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Sex is supposed to be fun. It can create bonding feelings but that’s not a guarantee. It’s not a ritual. That sounds mechanical.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:25 PM
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There’re a lot of reasons for the declining birthrates. Lots of people are having sex. They are choosing not to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:24 PM
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Drinking was social lubricant to get to the sex part. Gen Z still wants sex. They just don’t have the same social and interpersonal skills and they don’t drink and have fun and commingle. They like and want sex. They just don’t know how to disconnect online and do it in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:10 PM
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Oh. No. You can absolutely suck too hard. On nipples. On the clit. On the lips or earlobes. I once had a guy suck really hard on my clit and kept feeling his teeth. ON MY CLIT! But yeah. Joke didn’t land on me. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:15 AM
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The right bashes on men too by telling them they must be “real men” and real men always do z, y, and z. And never a, b, or c. They restrict men into little columns, into caricatures. They also make normal everyday dudes feel bad about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:46 AM
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The study/survey is skewed and misrepresented. That being said. I don’t think there are good or bad men. Some men will do bad acts. Some will do them because they can. Some will do them because they want to. Some will do them because they feel entitled. Some will only do them if they know they won’t get caught. Some will do them because they think the eventual good outweighs with the bad now. Some don’t see their bad as bad only others bad as bad. Everybody does some bad things. Or things other …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:37 AM
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I’m excited by words and actions. It’s sucks if a man might be great in bed but shitty through text. I’m not going to fuck a dude that’s only effort is “wyd” at 1am.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 06:51 PM
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Can you explain it please? The first lines of my comment says I don’t understand what you’re saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 06:48 PM
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I just want to have good sex. And since my anatomy and arousal responses are different than a man’s, a stranger immediately starting with “let’s fuck” isn’t going to turn me on. And makes me feel like he isn’t going to care about my arousals. Just his. No foreplay. No wanting to learn how to excite me. No stimulation. Just. Let me shove it in.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:46 PM
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It’s not self centered. It’s complicated. It’s psychology It’s long but worth the watch https://youtu.be/4hibdmZkOIE?is=BHyTq8bWlYxMYVmr
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:21 PM
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And we adore them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:16 PM
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Exactly. It isn’t 50/50 in same number amounts it’s 50/50 in able contributions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:15 PM
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It’s the same phrase.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:06 PM
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Yeah. I’d have to go full on kink probably. I’m already working on my fem domme abilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:55 PM
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Obese. Used to be morbidly obese. Connective tissue issues so I’m extra saggy. Alopecia on meds. Rosacea. I’d have 1 “date” a year maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:51 PM
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I thought about being an OF girl. I’m not attractive enough to be an escort. I’d have a very niche clientele. I’m very good at sexting. Making them feel desired, wanted, valued, appreciated. Even my mom has jokingly suggested it. I prefer to offer my services for free with men that I’m attracted to however.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:47 PM
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I don’t know what part you’re objecting to? Women rejecting men because they are bad in bed? Yes we do it. All the time. Tons of men suck at sex. They are penis centric. They don’t consider a woman’s mental arousal. They don’t touch our clits. They don’t touch our bodies other than boobs and vaginas. They can go from 0 to let’s fuck and they think the women should be the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:44 PM
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Some women say a lot of things. So do some men. The internet isn’t reality. There are a lot of people who actually just get enjoyment from making their partners happy. We exist. “Happy wife happy life” can be seen from different perspectives. From a man who truly loves his woman and is in a healthy relationship. He wants to make his partner happy. It gives him a sense of purpose and contentment when she shows she’s happy with him. How she softens with him. Becomes vulnerable with him. Feels safe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:33 PM
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I’m all for casual sexual partners. If a guy messages me sex type stuff right away, he’s being left on read. It’s about a push and pull.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:22 AM
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Still trying though. Personal inventory. Accountability. Trying to believe. Good thing I’m a bit of a masochist
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:18 PM
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Yes he wants women not to be able to vote
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:17 PM
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I’ve mostly been abused by men. But I don’t have a negative view of men in general. But it definitely has fucked with my sexual/romantic interests and interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:14 PM
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Yes they become invisible. Women in general aren’t scanning the crowds for potential sexual partners. We aren’t visual like that. We are scanning for potential danger first. I like shy guys. But I still have to interact with them. I have to have an opportunity to meet and engage with them. Make them blush🥹🥵 most of the introverted shy men that I’ve been with, I’ve met through their extroverted friends. And we had a chance to interact in small venues or when alcohol was involved to loosen them up…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:00 PM
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Because that’s how most women’s arousal works.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:55 PM
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Physical attractiveness mixed with how he interacts with the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:51 PM
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How/why am I supposed to choose the guy that doesn’t look, talk, or approach me? If we aren’t interacting then he’s not an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:50 PM
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💚
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:41 PM
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I’m sorry. And I hope you have/had time to be able to heal as much as you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:39 PM
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I’m still trying to be honest in sex. Trying to believe things outside of my insecurities, embarrassments, social conditioning, sense of inadequacies, etc.. Speaking up about my pleasure also being important feels like I’m asking for something that I don’t deserve or that they aren’t interested in participating in. “They’d rather be with someone else, so asking for more than what they are desperate enough to do, isn’t worth it.” I’m not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:35 PM
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I honestly love that for you😜😁😈
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:21 PM
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I talked to a guy on here once that talked about wanting a virgin because he didn’t want to have a ran through. He had had sex and he said that he knew he was ruining them for the next man and he didn’t care. Virgins good. A woman sleeping with him is a whore after she’s not sleeping with him anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:20 PM
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I don’t know you. Is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:56 AM
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That sounds awesome. I was on shrooms at the bar last night with some really good friends. It was a really good night.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 07:30 PM
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No way. That can’t be it. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 06:42 PM
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Reddit is not the real world and not the number one social media for younger women. Reddit is a beautiful cesspool. It’s not for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:44 PM
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Yes. Society infantilizes women. It both works for and against us. Just like society thinks men are more capable works for and against them. I don’t think age gap relationships are inherently bad. I like younger men. I’m not a hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:39 PM
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The article talks about capitalism, economics, politics, and over focus on sexual motivation as the main issues. As perceived by these women. Men and women exist on the same planet but occupy different worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:01 PM
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AS objectionable. Nothing that I’ve seen. But on the spectrum of objectionable it’s still on the negative side. Saying all women are shallow stupid whores and only want Chad isn’t as objectionable as saying women should be controlled and their rights should be removed. They are still negative and repulsive attitudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:53 PM
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Not really. Op is claiming that the younger person is the one that society says is gold gigging or whatever. Op didn’t say anything about the fact that it’s usually looked down on the older one. Not the younger one. The older one is more likely the one with the power. They are the ones being manipulative. Most people think the younger one will be manipulated. Because they are naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:47 PM
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Really depends on the older and younger woman. I’m much chiller in my older age. I’ve done a lot of self reflection. I’ve also pretty much been single the entire time. I have baggage. Oh absolutely. But I know it’s mine to unpack. Not my partners. I have a lot more grace for men now because I have a lot more experiences and understanding of men now. And of myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:33 PM
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I enjoy gender debates and discourse. Hence why I’m here. I like hearing from the other perspectives. I’m obese and unattractive. I don’t have the average woman’s experiences. So I enjoy hearing “normal” women’s opinions about things too. I believe in sex dimorphism in humans. We do think differently. Testosterone and estrogen do major things to our brains. I think we don’t talk about certain things because it’s “unpleasant” in civilized society. Stereotypes are easier to believe in because they…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:26 PM
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If you guys actually read the articles you use as dogma you’d read it’s mostly about politics and economics. And the perception of how men are moving more to the right and women are moving more to the left. Social media amplifies men like Tate and Clavicle and Fuentes. Women see men glorifying these men. They see rights that their moms had being taken away. They hear about more rights being removed in the future by a loud minority. It’s not individual men they are not holding in a positive light…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:14 PM
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Just because I don’t find someone attractive doesn’t mean other people couldn’t. It doesn’t mean I think anything negatively about that person. I don’t necessarily think they are ugly. I’m just not attracted to them. Most of the time I’m neutral. I’m just not attracted to them. That’s not a positive or negative. I’m friends with lots of people I’m not attracted to. I can even find them attractive. In fact I’d say all my friends are attractive people. I’m just not attracted to them. There’s nothi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:57 PM
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And I understand that. And I’ve told or reminded other women that sometimes crushes happen. It doesn’t mean that the person with the crush always had it and that they’ve been waiting and scheming. Society keeps shouting this narrative. Both men and women say men want sex. That it is a driving factor for a lot of men. Men place higher value on sex than women do (in general) A man has less options, in general, to a woman for sex. A man is generally attracted to more women than a woman is attracted…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:40 PM
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For a cold approach, yes. Most women will see it as for sex only because you don’t know anything else about her other than how she looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:01 PM
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I get the feeling that the men that have sex with me would rather be having sex with someone else. Like if they were attracted to 100 women. And they ranked them from 1 the hottest to 100 just literally attractive enough to not lose wood. I’d be in the high 90’s. Sex can be fun. I get horny. I’ve had many breaks from sex and men. I end up with a lot of ons.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:05 PM
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I don’t know if I should laugh or just shake my head
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:08 PM
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Men who have sex with fat women that aren’t attracted to them makes me not believe men like you that say you’re attracted to fat women. There’s way more of them than there are of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:49 PM
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No. I just know that I can’t get wanted sex, affection, attraction, or a relationship. I’m not pretty enough. So I’ll take what I can get. I don’t get asks on dates, I get asked for sex. I know my place in the world. Never had pretty girl blinders on. I’m a hole that isn’t wanted but will be accepted. I still get horny sometimes. I can pretend sometimes that they want to be there. I appreciate good actors.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:47 PM
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Men are confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:19 PM
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I’ve never really been a committed monogamous relationship person. I enjoy sex as a concept. Even though my orgasm gap is huge! I’m enthusiastic and I bet I’m a good amount of mens “best” sexual experience they’ve ever had. I just had an old friend tell me this recently. Just got out of a 17 year toxic relationship. I still have standards and preferences being the fat one. I know that most men aren’t attracted to me but will use my body to masturbate. I’m going to pick the most attractive to me …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:13 PM
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Fair
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:58 PM
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Blame shitty men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:50 PM
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I’m one of those fat, disgusting, ugly women that you want more men to use. I used to like casual more. Not so much anymore because I know men think like you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:49 PM
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Yes. Treat more women like fleshlights. Because we don’t talk to each other. We don’t share stories. Hotter women will become even more avoidant of men. Bad men make good men’s lives harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:24 PM
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I think it’s probably luck. Luck about where they live. Their place in the world and the randomness of the world. The “perfect” guy could live 3 streets down from me. But if I never interact with him, online or irl. How am I supposed to know there’s a great guy over there? The current world makes a lot of people think they have access to everyone they could possibly have a connection with right at their fingers. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with anyone who’s older and hasn’t experienced …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:37 PM
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Hahahahaha😂🤣 thanks for the laughs
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:05 PM
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Yes. Dogs can bite. Just like men. You never know which one will or when. But it’s not the norm. Men don’t want to be treated as equals to women. That’s what women already do. We judge you for not being more like women. Men and women aren’t the same. Men don’t want to be treated as above “like gods” because they aren’t. They are fallible. They are human. That’s too much pressure to have all the answers. Be mind readers. To always have to be in control and fix all the problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 04:10 PM
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I wasn’t mean to any of them. I told the first one that I probably didn’t have the ass he was looking for but good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:20 PM
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They can. Doesn’t mean they do. I’m obese. I was morbidly obese but I’ve lost over 100 pounds. Talking about my ass on the first line is an automatic no.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:18 PM
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Nope. Just fat. There are no ass pics on my profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:14 PM
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Dogs get cuddles and belly rubs. They are loved and adored. They get praised when they do something good. They are loyal and loving. They are easily trainable. They want to make their people happy. It brings them joy to be useful. They make people feel safe. If women treated men like dogs instead of gods the world would be a better place.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:14 PM
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I don’t get matches often. Yesterday there must have been something in the air. I got 3. Every single one of them talked about wanting to see my ass as their first line to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:10 PM
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Why are you wanting to get to know them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:58 PM
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I would only call it a red flag if the guy in question said something along the lines of he doesn’t have female friends on purpose. Because outside of a sexual relationship women hold no value. Outside of that. People define friendship as different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:43 PM
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A man won’t bring it up because it might end sex. A woman won’t bring it up because it might end the relationship. Not bringing it up is a form of lying. Lying is biological. It’s a freeze lie. Usually when a casual sexual situationship ends the man can go “at least I got sex” and the woman can go “I only got sex” different perspective of the value of sex and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:18 PM
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I’m poly. I’m adhd. I’m ND. In my youth I also had the “it didn’t work out, it means the stuff during didn’t count” mentality. I’m no longer that way. I don’t even know if I felt that way then or if it was a social behavior or a defense mechanism. You might just be the kind of poly I am. I enjoy the experience of life. I get truly happy for my partner’s being happy, whether that happy is with me or with someone else. I think men put more value into sex because biology. And I think women put more…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:59 PM
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I like discussing men’s rights with some of my male friends. I like discussing men’s right with some of my female friends. I feel empathy as a whole for most people just trying to get through life. I don’t feel empathy for people who just want to blame everything on something or someone else and never take stalk of themselves and their actions. I like a good vent session. I also don’t believe in equality, I believe in equity. I don’t believe in “fair.”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:56 PM
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Yes. Having a partner and what that partner encompasses validated men’s existence. Societally speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:32 PM
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My mom always taught me “you are bigger (mentally) you are stronger (emotionally) you do not hit.” It goes for all. Generally speaking, people infantilize women and think men are more competent. Thats why the numbers and laws and punishments are probably skewed a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:20 PM
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Commenting to read and comment later
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 04:43 PM
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Northern Ireland is roughly 14,000 square kilometers. All of Ireland is 85,000 square kilometers. My single state is 255,000 square kilometers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 09:56 PM
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Some people are going to care. Some people aren’t. A lot of people (men and women) infantilize women of all ages. Is a younger person going to have possible issues with dating a much older person that aren’t possible issues in none age gap relationships, yup. There’s going to be issues in all relationships. It’s just one more that can be a possibility. A lot of people give more agency to men. They make their decisions and they will live with the consequences good or bad. Men are seen as more com…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 09:47 PM
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Humans don’t go into heat. We do not have a mating season or cycle. We are sometimes more horny during our cycle. But that’s not heat. We can and do want sex different times. Not just when we are ovulating or going to ovulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:42 PM
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Your post is “women don’t think about men” I said “yes we do, we just think about them in different ways.” Your response is “that’s what I said” No it’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:24 PM
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I appreciate that you want more “Men’s perspective is more about if all a woman offers is her body and beauty, immediately a man’s mind goes to just think about take her to bed” Op is/was asking about just seeing a woman on the street. (The container) She hasn’t offered anything. She’s just existing in her body.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:21 PM
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Okay. Yeah. Some or maybe most of us think like this most of the time. There’s still going to be contractions. Even within the same woman. She might be less selective in general for whatever reasons. She might be less selective depending on her cycle. But overall, yes we think about other stuff before we think about sex. But we do think about sex. What about my perception of men? Do you agree that the container is enough for most men to want to eat whatever is inside without knowing the contents…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:06 PM
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Do you agree or disagree? With the man and woman parts? How does that translate in your head? From your perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:52 AM
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Literally everything. Women think about men. We want men. We just don’t think about sex like men do. We don’t think about men how men think about women. We don’t want men in the same ways and steps a man thinks about a woman. But we absolutely think sexually about men. It just isn’t “ooo I want to fuck that complete stranger over there that I know nothing about.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:51 AM
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Lot of grandparents are still working for couples in their 20’s and 30’s. Or they don’t live close enough. Or just don’t want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:44 AM
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Do you have children?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:41 AM
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Before the internet peoples “information” about the world was their own experiences, the local or international news on tv or in print. It was stories from friends and family and coworkers. With the internet we have instant access to all the good, bad, true and false information we can stand. Instead of just hearing about that one horrific thing that happened, that one year, at that one time, one town over. We hear about all the things that are or maybe aren’t happening everywhere. We have more …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:49 PM
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The internet
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:22 PM
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They want to be valued for their shapes and genitals. Like they value us.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 04:57 PM
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The Gen X men that were getting laid were having sex with Gen X women. And they are very different when it comes to wants and standards and concerns of Gen Z women
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 04:44 PM
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That’s awesome. I’m not a fan of green peppers or chiles. I don’t like the bitter aftertaste. Once they get yellow, orange, or red!!! 🤤
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 02:11 PM
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Ooo. Going to eat them plain or put them in stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:06 PM
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Quentin Tarantino. He has a well known foot fetish
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:05 PM
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No. Not even a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:38 PM
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Think about seeing a closed takeout container sitting on the counter. Man. “I’m hungry. There’s food. Don’t care what’s inside. I’ll eat it. Woman. “There’s potentially food in the box. I wonder what it is. Does it smell good? Am I allergic to it? Am I currently hungry? If there’s something in there I like I’m going to eat the fuck out of it and if I like it I’m going to want more.”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:37 PM
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I’m pretty sure your question was “how often do women get so sexually aroused by seeing a man that they don’t know, out in the wild, in real life, while they are just going about their days and think about having sex with them?” You didn’t ask about thinking men are attractive. You didn’t ask about thinking about physical touch or contact like kissing or making out. You didn’t ask about thinking about getting to know better. You didn’t ask about wanting to talk to. You didn’t ask about wanting t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:01 PM
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Thank you. Decades of experience. Not a gift. Just a want and a will to keep doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:38 AM
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<image> One of the last things I did. I’ve never been able to do “sad” art. I’ve tried. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:33 AM
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1 day account. Women are mindless creatures that can’t do anything with independent thought. Men smart. Height!!!!! Grrrrrr.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:14 AM
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Been trying to. I have a really good playlist of “depression music” I’m getting to the numb stage which isn’t good for me. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:11 AM
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I don’t think it’s a bot. I think it’s a guy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:04 AM
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I need a good cry. Depression sucks. It’s been there, lingering for a couple months now. Draining. Every day just a whisper of it behind my eyes. Can’t speak or it’ll burst at the wrong time. Try to force it alone and it’s hot lava in my chest and throat but dry. The pressure needs to pop.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:48 AM
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Music taste. No. I’m picky and not picky about the music I like. It has to make my brain happy. No logic about it. Can we share back and forth and be okay when/if the other person doesn’t like a song/artist you love? Do they keep trying to change my mind about a style or band or singer? Other things are more important than the music
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:39 AM
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Depends on the Gen X man. I’m a xennial.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:12 AM
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Lots of single fathers start dating sooner than single mothers (lots of single mothers choose not to invite strange men into the lives of their children) and those new girlfriends help raise those single fathers children.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:32 PM
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Bars have gone extinct. Haven’t you heard😱
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:21 PM
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A gen zer dating a 40yo probably isn’t interested in dating 20yos atm.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:20 PM
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There isn’t a right time or place or reason. I’ve known men and women to get into or stay in bad relationships for a various number of reasons. (Consciously or subconsciously) I’m better than previous partners so it won’t happen to me. I don’t deserve to be treated better than this I’m scared to be alone I can love them enough that they’ll change My childhood looked like this so it’s been normalized I can fix them (Overly sensitive to “love” hormones) rose tinted glasses make red flags look like…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:55 PM
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“I’m sure you know what it means” No I don’t. That’s why I asked. “Looks like talking to someone who isn’t interested in talking to you” Like in an approach? Or like not messaging back? For how long? Does that mean not asking questions? Are you just in the talking stage, the dating stage, or the relationship stage? “Emotionally colder” again when in the relationship are you thinking this is? Do you know what these women are feeling? How do you know? Do you think men don’t drop women like a hot p…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:13 PM
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What does “pulling away” mean? If there’s no communication then it’s just guess work, no? What does it look like from your perspective? And why is this not applied to when men “pull away?”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:12 PM
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If you’re “starting to be bisexual” you were before. You were born that way love. Embrace it. Go on grinder. Have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:50 PM
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Partner meaning the last person I had sex with? Yeah it was a fun day. An old friend. We hung out. Talked. Caught up. Made out. Then I blew him for old times sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:15 PM
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I’m single. So not currently.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:55 PM
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I haven’t had enough caffeine to unravel all the problems with this post. I feel a bit dumber for having read it. The levels of ignorance, awalt, amalt, and narcissism is astounding. tiddymilkguzzler touch grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:52 PM
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Turned on by a stranger, that I only see, don’t interact with, and want to have sex with them? Never. I have a high sex drive. But that’s not how my arousal works.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:35 AM
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Who says a white frat guy can’t be liberal?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:18 PM
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Or that men would love to be in a sexual experience with 2 women who want him but also touch each other. Because that also turns men on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:13 PM
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I’m talking to a shy autistic guy online. Very liberal. European. Tech job. Submissive. Hot af.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:05 PM
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I think conservatives are more associated with toxic masculinity. Telling other men they MUST do this or that. Alpha bullshit. That they CAN’T do this or that. Beta bullshit. “This is how to be a REAL man” stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:00 PM
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I think there’s a big difference being a single mother by choice. And being a single mother by other circumstances. Most women do not choose to be single moms when they get pregnant. They end up that way. Because life happened. Life doesn’t always happen for the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:19 PM
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I can’t imagine being in my 20’s today. I had so much fun at my local dive bar. Dancing. Chilling. Flirting. Experiencing. Fucking later. I still go to the same bar and there’s hardly any 20 somethings. And if they are they are completely separated if single. I didn’t drink. I went there to be social
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:01 PM
1

How about next Tuesday? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:50 PM
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Honest question. Do you think the men would do it if not asked at all? Do you think the women started with ordering? Would the men remember to do it and do it proactively?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:46 PM
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He did ask that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:33 PM
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I’ve never yelled at my partner for not taking out the trash. Questions are necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:51 PM
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So you’re upset with your current or ex getting mad mad about you not throwing away the trash? Was this the first time? How many times has she/did she ask for help and you didn’t. You wanted to do it “on your time” so she just did it herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:33 PM
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Sure. But why cant you also know that trash will be needed to be taken out. If it’s a constant and you have a memory and it’s your job why do I need to remind you? I have bad adhd. I made mechanisms to help myself function as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:16 PM
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What power? What kind? How big is the imbalance. Is it all one sided? You’re being too vague. Give examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:05 PM
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I’ve never once thought about what a partner did or didn’t do consensually with previous partners and how that related to me. And I’m super insecure. We grow, we learn, we adapt. Sexual acts aren’t rewards or punishments. They are things people want to do at the time they are doing them with the person(s) they want to do them with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:47 PM
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A bj isn’t a reward. Not giving bj isn’t punishment. Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:36 PM
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If a man calls himself an alpha. He’s not!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:27 PM
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Warn you? Do you not know when trash day is? Can you not see the trash can being full? Do you not know which household chores have been delegated to who? Do you not see its chore time?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:07 PM
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If I’m asking it needs to be done nowish. I don’t usually ask. They can see the trashcan is full. They take it out. Or they know it’s trash day and they take it to the curb. (If I haven’t done it already.) I date adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:04 PM
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Like on the voter registration? Or
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:44 PM
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So you don’t want anyone to vote? Or just the ones that say that. Because a lot of men wouldn’t be able to vote either. Because they also blame society and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:42 PM
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You don’t want woman to vote? Why? And why is that different for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:31 PM
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I mean, not everyone is a citizen of everywhere. But I’m guessing you’re just thinking of the USA? And just those women who were born here or naturalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:31 PM
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Good for you babes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:45 AM
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I don’t blame an entire group for anything. I’m still going to have caution in my life. Again. I don’t know if you’re a good guy or a bad guy. A good guy isn’t going to hurt me for being cautious.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:17 AM
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And how would that look like to you? No caution?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:12 AM
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Women also face sexism for being born women. Society judges men and women differently. Gender norms and all that bullshit. Men are hard. Women are weak. Men are violent. Women are pushovers. Men are uncaring. Women are emotional. Men are lustful. Women are heartless. Blah blah blah.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:10 AM
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This is a lie. Women don’t poop. We defecate. Like ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:06 AM
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Not being able to tell the difference between Dr Huxtable and Bill Cosby isn’t sexism. It’s caution. Do you lock your door when you leave? Wear your seatbelt?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:04 AM
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They’ll still pair off. Not all of them. But a lot. It’s never been all. It’s fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:00 AM
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Most women are much happier being single than being in bad relationships. If they have the funds they are even choosing to be single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:58 AM
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So wait. Is your argument young men are afraid of women or that they want “equal” rights and therefor aren’t dating until they get them? Is it fear or protest?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:56 AM
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What accountability?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:54 AM
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Yes. Some people are assholes. Men and women. The one who committed the assault should be arrested and charges brought against them. If there’s enough evidence hopefully they can get convicted. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:52 AM
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So the young women are dating. Other men are dating. But just these 10 younger guys don’t and you equate that to all young men and say it’s all fear. Not covid that completely stopped young people from learning how to socialize in high school to early 20’s?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:48 AM
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When I’m in a ltr it’s way easier. I came almost every time with my ex. I’ve only had the one. I explained why I’ve had and still do have problems orgasming. I like submissive men just fine. I’ve only had maybe half a dozen experiences with men going down on me. I’m obese. I’m not attractive. I get less effort. Most men that I end up having sex with have no want or desire to do it again. They don’t care if I enjoyed myself. I’m just a hole to masturbate with. Even the subs in my life only like m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:57 PM
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And you haven’t seen what I described? Every single one I read has people like I described. Then when other people complain about them. They double and triple down. I didn’t care about natalism before I found that sub. Now I don’t trust anybody that calls themselves a natalist before they describe what their beliefs are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:42 PM
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I think time adds the dimension we need to not end up in true circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:08 PM
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I’m trying to understand you. Not play any shit games. You have preconceived notions about me. I have them about you. We all have biases and pasts. Your past shapes the lens of your perception. My past shapes the lens of mine. I don’t have a father. He chose not to be in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:03 PM
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I know for me (I don’t call myself a feminist. I don’t like labels that other people have different definitions for because it makes them have preconceived notions about me.) without the rights I have now I wouldn’t be allowed to be as sexually free. Am I still judged? Sure sometimes. But I have my own bank account to buy my kink gear. My subs would be way more secretive about their kinks too if we hadn’t moved in this general direct from the past. They already are but it’s not AS looked down on…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:33 PM
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Bring water and good shoes. I’ve mostly been wandering without a destination in mind. I don’t understand my past so it’s hard to see what the future can hold.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:13 PM
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I’m not putting my picture on reddit 😳
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:09 PM
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It’s hoE spelled upside down in number form. Like type it into your calculator and flip it over.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:08 PM
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She said she’s a hoe. So probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:06 PM
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The only time I talk with distain for a sub, is to them, because they like it. I’ll complain about the “lazy” ones. Just like I would complain about a pillow princess.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 08:59 PM
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I don’t know what “dominance in politics” mean and how it has to do with being dominant in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 08:05 PM
