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Excellent comment, nothing more needs to be said
/r/seduction11/08/21 04:52 AM
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This is a very loaded question that will require an involved and long response, will comment in a few days when I'm not so busy
/r/seduction11/08/21 04:38 AM
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I’m 25 years old and I don’t have any friends(I don’t care for them) Is this a troll thread? If serious, then.... OP if your social skills are poor enough that you literally have no friends then women (hell, people in general) are gonna be turned off by that. Dating women is a social skill. You seem to suggest you are socially inept. Fix the bigger problem and learn to socialise with humans as a whole, then zone in on opposite sex
/r/seduction11/08/21 04:30 AM
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I've got 3% man as an audiobook and I think it works better that way because of Corey's writing style lmao
/r/seduction11/08/21 04:17 AM
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Yes I like the inner game/ mindset type of books better than formulaic methods. Models is amazing. Currently going through 3% man, haven't finished it but liking it so far. Book of Pook is outstanding but it's been around for almost 20 years so I dunno if it's recent enough to be classified as "second wave" which IMO is 2010s and beyond
/r/seduction10/08/21 07:44 PM
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My body count ain't that high lol, guess I'm an intermediate level then
/r/seduction10/08/21 07:17 PM
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Yes height can matter but it's usually considered with other factors as an overall package. I don't think girls would pick a 6'1 , unemployed, out of shape, facially unaesthetic, zero hobbies (apart from Netflix and PornHub) guy over me. And the ones that do, well...who cares about them lmao, they have unhealthy/unattractive mindsets that would make them nightmares to date and frankly I deserve better than that. During the 5+ years I've been on dating apps, and matched/messaged/dated numerous wo…
/r/seduction10/08/21 03:11 PM
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I'm 5'7 lol. But I lift, have lots of hobbies, I'm a doctor, I'm extrovert/sociable, kind/caring/empathetic etc etc. As to OP's question on how to sexually escalate... I started with reading/watching some theory stuff (DiCarlo's escalation ladder, RSD stuff and of course Mystery Method) but mainly I worked on inner game e.g.... 1) Being aware of my desire (what am I attracted to? Her confidence? Her humour? Her eyes? Her tits? Her intelligence?) and communicating it in a socially calibrated mann…
/r/seduction10/08/21 12:48 PM
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Also models have insecurities just like everyone else. Briefly dated one who was not overweight AT ALL but very insecure about weight. Also from a high achieving family and she felt like the loser/black sheep vs her brothers and sisters and cousins, grew up in single mother household and didn't get enough attention growing up. This made her very needy, getting upset/angry if I didn't immediately respond to her messages/pick up when she called. Got angry/upset if I didn't compliment her enough. L…
/r/seduction10/08/21 11:24 AM
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Define "highly successful with women". I mean I do ok, get kiss closes 90%+ of the time but first-date-fuck closes are probably 20% of the time. Is that "successful" enough for me to provide input in this thread😅?
/r/seduction10/08/21 09:23 AM
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I've watched your other videos before and like your channel a lot OP! 'Models' has been transformational for me, especially the "non neediness" part because I've been a natural people-pleaser ever since I was a kid (I need to get the top grades, I need to please my teachers, I need to make my parents proud, I need to impress my friends etc) and that people-pleasing/neediness affected my dating life, work life and social life Great summary, but I hope people don't use the summary as a substitute …
/r/seduction09/08/21 11:04 AM
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Congrats OP! Great point about investing in yourself i.e. lift for yourself, not for the girls
/r/seduction09/08/21 10:58 AM
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Quality in this sub has recently gone up a lot, great post
/r/seduction11/10/20 07:42 PM
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Good stuff OP
/r/seduction11/10/20 07:34 PM
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Excellent post OP, just what I needed to read right now
/r/seduction11/10/20 07:31 PM
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Does the anger/frustration that you show in this post come out in other ways with your IRL date behaviour OP? Also, how fixated are you on the outcome (sex)?
