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| 1 | How to Brainwash Yourself to Make Approaching Work for YouIt's an experience thing, brother. When you decide to actually talk to a woman for the first time in your life, you'll start to understand. 😉 | /r/seduction | 17/07/25 02:02 AM |
| 1 | The Only Kiss Routine You Need To KnowYes, it has to be at that point where it's time to kiss her. | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 01:25 AM |
| 1 | How To Stop Being The Pushy Intermediate GuyI've gotten that before! Thanks for reading! | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 01:24 AM |
| 1 | The Only Kiss Routine You Need To KnowNo problem! Thanks for reading! If you need any help with applying it, hit me up! | /r/seduction | 16/07/25 01:23 AM |
| 1 | The Only Kiss Routine You Need To KnowTry it out, and tell me how it goes! Thanks for reading! | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 04:33 AM |
| 1 | The Only Kiss Routine You Need To KnowThank ya bro! More to come! | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 04:32 AM |
| 1 | How To Learn, And How It Gets You Girls100% brother! Thanks for reading! | /r/seduction | 15/07/25 03:30 AM |
| 1 | Cocky-Funny Gives You These 3 AdvantagesCheers! Thanks for reading! | /r/seduction | 12/07/25 03:01 AM |
| 4 | 10 Rules To Becoming Good With WomenThanks for reading, man! Funny thing is I edited it and it still stayed like this! | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 02:57 AM |
| 20 | 10 Rules To Becoming Good With WomenWas an editing mistake on my part. You know what's funny? After I went back to change it, it STILL stayed like that! Anyways, thanks for reading! | /r/seduction | 11/07/25 02:56 AM |
| 1 | Opening Direct Is InauthenticThat it does. By the way, I have a starter guide for guys just beginning in cold approach. It's absolutely free of charge, I just want to build some good reviews around it. Would you mind checking it out and leaving a review on it if it's helpful to you? | /r/seduction | 10/07/25 04:12 AM |
| 1 | Opening Direct Is InauthenticYou'd be surprised how many guys have no idea that women look for intangibles more than anything. Good on you for understanding it! I'd bet you're one of the only guys on here who actually approaches and has significant experience. | /r/seduction | 09/07/25 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Direct or indirect approach?Indirect, neutral, or situational for day time, situational or neutral for night time. https://shakapiontkowskie.wixsite.com/manalive/post/opening-direct-is-in-authentic | /r/seduction | 08/07/25 12:08 AM |
| 1 | Opening Direct Is InauthenticThanks for reading! Unfortunately, women don't choose partners as spontaneously as men. Us men choose immediately, based on looks. Women need time to see your intangibles before they make a decision on you. Going direct is forcing her to make a split second decision about you, which the vast majority of the time will be a no, because you're not giving her enough of a sample to say yes with. The only girls you'll get going direct, if any, are the ones you don't actually want. Don't take my word f… | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 07:03 PM |
| 0 | Opening Direct Is InauthenticThanks for reading! What I said is uncommon, that's for sure, but once you actually start approaching and have been approaching for a meaningful length of time, it'll click. I encourage you to get started! | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Opening Direct Is InauthenticThanks for reading! Cold approach is actually way more nuanced than that. You're a total stranger going up to another total stranger to proposition for sex, dating, etc. Us humans mate in social groups, not with strangers. Average, typical advice such as you're referencing doesn't take any of the above into account, and doesn't work, hence the widespread lack of results and dissatisfaction in the community. Most cold approachers follow the type of advice you referenced AND have nothing to show f… | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Opening Direct Is InauthenticThanks for reading! Feel free to share and criticize it with everyone you know in cold approach. | /r/seduction | 07/07/25 06:46 PM |
| 9 | Approaching can be so difficult without looking like a creepYou must look silly and creepy before approaching well. Same goes for every skill set, including this one. Do it poorly until you get it right. | /r/seduction | 04/07/25 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Anyone in here interested in doing weekly zoom meetups?I'll join in. Send me the details. | /r/seduction | 03/07/25 04:47 AM |
