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Setsa/r/seduction21/09/12 06:42 AM
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So being proactive about one's sexuality is frowned upon here? What happened? It is a good thing that younger people are reading up on things that may help them find themselves in the future.
/r/seduction29/07/15 09:00 PM
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Idk where the OP is from and I know seeing a doctor can be expensive, but sometimes seeing a good general physician or psychiatrist can work wonders, so do not discount that.
/r/seduction19/07/15 09:49 PM
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Everyone copes with mental illnesses differently and there are always ways to improve your quality of life, though what those methods are differ from person to person. I posted this before about mental illnesses and have been down that road / study psychiatry and publish books oriented for med students and psychiatrists, so maybe it will help: Set aside 15 minutes each day to go to a quiet room by yourself, sit comfortably, close your eyes, relax your muscles, slow your breathing, and think abou…
/r/seduction19/07/15 09:48 PM
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Keep the seduction alive. So many chumps get placated and figure because their facebook status changes to "in a relationship" they don't have to take care of themselves or be romantic anymore. If you are going steady with this girl, make it a habit to keep going on dates.
/r/seduction17/07/15 11:23 PM
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Not only is this a bad idea but it is diametrically opposed to what you should be doing. Work on yourself instead of dropping money to create a silly illusion that will not help you as much as self betterment.
/r/seduction17/07/15 11:20 PM
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Firstly, is it the scar that is holding you back or have you noticed a change in your attitude since the incident? I ask because you may not be consciously aware of it but sometimes violent incidents can lead to trauma that could impede you. As for the scar, I would suggest just owning it. If someone asks about it crack a joke. No matter what you look like or how you dress, there will be some people that will be dicks about it. Don't let it get you down buddy!
/r/seduction17/07/15 11:19 PM
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Do the same thing you would do at a local bar or club. Unless there is a large change in culture / subculture, little will change. With that being said, it does make for good conversation to talk about where you are from.
/r/seduction17/07/15 11:15 PM
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Set aside 15 minutes each day to go to a quiet room by yourself, sit comfortably, close your eyes, relax your muscles, slow your breathing, and think about the things that seem pressing in your life. It does wonders for relieving stress and for realizing how far you have really come. There is also r/Meditation and a number of books that can help you out. Of course, what book works best for you varies depending on your temperament. For me, psychiatric texts (like The American Psychiatric Publishi…
/r/seduction30/06/15 01:04 AM
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I have been experiencing something similar lately and I just want to say good on your for persevering! It takes a lot of effort and strength to overcome anxiety and depression but it is definitely possible :)
/r/seduction29/06/15 07:43 PM
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I have a strong background in psychiatry so if you want to ask me any questions about personal issues I can try to handle things as best as possible. Therapy is under-rated and a lot of people think it is silly, but it is amazing what can be accomplished through directed discourse.
/r/seduction29/06/15 07:29 PM
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It sounds like your issue is you are tossing logic out of the window. You have evidence for what you want (that you are a catch) but you are ignoring that evidence. Firstly, you do have good accomplishments and you do have to put those things into perspective. I struggled with a similar thing due to depression but if you meditate on things and look at yourself in comparison to your peers, talking with confidence about your accomplishments should be easier. Be cautious and read up on the symptoms…
/r/seduction29/06/15 07:27 PM
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Start off with relatively chaste statements. Things like "I like it when you do that" or "you are sooo bad" can do a lot to augment a passionate moment. Obviously, make sure things are genuine. You can flip through erotic writing and find snippets and lines that turn you on or that might do the trick for your partner then experiment with them to your liking too!
/r/seduction29/06/15 07:18 PM
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Eye contact and physical escalation are incredibly important (as others have said). Do not be afraid to be sexual though. If you are watching a movie, lightly teasing about what actor she thinks is sexy and why is good. A lot of people fall short because they are afraid to make things sexual, then they are confused when things remain platonic.
/r/seduction29/06/15 07:17 PM
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You are right about East Asians being broadly divided into two categories: either Americanized (or European-influenced, wherever you are) and non-Americanized. The former category are the same as every other lady you will meet aside from subtle nuances with family relations that are specific to their respective culture. The latter category generally holds stronger ties to their culture, will be very conservative, and want a relationship rather than flings. I dated both and the contrast is stark.…
/r/seduction29/06/15 07:31 AM
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That last line is really important OP, do not over look it. Yes, some people marry the person they meet at 17 but remember that you are young and not fully developed yet. You still have a lot to learn from life and circumstances and attitudes can change. Pessimism aside, good luck and sweep her off of her feet!
/r/seduction29/06/15 07:07 AM
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Ok, I am going to come right out and say it: you are pretty geeky. That is cool though because a lot of ladies go for that. I am a geek too, some of my most successful friends are geeks. Own it. Find women that have that same level of appreciation for the things you appreciate and give them your time instead of ladies that need loud music and alcohol to get amped.
/r/seduction29/06/15 07:04 AM
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Upvoting for more opinions, but I have heard it is largely a hook-up hub, so that may affect how you view / use it. Yes, you can get legitimate dates on Tinder but most people I know that use it use it for casual sex.
/r/seduction29/06/15 07:03 AM
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What are your hobbies and what do you like to do? Think about that and try to find locations and events that would allow you to get exposure to women that have similar interests. Do you like loud parties? Are you a keg-standing, weight lifting, scared-of nothing sort of fellow? Or do you prefer reading the work of Franz Kafka and engaging in intellectual discourse?
/r/seduction29/06/15 07:02 AM
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Any tips or good resources about creating a strong Tinder profile? My online game is severely lacking right now.
/r/seduction29/06/15 06:59 AM
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Ok, first clarify what you mean by Asians. Like, anyone from the really huge continent or do you mean East Asians in particular? I have quite a bit of experience with women from different cultures so I would be down to help but you need to clarify that before I type my ass off.
/r/seduction29/06/15 06:58 AM
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Change your attitude man. It sounds like you are trying to convince yourself against giving anything a chance. So what if you do not have a lot of pictures with friends on facebook? People use the pictures on Tinder and other dating profile sites to figure out if the other person is physically attractive. If they feel every picture needs to meet a quota of friends as a form of social proof they are being overly analytical.
/r/seduction27/06/15 04:37 AM
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Think of it this way: if you quote a really witty line from a well known comedian, will it always get a laugh? Even if you are witty or have a good sense of humour, if you stutter and whisper everything you say your a creating an antagonistic environment. Instead, create an environment that is relaxed and playful and poke some funny at the silliness of everyday life.
/r/seduction31/03/15 11:11 PM
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You were drunk. A lot of people cannot kiss properly when they are drunk. So, even if someone got a weird or bad kiss, they would just think it was because you were drunk. Next time, go for it.
/r/seduction30/01/15 11:32 PM
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This was what I was thinking. While the OP does have good points it can be too formulaic for people and some women will pick up on that and won't see you as different from "every other guy". So, I would advise making sure you stand out and adjust your approach based upon the person. A one-size-fits-all approach is not effective.
/r/seduction25/01/15 07:27 PM
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To add to this: make sure the logistics of the situation are good. A lot of ladies are ok with sucking face in the club but are not cool with having sex in your buddy's car. Make sure you have the opportunity to bring her back to yours or go to hers.
/r/seduction25/01/15 07:24 PM
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While that is good advice, don't over do it! The last thing you want to do is try to hard to sell yourself and come across as desperate. There is a fine line between coming across as confident and over qualifying yourself without precedence to do so.
/r/seduction04/01/15 02:06 AM
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Not quite the same, but some concepts carry over. The break is usually really short but it is also a great way to approach new people in new classes. If you have seen or chatted briefly with a lady in a class last semester that makes for a good opener in a new class or scenario. Eg. "Hey, I recognize you from intro to blah! I am guessing you are a blah major in blah because you are also taking..."
/r/seduction04/01/15 02:03 AM
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Work on developing interests and hobbies that get you out into the world. Find a nice coffee shop you like reading a good book at and talk to people there. Integrate things you already enjoy into your sexual pursuits and realize that exploration is not restricted to bars. For your question: yes, people go to bars but it is not something you do if you lack confidence and do not know the place.
/r/seduction03/01/15 07:38 AM
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Plenty of people go out without dates and it is usually a good sign that they are looking for something. If a group of ladies go to a dance together chances are at least one of them will want someone to notice the attention she put into her hair or choice of clothes.
/r/seduction03/01/15 07:35 AM
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It depends heavily on what their view of you was and how they will be viewing the first meeting. If they had a crush on you in high school or thought you were cute then the situation is analogous to chatting up any other lady and you just need to escalate. If they were an old friend or acquaintance that won't know "what's up" then let it be known that you have grown since the last time you saw each other. There is a little saying that women are like Russia and if you do not invade them in under …
/r/seduction03/01/15 07:33 AM
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Realize that bad shit happens to everyone. This has messed up your confidence but it is no reason to keep things crappy. Work on getting yourself back into your former mental state: exercise, develop your hobbies, start a career, and talk to people even if you have no sexual interest in them. Get back on the horse.
/r/seduction03/01/15 07:22 AM
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Some girls are unresponsive because they are not interested but if she is consistently agreeing to go on dates that is clearly not the case. With that said, some girls are really apathetic when it comes to organizing things. To me, that is a huge turn off but it is your opinion on if you want to deal with that or not. Take more initiative and show that you can take charge of a situation and plan things out not just with dates.
/r/seduction03/01/15 07:18 AM
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There is not real set game plan that works without fail in every scenario. Instead, work on your confidence and your ability to talk to people. If you are interesting and take care of yourself (hygiene, fitness, fashion) then that gives you significantly more sex appeal than those that just decide to "wing" that stuff. Read up on the three things that I mentioned and develop your interests and ability to converse.
/r/seduction03/01/15 07:15 AM
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Comment on anything relevant to the situation or make an observation about your environment. This is what a lot of superficial conversation is centered on anyways. Ex. If you hold the door open for someone and they say "thank you" state how it is good to see courtesy is alive and well.
/r/seduction07/10/14 01:59 AM
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I got out and did the things I wanted to do. Three years ago I would spend a lot of time watching movies or playing video-games because no one ever wanted to do anything fun. The problem was I was not taking initiative to improve myself in the areas that I was dissatisfied with. Develop yourself to be the best you can.
/r/seduction07/10/14 01:56 AM
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To add to this: deciding what to do yourself will open up new experiences and unique opportunities for her and you. What is the point of her going out on a date with a guy if she will be doing the same thing she always does when not on a "date"?
