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Yeah, I definitely didn't mean it in a "rub it in her face" kind of way, more of a "hey giving you the courtesy of knowing I'm no longer an option" kind of way. Of this whole approach, him finding another date and original girl also deciding to say yes is the only potential outcome with conflict, so letting her know gently that he's going with someone else is generally the most tactful way out of it. Either way, 2 dates to prom isn't the worst problem to have. Maybe he can go with both.
/r/seduction19/05/17 03:47 PM
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You're right to feel like its pushy and needy. It's at least one of those and potentially both depending on how you ask. Being a little older, I have learned to speak some womanese, so I'll translate for you. "I'll think about it" in this case, means "I'll go with you if no one else asks me, but I'm gonna wait and see if I get asked by someone else I'd rather go with first." My suggestion is while she "thinks about it," you go have some casual conversations with other girls who don't have dates …
/r/seduction19/05/17 03:03 PM
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This fits nicely with a thought I have been considering recently about the fact that domestic violence accusations are the new rape accusations. I think this somewhat recent shift (last 2-5 years) can be attributed to several factors, one of which is definitely the over-estimation of the capacity for violence in the general male population. Other factors would include the number of high-profile rape cases which were shown to be completely fabricated (e.g. UVA Jackie, Duke Lacrosse, Patrick Kane,…
/r/TheRedPill30/03/17 12:25 AM
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Good timing. I was just putting together my own write up on abundance mentality the other day. Mine is purely observational, no parallels drawn to any specific philosophies or structures, but interestingly it does still have three stages: The first stage in the development of abundance mentality is non-neediness. This translates to being able to have interest in a girl while not over texting, not acting giddy around her, avoiding severe oneitis ("I NEED this girl for my happiness"). In this stag…
/r/TheRedPill16/08/16 04:17 AM
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Number one easiest fastest guaranteed way to turn this around is two-fold: Inside you have to pull yourself together and chill the fuck out. Go workout. Go for a run. Play a sport. Do something manly that makes you feel good about yourself and doesn't rely on any external validation. I strongly suggest lifting weights if you aren't already. It may not be for everyone but it is for a lot of people. Flirt with some other girls. You don't have to take it too far or cross any other lines, just flirt…
/r/seduction08/05/14 09:00 PM
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This guy right here has the answer you're looking for. Keep doing everything you've been doing except for escalating with other girls. Be smart, cheeky, clever, funny, outgoing, whatever you've been doing. That's the guy she got into a relationship, don't stop it now just because you're exclusive. And don't be afraid to be that way with others. All you have to do is ease up on the kino, don't exchange numbers (at your discretion of course, there are times when it's appropriate), that kind of thi…
/r/seduction10/11/13 12:52 AM
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You just got a taste of what most successful puas will tell you: Beginners think about game, pros think about logistics. Once you get to a certain point seducing a girl is the easy part. The challenge then becomes making sure logistics don't get in the way. Does she have work in the morning? Are her friends there? Do you have a way and place to isolate her? Do you have friends or a wing man who has to get home somehow? These are all things to think about once you get the hang of the push/pull, k…
/r/seduction10/11/13 12:41 AM
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Personally, I like to go out to bars and stuff so I just mention I'm going and invite the girl out. I may buy her a drink or two but I don't feel the need to pay for all her drinks. It is important to note that it's framed as "I'm going to this bar if you want to join" rather than "let me take you to this bar with me." In the first situation she is coming of her own choice and it sets the expectation that she is meeting you, whereas the second situation implies that you will be treating her and …
/r/seduction30/10/13 03:10 PM
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Yo NYC, you've been around here quite a while and you contribute some great stuff so I know you have what it takes to keep on and you'll be just fine. That said, I know it sucks right now and that's what this post is about. I don't have any articles to add for ya but I have a little advice to add that I haven't seen mentioned in the comments: do stuff! Go outside, go for a run or a walk, go somewhere you've never been and strike up a conversation with strangers, build something, climb something,…
/r/seduction09/10/13 08:42 PM
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Yes it can. You literally just do nothing. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/slaq9/tip_had_a_girls_interest_but_lost_it_just_go_away/
/r/seduction01/09/13 06:41 PM
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All things being equal or comparable (i.e. you're both within the same general league as far as looks, game, grooming, conversational skills, humor etc.) the absolute best and easiest way to win a girl between the two of you that I know of is not to get her to choose you, but (now stick with me here..) to get her to make you choose her over another girl. I know that's just a weird complicated way of saying "make her jealous," but I worded it that way to show you the reason why it works. Making h…
/r/seduction12/08/13 08:58 PM
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Haha fair enough. There are definitely different time frames. But for a girl you just chatted up once, if she hasn't moved on after 3-8 weeks you don't wanna mess with that anyway.
