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| 3 | Sassy baby mama. Who wants their new wife?It was created by two bored housewives, if I recall correctly and is about as useful as a "Which Superhero Are You?" quiz on Buzzfeed. The only thing it tells me about a person is they don't understand reliability and validity in psychometric assessment. That's okay, but if you're going to pretend your "type" means anything in the real world, I'm going to dismiss you as a gullible idiot. I won't say it out loud, though, that would be rude. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 01/06/20 05:32 PM |
| 25 | Can I still be RPW?Can I still be RPW A red pill woman is someone who has knowledge of the differences between men and women in the dating/mating context and uses that knowledge to adapt her behaviour to achieve her desired outcomes, whatever those may be. So yes, you can be a RPW. Understand the "theory", such as it is and use the parts that are of benefit to you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/20 02:43 PM |
| 1 | Vetted, Committed, but wants to see other people.How wonderful that you were able to stand up for yourself and stick to your boundaries after what sounds like some significant love bombing! Another lesson learnt. How can I prevent this from happening in the future? Look out for that "too wonderful" behaviour. It's often a predatory or abusive sign, grooming you, so that he can get away with bad behaviour later and then make you feel guilty for questioning such a wonderful man! I'm not saying that you shouldn't expect some of those things durin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/05/20 10:40 AM |
| 24 | Should I become a female monk if I feel like I failed as a woman?What you are suggesting is called "nun mode" and I do think this is something that might benefit you. During this period of introspection, it is important for you to figure out what you want out of life, just in general terms. If you want to be free as a bird, having sex with random men, that's certainly an option you can pursue. If you want to get married and have children, that's a different option. Maybe you want to become an artist and travel the world, I don't know, but you need to figure o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/20 11:42 PM |
| 3 | I want plastic surgery even though everyone is against itHave you been to the plastic surgeon of your choosing yet, for a consultation? I'm sensing a lot of turmoil here over something that might not even come to fruition. You might be eliminated as a viable candidate, due to your maladaptive thinking. If all of your friends, family and even your therapist are telling you that you should not do something, to the point of becoming angry about your intentions, then it is time to pause and introspect. It is nearly guaranteed that your loved ones have you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/20 12:50 PM |
| 4 | I [26F] have noticed that my boyfriend [28M] takes in a lot of RP material online - looking for some insight.I guess what I’m trying to ask you ladies here is - how should I approach this? Ignore it? Should I even bother bringing up this discussion with him? No. Why? "I notice you've been reading The Rational Male/Mein Kampf/Harry Potter and I am concerned"? Come on. Let him read whatever he wants to. If you want to discuss anything relevant with him, do so. I sometimes read something from the marriedredpill to my husband and then we discuss our perspectives and share our opinions. Is this a red flag? … | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/05/20 11:42 AM |
| 10 | Married with Kids: How to get husband helping more?I am very sorry to hear that you are struggling so much. You definitely sound exactly like the type of woman who could benefit from reading The Surrendered Wife. Please make reading it a priority? In the meantime, take your most pressing concerns to your husband. Not as a "here's where you are failing me" issue. Take it to him as a "I need to achieve x, but y is preventing me from doing it" it problem for him to solve. And let him solve it. Don't allow him to pass the responsibility back to you.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/05/20 11:46 PM |
| 22 | Mental Illness and RPWI have a wonderful boyfriend. I have a wonderful family. I have a wonderful career, friends, and hobbies. And my life goal has always been to be a nurturing, feminine woman. One diagnosis cannot take all of this away from you. Now that you are aware that there is a problem, rely on your friends and family to support you. Explain to them what the diagnosis means and what they can expect from you. Make it clear that you never want to use this diagnosis as an excuse for bad behaviour, so they can a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/05/20 11:37 AM |
| 26 | Emasculation.I am sorry to hear that you are in this situation. Binding yourself to a man for life, when he... is indifferent about caring for himself; has few life skills; is used to being babied; has no strong role models; is prone to depression; has a penchant for squalor (!); has no desire to change; makes no financial contribution to his family; is allowing his weight (and therefore health) to get out of control; actively contributes to dysfunction in the household ...was a mistake on your part. It soun… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/05/20 02:49 AM |
| 11 | Should I Pursue This?I'm going to advise you to cut him loose, based on this one thing you said: He can’t even drive That right there is the very beginning of a lack of respect that can easily lead to contempt. For a healthy relationship to develop between two people, respect is crucial. Just to be clear, the problem is not that he can't drive. It's about your perception of him and what he offers you and according to the phrasing you're using, it's simply not enough for you. And that's fine. It's possible that he's … | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/05/20 10:27 PM |
| 3 | Hello ladies should I do this?No. Don't do this. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/05/20 10:27 PM |
| 5 | Should I stay or should I go? sorry for the long post!it feels like we're bf/gf just without the title. he wants to be single when he transfers to university in January Based upon this information, you should go. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/20 10:33 PM |
| 12 | How often should a woman initiate sex?I'm wondering what your opinions are on women initiating sex in a relationship. It's fine, normal and healthy. It's an excellent way to show your desire for your husband and takes some of the pressure off from him to always make the first move. OTOH, I don't want to be too aggressive and come off as masculine or try to take the lead here. If you're a woman, with womanly bits, it's going to be very difficult indeed to approach your husband to suggest sex and have him perceive that as masculine! I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/05/20 02:18 PM |
| 5 | I dumped my low-value boyfriend and things have been amazingYou know, I'm really sorry, but this was from a class I took in 2009, so I no longer have that textbook. I just did a quick search on Google Scholar and there are so many papers exploring this phenomenon. There are some suggested related searches using other keywords, as well. I think it's a very interesting risk factor to explore and, for couples wishing to cohabitate before marriage, something to at least be aware of, so they can be forewarned. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/20 10:48 PM |
| 4 | I dumped my low-value boyfriend and things have been amazingI was taught that one of the top 10 factors correlated with a higher risk of divorce was cohabitation before marriage. Admittedly, I am not up to date on current stats in our brave new world, but I doubt that it would have changed much. I can't remember all ten, but I remember having divorced parents yourself, marrying before the age of 25 and living together before marriage being on the list. This was in a psychology textbook for a family and marital therapy course, but I'm sure more recent pap… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/20 09:05 PM |
| 10 | Do you ask your husband for permission?Like the others, I think it's entirely dependent on the situation. Before the quarantine, my husband was in another country and I wanted to go camping in a completely "off the grid" mountain range. I would have been unreachable for a week, so of course I asked his permission. For the most part, I would check with him, in the format of "I really want to do this thing, would that be okay with you?" He'll either say it's fine, or "no, I don't want my wife to be doing that". I accept whatever he say… | /r/RedPillWives | 15/05/20 01:40 PM |
| 40 | I dumped my low-value boyfriend and things have been amazingI am very glad to hear that you escaped a toxic relationship. He sounds really terrible! I just want to point out something that stood out for me in your post. I made myself constantly available for sex (he was only my second partner, but he was awful), cleaned his whole house all the time, everything a girl is supposed to do. Oh honey, no. Girlfriends aren't supposed to be constantly available for sex or behave like free maids. Dating is like an audition. You're each seeing if the other person … | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/05/20 11:51 AM |
| 3 | What do you do when you REALLY want something, but your husband says no?What do you do when you really want something, but your husband says no? I accept the "no". I understand you're missing the dog, but it sounds as though borrowing an anxious dog for a short visit from an abusive ex-wife is more than your husband is willing to deal with right now. Respect that, make his environment as warm, inviting and loving as possible and tend to the three dogs you have. | /r/RedPillWives | 14/05/20 09:34 PM |
| 11 | Curious what RPW would say about this manIt sounds like ole Tommy is living his best life. In my best life, I'm not acquainted with people like Tommy, but to each their own. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/20 11:14 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?Congratulations! Were you expecting it? | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/20 10:47 PM |
| 1 | Is “the wall” a real thing?It's painful to witness. I hope she finds what she's looking for, before the only eligible guys left are those who follow only women-in-yoga-pants accounts on Instagram. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/20 10:14 PM |
| 12 | UPDATE: I think (read: know) I made a huge mistake...do you have insights on where you see it reflected most in here? Well, that's a lot of words you wrote to say very little. You reached out to your ex and after several discussions, he expressed disinterest in reviving the relationship. You're upset about the outcome, but glad that you tried. All the extra padding is the hamster spinning, but getting nowhere. A reminder, on this platform, hamstering refers to the way that women use rationalization to resolve mental conflict. If I understand it… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/20 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Only 22 and I’ve had BAD dark purple bags under my eyes since I was a very young child, age 11 even- help!I'm also carnivore and it's incredible. I just get the sense that the OP is not in the right head space to take self care like diet and exercise seriously. There's still a lot of "I try to do x, but..." language. Going zerocarb from a lifestyle that led to morbid obesity is a hardcore move. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/20 06:37 PM |
| 62 | UPDATE: I think (read: know) I made a huge mistakeThe energy of this post is quite frantic. If your interaction with the ex has even half the amount of hamstering displayed here, that would explain why he was hot and cold. With regards to your confused state, I leave you with this: Muddy water is best cleared by leaving it alone. – Alan Watts Good luck. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/20 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Is it a normal occurrence for women, for your male friends to suddenly suggest having sex?Is it a normal thing for a guy you thought was your friend to demand/suggest sex? Er, I mean, not really. If you're in your twenties, then yeah, sure, it's probably normal. Young guys can be pretty clueless about how to pursue women, so they do the whole friend routine as a way in. If you're over the age of thirty, no, it's not normal. By that age, you should be able to recognize the trick for what it is - a covert contract forged under false pretenses. It's indicative of a juvenile dating/matin… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/20 03:47 AM |
| 38 | Is “the wall” a real thing?Now I’m almost 30 and I read and hear so many discouraging things. Is it just fear mongering? Or is dating at 30 the hell I’ve heard it is? Honestly, I really think it depends on your location and culture. If you live in a tiny little town with a culture of getting married young, then you're going to have a hard time. If you're in a bustling city, where the majority of people focus on their careers first, you'll be just fine. One word of caution is to be flexible when it comes to choosing a part… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/20 03:34 AM |
| 1 | Younger ladies who are dating older men, how is it going ? ( leaving my partner / abuse update )After the breakup, I house-sat for a couple while they went on vacation for a month. I didn't tell anyone where I was, not even my parents. I went to see a psychologist for a mental health checkup, just to see if I was still in one piece. She was wonderful, I only needed to see her once. After the month of housesitting, I went to live on my parents' property. They have a small apartment that's separated from the main house. I practised archery every day. Kept me busy, made me feel safer. I block… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/05/20 03:04 AM |
| 2 | Anyone else overcompensate?It's a sign! 😁 | /r/RedPillWives | 08/05/20 10:15 PM |
| 3 | Anyone else overcompensate?This is the world we live in. Few people enter marriage as virgins. Most have multiple marriages in a lifetime. You can accept that you are the person you are today because of all the actions you took in the past and know that you are deemed suitable as a wife to your partner. Or you can fret about past actions that can never be undone and be haunted by what you did, which is generally considered a perfectly normal part of human development, until the day you die. Not sure why you'd want to do t… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/05/20 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Younger ladies who are dating older men, how is it going ? ( leaving my partner / abuse update )The Lundy Bancroft book should be freely available online, I believe. I got it on my Kindle, but I'm pretty sure the author made it available for free on his website. I really hope you read it. When I broke up with my abusive ex, I frequented the sub r/ExNoContact. It's not specifically a sub for people suffering from abuse, but it helped me to stay strong about leaving and staying gone. I didn't turn to Reddit for resources on abuse, I actually read a lot of psychology books about it. My ex had… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/20 03:03 PM |
