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MOOD FOR LIFEwhycantweallgetal0ng/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 03:09 PM
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NOTHING BUT FACTSwhycantweallgetal0ng/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:36 AM
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The same type of man lurks here and sends super abusive messages to the women who are venting, while he whines and complains everywhere about this being a hate sub. Nobody ever asks why the women here are so angry and feel the need to vent in the first place. They just say stuff like "two wrongs don't make a right" when you call them out on their shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 01:04 PM
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Stop trynna be anything and focus on your degree or trade.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 11:06 AM
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You remind me so much of myself in my early 20s. I had the same thoughts...the same fears of being alone at 40+. They ALL came to pass. What nobody told me was, it would happen by choice and not for lack of offers from older, younger and same-aged men. When you stay in a relationship because you're afraid of being alone, you eventually end up having such heartbreaking experiences, that being single loses its fearsome quality. You finally see single for what it is: the ideal state of peace, harmo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 09:03 AM
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That's why you don't stay friends with low value people. It comes back to bite you in the ass, each and every time. Dear Swan, birds of a feather, flock together. I recently realized, not only we aren't of the same feather, we aren't even of the same planetary species. So there's no point in flocking together ever again. Good bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:50 AM
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Patriarchy once again dictating women's reproductive choices: exhibit #12.354.454
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/20 06:42 AM
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The sex positive post we didn't know we wanted but we definitely needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/20 09:58 AM
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The first thing you have to ask when dealing with matters of "conscience" in dating and relationships is "who put that particular thought in my mind?" Most likely a society or a religion that 100% supports patriarchy and the subjugation of women. What we should feel guilty about is constantly setting ourselves on fire to keep other people warm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 09:40 AM
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​ This isn’t the first time he’s been really tactless and it always seems to be when he’s talking about women. Beware of the man who always seems to make "tactless comments" when it comes to women. (Telling you things they normally only tell their buddies) It screams immaturity. It also tells you exactly where you stand with him. This is not someone who is ready to settle down in any kind of way but he still needs his sex and his cuddles, and going to prostitutes all the time gets really expensi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/20 08:26 AM
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A big reason why young women go back to men who are completely wrong for them and proceed to waste the rest of their youth is, when you break up with someone like that it can take a long time to get over it. Like 2-3 years even. That length of time feels like an eternity when you are in your 20s. They start to think, not getting over him quickly "must mean he's the one". But that's a common length of time for heartbreak and only a very small bleep in a long life. So, in the meanwhile, do some fu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 09:46 PM
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The tips themselves are actually not half bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 07:57 PM
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Women become jaded when they put up with bullshit from low value men over a long period of time. Don't do that to yourself and you won't become jaded. This guy for example. Someone asking to date you 20 times, after you've said no the first time, is not a high value man. Because those would leave you alone and never ask you again after the first rejection. But you didn't go no contact and drop him out of your life. You continued to put up with his bad behavior. That's how you become jaded.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 06:29 PM
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While a woman can have a strong libido, it's not a constant and it can fall into hybernation for various reasons. "Use it or lose it" comes to mind. So you're pretty normal. It should perk up again once you meet someone you actually like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 06:43 PM
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A lot of women here have mentioned how they fall into bad habits when they are in a relationship. I wonder if this is due to most of us not being single long enough to form good habits in our youth. Young women are generally "hot commodities" and are rarely unpartnered for long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 09:17 AM
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I'm glad for him. At only 22 he will benefit from leveling up for decades to come, not to mention he's going to make a lucky woman very happy some day. I'm even happier for all the 19 year old women who find this sub before they get locked down in some sad relationship and waste all their 20s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:44 AM
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Seriously, that's nothing. Before strict moderation, nearly all the posts here had ZERO upvotes, not to mention all the butthurt, misogynistic comments in plain sight. :D The current state of the sub is a paradise in comparison.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:38 AM
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Everyone know's Chers corny song "It's in his kiss" but few realize just how true that is. Kissing was always the first to go, before sex even. If the two of you aren't french kissing anymore, it's time to seriously reassess that relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:21 AM
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Here are some thoughts, whatever you decide to do: Don't have any kids until you are done with the mininum amount of education you need to have a decent job. For most of us that is a college degree or a trade. Only have kids if you are mentally, emotionally, physically and financially prepared for the possibility of things going south after the birth fo your first child. Wait at least two-three years until you have another child. This gives you the time to determine if your relationship is still…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 08:16 AM
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I'm long done asking myself if I'm overreacting or wrong. I'm an average woman with no strange political or religious affiliations, meaning I have a healthy tolerance for other people's lifestyles and a "live and let live" mindset. So if something irks me, you can be sure there's a decent reason for it. While there are some rare, untraumatized women who became prostitutes and porn stars for the heck of it, the majority is clearly of the type you describe and that delusion almost always ends at 4…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 07:59 AM
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Not familiar but r/LesbianDatingStrategy/ and /r/truelesbians/ might have more insight.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 10:06 AM
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For those who'd like to know, here's how to disable private messages: Log on from your desktop, click on your profile, and then user settings where it says "chats and messaging" and disable both. You also go to notifications, scroll down and disable notifications for messages, but for some reason you might still see notifications on the app. So if you get any fantom notifications, you go to the app inbox at the upper right hand corner, tap on the dotted line and you can mark inbox contents read,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:55 AM
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It's impossible to upvote this enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 08:53 AM
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This answer right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 09:44 PM
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As someone extremely and extensively familiar with the shyest of men... I'm here to tell you they are perfectly capable of making their interest known when they are interested. If you ask them out, they are likely to say yes, because few men will say no to anything that's easily offered. Don't be surprised however if they suddenly ghost you or just go back to pining for those who are their actual type, while ignoring you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:54 PM
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I agree with others. THIS marriage to THIS guy isn't for you. And yes, I know all about the guilt feelings of wanting to leave someone who is "trying". But if you leave now, you can still build some wonderful, youthful memories which do not include him. You can still rebuild your life and a lot easier and happier than you ever thought it was possible. But if you are going to be like the rest of us and wait until you are 40 to leave the manchild...good luck with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 06:08 PM
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wHy iS FdS AlLoWeD tO eXiSt? Because FDS does not and will never promote or encourage acts of violence, like male misogynistic subs are so famously known for doing. And telling women to stop settling for losers and be the man you'd like to meet is not a crime either, even though it might seem like it to your hurt fee fees.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:04 AM
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But I can’t shake the feeling If you can't trust anything else in life, at least trust that. It's there for a reason. Women are highly intuitive by nature, probably because we are physically weaker and need our brains and intuition to survive far more than men do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:13 PM
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China aborted something north of 150 million female fetuses during the one-child policy, because "if you're going to have just one child, might as well have a boy, girls are worthless." There is a severe shortage of women now so they are doubling down the pressure on the ones who are still single. But those women sense they have the upper hand, even though they might not understand exactly why. Good for them. Stay single. A society that aborts fetuses because of their sex deserves to rot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:33 AM
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Never feel guilty about ending things with anyone, whether it's a high value or a low value man. When you end things you are saving both yours and his precious time and are redirecting efforts and energies to someone more appropriate for both of you. Why on earth should you feel guilty about not wasting both of your lives? That shit is short.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:48 AM
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And according to the despicable Dailymail. Caroline Flack hit out at 'horrible' campaign group Fathers For Justice after they dubbed her an 'abuser' over her domestic violence court case, Kerry Katona reveals Flack, 40, messaged Katona, 39, days after she was charged asking for help She asked: 'How did you deal with fathers for justice? They are horrible x' F4J campaign had Flack's picture and 'this is what a domestic abuser looks like' ​ Nobody really knows why they targeted her, she wasn't eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:40 AM
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Absolute numbers don't work with big disparaties of income. It should be a percentage. And that percentage has to be based on her income, not the amount of bills. If that's too much for him, then he should marry a woman of his income level rather than be sucking a poor one dry. If you can't the grasp the logic of this, you are in the wrong sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:22 AM
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I like the way you think. 👍👍👍👍👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 05:46 PM
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This right here!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 04:02 PM
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More sad stories in the comments, including a woman who divorced her lvm after 40 years because she couldn't take it anymore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 12:05 PM
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so like he’s clearly a monster right Honey, ditch the "right" in the end. Just write he's clearly a monster. Period.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:11 AM
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If someone told me NOT to go to XYZ sub, the first thing I'd do is go to XYZ sub. 😂😂😂 Bet she did that on purpose!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:04 AM
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'It always takes two to tango' This realization sure took a fucking long time to get there. Watch this now go nowhere. Touching women's bodies is fine but not men's, who do you think you are, this is patriarchy... /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 08:56 AM
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Not too surprised. If I had to pick one job that attracts LVM like moths to flame it's software engineering. Those guys are the most likely to have a raging porn addiction and a platinum card to a Reddit misogynistic cult, not to mention they feel better than everyone else because "computers."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:26 PM