/r/seduction11/10/20 07:27 PM
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Yes, when I say be more attractive, the implication is "be more attractive to her " And of course, basic social calibration is a part of it as you allude to...it's just that your attractiveness (to her) is a huge, often overlooked part of it too
/r/seduction17/08/20 11:35 PM
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True, with a calendar function you could even log dates /approaches, what went well, what didn't and have entries for different days, track progress etc
/r/seduction17/08/20 11:31 PM
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3 now which isn't much but there have been times when it's been up to 7-8 which was difficult
/r/seduction17/08/20 11:30 PM
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Being more mature than the age of the girl you are trying to attract is the key here. Specifically, emotional maturity, because in other ways you gotta keep your youthful energy/positivity. You're 14 so there's not much difference in youthful energy/positivity between you and a 17 year old compared to say....a guy in his 20s and a woman in her 30s but the point still stands. I'm mid-to-late 20s and I have dated women in their late 20s, early-mid 30s, occasionally early 40s LOL and I have found t…
/r/seduction17/08/20 08:40 AM
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EXACTLY. It is largely based on perception. "Hey, you look hot, let's fuck" might seem like a clearly creepy line but it can be flirty too in the right context. If she is attracted enough to you, that's flirty and it works. Yes there are some basic social skill elements but one of the best ways not to be creepy apart from obvious social calibration is to improve your appearance (gym, fashion sense, grooming, body language/posture etc). Be more attractive and you'll be less creepy.
/r/seduction17/08/20 08:27 AM
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Yep, a lot of times it stems from THEIR insecurity and they want to know that you don't care about it
/r/seduction16/07/20 01:26 AM
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I've never had "you're too young for me" but I have had the "But I'm older than you" line and I've just responded with "So what?" / "I don't think it matters at all that you're a little bit older than me" / "You say that like it's a bad thing 😋" ...basically play it off like it's no big deal because....well... it IS no big deal. Or sometimes it leads to deeper conversations about age vs maturity and I make my opinion clear that you can be young and mature for your age, or things I find attractiv…
/r/seduction16/07/20 01:24 AM
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Good stuff, silver was well-deserved
/r/seduction16/07/20 01:15 AM
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Absolutely, couldn't have worded it better OP
/r/seduction16/07/20 01:13 AM
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Good mindset OP
/r/seduction30/04/20 11:21 PM
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No, lockdown rules here means I can't
/r/seduction15/04/20 12:56 AM
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Can see why this post got gold, great stuff OP
/r/seduction24/03/20 03:11 PM
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Who's that? The old long-haired bearded Aussie guy?
/r/seduction24/03/20 01:32 PM
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"Virtual dates"...e.g. video chat, netflix chrome/chill, or screenshare+watch a movie together, order ubereats for each other, get nudes etc. There are other ideas, and none will be as good as meeting IRL but it's the best option we have given the circumstances. Girls will really appreciate emotional intimacy/comfort/security right about now, it might not be as fun for us but if you can build that comfort, it will be like crack to them
/r/seduction24/03/20 01:28 PM
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Dating apps, or talk to existing girls in your rotation. A lot of them are worried and need comfort during these times of uncertainty
/r/seduction24/03/20 12:13 PM
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Bending her over and being respectful are not mutually exclusive
/r/seduction24/03/20 12:08 PM
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1) Watch stand-up comedy, go to improv comedy/acting classes. 2) Read more, become more knowledgeable of a wide range of topics/hobbies/interests 3) Go out and socialise more
/r/seduction19/03/20 04:23 AM
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OP what's your age/ dating background? Your posts suggest a fair amount of experience
/r/seduction18/03/20 11:36 PM
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In order to successfully escalate sexually, you need to get the girl hornier than you. This sentence is gold, so much truth
/r/seduction17/03/20 07:58 AM
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Also might be a good time to focus on existing girls in your rotation instead of trying to get new ones. How are these girls you're already dating holding up? Are they ok, worried, needing comfort etc?
/r/seduction17/03/20 07:49 AM
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Great post!
