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| 1 | Men who left Red Pill, how can a woman you want to be with help you feel "safe" regarding expressing your vulnerabilities and emotions, but also respect her own 'capacity' to take them?things that should be brought up to a therapist. Things a regular person is not equipped to handle and shouldn't have to handle. This was my exact thoughts but I got bullied pretty thoroughly about it. Once I explained that it was VERY dark stuff, it seemed like everyone understood and backed off, but I'm also trying to find that balance. I feel like I can be trusted, but when people like that intentionally skip vital parts of the story, it only seems like they're iintentionally trying to discre… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/23 02:01 PM |
| 1 | Men who left Red Pill, how can a woman you want to be with help you feel "safe" regarding expressing your vulnerabilities and emotions, but also respect her own 'capacity' to take them?I think anonymous story telling online is fine (which I do 99% of the time), but likewise to the opening up. The reason why I say things online, anonymously, is because the chances of anyone finding out who these people are is impossibly low. I change immaterial details online to further shield their identity. I've actually been complimented for it because it helps others know they're not alone too, that others go through what they're going through, and they can open up without worrying too much… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/23 10:44 AM |
| 1 | Men who left Red Pill, how can a woman you want to be with help you feel "safe" regarding expressing your vulnerabilities and emotions, but also respect her own 'capacity' to take them?Yes, I completely understand this feeling. This is a huge reason why even if I do feel the need to share with the ones closest to me, I'm retracting identity in 99% of situations, sometimes I'll say it's a woman if it's really a guy (or not at all), or other things so things can't be linked back. The only way I divulge info like that is if I'm being heavily abused. I do not hold in severe abuse anymore at all (though even then I'm more patient with it than I should be most days). I'm very sorry … | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/23 08:47 PM |
| 2 | Men who left Red Pill, how can a woman you want to be with help you feel "safe" regarding expressing your vulnerabilities and emotions, but also respect her own 'capacity' to take them?Thank you for your compassion. It's a very difficult thing to have to navigate, but then also be a firm believer that these things happen randomly and sometimes it has nothing to do with me. We can't always foresee every bad situation or even get out of it safely once we realize it is bad. I understand this in an intellectual way. I think there is just a general 'how do I still take care of my male friends, but also still respect my history too?' vibe. I shut down and just don't talk to them any… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/23 08:23 PM |
| 2 | Men who left Red Pill, how can a woman you want to be with help you feel "safe" regarding expressing your vulnerabilities and emotions, but also respect her own 'capacity' to take them?If the man starts with "I've never told anyone this before" or "I have trouble talking about this..." Honestly I don't think any one of them has said this. I think there is always an assumed confidentiality, which for the most part I honour, but things difficult for me to process on my own (again, often dark stuff, trauma, clarification of someone else's gossiping, etc.), I do confide in my own friends; it's not done in a "gossip" type way, but more of a "This is what a friend told me, what are … | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/23 07:57 PM |
| 5 | Men who left Red Pill, how can a woman you want to be with help you feel "safe" regarding expressing your vulnerabilities and emotions, but also respect her own 'capacity' to take them?Ah gotcha, sorry. I think my sleepiness had me reading you incorrectly. Thank you for the clarification. I just want to be there the best I'm able, but there is a limit and appropriateness level that is difficult to discern. Such is life. :/ | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/23 04:36 PM |
| 4 | Men who left Red Pill, how can a woman you want to be with help you feel "safe" regarding expressing your vulnerabilities and emotions, but also respect her own 'capacity' to take them?keep everything to yourself. Behave as if you never heard anything from them, until you are again in private with this person and they want to talk about it. This policy actually caused A LOT of trauma in my life (got SAed by a PUA and didn't tell anyone because he recorded us and told his friends, they then spent years bullying me), so I will never do this anymore. I guess it's important to then tell people I cannot be there for them for anything more than hugs and distraction/hangout/fun gamin… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/05/23 04:08 PM |
| 2 | Men who left Red Pill, how did it feel for you to be told you that you were unworthy because you weren't to their standards?I enjoy grilling burgers and frying chicken so if I gotta give up the six pack for some southern flavor in my food so be it Preach it, brother. Living your best life. LMS is great for opening the door, but my personal uniqueness was usually what kept a girl around This is what's I've found too. I mean it seems obvious that someone would like that, but what do you have beyond that? That's the stuff that has sticking power. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/05/23 09:26 PM |
| 2 | Has anyone who is ex redpill specifically a man who left ever got too the point of hating who you were becoming honestly that was me when I was redpill.I'm not a man, but was the lover of two of them. One admitted to me as part of our 'healing' journey together, the other just left, but has historically been very open and vulnerable with me about this kind of stuff. Generally I'm very tight-lipped about things and don't say who people are when I vent about them, so I'm often a trusted woman for a lot of men's counter-venting. In the past, when we've come back into each other's orbits in our "will they, won't they" trope we've lived in, he'll us… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/05/23 09:23 PM |
| 3 | Men who left Red Pill, how did it feel for you to be told you that you were unworthy because you weren't to their standards?The "Looks, Money, and Status" that apparently is all women care about as if we're soulless creatures from the depth Hell-bent on singing our siren song to entrap men forever or we discard them like a piece of rotten flesh (similar exaggeration to how Red Pill frames this). | /r/ExRedPill | 02/05/23 08:57 PM |
| 1 | Men who left Red Pill, how did it feel for you to be told you that you were unworthy because you weren't to their standards?You have zero achievements? Goals? Aspirations you're currently put into motion? | /r/ExRedPill | 02/05/23 07:40 PM |
| 1 | Men who left Red Pill, what is one thing your woman can be aware of and do better that can make your life easier?There is more to it than submitting in a executive dysfunctional way. My parters still listen to me and many of my concerns are taken into account, but ultimately the final decision is his as the "lead" in our family. I am okay with this because I'm able to still voice my concerns and am still respected. This is where MANY Red Pill men went wrong. The ones that cannot and are forced to be submissive are way more dysfunctional and abusive than a woman who chooses to submit to his "lead". Again, I… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/23 04:27 PM |
| – | Men who left Red Pill, what is one thing your woman can be aware of and do better that can make your life easier?I don't think they all do. Consent isn't dirty, it's just a requirement in a sense. They want submission, but where it breaks down is when the man doesn't lead right and that's what these fucked up versions don't get. There are women who want to submit to a good and quality man, but a good quality man also understands his full duties as well, even keeping up with potential mental health issues instead of doing this whole "Oh well I have ADHD and that means I can't do my parts, but you still have… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/23 01:31 PM |
| -1 | Men who left Red Pill, what is one thing your woman can be aware of and do better that can make your life easier?I am much more than just a "housewife". Unlearning traditional gendered skills is a multi-generational process. Probably one of the hardest things coming from traditional Roman Catholicism. Like, "This is okay? You swear it? I might not actually go to Hell?!" Certainly none of what you describe is compatible with redpill, though. I think that your vision of what everything is has been greatly skewed by the more fucked up versions, the loud ones who skew it with their dysfunction and mental healt… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/23 01:16 PM |
| -1 | Men who left Red Pill, what is one thing your woman can be aware of and do better that can make your life easier?We still practice a traditional relationship 90%+ of the time, I just have polyamorous relationships on the side (totally legit, my main partner knows what he needs to know). I stay at home and do my wifely duties, pay bills, clean house, purchasing, do a majority of the caretaking of our child, gardening, cooking, etc. He works (and is mono) and brings in the money, does the repairs, mowing lawn, leads, etc. We have since switched from religion to philosophy, but for the most part are still mos… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/23 01:04 PM |
| 0 | Men who left Red Pill, what is one thing your woman can be aware of and do better that can make your life easier?Yeah, sex negativity was detrimental to our mental health so there is still a lot of stigmas around ours. One of our families shunned us and the other completely cut us off and framed us a cheaters. It was all very gross honestly. But regardless of the issues around it, we still worked well for many years. I think many people like to at least try different things and can still be considered "traditional". It's sad that we need to hide ourselves from others still in 2023. Wild world. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/23 12:51 PM |
| 0 | Men who left Red Pill, what is one thing your woman can be aware of and do better that can make your life easier?Respectively, there is A LOT that goes on in the bedroom that many traditional relationship seekers do that don't announce to their social circles or church or keep secret. While we may look traditional on the outside and still is mostly, many of them still participate in BDSM and alternative structures for their needs. This is more common than you think. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/23 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?You're assuming a lot...and you're wrong about a lot too. Good luck with those assertions working out for you in other areas of your life. Definitely good luck on others not calling you out as an "adult groomer" as well. You ever wonder why PUA stuff is on a decline? Or can you not mentally see more than 5 feet in front of you as well? Also, he would have gotten wwwaaayyy better love and sex had he not done all that by the way. Knowing that our stuff was being recorded was the reason why he didn… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/23 10:26 AM |
