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That's the thing, in a court of law yes, evidence is needed. If they wanted to convict him of a crime, a case would have to be built against him. But publicly shame someone and destroy their career? That, my friend, can be done with an absence of evidence.
/r/MGTOW19/10/17 04:58 PM
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It's all over my facebook feed this morning. One girl said and I quote "If 1 in 5 women are raped then it should be safe to say that 1 in 5 men are rapists". Because that's how statistics work honey. 20% of the male population are rapists ie. nearly 700 million men. For context, that's over double the population of the entire USA. GTFO.
/r/MGTOW17/10/17 06:21 PM
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This chick again lol. Have you guys noticed all the articles she's been "writing"? Something by her pops up on here at least every other week. You'd think that if she just took a look at her post history she'd realize the trend. Seriously sounds like she's descending into madness.
/r/MGTOW16/10/17 07:32 PM
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I personally think, for them, it's the pain of not knowing. If you believe that something will make your life better (ie. sex or relationship) but you can not obtain said thing, it's bound to drive you nuts. When I was younger, I honest to god used to believe in romance that you see in movies. I wanted that, badly. I thought "if only I had a romantic relationship my life would be better". Well as we all know, that's not how it works. But now that I know from personal experience that a long-term …
/r/MGTOW16/10/17 07:07 PM
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It's a good book, it's about time for a re-read on my end. Anyhow, I've been trying to apply these principles for almost a year now so here's some of the things I've noticed and learned. By far the thing I notice the most is people (guys and girls) opening up to me. When you're real with people, they can sense that (I think) and it generates a feeling of trust. I've had multiple women tell me extremely personal things about their lives on the first or second encounter. It's kind of poignant. It …
/r/seduction13/01/17 09:44 AM
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This is my opinion and I'm not trying to be a dick. BUT, that line sounds super lame. When I see that line I immediately think of some tryhard fuckboy that acts super cocky but has no actual confidence. I think any girl over 20 would just eyeroll/lol at this. That said, if you're going for a younger demographic it may have an effect. Really depends on how much you've established yourself as a humorous person.
/r/seduction08/06/16 04:05 PM
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Well hey at least you've got a sense of humor, that's a big plus. My advice to you would be to establish some concrete goals. What do you really want out of this last year? "Get laid", that's really vague. Sure that's your ultimate goal but I'd break it down into smaller steps that you can actually track. Example "talk to 3 new girls a week". Just come up with something that keeps you accountable of your efforts. Because you can have the goal of wanting to get laid and still do literally nothing…
/r/seduction24/05/16 04:08 AM
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Hey, glad you're still writing these. Your synopsis on self-selection is a good refresher of one of Manson's salient points. This outlook should be second nature for a man with strong inner-game and as you said, nips many problems in the bud. Love that bit. Laughed at your HP analogy (I'm a pretty big fan) too. I really hope I can achieve that level of non-neediness. I feel like so many people these days (especially ones around our age) are just thin shells of confidence hiding their insecuritie…
/r/seduction22/05/16 11:52 PM
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Yeah even your example sentence sounds needy. As the other guy said there's not a whole lot you can do. Saying something ALWAYS backfires. They'll make you look like the bad guy.
/r/seduction20/05/16 09:21 PM
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So I wouldn't put it in terms of success or failure. No book out there is going to make you a god with women. All of that comes down to you and what you choose to take from the reading. Models completely changed my way of thinking with regards to women and relationships. I'm 24 and my entire life I actually believed people got into relationships like they do in movies. Fairy tales. Before Models, I could never imagine outright stating my attraction to a woman. I thought things just "magically" f…
/r/seduction19/05/16 01:34 PM
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Damn that was...poignant. I'm feeling those same things you just described. I too am trying to work through it. But I'm finding it so hard to believe that I can be truly happy alone. I feel like if I fell in love with a woman who loved me I'd be truly content. Thing is, I know that's BS. I have all these insecurities that a partner won't be able to fix. The issue is getting myself to really believe it, feel it. There's a major disconnect between my logical brain and my emotional state. Referring…
/r/seduction19/05/16 02:41 AM
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You could try volunteering for your local humane society. They have volunteers walk dogs and play with animals if you like that kind of thing.
/r/seduction18/05/16 07:53 PM
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Honestly man, you may want to look into therapy. Five years is a long time to not see any improvement in your mental outlook. Depression is a real condition which it sounds like you may have. I have many of the same feelings you have and have been considering therapy (my father also had diagnosed depression). How old are you btw?
/r/seduction18/05/16 06:00 PM
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Exactly. High social polish or status will help you meet more women but I believe that's where it ends. A down-to-earth women who likes you for you will not care about something like that.