| 18 | Younger ladies who are dating older men, how is it going ? ( leaving my partner / abuse update )So I’m wondering, ladies who date older men. Do you guys also face these issues? Older men are not the problem. Abusive men are. And yes, all women who date abusive men face these exact same issues. Because I’m starting to think all older guys are like this. All abusers are like this. Read Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. Your situation is textbook. They think they are protecting you when in fact they are abusing you, and they believe they know better. You are so far off the mark with your… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/20 10:28 AM |
| 4 | I hate my own cookingMy question is- is there a way I can improve my cooking game FAST, so that the time I have to spend eating my own horrendous meals is minimal? Sure, but more information is needed about what foods you actually like and why you don't like what you've cooked. There's a disconnect there, I mean, it seems simple enough to 1) pick something you like, 2) find a recipe for making it and 3) cooking it and enjoying it. Where in this process are you struggling? If it's at step 1, the answer is simple. Onl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/05/20 03:39 AM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsNo white carpets See Rule 1. No exceptions. Lol. Yes, unfortunately this is true. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/20 02:53 AM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsDid you mean @gocleanco? I think so! Thanks for the tip. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/05/20 02:50 AM |
| 74 | Boyfriend [30M] is accusing me [29F] of riding the cock carousel…Any thoughts or advice on my situation would be greatly appreciated! It sounds as though your boyfriend is "red pill aware", meaning he's stumbled upon just enough red pill theory to get himself into trouble. In my experience, men who embark on this particular journey either end up in the MGTOW group, which pretty much makes them undateable, or they take on board the aspects of RP theory that would lead to better outcomes and ignore the cynical AWALT stuff for lesser men to dwell on. It concerns… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/04/20 02:55 AM |
| 6 | Issues with dressing feminine and my boyfriend's reactionsI have an hourglass figure. I wear a lot of bodycon or A-line dresses. Wrap dresses also flatter my shape. I prefer stretchy fabrics and I will always opt for a pattern or print over a plain colour. Prints hide underwear lines far better than solid colours. My dresses are very convenient and comfortable to wear. I literally just pull them on over my head like I would a T-shirt, then I'm done. I might add a string of pearls and a cardigan if it's cool. Examples of the dresses I wear can be seen h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/04/20 02:40 AM |
| 10 | My SO does not want to be married at allSo my question here is am I doing something wrong? You're not vetting for what you want from a relationship. If you want to get married, eliminate all men who don't share that goal from your dating pool. Harsh to end a relationship after two years, but if he's not willing to meet your needs, he's not the guy for you. Is it true that when you get married, it changes the dynamic? This depends entirely on the couple. How you plan to approach marriage is something that you negotiate with your partne… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/20 01:03 AM |
| 8 | Do I tell my other half?I would disclose the information to him prior to the marriage. It might influence intimacy between the two of you and I believe he has the right to know what he is getting into. If the rape has left you with unresolved trauma, this needs to be addressed at some point and he will have to support you through the process. Therefore it is only right to tell him what had happened and why you felt the need to tell him. I am very sorry that it happened to you. I hope that you will not allow the actions… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/20 12:39 AM |
| 1 | How to/when to negotiate?But she already has a fully functioning table. It would mean spending money unnecessarily. If you recall the advice in Fascinating Womanhood, the author reminds wives that we are not entitled to luxuries. We ought to be grateful for a roof over our heads, food to eat and clothes to wear. We should shower our husbands with adoration for providing these things, without asking for anything more. From OP's husband's perspective, his wife wants to replace a perfectly good table, because she doesn't l… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/20 09:11 PM |
| 3 | How to/when to negotiate?Lol, I wasn't going to say anything, but I was definitely thinking about making the table disappear and then acting shocked that a burglar would come in and just steal that table. Definitely not red pill advice! Red pill advice is to STFU and be grateful for whatever he can give you, including an old table. The fact that his ex used the table in the past means nothing. It's a functional object. If it's fulfilling its function, that's all you need. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/20 09:01 PM |
| 1 | What to bring to the table when you feel brokenAre you from the UK? I've never seen anyone recommend Delia Smith's books before. I have all of the "How to Cook" books and actually took Book 1 out this evening, to peruse tomorrow. The graphic design has held up brilliantly, the books could easily have been published in 2020. Great recommendation! | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/04/20 12:29 AM |
| 7 | Depression about men , How to stop it?what will get me over depression. Depression is a mental disorder. Redditors cannot possibly help you. You need to discuss your problems with mental health experts. Since you are taking medication, I assume you are already seeking help. It doesn't appear to be resolving your issue, so perhaps it would be beneficial to ask to be referred to someone else as well. Get a whole team on your side - GP for general health, psychologist for counselling, psychiatrist for medication, a personal fitness ins… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/04/20 01:10 AM |
| 17 | Red flags from Mr Perfect?Mr Perfect We agree on pretty much everything I could genuinely see a future together. You have never met him in person. Lady, slow your roll. Seriously, take a step back and remember that he could have created a completely false persona online. You might know what he looks like, what he sounds like, but everything else could be a lie. So don't even think about a future together, until you have met him, his friends, his family, his colleagues. He might well be Mr Perfect, but it's far too early … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/04/20 05:35 PM |
| 4 | Dealing with an impatient partnerNever try to change a man. The trick is to pick a good one from the start. It's been two years now, so you should have enough information to know whether you are willing to spend the rest of your life with this man, or not. As he is, not "if he changes x, y or z". You are entering the last decade of your life where dating is still easy. After 40, pickings are slim. Don't make the mistake of wasting time in the hopes of him becoming a different man. If the thought of leaving him is too heartbreak… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/20 02:41 PM |
| 4 | Dealing with an impatient partnerMy ex had a similar issue with not wanting to wait in lines. We'd leave the full shopping cart at the grocery store if the queues were too long in his opinion. He was eventually diagnosed with ADHD (in his early 30's) and given medication. He didn't have angry outbursts, though. To me, that is a red flag. One of the first things we have to do when selecting a partner is to vet them carefully. A man who is still learning to regulate his own emotions well into adulthood is generally not the type o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/04/20 11:07 AM |
| 11 | Dilemma...boyfriend is now spinning plates but now I am feeling weird.I have told my bf it's okay for him to be intimate with other girls... Is it, though? If it's okay, why'd you write this post? I know I can tell him I'm not comfortable with him sleeping with other women, he would respect that fully. So do that, then. Either you're okay with it, in which case, brilliant, enjoy. Or it's not, in which case, tell him it's not working for you. Your problem appears to be incongruity between feelings and actions. You feel it's not okay, but you say it is. Figure out w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/20 07:25 PM |
| 5 | My boyfriend didn't want to buy me a car and now I am insecure in our relationship.This is definitely a prime example of why girlfriends should act like girlfriends and not like wives. The others have addressed the bulk of your issues, but one thing stood out to me: 2. Break up and I move back home to finish my engineering degree. He's a high maintenance person and I don't see maintaining this relationship and working full time. Here you are, contemplating breaking up as an option. I don't know how valuable my experience will be to you, but I don't think this is a great sign o… | /r/RedPillWives | 16/04/20 06:52 PM |
| 2 | on the verge of failing at homemaking 101Pleasure! Oh, and use Houzz for inspiration if you don't yet! https://www.houzz.com/ That's my favourite place for finding the best photos. | /r/RedPillWives | 15/04/20 04:50 PM |
| 12 | on the verge of failing at homemaking 101Here's how I approach it. Create a moodboard, to really solidify your vision. I actually like to print out images, have actual fabric samples and paint chips. A digital version is fine, if that works for you. Pick three colours for your home. One neutral (white/grey/cream/ivory/sand, etc.) and two accent colours. In your case, Silver Peony will be your primary neutral, so the majority of the walls in your house will be this colour. Gentle Grape is one of your accent colours, you'll need one more… | /r/RedPillWives | 14/04/20 09:34 AM |
| 6 | What are some unwritten rules you follow in your home for the sake of your SO?“Sex is how men feel loved.” This is a very narrow view, and if the only way your husband feels loved is through sex then maybe you should be the one vetting? The red pill doesn't care about our feelings. Reality is what it is. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 02:16 PM |
| 20 | Husband smothering me with his daily family visitsIf I were in your position, I would stay at home whenever I wanted some time to myself and only go to visit his family once a week. I'd explain that as a married woman, it is important to me to spend time in my own home, creating a little "nest" for my family. While at home, I would cook and bake and make the home as inviting as possible. When your husband comes home, welcome him with a smile. If he's in a bad mood, that can't be related to you, because he said it's fine if you want to stay at h… | /r/RedPillWives | 12/04/20 11:47 AM |
| 19 | Relationship questionHi early_01. Pretend we just met and I'm desperate enough to ask a stranger for advice. Here's the situation: the past month has been a big down for me. my partner is very critical he will comment on even small things he would punish me for bad behavior he withholds affection he's rough with me sexually he makes me feel invalidated and hurt sometimes I feel afraid and upset I feel tearful, afraid, and resentful he has become less willing to tolerate my emotions he texted me to "get my ass down h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 10:39 AM |
| 3 | Does this sub consist of mostly Christian women?Atheist, raised Christian. My husband wants us to live according to Christian values, so we do, but I don't believe in gods, angels, demons or supernatural beings of any kind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/20 01:30 AM |
| 6 | What are some unwritten rules you follow in your home for the sake of your SO?There is a lot to unpack in that simple verse. There are lots of books and websites that go into a great deal of depth about the meaning behind the term "one flesh". I'll try to be as brief as possible, by using bullet points to detail my interpretation! Becoming "one flesh" carries the following meanings for us: we both agree to make each other our top priority we side with each other over family and friends we have become a new family unit we agree to care for each other as we care for ourselv… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 11:23 PM |
| 7 | What are some unwritten rules you follow in your home for the sake of your SO?One of the most common relationship issues is a "dead bedroom". Go and read the posts on that subreddit to get an idea of how wretched that situation can be. It has always been my policy to never reject my husband, unless I am very ill or injured. Sex is how men feel loved. I love my husband very deeply and I intend to show him that, always. We take this text from the Bible seriously: But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall a man leave his fathe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/04/20 05:54 PM |
| 11 | A character problemThe problem is that I am very intolerant of people who say something I know is wrong. You will not be able to function in this world if you don't learn to pick your battles. Everyone is wrong about something. The key to your own peace is to strive to only correct beliefs that are actively detrimental to your own survival and thriving. Take the hot drink thing. I believe drinking tea will protect me from Corona. So I drink ten cups of tea a day. How does that affect you? Not at all, right? So why… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 09:17 AM |
| 2 | Husband is against botox, but I really want to try it. Thoughts?What are your thoughts on this situation? Take joy in honoring and obeying your husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/04/20 09:01 AM |
| 21 | Where Will You/Did You Find a Trad Husband?Where or how have you tried meeting the right type of men in the past? What was successful and what wasn't? How has your approach changed as a result of TRP? At nightclubs/cocktail bars - successful, 6 year relationship On campus when I was a student - successful, 8 year relationship At work - unsuccessful, never do this, unless completely different departments Online dating - moderate success, nothing long term, this was pre-2010 though and times have changed Friends of friends - most successfu… | /r/RedPillWives | 08/04/20 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Question about married sex lifeYes, I was keto for about 5 years prior to going full carnivore. I remember coming across the zerocarb sub during early keto and thinking those people were nuts. Several years later, I'm a convert! Happy to be viewed as crazy if it means I look and feel fantastic. Have a good weekend! | /r/RedPillWives | 05/04/20 12:15 AM |
| 3 | Question about married sex lifeIf I were in your situation, I'd lose the weight and then reasses. If that fixes it, great! If not, then it might be a wake-up call for him. I had success with keto. Carnivore/zerocarb sorted me out completely (17kg lost in 3 months and maintained for two years and counting), but I realise that it seems insane to normies. Just find something that works for you and sort yourself out, before you can point fingers at your husband. | /r/RedPillWives | 04/04/20 09:26 PM |
| 13 | Unsure if I’m (20F) doing this right... my man (34M) And you're 20? Nothing wrong with a 14-year age gap, but 20 and 34 is a possible red flag. Let's see... anger issues In his mid-thirties? He should have gotten a grip on this by now. he doesn’t like me going out with friends and coming home after a few drinks... You're twenty. That is perfectly normal and acceptable behaviour for a young adult. doesn’t like to be touched/cuddled other than sex By this stage, it's going to be a hard pass from me. I have to apologise and admit ver… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/20 04:38 PM |