| 2 | Men who have left Red Pill, what insecurity did you have that made Red Pill an attractive ideology for you at that time?I'm sorry you've had to endure all that. Bullying can be relentless sometimes because we beat ourselves up long after the bully stopped. Sounds like you have a wonderful plan ahead of you. Best wishes to you and Ephesians 5:33 NLT. ✌🏽 Just remember that good women are capable of loving you even though your perceived social "value" isn't that great. It depends on a lot of factors. Don't give up on yourself. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/05/23 12:07 AM |
| 2 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?It's called "adult grooming". When someone pretends to love you and want you, it shouldn't be seen as a con all the time. That's on his soul, not mine thankfully. 👎🏽 | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 11:59 PM |
| 3 | Men who have left Red Pill, what insecurity did you have that made Red Pill an attractive ideology for you at that time?Because there are different ways to be introspective about different things in life? Not everyone goes through the same experiences. :) | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?May you recover in half the time with double the flirting! 🍻 | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?Yeah, that shit is scary now. Even as a woman, the sheer amount of times my QPRs like this got flipped on me as some kind of immoral person is wild. The Manosphere seemed like the men's version of the MeToo shit, but it was dripping with lies, fucking with women's minds and hearts, tricking women into thinking these guys actually loved her, etc. My God, it was all ugly. I actually had to get rid of some of my guy friends because they were talking about my QPRs in front of my main partner like I'… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 09:50 PM |
| 7 | Men who have left Red Pill, what insecurity did you have that made Red Pill an attractive ideology for you at that time?It's not as easy as you think. Many deal with issues simply because they don't want to adhere to social norms for women. We just end up making friends with those like us and we're usually at home where you can't see us. 😅 When you're full "womanly" with social norms, there is a lot of faking going on too. Lots of suppression of certain emotions which end up coming out later in relationships. There is even more BS to deal with with them usually. I just prefer to be myself, an introvert, gamer, et… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?Yes!! This is great. And no you're not late; I've been loving reading all these great answers and almost no trolls. Basically record-breaking. 🤣 | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 08:45 PM |
| 1 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?The "before everything went to shit" because of Red Pill and PUA ex. I guess I could have called him the fuck face he was, but there were a lot of men who were amazing before this shit show infected their minds. He was also one. Eh, it happens. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?Right, I understand the concept. I've read about it. But why is this even some major talking point within dating and relationships? They beat it into men now as if this is some majority issue. There are probably less women doing this than there is car accidents. It's such a tiny issue that's used to paint all women in this psychopath way, but most women are probably appalled by this behaviour. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 08:25 PM |
| 1 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?I understand that well. I've been pretty afraid to commit to men too and then they leave even when we have a good thing going. I didn't even realize how hurtful it was until one of my favourite ones left. I always wonder why they pick me and think they're fucking with me. Red Pill unfortunately messed with women too. :/ Best wishes in conquering those fears. I miss dirty talk with the ones I love. lololol sorry jk Hopefully we both obtain those amazing relationships we want. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?This was amazing honestly. You had a fear, recognized that fear, and did what you could to minimize it, then you went externally to find solutions, joined something that sounded good a first, sensed when something was bad, left, and are now taking the steps to heal and acknowledging that you're struggling with telling someone. To be frank, I believed this probably was one of my ex-boyfriends issues and I felt bad because I didn't recognize it. I just kept getting upset that he was using these th… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 06:23 PM |
| 1 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??Let's be real, what's the actual rate of women to do this as part of their "evolutionary hardwiring". Men have most certainly fallen in love with women who are killers? Nobody has been able to come up with a substantial number. There are more rapes in the world than there are of that existing. There is no "truth" here. You're saying just because, say, a million women do a thing in a world where there are like 3 billion women, that it means they're all like that? So let's flip that on men and say… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 06:08 PM |
| 1 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?I'm pretty sure it's because they're targeting neurodivergent people, conservatives, etc. They target vulnerable people like typical predators. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 05:14 PM |
| 2 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?Yeah, it's all pretty gross. So many of these guys are so vulnerable to it and expecting this stuff to transfer to IRL relationships. :/ | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 04:18 PM |
| 2 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?There are many variations that spawned, but basically the 'original' that many older ones and myself remember (30+ years old/pre-2010ish) was basically a group/groups that helped both men and women learn about toxic and abusive people, sex positivity, boundaries, learning about our own 'natural' tendencies (but not in a derogatory way), human behaviour, Stoicism, being 'good' without God, and traditional gender roles were a big aspect for those who wanted that and how to be good at that and crea… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 02:12 PM |
| 2 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?Their worldview is so bonkers. I mean, we do get hit on sometimes, but it's not like we're setting up booths and giving our info out to everyone who asks. Most times you can see guys checking you out and they're too afraid to say anything. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 11:38 AM |
| 4 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?That’s because they’re off doing their own thing and not pissing and moaning about women in the internet. This is the way. Pre COVID I ran the Cooking for One or Two classes at the local Men’s Shed, and a lot of these guys were widowers, recently retired or divorced empty nesters, and just wanted to make some friends and learn how to do things for themselves. This is what I remember about the original. It was amazing to usually meet those guys too because they were more receptive to other fun co… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 11:37 AM |
| 2 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?It tends to happen when other victims find each other. We often end up in chats together and befriend each other too. lol Thank you, I'm mostly over it, but it's really good for the other women who might still be suffering through their experiences to read, just like what happened. It shows clear patterns of non-consentual misconduct. I know it's dark, but it can help others get recovery info. And we're glad you're here. You're here recognizing that things being taught maybe weren't that great a… | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 11:35 AM |
| 2 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?You're free to believe whatever you want, but most end up rejecting a large part of it because they realize it's a lot of cherry-picked things that made them treat others like shit. They usually find healthier alternatives. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 11:30 AM |
| 10 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?I did enjoy the original philosophy of “going your own way” though, because it wasn’t about hating others. Just loving yourself. Ah yes, the elusive original MGTOW that hardly anyone remembers. Glad you're here. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/04/23 12:24 AM |
| 5 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?I understand everything you said. I'm so sorry you went through that as well. Sadly I only validated it because I thought I was in trouble and gave him what he wanted. 😭 The love bombing and forced dissonance broke me. I'm trying not to let it break love for me though, you know? Just another life experience. You should watch this: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=kMH5gGg2mu0 | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 11:30 PM |
| 9 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?One of my favourite lovers that I met online pulled PUA shit on me when I finally went to go meet him in person. I just cried buckets back in my room after every night we hung out. I tried so hard to push it out of my mind during the entire trip. He used the same moves I had seen online in the really dark forums, like 'making sure' he grabs her hand suddenly to rub his dick in public to "push past her 'last minute resistance' (LMR)" so she doesn't have time to think about what he's just done. I … | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 10:40 PM |
| 2 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?Convenient omitting. Fascinating... 😑 | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 10:33 PM |
| 2 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?Yes, I would love this as well! | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 09:36 PM |
| 8 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?This is actually very fascinating and adds to the pattern of "contextomy" that is rampant with most of the "coaches" that teach all this to vulnerable men. Ugh. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 09:11 PM |
| 3 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?It's unfortunate, but I cannot fix that, hence my updated comment to try and get others to read prior to rash downvoting. Redditors are fickle, but internet points are meaningless here. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 09:05 PM |
| 3 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?I will not! 🤭 In all seriousness, this is honestly an amazing reflection of how many men likely feel and probably aren't able to verbalize yet. You're doing a great service to many of them who are struggling right now with the same conclusions you came to. Keep telling your story homie. 🤍 | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 08:08 PM |
| 8 | Men who have left Red Pill, what was the first falsehood you recognized that led to you starting to doubt the rest of their claims?They applied the Pareto Principle to it which is that says 80% of outcomes result from 20% of all causes, but it's generally not used in that context. I think that would be another example of the very common "kettle logic" that is applied to a lot of other things they say as well. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 05:49 PM |