/r/seduction17/03/20 07:46 AM
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Great response, thanks! I am not against the idea of deep character work though, game is all about self-improvement
/r/seduction08/03/20 03:42 AM
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handle mine without taking away my independence You might have hit on something here. Your response is making me think there is a chance that my caring side is too intrusive, and makes the girl feel less independent. I do stuff like make her breakfast the next day, carry her bags for her, open doors for her, if I'm at the girl's place I'd wash up cups/plates/cutlery we used the night before etc. Again, I don't do it from a place of neediness/expectation of anything in return, I do it because I l…
/r/seduction07/03/20 08:40 PM
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I'm a guy, but IMO guys can still answer this. I find the buildup/prelude to it is important as well when turning girls on. If you're meeting her after a few days, message her about how you can't wait to x/y/z etc, or something else that builds up her anticipation...hints/ implicit stuff etc (you know her better than we do, so you know what kind of things would build up excitement in her). The prelude can also be a fun evening, a place she's wanted to go to for a while etc etc....the wait and th…
/r/seduction07/03/20 08:32 PM
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What would that look like? Give less of a fuck? Be less emotionally in-tune with her? Be more dominant/commanding/stern? I am already dominant in the dating dynamic, but it's less primal (e.g. picking her up and hauling her over my shoulder) and more of a gentle dominance (e.g. leading gently like a guy leads a girl in a ballroom dance)
/r/seduction07/03/20 08:24 PM
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Of course, certain behaviors will be more effective than others if you're going for mass numbers It's not top priority, but I do want to increase my lay count and sexual experience, so if an alternative behaviour gets me there, I'm open to learning about it If a girl is turned off by affection, well damn I don't know what to tell her, maybe see a therapist This would obviously be her problem, not mine, but where it becomes something I want to address is if I am somehow coming across as needy/bet…
/r/seduction07/03/20 08:21 PM
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So what should the proposed solution be? Option 1, 2 or something else?
/r/seduction07/03/20 07:53 PM
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IODs are as important, if not more important that IOIs. Tbh I need to learn more about IODs, I feel it's an area I can improve a lot on
/r/seduction07/03/20 02:31 PM
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Good job OP, but seriously consider therapy and trauma release, if being outgoing was your true self/inner self and it got suppressed by trauma, your intrinsic extrovertedness sounds like something that would be cool to bring out, you'd probably feel more "alive" and authentic/true to yourself if you did
/r/seduction20/02/20 09:55 PM
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Meditation, mindfulness, breathing exercises, and any kind of physical activity (weights, running, combat sports etc if you don't already do this) will help. Other lifestyle factors can contribute too (cutting down on caffeine, a healthy diet). The endorphins and hormonal balance can help attenuate the physical symptoms. Having said that, sometimes desensitising and repeated practical experience goes a long way too. The more you do something, the more relaxed you feel, and that will carry over i…
/r/seduction20/02/20 09:50 PM
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Heard great things about that book, definitely on my "to read" list
/r/seduction20/02/20 09:47 PM
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Now I have a good excuse to visit pornhub lmaooo
/r/seduction20/02/20 06:20 PM
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Which is kinda daygame with a bit of social circle game mixed in right lmaooo? Except their parents are the wingmen.
/r/seduction28/01/20 01:45 PM
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Breathing exercises, meditation, edging, other mental reframing exercises (your prematurity is likely to be psychological in cause, so your mind and cognitive reframing can help you last longer)...also OP, are you wearing a condom? Might wanna consider those condoms that help you last longer too
/r/seduction27/01/20 09:20 PM
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Has anyone every actually met their significant other from ‘day game’? Our parents, grandparents, great-grandparents, great-great grandparents etc etc...
/r/seduction27/01/20 09:19 PM
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Entered thread to suggest reading "She Comes First", left satisfied.