| 17 | How do I find a man with the same values as me in today’s hook up culture?Meant or not, it's accurate. I wouldn't want the mother of my children to freely share photos of her tits and ass on the internet. Her actions are extremely counterproductive and it makes her assertion of her desires ring hollow. OP, if you want to be a good wife and mother, behave like a good wife and mother. This ain't it, girl. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/04/20 10:20 AM |
| 5 | Since we're all (hopefully!) staying indoors, what kinds of things should a feminine woman post on her social media?...although I left feminism years ago (thank goodness). I'm willing to bet money that you would say the same thing about ditching social media, if you were to take that leap. It's unbelievable, the amount of mental freedom that comes from disengaging from those platforms and living an authentic, present life, with no concerns about putting the prettiest parts on display. If the thought of abandoning social media upsets you, reflect on why and address that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/03/20 09:31 PM |
| 10 | Quarantine Reposts: Childlike vs ChildishThe fact that the wife neglected to pack and was late, because she was "playing with a friend" makes for an apt comparison to a child. What else would make more sense in this context? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/20 12:33 PM |
| 3 | Baby steps: text messagingAs she has better knowledge on the subject, I conceded. This was the graceful thing to do. However, she messaged me today saying that when she was watching and listening to Italians speak about COVID-19, she “indeed could understand some words and that I was right on that end 😂” and ended off her message with “Hats off to you for knowledge I wasn’t aware of 😂” How do I respond warmly and gracefully? Acknowledge that she was gracious to admit that she was wrong, without rubbing it in her face. I … | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/03/20 05:28 PM |
| 13 | Do you still have sex with your partner if the two of you are in an argument? Why or why not?No. There is a time and a place. If my husband wanted to make love while we were actively arguing, I would be concerned about 1) why he found arguing with me arousing and 2) that he might be trying to solve emotional problems physically. Both of those things are red flags. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/02/20 12:38 AM |
| 7 | Utilising RPW theory when you don't naturally fit?I don't feel I really fit in with the ideal RP situation at all. I'm not young, slim, or pretty. I don't dress well because I don't put in enough effort or understand how to work out what suits me. There's a well known meme in response to asking for dating advice: Be attractive. Don't be unattractive. Red pill theory for women just tells it straight about what men find attractive. There isn't really an "ideal RP situation", as much as there's a "be the best woman you can be situation". Your husb… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/20 12:24 AM |
| 9 | I've been trying to increase my femininity. I wore perfume for the first time two days ago, and my male friend commented on how nice it was.Fragrantica is a good resource for exploring the world of perfume. Remember that you can layer fragrances to create a unique scent. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/20 04:28 PM |
| 7 | Badly need HELP: How do I keep him interested and convert from non-serious to serious?Now, maybe this is a flaw of mine but him being straightforward about what he wants, his situation and his vulnerability made me feel connected. It felt like it was a challenge. I have this urge to prove Im different from the previous women. There are a lot of red flags with this man, but your statement about wanting to prove that you're different is the biggest red flag of all. It sounds as though this man has taken advantage of your naivety and inexperience to manipulate you into giving him wh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/20 04:36 PM |
| 1 | Is Red Pill for me?What exactly do you mean men and women are not equal? The first dictionary definition: "as great as; the same as: The velocity of sound is not equal to that of light." You're using the second: "like or alike in quantity, degree, value, etc.; of the same rank, ability, merit, etc.: two students of equal brilliance". | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/02/20 10:16 AM |
| 3 | What is being submissive to you? I’m loving to read the threads here but it’s all so philosophical! What is a practical everyday example of submission? Thank you!Know when to discuss something and when to keep quiet. Cook what he wants, even if you had other plans. Don't interfere with his driving, even if he's clearly going the wrong way. He gets final say on financial decisions. Go along with activities he suggests, with gratitude and appreciation, not complaints about rather wanting to be somewhere else or doing something else. Never interrupt or oppose him in social settings. Side with him during family disagreements. He gets final say with regards t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/20 11:17 AM |
| 13 | Is Red Pill for me?As others have mentioned, in the movie The Matrix, Morpheus offers Neo two options. Take the red pill, to understand the reality of the situation. Take the blue pill to carry on living in ignorance. Red pill theory in this sub is a dating strategy women can apply to help them identify suitable partners (vetting), attract those partners, get married and avoid getting divorced. So what is the reality of the situation? Men and women are not equal Masculine men are attracted to feminine women and vi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/02/20 03:52 AM |
| 11 | What book red pilled you?Fascinating Womenhood. I read it about fifteen years ago, but it took me a decade to be able to apply the principles in it. I needed to find a decent man first. The person I dated before I met my husband was not in control of himself and his life. I could have been a perfect woman and he would not have been able to respond positively. | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/20 11:42 PM |
| 11 | What book red pilled you?Definitely too picky. From the book: “I sent out an e-mail to women because I wanted to find out for men what guys were doing wrong on first dates,” Evan said. “I thought I’d get a list of a few things: The guy didn’t pay. He was rude to the waiter. He didn’t ask about her life. But they sent back three hundred things! I didn’t even know there were three hundred things I could do wrong on a first date. Ten, maybe. But not three hundred! Imagine how picky you have to be to be able to name so many… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/02/20 11:36 PM |
| 9 | Can I learn to embrace femininity after a lifetime of fighting it? How much do I need to change to attract the kind of man I want?You certainly can learn to embrace femininity, but you are going to have to be very strong to overcome the obstacles in your way. If you wish to apply red pill principles to your romantic relationships, you have to keep in mind that the stronger the femininity you project, the better your chances will be of attracting the strong masculinity you desire. This means that you will have to purposely suppress some of the beliefs and values that you hold about equality and submissiveness. Once such sup… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/02/20 10:22 AM |
| 3 | Be my friend?Does she have a face tattoo, or is she requesting that her matches should have face tattoos? I can't tell. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 11/02/20 09:50 AM |
| 1 | Do I compromise? Or put my foot down?If you want the relationship to be successful, you have to compromise. These seem like minor problems. He's not one to get into the holiday spirit and has unsophisticated tastes in food. Are these deal breakers for you? Put up the holiday decorations you love, cook themed meals and desserts, knock yourself out. Let him be himself. If he's not big on holidays, accept it. If his tastes in food are as simple as grilled cheese and microwave dinners, consider yourself lucky! Cook whatever you want fo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/02/20 03:30 PM |
| 4 | In the past, landing Chad on OLD was not a problem...Online dating | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 10/02/20 09:21 AM |
| 10 | Coming soon to a theater near you: Cockinator 2 - Bailout DayNo. The first one met her husband on Tinder and posted about it. They appear to still be married. The second one (Single Mom) left a comment on that thread. She was going through a divorce at the time. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 10/02/20 08:05 AM |
| 5 | Identity Crisis 2020...after all, I am a strong and independent woman!!!! I’m also afraid of how my family, his family, and my friends will look at me and my pivot toward traditionalism. I feel that my maternal family, the founding chapter of the She-Woman Man-Haters Club™, will look down on me and tell me I’m stupid for relying on a man. So which is it? Are you strong and independent, or are you meek as a little lamb, following the script for What a Woman Should Be According to Everyone Else? I quit my job as a un… | /r/RedPillWives | 09/02/20 09:40 PM |
| 2 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtHence my initial statement that the other posters have already given valid advice, along the lines of your comment. My only addition is that her response was not "red pill". | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 04:28 PM |
| 2 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurt... The other night at a function he was asked (jokingly) who he thought was smarter and he said himself. I turned around and said, "oh really you think it is that obvious?" You've already received a lot of good comments. I just want to point out that you had a wonderful opportunity there to show your Captain some adoration. When he, or others, remark on his strengths, reinforce it. I would have turned to my husband, smiled and said "absolutely, him!". Because my husband is smarter than me. That… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 08:50 AM |
| 8 | Going back to how it wasNo contact really is the best way to get clarity. You can't make good decisions while you're grieving, your life is in turmoil and he's trying to play you. Get some distance, get your life in order, then you can evaluate from a position of strength and control, rather than from weakness and fear. | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/20 07:37 PM |
| 12 | Going back to how it wasIs he able to change? Sure. If he really wants to and is willing to do the painful introspection, self-reflection and ego dumping required to change. I would be willing to bet money that he won't. Has anyone successfully reconciled? Yes. Anecdotal data is not what you need, though. Evaluate your own situation and ask yourself if you want to reconcile with a man who treated you the way he did. Am I out of my mind for even thinking about this? It's completely normal. Stupid, but I don't know anyon… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/02/20 07:28 PM |
| 16 | Thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend so I can date someone else.He's in his thirties and has lived a rather eventful life. He'll get over hurt feelings caused by a long-distance girlfriend. How certain are you that you're not just a plate? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/20 06:47 PM |
| 19 | Thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend so I can date someone else.This has got to be a troll post. What should I do? Break up with the 31-year old guy and see what develops between you and the 22-year old. | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/20 06:43 PM |
| 1 | Day 3 post break upPart of me is clinging on to the good as I know I wouldn’t have stayed so long if it was all bad. I'm so glad that you're going to go to therapy. If you can, you might want to read the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. It will give you insight into abusive behaviour and hopefully prevent you from falling into the same trap later. Alternating abuse with periods of exemplary and desired behaviour is how abusers keep their partners hooked. You just know that he could be good to you, you'v… | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/02/20 03:36 PM |
| 3 | It’s over... I just still need to figure out if I’m being a victim as I do tend to have a victim mentality The Alan Robarge videos can help you to figure this out. We tend to be attracted to people who reopen emotional wounds from early childhood, whether in an attempt to heal, or because it's familiar. Once you understand why you are attracted to that, you can go in with open eyes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/20 09:16 AM |
| 8 | It’s overHi lady. I'm sorry about what you're going through. It sounds pretty bad. The other commenters have given you sympathy and support already, so I want to take a moment to voice some concerns I have regarding your perspective and self-esteem. I understand that you are still right in the midst of a lot of emotional turmoil and grief and that you are justifying some things in your mind. I just worry that without someone pointing these things out to you, you might reconcile with this man, or miss the… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/02/20 08:27 AM |
| 1 | [28-F] only wants intelligent and rich man ready to support her mentally (lol) and ofc, financially. She says I will have the best moments of my life if i am THE RIGHT ONE. Seems a good deal?...a intelligent rich man... Oh boy. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 03/02/20 08:39 AM |
| 3 | My husband and I are going to start trying to have a babyAll of my friends recommended this book to me, apparently it's the best thing ever. My advice to OP, in addition to everything else already mentioned, is to double check immunizations. I was vaccinated as a child and never missed a shot, but apparently I'm not immune to rubella. I have to get a vaccine before we start trying and then wait a month after getting the shot. It's a simple blood test, so if you haven't had it done, just check, to be sure. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 10:58 PM |
| 9 | Advice needed - how to show appreciationYou can show appreciation just through a look. When you look at him, smile and allow your face to light up. Look at him with love and tenderness. Be happy to see him. Use the various love languages, as you have been doing. Words of affirmation, good. Acts of service (foot massages), good. You could try packing him lunch with love notes as an affordable gift. Quality time can be doing something he enjoys. Going for a walk, playing boardgames, watching his favourite TV series...Physical touch is t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 10:51 PM |
| 10 | To try again with ex husband?The main concern when rekindling a relationship with an ex is that it is very easy to fall back into old, familiar patterns. I know the approach for dating a new guy and I know the approach for trying to save your marriage, but does anyone have any advice for what it might look like to try again with your exhusband? Is there any hope for healing our relationship and making our family whole again? The advice is usually don't try again. There is always hope, though. Do I just leave it at that and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/01/20 10:42 PM |
