (pleading, even) at Gethsemene. He prayed for his cup to be taken... but he ended his prayer with saying "Your will be done." Even Jesus, perfect human and God divine, prayed for his suffering to be taken, and yet it was not. Having our prayers answered to us is not a given for the saved one. The fulfillment of God's will is. As a saved one, God's intention for your life will be done through you as you work hard e…
/r/askRPC10/05/20 04:10 AM
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Right, but the source you cited gotquestions.org is an explicitly American Protestant site answering from that lens alone. I have read very, very much from that site back in the days when I was discerning the church I wanted to belong to based on what Jesus founded. A similar Catholic site like Catholic Answers would argue otherwise, from its lens. Both are significantly and truly different, but both under the umbrella of Christianity. Again, I have never heard a Catholic claim that Catholics ar…
/r/RPChristians27/04/20 01:15 AM
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Our Gospels are identical. I agree that a statement of faith would be necessary. I’m wondering why it can’t be one that all Christians agree upon, knowing that while our differences in theology are important, they needn’t be a place of division within an RPW conversation? I’m genuinely curious: what do you think would be either lost or dangerous if you did not specify the Sola Fide issue in the sub’s guidelines? I truly am curious to hear your answer If you do end up going down the route you are…
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 05:13 PM
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These are extremely controversial misunderstandings. I have never in my life heard a Catholic claim to not be Christian. We are Christian! Of course, we do believe that we are the original church that Christ founded, retaining His original doctrines of his Body in the Eucharist, the sacrament of Confession through a priest, Papal succession from Peter, etc, which are all scripturally based. But that is not what we ought to be fighting over here... This is the kind of debate that you are trying n…
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 05:03 PM
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As a Catholic, I would really appreciate a place for all RPW Christians — not just Protestant Christians or Catholic Christians. I think it would be more important for such a sub to hold firm to a value of not being a place of theological debate (there are other subs for this) rather than of not being a place where Catholic Christians and their beliefs can be included. We do differ on very important pieces of theology, and that is why I have intentionally chosen my denomination, but we share a d…
/r/RPChristians26/04/20 03:40 AM
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What do you say to the fact that in the traditional relationships and courting of the past, by norm, included sexual self-control and saving sexual intimacy for marriage? What do you say to the fact that men who didn’t masturbate or “fornicate” were seen as the most admirable, mature and masculine in ancient Jewish, Christian, Roman pagan, Hindu, etc, societies?
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/20 03:18 AM
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I think the concept of a 'male slut' is stupid, and makes no sense. The ability to acquire sex and attention from men is one of the markers by which you identify that a man is desirable, attractive. Calling a man a 'slut' is meaningless because the word 'slut' has a decidedly negative connotation that does not, and (in my opinion) really can't be applied to men. This is something I've been pondering a lot lately. I think there's a certain type of man who gets loads of sex, not because he can cho…
/r/RedPillWives01/08/16 12:36 AM
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43% Masculine, 78% Feminine = Casually Feminine I'll take it It was interesting going through it and realizing that I felt certain words applied to me well in family life while not in romantic life, or well imaging myself in a seminar where I need to stand out but not so much at my weekend job where I need to follow orders, or vice versa, etc.
/r/RedPillWives30/07/16 05:24 AM
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My friends and I call it "baby fever" and it's totally natural. I usually cool my fever with cute family daily vlogs on youtube and make use of the rest to motivate myself to be a good wife-worthy girlfriend.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/16 02:08 AM
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Just do it -whenever I'm lazy or hesitating -promoting discipline over motivation Life is brief -each moment in precious -emotions ought not be wasted -the fact that something's not just-right doesn't matter All will be justified -a religious one for me -my own role in life is not that of a judge or fixer or perfecter -snaps me right out of many kinds of irritation Love him 'til time takes him -one day he'll be taken from me by his death, my death or the dissolution of our relationship -until th…
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 03:32 AM
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Welcome back! Thanks for this wonderful, heartfelt story - it connected with me. I wish you the absolute best moving ahead and look forwards to hearing your voice here as Bella :)
/r/RedPillWives21/07/16 02:20 AM
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When he tells or asks me to do something whether we are alone or around others. He does not use the word 'please' with me (but I always do so with him when asking anything similar). I never feel insulted or taken for granted, he's letting me know specifically how I can help him, make him happy. Ugh I love when my guy does this :3 "Hold this" and being all captainy and directed. I was nodding my head along to so much you wrote here!