/r/seduction27/01/20 08:46 PM
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A few I just thought of that apply to me: "How can I give more value in this situation?" "How can I be more present and in the now?" "How can I bring more of my masculine energy to this moment?" "What would someone in complete abundance do?" (If something goes well) "How can I keep this up?" etc
/r/seduction19/01/20 07:26 PM
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Surely that's amazing social proof? Some of my easiest lays have resulted from going out with a group of good-looking friends
/r/seduction19/01/20 06:41 PM
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I have heard good things about his book, not sure about this wall of text post though🤣
/r/seduction03/01/20 03:28 AM
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What I mean is when they lower your state, and their shyness/negativity infects you as well. In that context, it doesn't help at all to be around incels
/r/seduction01/01/20 02:07 PM
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Real talk, great post OP
/r/seduction01/01/20 02:05 PM
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Fantastic post OP
/r/seduction01/01/20 02:03 PM
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It is odd to do certain/specific things yourself
/r/seduction01/01/20 01:57 PM
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There are plenty of bars/clubs that will let you in when you go out solo I've not really come across any decent place that will let guys in alone. Usually it's the really shitty ones(broad generalisation, I know). And besides, even if they did, that is so low social value. Basically you're signalling that you have no friends. If you can't get along with people well enough to form a social group to go out with, you won't come across as a guy who girls would want tbh. The reason I brought up count…
/r/seduction01/01/20 01:10 PM
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Interesting...so basically reverse-social proof. In theory it sounds possible but IRL this isn't the case in my experience
/r/seduction01/01/20 01:05 PM
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I really don't get why girls lie about that lol. If she doesn't like the fuck, just say so or say what I can do to make it better (e.g. go slower, harder, deeper etc)
/r/seduction23/11/19 09:20 AM
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Yeah I'm obviously gonna leave things as they are...if she replies, cool. If not, cool. I won't double-text/be needy because that cultivates scarcity mentality.
/r/seduction22/11/19 03:08 PM
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I guess I see this as something that "went wrong" because I would have liked to explore the possibility of a FWB/fuckbuddy but was unsuccessful in doing so
/r/seduction21/11/19 08:20 PM
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But it’s very possible she just didn’t want to tell you that you sucked mid way through Possible. We fucked 3 times that night though (fucked, fell asleep, then she woke me up and initiated a 2nd fuck at 4am, fell asleep again, then woke up at 11am and fucked again). Surely if she didn't enjoy herself she wouldn't have gone out of her way to wake me up to fuck in the middle of the night. But of course, I am not ruling it out as a possibility, since in these kind of situations logic sometimes jus…
/r/seduction21/11/19 08:00 PM
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I do know. She has a husband, they are going through a divorce process. Her kid was with the father on the weekend that I fucked her, so she had her place to herself. She's also in the process of moving to a new place...so lots of busy/stressful stuff on her end. Stuff at her work is pretty busy too, she's some sort of director in finance and they have a ton of stuff to do/finish off as it's near the end of the financial quarter.
/r/seduction21/11/19 07:54 PM
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...which is fine, I just was hoping that the fun could have been recurrent as a fuckbuddy/FWB situation.
/r/seduction21/11/19 07:47 PM
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When a girl cums truly you can tell. All that violent shaking and them getting real quiet. If you fucked a woman's soul away they usually need space or they just pass out on the floor. I don't doubt your skills though. I'm just saying. She needed a few breaks where we just chilled for a bit after she came because she "couldn't cum any more". There was twitching/wriggling and she got leg cramps so we had to take a time-out...but I wouldn't call it "violent shaking", so there is a possibility she …
/r/seduction21/11/19 07:41 PM
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So she lied lol. But why? Her personality was that of someone who would be upfront and call people out on their BS, she wasn't shy about asking for what she wanted either sexually (whether it was me going harder, faster, slower, or that she wanted me to bite on her nipples etc) . Confusing. If she didn't like it, I would have thought that she'd tell me that it didn't feel good, that we should stop etc.