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I also hate myself. But I don’t want my partner to hate me. I want my partner to adore me. I want to adore them. If we do things that would be considered humiliating or degrading from an outside perspective but are doing it because we are both enjoying it and have talked about it. Because we both respect each other. Then it can be a wonderful time and I might or they might heal a little in that taboo headspace.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:39 PM
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Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:12 PM
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No he thinks they are lying and that they’ll start dating once the right guy shows up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:04 PM
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Might or might not be an issue. 4 years isn’t an age gap to most people. It is to some. Lots of people think I’m gay. I’m not. Dating doesn’t mean you’re in a relationship. You get to know someone through dating. You already had 1 good interaction (from your perspective at least) next time say. Hey I really enjoyed talking with you and I want to get to know you better. If you’re interested I’d like to take you out on date. Maybe (insert activity) (insert time you’re available)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:44 PM
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I love a good spice mix. I’m still learning what the different ones taste like. Anything that makes a daily activity easier isn’t lame.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:37 PM
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DO IT!!! There’s some really good YouTubers that have easy nut guides. I way overused the recount nuts thing. “It’s not cheating if it’s in the game” also you can’t really cheat in a solo game.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:32 PM
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My first playthough was on 1.5 (ps4) I did true perfection. Then I did a hermit challenge run. When 1.6 came out I started a new perfection run. Then Oliver (my ps4) died. I replaced him with a switch 2 because I really wanted to play Dinkum. Haven’t played Stardew in forever and I’m itching really bad. I don’t like the switch version. Played it once with my nephew on his.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:28 PM
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The fluffy curly thing can be helped with product and how you wash/brush your hair. You probably need a bit more oil in your hair to weigh it down. And product to hold the curl together. Finger comb or get a wide toothed comb to comb your hair. Dont brush it dry. With the little strip you can braid it to keep it together if you don’t like the texture of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:15 PM
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A friend gave me his old pc to play Stardew on. I’ve been wanting to play with Mods for forever. I’ve never owned an actual computer. I had to wait for a converter part thingy. Hopefully my other friend (his partner) can come over today and help me set everything up. SO EXCITED! Expanded here I come. And I’ll be able to walk through my fields of hops!!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:12 PM
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If your hair is longer you can do a little strip in the back part close to your neck. It won’t be obvious and you’ll know it’s there. See how you feel about it. What color would you go for?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:07 PM
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Oh I think more people should talk about sex in casual conversations. Less repression and mystery and judgment would go a long way in everyday life. You can’t tell what someone likes in the bedroom by seeing how they interact in their daily lives. Not liking something by random people but liking it from your lover isn’t hypocritical they are just different things. And liking something in fantasy doesn’t mean I want it to happen in reality. Sex and arousal are very complicated and layered things.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:53 PM
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I usually use the stop light method. But “pineapple” is my goto example.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:27 PM
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Trust is hot. And having a fantasy that doesn’t fit into societies approved tiered list makes us feel like there’s something wrong with us. But sex and society have to have a weird relationship. We can’t all be fucking in the streets. But we should have more grace for consenting adults. We also need to have less judgment about kinks. Take pegging or ass play for men in general. It’s a fun activity. But I’ve had so many people tell me that those men are actually gay or bi. And like. NO. the assho…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:24 PM
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I absolutely believe in healing past traumas through sex. It can be done safely. Thoughtfully. I have csa stuff. Being a voluntary “victim” where I’m actually in control of the situation. Where I get to choose who gets to “violate” me. Is extremely healing. AND HOT!! But it has to be talked about and communicated. It needs to be with someone who will respect my boundaries and safe words. And the aftercare is so important. Sexual guilt is so weird. Like nearly every single person who has ever bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:03 PM
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Right?!? When I’m being a sub I can like “knife play” (no actual knives. No blood. No cutting.) but if I’m being flogged or something and someone scrapes a credit card down my back. There’s an instant HOLY SHIT THAT WAS HOT moment. But if I was actually cut. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:41 PM
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As a land whale I wouldn’t go on that app either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:17 PM
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My friends always get a screenshot of the guy I’m meeting, just in case.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:15 PM
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No. Absolutely not. I get DMs on here from random people. They don’t know what I look like.(other than how I describe myself) and I don’t know what’s they look like. I will have zero interest or attraction to some words on a screen. Physical attractiveness is first. For the majority of the majority. Different people find different things physically attractive. The level of physical attractiveness that’s important is subjective. Character and personality can make someone that I find physically at…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:03 PM
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Okay. I think it was probably the dude I responded to. Also yeah. When I’m being a sub I love “being used.” It’s hot in the right dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:55 PM
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I’m not a one and done. But I know that the likelihood of me having an orgasm is pretty small with most guys. (Past sexual experiences, trauma, medications, lack of effort, lack of actual desire from them, embarrassment, self esteem issues, adhd, etc) I learned to enjoy the whole act of sex because my pleasure has only ever been the goal maybe 5% of the time. Don’t know if you downvoted me or not. I don’t know what’s so controversial about my statement before this one 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:48 PM
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So you don’t want a domme. You don’t want a woman who considers herself a feminist even if her reason for being a domme comes from the freedoms she perceives she’s been granted through feminism. You want to live out a rape fantasy but not by someone who respects you and considers you an equal. You don’t like most women. You want to be hurt. You want women to hurt you. You enjoy hating women and yelling at them because you like or want to be hated by woman. So you’re antagonistic towards them in …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:26 PM
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I don’t like lazy subs or doms/dommes. Gender be damned. The dominant one is usually the more active participant. But I think that is just the result of lack of creativity. Lack of communication and going into the whys and hows of the actions that are happening. If you can figure out the “why does this turn this person on” you can do a lot more activities with the why in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:17 PM
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This isn’t a male female thing. Most people aren’t into extreme levels of pain and degradation and humiliation. I domme very well. I’ll hurt, humiliate, dominate, make fun of, laugh at, etc. I’ll leave bruises. Bite marks. Scratches. I’ll slap balls, pull hair, spank, paddle. I’ll make them open their mouths to swallow my spit or dispose of my cigarette ashes. But I’m not going to cut someone. I’m not going to put my cigarette out on them. I have limits too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:03 PM
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There are lazy subs. Male and female. They come with a list of things they want to be done to them and don’t want to be active participants. I’m a pleasure switch. I have very few icks. I get off on my partner getting off. I have things I enjoy more as a domme but it’s my part to please my sub too. I’ll cater my actions towards what my sub likes but I’m not going to do anything I truly find off putting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:56 AM
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You can absolutely “top from the bottom.” Explore kink positive spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:52 AM
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I think you are trying to use a definition that other people just don’t use. You’re frustrated that other people aren’t using words in the exact same way that you use them. Words are important but also completely meaningless. Chivalry and seduction can have actions that can be perceived differently by different people. And those actions can be perceived as having different intentions separate from the person doing those actions. Chivalry and seduction are concepts. Which inherently make them sub…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:24 AM
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I think op is having some sort of mental break. His arguments are getting weirder and weirder. This isn’t an attack. I’m actually a bit concerned
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 05:25 PM
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You have low self esteem and you’re haunted by your ex. You need to build yourself up without needing validation from pussy. Because pussy isn’t validating. You want it to be. And I’m sorry it isn’t. You need to find your own value.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:34 PM
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They should. But they don’t. Go on to r/natalist. It’s mostly white supremacists that want to remove women’s rights, men’s agency, force religion, have government issued wives and girlfriends and they threaten societal collapse if women don’t spread em and become breeding stock. They don’t care about living people or future children.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:32 PM
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Attractive ENOUGH most of the time. I’ve had good experiences with casual. Mostly bad or meh. Maybe 10% good. It’s added more to my self loathing than to having a fulfilling sexual experiences. Men put more value on sex than women. Sex and dating is mostly about luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:14 PM
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False. Reddit isn’t real life. A man’s ability to have casual sex means he was in the right place at the right time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:07 PM
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Nope. Most women don’t do casual sex. They might have a few instances in their youth and realize it’s not for them. It’s not as fun. It’s not as fulfilling. And it’s more likely to contribute to feeling of self loathing, insecurities, sexual dissatisfaction etc.. for women who do enjoy or participate in casual sex the guy just has to be good looking enough. She’s horny (bored, lonely, needing validation, etc) and he’ll do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:59 PM
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Women have sex with men they don’t desire either. Women who have casual sex don’t just do it because they desire the dude. Just like men don’t only get into relationships with women they desire. You/men put more value on sex. People have sex for a shit ton of reasons. Desire is only one small reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:54 PM
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I didn’t mention deep cleaning. I mentioned basic picking up after yourself. If someone male or female “needs” to deep cleaning for 4 hours every day then that’s on them. They probably have ocd.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:23 PM
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I’m not your mom. Pick up after yourself. I don’t want bugs and rodents in my house. I’m not picking up your garbage and dishes and dirty clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:17 PM
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How about stop being lazy and clean up after yourself. The cleaner person shouldn’t have to clean up after the messier person. The clean person isn’t your maid. If there’s garbage. Pick it up. Dirty sink put it in the sink. Dirty clothes. Wash them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:10 PM
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I don’t understand that thinking. I’ve never decided my friends based on what they look like. Are you the type of guy that says they find most women attractive? Like 60+% of women in your age range? Are none of those women worth anything more than just possible sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 09:05 AM
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Is it bad that you cut ties after being rejected. No. Is it bad that you don’t see platonic relationships with women as beneficial, yeah maybe. Why would a woman want to date you when you don’t even like us?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 08:25 AM
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Sorry. Will refrain in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:06 AM
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He’s attractive enough for me to swipe left on too. So his interactions, location, or profile is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 07:50 PM
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He’s an average looking dude. Using the term “playtime.” 🙄 Where does he live? How did he interact on hinge? What did his pics and bio look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 07:08 PM
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Most natalist arguments don’t care about the effects on the children produced. They just want more children.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:29 PM
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Most natalist ideas are bad. This is one option that doesn’t remove rights or actively punish people for not breeding.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:22 PM
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If you go onto the natalist sub you’ll see a lot of suggestions to make people breed more. It’s usually removing rights from women. Punishing men and women. Threatening people. Eliminating higher education. It’s very immoral and unethical stuff. This is just another example of people trying to “fix” a very complicated problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:20 PM
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Do not engage with the “chase.” Those women need to learn that it hurts other women. A no is a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:58 PM
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But attraction comes first. I’m not going to want to be in a romantic relationship with someone I’m not attracted to. If I love someone for who they are. Enjoy hanging out with them. Like talking with them. But there’s no attraction, that person becomes my friend. Not a possible partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:30 PM
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Your examples are a man looking/staring at a woman. A man commenting on a woman’s post. A man liking a woman’s picture. A woman having friends. A woman posting a picture. A woman going out. Non of these things are happening because of men. You dont like that other men will look/stare at her. You dont like that men will comment on her post. You dont like that other men will like her picture. Your problem is with other men. But you want to blame women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:27 PM
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Examples. “Men actively targeting women to lust after.” “Women existing and living their lives”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:14 PM
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And you want a woman who isn’t attracted to you to be satisfied with that? Why not just get a roommate?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:59 PM
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So you want a sexless relationship? As long as neither of you get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:56 PM
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I’m like a 2. I’m attracted to what I’m attracted to. If I stay single. Okay. I don’t blame men for not finding me attractive. I don’t blame men for treating me less then. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:54 PM
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In the Frankenstein scenario don’t forget to add that the virgin hyperslut is also able to have multiple orgasms from just PIV and no foreplay.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:51 PM
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But we don’t want to sleep with men we aren’t attracted to. So would you be okay with a sexless relationship with a woman who goes out and gets sex from men she’s attracted to as long as she’s in a relationship with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:48 PM
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Pretty sure the online thing with the dude that I like and that has been the first guy to get me to actually believe he thinks I’m sexy is coming to an end. It’s been a year as of the beginning of the month. It sucks. So now nothing irl or online. I need to stop pretending I’m not ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 06:44 AM
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🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 06:42 AM
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They are not sexually desired if they just happen to be there. I’ve initiated sex with men I didn’t desire. Didn’t find particularly attractive. Didn’t care about one way or the other. I wanted sex and they were the quickest way to get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:44 PM
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I’m not letting my coworkers touch me intimately. I’m not cuddling with my boss. I’m not going to blow Jake from accounting. Like what? A job and a romantic/sexual relationship aren’t even close to being comparable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:38 PM
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But what does that look like. How can that be judged as an outsider? A person can feel desire but not want to have sex. A person can feel no desire for another person but want sex and that person is there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:00 PM
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I read it. But op is specifically stating women don’t enjoy sex with their long term partners. You think desire should look like. A woman sees a guy. Throws her panties to the floor immediately and fucks him in the ally. Or she texts a guy at 1 am. Wyd. Goes over. Has sex and leaves. No other communication. Just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:49 PM
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Penis size isn’t as important to as many woman as it seems to be for men. Body types and sizes, and height, also play a huge part in what positions a person can have comfortable sex in. I’ve never had sex with a guy because of his dick size.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:46 PM
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There is no such thing as post birth abortions. Paper abortions are “contracts of future deadbeat parenthoods” If a child is born both parents are responsible for figuring out how to take care of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:21 PM
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So a girlfriend or wife initiates sex. Thats proof that she desires him?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:38 PM
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I’m so sorry you were raped. I’m sorry your wife’s sexual response isn’t like those women from your past. Im sorry your wife explained her attractions in a way that made you feel “less than.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:34 PM
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“By genuine desire, I mean the woman is genuinely sexually attracted to him and wants to have sex with him for it’s own sake” What would this look like? How would this be evaluated? Is it if she initiates? How often the couple has sex? How often she refuses? How often she orgasms? What are the metrics?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:26 PM
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Why do you think they “wanted you” more than your wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:08 PM
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I don’t prefer them. They are just here. Where I live. I don’t come across many non western men. I live in a very white state.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:47 PM
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I’m from the west. Most of my interactions are with men in the west. My preferences in looks are usually white guys. Followed by black guys. Then the rest as a whole after that. I prefer younger men. Personality-wise. I like outgoing and shy. I don’t like cocky or doormats. I like people who have similar interests as me. Who have motivation to improve something. I like being able to talk about concepts and ideas. Does Egyptian count as non western because I have a pretty good crush on one of my …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:33 PM
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I don’t find western men or non western men more attractive or appealing. I’m attracted to individual men. There’s things about a guy I might like or dislike depending on my preferences, how I want to be treated. I need to find them physically attractive. Then I have to enjoy his company and have a good back and forth. I want to find a guy that communicates in a way that makes sense to my brain. I want compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:20 PM
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You’ve never been to the west. You don’t interact with western women. You hate woman actively on this sub. You’re biased and hateful. Maybe women just don’t like you for those reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:06 PM
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That poll says it’s mostly political and the prevalence of the manosphere. Women feel like interchangeable fleshlights to most men. And a lot of men will argue it but say things that actually reinforce that argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:52 PM
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You keep asking this question. You even made a post about it. What answers are you looking for? You keep trying to race bait. Like what is your motivation?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:49 PM
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“She’s” not trying to change behaviors or influence men in general. Shes just living her life. Making her own decisions. She’s not thinking about how her actions will affect the male collective. Why would she?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:19 PM
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Some people make bad decisions
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:14 PM
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Would some women. Of course. I think dating struggles are different for different people. Men and women have different attraction metrics. They have different arousal metrics. They have different personal concerns or fears. Men and women exist on the same planet but live in different worlds. Dating and sex are only a small part of experiencing the world. People, men and women, like to complain. And people will always think their struggles are harder because those struggles affect them personally…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:58 AM
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How do you think we are the same and how do you think we should be different? How is pointing out we are different “convenient?”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:49 AM
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It’s not universally true. Division, rage, anger, fear, spite etc fuels clicks. It gets amplified. Most people aren’t on the internet sharing their actual lives and opinions. They are either going for the clicks. Or they’re sharing their frustrations in the moment because people like to complain. Most people like to complain. People like to vent. I have friends with pretty great lives that are genuinely happy. But if you heard them speak you’d think they were miserable. Because when they are han…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:46 AM
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Dating men like you is why more women have problems dating men. Because there are men like you out there. Serial cheater. Uncaring. User.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:19 AM
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Rage bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:07 AM
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I can choose to believe all men hate women too. Look at all the ppd men on here. Thats my evidence. Men on here have stated that they want the current society to break down so that they can be given a slave gf. They say if women don’t start popping out children as a duty then they’ll make them pop out children or else. They say that if we aren’t putting out there’s no point in us. They call us parasites. Objects. Gold diggers. 304’s. It’s on the Internet it must be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:49 AM
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“Im sad and frustrated about what the algorithm feeds me and the singular context I search out and consume. I ignore all other content that goes against the narrative I want to be angry about. I believe bad things about the opposite gender how dare they believe bad things about my gender. Grr.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:16 AM
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There are absolutely men that do. Is it the norm? Absolutely not. Are their male gold diggers. Yes. Yes there are. Most financially well off men aren’t going to be in a committed relationship with a woman who was homeless or in major debt when they met. It’s a lifestyle metric.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:48 AM
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Money=money. Most people end up with people from their similar socioeconomic class. Some men also like women with money.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:15 AM
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I’m a land whale so my opinion doesn’t matter
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:23 PM
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Yup. It’s all a revenge scenario. Not thought out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:36 PM
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It’s on purpose. He wants a hot woman but knows he’s not in her league so he blames her. He wants to be rich enough to buy her. But if she’s in the west she probably has a lot more options and equivalent money or ways to make it. He doesn’t like women much and wants to punish them. All of them. He thinks all average and below average men leaving the west will hurt society and in turn women. And then they’ll have to choose average and below average men to protect them from a crumbling society and…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:12 PM
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It isn’t physically tougher for men to have an orgasm. Not in general. Yes there are men who have problems with erections and not being able to finish. I’ve had sex with a couple. It hurt my ego. Because of society saying that men get erections from warm breezes and that they have to force themselves not to cum early. So I took it personally. (All past tense) But it’s still way more common in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 06:17 PM
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Huh. I’m in the west. Just looked around. Mostly average people with other average people. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:28 PM
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So you don’t like when women say we aren’t all alike? It’s true though. It’s not a mantra. Not all women are alike. Not all men are alike. I don’t understand what your questions are referencing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:14 PM
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And? They don’t affect men as much as women. Mens orgasms are required for procreation. Womens aren’t. So there’s more fluctuation. We are more mentally aroused. Other things can affect our abilities to orgasm easier than it can for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:23 AM
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Women having an orgasm isn’t required for procreation. So it’s much more variable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:14 PM
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Our anatomy is different. We have different things that mentally turn us on and off. Insecurities. Previous bad experiences (or bad perceptions of those experiences) Hormone fluctuations. Medications. Embarrassment. Socialized and internalized guilt or repression of sexual desires. Mental health issues. Etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:12 PM
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Shibari 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:31 PM
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This man is in a long term open relationship and probably gets a good deal of pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:29 PM
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Made up statistics aren’t an argument. Some women like being approached. Some don’t. Some only want it at certain times or places. Some only want to be approached by someone they find attractive. Some need extra layers before being approached. Like you’re an acquaintance or a friend of a friend (pre approved.) some might have been up for being approached but something is going on in their life atm so they aren’t interested then. Dating and sex is mostly about luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:58 PM
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If I like a guy and I think he might be interested back then I’ve already gotten to know him a bit. We’ve talked. Flirted back and forth. There’s been casual physical contact. I’ve escalated the conversation. I’ve asked questions or brought things up that would try to let me know whether I’m in their physical attractiveness preferences or not. I’ll put myself in their vicinity. I’ll engage conversation. What I expect from him is to not be interested back. To flirt back because he’s a flirt or be…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:50 PM
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I stood up for you. You’re not a troll. You’re just you 💋
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 06:40 AM
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Again. You like how they make you feel. You don’t like them. You’re just using them to make yourself feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:47 PM
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I’d be okay if my partner made very simple things like sandwiches and salads. Learn to make casseroles. Super easy. Meals don’t need to be fancy or take a lot of time. If my partner really hated cooking then I’d trade dishes and counter cleaning. I hate doing dishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:38 PM
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Life also works like that. Stress, exhaustion, kids, work, medication, mental health, complacency, age, hormones, etc..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:45 PM
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She’s just an object to you. She’s a number. Shes an ego boost. You don’t like her. You liked how she made you feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:24 PM
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No you wouldnt
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:22 PM
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Yes they do. You need to stop think all people are like you. Not all men. Not all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:20 PM
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Guys “At least I got sex” Gals “I only got sex”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:04 PM
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Because most women don’t pick men for their finances. There are gold diggers. Sure. They are the minority. Men having sex with women they don’t know or like or appreciate or find attractive isn’t the minority. Men get chosen. Women are just accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:47 PM
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I don’t ask men what they do or how much they make.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:36 PM
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It would be cool to have a 90+% orgasm success rate. It would be cool to know I’m not seen as just my genitals. It would be cool to be chosen instead of accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:33 PM
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People also thought sickness was caused by demons and that cutting people was a remedy for the common cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:23 AM
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So being a serial cheater, manipulating your partner, abusing your partner, finding partners simply because you can use them, underage grooming etc…all perfectly fine in your books?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:59 AM
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Learning what you like and dislike through observation and personal experience and changing life priorities as you grow up isn’t settling. It could be. Sure. And nobody will ever know. You either trust or you don’t. Just like a woman has to trust that the guy that says he wants her actually wants HER instead of wanting a vagina and is willing to put up with whoever is attached to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:50 AM
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It’s not half the people think this way and half the people think that way. Science and math and observation prove the earth is round. The majority of the majority know this. The minority ie “Flat earthers” disregard science, math and observation because they don’t understand it or want to feel superior. 🚩
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:22 AM
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The earth being flat is a conspiracy theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:16 AM
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Flat earthers are into conspiracy theories. They get a sense of superiority because they can “see the truth” and everyone else is “not smart enough.” They are delusional or lying to make themselves feel better. Believing in something so demonstrably false is a huge red flag. 🚩
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:05 AM
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You don’t think who you date or how you date has a moral value?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:00 AM
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It’s not discrimination to avoid delusional people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:54 AM
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Drink some water honey. I’m sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:53 AM
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Can you explain this “moralization?”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:52 AM
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Right. So if you want to approach. Approach. Do it respectfully. Take a no and move on. Or Take the number but don’t expect a response.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:45 AM
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But how can a singular woman tell some singular stranger man what she appreciates before he approaches her to tell him she’s not up for being approached?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:31 AM
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Each woman is going to appreciate something different. And each individual woman is going to appreciate different things at different times depending on what might be happening in her day, week, life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:06 AM
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The representation on the outside and inside was heavily male. So much so that I would notice when they had a girl pictured in the experiment. Think late 80’s to mid 90’s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:00 AM
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When I was younger. All magazines gears towards girls were about pop culture, boys, fashion, boys, etc. The “geeky” magazines that had experiments and crafts to teach kids about science and stuff were geared towards boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 11:55 PM
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All of my experiences have shaped what I like and don’t like. Sex is similar but different with different partners. I don’t think about people’s past when I’m with them. I think about them and what we like together.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 01:08 PM
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I hate a lazy submissive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 01:06 PM
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Please don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:10 PM
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Have you heard of Ren? Some good songs. Worthy of chapter or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:10 PM
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I’m not attractive. I’m pretty pragmatic in my responses. I can be very blunt. I definitely don’t always agree with some people on here, sexless or not. I’ve had some very angry men apologize or compliment me after a very very long back and forth conversation where we can get to all the nuances of an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:04 PM
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I don’t really do present holidays. I don’t make wish lists. I tell people not to buy me things and I probably won’t buy you anything either. If you want to show me you care spend time with me. Hang out. Let’s go to eat something. I like small “just because” gifts. I don’t like them on obligatory days.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:50 PM
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I have rosacea. I put on makeup to fit in to the masses. I do not look better without makeup. I get compliments when I wear just enough makeup to cover up my redness. I look like what society says I should look like. It’s not natural. We are a dimorphic species. We are attracted to what makes us different. Men are generally taller than women. It is a biological attraction metric. It’s not an absolute but it is biologically driven.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:25 PM
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A lot of men like models because they are hot. The hotness status outweighs the taller status. In reality a lot of men struggle with personal insecurities when they get with an average woman who is taller than him or even the same height if she wears heels.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:18 PM
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Commenting to read later
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:43 PM
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I’ve only been on 2 second dates. I don’t get asked on dates. I enjoy sex. I’m attracted to men. I like having sex with men. I’ve given up a few times. Then horny happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:05 AM
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I’m sorry your mom sucked. Your dad wasn’t around. You think things would have been better if he was. You need therapy to work on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:40 AM
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I’m sorry you’re delusional. Please get help. Take pills. Take less pills. Work on your hatred of women. Maybe seek therapy. Go on a pilgrimage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:31 AM
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I think maybe he has a deadbeat dad and a horrible mom. So he blames her for his dad being absent instead of blaming the dad for being a deadbeat. Just a thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:18 AM
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Not me. Not at the same time. My ex liked me. Didn’t desire me. I’ve had fwb that lasted years. Some desired me but didn’t like me. Mostly just scratching an itch. I’ve never been on a 3rd date.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:23 AM
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I gained weight becomes of my trauma. I’ve lost over a 100 pounds. Not for men. I have no desire to look better so more men can use me. I get more attention now. I still get treated like a fleshlight. I have no illusions that a man will ever like me and desire me at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:41 AM
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Because I have low self esteem. I’m obese. I have trauma. I know my value to men. Today I’m jaded. I don’t let them do whatever. But I have very few icks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:06 AM
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I’ve always been interested in gender and sex and relationship stuff. I observe. I talk to men. I have my own experiences. I minimize myself. I put their pleasure and comfort over my own. I think less about myself. In relationships I’m only really good for having a vagina. I don’t try for relationships. I get bad casual sex occasionally. I’m a really good lay.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:29 AM
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Women in Arab countries have less rights. They are less than. They are owned. They are property. In some they can’t even be heard or seen without punishment. They use divorce to punish their women. They give custody to the men to trap those women or punish them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:37 AM
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It’s the men that are keeping themselves out of their kids lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:26 AM
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He just said that Arab women are free because men in Arab counties get custody after divorce…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:23 AM
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I’m broken as fuck. But I’m still here
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:21 AM
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My biological father blamed my mom for not telling him soon enough for her to have an abortion. You have no idea what you’re talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:20 AM
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Go to an Arab country and get yourself one of those “free women”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:16 AM
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A lot of men don’t want to be fathers. There’s men on here constantly saying they want “paper abortions” aka “contract of future deadbeat.” A lot of men want children but don’t want to raise them. You need to stop thinking that there’s hoards of men out there that actually want to put in the time and energy into 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:07 AM
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It is what it is. My minister, a friend of my moms, a neighbor, and my step father. From ages 3-12. And yet I don’t hate men in general. I do have a problem dating older men however.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:42 AM
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My first step father ….
