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| 3 | I feel bad for the girls who'll be "inspired" by this. Everyone thinks they'll be that rare success case of the Adult Industry, never one of the many painful failures...Without saying too much. I have friends that are sex workers who make tons of money and still function as a normal human beings. But would they be doing AMA about it? Nope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 06:35 PM |
| 15 | HVM will not waste your time and know when games are gamesWhy you make me spit my drink out like that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 01:52 PM |
| 4 | Level Up- your favorite clothing sources?Nordstrom rack, Nordstrom, Macy’s, if you want to find some really girly pieces I copped a few pieces from the Lauren Conrad collection at Kohls. I also really like loft for a few things, Venus is another nice place to go for very feminine pieces. If you have time to sort you can grab a few contemporary pieces from lower end places like f21 that you built onto other brands from actual contemporary stores like the ones I mentioned above. I’d also recommend you take a look at Pinterest for some id… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 02:27 PM |
| 8 | I’m totes fine being singleUse this time to level up on everything Sis while things are slowed down. Because once the governments hit accelerate life is gonna hit hard and fast again. Leave this quarantine knowing you have a second chance of life but also better than before! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 01:06 PM |
| 12 | How can you tell a guy is into you during quarantine?I’m talking to an older man whom check marks a few things I want off my list. I won’t say he is a 100% HVM it’s too soon to say but he’s definitely potentially falling into that category. We both work and have interesting schedules, I find it’s more easier and fun not to text too much. We will occasionally send voice clips back and forth a couple times and then it’s back to work or other things. When we have the time we will schedule a phone call, video calls are not everyday and those are speci… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 11:04 AM |
| 8 | Don't do it, ladiesProjection indeed, my ex tried to use a topic of our child from way back in December to re-establish contact. Sorry, you have a new girlfriend now. Give her all of your shitty attention. Guess she isn’t being his mommy(good for her) and comforting him during a pandemic. He originally had zero to say to us prior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 06:36 AM |
| 1 | Single mom datingFocus on your self. I was very young when I found myself in this position and focusing on me was really key to getting better. I fought against the idea just wanting a sense of normalcy and if I had learned my lesson sooner I would’ve been more at peace. I accepted first of all men are often gonna disappoint but you don’t have to take their ‘good enough’ Especially now you’re a free woman so now you have to be extra protective over yourself to not settle and protect your little one. I learned to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 09:50 AM |
| 2 | Lock down without my boyfriendWhile the parental ban thing is weird it is selfish for you to judge whether or not him looking out for the health of his family is a bad thing. You could argue the same point and if I was your boyfriend I’d still tell you no because it’s too risky. If you had been staying there maybe but if you’re coming and going it’s an exposure each time. I personally live with a family member who knows exactly what it’s like to drown in their own fluids (heart failure) I saw it happen and I wish to not be t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 09:41 AM |
| 3 | Making conversation with menI downgraded a guy just recently for that. We had an awesome conversation and then it changed to It like hearing you talk’ the next day I restricted the amount of time and energy I gave him to less than a fraction. I think he realized I’m not gonna take a lazy conversationalist. Show some damn interest or be gone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 09:24 AM |
| 6 | What's the quarantined OLD scene like right now?I let men know straight away I won’t be leaving the house to expose myself to their new germs. What part of stay at home don’t they understand ? I find it gross they still want to meet during a pandemic as if they can’t get sick from meeting new people lol. Sorry but I’m not risking getting my family member with heart failure KO because of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 09:11 AM |
| 15 | Is there a certain age at which a man, if still single, becomes questionable?He fucked around and either had zero desirable traits, isn’t trying hard or he really thought he’d get low effort pussy forever. Now he’s that middle age guy that we all swipe left on. Or he’s the community whore, or women meet him and realize how much of a problem he is so they run the other way. So then he will say there are no good women because the mature and wise ones are hip to his bullshit early. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 09:04 AM |
| 14 | I just have to say it here....Have one can confirm it will make you see the light. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 05:38 AM |
| 6 | Ladies that do OLD- how often do men...They all want to get laid i now tell every guy I meet I just want friends. Once they lay down their cards that they aren’t okay with platonic non sexual friendship or that they truly want something casual and also a lot will tell you basically how they can’t stand you not being ‘emotionally available’ for casual sex I ditch them lol. The right guy will be crazy about you and respect you. I met a guy on tinder today who claimed all he could see in his life in the next couple of years was how succ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 03:48 AM |
| 16 | LVM drags a girl for being tall and gets positive reactions to his post. If the girl had posted the same thing, the sub would have exploded. Fuck you, from a tall girl.I've had men ask different questions similar to this and I also ignore them. Like if it doesn't work out between us why the heck would I want to recommend your desperate behind to someone else? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/20 10:02 PM |
| 4 | Bf yelled at me should I break up with himOP if these posts don’t convince you if he cusses you out over text or anywhere screenshot it and I want you to reread it throughout the week. Think about how those words make you feel, pretty shitty right ? Just remember the person who was suppose to love you said all of those things and what he thought of you. Now think, does your ideal man treat you that way ever ? Probably not. Leave him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:09 PM |
