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I’m ND. I get it. Context matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/26 12:31 AM
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It’s a yellow flag. I do not want to be their only source of human interaction. Their only venting person. Their only source of comfort. Their only source of entertainment. Context matter. I want them to have a life outside of the relationship. I’m going to go out and have my friend time. If they are truly okay with it. It might be okay. But I’d also like to take them out with me occasionally. I’d feel like a secret if they didn’t want to go out with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/26 11:55 PM
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If you want to complain about something complain about it. Humans love to complain. And people who complain love to complain about others who complain. You’ll get more empathy from friends than randos online. The ones that complain and then always blame others for their complaints will always get more grief about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/26 06:00 PM
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Everybody wants change, nobody wants to change though” NF Very few people actually reach out to other people. They sit and wait for others to be the active party. You want to change that, be the active person. If you want it to change but don’t want to do any changing, you’re going to get resentful.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/26 05:36 PM
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I have many great memories of individual sexual experiences. Good times. I don’t think of them all in the same context because they were different experiences. Some with the same man some with different men. Just some stick out more than others. It doesn’t necessarily effect any emotional connection I might have through sex. I have great memories with my ex. And with fwbs. And with some casuals. My first times doing certain acts might be more memorable because they were a first. But they don’t m…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/26 04:44 PM
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It’s so sad that you think men are only wallets. That they can’t offer more than that. They are whole beings with likes and dislikes and wants and desires. They have passions and talents. That they fun to be with. That they can be desired. I’m sorry you think so little of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/26 04:01 PM
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Maybe the other passive friend also feels the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/26 03:25 PM
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These platonic relationships are not a good example. You’re not having sex with uncle Jo. Mr. Professor doesn’t have access or control over your money or living situation. Can an age gap relationship be a healthy relationship. Sure. Absolutely. Are people allowed to be cautious, concerned, or even disgusted when seeing someone in an age gap relationship. Sure. Absolutely. There are a lot of things that can happen when one person has more “power” over another person. I’m in an age gap relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/26 02:21 PM
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So prostitution with more steps
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/26 01:24 PM
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Sex, service, and affirmations in exchange for money= That’s prostitution
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/26 08:20 AM
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The ex did say something. Those guys became his ex friends on that day. It’s still breaks my heart. I’ve been picked on and teased my whole life. I don’t want someone I care about to be picked on too, for my existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 08:50 PM
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Every man who didn’t keep me a secret, has been made fun off. Behind my back and in front of my face. The first guy I had sex with later confessed he stopped because our friends found out and made fun of him. The first time my ex and I went out his friends pulled him aside to tell him that he could do so much better than fuck the fat chick. The last one kept getting, wow really?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 08:13 PM
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I’ve read all comments. Where is there 1 woman who says women are disgusted by male sexuality and gay men get a pass because they don’t want to have sex with women?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 08:02 PM
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Women are disgusted by male sexuality. The only reason gay men are excluded is because they don’t want to have sex with women. Women don’t want to have sex with men but they do even though they are disgusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 07:58 PM
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That women don’t seem to want or desire you. So you’ve come up with a major conspiracy that women don’t desire men at all. We find male sexuality disgusting but still engage in and enjoy and even initiate sex with men? Seriously?!? I’m sorry you feel undesired. I know that feeling and it sucks. But this cope isn’t going to help your self image.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 07:45 PM
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His why is COMPHET that’s why he’s not answering.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 07:39 PM
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Hypocrisy of what? Women enjoy having sex with men. They look at them with lust. They talk about them with their friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 07:38 PM
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It’s a comphet post
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 07:34 PM
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Yeah I’m pretty sure he’s one of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 07:29 PM
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Yup. Thinly disguised
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 07:19 PM
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Comphet disguised as a biphobic post…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 07:18 PM
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So a woman’s only value to you is her vagina. Gotcha.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 05:58 PM
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It might not have been an issue before the marriage. Or again. Any number of things could be going on in her life that pushes sex way way down on the priority list. 99.9999% of the time it’s not a “I’m going to deny sex in order to get something I want”
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 05:57 PM
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Women suffer from more autoimmune diseases by large numbers than men. There are dozens of reproductive issues women suffer from. Chronic diseases is a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 05:49 PM
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I don’t understand how you can’t understand the concept of just not wanting to have sex. For any reason. Stress. Life issues. Medication. Illness. Depression. Anxiety.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 05:42 PM
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I don’t bring up my insecurities with men often anymore and I don’t word it in a way that sounds like insecurities. I’ve learned from my past mistakes. I’m confident in a lot of things. I’m a pretty awesome person. I’m funny, compassionate, caring, empathetic, a cheerleader, smart, artistic, self reflective, I take accountability, and I’m willing to have hard conversations about things I might not agree with or understand. I just know what I look like and know that the world says it’s a moral fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 05:04 PM
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From your understanding and perspective what’s the ratio of men who only seek to understand women insofar as to acquire a woman to have sex with and how many try to understand women because they are empathetic and actually want to understand our perspective outside of sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 02:32 PM
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Barbie is all ways perfect. Makeup. Hair. Clothes. Body. She’s extremely sexualized. She might be able to “do anything” as long as she’s hot and perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 02:15 PM
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Trying to understand someone in as far as how it will benefit you isn’t trying to understand someone. Women are taught to please men. Men are taught to acquire women. Again different perspectives. I think you’re reading my text in a tone I’m not writing it in. My question maybe should have had a paragraph break. I was asking you specifically. Why do you try to make women less afraid of you? Or not be concerned about your presence, or to not view you as a threat? What’s the motivation or understa…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 02:04 PM
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“Men break their heads how to figure out women all the time” These men. The ones that break their heads. How do they try to understand a woman’s perspective?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 01:55 PM
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But men aren’t trying to understand a women’s perspective. They are trying to get a woman. Find, impress, keep and maybe breed a woman. But not to understand a woman. It’s all goal based as to how can I get a woman. It’s not about just understanding a woman’s perception of the world around her. All her other things don’t matter and don’t register if sex isn’t a reward for learning these things. Your example was about knowing that men pose a threat to women, so you (yourself) alter your behavior …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 01:44 PM
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So some men try to understand women only in the concept of how to get sex with them and to not make them afraid of you?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 01:27 PM
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How do men try to understand women? Other than how to get a woman to sleep with or date them?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 01:21 PM
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How do men try to view things from a woman’s pov?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 01:16 PM
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That might be true for average to attractive women. Edit to add: as long as she has good genetics, and doesn’t have kids
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 06:09 AM
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But if it does we know there’s a big possibility because that’s what most men desire. Young and fit and a bubbly personality. You might not leave us. You might just cheat physically or emotionally. You might just realize how much you’re not attracted to us anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 05:42 AM
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Some men glow up when they’re in relationships, some men become more confident while in relationships, some women like men in relationships, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 05:31 AM
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I’m obese. I understand how I get treated and talked about by men. I’m older. I know how I get treated and talked about by men. You wouldn’t give a rats ass about my opinion of myself. I’ve worked hard on my body and self esteem issues. Now I only go for men who explicitly go for older fat women.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 02:06 AM
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No because my life matters more to me than your life. I can feel empathy for you. But if there are things in my life I want and can’t find I’m going to care about it more than if you can’t find what you want but can’t find. Or experiences are different. Our perspectives are different. Your wants are not more or less important than mine in the whole world scope. But my issues are more important to me and yours are more important to you. It’s not a competition. We aren’t playing the same game. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 01:58 AM
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How about it’s not a competition? Different people struggle with different things and they care about the things that affect them personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 01:52 AM
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I’m sorry. I was using online as in OLD apps. Which is about 27% the other amount comes from DMs or comments on any online service. The majority is still through mutual friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 01:37 AM
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Only about 27% of current relationships started online.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 12:47 AM
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Being good enough to stick your dick in doesn’t mean you won’t drop us the minute a skinnier, younger, prettier, more bubbly woman comes along.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/26 12:45 AM
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Gotta love a good “I’m 14 and I think this is deep” posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 06:26 PM
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Gotta love a good “I’m 14 and I think this is deep” posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 06:25 PM
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No. Physical attraction is number one. It’s weighted. But it’s the first step. All other things depends on the woman. Her life and her priorities. Her standards. Her upbringing. Her current life. Her past experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:49 PM
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We also want to be physically attracted to our man. We want companionship. We want commonalities. We want love. We want respect. We want to enjoy spending time with our man. We want reciprocity. And men want validation, status, vaginas, caretakers, and some of them want that other stuff too.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:43 PM
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And this “truth” about all women is?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:38 PM
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Living life doesn’t mean anything is “wrong.” Life is stressful. It doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to be in and is happy being in the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:37 PM
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So you’re fine with women wanting resources. Cool. Thanks Women do think. A lot. We just think differently than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:35 PM
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Which is?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:33 PM
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Then what do you want? A woman who wants to fuck you. While you bring nothing to the table. You don’t improve her life at all. You can’t provide for the couple or the possible future children. You want women to think like men. He has a dick. He’ll do.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:32 PM
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Keep ignoring everything I’ve said and the 2 other comments on this thread. You don’t want to pay for dates. Don’t. You don’t want to put any effort into acquiring, and maintaining a relationship. Don’t. You don’t want to put any effort in. Don’t. You want woman to come up to you and throw their panties in your face. Be famous (if you don’t want to be rich.)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:27 PM
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Sure. All women are evil gold digging whores and use men and men are perfect creatures that never use women for anything. Like validation, sex, cooking, cleaning, status, etc. All women bad. Grrrrr.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:23 PM
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It means everything. There’s an unlimited amount of reasons someone might not be in the mood or think about sex. And for women especially, we have to be mentally aroused. If our minds are elsewhere we aren’t going to get aroused.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:17 PM
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Most men and women want children. What does a woman needing resources for having a child have to do with whether or not she wants children. She wants a man who can provide resources for those children she wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:14 PM
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It might not make sense to you. Lower libidos, stress, body image, stress, finances, stress, hormones, stress, medications, stress, resentment, depression, anxiety, life issues, etc.. sex gets put on a lower priority list for a lot of women. It doesn’t mean we aren’t attracted or not in love. It just means we aren’t prioritizing or thinking about sex because we are thinking about and dealing with other things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:07 PM
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Because not wanting to have sex doesn’t mean we aren’t attracted. Doesn’t mean we aren’t in love. It just means we don’t want to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 01:01 PM
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Some are. Some aren’t. I didn’t have an opinion about the topic until I came across the natalist subreddit. Now I would be extremely wary if someone called themselves a natalist. Lots of men on that sub actively hate women and want to subjugate them.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 12:55 PM
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Women don’t think about how to have the most options. We aren’t trying to attract all men. We just want one. Different perspectives. Also we aren’t thinking about sex. We are thinking about relationships. And what is important to maintain a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 12:51 PM
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The real answer is “be physically attractive to the woman you’re trying to attract. Have the right character, personality, traits, socioeconomic status, passions, experience, values, etc that she is attracted to. Have the type of interactions that she finds attractive. And she has to be in the right place and time in her life where any of that matters” You shooting your shot with Ashley on Tuesday might get you a different response than shooting your shot of Thursday.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 12:46 PM
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We live in a capitalistic world. Money means resources. Children require resources. Um, reproduction means both sexes need the other one. Men don’t give birth. They just need a womb. They can walk away after that. Women carry, birth and rear the young. They need resources to have a safe pregnancy, then enough to raise the child to independence. This is why our arousals and attractions are different.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 11:53 AM
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Biological reproduction wise. A man fails when he isn’t given the opportunity. A woman fails when she picks the wrong man. A man only needs a woman to have a child. A woman needs resources to have a child safely.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 11:43 AM
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Society or biology?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 11:32 AM
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Attraction is way more complicated than friendship. I don’t need to be attracted to my friends and have them be attracted to me to for the friendship to work. Ugly people in relationships. Jacked people are in relationships. Fat people are in relationships. Old people are in relationships. Young people are in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 11:23 AM
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Because attraction is ineffable.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 11:19 AM
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Maybe because Friendships are easier to acquire. They aren’t gendered. They don’t involve sex. And they do not require attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 11:08 AM
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So you’re willing to pay for this hypothetical woman and wait to have sex with her until she is emotionally connected?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 04:09 AM
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You don’t want a prostitute. You want to buy a woman for sex. Sex means sex with emotional connect to you. You think you can buy emotional connection. Am I getting this right?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 03:17 AM
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I mean I wouldn’t mind a weekend with a couple strapping incubi.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 12:07 AM
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Hahaha. Why not be immune to the succubus but keep fucking “her” anyway? It’s your fantasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/26 12:05 AM
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You want to be hooked up to some sort of mandatory brain scan and be matched with a woman who the computer will say you match with? Thats just a fantasy pill.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 11:59 PM
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Of course there will be commonalities. But there’s too many variables. The planet is big. There’re 8 billion of us currently. There are biological, economic, social, psychological, natural, technological, environmental, et al. We are all a combination of nature, nurture and happenstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 11:56 PM
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Never gonna happen. We are complex and hypocritical creatures. But good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 11:49 PM
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“People do answer with Idfk. They are ignored. People want answers to questions. Not the truth. Just an answer, even if there isn’t one. They want a pill to make all their problems go away.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 11:46 PM
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“If the closest possible advice is going to be incorrect, then the better answer in all cases is "there's no correct answer to this question."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 11:44 PM
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So take this answer. There is no answer. Do whatever you want. Or don’t. Some things will work. Some things won’t. Nobody is guaranteed a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 11:42 PM
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Sure. I mean not everything. There’s nothing wrong with trying to improve your odds. But no advice is going to be universal. Working out will make some women find you more attractive. Some women will find you less attractive. Some women it won’t move the needle. Most women care more about faces. Losing weight or gaining weight can change how your face looks. But I can’t tell you which women will prefer which. Some women care about certain styles. Some don’t. Some care about fragrance. Some don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 11:30 PM
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I always offer Dutch whether I’m asking about the date or they are. I’ve had men be happy about it. I’ve had men think it means I’m not into them. I’ve had men flat out refuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 10:36 PM
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Failing at being a decent fucking dude? The question is wrong. You can’t tell me how I can get every dude. I can’t tell you how to get every woman. I wouldn’t even think about asking the question. I don’t want every dude. I don’t blame men for not thinking I’m attractive. I don’t blame men who only want me for sex. I don’t blame other people for me being single. Dating is mostly about luck. There’re no absolutes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 10:33 PM
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It works for some
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 10:25 PM
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Again. Ask me how to get Ashley to talk to you. Not women. I don’t know every woman. Ask a general question you’ll get a general answer.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 10:23 PM
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Because it’s the best advice for anyone to function in the world. Just be a decent fucking dude. It works for men and women. Means you act like a decent adult. Have friends. Pay your bills. Be kind. Have boundaries. Communication your needs. Dont be an asshole all the time. Take accountability. Take personal inventory. Learn from your mistakes. Don’t blame others for everything. Try to be a better version of yourself. Have good hygiene habits. Have interests. Etc. Just be a decent fucking dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 10:18 PM
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People do answer with Idfk. They are ignored. People want answers to questions. Not the truth. Just an answer, even if there isn’t one. They want a pill to make all their problems go away. Ask about a specific woman. How can I get Ashley to talk to me. Maybe I’ll have something better. Asking about women in general. Just be a decent fucking dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 10:01 PM
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Yes. Or misandry. Or she’s using her toxic femininity. It’s okay to say “I’d like a man who” or “I want a man who” but saying in order to “be a man” you HAVE TO do this is bullshit and toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 09:50 PM
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Toxic masculinity. Telling a man that he has to do xyz in order to be a real man. That he can’t do abc if he wants to be a real man. Embracing violence, aggression, and assholery as primary traits of being manly. Objectifying women. Non toxic masculinity. Working out. Being hairy. Feeling anger, expressing it, and letting it go. Feeling sexual attraction to women. Just like toxic femininity. It’s when you try to control people with it. Make yourself feel better by putting others down with it. Or…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 09:45 PM
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There is no advice that is going to work on all women. We can’t tell you how to “get women” women don’t think like men. Not all women think alike. Not all men think alike. Women tend to be more socially aware and think of context. “Just be a decent fucking dude” is as close as you’re going to get with a general question like that. There’s two type of people. Those that can extrapolate from incomplete data.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 09:38 PM
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Men’s icks I’ve seen and heard. Body hair, the sound of her voice, her laugh, her second toe is longer than her big toe, she belched, she acted too masculine, body count, etc. Just because you might not have had these icks doesn’t mean other men haven’t. Icks are a biological thing. How they’re triggered is probably psychological. Men have less icks and they’re easier to overlook because to reproduce they need more opportunities. Women have more icks and are harder to shake off because for repro…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 09:23 PM
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There’s the promiscuous few. Seen as much larger than they are because it’s not the norm. They stick out. Their lives are exaggerated by media. There’s always the token sluts or players in tons of shows or movies or books. Social media also exaggerates the numbers. I do think lots of people think other people think the way that they do. That’s why we have a lot of people speaking for a larger group instead of just speaking for themselves. Do I think women who engage with multiple partners or who…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 07:29 PM
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Cool. I personally think most icks are silly and interesting. To each their own
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 07:07 PM
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Everyone is allowed an opinion. You don’t need to let others of you define you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 06:33 PM
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Men also have icks…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 06:24 PM
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If a guy was interested in my vagina? Looks, (I find a lot of different kinds of men attractive) courage, (to be themselves and to show attraction) the third is the nebulous ineffable “vibe” meaning how I feel and react to the interaction. I have an eclectic style Thanks. People need to hear more about good things. But they don’t tend to go viral🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 05:29 PM
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You too
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 05:13 PM
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I agree. I think you’re not going to get a consistent (haha) show of empathy or sympathy from strangers online. My friends and family care that sometimes I’m unhappy being single. I’m single and female so some men on here say “who cares” some wish me luck. Some tell me to lower my standards. Some go through my profile and tell me how ugly I am in a comment to then delete it so that it’s in my notifications but not in the thread. People are totally allowed to feel unhappy when they don’t have som…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 05:09 PM
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Hahaha. Not in any order, no. It would be nice if we could pick. Luck trumps all. That’s fair. Only 3 more months until a better feeling of stability though. I can understand that. I don’t get externally angry often. I mostly bully myself. They aren’t long. I can’t deal with long nails. I just wanted to feel a bit more my kind of feminine. And they feel wonderful to scratch my head. 🤤 Mostly positive actually. Not necessarily fulfilling. Not a lot of orgasms. But I learned things. I gained more …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 04:55 PM
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Depends on where you live, what you look like, what you’re willing to do, how much money you have, age, race, socioeconomic standing within your group, courage, laws, etc, etc, etc and for the most part luck. Damn. I’m sorry. How long have you been there? Does lashing out make you feel better? Or more stressed when they say things that trigger you? I’m doing okay. Getting some of my backyard weeds killed. Bought some gardening supplies. Put on some fake nails. Had sex. Doing a lot of introspecti…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 04:33 PM
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“So people aren’t even consistent” This is the answer to almost every question on ppd. I just think the criticism comes when people not in relationships discount every other good thing in their life because they aren’t in a relationship. Their life is meaningless without a romantic/sexual partner. People who have and appreciate things in their life that want a romantic/sexual relationship too and want to prioritize that relationship in acquisition and retainment are normal everyday people.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 04:27 PM
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It’s probably just been a real problem in that sub. Some people brigade other subs and actively try to harass their users.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 04:11 PM
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I have a vagina. User experience will vary. How are you doing btw?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:59 PM
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Yeah. I don’t get banning outright. But maybe those subs have an influx of people who like to harass people who use that sub. I just block people when they get weird
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:58 PM
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I quit tinder. It’s a giant shit show. Some of the nastiest conversations I’ve ever had have been on Tinder.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:49 PM
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I don’t report of block them until they get weird. (Never reported only blocked) I mostly give grey rock answers. I wait it out until their real reason for dming me comes out. I’ve had some good DMs. Women mostly asking for advice or giving reassurances. I’ve never had a good intentioned dm from a guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:44 PM
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Banning people for just the dm is weird. But dming strangers online is weirder to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:39 PM
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Why would you need to dm somebody saying hi? They are anonymous Reddit people. You don’t know them. Why do you want to?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:37 PM
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The majority of my DMs are lonely guys looking to sext while under the disguise of needing “friends” or “advise”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:36 PM
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I’ve learned how to microwave elbow noodles in one of my bowls that turns out fantastically.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:33 PM
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That survey doesn’t say what you think it says. Read the article. It’s mostly about politics, the economy, and manosphere talking points.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:15 PM
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Don’t forget to say no fatties
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:12 PM
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You got some of that eye bleach
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:10 PM
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If we all did that the human race would die out.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 02:21 PM
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Another day another guy disguising women need to initiate and pay for dates. Sex workers bad. Short guys good. Choice bad. Anti-feminists good.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 01:52 PM
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Exactly. All my past experiences have been things I got to experience. The good, the bad, the boring. Meeting and talking to people can be fun. It can teach you things. Even if those things are don’t talk to that person again.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 06:49 AM
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I think as long as we are a sexually reproducing species. One without a mating season. Where one half gestate and nurse the offspring. Where that one half is the smaller, weaker half. Things can’t, won’t, and shouldn’t be equal. Not in all things. It should be strived for where possible however.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 06:42 AM
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It’s that what you’re already doing?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 06:18 AM
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Yes. It can never be equal. Only equitable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 05:33 AM
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An ick isn’t something we can control. It’s a disgust response. Some are temporary. Some are long term. If a woman knows it’s a temporary one she can breathe and wait for it to pass. Men have icks too. They just tend to have less because they need more opportunities. Some people are studying the biological and psychological processes and aspects of the ick. It’s interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 01:10 AM
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Yes. Some single women are more likely to get into another relationship quicker for financial support. But single dads are more likely to get into another relationship quicker for the emotional support. Different issues. Different concerns.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 01:06 AM
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How is a woman objectively better at housework? Cooking, cleaning, etc? How is a man objectively better at making money and fixing cars?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 12:55 AM
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Woman need a sense of security for breeding. If we didn’t live in a capitalistic society money wouldn’t be a security metric. More women are financially independent. It matters less but it still matters. We are now looking for other things for security too. Like help with childcare. Men have definitely stepped up there for the most part. Modern men spend like 3 times more time with their children than they did back in the day. A man just needs a woman to have a child. A woman needs resources to …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 12:47 AM
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A relationship between a male human and a female human can never truly be egalitarian. We are different. Biologically and socially.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 12:39 AM
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Biological reproduction wise Men fail when they don’t get the opportunity. Women fail when they choose the wrong man.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 12:36 AM
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It’s not specific though. There isn’t a logical answer. I have no idea why John is more attractive than Steve. They might be very similar. But to me John is hot. Steve is attractive but nothing special. If I want John I’m going to get to know John and see what happens. I don’t care if my looks or behavior isn’t attractive to Steve.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 12:11 AM
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Men and women are just different. I recently heard this and it makes complete sense. Biological reproduction wise. A man fails if he doesn’t get an opportunity. A woman fails if she picks the wrong man. Men are less picky and have less icks because they need more opportunities. Women are more picky and have more icks because we need to filter out bad partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 12:01 AM
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We do speak different languages because we have different perspectives. One big one. I can’t tell you why one man is more attractive to me over a man of similar xyz’s. If I like John physically. I might get into his orbit. Learn about him. See if there’s something I’m attracted to besides his looks. Does he seem interested in talking to me too. Does he give me any indication that he might find me attractive too. How does he act around me. Then I’ll work with the information I have. I don’t care …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 11:46 PM
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Absolutely not. A guy getting drunk and telling me he’s not that into me can fuck all the way off. My ex wasn’t super attracted to me. He fell for my personality. I was just attractive enough. He WANTED other women. He SETTLED for me. I want someone who finds me as hot as I find them. Men care more about looks. If he doesn’t like the way I look, he’s not for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 06:20 PM
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So you’re saying men are just for resources and they should pay to have access to a woman who has actual value? Men are “wallets” to you? Thats very misandrist of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 03:12 AM
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No sex before marriage is stupid. There’re still people coupling off. Having sex just between the two of them. And maybe last long enough to make a mature decision about marriage.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 02:46 AM
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You started using the word witches to describe women like a few weeks ago. Which internet snake oil salesman gave you that buzzword? Get off the internet!!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 02:36 AM
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I wish I could give you an award. I said something similar in a comment to someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 02:33 AM
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Most people don’t do a lot of casual. There’s a very small portion of people who do a lot of casual and those people are having sex with each other. Most sex is sex in relationships. The number of average sexual partners between men and women hasn’t changed that much over the years. Lots of people have never had sexual partners or relationships throughout history. The internet warps our perceptions of reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 02:24 AM
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Those people are probably still together. Just not married.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 01:55 AM
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I think more people should explore their sexuality and pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 11:17 PM
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Yeah. And some cis het men also have a problem with some sex toys. People are weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 11:16 PM
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Go for it. Fleshlights. Disembodied pelvises. Limbless bodies. Full ass real dolls. Don’t care. Have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 11:15 PM