| 2 | How much rejection is necessary? How to get over it?Look at a child learning how to walk, and relate that to every skill set in existence. Children don't count their attempts and say "if I don't get it next try, I'm quitting!" or "if walking doesn't come easy, I'm stopping this!" They simply keep going UNTIL they learn to walk. Amount of time, irrelevant. Number of tries, also irrelevant. Fear and criticism, goo goo ga ga. They DO until they HAVE IT DOWN. Extrapolate this example to cold approach. JUST KEEP APPROACHING UNTIL YOUR OPENS WORK. KEEP… | /r/seduction | 25/06/25 07:46 PM |
| 1 | What would you recommend to improve my conversation flow after the approach? (Working on inner game too)The conversation after the opener is the exact same as any other conversation you would strike up with anyone else. The main thing hindering you (in the words of old-school RSD Ozzie, who I think is right) is fear. Once you open, stand there and keep talking to her. If fear and insecurity wells up inside of you, practice ignoring it and continuing to talk to her. The biggest barrier to keeping the conversation going is the fear of doing so, which is NOT an actual barrier, you just need to keep g… | /r/seduction | 25/06/25 06:14 PM |
| 1 | i'm probably overthinking now.Just do it next time. Problem solved. | /r/seduction | 25/06/25 06:09 PM |
| 1 | Flirting without neggingIf negging is just joking and teasing, then problem solved. All is well. | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 05:11 PM |
| 38 | Teasing! The most important ingredient!I would say learn cocky-funny lines because the framing is buyer-you/seller-her, plus it has playful teasing built in. 1) over-complimenting gives your power away, cocky-funny does not 2) it's great for high-pressure situations where complimenting her might make her feel uncomfortable 3) frame is always you're the buyer, she's the seller She asks where you're from, "so you promise you won't show up at my parents' house asking for my hand in marriage, right?! Nothing wrong with being excited, but… | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 02:22 AM |
| 1 | Flirting without neggingThe definition of a flirt is compliment+tease. Negging is insulting. Teasing is what you do with long-time friends, and what you need to pair with your compliments to women. Examples: "honestly...you win Best Tight Black Dress of the night...actually...4th best! Still up there..." "So...is this a thing where you're from? Elegant, stunning girls with funny accents...don't worry, they kind of balance each other out...almost..." (She's stumbling over her words while talking to you) " Captivates the… | /r/seduction | 24/06/25 02:02 AM |
| 1 | What are the Kino Escalation techniques you guys have used or discovered that worked well in infield?Most physical escalation comes from the same vein (the guy doing and doing until the girl objects), but I've been thinking on how powerful it would be to bait girls to escalate on you. One technique I just happened to hear about for doing this is to literally take her hand and place it on yourself, whether it be on your shoulder, arm, etc. Also thought about baiting her with a cocky-funny line, and then giving her the opportunity to touch you. Example: triangle gaze to your arm, tease her for dr… | /r/seduction | 21/06/25 05:13 AM |
| 1 | How do you decide whether to go direct or indirectNon-social environments (street, cafe, train, park, etc.): neutral/situational, indirect Social environments (bar, club, lounge): neutral/situational Just make sure you have a conversational piece to transition into once you use an indirect opener. | /r/seduction | 19/03/25 02:06 AM |
| 1 | Keep getting ghosted after messaging girls I met at a club/barNo problem! Feel free to ask me any questions directly, as well. | /r/seduction | 18/03/25 08:13 PM |
| 3 | Keep getting ghosted after messaging girls I met at a club/barProcess orientation, my man. Forget about getting it right and just learn. If you're going to get contacts in nightgame, step out of the bar with the girl for some fresh air and do it then. Make it a mini-hang out. You can even location-hop a bit. We call it an instant date in day game. About the makeouts, unless you're practicing kissing specifically, I would skip on that. It actually KILLS the sexual tension. Girls take the most amount of validation for the least amount of effort; if she has a… | /r/seduction | 17/03/25 10:39 PM |
| 1 | alan rodger currie and david x on the proper approach.Only way to know how good it is as a system is to try it. I think Alan Roger Currie's system is Mode One, which is all very direct opening. Go field test, and come back with your findings. | /r/seduction | 24/12/24 05:31 AM |
| 1 | How do I destroy the “friendly vibe”I talk about material like this and more in my Whatsapp group if you'd like to join. Provided you're a good fit for the group, once you answer some questions, you should be able to participate. https://chat.whatsapp.com/DcMjARKrxu95juxTC59KFr | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 05:44 PM |