| 1 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??I did too actually. My professional taught it to me because I was recovering from long-term abuse. Hopefully that helps you if you need it. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 03:57 PM |
| 2 | Wtf is this subreddit?Bruh, spittin' straight facts; that's a great analogy honestly. Too many people put their hands in the cookie jar, took out what they didn't like, and only swallowed like half the pill. The rest they just made up. lol Egos can be a bitch sometimes. Schrödinger's pill: both red and not red at the same time. 😅 | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 01:50 PM |
| 2 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?I love the science behind it honestly; especially with shrooms and how they legit make your brain make more neural connections. There were soooo many video games that helped me break through my BS religious indoctrination. Bioshock was up there for me too, but RDR2 was gold as well. :) | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 12:11 PM |
| 2 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?I too like trippin' balls and riding horses into the sunset while waiting for Dutch to come up with a plan. I heard all he needs is more time... | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 11:39 AM |
| 9 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?Right?! Brothers are in touch with themselves, aren't afraid to be vulnerable, tellin' like it is, helping women here become better lovers...this is the good stuff! 🔥🧯 | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 11:36 AM |
| 5 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?Does she have her own mental health struggles? Did you guys just have a child and maybe she has PPD? Just regular depression? Does she also work? How much stress does she carry? Are you kind to her? Do you initiate? Was she raised in strict religion and/or sex negative environment? There are so many questions that need to be answered. Edit: Never mind, saw the post history. There are some serious issues there that are not going to be fixed by basic levels of support. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 09:42 AM |
| 5 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??You may want to do more research champ. Even then, do you realize how incredibly rare this is?! Like extremely rare compared to the billions of women on this planet. Are all men rapists? No. Compared to the billions of men, this too is rare. Painting such a broad, derogatory statement is exactly why sex-based stigmas continue, for both sexes. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 08:01 AM |
| 3 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??The phrase you're looking for in your first paragraph is called "grooming". https://www.modernintimacy.com/understanding-grooming-in-adult-relationships/ Hope that helps! | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 07:54 AM |
| 5 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??some women do end up in shit relationships where they get treated like garbage and don't leave. If you actually talk to these women though, they sure as fuck don't LOVE it. They actually really, really want the guys to treat them better. But they tend to have self worth problems that lead them to shitty men and make it hard for them to leave. Many of these men know how to exploit this type of woman too, convince her to cut off friends and family and such so it becomes even tougher to leave. NAIL… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 07:52 AM |
| 6 | Wtf is this subreddit?Ooooh ad hominem attacks! Sooo original! | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 07:48 AM |
| 8 | Wtf is this subreddit?He has ascended beyond questions. He knows all. Now go hit the gym. /s | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 07:46 AM |
| 4 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?They do what they do for financial gain. They are not doing things in the best interest of their followers. Grifters gonna grift. It's just sad they took advantage of so many vulnerable men (and women via proxy). They are the very types of people they warned us about. Powerful statement. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 07:15 AM |
| 3 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?You're clearly not here much. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 07:12 AM |
| 1 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??The clips of similar teaching was definitely in The Vow, but I don't review that stuff anymore. It was all too retraumatizing for me; you'd have to find what you're looking for elsewhere. There is a lot out there though. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/04/23 12:20 AM |
| 1 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??They actually covered it really well on The Vow on HBO, unfortunately there is limited info on the relationship stuff. There are blurbs in there. Something like this might be good to watch, PiS is a great educational source: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ctZ23SThdIQ | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 09:55 PM |
| 3 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??You got it boss. Easy peasy. lol | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 08:56 PM |
| 3 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??Did you know that Red Pill is nearly identical to what Keith Raniere taught in his relationship seminars prior to it being created, right down to dumbing down women and mistreatment of them for acquiescence? I am fairly certain he didn't create it. :/ | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 08:43 PM |
| 11 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?Second, in most cases women will reject you because they do not know if you are into her I think this was the hardest part about being with Red Pillers. They're taught to not invest too much, so a guy would get me all into him and then he'd do the push > pull > push > pull shit with negging and it would make me so confused. I just gave up after a while. It was too hard to not know if he was going to like me that day. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 08:40 PM |
| 7 | Wtf is this subreddit?That is one of a few definitions of it. There is a men's self-help group that is basically a really fucked up version of codependency recovery, casual sex via deception and mind games, with some pipeline to PUA stuff. Then there is those who do want relationships, but want the traditional ones with gender roles, wifey duties with husband duties, with husband being primarily the lead, mainly partnership stuff (this is what we did, wasn't adversarial). Then there is a somewhat abusive master slave… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 08:27 PM |
| 5 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??Again, you don't understand abuse on the brain and the addictive properties of that particular type of grooming. Here, maybe this will help: https://www.healthyplace.com/blogs/verbal-abuse-relationships/2018/5/love-bombing-gaslighting-abuse I'm just trying to let you know what you're complaining about is a brain-chemical thing that happens in those types of relationships. The love bombing > silent treatment/punishment cycle creates that addiction to the person. This is why the cycle is so mind-b… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 08:17 PM |
| 5 | Men who were Red Pill, but are not anymore, what was the single most important, hard lesson you learned that led to you leaving?Damn, this is great. Very raw and honest. Thank you. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 07:35 PM |
| 9 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??You do not understand the brain science behind it. We're at an impasse. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 07:32 PM |
| 10 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??I can see narcissistic assholes from a distance are blind to all the bad stuff Not if they were raised around it. My trained and degreed professional had to teach me that this is literally a thing in abuse recovery. Abuse victims, both men and women, are known to dissociate and normalize certain abuses due to trauma responses that are automatic responses in the brain. Those relationships rarely start that way. This process is called "betrayal blindness". It's a trauma response similar to fawning… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 07:29 PM |
| 7 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??Please don't forget there are still a lot of abusive people that hide behind Red Pill. They too must be talked about. Degradation of women and their behaviours, even when completely misread, significantly increases in these environments. Referring to people as plates and other invalidating terms makes people devalue them in their minds. They're more likely to treat them badly. It's how it all works. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 07:21 PM |
| 14 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??You clearly do not understand what abuse does to people's brains. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 07:18 PM |
| 10 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??You have a fundamental misunderstanding to how this type of grooming works. This is why you come at it with the angle you do. Just go research what it does to their brains. This is confirmed science. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 07:17 PM |
| 5 | This is a genuine question— where do redpill men get the idea that women LOVE being with “bad boys”/borderline abusive men??If I could guess based on personal experiences, I would say it's probably the Stockholm Syndrome that makes them extra compliant regarding abuse and fear or their fawn response that makes it look like they enjoy it. There are a lot of trauma responses they utilize and they just describe it in a very dysfunctional way. They're very typical responses to men like that and I can see their confirmation bias being triggered just by how it looks. Just because she's fawning or trying to be extra nice to… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 06:38 PM |
| 1 | What kind of demographic is most vulnerable to the red pill?It's called loaded language and many are able to detect it, many are trained in it, many can read between the lines. Let me show you: most liberals have convinced people it’s irresponsible (regarding the liberal punk/emo scene) Genuinely curious, have you personally spoken to "most"? Are there studies done on "most" of them? Can you confirm this or is this merely a biased opinion that clearly shows disdain between the lines? Do you know if "most" have said things about irresponsibility? Have you… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 01:43 PM |
| 1 | What kind of demographic is most vulnerable to the red pill?Why argue when people legitimately believe woke culture belongs to the wrong crowd? You wouldn't read it even if I attempted to change your mind anyways. It would be a waste of efforts. | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 01:18 PM |
| 1 | What kind of demographic is most vulnerable to the red pill?Uhhh no. lol | /r/ExRedPill | 28/04/23 01:09 PM |