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I think some men have an ick towards women with high body counts and some men have insecurities about. Some it’s a control issue. Some it’s a religious issue. The same action doesn’t mean there’s the same intention.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 08:39 PM
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Yeah. Most of my friends and I have preferences that don’t line up. There’re a few overlaps but not enough that we feel like we want the same guys or anything. My friends totally gave me shit for my ex. I thought he was hot. They thought he was mid.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 07:16 PM
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It’s a video game or a YouTube thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 06:54 PM
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You think women who want a SAHH are somehow being talked out of it by other women? And not that there is just a much smaller section of women that would prefer that scenario?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 06:51 PM
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But it’s a big censoring issue. Which opinions are acceptable and which aren’t? You want everyone to be all nice all the time on the internet?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 06:32 PM
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Body hair, facial hair, the way they laugh or eat food. Icks are interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 06:30 PM
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To what degree and who gets to choose? It’ll still be based on money and power and who has that money and power. You want people fined for having an opinion?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 06:17 PM
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I have very little icks. Some people have a lot of icks. Some people know how to handle an ick. Some people don’t. Some people’s icks are quick and temporary. Some are long lasting. Men and woman have icks. Men generally have less because that would be taking themselves out of the breeding market more often. Women “need” to be choosier in the breeding market.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 06:15 PM
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It’s true though. Zuckerberg admits to using fb at a behavior modification tool. He ran different experiments in the early days. It’s about money and trying to shape our society. We need to teach better internet literacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 06:12 PM
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In regards to biological reproduction. A man counts as a failure if he misses his chance. A woman counts as a failure is she picks the wrong man.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 06:08 PM
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Social media is going to do what social media is going to do. The algorithm loves discord.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 05:56 PM
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You can criticize it if you want. I think Some peoples icks are interesting. They aren’t universal. They’re personal. Men have icks too. They just don’t happen as much.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 05:55 PM
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I know. More men are penis centric. It kind of makes sense. That’s the equipment they have. It’s also why some of them aren’t that good in bed. Because they are thinking about their penises and how that feels and works during sex. I know women who hate the color, shape, and size of their labia and for the majority of men they don’t care or notice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 10:19 AM
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My penetrative toys are larger than an average penis. They were on sale. They are the most normal sizes for toys. I don’t insert them fully. I’d be fine if they were smaller. More men care about dick size than most women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 10:02 AM
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I know we often ask for paragraph breaks. But this is ridiculous.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 08:59 AM
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Oh I understand that. It’s easier to believe they are lying when giving positive feedback. Trust is scary. Edit to add: As an obese woman I get more men who aren’t attracted to me than are attracted to me. Thats why one of my things I wish I could say is I want you to be able to lie to me enough so that I can believe it for the little bit of time we are going to be having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 03:54 PM
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I’ve had sex with friends and with internet strangers. It’s the same unfortunately. I can’t speak up. I have levels and layers of self hate, previous bad experiences, insecurities, embarrassments, lack of self worth, social stereotypes, trauma, blah blah blah. I prefer the disconnect when I’m not vulnerable and having sex. But it’s still hard to express things into words that some men would understand and not take offense to.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 03:25 PM
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I didn’t write it with anger. When I wrote with compassion one time you got offended my it. When I wrote with understanding you got offended by it. Now I’m just apathetic about it. And yet…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 03:04 PM
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So women who like you already, are willing to put up with things they might normally not like. Yes. That’s true for most people about most things. If someone likes, admires, looks up to, thinks is attractive, represents something they want to be, etc. we ignore certain flaws. That’s human. What does that have to do with good or bad sex? Or being able to communicate about sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 03:00 PM
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True.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 12:55 PM
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I can count the number of men who went down on me add in a few more that touched my clit during sex. And most raised their heads after less than a minute asking if I was close. I love giving bjs. They are fun. I’ve never had a fun bj where the guy was like and now your turn. I’ve had men “blame” me for being too enthusiastic when they came too quick. I’ve had sexual encounters with 50+ men. Maybe half a dozen cared about my pleasure too. I’m obese and unattractive. Most of the men that “want” to…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 12:53 PM
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Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 12:41 PM
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My history of ONS means I don’t see them again. Men are not eager to please or impress me. Again. I’m glad your life is different.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 12:37 PM
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I’m having a hard time following your train of thought. Yes. Having sex with someone you’re not comfortable with yet makes communication harder. I don’t know what “what I say matters. I probably have to have “skill.” Means in this context. “Women I know are less like that” less like what? “They’re easier” in what way? At communicating with? At flirting? At telling you what they need while having sex in order for them to find the experience a good one? I don’t get the whole last paragraph.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 12:34 PM
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Yes. Most people are bad at sex. Men and women. Some are bad at the physical parts. Some are bad at the mental parts. Some are bad at verbalizing. Some are bad all around. But some people’s bad are other people’s goods or greats. I’m good at the physical. I’m good at the mental. I have a harder time with being verbal with my wants/desires/needs while active in the sex part. It’s much easier for me to have those conversations when I’m disconnected from the physical parts. I’m getting better but i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 12:10 PM
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Really depends. I like sex. Sex can be amazing. But it requires more than just friction for me to have good time.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 11:50 AM
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Going on a second “date” with a dude. It’s not going to last. Hopefully I’ll get some decent sex out of the deal. Edit. And he cancelled. Rescheduled for tomorrow. I’ll believe it when I see it. Oh well.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 11:41 AM
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It was okay. I hope yours was good too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 11:39 AM
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I call the man who got my mom pregnant my father because I have no love, like or respect for the man. He didn’t deserve the title of dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 11:37 AM
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Maybe they weren’t single? Or the dudes had bad breath. Or said something stupid. Or the women were just there for fun and to hang with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 11:35 AM
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Nope. I’m very enthusiastic. I just don’t get reciprocity.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 11:10 AM
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No one cares that you want to be a sahd that doesn’t trust, like or want women, who wants to be loved by his woman but also hated back and dehumanized but also respected. That isn’t a feminist or believes anything semi attached to feminist ideas. Go find your unicorn. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 11:06 AM
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Most of your world view is based on your shitty mom and absent dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 10:52 AM
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I list of contradictions. I’m surprised because I’m obese and not attractive. (To the majority of the majority of men) I’m not surprised because some men and women will have sex with people they aren’t attracted to. (More men have wanted to have sex with my vagina or mouth than with me because they thought I was attractive) I’m not offended because it’s a normal human want. I am offended because some men will disregard what I want for their want for sex. It’s the way it comes about. The way it’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 10:33 AM
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Good for you. Not mine or most of the women I knows experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/26 09:46 AM
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I think while a lot more women are identifying as not straight. And being more open about their arousal metrics. I think the number of women who are still heteroromantic didn’t change as much. I think more younger women are in situationships than younger men. I think more younger woman are dating older men than younger men are dating older women. Is women’s sexuality a factor. Absolutely. But so are others and I think those others are a bigger contributor.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 06:12 PM
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No. I don’t mean to consent to your creampie. Nowhere in your argument did you talk about sex. A high paying woman who wants kids and to have them be raised by a nanny isn’t having sex with the nanny. So you think that’s women that are doing this would actually prefer to have sex with someone who hates them ie you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 03:08 PM
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I loved playing with makeup since I was a preteen. It’s like an art supply for me. I’d do a full face at night just chilling in my room. I’ve done it as an adult too. Makeup can be fun. It can be used for many different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 02:29 PM
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Practice
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 02:23 PM
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Young men. So college aged and younger? So all your post college stuff doesn’t matter to those men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 02:09 PM
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But you also think every person (woman) is a hidden monster and untrustworthy. How old are you because you sound young. Or you sound like an incel larping as a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 01:58 PM
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So you want some high paying autistic woman to use your sperm to impregnate herself. Then let you raise the kids and clean the house and stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 01:53 PM
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I’m unattractive. I can go on tinder right now and get laid by the end of the night. I might not find him attractive. I might have to put myself in an unsafe situation. I might have to disregard any and all of my standards and preferences. But I could have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 05:52 PM
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Not as. I think (again generally speaking) that women are more emotionally driven.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 04:54 PM
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For some men I do believe that they think a woman gives them purpose. The definition of purpose being a bit subjective here. Maybe not for the kids but for the woman herself. I’m okay with this with some stipulations. The woman CANNOT be his only purpose. Men (generally speaking) are purpose driven. It’s one of the cool things about them. They are also singularly focused (just add generally speaking or not all to any “men” statements) they go from one purpose to another. Back and forth. A man wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/26 05:29 AM
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I’m mean sure. Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one. I don’t really spend my energy on social media. Reddit is the only one I use. I don’t let those people live in my head. Their opinions don’t affect me because I don’t want to date people with those opinions. I don’t need or want them to change it. Let them live their life. But that’s me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 10:50 PM
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Has a woman ever actually said this to you. In person? The tiny tiny amount of women who think a man should pay for dates because in the future she’s going to be doing more housework if the relationship gets that far are allowed their opinion. I wouldn’t date them. You shouldn’t either.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 10:38 PM
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I think they put them on because they are more comfortable for them. I tried them. Can’t stand them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 10:06 PM
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I don’t think I’d find that outfit attractive on a man. Or a woman. I’d be cool with them expressing themselves however they want. But it’s not something I’d be into. I would think the man is gay or bi. And dressing for the male gaze.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 10:00 PM
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Yeah. I don’t take it to heart. I enjoy most men. I like men. They can be pretty cool peoples. I do believe men and women need each other. In society and in interpersonal relationships. The needs are just subjective sometimes and dependent of nature, nurture, and happenstance. Needs are on a spectrum depending on how much you think you are worthy of or deserve them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 09:55 PM
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You might not make that claim unless provoked. But I’ve never said it or claimed women and men don’t “need” each other. And I’ve been told men built societies and women are parasites. It’s usually the guys that insert the word feminist or feminism into an argument that has nothing to do with that. Especially since I’m not a feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 09:38 PM
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So if they did all that, why do you think they weren’t interested in you?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 02:53 PM
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A cold approach is meeting someone in the wild. A stranger. And talking to them. Asking for a date or a number/contact exchange. A warm approach is going up to someone you already know. An acquaintance to a friend to a colleague.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 02:46 PM
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I’m sex positive and poly. I want to know about your life and that includes your partners. We learn about ourselves through our experiences. We become what we are as we move through life. Your past is how you got here. My past is how I got here. I’m not drew baritone in 50 first dates. There’s somethings we absolutely should compare and other things that we shouldn’t. Envy is a normal human reaction but it’s also personal and can be used to see why we feel envy. Personal inventory. Self reflecti…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 02:37 PM
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Yes. And generally speaking, women who do hookups, aren’t doing them with chads. They are just everyday dudes. Most people are everyday people. We aren’t more physically attracted to them versus the men we have relationships with. I don’t care if my hookup has a bunch of relationship dealbreakers or beige flags. If he sucks at the hookup part I’m never seeing him again. Maybe even if I liked it, he might not want to see me again. NBD. I’ll fuck an alcoholic. I’m not dating one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 07:06 PM
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That’s usually just cope. I’ve said to myself if only I was skinny, or more demure, or less outgoing (more feminine) then i wouldn’t be single. But that’s not true. It would be “easier” but it’s not a guarantee.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 06:54 PM
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Who said I take a while to sleep with someone I like? Every woman is different. Just like men. I don’t care about a hookup. I’m not more attracted to them. I’ll sleep with both right away. I’m a “slut.” I have a high sex drive. I get horny. I’m single. I’ve absolutely had sex with dudes whome I wasn’t that attracted to because I was horny and they were there. I’m not dating someone I’m only meh about. But I’ll fuck one if the situation is warranted.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 06:51 PM
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Like I’m obese. So I know that most men aren’t going to be attracted to me just because of that. But there are men who prefer obese women. Just because I’m obese doesn’t mean they will automatically find me attractive. That’s totally fair. Most people aren’t attracted to most people. No matter what some people say.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 06:44 PM
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Men’s bodies are nice. I like their angles. Their tone. Their hair. Their height. Their smell. Every man is different. I like skinny, skinny fat, toned, light muscles, chubby and big. It all depends on the guy. If a guy has a lot of muscles I’d prefer it to be under a light layer of fat. Like a big soft bear. But some guys look good with muscles. Again. It all depends.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 06:28 PM
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Men are so weird. A woman liking you as a whole person is somehow an insult.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 06:19 PM
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So you’ve already decided that you aren’t good at sex? So if she’s had sex before you’ll be a disappointment?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:32 PM
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You do know that different women have different sex drives right? The ones with higher sex drives are the ones that are usually having casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:29 PM
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They aren’t a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:25 PM
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Fair. Thank you for responding
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:18 PM
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When you describe these scenarios, are these cold approaches and then sex? Or are you talking to them first. Texting back and forth. Do they already have a sense of you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:17 PM
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Have you ever had sex with someone where there wasn’t that instant clit tingle? Like, I’m bored and they are there or whatever?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:08 PM
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We are lustful. But we are different. Our arousal is different. I can see a hot guy. Look at his body. Like what I see. Think about touching him or kissing him or making out with him. Maybe even think about having sex with him. But I’m not going to actually do it until I interact with him and get a sense of him. I can also see an attractive guy. Not think about making out or having sex. And getting to know him. Spending time with him. Can make him incredibly hot and I want to rip his clothes off…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:05 PM
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I’ll ask you the same thing. Seriously out of curiosity. Not a gotcha or anything. How physically attracted do you have to be to get enjoyment from pleasing them? Is there more of an incentive to please them if you’re more attracted to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:00 PM
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Fair. I’m just curious. I’ve been with a bunch of men. And the ones who are actually attracted to me seem to be more interested in my pleasure but the ones that are just horny and don’t find me repulsive don’t seem to care too much.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 04:59 PM
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So you think women see a stranger and just decide, within 3 seconds, that they are going to have sex with them? Men are like that. Women aren’t. Unless she’s young and dumb and ovulating.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 04:52 PM
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How physically attracted do you have to be to get enjoyment from pleasing them? Is there more of an incentive to please them if you’re more attracted to them?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 03:52 PM
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I do not agree with that at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 03:18 PM
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Does pleasuring a stranger feel the same as pleasuring someone you know or someone you care about emotionally?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 03:11 PM
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Do you want a relationship? Why? What would it look like to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 02:57 PM
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What are you going on the date for?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 02:56 PM
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I’m sorry that happened to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 02:09 PM
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Why don’t you just try to be a live-in nanny/maid and make that money working while taking care of someone’s kids and cooking and stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 06:47 AM
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I think the odds are probably higher for a high earning woman who wants kids but doesn’t want to or doesn’t have the time to be a full parent.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 02:47 AM
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This doesn’t happen. But if a woman were to want children and has gone the sperm donor route it’s because she hasn’t found a man or doesn’t want a man in her life. She’s not turning down a loving caring man who wants to be a sahd and getting sperm and a nanny instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 02:28 AM
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I’m not bitter. I’m a realist.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 07:16 PM
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I like some obese men. Depends on how they gained weight. I also like short men. Feminine men. Bi men. Etc. I already have little preferences when it comes to looks. A nice face. Decent hygiene.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 07:14 PM
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You don’t get it. Losing weight is making things harder. Not easier. I didn’t have this low of an opinion of men until I started losing weight. I’m not losing weight to become attractive. I’d never be able to date a man who likes or prefers smaller women. I’m not a smaller woman. Mentally I’ll never be a smaller woman. I think if I ever became skinny I wouldn’t be able to have sex at all. The thought of a man wanting a skinny woman while touching me makes me want to run away and tell him to go f…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 07:07 PM
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I’ve lost 100+ pounds. I’m my own catfish. The more attention I get from men the more bad men I have to deal with. The more I lose the worse I feel about my body and my chances. If it wasn’t for health concerns I’d just gain it all back.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 06:48 PM
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Yes. I know I’m unattractive. I don’t blame men for not finding me attractive. I agree with them. I don’t even blame men for only caring that I have a vagina. It is what it is. Eventually my standards will get so low that I’ll stop rejecting men at all. They won’t find me attractive. I won’t find them attractive and we’ll both hate the other for being the best we can get. I just hope he doesn’t hit me too
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 06:35 PM
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Yeah. Lemon told me. Thanks for replying though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 06:25 PM
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You won’t. Especially since you aren’t enjoying yourself either.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 06:22 PM
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Which is very very rare for casual sex. You can do a bunch of physical things. But if she isn’t there mentally and emotionally you aren’t getting fireworks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 06:20 PM
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I’ve pretty much already given up on the idea of being in a relationship. I’m only good for casual sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 06:19 PM
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I don’t put up with them. For now. But a part of me wonders if I’ll get to that point.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 06:08 PM
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A woman having sex with you doesn’t mean she desires you. You not caring about whether you enjoy casual sex means you don’t enjoy casual sex. You’re doing it for validation. Woman also do it for validation. And many other reasons. Most women don’t enjoy casual sex so she’s probably going to forget you too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 06:05 PM
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I feel like the longer I go the lower my standards will become. Eventually I’ll be the woman that say “at least he doesn’t hit me.” Or “he doesn’t mean it” when he does hit me. I feel bad for rejecting men who I’m not compatible with or that have a ton of beige flags or whatever. Like I’m just getting uglier so I should just deal with being treated less than. You have bpd and aren’t going to talk to me for a month but you said some nice things to me. Okay. You have 3 dv charges against you and a…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 05:53 PM
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Ahh. Okay. I was looking for OP’s rebuttals
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 01:39 PM
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12 hours and no response from op. This will be deleted soon. Can’t even back up your argument
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 01:32 PM
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No I don’t think you’re a bad guy for having empathy for them. I don’t think having an opposing view on something automatically makes someone a bad guy. I however probably wouldn’t be comfortable enough around you to be open with my thoughts and we wouldn’t be close friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 06:27 PM
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Yeah. That’s a human issue. Categorizing and analyzing. It’s easier to lump people together. It’s easier to empathize with people you think are in your ingroup. Lots of people say bad things happen to good people but subconsciously a lot of people hope bad things happens only happen to bad people because they view themselves as good people and if they are good, bad things won’t happen to them. Yes. I was molested as a child and I have many friends, male and female, that have also been molested o…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 06:17 PM
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I have empathy for men who don’t get to have sex. Men get validation through sex. For some it’s the only way they can feel a connection or intimacy. They get status by showing off their partner to other men. Their body count increases their internalized value. I don’t feel empathy for men who blame women and feel like they SHOULD give them sex just because they want it. They lack emotional intelligence. I don’t have empathy for pedophiles and rapists.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:44 PM
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I think mid to high functioning autistic men are better at emotional intelligence than neurotypical men on average.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:32 PM
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I’m talking to an autistic adhd guy. He shows great emotional intelligence. I’m also neurospicy. He speaks bluntly but with consideration. If I ask him for more he can give it. The way he communicates works for me. It can be harder to learn it when autistic because it’s a learned behavior. Neurotypical men actually seem less likely to be emotionally intelligent they don’t want to learn. IMO and experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:31 PM
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And the reality is if you were treated like an object instead of a human when it comes to sex you’d understand. Especially if sex was uncomfortable and unfulfilling
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 07:02 AM
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Another man who doesn’t get it. Men value sex. A man can say “at least I got sex” for women is usually “I only got sex.” And since over 95% of the time it’s bad sex. It’s mostly a waste.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 06:16 AM
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For me? I stay single. When I get horny or lonely enough I try again and get crappy sex and then eventually I give up again.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 06:12 AM
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Men who are actually into big women tend to fetishize us. We are used for their kinks. The majority of men who go after obese women do it because we are seen as easy and less than.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:59 AM
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Nope. I’m obese. I’m unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:56 AM
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My views are because of my lived experiences. Not my programming.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:53 AM
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You said it was my programming. My programming says men desire all women. My programming says that men will get hard from a warm breeze. My programming says men want sex all the time. My lived experience says this is false. I know what I look like. I don’t blame men for not finding me attractive. I don’t blame men for not putting effort into me. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:42 AM
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I told you I pay. I told you I initiate. I’m not attractive. I don’t get effort. I’m not worth it from men
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:36 AM
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I don’t lose interest. I just know he’s not that interested. Which is what I expect
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:29 AM
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Some people see it as transactional (mostly men) I pay Dutch on dates. I’m not attractive. I know men aren’t going to put effort into me. They put in even less effort because I initiate and offer to pay for myself. Men will put in the bare minimum they think they need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:26 AM
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Didn’t say it was the norm. I’m saying for the women who pay. A lot of the reason is so that men can’t do the whole. I paid and she didn’t put out. How dare she!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 05:16 AM
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We pay because some men think if they pay for food or whatever they are also paying for our bodies. It’s because of the entitled attitude of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 03:49 AM
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You just want women’s attraction to be like men’s. It’s not. You want their life experiences to be like mens. It’s won’t be. Women are more “fearful/cautious” by nature. We don’t prioritize sex like men do. We don’t scan the crowds and see potential mates. We scan for potential dangers. Even if we like a guy, the “concerns” are usually more important than the missed opportunity of a mate. If we like a guy we are more likely to know him to some degree but maybe not enough. There are lots of facto…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 03:13 AM
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It should only be an important thing to focus on if you know that you absolutely want to get married and have kids. Marriages have a better rate of success if you marry after 30
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 06:39 PM
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One of the reasons I prefer to date younger men. Older single men have just decided that they are waiting to die
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 06:34 PM
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Everyone dies alone
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 06:30 PM
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It’s not lazy, it’s biology. Social norms are changing but that doesn’t affect our reptilian brains. Women and men have different arousals, fears, priorities, etc.. Most women aren’t going to initiate because we are more likely to think with a herd/prey mentality. That’s how we perceive the world. Men are more likely to initiate because they have a pack/predator mentality. That’s how they perceive the world. We are a dimorphic species. We like what makes us different.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 06:28 PM
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People can choose to date or not date people for whatever reason. Excluding over half of an entire population of potential mates will just make things that much harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 06:02 PM
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I would tell him he can do whatever he wants. He’s single. Go forth and do whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 05:57 PM
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He’d blame her for being ran through
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 05:54 PM
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Choking can get people killed or maimed. It’s often done wrong. Without a conversation about how, when, pressure, where, for how long, safety words or gestures, etc. Seeking to please your partner CAN be a part of a healthy relationship. It’s also very normal for women to minimize their pleasure in bed for men pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 05:22 PM
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I don’t base my opinion on women based on TikTok or instagram. I don’t use either. Social media isn’t the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 05:11 PM
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I’d say women do stuff in the bedroom for men, all the time. Stuff that they are not interested in. Especially women in their 20’s. I’ve had sex with over 50 men and a dozen women. I’m in the kink community and into bdsm. Choking is not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 05:04 PM
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It is not normal as in common, everyday, standard. Putting your hand around someone else’s neck and squeezing, while having sex, while never having discussed it, and thinking it’s just something everyone does, is NOT normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 12:41 PM
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Just had a 27yo try to “choke” me during sex. Put his hand on my neck and after asked if that was okay. Porn makes people think non normal sex things are normal. Porn is not real sex. It makes people insecure about their bodies. It makes men bad (worse if possible) at sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 12:08 PM
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Yes, men have higher libidos an average. However I’m hornier when I’m having good sex. Or when I have someone that actually makes me feel sexy and desired and safe. I’m less horny when I’m having bad sex or when I don’t feel desired and safe. The more good sex I have, the more sex I want. The less good sex I have, the less sex I want to have. Maybe if more men were better at arousing women and having sex that’s mutually beneficial, more women would want to have sex more often. And that gap could…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 11:05 AM
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I don’t want to date someone who base morals aren’t similar to mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 12:05 AM
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Asking for one now, says you don’t trust me now. Saying you’ll ask for one in the future is saying you won’t trust me in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 09:15 PM
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I already told you. There’s a difference in someone earning my trust over time. And saying I’m never going to trust you.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 06:45 PM
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How long have we been together? Has the trust been built up?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 06:42 PM
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Of course. It’s different than telling him in the beginning of our relationship that there is nothing he can ever do or say. No matter how long we are together. I will never trust him enough to not cheat on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 06:10 PM
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If you ask me how to get drive somewhere, do you expect me to tell you to first get in your car? To put your keys into the ignition and turn it on? No. It’s implied. It’s not lying by omission. When people ask women what women want. Be physically attractive to us, should be understood. Women are taught/told/showed how to act/dress/style our entire lives on how to attract a man. We know how we look matters. Why don’t men?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 06:05 PM
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How long have we been together? Has the trust been built? I have no problem with partners being friends with exes.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 04:42 PM
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We don’t lie about it. We figure it’s implied. Of course you need to find the person physically attractive enough. Why do we need to say that part?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 04:01 PM
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Yes. Just like for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 03:57 PM
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If he doesn’t trust me what’s the point of being in a relationship with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 02:52 PM
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A man who’s physically attractive enough and shows he’s funny too is way more attractive than a physically attractive enough guy that isn’t funny.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 02:29 PM
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That isn’t what this person said. A “hot” guy with a shitty/boring/uncaring/dumb/etc. personality isn’t “hot” anymore. Yes physical attractiveness is important. It’s the first obstacle. You have to be physically attractive enough. Then your personality and character and how you interact with the world matter. They can add to attraction or they can detract from attraction. Having the right personality traits can be a “turn on.” The wrong personality traits can be a “turn off.”