| 17 | Dom has found relationships difficult (no forking really?)This is why I can’t stand self proclaimed ‘doms’ and women who participate in that kind of lifestyle who are dominant women hate them too because they actually don’t care whether you’re into the lifestyle, dominant or submissive. They just see vagina and want to use it the way they want, or “break” a dominant women. All things no one consented to or wanted nor asked for. We all know what most men mean when they say they’re ‘doms’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:03 PM |
| 5 | Making plans.This I dealt with this recently, scaled back on purpose and then did a quick pop in days later toning down all of my interest and what not. Suddenly he wants to make plans. But in all honesty I would either stop talking and let him come after you or scale back the conversation, mention how you’re enjoying the conversation but not interested in a pen pal and leave it at that no more explaining yourself than necessary. Either he’s gonna ask you out or he’s wasting your time. If you guys do trade n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/20 03:00 PM |
| 44 | When things don’t happen..Saving this post as a reminder to not worry about those who disappear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 02:51 PM |
| 5 | In long distance, how do I set expectations ?Hint: don’t do LDR unless he has the financial means to make LDR not a thing quickly. This can mean different things for different people. Typically those LDR has been a waste of time and even then I wouldn’t commit to anyone in a LDR. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 01:01 AM |
| 19 | Check out this giant piece of shit who enjoys making women cry and thinks he’s “teaching them a lesson”A.k.a. We also have to announce to women we are doing it instead of fucking off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/20 12:59 AM |
| 11 | And this is somebody who asked me to send him TWO (!!) body shots of myself! The audacity!! Moobs and bald head! And he wants a body shot to make sure I’m skinny enough for him lmaoMaybe he just wanted a comparison of his moobs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 02:10 PM |
| 14 | LVMs be like:Lol absolutely nothing, that dumpster fire of a LVM will not ever be finding it’s way to my home or bed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 02:09 PM |
| 37 | Pay attention to the things they do early on that show you how they perceive youI hate this so much, I’ve had guys who only live 45 minutes away from me act like it’s gonna be a vacation and they need to stay for days. Like wtf? It’s just a date. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 02:07 PM |
| 10 | 2 minutes into unhiding my tinder profile ...That’s all he had to offer her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/20 02:06 PM |
| 9 | Playings games bad or good ?I hope we have the JADE principal in its own separate post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 01:28 PM |
| 14 | Truth Hurts.Please check out the thread we had on that a few days ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 01:20 PM |
| 6 | What’s wrong with the image??? Lmao these Scrotes be MAD mad 😳😤😤Please please do this I was talking to a lawyer about my finances and we stumbled onto this topic the amount I get for one of my children is pathetic he was legitimately pissed and told me to immediately go down to the court because no one should be getting off that easy especially if you’re struggling financially or in my case having to restructure my finances with a lawyer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 04:19 AM |
| 3 | Yelled at during sex for showing him what she needs sexually. Questioning if she has a right to be angry. Sigh.That would be his first and last time having sex with me and it’s also cost him financially. I had a guy years ago pressure me about taking a plan b even though we used protection. Eventually I realized how desperate and pathetic he was and capitalized on it lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/20 04:16 AM |
| 15 | Let's create a list of the professions/hobbies/appearance traits/other categories with the highest ratio of LVM!That and so many people want to do it but often don’t go anywhere with it, not only that he swears he understands the world better than everyone because he studied psychology can use this against you. Dated one wouldn’t do again, on top of him being a liar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 08:19 PM |
| 23 | Let's create a list of the professions/hobbies/appearance traits/other categories with the highest ratio of LVM!-Delivery driver -Job is listed as get money -Painter (starving artist) -Photographer -Psychology majors -Wannabe film directors / musician -Retail -Call Center Representative | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 07:01 PM |
| 12 | Ladies do u have a high body count?I have big suspicions about this post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 06:59 PM |
| 9 | What even makes all these 10+ years older than me men think they're worthy of dating me? Stay in your lane, bitch.Things I refuse to do, there is a woman on YouTube that is such a good strategist for women. Her husband was leaving things around the house and she refused to pick up after him. She told him, “I think we need to hire a maid” and left it there. Edited to add she actually has a cleaning service come to her house now lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/20 03:17 AM |
| 68 | All I did was ask him what his does for a living. That was my second message and he sent this 🚩🚩🚩So you’d have some mercy and compassion for how inept at life he appears to be and maybe lower your standards just for him. Meanwhile you want a guy who instead of asking for pity when presented with an issue will rise to the occasion and say “I will improve myself” and I don’t need pity or to explain myself to do it. I’ll just do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:13 PM |
| 47 | 42 year old man cheats on wife, gaslights her to believe its her fault through insulting her appearance and smell, then is surprised she doesn’t want sex. Nah, sis.Been there with losing my libido, I thought I was broken. Then when I encountered other men I felt totally fine. It’s not you sis, it’s the man. Throw him away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:03 PM |
| 106 | All I did was ask him what his does for a living. That was my second message and he sent this 🚩🚩🚩He rambles in a way that it makes it seem like he has more problems than that. But it was a very elongated way of saying he’s a loser. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 02:01 PM |