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Patriarchy. Feminism for a woman is basically waking up and realizing you were being bred as a battery for the machines. But low value men feel entitled to appropriate even this trope for themselves and call their misogynistic cult "red pill", as if it were a particularly special and unique sentiment and not something that men have been telling themselves for thousands of years, in order to feel better about needing women (in their eyes the lesser humans) for sex. How I despise those pieces of s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:09 AM
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Don't forget Angelina Jolie (44), even though she's isn't likable she works hard to highlight issues concerning women and kicked out an alcoholic from her life, while so many others keep their lvm because they're too afraid of ruining their image. And I never liked Drew Barrymore (44) more than when she played in the Santa Clarita Diet. Also, I love Whoopi Goldberg (64) and Queen Latifah (49), both so badass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 08:53 AM
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"Omg, I didn't realize he was such a shitty partner" is the epiphany that many MANY women have later in life. That's why you don't settle for the first guy you meet or even the second or the third. Men like to shame women who have different experiences because you can't fool that woman anymore, she won't put up with your low effort shit. He'll actually have to "man up" and become a better person and many of them are much too lazy and entitled for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 07:16 AM
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Welcome to the radness of the 40s. 💜 And it gets better. The women in their 50s and beyond are even more badass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:57 AM
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You see that December dip in many sites due to Christmas/NYE holidays.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/20 06:52 AM
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WTF did I just read?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 08:36 PM
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sis is still confused 🤦‍♀️ This is why: ​ I don't have any friends and no one else I can speak to except my boyfriend. We have more ways to communicate now that we can count, yet many of us are lonelier than ever. And even when we have someone, the advice is often skewed towards trying harder because young people are sold to this shitty idea that relationships are hard work and misery. That's why you need subreddits like FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 05:52 PM
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Brittany runs a Marathon is a film that actually has a realistic woman leveling up HARD as a main plot. Very impressed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/20 06:14 AM
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Well, yes. That's what confirmation means. ;) If you need to be an actual hacker in order to check his Fort Knox, then might as well not bother, because you already have your answer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:29 PM
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Al igual que con tantas otras cosas, se trata de practicar y prepararse mentalmente para esos eventos. Y lleva tiempo. Un montón de tiempo. No tienes que ser fría con ellos. Solo distante y corto.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 05:59 PM
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This is unacceptable. 😡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 04:00 PM
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Marriage at its most basic is a legal roommate, business partner and sometimes parent of your children. So at the core you have to make sure he is someone who picks up after himself, works hard, is financially literate, as well as someone you deeply respect and would be proud if your children turned out like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 08:57 AM
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As long as men continue rage against women who are just looking out for themselves, I've no problem pointing out that only their porn is worse than anything ever posted here, far more disgusting and a hundred times more dangerous. Let's not get started on the other stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 07:02 AM
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History has shown time and again that men are incapable of doing that. Jesus comes to mind, his ideas were extremely positive and progressive for that time. The other men took over and it turned into yet another patriarchal religion that benefits men more that women and gave their priests a great excuse to live from the poor, go to war and to molest children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/20 06:53 AM
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I'm a firm believer that trust should be earned, not given away. Trust is earned incrementally by observing a man who behaves consistently and openly without being required to do so. Only after a confirmation do you let yourself trust some more. That confirmation should be possible without asking and without extensive use of technology. If you can only confirm your observations through extensive use of technology, then you already have your answer. Don't bother asking, just leave him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:12 PM
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He is free to enter those establishments just as I'm free to leave him when he does. I do not give an advance warning about this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:45 PM
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Listen Hatfish, last time I checked each and every guy of your kind had no problem finding a woman stupid enough to be his girlfriend, his wife and even the mother of his children. If you're incapable of finding a woman in this current ocean of pick-mes the problem is not women, it's you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 08:30 PM
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No, you certainly don't have to settle on appearance but you may have to spend some time accepting the fact that it's going to take ability, strategy and effort in all areas of life. Also, if some famous high value women are any indication, learning to be being ok with the fact that you might be "all that and a bag of chips" and still not find him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/20 09:42 AM
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Cue SpongeBob rainbow meme and the word testosterone in big white letters. Google that stuff. It's one heck of a drug. The amounts we have are miniscule compared to what the average man carries around on any given day.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 10:56 AM
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Oddly specific for sure. 😄 But, seriously, whatever floats your boat. There are plenty of women who find them amusing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:38 AM
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I've met actual women and men who are going their own way. People who actually go their own way never spend any time around the opposite sex voluntarily and they want to be celibate. The reddit idiots who send abusive messages here are not voluntarily anything. They are incels and pretty damn angry about it. It's just easier to be angry, hateful and entitled. Change takes effort.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 08:11 AM
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Still, a huge red flag right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:59 AM
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You did just fine. Read your post again. You didn't dump him just because of the ptsd, you dumped him because you had an instinctive reaction and you listened to it. A lot of unfortunate experiences can be avoided in this life, simply by listening to our perfectly good instincts. In such cases I would avoid telling them why, they'll just lie to the next woman. Just say that you don't feel the spark or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/20 06:26 PM
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Hell yeah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 08:11 PM
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Yes, I personally know such cases too. Marrying later in life won't prevent that from happening, it only gives you as a woman a better bargaining position if things go south. She can still fall back on her masters at some point. The woman who became a mother at 21 can't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 07:46 PM
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You dream of becoming good at something so you quit a comfortable job and go work for less in order to learn the ropes. You feel called to do something about poor children/animals/the environment/etc and you just do it even though you get a ton of flack about it from other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 06:20 PM
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The only one who gets texted first is offspring, family and girlfriends. I'm completely unapologetic about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 03:27 PM
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Tell her: I would not make an issue of it but not hide it either. Be glad for every man who gets up and goes, because he would have ruined your life in the long run. Your education part of who you are and the last thing you need is a husband who can't cope with that. Its a very depressing situation which invariably ends in divorce. Hypergamy in men is a thing and there are men, especially from rich families, who will only consider their educational equal or better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 11:29 AM
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👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 10:31 AM
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Yes, that assumes women will want to marry every man who is an "attractive prospect", which isn't true either. What is an "attractive prospect" to me won't be attractive to you, because we are individual beings and not objects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/20 09:19 AM
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And here's how to disable private messages: Log on from your desktop, click on your profile, and then user settings where it says "chats and messaging" and disable both. You also go to notifications, scroll down and disable notifications for messages, but for some reason you might still see notifications on the app. So if you get any fantom notifications, you go to the app inbox at the upper right hand corner, tap on the dotted line and you can mark inbox contents read, so you don't see the noti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:35 PM
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There better be nobody giving mods a hard time. Think of all the abusive messages you've gotten, multiply by 100 and that's what mods have to see every single day, so that nobody else has to.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 10:29 PM
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It's important for a woman to be able to vent and say what she wants, without a man rushing to explain why she is wrong and fucked up according to his reasoning. The book "a room of one's own" was written for a reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 08:19 AM
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But when they want to write an abusive message to a random woman in Reddit, the same men can suddenly type out multiple lines like nobody's business. Dead Poets Society comes to mind: Language was invented for one reason, boys - to woo women - and, in that endeavor, laziness will not do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 11:08 PM
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El tiempo es el mejor doctor del mundo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 08:53 PM
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Yeah, so patronizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 06:53 PM
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Those are also the same men who say "guilt-tripping" and "pressure" is not abuse because I didn't hit anyone. Upholding the letter of the law but not the spirit, you are kidding nobody.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/20 07:07 AM
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Louder for the eager beavers in the back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 08:47 AM
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And their Ducktails 😄😄😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 07:22 AM
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No supply without demand. That's business 101. Who is buying all these children? Hint: it's not women. Seems to me the crusaders hanging around here need to focus on themselves and their brethren first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 08:22 PM
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Amen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:58 PM
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Don't hope it's porn addiction over cheating. It's not any better, in fact it's a lot worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:42 PM
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That's just low value male propaganda. And they are extremely invested in it because it makes them feel better for being such utter losers in life. Particularly East European men, who tend to have a lower life expectancy due to drinking, have absolutely zero room to judge other people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 04:39 PM
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Tell them this: Parents who actually love their little girl will want the very best for her or none at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:37 AM
105