/r/seduction18/09/14 01:52 AM
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Your post makes it sound simple but as an Italian it is very difficult to keep my hands still :(
/r/seduction18/09/14 01:49 AM
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Develop your hobbies and don't let the bad bring you down. Even if someone blows you off for a date keep your momentum up and don't misdirect someone's wrong doing against you towards someone else. As for how to get motivated: stay persistent. Even if things don't go your way when you give it a shot it is still better than those that sat on their hands.
/r/seduction22/08/14 08:16 AM
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To add to this: adopt a "fuck it, I will see what happens attitude" about these sorts of things. Talking to a lady isn't going to decide if you land your dream job or if you are going to contract cardiovascular disease. It is just a conversation so don't let it psych you out.
/r/seduction21/08/14 10:34 PM
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Do not throw compliments out without there being a probable cause for doing so. It will come across as inauthentic. As other have said, meet as many people that you can and try to find people that have lifestyles on the same wavelength as yourself.
/r/seduction21/08/14 10:05 PM
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It sounds like you are getting too fixated on receiving some sort of reward for sharing a story, whether it be laughter or some other emotional response. Think about the things you tell people and ponder why you feel the need to tell people what you do. Chances are, if you feel like sharing information about what you did or saw something occurred that is important to you. Sometimes that isn't always something that is important for everyone but captivating people is never easy.
/r/seduction02/08/14 01:47 AM
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Where do things fall flat? Do you talk to them a lot but never go on dates? Do you go on dates but cannot bring them back to your place? Part of the reason ladies might stop texting is if you overwhelm them with texts or information via text.
/r/seduction25/07/14 08:03 PM
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What have you been going so far? Have you two spent any time together outside the workplace? What was the context of those sorts of events? Depending on how comfortable she is around you, I would suggest inviting her out to drinks on weekend if that seems like her thing. Otherwise, coffee / some other fun, low commitment date idea to get to know each other better.
/r/seduction25/07/14 07:38 PM
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Be logical about it. If you work a 9 hour shift until 10 on a Saturday and need time to shower it is pretty dumb to try and organize a date after that when you are going to be tired and not in the mood to go out and have fun. The idea is to not sit around and think "if I wait this out long enough, a perfect opportunity will arise" because you will wait and wait forever and never take any action. You have to make those perfect opportunities.
/r/seduction25/07/14 07:29 PM
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Open up by asking what they have been doing for the past two years and turn the conversation more personal from there while keeping it light hearted. Ensure that you establish you are a different person now than you were back in high school. The only way they are going to have a negative view of you is if you regress back into old habits. That being said, be authentic about what you love about your life now. A lot of people do the same old same old for the first two years of college/university s…
/r/seduction25/07/14 07:26 PM
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The best advice I can give is to escalate physically until it comes "naturally". If you try to jump from saying hi into sucking face that is bad for business. If she is ok with shaking your hand, see if she is ok with a playful arm touch. If she is cool with that, try touching the small of her back, etc.
/r/seduction24/07/14 07:27 PM
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To add to this: even if you mess up you won't be having any less sex with her. It is better to try and find out that things won't work than let things fall flat due to an apathetic outlook.
/r/seduction07/07/14 08:01 AM
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As others have mentioned it sounds like you over-committed yourself to one lady instead of focusing on having fun and making yourself happy. That being said, you need to take what happened for what it was: a make-out session. Unless you have a document drawn up by a legal representative stating she owes you exactly one session of sexual intercourse, you can't expect anything more. People do impulsive things because they are fun and sometimes things don't escalate for a number of reasons on her s…
/r/seduction26/06/14 08:22 AM
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From what I have read on the subreddit the best thing I can suggest is to approach things logically. Why do you want to meet women? Is it JUST to get laid? While that may be fun, wouldn't things be more enjoyable if you could talk to and share enjoyable stuff with the lady as well? It is counter intuitive to waste time trying to sleep with ladies that you don't actually synergize with. Instead, think about who you are and what you want out of any interaction with the opposite (or same) sex and s…
/r/seduction25/06/14 08:04 AM
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A lot of people deal with this but you have to realize that being someone's number one is a very dynamic thing. People grow and people change. This is especially true if you are young and still learning what life is all about. Even if you were to meet a girl and start dating for a while, obsessing over being a superlative isn't practical because you never really know who is "perfect" for you until you are old and grey and looking back on your life.
/r/seduction28/05/14 07:16 AM
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Not the OP, but I would suggest making physical exercise a periodic and enjoyable part of your life. Find something you like and integrate it into your life. Also, find some friends with similar interests that will want to go out and do random stuff like go to coffee shops, dance clubs, mini-putt, etc. because you need to physically get out of your living space to meet new people.
/r/seduction28/05/14 07:12 AM
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Congrats man, I really like the last line of your post. It is incredibly true but it is easy to get into a lifestyle where one doesn't go out or try to achieve the things they want out of life.
/r/seduction28/05/14 07:09 AM
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The first step is to not care about how others might critique your moves and to have fun.
/r/seduction28/05/14 07:05 AM
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Laughter is not bad, it is the extreme you need to be cautious of. Think of it as if someone saw you come across a funny post on reddit: if you chuckled to yourself, it would be seen as an appropriate response; however, if you started roaring with laughter over a small joke to the point where you have tears in your eyes and are hunched over and holding your midsection because you were laughing so hard, the response is grossly incongruent with the stimulus that elicited it.
/r/seduction26/05/14 07:03 AM
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Whenever you flirt other guys will be waiting to see if you fail. Remember that being the guy that gives it a shot is better than the guys that huddle in the back and do nothing but laugh at other people's inability to attract when they themselves do not have the balls to even try.
/r/seduction23/05/14 09:03 AM
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Everything that you built up in your life. The reason why someone is an attractive person is because they have spent time working on various skills that others deem to be of merit. It varies from one lady to the next, so there is no single answer.
/r/seduction23/05/14 09:02 AM
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The connotations of your occupation are what can throw your game off. Telling people you are a lawyer or a med student or predisposed to a well-off occupation will change people's view of you from person to source of disposable income. Think of it like a strip club: if you are constantly giving 50s to the dancers they are going to show you attention even if your attitude is uninteresting.
/r/seduction19/05/14 09:45 PM
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This can be extended to all aspects of life. If you act like the bottom of the food chain at work, you will be treated as such.
/r/seduction09/05/14 08:02 PM
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Why are the alpha jocks considered to be the deciders of what is fun or not? On a college / university campus there are a lot of different ideas of what fun things are. What is important is finding what you enjoy and owning it regardless of whether it is the archetypal definition of "fun" or not.
/r/seduction30/04/14 03:14 AM
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It sure does not sound like you are a loser. It sounds like you got what you set out for which equates to success. Do not beat yourself up when there is no reason to do so.
/r/seduction23/04/14 07:52 PM
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This is the go-to response. Acknowledge what she said and take the sentiment a step further = agree and amplify.
/r/seduction23/04/14 07:49 PM
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Good post man and it really hit home with where I am right now. The only thing I would highlight is that successes do not need to be something that is typically deemed to be of merit. Being a stand-up comedian has great merit socially but other hobbies and interests can have the same elating effect. Even if it is something rather typical, like a sport, as long as you are passionate about it it has the same effect.
/r/seduction23/04/14 07:48 PM
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You have to consider the logistics too. If you are incredibly tired because you just worked back to back shifts and are behind on rent, going out for wings and beer may hurt your ability to do other things later. Operating in absolutes does not work, but saying no to an invitation without an actual excuse holds a lot of people back.
/r/seduction16/04/14 08:51 PM
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One of the best things to learn early on about seduction is that it is not relegated to one context. There are no rules saying you can only be flirtatious at bars or clubs. Be open to interaction on a daily basis whether it is going to a party or volunteering at a soup kitchen.
/r/seduction16/04/14 08:48 PM
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I just wanted to say thanks and to keep at it. I am at a pretty tense point in my life right now but what you said really lifted me up. People do pick up on frailty and admitting defeat to one's circumstances is the only real way to lose.
/r/seduction21/03/14 05:03 AM
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Good on you man! It's amazing what someone can accomplish when you decide to be yourself instead of being fixated on what you think others want.
/r/seduction21/03/14 05:00 AM
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I do not believe there is one proper methodology for finding the right person for you. When you are younger you should focus on developing who you are as a person and finding what makes you truly happy. By developing one's own identity you will be better able to pick-up on attributes in others that you admire.
/r/seduction18/03/14 07:58 PM
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This does belong here because seduction just isn't about women, it is about improving who you are as an individual. Even looking at the TED talk you linked versus other TED talks about the hard sciences, there was a lot more humour in the linked talk which made it more engaging and enjoyable overall. My mantra is that I have worked hard and I intend on continuing my efforts to create a better person because the world deserves that. By improving myself I can become more able to serve the society …
/r/seduction18/03/14 06:29 PM
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Good advice, to add to it: seduce the shit out of the guys too (platonically). If you are genuine and treat them with respect the other guys will be losing value if they respond negatively. There is nothing wrong with asking a genuine question to one of her male friends (eg. What sports are you into? What's your favourite local venue? etc.) if they try to talk to you. Just remember to stay positive and not to lose site of your target!
/r/seduction18/03/14 06:23 PM
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One of the things that motivated me to approach is I would feel worse if I missed an opportunity. Even if you get shot down, you know where a lady stands. If you do nothing you have no idea and make no progress.
/r/seduction04/03/14 06:47 AM
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I like your routine but you have to own that line for it to work. If someone is struggling with anxiety the last thing they want to do is announce it then hesitate to make a move.
/r/seduction02/03/14 06:37 AM
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Do not place your sense of personal value on someone else's attention. It sounds like you are valuing your plans too much prematurely.
/r/seduction02/03/14 06:33 AM
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Be yourself and go out with the intent of having fun. Don't compromise who you are to try and get attention. If you go home with a lesson learned and a smile, the night is a success in my books. Good luck man!
/r/seduction01/03/14 06:29 AM
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You only know her as well as you have known her. Do not start thinking that she is someone special because she gave you a couple of compliments because any girl can throw those around. Shit happens and we all like to think we know more than we do. Look at this as experience gained and move on. It is very likely there are a lot of young ladies that are more attractive than this one in your area, you just are not giving them a chance.