/r/seduction06/08/13 07:36 PM
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First, congrats on approaching! Shit can be hard so you did good to give it a go. Next, I disagree that you asked for the number too early. You can get a number in like 15 seconds if the situation is right. The problem you had with asking for the number is that it came up so unnaturally. Not that your drawing back and forth was a problem, that shit sounds kinda cute and I'm sure she loved it. But let me frame this for you from her perspective: Dude starts a conversation. He's cool. Has similar i…
/r/seduction06/08/13 06:30 PM
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First, excuse everyone calling this fake. That's not what seddit should be about and I addressed this in a reply to the top comment. Second, great job on getting the balls to approach chicks way out of your league in a generally "unapproachable" environment. Personally I think when and where you want to approach girls is all up to you. If you're cool with hitting on chicks at a gym or a bar or rehab or whatever that's not our place to judge, we're just supposed to make you better at it. Third, w…
/r/seduction06/08/13 05:54 PM
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Maybe you weren't here yet or maybe you just missed it but there was fairly recently a highly voted thread about how we need to stop calling bullshit on every single post that could possibly be made up. People don't post the boring shit they do every day. Nobody thinks "hey, I had a nice chat with the cashier today, better tell seddit about it." This guy just had what he feels is a big important moment in his life and he wanted to share it here to help and encourage others and you're just writin…
/r/seduction06/08/13 05:38 PM
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Ah, exactly. That is more of the in-depth analysis I was talking about. In fact, I'd say that's probably over the top for most of seddit so I can understand why you didn't bring it here. I try to shoot for the mid-range here. I think all the "just approach!" And "how to kino" posts are too elementary and over done, but go too high and the less experienced guys miss the point altogether. I've stopped by /r/theredpill a couple times but you've convinced me to subscribe with that post.
/r/seduction24/07/13 03:22 PM
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I'm a little late to this party, but here it goes anyway... People seem to want to discuss the morality of your actions but as far as pure seduction is concerned, those rings could have been on any one of her fingers and they don't really affect how you seduced her. I don't mean for you to take this personally, your FR is good and it tells what happened in terms of actions taken (said this, sat here, went there), but I think it's lacking in terms of helpful, explicit seduction advice. You can se…
/r/seduction24/07/13 02:52 PM
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Washington Street and Midtown are the two big bar districts (especially for 20somethings). Wear pants and a collared shirt and no hat (should be obvious but you never know..) and you can get in just about anywhere. They're basically all free admission. Walk in a few places that look fun and do your thing! Parking isn't too bad and a cab is usually a good idea if you're going to drink.
/r/seduction09/06/13 05:30 AM
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That is exactly how it feels, and you should remember the feeling for the moments when it inevitably fades away! On another note, I'm guessing it felt like something "clicked" when you decided to escalate with all reasonably attractive girls you interact with. Personally, I think this is a HUGE step for most people's game that will really encourage progress. Once you've made this step and it becomes the "baseline" mode for you, so many things fall into place. Suddenly, you control the interactio…
/r/seduction25/05/13 09:06 AM
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This topic has been covered pretty extensively. Try searching seddit for "relationship" and sort by top all time. This is probably the best relationship advice post seddit has ever seen and it should give you exactly what you're looking for. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/tlorg/my_relationship_manifesto_what_to_do_after_you/
/r/seduction14/05/13 05:59 AM
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"Pessimism never gets you anywhere." Not with that attitude it won't! Really though, great job learning from the first one. Everyone slips occasionally. Jordan didn't hit every shot. Just keep shooting (which obviously worked out just fine!)
