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I don’t much appreciate your condescension. I did some reading to see if my memory aligned with the terms being used here which it generally does. I’m not some young idealistic thing. You crossed a bunch of different issues and it’s hard for me to understand the point. On the sexual side, I’m a bit more conservative than some progressives/liberals so I’m not entirely in disagreement with some of the issues raised here. But I really struggle to imagine any non-fringe feminist being ok with what t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:56 AM
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Shaming is not an effective behavior change strategy. It’s different to encourage someone to ask themselves if what they’re doing is really in their best interest, but women being told not to enjoy sex or that “good women don’t want sex” is not liberating either. It creates all sorts of hang ups and women unable to ask for and get what they want sexually (which can be fulfilling vanilla sex in a committed relationship). Also didn’t manage to actually respond to most of what I wrote about how Lib…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 04:01 AM
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How did they set it up? By fighting tooth and nail for women’s opportunities in the work place?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 01:18 AM
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WhatsApp is the principal messaging platform for much of the rest of the world outside the US (preferred over texting). You can make your own standards, but there are very legit reasons for using it (family overseas for instance).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/20 07:00 PM
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Agreed. At the same time, I’ve learned that spending too much time on the topic of Trump is often not very helpful in getting to know a guy because it’s easy to get worked up. I try to lightly touch it and then try to stay away at least on the first couple of dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:47 AM
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Elon Musk is a pretty notorious womanizer, but point taken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 08:01 PM
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It’s also when they will think about doing something even if they are heinous and how much leeway people get. Literally yesterday on the front page were two posts about leaving people homeless - AITA For kicking my girlfriend out after she was mean and eventually yelled at my 10 year old orphaned brother who came to live with us What should I do - we’ve been broken up for 7 months and my ex-boyfriend won’t leave?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 01:35 PM
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Eh, then no one should date me either. Cheaters are going to cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 02:58 PM
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Hinge is my favorite followed by Bumble. I’m also on the League which has been fine but not enough people are on it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:52 PM
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My best friend worked at an agency that had a large campus and parked a good distance from her office so she wasn’t able to get to car and phone at lunch. But if we’d made plans to hang out on Friday evening but not figured them out exactly, she would call me with her landline phone (number showing up as unknown) to make plans. She would email from trips. Obviously, expectations are a bit different with friends but she found ways to get in contact. A man who is interested will find a way to get …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:41 PM
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Washington DC and maybe there is a bit more “reputation consciousness” where people think about potential scandals, security clearances, or other things so if they just want to hook up they are going to be more subtle. But I’m also pretty picky about who I swipe on, don’t use Tinder, and start conversations with substance (no simple “how are you’s?). I’ll readily admit that I probably need to change some of my approach since I haven’t found the right guy yet, so I always think it’s worthwhile to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 09:12 PM
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Maybe I’m spoiled because I live in a well-educated city, but my OLD experience is nothing like yours. I’ve maybe only had a couple of guys in years of being on the apps come out with such bullshit. My bullshit is more about ghosting both during conversations and occasionally after dates (maybe what they want is sex and they’re just too careful to come out and say it - in that cause you’ve saved yourself some time). While it’s not your fault at all, I wonder if part of it is the apps you’re choo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:59 PM
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A lot of folks can’t take their phones in, so yes there is that consideration when it comes to texting and availability for communication that people do need to understand. However, if a guy is really interested, you won’t be sitting there wondering about it and it won’t be a real issue.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 10:17 PM
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Every photo is a near identical selfie. Same facial expression, same steering wheel, same non-distinct backgrounds that don’t tell you anything about their personality. Maybe a mirror selfie thrown in to mix it up just a little.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 12:56 AM
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Yup, even with a Top Secret security clearance you can still post photos just probably not say where you work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 12:52 AM
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For me, physical attraction can grow with emotional connection. You have to know how you work, but the emotional intelligence, generally having their shit together, and being a generous person are not things that are going to grow or change. If I’m not super attracted to a guy physically, but he’s got a lot else going for him I will give it some time to see if that attraction will grow. I can’t be repulsed by him, but I also don’t expect to be drooling from the beginning. For me, it’s about know…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 07:47 PM