/r/seduction01/03/14 06:25 AM
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Test the waters and think about what the next logical step would be in advancing your social relationship. If you can say hi, can you make her laugh? If you can make her laugh, is she OK with you giving her a spontaneous hug when you see her? There are a lot of escalation ladders out there you can read up on, but the best advice is to be comfortable reading people and understanding when ladies are comfortable around you enough to make a significant move.
/r/seduction01/03/14 06:20 AM
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Do what you feel is right. Over thinking things is my worst enemy.
/r/seduction01/03/14 06:16 AM
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Do not let age be an issue and to show that you are not caught up in the juvenile things a lot of younger guys do. As with all ladies, show that you have drive and passion in life.
/r/seduction01/03/14 06:13 AM
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I would suggest working on you before working on your flirtation ability. If you culture yourself to be the best person you can be then approaching won't seen nearly as tough. Think of it as you want to share how awesome you are with others, not that you have to prove something to anyone.
/r/seduction12/02/14 03:47 AM
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The best way to handle it is not to get hung up on it. Sometimes ladies are busy and sometimes they are just not interested in you beyond the flirting at a bar / club. There is no harm in shooting her a text or giving her a call a week afterwards but if you get blown-out twice, just leave it.
/r/seduction12/02/14 03:35 AM
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How do effectively ask for a lady's number with the noise of dance clubs? Normally I have no issue with this, but it becomes difficult to be suave about it with a lot of noise on the dance floor.
/r/seduction09/02/14 09:16 AM
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A very important notion here is getting him into a personal domain where he will know what is up before coming over. Cooking dinner and sharing a bottle of wine at your place or his is fun and will let him know you are upping the ante.
/r/seduction08/02/14 06:32 AM
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You're off to a good start. The mentality that sexuality must be wholly repressed is a load of crap the media throws around. Everyone has a sexual identity and by having faith in yourself and going after what you want you are doing no wrong.
/r/seduction08/02/14 06:22 AM
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You definitely can, just ensure to set boundaries like you do with all of your other friends. Be reasonable with her and with yourself and do not bend over backwards to accommodate them. They are your buddy: someone you can shoot the shit with and have a good time with but you are not her servant so have a backbone!
/r/seduction08/02/14 06:16 AM
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One thing I read on here that always stuck with me is that you know you are putting a lady on a pedestal when you start talking about her even though you do not know her. A number is just a number and flirtiness has to be taken at face value.
/r/seduction04/02/14 07:22 AM
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Brush it off and keep your chin up and attitude positive. Obviously you should get medical help if someone has a bottle thrown in their face but you aren't dating / engaged / married to any of those ladies so you do not have any obligation to halt your night because theirs does. A lot of those scandalous public events make for easy conversation.
/r/seduction03/02/14 05:53 AM
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The only thing that changes when you are drunk is your (wrong) perception that your actions do not have any repercussions. Realize that the confidence you show when inebriated is always there, you just feel like the social structure of society changes when you are sober. It doesn't. Obviously you have to be more tame if you are not in a club or bar but that does not mean approaching or using lightly suggestive humour is frowned upon. Everyone has a sexual identity 24/7, not just when they are dr…
/r/seduction03/02/14 05:48 AM
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You cannot control what is going on in someone else's life when you meet them. For all you know, she could have just gotten out of a bad relationship and you looked just like her cheating ex bf. The point is circumstances are going to cull a good portion of the ladies out there and there isn't anything that can be done about it aside from persevering.
/r/seduction30/01/14 06:12 AM
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While I am also wondering how to drop short conversation pieces on the dance floor, a viable alternative is to give her a tap on the shoulder between songs then motion as if to bring a drink to one's lips to inquire if she wants to grab a drink. A simple game of "charades" on the dance-floor can be playful and allows you to isolate and get the conversation going or escalating.
/r/seduction27/01/14 02:30 AM
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Think of a situation where a clear 9-10 says something general to build herself up and demonstrate value. It's a common shit-test with many viable responses, but a personal favourite is negging and putting the pressure back on her. For example, if a lady says "I'm not easy" after flirting with heavily with you and with other men, ask her if she has ever met a lady who will admit she is easy to a guy.
/r/seduction21/01/14 12:21 AM
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Good and well-rounded post. I especially like the distinction that negging should not be thrown at ladies that are aware that they are just like everyone else with both good and bad. Negging is only good for bringing the 9-10's back to reality.
/r/seduction20/01/14 05:52 AM
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It depends on where you are the in the world but it is reasonable that there would be some women who do likewise. I would think more men would pursue that lifestyle in certain cultures but it is difficult to compare numbers without surveying a lot of people. As it stands, we're 1:1!
/r/seduction14/01/14 11:14 PM
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I believe you both misunderstood the point. It is not that ladies get no variety but that some men commit a lot of their time to pick up and get around much more than most. The 1% mentioned are the men who make pick up an every day reality. They flirt in class, when out on lunch, and even when walking from one place to another. While some of the men your roommate slept with may have been breaking a dry spell or having an awesome night, there was probably one guy who slept with her then went righ…
/r/seduction14/01/14 10:51 PM
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Good post. I believe a lot of men get caught in a self-depreciating cycle after a break-up or a dry spell and think that they should have more control over things when, in actuality, it is impossible to have a 100% success rate. Shit happens and by beating yourself up you are only maiming yourself from being out and living up to your potential.
/r/seduction14/01/14 05:10 AM
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Your issue is you are looking at something completely normal as a negative. When people walk past each other or occupy the same environment they are going to catch each others' eye at some point or another. Instead of over thinking it, own it. Give a casual smile then look away slowly (instead of jerking your glance away). Give a friendly wave to people you know better and eventually work towards joking gestures.
/r/seduction14/01/14 05:02 AM
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This is hitting the nail on the head. If you are here asking about advice, what makes you think he is a suave, James-Bond that is not a bit apprehensive himself? He is a man who poops, laughs at dick jokes, and exudes bad odours from both mouth and ass. He is no more intimidating than anyone else of either sex.
/r/seduction11/01/14 11:57 PM
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I find having an optimistic and out-going attitude helps tremendously regardless of what you say. Look for things you can comment on and work off of that. It doesn't matter what it is or who you say it to as much as how you deliver it. As Zaxneo suggested, commenting on clothing or accessories is a great opener with ladies because most will have put a fair bit of thought into what they chose to wear for the evening. However, if you stumble up to a group with a "h-h-hey, that's kind of a nice wat…
/r/seduction11/01/14 11:53 PM
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Do you think a good response would be to joke about something in the background? for example, if she sends a flirty pic I would respond with a comment about anything in the picture BUT her?
/r/seduction11/01/14 11:48 PM
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Texting is fine but ensure that the texts are high in quality and low in quantity. No one wants to feel smothered. If you come across something you want to share (optimally something with relevance to a common experience or inside joke) then share it. If you are funny and charming she will not forget you regardless of how often you text. If anything, she would be more curious as to what you are up to.
/r/seduction11/01/14 11:43 PM
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Integrate the things you read here into who you are as an individual in small steps. You said that you have no problems opening people so your problem is probably in establishing a sexual image to the people you meet. If no one believes you are looking for ladies they will not reciprocate anything you believe to be flirting. My suggestion would be to learn to have faith in yourself and show that you are a merited individual worthy of respect and not a push-over. Do not be afraid to be proud of y…
/r/seduction11/01/14 11:40 PM
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Positivity and humour are essential to keeping any casual conversation interesting; however, you should be careful if you are looking to adopt a comedian's mannerisms. Some are rather passive and self-depreciating with their on-stage humour. Even between Jerry and Louis, Jerry is much more leading and confident.
/r/seduction08/01/14 01:41 AM
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Everyone appreciates having social support but you have to work with your circumstances. Coming from a small city in Canada, I have a hard time believing it is impossible to find one friend that is willing to go gaming with you or talk about ladies.
/r/seduction22/12/13 08:10 AM
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It is likely he puts you down to make him feel better about himself. As you described him, he sounds like an insecure boy that needs constant reassurance that he is better than everyone else when, in actuality, he isn't. Be your own man and do not tolerate his shit. Study hard and get into shape and if he has a problem with it he can go fuck himself because he has no influence over your self betterment.
/r/seduction10/12/13 08:40 PM
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Using open ended questions that allow her to talk about herself are your best bet to establishing intimacy and getting her out on a date. Do not get intimidated or defensive about anything sexual she says about other males. Brush it off with humour. For example, say that you would totally grate cheese off of his abs if you had Liam around your house.
/r/seduction10/12/13 08:23 PM
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As others have said it is a blatant shit test, so agree and amplify. Tell them you have a quality control team with strict criteria that finds ladies for you. Or say whatever your number is, then add afterwards "since yesterday".
/r/seduction10/12/13 08:15 PM
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Bring energy to the interaction and know how to give your male friend and his lady of interest space. By being confident in yourself you are contributing value to your friend. Any lady that sees a single man with a fun young lady will suspect there is something about him that makes him attractive enough to warrant your attention.
/r/seduction29/11/13 04:04 AM
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Practice building yourself up using small increments. Start with holding eye contact for a second or two, then add in a smile when you feel comfortable holding eye contact. It sounds like your problem stems from a lack of self-confidence than something else. Work on being proud of the things that define you.
/r/seduction29/11/13 04:02 AM
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Expand on the situation and ask about context. If you see a young lady looking for shoes / dresses / etc. ask what it is for and comment on her situation. This way you maintain a professional front (you are looking to further understand the client's situation to help them) but you are also opening up the conversation for talk about your social lives.
/r/seduction27/11/13 04:17 AM
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Texting should be only the highlights of a conversation. Keep things brief, positive, and playful. Leave the more grandiose displays for in person. A good heuristic is to match the length and content of her text. That is, do not give paragraphs in response to a sentence or small quip.
/r/seduction26/11/13 06:49 AM
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What is your opinion on texting about missing particular things? I agree that texting out of the blue saying you miss a lady gives off a desperate vibe but I have found some ladies respond well to light-hearted quips like "I miss having someone to beat at tennis".
/r/seduction26/11/13 06:46 AM
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Brush it off and have some time between now and when you contact her again. Unless you said something incredibly ludicrous, the fault is more in your head than hers. By getting hung up over it you will cause more damage than the statement itself.
/r/seduction25/11/13 06:58 AM
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This highlights that ladies may not be as amazing as their initial appearance makes them seem. A lady that looks irresistible could be using make-up well and have more disposable income for clothes and accessories rather than being more naturally attractive.