/r/RedPillWives16/07/16 03:11 AM
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Oo how interesting! I'm finding myself confused because I seem to like both types :P As others have said here, I love when he objectifies me, when he makes any light reference to "owning" me, the butt slaps, the "I'm in charge," when he wins at anything or physically dominates me when we're play fighting, etc But I also love his gushy poetry, special crafts that show he knows my favourite things so well, hand holding in public, that he reassures me of his love for me, etc I think it's the fact t…
/r/RedPillWives16/07/16 03:08 AM
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The problem is that humans are messy, and toddlers are even messier; they don't react the way the expert says they will. Except that the studies I linked you and am referencing are not experts saying a kid will act a certain way, they're observational or longitudinal studies repeated many, many times showing that kids actually do act this way out in the real world for parents who actually do manage to parent a certain way. And of course humans won't follow a perfect pattern. Statistics are based…
/r/RedPillWives14/07/16 03:03 PM
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LOL, yes "experts" say all sorts of things today I'm not talking about some "how to parent" book or a professor's personal blog. Heck, the woman who wrote this article was an "expert" psychotherapist :P Rather, I am talking about over 100 years of empirical research and mathematically significant findings. Example 1, 2, 3, 4, can you really say that kids are better raised today than in the 50s, 60s, and 70s? Can you really say that Millennials think more critically than kids from earlier generat…
/r/RedPillWives14/07/16 12:47 AM
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Haha yes! That's an important distinction, thanks. XP
/r/RedPillWives14/07/16 12:33 AM
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You're making all sorts of slippery slope arguments (fallacies) and inductions. Much studied evidence shows that kids who get their questions reasonably answered by parents turn out to be critical thinkers with high self esteem and the motivation to work hard and reach goals. There is no evidence they become poor members of society who irrationally question their boss. EDIT: nevermind the following, you edited (Also, you've avoided my question. If you were a parent in that situation, how would y…
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 03:36 PM
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Hm okay, so imagining you were the parent of a 5 year old, what would your ideal type of response be to a question like "why do we have to go to ___?" (see my edit)
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 03:09 PM
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What are you implying? That asking questions is not how children naturally are and that it's a "bad" thing? On what grounds? I've shared lots of evidence within this post, including the superiority of "authoritative" parenting (where children have the freedom to ask but parents lay down strict rules and expectations) which is incredibly highly studied. Where is your evidence to make the claim that children must have already "been conditioned"? (I genuinely would like to hear your full explanatio…
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 02:56 PM
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Children as young as 5 years of age have been shown to appreciate good reasoning from their parent figure. I don't think reasoning with your kid needs to imply that you grant them any level of autonomy. You can reason with a young child by acknowledging their disagreement but explaining to them why you, the parent, are making them do whatever you're making them do. The alternatives are not explaining at all, not engaging them, giving them circular reasoning or on the other end of the spectrum: b…
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 02:36 PM
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you can show your child that their wants and feels are valid by example or by acknowledgment. But this idea that in order for a child's ideas to be validated, they have to be responded to in a manner that they want, first and foremost, and agree with....I think that's a mistake. Yes, I really agree with you there. Lack of responsiveness is no good, but responsiveness to the point of indulgence is no good either. It's responsiveness without pushover-ness that's best, I think. It's seeking to unde…
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 04:39 AM
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Of course, had I been raised in a manner that made me feel my words didn't matter regarding my body, I would perhaps end up overcorrecting this in my parenting. Maybe the author is coming from this perspective. Interesting possibility!
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 04:23 AM
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but the article went way beyond what you're saying Yeah, I'm aware. I'm not trying to defend the article as a whole. I'm just saying I agree with sections of the opinion. Doing nothing from that article as a parent means not "seeking to understand" and not trying to communicate that the child "matters." I'm not saying a parent should do everything in the article, I'm not saying a parent should do nothing in the article. I think parts of what the article promotes are crazy, but I think other part…
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 04:12 AM
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Could you expound upon that, for my sake? Which form of parenting?
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 04:06 AM
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If by respect you mean that you want to extend common courtesy to your child then yes but on this sub we normally use "respect" to mean admiration + deference. That type of respect only flows upwards. Hm, I wasn't aware of that specification. Thanks They didn't waver a little that was the entire point of the post Well I'm not sure. The points 4 (understanding) and 5 (regard) seem to be different than that. 4 and 5 seem to be talking about "common courtesy", which I agree is important. Therefore …
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 04:03 AM
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Do you think that it is effective parenting to ask them permission to touch them in any way, every time you want to hug them or style their hair? Not in any way, not at every time, absolutely not. Just at appropriate times, and in a way that teaches them self-efficacy. If I want to do my (hypothetical) kid's hair up cute for some birthday party, and she doesn't want me to, I think that the most effective parenting is to work through why you think nice hair is important and convince her, or to le…
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 03:32 AM
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"Get your kids to stop playing regularly to check in with each other," was hilariously terrible to me, and the sentiment of "let your kids totally lead their own life" seems pretty overdone (care for a laugh, anyone?). But personally I find the basic advice of this article (which I read as "regard your kids") to be quite sage and sensible. I think it's best to raise kids with regard for their space and their opinions, within moderation, anyways :) Edit: I think this is best not because it teache…
/r/RedPillWives13/07/16 02:12 AM
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Oh okay :) Personally, I'm skeptical of accepting such a scientific claim of "this social thing because of this neuro thing" without the causal, neuro scientific evidence (I haven't read any yet)
/r/RedPillWives10/07/16 02:21 AM
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If someone shares the opinion "X doesn't happen" (without presenting empirical evidence to back that up) and you say "You're wrong because I've experienced X", is there automatically solipsism in that? If "yes": Obviously experiential evidence isn't nearly the quality of empirical evidence, but experience is still a way of acquiring knowledge. If you have experiential knowledge that might benefit the discussion or add to the knowledge base, what's a good non-solipsistic way to share it?