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I think this is also a good filter for emotionally mature men who have done the work. Your story is what happens when you tell the wrong guy about your past not necessarily what a HVM will do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/19 02:35 PM
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To be a bit of a contrarian, I’m not sure it’s a great idea for you to put gifts as your love language unless you are materialistic (I can’t tell if that’s from the convo or your answer to the prompts). If people aren’t really into the whole love language thing, then it’s hard for people to separate them. You could listen to the podcast By the Book when they read the 5 Love Languages to see two people who aren’t gifts people struggle to understand it. The dude seems totally whack a doodle, so yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 02:20 AM
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I agree that you shouldn’t give someone infinite time, but for me it can be hard to be super excited about someone from the get-go. I have to put in the time and consideration to decide if a guy is generally HV and give myself the time to build attraction. Guys who have their shit together and have emotional intelligence are hard to find, so I usually give them a chance even if I’m not drooling over them physically. I know that I can build that kind of attraction. In short, you’ve got to know yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 07:40 AM
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I think any time a relationship doesn’t work out there is some sadness and that’s ok - feeling your feelings is good. It doesn’t mean that there should be a different outcome, but you can still be sad/disappointed that things didn’t work out. I’m a bit down after telling a guy on a second date at the end that I don’t see things going anywhere and realizing another guy I’d had a nice first date with is in an open relationship (no go for me). It’s just a bummer - I have no regrets about the decisi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 12:13 AM
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His book, The Gift of Fear, is an important read especially for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 04:02 AM
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If you’re in a major municipality, they require real background checks and training for taxis. But in other places, especially abroad, that record matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 10:00 PM
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Definitely. I’m comparing the options available. Drunk drivers are also a major safety threat and Uber has been demonstrated to lower drunk driving in cities where it comes in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 09:58 PM
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While I don't want to down play the seriousness of this, it's important to remember just how many rides were taken with Uber during that time. Walking home alone might be less safe, but we're not tallying the statistics this way. This isn't to say that you are wrong to stay on guard or make whatever decisions you want for safety. However, a statistic like this needs to be viewed in context so you can make accurate risk calculations while working to change the systems that allow these things to h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 09:08 PM
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I’m all about getting your shit together however is healthy and in a way that works for you. Accountability can be super helpful for some people so go out and get it! Nothing wrong with 2 coffees as long as it doesn’t mess up your sleep or mean hundreds of calories. The research is pretty positive overall on benefits of coffee. I’m pretty active on r/loseit (it’s a great community if you are looking for weight loss)and I’ll offer that for me using MyFitnessPal to track food was the secret to sev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 02:55 PM
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This is my biggest frustration with this sub is that it’s money focused. We should be looking for men who are generous and giving (in many ways) and place a high value on making us happy. Money can be a good proxy for this, but for a guy with a lot of it may not actually reflect the quality of his character.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 12:02 AM
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Oh the hypocrisy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/19 10:26 PM
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The book The Gift of Fear is really excellent on this point. One idea that I think is really important is to differentiate between people you approach and those that approach you in a situation. If you ask someone for help, the likelihood that they’re bad is very low. But if they approach or offer, you should be more suspicious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 10:42 PM
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I was in a sexual assault education group in college. One of the most important messages we needed to communicate was - it is not your fault. So, when we got asked and we always did - “How can I prevent being assaulted?” This was the answer. Women are taught to make others comfortable, not to be rude, not to make a scene, etc. Screw that! If something seems off, trust your gut and do whatever you need to do to make yourself safe. Please teach this to all the women in your life!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 12:40 PM
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Some insights on how to do this would be so helpful! I feel like if I do much more than kiss it goes all the way (because I want it to). How do you keep things advancing without moving too fast? I’ve come to the conclusion that refusing sex at least the first time it feels like a possibility will weed out a bunch of guys. Do you address it head on? Do you not go into each other’s places (like don’t spend time in your apartments)? I want details.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 02:57 AM
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The spines are pretty easy to remove after a quick lesson to prepare for cooking (not like pufferfish). But yeah they eat so much and don’t have predators because of those nasty spines.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 01:09 PM