/r/seduction03/05/13 03:11 AM
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I get where you're coming from man. I love fancy steakhouse steaks (flavorful, exciting, rare) but that doesn't mean that McDonald's doesn't look delicious sometimes too. A lot of people are saying stay away but there's nothing wrong with wanting someone based on looks as long as its mutually beneficial or at least not harmful, which I'm sure you're aware of. As far as tactics go, calibration with these girls is a huge part of it. You know how to be attractive and if you have enough experience a…
/r/seduction21/03/13 07:00 PM
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My standards haven't changed, my ability to get girls that meet those standards is the only thing that's changed.
/r/seduction18/03/13 04:28 PM
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I see you've got a good bit of advice here and a lot if it is really good. Working on yourself, getting a hobby, and evaluating your emotions will all be extremely helpful and big parts of your development. And let's be honest, you're 18, you have plenty of developing left to do (everyone does at that age). That said, I have 2 suggestions to add for you to look into: 1. give value to others in your life and 2. taking it one step at a time. for 1. Giving value is exactly what it sounds like, prov…
/r/seduction17/03/13 11:12 PM
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Jesus Christ some of the top voted advice in this thread is terrible. Give him a note? Really? You only have one real option, and that is "just go talk to him." But you already know that and what you're looking for is HOW to go talk to him and WHAT to say to him. You can take all the advice you want from here, but you'll be 1000 times better off asking girls how to approach a guy. We don't go into /r/twoxchromosomes and ask for how to talk to a girl because they have never had to do that before,…
/r/seduction15/03/13 06:34 PM
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Your opener is exactly what is getting you this response. By starting with "mind if we join?" It's pretty obvious that you're interested in someone in the group. This falls somewhere between semi-direct and plain-ol' direct. It doesn't outright say "I'm interested in you/you're cute/etc." but in a bar/club/social setting it does basically say "do you mind if I try to hit on you" in a more socially acceptable way. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with this kind of opener, by all means keep u…
/r/seduction14/03/13 04:01 PM
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Man, everyone is really clinging to your offhand comment about meditating. I've done meditation, it's great, but meditation doesn't kiss girls. Doing exactly what you said (calibrating, escalating, and having some guts and a pinch of luck) gets girls. I'm glad you found this tactic and could overcome your limiting belief about how long you have to wait to kiss a girl! Think about it, how long after meeting a girl do you know if you'd want to kiss them? For me it's about 5-10 minutes (enough time…
/r/seduction06/02/13 08:41 PM
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I liked your topic because it covers something that isn't often talked about here. With the influx of the last 70k people to the sub there have been a lot more newbie level things posted. Not that it can't help anyone, but it isn't of much use once you've had some good experience. (I'm sure I sound like a broken fucking record in my last 4 comments hah, but here goes again-) my attempt at broaching a topic like this didn't get much attention but I think (read: know) there is some good material t…
/r/seduction24/01/13 08:38 PM
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I definitely agree that some aspects of sex are important in seduction. With that said, some of these will help you get girls and some will help you keep them (by having great sex): Sex is not a huge deal. Yes it's awesome. Yes you two will have a ton of fun doing it. But it is not something that you go rushing off to tell all your friends about right after it happens. It is not something that means you're "in" and she will automatically like anything you do now. Sex is an experience, not a mile…
/r/seduction24/01/13 08:18 PM
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This is so fucking cute. Go get em dude. You're way ahead of most guys on this sub, even me at your age.