/r/RedPillWives09/07/16 11:36 PM
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No, not necessarily. Neurobiology doesn't work so simply that way. Your brain releases oxytocin from hugging too, and watching/reading about favourite characters, and even eating bananas, etc. But if I eat bananas often that doesn't make hugging less pleasurable for me (to put it another way: naturally releasing a neurotransmitter with one activity doesn't necessarily mess up or halt all triggers of release.) You can desensitize yourself to masturbation if you masturbate a lot, but this doesn't …
/r/RedPillWives09/07/16 11:28 PM
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To forego the "rules" part others have covered and get to the "cute": I like sending my guy mini-poems over text when I'm thinking of him. Usually silly, sometimes mushygushy. We do a lot of teasing in reference to the next time we're seeing each other ("whoops I left my necklace at your place didn't I?" "oh no! You'll have to come back to get it" "pout, I guuuess so") Randomness and unasked-for compliments are the most impactful. Sending him a "just wanted to say, I love the way you're _____" i…
/r/RedPillWives08/07/16 02:33 PM
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Hahaha love this. I've always reacted this way sorta instinctively or just from personality and you're right - it's a great way to react :3 "Big meanie" and a slow-mo soft punch with sound effects are my go-tos
/r/RedPillWives07/07/16 12:42 AM
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Woohoo! A few major aspects of my fitness and nutrition: Having free weights at home. The BEST purchase of my life. They're sitting right there. There's no excuse. And so many possible exercises. Audiobooks. My long runs are bliss with an audiobook with a good narrator. After getting into the pace I'll eventually get so caught up in the story that of of a sudden - bam - I've run 15km and didn't even notice. Veganism with a focus on high protein. I've been doing this so long it no longer takes ef…
/r/RedPillWives07/07/16 12:23 AM
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Yes! Looove Fitness Blender. Curious: why would personality type play into it? Because of being bored easily?
/r/RedPillWives07/07/16 12:10 AM
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No offense was ever taken. Like I said, all in good fun. I understand. I assumed that if you (seemingly) weren't grasping the extent of the satire, others weren't either. So I clarified. And good, chuckling is why I wrote this up. :)
/r/RedPillWives03/07/16 04:17 AM
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Hm, that's no good to hear :( wishing you the best!
/r/RedPillWives03/07/16 03:29 AM
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I think you're misunderstanding the seriousness of my post. I'm making a satire of myself. ... Edit to more properly address you: yes of course I always knew it made me happy, yes it's always been obvious that it reinforces emotional connection, he never overtly showed sexual indifference (this was part of the satire, exaggerating how my brain runs for the sake of humor), I understand this makes guys happy too, I've been enthusiastic with him since day one. :P Hope you understand the base of my …
/r/RedPillWives03/07/16 03:22 AM
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Haha! and yep, very true
/r/RedPillWives03/07/16 01:42 AM
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my sexuality is reactive What a great way of wording it!
/r/RedPillWives03/07/16 01:40 AM
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Hahaha this made me laugh (in a good way) Thanks :) I meant it to be a bit silly and self-depreciative. calm, safe, happy, stress free, and usually ready for at least a nap Sometimes I feel so lucky as a human being that this natural, important activity evolved to be so pleasurable in so many ways!
/r/RedPillWives02/07/16 11:04 PM
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even when I'm an old lady and my hair is white YES. I so admire senior ladies with well-kept long hair. An elderly woman started working at my place of employment two weeks ago with blazingly white hair down to her hips. She does it part-way up every day in a different Celtic-looking knot or rosette thing. What a role model googly eyes
/r/RedPillWives02/07/16 09:45 PM
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Seeing oneself as a victim is one of the most pervasive forms of mental unhealth (and hindrance to betterment) in nearly every clinical and nonclinical disorder. Stopping that delusion in the masses ought to be pursued. You don't have to be anti-left to be anti-feminist. Flip side: being anti-feminist says nothing about your other political beliefs. The notion that hetero men define "feminine" and hetero men also define "masculine" is ludicrous. Feminine, fertile women define "masculine". Both g…
/r/RedPillWives01/07/16 04:06 AM
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..I'm very confused.. Are you talking to me, SeasideJune? I wrote a response to the original poster, elegance_, and said nothing about you or your daughter. What do you want to hear my response to?
/r/RedPillWives29/06/16 03:13 AM
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I'm sorry - what are you addressing? I replied to the OP.
/r/RedPillWives29/06/16 01:49 AM
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Just want to note that OKC has a blog too, still on the "OKC" site, with some really interesting articles and that it's a possibility he was just reading those. Personally I'm for talking to him about it in the most basic, factual, honest way possible (to avoid it being shit-testy) "I saw this at this time." without "and this is what I think/thought."