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:23 AM
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You can watch the YouTube videos he keeps spamming. Dude is chronically online.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:08 AM
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I refer to my biological father as my sperm donor. She wasn’t referring to literal sperm donors.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:02 AM
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Seriously. Most Single moms stay single because they don’t want to bring unknown men around their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:59 PM
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I didn’t say anything about society. I just said you should get enough money to get a surrogate so that you can be a single dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:52 PM
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He seems to hate women. He really should get a very high paying job and get a surrogate. Then he can be a single dad all he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:15 PM
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I’m 43. Looks still matter to me. But I know that they aren’t everything. Bodies are squishy. They age and decay. I also learned that a guy being hot doesn’t mean anything. We grow, learn and adapt. Whats attractive to me now is different than it was in my 20’s because I’m a different person than I was in my 20’s. I still have to be physically attracted to them though. The mental stuff is more important now. Looks are still the number one aspect. Men can become more physically attractive the mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:33 PM
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I think women need both more than men. Lots of men will sleep with a woman that they don’t know anything about other than he likes the way she looks and has a vagina. Woman tend to need to find men physically attractive and mentally attractive. They are both part of our attraction towards them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:15 PM
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Dick size is important in porn because it’s porn. It’s not a status symbol. It’s a job requirement. It has nothing to do with dating or relationships function in general. Most women just want an average sized dick. It’s the performance and connection that’s important. It’s the guy attached to the dick. Not the dick itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:01 PM
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You think porn has anything to do with real life or status ?!? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:44 PM
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Both men and women treat taller men better. Dick size isn’t a status symbol. Men care/think about dick size more than women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:56 AM
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I can only answer for me. I do not care about some future guy having a problem with my sexuality or sexual history. If he does then we aren’t compatible. I like sex. It can be a lot of fun. Casual sex can be very disappointing in general. New person. New levels of comfort and safety required. New bodies. I’m not attractive. So usually very little effort is shown. My pleasure is hardly ever considered. That’s why I don’t have casual sex as much as I would like.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:53 AM
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Men and women are biologically different. Some of our “common” behaviors can be viewed from a biological perspective. This is all generalized. There’s many ways to show these behaviors. Women bare the children. Women are more likely to suppress themselves to make a society function. We are more social because it’s best for the community as a whole. It’s best for the children. We are also more risk averse because of this. We have higher instances of depression and anxiety. There’s less “fear” abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:31 PM
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I think it’s biological and social.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:14 PM
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I just went to find this. Last year I sent this to a handful of my guy friends. “As a cis straight white guy that understands that that comes with certain privileges and stigmas. I want to ask your opinion on the cis straight white guy issues not being addressed. What are the inequities? What should we think of as a society? What could or should change? I was on reddit and I went to a men’s rights R/ and they kept saying the left has left men. That they don’t care about their issues. But I kept …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:30 PM
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Women tend to have better social safety nets than men. And generally speaking men’s relationships tend to be more superficial, light hearted, not as emotion centric. Idk why. Maybe because men feel they are more in competition with other men. My guy friends can talk to me about their feelings and worries and their perceived realities without getting judged about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:25 PM
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I didn’t take it as accusatory. I’m okay with it. I usually reach out more to my guy friends than my girl friends. I check on them more.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:14 PM
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I’m always up to hang. I turn down my girl friends more. They hang out too much. They need to get away from the house. Sometimes I’m more in the mood to chill at home. Edit to add. My girl friends are mom and wife at home. They get to be themselves when they go out. They get to wear their own hats
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:00 PM
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They make plans to hang out more. We still go to the same bar. But now it’s sit, hang, and chill. The guy friends that are at the bar come and hang out with us. With my guy friends we play MTG about once a month to every other month. They play together more than I join them. I don’t get invited to all the hanging.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:58 PM
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I hang out with my girl friends more than I hang with my guy friends. I don’t flake. We just do different things. When I was in my 20’s I hung out at the bar where all sexes were welcome. Most of my girl friends are married with kids. I’m single and childfree.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:54 PM
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Idk. I’ve heard many times about reducing the stigma society has about men doing traditional woman’s roles.( From self proclaimed feminists.) It’s gotten a lot better for men being able to do things people (men and women) think of as women’s roles. I don’t think it’ll ever be equal. Especially in dating, sex and relationships. I don’t believe in equality. I believe in equity.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:41 PM
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I’m not a feminist. But I know a lot of feminists that are on the full scale of the spectrum of what they want in a relationship. It’s about having a choice in the matter. Instead of tradition being the only way it’s one of the ways. And each tradition can be a yay or nay. You pick the ones you like and don’t have to deal with the ones you don’t. Each relationship is going to be different. The relationship op wants isn’t a highly sought after one. But it’s possible. He’s just not going to find i…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:24 PM
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I don’t understand your argument. If a man and a woman get together and they both want traditional gender roles in their relationship then who cares. If they get together and want to be egalitarian in their roles. Who cares. If they want swapped gender roles. Who cares. These are not the same people in these relationships. “And modern women are going to realize that sooner or later (the men will make sure of that)” what does that mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:17 PM
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How is that double standards? It’s just different things different people want and try to get.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:01 PM
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If it was proven fraud. A fine. If they lied in court. Perjury charges.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:59 PM
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If you can find a breadwinner that wants to pop out children and have you raise them and take care of the house. Then fine. Idk. You’re going to have a tiny pool to fish in.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:43 PM
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Absolutely not. I’d wonder how they got there. That’s a pretty hefty feat. Are they currently clean? Do they think I’m sexy? Do we have good sex together? I don’t think about other peoples pasts when I’m with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:51 PM
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Big dick energy is about confidence. Since men put more emphasis on dick size than women do. Having a big dick doesn’t mean he’s a good lover. There are size queens out there. Sure. Just like there are guys that get extra turned on by a physical trait a woman has. There are kinks and fetishes for pretty much everything. But I’ve never been with a guy and thought. Ooo his dick size is something that turns me on. Dick size just changes what positions work easier or make them more difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:47 PM
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I have never picked a guy because he has a big dick. Like how would I even know that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:37 PM
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I’m not pulling out my strap on for you. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:07 PM
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You can’t possibly understand what it’s like to be a woman. Just like women can’t understand what it’s like to be a man. We are different. Our bodies and brains are different. We are socialized differently. We have different problems and priorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:36 PM
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Yes I want my bf/partner to treat me better or differently than a friend/stranger. I also treat my bf/partner better or differently than a friend/stranger. I have different relationships and expectations with everyone I come across. We code switch. I want someone that wants to make me happy because it makes them happy. I’m not talking about being a doormat. But knowing and learning about little things that bring a smile to my partner’s face and then implementing them makes me happy. I want to fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:23 PM
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So, you don’t have any suggestions, thoughts or ideas on how you would like women to change. That doesn’t seem helpful. How are we “destroying” society?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:49 PM
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I’ve only been to one that had strippers. We all went to a drag show that turned into a strip show after. It was fun. I also live in a place that has A LOT of strip clubs. It’s not unheard of for mixed groups of friends to go to a strip club for the night.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:57 AM
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Again. How would you like women to change? And why SHOULD we?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:03 AM
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I don’t know what you want us to change or why we should. So I can’t answer whether I think your reasoning is wrong or right.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:58 AM
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How to avoid men that they don’t want. Not avoid the men that they wish they could find. There’s plenty of advice for how to filter out for men that could want what a woman wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:56 AM
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My mom used to get me the girls mags. But also bought me the boy magazines too because I liked science and learning and apparently having a vagina meant I didn’t want that in my media.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:47 AM
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Because your op is wrong and not worth debate. Hence why I responded in the automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:44 AM
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There’s been dating advice for women on how to attract men forever. It used to be in every magazine directed at women. Girls magazines were all about cute boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:42 AM
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And how would you like women to change? Why SHOULD we?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:37 AM
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“This isn’t comphet” continues on to say women don’t like men 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:36 AM
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A sample size is 386…also there’s no definition of what “approached” means. They also don’t ask if the person doing the approaching needs to be considered physically attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:26 AM
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I already know I’m unattractive. I think a lot of men are the reason a lot of other men get bad names. Men, women, and society says men are sex crazed. You’re an anomaly. Apparently. Cold approaching has never been popular. Most women have never liked it. Some do. Some/most it’s situation dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:10 AM
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Nose? Forehead?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:02 AM
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Because a lot of men (probably the majority) would have sex with a lot of women purely because they like the way they look, have a vagina, and said yes. They’ll even have sex with women they don’t necessarily like the way they look as long as they aren’t ugly enough to be repulsive. They’ll have sex with women they don’t know if they like and find out they don’t once PNC kicks in. A lot of women know we are interchangeable fleshlights to a lot of men. The only difference is we said yes. There’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:56 PM
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Cold approaching, complements, and asking for a date basically says. “Hey, I know nothing about you but I’d like to stick my dick inside of you.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:44 PM
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Yay. I hope she says yes and that you have a great time. Remember. 1st date is just about seeing if you want a second date. Be a good version of yourself. Not a pretend perfect version. Not completely goblin mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:40 PM
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Vodka is mostly water. Win win.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:38 PM
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Depends on why she’s a 4.5. Age, weight, face, body fat distribution, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:36 PM
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Same reason pro-birthers cry about the unborn but don’t realize they can be the gay, trans, poc, child of an immigrant, disabled, feminist, etc., that they despise once they are born.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:35 PM
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Send her a text. If it’s left on read that fine. But don’t “she’s too pretty for me” bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:31 PM
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Some people like a bit of soft in their bad ass babes. Nothing wrong with that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:25 PM
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I think I’d like a museum date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:23 PM
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Do you think you’ll ever get over this and be comfortable in yourself? Like what’s the long term goal with lots of casual sex? Has it actually helped?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:22 PM
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I’m 5’6”. My mom is Dutch. When I was young I thought I was short. Even growing up in the USA. She’s also short for someone Dutch. Only 5’7”. I like being my height now. I’m both tall and short enough. I have bdd so anything I don’t hate about my physical body is awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:21 PM
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Boobs are awesome. Lots of gay men love boobs too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:11 PM
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Probably part of the weak, unmasculine, shy thing. Fear controls a lot of what a lot of people do. Some people do things outwardly. Some people do things inwardly. Some people perceive things with more trepidation. Some people perceive things more negatively or personally than the reality of the situation. Not being approached doesn’t mean we dislike you. Being rejected doesn’t mean you’re always going to be rejected. Being rejected doesn’t even mean that it has anything to do with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:29 PM
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Did you not read the “generally” part?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:54 PM
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What’s up tripod🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:49 PM
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I believe in male and female privilege. And pretty privilege. It’s a thing whether we like it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:35 PM
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Exactly. You can adapt to the world you live in or complain about the world you want to live in. Life isn’t fair. It can absolutely suck. I’m still willing to play the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:25 PM
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Yup. The less fucks you give the better your chances. Thats why manipulative and dishonest people unfortunately have better odds. They don’t care about rejection or hurting other people to get what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:14 PM
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That’s absolutely understandable. Nobody likes being rejected. For the most part, I’d say the definition of weak, unmasculine, and shy probably means you have a lower level of rejection you can deal with before you “give up.” You probably have more anxiety and think about being rejected more than you actually get rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:07 PM
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I don’t believe in equality. I believe in equity. Men and women are different but similar. When it comes to sex/dating/attraction we operate differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:00 PM
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Exactly. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy. Forever stalemate.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:58 AM
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Where are women being introduced to weak, unmasculine, shy men? Where are those men positively interacting with women? Woman who would possibly like those types of men aren’t the same as those that are wanting and interacting with criminals. There’s literally sites for people to find people in prison. They make headlines. They are in the news. They attract a certain type of person. You can’t attract something when you’re literary giving off the vibe of leave me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:19 AM
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I could really like jicama. If it’s never at my grocery store, how would I know? I don’t have it available to me. I’m not going to go out of my way to find out. I have other options of things to eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:11 AM
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Women who send love letters to serial killer men in prison are in the same mentally unhealthy category of men who send love letters to serial killer women. These are not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:07 AM
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It doesn’t mean we don’t like them. They are stuck in limbo. I’m an extrovert that collects introvert. I work on them to get over their shyness. My ex was a shy introvert that could only really interact with women when he drank. I knew him for years. Worked on him to help him with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:05 AM
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We don’t dislike them. We don’t even know they are an option. They aren’t interaction with us in a fun flirty way. How can we find out when they can’t talk and interact with us.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:00 AM
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They aren’t playing. Epstein was apparently a charismatic, outgoing person. He was a rich guy that manipulated and blackmailed people. He surrounded himself with horrible people. Men and women. If he was a horrible person in his basement and didn’t interact with people he wouldn’t have been having sex or running a sex trafficking empire.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:58 AM
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Weak, unmasculine, shy guys aren’t playing. They are staring from afar. They are at home. They are avoiding women. They can’t talk to us. We don’t dislike them. They are afraid of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:51 AM
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If you’re not going playing the game. You’re not going to win. I’ve never won a mtg tournament. I play with my friends. I have some awesome decks I’ve made. But I’ve never entered or played in a tournament. I’m not complaining about the fact I’ve never won because I’ve never tried. Edit to add. It’s not because the judges don’t like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:43 AM
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We don’t dislike weak, unmasculine shy men. We don’t interact with them in a fun flirty way because they avoid us.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:35 AM
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Weak, unmasculine, shy guys don’t approach women. They avoid being noticed. Even if a woman wound find them physically attractive they aren’t interacting with us in a fun flirty way. Most women need a positive interaction for attractive to become attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:29 AM
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I also get lots of trauma dumps.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 01:57 PM
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We can take all the precautions (most of us do) in the world and it isn’t going to reduce our anxiety or fear enough. We still have to live in this world. I can’t tell the difference between Bill Cosby and Dr Huxtable. Not getting drunk and telling my friends where I’m going to be isn’t going to change that knowledge
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 06:16 AM
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You claim to be red pilled but don’t understand biological differences in men and women. Risk aversion. Prey mentality. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:53 AM
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I did address it. You never responded.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 08:17 PM
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I don’t have this experience with men. I’m not attractive enough for effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:37 PM
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I absolutely believe men get sa’d. But in my childhood. The men that sa’d me were going for little girls. Not little boys. The only thing that’s supposed to change in this scenario is my sex. I’d still have my mom and my upbringing. But I’d be socialized as a male. If I was sa’d as a male it still would be different because of the stigma boys and men have about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:10 PM
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I have no idea. But probably not. I’d be a man. With a man’s brain and hormones. I’d be socialized as a man. I’d live in a completely different world than I do now. I wouldn’t have had childhood SA. So my entire dating/sexual outlook would be different also.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:59 PM
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A lot of your examples are also about the intent behind the standards. It’s not. I want them to be nice. But I want them to be a doormat. It’s not the standard that’s a problem it’s the motivation and result behind it. So maybe your argument should be. Understanding why you have a standard and it that a healthy outlook for both parties
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:47 PM
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Part of raising your standards would be better for optics. A lot of women feel like interchangeable fleshlights because we know men’s standards are so low. We feel like us, as individuals, don’t matter. You like our shapes. And want us to say yes. Also a lot of men have sex with women before they find out if they like them or not. Then PNC happens and those men ghost or break things off. Or whatever. Again making women not want to “be used” by men. Making us make more standards and hoops to try …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:41 PM
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I usually see the opposite of men having high standards. “Be nice, don’t be fat” obviously I don’t see all claims by women but most of the arguments I see on here are about how men should raise their non physical standards because your physical standards are usually just “I’ll have sex with a woman with a vagina that I don’t find repulsive.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:10 PM
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I have a problem with your edit. “Filtering for “vibe” or instant chemistry can filter out people who are actually more stable and better at a long term conflict resolution, simply because they don’t necessarily entertain/excite you.” Vibe and chemistry are very important. Why would I want to go on a second date with someone I’m not clicking with? WOW. This person is boring and I’ve been pulling teeth to keep the conversation going. Yay, let’s do it again! How about no.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:03 PM
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Because men aren’t usually the ones being told to “lower their standards”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:56 PM
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An app full of men talking about local women and how slutty they are. What they will and won’t do. How often. They’ll describe every detail real or not. Might not be the legal definition of revenge porn. But they’ll share and lie and exaggerate. It’ll be a wanna be stalker/rapist breeding ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:10 PM
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Pump Up the Volume is my favorite movie. Teen angst. Shy guy. Feeling like there’s nothing new in the world. Not fitting in.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 07:01 AM
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Lies. Definitely. Don’t know about the revenge porn. I’ve never visited AWDTSG. The men that pretend to be interested in me aren’t really worth looking up. Also I’m poly. So I don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:24 AM
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We already know the men that would use that app or site wouldn’t view women as humans. It would be full of lies and revenge porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:19 AM
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Are we dating the same guy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:16 AM
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I could “not be alone” with a man who doesn’t find me attractive and doesn’t care about me. I could “not be alone” by using a man that I’m not attracted to and that I don’t have feelings for. If I have respect for myself and my partner, like I do, then I’m just going to remain alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 03:27 AM
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“Desirable women.” So they aren’t incels. They have standards. They just want those desirable women to lower or remove their standards so that they (the guy) can get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 03:02 AM
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I’m much better now. Dealing with perimenopause atm. Second puberty. Jesus. It’s easy to not think about all the things another person might be going through when there’s no overt outward signs. Menstruation is so fucked. Lots of hidden suffering and misinformation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 08:09 PM
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I got a hysterectomy when I turned 35. I had been asking for 1 since I turned 15. They said I’d change my mind about having kids or that my future husband might want kids. Insurance companies won’t pay for hysterectomies until you’ve had kids or until you’re 35. It was never considered a disability because I didn’t bleed fast enough. I would have had to hemorrhage for them to take me seriously. I didn’t take time off of work. I’d just be in pain and be extremely exhausted all the time. Cry when …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:17 PM
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I used to bleed for 3-4 months straight. I would bleed to death basically twice a year. Never anything I could do about it. I didn’t bleed fast enough quick enough for it to be a medical issue. I was told to take iron pills. Use a heating pad. Then I’d Take massive amounts of bc pills to try to stop them when my doctors threatened blood transfusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 06:29 PM
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How dare other people use this sub for things I don’t use this sub for!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 04:16 PM
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I’ll say the same thing I say each time this comes up. I’d take the test and I’d break up. You’re accusing me of cheating. You think I’m a cheater. The test proves that the cheating that I did (in your head) didn’t result in a child. But you still think I’m a cheater. So you can leave and we’ll figure out how custody will work.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:02 PM
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I don’t care the gender of the victim or the accused. If someone is the victim of a crime they should be able to prosecute. Hopefully there is enough evidence for conviction. If someone falsely accuses someone in order to hurt the accused reputation or standing then the accused should be able to sue for defamation because they intern become the victim. Hopefully there is enough evidence for a guilty verdict.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:35 AM
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If they could get casual sex as easily as most woman they’d be just fine. Getting used while you think you’re having a connection hurts deep. Now I know that’s all I’m good for. I adjust, deal, and cry alone in the dark sometimes. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:05 AM
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Look at comics and movies. The playboy billionaire and the rugged superhero are similar tropes for “male geared” media too. Look at the way actors look in action films. Ever hear the phrase “men want to be him, women want to be with him?” It’s one of those socionormative things. People (men and women) like tall, fit, muscular, sexy, rich, men. They like looking at them, reading about them, imagining being with them, or being like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:05 PM
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I’m not a feminist. I didn’t watch the case. I didn’t care. I don’t care what famous people do. Just got some tl:dr’s by people who did care. I also don’t know anything about this case. As I don’t care. If he is a victim I hope he has the evidence required for a conviction. If he’s isn’t the victim and was looking for money he should be sued and I hope she has the evidence required for compensation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:21 AM
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She has a right to sue her accuser if she didn’t do anything. Defamation has legal requirements. She has to prove her case.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:18 AM
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Why would I do that? I didn’t believe what’s her name about Depp
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:16 AM
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I said if. That’s for the courts to decide.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:15 AM
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If he lied. He’s not the victim. She is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:14 AM
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People who have money shouldn’t be allowed to sue other people for money because they don’t need it? Like wtaf? Defamation requires discovery. It Requires proof. Why do you think Trump doesn’t sue the women who have claimed he’s rapist and pedophile. Trump sues everybody. He doesn’t want discovery.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:00 AM
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You think anybody should just say yes to a date to everyone that wants to have sex with them? And you think that’s the same as a job? Like, really?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 09:33 AM
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It isn’t worth it to me no. Every time I’ve approached I’ve been rejected. Then they’ve “changed their minds” later. Then they use me for validation. I can still get casual, usually bad to mediocre, sex if I want. I gave up on having relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 08:38 AM
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I’m just a D.U.F.F.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:10 AM
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More Men want children. Sure. They don’t want to raise or parent them though. More women would want to be parents if they could be dads.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:51 AM
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<the reason we don’t have children today is because it’s lost its status> what “status” was inherited by having a child?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:41 AM
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I don’t know how to answer this. For me. As far as just sex goes. Men at first sight are a no, maybe or yes. Lots of nos and maybes. Very rare did I ever see a yes. Mostly in my youth and probably while I was ovulating. A no will always be a no unless they change how they look. A maybe and a yes can change through our interactions and how much I get to know about them. A yes can easily become a no. A maybe can move up or down. So for me. You need to be an initial maybe or higher. And then your p…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:11 AM
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I’ve always been interested in the topics of sex, attraction, dating, perspectives, intentions, words, etc.. This sub showed up one day about a year ago or so. The topics were interesting. This sub has made me more jaded and cynical. It blackpilled me at times. I’m a female undesirable. I can still get casual sex from men who don’t find me attractive. Because I have female privilege and I’m a pretty awesome person irl. I have a very complicated history of contradictions. My anchors are parts of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:03 AM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:47 AM
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Not really. It’s nuances. Which a lot of men don’t understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:28 PM
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The money doesn’t make a man more attractive. It’s the things that money can represent that can be seen as attractive. Ambition, hard working, less stress, more quality time together, better opportunities for children, stability, etc..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:23 PM
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They are delusional if they think money makes them more attractive. To the women who look for money, it’s transactional. It’s not attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:14 PM