| 17 | It's not Men vs. Women. It's High Value vs. Low Value.This man I spoke with the other day pointed out how women are ingrained to let a guy down easy because men can’t take no and act overly violent! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 01:13 PM |
| 3 | So over these ‘nice guys’...🙄All that jealous spewing out of him. I live in almost the middle of nowhere if a guy cares or wants you he will do anything to come there to meet up with you. I wish my sister had the same logic and was secure in herself she is always driving to men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 01:00 PM |
| 53 | Please tell me she’s joking...Trash(man) there I fixed it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 12:57 PM |
| 4 | Boyfriend claims period blood stains in sheets from another woman are actually grape juice. Oh he must think she’s *stupid* stupid.My issue is she said they talked for three years and were supposedly together well then he was clearly doing these things while they were together. Which once again shows his true colors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 12:49 PM |
| 54 | Boyfriend claims period blood stains in sheets from another woman are actually grape juice. Oh he must think she’s *stupid* stupid.When she said that she quit her job and left everything behind for him and she drove up there...smh. She literally did everything for him and apparently he did minimal effort. Finding that would be a huge slap in the face for me and I would call things off immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 12:47 PM |
| 32 | What even makes all these 10+ years older than me men think they're worthy of dating me? Stay in your lane, bitch.This relates to the conversation I had with my mother the other day when I threw around the idea that I was talking to a 31 year old potentially HVM with an amazing salary and on my level. For reference I am 25 but she was quick to say noooo get an older man he will have experience and this and that. But something clicked in my head while she was talking, you can be an asshole at any age and still be a broke and LVM. Then I was thinking well mom, look at your life you dated older and still didn’… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 12:38 PM |
| 25 | The “Hinge” dating and relationships app (among others) is bullshit.I literally ditched a conversation because he asked me what kind of job I did after we literally just talked about it meaning he wasn’t fucking listening. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 12:30 PM |
| 10 | Riddle me thisThat’s unfortunate men can really make you lose your way sometimes... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 08:00 AM |
| 19 | Riddle me thisI’m glad your friend was a team player op, I hate when other women don’t do the right thing and instead side with their dusty men because of ‘relationships’ and ‘family’. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/20 07:26 AM |
| 16 | How do you find a good FWB? Do they exist?OP, wanting sex doesn’t make you a prostitute and that isn’t what she was saying she is simply framing things how men tend to end up looking at you if you aren’t careful and the issues with FWB. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Millennials are poor, men are falling behind in education, and what that means for datingMight I suggest some ashera star ? And Michaela pink to cheer you up | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 09:45 PM |
| 6 | Millennials are poor, men are falling behind in education, and what that means for datingYou just gotta wait it honestly I have the same issue I am just now running into my real first HVM target but I spent all that time focusing on leveling myself up so some LVM wouldn’t even bother looking my way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 07:15 PM |
| 7 | Men never cease to amaze me with how fucking stupid they are 😂😂😂That’s why I don’t feel bad when a guy is insecure that a woman won’t suck his dick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 06:55 PM |
| 12 | Asked me out for dinner and drinks and then told me he wanted sex. Was offended when I sent him a link to local escorts. Told me to apologize to him and then called me an as*hole 😂 didn’t screenshot the rest of the convo cause I reported him. Men think Tinder is a vending machine for sexNah sis, she exposed him lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 06:53 PM |
| -2 | Asked me out for dinner and drinks and then told me he wanted sex. Was offended when I sent him a link to local escorts. Told me to apologize to him and then called me an as*hole 😂 didn’t screenshot the rest of the convo cause I reported him. Men think Tinder is a vending machine for sexLol I would of hit him with that good luck with that one. But oh please as if some sex workers don’t actually enjoy their line of work. He is the type of guy they would definitely not want to deal with because he thinks he’s some type of gift and that every sex worker does their job for survival only. Not only that he is entitled for thinking you’d actually care or die because he refuses to continue the conversation about his desire for gain from you unless you “apologize” -cue spongebob meme- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/20 06:52 PM |
| 34 | Sums it upWe want all the duck pics and none of the dick pics <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 06:28 PM |
| 110 | Prove yourself for the King, peasant!He was looking for that 1 lb of signature select pickmeisha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 02:16 AM |
| 30 | I vaguely act like pickmeisha. I sleep with friend of 6 years. He treats me well, aims for relationship, but pulls back because extremely conservative Saudi family would essentially disown him for being with western woman. I end things because I don’t want a FWB...I receive $400 gift in the mail.Keep the gift and ignore him. Don’t play his games and don’t allow yourself to be treated or strung along. I was in a similar but not similar relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/01/20 01:45 AM |
| 8 | If you are single and childfree, don't date single fathersThis is indeed good advice and to be honest I have children myself and after trying to date another single parent..honestly wouldn’t recommend. Call it selfish but ugh and it often goes back to not even just the kids but the other woman before you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/19 09:05 PM |
| 23 | Instagram sharing some solid ideas this morning..There are men who brag about how they have bots and want to take a girl out there. Yeah no. No one wants to go on a boat with you to bumble fuck. Change it to make him buy you a vacation and leave you alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 04:50 PM |