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 02:25 PM
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Of course a person should earn your trust. Action over time. You can’t ever prove you’re not cheating. You can’t prove a negative. A paternity test only proves that the cheating you think I’m capable of didn’t get me pregnant. A person who believes all women cheat and they can’t be trusted. Isn’t a person I’m compatible with. Lots of men here don’t like when people call men cheaters. Should I think all men are capable and no matter what will cheat on me. That all men are just lairs. They can’t p…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 01:51 PM
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He isn’t a “bad” person for it. It means we aren’t compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 03:29 AM
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If a man tells me he’s going to ask for a paternity test from me, at any point, he doesn’t trust me and I’m breaking up with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/26 12:51 AM
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You’re not the only one
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 08:39 PM
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Yup. Money. It’s always about money. The reality of it or the perception of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 08:34 PM
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No such thing as perfect. Perfect is stagnant
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 08:28 PM
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🙌
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 08:05 PM
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Same. There are a couple that I would sometimes like to take under my wing. Then I remember I’m fat and they hate me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/26 08:03 PM
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You’re welcome. Edit. You added “Got there in the end. Good on you” after I replied. Now I feel like I have to reread all of this thread to see if you changed things and added condescension in other places. But I really don’t care enough. To those who get this far. Read it with a grain of salt. Thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:56 PM
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Sure? 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:52 PM
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My argument is that it’s possible. But you can’t say for sure. How probable it is, is still something up for debate. But also something that can’t be proven.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:40 PM
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I love being a safe person. Especially for men. They don’t get enough softness in their lives. I really should retake it. This last year has been a whirlwind of sexual exploration. And understandings of myself. I only recently realized I’m poly even though ever since I was 15 I’ve imagined myself with 2 men. One more submissive one more dominant. (I’m fucking slow, I know🙄) I’m currently talking to 2 very submissive men online. I’ve had to ask lots of clarifying questions and see things from dif…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:34 PM
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Okay. Then it’s not really a debate. More of a discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:27 PM
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Let’s say it’s less than 0.00001% of the number of women who don’t date bi men for this specific reason. In the ways you are using the terms and words. Cool. What about it? Do you want those women to change their minds or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:16 PM
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I can literally say that about everything. People do things.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:09 PM
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Again. Female and feminine mean different things to different people. Men put a lot of value on women being female and feminine. Lots of men complain women aren’t feminine enough when they mean submissive. I can’t say there are absolutely no women out there among the 4 billion of us or so that don’t hold those views and act accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:06 PM
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It’s really messed up.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:01 PM
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And in queer society they are seen as mostly straight.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:59 PM
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I’ll concede that many different people do many different things for many different reasons. Edit to add. People put different values on different things too.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:54 PM
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Intention is important. Actions are important. Lots of people apply intent on perceived actions. A person can believe that they are good enough as a woman but know that they can’t ever be a man. They can internalize or externalize that. They can make conscious and subconscious actions about it. They can have inwardly or outwardly insecurities about it. Do some women not date bi guys just because they don’t feel that what they offer is enough? Sure. Just like I won’t date a man who likes skinny w…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:48 PM
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I don’t exactly lick nibble and bite a prime rib as much. But yes. High quality meat. Meat that I’ve been craving for a long time. Like an involuntary vegan getting out of the cult and seeing and smelling bacon for the first time in years.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:29 PM
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It could be seen both ways. Either she can feel less than or feel he is more than.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:27 PM
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He’s good for bj’s and boob play. And he does dirty talk really well. He probably helped my sub become a good little slut. I never got naked with him. I’m good at reassuring him. I already made out with and did the boobs bj thing with him. He knows I’m not going to pressure or judge him. I’m good at getting a man to feel validated and wanted. I’ve been told I’m a safe person many times. 🥰 https://preview.redd.it/pragr7n537gh1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=4ebfff171fc8ee9c50984a125ea717…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:24 PM
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So your argument is that some people are shallow and are void of substance. And those people consciously or subconsciously avoid dating people seen as better than them because they want more than the superficial?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:16 PM
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I don’t think we are using the same definition of femininity. What do you think a woman “brings to the table?”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:10 PM
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I get so hot and relaxed at the same time with impact play. I get into a really good headspace with it. I’m a rope bunny. An insecure exhibitionist. An experimentalist. A switch (mostly sub) but I’m sexually aggressive. I have very few “icks.” I have one friend who really wants to go. But he just got out of a 17 yo toxic relationship. When she left him he messaged me, thanking me for being the only woman in his life that didn’t make him think sex with him was an obligation. That i truly enjoyed …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:05 PM
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The fear and realization that she’s never going to be a man therefore never really fully be what he desires is what threatens her. Again. With any preferences. If a man said he was interested but had only dated skinny girls in the past I’m not going to believe him. I’m not skinny. He’ll always prefer skinny. I’m not what he wants and he will always be looking for that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:00 PM
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I used to go to socialize and have fun. Have great conversations. Haven’t been in decades. Jesus I need to be flogged so bad. I feel like the dynamics will be very different. And I don’t have anyone to go with anymore. I’m the only non angry single female I know that I would be comfortable going to a sex club with.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:55 PM
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Men and women are different. We are attracted to what makes us different. (If we are heterosexual) Her body and biology does give her leverage over many men. Just like his body and biology give him leverage over many women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:52 PM
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I know. And when I’m with a man I make sure to treat him like a piece of meat. It really works great for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:46 PM
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I’m only in maybe the 70’s range. Mostly early insecure blowjobs in my 20’s. I unfortunately have never met anyone that’s dom fits my sub. I end up topping from the bottom because they aren’t the right fit. Maybe someday. I need to work on my insecurities more and go to some of the sex clubs around here on kink nights. But I usually need more time than meet and fuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:44 PM
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Hell yeah. I have a praise kink. And a “claiming” kink too. So saying My good girl. Or you’re the perfect slut for Me. Jesus Christ. Panties on fire!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:29 PM
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Yes. Because you kept bringing up that other than her “femininity” (meaning her body from what I can infer from for your op and comments) she doesn’t have anything else to offer. She knows she has other things to offer in a relationship other than her body. But she can’t have another body.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:26 PM
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I asked for examples because I’m trying to have a discussion/debate with you. I’m trying to understand what you’re meaning. Words have meaning other than what in the dictionary. I’m giving you my understandings. I don’t think women should view men as gods and are always up for this “protector” roll. Household specialization? Want to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:21 PM
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Why can’t I hire a mechanic instead of assuming my man is one and has to fix my car whenever and however I want? Give me a real example of what you mean my protect? Really I’m trying to understand your perception. I believe men and women do “need” each other. But not in the ways the past said we did. Need is a spectrum.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:14 PM
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You added all the other stuff after “Anything and everything. Do you think children don’t need parents?” Yes we need laws and law enforcement. Advisors are cool. Assistance and shrinks are all right. How does any of that mean I need my romantic partner to “protect” ME from anything and everything. That’s seems like a really high bar that’s just going to fail. Unless you control everything about the woman’s life you can’t “protect” her from “everything.” I’ll call the cops. I’ll find an advisor o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:10 PM
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Do you view the women in your life as “children?”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 03:03 PM
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I don’t live near lions and tigers. There’s no piranhas in the ponds. I can carry a gun if I choose. What are modern men “protecting” women from?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 02:59 PM
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I love being called a good girl in the right context 🥰
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 02:42 PM
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This also feels like a “women don’t bring anything to the table other than their vaginas” argument. Just hidden in a bisexual wrapper
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 02:00 PM
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A lot of guys find the idea of 2 women having sex as arousing and if those 2 women were to also have sex with him he’d be elated. Men and women (mostly men) find bisexual men repulsive (as opposed to attractive)
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 01:52 PM
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It is about sex not femininity. I’m “not good enough” as a whole person. Yes bi people are capable of monogamy. But insecurities about never being enough are strong and deep. And they get reflected in different ways. I’m okay with bi men wanting and being attracted to other men. I know I’ll never be good enough for a straight man. Being with a bi man for me is the same. But I’ve come to deal with it. For me it’s actually easier. I can’t be that. So that’s one thing that’s not on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 01:40 PM
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If being with him gives the ick or makes you insecure about yourself then he isn’t perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 01:32 PM
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But it doesn’t have anything to do with perceived masculine or feminine. I’m not less feminine because a guy is attracted to another guy. I’m just not a guy. I don’t have less to give as a woman, I just don’t have anything to give as a man. I’m more than my vagina but I’ll still never be a man. Knowing your man has a kink that’s really really important to him that you can’t or won’t provide makes you feel like he’s going to need it eventually. There’s nothing you can do about it. He will leave o…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 01:27 PM
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In the eyes of a lot of people. Not just women. More men than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 01:15 PM
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There are many deal breakers out there. They are all valid to the person with the deal breaker. They aren’t perfect if they have that dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 01:14 PM
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Thinking about your man having sex with another woman, while not a happy feeling for most women, is an understandable thought. Thinking about your man having sex with another man can give that repulsive reaction. Why do most men have a repulsive response to thinking about having sex with another man while most women have a neutral response to the thought of having sex with another woman? Biology maybe. Evopsych. I also think it comes to insecurities. Even if not repulsed. The idea that I’ll (not…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 01:07 PM
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Some of it comes down to insecurity and perception. (I like bi guys) A lot of women know/feel that most men would have sex with a shit ton of women if they could. They already don’t feel special. Add in men as possible sexual partners and a lot of women know that they can’t even try to compete with that. There’s nothing they can do to be better than most women and now other men too. They’ll always know that they aren’t good enough. They can never be a man. Their man will always be missing someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 12:59 PM
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There are many reasons people have an issue dating or having sex with bisexual men. I think the biggest issue is that more people have a repulsive (as opposed to attractive) response to thinking about having sex with men. Man and women. Thoughts can be put into positive or attractive, neutral, and negative or repulsive. More men have a negative response to the idea of having sex with another man (any man) Some women have a negative response to the idea of having sex with men they aren’t attracte…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 12:46 PM
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I switch up who my sexual fantasies are about while flicking the bean. Sometimes I got to flip through the mental roster to find the flavor that works in that moment. I have adhd.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 12:16 PM
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Absolutely not. But we don’t have women equivalences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:26 AM
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Blame biology
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 05:22 AM
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They want validation and pussy. Paying a prostitute isn’t validating.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 04:45 AM
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Women “need” men and men “need” women. Needs are on a spectrum. I’d love to find someone(s) that I want to spend time with. That I feel safe with. That I can disconnect from the rest of the world with. That makes me feel special. That I can make feel special. Someone that is willing to carve out a piece of their life and make room for me in it. I want us to share ourselves. I want someone I’m attracted to that is also attracted to me. Yes, I don’t need a man to support me financially. I don’t ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 02:19 AM
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I actually like the handkerchief signaling a lot of gay people use. Makes things way easier.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/26 01:41 AM
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I’m interested in sex. The act of it and the idea of it. I had hoe phases that were promoted by insecurities. By horniness. By break ups. By boredom. Etc. I learned about myself. I’ve taken personal inventory. I learned that there were things I’d do, not because I wanted to do them but because I thought I should. Or that I thought that’s what they wanted. Most of my 20’s and 30’s I pushed my pleasure down. The guys didn’t seem to care about it or me so why would I bother. My ex was pretty vanill…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 04:40 PM
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It will probably turn off more women than turn them on. But all things considered. If you’re more confident wearing whatever. And you find a woman who doesn’t care that you’re doing all that. Then great. Although I think the number of women who wouldn’t care is less than the number of women who wouldn’t care if you’re a little short or bald or whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 09:48 AM
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If we are having sex. My hands are going through your hair. Your wig will come off. And be in my hands. And I will probably freak out.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 09:37 AM
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Sex is supposed to be fun. It can create bonding feelings but that’s not a guarantee. It’s not a ritual. That sounds mechanical.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:25 PM
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There’re a lot of reasons for the declining birthrates. Lots of people are having sex. They are choosing not to have kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:24 PM
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Drinking was social lubricant to get to the sex part. Gen Z still wants sex. They just don’t have the same social and interpersonal skills and they don’t drink and have fun and commingle. They like and want sex. They just don’t know how to disconnect online and do it in the real world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 12:10 PM
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Oh. No. You can absolutely suck too hard. On nipples. On the clit. On the lips or earlobes. I once had a guy suck really hard on my clit and kept feeling his teeth. ON MY CLIT! But yeah. Joke didn’t land on me. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 02:15 AM
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The right bashes on men too by telling them they must be “real men” and real men always do z, y, and z. And never a, b, or c. They restrict men into little columns, into caricatures. They also make normal everyday dudes feel bad about themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:46 AM
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The study/survey is skewed and misrepresented. That being said. I don’t think there are good or bad men. Some men will do bad acts. Some will do them because they can. Some will do them because they want to. Some will do them because they feel entitled. Some will only do them if they know they won’t get caught. Some will do them because they think the eventual good outweighs with the bad now. Some don’t see their bad as bad only others bad as bad. Everybody does some bad things. Or things other …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/26 01:37 AM
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I’m excited by words and actions. It’s sucks if a man might be great in bed but shitty through text. I’m not going to fuck a dude that’s only effort is “wyd” at 1am.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 06:51 PM
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Can you explain it please? The first lines of my comment says I don’t understand what you’re saying.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 06:48 PM
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🫡 watch the link when you have time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:48 PM
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I just want to have good sex. And since my anatomy and arousal responses are different than a man’s, a stranger immediately starting with “let’s fuck” isn’t going to turn me on. And makes me feel like he isn’t going to care about my arousals. Just his. No foreplay. No wanting to learn how to excite me. No stimulation. Just. Let me shove it in.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:46 PM
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Nobody would be happy if neither of them were doing anything. A relationship isn’t two people existing in the same space.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:42 PM
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Men, generally speaking, have a pack/predator mentality. Women, generally speaking, have a herd/prey mentality. Men want security. Women want safety. Men value sex more. Women value stability more. Men don’t trust easily. Women trust too easily. Men and women need each other. Men look for complimentary strengths. Women look for similar strengths. We want different things, to feel appreciated. We have different ways of looking at things. Men play for points. Women play for reciprocity. Neither ar…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:28 PM
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You have no idea what I or my friends or women do for the men they love and adore. We value and see and perceive things differently. I dote on my male friends. On my ex. On my fwb’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:17 PM
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Yes they both are. We are “simps” for each other. The status symbol of having a happy wife is for other men. Not women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:14 PM
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Watch the link I posted. It’s a great insight to how women and men think differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:11 PM
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Why would we. The phrase works. A man is happy when he’s doing things. He’s happy when he has a purpose. He’s happy when he’s loved and appreciated. He’s happy when he’s respected. He’s motivated. Men in good relationships want to be more. A happy wife is a huge status symbol for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:10 PM
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Men like doing things.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:06 PM
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It’s just a rhyme, dude. Something easy to say and remember.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:05 PM
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No I don’t. I think they are saying they are happy when their wives are happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:04 PM
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Again. Give me a rhyme that uses man or husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:02 PM
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You’re taking it too literally.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:02 PM
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It’s just a colloquial phrase. I think you’re taking too much literal meaning in it. I’m pretty sure men made “happy wife happy life” too. Again. There isn’t really easy rhymes for a relationship structure that uses man or husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 05:01 PM
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No it’s not. Your perspective needs to shift. But I can’t do that for you. Have you ever been in a healthy relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:59 PM
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When a wife is happy she treats her man in a way that also makes him happy. She receives him. Makes him feel strong (mentally or physically.) She makes him feel safe and secure. She makes him feel wanted and needed. She gives him a space to “live in his masculine.”