| 1 | How do I destroy the “friendly vibe”It is usually best to couch compliments with teases, as that's what flirting actually is: compliment + tease, aka mixed signals. The issue is, until you get over your fear of giving compliments and learn how to give good ones instead of generic ones, you'll never get to learn mixed signals. Funny enough, I used to be worried about the same thing. It actually stunted my growth for YEARS; I was a "verbal game" beginner for a LONG TIME because of it. You have to get good at giving good compliments … | /r/seduction | 09/10/24 05:30 AM |
| 1 | How do I destroy the “friendly vibe”There's 3 stages of game, essentially: not knowing how to physically or verbally escalate at all ---> "sweetie game" or what I call "easy man", which is complimenting the girl to high heavens (her style, facial beauty, vibe, body, accomplishments) and physically escalating like you can't keep your hands off of her ---> learning to use mixed signals and ambiguity physically and verbally to bait her to chase and work to win you over. To get to the 3rd level, though, you need to have a handle on th… | /r/seduction | 08/10/24 06:46 PM |
| 3 | approached a girl after a date and boyfriend/husband came up and told me to fck offYou listened to the right voice in your head. | /r/seduction | 05/10/24 05:06 AM |
| 15 | Personal PSA: Getting good at this takes practice, and ugly guys have the advantageReps, reps, reps! | /r/seduction | 30/09/24 10:22 PM |
| 3 | Banned from dating apps forced to approach IRLIf you want to work on your kissing, then making out in-venue is great. However, if you want to pull, you should REFRAIN from kissing her. You want sexual tension to be as high as possible when pulling. | /r/seduction | 11/09/24 11:02 PM |
| 0 | Does direct opener in cold approach only build attraction within 7 seconds?Better to use indirect or situational in daygame and a neutral or situational opener in nightgame. Learn how to transition out of and flirt after the opener. Direct is an old relic of the "natural game" days that only works in very short interactions. | /r/seduction | 28/08/24 09:18 PM |
| 4 | Are these words good to use during day game when opening with a girl?Change "I like your look" to "you have an interesting look". More ambiguous and intriguing. | /r/seduction | 24/08/24 05:12 AM |
| 1 | How to constantly flirtFlirting ISN'T complimenting a woman. That is only part of it. A flirt is a compliment + a tease in the same statement. For example, a girl says she's from Canada, "I can tell...the unique beauty and the funny accent give it all away...". You can think of this as praising her and making fun of her at the same time, or giving a tentative acceptance and tentative rejection at the same time. Another example reflecting acceptance and rejection: she mentions working out, "I love girls that work out, … | /r/seduction | 17/08/24 07:58 PM |
| 1 | Calling NYC men of this subI have a wing group for NYC. Message me and I can link you to it. | /r/seduction | 01/07/24 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Best Approach for sitting sets?You can essentially do just what you do for standing and walking sets, it's not a necessity to change your opener. Sit down with her/them as soon as you hit the hook point. Most important, practice! https://youtu.be/tmqHAi5h0Lw | /r/seduction | 20/06/24 05:58 AM |
| 2 | Searching for wingman in NYCOi, I have a wing group on WhatsApp for guys in the NYC area. If you want an add, let me know. | /r/seduction | 17/06/24 07:56 PM |
| 1 | Hey allFocus on approaching as much as you can. Step up the set difficulty when you're ready to push yourself more. https://youtu.be/Ya7HmqJwxJI | /r/seduction | 17/06/24 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Girl changed her mind about sex while we were butt naked about to have sex.Most guys, including you, can get girls they're not attracted to and struggle a lot with girls they really like. The issue is skill-based, but in the case of a pull like this, if you are pulling with your wing and either one of you does anything wrong, you ruin it for both of you. If his girl had a terrible time in bed, he quite possibly ruined your chance at sex too. OR it's possible that he hit last minute resistance and failed which made his girl want to leave and take yours with her. It's al… | /r/seduction | 24/05/24 12:22 AM |
| 1 | Slept with 20 women in one year: Truing to deal with bad effectsIt happens to everyone who has had an exceptional amount of women in their lives. You get desensitized to it. That said, online dates and social introductions are very different from actually starting as a stranger and ending as a lover, ala cold approach. Even though you said you did some approaches, most of success came from apps. Don't make the mistake of thinking you've got women pegged because you killed it online. I would suggest taking on the challenge of cold approach fully to help you m… | /r/seduction | 13/05/24 09:18 PM |