/r/seduction24/01/13 03:52 AM
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I wrote a guide to getting girls to chase you but it got caught in the spam filter and didn't get much viewing. I'll probably repost my write up tonight since you are about the third person to ask this in the last two weeks. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/15q90d/become_the_target_get_girls_to_pursue_you/ Basically, if you want girls to chase you you just show some interest (you should pretty much do this with every person you meet anyway). Then when you have their interest (the hook …
/r/seduction23/01/13 05:38 PM
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Great question. I literally posted about this last week but it got hung up in the filter for like two days so it never got any views, but hey I'm here to help, not for the Internet points. So here you go, let me know if you have any questions. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/15q90d/become_the_target_get_girls_to_pursue_you/
/r/seduction11/01/13 05:57 PM
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That would be the best course. Essentially just carry on living your awesome life without giving her a second thought. This gives you the power to either move on and find someone new OR take her back if she happens to want back in. Personal opinions aside, this course gives you the most choices. I've written about the effect before in this post. http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/slaq9/tip_had_a_girls_interest_but_lost_it_just_go_away/
/r/seduction02/01/13 06:02 PM
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I like this and definitely agree that it would work. In a more general sense, you can use this with any new person in a social circle you see fairly regularly. The steps are basically first impression, come off a little asshole-ish but not enough to completely turn her away keep it up for a bit, be playful and not too mean but never directly nice slowly (or fastly, like your Turn) start to be nicer to them as you continue hitting on them and they are all yours. Thanks for writing this out. This …
/r/seduction31/12/12 08:02 PM
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If you want more about what to do on New Year's Eve, I can elaborate. First, throwawaypua is right that this topic was covered earlier today and that article contains plenty of good advice if you're looking to get laid on NYE. People in the comments took it as "only a smashed drunk girl would go for that kind of stuff." While failing to realize that there is a huge demographic of perfectly socially drinking or not drinking girls who will go for that sort of thing JUST because of the fact that it…
/r/seduction31/12/12 04:04 AM
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I can almost guarantee thats what did it. Like I said, it's no biggie, it just happened and it's something to learn from. Next time you find yourself in a situation like that give the "speak without words" route a try and see how it works out for you (you don't have to literally be silent, just don't say anything major or of any real importance). I only wanted to point it out for you because it's a mistake I certainly made myself in my early days.
/r/seduction30/12/12 03:16 AM
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Yeah I got on a little bit of a roll there with all the possibilities haha. The main point is there's no excuse not to escalate, which your comment seems to allude to you taking care of on the next date so way to take notice!
/r/seduction28/12/12 10:53 PM
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Haha yes I will agree with a difference of style. And I will also agree with the level of turned-on-ness needed to go hands down the pants. I was imagining over the pants more, but that's just getting into semantics anyway. My main point was that what he said probably had a bigger effect on her reaction than what his hands did.
/r/seduction28/12/12 10:51 PM
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I agree with all of this except your last point. You very much CAN dive in the way this guy did. In my opinion, the mistake he made was stating that he wanted to be more than friends. This is a huge, HUGE, HUUUGE flag for a lot of people. It implies waay too much investment on his part early on and going way too far too fast. I can tell you what I would be thinking in her situation and I guarantee many girls would agree: I can totally make out and fool around with a friend if I find them attract…
/r/seduction28/12/12 09:55 PM
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First off you did some things great. You made a real connection, listened well, had her interested, and made some great realizations (she's nervous, she's a real person, etc.)! Now that being said, you pitched 8 great innings then went to the underhand toss in the 9th. I'll start from the beginning: Sitting across from each other in a booth is not ideal of course, but it is by no means a death sentence. You obviously handled yourself well enough here and I don't have any major suggestions for th…
/r/seduction28/12/12 07:47 PM
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Seconding what he says. This is a very good breakdown of the different downtown bar areas. Much better than mine.
/r/seduction31/08/12 09:48 PM
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Hey man! I just moved here 4 weeks ago and have been here plenty of times before. I'll break it down best I can. East 6th is loud, crouded, crazy fun/drunk partying. The crowd is generally younger and the bars are slightly less expensive (but hey, this is Austin, nothing is that cheap). West 6th is known for a slightly older crowd (mid-late twenties) with jobs and a bit more money to spend. It's generally more chill but still plenty of room for fun. If you can't tell, I love to go out so both si…
/r/seduction31/08/12 09:46 PM
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This is exactly right. You can't force anyone to feel a certain way, you can only be the most attractive version of yourself. Although it should be noted that if a girl isn't instantly attracted to you, it is certainly possible to build attraction over a longer time (days, weeks, no more than a few months) if the situation allows it. Obviously you can't win 'em all, and certainly "chasing" is not the correct word to describe this. It's more along the lines of being your usual attractive self, ge…
/r/seduction03/08/12 02:02 AM
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Thanks. I wrote my post knowing that it was very much from an angle that neither OP nor most of the commenters expected. I see so many posts here about "how to make the situation sexual" that I felt compelled to point out to this man that this is exactly what he had done and it is a huge part if why it worked. Granted, there are many other points for guys to take care of but this is a major one that many guys can't seem to get over for a number of reasons.