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:30 PM
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We also use “happy spouse happy house.” Do you have a quick one liner that would rhyme and use the word man or husband?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:25 PM
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It’s not self centered. It’s complicated. It’s psychology It’s long but worth the watch https://youtu.be/4hibdmZkOIE?is=BHyTq8bWlYxMYVmr
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:21 PM
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And we adore them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:16 PM
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Exactly. It isn’t 50/50 in same number amounts it’s 50/50 in able contributions.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:15 PM
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I might hit you up. I’m thinking about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:09 PM
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It’s the same phrase.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 04:06 PM
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Yeah. I’d have to go full on kink probably. I’m already working on my fem domme abilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:55 PM
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Obese. Used to be morbidly obese. Connective tissue issues so I’m extra saggy. Alopecia on meds. Rosacea. I’d have 1 “date” a year maybe.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:51 PM
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I thought about being an OF girl. I’m not attractive enough to be an escort. I’d have a very niche clientele. I’m very good at sexting. Making them feel desired, wanted, valued, appreciated. Even my mom has jokingly suggested it. I prefer to offer my services for free with men that I’m attracted to however.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:47 PM
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I don’t know what part you’re objecting to? Women rejecting men because they are bad in bed? Yes we do it. All the time. Tons of men suck at sex. They are penis centric. They don’t consider a woman’s mental arousal. They don’t touch our clits. They don’t touch our bodies other than boobs and vaginas. They can go from 0 to let’s fuck and they think the women should be the same way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:44 PM
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Some women say a lot of things. So do some men. The internet isn’t reality. There are a lot of people who actually just get enjoyment from making their partners happy. We exist. “Happy wife happy life” can be seen from different perspectives. From a man who truly loves his woman and is in a healthy relationship. He wants to make his partner happy. It gives him a sense of purpose and contentment when she shows she’s happy with him. How she softens with him. Becomes vulnerable with him. Feels safe…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 03:33 PM
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I’m all for casual sexual partners. If a guy messages me sex type stuff right away, he’s being left on read. It’s about a push and pull.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/26 01:22 AM
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What part of physically attractive enough and a positive interaction do you not understand? We want the whole package. The outsides. And the insides.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:34 PM
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A shy introvert sitting in a corner avoiding contacts is basically furniture. Part of the background. He could be good or bad or neutral. I don’t know and won’t find out. Unless he is extremely physically attractive to me and my hormones are sending me the right signals at the right time, he doesn’t exist to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:28 PM
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Still trying though. Personal inventory. Accountability. Trying to believe. Good thing I’m a bit of a masochist
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:18 PM
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Yes he wants women not to be able to vote
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:17 PM
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I’ve mostly been abused by men. But I don’t have a negative view of men in general. But it definitely has fucked with my sexual/romantic interests and interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:14 PM
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Yes. We know. Men are interested in the shapes and vagina. Women are interested in the whole man. That’s why a lot of women feel like interchangeable fleshlights. Because all most men need for sex is looks good enough and is willing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:10 PM
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Women don’t say women’s arousal is only spontaneous. Womens arousal is spontaneous and responsive. Mostly responsive. Most women will tell you this if they think about it. Or if they are being honest with you. A woman needs to find a guy attractive enough. And they need to have a positive interaction. What that interaction needs to be will be different depending on the woman and the time and the situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:06 PM
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Yes they become invisible. Women in general aren’t scanning the crowds for potential sexual partners. We aren’t visual like that. We are scanning for potential danger first. I like shy guys. But I still have to interact with them. I have to have an opportunity to meet and engage with them. Make them blush🥹🥵 most of the introverted shy men that I’ve been with, I’ve met through their extroverted friends. And we had a chance to interact in small venues or when alcohol was involved to loosen them up…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 07:00 PM
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Because that’s how most women’s arousal works.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:55 PM
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Physical attractiveness mixed with how he interacts with the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:51 PM
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How/why am I supposed to choose the guy that doesn’t look, talk, or approach me? If we aren’t interacting then he’s not an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:50 PM
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💚
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:41 PM
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I’m sorry. And I hope you have/had time to be able to heal as much as you can.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:39 PM
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I’m still trying to be honest in sex. Trying to believe things outside of my insecurities, embarrassments, social conditioning, sense of inadequacies, etc.. Speaking up about my pleasure also being important feels like I’m asking for something that I don’t deserve or that they aren’t interested in participating in. “They’d rather be with someone else, so asking for more than what they are desperate enough to do, isn’t worth it.” I’m not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:35 PM
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I honestly love that for you😜😁😈
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:21 PM
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I talked to a guy on here once that talked about wanting a virgin because he didn’t want to have a ran through. He had had sex and he said that he knew he was ruining them for the next man and he didn’t care. Virgins good. A woman sleeping with him is a whore after she’s not sleeping with him anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:20 PM
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Your whole argument is that men should sleep with ugly women, meaning fat and obese to most men. So you’re encouraging them to “take your women.” You find fat women ugly too, apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 11:57 AM
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I don’t know you. Is it?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 08:56 AM
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That sounds awesome. I was on shrooms at the bar last night with some really good friends. It was a really good night.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 07:30 PM
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No way. That can’t be it. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 06:42 PM
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I agree women and men on reddit like to consume things that piss them off. I believe misandry exists. One of my friends has become very misandrist. She doesn’t like when I call her out. She still likes individual men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:49 PM
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Reddit is not the real world and not the number one social media for younger women. Reddit is a beautiful cesspool. It’s not for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:44 PM
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Yes. Society infantilizes women. It both works for and against us. Just like society thinks men are more capable works for and against them. I don’t think age gap relationships are inherently bad. I like younger men. I’m not a hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:39 PM
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The article talks about capitalism, economics, politics, and over focus on sexual motivation as the main issues. As perceived by these women. Men and women exist on the same planet but occupy different worlds.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 05:01 PM
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AS objectionable. Nothing that I’ve seen. But on the spectrum of objectionable it’s still on the negative side. Saying all women are shallow stupid whores and only want Chad isn’t as objectionable as saying women should be controlled and their rights should be removed. They are still negative and repulsive attitudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:53 PM
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Not really. Op is claiming that the younger person is the one that society says is gold gigging or whatever. Op didn’t say anything about the fact that it’s usually looked down on the older one. Not the younger one. The older one is more likely the one with the power. They are the ones being manipulative. Most people think the younger one will be manipulated. Because they are naive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:47 PM
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Really depends on the older and younger woman. I’m much chiller in my older age. I’ve done a lot of self reflection. I’ve also pretty much been single the entire time. I have baggage. Oh absolutely. But I know it’s mine to unpack. Not my partners. I have a lot more grace for men now because I have a lot more experiences and understanding of men now. And of myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:33 PM
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I enjoy gender debates and discourse. Hence why I’m here. I like hearing from the other perspectives. I’m obese and unattractive. I don’t have the average woman’s experiences. So I enjoy hearing “normal” women’s opinions about things too. I believe in sex dimorphism in humans. We do think differently. Testosterone and estrogen do major things to our brains. I think we don’t talk about certain things because it’s “unpleasant” in civilized society. Stereotypes are easier to believe in because they…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:26 PM
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If you guys actually read the articles you use as dogma you’d read it’s mostly about politics and economics. And the perception of how men are moving more to the right and women are moving more to the left. Social media amplifies men like Tate and Clavicle and Fuentes. Women see men glorifying these men. They see rights that their moms had being taken away. They hear about more rights being removed in the future by a loud minority. It’s not individual men they are not holding in a positive light…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:14 PM
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Just because I don’t find someone attractive doesn’t mean other people couldn’t. It doesn’t mean I think anything negatively about that person. I don’t necessarily think they are ugly. I’m just not attracted to them. Most of the time I’m neutral. I’m just not attracted to them. That’s not a positive or negative. I’m friends with lots of people I’m not attracted to. I can even find them attractive. In fact I’d say all my friends are attractive people. I’m just not attracted to them. There’s nothi…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:57 PM
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And I understand that. And I’ve told or reminded other women that sometimes crushes happen. It doesn’t mean that the person with the crush always had it and that they’ve been waiting and scheming. Society keeps shouting this narrative. Both men and women say men want sex. That it is a driving factor for a lot of men. Men place higher value on sex than women do (in general) A man has less options, in general, to a woman for sex. A man is generally attracted to more women than a woman is attracted…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:40 PM
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For a cold approach, yes. Most women will see it as for sex only because you don’t know anything else about her other than how she looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:01 PM
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I get the feeling that the men that have sex with me would rather be having sex with someone else. Like if they were attracted to 100 women. And they ranked them from 1 the hottest to 100 just literally attractive enough to not lose wood. I’d be in the high 90’s. Sex can be fun. I get horny. I’ve had many breaks from sex and men. I end up with a lot of ons.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 08:05 PM
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Not exaggerating. Im not the right kind of fat. You exist on the internet. Statistically there’s probably hundreds of thousands of men that could, in theory, think I’m attractive. And they live all over the world. So my chances of meeting one irl is slim to none. I don’t want to be with a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:21 PM
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Huge self esteem issues. Especially since men admit that they don’t find women like me attractive but will fuck them anyways. I don’t get validation like pretty women do from being hit on. I don’t get validation like men do through sex because I’m just seen as a hole. Men admitting they sleep down makes me know that a man wanting to sleep with me means he thinks I’m less than. Bbw porn is a bunch of curvy, round, big assed or big titted women with a tiny belly. I’m not the good kind of fat. I do…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:14 PM
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I don’t know if I should laugh or just shake my head
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:08 PM
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I’m attracted to the men I have sex with. I actually want to have sex with them. I just know that they would rather be having sex with someone else. I’m poly. I’d love to have a partner. I’ve only had one ex before. He fell for my personality. He turned me down for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:58 PM
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Men who have sex with fat women that aren’t attracted to them makes me not believe men like you that say you’re attracted to fat women. There’s way more of them than there are of you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:49 PM
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No. I just know that I can’t get wanted sex, affection, attraction, or a relationship. I’m not pretty enough. So I’ll take what I can get. I don’t get asks on dates, I get asked for sex. I know my place in the world. Never had pretty girl blinders on. I’m a hole that isn’t wanted but will be accepted. I still get horny sometimes. I can pretend sometimes that they want to be there. I appreciate good actors.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:47 PM
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Men are confusing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:19 PM
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I’ve never really been a committed monogamous relationship person. I enjoy sex as a concept. Even though my orgasm gap is huge! I’m enthusiastic and I bet I’m a good amount of mens “best” sexual experience they’ve ever had. I just had an old friend tell me this recently. Just got out of a 17 year toxic relationship. I still have standards and preferences being the fat one. I know that most men aren’t attracted to me but will use my body to masturbate. I’m going to pick the most attractive to me …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 02:13 PM
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Fair
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:58 PM
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Blame shitty men
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:50 PM
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I’m one of those fat, disgusting, ugly women that you want more men to use. I used to like casual more. Not so much anymore because I know men think like you do.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:49 PM
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Yes. Treat more women like fleshlights. Because we don’t talk to each other. We don’t share stories. Hotter women will become even more avoidant of men. Bad men make good men’s lives harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:24 PM
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Shock face. Different men are different. No. Say it ain’t so.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:02 PM
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Not just what they do but what they do over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:00 PM
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I don’t think most women lie. They just don’t really know or the narrative is different and they don’t want to admit it.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 11:00 PM
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I think it’s probably luck. Luck about where they live. Their place in the world and the randomness of the world. The “perfect” guy could live 3 streets down from me. But if I never interact with him, online or irl. How am I supposed to know there’s a great guy over there? The current world makes a lot of people think they have access to everyone they could possibly have a connection with right at their fingers. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with anyone who’s older and hasn’t experienced …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 10:37 PM
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Hahahahaha😂🤣 thanks for the laughs
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 06:05 PM
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Yes. Dogs can bite. Just like men. You never know which one will or when. But it’s not the norm. Men don’t want to be treated as equals to women. That’s what women already do. We judge you for not being more like women. Men and women aren’t the same. Men don’t want to be treated as above “like gods” because they aren’t. They are fallible. They are human. That’s too much pressure to have all the answers. Be mind readers. To always have to be in control and fix all the problems.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 04:10 PM
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I wasn’t mean to any of them. I told the first one that I probably didn’t have the ass he was looking for but good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:20 PM
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They can. Doesn’t mean they do. I’m obese. I was morbidly obese but I’ve lost over 100 pounds. Talking about my ass on the first line is an automatic no.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:18 PM
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Nope. Just fat. There are no ass pics on my profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:14 PM
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Dogs get cuddles and belly rubs. They are loved and adored. They get praised when they do something good. They are loyal and loving. They are easily trainable. They want to make their people happy. It brings them joy to be useful. They make people feel safe. If women treated men like dogs instead of gods the world would be a better place.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:14 PM
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I don’t get matches often. Yesterday there must have been something in the air. I got 3. Every single one of them talked about wanting to see my ass as their first line to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 03:10 PM
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Why are you wanting to get to know them?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 02:58 PM
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I would only call it a red flag if the guy in question said something along the lines of he doesn’t have female friends on purpose. Because outside of a sexual relationship women hold no value. Outside of that. People define friendship as different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:43 PM
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A man won’t bring it up because it might end sex. A woman won’t bring it up because it might end the relationship. Not bringing it up is a form of lying. Lying is biological. It’s a freeze lie. Usually when a casual sexual situationship ends the man can go “at least I got sex” and the woman can go “I only got sex” different perspective of the value of sex and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:18 PM
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I’m poly. I’m adhd. I’m ND. In my youth I also had the “it didn’t work out, it means the stuff during didn’t count” mentality. I’m no longer that way. I don’t even know if I felt that way then or if it was a social behavior or a defense mechanism. You might just be the kind of poly I am. I enjoy the experience of life. I get truly happy for my partner’s being happy, whether that happy is with me or with someone else. I think men put more value into sex because biology. And I think women put more…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 12:59 PM
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I like discussing men’s rights with some of my male friends. I like discussing men’s right with some of my female friends. I feel empathy as a whole for most people just trying to get through life. I don’t feel empathy for people who just want to blame everything on something or someone else and never take stalk of themselves and their actions. I like a good vent session. I also don’t believe in equality, I believe in equity. I don’t believe in “fair.”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:56 PM
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Yes. Having a partner and what that partner encompasses validated men’s existence. Societally speaking.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:32 PM
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My mom always taught me “you are bigger (mentally) you are stronger (emotionally) you do not hit.” It goes for all. Generally speaking, people infantilize women and think men are more competent. Thats why the numbers and laws and punishments are probably skewed a bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 09:20 PM
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Commenting to read and comment later
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 04:43 PM
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Bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/26 02:11 PM
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Northern Ireland is roughly 14,000 square kilometers. All of Ireland is 85,000 square kilometers. My single state is 255,000 square kilometers.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 09:56 PM
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Some people are going to care. Some people aren’t. A lot of people (men and women) infantilize women of all ages. Is a younger person going to have possible issues with dating a much older person that aren’t possible issues in none age gap relationships, yup. There’s going to be issues in all relationships. It’s just one more that can be a possibility. A lot of people give more agency to men. They make their decisions and they will live with the consequences good or bad. Men are seen as more com…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 09:47 PM
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Humans don’t go into heat. We do not have a mating season or cycle. We are sometimes more horny during our cycle. But that’s not heat. We can and do want sex different times. Not just when we are ovulating or going to ovulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:42 PM
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Some of us do think about approaching men. That’s we’ve interacted with. We want to approach them to get to know them better. We’ll put ourselves in their orbit. We’ll talk to them. We’ll initiate first casual contact. Some of us will even ask guys out. We aren’t think about banging the stranger. We don’t think about going up to said stranger for sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:31 PM
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Your post is “women don’t think about men” I said “yes we do, we just think about them in different ways.” Your response is “that’s what I said” No it’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:24 PM
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I appreciate that you want more “Men’s perspective is more about if all a woman offers is her body and beauty, immediately a man’s mind goes to just think about take her to bed” Op is/was asking about just seeing a woman on the street. (The container) She hasn’t offered anything. She’s just existing in her body.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:21 PM
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Okay. Yeah. Some or maybe most of us think like this most of the time. There’s still going to be contractions. Even within the same woman. She might be less selective in general for whatever reasons. She might be less selective depending on her cycle. But overall, yes we think about other stuff before we think about sex. But we do think about sex. What about my perception of men? Do you agree that the container is enough for most men to want to eat whatever is inside without knowing the contents…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 01:06 PM
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Do you agree or disagree? With the man and woman parts? How does that translate in your head? From your perspective
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:52 AM
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Literally everything. Women think about men. We want men. We just don’t think about sex like men do. We don’t think about men how men think about women. We don’t want men in the same ways and steps a man thinks about a woman. But we absolutely think sexually about men. It just isn’t “ooo I want to fuck that complete stranger over there that I know nothing about.”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:51 AM
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Lot of grandparents are still working for couples in their 20’s and 30’s. Or they don’t live close enough. Or just don’t want to.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:44 AM
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Do you have children?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/26 11:41 AM
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Before the internet peoples “information” about the world was their own experiences, the local or international news on tv or in print. It was stories from friends and family and coworkers. With the internet we have instant access to all the good, bad, true and false information we can stand. Instead of just hearing about that one horrific thing that happened, that one year, at that one time, one town over. We hear about all the things that are or maybe aren’t happening everywhere. We have more …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:49 PM
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The internet
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 10:22 PM
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They want to be valued for their shapes and genitals. Like they value us.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 04:57 PM
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The Gen X men that were getting laid were having sex with Gen X women. And they are very different when it comes to wants and standards and concerns of Gen Z women
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 04:44 PM
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That’s awesome. I’m not a fan of green peppers or chiles. I don’t like the bitter aftertaste. Once they get yellow, orange, or red!!! 🤤
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 02:11 PM
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Ooo. Going to eat them plain or put them in stuff?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:06 PM
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Quentin Tarantino. He has a well known foot fetish
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:05 PM
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No. Not even a little.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:38 PM
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Think about seeing a closed takeout container sitting on the counter. Man. “I’m hungry. There’s food. Don’t care what’s inside. I’ll eat it. Woman. “There’s potentially food in the box. I wonder what it is. Does it smell good? Am I allergic to it? Am I currently hungry? If there’s something in there I like I’m going to eat the fuck out of it and if I like it I’m going to want more.”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:37 PM
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I’m pretty sure your question was “how often do women get so sexually aroused by seeing a man that they don’t know, out in the wild, in real life, while they are just going about their days and think about having sex with them?” You didn’t ask about thinking men are attractive. You didn’t ask about thinking about physical touch or contact like kissing or making out. You didn’t ask about thinking about getting to know better. You didn’t ask about wanting to talk to. You didn’t ask about wanting t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:01 PM
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Thank you. Decades of experience. Not a gift. Just a want and a will to keep doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:38 AM
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<image> One of the last things I did. I’ve never been able to do “sad” art. I’ve tried. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:33 AM
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1 day account. Women are mindless creatures that can’t do anything with independent thought. Men smart. Height!!!!! Grrrrrr.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:14 AM
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Been trying to. I have a really good playlist of “depression music” I’m getting to the numb stage which isn’t good for me. Thank you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:11 AM
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I don’t think it’s a bot. I think it’s a guy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 01:04 AM
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I need a good cry. Depression sucks. It’s been there, lingering for a couple months now. Draining. Every day just a whisper of it behind my eyes. Can’t speak or it’ll burst at the wrong time. Try to force it alone and it’s hot lava in my chest and throat but dry. The pressure needs to pop.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:48 AM
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Music taste. No. I’m picky and not picky about the music I like. It has to make my brain happy. No logic about it. Can we share back and forth and be okay when/if the other person doesn’t like a song/artist you love? Do they keep trying to change my mind about a style or band or singer? Other things are more important than the music
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:39 AM
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Depends on the Gen X man. I’m a xennial.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/26 12:12 AM
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Lots of single fathers start dating sooner than single mothers (lots of single mothers choose not to invite strange men into the lives of their children) and those new girlfriends help raise those single fathers children.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:32 PM
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Bars have gone extinct. Haven’t you heard😱
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:21 PM
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A gen zer dating a 40yo probably isn’t interested in dating 20yos atm.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 10:20 PM
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There isn’t a right time or place or reason. I’ve known men and women to get into or stay in bad relationships for a various number of reasons. (Consciously or subconsciously) I’m better than previous partners so it won’t happen to me. I don’t deserve to be treated better than this I’m scared to be alone I can love them enough that they’ll change My childhood looked like this so it’s been normalized I can fix them (Overly sensitive to “love” hormones) rose tinted glasses make red flags look like…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 09:55 PM
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“I’m sure you know what it means” No I don’t. That’s why I asked. “Looks like talking to someone who isn’t interested in talking to you” Like in an approach? Or like not messaging back? For how long? Does that mean not asking questions? Are you just in the talking stage, the dating stage, or the relationship stage? “Emotionally colder” again when in the relationship are you thinking this is? Do you know what these women are feeling? How do you know? Do you think men don’t drop women like a hot p…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 06:13 PM
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What does “pulling away” mean? If there’s no communication then it’s just guess work, no? What does it look like from your perspective? And why is this not applied to when men “pull away?”