There will be a huge temptation to water down the sub's premise, as more and more pick-mes find fds, mark my words. The desperation for some low value cock out there is unbelievable and that's why many men are as entitled as they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/20 09:31 AM
14

I'm so angry for her and every woman who has to put up with this every single day as well. In the meanwhile low value men loudly whine that a woman's success must be based on some "extra point system" for being a woman. Note, the op also got abusive PM's. Those kind of redditors make neanderthals seem absolute geniuses in comparison. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:55 PM
26

That sounds very codependent. What kind of upbringing did you have? Are there any coda groups in your area? The complete audio version of Codependent no more is on YouTube. It's not just for spouses of alcoholics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 06:10 PM
3

💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:15 AM
32

It's a garbage theory made up by garbage people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/20 07:05 AM
12

I was told it means you can't find it through a search but it's still there. You also get a warning before you can enter the sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 10:54 PM
6

Welcome hon. Sounds like you've gone through a lot. Check out the book codependent no more. There is a great audio version on YouTube. Also, just read here for a while. Check out the top posts, the sidebar and just let that all sink in. Don't forget to disable your private messages, there are some real creeps lurking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 08:08 PM
70

Any man who keeps asking after you said no the first time is extremely low value. Dump him because he doesn't love you anyway. In fact, if you are smart, you'd dump them the very first time they ask for something you don't want to do, because that already points to extreme incompatibility. You'll never be really happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:52 PM
14

Text him: Piss off, this ain't "Batman Returns". And I promise he will never, ever ask you that in person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:45 PM
16

Why should they? I've yet to see a woman posting here end up in the news for a violent hate crime. uNlIkE sOmE oThEr SuBs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:33 PM
8

Learn a trade, so you can always be financially independent. I know some hairdressers who live like queens. Ignore the easy pickings and focus on the men who have a genuine interest in you. You don't have to be a genius for that, just wait with the sex long enough for him to develop feelings for you as a person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:27 PM
6

There's two situations I can think of: You're both double income/no kids and want to stay that way You're both double income with grown kids from other relationships The key phrase here is "double income".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:21 PM
13

Personally feel the question itself is a huge red flag and the dude should be removed from one's life after posing such a question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 07:15 PM
13

I treat those kind of highly upvoted misogynistic threads like northkorean propaganda: Don't click them, while feeling sad for all the misguided women who will be impressed by them, disgusted by the massive sacks of shit men that are out there and really glad to no longer have to engage with them for anything but for short moments at work. As of now I consider every one I meet infected with Reddit misogyny. Y'all worried about a virus that killed less people so far than the common flue this wint…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/20 06:32 AM
17

Wow!!!! 💜💜💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 12:40 PM
33

Or my favorite: I've upped my standards honey, so UP yours. 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/20 05:58 AM
19

And here's how to disable private messages: Log on from your desktop, click on your profile, and then user settings where it says "chats and messaging" and disable both. You also go to notifications, scroll down and disable notifications for messages, but for some reason you still see notifications on the app. So if you get any fantom notifications, you go to the app inbox at the upper right hand corner, tap on the dotted line and you can mark inbox contents read, so you don't see the notificati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 09:30 PM
19

Judging from the amount of hate messages the ladies here get, I'd say a fairly decent amount. Those guys are worse than actual religious zealots .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 09:25 PM
8

If men knew this sort of thing would end with not a single woman dealing with them? If they knew that every single woman would get rid of them for this behavior? They'd change. This right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:46 PM
15

Yes, this happens frequently as you know. But can still make his life hell...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 02:12 PM
89

This happens a lot in places like Pakistan etc. Because yes, men in general are like dogs who've been bred for aggression and murder. What's surprising: I've often read about the woman marrying a high value man afterwards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:45 AM
22

This is exactly it. You are funding him to test the restaurants where he will take (and pay for) to impress the women he deems worthwhile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:32 AM
22

Literally, that's the type. And the one who will think he's a hero the entire time. 🙄 Here you finally discover just how insane some normal seeming men can be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:27 AM
19

Log on from your desktop, go to your profile and then user settings where it says "chats and messaging" and disable both. You also go to notifications, scroll down and disable notifications for messages, but for some reason you still see notifications on the app. So you go to the app inbox at the upper right hand corner, tap on the dotted line and you can mark inbox contents read, so you don't see them notifications anymore. The notification without the message is actually nice. It's so satisfyi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 06:20 AM
16

Fondle with his jogging pants on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 06:12 PM
67

She inadvertently outed her husband as a lazy dumbass, because even I can tell you they aren't all like that. A real shocker, I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 05:07 PM
6

Read again the first post by u/jalapenopancakes including the comments.. Actually a lot of women use that strategy in some strict religions which don't approve relationshiping before marriage. The important distinction here: it's not about "fucking around". It's about dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 01:24 PM
21

Here are some privileges you shouldn't give to a non-boyfriend, boyfriend and sometimes not even to a husband.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 11:23 AM
14

Lots to unpack here just one thing jumps out: What business does the father in law have in the delivery room? The only people who should be there are those who make the woman feel safe and that generally does not include a father in law. Unfortunately, you often only really discover just how fucked the father of your kid can be, after he's knocked you up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 04:29 AM
21

You can do this. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:40 PM
6

And frankly even that 60k sounds as cheap as fuck. No way I would put myself through this for such little money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:27 AM
34

I'm the same way, unfortunately many guys aren't... Can you imagine the impact it would have if he knew you are keeping your options open until he "decides"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 07:12 AM
5

You have received some wonderful advice. Also don't date with the intent to settle down, date to meet and have experiences. Too many 19 year olds settle down with the first guy that makes the heart beat a little faster and suddenly half your twenties will have gone by, you'll have wasted them living like a married woman when you are not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 06:34 AM
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Exactly. While I am not a doctor nor do I play one on TV, experience has taught me these things can often be connected to cheating for some reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 12:40 AM
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This happens in religions and cults A LOT because nearly all of them are patriarchal in origin, so of course they don't give a shit about your happiness. What does happen once in a while is that a religious leader will actually say something sensible. Check out this video. Even though some advice is not relatable because it's very specific to that religion, he actually says a few things that are helpful to women. (Like dating is only for checking him out, you don't invest any emotion in it. Don'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:54 PM
3

Yes, you also have to go to Notifications, scroll down and disable notifications for messages, etc. The two of you sound super awesome. All the best!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 06:40 PM
11

Good for you. 👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:59 AM
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That's because for a man it IS a very distant process. He only has to cum at the right moment, while someone else ruins their body and endangers their life to make the potential offspring a reality. They are often only enamored in the idea of passing on genes but are completely clueless to the reality of raising and loving those children over a very long period of time. That's why it's very important to make him a part of the whole thing from the first moment on, particularly after birth. The mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 09:57 AM
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Only pieces of shit will bring this up in conversation, other than to say to say how much they like your boobs (or any other part) without mentioning an adjective or implying a judgment. He is only a man, not some God, and nothing about his body is perfect either. If boob size matters to him so much, he is always free to go. What he isn't allowed to do is complain about things you were born with. (Like his tiny wiener.) Ps. Please never put down your own body in front of them either. Never, ever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 07:19 AM
14

Or looking for a future sugar mama.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/20 03:53 AM
6

I will agree there are other reasons for those kind of infections, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 06:53 PM
13

This. This. This. And if you can't check because his phone(s) and pc are keyworded, fingerprinted and encrypted like the Fort Knox, that is your answer, too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:51 PM
10

Not even then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:46 PM
10

I suppose this made sense in prehistoric times. Now I more interested if he can actually clean and cook that fish...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/20 04:26 PM
29

I love this. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 04:49 PM
22

And that's why age gap relationships are almost always morally reprehensible. Just because you can manipulate young people doesn't mean you should. But no worries, that will all come back to haunt him when he's old, alone and sitting in his own shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:25 AM
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Women are taught to endure a lot of toxic behavior from others. So here's a tip: if you are asking yourself if you are overthinking this, 99% of the time you aren't and you need to start making arrangements for a new life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:18 AM
5

Our position as women is not much different to that of children who were raised in some fringe group. The Oxford group calculated that women offer a trillion of unpaid hours of work as daughters, girlfriends, wives and mothers. Without our unpaid labor a lot of things would simply not be possible in this world. Of course a patriarchal society will brainwash you to want to be a servant to men and call that "love." But anger and despair at this realization is never the last stage of the process. E…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:11 AM
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Yes, that is correct. The realization makes you angry at first but sadness and anger is never the last stage if the process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/20 07:04 AM
20

You might enjoy Brittany runs a marathon for leveling up, which came out last year.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 04:33 PM
67