| 3 | I’m 25 by the way but still this is just yuck.For me I find it gross as I’m half way to 30, they look desperate and as a mom it’s just like wtf it also means they’re looking at females potentially my age and older for some sick fetish thing ‘You’re more experienced cause of your age’ even though we know a persons age has zero to do with sexual experience it’s just classless and tasteless. Unless he is looking for a sexual predator or selling himself I am not sure how I am suppose to be attracted to his profile with that on it. Guys literall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/19 02:13 PM |
| 23 | I'm gonna be 33 this year... this is my boyfriend from High School.I hope you spit out your drink laughing when you read his message cause I totally would’ve. It sounds soo kiddy lmao, there is definitely a reason why he deserved that blocked, this just adds to it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 02:42 PM |
| 10 | I’m curious what y’all think about thisNone of that is happening until he has proved it worth it. I learned my lesson cooking for guys. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/19 02:41 PM |
| 4 | WEAR A CONDOM OR STFU. Birth Control is NOT 100% effective and comes with INSANE side effects that SIGNIFICANTLY impact our quality of life.Woh that is scary and the first time I heard about BC doing that. I have this condition naturally but this makes me want to stay clear of HBC | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 09:55 AM |
| 1 | WEAR A CONDOM OR STFU. Birth Control is NOT 100% effective and comes with INSANE side effects that SIGNIFICANTLY impact our quality of life.I have the copper and I feel like it intensifies my period cravings and I get moody during that whole week like depressed and agitated something I never did during my period. I also experienced some pain in my vaginal walls that resulted in bright red non period bleeding. While I am postpartum it just didn’t seem like it was from me healing. I got an US last Thursday so I will see the results and if my IUD moved but I worry often about if I am damaging my body. The pain was bad enough that I spe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 09:53 AM |
| 4 | WEAR A CONDOM OR STFU. Birth Control is NOT 100% effective and comes with INSANE side effects that SIGNIFICANTLY impact our quality of life.I just got an ultrasound to check mine out because I had some random pain last month. They physically checked the strings but still wasn’t sure. But I am really considering taking it out because once a month I’d find myself depressed and it’s suppose to be non hormonal but my period definitely felt different. I also feel like it is stopping my weight loss journey quite a lot. I know they won’t ever admit that some women have consequences but I honestly don’t feel comfortable after the excruciati… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/19 09:42 AM |
| 3 | “That’s materialistic of you”It stands for Dark Triad Women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 09:25 AM |
| 17 | How to motivate yourself to lose weight?Do what works for you but honestly if you are just staring out. Eat less by making better choices such as cutting out soda first and sweets and eating more naturally lower calorie meals like baked fish and chicken. Just cutting soda from my diet has helped me maintain the weight I lose. I only drink sparkling water now for the most part. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 09:24 AM |
| 3 | I hate your country, give me sex for money, I know you're poorHappy Cake Day :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 03:41 AM |
| 7 | Let's bring this type of energy to 2020You’re not lying there are guys on dating sites who do that when you tell them you’re not interested. I have a guy on a dating site who keeps doing this and saying he won’t :) I am about to deliver a soul crush and then block him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 03:34 AM |
| 5 | My profile stated my love language is “receiving gifts”“So you’re broke or financially challenged ?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 03:26 AM |
| 21 | Why take girls on dates? Just find some pickme-DeleteAndBlock -WasteHisTime2020 -ScheduleAndCancel | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 03:22 AM |
| 25 | “That’s materialistic of you”I need to use this on my next target. I also decided to use this opportunity to standard drop on a guy who won’t stop texting me when he asked how my day was I gave him a twisted version of the story and acted super disgusted with how cheap he was and how dare he ask me for a coffee date. The other guy went “I would do so much better than him blah blah blah” Pure gold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/19 03:20 AM |
| 38 | when I find the one she can delete my tinderI have that app as well with upgraded service and some of the guys who send us ladies likes are ugh...there is this one guy who clearly has three tinder accounts because he has liked me three separate times and I figured out after swiping left and he continued to pop up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/12/19 05:45 PM |
| 11 | We all were pickmeisha at one point, but let’s talk about how our upbringing influenced our pick me ways!Wow I am glad someone cared enough to be there for you! That sounds scary and imagine if she hadn’t stepped in and he became forceful.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 05:05 PM |
| 17 | We all were pickmeisha at one point, but let’s talk about how our upbringing influenced our pick me ways!I can relate to half of the things in your post. I watched my older sister go through the phase of wanting to fit in and sticking with others through thick and thin even when they don’t give a crap about you! My older sister is in a relationship like that still but there isn’t any that I can do to change her mind until she is ready. From my pick me experiences I plan to teach my daughters to not sweat guys at all! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 05:01 PM |
| 18 | We all were pickmeisha at one point, but let’s talk about how our upbringing influenced our pick me ways!I am so sorry to hear that but I am glad you found this community. We are all enough and worth the treatment of basic human decency and even more than that! It’s easy for us all to fall for bad treatment when we don’t feel good about ourselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 04:25 PM |
| 8 | Had a weird third date..If it’s heartbreaking you’re investing too much of you too soon. I’ll be honest I wouldn’t had invited him over your place so soon... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/19 01:52 AM |
| 20 | invest or bounce! 👋🏼Lmao you’re so right this is legitimately our group everyday someone comes in seeking advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/19 04:10 PM |