| 1 | How do you explain bad relationships?Granted I don't know how old you are, but "emotionally disturbed" was like a catch-all decades ago. When they had my family convinced I was ADHD without seeing an actual trained pro (found out later I wasn't), they considered me "a disturbance to my classmates" just because my leg would shake. 🙄 When they found out it was actually PTSD because my addict parents were abusing me, they called me "disturbed" too because I would talk about all the crazy shit I would do with my foster brothers (like h… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 08:09 PM |
| 1 | How do you explain bad relationships?I read your post history because I was curious what makes you believe you're "defective" and I don't see much honestly. Are you autistic or blunted or anything? Anhedonia? PTSD? (If that's too personal, no pressure.) | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Don't you think the redpill is somehow necessary?I think a form of Red Pilling is necessary, but it's not THIS version that's needed. They need info from actual professionals about abuse, toxicity, etc. Not from anons on the internet that don't give a shit about them, the crimes they commit because of them, etc. The Matrix movies actually talk about the more worthy version of Red Pilling that's less traumatizing, more helpful, and more realistically educational. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 06:56 PM |
| 2 | How do you explain bad relationships?I think it can be many reasons: physical, emotional, coping, etc. I don't think it's wrong to choose either way. I think it's wrong to use others using lies, emotional manipulation, and such to get those needs met without their informed consent. I've had amazing, deep sexual relationships where we allow each other to be introverts too, and have our own lives outside of the relationship; there's just a level of compatibility that's needed, honesty, consent, and great communication. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 05:09 PM |
| 5 | Why does it seem like most women are in a toxic relationship?Wow, this hits deep. I'm so sorry to hear about your experiences. I've had similar; they are very painful. Dealing with the survival mode my brain was in and then suffering through the isolation was the worst! Everything seemed like a threat afterwards. I've read it takes an average of 7 tries to get out of those. I hope you are doing better these days. 🤍 | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 04:36 PM |
| 1 | When they say women have it easy, it makes me laughYou weren't, a billion or more others were. There are other people that exist and have life experiences beyond you. I pity you for truly believing that people are "brain dead", or a "feminist", or a "leftist" for simply knowing things beyond your personal scope. That must be difficult. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 03:18 PM |
| 1 | When they say women have it easy, it makes me laughI think it's understandable since most of them are raised to supress emotions, not talk about things because it's too 'weak', etc. That's detrimental to one's mental health. I was raised in a military family and very similar to a man and I completely understand those issues and had similar affects to men. It's not healthy at all. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 03:02 PM |
| 5 | Why does it seem like most women are in a toxic relationship?Unfortunately mentally and emotionally abusive relationships also affect the brain's regulation with certain things; most notably the hippocampus and amygdala which are responsible for A LOT of vital regulatory processes that can have a detrimental impact on their life, career, and social life. Both men and women are affected, but I've read that women are affected deeper. Due to these changes at a brain level, they often become unlike their authentic selves, may be more hyper-vigilent, more defe… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 03:00 PM |
| 1 | I want to denounce the concept of SMV but for some reason, it’s been true from what I can seeWhat I said wasn't generalized. I'm not talking about all of them; I said "often". You're arguing a point I didn't make. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 11:47 AM |
| 2 | How do you explain bad relationships?With all due respect, it seems you view relationships in a very surface level way. There are many things we get from a relationship and I think you're not seeing everything you could, their potential, their healing power, etc. You appear to see them almost as a means to an end with some caveats. They're not there to be a person to be loved, they're there to satisfy your physiological needs. That's the transactional relationships that Red Pill talks about. Those are the ones that hurt others beca… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 11:23 AM |
| 2 | It's the brain-warping hypocrisy for meWelcome to the club. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 04:55 AM |
| 2 | How do you explain bad relationships?No relationship is perfect. I've been in healthy relationships with former abuse survivors like myself because we've committed to healing together and helping each other. People say that we're some of the most toxic people to be with, but it's not always the case. Some dysfunction can come from outwardly normal seeming people. We hide a lot from public view. Even mature people won't have easy-going ones 100% of the time. Bad days exist. We can't always be these mentally stable people all of the … | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 04:53 AM |
| 1 | I want to denounce the concept of SMV but for some reason, it’s been true from what I can seeWould it help you feel better if I said "may"? "Often" is an okay word for that spectrum. Because I, too, know many people that support my perspective as well. Let's not get stuck on things like this and detract from the point. | /r/ExRedPill | 19/04/23 04:35 AM |
| 1 | When they say women have it easy, it makes me laughI just think there are a lot of mental health issues like DPDR or depression that many of them suffer with and don't realize their thinking is distorted. Many of them haven't attended therapy and sometimes have the resulting disconnected thoughts and beliefs, then that's projected out towards the things that confound them the most. I'm a fairly shy and nerdy girl and even when a guy and I are totally hitting it off, I still struggle with opening up. We're not always these perfect beings that don… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/23 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Good self-help literature?I liked Models by Mark Manson. I think he's very thorough, talks in detail, and focused more on what the woman is likely thinking alongside what the men would think for comparison, which I really liked. Some for some odd reason some hate it. I loved it. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/23 11:02 PM |
| 1 | Is marni your personal wing girl a red pill youtuber ?I haven't watched enough of her to say she's misogynistic, but she encourages women (or I guess who is watching her) to become something else to attract their partner. These are just my personal beliefs based on my experiences, but anytime I've had to fake interaction for attraction, it's led to me always feeling guilt for not attracting them for who I really am (hence my description). I am a more reserved woman who can be shy and observant more in the beginning until I open up. I was taught to … | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/23 08:51 PM |
| 1 | Is marni your personal wing girl a red pill youtuber ?She will appeal to a certain women. If everyone used "her method" (which isn't really her method), women would get boring. I personally like being flirty and fun rather being this object that has to project out her desire to be sexual with him within the first 10 minutes. I tried to do the whole women pickup artist vibe and it just seemed unnatural to me. I'm a dorky girl who loves LotR and Star Wars, and plays video games; if a guy doesn't like how shy I am naturally, he's not for me. Everyone … | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/23 08:37 PM |
| 15 | If you're under 6'1" (185 cm) among white males, it's over.No it's not. Stop fear-mongering. Go to therapy. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/23 01:33 PM |
| 7 | I want to denounce the concept of SMV but for some reason, it’s been true from what I can seeThe hotter she is, the more attention she gets. This isn't rocket science here. This isn't revolutionary. These deductions aren't genius. This has been the case since the beginning of time. Archaeologists have found wall carvings that are basically that time's version of dick pics. Photoshop didn't exist then though. Men are more likely to not only throw attention her way, but money, gifts, travel, food, surgeries, cosmetic procedures, hair care, etc.; there are down sides to that as well that a… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/23 12:09 PM |
| 1 | Help me - Older brother deep into manosphere and enforcing the beliefs on meIt was and still is a pretty common thing in the gaming community. | /r/ExRedPill | 18/04/23 11:36 AM |
| 4 | Have any of you ever really thought about this sayingA great example of this I learned from personal experiences. Many years ago I learned that I have β thalassemia. There is strong evidence that both HbE and β thalassemia traits confer resistance to P. falciparum, which is Malaria. That was fun to learn. Where others might be completely wiped out, it's highly likely I would survive. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/23 03:39 PM |
| 1 | Help me - Older brother deep into manosphere and enforcing the beliefs on meYeah, trying to self-solve that dissonance can be maddening. I'm sorry you have to watch it. I watched 2 lovers, and 13 friends go through it. All I could do is just cry and walk away. It sucks. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/23 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Help me - Older brother deep into manosphere and enforcing the beliefs on meRed Pillers (Andrew Tate especially) tend to have A LOT of biases, cognitive distortions, and fallacies to explain away their dysfunctional or distorted thinking. I was with a few, so I COMPLETELY understand your frustration. It's mental pain is severe. Here are just a few to bring up to see what he says: Kettle logic – using multiple, jointly inconsistent arguments to defend a position Moving the goalposts (raising the bar) – argument in which evidence presented in response to a specific claim … | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/23 12:36 PM |
| 18 | Why do guys not listen to women ?BeCaUsE wE DoN't kNoW wHaT wE WaNt. We're too stupid to understand our own hearts, desires, and needs. We're too much of a slut even in our evil little minds...I mean really, I can go on for ages. We've been hearing this garbage since we were children. If you keep a person down and never feeling good about themselves, they're more likely to acquiesce; just like they want us too. But then we get paired with men who don't know how or want to lead. Then we lead ourselves and that's bad too. Then we… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/23 10:36 AM |
| 1 | Are RP standards realistic ?What a clever way to get men super frustrated and make them think those awful women are just EVERYWHERE huh? What a clever way to get men out of the dating pool so they can have more, huh? Sooo clever... | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/23 08:59 AM |