| 3 | You'll never be too platonic if you just know how to ESCALATEAs someone who's game used to contain only physical escalation (with terrible results), this assumption that verbal escalation is unnecessary is totally incorrect. Both verbal and physical escalation are imperative; your game becomes anemic and sickly without either one. The fear that verbal escalation brings up is the fear of over-validating a girl, but following a push-pull structure and getting her to qualify herself through questioning and challenging statements will eliminate that problem. … | /r/seduction | 31/07/23 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Daygame vs nightgame and which ends up being the better long-term.Daygame pros: girls often alone, no loud venue or groups of friends and other guys to contend with. More of a chance to make a genuine connection. Rejections are much more cordial here. All different types of girls move about in the day: from models to teachers to doctors. You meet them all. Daygame cons: non-social environments mean that it can feel much stranger to strike up a conversation with someone. Girls don't go to the bookstore, or laundromat, or take public transport to socialize. Nigh… | /r/seduction | 17/08/22 06:30 AM |
| 1 | LF Los Angeles WingmanI'm not in LA but if you come to the East Coast:NYC,NJ, feel free to hit me up. | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 05:00 PM |
| 1 | Any advice for a 19 year old doing their first cold approach?Where do you live? NYC? | /r/seduction | 28/07/21 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Are any of you teetotal?It was a hurdle to overcome mentally at first but I'm always walking around with water in hand while in a venue. Girls don't ask ever, I can't remember the last time a girl even questioned me when she found out I was drinking water instead of alcohol. All it takes is to get stronger. | /r/seduction | 04/07/21 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Looking for Wings in New York CityAwesome man, I'm in NJ. Shoot me a message, I'd be down to meet up. | /r/seduction | 30/03/21 12:21 AM |
| 1 | What does the "push pull" method mean and how do I put it into practice?Example: "You definitely look like you go to the gym a lot, wait! flex your bicep." (She does and you evaluate) "Ehh, maybe once a month...better than nothing though!" | /r/seduction | 30/03/21 12:20 AM |
| 5 | How to practice comments and open ended questions for Daygame?Comment, don't ask early in the approach, ie. "You definitely look like you're from Texas!" instead of "where are you from?". I would say for the first couple of minutes, ask as few questions as possible. You can also link comments to stories, ie. "I would bet you're from Long Island. (She affirms or disagrees) Actually, that necklace reminds me of a girl I went to school with from LI. She was very absent-minded but she drew me a birthday card one year so I still owe her on." Hope that helps as … | /r/seduction | 30/03/21 12:14 AM |
| 2 | First cold-approachIf you need a pep talk, feel free to reach out. | /r/seduction | 29/03/21 11:54 PM |
| 9 | Went downtown by myself!!! Had a blastGood job! | /r/seduction | 29/03/21 11:53 PM |
| 2 | How do you make dating and approaching women fun or at least less painful?You have to change your mindset as well as taking action. That mindset will stop progress in its tracks. Even if you were running solid game, a bad mindset will destroy your potential results. | /r/seduction | 29/03/21 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Pretty much my first cold approach - a field report.Great job! | /r/seduction | 29/03/21 11:47 PM |
| 1 | Why do some guys seem “invisible” to women whilst others seem to magnetise them?Flirting and intriguing conversation can be learned; guys who are truly good with women learned how to be that way, step by step. Look through some dating content and try different suggestions out. | /r/seduction | 03/03/21 02:47 AM |
| 1 | How do I get out of rock bottom?Focus on your health, learn a skill and get a better job, and go out to meet girls via cold approach. That's a great foundation. | /r/seduction | 03/03/21 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Why do some guys seem “invisible” to women whilst others seem to magnetise them?It's a skill, plain and simple. | /r/seduction | 02/03/21 05:04 AM |
| 2 | Approached two girls at a bar last night and made a fool of myself.Good job! Keep going! | /r/seduction | 02/03/21 04:45 AM |
| 2 | Newbie here! Today I had a date with a girl and it was a success! I’ll tell here what I think I need to do better on my second date with her!Good job! | /r/seduction | 22/02/21 02:11 AM |
| 2 | Got my first number today this morningGood job! | /r/seduction | 22/02/21 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Ladies, don't be that woman I metI've never had anything close to this happen in 8+ years of cold approach, what a tale! This is crazy, keep going for it and forget about her. | /r/seduction | 22/02/21 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Finally grew some balls and started approaching strangers, here's what happened.Good job! | /r/seduction | 22/02/21 02:01 AM |