/r/RedPillWives29/06/16 12:59 AM
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Decide what you want out of life, and imagine decades down the road, when you are no longer young, what the end result of that decision will look like. Are you going to pursue instant gratification of career, travel, and pie-in-the-sky dreams (concentrating on yourself), or will you pursue a family of your own, a strong relationship, and loving children? Which will better serve you when your youth fades? Great advice! Personally, I'm a strong believer that you don't have to sacrifice one for the…
/r/RedPillWives26/06/16 11:16 PM
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the dominant mentality that guides most people doesn't need to be our mentality. That is a core part of being RP. I agree You can speak about harsh truths amongst likeminded people Yep that's where I misunderstood. let me know what you think of the essay :) Will do
/r/RedPillWives26/06/16 03:12 AM
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You quoted me but then you twisted my words. My apologies. You are the only one who is making any claims about persuading an audience (...) No idea where you got that impression haha If you're not talking about persuasion then why mention the group you don't agree with, who are "concerned about being politically correct and non-offensive"? Aren't you delivering your harsh truths to that group? With the intent to change their minds? What is delivering harsh truths "necessary" for? (...)I even tol…
/r/RedPillWives26/06/16 03:04 AM
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Speaking bluntly and delivering harsh opinions or truths is even more necessary today since everyone is so concerned about being politically correct and non offensive. Nearly 2500 years of rhetoric, from Aristotle to Perelman, would disagree with that. I'm a science/evidence lover so I ask this genuinely, not to be snarky at all: Do you have any philosophical or scientific resources showing that speaking harshly to a population is more effective at persuasion than speaking non-offensively? I did…
/r/RedPillWives26/06/16 02:25 AM
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Plenty of women exaggerate or even invent instances of harassment; feminists and leftists are especially notorious for making up attacks against them. It's basically a stereotype at this point - just look up all of the instances of people writing slurs on their doors themselves, then crying to authorities and demanding that measures be taken against other groups. Also, keep in mind that being looked at or complimented in public is not automatically a horrible, traumatising thing. Plenty of women…
/r/RedPillWives25/06/16 11:50 PM
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Loved this and agreed with everything except her unfounded denial that this other woman was ever "actually" harassed by men. How does saying "Quite frankly, I don't even believe her" benefit the article? It doesn't, at all. It only makes the author sound bitter (and like hamstering honestly... awalt?). I've been hit on by men and flattered by it, but I've also had things said to me on the street or at the gym that are very demeaning, belittling and not flattering in the least. It does happen. An…
/r/RedPillWives25/06/16 09:07 PM
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I've sought help I'm still somewhat scared of being fully open with me First and foremost, all the advice on the internet can't give you the betterment that a trained, well-respected therapist can. If this is an option for you, look into pursuing it. I'm a virgin at 21 and haven't even been kissed (except when I was a child but that doesn't count right?). I am also afraid that men will find my lack of any experience off putting. I was almost exactly in your place a year ago. If there's one thing…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/16 08:40 PM
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It's really really early where I am right now, so forgive me if I'm reverting back to RP 101 in my morning grogginess, but.... What are this guy's definitions of a high value and low value man? He claims power, money and influence don't make a man high value. Okay. (He also seems to imply near the very end of the piece that high value men are "genuinely interesting", which doesn't seem to explain anything) But then he says that band guys were higher socially than drama guys. Seeing as both are c…
/r/RedPillWives22/06/16 03:23 PM
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Shared appreciation for the world. Whether it be art, science, philosophy, etc. Having and encouraging an appreciation for this life and most importantly, sharing those thoughts and moments and experiences. Ambition. Maintaining a sense of "us, together, moving forwards together." A hunger for a good future and the present actions that will bring that about. Recognizing moments of complacency and knowing when they're happening too much or too often. Desire and its expression. Kindling a strong, …
/r/RedPillWives18/06/16 01:59 AM
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Hello! Sorry for the very very late reply. Pure Anada is my go-to foundation, 98% perfect in my opinion. Lots of shades!
/r/RedPillWives17/05/16 03:16 PM
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Sure! Here she is: Generally young, well-educated and financially comfortable, the Next Generation Left have very liberal attitudes on many issues, including homosexuality, abortion, the environment and foreign policy. While overall supportive of an activist government, most are wary of expanding the social safety net. Most also have relatively positive views of Wall Street’s impact on the economy. While most affiliate with the Democratic Party or lean Democratic, few consider themselves strong …
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 05:56 PM
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Next Generation Left. Not sure how well it fully describes me though, but it's an interesting quiz!
/r/RedPillWives03/05/16 05:22 PM
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Don't open your mouth on impulse, actually be thoughtful of what you choose to say
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/16 12:59 AM
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I agree with the ladies here. "Rules" and game playing are all bad in my books. However I think there is a good reason why women are sometimes told to end the date or call first. This is when the man was the initiator. Essentially, if he specifically asks you out or calls you up, he is "hosting" the date or call and it's quite rude for the host to kick the guest out. The guest is the one to say goodbye and bring a polite close to what the other opened. Most of the dates I've gone on have been so…
/r/RedPillWives27/04/16 12:38 AM
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Oh hm, good question. For bigger names that many people might know, it's been a hunt for me and I'll often find a product here or there that has, based on my investigations, all "safe" ingredients, though not all "natural" (a number of powders from Bare Minerals, a lipstick or two from Bite Beauty). For smaller names, there are lots of little natural cosmetics brands in my area. Finding some without crazy prices took a few pages of Google searching. But ultimately, I make nearly everything I wea…
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 01:32 PM
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This is awesome! Thank you! Tarte Amazonian Clay Concealer (all natural) I want to point out that (at least as sold in my location!) this product is not all natural, nor is anything from this brand. (forgive me, "natural"/safe cosmetics is the one part of life I'm quite zealous about)
/r/RedPillWives24/04/16 03:01 AM
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I would guess that their responses might change, no? If he asked that, he'd be going from "what do you think of my harmless silly belief" to "what do you think of my potentially harmful silly belief". If I told you I was a golden retriever dog, it'd be dumb and you'd think I was wrong, but arguing me would bring no benefit to anyone.... If I told you that I was a dog and ran around biting people, arguing me would bring great benefit. So, yeah, I'd guess the student's responses would change quite…
/r/RedPillWives20/04/16 08:45 PM
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Oh it was a fun story :3 (but I keep it to myself). The words came from me first without me even intending them (though I certainly meant them) and he basically replied that he'd been thinking about the ol' three-word-exchange for a while and was relieved we could now say we loved each other whenever we pleased, which we do.