| 5 | PASS IT ON: Practical Ways to Legally Crack Down On The Porn Epidemic without Infringing On 1st Amendment Rights1 and 3 are things that are slowly already becoming requirements. While I agree there should be some ways a site can be sued I am skeptical because it needs to be written in a way that protects independent sites I.e. dominatrix and women from being sued by creeps for silly things or lies. I have friends who do sex work in the fetish realm and I wish things were clear cut and dry as you write this post to be but it’s soo complicated that’s why laws never get it right or done on top of men skewing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 12:10 PM |
| 6 | FDS Holiday Gifting GuideOh I spoke to a woman today to who’s said if her boyfriend didn’t get her exactly what she asked for he would get absolutely nothing. I don’t blame her really. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 03:05 AM |
| 23 | Hey, talk about a red flag paradeHe would get a straight block to the face. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 03:01 AM |
| 19 | It will do many things, but never ghostIt also will stfu and never degrade you, or get you pregnant unwantedly, or cheat on you :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/19 02:59 AM |
| 13 | Is this a red flag?He sounded low value from the beginning to be honest. What did he even do to earn a hook up with you? Remember YOU are the prize. Give it too soon and they won’t appreciate or cherish you. I’d cut your losses. For the next one think about all the hoops you want him to jump through before you give it to him. For me I won’t be sleeping with a guy I am not committed to and I am not committed until he’s doing everything I want of him, adding value to my life with not just his presence but financiall… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 05:38 PM |
| 2 | Tips for intermittent reinforcement?Sounds like for the most part you’re doing things right. But I think adding something to your life you generally like will help you ease the feeling of being clingy or needy. But don’t worry everyone has their moments when you think you might be being those things just take a deep breath and a step back. I hope he is bringing a lot of benefit to your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/19 05:28 PM |
| 5 | How dare a women deny his mediocre coffee and boba date?!There are a couple ways to go about it. Taking your time and making him talk about himself, when he asks your ideal date say exactly the things you want from him. “I like fine dinner dates xyz...” or whatever you want. Then ask him what his ideal date is in return etc pay attention to their answer even go as far in the previous statement and mention a restaurant you’ve been wanting to try. If he invites you or says he wanna takes you then it is expected he pays. In my situation he invited me out… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 06:40 PM |
| 3 | Some Top Notch Advice About Building and Keeping Confidence (long but GOLD)I love watching her videos and MP they have helped me think beyond the pick me mindset along with FDS and I am ALOT happier. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 03:00 PM |
| 5 | Men these days...I don’t like this because while I might see it as a tad funny it’s definitely not for me. If someone gave me this who was suppose to love me I’d take it personal and probably end up making it disappear rather quickly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 02:56 PM |
| 12 | Guy with ED thinks it's "a lot to ask" when his gf asks him to wear a strap on. I comment "Asking someone to be sexually monogamous with you when you have ED is a lot to ask." Scrote loses his mind and calls out FDS. (Link in comments)The plot twist is their dumb asses don’t even realize that a lot of women would share this information with other women. “He perform in the bedroom” just like they talk about women when they don’t get what they want. Get over themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 02:43 PM |
| 6 | Reddit Feature Automatically Censoring "Potentially Toxic Content" LeakedYikes I’d hate to see FDS become a not safe space to be | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 04:51 AM |
| 1 | How dare a women deny his mediocre coffee and boba date?!Dark Triad Women its a private sub group of this group. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 03:34 AM |
| 3 | How dare a women deny his mediocre coffee and boba date?!I think those are very concrete ways of filtering but I also notice by declining and pushing it further it also helps filter because of theyre not that interested they simply go away. I don’t drink coffee or alcohol so often those offers I turn down and it’s either awkward for them or they disappear if they are a waste of time initially. I will say FDS has helped me find more healthy interactions with men like the ones you described. Even if after a first date it’s doesn’t work out I feel a lot … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 03:12 AM |
| 5 | How dare a women deny his mediocre coffee and boba date?!I instantly get rid of Snapchat and WhatsApp guys. Asking to meet up right away I don’t typically see as deterrent because even if they ask I will usually tell them I have plans and schedule them further out on purpose. Before the drier part of the conversation I am sure it was my looks he was stuck on. For the basics I go by their stats and then personality, considering it’s Hinge you don’t see much of their personality based off what’s written. I let my matches lead the conversation on purpose… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 02:15 AM |
| 2 | Men will rise to meet your expectationsDark Triad Women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 01:57 AM |
| 7 | How dare a women deny his mediocre coffee and boba date?!For clarification he isn’t the HVM I was mentioning about under the post. The exchanges above it however were much different it was the beginning of exchanges afterwards that I could see things going downhill. Often a guy will make it past a few things but fail miserably afterwards in other areas not unusual. Also to add I don’t think sometimes it’s necessary to say anything to them sometimes. If enough women blocked them and felt the same way we do they’d start to get the point that it’s them. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/19 01:53 AM |
| 4 | Men will rise to meet your expectationsYou should post this in DTW as well if you’re apart of it :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 09:47 PM |
| 68 | How dare a women deny his mediocre coffee and boba date?!I had a what I thought was a HVM go from inviting me to a five star restaurant to changing it to a coffee date and then I pay for lunch in my area so it’s ‘balanced’ cause I live far. Needless to say blocked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/19 09:12 PM |