| 15 | Have any of you ever really thought about this sayingIt appeals to emotion and insecurities, not logic. For the logic part, they handle it with distortions of science, edited studies, biases, fallacies, etc. It wasn't designed for people to think about it hard. If they did, they would give men the best fighting chance to learn about these gold diggers, perfection-seekers, and women abusers by using common-language instead of things men couldn't research outside of Red Pill lingo. Every other ACTUAL recovery group does this. Every Red Piller I met … | /r/ExRedPill | 17/04/23 06:20 AM |
| 1 | I bought into the 'male promiscuity is good' lie and it burned meRight, the stigmas for HSV are pretty crazy too. In reality, there are medicines that can reduce transmission and discomfort and speed up healing. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/23 11:35 PM |
| 1 | Follow up from my drunk ramblings "I crawled out of a dark place and was forced back in"I'm sorry for whomever told you these things and put a definite answer on it because the most common answer here is "all women are different and do different things". I personally would love for the men I loved to say that to me when I bravely contacted them after I was in a low place, missed them, was sorry, as I tried to explain how I felt. Sometimes women also give the answer that we think he wants to hear and not the one deep within our hearts too. I've messed up sometimes and some may think… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/23 09:03 PM |
| 1 | Are looks actually subjective?I had some of these thing posted online, like Red Pill, "as a show", this many men wouldn't have fallen for it. Though this reads mean, I mean nothing but compassion at this point. I got rid of a man I loved because I could not see him as the man I once loved. He hurt me a lot because of Red Pill. Why do I have to feel sorry for him because he fell into "a show". Unfortunately vulnerable people get sucked in like a lot of us did with the "I'm a Christian" bit in the news lately with literal fasc… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/23 07:07 PM |
| 1 | Are looks actually subjective?I think we see the world based on our experiences (or let's call them lenses) and if you've had bad experiences with love, you're not going to have a lens for that view yet. They're all over online, sharing their families with you, showing you their love (and their dysfunction us to gossip about), keeping you entertained, teaching you who to stay away from, etc. Once you can get that, "you'll understand; just give it time." | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/23 06:23 PM |
| 1 | I bought into the 'male promiscuity is good' lie and it burned meSorry, this is long, but man this was great... What an amazing self-assessment of your own past behaviour and how your choices affected not only you, but others as well. Be proud of the fact that you 'got it', because many others do not. There is also something to be aware of that helped me a lot when I went to therapy over being with men like your old self: we all make a bunch of bad decisions in life as we learn and grow, anyone that tells you otherwise is likely not being truthful; it's what … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/23 06:01 PM |
| 5 | I made another video about Alexander GraceYou only risk becoming like them if you do the things cults do to suck people in. There is a substantial difference between those who quote out of context, stoke hate in people's hearts, change the lingo to intentionally distort information, keep followers from accessing information that could help them make the decision to leave on their own, etc. and those who teach. You are not them. You are giving information away for free, you're not selling your own "coaching" programs that cost thousands,… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/23 09:46 AM |
| 1 | Are looks actually subjective?The strategy Red Pill uses is literally a thing. They're notorious for it by using studies that can be presented in their favour to fuel our "Confirmation Bias" and completely ignore any study, field of study, and basically anything that debunks their bogus teaching. Here's a link: https://www.logicallyfallacious.com/logicalfallacies/Contextomy | /r/ExRedPill | 16/04/23 09:34 AM |
| 15 | Why does AlphaM get so much hate here?You mean the very same guys who tell them to sell women a false dream are also being sold a false dream?! Say it ain't so! /s | /r/ExRedPill | 14/04/23 09:16 PM |
| 6 | What is therapy supposed to accomplish?A disordered thought-process cannot evaluate itself properly (our egos sometimes won't even allow it anyways because then it would have to admit it's not "right", unbiased, undistorted, etc.) and turn itself into a non-disordered thought-process. This is exactly why therapy is so vital towards the healing process. You get similar affects when you talk to friends, but therapy is better because we often tell therapists more than our friends anyways and therapists are degreed, trained, and licensed… | /r/ExRedPill | 14/04/23 11:49 AM |
| 1 | Can you hook up without being redpill?People were having hookups before this dysfunctional, confused, dissonance-filled cult existed. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/03/23 08:34 AM |
| 1 | The truth about the red pillRepeating my comment from above: My partner had to go to a men's anger management therapist and it did really work, but it was really bad times for a long time. They did DBT on him as well (there is a free workbook online to get you started). He's such an amazing man, but I can't lie that the anger/rage they stoke is a very destructive kind. I hope you get the healing you need. These ideologies are so messed up. I'm sorry you're suffering through it. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/23 06:20 PM |
| 1 | The truth about the red pillMy partner had to go to a men's anger management therapist and it did really work, but it was really bad times for a long time. They did DBT on him as well (there is a free workbook online to get you started). He's such an amazing man, but I can't lie that the anger/rage they stoke is a very destructive kind. I hope you get the healing you need. These ideologies are so messed up. I'm sorry you're suffering through it. | /r/ExRedPill | 29/03/23 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Did anyone else's redpill ex do these things?It was posted here recently. Let me go look again and I'll update this comment... | /r/ExRedPill | 28/03/23 12:29 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the lead attorney?Well his name is Robert Edward Barnes and you can contact The American Bar Association and see if he's listed there. I don't really get involved in speculation like this. It's fuel for dumb conspiracy theories. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/03/23 02:31 AM |
| 1 | Struggling with redpill againIt can help to look at the sterile knowledge of what they teach. Look beyond the keywords and buzzwords, look beyond the drama, look beyond all the sales tactics. What specifically are you struggling with? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/23 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Did anyone else's redpill ex do these things?You should post some links of where your version is. I'd like to read that. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/23 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Did anyone else's redpill ex do these things?keep you keen for the next conversation because of the quick pull away Yuuup. It's to reinforce the addiction they're creating in you (pull > push > pull > push > pull creates the addiction). It's a bunch of brain tricks that really fuck up your mind. whilst on a date or seated at a restaurant, suddenly just nope out of there and disappear and went home Can't say I actually went through this one. WTF? punish you by ghosting for 6 month periods and coming back seemly like nothing has happened Yuu… | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/23 06:14 PM |
| 1 | I don’t know where else to go to so i’ll put this here I give up on all this the redpill messed my love life upThis isn't how people who are under someone else's coercive control (cult brainwashing) get help. If you're mean about it, then they're more likely to go back. Maybe learn some compassion, help people see a better way, don't be a bully...they got caught up for a reason. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/23 01:17 PM |
| 1 | I don’t know where else to go to so i’ll put this here I give up on all this the redpill messed my love life upYou absolutely should not be here in a support group for these guys. You suck at being supportive with your advice. This is awful. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/23 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Thoughts on the lead attorney?Is that the PoC guy? Smooth talker? Good voice? Sharp looking? | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/23 11:20 AM |
| 1 | Should a man show his emotions to a woman, especially if they are in a relationship?As with every piece of advice here, everyone is different and has different preferences. I do think younger women are less likely to tolerate that, but after many years of observation, I think it's due to a lack of experiences and them still following the crowd. I personally don't mind it so as long as those "emotions" aren't abusive, try to get negative reactions out of me, etc. Genuine emotions shown in vulnerability because they love you are absolutely fine. I've had men cry in front of me, a… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/23 11:28 PM |
| 3 | I crawled out of a dark place and was forced back inI think the problem is you're looking at mental illness with a logical lens. Anxiety doesn't work like that. It's more likely to cause us to run away even when we don't want to. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/23 01:10 PM |
| 22 | I crawled out of a dark place and was forced back inI have anxiety, so let me see if I can help with this one. The stupid thing about anxiety is that it lies to us. It tells us that we're scared to have feelings because we aren't worthy of their love; sometimes it tells us that you'll think we're not worthy. There are a wide variety of reasons, but with anxiety, it causes us to walk away more often and sometimes it has nothing to do with you. I've had to walk away from men that I've fallen madly in love with, but my anxiety always won. I always f… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/03/23 12:08 AM |
| 3 | I feel way happier (in all senses) after quitting the toxic RP.Yeah, definitely very enlightening to get out of those environments, especially when the religion is weaponized. Hope you're doing better! | /r/ExRedPill | 22/03/23 10:07 PM |
| 8 | I feel way happier (in all senses) after quitting the toxic RP.It's really hard to TL;DR it, but here goes (lol): Yes, perfectly said! I have often said that Red Pill was very similar to how the beauty industry targets women. It's very much the same with their unrealistic expectations that honestly only seem intended to create a sales pathway for those on the other side. Capitalism can be scary AF sometimes! It's very dark. It's just all so aggressive and they don't seem to care at all that they're hurting people's mental health from it (even lives). What h… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/03/23 08:29 PM |