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Women tend to do the paperwork in relationships. The marriage wasn’t working way way before she filed. The man gave up but was content enough to just exist and die unhappy. Usually because he was still getting some of the benefits of being married.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:06 PM
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For some women it’s going to be nowhere. For some women it’s going to be wherever. For some women it’s going to be depends on how. For some women it’s going to depend on who. We aren’t a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:03 PM
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How did you meet and talk to your current girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:49 PM
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Again. Older generations. Millennials are not becoming more conservative. Younger generations are starting out more liberal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:14 PM
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Millennials are 30-45…..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:09 PM
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But that’s not true anymore. It’s not most.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:05 PM
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Millennials are the first generation who has not become overall more conservative as we aged. That was true for Gen X and boomers. As we get closer to gender equality the social construct of women needing a man has declined. We aren’t settling as much as we did before because we don’t have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:04 PM
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Some people are misandrists. Some people are misogynists. They fuel each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:00 PM
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Women need to fix what?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:44 PM
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One argument is that women should be forced to have sex with men against their will. The other argument is to remove the men that want to force women to have sex them against their will. She’s saying she doesn’t negotiate with terrorists. Threatening women to put out or you’ll destroy the world (coercive rape) so that you can overtly rape them isn’t the winning argument you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:28 PM
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I don’t get approached. I’m not attractive enough. If I approach, I don’t get treated well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:14 PM
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I don’t see men on here saying that women are better for not being physically attracted to men. I do see men on here failing to understand that when people talk about needing a compatible personality or a positive interaction that physical attraction is still first. That it is implied. How much physical attraction is needed depends on the woman. I also don’t think most people think men are less than because they are mostly attracted by looks. Men’s and women’s attractions are different in genera…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:49 PM
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I agree. I haven’t shaved anything below my neck in over a decade. I might trim the goat beard occasionally
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 09:33 PM
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Was expecting your rebuttal 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 09:31 PM
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I chose not to have children because I’m like you. I knew I’d be an amazing mother. I’m loving and pragmatic and patient and I know it takes work. I knew that I would give up my current existence to become that for them. My existence is very important to me. I chose to remain “selfish.” I don’t regret my choice. The me that was me still exists. She’s had a chance to grow. Another me would have been a great mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:09 PM
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“I view women as interchangeable fleshlights. Why can’t women view men as interchangeable dildos?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:59 PM
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Thanks. I’ll get there eventually
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:53 AM
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Ended things with date dude. Well, I just told him that I’m not going to message him first anymore. Which is basically the same thing. I’ll start swiping again maybe in a week. Idk. Just wanna cry and mope and deal with being undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:44 AM
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I said usually. I think all aspects of a relationship are down to the individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:28 PM
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“I like larger penses (penises) and likely can only orgazm (it’s orgaSm) from them” Have you ever had sex? Do you only orgasm with penetration while masturbating?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 05:06 PM
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If big breasts are required for you to have an orgasm, you have a fetish. If a woman can’t have an orgasm unless a penis of a certain length or girth is inserted to hit the spot that will give her an orgasm it’s simply anatomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:54 PM
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It just reaffirms that I’m worth less.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:07 PM
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Ahhhh. I’ve never had a temp ban so that’s not where my mind goes. Meh. Kinda sad about the fact that I’ll never be loved. But I’ll get used to that concept again.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:57 PM
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Without a certain level of connection sex isn’t good for women. We don’t have satisfactory sex with just basic friction. We need to be stimulated mentally. That connection is part of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:55 PM
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You good?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:52 PM
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She wasn’t looking for sex. She was looking for a relationship. Men say on here all the time how important sex is. That it’s a need. Then they treat it like a handshake?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:36 PM
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Most women need more than he looks good and has a dick. She had already filtered enough to want to sleep with him. Men tend to filter after sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:27 PM
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This year I’ve made banana bread something half a dozen times or so. I buy bananas and wait and wait and wait. Why must they all be green at the stores?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:22 PM
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Yes. Because he values the sex more than the connection. She valued the connection more than the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:18 PM
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Mmm nice. I make a mean banana bread. Last ones were dark chocolate chip, toffee banana muffins. I’d like to be able to share them more.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:16 PM
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What do you think about it? I think it’s mostly a good thing. But I think it’ll stop people who use ai because of language barriers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:14 PM
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Blue pill? Since when?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:11 PM
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It’s not “just sex” for a lot of people. She wanted more. Thought she was going to get more because she felt a connection. She thought he did too. Now she feels sad and stupid. That’s a pretty normal reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:06 PM
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Absolutely fair. I think a healthy checklist of compatibility issues is good. And anybody is allowed to have whatever standards or preferences they want. And anybody is also allowed to turned off by others preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:00 PM
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It leaves the woman financially dependent. If the man leaves or dies. She’s screwed. She doesn’t have work experience. She doesn’t have access to funds if he left. He can be financially abusive. Control her actions through money distribution. I said a lot. Not all
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:15 AM
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I agree men and women need to stop thinking of women as more than just humans with flaws. We are all flawed. However. Men didn’t have power in the dating market. They had power over women. We can be fully independent if we want to be now. We get to choose freely now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:55 AM
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Well, a lot of traditional families weren’t good for women. So yeah. I can see how feminist theory would degrade that type of relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:49 AM
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I’ve given up. But thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:37 AM
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I’ve been on less than a dozen real dates in my life. 2 second dates. No thirds. My ex was a friend first. He wasn’t physically attracted to me. I’ve had a lot of partners. Mostly one and dones. A handful of fwb’s. I’m awesome as a friend. I’m okay to fuck. I’m not worth romance or being loved. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:22 AM
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Met a couple irl, and yes. Online I assume they are bots.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:08 AM
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When I hear “oh, I’m not picky” when it comes to attraction it’s a turn off for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:57 AM
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I’ve had this written in my notes for like 10 years. I have high self confidence and low self esteem. Self-confidence: This is our view on our own abilities to do something. The level of self-confidence is usually a result of overcoming certain obstacles or working to improve a skill. Triumph in establishing these traits and skills builds on our confidence. Self-esteem: This is our perception of ourselves. The level of self-esteem is a result of perceived social norms and what we believe ourselv…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 08:16 PM
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Nope. For the most part women are the ones that control access to sex. Men are the ones that control access to relationships. Men are leaving the dating world because they can’t get easy sex. Women are leaving the dating market because they can’t get real relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:48 PM
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If you fail, you try again. Confidence in one area of your life can help you gain confidence in other areas of your life. Yes it can be difficult. Lots of things are difficult. Does that mean nobody should do anything that they can’t do the first time around? Grow, learn, adapt.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:39 PM
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It’s harder to get sex for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:30 PM
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Confidence can be learned. It’s stuff you can practice. Yes it also means different things to different people. That’s how most words about thoughts ideas and feelings work. There’s a general sense of a word. But specifics can be and are subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:20 PM
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Men aren’t selective enough. They see a woman and without knowing anything about her is willing or wanting to have sex with her. She has shapes he doesn’t find ugly and has a vagina. Women have a whole lot more we look for. Our attractions and arousals work differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:16 PM
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Read my next comment
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:12 PM
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Any standards or preferences makes it harder for people who don’t meet the standards or have what is with those preferences to date or be successful in the thing they are trying to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:11 PM
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<Wouldn’t it then make sense that women’s high selectivity for confidence makes dating harder for men, and puts men at a significant disadvantage compared to women> You’re blaming a woman’s “high standards” for you not being confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:05 PM
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Funny how you replied to me and not the man I was replying to…this is your 3rd post about how confidence is stupid. Maybe you’re just not a confident person? Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:00 PM
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I was going to agree with you on some points. Then I saw your replies. I’m good.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 06:58 PM
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This was fun. You have a great day today!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 06:25 PM
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Yes. No matter what it’s our fault 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:22 PM
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I have no idea what you’re talking about. Dads should be able to take their little daughters into the men’s or family bathroom. When the daughter is older he can let her go in the women’s bathroom and wait outside. Or we can implement more gender neutral bathrooms. People need to stop demonizing or canonizing trans people. They are a minority of a minority of the population. They are just people. They just want to go about their days and exist. What women are saying what? What men are saying wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:20 PM
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Have you even vanquished my cousin the mountain troll yet? Have you spoken the 7 languages to the lands lost? Did you ever think of bringing me a little everlasting blue flame?!? I need just a little effort
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:00 PM
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Like who wants to be in a debate sub and use ai. (Other than using it to speak English) Like go have your fake fight, with fake ideas, with another ai program. This place is for people to discuss and debate people stuff. If I wanted to engage with a computer program I can use one myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 01:35 PM
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I told you I’m not interested 😜
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 01:30 PM
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He posting bullshit ai comments to protest against the rule change about using ai comments. He’s having a hissy fit. Ignore him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 10:52 AM
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I’m sorry you’ve never made a woman orgasm before.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 10:42 AM
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This is Reddit. You can’t even guarantee me you’re a real person 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 10:12 AM
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5-7 inches with stamina.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:38 AM
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Yeah. It’s going to be different for different people. And for the same individual at a different time or place. Some boundaries seem obvious. Some boundaries show up once they are crossed because you didn’t realize it was a boundary before. Also people use the word incorrectly all the time. Even I do depending on how I word it or who I’m talking to and how they are using it. Like a sexual boundary is usually called a limit. Hard limits and soft limits.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 05:27 AM
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I think if you know your boundary and it’s on your mind. You should be able to talk about it. Sometimes it doesn’t come up and it’s going to be specific to the boundary haver. So that might have some wiggle room as to when and how the boundary should be talked about. Also defining the boundary is important. Like cheating is something I won’t tolerate. But I’m poly so cheating is more about lying and deceiving than having a relationship with or having sex with someone else. Or If I know you have …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 05:10 AM
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If my “boundary” was I won’t stay in a relationship with someone who talks to their ex. And I stay with someone who talks to their ex. It wasn’t a boundary. It was a request or preference or meaningless threat
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:26 AM
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What is your definition of a boundary? For me and most people it’s having rules for themselves. Not others. I can’t put a boundary on another person. I can say I don’t accept this behavior. And if this behavior happens these are my actions that I will do. For example: I do not want people to hit me. If someone hits me. I will leave if I’m able. I will no longer have the same relationship with that person. If warranted I will go to the police. I can’t say I won’t allow someone to hit me. I can’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:21 AM
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If I followed that I’d never have any dates ever. I’d never have had an ex. I’m not better than anything. I’m human like everyone else. I’m not guaranteed love or interest or effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 01:29 AM
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Not all are disrespectful. Lots just don’t know how to talk to people. It’s like pulling teeth for engagement. I also get a lot of trauma dumps. I’ve had some luck on fetish sites. Doesn’t really do anything when we live in other countries and will never meet. Also as I can’t meet them in person, I have no idea how they would actually treat me. The bpd dude is nice and respectful. But he just disappears sometimes. According to him the longest he’s just avoided all people all together was a month…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 01:03 AM
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I’m not getting asked for sex by chads. These are normal everyday average dudes. 5’4” and up. Skinny to fat. Muscular to lean. 25-45 yo.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 12:48 AM
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Women are taught to minimize themselves. To put others before them. We are taught that self sacrifice is better for the greater good. Our pleasure isn’t as important. Our comfort isn’t as important. We, as an individual, are less important than other individuals. A good partner wouldn’t want someone to dismiss a boundary. A boundary is something that should be enforced. It doesn’t mean she loves him more. It doesn’t mean he’s a good man. She’s being a people pleaser or a doormat. If he’s happy a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:16 PM
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Lots of guys can fake not being disgusting/overtly sexual via text. Then they get the date and they can’t hide it irl. It’s not like women are texting guys on apps and only dating guys they met irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:40 PM
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I’m not changing anything. You sift through the overt trash in the app. Then you go on a date and sift through that trash. I personally wouldn’t know how bad or good guys are on dates. I don’t get asked out on dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:24 PM
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I agree. But that can be very difficult to do during. More people should have casual conversations about sex outside of the bedroom. As a woman I also have this feeling of embarrassment or entitlement when I talk about my pleasure being important. Also we are taught “if a man wanted to he would” and “don’t criticize or emasculate” I’ve been told “you can ask a man to do something or tell him how to do it. Not both”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:45 PM
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I’m torn. I don’t use or like ai. But it’s a tool. Some people on here aren’t native English speakers. Some people use it because they don’t know how to arrange their thoughts in a concise linear fashion. But the pages and pages of ai text is something that definitely needs to be cut off. I can be long winded too. Take the time to type it all out if you have a lot to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:40 PM
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Usually being in a relationship with a woman gives you a better understanding of what it’s like to be in a relationship with a woman. It’s not the same as a friendship. Just like a woman never being in a relationship with a man might not be able to communicate or interact as well. There’re things that we learn. The men I’ve talked to that have had LTR previously usually have better consideration because they’ve come across issues in the past and have learned what things a general amount of women…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:25 PM
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That’s fair. I’m a bit of a masochist so I understand pain. Humiliation is close to embarrassment. Makes you flush. Bringing blood flow to the surface. People can become horny when they are afraid or embarrassed. I like being positively degraded with a loving partner. There’s a type on humiliation or embarrassment that can also turn me on. There’s a lot of nuance in arousal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:12 PM
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🤷‍♀️ it is what it is. I don’t kink shame as long as everyone is consenting. I don’t have a lot of icks. We used to play together. I had fun. He enjoyed himself. We never had normal sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:03 PM
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Yeah. I haven’t come across any guys that want to eat or devour or consume a woman but they want to be eaten, devoured, or consumed by women. Whole or in bits. Resulting in death or sense of becoming a part of the woman permanently through nutrition and absorption.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:02 PM
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For him he likes to be feminized during sexual activities. He likes to be humiliated. Degraded. Dressed up. Say his cock is worthless. Make him suck on a strap on and smear his lipstick. He has a very normal average esthetic outside of the bedroom. He’s very masculine presenting. He doesn’t want to be a woman or to dress up as one outside of the bedroom. Although he does wear panties occasionally. And he wears his cage most days.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:57 PM
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Socks are like a combo of feet and lingerie. Also it can add more smell or sweat. Which can be a part of it. There’s many types of vore.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:51 PM
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Real people. Texting and talking to them. I have a friend who’s a sissy slut. Loves chastity. I talked to a guy that liked burps and farts. Etc
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:43 PM
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Possibly. Just like with a lot of kinks. Theres sub categories.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:42 PM
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I wouldn’t know who Lionel Messi is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:42 PM
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I’ve personally come across vore, giantess, face sitting, farts, ball busting, chastity, sissy, and smoking. Other ones too but just going off this list.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:36 PM
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It’s either where the woman is a giant. Literally. Or where the man is tiny. The 2 guys that I’ve come across with this kink both said watching “honey I shrunk the kids” as a child was a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:33 PM
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Thanks. I didn’t do anything though. Super high stress. And the shot. I wasn’t really able to eat from the stress (first time ever in my life) adding the shot extended that. I’m trying to keep it up but it’s harder now. The stress is less and I’m getting tolerant to the shot. I also have a lot of body and food issues. Bdd. Ed. ADHD. I’m working on multiple levels. One day at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:00 PM
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It hurts some gay men too. I have a couple guys that really want relationships but they keep getting men to use them and treat them like sucking machines.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:49 PM
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Very true. PNC hits some men really oddly. Like. Now that I’ve cum this person is no longer a human and i don’t need to treat them as such anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:36 PM
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I’m 43 now. I’ve pretty much given up on finding a loving, healthy relationship. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:33 PM
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Yes. I’m an enthusiast lover. I actually enjoy sex and get off on my partner getting off. I guess he prefers starfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:26 PM
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Off topic a bit. But once I had been talking to this dude for a hookup. He came over. I kissed him. We took our clothes off. I started blowing him. I got on top and he was done in like 5 back and forths. He then blamed me for him cumming too fast. If he had been cool we could have cuddled and made out for a round 2. But he was at my place for less than 15 minutes. He blocked me after.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:17 PM
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Absolutely not. I’ve known a lot of toxic women. A friend of mine just got out of a 17 year relationship. He’s a shell of what he used to be. A person can also be “toxic” to one person but not to another because those traits are or aren’t compatible. Age can also be a factor. An insecure 20 something can be quite toxic. If they take personal inventory, take accountability, and grow as an individual they could become less toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:06 PM
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It also causes throat and anal cancer. Those numbers are also going down.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:01 PM
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I don’t understand your point. The guy that did the experiment didn’t go on any dates. So he doesn’t know what dating is like for women. Lots of things can happen in 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:56 PM
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The shot covers most of the ones that cause cancer. Not all. Just like the flu shot covers the ones most prominent at the time. You can still get the flu. Just a different strain. Before the shot around 95% of sexually active people had some strain of hpv at some point. Most your body will get rid of if you have a healthy immune system.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:51 PM
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I don’t believe men fall in love faster. I think they are affected by dopamine easier. Men are more likely to have major addictions than women. One of the reasons there are more homeless men. Drugs and alcohol and gambling. “Love” hormones aren’t real love. Love is action. Love is intention applied. Love is a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:38 PM
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They will if given the opportunity. Just because you’re ugly, bald and short doesn’t mean you’re a good person. Or nice. Or considerate. Many ugly men are bitter and want to hurt and use women. It’s why they are jealous of Chad. They want to pump and dump so bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:29 PM
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Hpv shot doesn’t cover them all and herpes is still a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:23 PM
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I read it. He didn’t go on any of the dates obviously. So he has no idea how they would treat the woman on those dates. He didn’t post what was said or what conversations were had. Of course he was more compatible with other men texting because he’s a man. He wasn’t thinking like a woman. He didn’t have any personal expectations or compatibility restraints. I can also larp as a man. Doesn’t mean I know how they think or feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:18 PM
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That’s not what was said. They said that there are some men that want a relationship but they will still go for a hookup if they can’t get a relationship. Not that they’ll go for hookups after they get a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:06 PM
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No. He was just hurting women to hurt them. He’s adding to the amount of women who say men are trash. He’s making it harder for other non trash men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:01 PM
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There are plenty of desperate women who want to marry and have children. They’ll rationalize and make horrible decisions to keep a bad relationship going.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:50 PM
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My friend just got out of a 17 year relationship. It’s been toxic for a really long time. Hasn’t had sex in 12 years. They were both miserable. Both were afraid of being alone. Both fell for the sunk loss fallacy. He’s angry and lost and depressed and doesn’t know who he is. He’s jaded/bitter about the idea of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:34 PM
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Usually so they can blame me for not lowering my standards to someone I’m not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:29 PM
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I’d say I’m a 2 or 3 because of my age and weight. Yes I’m obese. i used to be morbidly obese now I’m just obese. I’ve lost over 100 pounds. Yes I get more attention. No I don’t get treated better. Losing weight has made me more jaded. I don’t swipe on chads. I don’t look at height.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:27 PM
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I’ve only had one committed relationship. I finished almost every time with him. He made sure of that. He only went down on me once. He wasn’t really physically attracted to me. He fell for my personality. He was the one that turned down sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:16 PM
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Lots of men are penis centric when it comes to sex. Their penis feels good. So it must feel good the other way around. They don’t know how women’s arousal works. They don’t know our bodies. Or they don’t want to put in the effort with someone like me because they aren’t planning on doing it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:38 AM
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I’m unattractive. I don’t have thousands of likes. Yes I get more than the average guy. My experiences are. Match, then nothing. Match. Guy say “hey” I say “hey, how’s your day going?” End Match. Guy says “hey” I say “hey, how’s it going?” He responds. No back and forth. I have to initiate conversation and ask questions to keep things going. One word responses. I stop. They stop. Match. Guy say “hey” I say “hey, how’s it going” Guy starts lovebombing Match. Guy says “can I blow your back out?” M…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:10 AM
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Fight the patriarchy!!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 09:21 PM
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I validate him and he validates me. I care for him as much as I can for someone I’ve never met. He is both a real person and a chatbot unfortunately. Until we meet he can never be truly real. And because it’s all ldr I’ll never get a real sense of him or truly know him. Just the edited version he chooses to share when he chooses to share it. Same for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 08:54 PM
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Could be. He lives in another country. He likes older, obese, and alternative women. I’m all 3 of those things. He was already partnered when we started talking. We are poly. So he’s was already getting laid. We have never met and probably won’t. I hope we will. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 05:47 PM
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No. That is how you operate. That’s how you think. You are not everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:40 PM
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I’ve been talking to a man who is 16 years younger than me for almost a year. Some guys like or prefer older women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:35 PM
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I usually do too. But not texting back for a few hours isn’t a sign of disinterest. That’s a self esteem problem if that’s your first conclusion. If they don’t respond. Put your phone away and continue living life. Respond if/when they respond.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:28 PM
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Of course I did. I also thought about that thing I was doing. That thing I’m apparently doing now. That thing I should be doing. That thing I started and forgot to finish. I’m not going anywhere. The text will stay. I’ll reply when I think about it. And have time and know how to respond if there was a question involved. I’m a millennial. Grew up without always being available. It’s a good thing to realize. I have my own agency and time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:26 PM
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It’s going to depend on the individual person. Just like what someone might consider too soon might be normal to someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:23 PM
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Absolutely not. I have a life. I have adhd. I have a job. I cook food. My phone is always on silent.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:21 PM
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For me, overzealous is lovebombing. Telling me I’m perfect and so this and so that (when they know nothing about me. That’s a turn off. Overzealous is complaining when I take a few hours to respond to a text. Overzealous is talking about major life changes or events faster than I’m comfortable with.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:18 PM
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Do I have empathy for the men in my life. Yes. Do I check up on them. Make sure they are doing okay? Yes. Do I listen to them? Yes. Do I have empathy for general men. Depends on what’s going on. I think we need to have more male only homeless shelters. I think we need to have universal healthcare and mental healthcare. I think we should outlaw male circumcision. I think we should reform education to be geared towards the individual instead of the group which mostly benefits girls. For loneliness…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 06:01 AM
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What purpose? How is having a partner giving you a purpose?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:53 AM
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Because it’s about the individual. Some people just want sex and some people think they are owed sex. Some people view sex as more or less valuable than others. Different expectations. Different intentions. Different wants. It might be entitlement it might not.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:52 AM
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How? What are you not able to do while single? Other than sex
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:48 AM
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Because there’s no point arguing about it. Women are different than men. We live in different worlds with different expectations. Sex and dating and attractions and arousals. Paying can mean many different things. To each their own. You want to see it as entitlement. Fine. The answer is still not to date those women if they don’t align with your beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:29 AM
