Please help, I'm new at this

rftw2013 · 2019-11-11T20:47:20+00:00

Don't listen to what men say, watch what they do. Long sweet texts are just words. Don't be fooled by words. Action is the only way to know what a man actually wants and will commit to.

letsberealforamoment · 2019-11-11T20:27:59+00:00

He is super into you. And expressed that in a sincere, if verbose, way. But I don't see any disrespect anywhere in there.

A good response would be...."so where are you taking me when we go out again"?

ponchoacademy · 2019-11-11T22:09:15+00:00

Full disclosure, Im pretty guarded over my heart and emotions... But if I got this text after the first kiss, that would be too much too soon.

Like, what is he asking you to tell him? It's way too soon to to be developing feelings. I would feel like he's in too deep too fast and hit the panic button, but I'm guarded like that.

Def do suggest taking it slow though, he's had time to deal with his divorce, you're still healing from yours. So I'd let him know that you're still healing, but feel good about your date and looking forward to getting to know him better.

Hopefully he realizes he needs to take things slower and give things time before professing all these feelings and expecting to hear your feelings for him, cause yeah...that would scare me too.

finally_free13 · 2019-11-11T20:31:41+00:00

You were previously married to an abusive man. Is the divorce through? Have you gotten some therapy, tried to work through the baggage since you've left him?

This man sounds like a coworker who is also married. I'm definitely not judging, it's just that either one of these two labels has a lot of explosive potential and both of them could be very damaging to you, especially since you've already gone through so much. And I'd hate to see you lose your job over something like this.

I think your gut feeling knows this, that's why you're feeling scared.

ItsAnonCat · 2019-11-11T23:00:55+00:00

I would proceed with caution and change the direction of the conversation as we’ll pump the brakes. I feel like when men say that their actions often don’t reflect their words give him a chance to prove this wrong but tread carefully.

Title	Please help, I'm new at this
Author	finally_free13
Upvotes	10
Comments	21
Date	November 11, 2019 8:19 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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