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Need SupportShougekinojp/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 12:38 PM
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I like that. Sorry i never replied to it. Any advice on getting over it?
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 12:07 PM
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So if there is no “compliance” in this case, then you’d end things right?
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 08:33 PM
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So you communicated what your expectations were and if she couldnt do that, then you’d leave?
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 06:25 PM
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Out of all the advice, i will say I have to follow this one. Everyone here is right, it was aweird thing for her to say. But i wont let this consume me. She dont want me, fine, ill move on. Just wasted time with her. I love that n i will try my best to keep it in mind as i continue this relationship. Thank you
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 04:30 PM
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So instead of thinking shes cheating or shady, just enjoy what is presented to you. Like she might have done something weird right there but who cares, YOU are with her now n she wants you there. Thats all that matters?
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 03:40 PM
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Nah shes not hard drinking at all. More of a casual thing. She drank alot that night because shes very shy meeting my friends.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 03:01 PM
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I agree with that saying and I must say, she is clawing back tooth n nail trying to make sure I trust her. Because, as I said, my jealousy’s n insecurities come out a bit. Not blatant like “who u talkin to!?” Or anything physical, more like concern looks. I think the reason I asked you guys all this is because yes she did something stupid, it wasnt a body shot or anything like that at all. But yes i told her it was an action n i didnt appreciate it. She agrees with it saying “i fucked up but I w…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 03:00 PM
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You mean keep working towards that but dont beat myself up that im having these thoughts?
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 02:44 PM
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I have indeed caught feelings. Its interesting from all the advice everyone is giving me, its clear we all are weary of cheaters n being hurt. But i truly want to give her a chance.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 02:44 PM
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For me, it was a red flag and yes I explained to her the possibility of her gettin to drunk etc n then cheating was higher in my mind now because of what happened. And she agrees she doesn’t know why she said it and doesnt even drink much now because of it unless she’s with me, which I appreciate. But i just dont want to turn into a controlling dick because I’m worried she’ll cheat. I don’t want to be like “dont wear that bc ur titties show” or something like that. I just don’t want to be an ins…
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 02:16 PM
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How do I know im not just being paranoid n could lose someone great. Because like I said, everything else is perfect, we get along well, same interests, goals etc. just that incident spiraled me.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 02:08 PM
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I see your point but would words equal the possibility of cheating? I mean, we all think people are cute or whatever just in passing, she was just drunk enough to say someone was n thaz why she took another shot. She never actually did anything physical.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 01:49 PM
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Do you think thats why I’m insecure, I’m afraid she’ll cheat and/or leave? Aren’t we all afraid of that when you meet someone you really like/love?
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 12:58 PM
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Damn, 50k in a 700k house! You doing something right. Id say just get a lawyer. I wanted to just mediate so its cheaper as well but she seems to keep going back to money n how this is hers etc so lawyer just seemed easier. But ya, id say leave revenge out of it. Pain is pain and we all lash out when we’re in pain. But for me, what I’ve chosen to do is be the best person in front of her n not be petty bout stuff bc i still love her so I am just showin her the last moments of my love that I don’t …
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 12:13 PM
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Id really be up for any advice I can get to be honest. Ive no idea if she has anyone else. I cant say id be surprised, not because shes a bad person by any means, but if shes been feeling like this for this long, I cant imagine her not wanting to find someone else.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 05:43 PM
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Unfortunately no, im still in the house, we’re cordial and even have gone out to dinner, watch movies/tv shows, and go run at the park together but she still says she doesn’t want to give me false hope or lead me on. Its like she’s made up her mind already and some time ago and is just waiting. And unfortunately, I know its my fault. And it’s devastating when I think about it. But the only thing I can do is continue growing, continue being better, and continue loving her. If she stays she stays,…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 05:25 PM
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Im going something similar but Im about two months in. Havent filed yet because ive been waiting on certain events to happen first and if she still feels like she doesn’t love me anymore after that, then ill file. But I cried a bunch the first month at work. I tried not to look disheartened, disheveled, and just all around sad but it’s incredibly hard. I dont like people knowing my business because I dont want the im sorrys and the fuck hers because I know if they knew the whole story, maybe peo…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 09:31 AM
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Same situation here. She keeps saying she wsnts it n she knows how she’s feeling but wont file. She really just doesn’t want to look like the bad person in this yet she keeps tellin me she wants to divorce because she doesnt love me anymore. She keeps saying she doesn’t care what people think but in thr same breath cant stand the thought that people will say its her fault. I think your situation might be like mine, so she can literally just be able to say “HE filed for divorce, not me. I dont wa…
/r/Divorce_Men11/06/23 10:22 AM
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Im the exact same. My anxiety makes me start distrusting her when she goes out with her friends, specifically some friends, that it makes me think shes doing stuff. And over the years i guess ive worn her down. Now she wants to divorce and its breaking my heart daily because of what we’ve built and been through. I havent eaten or slept well in weeks but im doing therapy and working on me n thats the only thing I can do. It sucks because i feel like im all to blame and im starting to realize its …
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 08:38 PM
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