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Lionfish have style but are also a super problematic invasive species from North Carolina to Venezuela and throughout the Caribbean. They eat lots of other species babies. They are super tasty though, so ask for some for a fish dinner that’s actually helping the ocean!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 01:07 PM
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The blob fish only looks awful because it’s been dragged up from the deep ocean that they were evolved for. https://www.earthtouchnews.com/wtf/wtf/blobfish-might-be-a-gooey-mess-out-of-water-but-check-out-a-living-one-video/ Good reminder to try appreciate people for their strengths (not overlook bad weaknesses though for the men you’re dating).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 01:04 PM
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One of my current mantras is “Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm”. This helps me differentiate between when doing something for someone or letting someone else choose is truly not a thing and when it actually is a sacrifice. Also, think about how you like doing things for your friends because you care about them and it makes you feel good to make them happy. You want that same perspective from a partner towards you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 08:56 PM
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No. Not for the reason stated at least. They will become stunted and eventually die because of poor maintenance and water quality.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 10:48 PM
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I personally think they’re super ugly and make people look like pigs or bulls. However, I don’t feel the need to post on it. I can choose not to date someone who has one - no big deal. That’s the difference. They somehow think the world should be bent to suit their interests and everything is out there for them and their enjoyment. Women have been socialized to make others happy, so we don’t expect other people’s appearances to make us happy and don’t get angry about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 04:32 PM
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For early dates, having your own method of transportation is a safety necessity. Do not accept rides early on particularly if it means you won’t have a good out to get home not depending on him. Him picking you up also means he knows where you live - also not good. I’m an environmentalist living in a big city where traffic can be awful and parking hard. It’s important to me that he at least understand some of these dynamics. Context matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 10:24 PM
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I’ve done pretty well with military guys, but I’ve been picky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/19 03:27 AM
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Safety is why I generally pick first date locations not so close to my house so I will need or can choose to take public transit home. Also, carefully time bathroom visits based on when my glass is empty (and always go to the bathroom just before the date).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 04:09 PM
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Definitely!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 07:12 PM
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I think it’s great you’re taking time to work on yourself, but I want to caution you on taking a “I’ll start my life when...” approach to things. Life is now and nothing is guaranteed. So spend some time focused on your mental health and working on yourself but please don’t wait to until you have everything “in place” to put yourself out there (not just in terms of dating). Healing and growth can also come through relationships (and often does) rather than sitting by ourselves. If you can afford…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 12:49 PM
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Open-minded is one of those things that’s great almost everywhere except dating apps. It’s red flag in a profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/19 05:09 AM
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I do wonder how women here would advise others on dating while students and, maybe even more complicated, if the man is a student and the woman is a working professional. I’ve gone on dates with a few PhD students and I feel like that complicates the rules (I likely make twice what they do). I do think there are ways that guys can make effort that aren’t just about money. I’ve been impressed when they suggest something that is clearly a subject of interest for me especially as a day date. They c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 02:29 PM
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After way too long on dating apps, I don’t think I’ve ever gotten it. I wonder if it’s a geographic thing or who you’re matching with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/10/19 02:36 AM
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Welcome to sea lioning. https://wondermark.com/1k62/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/19 01:06 PM
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Preach!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/19 11:17 AM
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Haha...I specifically meant that he was thinking everyone he matched with was legit and someone that the woman he was pretending to be would actually want to date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/19 05:32 PM
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Also, I have to believe there a bunch of catfish for women too especially on Bumble. Most of the jacked guys I see seem to lack any personality or have shitty personalities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/19 03:53 PM
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There is actually science to this and it’s smart. Your brain adjusts your view of what’s attractive based on what you see around you. In the days before any sort of media, this made a lot of sense because you needed to get with someone in your tribe or a nearby tribe so you better like your options. Now we all consume a lot of media where we see the top 1% of attractive people that is airbrushed. For both men and women it can have this effect, however most women seem to do better at overcoming i…
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