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 05:12 PM
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If you’re “starting to be bisexual” you were before. You were born that way love. Embrace it. Go on grinder. Have fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:50 PM
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Partner meaning the last person I had sex with? Yeah it was a fun day. An old friend. We hung out. Talked. Caught up. Made out. Then I blew him for old times sake.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 02:15 PM
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I’m single. So not currently.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:55 PM
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I haven’t had enough caffeine to unravel all the problems with this post. I feel a bit dumber for having read it. The levels of ignorance, awalt, amalt, and narcissism is astounding. tiddymilkguzzler touch grass.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 01:52 PM
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Turned on by a stranger, that I only see, don’t interact with, and want to have sex with them? Never. I have a high sex drive. But that’s not how my arousal works.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/26 12:35 AM
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Who says a white frat guy can’t be liberal?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:18 PM
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Or that men would love to be in a sexual experience with 2 women who want him but also touch each other. Because that also turns men on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:13 PM
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I’m talking to a shy autistic guy online. Very liberal. European. Tech job. Submissive. Hot af.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:05 PM
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I think conservatives are more associated with toxic masculinity. Telling other men they MUST do this or that. Alpha bullshit. That they CAN’T do this or that. Beta bullshit. “This is how to be a REAL man” stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 09:00 PM
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I think there’s a big difference being a single mother by choice. And being a single mother by other circumstances. Most women do not choose to be single moms when they get pregnant. They end up that way. Because life happened. Life doesn’t always happen for the better.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:19 PM
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I can’t imagine being in my 20’s today. I had so much fun at my local dive bar. Dancing. Chilling. Flirting. Experiencing. Fucking later. I still go to the same bar and there’s hardly any 20 somethings. And if they are they are completely separated if single. I didn’t drink. I went there to be social
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 06:01 PM
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How about next Tuesday? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:50 PM
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Honest question. Do you think the men would do it if not asked at all? Do you think the women started with ordering? Would the men remember to do it and do it proactively?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:46 PM
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He did ask that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:33 PM
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I’ve never yelled at my partner for not taking out the trash. Questions are necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:51 PM
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So you’re upset with your current or ex getting mad mad about you not throwing away the trash? Was this the first time? How many times has she/did she ask for help and you didn’t. You wanted to do it “on your time” so she just did it herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:33 PM
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Sure. But why cant you also know that trash will be needed to be taken out. If it’s a constant and you have a memory and it’s your job why do I need to remind you? I have bad adhd. I made mechanisms to help myself function as an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:16 PM
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What power? What kind? How big is the imbalance. Is it all one sided? You’re being too vague. Give examples.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 02:05 PM
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I’ve never once thought about what a partner did or didn’t do consensually with previous partners and how that related to me. And I’m super insecure. We grow, we learn, we adapt. Sexual acts aren’t rewards or punishments. They are things people want to do at the time they are doing them with the person(s) they want to do them with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:47 PM
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A bj isn’t a reward. Not giving bj isn’t punishment. Jesus.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:36 PM
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If a man calls himself an alpha. He’s not!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:27 PM
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Warn you? Do you not know when trash day is? Can you not see the trash can being full? Do you not know which household chores have been delegated to who? Do you not see its chore time?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:07 PM
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If I’m asking it needs to be done nowish. I don’t usually ask. They can see the trashcan is full. They take it out. Or they know it’s trash day and they take it to the curb. (If I haven’t done it already.) I date adults.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 01:04 PM
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Like on the voter registration? Or
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:44 PM
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So you don’t want anyone to vote? Or just the ones that say that. Because a lot of men wouldn’t be able to vote either. Because they also blame society and women.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:42 PM
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You don’t want woman to vote? Why? And why is that different for men?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:31 PM
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I mean, not everyone is a citizen of everywhere. But I’m guessing you’re just thinking of the USA? And just those women who were born here or naturalized.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 12:31 PM
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My adhd makes reading really hard. So not going to happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 05:52 AM
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Good for you babes
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:45 AM
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So you want to “stop feminism?” I’m pretty sure most feminists want equal opportunity for men and women. There’s different things they focus on and work for. There’s different kinds of feminists. What issues do you think “feminists” should focus on that will help men that won’t hurt women? What issues do “feminists” focus on that hurt men?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:30 AM
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I’ve heard things. But can’t confirm or deny.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:25 AM
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I’m not a feminist so I don’t know why you’re talking about feminism. I didn’t bring up feminists. Neither did the person you originally commented on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:23 AM
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I don’t blame an entire group for anything. I’m still going to have caution in my life. Again. I don’t know if you’re a good guy or a bad guy. A good guy isn’t going to hurt me for being cautious.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:17 AM
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And how would that look like to you? No caution?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:12 AM
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Women also face sexism for being born women. Society judges men and women differently. Gender norms and all that bullshit. Men are hard. Women are weak. Men are violent. Women are pushovers. Men are uncaring. Women are emotional. Men are lustful. Women are heartless. Blah blah blah.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:10 AM
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This is a lie. Women don’t poop. We defecate. Like ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:06 AM
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Not being able to tell the difference between Dr Huxtable and Bill Cosby isn’t sexism. It’s caution. Do you lock your door when you leave? Wear your seatbelt?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:04 AM
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They’ll still pair off. Not all of them. But a lot. It’s never been all. It’s fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 04:00 AM
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Most women are much happier being single than being in bad relationships. If they have the funds they are even choosing to be single moms.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:58 AM
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So wait. Is your argument young men are afraid of women or that they want “equal” rights and therefor aren’t dating until they get them? Is it fear or protest?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:56 AM
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What accountability?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:54 AM
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Yes. Some people are assholes. Men and women. The one who committed the assault should be arrested and charges brought against them. If there’s enough evidence hopefully they can get convicted. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:52 AM
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So the young women are dating. Other men are dating. But just these 10 younger guys don’t and you equate that to all young men and say it’s all fear. Not covid that completely stopped young people from learning how to socialize in high school to early 20’s?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/26 03:48 AM
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The phrase “cut off their nose to spite their face” came from nuns that literally disfigured themselves to keep from being raped during war. It didn’t work. Maybe They killed them all.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:05 PM
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They could dress in bright red armor that says men keep the fuck away. And there will be men that take it as a challenge. They will still be approached. Unless they lock themselves up (which maybe some have) they cant keep men away from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:00 PM
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When I’m in a ltr it’s way easier. I came almost every time with my ex. I’ve only had the one. I explained why I’ve had and still do have problems orgasming. I like submissive men just fine. I’ve only had maybe half a dozen experiences with men going down on me. I’m obese. I’m not attractive. I get less effort. Most men that I end up having sex with have no want or desire to do it again. They don’t care if I enjoyed myself. I’m just a hole to masturbate with. Even the subs in my life only like m…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:57 PM
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There’s nothing a woman can do to keep men away from her.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:44 PM
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And you haven’t seen what I described? Every single one I read has people like I described. Then when other people complain about them. They double and triple down. I didn’t care about natalism before I found that sub. Now I don’t trust anybody that calls themselves a natalist before they describe what their beliefs are.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:42 PM
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I think time adds the dimension we need to not end up in true circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:08 PM
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I’m trying to understand you. Not play any shit games. You have preconceived notions about me. I have them about you. We all have biases and pasts. Your past shapes the lens of your perception. My past shapes the lens of mine. I don’t have a father. He chose not to be in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 10:03 PM
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I know for me (I don’t call myself a feminist. I don’t like labels that other people have different definitions for because it makes them have preconceived notions about me.) without the rights I have now I wouldn’t be allowed to be as sexually free. Am I still judged? Sure sometimes. But I have my own bank account to buy my kink gear. My subs would be way more secretive about their kinks too if we hadn’t moved in this general direct from the past. They already are but it’s not AS looked down on…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:33 PM
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Bring water and good shoes. I’ve mostly been wandering without a destination in mind. I don’t understand my past so it’s hard to see what the future can hold.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:13 PM
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I’m not putting my picture on reddit 😳
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:09 PM
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It’s hoE spelled upside down in number form. Like type it into your calculator and flip it over.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:08 PM
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She said she’s a hoe. So probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 09:06 PM
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The only time I talk with distain for a sub, is to them, because they like it. I’ll complain about the “lazy” ones. Just like I would complain about a pillow princess.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 08:59 PM
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I don’t know what “dominance in politics” mean and how it has to do with being dominant in the bedroom.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 08:05 PM
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I also hate myself. But I don’t want my partner to hate me. I want my partner to adore me. I want to adore them. If we do things that would be considered humiliating or degrading from an outside perspective but are doing it because we are both enjoying it and have talked about it. Because we both respect each other. Then it can be a wonderful time and I might or they might heal a little in that taboo headspace.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:39 PM
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Cool.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:12 PM
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No he thinks they are lying and that they’ll start dating once the right guy shows up.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 07:04 PM
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Might or might not be an issue. 4 years isn’t an age gap to most people. It is to some. Lots of people think I’m gay. I’m not. Dating doesn’t mean you’re in a relationship. You get to know someone through dating. You already had 1 good interaction (from your perspective at least) next time say. Hey I really enjoyed talking with you and I want to get to know you better. If you’re interested I’d like to take you out on date. Maybe (insert activity) (insert time you’re available)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:44 PM
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I love a good spice mix. I’m still learning what the different ones taste like. Anything that makes a daily activity easier isn’t lame.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:37 PM
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DO IT!!! There’s some really good YouTubers that have easy nut guides. I way overused the recount nuts thing. “It’s not cheating if it’s in the game” also you can’t really cheat in a solo game.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:32 PM
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My first playthough was on 1.5 (ps4) I did true perfection. Then I did a hermit challenge run. When 1.6 came out I started a new perfection run. Then Oliver (my ps4) died. I replaced him with a switch 2 because I really wanted to play Dinkum. Haven’t played Stardew in forever and I’m itching really bad. I don’t like the switch version. Played it once with my nephew on his.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:28 PM
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The fluffy curly thing can be helped with product and how you wash/brush your hair. You probably need a bit more oil in your hair to weigh it down. And product to hold the curl together. Finger comb or get a wide toothed comb to comb your hair. Dont brush it dry. With the little strip you can braid it to keep it together if you don’t like the texture of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:15 PM
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A friend gave me his old pc to play Stardew on. I’ve been wanting to play with Mods for forever. I’ve never owned an actual computer. I had to wait for a converter part thingy. Hopefully my other friend (his partner) can come over today and help me set everything up. SO EXCITED! Expanded here I come. And I’ll be able to walk through my fields of hops!!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:12 PM
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If your hair is longer you can do a little strip in the back part close to your neck. It won’t be obvious and you’ll know it’s there. See how you feel about it. What color would you go for?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:07 PM
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Most FA’s (fat admirers) want to be squished. Having low self esteem and pretty much hating my body my whole life has made talking to FA’s harder. They use the same words I do but with very different meanings. I say jiggle and it’s bad. They say jiggle with very happy grins on their faces. They say smother, suffocate, jiggle, sag, fat, puffy, etc. And I have to put away my definitions. Because they say it with such positive meanings. It helps when I can ask them questions about it. Get an unders…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 03:00 PM
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Oh I think more people should talk about sex in casual conversations. Less repression and mystery and judgment would go a long way in everyday life. You can’t tell what someone likes in the bedroom by seeing how they interact in their daily lives. Not liking something by random people but liking it from your lover isn’t hypocritical they are just different things. And liking something in fantasy doesn’t mean I want it to happen in reality. Sex and arousal are very complicated and layered things.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:53 PM
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I’ve had some pretty good conversations with feeders. For a lot of them it goes back to “being a provider” and liking the roundness of their partners. It’s about embracing hedonism. I’m okay with the ones that take into account safety as much as possible. But it can be a really scary kink. Mentally and physically. Same. I don’t want to yuck someone’s yum (pun fully intended right now) but SAFE, sane, and consensual. It can be an unsafe kink.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:46 PM
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Hahaha. Food and sex are pretty linked for a lot of people I guess. Maybe fruit are more “erotic” subconsciously for some reason. I’m obese. I’m okay with a good amount of kinks that have to do with my fatness. But feeders aren’t my thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:40 PM
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I usually use the stop light method. But “pineapple” is my goto example.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:27 PM
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Trust is hot. And having a fantasy that doesn’t fit into societies approved tiered list makes us feel like there’s something wrong with us. But sex and society have to have a weird relationship. We can’t all be fucking in the streets. But we should have more grace for consenting adults. We also need to have less judgment about kinks. Take pegging or ass play for men in general. It’s a fun activity. But I’ve had so many people tell me that those men are actually gay or bi. And like. NO. the assho…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:24 PM
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I absolutely believe in healing past traumas through sex. It can be done safely. Thoughtfully. I have csa stuff. Being a voluntary “victim” where I’m actually in control of the situation. Where I get to choose who gets to “violate” me. Is extremely healing. AND HOT!! But it has to be talked about and communicated. It needs to be with someone who will respect my boundaries and safe words. And the aftercare is so important. Sexual guilt is so weird. Like nearly every single person who has ever bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 02:03 PM
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Have a wonderful day internet stranger.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:51 PM
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Right?!? When I’m being a sub I can like “knife play” (no actual knives. No blood. No cutting.) but if I’m being flogged or something and someone scrapes a credit card down my back. There’s an instant HOLY SHIT THAT WAS HOT moment. But if I was actually cut. WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:41 PM
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It an interesting culture shift for sure. It’s pretty interesting though as I tend to prefer younger men. And the shift of women’s pleasure being more normalized. Like with older men I’ve had to ask for “my turn” more often than with younger men, who seem to do it more proactively.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:38 PM
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As a land whale I wouldn’t go on that app either.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:17 PM
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My friends always get a screenshot of the guy I’m meeting, just in case.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:15 PM
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I’m a xennial. I grew up (my 20’s) with a local dive bar as my social hangout place. I am just realizing now that this is not the norm for most people. We were (and are) a lovely “incestuous” group. Lots of casual friendly kinky situations that kinda “just happened” I remember talking later to one of my old FWB’s and he said I was the kinkiest person he had ever been with. And I was shocked because I didn’t really consider myself as kinky. I just liked sex and enjoyed doing things that felt good…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:11 PM
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No. Absolutely not. I get DMs on here from random people. They don’t know what I look like.(other than how I describe myself) and I don’t know what’s they look like. I will have zero interest or attraction to some words on a screen. Physical attractiveness is first. For the majority of the majority. Different people find different things physically attractive. The level of physical attractiveness that’s important is subjective. Character and personality can make someone that I find physically at…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 01:03 PM
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Okay. I think it was probably the dude I responded to. Also yeah. When I’m being a sub I love “being used.” It’s hot in the right dynamic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:55 PM
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I’m not a one and done. But I know that the likelihood of me having an orgasm is pretty small with most guys. (Past sexual experiences, trauma, medications, lack of effort, lack of actual desire from them, embarrassment, self esteem issues, adhd, etc) I learned to enjoy the whole act of sex because my pleasure has only ever been the goal maybe 5% of the time. Don’t know if you downvoted me or not. I don’t know what’s so controversial about my statement before this one 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:48 PM
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So you don’t want a domme. You don’t want a woman who considers herself a feminist even if her reason for being a domme comes from the freedoms she perceives she’s been granted through feminism. You want to live out a rape fantasy but not by someone who respects you and considers you an equal. You don’t like most women. You want to be hurt. You want women to hurt you. You enjoy hating women and yelling at them because you like or want to be hated by woman. So you’re antagonistic towards them in …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:26 PM
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I don’t like lazy subs or doms/dommes. Gender be damned. The dominant one is usually the more active participant. But I think that is just the result of lack of creativity. Lack of communication and going into the whys and hows of the actions that are happening. If you can figure out the “why does this turn this person on” you can do a lot more activities with the why in mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:17 PM
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This isn’t a male female thing. Most people aren’t into extreme levels of pain and degradation and humiliation. I domme very well. I’ll hurt, humiliate, dominate, make fun of, laugh at, etc. I’ll leave bruises. Bite marks. Scratches. I’ll slap balls, pull hair, spank, paddle. I’ll make them open their mouths to swallow my spit or dispose of my cigarette ashes. But I’m not going to cut someone. I’m not going to put my cigarette out on them. I have limits too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 12:03 PM
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There are lazy subs. Male and female. They come with a list of things they want to be done to them and don’t want to be active participants. I’m a pleasure switch. I have very few icks. I get off on my partner getting off. I have things I enjoy more as a domme but it’s my part to please my sub too. I’ll cater my actions towards what my sub likes but I’m not going to do anything I truly find off putting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:56 AM
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You can absolutely “top from the bottom.” Explore kink positive spaces.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:52 AM
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I think you are trying to use a definition that other people just don’t use. You’re frustrated that other people aren’t using words in the exact same way that you use them. Words are important but also completely meaningless. Chivalry and seduction can have actions that can be perceived differently by different people. And those actions can be perceived as having different intentions separate from the person doing those actions. Chivalry and seduction are concepts. Which inherently make them sub…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/26 11:24 AM
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I think op is having some sort of mental break. His arguments are getting weirder and weirder. This isn’t an attack. I’m actually a bit concerned
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 05:25 PM
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Your compromise. “cleans up after me” Again. Keep doing what you’re doing. I wish you luck. This strategy will absolutely work in your favor.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 05:21 PM
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Like I said. You do you. Don’t compromise. Don’t put in effort. Don’t do anything that makes your partner happy. Don’t participate. I bet it’ll work out great. Keep doing that. 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:34 PM
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An option blog from an associate professor of health economics of addiction… You just don’t want consequences for your actions/inactions. Cool. You do it. Tell her, her feelings are invalid and your comfort in doing nothing is more important than her discomfort with doing your part. Just blame all of your inconsideration on “that’s just the way I am”. That’ll work.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:28 PM
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False. You can choose your actions. Not your emotions. I’m done arguing with you. You do you. See how well that works out for you in a ltr.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:20 PM
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You can’t choose your emotions. You can choose your actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:16 PM
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And men choosing not to help their partners are choosing to add to their partners resentments. The one doing the more work will always be the one with more burdens. You’re okay with it because the other person is doing your part. You enjoy it. If you don’t want to be a part of a relationship where you live together and take care of the same spaces. Don’t be in a relationship. Or pick a fellow slob. There are a lot of women who don’t clean up after themselves too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 04:00 PM
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If that’s your argument then nothing is nothing. Love, fear, anger, etc, nope. They don’t evolve or change. They are stagnant things that exists or don’t. Nothing affects or effects them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:52 PM
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It absolutely builds resentment. If it’s the same amount of work. And the man is choosing to not take care of things. And the woman has to do it in order to be able to do her part. She’s now doing more work. That’s going to build resentment. If you had a coworker that didn’t do as much work as you. And you had to take care of things because they put it off because they didn’t think it was important. But it keeps you from being able to only do your part. You’d be resentful too.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:46 PM
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That attitude is why a lot of women opt out. Men only want to do things when it becomes inconvenient to themselves. They don’t care that the woman is cleaning up after them. They enjoy it. They don’t care that it builds resentment. They don’t care that the woman asks for help over and over. And when the woman stops arguing they think they won. Then are shocked pikachu faced when the woman breaks things off or files for divorce.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:40 PM
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You have low self esteem and you’re haunted by your ex. You need to build yourself up without needing validation from pussy. Because pussy isn’t validating. You want it to be. And I’m sorry it isn’t. You need to find your own value.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:34 PM
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They should. But they don’t. Go on to r/natalist. It’s mostly white supremacists that want to remove women’s rights, men’s agency, force religion, have government issued wives and girlfriends and they threaten societal collapse if women don’t spread em and become breeding stock. They don’t care about living people or future children.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:32 PM
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So your argument is that because “women” want to take care of the mess as it happens. Because they don’t want to spend an entire weekend cleaning instead of 10 minutes here and there. That they are unreasonable? But a “man” that doesn’t want to be bothered with his mess so he leaves everything then gets overwhelmed and half ass cleans to a level where it doesn’t bother him anymore should be the default? I can’t cook when all of the dishes are dirty. I cant vacuum if the floor is covered in dirty…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:24 PM
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Attractive ENOUGH most of the time. I’ve had good experiences with casual. Mostly bad or meh. Maybe 10% good. It’s added more to my self loathing than to having a fulfilling sexual experiences. Men put more value on sex than women. Sex and dating is mostly about luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:14 PM
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False. Reddit isn’t real life. A man’s ability to have casual sex means he was in the right place at the right time.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:07 PM
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What is a real life, not bullshit level of cleanliness that you think “women” have that men don’t?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 03:01 PM
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Nope. Most women don’t do casual sex. They might have a few instances in their youth and realize it’s not for them. It’s not as fun. It’s not as fulfilling. And it’s more likely to contribute to feeling of self loathing, insecurities, sexual dissatisfaction etc.. for women who do enjoy or participate in casual sex the guy just has to be good looking enough. She’s horny (bored, lonely, needing validation, etc) and he’ll do.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:59 PM
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Women have sex with men they don’t desire either. Women who have casual sex don’t just do it because they desire the dude. Just like men don’t only get into relationships with women they desire. You/men put more value on sex. People have sex for a shit ton of reasons. Desire is only one small reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:54 PM
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I said they probably have ocd. Which means they aren’t living in a real life scenario. The person with ocd should do the deep cleaning and get therapy or be put on medication to help them. Deep cleaning 4 hours every day isn’t a normal or common or relatable situation. It’s an exaggerated OTT bullshit scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:44 PM
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How is picking up after yourself asking you to be a maid? You’re an adult.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:33 PM
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Give me an actual real life example of someone having higher cleanliness standards that aren’t ott scenarios. Picking up after yourself seems like a pretty good baseline to me. If the point of mess can contribute to insect or rodents or mold or rot or disease then that’s mess needs to be taken care of. By the person that made the mess.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:29 PM
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I didn’t mention deep cleaning. I mentioned basic picking up after yourself. If someone male or female “needs” to deep cleaning for 4 hours every day then that’s on them. They probably have ocd.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:23 PM
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I’m not your mom. Pick up after yourself. I don’t want bugs and rodents in my house. I’m not picking up your garbage and dishes and dirty clothes.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:17 PM
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How about stop being lazy and clean up after yourself. The cleaner person shouldn’t have to clean up after the messier person. The clean person isn’t your maid. If there’s garbage. Pick it up. Dirty sink put it in the sink. Dirty clothes. Wash them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/26 02:10 PM
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Why would a woman want to date you if you don’t actually like them? Why date women is you don’t like them?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 09:24 AM
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I don’t understand that thinking. I’ve never decided my friends based on what they look like. Are you the type of guy that says they find most women attractive? Like 60+% of women in your age range? Are none of those women worth anything more than just possible sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 09:05 AM
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Is it bad that you cut ties after being rejected. No. Is it bad that you don’t see platonic relationships with women as beneficial, yeah maybe. Why would a woman want to date you when you don’t even like us?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 08:25 AM
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Sorry. Will refrain in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/26 03:06 AM
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He’s attractive enough for me to swipe left on too. So his interactions, location, or profile is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 07:50 PM
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He’s an average looking dude. Using the term “playtime.” 🙄 Where does he live? How did he interact on hinge? What did his pics and bio look like?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 07:08 PM
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Most natalist arguments don’t care about the effects on the children produced. They just want more children.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:29 PM
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Most natalist ideas are bad. This is one option that doesn’t remove rights or actively punish people for not breeding.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:22 PM
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If you go onto the natalist sub you’ll see a lot of suggestions to make people breed more. It’s usually removing rights from women. Punishing men and women. Threatening people. Eliminating higher education. It’s very immoral and unethical stuff. This is just another example of people trying to “fix” a very complicated problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 05:20 PM
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Do not engage with the “chase.” Those women need to learn that it hurts other women. A no is a no.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:58 PM
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But attraction comes first. I’m not going to want to be in a romantic relationship with someone I’m not attracted to. If I love someone for who they are. Enjoy hanging out with them. Like talking with them. But there’s no attraction, that person becomes my friend. Not a possible partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:30 PM
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Your examples are a man looking/staring at a woman. A man commenting on a woman’s post. A man liking a woman’s picture. A woman having friends. A woman posting a picture. A woman going out. Non of these things are happening because of men. You dont like that other men will look/stare at her. You dont like that men will comment on her post. You dont like that other men will like her picture. Your problem is with other men. But you want to blame women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:27 PM
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Examples. “Men actively targeting women to lust after.” “Women existing and living their lives”
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 04:14 PM
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And you want a woman who isn’t attracted to you to be satisfied with that? Why not just get a roommate?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:59 PM
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So you want a sexless relationship? As long as neither of you get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:56 PM
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I’m like a 2. I’m attracted to what I’m attracted to. If I stay single. Okay. I don’t blame men for not finding me attractive. I don’t blame men for treating me less then. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:54 PM
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In the Frankenstein scenario don’t forget to add that the virgin hyperslut is also able to have multiple orgasms from just PIV and no foreplay.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:51 PM
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But we don’t want to sleep with men we aren’t attracted to. So would you be okay with a sexless relationship with a woman who goes out and gets sex from men she’s attracted to as long as she’s in a relationship with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 03:48 PM
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Pretty sure the online thing with the dude that I like and that has been the first guy to get me to actually believe he thinks I’m sexy is coming to an end. It’s been a year as of the beginning of the month. It sucks. So now nothing irl or online. I need to stop pretending I’m not ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 06:44 AM
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🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/26 06:42 AM
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False. I could. I have. Many people have. Also men and women get validation from sex. They get ego boosts. They get things other than just the sensations of the sexual act itself. A lot of men on here talk about sex validating their existence. Does that mean they don’t desire either. Because they are getting more out of the act?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 09:31 PM
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They are not sexually desired if they just happen to be there. I’ve initiated sex with men I didn’t desire. Didn’t find particularly attractive. Didn’t care about one way or the other. I wanted sex and they were the quickest way to get sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:44 PM
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I’m not letting my coworkers touch me intimately. I’m not cuddling with my boss. I’m not going to blow Jake from accounting. Like what? A job and a romantic/sexual relationship aren’t even close to being comparable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:38 PM
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But what does that look like. How can that be judged as an outsider? A person can feel desire but not want to have sex. A person can feel no desire for another person but want sex and that person is there.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 08:00 PM
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I read it. But op is specifically stating women don’t enjoy sex with their long term partners. You think desire should look like. A woman sees a guy. Throws her panties to the floor immediately and fucks him in the ally. Or she texts a guy at 1 am. Wyd. Goes over. Has sex and leaves. No other communication. Just sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:49 PM
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Penis size isn’t as important to as many woman as it seems to be for men. Body types and sizes, and height, also play a huge part in what positions a person can have comfortable sex in. I’ve never had sex with a guy because of his dick size.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:46 PM
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There is no such thing as post birth abortions. Paper abortions are “contracts of future deadbeat parenthoods” If a child is born both parents are responsible for figuring out how to take care of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 07:21 PM
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So a girlfriend or wife initiates sex. Thats proof that she desires him?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 06:38 PM
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I’m so sorry you were raped. I’m sorry your wife’s sexual response isn’t like those women from your past. Im sorry your wife explained her attractions in a way that made you feel “less than.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:34 PM
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“By genuine desire, I mean the woman is genuinely sexually attracted to him and wants to have sex with him for it’s own sake” What would this look like? How would this be evaluated? Is it if she initiates? How often the couple has sex? How often she refuses? How often she orgasms? What are the metrics?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:26 PM
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Why do you think they “wanted you” more than your wife?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 03:08 PM
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I know the Dutch are westerners. I was using him as a good example. I’ve still complained about other men in my past, who also were western, because they had something about them that I wanted to complain about. People are individuals not groups.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:56 PM
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I’m talking to a Dutch man I enjoy very much. He treats me with respect. His communication style is similar to mine. He’s very sexy. He thinks I’m sexy. I have wonderful western male friends. I’m still going to complain about the bad ones or bad habits. Me complaining about one person doing something isn’t me complaining about the whole person or everyone that has similar cultural or physical traits. Why do you think it’s all or nothing? There are bad and good western men. Most of them are neutr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:48 PM
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Why are you offended about a woman you’ll never meet complaining about a man you don’t know? Why do you care that she doesn’t like him? Why can’t she just keep sifting through her options until she finds someone that fits into her life well? Why does she have to be okay with every western guy and how they act because she primarily finds western men attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:38 PM
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Maybe western women complain about western men more because those are the men they are more likely to come across. It’s the interactions with those individual men that they are complaining about. If you’re not a good match with someone and they complain about you it has nothing to do with your whole cultural identity.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:25 PM
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Are you going to answer why you keep asking this question? What are you looking for? Whats the motivation? What gotcha are you waiting for? I’m attracted to men I’m attracted to; white, black, Asian, Indian, etc..