/r/seduction22/11/13 03:50 AM
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Show that you have a warm demeanor and do not be afraid to ask them a question or strike up a conversation. Proximity is key, so sitting near or next to a young lady (as long as the class isn't almost empty!) works wonders. Be the guy that acknowledges how silly it is for people with similar studies, similar ages, and, most likely, similar interests to not talk to each other in class simply because they are "in class". One caution: know when to draw the line and not be disruptive to the lecture …
/r/seduction31/10/13 11:41 PM
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Consider that a lot of women are very emotional about sex and can get caught up in the passion without really understanding what they are getting themselves into. Even though she was an older and, probably, more experienced lady she can still be exposed to new situations. If someone is even remotely unstable, the sense of cognitive dissonance that comes from doing something like a one-night stand (perception of herself as a "good, moral girl" vs. her lust) can cause a lot of people to break down…
/r/seduction29/10/13 05:19 PM
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What did you replace drinking with? You must have a bit more money and free time with drinking out of the picture, so why not use those extra resources to develop a personal skill or hobby that is worthy of conversation?
/r/seduction26/10/13 06:56 AM
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The problem I'm getting from your post is that you are fixated on the results of your progression rather than actually committing to self-improvement. If she says she's busy for a day, leave it at that. Go to the gym, hang out with friends, go to a coffee house and say hi to a cute young lady there. Don't feel compelled to text constantly. Instead, text / call her back when you have something to say to her. You two have no obligations to one another, so getting mad over a flake is an overreactio…
/r/seduction30/09/13 04:24 AM
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If someone says something that demerits you, brush it off by agreeing and amplifying the statement. Generally, it will get you a laugh and give off a idgaf attitude. To answer the question about being easy-going: it depends. If it is mild then it is best to agree and amplify. If it is a topic with depth, then actually talking things out and debating your point of view in a calm and civilized manner can work wonders, especially if you talk well. Do not feel as if you have to compromise something …
/r/seduction17/09/13 06:17 AM
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What are you hoping to accomplish by beating yourself up? Nothing good comes from dwelling on what could have been then demeaning yourself over it. Regain your cool: getting hot-headed won't benefit you. Instead, push yourself to say hello next time or to give a small compliment. Even if you crash and burn, you would still feel better than you do now. Keep in mind that everyone messes up, even when the situation is set up "perfectly".
/r/seduction16/09/13 05:16 AM
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Suggest a fun change of location. Grabbing something to eat or even cooking a meal back at your dorm are attractive concepts that will let her know that you want to get her alone. A change of location and scenery breathes new life into a late night.
/r/seduction02/09/13 04:11 AM
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Everyone has their own definition of love. To some people, it is the lady / man that brings them more excitement and fun than anyone else, to others it means a strong partner that will remain loyal even through the most brutal of hardships. For most people, it takes time to learn how you truly feel about someone. Part of learning who another is is finding out about your sexual compatibility among many other things. It takes experience and adventure to truly create a loving relationship which is …
/r/seduction31/08/13 03:36 AM
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Unless you are in a long-term, stable relationship with a lady do not prioritize her over yourself. You need to take care of you and act in your best interests.
/r/seduction31/08/13 03:27 AM
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From my experience, most freshman girls fall into one of two categories: either those that feel liberated with their new-found freedom and are looking to hook up, and those that have heard one too many horror stories about creepy guys on campus. The latter category tends to shift to the former with time once they realize that going to bars / clubs and sex is a pretty normal concept on campus.
/r/seduction31/08/13 03:08 AM
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The two things I have found to help most are to be observant and to have strong personal interests. The former is developed by simply becoming more aware of your surroundings and the odd quirks about them. Opening with a comment on how you like a lady's sense of fashion or commenting on how peculiar it is that in class everyone sits next to one another, will participate in class discussions (pending on class size), and probably have very similar interests but act as complete strangers as soon as…
/r/seduction31/08/13 03:05 AM
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You addressed your own problem: it was the first girl you have approached in years. Do it again and again until you feel like you are in the proper mindset when you strike up that initial conversation. Everyone crashes and burns, especially so in college / university. You are right with freshman ladies, but if you give those same girls a year of the college experience they will be begging for guys to approach them and chat them up.
/r/seduction30/08/13 10:02 PM
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The first step I would suggest to take towards "making it" is to be willing to grow and learn. Focusing on falsifying a personality to gain success and confidence is short-sighted because it neglects the actual issues that you might have with yourself. In line with what puaCurveBall said, think of the person you want to be: the confident man that gets the respect and attention he deserves and then work towards becoming that person. Address the issues you have (for example, not going out, approac…
/r/seduction30/08/13 09:51 PM
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First of all, I want to preface my post by saying I agree with you about the amount of BS posted on the internet about pick-up and I personally prefer to have faith in myself and just be me. That being said, the reason why all of the faux-alpha, disrespect-women concepts gain so much momentum online is because they will work to a certain degree and on certain women. The argument then is not exclusively which method gives you more success, but what you are ethically comfortable with. Think of it …
/r/seduction30/08/13 09:41 PM
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That makes perfect sense and it also explains why a lot of people put a lot of emphasis on appearance. If you are at a bar / party / coffee shop chances are you are only going to have brief interactions where looks will more significantly factor into attraction since you will not have the time to show all of the other things that may make you great. It is much more difficult to show a young lady that you are a blast to be around when the interaction may be limited to a couple minutes or an hour.…
/r/seduction30/08/13 09:29 PM
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I find the best way to introduce it is to simply start off with a statement when your lady does something cute / fumbles. For example, if she offers to be your beer pong partner comment that you like the initiative and she got X points in your book and that she will get "something special" if she hits Y. Most of the time she'll be curious about what the prize is, so play it off and don't spoil anything! Also, try to make the "prize" something that she would like based upon how you two interact. …
/r/seduction25/08/13 05:12 AM
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It depends wholly on how you have interacted with them in the past. If this is your best friend of 5+ years, then it just won't happen. However, if it is someone that you knew in your younger years and have not seen each other in quite some time then the situation isn't as desolate. Especially after high school ends and people mature into the adults they will be for the rest of their lives, meeting an old friend anew is very similar to meeting a new lady for the first time. Essentially, take it …
/r/seduction23/08/13 08:18 PM
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I concur with this. Refer to itseemstoberaining's post above about the issue being prioritizing another individual over oneself rather than merely always being available. Back-peddling or excessive apologizing will only reinforce the fact that you are overly interested in seeing her and do not have a lot of other obligations.
/r/seduction23/08/13 03:09 PM
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Exactly, if you annex some outer-game routines but don't inherently believe in yourself and are merely approaching or acting in a certain manner because the internet or a book told you to do so, then you're not using such techniques in an optimal manner. From my experience, the best DHV come from components that are already in me, but I just needed faith in myself to show them avidly. Being a well-spoken man or having good posture and carrying your head high because you believe you are a man wor…
/r/seduction28/06/13 04:25 PM
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I find another aspect that stagnates one's concept of their options are demographics. I used to find myself saying "she's too old/young" or "she's not a science student like me, so we wouldn't get along" and never realized the absurdity of these statements until a little while ago. Every lady you see is someone you can approach and the only thing between oneself and saying hello is your head.
/r/seduction14/06/13 07:13 PM
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I'm actually going to have to disagree with this sentiment. While the gym isn't the best place to look for ladies (for the reasons you stated), by no means is it a poorer place than a coffee shop or a campus library. People go to the gym to accomplish a workout and, most of the time, have some fun by getting their blood pumping. So long as you don't get critical of their workout regime then you shouldn't have a problem. I would also like to mention that I'm not a buff guy by any means (I'm tall …
/r/seduction02/06/13 11:37 PM
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I was actually surprised the first time I went out to a bar how foreign people treat the bouncers. I generally find that if you just strike up a normal conversation with one (when they're not too busy of course!) they'll know that you view them as part of the social scene itself rather than just a barrier between you and the venue. It's crazy how many people view them solely as the latter.
/r/seduction02/06/13 11:23 PM
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I will honestly be surprised if there is anyone else from Sudbury, Ontario around the subreddit, but if so give me a shout!
/r/seduction02/06/13 11:17 PM
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I came from a similar background as well. While I do still struggle to openly be intimate with others at times, I find that changing my daily behaviours was the biggest contributing factor to getting over such an ailment. It's difficult to do a full 180 and start forming intimate relationships on a whim with women, but by progressively opening up over time things start to brighten up. I find just having intimate conversations with trusted friends works wonders and really shows that there are peo…
/r/seduction02/06/13 10:51 PM
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On the note of breaking the physical barrier, do not force touch. Let it be intentional but not excessive or disconnected from what you are saying or doing. If you are overly touchy, most ladies will think you are normally depraved of such an opportunity and see it as a demerit.
/r/seduction12/05/13 06:40 PM
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Make having fun and enjoying the night your number one priority. It doesn't matter if you've had a rough week at work or your grades are a bit low or you and a friend had a fight recently. Leave that shit at the door. If you are going to commit yourself to going out for a night with friends or even solo you owe it to yourself to enjoy that time you've set aside.
/r/seduction12/05/13 06:27 PM
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From my experience, both individuals generally know when things are getting serious and the matter of making it "official" comes as a natural occurrence. The best sentiment to keep in mind is that most people enter relationships in a fluid and continuous manner: you go from date 1 to a progressively more intimate atmosphere and environment with each interaction. This is why having a rule of thumb (3 dates = a relationship) or blatantly inquiring (are you my girlfriend?) are generally bad ideas i…
/r/seduction12/05/13 06:23 PM
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I generally like to open up with a silly statement. Tell her you're a pirate and you've lost your parrot, then transition to talking about animals, what her favourite animal is, and any animal related opinions you have (do you like zoos? What animal do you think best represents your? etc.) I think the best way to handle such a general question is to set a fun frame from the start, rather than giving her a list or an "interview" response to what you do / who you are. Regardless of what your inter…
/r/seduction12/05/13 06:13 PM
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Yes, that is the proper definition but something I have come across on this subreddit often is people perceiving the "alpha" mentality as that of an archetypal "frat-party boy". Instead of having faith in oneself a lot of people think that by simply imitating such a lifestyle they will be sexually gratified, which is false.
/r/seduction06/05/13 07:10 PM
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From another introvert, I really appreciate the point of this post. Being successful with women isn't about emulating some archetypal lifestyle that is "alpha", it's about having faith in who you are and not being afraid to exhibit your interests to others.