| 1 | Tips for Wearing Dresses for a Curvier WomanThat calculator is a Godsend. I went from wearing a 38DD (the only size available in stores that would cover what needed to be covered) to my actual proper size, 34GG. So much better! I have to special order my size from abroad, but it's worth it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 05:57 PM |
| 3 | Tips for Wearing Dresses for a Curvier WomanI also have an hourglass figure. Did you know that in terms of styling, the hourglass shape is what all the other shapes are trying to emulate? All the tricks of "how to dress for your body" are trying to create the illusion of an hourglass. That already gives us an advantage. The other ladies are correct with their suggestions. Personally, I wear bodycon style dresses (not overly tight, but fitted dresses which hug all my curves) or A-line dresses. Anything that cinches in at the waist should w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/01/20 08:16 AM |
| 4 | Should I accept?Yeah, I wouldn't do this. Don't trust the dirty dirty smear merchants. | /r/RedPillWives | 28/01/20 08:45 PM |
| 9 | I still have feelings for this guy, even though he did some less then gentlemanly things to me. Should i still pursue him?You're operating from a scarcity mindset. Since you don't have any suitors, you're willing to "make it work" with this gross creep, out of sheer desperation. Don't do it. Even plain girls can significantly increase their hotness through proper grooming. Dress well (not sexily, but prettily. Cute dresses and shoes). Do your hair and makeup. Nothing too over the top, just have shiny, glossy hair and natural makeup that enhances your best features. Wear feminine accessories, like headbands and pear… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 10:45 AM |
| 8 | Guy keeps pursing and is obsessed with me, yet he has a GFResponses to your posts qualify as forms of attention. Instead of trying to figure out what it is about your posts that is eliciting criticism, you're immediately on the defensive. This indicates that you're not interested in growth and personal development, as much as drama and attention. The "issue" you posted here is incredibly juvenile and it would be extremely obvious to any red pilled woman what she should do. Since you're clearly not red pilled, do what you want. All your roads will lead … | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 01:03 AM |
| 1 | I want a re-doCould be. I just don't want her to make the mistake of thinking she can still find the kind of guy she was dating in her twenties. That book paints a stark picture, but it's also the reality of dating in your 40's. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 08:26 PM |
| 13 | I want a re-doI wish 25 year old me would have known. Hoping it's not too late. You still have a chance. Go to a gynaecologist for a check-up and test your ovarian reserve. It's a simple blood test. That will give you an idea of how much time you have. Do not become a single mother. It's not worth it. You'll be lonelier than ever, trying to raise a child without the support of a loving husband and father. You're going to have to hit the dating world hard. Your options are greatly diminished at your age. You'r… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/01/20 10:05 AM |
| 34 | So, now you have to pay to cuddle her?? Bitch, just be honest about wanting a relation$hit already. Being a shitty prostitute does not look good on an ugly women.10k monthly? Weekly. Weekly | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 24/01/20 09:22 AM |
| 1 | Cooking/Meal Planning ApsMealime was recommended on this sub before. I've installed it and it looks good, but I haven't really gotten into using it yet. It has a premium account option to unlock additional features. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/01/20 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Day 1 and I already feel refreshedAll the best to you! Edited to add the paella recipe: https://www.seriouseats.com/recipes/2019/07/grilled-chicken-and-pork-paella.html I just used rabbit instead of pork! | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/20 08:53 PM |
| 3 | Day 1 and I already feel refreshed... how to navigate not defaulting to being so... Nurturing? Before marriage, there is the chase. You are a rare butterfly, flashing your vibrant colors as you flutter your wings, moving from flower to flower. The man is enticed, he needs to capture this beautiful creature, to own it and enjoy its beauty for himself every day. "Nurturing" is a trait, like "blue" is a color on the butterfly's wings. Your boyfriend hasn't married you yet, so he doesn't get full access to the nurturing, he only see… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/20 08:16 PM |
| 8 | How often do you think about how your physical appearance helped you?Red pill theory is about dating strategy for men and women. At its core, it suggests that by enhancing femininity, women become more attractive to men and conversely, by increasing masculine traits, men can become more attractive to women. You'll see advice here about enhancing your appearance (look as girly as possible - dresses, heels, pearls, curls, the works) and your behaviour (be accommodating, gentle, soft-spoken, kind, warm, elegant...). It is not just about being pleasant. The trick is … | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 08:38 PM |
| 5 | Instead of flowers my captain regularly surprises me with stuff like this. This is the result of being feminine towards him so he can be the man I need. He sent this text while at training this past week! Married life is great!Enjoy it! Married life is definitely great. I'm going to tell my husband again how wonderful it is to be married to him. Thanks for sharing. | /r/RedPillWives | 17/01/20 07:15 PM |
| 9 | Why I submit to my husband like it's 1959It's probably for the best that the comments are disabled. People who reject that lifestyle tend to be oddly vehement about defending their choices and beliefs. | /r/RedPillWives | 17/01/20 07:05 PM |
| 2 | What are your best tips for overcoming feelings of jealousy/envy towards other women?Like another commenter said, it's all about self esteem. I have so much of it... when a stunning woman walks into a room ...I think I'm that woman in any room. Even when I'm objectively not. 😅 Fake it til you make it, I think. How can you improve your self esteem? Focus on that. Watch videos and read up about improving it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/01/20 08:39 AM |
| 3 | Day 1 and I already feel refreshedVery well put. Don't act like a wife until you are a wife. Unless, of course, you don't want to get married. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/20 08:36 PM |
| 9 | Should I tell my boyfriend how I feel?Deal with it yourself. Your mistakes and consequent emotional instability is not his problem to solve. Your sadness is extreme and disproportionate. I would definitely seek professional help. Crying yourself to sleep weekly over something that has no bearing on your current situation is dysfunctional. In red pill theory, you'll often see advice to continually improve yourself. Work on yourself. Become a better person, become a better woman. This is a good example of that. Here's an opportunity t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/01/20 06:58 PM |
| 3 | Realizing how truly annoying I amThanks for sharing! Hope you don't mind me pointing this out, but I figure once is a typo, two is a habit. Instead of nagging him like I wanted to do ("where is the rest of the money??") I held my tounge. Ive found if I hold my tounge, and occupy myself with anything else, he will go do them with out me "reminding" him to do so once. The 'u' is a little bit further along usually; "tongue". It's definitely something we should all remember to do. My husband calls me a ray of light in his life and … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/01/20 10:02 AM |
| 2 | Wanted to share with you ladies how beneficial eyelash lifts are, IMO they rival getting eyelash extensions.This is definitely the way to go. I use a lash growth serum and get my blonde lashes lifted and tinted every 6 weeks. Turns out I have long lashes, they were just droopy and invisible. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 07:13 PM |
| 6 | Scared to have kids?It so strange but everything is different. I mean, down to the smell of their poop (gross, I know). The smell of your own child’s poop doesn’t bother you as much. This has even been studied! Imagine having to smell poopy diapers for research. Case, T.I., Repacholi, B.M. and Stevenson, R.J., 2006. My baby doesn't smell as bad as yours: The plasticity of disgust. Evolution and Human Behavior, 27(5), pp.357-365. | /r/RedPillWives | 11/01/20 11:24 AM |
| 19 | For those who weren’t a virgin before meeting your husband, do you feel a need to make up for it?No, that's unrealistic. How can you "make up" for choices you made during previous relationships with other people? You are who you are, previous choices included. My husband always says we're all sinners, saved by grace. No use in looking back and dwelling on the past. We look to the future and we try to be better people, every day. I'm utterly devoted to my husband. I already do whatever I can to make his life better. I do it because I love and respect him and took vows to be a good wife to hi… | /r/RedPillWives | 11/01/20 11:12 AM |
| 12 | How is sex after waiting till marriage?The deadbedrooms sub is for people whose relationships have gone off the rails. Don't worry about other people's problems. Sternberg's triangular model of love describes consummate love as the ultimate form of love. It requires intimacy (ability to share personal feelings and desires with each other), passion (sexual chemistry/attraction/sparks) and commitment (agreement to marry/enter into a long term relationship). You can look up the different types of love which occur when you don't have all… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/01/20 05:49 AM |
| 5 | Am I really being abused?...my husband is abusive and that I should leave him. But in my heart, I know that's not true. Alright, but why are you here? Are you looking for confirmation that your heart is correct? If we all disagree with your assessment, will you disregard our opinions too? So I need to know what you ladies think. Your husband is abusive. I would not want to be married to such a petty, ego-driven manchild. Also, I would really appreciate suggestions on how I can make things better. If you know, in your he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/01/20 12:27 AM |
| 13 | Thot rode the cock train until her wheels fell off. Now she is rode hard, put away wet and knocked up. You know what to do gents, she is inviting you in! She just needs a Chad who is rich and beta to take care of her and her love child with other dude. Obligatory cleavage to lure the betas.Laught. She likes to laught. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 02/01/20 10:12 PM |
| 3 | New Year Goal - Be attentive to small details!Check self in mirror before leaving house. Then check again. I once had a meeting with a lady who showed up with blue eyeshadow...on one eye only. I'm guessing her son interrupted her during her makeup application and she didn't have time to check... | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/01/20 05:47 PM |
| 33 | How do you handle those in your life that haven't been Red Pilled?It seems that only a select few of my friends have understood where I'm coming from and why I not only love him, but keep him in my life when I'm not always treated the greatest. I don't know how to explain to those that don't understand why I stay with him in a way that puts him in a good light because they are all convinced that he's not good for me (mainly because he is quite open about his TRP status and his beliefs/standings, which I am too so I am even more confused and conflicted). I'm a … | /r/RedPillWives | 27/12/19 08:43 PM |
| 6 | Stressed out in relationshipI’m trying to adopt a more RPW mindset so that I can make this relationship successful. The very first thing you need to do for RPW strategy to be successful, is to choose the best possible partner. Vet your man well. Dating is an audition for a lifetime starring role in a movie called "Your Marriage". If you pick a bad actor for the role, the movie will never play out successfully. You have to have traits in mind when screening for future mates. Is he kind, is he understanding, loyal, caring? D… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/12/19 04:21 PM |
| 2 | Thoty2 thinks that she is a reward now being a hairdresser and a single mom, but once upon a time she was Chad and Tyrone’s fuck trophy. Now that both of those gentlemen have ran away into the sunset, and she is post wall, she wants a good man to pay for her shitty investments.From Urban Dictionary: Ride or Die was originally a biker term meaning if you couldn't ride you'd rather die. It has now changed to mean anyone (wife, boyfriend, best friend), that you will "ride" ANY problems out with them or "die" trying. The "ride" doesn't always have to be a negative either. Obviously if you're this close to someone you want them to enjoy the "ride" (life and all it has to offer with them as well). Me and my girl have had some stuff thrown our way, but we're stronger than ev… | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 24/12/19 12:03 PM |
| 1 | My boyfriend of 12years doesn't want to get married.He'll tell his partner, quite clearly. Men who are against marriage tend to have clear reasons as to why they will not get married. There are men who string women along, who aren't opposed to the idea of marriage, but just won't marry that particular woman. I believe that those types of men are relatively easy to vet for, though. The types of men red pill women look for, make their intentions known. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/12/19 12:13 PM |
| 8 | It’s gonna end badly for one (un)lucky man.It's Australian slang for "fuck". At least, I've only ever heard it used by Australians. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 20/12/19 08:00 AM |
| 14 | Cooking dinner every night for my fiancé has improved our relationship.What appliances do you guys swear by? And what quick & delicious meals do you make for your hubby? KitchenAid stand mixer - for batters, doughs, dips and even chicken mayonnaise. Just put whole, cooked chicken breasts in the mixer, it shreds it for you. Ice cream machine - definitely a luxury item, but it means I can always have homemade ice-cream in the freezer, especially impressive for guests. Right now, I have mint choc chip and toasted coconut on stand-by. I'll be making chilli-chocolate ic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/12/19 11:40 AM |
| 16 | A one year old child and pregnant again at 18 AND not long for something serious!?!If you work out as much as I eat we might have a problem She's saying she eats a lot and is fat. A guy who works out a lot is going to be fit and will have a problem with her fat ass. | /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen | 17/12/19 06:54 PM |
| 3 | How to have a healthy marriage, when partner grew up parents in a toxic marriage?Check out the sidebar, "our wiki", "external resources". You'll find a lot of reading material there. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 10:32 PM |