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:19 PM
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I do have some negative attraction bias towards Hispanic men because of my childhood. First 2 stepdads were Hispanic. I’ve only traveled to Mexico. I do like men that aren’t white, just not as often as white men. I’d consider anyone that grew up in the west as a western person. But an American conservative from a red state is different than a Dutch liberal. There’s more to a person than “I’m a descendant from some white colonizers.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 02:11 PM
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Im white. Grew up around white people. Most people have positive bias towards people who are in the same group as themselves. It’s just a physical attraction preference. It’s not a conscious decision.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:59 PM
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I don’t prefer them. They are just here. Where I live. I don’t come across many non western men. I live in a very white state.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:47 PM
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I’m from the west. Most of my interactions are with men in the west. My preferences in looks are usually white guys. Followed by black guys. Then the rest as a whole after that. I prefer younger men. Personality-wise. I like outgoing and shy. I don’t like cocky or doormats. I like people who have similar interests as me. Who have motivation to improve something. I like being able to talk about concepts and ideas. Does Egyptian count as non western because I have a pretty good crush on one of my …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:33 PM
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I don’t find western men or non western men more attractive or appealing. I’m attracted to individual men. There’s things about a guy I might like or dislike depending on my preferences, how I want to be treated. I need to find them physically attractive. Then I have to enjoy his company and have a good back and forth. I want to find a guy that communicates in a way that makes sense to my brain. I want compatibility.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:20 PM
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You’ve never been to the west. You don’t interact with western women. You hate woman actively on this sub. You’re biased and hateful. Maybe women just don’t like you for those reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:06 PM
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That poll says it’s mostly political and the prevalence of the manosphere. Women feel like interchangeable fleshlights to most men. And a lot of men will argue it but say things that actually reinforce that argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:52 PM
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You keep asking this question. You even made a post about it. What answers are you looking for? You keep trying to race bait. Like what is your motivation?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:49 PM
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People are generally not self reflective. Op could think about the fact that his actions make it harder for actual good men to date. But he doesn’t care about other men. He only cares about himself and his life. People are generally self absorbed.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:30 PM
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“She’s” not trying to change behaviors or influence men in general. Shes just living her life. Making her own decisions. She’s not thinking about how her actions will affect the male collective. Why would she?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:19 PM
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Some people make bad decisions
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:14 PM
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Would some women. Of course. I think dating struggles are different for different people. Men and women have different attraction metrics. They have different arousal metrics. They have different personal concerns or fears. Men and women exist on the same planet but live in different worlds. Dating and sex are only a small part of experiencing the world. People, men and women, like to complain. And people will always think their struggles are harder because those struggles affect them personally…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:58 AM
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How do you think we are the same and how do you think we should be different? How is pointing out we are different “convenient?”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:49 AM
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It’s not universally true. Division, rage, anger, fear, spite etc fuels clicks. It gets amplified. Most people aren’t on the internet sharing their actual lives and opinions. They are either going for the clicks. Or they’re sharing their frustrations in the moment because people like to complain. Most people like to complain. People like to vent. I have friends with pretty great lives that are genuinely happy. But if you heard them speak you’d think they were miserable. Because when they are han…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:46 AM
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Dating men like you is why more women have problems dating men. Because there are men like you out there. Serial cheater. Uncaring. User.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:19 AM
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Rage bait.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 11:07 AM
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I can choose to believe all men hate women too. Look at all the ppd men on here. Thats my evidence. Men on here have stated that they want the current society to break down so that they can be given a slave gf. They say if women don’t start popping out children as a duty then they’ll make them pop out children or else. They say that if we aren’t putting out there’s no point in us. They call us parasites. Objects. Gold diggers. 304’s. It’s on the Internet it must be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:49 AM
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“Im sad and frustrated about what the algorithm feeds me and the singular context I search out and consume. I ignore all other content that goes against the narrative I want to be angry about. I believe bad things about the opposite gender how dare they believe bad things about my gender. Grr.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 10:16 AM
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I don’t have a problem admitting some women are attracted to money. Some women use finances as a lifestyle metric. Some women use financial stability as a character trait. Some women don’t really care. Most men who are financially well off and have absolutely no problem dating completely broke women are wanting to use their finances as leverage. People who are in financially comparable relationships where the man is the slightly higher income earner have the best odds in current studies. The rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 01:01 AM
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There are absolutely men that do. Is it the norm? Absolutely not. Are their male gold diggers. Yes. Yes there are. Most financially well off men aren’t going to be in a committed relationship with a woman who was homeless or in major debt when they met. It’s a lifestyle metric.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:48 AM
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Money=money. Most people end up with people from their similar socioeconomic class. Some men also like women with money.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/26 12:15 AM
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I’m a land whale so my opinion doesn’t matter
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 10:23 PM
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Yup. It’s all a revenge scenario. Not thought out.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:36 PM
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It’s on purpose. He wants a hot woman but knows he’s not in her league so he blames her. He wants to be rich enough to buy her. But if she’s in the west she probably has a lot more options and equivalent money or ways to make it. He doesn’t like women much and wants to punish them. All of them. He thinks all average and below average men leaving the west will hurt society and in turn women. And then they’ll have to choose average and below average men to protect them from a crumbling society and…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 09:12 PM
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It isn’t physically tougher for men to have an orgasm. Not in general. Yes there are men who have problems with erections and not being able to finish. I’ve had sex with a couple. It hurt my ego. Because of society saying that men get erections from warm breezes and that they have to force themselves not to cum early. So I took it personally. (All past tense) But it’s still way more common in women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 06:17 PM
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Huh. I’m in the west. Just looked around. Mostly average people with other average people. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 02:28 PM
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So you don’t like when women say we aren’t all alike? It’s true though. It’s not a mantra. Not all women are alike. Not all men are alike. I don’t understand what your questions are referencing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:14 PM
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And? They don’t affect men as much as women. Mens orgasms are required for procreation. Womens aren’t. So there’s more fluctuation. We are more mentally aroused. Other things can affect our abilities to orgasm easier than it can for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/26 01:23 AM
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Women having an orgasm isn’t required for procreation. So it’s much more variable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:14 PM
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Our anatomy is different. We have different things that mentally turn us on and off. Insecurities. Previous bad experiences (or bad perceptions of those experiences) Hormone fluctuations. Medications. Embarrassment. Socialized and internalized guilt or repression of sexual desires. Mental health issues. Etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 09:12 PM
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Shibari 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:31 PM
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This man is in a long term open relationship and probably gets a good deal of pussy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 02:29 PM
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Made up statistics aren’t an argument. Some women like being approached. Some don’t. Some only want it at certain times or places. Some only want to be approached by someone they find attractive. Some need extra layers before being approached. Like you’re an acquaintance or a friend of a friend (pre approved.) some might have been up for being approached but something is going on in their life atm so they aren’t interested then. Dating and sex is mostly about luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:58 PM
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If I like a guy and I think he might be interested back then I’ve already gotten to know him a bit. We’ve talked. Flirted back and forth. There’s been casual physical contact. I’ve escalated the conversation. I’ve asked questions or brought things up that would try to let me know whether I’m in their physical attractiveness preferences or not. I’ll put myself in their vicinity. I’ll engage conversation. What I expect from him is to not be interested back. To flirt back because he’s a flirt or be…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 01:50 PM
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I stood up for you. You’re not a troll. You’re just you 💋
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 06:40 AM
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Again. You like how they make you feel. You don’t like them. You’re just using them to make yourself feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:47 PM
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I’d be okay if my partner made very simple things like sandwiches and salads. Learn to make casseroles. Super easy. Meals don’t need to be fancy or take a lot of time. If my partner really hated cooking then I’d trade dishes and counter cleaning. I hate doing dishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 08:38 PM
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Life also works like that. Stress, exhaustion, kids, work, medication, mental health, complacency, age, hormones, etc..
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:45 PM
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She’s just an object to you. She’s a number. Shes an ego boost. You don’t like her. You liked how she made you feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:24 PM
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No you wouldnt
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:22 PM
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Yes they do. You need to stop think all people are like you. Not all men. Not all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:20 PM
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Guys “At least I got sex” Gals “I only got sex”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 07:04 PM
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Because most women don’t pick men for their finances. There are gold diggers. Sure. They are the minority. Men having sex with women they don’t know or like or appreciate or find attractive isn’t the minority. Men get chosen. Women are just accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:47 PM
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I don’t ask men what they do or how much they make.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:36 PM
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It would be cool to have a 90+% orgasm success rate. It would be cool to know I’m not seen as just my genitals. It would be cool to be chosen instead of accepted.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 06:33 PM
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People also thought sickness was caused by demons and that cutting people was a remedy for the common cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:23 AM
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You’re not a virgin. You’re in your late 20’s if I’m remembering correctly. You do have a hard time. I’ve absolutely recognized that. I also believe I remember you saying you’re an immigrant. So you add “other” on top of the difficulties of dating as a man. But just living life gives you experience. You can get calmer if life or bitter or darker or lighter. Your hormones will change. Things will happen to you that could holy change around your understanding of the world. Nothing is set in stone.…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 11:09 AM
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So being a serial cheater, manipulating your partner, abusing your partner, finding partners simply because you can use them, underage grooming etc…all perfectly fine in your books?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:59 AM
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Learning what you like and dislike through observation and personal experience and changing life priorities as you grow up isn’t settling. It could be. Sure. And nobody will ever know. You either trust or you don’t. Just like a woman has to trust that the guy that says he wants her actually wants HER instead of wanting a vagina and is willing to put up with whoever is attached to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:50 AM
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It’s not half the people think this way and half the people think that way. Science and math and observation prove the earth is round. The majority of the majority know this. The minority ie “Flat earthers” disregard science, math and observation because they don’t understand it or want to feel superior. 🚩
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:22 AM
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The earth being flat is a conspiracy theory.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:16 AM
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Flat earthers are into conspiracy theories. They get a sense of superiority because they can “see the truth” and everyone else is “not smart enough.” They are delusional or lying to make themselves feel better. Believing in something so demonstrably false is a huge red flag. 🚩
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:05 AM
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You don’t think who you date or how you date has a moral value?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 10:00 AM
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It’s not discrimination to avoid delusional people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:54 AM
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Drink some water honey. I’m sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:53 AM
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Can you explain this “moralization?”
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:52 AM
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Right. So if you want to approach. Approach. Do it respectfully. Take a no and move on. Or Take the number but don’t expect a response.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:45 AM
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But how can a singular woman tell some singular stranger man what she appreciates before he approaches her to tell him she’s not up for being approached?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:31 AM
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Each woman is going to appreciate something different. And each individual woman is going to appreciate different things at different times depending on what might be happening in her day, week, life.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 09:06 AM
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The representation on the outside and inside was heavily male. So much so that I would notice when they had a girl pictured in the experiment. Think late 80’s to mid 90’s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/26 12:00 AM
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When I was younger. All magazines gears towards girls were about pop culture, boys, fashion, boys, etc. The “geeky” magazines that had experiments and crafts to teach kids about science and stuff were geared towards boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 11:55 PM
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All of my experiences have shaped what I like and don’t like. Sex is similar but different with different partners. I don’t think about people’s past when I’m with them. I think about them and what we like together.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 01:08 PM
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I hate a lazy submissive
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/26 01:06 PM
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Please don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:10 PM
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Have you heard of Ren? Some good songs. Worthy of chapter or two.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:10 PM
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I’m not attractive. I’m pretty pragmatic in my responses. I can be very blunt. I definitely don’t always agree with some people on here, sexless or not. I’ve had some very angry men apologize or compliment me after a very very long back and forth conversation where we can get to all the nuances of an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 09:04 PM
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I don’t really do present holidays. I don’t make wish lists. I tell people not to buy me things and I probably won’t buy you anything either. If you want to show me you care spend time with me. Hang out. Let’s go to eat something. I like small “just because” gifts. I don’t like them on obligatory days.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:50 PM
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I have rosacea. I put on makeup to fit in to the masses. I do not look better without makeup. I get compliments when I wear just enough makeup to cover up my redness. I look like what society says I should look like. It’s not natural. We are a dimorphic species. We are attracted to what makes us different. Men are generally taller than women. It is a biological attraction metric. It’s not an absolute but it is biologically driven.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:25 PM
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A lot of men like models because they are hot. The hotness status outweighs the taller status. In reality a lot of men struggle with personal insecurities when they get with an average woman who is taller than him or even the same height if she wears heels.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 06:18 PM
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Commenting to read later
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:43 PM
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I’ve only been on 2 second dates. I don’t get asked on dates. I enjoy sex. I’m attracted to men. I like having sex with men. I’ve given up a few times. Then horny happens.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 08:05 AM
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I’m sorry, but what?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:55 AM
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I’m sorry your mom sucked. Your dad wasn’t around. You think things would have been better if he was. You need therapy to work on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:40 AM
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I’m sorry you’re delusional. Please get help. Take pills. Take less pills. Work on your hatred of women. Maybe seek therapy. Go on a pilgrimage.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:31 AM
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I think maybe he has a deadbeat dad and a horrible mom. So he blames her for his dad being absent instead of blaming the dad for being a deadbeat. Just a thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 05:18 AM
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Not me. Not at the same time. My ex liked me. Didn’t desire me. I’ve had fwb that lasted years. Some desired me but didn’t like me. Mostly just scratching an itch. I’ve never been on a 3rd date.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 04:23 AM
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I gained weight becomes of my trauma. I’ve lost over a 100 pounds. Not for men. I have no desire to look better so more men can use me. I get more attention now. I still get treated like a fleshlight. I have no illusions that a man will ever like me and desire me at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:41 AM
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Because I have low self esteem. I’m obese. I have trauma. I know my value to men. Today I’m jaded. I don’t let them do whatever. But I have very few icks.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 03:06 AM
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I’ve always been interested in gender and sex and relationship stuff. I observe. I talk to men. I have my own experiences. I minimize myself. I put their pleasure and comfort over my own. I think less about myself. In relationships I’m only really good for having a vagina. I don’t try for relationships. I get bad casual sex occasionally. I’m a really good lay.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 02:29 AM
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Women in Arab countries have less rights. They are less than. They are owned. They are property. In some they can’t even be heard or seen without punishment. They use divorce to punish their women. They give custody to the men to trap those women or punish them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:37 AM
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It’s the men that are keeping themselves out of their kids lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:26 AM
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He just said that Arab women are free because men in Arab counties get custody after divorce…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:23 AM
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I’m broken as fuck. But I’m still here
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:21 AM
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My biological father blamed my mom for not telling him soon enough for her to have an abortion. You have no idea what you’re talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:20 AM
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Go to an Arab country and get yourself one of those “free women”
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:16 AM
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A lot of men don’t want to be fathers. There’s men on here constantly saying they want “paper abortions” aka “contract of future deadbeat.” A lot of men want children but don’t want to raise them. You need to stop thinking that there’s hoards of men out there that actually want to put in the time and energy into 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 01:07 AM
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It is what it is. My minister, a friend of my moms, a neighbor, and my step father. From ages 3-12. And yet I don’t hate men in general. I do have a problem dating older men however.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:42 AM
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My first step father ….
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:23 AM
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You can watch the YouTube videos he keeps spamming. Dude is chronically online.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:08 AM
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I refer to my biological father as my sperm donor. She wasn’t referring to literal sperm donors.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/26 12:02 AM
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Seriously. Most Single moms stay single because they don’t want to bring unknown men around their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:59 PM
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I didn’t say anything about society. I just said you should get enough money to get a surrogate so that you can be a single dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:52 PM
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He seems to hate women. He really should get a very high paying job and get a surrogate. Then he can be a single dad all he wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:15 PM
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I’m 43. Looks still matter to me. But I know that they aren’t everything. Bodies are squishy. They age and decay. I also learned that a guy being hot doesn’t mean anything. We grow, learn and adapt. Whats attractive to me now is different than it was in my 20’s because I’m a different person than I was in my 20’s. I still have to be physically attracted to them though. The mental stuff is more important now. Looks are still the number one aspect. Men can become more physically attractive the mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:33 PM
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I think women need both more than men. Lots of men will sleep with a woman that they don’t know anything about other than he likes the way she looks and has a vagina. Woman tend to need to find men physically attractive and mentally attractive. They are both part of our attraction towards them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:15 PM
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It’s not an attraction metric. It’s a body part used during sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 04:07 PM
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Some guys like dirty talk. I don’t do it with everyone. Again. I treat men like individuals during sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:56 PM
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Most guys get a “different” sexual experience with me because they are individuals. Some like this. Some like that. I never said dick size doesn’t matter for men’s pleasure. I’m saying a big dick isn’t an attraction metric for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:35 PM
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I don’t tell an averaged sized guy he’s huge. I don’t tell a big dicked guy he’s huge. I use phrases like “that’ll feel good stretching me out” which is true for average to bigger guys. I’ll comment on girth more often than length.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:30 PM
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Depends on your size. I compliment dicks of average size and up. I’m not going to gaslight a smaller dicked guy. He knows he’s not big. But I’ll tell him how good he feels.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:25 PM
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Not true. It’s just an insecurity that some men have. Men are penis centric. There are women out there who hate their labia because they think men care.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 03:06 PM
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Because it’s not true. I’m a woman. Most of my friends throughout my life have been women. I’ve had sex with many men. I’ve had many male friends. Men care about dick size and think about dick size way way way more than women do. I said in the beginning of this conversation there are some women who care. That are called size queens. There are way more men who are size queens than women size queens. It’s just a kink or fetish like any other body part.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:56 PM
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All of this is important to the guy. Not the gal. It’s in your head. Not ours.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:38 PM
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Confidence is good. But a man with an average dick or a small dick can also be confident in his abilities. A guy with a big dick can also be insecure about his dick size. I’ve met them. They are insufferable. A big dick doesn’t mean they are good in bed. It means they have a big dick. Period.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:27 PM
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A man’s attractiveness DOES NOT include his dick. I have no idea the dick size of any of my girl friends guys. I have no idea of the dick size of any man I meet irl or on the apps. A larger dick doesn’t equal better sexual pleasure. In fact a lot of larger sized men are worse in the sexual pleasure department because they don’t do anything other than PIV sex. They think a big dick is all they need.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:11 PM
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Dick size is important in porn because it’s porn. It’s not a status symbol. It’s a job requirement. It has nothing to do with dating or relationships function in general. Most women just want an average sized dick. It’s the performance and connection that’s important. It’s the guy attached to the dick. Not the dick itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 02:01 PM
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You think porn has anything to do with real life or status ?!? 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 01:44 PM
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Both men and women treat taller men better. Dick size isn’t a status symbol. Men care/think about dick size more than women do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:56 AM
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I can only answer for me. I do not care about some future guy having a problem with my sexuality or sexual history. If he does then we aren’t compatible. I like sex. It can be a lot of fun. Casual sex can be very disappointing in general. New person. New levels of comfort and safety required. New bodies. I’m not attractive. So usually very little effort is shown. My pleasure is hardly ever considered. That’s why I don’t have casual sex as much as I would like.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 11:53 AM
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You notice us more than we notice you. Most guys are maybes (they just exist) until an interaction. We might notice without the guy initiating. But weak, unmasculine, shy guys tend to try to go unnoticed. . Men have more visual yes’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/26 05:11 AM
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Men and women are biologically different. Some of our “common” behaviors can be viewed from a biological perspective. This is all generalized. There’s many ways to show these behaviors. Women bare the children. Women are more likely to suppress themselves to make a society function. We are more social because it’s best for the community as a whole. It’s best for the children. We are also more risk averse because of this. We have higher instances of depression and anxiety. There’s less “fear” abo…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:31 PM
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I think it’s biological and social.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 11:14 PM
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I just went to find this. Last year I sent this to a handful of my guy friends. “As a cis straight white guy that understands that that comes with certain privileges and stigmas. I want to ask your opinion on the cis straight white guy issues not being addressed. What are the inequities? What should we think of as a society? What could or should change? I was on reddit and I went to a men’s rights R/ and they kept saying the left has left men. That they don’t care about their issues. But I kept …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:30 PM
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Women tend to have better social safety nets than men. And generally speaking men’s relationships tend to be more superficial, light hearted, not as emotion centric. Idk why. Maybe because men feel they are more in competition with other men. My guy friends can talk to me about their feelings and worries and their perceived realities without getting judged about them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:25 PM
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I didn’t take it as accusatory. I’m okay with it. I usually reach out more to my guy friends than my girl friends. I check on them more.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:14 PM
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I’m always up to hang. I turn down my girl friends more. They hang out too much. They need to get away from the house. Sometimes I’m more in the mood to chill at home. Edit to add. My girl friends are mom and wife at home. They get to be themselves when they go out. They get to wear their own hats
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 10:00 PM
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They make plans to hang out more. We still go to the same bar. But now it’s sit, hang, and chill. The guy friends that are at the bar come and hang out with us. With my guy friends we play MTG about once a month to every other month. They play together more than I join them. I don’t get invited to all the hanging.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:58 PM
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I hang out with my girl friends more than I hang with my guy friends. I don’t flake. We just do different things. When I was in my 20’s I hung out at the bar where all sexes were welcome. Most of my girl friends are married with kids. I’m single and childfree.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:54 PM
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I believe in school reform. The way schools are set up currently is better for girls. I go dutch on dates. I don’t care how other people date. Or what their wants/expectations are. If they can’t find anyone. Oh well. If they find someone that also has the same wants/expectations. Awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 09:16 PM
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Idk. I’ve heard many times about reducing the stigma society has about men doing traditional woman’s roles.( From self proclaimed feminists.) It’s gotten a lot better for men being able to do things people (men and women) think of as women’s roles. I don’t think it’ll ever be equal. Especially in dating, sex and relationships. I don’t believe in equality. I believe in equity.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:41 PM
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I’m not a feminist. But I know a lot of feminists that are on the full scale of the spectrum of what they want in a relationship. It’s about having a choice in the matter. Instead of tradition being the only way it’s one of the ways. And each tradition can be a yay or nay. You pick the ones you like and don’t have to deal with the ones you don’t. Each relationship is going to be different. The relationship op wants isn’t a highly sought after one. But it’s possible. He’s just not going to find i…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:24 PM
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I don’t understand your argument. If a man and a woman get together and they both want traditional gender roles in their relationship then who cares. If they get together and want to be egalitarian in their roles. Who cares. If they want swapped gender roles. Who cares. These are not the same people in these relationships. “And modern women are going to realize that sooner or later (the men will make sure of that)” what does that mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:17 PM
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How is that double standards? It’s just different things different people want and try to get.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 08:01 PM
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If it was proven fraud. A fine. If they lied in court. Perjury charges.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:59 PM
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If you can find a breadwinner that wants to pop out children and have you raise them and take care of the house. Then fine. Idk. You’re going to have a tiny pool to fish in.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:43 PM
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Ahh. Yeah. And I get that. That’s what I was saying mostly. We don’t dislike shy guys. But shy guys don’t tend to talk to us.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 07:22 PM
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Absolutely not. I’d wonder how they got there. That’s a pretty hefty feat. Are they currently clean? Do they think I’m sexy? Do we have good sex together? I don’t think about other peoples pasts when I’m with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:51 PM
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Big dick energy is about confidence. Since men put more emphasis on dick size than women do. Having a big dick doesn’t mean he’s a good lover. There are size queens out there. Sure. Just like there are guys that get extra turned on by a physical trait a woman has. There are kinks and fetishes for pretty much everything. But I’ve never been with a guy and thought. Ooo his dick size is something that turns me on. Dick size just changes what positions work easier or make them more difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:47 PM
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I don’t know about that. My friends and I still laugh about this one time a guy came up to one of our friends and said “damn, look at you with your Alabama thighs” We don’t live in Alabama or anywhere near there. We don’t know what it means. And never asked.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:42 PM
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I have never picked a guy because he has a big dick. Like how would I even know that?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:37 PM
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I’m not pulling out my strap on for you. Sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 03:07 PM
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You can’t possibly understand what it’s like to be a woman. Just like women can’t understand what it’s like to be a man. We are different. Our bodies and brains are different. We are socialized differently. We have different problems and priorities.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:36 PM
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Yes I want my bf/partner to treat me better or differently than a friend/stranger. I also treat my bf/partner better or differently than a friend/stranger. I have different relationships and expectations with everyone I come across. We code switch. I want someone that wants to make me happy because it makes them happy. I’m not talking about being a doormat. But knowing and learning about little things that bring a smile to my partner’s face and then implementing them makes me happy. I want to fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 02:23 PM
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We already like men. What mentality? What are we doing that’s “destroying building relationships?”