/r/seduction06/05/13 04:18 PM
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I'll be turning 21 this fall as well and can empathize with your situation. My program really hasn't let me run around as much as I would have liked to and I do feel like I'm missing out on a lot of stuff that other people have in spades. My suggestion is to work on making small, but definitive steps into your everyday routine that will get your closer to your target. Relegating oneself exclusively to bars or parties as your place of pick up is a huge mistake that is more common than most would …
/r/seduction06/05/13 07:56 AM
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A quick pointer that assisted me: instead of saying "sorry", make a deliberate point to say "I apologize for [reason]". Since it takes more effort and time to apologize in the latter manner, you will generally cut down on needless "sorries" that come as a reflex action.
/r/seduction03/05/13 05:26 PM
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Exactly, the more you follow through and fuck up the easier subsequent dates will become. Everyone crashes and burns at some point or another and there isn't anything wrong with that. Being able to laugh off a mediocre date builds confidence for the ones that follow.
/r/seduction26/04/13 06:26 PM
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In my eyes the difference is in the specificity. It's similar to the whole setting a date thing, if you keep things general (ie. sometime next week) then things aren't organized and she'll flake, but setting a specific date and time (ie. next Wednesday at 7 we'll meet at...) then flaking tends to be less likely. In an analogous manner, by actually forming a specific connection with a young lady over a band, movie, etc. it really motivates them to follow through or even contact you back to resche…
/r/seduction26/04/13 06:24 PM
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I was in the same position when I was 18 and in my first year of university, but things changed around fast once I stopped over thinking things and dreading all of the small imperfections and life. At the time, I was in a long-term relationship and while I had friends and hobbies and someone that really cared for me, I felt hollow whenever I wasn't doing something. Things really turned around when I started prioritizing my happiness over other things in life. Instead of looking at how many frien…
/r/seduction17/03/13 11:15 PM
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A lot of it boils down to defining the finer details of what one wants and how effectively someone can actually describe that. The definitive characteristics that one seeks in a partner change rather drastically with time and experience and it is incredibly difficult to find someone that fits all of the intricate details. This is why a woman saying she wants a "nice" man really doesn't tell you anything because it is an umbrella term with many sub-sects. Does "nice-ness" include general complian…
/r/seduction14/03/13 06:32 PM
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It may seem that way, but a lot of people misinterpret the alpha mentality. It's analogous to telling individuals that are trying to exhibit confidence not to excessively tease. Yeah, it is common sense stuff but upon reading some of the stuff in this subreddit people can get mislead and make asses of themselves when a simple gesture would have been much more beneficial.
/r/seduction13/03/13 01:20 AM
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Maintaining eye-contact and giving her a coy smile as you set the item down is a good way to be playful and flirty despite the request. Unless it is a legitimate situation where the lady needs her hands free (like if she is walking her dog, and the dog is tangled and needs both hands free and is barking / running around her ankles, etc.) it's best to be playful and put a positive spin on the negative response. Yes, you are not going to hold the item for her, but you're causing no damage to the i…
/r/seduction13/03/13 12:26 AM
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Very true, but on the opposite extreme it can make things extremely difficult if you are looking for an actual relationship of even a consistent FWB regime. As someone that is also heavily tied down with work, it is really tough at times to find the proper opportunity to have fun since even a weekend of drinking and hitting the town can set one's work schedule back rather significantly.
/r/seduction25/02/13 05:29 AM
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Except the steak because, idk about you, but when I say medium rare I better see some pink! Seriously though, I think the whole issue of who pays is over-hyped. Generally, most first / second dates you shouldn't be throwing money at her and should instead be trying to keep the environment financially humble. Coffee, a couple of drinks, or a nature / exercise outing are all great ideas for first dates partly because they let you connect with the lady without being a try-hard and dropping 50$ on a…
/r/seduction21/02/13 05:28 AM
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Getting accustomed to capitalizing on any opportunity that presents itself is crucial to wholly abolishing AA. By simply throwing around a general observation of your environment when in the vicinity of a young lady it becomes second nature. Then, you become the man that is always initiating the fun and breaking the awkward "shuffling feet and staring at phone" mentality that a lot of people have when in public places and surrounding by other people.
/r/seduction19/02/13 08:46 PM
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Congratulations on the progress, it's always good to open up to the possibilities that are present in the world around us on a daily basis. As someone that's underwent a similar experience recently, it seems weird now that people don't act more open and engaging in public. You can see a group of 4-5 people all waiting at a bus stop that came from the same place and are roughly the same age and yet instead of saying hi to one another or trying to have some fun with the given situation they stand …
/r/seduction10/02/13 07:17 AM
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You are not the ideal version of you, and you will never be. I was just skimming through this post, but this part hit me deep and is an important thing to acknowledge. Everyone has these sorts of insecurities about oneself and where they are going in life: it's natural to be slightly confused. It's vital to acknowledge that no matter what you tell yourself, you'll never be the individual you read about or see on TV because those people aren't really people, but merely ideas with exaggerated meri…
/r/seduction10/02/13 07:05 AM
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Acknowledge that those sorts of things don't mean anything. There's a reason why these things are in the past and why nothing substantial ever came of them. Feeling worried, or even threatened, by another man that once had your lady's interest is a pretty normal thing but a lot of people struggle dealing with the thoughts of them showing affection to someone in the past though. Most of the time, this intimidation is a result of your own personal insecurities. You may see good things in your frie…
/r/seduction03/02/13 12:58 AM
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The most effective way to discern whether a lady is taken or not when you're amongst the 20+ crowd is to ask about their living conditions. A lot of people tend to move out or move in with a significant other at that age and it is not only a good conversation starter (can progress into what area of town they live in, if they are from in-town, and their experiences in that area) but is an extremely subtle way of picking up on an important tidbit of info. Most ladies that are taken will either liv…
/r/seduction03/02/13 12:37 AM
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Stop focusing on the end product and focus on having fun while making what progress you can. Being a virgin or not is a silly sentiment that only appears daunting. Relishing the small victories and understanding how every smile and look you get from a cute lady is meritable in its own right is integral to breaking a pessimistic mentality when it comes to dating.
/r/seduction01/02/13 07:24 AM
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I've got a question about the whole future projections subject, since I've been using it a lot recently: if a lot of activities are mentioned in a conversation (like playing basketball, going to see a new movie, etc.) do you think it would be odd to bring one of these things up at a later date and pull the same "let's make it happen" card? I'm generally a busy guy so it's hard to follow up with an activity the day of or the day after meeting a new lady, but if I get a #-close what would be the b…
/r/seduction01/02/13 07:13 AM
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Making an authentic compliment that is affectionate tends to make things significantly less creepy. As others have acknowledged, unless you are absolute eye-candy most ladies will be wary of a guy that just approaches and call them cute in day-game. Telling a young lady she has a cute smile or that she dresses in a cute manner are more personalized and give the comment more weight.
/r/seduction01/02/13 07:04 AM
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Approach them in the same manner, just acknowledge the fact that, due to your social circles, might have crossed before. In my experience, it is much easier to approach someone you already know the name of / a little bit about and share friends with. This is because not only will conversation flow easier (ie. if you know she likes sports, you can immediately bring up something related to sporting and hit things off on a positive note from the start) but if you make a really good impression on yo…
/r/seduction31/01/13 04:28 AM
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While having a friend is good for comfort, I find it can sometimes act against you. It sounds odd, but being in a situation where you open a lady when you're walking with a friend then leaving your friend out of the conversation in order to chat up the new lady can make for an awkward situation. Going to a general vicinity with a friend is encouraged (bar, gym, coffee shop, etc.) to ensure that you have someone for constant social support and someone to also ensure that even if you have a 0% suc…
/r/seduction30/01/13 03:53 AM
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Realize that no matter how great one lady may seem, there's always a lot of other women out there that can make you equally happy if not happier. I struggled with oneitis for the longest time, and the thing that helped me get over it the best was to merely approach more women more often and really learn what's out there. Chances are extremely high that if you put effort into looking, you'll find someone you like.
/r/seduction29/01/13 04:04 AM
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Frequency tends to be key since it generally indicates that she is coming back to you with her eyes for a reason. A one time or really rare thing can be a product of other circumstances, such as talking a bit louder than everyone else or even just talking about something that catches their attention momentarily. Generally, if a lady thinks your eye candy she'll try to steal a glance more than once. This also makes for an easy approach since there are a lot of humorous quips you can open with.
/r/seduction29/01/13 01:41 AM
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Do you usually use this directly ON the dance floor or more on the periphery? I usually find it difficult to actually convey a sentiment through words on the dance floor because the music is so loud.
/r/seduction27/01/13 01:11 AM
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While I agree with your point, it can also be generalized to any outing. If you're going to a bar with friends or even alone, having fun independently should integral to your evening. If you're not going to be making friends and laughing the night away, then even if you do pick up the night may not be all it could.
/r/seduction27/01/13 01:09 AM
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Adding to this, it also helps to dabble in a lot of different areas of interest. Generally, you'll be much more likely to crack a intelligent comment or a good quip if you're well versed in whatever is being discussed. Besides, by exploring other sports / literature / cultures / etc. you are also broadening your horizons and may even find a new passion!
/r/seduction27/01/13 01:06 AM
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Wait, I thought the purpose of the whole process was to get cunted?
/r/seduction27/01/13 01:03 AM
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The regrets themselves are mostly fine, but the one I cannot agree with is number 2. I think that hard work is an integral part to happiness and even to being able to play and have fun. It's a sad reality to admit to, but every individual cannot become a millionaire overnight. Even if you decide to say "fuck it" and go against what is expected of you and pursue your dreams you have to accept the fact that, without hard work, things will not be fulfilling. I am actually kind of surprised that mor…
/r/seduction25/01/13 12:27 AM
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My view on emoticons is that you should use them sparingly. The problem arises when every sentence or simple joke is followed by the same smiley faces over and over again. This not only tends to demerit the idea you are trying to convey with the emoticon (if you're constantly sending winky faces, then the lady might assume that that is merely how you text and it doesn't emphasize what your saying nor alter the connotations) but also makes the conversation seem juvenile (teens, especially young o…
/r/seduction25/01/13 12:17 AM
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Get rejected and told "no" as much as possible. I used to have a similar mindset where even though I wasn't openly needy or passive in any way I would still get emotionally invested in a lady and expect her to reciprocate that investment after only a couple of casual dates. The thing is though, the more you go out there and get told to buzz off, the less it effects you. Think of it like sex: the more sex you have, the less likely you are to get fixated on one particular instance of the act since…
/r/seduction22/01/13 03:04 AM
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I actually really like the "Old enough" Or "Old enough to know how to ____" since I'm a pretty mature and studious guy. The problem with the latter two is if they're said without the right attitude and a smile they can come across as cold.