/r/RedPillWives18/04/16 04:20 PM
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In light of PhantomDream09's closure of this, I won't continue debating. I want to say I never felt personally attacked by you and hope you didn't feel I was attacking your intelligence or credentials. Truce. And thanks for the resources too.
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 01:59 AM
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Assuming you're being serious here, I can say with my whole self that I believe if you studied the mathematics of statistics and the philosophy/logic/definition of science (and thus how today's psychology is an empirical science) you would never be claiming this. Saying something like "women make 70 cents on the man's dollar, therefore women are oppressed" is not psychology. It's bogus, ridiculous and un-scientific. Saying "empirical, peer-reviewed and statistically significant studies show Cogn…
/r/RedPillWives14/04/16 12:51 AM
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Possibly, sure. A change of environment is often helpful/helpfully distracting. That's part of a lot of psychotherapies anyways. To claim so bluntly that she doesn't need therapy, though, is ignorant to the science of psychology. Regular negative thoughts that pop into the head unwanted and uncontrollably is abnormal and unhealthy.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 11:50 PM
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Er, being upset (even just "pulled out of regular stream of thought" or whatever "triggered" might mean) 1. by everyday things, often and without cease, 2. in a way that reduces your quality of life and 3. in a way that "just happens" and can't be controlled is definitely a symptom to talk to a mental health professional about. EDIT: Now, I do believe this whole "triggered" thing is nonsense, and that SJWs are often crazily sensitive. But if the negative feeling is, like I said, constant and unc…
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 11:32 PM
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Oh yes, good points. I suppose the "appear to be" is what rubs me the wrong way most as I imagine some girl pretending to be helpless (when she isn't) then wondering why her SO's annoyed rather than attracted. Like you pointed out, the context of the situation is key.
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 01:38 AM
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Appear to be helpless in masculine matters. I disagree, and believe this is one of the mistaken criticisms of RPW. Women are not helpless, doormats or incapable. Women can be intelligent, physically, mentally or emotionally strong, etc, and still be completely feminine in the eyes of their husbands. Asking for help where you need it and ardently appreciating his helpfulness are good relationship traits, but I don't believe that pretending to be helpless is endearing. I also don't agree with the …
/r/RedPillWives13/04/16 01:21 AM
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Very true!!
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 11:21 PM
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Haha yep, I assumed something like that. We use that phrase so often to contrast male and female too though. That's what made me giggle, hehe
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 02:08 PM
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Nothing groundbreaking here we didn't already know, but it's always interesting to see a bit of science lining up with RPW. I've got to say I laughed out loud at the phrase "differing mating strategies" being listed as a dealbreaker ;) Ironic word choice. The article quietly gives advice, I think. First, to work on reducing your own negative traits before working on improving your positive ones (though this can be doubled up... reduce unattractiveness = increase attractiveness). Second, to reall…
/r/RedPillWives12/04/16 12:52 PM
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Oh oh, I see. I thought you meant she specifically had this nature, not all women.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/16 10:35 PM
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Well I mean: how can you possibly know that? (I ask out of curiosity, not to argue)
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/16 10:11 PM
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I suppose I've just seen a lot of women around me be so choosey and snobbishly turn away guys who "aren't attractive/good/deserving enough for them" while their own SMV isn't high. It's irrational. Attraction isn't a choice. Your job is to maximize everything you can control, and then go out into the wild for the guy to hunt you. I really agree here. Games and strategies may be well and good for a hookup, but not so much for an LTR built on trust and openness. There's got to be a mutual "pull" t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/16 09:45 PM
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Exactly! Such unnecessary fright... I hope once I'm a mother that I remember to take the time to have a full conversation about bodies and sex with each of my children.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 06:08 PM
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This is amazingly informative! Wow. I'm definitely saving this. I never even learned about the existance of the cervix from my parents or my school. I remember the first time I felt it during a self-examination and I cried and shook on the bathroom floor sure that I had a big tumor. Thank goodness I ran to the internet for info afterwards. Thanks so much for taking the time to explain all this. I'll be looking deeper into it for sure.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 05:52 PM
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chance with a more attractive male Honestly, that's the problem if you ask me. If the woman in question understands that she's not as physically attractive as others, then she also has to understand that people generally pair up with someone of equal attractiveness (lots of studies on this, just search on Google Scholar). You can't play games or trick someone into being your partner for a LTR. It's deceitful to both yourself and the object of your desires.
/r/RedPillWomen08/04/16 03:32 PM
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Interesting, though some of the "good" ones would not sit well with my SO, and some of the "bad" ones are types of humour we both naturally use and understand as funny rather than hurtful. We're sarcastic with each other all the time, but it works with us and ends in a giggle or playful punch. We'll even put each other down in jest, but it's "play fighting" rather than taken seriously, and honestly it kind of brings out a power dynamic that easily turns into sexy time. As long as the other perso…
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 03:17 PM
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Holey moley I love this :3 Funny, creative and good good reminders.
/r/RedPillWives08/04/16 12:45 AM
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Woot woot! I'm June. I've been with RPW coming up on a year, and with my dearest SO for just over a year. We're so happy together and I can't imagine where we'd be without RPW. I love running, writing and reading. I'm currently a hardworking student and dream of one day being a hardworking mother and wife.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 03:34 PM
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Bahaha, awesome. Thanks
/r/RedPillWives07/04/16 03:24 PM
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This is awesome to see so simply laid out. Very informative and clear. My favourite is the distinct emphasis on the psychological and cultivating a good mindset.
