Self call out: not making my happiness a priority.

fenyx202 · 2019-11-16T15:30:37+00:00

Find a phrase and keep repeating it until you believe it and are acting on it. I am is more powerful than want or need or any other phrasing.

Think I am happy instead of I want to be happy. Focus on the reality that you want, not the one you don't want or the one you have.

2019-11-16T15:18:03+00:00

Maybe you feel like you dont deserve it, or feel guilty about seeking your own happiness. Forgive yourself about the past.

azngirl7689 · 2019-11-16T16:06:53+00:00

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DrMcFoxyMD · 2019-11-16T18:14:23+00:00

This mindfulness if a great first step! Next, notice when you do it. Notice each time. Just take notice and see how often you do it and see how it is detrimental to your own happiness. You will only notice it after the fact at first and eventually will be able to see it happening and then know when you are actively doing it.

After you get good at noticing it and can point out every time you do it, stop. Stop and think about it before you do it. Do the opposite of your natural reaction. Do the thing that will make you very uncomfortable but will be the thing you actually want to do. It will be stepping out of a comfort zone and very anxiety inducing first, if not, great!

There is no time frame to when you decide to go to each next step but your realization of the matter is the MOST IMPORTANT and hardest step. Great job so far! You've got this, trust me.

whycantweallgetal0ng · 2019-11-16T17:22:40+00:00

Does your sacrifice actually help others or does it enable them?

Sienna57 · 2019-11-16T20:56:47+00:00

One of my current mantras is “Don’t set yourself on fire to keep others warm”. This helps me differentiate between when doing something for someone or letting someone else choose is truly not a thing and when it actually is a sacrifice.

Also, think about how you like doing things for your friends because you care about them and it makes you feel good to make them happy. You want that same perspective from a partner towards you.

Title	Self call out: not making my happiness a priority.
Author	azngirl7689
Upvotes	32
Comments	8
Date	November 16, 2019 12:54 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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