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If you’re out of the game why do you care what rules some people are using? Edit to add. There’s a lot of people who think they are entitled to sex while in a relationship. Mostly men. There’s a lot of “entitlement” going around all over.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:25 AM
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Going Dutch is a lot more common than 50/50. You pay for what you order. Easy peasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:21 AM
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Or she doesn’t want to give the guy the idea that she now owes him if she doesn’t like him. Or if she likes the guy she might want a second date. So she might offer to pay next time. There is no set rule for all women or for one woman for every date.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:20 AM
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Or it’s those women wanting a man to show effort. To make her different than the other however many woman that man would also go on a date with if they said yes. It separates her. Makes her special. I’m saying this as a woman who has always offered going dutch. For me it’s weird to have a stranger pay for my dinner. But I was also raised to pay if I invite someone out. So I have no problem paying for my friends. I still don’t like it if they pay for me. People do pay for someone’s time. If I inv…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 04:15 AM
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Why? How do you see a relationship? What is different? Why is a single life garbage? How is it garbage?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 02:18 AM
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To be clear I go Dutch on dates unless the man insists. If you don’t want to pay on the first date. Don’t. Make it clear. You have that option. No one is making you pay. You’re not compatible with those types of women. It’s best to figure that out in the beginning. Paying on a first date has many different psychological assumptions. It can show that this woman is more important than the other 60+% of women that you would also go on a date with if they said yes. It can show generosity. It can sho…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:52 AM
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If you don’t want to date women who wants you to pay for dates. Make that clear and don’t date those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:42 AM
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Then when are you getting the advice of just pick someone else? Like, what are you complaining about to get this advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:34 AM
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If your option is date the one woman that’ll have you and treat you like shit or not date anyone. Don’t date anyone. It’s better for your mental and physical health.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:32 AM
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Then be single. It’s better than being in a bad relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:31 AM
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It’s pick someone else or be comfortable being single. Is she abusive? Leave and be single. Is she social and goes out more than you like? Deal, or leave. If someone does something that’s against a boundary you have, enforce your boundary by leaving. The advice isn’t ever going to be stay in an abusive relationship or learn how to change them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:30 AM
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Then they didn’t like their life before and they found someone that they could live an alternate life with. Do you want someone to change their entire life for you? What do you want from them? What kind of life are you offering them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:22 AM
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All sexes and genders focus on the sex or gender they are attracted to and discuss, critique, and judge them. Men do not do it more than women. Thats just your algorithm.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/26 12:06 AM
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I think it is. And has been. But the internet makes it feel new somehow. It makes the lonely people and angry people have a larger voice even if the amounts are the same. Also. Why are so many people angry at 8/10 rich girl Jessica in Miami for having “outrageous standards” when you’ll never meet her or be in her socioeconomic group?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:35 PM
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Women can feel less of a woman for our appearance. Because that’s where society puts our value. In our bodies. Woman has facial hair, is balding, broad shoulders, no curves, muscles, too tall, etc. she’s not feminine enough. She’s less than a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:16 PM
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Most of the good gender debate and talking subs have been taken over by very angry, lonely, and bitter men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:09 PM
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Having zero appeal as a man can absolutely be possible. But it can be for a woman too. Very much less likely. I believe in female privilege and part of that is the ability to get casual sex. I think the biggest issue is luck. The internet makes people think the world is so much smaller than it is. That everyone can just connect with other people. There might be a guy that could possible actually be interested in me. Find me sexy and like my personality and what I can bring to a relationship that…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:05 PM
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Actually fair. Thank you. Didn’t think long enough about it (I was tired). I was thinking action oriented. I forgot that women are primarily valued as women for looks and babies. (By men and women) Hair, top of head and face. Waist too big. Boobs too small. No curves. Too tall. Deep voice. Too muscular. Broad shoulders. Infertile.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 02:58 PM
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That can overlap. Someone who is genuinely considerate. Will treat a woman with consideration. Which can make her feel special or listened to.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 05:11 AM
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Find a job that gets you more money. Read books about learning social skills for ND’s and introverts. Use discord or other online, possibly fetish sites to talk to other introverted people. Be mindful of scammers. Don’t send money or food to anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:57 AM
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That’s what she said
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/26 04:50 AM
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Because just like any group of people, feminists aren’t a monolith. One feminist saying you wanting a woman who wants to cook and clean is wanting a Bangmaid. And another feminist saying you wanting a woman who wants to cook and clean is just you wanting a traditional relationship , isn’t one lying and one telling the truth. It’s 2 separate people with 2 different opinions that happen to share the sale label. Only you know the whole truth about the details of this type of relationship you’re wan…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:34 PM
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If she doesn’t want to, should she because it’s her duty or obligation? Or simply to “make him happy?” Saying his wants to her body are more important than her wants regarding her body?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 09:24 PM
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Because Bangmaid includes the banging part. Do you think a wife is obligated to supply sex whenever the husband wants? Do you believe sex should be a mutual enjoyable activity that only occurs when both people want it?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:23 PM
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You are aware that there are feminists that want and are in traditional relationships, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:19 PM
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We have prude and slut. Neither and both means we are less than a woman. We are judged either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:16 PM
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Because for the most part in history women were already considered less than a man. So there isn’t a sense of less than a woman that hits.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 08:01 PM
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My ex used to turn me down a lot. It sucked. But he wasn’t sexually attracted to me. So it made it worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 07:25 PM
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It should be about making both peoples lives better. Sex is viewed differently by different people. I really enjoy the idea of sex. I crave it. I want it. If my partner isn’t in the mood I do not want to have sex with them. I don’t want obligatory sex. I don’t want duty sex. It would make me feel disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 06:09 PM
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That individual woman who may or may not self identify as a feminist would be wrong in her use of the word in this instance, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:31 PM
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How would you describe what a marriage is supposed to be?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:28 PM
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There isn’t anything wrong with wanting sex. Don’t force, coerce, mope, fume, guilt, manipulate your partner into having sex when they don’t want to. Don’t expect it or demand it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:25 PM
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Different people have different libidos. Different things turn different people on. Different people get affected by life struggles and stresses differently. Different people view sex differently. Saying “you’re my girlfriend/wife/boyfriend/husband so you need to have sex with me now because I want to have sex now and I don’t care if you don’t,” isn’t part of a healthy relationship. You’re removing their feelings and agency and wants to make yourself happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:20 PM
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“Bangmaid” came from the show It’s always sunny in Philadelphia. The phrases are “Bangmaid, go wash my socks then come suck on this for a while” “Bangmaid, did I tell you that you could come out of the closet?” “When I work hard all day, all I ask is that my Bangmaid cleans the goddamn house, cook my dinner and lick my balls. Is that too much to ask?”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 05:08 PM
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No.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:11 PM
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That’s how most women define bangmaid. It’s not about traditionalism. It’s about how you view the woman. Where’s the respect. The appreciation. The choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 03:01 PM
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A bangmaid is a woman whos viewed as a source for cooking, cleaning, and sex. Nothing else. That’s her purpose. That’s all she’s good for. She’s not valued as a person. Her wants, dreams, and hopes outside of that are unimportant. A woman wanting a more traditional relationship with a man that also wants a traditional relationship where both parties respect and appreciate the other is fine. It’s when a man says his woman has to give him sex whenever because that’s his right in a relationship, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 02:44 PM
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I think those are interesting separations. The guy I’m talking to. Is physically attractive to me, considerate in and out of the bedroom, sarcastic, funny, sweet, grumpy, bpd, hard working, respectful, reassuring, caring, broken, I asked him out and planned both dates so far, we went dutch. There’re things I like about him. There’re things I don’t like so much. We vibe well. I like him so far.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 06:03 AM
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Depends on the person. Some people view having some sort of sexual activity with someone they aren’t attracted to as not pleasurable. Some people view it as repulsive. It’s an individual feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/26 04:19 AM
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It’s nature and nurture and happenstance. I’ve never heard anyone say it’s only nurture. I have heard people say it’s only nature. Where are you hearing this. It would be interesting to see those people’s arguments
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 05:20 PM
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I know it’s my hormones now. Doesn’t happen very often anymore. In my teens and early twenties. Happened more often. Having feelings that aren’t situation dependent can be quite overwhelming. This man is going to be going through female puberty without any ramp up or context. Different people react differently to hormonal fluctuations. I’m glad you’ve never experienced hormonal fluctuations or had issues with pms, or pmdd, or PCOS or any other hormonal issues a lot of women have.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 04:57 PM
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The internet messes with our perception of reality. People think today’s world is more dangerous because we have direct access to everything bad going on all at once. The truth is violence and crime have been trending down for decades. People like to complain. They vent. They talk about what’s not going right in their lives. Human nature. In business class we learn that if you make 1 client happy, they might, on average, tell 1-2 people. If you make a client unhappy, they’ll, on average, tell 6-…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 04:35 PM
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I have absolutely. Why the fuck am I crying right now? Why am I so angry all of a sudden? I don’t know if I want ice cream or dick? Really wanting to do something even when I know I shouldn’t because I have an overwhelming feeling that that’s what I need to do. Etc
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:59 PM
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In the beginning he’d get laid a lot. He’d have little to no standards. He’d get unsatisfactory sex. Few orgasms if any. He’d put himself in dangerous situations. He’d see how men treat women differently. He’d get disillusioned. If he has the same hormonal cycles he’d feel confused. He’d feel crazy at times. He’d feel period pains and cramps. If he had the same brain structures he’d feel an odd sense of fear or apprehension. The first time he’s with a guy the same size as him, same body type as …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:51 PM
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What’s your version of Chad? Someone they find physically attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:21 PM
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I think most people think they are good people. One persons version of heaven can be someone else’s version of hell. I think people do “good” and “bad” things. In different way. At different times. We mostly do neutral shit. Your definition of “have principles (which ones?) who have inner morals (which are?) and will act on it (how?)” can be taken very differently depending on the details. Very few do the last part. The action part. The doing something part. And again “have their shit together” …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 02:07 PM
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The internet is a tool like anything else. Understanding what the tool is capable of and what its limits are l, are important. It can be used for good and bad things
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:43 PM
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Physical attractiveness is number one. For most people. But it’s not enough for most women. The parts of us that grow are the parts that we feed. Find better coping mechanisms. Have passions. Read. Do stuff. Do things that scare you. Listen. Take personal inventory.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 01:38 AM
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But we don’t know who’s saying what and who’s liking what content. There are countless fake videos to push a narrative. Or a 3 minute clip of a 1 hour situation. Taking anything on the internet without skepticism isn’t good. People like to complain and vent. Most people aren’t going around telling people about their ordinary everyday life. “I had a yogurt for breakfast, I went to a job that pays my bills, I chilled on the couch. My life is average”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 12:53 AM
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No they aren’t. People get paid and validated through online discourse.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/26 12:15 AM
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We should teach Internet literacy. Online isn’t real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:45 PM
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Are they saying “all women” or are you assuming that? The ones who say all women shouldn’t be listened to. Just like men who say “all men” shouldn’t be listened to.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:42 PM
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I tend to feel bad when my partner doesn’t cum. Society says men get erections from a warm breeze and that they fuck fruit. I blame myself. I wasn’t better than a grapefruit. I’d say less than 10% of my partners in the past were active in wanting me to have an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 10:23 PM
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Do you speak for all men? No. Why do you think a woman is speaking for all women?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 09:44 PM
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Not 100% no. But a vast majority. The first month alone was enough to make me question whether I could put up with OLD. I’m on my 3rd app looking for better options. But I’m a masochist so…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 09:37 PM
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Which issues? Having bodily autonomy, wage gap, financial freedoms? Yes I care. Women not finding partners, men not being attracted to me, the orgasm gap. Nope. That’s just the way things are.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 09:08 PM
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Where in my comments did I “blame” men? I have empathy for men. What would be your solutions?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 09:02 PM
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What would you suggest men do? How will that help? Whats the goal?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:58 PM
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We want partners. Equal effort on things that are important to us. It’s going to be different depending on the woman in the situation. A little more of this can make a little less of that be perfectly fine. We all need to be adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:55 PM
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It’s a threat. See what will happen if you don’t start putting out. Lower your standards and let undesirable men impregnate you. These men will then sign a paper abortion (contract of deadbeat status) and blame single mothers for continued societal collapse.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:51 PM
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If robotics and ai catch up quickly enough we can have them deal with the elderly. It’s not my job to provide caregivers for my ancestors. We aren’t running out of kids. People are still having children.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:48 PM
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A lot of men don’t want to strengthen bonds with other men. I asked someone on here why he didn’t make friends with men. He said because he didn’t connect to men the same way. Women are different. We are more social. We made and work on our social bonds. Men need to learn this skill. But they also have to learn how to talk about feelings and social structures with other men. Men bully other men and call it friendship. Men play video games with strangers online and call it friendship. But they do…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:45 PM
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Have you listened to incels? If you were a woman would date someone who actively thinks you’re a whore and stupid. That you’re biologically driven to cheat and leave and lie. That your body should be given to them whenever they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:40 PM
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Stating Low birthrates isn’t going to make women want to have more children. It isn’t going to make them want to date men they aren’t attracted to. It isn’t going to make them want to date men that they don’t align with. More women want partners than financial providers.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:29 PM
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Men have a harder time getting laid than woman. Thats always been the case. It’s different now but still the case. That isn’t a societal issue. It’s not something the government is going to fix. More women are going 50/50 or dutch on a date. More women are initiating. OLD isn’t made with women’s attentions and arousals in mind. It highlights, supports and is driven by superficiality. Most women aren’t as visual as men. We generally need positive interactions to go with physical attractiveness. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 08:25 PM
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I have no idea how I would react. I have a female brain, body, and hormones. My lens of the world is in part shaped by me living as a woman. Being a woman. Interacting with the world as a woman. I don’t know what shit tones of testosterone would do to me. I don’t know what the evolutionary aspect of my biology would do to me. I don’t know how living as a man would effect my growing up and experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:45 PM
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I’d be perfectly fine with it. He just needs enough money to pay his own bills. I like eyeliner on guys. If he’s into it we can even do gender bender stuff in bed. I actually get a small ick when men purposely go to the street side when walking down the sidewalk.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:39 PM
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Loyal, respectful and even the amount of time and the way you spend time with someone are subjective. A poly guy and a monogamous guy are going to have different definitions of loyal. A traditional guy and a progressive guy are going to have different definitions for respectful. Some guys want to see their gfs daily some weekly. Some somewhere on the middle. Men aren’t a monolith either.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:25 PM
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A good man can mean many things. For me, I’d like a good match. I need someone who’s able to understand my broken. Not want to fix it. That’s my deal. Has their own broken that they work on. That communicates in a way that works for my brain. That’s attracted to me, that I’m also attracted to. <image>
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:05 PM
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Women aren’t physically the same. Some women want big. Most want average. Some prefer smaller. Some women have vaginismus. Some just have tighter smaller vaginas. Some women would prefer anal. There’s different kinds of women out there. With different preferences. There’s also toys that go over smaller penises.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:11 AM
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Lesbians enjoy penetration too. Fingers. Toys. Strap ons. Vibrators.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/26 01:02 AM
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No I can’t. But thanks for minimizing my lived experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 07:49 PM
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It’s called code switching. We act differently depending on who we are with and our relationship with them. It’s still us. I don’t act the same way with my boss (a superior) as I do my friend Sally (a confidant) . I’m not going to act the same way with a date (a stranger) as I do a boyfriend (someone I know and care about)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 01:00 PM
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I could maybe get sex once a week out of him. I had to initiate. The only times he did was when he had been drinking. He blamed me for him not initiating because “I never gave him a chance” so I stopped initiating. We went over a month before I broke and initiated again. Being used like a fleshlight sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:43 AM
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He didn’t think he had other options. He didn’t want to die a virgin. He figured since we were friends and I was attracted to him that he could be in a relationship with me. I’m saying men shouldn’t date or have sex with women they aren’t attracted to. Most men wouldn’t date them. And a lot of men wouldn’t have sex with them. Most men would sleep with most women but not all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:34 AM
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I was in a relationship with a man who didn’t find me sexually attractive. He fell for my personality. He turned me down for sex. He rejected me. I was never more lonely than when I was in that relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:18 AM
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Being in a relationship where you’re both not attracted to the each other isn’t going to make you less romantically lonely. It isn’t going to get you sex. That’s just a friendship.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:08 AM
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But she’s going to grow up to be one of those transactional women who hates men, right? Since it’s her biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:05 AM
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If you found out a woman you were interested in was infertile does that mean you wouldn’t start a relationship with her? Since she has no value in a committed relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 10:01 AM
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I think the “women are choosing to be single” part often leaves out the “rather than settle” part. They want partners. They want a man that they are attracted to, that works within their world, that they enjoy spending time with, that has similar views and values. Op is saying men also have standards. Most single men wouldn’t date the obese women. Most men wouldn’t date the single mom. Most men wouldn’t date the ugly woman. Yet they proclaim that all lonely men would date anything with a vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 09:59 AM
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I’m sorry for your loss. There is NOTHING you could have done. Yeah maybe delay or something but demons don’t fight fair. The people in my life are the number one reason I haven’t yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:15 AM
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It is very difficult to understand. I enjoy hanging out with men. I enjoy hanging out with women. I have great guy friends. I’ve had some terrific lovers. My ex was a good man, we just weren’t compatible. I just can’t fathom looking at men as nothing more than sperm donors.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/26 02:06 AM
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Do you like anything about women other than “they have uteruses?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:42 PM
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I play mtg and just made my first dnd character. I play video games. Nerds are great. Only a problem when passions and interests become obsessive and all consuming. Is he obsessive about the action figures? Like, does he always buy 3? Play, own, sell? Is his entire house covered in cardboard cutouts? Or is he just a guy who likes “nerdy” things.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:32 PM
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So….yes. Women are broodmares.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 07:28 PM
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People say “nobody owes anyone sex or relationships.” Thats it. Sex and relationships. And you’re like. Let’s praise domestic violence and vote against our own self interests!!! Do you think maybe there’s a reason you’re unselected?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:40 PM
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Sure. That’ll get you laid 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:31 PM
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Hey. This work of fiction written by multiple men that contradicts itself is PROOF that women choose knowledge over ignorance. Or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 06:17 PM
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Is that the only reason you would be in a relationship too? For breeding purposes?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:09 PM
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What do you want to happen to the resulting children?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 05:07 PM
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Some women sure. I’ve not communicated for many different reasons. Mostly my own insecurities and my experiences of not being heard when I do speak up. I do take the lead when I feel comfortable. I take the lead when I’m not comfortable too. They end up with different results. I don’t care about being seen as unfeminine. My personality isn’t very “feminine” outwardly.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:44 PM
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Does your partner know that she’s only there so that you don’t kys? Altering your behavior and mannerisms, how?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:04 PM
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I really want to know what being in a relationship is like for you. What is it you want out of it? How do you want it to look? Why is the woman there? What’s her purpose? What’s yours? Why is her existing in your presence better than her not being there? What’s the function of being in a relationship? Simply so you don’t want to kys?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 12:14 PM
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What does that look like? Are you two sitting on the couch in silence?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:50 AM
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You don’t even like women. You don’t like men. You don’t like people. You have zero empathy. Why would a woman want to be with someone who sees them as less than?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:48 AM
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So women are just for breeding purposes for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:46 AM
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Nina actually teaches about sex and sexual acts. She’s awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:29 AM
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I love Nina!!!!! Part of my bj awesomeness is because of her
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:28 AM
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I usually do. Usually after bad sex. Being touched by someone else can feel better than touching yourself. Our fingertips have more nerve endings than any other part of our bodies (other than the clit) per square inch. It overides the nerve endings of other parts of our bodies. Ie I’ll feel my hand touching me more than I feel touched by my hand. I also can’t kiss my own neck.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:21 AM
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Sex doesn’t make the feeling of loneliness go away. Sex isn’t a magic act. It’s not spiritual. It isn’t transcendent. It’s two bodies bumping together.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:13 AM
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I did it for a couple reasons. Because I was horny and they were the easiest option. Because I said I was going to have sex no matter what (a New Year’s Eve party after my break up) because I thought I’d give them a chance. Because I was feeling down and wanted validation. Because I was lonely. None of them worked. I Felt worse after.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:09 AM
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Hi. Me again. Not going to argue loneliness. But I’m going to argue about good sex. Men and women’s arousal is different. If I have sex with someone I’m attracted to, I have a chance at enjoying it. If I’m having sex with someone I’m not attracted to, I have zero chance of enjoying it. Attraction is a part of sexual stimulation. Sex can be fun. It should be. It’s not a guarantee
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 11:02 AM
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Getting pregnant or not getting pregnant has NOTHING to do with privilege
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 03:56 AM
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It’s society saying men’s lives are less important than women’s lives. It’s female privilege that keeps women from being drafted.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:37 AM
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I also have suicidal ideation. I haven’t done it yet. I can’t say I never will. I hope I don’t. But when you’re in it…it will be pills. I will be in my car. In the woods. I’ll have milk.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 02:05 AM
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100k for an hour of your time, really?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:58 AM
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Everyone has a number or the right set of circumstances
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:58 AM
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We tend to use “less messy” forms. We don’t want other people to have to clean up after us.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:46 AM
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Biology isn’t a “privilege”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:43 AM
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I absolutely believe in female privilege. And male privilege. They aren’t apples to apples. Society sees men and women as different and the different sexes can do different things with different amounts of ease or with less judgement.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 01:40 AM
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He won’t be letting her see her own parents soon. He doesn’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/26 12:43 AM
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People grow, learn, and adapt. Our priorities change. If you’re still the same person with all the same wants, desires, priorities, and aspirations at 35 that you were when you were 25. You’re stunted. When I was a child my favorite color was purple. It’s now green. Was I lying then? Am I settling for green now?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 07:10 PM
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I’m obese and not attractive. I don’t get effort. My pleasure isn’t important. You don’t care if your fleshlight is having a good time. I’ve had men say they like giving oral. Doesn’t happen. I’ve had men say that they always make a woman cum first (maybe if you’re actually attracted to her) I’d say less than 10% of the men I’ve been with have shown any sort of willingness to make sure I was a part of the sexual experience. Not just my holes. The very very few that might have actually been inter…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 06:54 PM
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Losing weight. Going to doctors. Getting meds, creams, body washes, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:08 PM
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Attraction isn’t a choice. She’s not choosing to not find him attractive. Shes not choosing to not be attracted to him. He’s not an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:07 PM
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Looks issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 03:01 PM