/r/RedPillWives04/04/16 07:13 PM
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I love this sub and the practical and theoretical things I have learned here. I'm sending best wishes for a strong revival!
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/16 02:32 PM
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As far as getting back in your normal routine, work in the smallest increments possible, Ie. "Put this nice sweater on. Done. Now what? Go to the bathroom and do your cat eyes. Done. Now what? Pack a lunch... Get out the door... etc, etc" It can all seem like so much (or so easy to shrug off) until you take it in bits. And forcing yourself do to tiny things one after the other is easier than forcing yourself to "be productive today" or something abstract like that. I'm going to add that if this …
/r/RedPillWomen31/03/16 02:42 AM
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Definitely the latter. It's just that easy sex lovers are the loud and encouraged majority. As you yourself are a minority, so there are a minority of men suitable for you (and vice versa). I've met men who highly value virginity and men who don't mind virginity one way or the other. They're just not loud and encouraged. You're right to not want to meet at bars or clubs, because yep it'll only be that easy sex crowd there. What about spending your free time (and trying to make connections) in so…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 03:27 AM
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I meant the whole package that you bring to the table. ... Though, I suppose that age is the most prominent only because fewer and fewer people in your age category will be available as time goes on, of course. The central thing I wanted to get across is that the pool of men may be small for one reason or another, but not to feel discouraged by that.
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 03:12 AM
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There's no "too old." There's no cut off point. There's no strict rules. You, as described, are a minority, and so you've got to come to terms with the idea that eligible men looking for a woman like yourself might be in the minority too. Point being, I think that your desire is enough to push your forwards into finding something and someone with whom you work out, as long as you don't become discouraged when it doesn't arrive as soon as you start looking. I unfortunately don't have advice (beyo…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/16 02:58 AM
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Holey moley, congrats, friend!! I aspire to one day have a success story like yours. (nudge, if you ever want to share your favourite "waist sculpting" exercises, I wouldn't complain. I've lately fallen into the same old exercise routine.)
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 10:55 PM
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To start, I don't agree with any of this author's rhetoric. Totally not my style. (Isn't this the solipsistic rhetoric we always try to avoid here? If that single hipster (who is nearly irrelevant to you personally) is happy and healthy, why involve yourself and all your negative emotions? I find a lot of more right-leaning politics read this way. If you personally like this style, I'd love to hear why) Removing the tone and looking at the points, I do agree that some degrees are "useless" stric…
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/16 12:59 AM
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To give another take (my own), though... we/you don't have to believe it's "natural" or "god ordained" or "biological" or something. That's interesting to theorize and debate about (and it's part of RP too), but it's the practical side of RP that's more salient. For whatever reason and with whatever belief, you view the specific male lover you've committed to as so wonderful of a captain that you willingly choose to defer to him and to work on being the best first mate possible. Edited spelling …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/16 07:58 PM
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Oh another thing that just caught my eye. I may be misinterpreting but it sounds like you're almost afraid (or at least averse) to having an outing where he's a bit grumpy like this. On one hand that shows that you care about him emotionally, as you should, but it's not a very adaptive state of mind. If this is true (correct me if not), then it's even more crucial to focus on you giving you your happiness rather than depending on his good mood for your happiness.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/16 01:58 AM
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To preface: he's not perfect here. It seems he's dealing with some sort of provider insecurity or particular annoyance or unsureness of your interests... I've really got no place to say what. However, as RP always repeats, you are in charge of your own happiness. You can't depend on your SO for you happiness and you can't just go the opposite way either and hand happiness to your SO. You've recognized that you've got a bit of insecurity and that you sometimes get more invested in the fantasy of …
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/16 01:39 AM
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Why one or the other? "Lady in the street, freak in the sheets" / "lamb in the kitchen, tiger in the bedroom" That's honestly what I love most about us human beings... that we are dynamic and multi-sided and that our lovers can see and have all sides of us. But if these two hypothetical girls were separate and had to be chosen between.. then I'd agree with /u/whitebunny87. Sassy might give an energy-filled first impression, but sweetness stays and promises a far smoother LTR.
/r/RedPillWomen22/03/16 06:03 AM
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My take is that this is natural. You're beginning to become attached to this man. Feeling good when together and bad when apart is a sign of the feelers that both of you have sent out latching onto each other - it's turbulent, but it's attachment. Now, don't get me wrong, your feelings are likely based on insecurities and though the feelings may be signs of a good thing, they're not a good thing themselves. It's up to you to work through them and those possible insecurities. Your job is to conti…
/r/RedPillWomen17/03/16 02:47 AM
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"Happy wife, happy life" yep what a gentleman. "Happy husband, happy life" nope she's brainwashed. Also, I understand that both a submissive wife and abused wife are... well, submissive (albeit in verrry different ways) but she totally forgets about the other person in the marriage. She's claiming that it's an easy leap from happy, "dominant" husband to cruel abuser. That is a very, very twisted leap. That I don't understand. She's making all sorts of illogical inductions (eg. that a submissive …
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/16 01:57 AM
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Bahahahaha the double entendre totally slipped by me, oh boy. I meant more along the lines of chickpea brownies with hibiscus icing ;)
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 04:38 AM
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Ah, thanks. I'm glad you're interested in learning more about the red pill! (I'm still a relative newbie myself at <1 year) I hope you learn lots and find understanding as you explore. To properly answer your original question: My number one hobby is reading/writing. The library was like my second home growing up and my love of books has never left me. I enjoy running when I get a spare moment too. General exercise is great as a means to an end, but I enjoy running just for the joy of it - the f…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 04:24 AM
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I do have answers to your questions (writing, reading, running, baking) but I'm curious: If your question isn't RPW related, why ask here? What's the motivation behind this post? I'd appreciate if you fleshed that out!