| 18 | Girl travels 40min to see her boyfriend. GETS GHOSTED. Don’t travel for men y’all. Make them come to you.I used to worry about this because I don’t have a car and live pretty far. My mom is pretty toxic but the one thing she got right is, your ex fiancé traveled far every week to see you if a guy wants to he will do the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Stolen from igI needed to see this ! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/12/19 03:00 PM |
| 26 | I truly don’t understand how me showing I’m interested in almost any male , makes them automatically not interested?It’s because men love a challenge and a chase and when you give them directly gratification it isn’t interesting anymore. The same goes with being too available, while you don’t need to be cold you unfortunately do have to reign in your feelings if you want to hold a guys interest enough to figure him out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 06:48 PM |
| 16 | FDS Technique Practice?I don’t see anything wrong with practice as long as you’re 100% in control and don’t forsake your own rules. It depends on how well you know yourself. I have a few practice targets myself that I am seeing how far I can get. I’m also seeing how far I can grow their feelings for me for future targets while 100% knowing I am not into them for certain reasons. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 06:46 PM |
| 3 | The art of not sharing FDS versionThis! I told a guy I enjoyed painting and he originally had zero interest. Add in other FDS/DTW strategy and guess who is suddenly very excited about painting and is taking me to a paint night for couples lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 06:37 PM |
| 5 | The art of not sharing FDS versionIt depends on your intentions in my case I usually strip the fancy title and say I am a secretary while I am in school as half of it is true. Depending on what you do you can dumb it down to something basic if your intention is to catch a provider. Or you can tell them the basic title but not exactly where you work or for what company. If they budge tell them you don’t like to talk about work as it can be stressful at times already. I am self employed so I don’t like having to go into a whole ex… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 06:35 PM |
| 2 | The art of not sharing FDS versionThis is exactly what it’s about. They use this technique on us as well, but I think it benefits women highly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 04:14 PM |
| 7 | The art of not sharing FDS versionYou answer basic information, you don’t talk too much about your family or deep into your career. If they have similar hobbies or goals then you can expand off their ideas without putting too much of yourself out there. Questions like do you have a social media I usually say things like I deactivated to focus on myself. We are talking about not giving up information that can be used AGAINST you later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 04:08 PM |
| 9 | The art of not sharing FDS versionIt sounds like some of these guys never really had too many intentions of staying anyway. But also your delivery of the message, when you deploy this strategy don't out right say things like that but give them half truths and some truths. For example if they ask if you have children you might say 'I've always wanted children!' and leave it at that, I personally DO NOT check that I have children on my profile and I do not tell ANYONE I have children anymore. If we come across the conversation and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 03:55 PM |
| 58 | Don’t pay for dates because you’re afraid men will feel “entitled” to sex. You’re letting them start negotiation on their terms. Get used to men being unreasonably entitled and offended at your rejection of their half ass effort. And get even MORE used to not giving a SINGLE FUCK.Don’t pay for a date period. If he asked you out, and wanted your time then he pays. If you ever have to pay for the date for any reason, end it now. Just because you went out on a date with him doesn’t mean you owe him anything, just because he paid he doesn’t get anything but a thank you, just because he drove over two hours to see you doesn’t mean he deserves anything. Stop thinking and feeling you owe men anything at all aside from basic human respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/19 07:48 AM |
| 6 | How nice of pornhub to ensure everyone can enjoy the filmed abuse of women! A hero to men everywhere.The issue with the big porn industry is that most are too rich and focused on being rich to care about how women filmed and portrayed. While independent producers and more fetish style independent producers care more about consent, quality, what kind of message is being put out there. You won’t see porn hub banning certain categories or content because they simply don’t care. But you’ll see fetish sites please their customer and producer base (which is female dominated) by removing offensive con… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/19 06:02 AM |
| 7 | Ladies, what are your general thoughts and views on platonic relationships with men/buddy buddy friendship types?It’s disgusting to me when they have girlfriends and wives. I don’t care about messing a guy over but I am not a home wrecker just because her guy wants to be a LVM and jerk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 06:50 AM |
| 7 | Ladies, what are your general thoughts and views on platonic relationships with men/buddy buddy friendship types?From my end I don’t think it’s possible. I used to think it was but experience tells me that they all have secret agendas. I’ve had guy ‘friends’ say they’re ‘over me’ and as soon as their dick gets hard or they see a snap of me they start throwing themselves all over the place or what not. Those aren’t really friends. They also secretly sexualize everything you do even if they won’t say so. So now I block and ghost or I manipulate the conversations in my favorite and plant seeds. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 06:37 AM |
| 10 | Ladies, what are your general thoughts and views on platonic relationships with men/buddy buddy friendship types?I don’t really think it’s possible they all secretly end up crushing, lusting or wanting to fuck you. However because of this I exploit their feelings by making them have or add some benefit to my life even though I have no intentions of ever sleeping with them. This is also why you should be very quiet about your relationship status and dating etc with these men who are suppose to be platonic friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/19 06:34 AM |