/r/seduction18/05/16 05:34 PM
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Hahah I've done literally the exact same thing. To the point where the girl realized it and actually asked "Isn't your class the other direction?". I did it for the same reasons as you. I was terrified to ask her out/get her number and was waiting for the "perfect" opportunity. I think you know this but just to reinforce it - That perfect moment will NOT come! The only way to get over this is courage i.e. Grow a pair lol. First time I did it I was walking with a girl from class and it got to the…
/r/seduction18/05/16 03:45 AM
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That sucks man. It's happened to a lot of us. Like the other guy said, give us a little more detail. It's hard to know how exactly you went wrong.
/r/seduction18/05/16 03:33 AM
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Do you have a structure to your meditation? Or do you literally just sit there focusing on your breathing? I've heard it's really beneficial and would like to start. Great post by the way!
/r/seduction18/05/16 02:04 AM
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Self-loathing is not a logical response. True, you may not be able to obtain the "social polish" of more charismatic men. That does NOT however, void your right to existence. Your inherent value is not determined by your success with women. If that's important to you, than pursue it. But you have to deal with the cards you were dealt. If you can't change something about yourself the only alternative is to accept it.
/r/seduction17/05/16 06:46 PM
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I'm the exact same way man. Lot of guys are. Definitely try meditating if you think it will help you. I've been really trying to change my own mindset the past few months. I've noticed progress (although slight). I read a lot (books on self-esteem ect.) and constantly encourage myself. Although I may give meditation a try in the near future.
/r/seduction17/05/16 06:38 PM
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First of all, even if a woman will sleep with you out of pity, why the hell would you want that?!? How long has your dry spell been man? I understand that it can get depressing when that happens. I'm particularly susceptible to feelings of worthlessness/depression, "I'll never find someone else" mindset. But that's what you need to understand, it's a mindset. Just because you have these feelings doesn't make them true. You've been laid before so some girls have found you attractive - fact. Based…
/r/seduction16/05/16 10:53 PM
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You think online dating is a good option for a 24 year old though? I just have this preconception that it attracts more of an older crowd looking for something serious (ie. marriage). I would like a serious relationship tbh but I feel years away from marriage. @ /u/Life_Uncivilized Thanks for the advice. I've always had hobbies but a few months ago I started making an active effort to improve my social circle and go out to bars/clubs. I've made a few approaches as well. I've made progress but it…
/r/seduction16/05/16 10:29 PM
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I'm going to have to disagree with you /u/vezmachine. You're correct that I had (mostly)everything in order. I had lots of friends, hobbies, ect. Despite all that, I had terrible self-confidence around women. All through high school and most of college, I could honestly never imagine bluntly expressing my interest in a woman. It was an unfathomable concept for me. My idea of how people got into relationships was a fairy tale. Now that's not to say that I didn't have prom dates, hook-ups/girls in…
/r/seduction16/05/16 08:43 PM
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I am very fit, young (24), decent looking, with a stable, high-paying job. ^ Has trouble getting woman (mostly meeting them in the first place)
/r/seduction16/05/16 05:15 PM
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I am also like your brother. I've had really weak inner-game for years which I think is the biggest contributor to my lack of success. Actively trying to change that now. Here's hoping your brother and I will start seeing results!
/r/seduction16/05/16 05:11 PM
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Haha let me know if that actually works :D
/r/seduction11/05/16 07:46 PM
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An aspect of a man with strong inner-game is his ability to recognize his mistakes, admit/correct them if possible, and most importantly (in your case) understand that his mistakes do not define him. To borrow the old adage - "To err is to be human". Honestly, you're doing well. A lesser man would have refused to see the error of his ways, called the girl a bitch, and been in exactly the same place as he was when the relationship began. This is a sure sign of insecurity (weak inner-game) - refus…
/r/seduction10/05/16 06:32 PM
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My story is a pretty common one. I got into what I would consider my first serious relationship (I'm 24 btw). Really the first time I've had such strong feelings for a girl. At the time I thought I was in love, now I'm not so sure. Anyway, I ended up putting her on a pedestal and became pretty needy. I sensed her pulling away and tried harder to keep her around. Well you know how that goes...she gave me the "lets be friends talk". It really fucked with me for a while. I particularly struggled wi…
/r/seduction08/05/16 10:31 PM
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Again, love reading your posts man. We're taking the same journey and your posts help keep me motivated on the tough days. Glad to see my book suggestion made it on your reading list! Keep doing what you're doing.
/r/seduction08/05/16 10:10 PM
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Not so much giving advice but I just wanted to say that your post and the following responses really helped me out. I went through something similar a few months back and I have many of the same emotions you've described. It does hurt man. First time I've felt that kind of thing. I've been working on my inner-game ever since and I have made progress. However, building strong inner-game is a gradual process IMO. I have days all the time where those feelings of inadequacy, neediness, the fear that…
/r/seduction07/05/16 02:57 PM
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Lol I like that
/r/seduction06/05/16 03:16 PM
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That's your opinion. To me it sounds like a recipe for a once-in-a-lifetime experience. I think many others would agree.