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:31 PM
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So, you don’t have any suggestions, thoughts or ideas on how you would like women to change. That doesn’t seem helpful. How are we “destroying” society?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:49 PM
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I’ve only been to one that had strippers. We all went to a drag show that turned into a strip show after. It was fun. I also live in a place that has A LOT of strip clubs. It’s not unheard of for mixed groups of friends to go to a strip club for the night.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 06:57 AM
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Again. How would you like women to change? And why SHOULD we?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 01:03 AM
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I don’t know what you want us to change or why we should. So I can’t answer whether I think your reasoning is wrong or right.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:58 AM
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How to avoid men that they don’t want. Not avoid the men that they wish they could find. There’s plenty of advice for how to filter out for men that could want what a woman wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:56 AM
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My mom used to get me the girls mags. But also bought me the boy magazines too because I liked science and learning and apparently having a vagina meant I didn’t want that in my media.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:47 AM
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Because your op is wrong and not worth debate. Hence why I responded in the automod.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:44 AM
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There’s been dating advice for women on how to attract men forever. It used to be in every magazine directed at women. Girls magazines were all about cute boys.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:42 AM
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And how would you like women to change? Why SHOULD we?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:37 AM
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“This isn’t comphet” continues on to say women don’t like men 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:36 AM
2

A sample size is 386…also there’s no definition of what “approached” means. They also don’t ask if the person doing the approaching needs to be considered physically attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:26 AM
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I already know I’m unattractive. I think a lot of men are the reason a lot of other men get bad names. Men, women, and society says men are sex crazed. You’re an anomaly. Apparently. Cold approaching has never been popular. Most women have never liked it. Some do. Some/most it’s situation dependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:10 AM
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Nose? Forehead?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/26 12:02 AM
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Because a lot of men (probably the majority) would have sex with a lot of women purely because they like the way they look, have a vagina, and said yes. They’ll even have sex with women they don’t necessarily like the way they look as long as they aren’t ugly enough to be repulsive. They’ll have sex with women they don’t know if they like and find out they don’t once PNC kicks in. A lot of women know we are interchangeable fleshlights to a lot of men. The only difference is we said yes. There’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:56 PM
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Cold approaching, complements, and asking for a date basically says. “Hey, I know nothing about you but I’d like to stick my dick inside of you.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:44 PM
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Yay. I hope she says yes and that you have a great time. Remember. 1st date is just about seeing if you want a second date. Be a good version of yourself. Not a pretend perfect version. Not completely goblin mode.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:40 PM
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Vodka is mostly water. Win win.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:38 PM
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Depends on why she’s a 4.5. Age, weight, face, body fat distribution, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:36 PM
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Same reason pro-birthers cry about the unborn but don’t realize they can be the gay, trans, poc, child of an immigrant, disabled, feminist, etc., that they despise once they are born.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:35 PM
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Send her a text. If it’s left on read that fine. But don’t “she’s too pretty for me” bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:31 PM
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Some people like a bit of soft in their bad ass babes. Nothing wrong with that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:25 PM
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I think I’d like a museum date.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:23 PM
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Do you think you’ll ever get over this and be comfortable in yourself? Like what’s the long term goal with lots of casual sex? Has it actually helped?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:22 PM
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I’m 5’6”. My mom is Dutch. When I was young I thought I was short. Even growing up in the USA. She’s also short for someone Dutch. Only 5’7”. I like being my height now. I’m both tall and short enough. I have bdd so anything I don’t hate about my physical body is awesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:21 PM
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Boobs are awesome. Lots of gay men love boobs too.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:11 PM
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Probably part of the weak, unmasculine, shy thing. Fear controls a lot of what a lot of people do. Some people do things outwardly. Some people do things inwardly. Some people perceive things with more trepidation. Some people perceive things more negatively or personally than the reality of the situation. Not being approached doesn’t mean we dislike you. Being rejected doesn’t mean you’re always going to be rejected. Being rejected doesn’t even mean that it has anything to do with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:29 PM
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Doesn’t sound like you’re doing fine. But whatever. I really don’t care if you get laid or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:24 PM
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If that’s what you want to believe. Go MGTOW. it’s an easy way to cope. Can’t fail if you don’t try.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:19 PM
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And most women don’t care that a guy exists and wants to fuck them. A lot of men would fuck a lot of women. Not knowing anything about them. It’s not our “fault” that you’re not in her perceived set of options. We get approached and flirted with from puberty on. Want to be noticed? Do something noticeable. Be someone rememberable. Have a positive flirty interaction. Be within her entry level attractiveness. Don’t fuck it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:14 PM
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I’m not saying yes to the rapist. I’m not approaching anybody to just fuck. I don’t need a desperate man to masturbate using my body.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:05 PM
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I’m aware.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:02 PM
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There’re 2 ifs in my comment. Which one are you talking about? I’m not coping for anything. It’s the weak, unmasculine, shy guys saying it women’s fault and that we dislike them when they aren’t putting themselves in the game. If you’re a bitter and angry weak, unmasculine, shy guy then even if you did have an interaction with a woman it’s not going to be a positive one. And that’s why they got rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:59 PM
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Did you not read the “generally” part?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:54 PM
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Nobody asks to be born. But we can choose to live or exist. I choose to live.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:51 PM
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What’s up tripod🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:49 PM
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That’s not how I flirt. I’m a natural flirt. I love banter. I have platonic flirting friends. I’m unattractive. I’m an extrovert. Unless a man is direct, I’m not going to think a guy is interested in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:48 PM
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He’s also not getting that if he’s a representative of what a weak, unmasculine, shy guy then if we were to get know him and reject him it would have nothing to do with him being weak, unmasculine, or shy. It would be this personality we would be rejecting.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:43 PM
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I believe in male and female privilege. And pretty privilege. It’s a thing whether we like it or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:35 PM
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Exactly. You can adapt to the world you live in or complain about the world you want to live in. Life isn’t fair. It can absolutely suck. I’m still willing to play the game.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:25 PM
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Men and women are different. We are a dimorphic species. Similar but different. When it comes to attraction, sex, relationships and dating. We operate differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:21 PM
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I don’t believe in equality. I believe in equity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:18 PM
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Yup. The less fucks you give the better your chances. Thats why manipulative and dishonest people unfortunately have better odds. They don’t care about rejection or hurting other people to get what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:14 PM
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The “perfect guy” could live 3 streets away from me. If I never meet or interact with him how the heck am I supposed to know? Womens attractions aren’t the same as men’s. Most of us don’t just see a guy we think is physically attractive and want to approach. We need a positive interaction. We need the flirty banter.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:11 PM
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That’s absolutely understandable. Nobody likes being rejected. For the most part, I’d say the definition of weak, unmasculine, and shy probably means you have a lower level of rejection you can deal with before you “give up.” You probably have more anxiety and think about being rejected more than you actually get rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:07 PM
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Most people are an exception. When it comes to attraction and sex and relationships things aren’t generally binary. There’s way too much nuance and situational dependence and luck. It’s not this or that. Black or white.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:03 PM
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I don’t believe in equality. I believe in equity. Men and women are different but similar. When it comes to sex/dating/attraction we operate differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 12:00 PM
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Exactly. It’s a self fulfilling prophecy. Forever stalemate.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:58 AM
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Im an extrovert that collects introverts. I like shy guys. I’ve done the majority of the approaching in my life. Not necessarily for romantic reasons but just to interact with them. I know a lot of women who also like introverts and shy guys. But they don’t approach. Or not in ways a guy would understand. Forever stalemate. The guys I talk to currently are shy introverts. We “met” online. I’ve asked if we had met irl would they have talked to me and they all said no. They live in other countries…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:55 AM
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If they aren’t approaching us then how do they expect us to notice them?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:40 AM
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It’s not a choice of this guy or that guy. The weak, unmasculine, shy guys isn’t showing that he’s an option. He’s hiding. Avoiding. Purposely staying away from us.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:39 AM
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The women who are attracted to men like Epstein aren’t the same women who could be attracted to weak, unmasculine, shy men. I can only filter through my options. An Epstein type is a fuck no for most women. A weak, unmasculine, shy guy isn’t on my radar. He isn’t an option. He isn’t interacting with me. If I approach him he doesn’t talk to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:37 AM
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“They live around them” Couldn’t tell you one of my neighbors names “Not necessary” Not having a positive interaction with a person isn’t necessary for most men. Not most women. “Serial killers get more results” Because the type of person who is attracted to those types of people know where to find them. They are also mentally unwell.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:33 AM
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The shy guy isn’t bad or committing a crime. He’s not interacting with us. He’s avoiding us. He’s not talking to us. It’s not our fault he’s afraid of us. If he doesn’t like interacting with people, and women are people, how are we going to interact with them? Why would we want to interact with someone who doesn’t interact with us?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:26 AM
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If a weak, unmasculine, shy guy wasn’t weak, unmasculine and shy he would have the same odds. How attractive is he?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:23 AM
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Over the guy that didn’t even go to the party? The guy that sits in the corner avoiding us? The guy that can’t look at us. Yeah probably.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:20 AM
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Where are women being introduced to weak, unmasculine, shy men? Where are those men positively interacting with women? Woman who would possibly like those types of men aren’t the same as those that are wanting and interacting with criminals. There’s literally sites for people to find people in prison. They make headlines. They are in the news. They attract a certain type of person. You can’t attract something when you’re literary giving off the vibe of leave me alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:19 AM
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I could really like jicama. If it’s never at my grocery store, how would I know? I don’t have it available to me. I’m not going to go out of my way to find out. I have other options of things to eat.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:11 AM
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Women who send love letters to serial killer men in prison are in the same mentally unhealthy category of men who send love letters to serial killer women. These are not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:07 AM
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It doesn’t mean we don’t like them. They are stuck in limbo. I’m an extrovert that collects introvert. I work on them to get over their shyness. My ex was a shy introvert that could only really interact with women when he drank. I knew him for years. Worked on him to help him with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:05 AM
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We don’t dislike them. We don’t even know they are an option. They aren’t interaction with us in a fun flirty way. How can we find out when they can’t talk and interact with us.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 11:00 AM
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They aren’t playing. Epstein was apparently a charismatic, outgoing person. He was a rich guy that manipulated and blackmailed people. He surrounded himself with horrible people. Men and women. If he was a horrible person in his basement and didn’t interact with people he wouldn’t have been having sex or running a sex trafficking empire.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:58 AM
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Weak, unmasculine, shy guys aren’t playing. They are staring from afar. They are at home. They are avoiding women. They can’t talk to us. We don’t dislike them. They are afraid of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:51 AM
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If you’re not going playing the game. You’re not going to win. I’ve never won a mtg tournament. I play with my friends. I have some awesome decks I’ve made. But I’ve never entered or played in a tournament. I’m not complaining about the fact I’ve never won because I’ve never tried. Edit to add. It’s not because the judges don’t like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:43 AM
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We don’t dislike weak, unmasculine shy men. We don’t interact with them in a fun flirty way because they avoid us.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:35 AM
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Weak, unmasculine, shy guys don’t approach women. They avoid being noticed. Even if a woman wound find them physically attractive they aren’t interacting with us in a fun flirty way. Most women need a positive interaction for attractive to become attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 10:29 AM
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I also get lots of trauma dumps.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 01:57 PM
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We can take all the precautions (most of us do) in the world and it isn’t going to reduce our anxiety or fear enough. We still have to live in this world. I can’t tell the difference between Bill Cosby and Dr Huxtable. Not getting drunk and telling my friends where I’m going to be isn’t going to change that knowledge
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 06:16 AM
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You claim to be red pilled but don’t understand biological differences in men and women. Risk aversion. Prey mentality. 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 05:53 AM
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I did address it. You never responded.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 08:17 PM
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I don’t have this experience with men. I’m not attractive enough for effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:37 PM
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I absolutely believe men get sa’d. But in my childhood. The men that sa’d me were going for little girls. Not little boys. The only thing that’s supposed to change in this scenario is my sex. I’d still have my mom and my upbringing. But I’d be socialized as a male. If I was sa’d as a male it still would be different because of the stigma boys and men have about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:10 PM
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I have no idea. But probably not. I’d be a man. With a man’s brain and hormones. I’d be socialized as a man. I’d live in a completely different world than I do now. I wouldn’t have had childhood SA. So my entire dating/sexual outlook would be different also.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:59 PM
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A lot of your examples are also about the intent behind the standards. It’s not. I want them to be nice. But I want them to be a doormat. It’s not the standard that’s a problem it’s the motivation and result behind it. So maybe your argument should be. Understanding why you have a standard and it that a healthy outlook for both parties
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:47 PM
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Part of raising your standards would be better for optics. A lot of women feel like interchangeable fleshlights because we know men’s standards are so low. We feel like us, as individuals, don’t matter. You like our shapes. And want us to say yes. Also a lot of men have sex with women before they find out if they like them or not. Then PNC happens and those men ghost or break things off. Or whatever. Again making women not want to “be used” by men. Making us make more standards and hoops to try …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:41 PM
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I usually see the opposite of men having high standards. “Be nice, don’t be fat” obviously I don’t see all claims by women but most of the arguments I see on here are about how men should raise their non physical standards because your physical standards are usually just “I’ll have sex with a woman with a vagina that I don’t find repulsive.”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:10 PM
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I have a problem with your edit. “Filtering for “vibe” or instant chemistry can filter out people who are actually more stable and better at a long term conflict resolution, simply because they don’t necessarily entertain/excite you.” Vibe and chemistry are very important. Why would I want to go on a second date with someone I’m not clicking with? WOW. This person is boring and I’ve been pulling teeth to keep the conversation going. Yay, let’s do it again! How about no.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:03 PM
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Because men aren’t usually the ones being told to “lower their standards”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:56 PM
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An app full of men talking about local women and how slutty they are. What they will and won’t do. How often. They’ll describe every detail real or not. Might not be the legal definition of revenge porn. But they’ll share and lie and exaggerate. It’ll be a wanna be stalker/rapist breeding ground.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:10 PM
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Pump Up the Volume is my favorite movie. Teen angst. Shy guy. Feeling like there’s nothing new in the world. Not fitting in.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 07:01 AM
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Lies. Definitely. Don’t know about the revenge porn. I’ve never visited AWDTSG. The men that pretend to be interested in me aren’t really worth looking up. Also I’m poly. So I don’t care.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:24 AM
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We already know the men that would use that app or site wouldn’t view women as humans. It would be full of lies and revenge porn.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:19 AM
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Are we dating the same guy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:16 AM
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Thanks. We both validate each other. We are both poly. He gives me a decent baseline for how I want men irl to communicate with me. I make him feel sexy and useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:26 AM
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I’ve been talking to a guy that lives in another country for almost a year. We probably won’t even meet each other irl. It sucks. I’d like to see if there could be a real connection/relationship with him. I’m undesirable in general. Location is a determining factor in relationships. Luck being the number 1 factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 04:22 AM
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I could “not be alone” with a man who doesn’t find me attractive and doesn’t care about me. I could “not be alone” by using a man that I’m not attracted to and that I don’t have feelings for. If I have respect for myself and my partner, like I do, then I’m just going to remain alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 03:27 AM
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I don’t have a problem with that. I’m saying if you consider yourself an incel because you can’t bang Stacy you’re not an incel.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 03:15 AM
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“Desirable women.” So they aren’t incels. They have standards. They just want those desirable women to lower or remove their standards so that they (the guy) can get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/26 03:02 AM
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I’m much better now. Dealing with perimenopause atm. Second puberty. Jesus. It’s easy to not think about all the things another person might be going through when there’s no overt outward signs. Menstruation is so fucked. Lots of hidden suffering and misinformation.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 08:09 PM
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I got a hysterectomy when I turned 35. I had been asking for 1 since I turned 15. They said I’d change my mind about having kids or that my future husband might want kids. Insurance companies won’t pay for hysterectomies until you’ve had kids or until you’re 35. It was never considered a disability because I didn’t bleed fast enough. I would have had to hemorrhage for them to take me seriously. I didn’t take time off of work. I’d just be in pain and be extremely exhausted all the time. Cry when …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 07:17 PM
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I used to bleed for 3-4 months straight. I would bleed to death basically twice a year. Never anything I could do about it. I didn’t bleed fast enough quick enough for it to be a medical issue. I was told to take iron pills. Use a heating pad. Then I’d Take massive amounts of bc pills to try to stop them when my doctors threatened blood transfusions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 06:29 PM
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How dare other people use this sub for things I don’t use this sub for!!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 04:16 PM
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As long as she keeps her tirades to ppd it’s not too bad. Although she probably feeds the male equivalents of her by making them think all women think like her… black and white thinking doesn’t help anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:46 PM
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I think she’s a bit autistic. A different flavor than mine. I don’t know if she dates or interacts with men at all. Maybe aro or ace as well. She needs to clean her algorithm and just live life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:40 PM
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Pretty much. I don’t really reply to Lilith posts. It’s nice to know she’s a live and well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:27 PM
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I’ll say the same thing I say each time this comes up. I’d take the test and I’d break up. You’re accusing me of cheating. You think I’m a cheater. The test proves that the cheating that I did (in your head) didn’t result in a child. But you still think I’m a cheater. So you can leave and we’ll figure out how custody will work.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 02:02 PM
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I don’t believe in equality. I believe in equity.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:40 AM
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I’ve already told you. I’m not a feminist
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:38 AM
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I don’t care the gender of the victim or the accused. If someone is the victim of a crime they should be able to prosecute. Hopefully there is enough evidence for conviction. If someone falsely accuses someone in order to hurt the accused reputation or standing then the accused should be able to sue for defamation because they intern become the victim. Hopefully there is enough evidence for a guilty verdict.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 03:35 AM
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If they could get casual sex as easily as most woman they’d be just fine. Getting used while you think you’re having a connection hurts deep. Now I know that’s all I’m good for. I adjust, deal, and cry alone in the dark sometimes. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/26 12:05 AM
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Look at comics and movies. The playboy billionaire and the rugged superhero are similar tropes for “male geared” media too. Look at the way actors look in action films. Ever hear the phrase “men want to be him, women want to be with him?” It’s one of those socionormative things. People (men and women) like tall, fit, muscular, sexy, rich, men. They like looking at them, reading about them, imagining being with them, or being like them.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:05 PM
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I’m not a feminist. I didn’t watch the case. I didn’t care. I don’t care what famous people do. Just got some tl:dr’s by people who did care. I also don’t know anything about this case. As I don’t care. If he is a victim I hope he has the evidence required for a conviction. If he’s isn’t the victim and was looking for money he should be sued and I hope she has the evidence required for compensation.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:21 AM
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She has a right to sue her accuser if she didn’t do anything. Defamation has legal requirements. She has to prove her case.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:18 AM
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Why would I do that? I didn’t believe what’s her name about Depp
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:16 AM
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I said if. That’s for the courts to decide.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:15 AM
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If he lied. He’s not the victim. She is.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:14 AM
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People who have money shouldn’t be allowed to sue other people for money because they don’t need it? Like wtaf? Defamation requires discovery. It Requires proof. Why do you think Trump doesn’t sue the women who have claimed he’s rapist and pedophile. Trump sues everybody. He doesn’t want discovery.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 10:00 AM
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You think anybody should just say yes to a date to everyone that wants to have sex with them? And you think that’s the same as a job? Like, really?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 09:33 AM
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It isn’t worth it to me no. Every time I’ve approached I’ve been rejected. Then they’ve “changed their minds” later. Then they use me for validation. I can still get casual, usually bad to mediocre, sex if I want. I gave up on having relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 08:38 AM
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I’m just a D.U.F.F.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 04:10 AM
2

More Men want children. Sure. They don’t want to raise or parent them though. More women would want to be parents if they could be dads.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:51 AM
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<the reason we don’t have children today is because it’s lost its status> what “status” was inherited by having a child?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:41 AM
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I don’t know how to answer this. For me. As far as just sex goes. Men at first sight are a no, maybe or yes. Lots of nos and maybes. Very rare did I ever see a yes. Mostly in my youth and probably while I was ovulating. A no will always be a no unless they change how they look. A maybe and a yes can change through our interactions and how much I get to know about them. A yes can easily become a no. A maybe can move up or down. So for me. You need to be an initial maybe or higher. And then your p…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:11 AM
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I’ve always been interested in the topics of sex, attraction, dating, perspectives, intentions, words, etc.. This sub showed up one day about a year ago or so. The topics were interesting. This sub has made me more jaded and cynical. It blackpilled me at times. I’m a female undesirable. I can still get casual sex from men who don’t find me attractive. Because I have female privilege and I’m a pretty awesome person irl. I have a very complicated history of contradictions. My anchors are parts of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 03:03 AM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/26 02:47 AM
1

Thanks for the win 👍
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:30 PM
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Not really. It’s nuances. Which a lot of men don’t understand.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:28 PM
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The money doesn’t make a man more attractive. It’s the things that money can represent that can be seen as attractive. Ambition, hard working, less stress, more quality time together, better opportunities for children, stability, etc..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:23 PM
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They are delusional if they think money makes them more attractive. To the women who look for money, it’s transactional. It’s not attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:14 PM
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Women tend to do the paperwork in relationships. The marriage wasn’t working way way before she filed. The man gave up but was content enough to just exist and die unhappy. Usually because he was still getting some of the benefits of being married.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 10:06 PM
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I don’t think most women see men as date dispensers. We (as an individual) don’t want to go on dates with most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 08:40 PM
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Having birth control doesn’t change our evolutionary biology. Maybe in a few thousand years. Most average men are with average women I have no desire to be attracted to more men. Attraction isn’t a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 06:04 PM
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Men want to sleep with a lot of women because of biology. Men spread their seed. Women are more picky because we have to carry the consequences of that seed. It is not better for society for women to just have sex with whatever man wants to have sex with them. There would be more single mothers and unwanted children. Women aren’t not having sex with men because we hate them. We aren’t having sex with men we aren’t attracted to. Our attractions are different than men’s. Why SHOULD any woman want …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:31 PM
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For some women it’s going to be nowhere. For some women it’s going to be wherever. For some women it’s going to be depends on how. For some women it’s going to depend on who. We aren’t a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 05:03 PM
1

How did you meet and talk to your current girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:49 PM
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I say “more” and “a lot” and “some” and you take that to me saying “all.” I think you might need to work on your reading comprehension.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:24 PM
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What accountability am I trying to remove by pointing out the fact that, generationally speaking, younger generations are not becoming more conservative? That’s because more men benefited from the status quo. But a lot of younger men are also more liberal to start out with. Some younger men are becoming more conservative because they want the days of women being dependent on them. So they can have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:20 PM
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Again. Older generations. Millennials are not becoming more conservative. Younger generations are starting out more liberal.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:14 PM
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Or he’s young. Hes not a guaranteed lost cause. He has an opportunity to grow, learn, and adapt. I guess I’m hopeful this morning. 😜
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:12 PM
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Millennials are 30-45…..