/r/seduction01/08/12 09:58 AM
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One thing nobody has mentioned yet about why this worked is because you made the situation sexual. Well, I suppose the couple did by making out, but you kept it sexual by talking about never having been kissed, being a virgin, etc. Anyway, by the time the friend showed up the frame was about your sexuality and kissing (even if you were just joking about it and talking yourself down, the fact that you were being sexual outweighs the "fact" that you had never kissed a girl). So when she showed up,…
/r/seduction31/07/12 09:10 PM
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This is such a fantastic insight! I'm fairly young (just out of college) and have lived in pretty conservative places so it's great to hear your perspective. As I've matured lately I have really noticed some of the characteristics you mention in myself. I like to pursue a relationship to it's natural path, I'm not jealous of other guys with girls I'm with, pure monogamy may not necessarily be in the cards for me. I laughed at "people don't know what the hell they want." That is so true and clear…
/r/seduction30/07/12 12:57 AM
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If you want to control the conversation for the sake of being in control then someone else will have to explain how to do that. But if you want to control the conversation (or "stand out in a crowd") in order to pick up girls that is generally a poor use of time and energy. The best way to pick up girls in a crowd is...get rid of the crowd! Now obviously you don't just tell everyone to leave but one girl. It's really easy. Make eye contact. Tap her shoulder. Do any small gesture to get her atten…
/r/seduction18/07/12 08:30 PM
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Agreed that this should be in askseddit, but if no one answered you there then I don't mind that you posted it here. There are several things you can do to eliminate this guy (to an extent, there is no silver bullet that will do it for sure). The first and probably easiest is to have a lot of options. If you are in contact with, hooking up with, hanging out with a lot of other girls, suddenly YOU become the hot commodity and SHE is wondering "how do I eliminate his other options?" Another tactic…
/r/seduction18/07/12 08:26 PM
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You sound like you want to do it and just want someone to tell you it's a good idea, in which case, go for it. Random guy on the Internet here supports you.
/r/seduction28/06/12 05:53 PM
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Yep, that pretty much sums it up. It's nothing complicated or revolutionary, I've just noticed some guys having problems with it.
/r/seduction10/06/12 04:12 PM
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Bluehat9 is on the right track here. If I understand your question correctly, yes, it is perfectly fine and even encouraged to FEEL happy or sad when things go well or poorly. However, the important caveat and what I think is meant by outcome independence is to not let those feelings control your actions. Being able to identify what you're feeling is a very important aspect of knowing yourself and being a healthy individual. Likewise, controlling your emotions and not allowing them to dictate yo…
/r/seduction29/05/12 03:58 PM
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This is exactly right. The follow up text that night is extremely important. If you don't the girl may be wondering (in a bad way) if you were really into her or just using her or didn't enjoy the date yourself. As often as we forget it, girls still do have their own doubts and insecurities too, so it is very helpful to reassure them that you had a great time whenever you actually did.
/r/seduction24/05/12 01:29 PM
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I've definitely made out with two girls this semester by butt dancing up to them in a club! No words or into to either of them. In fact girls have only refused to real dance after the butt dance intro about 1 out of every 5 times. It's one of my go-to moves in dance clubs since I'm an awful dancer and just go dick around.
/r/seduction22/05/12 03:38 AM
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See a guy standing near or walking away from a girl- You: is that your boyfriend? Her: no.. You: he's hot, think I have a chance? Or if she says yes You: dang, I was really hoping he'd be single! Either way you're in on a funny tone (should be pretty obvious that you aren't gay if you handle yourself correctly, but like you said there's a little mystery. Is this guy really hitting on that dude?). It's a great way to disarm people and catch them off guard.
/r/seduction21/05/12 09:52 PM
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It sounds from your post that you dont have all that much experience with girls, so this may be tough to explain. The trick with a girl that you're already friends with is to put her in progressively more sexual situations and see how she responds. For example, make a couple sexual jokes or innuendos around her some time. Does she laugh? Is she not running away? Good, go on. Next you might invite her to a party or a bar or a concert where hookups can generally happen, it's fine to invite other p…
/r/seduction21/05/12 04:02 AM
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For the most part, naturals are just guys who were brave or curious or had an older brother and learned everything you read here when they were younger by experience and probably a bit of luck. They've just been doing it so long that they hardly think of what they're doing and to them it's no big deal. They also tend to not recognize a lot of the techniques they use until someone points it out to them.