There was a hugely popular post on Reddit yesterday that shamed overweight women for not necessary wanting an overweight man, but you'll never see the opposite here, because none of them thinks it's "strange" for a fat man to feel perfectly entitled to thin women. 🙄 But, even though it might seem like every man is after a thin woman, I haven't actually seen it play out in reality. All the fat women I know are either happily married/in a relationship or have too many suitors to know what to do wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:55 AM
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If you are on mobile, go to the main sub page and on top of the page you'll see a menu choice called about. (On your desktop that's the sidebar). You'll find extensive posts by savvy women on the subject and all for free. This is not just about "not having sex easily." It's a mindset. Most women can actually can see the red flags right at the beginning but we make excuses to keep going. When you don't value a man over yourself, you'll be more objective about that person and won't make excuses to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 07:08 AM
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Don't let a anybody kid you. It's about the woman. If he meets someone he's actually scared to lose, he's going to lock that shit down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/20 06:47 AM
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Wtf? No, that is not ok. Start phasing her out right now, by excluding her out of the list of people who have access to your pictures. If she has the audacity to ask why, tell her, I've upped my standards, so up yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 12:11 PM
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Here's the thing: your expectations are perfectly valid. It's just fine to want your partner to be a certain way. Those differences may not be so significant now but what if you got married and had kids?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 10:10 AM
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First of all, it's perfectly normal to make love the focal point of your life when you've never had it as a child. The problem is, in the process you can easily forget to prioritize your self because your life becomes all about the guy. Now about the guy: He had issues because of a failed engagement, avoided negative emotions and situations and didn't want to settle down. Please, don't make excuses for him. Men are only commitmentphobic until they find The One. Once they do, they will trip over …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 09:38 AM
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Use that one year to work on your exit plan. But don't be surprised if you are still hanging around in two or even three years. Fear of leaving, fear of being alone is real and it has nothing to do with actual love. Anyway, don't get your hopes up. After 5 years this is who he is. He's not going to magically get better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:05 AM
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I feel you. Been there. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 09:42 AM
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You did well. A short amount of discomfort in the beginning saves you a lifetime of agony in the end.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/20 06:25 AM
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Men having their shit together is optional. Women who are born and socialized with the potential of motherhood, which requires high levels of reliability and maturity, don't have that option.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:43 PM
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Sure. The Rolling Stones were singing about "mother's little helper" before most of us here were even born...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 06:33 PM
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Just when you think things can't get any worse, some people grab a shovel and start digging hard. I sincerely hope that shit isn't real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:48 PM
9

Username checks out. Yep, that's exactly how marriage is for many couples. Hence the need to disneyfy the whole thing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 05:44 PM
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Wow. That sounds just like the guy we have now. 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:40 PM
9

A lot of older women do this, for the same reasons (crappy marriage experience in their youth) and that's just fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 09:56 AM
28

Self-esteem and self-confidence is the ultimate upper hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:54 AM
8

Excellent point. There's a time and a place for nurturing but that definitely sounds overboard. Codependent no more is an excellent book which explains what that is really well. Her perspective is that of the alcoholic's wife but codependency can exist completely outside of alcoholism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:22 AM
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How is that working out for her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 08:09 AM
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I felt that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:57 AM
29

You can massively influence your emotions through your thoughts. We are what we think all day long.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:36 AM
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Ah, the good old PPCs - patriarchy propaganda channels.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/20 09:19 AM
3

Wohooo, even better! 👍 I didn't know there was a sub for us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 10:38 PM
39

Yes. It ends in tears. Then I realized healthy women avoid men with low self-esteem for a good reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:15 PM
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I don't see di Caprio treating his 10/10 supermodels better than Keanu treats his white haired queen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 12:13 PM
21

It's the entitlement. So unattractive...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:37 AM
14

So it's Mick Jagger? 😲 No, wait, Mick looks like a 105.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/20 06:34 AM
10

If you stick around here long enough, you eventually learn the amazing art of blocking them without even reading their message.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:40 PM
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Spend some time with her face to face, preferably with him in the same room. That will clear up a lot of things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 05:34 PM
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Cultural, familiar and religious reasons. In quite a few patriarchal cultures the family has no standing until the wife bears a boy. (Ultrasounds are often used to abort girls, because they are considered worthless and you have to pay a dowry to the groom.) When the wife finally has one, that boy (or boys) is spoiled rotten. He's allowed to do anything and everything with out repercussions. If he wants something the parents make sure he gets it. His education comes first. The sisters must clean …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 01:13 PM
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Men hate anything that makes them look and feel bad, even if it's not directed towards them, and will instantly turn to the weirdest, most illogical copes. You eventually learn to ignore it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 08:36 AM
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Good people level up after the birth of their first child. Idiots remain idiots to everyone's detriment and destruction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:21 AM
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He's just not that into you Oldy but goldy. If you catch a man displaying any of the behaviors mentioned in the book, don't even try to make excuses for continuing to stay with him. There is never a good reason for it, only pick-me angst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/20 06:06 AM
14

Wait, wanting to have sex and fear of not finding love are two completely different issues. Mixing then up will cause unintended side effects. First of all they are both normal. But I would ignore the fear of not finding love, for now. It's generally a bad idea to wait until you are too horny to think straight anymore because that's how you end up in a situationship with some sleezy manipulator. There's nothing wrong with a vibrator or a fwb, he doesn't have to be "true love" but is he at least …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 06:34 AM
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They will suggest it to women who are deemed good enough for sex but who are not their type for a relationship, for whatever reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 05:22 AM
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Fds is where I first heard of the idea of not going round telling men about past trauma, not matter how nice they seem. The ladies were right and I wish I had fds in my life decades ago. This information is nothing I will share easily offline anymore and definitely not during a "motivational" event. There are just too many weird cults out there who try to get to you by inducing you to impart this information to total strangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 05:18 AM
12

Having done both, there's nothing about living together that I didn't learn just by staying over a guy's house for a week or two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/20 01:35 AM
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Ok, I get that. Could it be that you've neglected your needs in some way during that time? That's how those guys get us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 02:58 PM
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😲😲😲😲
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:29 PM
5

Well, let's say his post didn't piss me off half as much as the comments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:26 PM
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Puberty is a process not an on/off button, no one is sexually mature as soon as they get their period. Exactly. Sadly, this is what most men consider "mature". 🙄 According to this definition 16 yo boys are mature too. See how stupid that sounds?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 01:22 PM
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Misogyny is socially acceptable all over the world, more or less. We're talking about at least ten thousand years of indoctrination. Men aren't going to ban anything they feel that benefits them. Especially not a cult that promises them a bang-maid who loves them no matter what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 05:42 AM
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Agree. It's the beginning of the end. Couples often break up because of this and then get back together because he promises to do better but he can never keep up his motivation once he loses it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/20 11:04 AM
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👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🏅🏅🏅🏅🏅🏅🏅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 09:28 PM
20

Agreed. I'd only add: don't give free fries to men. Women generally understand that free stuff is a business concept and not someone wanting to marry you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/20 09:30 AM
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👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/20 04:50 PM
22

I'm willing to bet $100 it's not your looks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/20 08:41 PM
89

This is definitely a thing. Plenty of women got a ring at some point in the first couple of years and by year 7 were still a fiance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 06:20 PM
15

These are some serious FACTS right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 05:13 PM
13

Moral of the story: dump him at the first sign of being a fuckboi, not the 689th sign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:34 AM
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This post is just too real. Glad that finally even guys are seeing it. Men have exploited women for millennia and they are now using equality and freedom of sexual pleasure for women to exploit them some more. The bar has picked up a shovel now and it's digging. I feel really bad for the many young women who still have to learn this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/20 07:25 AM
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Certainly. That's why I qualified this with "if you are a marriage minded woman". There is nothing inherently wrong with a man in his 20s, as long as you don't expect too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 05:53 PM
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OMG yes. You are definitely shooting yourself in the foot by getting tied down in your early 20s. There was a post yesterday on popular from /r/teenagers about a user being on their last day of 19 and already engaged. You just knew it must be a young woman. Most 19 year old guys are not that stupid. Imho a good timeline is any time after your quarter life crisis so basically after 27. Many women who got married after 30 and beyond seem much happier to me than those who rushed into it in their 20…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/20 04:47 AM
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Will you have any significant disadvantage if something goes wrong? That's always the main question. A good insurance salesman would know. In that particular case, I would wonder if marriage has come up in discussion. This is something you'd do for a fiance, once you already made definite plans to get married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 07:45 PM
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It's a good point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 04:44 PM
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No offense but imho you sound young. Young couples have absolutely no problem getting an easy and non-ruinous divorce. Have a heart to heart chat with your older aunts and uncles. Particularly in Southern Europe, there are tons of couples who are staying together for reasons other than love, though it happens in northern Europe too. Common reasons are the kids, the house or a business = the more assets you have the more expensive the divorce becomes and, after you pay off the bank, you are often…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:40 AM
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That's what happens when you try to be the "cool chick" and don't question what he is doing nor go through his shit because you "respect his privacy." 🙄 A man's "privacy' is more important to you than your future and your happiness, so... Enjoy your sainthood halo and good luck with that shit now /u/throwanon18282
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 07:48 AM
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A guy told me he wouldn't even trust the Father, Son or the Holy Spirit as there have been known issues with those three in the past. 😄😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:23 PM
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Have you tried a full course load while working? 😁 Nothing wrong with a sex drive or kinks though. If you are able to separate sex and emotions maybe a quality Fwb would work for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/20 04:20 PM
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Thanks, I'm blushing. I froze for an instant, too, it was seriously Reddit who helped me with the quick thinking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 08:06 AM
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Depends. If you are double income no kids (or grown kids) and are not planning to have any, that could work out. Don't do it if you want marriage and kids with a man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 05:02 AM
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It's one of those things that can go either way. There was one who was like the Neville Longbottom character - turned out good looking and decent. Another was just like how you'd expect. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/20 04:59 AM
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I'm in this group precisely because there are no men. 😁 If other women want to talk about them that's fine but at least I don't have to deal with them here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:18 AM
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You are precious anywhere and at any age. If some of us can learn this at 40, 50 and beyond, surely you and all the younger sistas will too, and this world will be a much better one as a result. Wish you strength and healing. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 05:10 AM
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I think of all the famous, rich and very pretty women who can't find a high value man to save their life and realize it has little to do with money and looks, though that certainly helps, and a lot to do with how you feel about yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/19 12:01 AM
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If you don't have the financial means to be a single parent, you can find a lot of fulfilment in being a foster mom or a big sister.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 11:53 PM
10