/r/seduction21/11/19 07:32 PM
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As much as the Pope has to prove he's not Catholic
/r/seduction12/11/19 09:01 PM
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Usually a joke, but sometimes if I sense it could be a point of connection (e.g. asking about my career, ambitions, or the classic "what are you looking for on Tinder?" etc) I will be honest but also confident in explaining my views/beliefs, e.g. when the cougar shit tested me about age, I passed it by saying that I believe maturity and intelligence is more important
/r/seduction11/11/19 10:57 PM
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Yeah I do think there are factors not in my control as to why they don't want sex, however I definitely feel converting kiss closes to fuck closes is an area I need to improve on personally. It won't mean I'll fuck close EVERY girl I want, but it will maximise my chances.
/r/seduction11/11/19 06:13 PM
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ATM I really don't force the issue, usually I just escalate in a way that gets the girl horny so she suggests the fuck, not me. It's been hit and miss tbh...even when I euphemise it by suggesting we get cocktails at my place (I made a little cocktail area in my house with lots of different drinks, posters of cocktail recipes, a freezer just for ice etc), or if it's late and the bars are shut and she needs the bathroom I suggest my place which is walking distance from the bars etc. The vast major…
/r/seduction11/11/19 05:55 PM
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Haha I don't think I am quite at level 20 yet! I am currently cultivating an abundance mindset and building more peak/reference experiences so the low-difficulty lay is still good for me. I do get what you mean by increasing difficulty though, I suppose it's analogous to lifting weights. I can comfortably lift X amount, so now it's time to add on 5lbs and lift more to slowly progress. If this was Level 5, maybe I should increase to Level 6 or 7
/r/seduction11/11/19 04:41 AM
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So if you just need sex to get out of a rut, sure This definitely played a part, but I still consider myself a bit of a newbie (or at least below the 'intermediate' stage) so for me, anything goes, especially as I am cultivating and reinforcing my abundance mindset. I do have good peak/reference experiences but these kind of women are very complimentary too, and it helps build reference experiences /my reticular activation system. Being told I'm hot, being told I have a big dick, being told I'm …
/r/seduction11/11/19 04:35 AM
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Good take OP, I think some people here are missing the point. My interpretation of this post is that game helps (a lot) but isn't the answer to everything, or some sort of golden bullet that magically gets you any girl you want. Does it mean you should go blackpill/incel and give up? No, I don't think that's what OP is saying. Definitely self-improve, and practise game, but don't have unrealistic expectations of a 0% rejection rate
/r/seduction24/10/19 09:43 PM
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There's no such thing as a girl that's "out of your league" This. So much this. The 'league' concept is so fucking bluepill
/r/seduction22/10/19 08:53 PM
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Excellent, couldn't have worded this better myself
/r/seduction27/09/19 12:53 PM
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I don't subscribe to the "anti-ghosting" approach tbh..if a girl ghosts me, I assume she is either: 1) Not interested....in which case I remove her from the rotation and either focus on another girl I'm texting/dating or add a new girl to the roster or 2) She is genuinely very busy, stressed at work (e.g. people in the finance/banking sector get ridiculously-busy at the change of the financial quarter, teachers get ridiculously-busy at the start of the school year etc), ill, going through some t…
/r/seduction27/09/19 12:23 PM
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How was the sex? Maybe if you were incompetent in the bedroom, that may have led to her putting you in the friendzone
/r/seduction27/09/19 12:11 PM
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Another Londoner checking in. I have friends/housemates to go out with in different social circles, but I have no pickup/seduction-specific people I know. Just don't be fedora-wearing incel weirdos please 🤣
/r/seduction22/09/19 01:48 AM
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Those who want more detail/depth on this topic should check out 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle, and/or RSD YT videos on freedom from outcome, being present in the moment etc
/r/seduction22/09/19 01:42 AM
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WTF is up with all these incel posts in this sub? I thought this sub was for intermediate/advanced guys
/r/seduction21/09/19 06:02 PM
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Of course having the basics handled is important, but it's quite unusual that THAT is the issue for rejections OP's thread title and content suggests a lack of experience, maturity and handling of the basics. What you said would apply for the intermediate/advanced stages, but OP comes across as a newb...someone in the intermediate/advanced stages would not get upset by a singular rejection and experience the "feeling of being a failure", in OP's own words. For newbs, they need to do the personal…
/r/seduction21/09/19 11:22 AM
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What say you, user of reddit? You find the prose annoying? A wild Pook appears! "Lo and behold, I am Pook, ruler of all! My prose style is untouchable, and be it difficult to read, it contains pearls of wisdom as vast and numerous as the pearls in the oceans of our glorious Earth! Now go forth, live long and prosper!"