/r/seduction20/05/12 10:16 PM
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( offended voice): I DON'T SCREW WOMEN! (normal tone): I nail 'em. Then brace for the high fives because you're hilarious
/r/seduction20/05/12 10:07 PM
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You're absolutely right, it is pretty vague. I just typed them out in a few minutes. I have my own specific goals and ambitions, these are more rules to help me verbalize who I am and what I value. Like I said, I generally try to stick to much more concrete posts here, but I figured this was decent and might help out a guy or two or inspire some introspection.
/r/seduction20/05/12 10:01 PM
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It also doesn't hurt that I just turned 22 and have always been in decent shape. I was training for a marathon but I strained a ligament in my left leg so I detrained while I waited for that to heal and I'm basically starting from scratch again. I'm excited to do it again, do it better, and dodge the mistakes I made last time. I will run a marathon eventually, but this time I'll be training up much slower.
/r/seduction20/05/12 12:18 AM
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Yes. I wasn't out of shape before, I was running the 5k at about 20-21 minute pace and playing 2 soccer games per week. I started doing distance at the end of November after thanksgiving and ran the 13 in the first week of January. That is probably the least relevant point in my post though.
/r/seduction19/05/12 10:43 PM
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I like to run. I've run on tracks, in parks, on treadmills, and on ellipticals. I hate all of them. People like to listen to fast music when they run, this bores me to death. I found that I really, really enjoy running on sidewalks with just my shoes and the clothes on my back. No phone, watch, iPod, anything. Doing this, I went from running a weekly 5K to 13 miles in 7 weeks. I'm not saying this will work for you, but I'm saying try a lot of things. If you don't like something, don't quit, chan…
/r/seduction19/05/12 09:53 PM
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Generally I post here from my phone, but you've been very thorough so I feel that you deserve a thorough response. I first "got my heart broken" at 19, found seddit at 19-20 (somewhere in there) and at this point I can't remember the last time I saw a girl I wanted to make out or do something with that I didn't make it happen. And of course some girls that I didn't originally intend to do anything with that just happened along the way. I really agree with almost all of what you've said. I've nev…
/r/seduction17/05/12 04:08 AM
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You can also go along with it for a couple of texts (I'll usually do 5-10 depending on how fast they come) then throw out a couple conversation killers. Very short answers like "yeah" or "for real" or "I know, right?" Anything that doesn't give them something to latch on to for the next text. If they don't get the hint after the first couple, just wait until they say something that doesn't absolutely require a response (basically anything that isn't a question) and dont text back. Both of these …
/r/seduction16/05/12 08:28 PM
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How old are you now? How have your goals changed over 10 years? How has your "style" or personality changed? What do you wish you knew sooner?
/r/seduction16/05/12 05:00 PM
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You're pretty much spot on. Just last night I went out to the bars with 5 of my friends. We had to lap up in the back seat and some girl I had never met sat on my lap. We went to the bars, got drunk, I don't think I spoke to her more than 5 minutes in the 3 hours we were out. On the way back, she had to sit on my lap again and when we pulled up to he apartment to drop her off all I said was "hey (friend driving) can you pick me up in the morning before work?" and got out of the car and went with…
/r/seduction11/05/12 05:37 PM
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Thanks for the write up Tofu! I was just thinking something like this the other day. Luckily it only took me one or two times to recognize the feeling associated with sex just for the sake of sex. Don't get me wrong, it was fun and I'd do it again in a heartbeat, but it definitely opened my eyes to what could happen if I'm not careful. It also helps that pick up has never been a primary goal for me, just something that I am consciously aware of and can improve as I go on living my life. I will p…
/r/seduction09/05/12 08:46 PM
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Sorry I'm on my phone and don't know how to make this a link, but as usual TofuTofu has your answer http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/r5u09/conveying_sexual_intent_early_on_how_to_avoid_the/
/r/seduction02/05/12 10:19 AM
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Let me start by saying I agree with most of your points here. Once you reach a certain level of success, you realize there are plenty of nuances and exceptions to every "rule" and dogma you read here. Sometimes buying a girl a drink is a gentlemanly thing to do and girls find it super sexy, especially when you do it unprompted and with an air of because it's what you want to do, not because you expect anything back. However, in seddit's defense, I would say you are broadly overgeneralizing some …
/r/seduction01/05/12 09:53 PM
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I think this may be a stage a lot of guys go through. I don't think I was ever so blunt but there was definitely a time when I was more mean, knew I was doing it, and couldn't seem to reel it in. I believe my first step was recognizing what I was doing and consciously stopping myself before saying something like that. What I didn't know was what I could say instead. I picked that up from watching a friend who I know is excellent with both girls and people in general. It takes some practice, but …
/r/seduction01/05/12 07:29 AM
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You're right. As with everything else here, this is by no means a catch-all solution. However, it is a pretty common one and one that I think many guys miss because it goes against your initial feelings.