I believe it, too. A lot of the deplorable behavior we see in men today is due to many women believing tropes that don't benefit them and putting out for every loser out there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:31 AM
11

Guy sounds like a fuckboi. Most guys who call you babe after just 4 days are. Also, easier to write the same message to a dozen chicks that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 05:28 AM
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A woman over at gendercritical told me once she was "politically celibate" and the concept just blew my mind away. It's sounded empowering tbh. But I don't know how that would go over with men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/19 02:19 AM
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Thank you for doing this. Love that last line. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 09:33 AM
5

But only assume it from you. Of course they feel perfectly entitled to keep on looking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:57 AM
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I agree. While I instinctively want to be monogamous with the one I love, it's not a smart dating strategy to date them one at a time. Check out this article: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.nytimes.com/2017/09/03/theater/curvy-widow-bobby-goldman.amp.html
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 07:42 AM
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You do this by being the biggest empath to yourself first and foremost. Think about it: You are angry because you let yourself down in the past. Once you build trust within you, there will be no underlying fear of putting up with bullshit in the future. You will be less inclined to get offensive with him and more likely to sit back and ask, is this situation good for me? And actually listen to what you have to say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 08:39 PM
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/u/danxingdasies you are cordially invited to our sub.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 07:20 PM
37

It's not your fault, hon. Men are very good at propaganda. They basically invented the whole thing. The loudest, most repetitive mouth wins. Just look at Reddit popular for a few days, there's a constant stream of highly upvoted posts about poor men being victims of.. what exactly? That crap sinks into your soul and you barely realize it happening.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 04:18 PM
92

Every single woman's magazine is just an expensive, glossy guide on being a pickmeisha, choke full of ads aimed to make you feel awful about yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:45 AM
18

Staying at home and being a man's bang-maid is the shittiest of all jobs. Y'all free to try this out to make sure I'm telling the truth...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 06:36 AM
26

Why are you destroying your life, youth and happiness for dick?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/12/19 06:21 AM
5

I feel that pain. Not sure how it works where you live but what I did was get the money together for the first appointment. She even asked less than I expected and the money was totally worth it. Another possibility is charities which offer legal advice in your area, as well as /r/divorce and /r/legaladvice here on Reddit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 06:08 PM
5

Normally you shouldn't have a problem if you don't drop them off all the time. But that's why you have to get the best lawyer you can find, so she can go through those questions with you. A good one will tell you exactly how far you can go without getting in trouble. The way I see it, you are tied to him and her for the next 16 years no matter what. Might as well make the best of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:24 PM
10

There are sometimes financial benefits to just living together and not getting married, especially if you have good income and investments and no kids or are older and have preexisting family. This can vary wildly from situation to situation and only a lawyer or accountant could tell you for sure. If in doubt, you are always better off asking one or both of these professionals for their opinion, than let's say asking emotionally charged family and strangers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 01:10 PM
25

He's not done playing the field and he certainly isn't done maturing yet. Throw him back into the sea.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 08:52 AM
6

To most men even forking over $100 is "divorce rape". 🙄🙄 Basically it's the virtual cost of enjoying your husband's or wife's services for those married years, whether they actually did anything or not. You didn't think them cleaning toilets, cooking food and raising the children, instead of going to work and accruing pension, was for free, did you? 😱 But that was excessive Yes, that can happen. Get a fair prenup beforehand, so it stands a chance hold up in court. The law itself does not care if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:18 AM
45

/u/clarabelle27 get over here you need our help. 😁💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/19 05:02 AM
7

Tell him to take a long walk off a short pier.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/19 01:18 PM
3

I would say, do your due dilligence...always. Inform yourself as much as you can and the make the best decision for you and your future children, if you plan to have any. A lot of people think of marriage in a rather romantic way. The law doesn't care. It's a civil partnership. While you can start a business with another person without a contract, nobody recommends that to you, unless you are sure you can prove your side of the story in a "he said" and "she said" fight at a court of law. There's…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 08:37 PM
35

My theory: It's not that they are all massive, incorrigible pervs (though quite a few of them are), it's that they've wanked so long and hard to porn, they can't get off from the regular stuff anymore. Monkeys and apes would laugh at us if they knew.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 04:05 PM
29

So they are basically like 2 year olds just not as adorable..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 07:44 AM
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Did he deal with the baggage (ideally with a professional) or does he go pale with anger at the mere mention of his father?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 12:25 PM
51

Idk, my mother married someone nearly 20 years her senior and severely traumatized everyone who was born out of the deal, including herself. I hear Celine Dion had better luck?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 03:53 AM
24

I will try my best. It's going to be very sad though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 12:37 PM
70

Why FDS? Because ever since a man someone popularized the idea of "free love" in the late 1960s, it's been one decade after another of enabling men to be entitled, plate-spinning pieces of shit through female pick-me behavior and THAT NEEDS TO STOP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 11:27 AM
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Applause. The realization that most "relationships" are completely unnecessary is something a lot of women try to avoid having, because then you inevitably have to admit to yourself that you are better off alone in most cases. And that's a pretty scary thought at first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/19 10:15 AM
53

It wasn't until I had an actual orgasm with a man that I realized what a shoddy bill of goods I had been sold. Ps. If you are wondering if you had one, you didn't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/19 07:55 AM
3

Not to mention a misogynist who thinks women are incapable of anything but.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 06:55 PM
7

They also claimed to have "gotten into her headspace." Those guys are flattering themselves as usual. She was just looking for an excuse to do this amazing feat again. 😁
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/19 05:21 PM
7

This pretty much 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 09:39 PM
5

It can take up to two years which sucks but better than forever, I guess.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 08:44 PM
6

Like with all checklists...context is important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 08:21 PM
19

Then a couple of days later he got into a wreck and now has a dui, High value people have their shit under control and don't get dui's. This will end in tears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 08:09 PM
1

I know exactly what you mean. Hang in there, it will be ok. It will be tough for a good while but you will be ok. If it's possible to find other roommates, do that. Don't break your heart any longer than you must.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 07:02 PM
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I absolutely agree with you. Unfortunately, that's why exclusively female subs are necessary, because pointing out glaring holes in male logic will always degenerate into a shitshow of male rage and name calling. The sad irony is, entitled and ignorant men like him can NEVER see the discrepancy between calling this sub toxic, while hanging out on actual toxic subs themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 06:29 AM
3

That's how I started. Was pretty sure I'd never be able to do those manly ones. But our bodies are pretty surprising things. I once read about a guy who started bodybuilding in his 90s.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/19 06:15 AM
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"My friends said _______" (Insert something negative here) He was talking about you with his friends and NOT in a good way. Unsurprisingly, that friend also tends to be another woman. He's been buttering her up, while feeding her lies about you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 06:06 AM
19

And no hatfishing either!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 10:00 PM
12

If he's super secretive about his phone/pc/etc, that's an answer all by itself. Dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:04 PM
3

Your post fell through the cracks and we just saw it now, 5 days later! You are flaired. Feel free to copy and paste the content in a new post, so everyone can appreciate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 07:22 PM
20

Just the title gave me shivers of recognition. I, too, used to be a very different person before I got involved with men. While none of us can go back to how things used to be, it's possible to find a measure of peace and contentment later in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 04:21 PM
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The only people who think 30 is "old" are 19 year olds and pedos. You'll be just fine. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/19 08:01 AM
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Because patriarchy does a really good job of beating every sense of self-esteem out of women from the day they are born.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:33 PM
8

Congrats. That took a lot of power. Things can only get better now, the universe always rewards us for sticking up for ourselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 08:01 PM
11

I like this idea too, a lot. But don't wait for him to step up his game. He will generally only offer a lot of legit sounding excuses why he just can't right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 06:31 PM
9

Learn the signs of abusive relationships and about red flags. Realize dating is like learning to ride a bicycle and you will fall flat your face a few times. Don't take it too seriously. Particularly at this age, crushes are indeed are like buses, one every minute. Try to minimize the consequences by waiting at least another 2 years for sex, learning all about protection from STDs, how not to get knocked up and not giving up education and work opportunities for some loser. You have time. A lot o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 05:47 PM
19

👏👏👏👏👏👏😘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/19 11:09 AM
46

No ultimatums, please. He might marry you but you won't end up happy. Just break up, as soon as you realize he won't marry you and don't look back!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:35 AM
16

My grandmother would have agreed. Took a long time to see her reasoning but I see it now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/19 06:12 AM
14

You'd be surprised -.-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 07:04 AM
10