| 9 | I feel way happier (in all senses) after quitting the toxic RP.she says all that messaging she gets about what a woman is supposed to be or look like also negatively impacts her self-image and mental health. The amount of ads I see she gets on her Instagram for things like diet pills, plastic surgery, lip fillers, and laser hair removal is sad. OMG so true. I dealt with this a lot and it just tore into me many years ago. Sooo glad she can see through it now. Nobody deserves that sick form of abuse. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/03/23 06:48 PM |
| 1 | How do I get my brother out of the red pill?A huge chunk of men who get caught up in Red Pill have been abused. Giving it a face may not matter if women have routinely treated him like garbage. Just a suggestion to you because it doesn't function like normal. Normal advice just doesn't cut it with them. | /r/ExRedPill | 22/03/23 11:11 AM |
| 3 | Gym,Looksmax,nofap and the manosphereWell said!!! | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/23 05:15 PM |
| 1 | If RP men claim that it is within their biological nature to “exercise their options”, why are so many women still against it?I think polyamory and all that was way more accepted than people want to admit. Then the churches came in to clean up everyone's viewpoints, infiltrated society's moral laws, and just made a lot of things not okay that really aren't even that bad. I dunno, just try to look at what isn't being said. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/23 09:35 AM |
| 11 | Why most people will never have great relationships (article)This is really great for Red Pillers and those who left. They taught men to be terrible in relationships and then they saw what they lost. But not MOST people are afflicted by these things. Women aren't always well-socialized, either are a lot of men, but I do think there is more to it than what he states. A lot of relationships are lost to just the time it takes to work and live. People are exhausted and not everyone is an extrovert. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/23 09:32 AM |
| 2 | I love the YouTuber Roma army! That’s another channel I recommend for young men and women.I think she panders to people to see if they'll pay her, but I do think she says a lot of eye-opening things. People will find anything to distort someone's image completely. I wish people here would stop being so black and white about everything. Nobody is perfect. | /r/ExRedPill | 21/03/23 09:27 AM |
| 14 | If RP men claim that it is within their biological nature to “exercise their options”, why are so many women still against it?Classic "have your cake and eating it too scenario". | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/23 11:16 PM |
| 1 | Is it fair to say that most people are like that?So you're upset that people are coming to you, a professional, and asking you things you're trained on, and things they are not? Aren't most people not trained in everything. This appears to be very reasonable. | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/23 11:15 PM |
| 8 | I am crying because I am not getting women. Do you think my BBD is related to lack of women? I was feed too much red pill crap.The more you think of it as this challenge to complete like some kind of sport Red Pill in a nutshell. Stop with the "game" and focus on building meaningful relationships with yourself and with the people around you. This may more be why he's struggling because Red Pill quite literally advised against this, no? 'Don't get attached' (even though attachments in some form, even mild ones, are normal and healthy). 'She/they aren't special' (which leads to treating others as disposable). 'Be quick to… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/03/23 09:35 AM |
| 8 | There is nothing I hate more than people like Matt cross and his friend your wingmam / anyone who is misogynistic/ sexist. I also hate the red pill.Not a lot more cringe than trying to stay relevant in a world by teaching men to be hateful towards the ones than could potentially give them the love and intimacy they want, and teaching backward-ass ways that are only going to make women more protective of themselves and never come out of their shell. It's almost like they don't actually get women at all. It's almost like they might actually be making men further behind for the all mighty dollar and online clout. Just because you know how to t… | /r/ExRedPill | 19/03/23 10:37 AM |
| 2 | The red pill ruined my mental health and has nearly ruined my relationshipI'm sorry you're going through that. You've internalized the shame of the society expectations and gaslighting that somehow crying = weak and unmasculine. It's not true. I'm the type of woman that tries to be there for my men, hold them, listen, let them lie in my lap and cry if they want. We exist, I promise. Emotions are emotions, and if you don't feel them, you dissociate away from them, shove them down, and they'll eventually come out anyways. You must learn how to control them or they'll co… | /r/ExRedPill | 18/03/23 11:45 AM |
| 8 | The red pill ruined my mental health and has nearly ruined my relationshipHot damn. Hell yeah. You explain it perfectly. | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/23 04:47 PM |
| 1 | ChatGPT helps in getting out of RPHaha, so true! | /r/ExRedPill | 16/03/23 06:19 PM |
| 5 | ChatGPT helps in getting out of RPI'm giggling to myself thinking about you asking it a question about dating and it coming back with "wibbly-wobbly, timey-wimey... stuff." 🤭 | /r/ExRedPill | 16/03/23 02:35 PM |
| 5 | Is it being tall THAT important for women?No way! I've been with a 5'8" guy and still loved him all the same. I am several inches shorter, but it didn't even register on my radar. If someone is rejecting you over that alone, you're dodging a very superficial bullet. Truly. This whole trend of requiring 6'+ is not majority, it's just coming from the loudest Karens and Kens on the internet. | /r/ExRedPill | 15/03/23 09:46 PM |
| 2 | Hello there, i don't know if that's right place to ask but, as former redpill/toxic masculine guy, i would like some advice/guidance always taught that never date single mom, now i found myself in this relationship, and I'm still wondering that this makes me any less of a man??There's nothing wrong with that. You'll learn if you want to and she'll probably teach you as well. Good luck. :) | /r/ExRedPill | 15/03/23 03:20 PM |
| 4 | Do You Think 63% of Men Are Actually Single?Mood. Yeah, I get you. Spot on. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/03/23 04:34 PM |
| 10 | Do You Think 63% of Men Are Actually Single?Yeah, I've never really minded that honestly. I'd rather be with a guy who lives at home and is doing so to become more financially secure rather than someone who lives outside of home because he can or feels like he needs to because of these arbitrary 'rules' set up by our capitalist overlords. As long as he's saving that money instead of just spending it, I find that to be smarter. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/03/23 04:29 PM |
| 10 | Do You Think 63% of Men Are Actually Single?This. I told one of my FWBs to come back later if he wanted to get serious with me. I knew that the 20's was the time to explore who you are, the things you like, separate from your parental influences, and generally just figuring out the world. I don't like how so many young people are in a rush to marry in their early 20's. There's no rush! | /r/ExRedPill | 14/03/23 01:42 PM |
| 5 | Men of Ex redpill, how do honestly view woman?Red flags are an issue for a lot of people, especially abuse victims/survivors. When you're raised around it and have those awful rose-colored glasses, red flags just look like flags. That's a big reason why a lot of those men join. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/03/23 12:01 AM |
| 1 | How am I so bad with girls?Nah, just tired of some of their snarky comments. To each their down. Down side to public forums. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/23 07:55 PM |
| 1 | How am I so bad with girls?And he's here trying to get help. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/23 07:36 PM |
| 1 | How am I so bad with girls?Stop being manipulative LOL 🍿 | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/23 07:35 PM |
| 1 | How am I so bad with girls?Yeah, but you're speaking as if girls are monolithic. I was just trying to explain why that person said that. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/23 07:22 PM |
| 1 | How am I so bad with girls?Honestly the best way to hook up with girls is to just see us as equals. Because you literally said that. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/23 07:18 PM |
| 9 | masculinity and femininity is a matter of perceptionSince people aren't monolithic, almost everything is subjective. I make it a point to call abusers immature and what they are: abusers. It shouldn't be a masculine or feminine quality. After experiencing abuse for decades first hand, I can say guys like you are deeply cherished by many abuse survivors, we're often just too afraid we're going to scare you off or hurt you, so we tend to push you away or stay away. It's a sad reality for lots of victims. | /r/ExRedPill | 13/03/23 03:21 PM |
| 3 | men go to the red pill because the Alternatives don't work or lead to going down a bad pathA big thing to remember is that people aren't normally studying gender-based issues as much as us. There are so many adults that were raised this way and don't really think about it in-depth. It's just "normal" to them. You'll find better luck with women that are into this, mental health, and are more progressive in certain topics. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/23 07:01 PM |
| 6 | men go to the red pill because the Alternatives don't work or lead to going down a bad pathI love nerdy guys a lot. This is true for a lot of women. I even don't mind if they're a bit chubby as long as they're mostly healthy. The black and white thinking is definitely a huge aspect of Red Pill. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/23 06:43 PM |
| 3 | What Are Your Thoughts On The 41 Tenets of Tateism?I'd be willing to bet none of the tenets are actually created by him. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/03/23 04:18 PM |
| 9 | How does a redpiller go about dating compared to someone who actually likes dating?Self-fulfilling prophecy with an extra cup of confirmation bias! Sooo true. It's almost like it's designed to be that way, similar to how all cults work...lol | /r/ExRedPill | 11/03/23 02:25 PM |
| 3 | Is all this red pill shit I’ve “ingested” the reason I have such low self esteem and confidence?When you have a group telling you that you have to be X, Y, and Z to be "worthy enough", why wouldn't you have issues with your self-esteem? Mine was actually decent before meeting my Red Pillers and it plummeted just being around them and being friends with them. They'll never think you're enough by yourself. That gets exhausting. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/03/23 02:23 PM |
| 1 | What was the catalyst for your escape?Thank you. Me too! Sooooo much. It was a mental prison and absolute Hell. And agreed. I try very hard to be a good, strong woman, but with Red Pillers, you'll never be enough. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/03/23 02:21 PM |
| 10 | TRP isn't about men's hatred towards women, its about hatred toward their own vulnerabilityAmazing insight! That's deep work. Great job! Keep going. You've got this! | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/23 09:44 PM |
