Single mom dating

siberiansummer · 2020-03-24T03:53:35+00:00

I’m a divorced mother of two. I refuse to date. I have a very rich life and have a lot of friends. Idk. Take some time for yourself for sure. 1 is a whole number

StrawberryMoon3 · 2020-03-24T03:14:15+00:00

Take him to court for giving you an STD. He endangered your life.

azureeyks · 2020-03-24T02:57:06+00:00

Single mum here. Hello Firstly I’m really sorry about your fiancé cheating on you and giving you a STD. Are you ok? How mentally exhausting having to go through all that and process your own emotions AND parent at the same time. As for advise on dating. I’m no where near ready to yet. I’m busy focusing on myself and children, and too scared to lol. I don’t want to go through it all again and invest so much of myself emotionally and physically, just to get treated how I was.

So I’m focusing on my own mindset and values and what I want in a partner. Having a strong mindset and values will weed out undesirable dates real quickly.

Good luck with it all :)

FraidyCat00 · 2020-03-24T14:37:25+00:00

My best advice is to NOT date until dating is not the first thing you’re thinking of. Thoughts of installing an app and swiping on your mind on and off all day? Not ready. Thoughts of messaging an ex or acquaintance hard to suppress? Not ready.

If you start dating before you’re okay with just your own company, you’re at risk of settling.

curlygirl507 · 2020-03-24T05:07:12+00:00

Why exactly do you want a relationship with a man?

ItsAnonCat · 2020-03-25T09:50:25+00:00

Focus on your self. I was very young when I found myself in this position and focusing on me was really key to getting better. I fought against the idea just wanting a sense of normalcy and if I had learned my lesson sooner I would’ve been more at peace.

I accepted first of all men are often gonna disappoint but you don’t have to take their ‘good enough’

Especially now you’re a free woman so now you have to be extra protective over yourself to not settle and protect your little one.

I learned to have hobbies and I am still learning to enjoy being alone. I learned to become more indifferent with my interactions with men when I do socialize and to not be easily impressed.

I don’t tell men I have kids because it’s none of their business and most men won’t even last long enough in your life for it to matter. Also telling them often puts you in a vulnerable arena of men who think you’re easy because you’re a single mother.

Your number one goal before finding a new partner or even dating is start loving yourself

Be so interested in yourself personally and lead a busy and fun life that when you do date or use apps you don’t have time during the day to respond asap and it doesn’t have your attention staring at your phone all day.

Getting a job and busy school life / having a bustling 5 year old and one year old helped me tons to just stop being so fiending for male attention. I went as far as enrolling my children into activities to keep me busy during the week.

Make it so you love your life and a guy needs to accommodate you and your schedule when you do start dating.

You’ll be less likely to settle and also more keen to bs.

If you want to get into shape use this time to focus on your mental and physical health. Be the whole damn package without even needing or wanting a man.

When you master those things you will be in control when you go back into the dating world. Because you will be the one choosing who you let into your world and who needs to keep walking. You’ll also be a fierce protector of your lo and able to ease into things while keeping and protecting your self interests in mind.

Title	Single mom dating
Author	seekinganyadvice
Upvotes	15
Comments	11
Date	March 24, 2020 2:11 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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