Respond like a professional. He's a total stranger to you now, so you treat him as such.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/19 06:30 AM
9

Power trip? Don't flatter yourself. Ain't nobody got time for that. That's what we get for giving troublemakers a chance. Good bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:59 PM
3

Sounds perfect. Just keep doing that, he won't ask if you are "angry" anymore. It will be normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 06:01 PM
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Thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 07:41 AM
8

Yes, it's generally foolish to move for a man, especially if it's to a place where you don't speak the language and there are no good job opportunities. But in your case it sounds like it might only be medium-sized foolishness at best. Big enough to teach you a lesson, if something goes wrong, but not so big that it will destroy your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 08:23 PM
1

High Value Man * * Subject to individual interpretation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 07:48 PM
10

Sadly, old men can be the worst. Keep your eyes open around them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 06:24 PM
6

I'm on board. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 09:16 AM
13

Unfortunately, cheaters lying about their relationship's status is a classic. They know that most women would not give them the time of the day if they were adequately informed about the situation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/19 09:10 AM
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Midnight is horny time for a lot of dudes, so he's probably texting every woman he knows who goes through his mind at that moment. It generally sounds like: "Yeah, I'd do her but not badly enough to ask her out".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 09:58 PM
18

There's a pretty good reason why the romance genre is a multi-billion dollar industry...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 08:23 PM
16

30 is young enough to start over easily but old enough to be aware of the pitfalls. Guys who harp on the 30 being old are either 19 or pedos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 08:21 AM
7

Sounds like a hot Italian guy, right? But it's basically a fancy name for mac'n'cheese. Not that there is anything wrong with that. YuM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 07:49 AM
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As if the unpopularopinion sub wasn't a big enough playground of misogynistic opinions, they need a hardunpopularopinion sub. 🙄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/19 06:39 AM
8

It certainly does.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 06:17 PM
2

Post those questions in a thread without the word "retard" in the title and we can talk about that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 05:40 PM
28

And here we are worrying about China forcing its women to carry out a pregnancy... Well, I hear they do a lot of fucked up shit over there but even they haven't thought of implementing this next level evil yet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 01:22 PM
2

Well, he certainly got SOMETHING out of it because contrary to popular opinion, nobody, especially not men, will invest their last penny unless they're sure it's a good bet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 12:58 PM
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Patriarchy relies on paternity to assert itself. Without knowledge of paternity, there can be no patriarchy. The worst nightmare for a man is raising kids that turn out not to be biologically his. Nature does not support the expenditure of energy and resources for DNA material that isn't yours, that's why you have all those terrible stories about stepmothers and stepfathers, while the good ones are so rare. "Pleasure positive" women terrify men at a primitive level, because they think such a wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/19 06:47 AM
3

I thought she "tased his a-hole" which sounded pretty painful. xD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 07:48 PM
12

No worries, we're good with long ass quality posts here. 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/19 07:55 AM
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They use this "because I'd be seen as less than a man" often and for practically everything. What this excuse really says: Being seen as anything less than a man (aka a woman), is the worst thing that can happen to a guy, because fucking misogynism. And misogynism is not our fault. You brought this on to yourselves, guys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 10:04 PM
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Not exactly the n-count itself but the reputation. Once he's gained a reputation, most women will avoid such a man and tell their sisters so they can avoid him too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 03:00 PM
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And that's just one of many ways to die from a pregnancy. The rate of maternal mortality in the US is higher than that of Russia.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/19 07:35 AM
8

I like your train of thought. 👻👻👻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 03:51 PM
9

My pet peeve as well. I can be stupidly idealistic too but not with that shit. While constant snooping is not healthy for you emotionally, snooping done right can save you from dating and marrying Dexter who is still talking to his serial killing girlfriend. Do what is right for you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 06:21 AM
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Acting cool and sending him back into space where he came from is one thing. Acting cool and taking him back into your life is setting you up to become a victim later on. Please don't be a victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 06:15 AM
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To thy own self be true. Marriage is not one of those things where you can afford to be cute. It can destroy your life if you do it wrong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/19 06:13 AM
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Honey, you know exactly what's going on, that's why you are posting here. What you are asking isn't why is he doing this but why am I allowing this to happen? Why am I so weak and let him get away with treating me like this! Answer this question and you will break the spell he has on you. PS. /r/exnocontact it's never too late to get your self-respect back. Also check this video.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 12:29 PM
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Got me to do what? Dry up like the frickin Sahara Desert? :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 06:25 AM
3

That looks like a live act/theater.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/19 06:14 AM
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That's what happens when a woman tries to be so "open minded" that her entire brain falls out and splats on the freshly mopped tile floor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 08:28 PM
14

Imho the worst thing you can do in such a situation is force yourself back on the saddle when you're not feeling it. Contrary to popular opinion, this actually sets you back in your healing. There's totally no hurry and you're still very young. If the guy isn't on board with taking it really slow, then he's not the right one for you anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 06:12 PM
1

I didn't downvote you. But, like others, I may have totally misunderstood the reference of the word "here".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/19 07:21 AM
8

Seriously.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 07:50 PM
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Questions which don't go too deep but still help you evaluate how he overcomes difficulties in life. Does he place the blame on others for those difficulties?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 06:55 PM
3

Google: "gender socialization" and "differences in gender communication".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 05:40 PM
6

Being ok with "possibly alone forever" is a long process, because most of us are not hardwired for that. Which is why even those who loudly claim to be going their own way actually spend a significant amount of time doing anything but. What is usually missing is passion for something specific. But it can't be a definite goal, it has to be something huge. Marie Curie comes to mind or Esther Duflo. That passion doesn't necessarily have to do with learning and research but it often does because it'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 04:07 PM
11

Women all over the world leveling up together. 🎵 I felt that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 07:35 PM
12

I like how your grandmother thinks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/19 05:19 PM
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It doesn't really matter why because 99.9% of them will bail long before he reaches the ass wiping stage of his life, unless he is like really, really rich.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/19 10:27 AM
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Check out this thread: https://www.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/dxstuf/youtube_channels/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 08:30 PM
29

This is sheer genius.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 07:51 PM
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Low self-esteem and spending a lot of time researching seduction techniques = more likely to get subverted by misogynistic ideologies and a porn addiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/19 06:23 AM
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Thank you for your valuable post. Know that you are cherished here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 09:23 PM
1

And that's why we can't have nice things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 08:10 PM
2

What do you consider unrealistic expectations?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 07:58 PM
1

I've listened to Peterson extensively, too, but I really shouldn't have. You shall know them by their fruits. Just the fact that a bunch of misogynists look up to him, tells me everything I need to know about this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 05:09 PM
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Contrary to popular opinion, that is not a bad thing. That's what makes subs interesting: the fact that they are themed, or else we'd just have one called /r/all and be done with it. Fact is, you can go and sympathize with men almost everywhere in Reddit but here we sympathize with women. This is a good thing for you too. It means there are plenty of other subs which would appreciate your insights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 04:58 PM
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The advice is mostly aimed towards those dating men but lesbians are absolutely welcome to chime in and discuss if they like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 03:23 PM
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Jesus Christ. The same men will rant and rave about the women here being harsh/evil/what the fuck EVER for expecting payment for dates or even just wanting to be treated like human beings instead of a fleshlight. That's the least those psychopathic fuckers can do for you, for placing yourself in danger of getting strangled after he nuts in you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 08:56 AM
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Says the man who hangs out at inceltears, so he should already KNOW what kind of men we are up against every single fucking day. We'll do whatever it takes to protect ourselves and our children from predators. Go away now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 08:36 AM
2

Does your sacrifice actually help others or does it enable them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 05:22 PM
14

Says who? Are you sure you aren't a MAN, since only men are incapable of reading the sidebar where it clearly says that you have to be a high value woman first?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 05:01 PM
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As long as I considered "dressing feminine" as something I had to do for men to like me, I resented it. Then I realized, looking presentable, in addition to being competent and accomplished, simply means more advantages and opportunities in life. Boom...it all started making sense. It's entirely possible to look attractive without wearing things that make you feel uncomfortable. Clothing that is too sexy for the occasion has an opposite effect anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/19 08:11 AM
1

Old age be like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 09:40 PM
2

If the advice is good but some people use it for their own purposes, is it now bad advice?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 08:57 PM
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Glad you spoke up about getting messaged. I hope you blocked him instantly without a reply. Just remember, the same man would absolutely find the energy for a classy date with his dreamgirl after a long day's work. You are perfectly entitled to your preferences and don't let anybody tell you otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 08:31 PM
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Don't listen to those fools, you are perfectly entitled to your preferences, just as they are with their 10/10 obsessions. The only difference is a woman has a lot more to lose than they do, if she decides to have children with a poor man, unless she is a top earner. Ironically though, if she's well off, she wouldn't dream of doing that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 07:16 PM
13