/r/seduction20/01/13 08:50 PM
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"Old enough" "Too young for you" "Guess" Generally the second one requires a really coy demeanor to work well.
/r/seduction20/01/13 05:27 PM
2

I generally reserve the blatant "Hi / Hey" as something to say in passing to someone that you see on a regular basis. This is a good way to acknowledge her existence and create a sense of familiarity; however, I personally find just smiling and maintaining eye-contact while passing a lady to be much more effective. Following a hello with a simple question tends to be most effective so long as the question is authentic. Instead of starting with a statement that flaunts approval (such as your prov…
/r/seduction16/01/13 10:53 PM
2

Be absolutely transparent about the situation and your intentions, and take things from there. From the sounds of it, you probably should not go through with it but you're at the age now where a lot of individuals are learning what they truly want from the opposite (or same) sex. Openly discuss with her the fact that you aren't seeking an emotional relationship but would be willing to give her the ride of her life if she wanted it. Dancing around the issue or creating a situation where she could…
/r/seduction16/01/13 05:13 AM
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While I'm no expert on the subject, the purpose of "approaching" on the dance floors is to use nonverbal contact to actually isolate a lady and take things from there. Generally, relax, don't over think things, and have fun while trying to get her attention. Something as simple as a smile and dancing adjacent to her can give you the opportunity to take her hand or wave her off to grab a seat or drink and actually open in the more traditional sense. The other option would be to wait until she lea…
/r/seduction16/01/13 05:08 AM
2

Based on what you've said, how is pick-up any different from the other aspects of your life? Take academics for example: just because someone else can pull off much better grades than you with minimal effort, does that mean you should give up entirely? The only difference between gaming and the other components of one's life is the hype that surrounds going out to bars and getting laid. Yes, there will be people that can close ladies much faster that you but that same statement applies to everyo…
/r/seduction13/01/13 12:29 AM
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While you should ultimately be working to find places that suit your hobbies and interests, the two places that I have found the most success at are on campus and in local coffee shops. Campus game is something that should be worked into your daily lifestyle, albeit it is important to understand not to be overly aggressive since, unlike bars, you will most likely be seeing the lady multiple times throughout the duration of your course so your actions can have rather substantial repercussions. Co…
/r/seduction25/12/12 04:57 AM
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I actually think it would be alright for newbies to try this because there is a lot of wiggle room in terms of execution. As long as the core concept remains, presentation can be taken some-what liberally and adjusted to what you're comfortable with.
/r/seduction16/12/12 10:56 PM
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It honestly depends on what you're looking for. Undoubtedly, it'd help your game to have some baseline attributes in common with the ladies you approach and one's appearance does grant quite a bit of insight into who someone is (but isn't everything!). I've tangoed with girls from different subcultures over the years (your preppy high-school girls, the tough girls, party animals, etc.) but when looking for someone that I want more than just a fling with, targeting ladies that adhere to a similar…
/r/seduction11/12/12 03:23 AM
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I was assuming that the individual is attending the school they're getting involved with. Not speaking from a lot of experience, but I would assume that you could still get involved as long as there is some connection (I assist with a lot of clubs and circles at a college in my city, even though I attend another university). I suppose a lot of it would also depend on the events and your personal potency (getting involved with laboratory stuff if you have no experience with the sciences is, obvio…
/r/seduction06/12/12 10:34 PM
1

High-fives and handshakes are key in daygame kino. If she makes a strong point that you agree with, that's a high-five. Always makes sure to give a confident handshake and a smile with your introduction ("Where are my manners? extend hand My name is Setsa, and you are...?"). Once you get more comfortable with one another, start working in light shoulder-pats and playful pushes ("Get out of here! You like / dislike... too!?")
/r/seduction06/12/12 09:22 PM
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Get involved in campus life in any way you can BUT maintain positions that will be fun to you. Depending on what your program is, find groups / clubs that are relevant and get connected through them and attend their events / outings. Generally, the more you are on campus and involved in campus life (while having fun doing so!) the more cute girls you'll come across in open, social environments that you can open with.
/r/seduction06/12/12 09:06 PM
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This obviously depends on how big your city is, but I come from a smaller city and the best places in town to find ladies are coffee shops. A lot of girls within the 18-26 demographic frequent there solo to study, read a book (especially if the shop is attached to or doubles as a bookstore), or just chill-out with a good cup of coffee. The environment is relaxed and opening is relatively easy (I couldn't help but notice you're reading / working on / drinking ..., [when in line] Hey, you should o…
/r/seduction06/12/12 09:04 PM
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If she really is a studious lady, it would be best to wait things out rather than blow your chances trying to force a quick-date that goes no where due to auxiliary obligations like school. Keep in touch with her and organize something when she'll likely be available in the future because diving too soon during finals time is not only going to make you look desperate but also carry the connotation that you're not an individual who prioritizes himself (choosing to opt for a date rather than atten…
/r/seduction06/12/12 08:59 PM
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Work in small increments and get your name out there with everyone you possibly can. Especially at college or university, networking is an important component of having a healthy social life. I'm not saying try and find a best friend around every corner, but try and expand your circles from just having associates to friends. I'm in a busy program too and have little time to spare for fun escapades, but it helps a lot when you know you can capitalize upon what little free-time you have in an effe…
/r/seduction03/12/12 02:29 AM
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I find the most successful ways to introduce sexual intentions is either via humour or, even more subtly, by steering the conversation towards more sexualized topics without blatantly stating your interest. So long as the jokes aren't self-depreciating or in grossly poor taste (like immature comments about how "large" you are), humour is a good way to plant the idea in her head that you're a sexual being as well as gain general interest and affection. It also sets the frame of mind that when you…
/r/seduction01/12/12 04:43 AM
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Not quite the same, but I've found that after reading some things on game and lurking seddit for a while there was a MASSIVE improvement in my confidence and game. I think a lot of it is there exists a lot of hype around being a PUA and most guys (myself included, at one point) view it as an echelon they'll never obtain, like being a doctor, famous actor, etc. Once you get reading and practicing and learning how to let it all out, sometimes you're pleasantly surprised. For me, I was always a rea…
/r/seduction26/11/12 04:41 AM
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I think being polite and saying things like please and thank you gets more of a bad rap than it deserves. There's nothing wrong with being courteous so long as it's something that's rationed and will be noticed. If you say "sorry" or "excuse me, but..." before every question or are consistently throwing pleases and thank-yous around she will experience habituation and your courtesy will just come across as desperate attempts to stimulate reciprocation of your efforts. Ration courtesy for moments…
/r/seduction23/11/12 04:13 AM
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This is honestly the best way to handle these sorts of situations. To the OP: Rejection happens, and even the most skilled PUA's end up getting shot down every once in a while. If you focus too much on a specific person rejecting you and extrapolating a bunch of social connotations you're creating a problem when there really isn't one. You tried, and the more you try the more you'll learn that one unsuccessful attempt means very little in the grand scheme of things. Learn to be outcome dependent…
/r/seduction23/11/12 03:58 AM
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Something that I think is often overlooked is general mental prowess. While you don't have to be able to explain quantum physics, it helps build a lot of confidence if you have a proficient well of knowledge for a certain niche. A good, thorough perspective on the arts, literature, science, politics, sociology, psychology, etc. is often appreciated and shows that, in addition to your fun demeanor, you're also a thoughtful and ponderous individual.
/r/seduction23/11/12 03:48 AM
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Drop a good quip really fast to stimulate playful conversation and see how they respond. If they're the sort of girls just goofing around since they've had one too many, it's usually in your best interest to just walk.
/r/seduction23/11/12 03:38 AM
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When you're going to part ways for whatever reason after having a good talk, simply say, "I'd like to continue the conversation sometime, but I'll be needing your number to do that" with a smile and give her your phone that's opened to the contact page. 99% percent of girls will either put in their actual number if they're interested or pretend to input something / put in a fake number if they aren't, so either way you make an attempt at a number close while also avoiding any chance at an awkwar…
/r/seduction21/11/12 08:09 PM
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I was in a similar position and the way I ultimately got around it was by reserving the "intimidating" side for after your get to know the lady. Intelligence is sexy and a lot of women will find the potency associated with being a very knowing individual to be incredibly attractive regardless of the field that is your forte; however, it will often make you seem like a suit or just a generally serious individual. Whenever you meet someone new that you have an interest in make it a habit to NOT ta…
/r/seduction19/11/12 09:51 PM
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Fuck, marry, kill. The gist of it is it shows a lot of confidence to be flirting with a girl yet asking about her sexual opinion on other males in the venue, it gives you a good idea of who/what she's into (choose men that fit specific archetypes, like a nerd, jock, etc.), and implants the idea of sex into her head without being blatant about it.
/r/seduction19/11/12 09:41 PM
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A very useful point was posted a couple days back about starting up a game of FMK when the conversation dies down, but any sort of silly game involving the environment or occasion can work. Additionally, probing her interests will often evoke a meaningful conversation. If something was mentioned prior in passing, inquire about the "why" of the situation. A lot of individuals will hastily throw out the "what" to another individual, giving the listening party a general idea of who they are, but it…
/r/seduction19/11/12 09:26 PM
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You've got the right idea for opening, just be sure to move away from a "formal" conversation fast. Obviously, if she is legitimately busy because it is finals week or something it's best to approach at a different time, but other than that most ladies will like a nice, positive conversation as a break from their work. Start off talking about whatever school subject or concept is relevant in the opening, then get meta about it. Joke about how they expect you guys to pump out a six page lab repor…
/r/seduction15/11/12 04:24 AM
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Look for ladies that will reciprocate that mentality. In all honesty, a bad reputation usually doesn't stem from sleeping around so much as who you sleep around with. If you're having flings with girls that have flings, then no one is going to care. They may talk about it, but it won't be creating a negative name because it was mutually viewed as a gratification of desires at the time, and nothing more. From your post it sounds like you're the type of guys that'll approach and attempt to seduce …
/r/seduction05/11/12 10:44 PM
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Isolate her and engage in conversation beyond the typical "Hi, my name is..." and cracking a joke every now and then. Instead of waiting on your social environment to give you cues as to when you should say something, choose a girl or reciprocate a girl that interests you and develop an actual conversation from there. That way, if any of your friends try to butt in they're not only being douchey, but also making themselves a contributor to an "awkward" situation (ruining an otherwise flowing and…
/r/seduction05/11/12 09:49 PM
1

Go for it. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst and be comfortable knowing that you tried and confronted a daunting sentiment.