| 6 | What was the catalyst for your escape?I was forced in as a woman. I went kicking and screaming but inevitably broke down and succumbed to the pressure after being gaslit by several men in my social network. My escape out was sneaking off to therapy and talking to professionals about all this, the 'group' most of my friends were parroting, etc. They told me everything I needed to go to GTFO because I was being literally brainwashed by some of them. I noped out, moved across the country, and told everyone to eat a dick, and kicked the… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/23 09:43 PM |
| 2 | Blackpill overtaking Red pill?It's because that mode of thinking has been manipulated. It's been cultized. It's not just plain, natural nihilism. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/03/23 05:00 PM |
| 4 | The Revival off the Noble GentlemanOoooh, this is so good! You touch on a majority of the reasons why people get stuck in these cults, especially the need for neurodivergent people to have some sort of rule book. It's insanely confusing with all the differences people have and it can really cause a lot of pain. It took years to figure out why my spouse and FWB got sucked up into it and I would have never guessed it on my own, but they were both unknowingly neurodivergent. It was such a relief and then after some specialized treat… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/03/23 01:19 PM |
| 3 | How can you be attractive to women, but not from a redpiller/pickup artist's perspective?I think what you said is still great though. The deeper understanding of being able to detect a toxic relationship without relying on what Red Pill says is essential because they don't really teach it in the right way, but it's still vital info. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/03/23 12:43 AM |
| 15 | I'm 28F, and have really internalised the idea of "The Wall" to the point it's making me unable to enjoy life or do day-to-day tasks or feel motivated. Any support or similar experiences?Omg "the reason guys say women hit the wall is cause it's usually around that age that women stop worrying so much" is an INCREDIBLE insight. they eventually tell on themselves by saying younger women are more compliant. Easier to trauma bond, easier to groom because they often don't know better, easier to train, easier to brainwash, and easier to control for brain-level acquiescence. Pretty much the same thing predators do. FTFY. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/23 10:10 PM |
| 1 | What made you leave - please help this is for scienceshe did some things I then heard repeated by many other men, so I started listening and learning This hurts. I was this woman for many years from a toxic group of men who couldn't get in my pants, so they decided to spread nasty rumors about me and validate each other's bogus claims. If she was a good woman, you may want to verify these things very closely. Just a tip. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/23 09:43 PM |
| 3 | I'm 28F, and have really internalised the idea of "The Wall" to the point it's making me unable to enjoy life or do day-to-day tasks or feel motivated. Any support or similar experiences?I still have the fat baby face unfortunately. But my pant and shirt size is what I go by now. I can't keep up with fighting my genes and counting every pound. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/23 04:55 PM |
| 1 | I'm 28F, and have really internalised the idea of "The Wall" to the point it's making me unable to enjoy life or do day-to-day tasks or feel motivated. Any support or similar experiences?many women would be shocked at how much men typically dislike make-up When I found a lover like this. It was such a breath of fresh air. I love men like this. obviously healthy and nicely-done hair, and maybe a few little accentuations can be nice (eg., tasteful and sexy eye-liner, just a cute little touch of blush, etc) Yeah, I love this. I only do mascara and eyebrow powder to define my brows, but otherwise: chapstick, hair that's been curled by being put in a damp bun overnight, and trying to… | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/23 04:34 PM |
| 6 | I'm 28F, and have really internalised the idea of "The Wall" to the point it's making me unable to enjoy life or do day-to-day tasks or feel motivated. Any support or similar experiences?You weren't downvoted by me, so I'm not sure. I'm not really criticizing so much as pointing out generalizations that hurt a lot of women and men. This sub is for discussing the harm of Red Pill, not to debate it or continue to push its harmful narrative. And I don't really "try" above not wearing makeup (which prevents the skin from 'breathing'), putting on SPF and moisturizer honestly. I also don't use heat with my hair, so it's still very healthy and 'youthful'. I do the opposite of what the … | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/23 03:51 PM |
| 2 | The internet telling men how approaching girls is creepyI'm not telling you, just helping you understand why you might get push back socially, like is the context of your post. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/23 02:58 PM |
| 20 | I'm 28F, and have really internalised the idea of "The Wall" to the point it's making me unable to enjoy life or do day-to-day tasks or feel motivated. Any support or similar experiences?Same! I'm around your age as well, got out of abuse too late in life, and male attraction hasn't stopped. These illusions are for the inexperienced and vulnerable. Typical cult. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/23 02:18 PM |
| 3 | I'm 28F, and have really internalised the idea of "The Wall" to the point it's making me unable to enjoy life or do day-to-day tasks or feel motivated. Any support or similar experiences?The Wall It might for some, but that's the whole point of this sub is to point out the toxic generalizing that Red Pill does. I'm nearly 40 and still look 30 (I'm an ex-RPed woman; thank fuck I was saved from this madness). Some people have good genes or take care of their looks and hair and don't 'age' as badly as others. It's stupid for Red Pill to talk like all men desire the same things because they don't; neither one of the sexes do. Trying to push this narrative should only be done with a … | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/23 02:14 PM |
| 1 | The internet telling men how approaching girls is creepyBut a pub, bar or club, it’s absolutely fine to approach a woman. It’s a social environment, where normal people expect to talk to other people who are there. Next time lead with this. There are A LOT of socially blind guys that don't understand this, clearly you do. This entire conversation was silly. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/03/23 02:07 PM |
| 1 | [Reminder] Here is why RedPill gurus and PUAs are scammersNot everyone can afford it. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/23 09:51 PM |
| 6 | Redpillers and their mothersAdding to this, a lot of the hate in general can be from the very cult recruiters themselves. Some of the stories might be completely fabricated, some are just trolls who get entertainment from hurting people, some are just vulnerable people are just projecting their hurt online because it's generally not okay to do IRL, some are abusers who prey on people online, etc. People online, especially the ones in Red Pill spaces, aren't okay. If they were, they'd be living their best life offline. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/23 07:16 PM |
| 2 | [Reminder] Here is why RedPill gurus and PUAs are scammersIf it's not too personal, I'd love to know the total spent for an article I'm writing about this very subject (you will not be named, everyone is anonymous). | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/23 05:03 PM |
| 2 | How can depression play a role in consuming redpill?I've gone years through recovery programs; if you need any resources, don't hesitate to ask. I've got plenty. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/23 04:24 PM |
| 3 | How can depression play a role in consuming redpill?What you said is absolutely true, but there have been MAJOR changes to mental health care just even in the last several years. I urge you to consider trying again if you need it. Therapy and all that literally saved my life. It's good, it's just really hard for a lot of people to talk to strangers about their issues. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/23 02:24 PM |
| 7 | [Reminder] Here is why RedPill gurus and PUAs are scammersI don't think people understand the position a huge part of their client base are in. A lot of these men are loners, socially awkward, Autistic, abuse survivors, victims of overbearing mothers, or otherwise do not have this natural understanding to things like this, especially reading the desires of women (who are already confusing to them), body language, and other aspects required to even be remotely 'good' at this type of thing. It's not as simple as you say. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/23 02:14 PM |
| 2 | How can depression play a role in consuming redpill?Well said. Validation can be intoxicating to those who are starved of it. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/03/23 11:36 AM |
| 3 | Is this the Peak of the Red Pill?With how quickly it got destroyed, I doubt it'll last. There are better ways for men to live and connect with women. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/23 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Difficulty To Trust WomenI promise not every woman is into hookup culture. I think it's abhorrent. I'm older than you and haven't slept with many people on principle alone. I'd rather find that person I can explore everything with: our minds, bodies, goals, likes and dislikes, music, turn ons, etc. It's hard though, even for women. Trying to find men like the ones I want are not easy either. I personally like therapy and understand that you need to go for a long while to figure everything out. It'll take more than 3 ses… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/23 07:46 PM |
| 1 | Are there any good old books on dating that are relevant today?Because maybe it's not meant for people like yourself. The things this book covers is really good for those who were raised in abusive homes, maybe had too controlling of parents and were socially delayed, etc. Just because a book doesn't appeal to you doesn't mean it's horrible. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/23 01:32 PM |
| 2 | Is there one thing you do agree about the Red Pill?Having learned this too late in life, I realized that organized religion plays a huge part in a huge chunk of society not even knowing how to do proper self-care. A lot of us are taught from birth that God, or Jesus, or the plethora of other figures would do it for us or help us when it's really just an illusion to keep people trapped in these vicious cycles of caring for others only to be used up, taken for a ride, drained, conned, etc. Then as religion fails a lot of us, we get our 'Red Pill' … | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/23 11:56 AM |
| 3 | Chadfishing. Can it be proven wrong?Neither one of these are about your argument about "Chadfishing". | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/23 06:32 AM |
| 2 | Chadfishing. Can it be proven wrong?But you're not being logical. You haven't even posted links to these so called studies. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/23 06:17 AM |