| 1 | A workout for approaching(new at sub, would appreaciate any suggestions).Good checklist, baby stepping the interaction is important for beginners and for warming up. | /r/seduction | 12/02/21 03:26 AM |
| 2 | Finally made an approach and I feel really good about myselfGreat job! | /r/seduction | 12/02/21 03:24 AM |
| 2 | Bounce-Back Conversation TechniqueJust picked the book up not too long ago, I'm intrigued to see what else is in it. | /r/seduction | 12/02/21 03:23 AM |
| 1 | Chill funny guy or stoic cool dude? What’s the more successful approach?Be both 1 and 2. | /r/seduction | 12/02/21 03:21 AM |
| 2 | Is this attention seeking or seeking for MY attention?It's best if you find out if she's with any of the guys in that group before you make a move. | /r/seduction | 12/02/21 03:20 AM |
| 2 | Any tips on planning this date?The closer the meet-up spot is to your place, the better it is for both of you. | /r/seduction | 12/02/21 03:19 AM |
| 3 | Your home plays a huge role in your path to seductionGold! This is real advanced mindset right here! Even I've never thought about some of these! Cheers. | /r/seduction | 12/02/21 03:13 AM |
| 2 | When initiating interactions, make sure that the other person never feels like you are backing them into a corner.I agree, body positioning and timing can hurt or help in this case. | /r/seduction | 10/02/21 02:46 AM |
| 1 | How do you stop assuming every girl is in a relationship/unavailable?That's important mental work that you need to do. Try affirmations as well as actually getting out there and meeting girls. There are lots of women in relationships who are open to meeting other guys, and once you find that out first hand, it will break the above belief. | /r/seduction | 10/02/21 02:44 AM |
| 2 | The endless pursuitCheers!!! | /r/seduction | 10/02/21 02:42 AM |
| 1 | I need your helpDo you live in the NYC/NJ area? | /r/seduction | 10/02/21 02:41 AM |
| 1 | Building Game While Building A LifeGo practice, set a certain time every week to approach and just work on it. 3 approaches a week and start to increase it once you hit the numbers easily. | /r/seduction | 10/02/21 02:38 AM |
| 1 | Should you still approach a woman with a boyfriend?Nope, there are others out there. | /r/seduction | 10/02/21 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Owen Cook Rsd classic videosIt might be in an infield compilation, I'll have to check. | /r/seduction | 10/02/21 02:30 AM |
| 1 | What Happened to the Field Reports (FR)s?Don't worry, I got you guys. | /r/seduction | 09/02/21 03:31 AM |
| 1 | Nightly account #2.Congrats! | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 09:41 PM |
| 1 | How the heck do I stop being a little puss puss? Advice, techniques?It will happen every time until you get used to pushing yourself to do it anyways. Just do as much as you can or what you can and eventually you'll be able to ignore the anxiety. Push past it is the only answer. | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Girls have varying ways of showing interest so a girl doesn’t have to look you up 3 times up and down before you approach themI agree, which is exactly why IOIs don't work. | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 09:23 PM |
| 4 | Tell me you're a PUA without telling me you're a PUAI agree! | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Been feeling down lately, I have reverted to feeling like no female has ever been into me. What can i do to fix this?We have a tendency to disqualify positive experiences and magnify negative ones. For example, last night I went out and had a great interaction with a cute girl to end my session(one of the best sets I've had in recent memory). This morning I go to thinking mostly about a strange rejection that I got that night, instead of the amazing interaction. It took me a while to realize that my focus shifted and I asked myself why I even cared about the rejection. It takes me back to a statement that RSD … | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 04:38 AM |
| 2 | This specific shit test isn't in the faq so I'll ask about it.Keep approaching/gathering contacts. Nothing you can do about flaking EXCEPT get better. | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 04:33 AM |
| 1 | I wanted to have an abundance mentality but now I'm just desperate to have a girlfriend.Hey, don't give up. Keep looking to solve this problem. How are you meeting these girls? Cold approach or online/social circle? | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 04:25 AM |
| 1 | A girl who's too much into you?So she's more into you than you are to her but you're the one floating marriage? | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 04:24 AM |