I don't know either but there are other lesbians here and you are absolutely welcome to join if you like.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 06:57 PM
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Not to mention, those are the kind of conversations you might have with your best friend. So be careful if a man starts doing this to you because, generally, the people who do this basically see you as a fuck buddy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 11:29 AM
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Precisely. That's why in traditional courtship women only accept gifts, help, etc. from men they actually like. Dudes who are seriously interested in me instinctively know what this means and will get upset if I reject their offerings and will even beg me to accept them. So this ritual is not something random but is deeply ingrained in human culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 08:10 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree. Yes, looking good is an advantage that's nice to have but how you feel about yourself and what you do with your life is far more important. There is a saying in Spanish. La suerte de la fea la guapa la desea. The beautiful woman wishes she was as lucky in love as the ugly one. Keanu's girlfriend is a beautiful lady and dresses well but we all know that's not the only reason why he is with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 06:49 AM
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Anyone with two brain cells and the ability to read can see that. So if they are saying this femce-shit it's just to goad us. Which is hard to do when nobody here cares.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 06:38 AM
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Those guys would have ghosted you after getting what they wanted, too. This happens a lot in other areas of life, like freelancing. You'll always have competitors who have cheap as their main argument. Going down that path only leads to ruin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 06:39 PM
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No. Check the pinned posts on hot and the sidebar.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 06:18 PM
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You stay content in a relationship by having it with a compatible person. Contrary to popular opinion, signs of discontent do not mean that "something is wrong with you and you need to try harder."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 05:24 PM
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Do those men ever listen to themselves talk? Anyone who keeps talking about 30 being "the wall" for women sounds like a total pedo.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 09:39 AM
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Many past patriarchal societies would even take away the boy from its mother at around 7 years old "to make sure he is socialized properly."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 07:36 AM
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Antonia's Line (1995) Directed by a radical feminist, so it's full of that good female energy and guaranteed to empower you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 06:40 AM
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That's totally true. The big difference is, the law and tax people usually make provisions for married people who buy a house together. They leave everyone else to fend for themselves. There is a really good reason why gays and lesbians wanted to be able to get married.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/19 02:07 AM
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Thank you for this important message. Once we face our biggest fear, we can deal with anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 08:38 PM
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He may have lost the weight but he's still a huge piece of shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 08:19 PM
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I won't go into whether it was shitty or not because it distracts from the message of the story: if you compromise on dealbreakers , you will eventually pay for it...and are going to hurt a lot of people in the process.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 08:32 AM
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I knew he was an idiot the moment i read 10/10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 08:04 PM
7

That wasn't no pick me, that's just a man with a small dick snooping around an exclusively female forum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 07:09 PM
10

Unfortunately it happens far...far more often than people think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 05:35 PM
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I don't care if you want to wear another gender's clothes, live like another gender or no gender at all. But to deny that you were born with a different body/socialized completely differently and will never be able to relate to certain women's issues, no matter how much and how strongly you identify, is hypocritical. We should be able to openly talk about that and other concerns without being accused of being phobic, which, in this case, is often just another tactic men use to impose their will …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 05:19 PM
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If you like it because you actually like it, more power to you. But how many people did that before online porn? The vast majority of people didn't even know this was a thing until the advent of the internet. In the meanwhile most guys still can't even eat pussy well, which imho is a far more important ability in a man, but hey, lets eat ass...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 09:55 AM
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Red flag. I don't care if he's from Antarctica, that's nuts. Next.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 09:17 AM
14

I don't blame you. 😒
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 08:57 AM
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That's bullshit. There are plenty of 18 and 19 year olds who already feel uncomfortable hanging with underage people (unless they were really good friends before that). And are definitely not interested in underage girls because get that: they aren't pedos.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 08:06 AM
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Everyone has their own point of view on that one and that's fine, as long as we apply the live and let live rule and don't try to change any minds. While there are men who will expect the moon for what they paid, it is often a part of a courting ritual for a reason. Some women swear by it, others don't. It's all good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 05:30 AM
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I'm so relieved for you. That sounds good. I like the idea of telling him that you like him but want to take things slow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:45 PM
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The important thing is to keep living your life. Don't drop any regular activities or friends to date him. Enjoy yourself but keep eyes and ears open, don't make excuses for red flags. Him having sole custody should also help keep things from progressing too fast.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 08:15 PM
8

Welcome. Your new buddy is super cute. ❤️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 07:55 PM
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Start talking to other men. Join our chat, there are several women your age there. Not only you'll enjoy yourself, you'll realize why he's not texting you more often. You're just one of many plates in the air for him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 05:20 PM
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That's a great plan. I'm a big fan of meeting people offline. Spending an hour/two with someone will tell you more than 2 weeks of messaging back and forth. It doesn't matter what you do, as long as you do it regularly. While it's entirely possible to make friendships/get into a relationship off a one time thing, the real opportunities arise by going to the same place regularly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/19 05:07 PM
6

All sex workers feel that way and business is still good so I'm guessing the men either don't know or don't care.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:45 PM
8

And you're here to play games with people. Good bye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/19 08:30 AM
8

I wouldn't think about the why too much, because that's how you end up going against your gut. If he was the right man for you, you wouldn't be missing anything right now. That's all you need to know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 07:21 PM
5

Patriarchy socialized you to feel like you have to be the one to smooth the waters, pave the way, build up and nurture everyone but your own self. You don't have to do anything at all, except maybe ask yourself this question: If you feel a certain way, cui bono - who benefits?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 05:47 PM
5

That kind of a realization is a double-edged sword. On the one hand it greatly reduces the amount of men you're willing to consider, which can feel like a very bad thing. On the other, it also greatly reduces the amount of shit that patriarchy taught you tolerate and accept as a given = more peace, quiet and happiness in life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 05:42 PM
5

Cultural reasons and peer pressure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 04:09 PM
19

Finally, someone put this widely-spread, deplorable state of affairs into words. One of men's favorite arguments is that both people benefit from sex when they often don't. At all. A younger woman who is deeply in love will overlook this at first. I'm just glad he got his...and it kinda felt good for me too, almost. ​ Later on: Nah, I'm not shaving my legs for this shit. 😠
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/19 05:29 AM
16

Imho it's a waste of time and energy. Most men know exactly when a behavior is low effort. If not, ignoring them after bad behavior serves as a good reminder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 09:11 PM
4

I hope you can find the strength to block him from your life. The damage to your self-esteem is not worth the mindfuck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 08:20 PM
15

As dear Morticia Addams once said: College first. Or a trade if you are so inclined. Looks are here today, gone tomorrow. If you want to keep a worthwhile man, you also need self-respect, personality and your own accomplishments. PS. Some teenage boys can be incredibly abusive because they are dumb as rocks. Bail at the first sign of disrespect.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 04:50 PM
9

The most abusive and most violent boyfriend I had was a same-aged teenager back in the day. Girls need to be warned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 04:45 PM
2

On second thoughts, forget the askmen thread, read this thread right here. Memorize it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 05:52 AM
16

Is the ass scratching part of a film? Please tell me it's for a film. 😨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/19 05:08 AM
43

don't bend the facts to fit the fantasy. See it for what it is before you. Truest words.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 09:00 PM
13

Thanks for your post. It's one of those things you don't realize you needed to hear until you do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 08:53 PM
6

Ain't that the truth. :-/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 07:31 PM
15

That's so true. The amount of married men looking for something on the side is insane. :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 07:30 PM
2

I watched a Rabbi video on YouTube once. Very old and wise man. He said if the man doesn't have a good relationship with his father don't marry him! This has also been my experience...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 04:18 PM
13

That is a super creepy quote. Don't answer. Google how to stay safe and then please stay safe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 10:09 AM
9

In the meanwhile Keanu is sitting there going....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 07:32 AM
3

The number one factor is socialization, which is also the reason why many women suffer from low self-esteem and depression. Society uses all sorts of pressure to force you to think a certain way. That's why reddit misogynists waste so much time downvoting and terrorizing the women here (and to be frank, it's not like they actually have anything better to do.) Additionally, it's easier for a dummy to aggressively try and shut someone up, than actually convince them through intelligent discourse. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 07:25 AM
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Another less known riskfactor: Giving birth in the good old US of A. The US has the "highest rate of maternal mortality in the industrialized world." The Rising U.S. Maternal Mortality Rate Demands Action from Employers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 06:59 AM
8

Wow, you have your own little fan club! 😁 Doing great. Just keep not giving a fuck. 💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 06:00 AM
24

Those two have made my entire week and probably my entire month, too. Keanu's smile basically says it all. And I just love Alexandra. She radiates the FDS ideal. If you aren't sure, that's a "high value woman" right there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:18 PM
13

These days silver hair is no accident. It's a statement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 07:13 PM
2

😖😖💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 06:53 PM
16

Go the flow and just don't give up the goods. It's their obligation to mention their expectations upfront. Any man who expects something without communicating it in a timely manner does not deserve consideration anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 03:31 PM
8

I implemented some fds tactics when I noticed my boss was starting to take me for granted. It got a lot better. So yes, this works even when you are not looking to date that man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/19 04:48 AM
4