| 18 | How to have a healthy marriage, when partner grew up parents in a toxic marriage?The nice thing about the red pill in relationships is that it deals with reality by accepting personal responsibility. This means that we don't have the excuse of "that's how I was raised, I don't know any better". Adults get to choose their actions. The first step is always the same: vet well. Some people retain the scars of abusive childhoods and never learn appropriate coping mechanisms. If that's the case, a healthy relationship is simply not possible. Other factors: Both partners must be co… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/12/19 04:57 PM |
| 1 | Should I try to make my partner want me more or should I just leave?Judging by the amount of posts you've made on other subreddits, I'm going to have to assume this is basically spam. Please read the sidebar, a lot of your behavior could be what's driving this in the first place. Right on, OP needs to look at her own behaviour, urgently. We don't have enough information to advise her anyway. There's a big difference between a 17-year-old boy spending time on his phone and gaming, versus a 47-year-old man doing that. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 12:35 PM |
| 3 | Should I try to make my partner want me more or should I just leave?It might be helpful to post in this sub's recommended format: If you are asking a personal relationship question, please answer the following questions: What is the problem, and what do you think is the root of the issue? How have you contributed/attempted to mitigate the problem? What is your current relationship status and length of time? Be honest with yourself about what background is needed to help the community answer your question. Withholding information doesn't make it less true or rele… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/12/19 10:33 AM |
| 4 | Something quick, easy and yummyBasil stuffed chicken breasts Make the basil cream cheese filling by combining fresh basil leaves and cream cheese in a food processor. Process until the basil has been completely chopped up and incorporated, creating a vibrant green mixture. Add seasoning to taste. Slice a pocket into thick chicken breasts. Fill the pockets with the cream cheese mixture and secure with toothpicks to seal. Place into an ovenproof baking dish. Pour a jar of any Italian style tomato-based pasta sauce over the top … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 09:17 PM |
| 1 | He Doesn't Want To Pay..?Dubai is a city of luxury and excess. It's not unusual to be able to order a Wagyu steak and fries at coffee shops. You can look up Stomping Grounds, or Mugg and Bean for an example of what coffee shops are like here. We're not talking about a Starbucks. | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/12/19 07:11 AM |
| 29 | Balancing it allAccept help if you can get it (babysitter/cleaner, food and grocery delivery, etc). Relax your standards a bit. With young kids in the house, it's never going to be perfectly clean and neat. Avoid social media. Not only does it take up time, but it can also make you feel worse, because you're seeing curated versions of other people's lives. I don't really have a timed schedule (apart from meal times, those are set), but I do have a chore list. I like ticking boxes, so have lists for daily, weekl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 11:46 PM |
| 9 | I hate this regret so muchI was stupidly head over heels in love with him even though he treated me badly, I was oblivious. It sounds as though this experience taught you some important lessons about life and allowed you to recognize what you have in your current partner. After we broke up (shortly after) I started sleeping with a colleague who basically just saw me as sex. This is unfortunate. Have you examined the underlying motivation behind this decision? Did you want to somehow "overwrite" the memory of the first lo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 09:19 PM |
| 2 | He Doesn't Want To Pay..?Dubai. It's an unusual place. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 07:46 PM |
| 12 | He Doesn't Want To Pay..?I'll tell you my favourite story from my husband's dating adventures, because it can give you an idea of what men have to deal with. When he was still single, my husband would invite dates, very clearly, for a cup of coffee, at a coffee shop. This first date was an inexpensive way for him to suss out the lady and if he liked her, there would be more dates. If not, he'd only be out the price of a cup of coffee. On this particular date, the woman showed up, they ordered their coffees and then she … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 05:06 PM |
| 1 | Need advice - I'm new to RPW and I have a few questions, esp regarding a guy's hobbiesBail. You've received a lot of great advice and we're all in agreement. You should run away from this guy. But you won't, because you're 22. Can gaming/watching TV be called a hobby? Yes. I heard rumours about e-sports (competitive video gaming) being added to the 2024 Olympic games. Should I work on my cooking/baking skills and then serve a fantastic dish to him, or let him be part of the process? Why not both? Serve him fantastic dishes sometimes, other times you can cook together. 3.... Somet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 02:00 PM |
| 1 | How does one deal with SO wanting you to play video games or be into sports?... what is the RPW advice on this? RPW advice is to enhance your feminine qualities as much as possible. For ladies who are into sports or video games, I guess they would have to engage in these activities in a ladylike manner. Don't become "one of the guys", in other words. Should we suck it up and learn to like those things if it’s something that he thinks is important? No, not necessarily. It's really not a requirement of a successful relationship for both partners to share hobbies. Having s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 01:19 PM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsOrder some glass decanter cleaning beads. Amazon will have, or most kitchen supply stores. It's just a bunch of tiny stainless steel balls that you swirl in the decanter, along with some soapy water. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 12:35 PM |
| 17 | My boyfriend(22) wants to move home and in an apartment with me(20)Don't do it. Look up statistics on what cohabitation at your age means for marital success later in life. If you ever want to be happily married, don't move in with someone before marriage. For people under the age of 22, living together greatly increases chances of getting a divorce later. You don't sound enthusiastic about the prospect in any case. Let this guy go and focus on discovering who you are and what you want from life. Don't make any major life decisions until you're at least 25, whi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 08:24 AM |
| 70 | He Doesn't Want To Pay..?My exes have always paid for dates and I sort of expect it, am I wrong for doing so? What should I do? It's difficult to be a gentleman in the world today. Women say they want equality in all things. Some women will insult men who open doors for them. On the other hand, women still expect men to pay for everything on dates. Women want the best of both worlds and it's not very attractive, if you think about it. One of the main principles of red pill dating and marriage is to find a man worthy of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/12/19 08:12 AM |
| 1 | Help, going on a first date!I would agree to dinner and drinks at most. Offer to pay your share. Do so happily if he accepts. Don't agree to spend more time with him on the first date, in case you don't click. I prefer coffee for first dates. Quick, cheap, no pressure. Edited to add: wait, you're okay with kissing and cuddling on the same day you're meeting for the first time? He's a complete stranger. Take it easy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/19 07:59 PM |
| 23 | What's your opinion on nudes?Hello, ladies. What do you think of a guy whom you barely know, had maybe a coffee once or twice, that asks for nudes? Next! That's a very easy way to vet a man. If he sends dick pics, or requests nude selfies, you can move on with no regrets. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/19 07:49 PM |
| 1 | What are you willing to sacrifice to be with your captain?My husband is in finances, but not in SA. I'm from SA, he's from the UK and now we live in the Middle East. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/12/19 06:19 AM |
| 10 | Gift?Right, paper for a first year anniversary. I like tickets - to a meaningful event, or romantic getaway. Some do photo albums. I think cardboard would count as paper as well... I painted a watercolour painting of one of our in-jokes and framed it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/19 11:02 PM |
| 5 | Is this request unreasonable?My question is, am I being unreasonable with this request? How do RPWives handle consent in your marriages? And what do you guys do to get in the mood when you’re not really feeling’ it at first? I think the general consensus here is that you are being unreasonable, even if that's tough to hear. Like others here, it has always been my policy to never reject my husband's advances, unless I am extremely ill. But from the beginning of the creation God made them male and female. For this cause shall… | /r/RedPillWives | 25/11/19 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Open relationship?i thought this was red pill for realism, not fantasy romance book land. Yeah. Fantasy romance book land says some tall, dark and handsome viscount will show up one dark and stormy night, sweep you off your feet and everyone will live happily ever after. Red pill reality says that you can expect to attract as good a partner as you are capable of being yourself. Sort yourself out, be the best woman you can be and look for a partner with the same qualities. The hard truth we have to face is not tha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/19 08:27 PM |
| 8 | What are you willing to sacrifice to be with your captain?I am just curious to see what you all would be willing to sacrifice to be with your significant other - friends, family, job? I quit a lucrative career as a university lecturer. I left all my friends and family behind and moved to the Middle East to be with my (British) husband. I left a Western country to go live in an Islamic one. I gave up the freedom of owning and driving a car. I gave up the pleasure of owning a large yard and garden, to live in a tiny apartment in a desert region. I gave u… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/11/19 02:48 PM |
| 12 | How does one interact with a romantic interests? Are there any “do’s” or “don’ts”? Is there an RP advice on this?Last time I went on a date it felt so awkward I kept talking about another guy that I like, to the guy I was on a date with (a longggg time ago) and didn’t realize I shouldn’t be discussing those until I read that it’s a “don’t” on a date in a mag. I treated it like a normal interaction with any other person & had no idea what I was doing. Yikes! Have you ever been in a relationship before? Dating is a type of game, so having a strategy is good. You need to have some goals about how you want you… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/11/19 06:05 PM |
| 1 | Boyfriend cancelled date to play videogamesSame. Gaming provides a false sense of achievement. Passing a level, completing a quest, defeating a boss - what do these "achievements" do to further a man'a goals? It's a waste of time. Some would say it's his hobby. Fine, men can have hobbies. When vetting for a life partner, I just prefer to find men with better hobbies. Activities which improve mind, body or soul. Not mindless activities that model hours of screen interaction for our children. In our home, we have really tried to switch off… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/11/19 07:39 AM |
| 4 | What are your favorite feminine hobbies?Baking Painting (watercolours, oils, gouache) Caligraphy Gardening Cross-stitching Knitting Sewing Make-up Scrapbooking Card making Diamond painting | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/11/19 07:24 AM |
| 3 | I just got used by a friend I was in love with. He is now dating a friend of mine who is way more educated then I am, supermodel hot, and more accomplished. I’m going crazyRed pill theory boils down to personal responsibility. If your life and relationships aren't going the way you want them to, you have to look at yourself and then change yourself accordingly. You're pointing fingers at others, explaining what they did to you, instead of asking yourself what you did to end up in that situation. That's why I say you're not being a good friend. The others aren't here to give us their side of the story, so don't even bother focusing on them, what they did, what you'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/11/19 05:35 AM |
| 6 | I just got used by a friend I was in love with. He is now dating a friend of mine who is way more educated then I am, supermodel hot, and more accomplished. I’m going crazyLook at the way she denigrates her "close friends". By all accounts, her female friend is a really great catch. Attractive, intelligent, accomplished. Instead of being ecstatic about her friends (hot chick and alpha male) finding each other in this great big world, she's being really petty. Her friend "swept" in, to steal this guy, who "basically" led her on. I don't think so. I think she had a covert contract with her close male friend ("I'll sleep with you, you'll become my boyfriend"), which … | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/19 04:39 PM |
| 6 | I just got used by a friend I was in love with. He is now dating a friend of mine who is way more educated then I am, supermodel hot, and more accomplished. I’m going crazyYou talk a lot about two other people who seem to have their shit together. There is a lot of jealousy and resentment in your post. You sound like a shitty friend who should swallow the red pill and start working on herself instead of sulking over two perfect people who seem to have found happiness together. You don't have that yet, because you haven't put in the work. Get started. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/11/19 06:46 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?Here's my go-to pizza dough recipe. New York Style Pizza Dough In the bowl of a stand mixer, combine 796 grams of flour, 3.5 grams of instant dry yeast, 15.6 grams of salt and 7.8 grams of white sugar. Add most, but not all, of 500ml warm water. About 400ml at first. Start the mixer, with the dough hook attached and allow the mixture to begin to come together. Add small amounts of water to the dough and allow it to be incorporated before adding more. You're aiming for a relatively sticky dough, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/19 08:46 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?Did you end up making it? I want to try this one: https://www.seriouseats.com/recipes/2012/05/floyd-cardozs-butter-chicken-tikka-masala-recipe.html | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/10/19 08:35 AM |
| 2 | Why would you ladies even want to cater to a modern man?All the "masculine alpha males" think they are country because that they drive around in big trucks...You will not find it any "captain" like that today. I think I see the problem. You should travel more. See the world. Meet more people. There are a lot more men out there than you can wrap your brain around. Also, the truck thing had me laughing out loud. Are you a troll? | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/19 03:14 AM |