| 1 | I messed up. What to do?Apologize for what you said and move on together. | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 04:21 AM |
| 1 | Owen Cook Rsd classic videosI have some old RSD material, email me at [[email protected]](mailto:[email protected]) and I'll send what I have your way. | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 04:20 AM |
| 2 | How do you create a spark?If she's interested in talking to you, you've already done a good enough job. If you've already done something sexual together, even better. No need to worry. | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 04:19 AM |
| 2 | How do I show intent without kissing the girl’s ass/ putting the girl on a pedestal?You have to show intent in a way that gets her chasing you; flirting is perfect for this. You can flirt in a way that insinuates that she's chasing you, instead of the other way around. Yesterday I thought of a line to use when getting a number (haven't tried it yet): "I like you so far and I'm going to let you have my number. Please do NOT send me crazy texts even though you're excited, you'll kill your chances...completely...". Obviously, I'm saying this in a playful manner and what's just as … | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 04:17 AM |
| 3 | Got my first number yesterday! Read to find out what happens next!High five! You are a courageous, determined young man for sure. Please do keep it up and keep writing field reports. I want to read all of them! | /r/seduction | 08/02/21 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Experience is Key!It is true, at first you need to find a line to say; however, that's 10% of approaching. There are times when not having a scripted opener is best and you have to wing it, you can only learn how to wing it by failing time and time again previously. For first time approachers, have a canned opener to use, "hey you're cute" and use it 500 times before you change it. The formula is: research a little bit of theory, go out and practice it ad nauseum, ie. until you make it work or find it doesn't wor… | /r/seduction | 05/02/21 07:45 PM |
| 3 | Experience is Key!A dense city is best, but I've known of people traveling miles from their home to a packed location at least 3 or 4 times a week, while juggling other commitments. Either you find a way or you don't. | /r/seduction | 05/02/21 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Anybody else’s heart beat fast when in conversation with a pretty girl ?Once you get used to it, it will change. | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 08:15 PM |
| 1 | The Power of Now in SeductionThumbs up. | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 08:12 PM |
| 0 | How to be as smooth and charismatic around people you’re very attracted to as those you’re not?Experience is the key. Get out there and approach! | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 08:11 PM |
| 1 | How does one practice and change during the pandemic?Get out there and approach. It's not the same as before but still doable. | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 08:07 PM |
| 1 | Player lifestyle takes a lot of time and energy. How do you stay financially secure?Schedule approach just like you schedule anything else. It's not easy to keep disciplined but essential. | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 08:06 PM |
| 1 | Player lifestyle takes a lot of time and energy. How do you stay financially secure?This is actually very important to understand. It should be part of your natural lifestyle, not some thing you do sometimes. | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 08:05 PM |
| 1 | How to handle this shit test feel like I don't have a good comeback?If you're going to approach and you're relatively new to it, just open with "hey you're cute." Very easy to execute. If you were more experienced, you would have been able to handle that statement. | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 08:02 PM |
| 2 | Cold approach "journey" advice pleaseBeing that you're new to cold approach, I would say to refrain from analysis for a good period of time (at least 6mo-1 yr) before you dive into the minutia. Just spend time taking yourself from seeing a girl to walking up and opening; experiment and learn, do not get hung up with getting any kind of result until you can approach quite easily. Once you can approach well in MOST situations, then focus on conversation skill. Baby step it. | /r/seduction | 03/02/21 07:59 PM |
| 6 | Is there a different approach for getting girls when your in highschool?Talk to a lot of people, build your social circle and you get to see who's available. It's all about social circle in school. | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Where the magic gone?Even though cold approach isn't exactly what it was, you can still do it. | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 06:44 PM |
