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| 78 | This is why you NEVER travel ANYWHERE for a man, especially not a professional jet skier, in the middle of a PANDEMIC 🙄. This is just next level stupidity.American chick in uni went to the Cayman Islands and broke her quarantine to watch her boyfriend of a few months compete in a boat race, got caught, got sentenced to 4 months in prison and now the family back in America is crying for leniency. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:55 AM |
| 15 | FDS is changing how I view the beginning of my relationship with my husbandI must be really cynical because I don't believe men are ever "unaware" anymore. That's what I was told growing up, that men just "don't get it." I would argue that they absolutely do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 12:13 AM |
| 24 | Not all women agree with Female Dating Strategy, and that's okay. There are plenty of women alive today whose mothers and grandmothers were anti-suffragette, and nowadays we still get to enjoy the right to vote. Future women will benefit from FDS, whether you like it or not.May I ask which culture? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:33 PM |
| 5 | FDS is changing how I view the beginning of my relationship with my husbandOh no. What you said about his past behavior really worries me 😔 I don't have anything helpful to contribute, though, other than I love my single life and would never put up with any of that... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:24 PM |
| 24 | FDS is changing how I view the beginning of my relationship with my husband🤮 thank god you got rid of that one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 11:23 PM |
| 8 | Vacation expensesIf I could go back to my school days, I would focus 100% on myself and not even talk to boys outside of a school/community setting. Epic waste of time and energy. Do your own thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:55 AM |
| 9 | Vacation expensesTo each their own. I find this rather extreme. My retirement is on track with several times more in investments than the median for my age and even older, yet I've been to 27 countries and go on about three trips a year. It's not an either/or. I love my job though and don't have a desire to retire at all. There's nothing wrong with traveling and wanting to see the world. I have zero regrets about the money I've spent on travel. That's a huge part of what life is about to me. I can't imagine just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:53 AM |
| 89 | Single dads are not more attractiveIt's all part of the patriarchy brainwashing effort. I stopped watching the vast, vast majority of fictional shows and movies many years ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:43 AM |
| 44 | Men are delusional 🤢😂😂 yeah right!! It's hard enough for guys looking for a relationship to get laid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:42 AM |
| 2 | Fuck menWhat's stopping you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/12/20 05:23 AM |
| 57 | Fuck menNot sure how old you are, but if you're in your 20s: I turn 33 in a few weeks and I've never felt better. I'm in such a better place now and I genuinely look forward to the future, which wasn't true for the 20 years preceding my 30s. Much of it is related to the fact that I no longer care about men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:33 PM |
| 132 | Fuck menJust be grateful you discovered this and got rid of him before it was too late. Listen, I have five exes. All were attractive, paid for things, helped me with things, we went on trips together, fancy dinners etc. I lived and had two cats with one of them. They were far and away better than most of the men we hear about on here. They wouldn't hit a child or insist on tracking expenses like that. They still weren't worth it. I'm so much happier on my own. I have a good job and am studying for a be… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/12/20 10:19 PM |
| 12 | Advice from my 92 year old grandma who lived ahead of her timeAnd imagine the types of men who look for women who just want to get married ASAP. They're basically looking for slaves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 12:15 PM |
| 4 | She Wants Independence. In Egypt, That Can Be Dangerous. (2017) [00:20:34] I'm immensely proud of this young woman for standing up to her misogynistic culture.No! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 12:51 AM |
| 13 | His frontal lobes are fully developed sisI was with my ex for almost 6 years and rarely had sex with him (maybe a couple of times a year) after the first few months. He never strayed despite being desperately attracted to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:03 PM |
| 63 | As a woman whose never given birthUnfortunately many many men (and some women as well) are truly evil. It's not a rare thing. They get off on feeling like they have more power than the other person. It's shocking and horrible when you first become their victim, but then you learn the signs and nothing surprises you anymore. Now I just think all those people are lame as hell. I can't imagine functioning that way in the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 10:01 PM |
| 18 | Ladies- my exOh god, what an asshole, although I'm slightly less worried about you given the context - I really hope he's just trying to get your attention and that he's trying to pull that Dan Bacon shit where he tries to make you associate him with fun and laughter, only he really really sucks at it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 09:55 PM |
| 3 | She Wants Independence. In Egypt, That Can Be Dangerous. (2017) [00:20:34] I'm immensely proud of this young woman for standing up to her misogynistic culture.That is so fucked up. And it's all for the sake of "what other people will think" if she actually does anything she pleases. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 12:26 PM |