| 3 | Weight loss - skinny arms - advice please?No worries, I was just confused, trying to picture round and skinny arms! 👍 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/19 04:36 AM |
| 2 | Weight loss - skinny arms - advice please?What does that mean, round? She says they're too skinny, so not round, right? | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/19 03:21 AM |
| 5 | How busy is too busy for a relationship?I’m just wondering at what point does it become unreasonable? You get to decide that. Red pill books suggest that it's better to have 10% of a 100% man than 100% of a 10% man. For me, ambition and dedication to his career is an extremely important trait in a man. How important is it to you? Women are fickle creatures. If we get to see too much of a man, we become irritated. Doesn't this guy have better things to do than to sit here making eyes at me? If we see too little of them, we become wound… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/19 09:41 PM |
| 4 | He wants an equal relationship with a working wife, I want to be a doting wife/SAHM: are we doomed?Recently I have come to realize that being physically present for at least the early years of my children’s lives takes precedence for me over a career, and that I would much rather care for my children on my own than to send them off to day care the second that they are old enough to go. Excuse the source, but research backs you up on this. Are we doomed and if not, how should I even talk to him about this anymore? Can't tell you that. Explain that you want to focus on your family, rather than … | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/19 10:57 AM |
| 2 | Advice about sex in my marriageHave you read The Passionate Marriage by Dr David Schnarch? Might be a useful resource for you. Sexual intimacy and getting your needs met is a process. You get to decide whether it's a constructive, productive journey of growth and discovery, or a sad affair that leaves you having to clean up bodily fluids alone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/19 05:30 AM |
| 1 | About to leave my husband for the new manMistake #1 was marrying your husband. Mistake #2 was cheating on your husband. Mistake #3 will be leaving your husband for an inferior man (less wealth, sleeps with married women, he's no good). My grandmother would have told you that you've made your bed, now you get to lie in it. Make the best of your situation. Read Fascinating Womanhood. Her advice is to go to your husband and apologise for being a bad wife to him. Tell him that you realize that you have been disrespectful towards him and la… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/19 04:26 PM |
| 3 | About to leave my husband for the new manI completely acknowledge its wrong and immoral... You're not only a cheater, but a liar too: ...im not afraid to seem dishonorable or immoral is because there are so many people "cheat" every day, and i've read the book Sex at dawn, so we're naturally polygamous and always have been. Why would I feel ashamed for my nature, for my biology, I didnt create myself this way, the nature /God did! Earlier you were arguing that everyone cheats, polygamy is human nature and justifying your actions as bei… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/19 01:05 AM |
| 222 | Partner read my dream journal and now wants to date other women?He said that what he read was unacceptable and that he already had two dates set up for this week. Lol, bye. He said that he would allow that but that I would have to work hard to get things back on track and that he is still going on those dates. He brought up some other mistakes that I have made in the past as further reasoning behind his decision (which I had apologized for and changed my behavior accordingly). He overreacts, is controlling and holds grudges. Is this your first abusive relati… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/19 05:13 AM |
| 4 | My boyfriend of 12years doesn't want to get married.What is it about taking him out of his comfort zone that encourages him to reconsider his stance on marriage? I think my boyfriend is happiest when I'm taking care of myself anyway. The possibility of losing you to someone who will recognise your value and make you a wife. As things stand, I'm assuming the boyfriend thinks (subconsciously, not knowingly) "we've been together for over a decade, she's not getting any younger, she's invested all this time, no way she'd leave me". Suddenly she's loo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/19 03:59 PM |
| 2 | How to play hard to get while in a LTR?Another way to phrase is how to get better at girl game Read as many red pill resources (for men and women) as possible. Understand the female strategy and how that contrasts with the male strategy. and knowing what direction to go in relation to a long term partner with a previously codependent relationship. What does your rational mind tell you? When you consider the pros and cons, does your brain say "stay" or "run"? I assume your emotions are keeping you in the relationship. If your mind and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/10/19 02:20 AM |
| 5 | Doormat vs DeferenceHave you read Fascinating Womanhood? I like the fact that the author asserts that you can influence your husband to become a better leader, by enhancing your own femininity. It's a very optimistic outlook, which might renew your dedication to improving your marriage. It's a good book for getting into the correct frame of mind. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 11:47 PM |
| 4 | My boyfriend of 12years doesn't want to get married.Sure. The best resource is actually Laura Doyle's book, The Surrendered Wife. She has plenty of examples. Here is one: For instance, my friend Phoebe was frustrated that the backyard of her new house was covered with hundreds of paving stones where she wanted a lawn. It was expensive to have them removed, and they were too numerous to move herself. So, Phoebe told her husband she wanted a lawn in the backyard and asked him what he thought they should do with all the paving stones. Phoebe secretl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 10:14 PM |
| 9 | My boyfriend of 12years doesn't want to get married.This is a very difficult situation to be in. From a red pill perspective, you made a mistake by giving him all the benefits of having a wife, without requiring him to turn you into a wife first. At this point, he has little incentive to get married to you. If you have a fulfilling relationship, you're happy to have kids out of wedlock and literally the only problem you have is that your union is not legally recognized, I'd say make peace with it if you can. If you can't make peace with it, if ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 03:57 PM |
| 3 | Second Date BluesHe kept calling me ‘cute,’ kissing my cheeks/forehead, and giving me signs that he was interested in another date. On a first date? You liked that? My question is: should I bite the bullet and propose a second date, or should I wait and see if he tries to make plans on his own? Any advice is appreciated, as I am confused on how to proceed. You already let him know that you are available. Don't pursue him. If he's interested, he'll make the next move. | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/19 04:49 AM |
| 2 | Let's talk about nails!I get Biosculpture gel applied every 2 to 3 weeks. My nails are long and oval shaped. They're red at the moment. My husband is into pinup style, so stockings and red nails it is. We're going on a family cruise at the end of the year and I already know that I'm going to get a mermaid metallic gel that matches an incredible sequin gown I have. | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/10/19 02:44 PM |
| 13 | Regarding "older" women...Without knowing the demographic breakdown of users on the websites, we can't use their data to make inferences about any other populations. We have to resort to averages. Therefore it makes sense that most heterosexual men, interested in marriage, for the purposes of procreation, are interested in females who are youthful enough to be fertile and energetic enough to raise children. Are there exceptions? Sure. It is possible (though I deem it unlikely) that most men have sexual fantasies, kinks o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/19 07:41 PM |
| 2 | I think I just lost the love of my lifeYou've received some good advice here. I'm happy to give you a couple of pointers about how to proceed. First tip, tone down the drama. High value men enjoy stability, they're not looking for drama and mood swings and childish hyperbole. A more accurate title would be "Can I go from ONS to girlfriend?" I would want to see a lot more history behind "love of my life". I hooked up with him. I guess you now realise this was a mistake? I wouldn't sleep with a man unless we had agreed to be in an excl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/19 07:10 PM |
| 3 | So I Met SomeoneIs it possible to find the right guy for the very first time or should I date more first. It's possible. Rare, but possible. Vet him well. First, screen for the values, traits and characteristics on which you won't compromise. These are unique to you. For example, intelligence, honesty, loyalty, fidelity, leadership, sense of humour, wants children, religious, etc. Once you think you've struck gold, introduce him to your friends and family. People you trust, maybe not your mother. Ask for their … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/10/19 07:58 AM |
| 20 | He said it doesn't feel like a relationship, he doesn't trust me, and I'm just annoying. I've been given my last chance, please tell me what to do.I asked him to call every night so that we didn't grow apart, but he lost motivation months ago. You're needy and clingy. I've been asking him why he does things that make me sad, or hurt me. Needy. I ask him why and ask for talks a lot...I ask him what he wants from me, feels. Needy and clingy. He wants to end it because he says I'm annoying, and this doesn't feel like he's even with me, and he's not in love with me. Wait, what? Relationships are hard work if both people are fully committed and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/10/19 10:32 PM |
| 2 | I'm clumsy, absent minded, and "behind" compared to other women my age(28). Boyfriend gets upset at my lack of common sense.Dear OP, have you received the message yet? As far as I'm concerned, the key to becoming a good "red pill woman" is to select a good Captain. Proper vetting is a skill that is rarely taught in countries under feminist influence, so being bad at it is the norm. I was bad at it too. Ultimately, I relied on my friends, family, professional mentor and priest to help me vet my husband. Crowd sourced the information, as it were. All of the other skills you mention can be picked up in no time at all (Y… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 02:06 PM |
| 7 | RP community in the middle east.My husband and I are Westerners currently living in the Middle East (ME). It's a pretty big region, so I will respond with broad generalisations. things this community believes in are already being applied in the middle east, such as having to be submissive to your husband The primary difference between RPW strategy and Middle Eastern marriages is that we know how to vet and choose our Captains. This is in stark contrast to the culture in the ME, which expects women to submit to their husbands, … | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/10/19 02:11 AM |
| 2 | Can't stay in a relationship, always thinking I can find betterI'm sorry that you are unlikely to find the answers you are looking for here. All the best on your journey. | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 03:41 PM |
| 31 | Can't stay in a relationship, always thinking I can find betterA couple of things you should consider. I know that I can have most men, and I always got what I wanted. You're not some kind of special unicorn and men are not that picky. Most women have little trouble finding men willing to sleep with them. Your hypergamy has driven you to ride the "cock carousel", a typical outcome for women with your views. Why the fuck should I be submissive? Because your husband is better than you at life and you know it. His rational mind can work out worthwhile strategi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 07/10/19 09:44 AM |
| 1 | I feel unsafe when I go out, any advice?Lots of good advice here. Depending on your location, sometimes yes, it's just part of being a woman. I'm a Western woman in the Middle East and it's really bad here. I've had men follow me to my taxi, wanting to go home with me! They view Western women as sluts, due to a lot of those women's behaviours over here, unfortunately. While self-defence classes might help you (I studied kickboxing at your age), I think you need to respond to each situation as you see fit. Sometimes I frown, shake my h… | /r/RedPillWomen | 06/10/19 07:54 AM |
| 3 | If you had the opportunity to go back to your early 20s, what would you do differently?My instructor is a former ballet dancer who has a M.A.T. pilates qualification, among others. She only teaches classical pilates, "the way Joseph intended it". She is brutal. I swear, last weak sweat was dripping from my eyelashes. She says 85% of her clients never return after the first lesson, because it's too intense. They expect some light stretching, some resistance training. Hahaha, no. Tree and swan are my favorite exercises at the moment, because I pretend I'm semi graceful while doing i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 05:34 PM |
| 14 | If you had the opportunity to go back to your early 20s, what would you do differently?Don't stop being physically active. After high school, I did kickboxing for about a year, but I quit that to focus on my studies. I had a fantastic body. Studies took up a lot of time and it was so easy to pick up fast-food on the way home. It added up, slowly, over the years. By my early thirties, I was fat. I was also in an abusive relationship. Damn it. Got rid of the man, went keto, got rid of the pounds, went carnivore/zerocarb, found a new man, got married and am now in maintenance. Doing … | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 01:07 PM |
| 3 | Texting before going on the first date; opposite strategies with the male RPI believe that helps them escalate faster and thus gain the control over what happens with the particular woman... Where is the woman's agency in this scenario? I don't buy that face-to-face meetings lead to faster escalation. I control the pace at which the relationship develops. Digital communication creates an unnatural pace, which can lead to undesirable behavior ("why is he taking so long to respond, maybe he isn't interested, maybe he doesn't want to meet me, maybe he's out on another date… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/10/19 12:31 AM |
| 2 | Not sure if I (26/F) want to hold onto my BF (25/M)I guess the thing im afraid of most is that i wont be able to find someone who can provide what im looking for This is a very common fear to have. Does your current partner offer you those things? Because if he's not, that means that you are currently living out your worst fear. You're trapped with a poor substitute of a man, while you long for the types of relationships your friends are enjoying. You're the starving orphan girl on the outside looking in, while others feast on meals fit for king… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/10/19 09:00 AM |