/r/seduction21/09/19 11:12 AM
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the 1st girl thought you were hot, and the 2nd girl didn't lol ...which is also a learning point and/or a reminder to maximise your attractiveness, go to the gym, dress well, keep up the essentials/basics (white teeth, grooming in check, nice cologne etc), cement your inner game, cement your outer game, become free from outcome (i.e. don't get depressed that you got rejected). It's still learning. You might STILL get rejected...but you still learn/practice how to handle a situation, stay present…
/r/seduction21/09/19 11:00 AM
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Mid-late 20s here...I also have friends settling down while I am single. This is absolutely not a limiting factor to your social life. If your friends have a wife/girlfriend/kids, it is important to include them in your social activities. Use your personal skills (cooking, art, music, woodworking/furniture making etc) to include them in your social life and bring value to the dynamic. A couple of my friends are pussywhipped/controlled by their ladies and the key to keeping a social life with the…
/r/seduction21/09/19 10:00 AM
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I'd supersede the "be yourself" advice with "be your best self". "Be yourself" doesn't help someone who isn't personally developed or lacks social skills because their current self isn't socially adjusted enough. "Be your best self" takes innate positive characteristics AND self-improvement/development into account. Be content with who you are but also seek to continuously improve.
/r/seduction21/09/19 09:34 AM
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Approach more, get rejected more and more until you are desensitised to it and learn from the rejections so you improve bit by bit after each rejection. It's analogous to going to the gym...the pain/discomfort is part of a process that makes you grow and become stronger, and eventually that weight that was heavy and wrecked you becomes extremely light and easy to lift.
/r/seduction21/09/19 09:29 AM
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If it isn't coming from a place of neediness/desperation/scarcity, there's nothing wrong with what you're describing OP.
/r/seduction21/09/19 01:12 AM
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"Jeez, if you wanted to see my dick so badly you could have at least dated me first😋".... "You've seen those porn films which start by a girl catching a guy jerking off, haven't you? THAT'S your plan, I see right through it😋" or something similar. There is a lot of potential for lighthearted innuendo in there that could lead to her getting a dicking. Like others said, own it, joke about it, don't be ashamed/ embarrassed.
/r/seduction20/09/19 11:58 PM
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It's fucking awesome. Especially if you're going on holiday. Set your location to the location of your holiday a few days beforehand. Swipe away, match, set up dates for when you're there. Enjoy a free tour guide/local to go out to the nice bars/restaurants/local places of interest with. Alternatively, if you're in a place that is popular with clubbers/festival goers, match a girl who is going to the same club night/festival as you are , go to your event, enjoy the music, meet up with her on the…
/r/seduction18/09/19 01:07 AM
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The phrase "out of my limits" (I assume you mean "out of my league") is proof that you are over-valuing her and putting her on a pedestal, as is the content of your original post. (Also Pandora bracelets are basic as fuck lmaoo don't get her that shit😂😂)
/r/seduction17/09/19 07:15 PM
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Lmao. In traditional conservative countries, if you really want it to work... your approach has to be a lot less full-on and also if a parent is present, they'll want to know your background, job, social class, what your parents do, religion (or subsect of religion...are you Shia/Sunni/Ahmadiyya/other in the case of Islamic countries, Catholic/Protestant/Presbyterian/Orthodox/other if Christian, Reform/Orthodox/Hasidic/other if Jewish, Theravada/Mahayana/other if Buddhist etc). Be respectful, su…
/r/seduction17/09/19 07:13 PM
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Book of Pook is fantastic but I don't think any one source is "the only one you need". Nothing wrong with looking at different learning materials...they might end up saying similar things but it's about finding what resonates the most with you
/r/seduction17/09/19 07:05 PM
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That's a pretty high pedestal you've put her on OP, get her off it please
/r/seduction17/09/19 06:59 PM
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Yeah and why are you keeping in contact? What's the point?