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/16 03:47 AM
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Haha, got it (thumbs up)
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 05:21 PM
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Hmm, I see. I think my confusion lies in the definition of the verb itself.... I can "allow" him to be himself passively, not even paying mind, just fully loving him however he is... or I can "allow" him actively, being all "yes you may" "you have my permission." An accepting absence of control versus an evaluated revoking of control. Is that in line with your thinking?
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 05:13 PM
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(scratches chin) I see, yes... thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 05:06 PM
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I think I understand.. you're saying that "letting him" thoughts could still hold some kind of controlling mindset? Is there alternative phrasing you think is more ideal?
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 04:53 PM
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I've seen conversations float around multiple times where a member might gently reprimand another for using the phrase "now I let him ___". The member would point out that the other shouldn't feel like they're "letting" or "allowing" him do anything as "letting" is parent-like. This always makes me do a double take, because I use that phrasing sometimes. Say, purely for the sake of a silly example, that I hate when my SO wears orange. Imagine I usually tell him so whenever he wears it. But I fin…
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/16 04:39 PM
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"I'm proud of you," is a simple one I think everybody adores hearing. It's a special treat from him. I'm a very word oriented person and he is... well, not. The majority of compliments I get from him aren't voiced, but shown. He gives this certain rolly-squeezy hug when I've done something he knows was hard but that he appreciates... His eyes light up in a specific way when I walk out of the bedroom wearing a pink dress (still makes me chuckle, the more traditionally feminine I dress, the happie…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/16 05:39 PM
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Oh I was going to say Tom Ford Black Orchid! Glad to see it's already in your line of sight :) I'm absolutely in love with that perfume, and they do have some variations of the scent available depending on where you buy it. Personally, it was strong enough that anyone hugging me noticed, but not too strong that the person sitting at the desk next to me would. Adding some to the ends of my hair helps it linger on me all day.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/16 11:06 PM
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I like that although these women were basically saying the same thing, there was "I like that he takes care of me" and also "I like taking care of him." Masculine men and feminine women take care of each other in such special ways. :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 11:31 PM
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I personally believe so. In my eyes, the beta qualities tend to arise after commitment and love have been given and shared... the man was at his core alpha, which is what got him the girl, but once he has that relationship, he may naturally act more beta on the rare occasion (comforting, caretaking, etc) as this maintains the bond. From what I gather, an archetypal RPW wants a long term, healthy RP relationship. An archetypal 100% alpha man wants to sleep with loads of women, do his own thing, a…
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/15 05:11 AM
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I've heard it used by RP men as a way to sort of remind themselves that most all women follow the same general thought patterns, habits, etc. Possibly to deter the idea that the specific girl they have in mind is "not like the others" or "a unicorn" as they say (which can be thoughts bordering on obsession over a girl and aren't adaptive or healthy). It does not mean all women are like that all the time. Rather it means that lots of woman are like that at some point in their lives.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/15 11:18 PM
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Thank you. Your words are incredibly helpful to me figuring this out.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/15 04:58 PM
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You're right. And I really don't know... I do things that are "selfish" all the time and am fine with it. Going to university in a program I enjoy was majorly selfish, but I never felt worried about that. I've only had this big of a dilemma with the idea of having a child. I don't think it's right... I think ideally I would fully understand what many of you are saying that having a child might be selfish but that that's okay, like anything else. I'll take some time to process and figure out what…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/15 04:54 PM
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Please don't think I'm trying to start an argument. I'm trying to learn and understand new opinions. I genuinely apologize if I've come across with too much of a "I'm debating!" tone. I'll work on this. And no, of course I agree that having children is different. One way it's different is that it directly involves another person, which I suppose is why I feel that the choice deserves a lot of thought. And I do think about why I eat and have sex. Not in a way that'll stop me from doing those thin…
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/15 12:11 AM
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Wow, your words about denying part of your humanity really spoke to me. Thanks for these valuable thoughts!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 07:37 PM
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I really agree with your idea of of intent and plans! I'll have to keep that in mind for the future. Thanks for voicing that.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 07:35 PM
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I care if it's selfish, obviously, and there's no harm in philosophical banter and thoughtfulness. I'm not in agony over this, I enjoy thinking things through with others and I enjoy my decisions being deliberate and informed. This subreddit is a place created for thought, theories and self reflection. My post is not out of place.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 05:24 PM
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Interesting thoughts, thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 03:30 PM
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I think it's very important to struggle to justify one's desires and actions, especially if it's a basic biological urge. Without that, there'd be a lot more non-consensual sex and stealing produce from supermarkets. One side of the coin is that people have to restrain themselves to end up with good outcomes in modern society, and the other side is that a lack of restraint should be justified, in my opinion. Personally, I don't think just having a desire or a craving or the fact that people have…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 03:26 PM
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I like your point of raising a child who you hope will give back to the world. Thanks for your insight.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 03:15 PM
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Yes, good points. My original post wasn't trying to say that being a mother in its entirety makes the mother a selfish person. I was trying to say that the act of creating a child alone is selfish, but that any way you interact with the child afterwards could certainly be good and selfless, that's all :) Edit: and I understand that the above may not be true at all, that no part of it is terribly selfish. As I mentioned in another reply, I think this is all pointing towards the fact that I've got…
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 03:10 PM
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The more I read opinions here and think about it, the more I realize my whole qualm exists because I believe the world is, at it's base, a "bad place" and that kids are better off not existing than existing and feeling things. It's making me aware that I am certainly not ready to be a mother yet. I'm realizing I've got to mature a little more and come to an understanding of the world that's a bit more meaningful before I can be a mother. Thanks for your insight :)
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 03:04 PM
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I totally agree. And if I do have kiddies one day I'll likely teach them to deal with their low times with that thought in mind. I suppose I was writing my original post thinking of pain vs happiness in a rather simplistic, step-back-from-how-we-can-personally-each-think-about-it way. It's good to have new perspective, thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 02:59 PM
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Hahaha, I do, don't I. Perhaps I could have opted for synonyms sometimes. I'm certainly not trying to be toxic or raging... or childfree for that matter.