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I don’t know what it’s like for a man to use me for sex and then somehow see me as an actual person after. I’m just a hole or 3.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:55 PM
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That’s not how most people work. Most people are lazy. Most people put in what they think is the bare minimum.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:48 PM
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They aren’t saying they don’t want a romantic relationship. Or that wanting a relationship is bad. But being socially fulfilled, having your other needs met, can help you be a better partner because you’re not expecting all that from one single partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:46 PM
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When you want a relationship and a partner. Offers for sex. Lying about wanting a relationship while really only wanting sex, or having sex with someone you don’t know if you even like yet. Isn’t going to fulfill your want for a relationship. Isn’t going to make you feel less lonely. Having only options for sex isn’t going to make someone feel less lonely. It can make it feel more lonely. Because it makes the thought of men actually wanting a partner feel impossible.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:42 PM
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I don’t get offers for dates I get offers for sex. It isn’t a lie. It’s just not your experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:36 PM
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I think most people are lazy. Once you get the thing you stop trying to get or keep the thing. It’s just there now. No more effort required. People stop dating each other and just start existing together. They stop communicating. Foreplay should start the moment sex ends.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:22 PM
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If she’s not attracted to him he’s not a choice
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 02:17 PM
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He thinks that about men so it must be true for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 01:58 PM
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I’m 43. I’ve always thought this. So have my family, friends, and peers growing up. I really think it’s the area you’re brought up in.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 01:42 PM
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People who choose people similar to them? Usually within the same socioeconomic groups?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 01:40 PM
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I don’t whine about it irl. This sub is where I go for entertainment. And to maybe see different peoples perspectives. I know I’m not entitled to a relationship. I don’t try and haven’t believed I would be in a healthy relationship for years. I mostly just have friends and once in a while try for casual sex. I’m not pretty enough to date. But I have holes. And I’m enthusiastic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 08:14 AM
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Entitled to what? I’m actually a pretty chill and awesome person. I have great friendships. With men and women. I love my platonic male friends. It only seems to bring out the worst in some men when sex gets involved. (Which sucks because I really like sex)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 08:05 AM
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I’ve lost weight. Got meds. Got creams. I get more attention. Still don’t get asked for more than just sex. Still don’t get effort. Still don’t get treated with consideration.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 07:55 AM
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That’s good. Men who are naturally more nurturing, more domestic, enjoy homemaking should know that it’s okay and that he’s not broken or “not a real man.” And maybe someday he’ll get his awesome “boss babe” whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 07:00 AM
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I’m not assuming anything about you. OP says his “think pieces” and why he thinks this is because of TikTok.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 06:57 AM
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I’d say most women don’t think about it all while he’s actively dating. It’s only when there’s a breakup or a new gf when the media frenzy starts. I’d say the general groups are. 1:Gets the ick but they are adults so “not my problem” 2:gets the ick. “Hes such a pedo. She’s too young” (infantilizing women) 3:”were they adults when they met? Yeah? Don’t care” 4:”get that money honey”
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 06:55 AM
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It’s not grooming. Some men would love to be house husbands. Some women would love to be the breadwinners. They have always been around. Nowadays this can actually be achieved. Still not the norm. And its still looked down on. But it’s getting less judged. As it should be. Those are really silly gender roles.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 06:40 AM
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Except it doesn’t. TikTok algorithms by some women aren’t proof AWALT.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 06:31 AM
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Some women care. Some don’t. Just like some women care about money. Some don’t. Some care about little. Some care about lot. Some care more during different stages of their lives. Some keep a pretty consistent stance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 06:26 AM
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Basing your understanding of women on tiktok algorithms isn’t real life. Are there some women like that. Absolutely. Always have been, always will be. But they aren’t the majority. Their content just gets a lot of views and clicks. They trend. That content fuels rage and frustrations. Gets more clicks. Fuels more rage.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 06:23 AM
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That’s a terrible belief to have. Men can and do get raped.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 04:57 AM
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You’re probably not obese and ugly then. I don’t get a lot of good men. I get desperate men.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 04:51 AM
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I snap my fingers and what? I can have bad sex with someone who doesn’t like, want, desire or care about me at all. That wants to masturbate while using my body. That doesn’t like to spend time with me. Doesn’t show any effort. Who thinks I’m less than, inferior, a liar, pathetic.. no thank you. I’m not going to pretend to be attracted to someone so that I can use them. Men wanting access to my vagina doesn’t make me feel wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 04:43 AM
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Women couldn’t have a bank account until the 70’s. Couldn’t own property. Couldn’t have a business license. Up until the 90’s marital rape was still legal. Still kind of is in some places because of the definition of rape. The top 1%man>common man>top 1%woman>common woman Society is better for most people today. Having options to do what you’re good at or passionate about or dream about is a good thing. For men and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 04:29 AM
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Women were still “better off” with a man. We needed men for basics. Because women were and are seen as less than men. Many grandmothers have told their daughters and granddaughters to not do what they did. Education is good for everybody. Bank accounts are a necessity.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 04:22 AM
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She didn’t have money or a way to get money. She couldn’t live on her own. She couldn’t have a bank account. She couldn’t be in charge of her fertility. She couldn’t get an education. Her options were let a man take her out of her father’s home. Or stay in her father’s home.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 04:15 AM
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It’s not equitable if the woman felt she didn’t have any other options. That it’s just what she was expected to do. Not everyone wants to be married. Women can have a full life, independent. We want partners. Not someone that’s just going to make the rules for us.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/26 04:06 AM
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🙄 commenting on my grammar instead of my comment. I’ll edit it for you. Feel better?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 11:40 AM
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Not my personally experience at all. Dick size has no correlation to whether they like giving oral or not. Most men don’t. Or at least they don’t with women like me. I wish more men liked giving oral.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 10:23 AM
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I don’t think I have. Not for their bodies. I have lost attraction seeing someone’s sex face before. He got really bug eyed without his glasses and him being over me with the other things just killed it for me. I have lost attraction for the noises they made. One dude fake moaned thinking he was going to turn me on… I know men have seen me naked and lost attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/26 10:21 AM
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How would you suggest women reframe their wants and fears and experiences and outcomes desired?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 11:30 PM
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You keep using blame. There’s no blame among two consenting adults. You consented to sex. Sex means the possibility of pregnancy. You’re consenting to the possibility of pregnancy. Your rights as far as the fetus stop once your sperm leaves your body. Her right as far as the fetus stop when the fetus leaves her body. If the pregnancy results in a child being born. You’re both on the hook. If you both want to abandon responsibility and give it up for adoption, cool. If both of you want to raise t…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 11:13 PM
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What actionable advice are you looking for?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 09:38 PM
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Which issues are men having that there aren’t some women also advocating for?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 09:36 PM
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Why aren’t you talking to other men? Building true friendships? Making it the norm to share your feelings with other men?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 09:33 PM
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To get women…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 09:28 PM
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I say some men. You say all women. You’re calling me a liar and saying that I said something I didn’t. 🙄 Absolutely, some women think all or most men are beneath them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 09:19 PM
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Acknowledging that I’m more likely to be raped or victimized by a man isn’t calling all men predators and rapists. Humans can and do do horrible things. How would you like women to be around men? Strange men? Men they don’t know? Even men they might know. I can’t tell the difference between Dr. Huxtable and Bill Cosby. Men tell women to be careful around other men. Women tell each other to be careful around men. I’m not hostile to men. I don’t think the majority of men are “bad.” But a lot of me…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:57 PM
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Life isn’t fair. It’s sucks for most of us. In different ways at different times. Saying that the enslavement of women, is the inevitable result of women not spreading their legs enough is exactly why less women spread their legs. Men are saying that they want to rape women. They just want to pretend it’s not rape.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 08:34 PM
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Nobody wins in gender wars. Except the rich and powerful.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 07:34 PM
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I can’t even tell when a man is outright flirting with me. Even explicit statements are received as banter or “flirting back” (as in monkey see monkey do)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:53 PM
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A woman cannot get pregnant without sperm. Men have sperm. You are aware of this situation. Anytime you put your penis inside of a woman’s vagina you’re aware that a pregnancy could happen. If you don’t want any responsibilities or consequences from possibly getting a women pregnant. Don’t put yourself into a situation where your sperm could end up inside of a woman. Men’s right stop about the life of the fetus once he’s no longer in possession of his sperm. Women’s right about the life of the f…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:37 PM
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The amount of women who poke holes in condoms is extremely dwarfed by men who just don’t want to have consequences for their actions. They don’t want to be held responsible. They want to be deadbeats. They want the women to suffer and maybe die and have to all the responsibilities they are too childish and selfish and lazy to undertake.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 06:16 PM
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In general. Not really. In a specific partner. Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:38 PM
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Hardly anybody gets what they want. If some men want to throw internet tantrums from their basements because they can’t get their peepees wet by uninterested women why should society care? Literally men like you, are the men Lilith is talking about. More men like you make more women believe there are more men like you and want less to do with more men. You’re fueling your own demise.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:34 PM
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Hardly anybody gets what they want. If some men want to throw internet tantrums from their basements because they can’t get their peepees wet by uninterested women why should society care? Literally men like you, are the men Lilith is talking about. More men like you make more women believe there are more men like you and want less to do with more men. You’re fueling your own demise.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:34 PM
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People don’t always get what they want. Thats life. “Shit in one hand and want in the other and see what fills up first.” Some men want to rape and coerce women into have sex with them (coercive rape) They want to do it without it being called rape. They want it to be called “lowering our standards.” They want it to be called “thinking of society.” That want it to be called “stabilizing the birth rates.” They want women to just “let” them use our bodies instead of having to push us down and forc…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 05:18 PM
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I agree, a lot of men don’t see women as other human beings like themselves. A walking fleshlight doesn’t have the same agency as a person. What’s the importance of an object’s objections? Edit spelling and grammar (if to of. And objects to object’s)
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 10:10 AM
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I stay away from dating or sex for long periods of time. Then I’ll get horny/lonely and I’ll think about it for a while. I don’t actually believe I’ll ever get into a healthy relationship so I go for casual ongoing at best. I try to date but the men that match with me usually aren’t matching with me for dates. I’ll talk to a few here and there. Them hey. Me hi. How are you? 80% of the time that’s the end of that. The ones that actually talk to me aren’t good at talking to me. The ones that are, …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/26 07:20 AM
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You’re calling me a liar. You think your opinion is right for everyone. I say some. You say all.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 07:57 PM
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My feelings mean nothing. Yup. You’re right. Your experiences and ideas and thoughts are more important than mine. I’m so stupid, I forgot I was talking to the lead authority on what art is and how it’s supposed to be expressed. My bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 07:55 PM
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The amount of sex someone has had has very little to do with how good of a sexual partner they are…it’s the individual. The type of person they are. What’s efforts they put in. How safe or comfortable I feel with them. How sexy I feel with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 07:52 PM
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It’s not approval. It’s just annoying. I put <5 minutes and put makeup on. And I’m just able to go about my day. No comments. No looks. I just get to be, like everyone else. Art is many things. I mostly paint portraits. I like details. Soft transitions. I like playing with color. In makeup I can play with color. I can see how close to this kind of look or that I can get. I like to see how different products look. How applying things at different angles or with different intensities can change ho…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 07:47 PM
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People in general feel that it’s more okay to comment on women’s appearances in public. When going out. It’s pretty much just enough to even out my skin tone. The first ever book I asked my mom to buy for me when I was a kid 12-13 ish was a makeup book. It’s like paint. 3d art.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 07:38 PM
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Probably in his house with his longtime girlfriend or wife. Where he works from home and has his hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 07:09 PM
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I’m going to disagree with this. Some women sure. But I will put on makeup and sit in my room. I love the artistry of it. I rarely wear makeup outside anymore. And currently it’s to be left alone verbally. I have rosacea. People constantly saying “oh, looks like you got too much sun” is annoying. Just let me exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 07:02 PM
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Are you just meaning physical attraction? That’s how most women are sexually. Just finding someone physically attractive doesn’t mean we are attracted to them. And just because we are attracted doesn’t mean we are going to have sex with them right away. Most women need more than just looks too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:38 PM
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If you’re demisexual what are you considering “ugly?” Even if “a lot” of men want “connection” most men will still use any woman they find attractive enough, that will accept them, to get off. Most people aren’t demisexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:34 PM
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If women aren’t telling men to date ugly women maybe it’s men who are saying this to each other? Or it’s men saying women are saying this(when we aren’t) to just have something else to complain about? Anybody can cheat. Anybody can be a bad partner. Looks don’t make someone a good or bad a nice or mean person. Women on here constantly say men should be pickier. That wanting to have sex with the majority of us doesn’t make us feel special, wanted, desired, etc.. We use the term interchangeable fl…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:27 PM
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Please find one. Just one comment in ppd where a woman has told a guy here to date an ugly woman, that isn’t being sarcastic back to guys telling women to lower their standards. You don’t even have to have one that says “she will be grateful and kind” but that would be appreciated. And link it. Because I’m here all the time and I’ve never seen this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:08 PM
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So women have to submit to a man to show him she loves him. Men don’t submit because they don’t love women. Got it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 02:40 PM
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There’s no such thing as “the love of your life” I don’t believe in fairytales
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:50 AM
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False. Love isn’t a pie. I don’t have less to give just because I’ve given love to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:42 AM
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He’s the last man I loved. He was still better than the others before him. Don’t know what it’s like to be loved by someone as much as I love them. Romantically speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 06:27 AM
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What’s confusing? I’d pick a career and friends over marrying the love of my life without friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 04:57 AM
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Skinny nerdy guy can still absolutely be a physical threat. But I’m attracted to skinny nerdy guys. So….id probably flirt with him…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:33 AM
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Career and friends. I’d lose an ex that wasn’t physically attracted to me. I’d have the job of my dreams. Without my friends at different points in my life I’d be dead by now. There’s no question. And that still makes a tiny part of me sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/26 03:29 AM
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Sounds like young people to me. Some people take longer to grow out of the “mean girl” phase. No it’s not normal in all groups of women. Or even most. Does it happen. Sure. I’ll say “bad” things about some of my friends “behind their back” but I say it to their face too. Usually out of concern with another friend to see if we can try to help them out or how we can disengage from drama or something else.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:59 PM
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It depends on which one of my friends I’m giving advice to. I’d ask them what they’ve been doing. I’d ask to look at their profiles if OLD is one of their dating tools. I’d ask to look at previous conversations. Edit. Adding because my thumb hit save before I finished my thought. I’d gear my advice to what I know about them, what they want, who they are, how they interact, blah blah blah.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 09:20 PM
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More women tend to be more clean and household oriented (decorating and shit) than men. I’m not one of them. I have adhd. Cleaning is hard. I hate knickknacks. Poofs. Hundreds of pillows. I have too much shit even though I try to be as minimalist as I can.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:35 PM
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My low cut off is 5’4”. I’m 5’6”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:29 PM
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Women who are clean want men they are attracted to, to be as clean as they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:28 PM
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🤞
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:25 PM
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Sex might just be sex for you. It’s basic friction for most men. Knowing men will have sex with me without desiring me makes me feel even uglier than I already do.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 05:07 PM
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Hahaha. When I read that post the other day I thought it sounded like some PPD phishing post. Different women have different options. WOW shocker.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:14 PM
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Talk and communicate about it. Divide common chores. Make a schedule. Have reminder notes. When you see something out of place pick it up then. Keep at it. When she asks for help do it then not “later”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:46 PM
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Thanks. I’m used to it by now. Still sucks sometimes though. Don’t have anyone to touch or approach or engage with so it doesn’t really matter atm
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:39 PM
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I was called a slut when I was a virgin. Because I liked talking about sex and relationships and attraction and gender issues. I’ve also been called “scary” because I was “sexually aggressive.” I would have had a lot more sex in my youth if slut shaming disappeared.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:31 PM
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I get that. I do. But it won’t help single sexless men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:04 PM
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If you can’t find someone you’re attracted to and like and that is compatible with you and that doesn’t make your life worse why attach yourself permanently and breed with someone that doesn’t match that? You’ll end up resentful roommates. The kids will see the lack of affection. They’ll learn that’s what “love looks like.” I’d rather be single than end up being with someone just because I happened to want children.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:59 PM
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Because you’re not attracted to women like me. You’ll proudly use someone like me as a masturbatory aid while thinking I’m ugly and disgusting. You’ll make fun of women like me behind our backs and sometimes to our faces. You’ll have to get drunk first, or close your eyes. You’ll say mean things without realizing it. It’ll take you longer to cum or might not be able to cum at all. You won’t care if I cum or not. When you’re done PNC, will kick in, and most of the general fake niceness will go aw…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 01:50 PM
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It’s fun. I’ll send positive vibes your way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 07:36 AM
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I have a higher sex drive. I’m also ugly. I have to make up for it somehow. You’re still only talking about people who are already having sex. These behaviors aren’t something I do for men I’m not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:38 AM
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I tend to touch my partners more than they touch me. I’m the one that gets turned down for sex. I’m the one that’s enthusiastic. I’m the one that initiates.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:34 AM
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You’re not listening. 1:be physically attractive to the woman in question 2:have something else about you that the woman in question finds attractive. An interaction, a behavior, a characteristic, a talent. Etc. 3.have the right timing, wording, effort, levels of engagement that work for the woman in question. 4: don’t fuck it up. All of this is dependent on luck and the mental, physical, emotional, and whatever else state the woman in question might be going through at the moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:15 AM
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I enjoy sex. I miss good sex. I have very little icks in the bedroom. I still need to be attracted to the guy. I’ve had sex with men I’m not attracted to. It makes me feel hollow and disgusted in myself. Like why would I assist someone I’m not even attracted to, to use my body to masturbate with.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:10 AM
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Widen our pool by adding men we aren’t attracted to….so lowering our standards and settling?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:08 AM
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Yes. Like I said in a different thread on this same post. Physical attraction is number 1. Edit. Same thread. I looked higher up
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:03 AM
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As an obese, older, and ugly woman. Men like you are why I don’t engage in sex as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 03:01 AM
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So we should settle when we are young so that we don’t age out? How is me being on a relationship where I’m not attracted to the man (the outsides and the insides) going to make me happier in the long run. I see dead bedrooms and resentment with that scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:59 AM
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What should women do to help themselves that would also help men at the same time?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:56 AM
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I didn’t say she only has to find you physically attractive. These are not “or” situations. Physically attracted is the first thing you need. Then some sort of positive interaction. Flirting. Banter. The right compliments for the type of person she is. The right timing. There isn’t a rule book. There’s no “do this” for any sort of guarantee.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 02:27 AM
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She also needs to be physically attracted to you. Number 1. That’s for 99.99999999 % of people. Being nice can help after that. It also depends on what “nice” means to you and how you go about it. Are you being genuinely nice. Or you faking it? Are you being a doormat? If she doesn’t think you’re attractive it doesn’t matter how “nice” you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:33 AM
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Can you provide links to any self proclaimed feminist that says that being nice is all anyone has to do to get laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/26 12:08 AM
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So they are a man with a functioning dick? Why would that be a problem for me?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:20 PM
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I care about mental health already. No I wouldn’t take it “more” seriously. I already compliment people in general. Absolutely not. Absolutely not. I have sex with a partner when both of us want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:08 PM
1

So you date down so that you don’t care when they reject you?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:02 PM
1

Then what were you implying by stating “actively looksmaxing”
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:59 PM
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It is what it is
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:57 PM
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I’m attracted to what I’m attracted to. Can’t change that. They are attracted to what they are attracted to. I can’t change that either. I don’t want to date people I’m not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:16 PM
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I know. The ratio is more when you’re unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 07:02 PM
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Being slow faded. I’ll be ghosted my the end of the week I’m sure. Oh well. Didn’t really expect anything different.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 06:44 PM
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Would you be working 10-12 hours a day if you weren’t partnered? With that kind of schedule are you even hanging out with your children and partner? You’re teaching your children through your actions that men are to be absent in the raising of children while also needing to be raised by their wives. You’re teaching that men who work can’t take care of their daily lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:33 PM
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PNC happens because men’s standards for sex are so low. She’s attractive enough to override whether you’ll actually like her. The hotter she is the less you’ll care about any character flaws. Women have no idea is you’re sleeping with her because she’s female, you’re balls are full, you’re actually interested in her as a person, or simply because she showed interest. Women aren’t special to men in the early stages of attraction. We are mostly interchangeable fleshlights. And you didn’t address m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 05:18 PM
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Do you want your partner to pick up your clothes and wash them for you? Does your partner have to keep your schedule and have to remind you to keep your commitments? Does she know the names of your child’s teachers and doctors and friends but you don’t because you can just ask her? Is your partner supposed to cook for you and clean up after you? Why aren’t you taking care of your own adulting needs? Good parents are supposed to teach their children to become independent adults. They come into yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 04:48 PM
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For roommates I like ones I don’t see very often. That stay in their rooms. Clean up after themselves in common areas. That aren’t overly loud. That pay rent on time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:35 AM
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For a while now…my finance is 19….how old was she when you met? When you started dating? Got engaged? She is going to HOPEFULLY grow up. And she’s going to become more of the person she’s going to be. You’re in your 50’s. You’re mostly done becoming. Either you’re going to have to keep her from becoming. Or you’re going to break her in other ways for this to work long term. You’re her future baggage. Congratulations.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:25 AM
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That might be a perfect world for you. But it wouldn’t be a perfect world for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:05 AM
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Based on first impressions. Looks. There’re Nos, maybes, and yeses. A maybe and a yes can become nos through further interactions. A maybe can become a yes through further interactions. A no stays a no. No matter the interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 09:02 AM
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PNC is a thing. A man who has sex with a woman who’s only attractive enough…will find she isn’t attractive enough once his balls are empty. Did you just say that more men would have less casual sex if more women wanted casual sex? Or that if more women understood that more men just want casual then they’d have less sex because less women would have sex with them? I’m not understanding that last part.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:53 AM
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Yesterday I was invited to play mtg today with 3 of my guy friends. We played from 630pm until 1230 am. I think was 4 or 5 games. I had a blast. Didn’t need to ask anyone for permission. Or let anyone know I was going to be home late. I was just an adult hanging out with friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/26 08:42 AM
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But he might have only found her attractive enough. To get hard. We don’t know. We just know that you’d stick your dick in millions of women if given the opportunity. Having sex with us doesn’t make us feel special.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 10:15 PM
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Just women. He still has guy friends. He said he’s currently in a relationship. He said if his guy friends brought a girlfriend around he’d basically ignore the women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 09:39 PM
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If you were friends with a woman and she got into a relationship, would you stop being her friend? Why? She’s still a person. She’s just not available anymore. Why does she become less when she gets a boyfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 08:42 PM
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So women to you are only for dating purposes. Thats not the norm for a lot of people. Women are just other humans who can be interesting and fun to be around without wanting or needing to have sex with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 08:06 PM
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Attraction is neither moral or amoral. It just is. Unselected people are unselected for many reasons. Looks, attitude, situation, timing, luck, etc..