| 3 | Not sure if I (26/F) want to hold onto my BF (25/M)Do you live together? If so, it sounds as though you're already fulfilling the role of downtrodden wife, performing maid duties like cleaning up after him without complaint, getting used to drudgery - for what? He's not even your husband! Why should he respect you, show you love in the way you need it, if you've already handed him all of you on a silver platter of silent acceptance? It's just lack of consideration and most importantly respect. This isn't a "lack of experience" problem. It's a pe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/19 11:10 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsIf you experience social anxiety, I recommend tricking your brain before social interactions by using the facial feedback hypothesis. It states that your physical state is influenced by your psychological state and vice versa. If your mind is happy, your face will smile. Conversely, if your face smiles, your brain will assume you're happy and actually become happy. So before throwing yourself to the wolves, fake confidence. I do this before I have to give a public speech to an intimidating audie… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/19 10:26 PM |
| 7 | How to be “led” when you don’t feel like your leader is wise?Read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle and then shut up. Don't say what you want to say. Don't silently gloat. Just give your husband the space to learn and grow. Stop calling him names. That's not appropriate. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/19 07:40 PM |
| 5 | How to recover your confidence after romantic rejection?Why weren't you good enough? Losing confidence is related to this question, which is the wrong question. It's not about being "good enough", it's about compatibility. Maybe you are great, but you're just not right for them. And good on them for recognising it and not stringing you along. Can anyone else relate? Everyone who has ever dated, no doubt. We've all been rejected, ghosted, dumped, cheated upon, with very few exceptions. What am I doing wrong? These guys seem "in my league" and then I g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/10/19 08:42 AM |
| – | Simple QuestionsInteresting people do interesting things. What interesting things do you do? Some ideas: Join a bookclub, even if only through Goodreads (monthly reads with online discussions) Pursue a new hobby/hobbies - ice-skating, diamond painting, dog training, martial arts, rock-climbing, ten-pin bowling, lawn bowls, camping, surfing, kayaking, sudoku, sewing, photography, horseback riding, DJ-ing, collecting stamps, pole fitness, etc. Travel, if you can. If you can't, learn more about the world online. P… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/19 11:27 PM |
| 6 | I feel like giving up - what to do when being a RPW doesn't come naturallyYes, exactly. Respect is so important, I would say the most important part of vetting. If, at any point in the vetting process, a woman finds herself viewing the potential mate with anything resembling disrespect, she should break it off. A red pill relationship dynamic relies on the woman respecting the man enough to be willing to follow his lead at all times. Whether a man is "alpha enough" for a woman is entirely dependent on the woman. Some are perfectly happy with some gentle guidance. Othe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/19 10:51 PM |
| 11 | I feel like giving up - what to do when being a RPW doesn't come naturallyIt does sound as though you are prioritising work over him, but as a direct result of feeling insecure. Have you discussed this problem with him, framing it as a problem for him to solve? He appears to be expecting you to fulfill the role of wife, before you are married, to prove yourself worthy of becoming a wife. That is some bullshit. Of course he will have less of you and you will focus on other priorities, until he is willing to fully commit to you. You should not treat him like your husban… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/19 09:40 PM |
| 3 | I feel like giving up - what to do when being a RPW doesn't come naturallybut then i guess a man can be one woman's alpha and not another's? Yes, I believe that there are degrees of alpha. So, for some women, men with some assertiveness would be alpha enough, whereas other women need a very strong leader to submit to. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/19 08:59 PM |
| 2 | [19F] Stressing over when I should be settling down. Is there enough time?I’m a 19F in my second year of Uni in California. I like there to be order and to know what comes next, I’m not keen about surprises. Nineteen. One day when you are 30, or 40, or 50, you will think back to that time when you were 19 years old and posted on the internet about how to control your life and you will laugh at your younger self. As of now I already have a strict academic plan laid out to finish my bachelors degree in 3 yrs and do an accelerated 1 yr MA program which my uni offers. Sou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/19 12:53 PM |
| 9 | I feel like giving up - what to do when being a RPW doesn't come naturallyWhat are you bickering about? Do you believe that you have more or better information about the issue than your man and therefore doing things your way is the better way? You describe him as "alpha", yet your resistance to his wishes tells me you don't really believe that. What makes him "alpha", according to you? To me, a key aspect of the alpha is his ability to compel others to defer to him, naturally, without the use of threat or aggression. It's a silent acknowledgement that he is the smart… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/10/19 11:31 AM |
| 3 | Do you think that women should lie about their age on dating sites?No, women should not lie to men. That's not a healthy way to start relationships. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/19 03:25 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?Could you sprinkle grated cheese over the casserole and brown it in the oven? You could also make a mashed potato/cauliflower mash topping and either pipe it on, or spread it over and drag lines through using a fork. Serve it with cheese sauce or white sauce? If it tastes good, though, perhaps the appearance can be overlooked. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/19 02:31 AM |
| 57 | Open relationship?My bf basically wants an open relationship bc he says he is bored of our sex life. He sounds like a tedious lover. “You get tired of the old and you want something new.” Your boyfriend is tired of the "old", but this is not a universal truth. There are people who remain passionate about their partners throughout their whole relationship. I’m not sure how to feel about this. Some people enjoy open relationships, some don't. How do you feel about this? The idea that he finds sex with you so boring… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/09/19 12:48 AM |
| 6 | Partner is ignoring me?See if you can find the book Why Does He Do That by Lundy Bancroft. It's a book about abusive men and will explain the strategy behind his actions. Creating confusion and anxiety is exactly why he does it. My ex used to do this to me (the silent treatment/ignoring me). If I became upset and begged him to tell me what I had done, that gave him immense satisfaction. If I pretended as though I hadn't even noticed and carried on being happy, he would escalate his abuse. I'm so over these kinds of ju… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/09/19 03:45 PM |
| 0 | The too perfect gentleman-(No escalation or physical intimacy is leaving me very confused)I try everything to make him comfortable, I touch him, take his arm, look my best, I even cooked for him at his place and he didn't even propose for me to spend the night. I am getting less and less attracted to him and after that last date I feel confused. I need some physical contact, not trying to go back on the CC but just something that shows he IS physically interested in me. Can it be that I intimidate him? Men are rarely intimidated by women, so I don't think it's that. It's just not hap… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/09/19 11:56 AM |
| 3 | How to better communicate and avoid conflictRedpill theory for women relies on vetting your "captain" properly. No amount of sweetness and feminine charms can turn an unsuitable man into a decent one. This turns him into a whole different person, he says I’m ‘being a bitch’, he’s told me to fuck off, or he just flat out imitates me sometimes and tells me to leave if I’m not happy. First of all, that's despicable behaviour on his part. I couldn't imagine my husband saying such things to me. My exes did, though, and that's why they're my ex… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/09/19 10:31 AM |
| 8 | Is this a red flag?Noted. Problem number 1, OP does not appear to be familiar with red pill theory. My fault is that I have weak boundaries and am too forgiving with others, and I'm working on not being a doormat anymore. OP, you are upset over an insignificant event and you remained upset for an unreasonable amount of time. This is not indicative of someone who is "too forgiving". While at work, you asked whether you should get dinner. He said he was good. He asked you if you wanted anything, you said maybe somet… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 01:08 PM |
| 1 | Is this a red flag?Yes, it's a red flag. I hope he spots it in time. Work on yourself, lady. | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/09/19 12:31 PM |
| 3 | How to prepare for pregnancy?We're only going to start trying next year (January-ish), but I'm already preparing. My diet is extreme, so you can just completely ignore me on that one. I switched from keto to zerocarb/carnivore last year and I intend to stick with it as much as possible. I love it, but it's not for everyone. I might dabble with keto once I'm pregnant, I'll see how I feel. Exercise is getting the most attention, though. I spoke to my nail technician about pregnancy and labour today while getting my nails done… | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/19 09:57 PM |
| – | Self CareI literally just started private pilates class today. It hurts to sneeze... I'm excited to perfect the exercises, though. I'm going to go three times a week until the end of the year, at least. | /r/RedPillWomen | 30/08/19 09:07 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?Oh, what a wonderful experience! Definitely a high-pressure environment, but so valuable in terms of skills. I'm attending a local cooking class this Friday. It's hosted in a professional kitchen, by a German chef, but it's quite laid-back. Drinking wine throughout is encouraged! They give each participant a recipe (sometimes multiple recipes, depending on complexity), then it's up to you to find and prep the ingredients and create the dish. The chef and his assistant are available for advice th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/19 01:36 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?No, although I would have loved to go to culinary school. Cooking is just my primary passion and it makes me very happy to pull off an impressive dinner. | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/06/19 08:26 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?I had several wonderful successes for dinner parties last week. My own favourite was this peanut chicken curry. I served Thai pork meatballs before the curry, always good. This potato dish from BA was the biggest hit of the week, everyone forgot their diets and cleaned the platter. No one could guess the secret ingredient, which was anchovy. I'm planning a tremendously complex dinner for next weekend, giving me a week and a half to prepare. I'm making: Pea soup with oxtail tortellini, bacon, cel… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/06/19 04:10 PM |
| 5 | Some thoughts and observation from an upper middle class man who is looking for marriage.Despite reading like a personal piece... It read like Patrick Bateman's character from American Psycho, to be honest. | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/06/19 01:26 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?Try this for a low-carb soup: Thai broccoli soup I like to make stuffed chicken breasts. Take some cream cheese and mix in whatever you feel like that night: grated Cheddar, feta, mozzarella or other cheeses (blue cheese!), finely chopped vegetables (I like sweet piquanté peppers; some vegetables might have to be cooked and cooled before adding, like onions or mushrooms) and herbs, like chopped scallions. Bacon bits or ham, too. Any combination that strikes your fancy, really. Slice a pocket int… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/05/19 06:11 AM |
| 7 | Feminine clothing at homeFor those who like aprons (which I recommend, it's super feminine), have a look at the floral aprons from HortensiasHome on Etsy. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/05/19 07:12 AM |
| 1 | Is it true that you can only be happy in a relationship if you're happy while being single?Agreed. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/05/19 03:50 PM |
| 2 | I need advice on how to deal with my emotional blockage and doubts in relationships that keeps me from being sure of major decisions/long term commitment with my current BF. (21F)How old is your boyfriend? I really don't think your doubts are due to "emotional blockage". You are very young, very inexperienced and yet, your gut is telling you that these might be red flags. These are healthy doubts to have. It's normal to have doubts over major life decisions. I think you should listen to your inner voice. Find someone who is your ideal man now, not in some imaginary future. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/19 04:43 PM |
| 25 | Is it true that you can only be happy in a relationship if you're happy while being single?Is this true? If so, how do I, as a 15 year old girl, stop always wanting a boyfriend or husband to spend my life with? And also, why is that so? As in why do we have to be happy being single before we find a relationship? Yes, it is true. You don't have to stop wanting a life partner. You can still desire that, but if you are leading a happy and fulfilled life as a single lady, then you will not be tempted to settle for the first man who looks your way. You will have the patience to vet men pro… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/19 07:34 AM |
| 26 | Dating is destroying my self esteem and confidence..I need someone to complete me What exactly do you bring to the table, apart from unreasonable expectations? Stop dating. Become a complete woman, on your own, by yourself. Attract a complete man. Complement each other. Note, not complete. Complement. | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/05/19 05:46 AM |
| 81 | Is my SO testing my sexual commitment?If you were already having sex daily, then I don't see why he would need to test your commitment to keeping him sexually satisfied. We can only speculate about his motivations here, but it seems a bit off to me. That's a serious increase in sexual activity and I would want to know the cause. Stress relief? I would straight up ask my partner what gives. Snufflypoo, you've been unusually frisky lately. Any particular reason? Sex Bull, if oodles of canoodling is on the menu again tonight, I gotta k… | /r/RedPillWomen | 03/05/19 09:12 PM |
| 7 | Help. Alpha widowed in the worst situationI want to send it for myself so I can stop replaying all the things I didn’t say to him in my head Then write it and destroy it. If it's for yourself, there is no need to involve him. (I bottled up everything, pretended I forgave him for some things and essentially took the blame for everything that happened when it wasn’t mine to take). And that's on you. Appearing three years after the fact to reopen a closed case makes you seem crazy. I’ve held onto this resentment for years and not being abl… | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/05/19 08:18 AM |