I keep reading that on Reddit, too: bisexual guys have no problem being monogamous, yada yada. Real life, some time into the relationship and after seriously bonding with them: Oh, woe is me, I miss dick. 🙈🙈🙈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 08:31 PM
16

Angie is such a badass. And she's trying hard to give so much back to the sisterhood. But she's always had that bad girl aura and people never really liked her because she wouldn't play by the rules. Marrying the world's former sex-symbol and most charming alcoholic didn't help her case, either. People only tend to see the alcoholic's public side and can't understand why his wife is so mean, you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 08:00 PM
10

Damn, we could have told them that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 04:21 PM
2

👍👏👍👏👍👏👍👏👍👏👍👏👍👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/19 10:57 AM
38

The truth hurts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 08:01 PM
19

Can confirm, that works.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 07:06 PM
25

Unfortunately you can't really know a man until the birth of the first child. Only then you can tell if he's the real deal or not. Some are amendable to training, many others never get it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 05:33 PM
1

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 04:33 PM
3

This list is too real. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 04:09 PM
14

Definitely. Will add the quotation marks now. You deserve better.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 07:32 AM
11

She says it like it's a bad thing. After you've lived for a while you realize it's better to die a virgin than settle for the wrong man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/19 06:05 AM
7

💜
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 06:01 PM
32

I just love LOVE the memes here. 💜✌👍🤗
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 11:29 AM
41

They exist. I've often observed same-aged men who've no problem ignoring nubile young women, turn into casanovas around women their age. That's the man you want as a life partner, someone whose preferences age with him. Pay attention to the red flags.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/19 09:00 AM
19

Of course. Misogyny is a worldwide phenomenon. No mas.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 07:05 PM
7

I don't know. 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 04:16 PM
7

Not a fan of dating apps for socially anxious people. I'm biased towards getting out there because it builds up experience and thicker skin. My favorites are regular meetups according to your interests where you can interact with both sexes without pressure. Then when your self esteem is in a better place you can always try out apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 12:48 PM
7

Immoral is very subjective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/19 11:39 AM
13

Have you read here for a while and checked out the sidebars? 🙄 Nobody here advocates being financially dependent.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 08:48 PM
10

Definitely don't respond. Block and report those users.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 09:03 AM
14

Even though it's about dating, this is the only place that publicly calls out all those hugely popular misogynistic threads, which have been trending unchallenged for years now. None of the big female spaces in Reddit will do anything about this because they are positively terrified of the heat. Men continue to feel fine in their personal echo chambers and the women learn to shut up and take it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 07:44 AM
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The losers who post that shit have 100% coerced and assaulted women in their lives and are trying to feel better about it. But they already know, it doesn't matter how many of their "brethren" upvote those kind of posts, they will always be scum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 07:13 AM
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It means you continue to date and live your life without giving his existence the slightest consideration. Only notice the guys you like and who know excatly where they want "this" to go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 06:58 AM
19

The tremendous importance of self-love and self-esteem. A woman can't find a valuable man if she doesn't value herself. The stupendous importance of career over relationships. Men come and go but your education and your career will always be there to pick up the shambles they leave behind. PS. Want to be really smart? Wait at least another 16 years before having a child. In a few years, you'll see a bunch of friends ruin their early 20s with husbands and babies and you'll feel an urge to join th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 12:28 AM
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It's less about acting it and more about feeling it. Humans are incredibly good at sensing desperation, low self-esteem and uncertainty. Take the time to observe her and you'll see, it's not about acting and more about knowing your worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 08:48 PM
8

They certainly do. Just reading there for a few minutes makes me want to slice my wrists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 06:49 PM
6

Do you even want to date? Do you have someone particular in mind? Or do you just want to appear "normal" to your friend? Frankly, I'm struggling to find something wrong with you. 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 06:02 PM
6

Ask the hotline, they know this much better than I do. But please stop answering the calls. You're just teaching him, that he only needs to let it ring 20, 50, 100 times until you answer. You have to be tough about this hon, your life might be at stake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 06:31 AM
9

That's pretty normal for someone who's just coming out of a long term marriage. Take your time alone to discover yourself and what you want. This might take a few years and some discussions with a therapist... it's going to feel really lonely and suck at first, but don't hurry this step.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 05:08 PM
10

Sweety, this won't get better until you stop lying to yourself. He's already told you in many different ways that he does not love you, that he's just using you for sex and cuddles until he finds his manic pixie dream girl. Guys are really good at compartmentalizing that shit. Of course you feel bad. By staying in contact you're disrespecting your number one bestie and the one person who'll always be there for you. You are basically telling yourself that some dick who you'll barely remember in 2…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 04:48 PM
5

When real life is just one big humungus disappointment, it's very easy to retreat into a fantasy world, where you can always feel successful, liked and acknowledged. Gaming and the internet today makes this easier than ever. Unfortunately this is only a pipe dream and our subconscious knows this. That's why it's just a dirty band-aid on an infected wound that won't heal. Our subconscious only responds to results in real life. My best advice for you is to break all your big goals in as tiny piece…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 07:08 AM
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There's lots of men like him. Yes, women have been socialized by YOUR sex to not directly retaliate over thousands of years, ain't you so proud? Same guys *hand-wringing* Why aren't women fucking me. Why aren't women having kids anymore. Waaah-fuckin-waaah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 06:20 AM
13

When the debate is lost, slander becomes the tool of the losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/10/19 06:15 AM
5

Those are great lists. What do you think is keeping you from attaining what you want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 09:48 PM
7

What do you want out of life?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 09:37 PM
13

I love those little voices at the back of our head, they always know the real deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 09:24 PM
25

https://www.reddit.com/r/exredpill/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 08:44 PM
17

Applause. Yep. It's high time for women to collectively take a stand against online misogynistic movements and not only say but actually show: I've upped my standards honey, so up yours.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 07:21 AM
12

That is absolutely correct. Appreciate thy self because nobody else will. And get used to doing that while still young, it will come really handy as you get older.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 07:03 AM
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Men have been extremely spoiled the past 20 years. Yet they still think that dating is stacked against them. You can just never be doormat enough for those guys, so forget that route. But while they can fight and rage against subs like this one, there is nothing they can do about low-key resistance. The Japanese have been begging their women to have more sex and make more kids for years and honestly struggle to understand why a woman wouldn't want to do this to herself in an extremely misogynist…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 06:49 AM
3

Grey rock him. (Google that.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 06:39 AM
1

In this case, it sounds like time for the exclusivity talk. The longer you leave this without a tag, the higher the likelyhood of you ending up in an in-between/limbo situation with this guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 07:38 PM
2

Lately he’s loosely thrown around the bf/gf terms and has been using pet names (babe/sweetheart) That doesn't mean much if you haven't discussed exclusivity yet. What about you? Are you in love with him? Do you want to be his gf? ​ I feel like I’m missing something with him [...] like a secret that’s like crazy messed up in one way or another. So your gut feeling is telling you he's hiding something. That may well be. Older people, especially ones with children, are generally less open with you.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/19 06:55 PM
1

Thanks for posting those regularly, the memo needs to get to as many women as possible: If he asks for your number of sexual partners, you should seriously consider dropping him. Especially if he keeps pushing the issue. This is a guy with an immature, misogynistic mindset. You will not be happy Don't offer that information. You're just going to shoot yourself in the foot. If prodded, lie (only the number of serious relationships, like live-in, LTR, marriage.) Then consider number 1.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/19 06:56 AM
1

I'm describing someone who's not a loser like you and your cult buddies, dick.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/19 07:35 AM
1

The non-negotiable stuff: He's good, kind, patient and considerate but he also protects his boundaries No abusive, controlling or secretive behavior Is curious about life and loves to learn. No extreme political leanings, no tin foil, no cults, non religious. Can communicate. He can support himself and has at least some financial literacy. Cleans up after himself at the bathroom and the kitchen Short fingernails, normal hygiene Sexually compatible, similar sense of humor Is not married, a crimin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/19 02:40 PM
1

Pretty sure I'm guilty of what might seem like false encouragement. Here's why: In my life, I've been around and I've met thousands of people from various countries and all paths of life. And I've never seen a woman not get a quality partner because she was conventionally unattractive. (And by quality I mean goodness and kindness, because looks maybe nice to have, but on their own ain't worth shit.) But I've seen many remain single or settle for terrible men because of wrong expectations, low se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/19 05:26 AM
1

Can I assume that you are a fucking idiot, since you are posting where you are clearly not wanted?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/19 01:46 PM
1

Ah, yes, the good old male privilege. We don't care if you "get" this sub or not. You are just a nuisance so fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/19 01:33 PM
1

If it's the States, I can understand why they have an aversion to guys from the stem field. Most are either in some kind of cult like rp or mgtow and have a porn addiction.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 05:33 AM
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You'd be surprised. Stories like these actually happen all the time. That's why only young women believe all that lame shit about getting married early. You won't find a single older woman who actually believes any of this patriarchal crap.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 05:26 AM
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