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 02:27 PM
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I have a lot of different groups of friends. I get invited to do things with these friends. Sometimes in advance. Sometimes with short notice. I like going for late night drives. To clear my head or get out of the house. I have a very irregular eating schedule. I’m ND and adhd. Sometimes I’ll do nothing for hours or do everything in minutes. My freedoms are just me trying to navigate this world the best I know how to. Adding another person adds challenges. Compromise. I’m okay with a lot of comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/26 01:51 PM
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Men’s right stop about the life of the fetus once he’s no longer in possession of his sperm. Women’s right about the life of the fetus stops when she no longer carries the fetus. Once a child is born both people are responsible for the resulting child.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:49 PM
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Paper abortions are bullshit. Just be a deadbeat dad. And child support dodger. Like the men before you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:31 PM
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If men don’t want to be parents, don’t cum inside women they don’t want to be potential parents with. Easy. They don’t get to force a woman to have or not have a child. It’s her body. She isn’t an incubator. Women and children are dying at higher rates because they are being forced to carry fetuses they don’t want or aren’t viable. We have bounties against us. We can be imprisoned. They are trying to extradite us from safe states.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:20 PM
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I didn’t say most women did. I said most women I know do. I’m in a very progressive state. In the suburbs. In a low middle class socioeconomic area. My friends have some range but those are generally the types of people I know. I don’t know all those types. There’s different types of abuse and both men and women are capable of doing all of them. I think the biggest concern about men is physical violence. Yes women can and are physically violent too. Men are stronger. Their physical violence tend…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 09:12 PM
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I understand some of their concerns. The best interest of the child should be the most important issue. I just think that if one parent has concerns about it they need to make those clear to the judge. A bad actor is going to be a bad actor. An abusive situation can be pushed by courts. There’s no magic answer. But I think forcing men to stop being as deadbeat dads as possible is a good thing and it takes strain off of many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 08:48 PM
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Was I not being modest enough for my minister to molest me at 3?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:33 PM
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Roe v wade was overturned. They are talking about getting rid of no fault divorce. American women’s rights and our mortality rates are dependent on what state we happen to be in at the time. A man can go to all 50 states and have the same rights in all of them. Pointing out structural differences in society isn’t a victim mentality. Most of the women I know are against male circumcision. They are against the draft. They are for 50/50 custody. Some people want to blame others always.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 06:03 PM
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You’re settling for number 58. If number 13 also said yes you’d either fuck both or not fuck 58 at all. You’re settling for what is offered. Not what you prefer.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 05:46 PM
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I’m not physically attractive. Most men who act as if they want to have sex with me want to have sex with me because I have a vagina. I might occasionally get an ego boost out of it. But it’s fleeting. Temporary. Usually doesn’t even last the length of time of the act of sex. I’m not special. I have a vagina. It doesn’t make me feel special. Desired. Wanted. For a man to put his penis inside of me. How is being used to masturbate supposed to make me happy?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:28 PM
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If I’m in a relationship why would I have a problem being called a cheater and a liar? Can you hear yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:21 PM
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And women know that we aren’t special to men just because they want to sleep with us.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:16 PM
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So has a vagina and is alive. Got it👍 Some men will have sex with women they don’t like, don’t want and aren’t that attracted to if it means they get to have sex. My filters=I find attractive. Can pay his own bills. Shows effort. Shows consideration. Communicates in a way that works with my brain. Cares about me and my wellbeing. Not an active alcoholic. Doesn’t do hard drugs. Doesn’t believe red pill bullshit. What I get is offers for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 04:14 PM
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Good relationship >being alone>bad relationship. What a good relationship is, is subjective. For all parties involved. If the relationship is good for one person but not for the other, the whole relationship isn’t good. Some people are able to compromise on more things than others. Some peoples priorities are different than others. Most People like to complain. Humans hardly ever talk about the normal healthy happy stuff that happens in their lives. They vent and bitch about the minority parts.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:05 PM
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I’m black pilled and also believe in female privilege. Ugly women can get a man to stick their dicks inside of us. We aren’t special because of it. He’s not complaining about not getting attractive women. He’s complaining about ran throughs.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:59 PM
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So you’re blaming her having sex before as the reason she dumped you instead of you being unemployed?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:56 PM
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I really like sex. I miss having good sex. I have a high libido and am incredibly enthusiastic in bed. Having a man put his penis inside me doesn’t mean it’s good sex. It doesn’t mean he wants anything to do with me other than put his penis inside of me. It doesn’t mean he likes me. It doesn’t mean he sees me as human. It doesn’t mean I’m special. Mostly it means he wants to masturbate using my body.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:54 PM
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Oh. So you’re a chad who doesn’t like women. Shocker. “Ran through”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:47 PM
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So you are a “Chad” Tall and attractive. You have options. Your standards are higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:41 PM
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You’re accusing your partner of cheating. Why wouldn’t she freak out?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:38 PM
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Men in and outside or relationships have said or done things that have lasting emotional and mental harm on how I view myself and other men and society as a whole.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:22 PM
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We are more than bangmaids. I like men. I have a lot of feminine traits. Not caring about anything other than me having a vagina isn’t a flex. Saying nothing else about me matters isn’t a turn on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:28 PM
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Yes. Most women need more than just sex to feel sexy and desired and wanted. We need the words and actions outside of that. Many men complain about having to show effort because sleeping with us “should be enough.” It’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:25 PM
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I’m unattractive. I like all sorts of men. Men on here constantly talk about women needing to lower their standards so that men they aren’t attracted to can also use their vaginas. They get jealous of Chad because they also want to pump and dump. They wish they had a harem they could be mean to and manipulative towards.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:22 PM
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It’s fascinating how men think wanting to put their penises inside of us should make us happy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:16 PM
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False
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 05:12 AM
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So that should make you feel special. Not her. If more said yes you’d fuck them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 03:59 AM
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I’m aware. (Most) Women aren’t special to (most) men. Edit. Added parentheses
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 03:52 AM
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Honestly it’s mostly just luck unfortunately. There could be a guy who lives 3 streets down from me. Who thinks I’m sexy. And likes my personality. And shows affection in a way that makes sense to my brain. And all that stuff. But if I never meet him. Or get to interact with him. I’m sol. Or like my actual situation of finding men in other countries with no real way of meeting them to see if anything is real.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 03:48 AM
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I think that’s the hardest thing for a lot of men to understand. Is that our attractions are just different for the majority of us. There’s no’s, maybes, and yes’s. I think men and women probably have the same number of nos. We don’t tend to think about them much. I think women have a lot more maybes. Men have a lot more yess. Men’s arousals are mostly visual. Women’s arousals are mostly mental. Men’s hormones are generally consistent. Women’s hormones are cyclical. Finding a guy to be a maybe. …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 03:27 AM
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If we have sex. The only difference between me and any other number of women is that I said yes. If you’d sleep with 60% of women on sight. I’m nothing more than 1 in 60. If the other 59 said yes too, you’d also sleep with them. You’ll take what you can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 03:10 AM
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If I know that if I’m in a room with 99 other women. And I know that you would sleep with 60% of us. Not knowing anything about us other than we have vaginas. And that we are physically attractive enough. I’m not going to feel special if I have sex with you. It just means that I was willing. I’m one of 60. If you had the opportunity to sleep with the others you would.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 03:07 AM
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So you’re settling for whoever will have you within that 50%. Her only difference is she said yes. She isn’t special.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 03:00 AM
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So, you show her. Thats what more men need to understand. That the effort and way you interact with the women you supposedly like means so much because the act of sleeping with us doesn’t mean that much to most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:58 AM
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If you don’t care about her, don’t pretend. If you don’t like hanging out with her, don’t. If you don’t think about her when she’s not there don’t say you did. If she’s just a vagina in a pretty flesh suit don’t expect her to feel special.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:49 AM
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They say it all the time. But we are supposed to take it as a compliment that we are holes. And not take it personally that they hate us because it’s just our nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:46 AM
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1:be attractive enough my penis can stay hard 2:have a vagina 3:be willing If you’d sleep with 60 women out of 100. But only number 58 says yes. You’re settling. She’s just good enough. She also knows that you’d sleep with the majority of women in that room. That you being willing to sleep with her doesn’t make her more special than most other women. Her only difference is she was there first.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:44 AM
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Good. I bet you do more than “the bare minimum” because you actually care about her. You care about her wellbeing. She cares about yours. Dates don’t feel like chores because you actually enjoy spending time with her. You consider her when she’s not around. Am I right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:34 AM
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Unfortunately for you that’s not the norm. Meaning you might have to be okay with showing more effort to make your women feel actually special.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:30 AM
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Don’t know if it’s the same guys. There’s like 4 or 5 of them lately. The one I’m talking about about said that women only enjoy sex for what it feels like for us and has nothing to do with the guy we were having sex with. Then he brought up getting bj’s. I asked if women would blow men when they get no physical or mental stimulation from it. He said it was comphet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:22 AM
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If men waited to see if they actually liked the woman before sleeping with her then it wouldn’t feel like settling. Because it meant you were working with more information then1: has a vagina 2: makes the right shapes. 3: is willing Edit added numbers and #3
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:18 AM
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Most people aren’t suicidal. Most men would fuck any number of women without knowing anything about them. They will take what they can get as long as they aren’t repulsed. Thats settling. I’m going with the odds.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:04 AM
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So how is establishing a society where women need to date men beneath them equality? How is it not about getting “weak” men laid?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 02:01 AM
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Being seen and used as an object isn’t something I think is special. Hence the quotes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:58 AM
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So yes you are asking women to lower their standards and be less fulfilled so that weak men can get pussy. You want to bring women down so that weak men can get their dicks wet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:57 AM
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Yes. Some women settle. Because they can’t find everything they want. Men settle because they don’t want anything other than a vagina and pretty shapes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:55 AM
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Most people don’t know when anyone is suicidal around them. We hide it very well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:53 AM
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Men settle. Women are just one of any. If you’d have sex with 60% of the women you find attractive; not knowing anything about her other than she has a vagina and you like the way she looks enough to not lose your erection. She isn’t special. You didn’t choose her. You accepted her. Just like you’d accept the other millions of women if they let you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:50 AM
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We actually choose men. The individual man means something to us. We like them. We love them. They are chosen. Higher standards mean we think the men we choose are better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:43 AM
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You think these “weak” men want to keep being sexless? Cool. Then why did you bring up women to help them “find a suitable partners” of give them “dating opportunities”. “We need to establish a society that women feel encouraged and not “discouraged” from pursuing a man lower than her”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:41 AM
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Men want to feel “special” by a woman treating him as an object like men treat women. Women want to feel special how women care about the whole man not just his dick.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:36 AM
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I agree. Women choose men. Men are special to us. Men settle for women. We aren’t special to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:32 AM
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And yet we know that you do and are.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:31 AM
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One of my gay friends blows a lot of “straight” guys off of grinder. Do these men actually think they are straight or are they ashamed to be slightly attracted to men? There’s also the different between not sexually attracted and revolted. I think more women can be neutral about a woman’s body and enjoy the sensations of being with a woman while more men are repulsed by the thought of other men so find women being okay with women as being gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 01:07 AM
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She could pick straight. Or bi. Or just queer. Or something different. Realizing that once every 5-10 years you might find another woman sexually attractive doesn’t really mean you think your whole sexuality is different. I think more Gen Z women identifying as not straight just means they are more aware that not everything is set in stone. Attraction can be dependent on more than just what’s always been the case. And some women just don’t want to be male centric. So identifying as not straight …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:27 AM
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Exactly. The idea that women want anything but the actual man they are having sex with and dating is saying that women aren’t attracted to men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:22 AM
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Would you call a woman who was 97% sexually attracted to men. And 100% romantically attracted to men bi?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:08 AM
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I call it cope. Dude literally would say if a woman didn’t want to have sex with him, it was because she was a lesbian. If she did want to sleep with him, she really didn’t and only did it because comphet.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/26 12:05 AM
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If the average guy was in a room with 100 women. And he thought 70% were attractive enough. He’d have sex with any of them if they were to say yes. Not knowing anything other than they have a vagina and he likes the shapes her body makes enough to not lose wood. There’s nothing special about any of them. They are just a place to put his penis. If he knew that all of them would sleep with him he’d start with who he thought was the most attractive and work his way down. Still now knowing anything …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 11:39 PM
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Yes. We know we are interchangeable fleshlights and that men don’t actually care about us. Women pick men. Men are special to us. Men settle for women. We are just things to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 10:03 PM
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Now you’re changing the subject. Weight and height are different things. 50 pounds is a huge difference. And CAN improve looks significantly. Genetics. Men are usually taller than women. Most women like men taller than them. By how much is a personal preference.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:31 PM
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Yeah. Stress and hospital and Mounjaro. A man going from 250 to 200 can make a huge difference. Especially in the face.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:22 PM
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I’ve lost a little over 100
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:16 PM
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I believe in female privilege too. I’m blackpilled ish. My views on how some men think has been changing. Edit to add. There wouldn’t have been a date one a year ago before I lost more weight.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:11 PM
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Not feeling well. Migraine. Got worse throughout day.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 06:53 PM
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If they desire you, they desire you. Doesn’t matter if they could also desire someone else somewhere else. Who says another man is “more desirable” because he got there a different way?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 06:18 PM
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Don’t know. Maybe. We are still talking. He’s bringing up coming over on another day. Getting up super early and going to work the next day. Still just words over text though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:55 PM
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Attraction is complex and layered. Physical attraction, mental attraction, emotional attraction. Proximity can increase attraction. It’s not fake attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:48 PM
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Date 3 was rain checked. Trying not to take it personally. We’ll see what happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:22 PM
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A verification that her cheating didn’t result in a pregnancy. If the hospital mixed up the baby then the dna wouldn’t match either parent. Like the mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 05:08 PM
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How could she have gotten pregnant with someone else’s child without cheating?!? Do you think it’s also okay to ask for pictures of your current location, checking your phone, turn on current location, asking for receipts, (not because I think you’re cheating I just need proof you’re not cheating even though I don’t think you are I need some sort of proof you’re not) If you ask for a paternity test. I’m taking it. And showing you the door. You can ask for 50/50 custody if you want. You’re paying…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 04:57 PM
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How could she get pregnant with someone else’s child without cheating? You’re accusing her of cheating. You’re saying she’s not only capable but that she did and you believe there’s a chance the kid isn’t yours.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 04:40 PM
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“I don’t want to believe you cheated. But I think there’s a possibility you cheated. I’m only going to have a problem if that cheating results in me having to raise someone else’s child. So take this test that only shows whether your cheating got you pregnant.”
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 12:41 PM
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Technically the opposite of love is apathy not hate. Asking if your partner loves you is asking if your partner loves you. Asking for a paternity test is asking if your cheating resulted in a pregnancy. I’m not flipping anything around. How would she be pregnant with someone else’s child if she didn’t cheat? How is asking for a paternity test not saying “I believe you are capable of cheating on me and I believe you did. I need this test to show me that even though I believe you cheated on me, th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 12:17 PM
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How would she be pregnant with someone else’s child if she didn’t cheat? You’re accusing her of cheating! Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 11:08 AM
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If your personality is unlikable how I’m I supposed to like you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:33 AM
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I can absolutely want gay rights and not want to be in an lgbtqia+ relationship. Im not going to say who gay people should date and marry. I just think they should be able to marry just like straight people. Gay rights isn’t about making sure every bear gets his twink. “Weak” men can date and marry with the same rules as everyone else. Nobody has to lower their standards to date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:31 AM
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So what you’re really asking for is for women to lower their standards and pick weak men because…you wanting your dick wet is more important that her attractions standards for her own life?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:27 AM
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I wanted to raise our child together. You decided I’m a cheater. You don’t trust me. There is no relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:10 AM
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If you ask for a dna test you’re saying that you believe your partner cheated on you. Thats a huge giant dagger in the relationship. Even when the test comes back it doesn’t mean the partner didn’t cheat. It just means they didn’t get pregnant if they cheated. So you’re still not sure if they cheated but you still believe they would, could, and did. The relationship is over.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:09 AM
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You’re literally saying you believe your partner cheated on you. You don’t trust your partner. That’s enough for me to break up with someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 08:04 AM
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That’s true. But you either trust your partner of you don’t. If you don’t. Break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:55 AM
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Just don’t breed with anyone. You don’t trust them. Thats the first reason to break up. Don’t be with someone you can’t trust. If a guy asked for a dna test. He’s saying I don’t trust you and I believe you cheated on me. That’s insulting. So I’d take the test and break up.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:49 AM
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You’re already accusing her of cheating. I’d break up too.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:45 AM
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She opens her mouth for a dna test. It’s a swab. It’s not physically or mentally taxing. If you’re afraid the hospital made a mistake then she can get the test and you don’t have to accuse her of cheating.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:42 AM
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She can get the dna test then.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:40 AM
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You’re accusing your partner of cheating. That’s offensive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:35 AM
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She’s too tired to open her mouth and spit?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:32 AM
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She could get the dna test is that was the case…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:31 AM
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You’re accusing her of cheating. Yes it absolutely has to do with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:28 AM
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If you asked me for a paternity test. You’re saying 1 that you believe I’m capable of cheating on you and 2 that you believe I did cheat on you. There absolutely will be hesitation. Then acceptance. I’ll take the test. And I’ll break up with you after it shows you’re the father.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/26 07:26 AM
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A traffic light can’t have a bad day. Or just get promoted. It wasn’t cheated on. It doesn’t feel bloated. It’s not on its second day of its period. It doesn’t have a girlfriend. It doesn’t have a happy childhood…you’re asking people to ignore their lives to adhere to rules about dating when dating is one of the most personal things a person can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 09:25 PM
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Does everybody adhere to them the same way all the time? Edit. Are they the same everywhere we go?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 09:18 PM
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It’s always going to be confusing because different people like and experience things differently. They have their perceptions. You have yours. We all use a different lens. Behaviors we learn, are about our own experiences and whether there was perceived success or failure. Different lives. Different behaviors. Also since women’s hormonal cycle are usually cyclical, women will change how we react to certain situations depending on where we are in that cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 09:17 PM
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Traffic lights, passwords, and vending machines aren’t people. You’re asking every single person to agree on a set of social rules made up by other people. And adhere to them all the time. You’re asking humans to ignore their own agencies and experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 09:01 PM
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I have a high n count. I have my favorite moments or memorable ones. But I don’t have like a tier list. I don’t think about other men when I’m with someone. Most people are just average lovers. Making women cum less than men because we need more work generally speaking. When I’m with a man that cares. That I can feel safe with. That I can feel vulnerable with. I can cum way easier than when I’m with just some random dude. The relationship with my partner will make the sex better. A dick for the …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 07:52 PM
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I’m one of the ones that will initiate first. But I’m unattractive and ND so that’s probably a big part of it. I don’t do it often because yeah I get turned down. It doesn’t feel good. And when I don’t get turned down it’s mostly because they just wanted a vagina to put their penis in.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 07:33 PM
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I don’t like that my physical body and appearance is allowed to be commented on. I have rosacea. In the summer I wear makeup to cover my red cheeks because I’m tired of people asking or commenting about me “getting too much sun” I wear it to be more invisible. To fit it. I don’t like that I can’t be more sexually aggressive. That I’m viewed as easy or a slut if I openly flirt with a guy. I don’t like that I can’t tell if he’s flirting back because he’s interested in me or because he’s interested…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 07:29 PM
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Do you like that she walks on egg shells? Is there a way that she could feel more comfortable around you?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 07:15 PM
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Doing a “bad” thing doesn’t make you a bad person. I think we judge ourselves and others differently depending on the situation. I know in most things I judge myself much harsher than others. I forget to give myself the grace I would my friends. And I’m also a hypocrite, telling people to do things that i myself am sometimes too scared, embarrassed, or insecure to do. We are all humans. We are flawed. Most of us aren’t abusive sociopaths or actual narcissists. We learn different behaviors and im…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 07:11 PM
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Absolutely not. I wouldn’t want to be legally required to have sex against my wants and I wouldn’t want my husband to have sex with me against his. That’s rape. That’s unfulfilling. That’s disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 02:08 PM
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Having sex because you think your partner is going to leave if you don’t isn’t arousal. It’s desperation.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 11:37 AM
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If you act like you don’t want me or that you want someone else. Go get someone else. I’m not running towards you I’m running away. If you want to bring me down then you don’t like or love me. If your plan is to cheat on me if you don’t get the amount of sex you’re wanting then again, you don’t like or love me. Why would I be in a relationship with someone like that?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 11:35 AM
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Attracted to her shapes and her vagina. Sure. Attracted to her as a person…debatable
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/26 11:15 AM
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I like how men look. I’m physically attracted to men. It’s not an overall thing. I like different things on different men. Men look different than women. Jaw shapes, shoulder distance. Height. Brow structure. Their smell can be different. The sound of their voices. I like a hairy chest but a smooth chest is good too. I like thick man thighs and a nice ass. I like the blessed V. I like strong hands. Backs. But I prefer eyes and smiles. How do they emote. Facial proportions. I also really like dic…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 01:18 PM
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Did teacher and student start dating shortly after she left highschool? Within 5 years, 10? That’s a factor. Within 5, I’d feel icky about it. I question if there was something during school.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 10:13 AM
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It’s a physical attraction preference. Just like big boobs. Or a slim body. Broad shoulders. Long hair. Whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 03:46 AM
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Do you want to be with someone you don’t want? Sounds like a recipe for resentment and dead bedroom to me. Fine. I used the wrong word there. Not “good guys.” But “guys that want commitment or long term.” Some of those guys just want to have sex with anyone. They don’t want a relationship with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 02:22 AM
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People aim at who they are attracted to. If someone wants to only swipe on just a few people they are attracted to that’s on them. Who cares? If you only like redheads it doesn’t matter what I say, if I’m a brunette. I wouldn’t want you to pretend to be attracted to me. I don’t blame you for not being attracted to me. Or not attracted to me enough. It is what it is. And me finding someone unattractive doesn’t mean he’s a good guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/26 02:01 AM
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FUCK THOSE TABLE TOP DESKS!! For my ass and belly and because I’m left handed!!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:18 PM
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I didn’t sit on outside furniture for 20 years or so. I would sit on the floor. Edit to add. Dude is gender neutral
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:14 PM
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Describe them using positive terminology then. How are these things normal or healthy behaviors?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:10 PM
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It’s life. My top was 380 briefly during a bad depression. Currently 220’s. Stress and mounjaro. Yeah the whale thing is just an asshole.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 06:06 PM
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How is manipulating and thinking of women as hormonal animals that need to be tamed a good thing in a healthy relationship. Treat women like teenagers. Neg them to make them feel less than so that you’re always better than them so they won’t leave you. Keep her down. Date down. Don’t love her or like her more than she loves or likes you. Play games. Treat relationships transactionally. Keep score. Use her insecurities against her.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 05:50 PM
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I’ve been negged. Many times. I’m obese and have low self esteem. But it instantly makes me stop and drop.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 05:44 PM
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Nobody is “out of someone’s league” if they find each other attractive. Attraction isn’t universal or objective. Just because you’re not attracted to someone doesn’t mean someone else isn’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 05:42 PM