| 23 | Remember that married men are happier and healthier as opposed to single men, while married women aren’t. YOU are the one with priceless value and the potential key to happiness for himGoing with this perspective will help you keep treating yourself as a high value women, and you won't allow the first guy who has bare minimum respect woo you into any different. Go in with high expectations and requests of them, if they can't meet that they will remove themselves fairly quickly. But if they know you won't settle for any less and continue to pursue you they will do everything in their power to please to keep you happy and secure their own happiness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 07:33 PM |
| 26 | A man can hate your guts, want you to literally die, and they will still want to have sex with you. Women who date men need to get this, please: sexual attention from men means nothing! There are ways to tell if they actually like you, but this is not one of them!Being apart of this sub has made realize just how conditioned we are to think things like 'hate-fucking' or 'angry-sex' is appropriate when its totally not acceptable and disgusting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 07:27 PM |
| 17 | Where to find HVM?It takes time to run into a HVM but also going out and being in places where your target demographic is does help a lot. That part is hard for me so I use online dating for practice as well as I am practicing what kind of vibe and image I put out to attract better matches. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/19 01:44 AM |
| 1 | [x-post] To all the [women] who want a family [but can't deal with the disloyal nature of men]: Have you ever considered hitting up sperm banks?I’ve considered this all my life. I want to someday have another child and I said if I got things in order and couldn’t find a suitable partner sperm banks were definitely going to be then route I go next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:56 PM |
| 4 | Don’t let your boyfriend keep you from your husbandThis is why we have to be careful who we date and allow to marry us. On top of dating not only for love but strategically. You want to enter a marriage with your own assets, and come out with your own assets and more than you came with if things are blown the bits. Especially if children are involved. Heartbreak to me doesn’t really matter as much anymore because you can replace the guy. But my take is different because I have children and I am matured past the love factor and now looking for my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:43 PM |
| 19 | Straight from the horse's mouth. Don't be this girl.This is why you shouldn’t feel bad doing the same to them when opportunity presents itself. Minus the sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 02:25 PM |
| 27 | Can we just talk about the nerve of some guys on Tinder?That sounds like the kind of guy who would be into conspiracy theories imho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/19 12:33 AM |
| 76 | Someone else’s boyfriend discovers his GF is an FDS member. Y’all gotta stop leaving your browsers open.Apparently making eight times her income still didn’t net him true critical thinking skills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/19 06:41 PM |
| 16 | This is so tiring, they need a section for singles looking for couples, bc I don’t care about ur relationship goals...I kind of find it super disrespectful that couples swipe right or contact profiles including my own that say things such as no hook ups, no couples or that they’re looking for serious relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 11:40 PM |
| 45 | The most dangerous thing you can give a man, is the benefit of the doubtBenefit of the doubt has wrecked so many women. I won’t be one of those anymore. I’ve been practicing with new encounters over dating apps cutting guys off and unmatching when red flags pop up ASAP. As well as guys I’ve been speaking to that I made obvious statements of what I want to and still no date because I am not a priority to spend their time with on weekends. But during the week they act as if they really wanted to go out with me. Yeah, right. I am not gonna sit around and wait for them … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/19 05:22 PM |
| 29 | Browsing the mgtow (men going their own way)subreddit out of morbid curiosity and noticed a hilarious trend🤣 I cackled when I read this. It reminds me of people who have to announce they’re leaving or won’t be shopping at a particular store anymore when they don’t get their way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/19 12:06 AM |
| 2 | Being ok with your single statusThis is such a good exercise and practice. You also hit the nail right on its head about what a lot of us are dreading and afraid of as we get older. Thank you for this, I know I am definitely not where you are at but I think we can all learn to get to a place where we can accept and find peace. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 09:52 PM |
| 5 | How do you guys deal with feeling insecure about your looks?Yes they do! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 03:31 PM |
| 16 | Ladies, what is ur opinion on dating men with kids, when u don’t have any?This, the constant over arching shadow and financial shadow. Call it hypocritical but As someone who actually has kids I don’t think I’d be interested in dating a single father anymore even if I didn’t already have my own. It just seems too complicated after my previous experience, and there were parental discrepancies. You’d also have to deal with him putting his children first over the relationship which sounds good at first until you start to realize just how backwards that can be in the most… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 12:34 PM |
| 23 | How do you guys deal with feeling insecure about your looks?Like the guys who claim they don’t date women their own age but look like they crawled from behind a dirty old cabinet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 06:10 AM |
| 11 | How do you guys deal with feeling insecure about your looks?I learn to own my flaws, stretch marks are a normal things and many women who weren’t even overweight have them. I have them from having children and being overweight. The biggest thing you can do is just own your flaws, learn how to work with them rather than against them and that they make you uniquely you. The things you can change work on them slowly or be patient. But understand that there is only one you, and you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you or will. Flaws and all.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 06:05 AM |
| 26 | Finally rejected him to his faceI needed this before going to bed tonight! You go girl keep standing up and advocating for yourself and your wants! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 05:08 AM |