| 3 | Chadfishing. Can it be proven wrong?At some point you have to stop entertaining the trolls when it's an obvious troll. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/23 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Is there one thing you do agree about the Red Pill?You do realize there are like a thousand reasons why people do things, right? All they do is give you a few which activates your Baader-Meinhof bias, which then gives you confirmation bias, among many other mind tricks. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/23 01:16 AM |
| 2 | any male that supports this subreddit is a fucking cuck🤦🏾♂️Being a cuck isn't about pegging dumdum. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/23 12:32 AM |
| 19 | Is there one thing you do agree about the Red Pill?I learned about red flags through Red Pill and it helped me get out of a bunch of abusive friendships with predatory men. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/23 12:03 AM |
| 2 | any male that supports this subreddit is a fucking cuck🤦🏾♂️Whoever smelt it, dealt it. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/03/23 12:02 AM |
| 7 | Red pill is literally ruining my marriageI'd argue that they don't but that they're easier to brainwash and Stockholm Syndrome due to the trauma. Trauma bonds make people unstable and illogical. I've been in them; they suck a lot. | /r/ExRedPill | 03/03/23 11:45 AM |
| 5 | Has redpillers ever find their dream girl? Like one that really stand out of other? They expect every one to be emotionally strong at all time?Please go research codependency and work on healing those parts inside of you. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 07:12 PM |
| 1 | Has redpillers ever find their dream girl? Like one that really stand out of other? They expect every one to be emotionally strong at all time?Tell her how you feel about what she's doing or leave. If you feel she's disrespecting you, you do not have to take it. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Are there any good old books on dating that are relevant today?LOL. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 04:19 PM |
| 9 | Has redpillers ever find their dream girl? Like one that really stand out of other? They expect every one to be emotionally strong at all time?She's probably detecting that you're not acting like yourself. A woman's intuition can be a powerful thing. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 04:18 PM |
| 10 | How does Andrew Tate have access to the Internet and Twitter still?I cannot change your mind, friend. It'll happen. He'll fall like the others, just give it time. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 02:24 PM |
| 9 | How does Andrew Tate have access to the Internet and Twitter still?Just look at the BITE model. It's created by a leading cult expert. I'm only giving you the info. I'm not making it up. https://medium.com/indian-thoughts/9-top-signs-of-a-cult-leader-823473c9a0be | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 02:07 PM |
| 11 | How does Andrew Tate have access to the Internet and Twitter still?Andrew Tate doesn't lead a cult. I have no interest giving his social media more attention. I'm willing to bet good money he does and that we just don't know everything yet. He's a grifter, yes, but he also uses most cult recruitment tactics. Use the BITE model assessment and tell me he doesn't use those for HU and shit. He even does the proxy recruitment which is a HUGE sign of a cult leader. Guaranteed he'll hit at least 50% of them. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 01:53 PM |
| 1 | How does Andrew Tate have access to the Internet and Twitter still?Mormonism is deeply shunned by society though. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 01:50 PM |
| 8 | How does Andrew Tate have access to the Internet and Twitter still?They will often disappear afterwards though. Name one cult leader who went through the martyr phase that isn't deeply shunned by most of the population afterwards. Usually the public just has to learn how bad everything was first. Shit, even Trump is slowly going through his. Millions of his devoted fans learned how he fucked them over and we still don't know everything. A lot of people still loved Keith Raniere until they learned what he was really doing behind the scenes. Remember, abusers oft… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 01:18 PM |
| 20 | How does Andrew Tate have access to the Internet and Twitter still?He's quite literally a cult leader and they rarely get in trouble like this. They cause a massive amount of damages in their victim's life, often send their 'army' to harass and even harm them via proxy recruitment which inevitably can get their worshippers in trouble (see Allison Mack of NXIVM), they brainwash without any concept of consent, and other horrors. Andrew Tate's arrest may end up a bigger story than Keith Raniere's. That's why people keep talking about it. Society needs to get it th… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 12:12 PM |
| 41 | How does Andrew Tate have access to the Internet and Twitter still?It's very likely it's not him and his PR team was told to just keep posting the standard 'they won't break me' stuff so that he can attempt to stay relevant (and as per a typical cult leader's mind fuckery, keep the brainwashing going for his more devoted worshippers). I bet it'll dry up once people stop getting paid. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 09:06 AM |
| 5 | Andrew Tates struggling in prison conditions others deal with fine again.Considering that he was teaching vulnerable men how to loverboy women, which can get them in serious trouble, it's probably a good idea that Reddit reminds the world the power of these incredibly dangerous "coaches" -cough- cult leader -cough-. They're being taken down one by one. It's actually shocking that people are still choosing to peddle this garbage. Men need good role models, not clowns like him. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/23 07:45 AM |
| 6 | What is this sub’s opinion on the “Where are all the good men?” Phenomenon?Human relationships have been like that since the beginning of history. Guys are like that too. They accidentally pick some "crazy" girls first until they figure it out and start finding the better ones. There isn't much new in what they say, they just deceptively present it in biased and distorted ways. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/23 09:49 PM |
| 3 | Are there any good old books on dating that are relevant today?Modern Romance by Aziz Ansari is a nice, funny read. I also enjoy Mark Manson's Models. There is some criticism, but it actually covers a lot more than they say. You may also like The Tao of Dating depending on how you view it. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/23 09:46 PM |
| 16 | Andrew Tates struggling in prison conditions others deal with fine again.This would be an amazing South Park episode. Maybe add Satan to come and save him from the Matrix from jail but he ends up being a delusion? Then maybe a giant cockroach can come kill Kenny, while a Romanian version of Officer Barbrady finds out he's a doppelganger during the crime scene talks and dealing with Tate's extradition to the US. Wendy can be friends of Greta and they'll just be part of the hallucination as they end up making comments about his weak jaw line whilst eating pizza. Then M… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/23 09:42 PM |
| 1 | Why do men who already have a girlfriend suddenly believe in Red Pill?I don't think all are like that though. I know there are guys who read it all and then leave right away because they can see it's bullshit. I'm talking about the ones that don't really get sucked in long-term. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/23 06:04 PM |
| 3 | Why do men who already have a girlfriend suddenly believe in Red Pill?Bingo. Plus one of mine found out in therapy that they intentionally stoke their childhood abuse anger and fear which causes them to act in a very protective primal way (this info came from a male-focused anger management professional). What they do is soooo wrong on so many levels. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/23 11:43 AM |
| 7 | Why do men who already have a girlfriend suddenly believe in Red Pill?Yes, I went through the same. One of mine literally wrapped me up into this terrifying gangstalking scheme and I started to get stalked and blackmailed online, but it was things only he knew about me. He, of course, would treat me well when it was done under his info. Found out they use online because there is no enforcement of regulations. Then at the 5th year, which just so happens to be the statute of limitations for turning in someone for blackmail, they basically revealed it was them, but h… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/23 11:08 AM |
| 10 | Why do men who already have a girlfriend suddenly believe in Red Pill?Yeah, I've been a gamer for 20+ years and we're all Redditors too, so I had a higher concentration of those types. Took me many years to find out why, that they'd been abused as kids, and all that. I worked with them about leaving and actually healing their anger, so they're not anymore, but it was shitty times for many years. | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/23 07:52 AM |
| 3 | Redpill ideology is self-contradictory.Hell yeah, that's the spirit. 🤠 | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/23 02:32 AM |
| 25 | Why do men who already have a girlfriend suddenly believe in Red Pill?I think some genuinely want to learn how to be a better partner but don't realize a lot of things being taught aren't healthy. Many speculate that's it's really designed to isolate men to draw them deeper into the cult (because partners who love them will try to 'save' them and they can't have people doing that!), but it's debatable. In abuse recovery, you learn of "The FOG", which is certain emotions being used against you to make your thinking "foggy", which is one of the tricks used that prev… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/03/23 02:21 AM |
| 10 | Redpill ideology is self-contradictory.if you tell them that you make your partner orgasm during sex, they’ll tell you that you’re a mangina. Most men I've met, including my own partners, are absolutely enamoured and light up with pleasuring me and I do the same in return (especially for the ones that love the loud gals 😏). It honestly feels amazing to get your partner off and help them feel good in a world that's so harsh and cold all of the time. I think these comments are born from men who are selfish, hateful, or have an inabilit… | /r/ExRedPill | 28/02/23 11:54 PM |
| 4 | The New GurusCan you link this? Not sure I've read it. | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/23 07:30 PM |
| 2 | Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declined"Your inability to think critically" seems pretty harsh for not knowing someone for more than a paragraph. Not all Red Pillers are the same (not defending). | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/23 02:35 PM |
| 24 | Why the rate of single men in the US looking for dates has declinedThere are many, many other reasons besides "women's standards" as to why men can't get dates. I didn't date for many years because I believed my mental health issues would be too much of a turn off and it turns out most are totally fine with it because I self-manage fairly well, it only affects 3 of my 168 hours of my week, and I self-isolate. Here I was thinking everything was hopeless. I can bet mental health is pretty up there on reasons because the stigmas still haven't gone away, people are… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/02/23 11:43 AM |
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