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:09 PM
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It’s early and I’m bored. Also I like to see different peoples perspectives. Sometimes they can articulate a perspective I hadn’t considered that I might not agree with but can accept.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:07 PM
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But that’s not true anymore. It’s not most.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:05 PM
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Millennials are the first generation who has not become overall more conservative as we aged. That was true for Gen X and boomers. As we get closer to gender equality the social construct of women needing a man has declined. We aren’t settling as much as we did before because we don’t have to.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:04 PM
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Some people are misandrists. Some people are misogynists. They fuel each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 04:00 PM
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Again. Why would I want to learn how to be attracted to men I’m not attracted to? Why would I want to have sex with a man I don’t want to have sex with? What will this do for me? Why can’t men change their mentality? Just stop wanting sex. Easy peasy right?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:57 PM
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So you want women to have sex with men they don’t want to have sex with. Why would we do that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:51 PM
10

We already have sex with men we want to have sex with…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:50 PM
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What change do you want women to do?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:46 PM
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Women need to fix what?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:44 PM
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How do I change my attraction? And why would I want to be attracted to someone who thinks they are entitled to my body?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:41 PM
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One argument is that women should be forced to have sex with men against their will. The other argument is to remove the men that want to force women to have sex them against their will. She’s saying she doesn’t negotiate with terrorists. Threatening women to put out or you’ll destroy the world (coercive rape) so that you can overtly rape them isn’t the winning argument you think it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:28 PM
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I don’t get approached. I’m not attractive enough. If I approach, I don’t get treated well.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:14 PM
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I don’t see men on here saying that women are better for not being physically attracted to men. I do see men on here failing to understand that when people talk about needing a compatible personality or a positive interaction that physical attraction is still first. That it is implied. How much physical attraction is needed depends on the woman. I also don’t think most people think men are less than because they are mostly attracted by looks. Men’s and women’s attractions are different in genera…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 01:49 PM
2

I agree. I haven’t shaved anything below my neck in over a decade. I might trim the goat beard occasionally
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 09:33 PM
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Was expecting your rebuttal 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 09:31 PM
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I chose not to have children because I’m like you. I knew I’d be an amazing mother. I’m loving and pragmatic and patient and I know it takes work. I knew that I would give up my current existence to become that for them. My existence is very important to me. I chose to remain “selfish.” I don’t regret my choice. The me that was me still exists. She’s had a chance to grow. Another me would have been a great mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 06:09 PM
1

“I view women as interchangeable fleshlights. Why can’t women view men as interchangeable dildos?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 12:59 PM
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Thanks. I’ll get there eventually
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:53 AM
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Ended things with date dude. Well, I just told him that I’m not going to message him first anymore. Which is basically the same thing. I’ll start swiping again maybe in a week. Idk. Just wanna cry and mope and deal with being undesirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/26 10:44 AM
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Theres usually a lot of overlap with words like preference, kink, and fetish. There’s usually a lot of internal intentions that can only be truly understood by the individual.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 08:09 PM
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I said usually. I think all aspects of a relationship are down to the individuals.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 07:28 PM
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“I like larger penses (penises) and likely can only orgazm (it’s orgaSm) from them” Have you ever had sex? Do you only orgasm with penetration while masturbating?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 05:06 PM
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If big breasts are required for you to have an orgasm, you have a fetish. If a woman can’t have an orgasm unless a penis of a certain length or girth is inserted to hit the spot that will give her an orgasm it’s simply anatomy.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:54 PM
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I’m okay with anyone not having sex with anyone for whatever reason. I’ve also enjoyed sex when there wasn’t an orgasm. I’ve had bad sex where I did have an orgasm. I’m also okay with people feeling bad and stupid for having sex and being rejected afterwards. Those feelings are absolutely valid. For the woman in question she should extend her timeframe when she’s willing to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:42 PM
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I don’t need any advice. It is what it is. I also wish I could decouple my self worth as a human from other humans lack of choosing me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:21 PM
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9 times out of 10 I’m not going to have an orgasm with a guy on our first hookup. You said that dropping someone after the first time of having a bad sexual experience is the right thing to do. But then you’re arguing that good sex needs to be about experience. So which is it? Do you see if you can become compatible or should sex the first time be expectation of future sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:17 PM
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It just reaffirms that I’m worth less.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:07 PM
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Most men are bad at sex because they just focus on the friction parts. Lots of women are also bad at sex because they just take whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:05 PM
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Ahhhh. I’ve never had a temp ban so that’s not where my mind goes. Meh. Kinda sad about the fact that I’ll never be loved. But I’ll get used to that concept again.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:57 PM
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Without a certain level of connection sex isn’t good for women. We don’t have satisfactory sex with just basic friction. We need to be stimulated mentally. That connection is part of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:55 PM
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You good?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:52 PM
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She wasn’t looking for sex. She was looking for a relationship. Men say on here all the time how important sex is. That it’s a need. Then they treat it like a handshake?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:36 PM
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Most women need more than he looks good and has a dick. She had already filtered enough to want to sleep with him. Men tend to filter after sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:27 PM
1

This year I’ve made banana bread something half a dozen times or so. I buy bananas and wait and wait and wait. Why must they all be green at the stores?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:22 PM
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Yes. Because he values the sex more than the connection. She valued the connection more than the sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:18 PM
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Mmm nice. I make a mean banana bread. Last ones were dark chocolate chip, toffee banana muffins. I’d like to be able to share them more.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:16 PM
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What do you think about it? I think it’s mostly a good thing. But I think it’ll stop people who use ai because of language barriers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:14 PM
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Blue pill? Since when?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:11 PM
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It’s not “just sex” for a lot of people. She wanted more. Thought she was going to get more because she felt a connection. She thought he did too. Now she feels sad and stupid. That’s a pretty normal reaction.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:06 PM
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Absolutely fair. I think a healthy checklist of compatibility issues is good. And anybody is allowed to have whatever standards or preferences they want. And anybody is also allowed to turned off by others preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:00 PM
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It leaves the woman financially dependent. If the man leaves or dies. She’s screwed. She doesn’t have work experience. She doesn’t have access to funds if he left. He can be financially abusive. Control her actions through money distribution. I said a lot. Not all
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 04:15 AM
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I agree men and women need to stop thinking of women as more than just humans with flaws. We are all flawed. However. Men didn’t have power in the dating market. They had power over women. We can be fully independent if we want to be now. We get to choose freely now.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:55 AM
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Well, a lot of traditional families weren’t good for women. So yeah. I can see how feminist theory would degrade that type of relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:49 AM
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I’ve given up. But thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 02:37 AM
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I’ve been on less than a dozen real dates in my life. 2 second dates. No thirds. My ex was a friend first. He wasn’t physically attracted to me. I’ve had a lot of partners. Mostly one and dones. A handful of fwb’s. I’m awesome as a friend. I’m okay to fuck. I’m not worth romance or being loved. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:22 AM
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Met a couple irl, and yes. Online I assume they are bots.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 01:08 AM
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When I hear “oh, I’m not picky” when it comes to attraction it’s a turn off for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/26 12:57 AM
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I’ve had this written in my notes for like 10 years. I have high self confidence and low self esteem. Self-confidence: This is our view on our own abilities to do something. The level of self-confidence is usually a result of overcoming certain obstacles or working to improve a skill. Triumph in establishing these traits and skills builds on our confidence. Self-esteem: This is our perception of ourselves. The level of self-esteem is a result of perceived social norms and what we believe ourselv…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 08:16 PM
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Nope. For the most part women are the ones that control access to sex. Men are the ones that control access to relationships. Men are leaving the dating world because they can’t get easy sex. Women are leaving the dating market because they can’t get real relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:48 PM
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If you fail, you try again. Confidence in one area of your life can help you gain confidence in other areas of your life. Yes it can be difficult. Lots of things are difficult. Does that mean nobody should do anything that they can’t do the first time around? Grow, learn, adapt.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:39 PM
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It’s harder to get sex for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:30 PM
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Confidence can be learned. It’s stuff you can practice. Yes it also means different things to different people. That’s how most words about thoughts ideas and feelings work. There’s a general sense of a word. But specifics can be and are subjective.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:20 PM
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Men aren’t selective enough. They see a woman and without knowing anything about her is willing or wanting to have sex with her. She has shapes he doesn’t find ugly and has a vagina. Women have a whole lot more we look for. Our attractions and arousals work differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:16 PM
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Read my next comment
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:12 PM
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Any standards or preferences makes it harder for people who don’t meet the standards or have what is with those preferences to date or be successful in the thing they are trying to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:11 PM
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<Wouldn’t it then make sense that women’s high selectivity for confidence makes dating harder for men, and puts men at a significant disadvantage compared to women> You’re blaming a woman’s “high standards” for you not being confident.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:05 PM
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Funny how you replied to me and not the man I was replying to…this is your 3rd post about how confidence is stupid. Maybe you’re just not a confident person? Idk.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:00 PM
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I was going to agree with you on some points. Then I saw your replies. I’m good.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 06:58 PM
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This was fun. You have a great day today!!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 06:25 PM
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Yes. No matter what it’s our fault 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:22 PM
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I have no idea what you’re talking about. Dads should be able to take their little daughters into the men’s or family bathroom. When the daughter is older he can let her go in the women’s bathroom and wait outside. Or we can implement more gender neutral bathrooms. People need to stop demonizing or canonizing trans people. They are a minority of a minority of the population. They are just people. They just want to go about their days and exist. What women are saying what? What men are saying wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:20 PM
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Have you even vanquished my cousin the mountain troll yet? Have you spoken the 7 languages to the lands lost? Did you ever think of bringing me a little everlasting blue flame?!? I need just a little effort
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 03:00 PM
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Like who wants to be in a debate sub and use ai. (Other than using it to speak English) Like go have your fake fight, with fake ideas, with another ai program. This place is for people to discuss and debate people stuff. If I wanted to engage with a computer program I can use one myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 01:35 PM
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I told you I’m not interested 😜
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 01:30 PM
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He posting bullshit ai comments to protest against the rule change about using ai comments. He’s having a hissy fit. Ignore him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 10:52 AM
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I’m sorry you’ve never made a woman orgasm before.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 10:42 AM
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This is Reddit. You can’t even guarantee me you’re a real person 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 10:12 AM
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5-7 inches with stamina.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 07:38 AM
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Yeah. It’s going to be different for different people. And for the same individual at a different time or place. Some boundaries seem obvious. Some boundaries show up once they are crossed because you didn’t realize it was a boundary before. Also people use the word incorrectly all the time. Even I do depending on how I word it or who I’m talking to and how they are using it. Like a sexual boundary is usually called a limit. Hard limits and soft limits.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 05:27 AM
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I think if you know your boundary and it’s on your mind. You should be able to talk about it. Sometimes it doesn’t come up and it’s going to be specific to the boundary haver. So that might have some wiggle room as to when and how the boundary should be talked about. Also defining the boundary is important. Like cheating is something I won’t tolerate. But I’m poly so cheating is more about lying and deceiving than having a relationship with or having sex with someone else. Or If I know you have …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 05:10 AM
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If my “boundary” was I won’t stay in a relationship with someone who talks to their ex. And I stay with someone who talks to their ex. It wasn’t a boundary. It was a request or preference or meaningless threat
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:26 AM
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What is your definition of a boundary? For me and most people it’s having rules for themselves. Not others. I can’t put a boundary on another person. I can say I don’t accept this behavior. And if this behavior happens these are my actions that I will do. For example: I do not want people to hit me. If someone hits me. I will leave if I’m able. I will no longer have the same relationship with that person. If warranted I will go to the police. I can’t say I won’t allow someone to hit me. I can’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:21 AM
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The one doing the humiliating? I can do it. I need a lot of reassurances from the sub beforehand. And after. Lots of communication. How? Why? Specific phrases? I’m a service switch. I like making my partner happy. Even if it’s by being mean to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 04:09 AM
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If I followed that I’d never have any dates ever. I’d never have had an ex. I’m not better than anything. I’m human like everyone else. I’m not guaranteed love or interest or effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 01:29 AM
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Not all are disrespectful. Lots just don’t know how to talk to people. It’s like pulling teeth for engagement. I also get a lot of trauma dumps. I’ve had some luck on fetish sites. Doesn’t really do anything when we live in other countries and will never meet. Also as I can’t meet them in person, I have no idea how they would actually treat me. The bpd dude is nice and respectful. But he just disappears sometimes. According to him the longest he’s just avoided all people all together was a month…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 01:03 AM
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Then it’s both sexes perpetuating it. If you don’t want to pay. Don’t. Make it clear. If that means you don’t get a date. Then that is either a good or bad thing from your perspective. Again. I go Dutch. I don’t care if men don’t want to pay for dates because that not what I’m offering. I don’t care if women insist on having their dates paid for. You do what’s right for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 12:55 AM
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I’m not getting asked for sex by chads. These are normal everyday average dudes. 5’4” and up. Skinny to fat. Muscular to lean. 25-45 yo.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/26 12:48 AM
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Women are taught to minimize themselves. To put others before them. We are taught that self sacrifice is better for the greater good. Our pleasure isn’t as important. Our comfort isn’t as important. We, as an individual, are less important than other individuals. A good partner wouldn’t want someone to dismiss a boundary. A boundary is something that should be enforced. It doesn’t mean she loves him more. It doesn’t mean he’s a good man. She’s being a people pleaser or a doormat. If he’s happy a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:16 PM
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Lots of guys can fake not being disgusting/overtly sexual via text. Then they get the date and they can’t hide it irl. It’s not like women are texting guys on apps and only dating guys they met irl.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:40 PM
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I’m not changing anything. You sift through the overt trash in the app. Then you go on a date and sift through that trash. I personally wouldn’t know how bad or good guys are on dates. I don’t get asked out on dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 10:24 PM
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They called us murderers and took pictures of us and her car and license plate. I was just trying to not freak out about possible cancer and pain and the procedure.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 09:11 PM
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The protesters.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 09:07 PM
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I went with my mom. She got so angry. We went to planned parenthood. And the protesters outside were yelling horrible things at us.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:50 PM
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I agree. But that can be very difficult to do during. More people should have casual conversations about sex outside of the bedroom. As a woman I also have this feeling of embarrassment or entitlement when I talk about my pleasure being important. Also we are taught “if a man wanted to he would” and “don’t criticize or emasculate” I’ve been told “you can ask a man to do something or tell him how to do it. Not both”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:45 PM
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I’m torn. I don’t use or like ai. But it’s a tool. Some people on here aren’t native English speakers. Some people use it because they don’t know how to arrange their thoughts in a concise linear fashion. But the pages and pages of ai text is something that definitely needs to be cut off. I can be long winded too. Take the time to type it all out if you have a lot to say.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:40 PM
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Usually being in a relationship with a woman gives you a better understanding of what it’s like to be in a relationship with a woman. It’s not the same as a friendship. Just like a woman never being in a relationship with a man might not be able to communicate or interact as well. There’re things that we learn. The men I’ve talked to that have had LTR previously usually have better consideration because they’ve come across issues in the past and have learned what things a general amount of women…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:25 PM
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That’s fair. I’m a bit of a masochist so I understand pain. Humiliation is close to embarrassment. Makes you flush. Bringing blood flow to the surface. People can become horny when they are afraid or embarrassed. I like being positively degraded with a loving partner. There’s a type on humiliation or embarrassment that can also turn me on. There’s a lot of nuance in arousal.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:12 PM
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🤷‍♀️ it is what it is. I don’t kink shame as long as everyone is consenting. I don’t have a lot of icks. We used to play together. I had fun. He enjoyed himself. We never had normal sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:03 PM
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Yeah. I haven’t come across any guys that want to eat or devour or consume a woman but they want to be eaten, devoured, or consumed by women. Whole or in bits. Resulting in death or sense of becoming a part of the woman permanently through nutrition and absorption.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 08:02 PM
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For him he likes to be feminized during sexual activities. He likes to be humiliated. Degraded. Dressed up. Say his cock is worthless. Make him suck on a strap on and smear his lipstick. He has a very normal average esthetic outside of the bedroom. He’s very masculine presenting. He doesn’t want to be a woman or to dress up as one outside of the bedroom. Although he does wear panties occasionally. And he wears his cage most days.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:57 PM
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Socks are like a combo of feet and lingerie. Also it can add more smell or sweat. Which can be a part of it. There’s many types of vore.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:51 PM
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Real people. Texting and talking to them. I have a friend who’s a sissy slut. Loves chastity. I talked to a guy that liked burps and farts. Etc
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:43 PM
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Possibly. Just like with a lot of kinks. Theres sub categories.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:42 PM
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I wouldn’t know who Lionel Messi is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:42 PM
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I’ve personally come across vore, giantess, face sitting, farts, ball busting, chastity, sissy, and smoking. Other ones too but just going off this list.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:36 PM
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It’s either where the woman is a giant. Literally. Or where the man is tiny. The 2 guys that I’ve come across with this kink both said watching “honey I shrunk the kids” as a child was a factor.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:33 PM
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Virtual hug internet stranger 🫶
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:30 PM
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I had to have a LEEP in my 20’s. Where they remove the top/cap or your cervix. I have an appointment for my last shot on Monday.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:28 PM
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I’m sorry.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:05 PM
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Thanks. I didn’t do anything though. Super high stress. And the shot. I wasn’t really able to eat from the stress (first time ever in my life) adding the shot extended that. I’m trying to keep it up but it’s harder now. The stress is less and I’m getting tolerant to the shot. I also have a lot of body and food issues. Bdd. Ed. ADHD. I’m working on multiple levels. One day at a time.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 07:00 PM
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It hurts some gay men too. I have a couple guys that really want relationships but they keep getting men to use them and treat them like sucking machines.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:49 PM
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Thanks. Me too. I realized I’m poly a year or so ago. I’m both too much and not enough. I have to be okay with multiple partial relationships. I’ll never be a partner or a primary. I talk to one guy in another country. Next month it’ll be a year. We validate each other. He gives me a huge part of what I need. I hopefully give him what he needs from me too. We will probably never meet. Even if we do we will never be together. Irl I can’t find anyone who’s attracted to me and that wants to put any…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:45 PM
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Very true. PNC hits some men really oddly. Like. Now that I’ve cum this person is no longer a human and i don’t need to treat them as such anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:36 PM
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I’m 43 now. I’ve pretty much given up on finding a loving, healthy relationship. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:33 PM
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Yes. I’m an enthusiast lover. I actually enjoy sex and get off on my partner getting off. I guess he prefers starfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:26 PM
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Off topic a bit. But once I had been talking to this dude for a hookup. He came over. I kissed him. We took our clothes off. I started blowing him. I got on top and he was done in like 5 back and forths. He then blamed me for him cumming too fast. If he had been cool we could have cuddled and made out for a round 2. But he was at my place for less than 15 minutes. He blocked me after.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:17 PM
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Absolutely not. I’ve known a lot of toxic women. A friend of mine just got out of a 17 year relationship. He’s a shell of what he used to be. A person can also be “toxic” to one person but not to another because those traits are or aren’t compatible. Age can also be a factor. An insecure 20 something can be quite toxic. If they take personal inventory, take accountability, and grow as an individual they could become less toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:06 PM
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It also causes throat and anal cancer. Those numbers are also going down.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 06:01 PM
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I don’t understand your point. The guy that did the experiment didn’t go on any dates. So he doesn’t know what dating is like for women. Lots of things can happen in 20 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:56 PM
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The shot covers most of the ones that cause cancer. Not all. Just like the flu shot covers the ones most prominent at the time. You can still get the flu. Just a different strain. Before the shot around 95% of sexually active people had some strain of hpv at some point. Most your body will get rid of if you have a healthy immune system.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:51 PM
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I don’t believe men fall in love faster. I think they are affected by dopamine easier. Men are more likely to have major addictions than women. One of the reasons there are more homeless men. Drugs and alcohol and gambling. “Love” hormones aren’t real love. Love is action. Love is intention applied. Love is a choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:38 PM
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They will if given the opportunity. Just because you’re ugly, bald and short doesn’t mean you’re a good person. Or nice. Or considerate. Many ugly men are bitter and want to hurt and use women. It’s why they are jealous of Chad. They want to pump and dump so bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:29 PM
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Hpv shot doesn’t cover them all and herpes is still a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:23 PM
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I read it. He didn’t go on any of the dates obviously. So he has no idea how they would treat the woman on those dates. He didn’t post what was said or what conversations were had. Of course he was more compatible with other men texting because he’s a man. He wasn’t thinking like a woman. He didn’t have any personal expectations or compatibility restraints. I can also larp as a man. Doesn’t mean I know how they think or feel.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:18 PM
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That’s not what was said. They said that there are some men that want a relationship but they will still go for a hookup if they can’t get a relationship. Not that they’ll go for hookups after they get a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:06 PM
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No. He was just hurting women to hurt them. He’s adding to the amount of women who say men are trash. He’s making it harder for other non trash men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 05:01 PM
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There are plenty of desperate women who want to marry and have children. They’ll rationalize and make horrible decisions to keep a bad relationship going.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:50 PM
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My friend just got out of a 17 year relationship. It’s been toxic for a really long time. Hasn’t had sex in 12 years. They were both miserable. Both were afraid of being alone. Both fell for the sunk loss fallacy. He’s angry and lost and depressed and doesn’t know who he is. He’s jaded/bitter about the idea of sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:34 PM
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Usually so they can blame me for not lowering my standards to someone I’m not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:29 PM
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I’d say I’m a 2 or 3 because of my age and weight. Yes I’m obese. i used to be morbidly obese now I’m just obese. I’ve lost over 100 pounds. Yes I get more attention. No I don’t get treated better. Losing weight has made me more jaded. I don’t swipe on chads. I don’t look at height.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 04:27 PM
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I’ve only had one committed relationship. I finished almost every time with him. He made sure of that. He only went down on me once. He wasn’t really physically attracted to me. He fell for my personality. He was the one that turned down sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 12:16 PM
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Lots of men are penis centric when it comes to sex. Their penis feels good. So it must feel good the other way around. They don’t know how women’s arousal works. They don’t know our bodies. Or they don’t want to put in the effort with someone like me because they aren’t planning on doing it again.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:38 AM
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I’m unattractive. I don’t have thousands of likes. Yes I get more than the average guy. My experiences are. Match, then nothing. Match. Guy say “hey” I say “hey, how’s your day going?” End Match. Guy says “hey” I say “hey, how’s it going?” He responds. No back and forth. I have to initiate conversation and ask questions to keep things going. One word responses. I stop. They stop. Match. Guy say “hey” I say “hey, how’s it going” Guy starts lovebombing Match. Guy says “can I blow your back out?” M…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/26 11:10 AM
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