/r/seduction16/09/19 09:51 PM
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Keep both on the side to fuck if you travel to their country, or if they travel to yours. Find another girl for something more substantial than an FWB.
/r/seduction16/09/19 09:49 PM
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The only reasons a girl who friendzoned you is worth keeping in contact with is for her to wingwoman you (she must have hot single friends), and for social proof when you are at a bar/club. Beyond that....no. Just no.
/r/seduction16/09/19 04:44 PM
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Can only speak from my perspective...I will fuck a girl and move on if her personality isn't that developed. She doesn't need to be an Ivy League grad but someone who has intelligence, is fun, interesting etc (i.e. her hobbies aren't just instagram, shopping and netflix). What are your hobbies/interests OP? Where's the most wild/fun place you've travelled? The last book you read? Do you do any sports? Do you play a musical instrument? How do you treat people who are less fortunate than you are (…
/r/seduction16/09/19 08:02 AM
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If someone is that level of ugly, there is a lot they can do to improve their attractiveness...gym, dress well, adequate grooming, skincare etc. Even with bad facial features (the gym can help with that too, being lean accentuates your jawline and cheekbones) and below average height (things that you cannot practically change aside from very invasive surgery), you've upped your attractiveness big time. Upped your attractiveness enough so that OP's advice is applicable
/r/seduction16/09/19 05:46 AM
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Found a pic of something OP would do😂
/r/seduction15/09/19 09:49 PM
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(M27) You are old enough to know better OP🙄. Are you sure that's not a typo and you meant 17 instead of 27? I thought this sub was for intermediate/advanced game, seeing some thread topics makes me think I misunderstood...
/r/seduction15/09/19 09:43 PM
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Define the number that constitutes "many women" for you
/r/seduction11/09/19 10:44 PM
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These are some great points, thanks for this! With regards to the points under heading 1, perhaps I do need to practice my escalation more and I do come on quite strong. Having said that, in this era of metoo, I am very, very mindful about making sure the girl is ok with what I'm doing (reading her body language, social calibration, seeing if she's reciprocating the kino by rubbing my thighs, arms, back, or she puts her hands down my pants...I make sure her pussy is wet, her face is flushed, she…
/r/seduction11/09/19 09:55 PM
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Nice video, I've seen this concept being referred to in different ways by different people (e.g. I've seen it being called "composure", "presence", "centredness", "integrity", "authenticity", "maintaining frame" etc) but it's always good to get a rule-refresher on it
/r/seduction11/09/19 09:47 PM
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Overexcitement stems from desperation and is a symptom of scarcity mentality (as opposed to abundance mentality). Cultivate abundance in your life (career, socially, dating) and you will not show overexcitement/desperation
/r/seduction11/09/19 09:14 PM
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This is not universally true...I've slept with girls on the 1st date from dating apps, wanted to see them again and got the "you're a player"/ "I bet you've slept with loads of girls", "you're too skilled/experienced in bed, you've done this a lot" treatment which made them either NOT want to see me again, or just spoon/cuddle/talk in bed without sex on a 2nd date, want to "take it slow" (even though we FUCKED on the 1st date hahaha). I do agree with making a move on the 1st date, but you've got…
/r/seduction10/09/19 10:21 PM
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How old are you OP, and how old were the girls you approached (as an estimate)? Also JFC, learn social calibration.