| 1 | How to have a sexy/charming smile?It's most important to learn how to smile with your eyes instead of your mouth. If the rest of your face is tense but your mouth is grinning, it looks creepy. Watch some videos to see it demonstrated. The best way to learn "eye smiling" is to be so relaxed in field, that you can't help but express it physically. | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 06:36 PM |
| 2 | A good observation I made for getting better with womenTrue! | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 06:34 PM |
| 1 | Learning male-female interaction Gay GuysApproach more women and you will learn how to make women feel comfortable. Simple solution. | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 06:33 PM |
| 1 | To those who have no problem approaching strangers, why? What do you tell yourself/don't tell yourselfExperience. The more you do it, the less you worry about it. No shortcut to this. | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 06:31 PM |
| 2 | You just gotta shoot - express yourself!Nothing to it but to do it! | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Visualization and/or Lists for an Ideal WomanThat's important to do for sure. Many men miss that. | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 06:30 PM |
| 11 | Self confidenceConfidence is built by work and focus, get out there and cold approach while pretending to be confident and after a while, you will become confident by taking right action. | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 06:29 PM |
| 6 | More important than how another person reacts to you, is how you choose to react to them.Double thumbs up. | /r/seduction | 02/02/21 06:28 PM |
| 1 | To anyone who’s felt too “nice”Two thumbs up! | /r/seduction | 01/02/21 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Always worried about what people think. How can I snap out of it?The voice is YOU. Start small, taking tiny steps in the right direction to build that muscle. True friends want their friends to grow and evolve, do not overlook cutting people off who don't inspire and cheer you on. Use criticism to fuel you but don't spend most of your time with critical people, even if it's family. Start doing small things you desire that might incite criticism to prep you for bigger life changes. | /r/seduction | 01/02/21 11:55 PM |
| 1 | Stuck in a perpetual small talk phase. How can I move beyond just surface level conversation topics and actually focus on deepening the connection with a girl?Experience will allow you to take your focus from maintaining the conversation to deepening it. Once you feel like you have experience on your side, make fun statements about the girl ("you look like you're from New Jersey") and ask questions that point to intimacy ("you probably only date drug dealers, right?") It, however, starts with being comfortable holding conversation. | /r/seduction | 01/02/21 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Swearing?All good here. | /r/seduction | 01/02/21 04:37 AM |
| 2 | Messed up and cant move onFeel your feelings fully, then realize life is best lived looking forward. | /r/seduction | 01/02/21 04:36 AM |
| 1 | How to show interest without looking like you have an agenda?How much cold approach experience do you have? Dance floor opening is one of the most challenging, you really have to get their attention and get physical early. I would say focus less on looking agenda-less, use a basic opener like "you/you guys look like fun" and learn how to get physical, ie. getting hugs and handholds quickly, when on the dance floor. Treat it like an experiment. RSD Ozzie's Physical Game book gives some good tips on this. | /r/seduction | 01/02/21 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Why nice guys finish last⬇️Same title! Haven't read it but I'll give it a look. | /r/seduction | 01/02/21 02:06 AM |
| 3 | When cold approaching, what REALLY should you really go after?If you are new to cold approach, the first year to 18 months should be just blind learning. Go out, try crazy things, approach saying silly statements, etc. These are your training wheel times where you get to set the foundation for getting better at game. The only way to master game is through experimentation and refinement. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 07:22 PM |
| 1 | What benefits do you get from being in your head vs. out of your head? How do you shift from one to the other on a daily basis?Time and experience make the difference. Being in state, as in being extremely outgoing by doing something out of the ordinary, doesn't matter. Treating approaching as a routine, step by step process that you can consistently follow and execute is much more important. State is fleeting, mastery is where it's at. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Scarce mindset transformationTrue, abundance is mindset+action. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 07:14 PM |