/r/seduction22/04/12 01:45 AM
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Frogma is exactly right here. In the situation I'm referring to things are generally just starting to fizzle or slow down. If you're deep enough in the hole that a girl breathes a sigh of relief when you leave, you have bigger problems than her being attracted to you or not.
/r/seduction21/04/12 10:29 PM
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Once you're dating someone that's really moving into a completely different area of interaction that I would say has little to do with creating (or recreating) attraction early on.
/r/seduction21/04/12 05:00 PM
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Important note: don't actually give out cookies and take them back. That probably won't work.
/r/seduction21/04/12 02:57 PM
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Come to think of it, I got laid the last time I wore a red shirt! I'll have to keep that in mind for the next time I'm feeling out of it.
/r/seduction08/04/12 08:46 PM
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You! Where have you been? This stuff is excellent, especially the playful kiss rejection and how to open and how to pay attention while not paying attention. I feel like this post really captures the spirit of natural game better than 99% of what I've seen on here (insert you are the 1% joke here). I know sometimes these things have to come out organically, but if you have anything else to say, for goodness sake write it down!
/r/seduction23/02/12 03:45 PM
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Rule number one (for me) is have fun. If you have fun and involve others in it, girls will want to be a part of that fun (and dance and make out with you, because its fun).
/r/seduction20/02/12 05:49 AM
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I agree here. I realize it's basically a philosophical difference between ColorofGray and The_Merkon, and that's something everyone has to decide for themselves. For me, if I meet someone and have fun, sometimes that's as far as I want the interaction to go and don't bother asking for a number. I feel a little needy when I ask every person for a number or whatever, and I love the occasional no-strings-attached flirt or makeout session just for the fun of it. Maybe it makes me feel badass, like t…
/r/seduction19/02/12 07:48 AM
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I'm no yoga expert, I just took "beginners yoga" as a class last semester and it was really awesome. I'm sure no matter what form you choose your experience depends greatly on your teacher (yogi? Master?). Anyway, my suggestion is hop into a beginner class anywhere you can and learn from there. Don't expect any magical fix-all from meditation but as an adventurous hobby it's been fantastic for me.
/r/seduction13/02/12 09:33 PM
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Shit, I'm a dude and just do what you did there. That was good.
/r/seduction08/02/12 10:53 PM
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This is something that I didn't understand for some time about male-female interaction, but now that I know it seems pretty obvious. In my head (and it sounds like yours, too) there was a distinction between friends, and romantic relationships. Well guess what; the line between those two, if there is one, can be incredibly thin, shaky, blurred, and even moving around from time to time. I've hooked up with people I previously thought were just friends. Ended up friends with people I was romantica…
/r/seduction06/02/12 09:58 PM
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First, props on the awesome night! Like everyone is saying, no critique here, that's just a great story all the way. And this The history I have with Woman 2 is complex - like I said she was a friendzone/oneitis. The first women I attempted to date who I'd also had a crush on for 2 years. I got attached too fast, went on multiple dates without kissing, didn't escalate physically just textbook mistakes. I in hindsight I don't blame her for friendzoning me, I was the bitch haha. had me cracking up…
/r/seduction02/01/12 10:42 AM
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Hey man, when I turned 20 I had kissed one girl and even that was a fluke. I'm only 21 now and have made out with 20-some odd people, had sex, etc. Once you get going, things can pick up quickly. The best advice I can give: don't talk, do (e.g. don't ask her, just kiss her, etc.). and be bold, you'll get rejected and make mistakes, just learn from when you get it wrong and when you get it right.