/r/seduction10/09/19 10:08 PM
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5 words. Go. Fuck. Ten. Other. Girls. Do more fun/cool stuff in your life so you are too busy enjoying yourself to think of her. If she likes you enough, she'll message you back. If not, move on. You can be upset. You can cry. You can feel shit that you actually liked her and she did that to you. But do that by yourself, or talk to friends you absolutely trust with your life. Don't ever show her you're upset. Don't send angry messages, or continuously text her etc. A couple of weeks back, I crie…
/r/seduction09/09/19 07:41 PM
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This is an extremely valid point. If an unattractive girl hit on a guy, normally guys wouldn't be rude and like "OMG you fat ugly creep! Get away from me! Eww, fuck off!" etc. That reaction is rude and abnormal from guys, yet it has been normalised in society for girls to behave like that towards guys they are not interested in
/r/seduction09/09/19 02:49 PM
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Usually prefer one-night-stands, which makes it even harder for friends and family to accept. Sometimes I'll try to set up a day2/day3 if I like the girl (e.g. most recent lay was one on Friday who is a cancer survivor, i.e. someone who has personal development, maturity, life-experience, has been through hardship etc, so that makes me respect her more as a person). Tips on balancing different girls is kinda beyond the scope of this particular thread but I'm sure this sub has tons of info on tha…
/r/seduction09/09/19 02:40 PM
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I can imagine it being harder living with parents. Even though I don't live with my parents, I've sometimes overlooked certain things and they've inadvertently found stuff out (e.g. I'll go to my hometown for the weekend to visit friends and family... my parents notice I go out in the evening but then come back the next morning and put 2 and 2 together, or I come back after an evening out with friends with lipstick all over my mouth). I'm more careful now but I've also put some clothes in my par…
/r/seduction09/09/19 02:16 PM
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I do like your videos James, I'm based in London so a lot of your London-specific advice is helpful. Keep up the good work!
/r/seduction09/09/19 02:04 PM
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Came in to post something similar to this. But yes OP, this^
/r/seduction09/09/19 11:54 AM
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Well written OP, nice work
/r/seduction09/09/19 12:35 AM
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I absolutely believe that Tinder is one of the best ways of getting out of a scarcity mindset and into an abundance mindset. Anyone living in a big city has no excuse not to use it. I'm fairly average looking and do well enough that I have to periodically deactivate it due to getting too many girls in my rotation, so IME looks haven't really disadvantaged me
/r/seduction08/09/19 07:58 PM
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Some great responses here, glad I made this topic!
/r/seduction29/08/19 10:11 AM
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That's a good way of reframing it
/r/seduction29/08/19 08:09 AM
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The problem is these fools are often girls we are dating
/r/seduction28/08/19 04:25 PM
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That's a pretty awesome way to reframe it. I found it insulting to be called a player but perhaps it's a compliment
/r/seduction28/08/19 04:17 PM
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It's upsetting to be mischaracterised as something you're not. If we wanna go full-psychoanalytical...you know when you're a kid and you get in trouble /blamed for something you didn't do (e.g. maybe a friend/classmate/sibling did something but you got blamed for it)? I had that happen to me as a kid at times, and fucking hated it. Being made out to be something I'm not might trigger me partly because of that. Also it's partly because of shit like #metoo and guys being blanket-characterised as b…
/r/seduction28/08/19 04:01 PM
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why are you triggered by this basic shit Definitely has to do with the fact that I've improved myself a lot over the past couple of years and been through some tough times...people around me have noticed it, I'm getting a lot of appreciation for who I am and who I've become, and I've learnt a lot about myself as a person. I've improved a lot at dating/sex as well and have had girls be impressed by me and compliment me. After all that, to be summed up as "just another player" by the last few girl…
/r/seduction28/08/19 03:37 PM
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So what do you want? Someone to give you examples or you looking for people that agree with you? Examples haha. I tend to appreciate the brutal honesty/tough love tone of advice so don't hold back
/r/seduction28/08/19 01:48 PM
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Oh boy, you haven't experienced creepy until you get the "I miss you, I can't stop thinking about you" video messages. Once I got one of those from a toxic girl I cut contact with, that's when I truly knew what creepiness was.
/r/seduction28/08/19 01:36 PM
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