| 0 | Went on one date, I think he has a gf/wifeI’m a little torn I could see asking the female questions. But i’m the type to bring it to his attention, see his response and then cut ties with him. No matter the excuse it honestly just looks bad on his part, save yourself the tears. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 03:44 AM |
| 6 | Is this supposed to entice me? In what way did you get the impression that I was a sex worker?Any sex worker would still be relatively unimpressed as the rest of us. He looks and sounds gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 03:02 AM |
| 7 | They aren't even trying to hide it anymoreAnyone who thinks his mindset is appropriate deserves to be kicked in the genitals when they touch any female without consent. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/19 02:59 AM |
| 24 | Guys wanting reassurance from you after THEY ended the relationshipThey contact you for a future maybe hook up if you’re desperate enough, and also to see if they missed anything. If you glow up they feel guilty and insecure and jealous. You shouldn’t even bother replying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 04:45 AM |
| 9 | Guaranteed more effective than any softboyUgh I’ve been wanting to self defense classes and buy one. So far I only have a device that basically trips a alarm when the pin is pulled out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/19 01:05 AM |
| 3 | Please help, I'm new at thisI would proceed with caution and change the direction of the conversation as we’ll pump the brakes. I feel like when men say that their actions often don’t reflect their words give him a chance to prove this wrong but tread carefully. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 11:00 PM |
| 18 | i can't believe that i put up with this...That’s gross he obviously just wants to experiment with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 10:58 PM |
| 4 | An example of a low quality man.The issue with dating guys younger than 23 for me is that it feels so much like grooming. Which is the same sick ish that men do to younger girls often. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 04:47 PM |
| 5 | An example of a low quality man.Lmao try doing that to them and their eyes glaze over and they can’t relate. I’ve spoken to guys that age that blow all their money or hold immature ideas of priorities and it’s like smh I’m not trying to be no one else’s mother if it’s not an infant or a animal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 10:42 AM |
| 10 | An example of a low quality man.This people often give me shit about it but I just can’t, I got two kids and I’m already looking for husband material while you’re thinking about mundane things or how you just graduated high school. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 10:32 AM |
| 1 | My friend and I discussing guys who claim "you're less fun now" or "I thought you were cool but I was wrong" when you change your mind about anything. Stay based and don't fall for that manipulative bullshit 👌🏼They can’t fathom that the opposite sex functions similar in the fact that once the juice is gone they’re not interesting anymore. I have a habit of being like this around guys when I am close to my cycle. But then I snap out of it and I have zero interest lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 10:30 AM |
| 22 | An example of a low quality man.This I’m 25 and dating someone who just turned 19/20 just feels wrong for me... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 10:23 AM |
| 3 | Feeling guilt when you start holding men to your standards?I totally would, I’m just getting over my flu and after finding this community I was lying in bed thinking how I could kick start some of these practices to lead a healthier me, as well as healthier interactions with men , value myself more and become a HVW and generally care less about dating. Setting all these boundaries and pulling back, giving less of my energy to those who don’t deserve it, giving less of my energy into men who literally come and go like seasons has been empowering. I’ve no… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 10:17 AM |
| 27 | Feeling guilt when you start holding men to your standards?A few examples are: 1. I will put myself first in every interaction regarding the opposite sex. Meaning I won’t do or go to places I don’t really want to be apart of. I don’t feel bad for looking for my best interest and having expectations out of a potential dating interest. Because men make what they want known from the beginning. I no longer take phone calls from guys after a certain time or stop what I am enjoying to answer them on the fly. I will practice self love by doing things that add … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 01:57 AM |
| 12 | Feeling guilt when you start holding men to your standards?As a exercise to practice self love write down some hard rules for yourself to practice daily in your life to protect your interests and boundaries. It’ll help you to stop falling into the same patterns and take control of your feelings and also stop feeling guilty for having boundaries, standards and self respect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 01:44 AM |
| 3 | KickHimOut2020 (of your car, bedroom and life)I dated a guy who thought I was gonna let him use my soon to be bought new car to run all his errands two hours away from me. All of this when he knew I had kids who participate in extracurricular activities. Didn’t take me long to put an end to the relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Analyzing the "money can't buy you happiness" tropeTHIS. I had kids early but I made it mandatory to continue going to school and providing for myself. Because men come and go like seasons. I honestly refuse to date anyone in my hometown or general area I want to get out, experience a life I actually enjoy and a career. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 12:32 AM |
| 8 | After finding this sub, I realize I’m not an outcast for not wanting herpesA lot of people don’t know this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 12:25 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, a word of cautionThere is a special tube site where you plug the url in I believe and it allows you to watch videos without giving views lol. If only I could remember it from my LA days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/19 12:15 AM |
| 3 | Amazing sub, thanks! I'm starting to gain confidence and self-worth.Just joined this sub because regular dating was totally putting me in a crap mood and I need to level myself up and come back at things by focusing on myself and upping my standards so I’m with you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/19 11:12 PM |
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