/r/seduction02/01/12 10:38 AM
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PuaCurveBall to the rescue. This is exactly right. Seddit assumes you are already a good, caring person; it just gives you a way to find women to share it with. Sure, not everything on here is good advice, but some things you find are incredibly helpful and you may have never though of it had it not been spelled out so clearly for you. Be discerning with what you read and willing to try things out before you discard them as heartless.
/r/seduction15/12/11 08:24 PM
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Out of curiosity, how old are you? This is written like it comes from experience, and I like what you have to say. I was just thinking today how I would love to hear an older man's opinion here since most of the posts are obviously from the 18-25 demographic that makes up most of reddit.
/r/seduction15/12/11 09:34 AM
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You aren't dating exclusively, so there is no reason to say "it's you or the rest of these girls" like some are suggesting. What's wrong with continuing to date or hang out with her and also date other girls? If you feel wrong or guilty for doing that then by all means, break it off completely. However, from a social norms viewpoint there is generally no exclusivity until it is agreed upon, verbally or otherwise. If you enjoy hanging out with her, do it, just don't get stuck thinking you owe her…
/r/seduction22/11/11 06:16 AM
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Gotta agree with you here man. I wouldn't even bring it up. I would just hold off for a bit (a day or so, or however long you think is appropriate) and if she hasnt texted you already then you can text her to hang out that night or the next. This shows her you aren't overly interested but still want to see her. It's also been my experience that saying something like "hey I like you" doesn't go over well for a variety of reasons.
/r/seduction11/10/11 05:46 PM
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Right. I didn't mean to give anyone the idea that they could stop showering or anything, I was just saying that attitude has a major impact.
/r/seduction14/09/11 08:47 PM
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This applies to a lot of other areas as well. My roommate is the king of not caring. His room is messy as fuck, he never picks anything up, shaves whenever he feels like it, leaves his hair shaggy, and he can still get practically any girl. Not because he's super well kept, but because he's a great talker, has confidence, and doesn't have the little things pop into his head like "what if she thinks my room is a mess?" He just goes in with the attitude of "she is here for me, not how clean my roo…
/r/seduction14/09/11 04:50 AM
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talk to everyone, not just the ones you find attractive. If you only talk to the 4 hottest girls it will make you look like a creeper who is in class just to meet chicks. If you're friendly to everyone you will just look like a good, personable guy and more girls will be attracted to you because of it. Source: Yoga class
/r/seduction13/09/11 12:02 PM
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Seriously, luckiest typo I may have ever seen! And also lucky that she was cool and went with it. I'll be very blunt here, HER RETURN TEXT WAS HER AGREEING TO BANG YOU! Internet shouting aside, go out with her tomorrow night, have a blast. Have fun and joke with her all night, don't be afraid to touch, get close, kiss (when you see a chance, go for it), etc. Even if you aren't sure she will go for it, take a risk, you never know. If the night ends in sexytime or not is up to you two, but don't l…
/r/seduction13/09/11 02:48 AM
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You're not. This happens for almost everyone. Half the fun in dating for many people is the challenge, the chase. That's part of the reason why people suggest push/pull techniques, because the push makes them want you more (everyone wants what they can't have) and the pull capitalizes on that desire. Then you push again before the desire is gone to keep it up. It isn't so much game, or your personality, it's generally human nature.
/r/seduction13/09/11 02:42 AM
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open talk to her for a second, make her laugh/smile ask her to go somewhere quieter to talk (outside, back yard, back room, wherever), or if it is a rager/dance party ask her to dance. close from there. Note: this won't work with every girl, but hey, neither will anything else. Also, this is basically what kemanla said, just in more explicit and direct steps.
/r/seduction13/09/11 01:56 AM
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Thank you so much for writing this! I have been thinking the same thing, I just haven't had the time to type it out. I feel that I've seen a lot of posts asking "what do I do to get this girl?" and the like. I'm fairly new to reading about this stuff, but from what I've gathered the aim is not to follow steps to make one girl interested in you, the goal is to be yourself and meet/attract people by good social skills and interactions. People will be attracted to you for who you are, not for follo…
/r/seduction10/07/11 11:20 PM
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Approach anxiety
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