Long story short, I am very affectionate/adoring during sex. On day 2, 3, 4 onward dates, I'll be holding hands, lots of kissing, stroking her hair, PDAs etc etc

During sex I can go rough and pound hard do some light choking/hair pulling if they like it, but I tend to again be very slow, affectionate, lots of eye contact, kisses, hair stroking, telling them they're lovely/beautiful, massages, spending extended amounts of time going down on them etc. Sometimes going quite deep/emotional too, a recent example includes a girl who I sensed LMR from and when I gave her the space to open up about it and got in touch with her feelings, she mentioned work stress, a dying family member and other things she was going through that allowed her to open up and trust me/be comfortable enough with me to fuck. Was a pretty intimate experience but this was a fuck on the first date lol

My general way of being/style is adoring+caring. It's not from a place of neediness, I don't NEED anything or expect anything in return. It's value-giving, I am giving out energy/affection independent of the outcome/return. I just like the way it feels.

Yet somehow I find that after sleeping with girls a couple of times, they lose interest and I have to take them out of my rotation and add someone else in.

Common sense tells me my affectionate/caring way-of-being might come across as needy and offputting, even though that isn't my intent.

Do I

1) Become more 'alpha' (lol) and less caring

2) Be true to myself, carry on being loving/affectionate and somehow change the way I communicate so that it's clear that I am not needy

3) Something else (suggestions below)

Thoughts on this guys? Thanks.