| 2 | 2 years later I reached out to my ex. She told me she doesn't love me anymore and wants nothing to do with me. Help😞Enjoy the memories you had with her and leave it at that. Life is better with a forward-facing focus. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 07:12 PM |
| 1 | FR Had a pretty good instadateGood job! The main thing that reduces flaking is getting and allowing her to chase. She probably came close to that by qualifying herself once but more was definitely needed. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 07:10 PM |
| 2 | Field Report - Bangalore, India - 31st Jan - Your valuable suggestions could help greatly.Also, try to post more detailed conversation that way it might be easier to see where you messed up. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 07:05 PM |
| 3 | Field Report - Bangalore, India - 31st Jan - Your valuable suggestions could help greatly.Good job approaching during this whole mess, it takes guts and gusto to keep going! | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 07:04 PM |
| 2 | Why nice guys finish last⬇️No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover is a great book to read about this topic. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 06:58 PM |
| 3 | HelpTalk about things you like to do, ask her what she does for work, music she listens to, what she watches on tv, etc. No need to make it too complicated. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 06:56 PM |
| 2 | Do women generally prefer mr smooth or someone who shows a bit more vulnerability?Both work, and you'll find that you can strike a balance but through field experience only. Get out there and make it happen! | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 06:52 PM |
| 5 | Feel lonely, but freaked out by intimacy (25 f)Definitely therapy should be your first step. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Can you even trust RSD (Real Social Dynamics) anymore? Any of you that do, have you seen any actual results getting with girls?Try the live program Hotseat, if they are still running it. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 06:47 PM |
| 1 | Not sure if my approach makes my intentions clearIt would be hard for anyone here to give advice with seeing where your faults are. Do you write field reports at all? Those would make it much easier to spot and correct behaviors that you do. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 06:46 PM |
| 1 | Can you even trust RSD (Real Social Dynamics) anymore? Any of you that do, have you seen any actual results getting with girls?How so? The Hotseat at Home program is very different from the live program, I would reckon. If that was the one you looked at, then maybe I could see that. Without clear instructor narrating, infield footage can be overwhelming for sure. | /r/seduction | 31/01/21 04:51 AM |
| 1 | Can you even trust RSD (Real Social Dynamics) anymore? Any of you that do, have you seen any actual results getting with girls?Their free content is a great place to start but to evolve in game, you need to pay for the best. They had great programs before they completely switched to self-help. Transformations, HotSeat and Ozzie's Physical Game book all helped me beyond words. | /r/seduction | 30/01/21 09:05 PM |
| 1 | Just couldn't approachThat will happen again and again until you learn to push through fear and take action. I would say expect it to keep happening, but also keep going out and working at it. It can also help if you take steps to approaching, such as asking for the time, then complimenting the next girl, then making small talk with another and building up to a full on approach. Work on building your mind and mindset in order to help you break through the fear barrier. What city are you in? | /r/seduction | 30/01/21 09:03 PM |
| 2 | Nightly account #1.Nice, I've never been to Australia but I would love to game there. I'm in New Jersey. Keep us all informed of your progress! | /r/seduction | 30/01/21 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Nightly account #1.Awesome job, keep it going! What city are you in? | /r/seduction | 30/01/21 03:22 AM |
| 1 | I've been approaching women since 2009 and have yet to have any kind of success, hundreds of approaches later. I feel immense self-hate and need someone to talk to.I have a very similar story to yours in some respects. I got into game after having being a painfully shy kid who had never had a girlfriend, barely even had a girl take an interest in me. I struggled to approach for 4 years, doing awkward opinion openers in sparse solo sessions because I had no wing and the mental immensity of it all wore me out too quickly to go out on a regular schedule. After 4 years of searching, I found a group of wings in NYC and they motivated me so much that I went out … | /r/seduction | 06/11/20 03:35 AM |
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