/r/seduction05/11/12 01:23 AM
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There's nothing wrong with faltering, just don't beat yourself up over it. Don't think about it as an instance that was a failure, but more-so a neutral situation. This is a problem I had when dealing with oneitis a while back: number / k / f closing is good, approaching is neutral, and inaction is the bad route to take. If she gave you her [legitimate] number, then I don't see why you should even be that negative about the situation. Unless we're talking a month or more between getting her digi…
/r/seduction05/11/12 12:49 AM
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Pretty much this. Yeah, whenever guys go out there will always be some minor discrepancies about who gets to approach the HB9 but, if the group remains cool, then that's when you know you're rolling with the right people. The worst thing you can do is get upset and make it into an instance that garners attention. Just brush it off and try going with different people next time.
/r/seduction05/11/12 12:40 AM
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I think lamar is getting at the fact that you're stating that there was a "problem" or that you supposedly made a mistake and that you're blatantly admitting that in your opener. Being a bit more subtle might be more beneficial, like saying "Hey [name], now that mid-terms are done and our minds aren't ravaged by all of that [common class] work, I was thinking we could start over again. playful smile Hi, my name is ..., and I'm in ... year [program], how about you?" If she responds well and even …
/r/seduction05/11/12 12:23 AM
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It seems like more of a make-or-break tactic. Obviously, if the girl was dropping some IOI's when you first met her but you did legitimately screw up (didn't ask for number or escalate properly) she'll take to it well and you'll be able to remedy the chance that was blown initially. The problem is, if the girl really wasn't interested, then such an approach could get you brushed off pretty easily. In itself, it's better than inaction but I wouldn't suggest it as a staple response for whenever a …
/r/seduction05/11/12 12:18 AM
2

A useful trick that I use is to make an easy-to-remember connection between her name and either a pseudo-homophone or a weird statement. This is actually a psychological technique that a lot of people (myself included!) use for memorizing facts while studying. For example, if her name is Katherine, tell yourself a couple time that you're talking to "Catty Katherine". It doesn't matter if they aren't exact homophones as long as some of the "sounds" of the name are replicated.
/r/seduction05/11/12 12:05 AM
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A lot of us tend to forget that our parents did the exact same things (and sometimes worse!) when they were young, so approaching a lady with parents around shouldn't be too big of a drain on your mindset. Unless your parents are extremely stern, they'll enjoy seeing more of their child growing up and being able to flaunt the entirety of his life to them. Obviously be a bit more subtle and courteous than if you were in a bar, but aside from that the same rules that apply elsewhere apply here. Do…
/r/seduction04/11/12 06:50 AM
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Not so much of a game, but more-so a bit of a dramatic display that I find effective and that most women will respond well to. I act like an archetypal gentleman in terms of gestures, always offering my hand whenever the lady of interest is about to stand-up or when going through a set of doors (hold open and offer hand as she passes through to hand-holding) and spontaneously seizing her in a ballroom dancing posture (clasp non-dominant hands, brace her lower back with dominant hand and maintain…
/r/seduction25/10/12 04:02 AM
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I think you're looking at your success in a much too "traditional" context. You thought you could cure oneitis simply by sleeping around and, while that may work for some, its not necessarily something that works for everyone. How would you feel if you got attached after a one night stand? It's a mistake a lot of people make when they look at game in general because its not something that is defined by quantity alone, but more so about one's satisfaction with what they get. First and foremost, b…
/r/seduction25/10/12 03:54 AM
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Good words, but something to keep in mind is that texting is prone to misinterpretation so it is best to use blatant statements rather than using convoluted language that the lady might get the wrong idea from. I'm assuming if you've never spoken to them, you've gotten the number from a mutual contact or something like that? Mention how you got their number in passing just to keep creepiness at a minimum, use a little humour, then organize a simple and relatively casual meet-up. Coffee is nearly…
/r/seduction25/10/12 03:39 AM
1

Accepting rejection or failure as an inevitability not just in dating, but in life. Just because things don't go exactly as you wanted does not mean its time to pout or get frustrated with the results because that accomplishes absolutely nothing. By looking at where things could have been better and learning how to apply those new techniques the next time you really grow as a person.
/r/seduction24/10/12 06:56 PM
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I tried to keep things in layman's terms, but I can see that my wording, specifically the "seen" part, can be misleading. It would have been better worded as "the frontal lobe allows the inhibition of our actions when we may consciously want a product". I was under the impression that the frontal lobe is regarded as the seat of consciousness and thus is not well affiliated with involuntary behaviour. The point I was making about theory isn't that the frontal lobe can ONLY inhibit, but more-so th…
/r/seduction10/10/12 09:27 PM
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It applies, but what it does not account for is the interface of the extremely well-developed frontal cortex in human beings that is a large contributor to the mediation and inhibition of our actions. This was a major problem with the early studies using operant conditioning: it was too static a situation to really extrapolate from. This is where the Seddit community and all of the theory comes into play. Even if someone can consciously acknowledge that an action will lead to a gratifying or ben…
/r/seduction10/10/12 04:21 PM
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Usually something about the perkiness of her smile or her frame work well. For example, "You've got quite the athletic body, do you play soccer or something? Your legs look really well toned." They're comments that as stand-alone products state nothing sexual, but are heavily connoted sexually and can often work into kino. In my opinion, it's better to do both in combination than solely doing one since the latter can be prone to misinterpretation. Some guys will engage in physical teasing with f…
/r/seduction05/10/12 04:29 PM
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Realize that you, along with everyone else, has virtues and vices. Those men that may seem intimidating at first glance also have their inherent faults, it is just a matter of them exhibiting their positive traits more aptly whilst minimizing their less desirable ones. Know your domain, and own it. The only difference between you and them right now is that instead of capitalizing on the merits that you do have you're sulking over your faults and letting them bring you down. Some guys may have bi…
/r/seduction03/10/12 11:48 PM
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In my opinion, whether or not it constitutes as a date depends on the context of the outing and the preemptive build up to the actual event. If it's someone you've known for quite some time and have made little to no readily identifiable notions that you're interested (like kino, playful teasing, a pseudo-sexual compliment, etc.) then chances are the lady is going to wholly perceive it as an outing with a friend. The best thing you can do to ensure that she knows that you're going on a date is t…
/r/seduction03/10/12 11:41 PM
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The problem with the high-school dating scene is that it is, by far, a very inaccurate representation of how the real world works in that respect. In one's younger years, talking big gets you really big; people are built on name and one's reputation at the cafeteria lunch table tends to inflate people. It's the harsh reality of the situation but it's something you, and many others, will need to come to terms with. My suggestion would be to start small, and work on your detrimental tendencies. Do…
/r/seduction30/09/12 07:28 PM
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Legitimate one-night F-close: 1. Small number, so I must not be successful, right? Well, the truth of the matter is that since I've tossed aside the beta attitude and started getting out and being an assertive individual in my everyday life my perspective and place in the local sex scene has changed significantly: I'm desirable and I can pick and choose. This, in my opinion, is the core of game. Like science, it's not just about blatant quantification of the results, it's about the interpretatio…
/r/seduction30/09/12 07:14 PM
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Additionally, have faith in what you do. Even if you have some hobbies that you might consider lame (like being a mystery novel fanatic or whatever) present it in an interesting and knowing way. Expanding your activities by trying new things is only half the battle, the other half is establishing authentic interest in these new ventures: actually doing something you enjoy doing. Working on openers and introductions is fundamental, but beyond that you have to work on engaging in conversation acti…
/r/seduction30/09/12 06:55 PM
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Like what banshee said, proximity is a huge factor. It seems weird if you stalk or try to force a conversation with a lady by cornering her, but if you're nonchalantly sitting next to her in class or in the cafe, sparking up a conversation about anything even remotely relevant (class topics, campus life, majors / school topics of interest, etc.) is a smooth way to connect without coming across too strong. From my experience, the best way to get a lady on campus is to make your intentions clear b…
/r/seduction30/09/12 06:43 PM
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While there are some similarities, using the same approach methods in an educational environment that one would normally use at a club is a huge no-no. A lot of it relies on the perception of why the individual is there in the first place: is a girl attending class or reading a book in the library / hall really looking to be hit on? Generally, being more cultured in the college environment is more admirable, because coming across as too aggressive in escalation will raise a few brows or make you…
/r/seduction30/09/12 05:44 AM
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There's a lot that are of merit, but besides the traditional ones with practical benefits (like being a good cook), one that has helped me personally a lot is martial arts. I've been boxing for years and have dabbled in wrestling, bjj, and kuk sool won and one thing I've noticed about those experiences is despite being something traditionally enjoyed by men, women will take an interest in it if you present it the right way. It seems cliche to type this, but it is sexy being dangerous and it can …
/r/seduction28/09/12 09:27 PM
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It's a good line, but I think it'd be better as a follow-up rather than an opener. Sticking a subtle compliment along the lines of the original quote can (and has) worked wonders, but it'd seem like a 50/50 split opening with it.
/r/seduction24/09/12 01:12 AM
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Good advice, but one thing you should note is that if you really are good at something and it is a defining characteristic of who you are, then make it into conversation material. Even some things that are usually exclusively viewed as "guys-only" can evoke a lot of interest in a lady if you present it like you really know what you're talking about. Women like guys that aren't going to downplay their interests. If you're good at tennis, make that evident. Tell her about your competitive history …
/r/seduction22/09/12 04:00 AM
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Try making your DHV more concise. Having a good one-liner that will get the point across in a confident manner without making the idea convoluted will minimize attention loss. Obviously, clubs are loud and laden with fairly inebriated folks. If you're trying to convey a more intricate tale, idea, or something that requires even a bit of context in an active site like a dance-floor, where movement and noise are usually greatest, then you will run into trouble. If you're really bent on getting the…
/r/seduction21/09/12 07:31 AM
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While I agree the friend-zone is a myth, I believe a lot of it comes from the disillusionment of certain individuals. Things that aren't normally seen as manly and that many people would state as the reason why they're in the "friend-zone" like being nice aren't true. I like how you state that one's spine and confidence is the dividing line, because it is so true. Many guys get stuck in this self-depreciating mentality where they blame the dumbest factors for their failure and just run from the …
/r/seduction21/09/12 07:20 AM
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This works. Also, while I can't recall the actual source, I read once that it's a good rule of thumb to start off with compliments "above the shoulders" and to give two compliments above the shoulders before making a more suggestive compliment. Of course this limits your scope a bit because you're limited to remarking about her visage, but it flaunts a more mature and authentic tone and allows for good pacing.