/r/seduction06/05/16 02:09 PM
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I'll travel with you. I'm not kidding. I've saved up a nice amount of money for this very purpose. Just got out of my first serious relationship which has caused me to want to start sooner rather than later. I'm a 24M by the way.
/r/seduction06/05/16 02:07 PM
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Hey no need to apologize, I like reading the long posts. You have the same outlook I'm trying to cultivate and seem to be really making an effort to internalize it. In regards to my earlier post, I absolutely agree with this statement you made: "It's ok to invest in a relationship over time (in my opinion), but its never, ever ok to make it your source of happiness or esteem." That goes back to my original statement "we invested too much too soon". When two people care about each other on a deep…
/r/seduction04/05/16 08:10 PM
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Haha it's crazy how similar our situations are right now (I'm 24). I've been reading through some of your previous posts and the parallel between your emotions and mine is uncanny. Literally giving voice to the way I've been feeling. Just goes to show our situation is not all that uncommon. Yeah the shit days are terrible man. It's really hard to accept that we fucked up a potentially (emphasis on potential) long and satisfying relationship. I still beat myself up for it some days. But I am lear…
/r/seduction03/05/16 10:09 PM
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Agreed. Saying "just get over it" to some people is like saying "just walk" to a person that just got prosthetic legs.
/r/seduction03/05/16 07:34 PM
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Damn man your post really resonated with me. Here's why - my story is very similar to yours. I was at a great point in life (great job, traveling, ect.) and attracted a girl (also without realizing it) that I had recently become friends with. Like your girl, there was a point where she was super into me. Even acting needy, texting me every night, that kind of thing. Honestly though, it didn't bother me. I was really into her and loved the attention (validation) I was getting from her. This is wh…
/r/seduction03/05/16 07:22 PM
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Same thing here man. First relationship, lasted about the same amount of time as yours. Ended a couple of months ago. Been on this thread ever since. Just the way I reacted to the breakup was enough to make me realize how needy I was. This article sums up my past behavior nicely though.
/r/seduction21/04/16 05:15 PM
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So change something. You know a surefire way to make certain you'll never be with a women? Don't change anything. Keep living the life you have now and keep getting the same results. It comes down to how badly you want it. You may face more obstacles than the average man on this forum but everyone has redeeming qualities about them. You may have to work incredibly hard, but it is possible. Even for someone such as yourself. There is no quick trick to "get laid". Stop making excuses, stop reaffir…
/r/seduction18/04/16 04:52 PM
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I suggest swing dancing simply because it's what I've experienced. If another type of dance interests you, by all means, pursue it! From what other posters here have said though, it sounds like swing is more laid back and tends to have more women.
/r/seduction17/04/16 10:50 PM
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The goal of this is not to "get together" with the women there. It's to improve yourself which will in turn make you more attractive to women. You'll have a lot of fun. It's a good way to expand your social circle too.
/r/seduction17/04/16 10:35 PM
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No partner required! There will usually be lots of people that are there alone.
/r/seduction16/04/16 10:46 PM
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Haha this has happened to me but I always just verbalize "awkward over-the-seat hug" and go for it. They always laugh and return the hug. Just don't let it bother you and it won't be awkward.
/r/seduction08/04/16 04:47 PM
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Haha word. That makes a lot of sense. Personally, I never saw anything wrong with being nice either, as long as you're not a push over or like you said, kiss ass.
/r/seduction21/03/16 03:17 PM
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I feel you man. God do I feel you haha. I'm probably around the same age as you - I just graduated from a university in Colorado. However, rather than go to grad school I took a job in Huntsville, Alabama. Everything you describe rings true here as well, maybe even more so. I'm not exaggerating here, literally everyone I work with is married (even the early-twenties people my age) and goes to church. So not really an opportunity to meet guy friends or women there. Even though I generally loath T…
/r/seduction11/03/16 02:51 PM
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I was really insecure in high school. Even though I had a really solid group of friends I was very passive around others, rarely standing up for myself. I've always been kind of smart but never considered that to be a trait girls would find attractive. Well I've graduated college and I'm now working as a rocket scientist (layman's term lol). I've learned to become a lot more confident and capitalize on my natural strengths (intelligence being one of them). I'm not an arrogant douche about it by …
/r/seduction10/03/16 02:02 PM
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Problem is it's tinder man. I mean I stop responding all the time simply because a) I'm bored with the convo b) I simply don't care any more or c) I forget. And I'm a dude. Girls have way more options (usually) than us and will stop responding for a myriad of reasons (One of my friends showed me her tinder lately and I looked at scores of guys she had stopped responding to simply because she deemed something they said as "creepy"). Again, it's tinder so you have nothing to lose, hit her up again…
/r/seduction09/03/16 11:11 PM
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