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He’s going because they tend to have lower standards. So he can treat them possibly better than the men they are used to. But he gets to treat them worse than western women that he now hates. And this is only some passport bros. Some just go to buy pussy. Some go to find love. Some go and actually integrate into their society. I hate the term expat. You’re an immigrant. You’re not special because you’re white and from a western country.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 05:12 PM
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Whos treating who better?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:04 PM
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Most women. Like 97% or more aren’t thinking about the genetic potential of their sexual partners. They want someone they are attracted to primarily. Get along with. Share similar interests with.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:39 PM
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I mentioned gold diggers. They are in the west too. Men on here seem to complain about it when it comes to western women but like it in eastern women. Probably the conversion rates.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:35 PM
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What resources does a tall man have? He’s just tall. For some women it’s just a physical attraction preference. She’s not getting anything other than finding him attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:15 PM
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They aren’t really using their nationality. They are using their money. Western money. If you want to find a submissive gold digger. Or a woman raised where they don’t have full agency, or a woman who will pretend to love you for your resources, then Go for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:11 PM
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“Be nice, don’t be fat”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 01:27 PM
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Have YouTube on in the background. Listen to music. Live in my brain. Overthink. Hang with a dog some days. Adulting stuff. Chores. Draw. Play video games. Drive. Cook. Think about doing things.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:32 AM
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I wouldn’t make a very good sugar momma🤣 but I’m generally more patient than my younger counterparts. I’m more direct. I know myself better. I’m more understanding of age related issues because I was there already. They are usually more rare. Most of my female friends do not like younger men and some of them judge me negatively because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 03:18 AM
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I’m a woman who tends to like younger men. I hate the word cougar because it is predatory in nature. I will not entertain anyone under 25 on a dating app. I will not entertain anyone irl that can’t get into a bar (21 in the states.) From my experience though under 25 isn’t emotionally, intellectually, or socially mature enough to have anything more meaningful than just a hookup. I think how an age gap relationship starts is more important than the age gap itself. Who are the individuals in the r…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:53 AM
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You might come from money and privilege that I will never know. Having that kind of free time and money is a luxury most of us will never know.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:39 AM
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What solutions do you suggest? To help men with their intersexual dynamics? To help improve birth rates? To help men with their loneliness? Anything that doesn’t require women to take or have less?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:32 AM
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I don’t think financially providing and caring about someone’s wellbeing are mutually exclusive. I don’t want to be financially dependent on someone. I don’t want to not work when I can. I get a sense of pride from being able to take care of myself. I don’t want to diminish myself and be kept. I’m not a child. I’m not a doll. “Go buy yourself something pretty” feels patronizing.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 02:14 AM
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For some women sure. But I want to feel mentally and emotionally safe with my partner. I want to feel he’ll care about my wellbeing. I care about his. I want to make him smile. I want to feel we are both contributing to the betterment of our relationship. A good relationship should be 1+1=3. Both parties should be fully independent adults. And they should strive to be better together. I want my partner to provide me a safe space to be vulnerable. I want to provide that for them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 01:49 AM
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The realities of someone’s life don’t matter when you have depression and suicidal ideation
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 01:42 AM
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People, men and women, have killed themselves while in relationships. Depression and suicidal ideation doesn’t go away just because you’re partnered.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 01:41 AM
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My only social media is Reddit. I’m alone all day most days. So maybe 60-70% of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 01:38 AM
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Provider and protector don’t need to be financial.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 01:33 AM
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You want a woman who will sleep with strangers?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 01:18 AM
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I do Dutch while dating too. I think it’s a bit weird to ask or expect a stranger to pay for my food. I offered Dutch with my first date with this new guy. He had never had such an offer. He likes it. We did Dutch in the second date too. I did talk to a guy that said he insisted on paying once. He explained it as he was proud of his accomplishments and liked that he could pay for dates. That was a good enough reason for me and I told him I’d try to make sure he knew I appreciated it ever time. W…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/26 12:34 AM
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I’m a cheerleader caregiver type. I love when my friends get good things in their lives. Promotions, relationships, good life things. I’m single and I don’t have a great job. I don’t get jealous. I’m truly happy for them. I’m ND. Most of my friends are the same. We gravitated towards each other. Thats not common or uncommon. I’ve known many of my type of person that ends up getting used because of their forgiving, trusting, and loving nature. I’m extroverted and “collect” introverts.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:56 PM
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I’m sorry you don’t have better/more cheerleaders/caregivers in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:44 PM
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How do you see society if the sexually desired male was apathetic, stagnant, socially enept, passive, zero desire to better themselves, etc. the characteristics op described. I like men as a whole. I like them individually. I have very good friendships with men. Edit. I’m talking psychology and biology
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 04:35 PM
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I have childhood trauma that contributed to my weight gain. I used food for comfort, control, and a way to make myself less “desirable” to my abusers. There’s many different reasons a person might be fat. The world tells us it’s because we are lazy pieces of shit. It’s a moral failing on our parts. And sometimes we learn to believe it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:59 PM
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A friend of mine also ended up a SAHM because they would have had $50 at the end of the month after childcare. And that would have been eaten up and then some with gas. That relationship however was abusive in other ways at the end. Mental and emotional. Not physical or financial. She still had access to the money and was in charge of paying the bills with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:28 PM
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My first bullies were my ex best friend and her new friends. She dropped me because I was fat. I got voicemails (I’m old). Shoved. Picked on. Shamed. I ended up dropping out of the 7th grade. I started cutting shortly after that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:24 PM
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When other people fat shame me I cry, eat more, and sometimes hurt myself. It’s just more proof that I am the piece of shit I already think I am.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 03:19 PM
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That’s wonderful that you can take care of her when she needs it and that when she gets another job she’ll continue to contribute. imo that’s how it should work. Both bring a part of that into the relationship. She isn’t sitting there capable of working but not doing so because you’ll pay for all the things. Edit to add. I made more than my ex. He lost his job for a while. We didn’t live together but I paid for the dates and stuff for a while because of it. It hit his self esteem. He wanted to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:46 PM
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Again. You do you. It wouldn’t sit right with me. A friend of mine is now realizing she’s in a financially abusive relationship. Married 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:37 PM
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If that works for you, go for it. Like I said. For me, I couldn’t ever be kept. I couldn’t be financially dependent. I believe in putting in the same amount of effort into a relationship. Bill don’t need to be 50/50 but you should contribute the same amount of effort and energy into shared finances. I can work. I can have my own money. I can contribute financially. Why would I choose to lower myself?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:34 PM
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I changed wouldn’t to would. Thanks for pointing that out. Men wouldn’t care about their lives or livelihood. Stagnant, submissive, apathetic, zero self improvement. Women would have to take on the roll of leader. We’d have to make all the decisions. We’d be in control of society. We have lower libidos generally. We make the babies. We would just have breeding stock and the rest would be used for shear manpower.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:29 PM
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Having a budget isn’t the same as an allowance. Your wife doesn’t have all the money and allow you to use a certain part of it in a way that she approves of.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:17 PM
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If a man tried to give me an allowance, I’d tell him to go f himself. I’m an adult. Not a child. If you have a growing portfolio why aren’t you paying your own way?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 02:02 PM
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Not really. You don’t care about our personalities or our character. You just want to have sex with our holes. Pleasant looking vagina havers
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 01:38 PM
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A lot of women would just prefer you use a fleshlight if that’s how you see us. We aren’t special to men. We are holes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 01:34 PM
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Yes. It’s so wonderful being seen as hollow sex dolls.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 01:25 PM
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I would hate being financially dependent on someone else. You do you, I guess. For me it would feel transactional. I’m an adult. I can work and pay my own bills. I want a man to be my partner. Not my benefactor.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 01:24 PM
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Self-confidence: This is our view on our own abilities to do something. The level of self-confidence is usually a result of overcoming certain obstacles or working to improve a skill. Triumph in establishing these traits and skills builds on our confidence. Different people will be confidence in different areas. It’s not a more or less thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 12:52 PM
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“Be nice, don’t be fat”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 12:46 PM
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It’s not meant to build people up. Fat people hurt and kill themselves from bullying too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 12:16 PM
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Or they find people that like the fact that they have vaginas.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 12:14 PM
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I wouldn’t/couldnt spend 20k+ for all the skin removal surgeries. But if I did, no. I’d focus on the scars and the imperfections left by the surgeries. Other people might find me more attractive. I’ve noticed that I get more attention now as I’ve lost weight. It makes me feel more jaded. Realizing just how shallow humans are. It feeds my bdd.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:59 AM
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I’ve lost over 100 pounds so far. I hate what I look like more now than I did fatter. I have looser skin. Sags. Jiggles. I feel like my own catfish. I look one way in clothes and another way out of them. I hate the idea of getting naked in front of a man because the look of disappointment really sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:49 AM
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Body dysmorphic disorder. I hyperfocus on things I don’t like about myself and possibly see them different than reality. I’m still fat and ugly. But I perceive my fatness and ugliness harsher than I maybe should.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:41 AM
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It’s not my fantasy. It’s my inferred reality of the information op gave us. If men’s roles were meant to be submissive, apathetic, stagnant, boring, zero self improvement etc.. Women would have to also be different. Our social structures would be different. Our mating styles would be different. Women would have to be in control. We would be the dominant sex. Edit. Changed wouldn’t to would. Stupid autocorrect
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:38 AM
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I have bdd. I currently hate my right ankle. I understand women tend to have more insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:34 AM
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If that’s what makes you feel more confident to exist in life. Go for it. You’re still going to have to deal with the consequences of taking that stuff off at the end of the day, night, date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:24 AM
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You’re thinking boring, stagnant, submissive, docile, apathetic men would be treated like chads. But they wouldn’t be. They would be treated like uneducated drones. If the outstanding characteristics women wanted were submissive, pushover, yes men. We wouldn’t be treating them with reverence. You’d be used for your inherent strength and if naturally physically good enough maybe sperm donation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 11:07 AM
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You liked how they looked. “Be nice, don’t be fat” Very low bar. If they were truly boring, apathetic, mediocre, and stagnant they’d just exist basically. They wouldn’t get horny. They wouldn’t have a job. They wouldn’t have friends. They wouldn’t care about you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/26 10:57 AM
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I said pinned as in have sex with. That’s usually a private setting. Not in a martial arts class. Have I “blamed men” for anything so far? It seems a bit rude to delete a comment you made to the other response to this comment and then edit and add stuff to this comment. Edit to add. This was my response to that comment you deleted. “I still have men in my life. I still try to date. I still have sex. But I have to push thoughts down and still take precautions. I have to be ignorant and informed a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:11 PM
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I don’t know why you’re trying to argue reality. Men and women live on the same planet but we live in different worlds. You have no idea what it’s like being a woman. With our bodies. Our hormones. Our lived experiences. Our brains. Our evolutionary instincts. I have no idea what it’s like to be a man. But I’m not telling men who are upset with women for not sleeping with them to just stop being horny. It’s biological.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:52 PM
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Yes. Being raped or sexually assaulted is part of the fear with men being stronger. But so is death or injury. I’m not usually naked and vulnerable with my friends. I don’t willingly get pinned under my friends. Having a man in my life is generally more risky than not having a man in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:42 PM
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When it’s a man and a woman the man is physically stronger. Women are the weaker sex. We are the prey. We know this. We have to live with it. We can’t think about it all the time or we wouldn’t interact with men ever. Men are less risk averse. Women are more risk averse. It makes sense biologically. Men have more extremes. On nearly all metrics. If the average woman goes physically abusive on her guy he can fight her off and most likely will win. If the average man goes physically abusive on his…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:34 PM
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For women most men are stronger than us. Even if they are smaller than us.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 10:19 PM
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One where you’re not quite sure but still feel off about it. Or stuff that might get rationalized away. “He/she didn’t mean anything by it” “I didn’t say no really” “I didn’t want to but I kinda just went along with it” “he/she was just being funny”
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 07:46 PM
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I find sex (the act and the biology), relationships, attraction, gender, human interactions, and intentions vs actions fascinating. Probably my ND mixed with childhood trauma.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:23 PM
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I think we need to teach better internet literacy. That influencers and algorithms are not real life. That rage and controversy get clicks. A like on the internet isn’t an actual like irl. That everybody is flawed. I also think we need to praise little boys more. For acting like a decent human being. The basics. “You did a really good job of not yelling and instead expressed yourself vocally. I know you were angry. You took your time. Felt it. Then expressed it. I’m proud of you.” That kind of s…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 05:19 PM
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You have a daughter. So you were in a relationship previously. Were any of the aforementioned character traits part of the reason you are no longer in that relationship? I’m not saying it ended because of you. The woman could also have been the reason but she also picked you for a reason. Possibly so she could be the bad guy. I don’t know your situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:20 PM
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I’ve met a lot of people who are apathetic in their relationships. Apathy is the opposite of love. It’s dead bedroom. It’s basically roommates. It’s what happens when you don’t work on the relationship. When you don’t put in effort. “Love” fades. Apathy remains. But staying and being together is easier and cheaper or whatever than breaking up and having to change.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:02 PM
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OP’s definition. Apathetic=don’t really care about much You’re choosing to place the apathy on the pursuing but not the having. Think about what kind of women like passive, apathetic, awkward, and boring men. Think about the men who are truly like this description that have basically given up on living. Put them together. They could have sex for reproductive purposes only. She could be boring and apathetic too. Or she could go out every night with the girls and he’d be cool with it. There’s a lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:49 PM
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But you’re apathetic about it. You wouldn’t care. You wouldn’t value or appreciate or like her. You would exist. She would exist. Probably wouldn’t even have sex. What’s the point. You’ll just get sweaty and it takes effort. Jacking off is easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:25 PM
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Boring, apathetic, stagnant, mediocre. These sound like how you want to live? SSDD is the goal? You wouldn’t even care if you had a woman and you wouldn’t care for the woman you got. I’m aware most men don’t care if they make a woman’s life worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:19 PM
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Why? Boring, apathetic, mediocre, stagnant. This is how you want to live your life? Just SSDD. You wouldn’t even like having the woman that’s around you. What’s the point in living if you aren’t experiencing living. Breathing doesn’t mean you’re alive. You’re just existing.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 03:06 PM
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It would be better for some men. Some men are naturally extroverted or charismatic or funny. It would be worse for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 02:59 PM
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I’ve had sex for validation, for fun, for the experience, to hurt myself, to feel better, to feel worse, because I was in love, because I was horny, because I was bored.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:47 PM
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That sounds like a truly dystopian society. Feels unhuman. Robotic. Not worth living in.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:45 PM
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Which women are you trying to argue with? I don’t think every man only wants a vagina. But a lot of men are okay with just having sex with someone who happens to have a vagina. The less attractive a woman is the more “I guess she’ll do” attitudes she has to deal with. She isn’t valued at that point. Shes just a vagina haver.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:38 PM
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I didn’t say that. I’m just saying even if you were with “the ugly guy” it doesn’t change any of the concerns or safeguards. There’s still inherent risk associated with being with a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:26 PM
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Lack of opportunity being the reason here. Admitting they would cheat more if they had the opportunity to isn’t a great look. Being ugly doesn’t make you a good person. Being attractive doesn’t make you a bad person.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:09 PM
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It’s called cognitive dissonance. Nearly every woman has had a moment in her life when she was play fighting or wrestling with a guy friend or family member and had the realization that if they wanted to they could hurt or kill her. The reality of being the actual physical weaker sex. Nearly all women have been sexually harassed. Lots of women have been sexually assaulted. More if you add in grey area assault. If we actively thought about everything that could go wrong, all the time, no human wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 11:49 AM
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I know I’ll never look like someone who wasn’t ever fat. And I know that I’m my own catfish because of it. I’ve already lost over 100 pounds. I look completely different with clothes on.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:59 AM
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I’m on it for my diabetes. Still obese. At best I’ll get to overweight according to bmi. The more I lose. The more attention I get. The better people treat me. The more jaded I get.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 04:50 AM
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I don’t think I’m better than them. It’s usually the other way around. They think they are better than me and that they are throwing me a bone.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 01:43 AM
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What are those traits?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:27 AM
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There are fat married men, short married men, men who make less money than their wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/26 12:23 AM
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It’s the same for my friends though. Most women just want to be with guys they enjoy being around. That add something to their lives. Same with men. They want a woman that adds to their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:29 PM
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I’ve never asked a man how much he makes. I don’t care. Have enough to pay your bills. Height 5’4” and up. I’m 5’6. I don’t care what your social standing is. What does that even mean. I want someone I’m attracted to. I have a lot of likes in the physical appearance department. I want someone who shows effort. I want someone I can talk with. And hang out with. That’s comfortable. Someone I feel safe with. Someone that has similar interests or can talk passionately about theirs and listen activel…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 10:21 PM
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That’s because you’re putting more value on the act of PIV sex than the resulting feelings from the whole act of sex. Which is the mindset why the resulting feelings are usually negative. Also a big reason why the orgasm gap is so high. Lots of men just want to stick their penises inside of a vagina. Pump in and out and cum. Most of these men will call this a positive experience. Most of the women will not.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:52 PM
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It’s “worse” for him because it affects him. He feels insecure, inferior, dehumanized, less than etc because he’s not getting laid. I feel insecure, inferior, dehumanized, and less than when I get lied to and used for my holes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:41 PM
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Depends on how he speaks and the mentality of the women he’s talking to. Dating online means he’s talking to people who are also online. They might hear tech and think techbro. An Elon lover. Crypto. Bitcoin. They might think OP thinks the DOGE pissants were gods. A lot of internet famous tech guys are douches. At least the ones that get pushed by algorithms. They are controversial so they get more clicks.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:33 PM
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And? If he could get sex he would most likely enjoy it. Simple friction. No telling whether he would be a good lover. From my experience most likely not. Our attractions and sexual satisfactions are different. Me feeling being used to masturbate feels dehumanizing. Because it is. They are different issues. No one is better or worse than the other because they are personal experiences. The thing happening or not happing to you will always have more impact because it’s happening or not happening t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:17 PM
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I asked you what your definition was. Where did I put words in your mouth? Some people will be okay with you being a femboy. Some will not. Some of the people that are okay with you being a femboy will find that quality attractive. Most will not. It’s a niche. You’re going to have a harder time in general because you’re outside the socially normative spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 06:02 PM
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It all depends on where you live. How you go about it. The saturation of men who are pleasant to be around and the men who aren’t. The histories and experiences of the women irl or online. It depends on how conventionally attractive you are. Lots of variable. OLD still has a very large amount of men who just want to fuck a wet hole. There’s less women on dating apps for many different reasons but that is the biggest. We get disillusioned. Then we leave the apps. We are also a lot less visual tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:56 PM
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I was going to say this. It’s more racism and techno bro hate than being a 20 something yo.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:47 PM
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My opportunities are bad sex, really bad sex, mid sex, meh sex, and very rarely good sex. I get no effort. No offers for actual dates. Most men don’t talk to me longer that “hey” and “can I blow your back out” I don’t blame men for not finding me attractive. I don’t like that they will lie and use my body to masturbate. I have to deal with the realities of life and attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:39 PM
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I’m conventionally unattractive. 99% of the time I get sad, desperate men who just want to nut and think getting with a fat chick will be easier because we are supposed to be sad and desperate too.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:35 PM
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Men will have sex with conventionally unattractive women because they are using them for holes. They don’t care or value them. Lots of men just view women as vagina havers. They value vaginas.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:30 PM
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I’m obese. How does that affect what I’m attracted to? I’m not attracted to myself. I’m not attracted to a big ass and wide hips. I’m attracted to men. And the shapes they make. And their character. And their personalities. I mostly get offers for very bad one sided sex. Why do I have to be attracted to people I’m not attracted to? Why should I be in a relationship with someone I’m not attracted to? I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone not attracted to me. Sounds like a recipe for a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:23 PM
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People. Not progressives. The whole political spectrum has assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:04 PM
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What does leftist sand conservative mean to you in this analogy? Most leftists would be okay with you living your life however you want. Doesn’t mean they are going to be attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 05:00 PM
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I like that he’s taller than me. But it’s not a dealbreaker for me. I’m good with 5’4” and up. I’m 5’6”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 03:11 PM
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I’ve had sex with many men. The majority have not even tried to make me orgasm. They just wanted to cum. My pleasure isn’t even a factor. Again. I’m glad that not your experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:44 PM
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I think it depends on the individual woman’s experiences. Her actual experiences and the experiences of the women around them. Humans like to complain. I’ve had many partners. I’d say 20% were good sexual partners. I had fun with 70% of them (because I get off on my partner getting off) 30% were just bad all around.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:40 PM
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I’m glad you’ve had mostly good experiences. I’m also a slut and have mostly meh experiences. But I’m obese and I get less effort shown towards me in general.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:36 PM
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It depends on the men in that woman’s life. I’ve had many self centered, uncaring, lackluster, male partners. A lot of men only care about their pleasure in bed. A lot of men pump in and out of a hole that happens to be attached to a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:32 PM
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Most women don’t want to be “chased.” We want to be approached (at the right time by a person we are attracted to.) We want effort to be shown towards us. We want to know we are important. We want “no’s” to be respected. We don’t want men to push our boundaries. Some women do play hard to get. Leave them alone. Let them learn no means no. It’s a stupid game and shouldn’t be played.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:07 PM
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If that seems more optimal to you, then it seems you don’t have strong feelings for your wife. Being in any relationship takes work. Cultivating an existing relationship is less work than starting over. If the relationship isn’t worth saving. Just leave. If you actually love your wife and sex is the only thing that you’re missing then figuring out how to have a better sex life with your wife seems like the optimal solution. It all depends on how much you love your wife, your sex life, and yourse…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:00 PM
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In the morning we 69’d. I sat on his face; not to completion for either of us. But he did assist in my orgasm with fingers when he couldn’t do other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:52 PM
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Maybe 5’10”-5’11
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 08:00 AM
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It’s like riding a bike. 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 03:33 AM
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I like dominoes too. That’s what I suggested. He has a dominoes where he lives. Doesn’t have easy access to little ceasars. Maybe. He’s on call next Saturday. Meaning if someone calls out, he’d get a double shift. Money is money. I understand. If he doesn’t get a double then yeah we’ll see each other then. Don’t have any idea what we should do if that happens. Or what we would do if we meet up the week after.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:50 AM
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Exactly. Keep it realistic. And hopefully be surprised. Less chances for disappointment. Or are you talking about the bj? I might be a little confident in that area. But it’s been earned through attempts and successes in my endeavors. Naturally built up confidence 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:42 AM
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Not my favorite either. But he really wanted pretzel stuffed crust pizza. I get different pizzas depending on the place. Me either. It was fun. And silly. Very nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:41 AM
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Little ceasars. Stuffed crust. Half Hawaiian; half pepperoni, sausage, and mushroom. We got stoned. Watched Animaniacs. Talked. Cuddled. Attempted other sexual activities. I made bacon, eggs and hashbrowns for breakfast.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:21 AM
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It’s one of my favorite things to do 😊it was a good night. There were technical difficulties and I’m trying not to take them personally. He told me not to take them personally. Exhaustion and allergies kinda put a damper on certain activities
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:18 AM
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Hahaha. He gave me the compliment of “I’ve had women say they suck a dick like a porn star before, but you actually meant it.” The pizza was pretty good.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 02:09 AM
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Had the second date. Expectations were met. Had pizza. He had an amazing BJ. Still kinda processing the evening, night, and morning.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 01:04 AM
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Yes. I have many close, intimate, platonic male friends. Sometimes superficial crushes happen. They can go away. It doesn’t have to mess up a friendship. It’s easier when the people involved aren’t attracted to each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/26 12:56 AM
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