/r/seduction21/09/12 07:08 AM
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It helps to not think of it as an "approach", but rather a progression from a formal relation. Classmates, regardless of whether you're interested in them or not, are going to be present for quite some time in your life. Rather than over-hyping the situation and beating yourself up thinking that if you blow this one shot you'll NEVER have a chance at her again, view it as a gradual escalation. As long as you're moving in the right direction at a constant pace, you're in the good. Remind yourself…
/r/seduction21/09/12 06:30 AM
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In all honestly, from my experience I had an epiphany one day that the best way to establish yourself is to use a phrase that is not blatantly provocative nor something that directly dictates your intent, but rather something is typical of a "dating" engagement that will state your intent in a very subtle manner. My stand-by is establishing a formal introduction right off the bat that shows that you WANT the lady to know who you are and be able to recognize you at a later time. A simple "by the …
/r/seduction20/09/12 02:09 PM
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The latter about the raptor is actually a good way to handle things. I'm sorry for your situation, but the best thing to do is turn it into a sigil of confidence. Show girls that it doesn't phase you, and open with a joke. Being able to tell a girl confidently that you are the way you are because you punched a shark while saying someone's kid is a comical way to make good out of the bad. Humour will comb things over, and following it up with the serious truth presented in a non-ailing manner wil…
/r/seduction20/09/12 01:53 AM
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The main difference between one's antics at school and out in a social environment is that your actions in the educational environment should be more tame. Still engage and elicit interest, but escalating kino from the first conversation is a no-go. In all honesty, school is probably one of the easiest places to break into a conversation with a random lady because there is so much occurring that can spark interest. My suggestions: Set yourself up preemptively by placing yourself close to her. If…
/r/seduction20/09/12 01:44 AM
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"I don't like to start a party by lying to 45 people."
/r/seduction19/09/12 07:36 PM
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I don't have the link, but there was a good read about the psychology of facebook and other social networking sites that is fairly applicable in this context as well. The gist of it was: facebook tends to high-light all of the "good" and attractive qualities in someone's life because individuals will mediate and, ultimately, cull anything that might indicate a personal quality that they dislike. Think of it in the context of girls cropping photos or removing dozens at a time because it makes the…
/r/seduction17/09/12 11:24 PM
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This goes hand in hand with having faith in yourself. If you're constantly doing a creeper-check against yourself you're doing nothing but bringing yourself down. Sure, everyone has their vices, but they also have a lot of qualities that make them great. Realize what those qualities are and exhibit them more frequently and you'll realize just how easily you can overcome any awkwardness you might have and realize that everyone deals with these sorts of thoughts.
/r/seduction16/09/12 09:12 PM
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Great words, especially about the difference between sex and fucking. That differentiation right there separates the "high-school" and real-world mentality of what intercourse is. To add to what has been said, it is true that the preemptive manipulation of circumstances is omnipresent in society now-a-days. If you're going to wave your finger at individuals using a pre-rendered line to entice a girl or stretching a comment within a reasonable boundary then you have to wave your finger at everyon…
/r/seduction15/09/12 08:33 PM
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"... Your name wouldn't happen to be Jessica Smith, would it? [No] Oh, I swear you look just like her. You have a tall frame but your hair/eyes/smile/cheeks/whatever is much nicer/cuter/etc. Do you play basketball or are you more of a lady who enjoys her solitude and good literature?" It's not so much about bringing up a particular sport but more so giving yourself a reasonable and believable opener that is very open to response. It also allows you to quickly gauge how interested she is. If she …
/r/seduction15/09/12 08:04 PM
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19, going to be 20 on the twenty third. Most people think I'm in my mid 20s though :/
/r/seduction14/09/12 06:19 PM
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Confidence. I'm a relatively lanky looking guy at first glance (140lbs at 1.85m) but damn it if you carry yourself well it makes all the difference. Muscles mean something, but how much you can bench press can easily be superseded by other merits. Finding things that you genuinely enjoy that are often affiliated with "manliness" can help to an extent, but the reality is you have to have an assertive side that lets people know that you're there and people will be aware of and respect you. The tri…
/r/seduction14/09/12 02:48 AM
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Many men may disagree with me on this, but I find making the first contact in a "cutesy" context to be quite effective. Go for holding a hand or an affectionate hug when the context seems appropriate for it and try to maintain proximity to her. People have a general perception of appropriate distances for specific social relations, and by simply skootchiing yourself closer to her in just about any context will set the stage for initiating physical contact. As I've seen others mention here, escal…
/r/seduction14/09/12 02:25 AM
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A lot of it is just merely the articulation of the point and the context in which an individual hopes to present him/herself. The more convoluted wording in the second example may seem silly but at the same time it conveys greater insight and extrapolates upon a rather simple phenomena. If there's one thing I've learned since leaving high school, it's that individuals from varying backgrounds will all have their own unique interpretation of the art of discourse. I do not talk the same way I do a…
/r/seduction14/09/12 02:19 AM
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This is such a good way to approach. It's something that can easily be perceived as an authentic question and is good for getting into a fairly personal conversation relatively quick. I generally find saying they look like someone from a sport I used to play works incredibly well because it opens the door for her giving some personal information back as well as sets you up for a subtle yet enticing complement that is relevant to the sport of choice (ie. tall or having a nice frame for basketball…
/r/seduction14/09/12 01:37 AM
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Either honesty, or start trying to rewire yourself to be a more assertive individual that people will consistently look at as someone you don't want to push around. I don't mean using raw intimidation, but even fending off chums with witty quips and the like will make a big difference. You'd be surprised at how fast people will smarten up if they figure out that you have bite and can embarrass them in witty discourse.
/r/seduction12/09/12 09:02 PM
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True words. Girls have insecurities and wish for that flawless appearance, which is why make-up and other aspects of their life may be different from what they "want". Putting on make-up every morning instead of sleeping in or hitting the gym every second day for a cardio workout or eating only a grapefruit when she wants a chocolate bar is analogous to the habits of guys too. Just because a guy hits the gym noticeably more than others doesn't imply infallibility either. The "goddess" mentality …
/r/seduction12/09/12 06:19 PM
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Exactly the point. There's nothing actually "wrong" with it, but it is something that people will often throw an "ew" at if you tell them you're a picker, when they may even do it themselves.
/r/seduction12/09/12 06:00 PM
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This is actually a very important tidbit of info. Regardless of how a girl looks, they still have the same virtues and vices of everyone else. It's a huge boost to confidence when approaching a HB8+ simply knowing that they have faults and silly personality traits just like everyone else. Some may actually take huge dumps and that's totally normal for them, some may slouch horrendously or not put on deodorant when staying at home even if they do smell. They may not be the best at math or they ma…
/r/seduction12/09/12 04:50 AM
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Not sure if this is the response you wanted, but I went from a very passive and restrictive guy when it comes to sex to being fairly open and courting in barring venues. I think a lot of it has to do with experience, and for a lot of guys just going to college breaks the rather juvenile perception that there's only one perfect princess out there just waiting for fate to spring. The truth of the reality is, your drive is controlled by a crapton of hormones and very little is going to change the b…
/r/seduction11/09/12 02:17 AM
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Fucking truth in the italics right there. People will lie through their teeth and step over others if it works to their benefit.
/r/seduction27/08/12 05:05 AM
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I have mostly dated older women in the past, and the best thing I can say is assert that you're mature for your age. Remember that age is just a number, and that you can still be an extremely formal and fun individual regardless of how long you've been in the scene for. I'd say something along the lines of "a visage can be deceiving" with a coy grin should work wonders. It uses a higher level of diction and sets the prompt for a more mature and intellectual interpretation of who you are, regardl…
/r/seduction27/08/12 03:55 AM
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Yeah, you're right. That's sex in general though, you never know when a condom may break or hormonal fluctuations will render the pill useless, but you gotta take a gander anyways. Life is boring without a bit of risk and thrills every now and then, you just have to make sure it's done in a controlled manner.
/r/seduction03/08/12 07:40 AM
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Just to clarify, condoms don't provide 100% protection from STI's. They can be spread through many means, and a lot of the time when you are in the heat of things bodily fluids will not be wholly kept at bay by latex that only covers your junk (oftentimes, some fluids will come into contact with one's skin around their junk, which can still lead to spread of STI's if they have lacerations or if it is in copious amounts and is miraculously spread to your urethra or anus or a piercing). I'm not sa…
/r/seduction03/08/12 03:07 AM
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Maybe I'm going on a tangent here, but in my eyes this sort of ties into the whole "authenticity-of-one's-actions theme". In all honesty, I don't think it's quite as black and white as you made it seem. Yes, having things progress naturally does lend to the atmosphere of an interaction in the dating scene, but in a sense everything is falsified to a degree. We live in a world where people are going out to bars and clubs and snooping around campus trying to find some tale. The difference between …
/r/seduction02/08/12 02:29 AM
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I find focusing on your actual merits to be more helpful in building confidence than the blatant self-appreciation cycle. The thing most guys don't realize is that they DO have positive features about them, they just don't focus on them. I used to lack self-confidence early in high school because I wasn't a macho kind of guy, but if you do some self-reflection you start to realize there can be some really sexy aspects that you may not have realized early. Tell yourself "sure, I can't bench press…
/r/seduction02/08/12 01:38 AM
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I've actually used the "so is it weird that as soon as we leave our discussion class we act like complete strangers" line on a few girls I've met in psych classes (psych minor), and I find it's a great way to open up a mature conversation smoothly while actively gauging the lady's interest.
/r/seduction02/08/12 01:26 AM
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Just treat her like you would any other lady. If a girl is still on the dating scene, at school, and interested in someone younger, chances are she'll still be down for anything the regular college/university girls are into. I'd suggest coffee, but just remember that with age comes a new lease on life. I dated a girl recently that was 24 (I'm 19, soon to be 20) and the first thing I realized was that she was much more stable and less of a "party-person" than the girls I was used to be around / i…
/r/seduction02/08/12 01:18 AM
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Another fun fact: Having unprotected sex shortly after masturbating or ejaculating in general will increase the deposition of pre-cum due to some residual sperm in your junk's piping, making the pull and pray less effective.
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