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 05:18 AM
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Good thought. I suppose reproduction stands out differently to me because it directly involves a second person. But everything can be twisted to be selfish or harmful to others with enough talk, so I understand your point!
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 04:34 AM
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How so? Isn't doing something to satisfy a personal urge by definition selfish? (ie. doesn't having kids to satisfy instinctual urges mean it's done selfishly, even if you decide that's not a bad thing?)
/r/RedPillWomen21/12/15 03:54 AM
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The One I Love by Charlie McDowell is a really interesting take. It's not 100% what you're looking for, but a very haunting film about marriage and illogical desire.
/r/askTRP14/12/15 05:34 PM
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Slightly removed from the main topic, but I just want to make sure we remember that both anorexia and obesity are disorders, not just titles for weight groups. Anorexia is a mental disorder at its root. You can be at a normal weight and anorexic (by many diagnostic systems at least) but more of note, you can be underweight and not anorexic. You can be terribly, harmfully underweight and not anorexic (think people starving in impoverished conditions, not by choice). Anorexia is a type of very dis…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 06:55 PM
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Actually, that's not the whole story. Many different micronutrients raise metabolism over the short or long term through different mechanisms. The general premise of smaller than burned calorie intake equaling weight loss is true, but food has quality too, not only quantity. "A calorie is a calorie" is over simplified thinking and while it is definitely a helpful heuristic, it doesn't translate to the actual biology of our bodies. Based on their nutrient content, some foods help you burn fat, ot…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/15 06:44 PM
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Love this idea! This past week I realized an embarrassing tendency of mine where I frantically plan all the coming dates for myself and SO and leave none for him to plan. I rationalized this as "I want to show him so many thing we can enjoy," and we do enjoy them. But by not sharing date ideas I'm blocking him from so many opportunities to lead. I'm going to back off a little and give him some of the reins. There will be time for me to show him my favourite places, while allowing him to show me …
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 11:03 PM
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Oh interesting. This adds another layer to the phenomena. Thanks for that info!
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 02:08 AM
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Good points. Lots to think about. I wonder if it does boil down to physical attractiveness simply being easier to talk about, manipulate and employ than attractiveness of personality, as some commenters have said above. And, accepting the idea that females are "hot" mainly in their feminine looks and males are "hot" mainly in their masculine presence, hot girls would be a lot easier to talk about than hot guys. Haha, I had the exact same experience with a professor a couple years ago!
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 12:57 AM
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Hm true. I was wondering about this as well. I do not feel at all jealous when he talks about a character being hot, or even a girl on the street. In fact I appreciate knowing what he finds attractive. But I know he'd feel jealous and insecure if I told him I found an alpha male character hot. Perhaps because he's a more jealous person than me, perhaps also because personality is more central to self-concept than looks. It's not like he could slip on confidence like I could a tight skirt. I hope…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 12:40 AM
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Ah, good point. Perhaps the celebrated female trait is simply easier to comment on than the male. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/15 12:34 AM
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And posture! In addition to the awesome advice here: keep mind of your posture no matter where you are. Thinking of a string attached to your head pulling you up and placing your shoulders back not only makes your figure more attractive, but opens you up to appear more inviting.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/15 12:46 PM
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Yes! It's so true. I ought to try some free association again sometime soon.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/15 01:36 AM
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Fiction writing is a huge part of my life. Creating another world (especially one exploring communication and sexuality, as I find them inherently fascinating) is both a challenge for me and a relaxation. I find it really helps me work out my own life's issues as well, and see them more objectively. It's during the months when I'm not writing regularly that I tend to overreact and overthink. Also, gotta love yoga and reading, as many are saying here. Vegetable gardening is an area I'd like to ex…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/15 12:49 AM
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Oh, thanks for elaborating. My above advice assumed that your jokes, say, were natural reactions and that you were thinking of putting effort into stopping, rather than putting effort into being funny in the first place. Basically I'd advise to do what comes naturally as far as humor.
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 10:44 PM
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I don't think you have to deny yourself an important part of who you are for the sake of cookie-cutter femininity. Delicacy is only as much a part of femininity as is knowing and embracing your core traits. Is your sense of humor a core trait to who you are? I'd advise you to look into yourself and ask how much your humor is a part of who you are. Will suppressing it bring you down and dim your brightness? Will trying to change make you feel like you're faking yourself or wasting energy avoiding…
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/15 07:54 PM
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