| 2 | Help. Alpha widowed in the worst situationWhen a high value man sleeps with a lower value woman, with no intention of committing to her, she thinks that she can access that tier of alpha male. To him, she was just a romp in the hay. After the man leaves for greener pastures, the alpha widow becomes stuck seeking men who are out of her league. Since alphas aren't falling over their feet to marry OP and have her babies, she spends her days shedding tears over the lost alpha, which repels any would-be suitors. Alpha widow options: increase… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/19 08:39 PM |
| 15 | Help. Alpha widowed in the worst situationI will preface by saying I’ve started seeing a therapist however I may not be able to afford to continue seeing one. I think therapy is an excellent idea and you should do whatever you can to keep seeing a therapist. Discuss your options with your therapist, explaining that you might not be able to afford it for much longer. I am now 26 and have wasted almost three years hung up on someone... At 26, you should be capable of being a committed, responsible wife and mother, yet you're still crying … | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/05/19 09:48 AM |
| 1 | Is his anger and upset justifiedIt cannot be fixed. Have you read the posts on RPW about how important it is to vet? Following a RPW approach will not work on someone who is not "Captain" material. Dating is an audition for a possible life together. It is not The Actual Relationship. It's a period during which you keep your eyes peeled for "red flags" and other undesirable behaviours. During this time, you ask yourself whether these behaviours are deal breakers, or could you stand to live with them? Wanting to change a man, or… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/04/19 09:32 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?I can't help you with the specific soup you're trying to perfect, but I thought I'd share the recipe for our favourite Thai broccoli soup. https://heinstirred.com/thai-coconut-broccoli-soup/ It is extremely quick and easy to prepare and tastes great. It contains spinach as well, with optional coriander/cilantro as a garnish. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/04/19 10:20 PM |
| 3 | Challenge: CookingI'm making my first sourdough starter this week, using the Tartine Bread book. We're both keto/carnivore and don't even eat bread, but he's said he might make an exception for the bread I bake. I just want to learn a new skill. I suggested giving the bread to our colleagues. Will see how it goes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/04/19 07:47 AM |
| 1 | I realized that I have absolutely nothing to offer men.Jackson, a son, and August, a girl, the internet tells me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 09:55 AM |
| 2 | I realized that I have absolutely nothing to offer men.Can't believe I'm commenting about celeb gossip, but I recently watched a video about her interview about being "shockingly single". "The 43-year-old also claimed to have been single for 10 years, which is a little awkward given her romance with Sean Penn from 2013-2015." So who knows, but according to her, any recent relationships don't seem to count. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/04/19 08:09 AM |
| 2 | What questions do you ask on the first date to vet someone?It's definitely meant to be asked in person. There is also a "stare into each other's eyes for 4 minutes" exercise. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/04/19 05:19 PM |
| 49 | Should I help my friend?Honestly, I wouldn't say anything to her about her appearance. It would likely be counterproductive. Instead, lead by example. I have a friend in a similar situation, except that she is married. After visiting them for a while, we noticed changes in her. She bought clothes similar to mine. She bought candles for her home. She bought new wine glasses, a dining table (they were couch diners before), new linen. Change comes from within, from a desire to be better. At 38, your friend has to figure o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 16/04/19 08:02 AM |
| 3 | Vetting HelpEveryone is looking for different things in a partner, so step 1 is to make a list of traits and characteristics that you want. Note deal-breakers, note "nice-to-haves", write down any preferences whatsoever. Once you know what you want, vetting becomes much easier. If he doesn't match your list, next! But where do you draw the line between supporting a guy through hard times and just enabling him? Having your life completely together is not a requirement for me. Being willing and on the path to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/04/19 10:19 PM |
| 9 | How can I be a good woman when my captain can't lead?Advice? I intend to stay with him at least until a while after we move in, and if he still doesn't improve, I will decide whether to leave or drastically change something. The most important part of a red pill relationship is to vet properly. I read contempt and resentment in your description of your partner, therefore he is not your captain. Simply calling a man a captain does not make him one. Your choice to move in with him and wait for him to change goes against everything red pill theory su… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/04/19 07:33 PM |
| 3 | Ladies, what are your enneagrams and Myer/Briggs types?Not sure if this answers your question, but no, these types cannot tell us much about people. They're pseudoscientific and about as accurate as a "which Superhero are you" test on Buzzfeed. Scientific personality tests exist, but could never be done for free over the internet. They have to be administered and interpreted by trained professionals. They can take a decade or more to develop! | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/04/19 03:04 PM |
| 2 | [help] How do you beautify your living space?I've seen that app being advertised. So interesting that it helped you! | /r/RedPillWomen | 31/03/19 06:54 AM |
| 1 | Finding a therapist as a RPW?I'm a psychologist in a non-US country, but was trained according to the American school of psychology. Therapists are not supposed to judge your choices or try to steer you in a certain direction. They exist to give you the tools required to function optimally. Ideally, you shouldn't know your therapist's religious views, political views, personal views, etc. It's not about them, it's about you. My advice would be to seek out someone who takes a humanistic approach. This psychological perspecti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/03/19 01:48 PM |
| 1 | How do I get my husband to help at home?I'll give you an example. The kitchen counter's door broke. I could have fixed it but I didn't. I told him "the door broke". The door remained broken for two months until we moved to a new house. You have to reframe the broken door as a problem. "The door broke" is a statement of fact. It requires zero action from him. He can just acknowledge that indeed, the door is broken. So what? How does the broken door negatively impact you? For me, I would take it to my husband and say that "I am so proud… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/19 07:21 PM |
| 1 | How do I get my husband to help at home?I can give him the control, but who will do the fixing, the painting, etc? Is it OK to just let things fall apart? The great thing about being a red-pilled woman is that you trust that your husband will take care of everything that needs fixing and you don't care about "who will do the fixing etc." That becomes entirely his problem. If he's a worthy man, he'll step up. The problem is that if he's not, he'll let things fall apart. That's why we vet. And what kind of things can I let him decide? S… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/03/19 03:49 PM |
| 20 | I don’t know how to approach my relationshipHe promised that he's "invested" after one evening out, to get sex? Nah. Keep looking. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/19 07:17 PM |
| 1 | How do I get my husband to help at home?Yup. You don't have a redpill dynamic. You've got a mother-child relationship. You have not created an environment in which your husband is required to step up and lead. He sounds emasculated, to be honest. He's not the primary provider, can't even use a screwdriver. You are more of a man than he is. What can he contribute that you can't handle on your own? Probably nothing, so he's going to play video games (withdrawing to a fantasy world where he has power, finally). You have a choice now. Cha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/03/19 08:13 AM |
| 6 | How do I get my husband to help at home?Remember that the redpill dynamic in a marriage is that of a Captain and a First Mate. You are both headed to the same destination and working together to complete the journey successfully. If a First Mate noticed a problem that might delay or obstruct the journey, they would go to the Captain to inform them of the problem. The Captain then has to decide on the best course of action, perhaps with input from his crew. So how can you frame the household chores as problems for him to solve? Don't g… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/03/19 12:57 PM |
| 4 | Reinventing myselfDiet: Keto (low-carb) worked wonders for me. However, I've now gone all the way to Marilyn Monroe levels of extreme, into carnivore. Animal products only. Meat, seafood, dairy. Monroe ate steak, lamb or liver every day, breakfast was two raw eggs whisked into hot milk. I don't do her breakfast, just eat meat when hungry, until I am no longer hungry. Check out the zerocarb sub for more info. I realize that this is not for everyone. Keto is good and less "bizarre" (Monroe said that's how people de… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/19 09:26 PM |
| 24 | What would you tell your 21 year old self to do?Vet your man, for heaven's sake! What do you want in a partner? A good husband and good father, yes, but name specific attributes and specific deal breakers. Then, when a man does not meet these criteria, start looking for the man who does. My parents, who are still together, had an unhappy marriage. I was raised with the mindset that you "have to make it work". I stayed in incredibly toxic and abusive relationships, because I was "strong enough" to "make it work". Leaving is failing, I thought.… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/19 08:43 PM |
| – | Self CareShape and paint my nails and toenails. Read a book (busy with The Surrendered Wife). Plan a welcome home party for my Captain. Declutter the bedroom (75% done with this one). Apply a sheet mask. | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/19 05:45 PM |
| 11 | Boyfriend and intentionally makes me madI remember being 19. I followed my own head and heart. If someone had told me to break it off with a boyfriend, I would have stayed just to prove them wrong. I was stupid, inexperienced and foolhardy. I didn't know any of this at the time. I thought I had it all figured out. I felt like an adult. Now, with the wisdom of my years, I want to add my voice to the others on this post. I don't know if you will listen, but I really hope that you will. This guy is not the guy for you. Really. Just exit … | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/03/19 03:20 PM |
| 6 | Recently discovered this sub, and having a really hard time disassembling the smart, "dominant" woman part of me.However, I do NOT, for any second want to ever dumb down myself for an insecure man either. Apparently, it seems that this sub encourages that? Or am I misinterpreting? Don't know what you're misinterpreting, I've never come across anything close to that message on RPW. Never dumb yourself down. Be authentic. Strive to be the very best version of yourself, including intellectually. Continue to improve yourself, grow, learn, develop. Those are the messages I have encountered here. Vet your man. S… | /r/RedPillWomen | 14/03/19 04:02 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?I'm thankful for the way my Captain indulges my need for words of affirmation. Yesterday, I went lingerie shopping and sent him some sneak peeks from the fitting room. Today, we were joking about having to fund our lingerie obsession through a career in organized crime, when he stated that I already have the same body as "Catwoman in the comics", so I'm halfway to becoming a cat burglar. I was taken aback, but massively flattered, to hear him express it so nonchalantly - I have the body of a smo… | /r/RedPillWomen | 10/03/19 10:16 PM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsThat's it! Thank you so much! | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/19 03:51 PM |
| – | Homemaking: Tips, Tricks & QuestionsI recently read a post about creating a home decor aesthetic that would satisfy both the poster's tastes, as well as her husband's. Someone responded by posting a link to a furniture company that produces suitable styles of furniture. I remember the home page showcased a huge sofa/couch and they called it something like the cloud sofa. I have no idea which website it was, does anyone know what it could be? | /r/RedPillWomen | 05/03/19 03:30 PM |
| 31 | Does becoming more feminine attract men?Yes. Try it for yourself. Wear a pretty dress that enhances your curves, put on heels, make-up and dainty jewellery. Go out in public. See how people treat you. My friend asked me why I put so much effort into my appearance. I told her the way people treat me makes it worth it. Literally everyone treats me differently when I look ultra-feminine. Even babies smile at me, transfixed! A word of warning, though. It doesn't help to dress like a woman if you don't feel confident in your outfit. Inspir… | /r/RedPillWomen | 04/03/19 01:29 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsI use the Moleskine Passions notebooks for handwritten recipes. It looks gorgeous and my Captain has commented several times about my beautiful handwriting (it's really not great) and how I am the only woman he has ever met who has handwritten recipe books. There is a space where I can add notes about which dishes are his favourites. I like the fact that he admires the effort I put into my recipe collection. He also says that my handwritten books are a piece of family history and I must teach ou… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/19 10:14 PM |
| – | Simple QuestionsRelationship market value. What you bring to the table in a relationship. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/03/19 04:31 PM |
| 4 | Yes or No: did/do you have childhood trauma?Yes. I want the kind of family I never had. Same goes for my husband. We just want a calm, drama-free, comfortable home, unlike our childhood homes. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/02/19 10:09 AM |
| 2 | Dominant MenThis post is quite anxiety inducing. This man is not your Captain. He's steering his own boat and you are desperately paddling after him, hoping to be the first to catch up to him. He's not worth paddling after. Not every man you date is a Captain. Not every man you date for a long time is your Captain. Dating some guy and calling him 'Captain' does not make it so. Abort this mission, start over and vet properly. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/02/19 07:17 PM |
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