| 5 | Do you confront a men ?How far into the relationship are we talking? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:53 AM |
| 20 | I invite you to watch Room 2806 on NetflixI just got to the part where they're talking about his second wife reinventing his image and I rolled my eyes so hard 🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/20 03:51 AM |
| 1 | My struggleTime for her to grab all her stuff, leave, and block him for good. Even my abusive ex would never say something like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:57 AM |
| 1 | Just don’t ask me out and act like you are interested in me when you knew you might disappear after a few dates. Please do not make me confused. I am sad.No, no, no, no, and no. Block and move on. He will never see you in the way you want him to. This is basically what happens from almost every single online dating date. You have to expect it. Even if he becomes your boyfriend, you have to expect him to leave (or be prepared to leave yourself) at any point during the first year. I can't explain this behavior but I speak from four years of experience. You didn't know him anyway. There was nothing to get excited about. You gotta regulate your "feel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/20 04:55 AM |
| 22 | I'm having a hard time watching romcoms because they reinforce that a woman would need a manYep! I stopped watching almost every fictional show/movie a long time ago, partly because of this. 95% of what I watch are documentaries/true stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 03:08 AM |
| 3 | Thoughts on Subtle Asian Dating?Not Asian, but wanted to mention that I used to be very involved in a young professionals organization that was mainly Asian, sponsored by an Asian education nonprofit, and it was a great way for Asian people to meet and date each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 12:34 AM |
| 7 | Remember not to get caught up in a guy just because he’s “seemingly HVM.” Just because a man has a good job, assets, and hobbies doesn’t mean you should forget your expectations and standards. Take it slow.Such a vital point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/20 12:31 AM |
| 131 | Remember not to get caught up in a guy just because he’s “seemingly HVM.” Just because a man has a good job, assets, and hobbies doesn’t mean you should forget your expectations and standards. Take it slow.All my exes were far and away better than the typical exes described on this sub and checked all the boxes. They still weren't worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 09:36 PM |
| 13 | Have you noticed that men aren't funny?Jealous! I wish I could find a funny Pakistani husband who had to grow up fast and is therefore more mature, etc. Dating American men is like trying to go out with your son and Indian men have been consistently violent and terrible to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 12:34 AM |
| 9 | How to avoid getting into a textversationGreat tip! I've been using DND on my phone lately too when I want to concentrate on something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/20 04:03 AM |
| 6 | Pickmeisha hasn’t figured out her boyfriend is never going to propose after being with him for 5 yearsAlso this story is confusing. How was selling a house and moving into an apartment a step up? And why did they tell those "friends" about the abortion? And how were they related to the house? Anyway, agree with everyone here. She should get out right now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/11/20 06:32 AM |
| 30 | Wow..."Incompetence" is too nice a word. It's more like parental neglect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/20 02:12 PM |
| 10 | If you could go back to your early 30s self, what dating advice would you give to yourself?"Dump the motherfucker already" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 06:10 AM |
| 87 | Ladies Who Have Left Their & Stopped Paying Attention to LVM and NVM, How Has Your Life and Mental Health Changed?I've gone from being totally anxious, depressed, and suicidal to being one of the happiest people I know. I've realized that when people treat me badly (men or women, but mostly men of course), it's not personal and is solely their issue. I claim all of my time for myself. I am already working on my bucket list in my early 30s. I look forward to every day because I only focus on what I myself can control instead of fantasizing about a Prince Charming who's going to come and whisk me away. I plan… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 03:38 AM |
| 6 | 😭😭😭😭This is how my grandma died (not down the stairs, but fell and broke her hip that had already been replaced) 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 06:15 AM |
| 8 | 😭😭😭😭Mine is similar - slipping on ice while opening my car door and having the corner of it hit me straight in the eye. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 12:21 AM |
| 4 | Apparently it’s “Unrealistic” For Scrotes to Change their Underwear Every Day?Side note, there is really great full-coverage women's underwear on Etsy that I highly recommend to everyone. It was one of the things in my life that I upgraded this year and although it's a little pricey, I couldn't be happier. Just placed my fourth order. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/11/20 05:52 AM |
| 52 | I politely declined a mans advances and ended up getting followed.Holy shit!! That is beyond insane. I'm so sorry that happened to you. Every time I think I have a bad story about men, someone else has another that's 100x worse. Would a dash cam have caught any of this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 12:36 PM |
| 39 | A Church Girl's RantLots of evil men lurking beneath the veil of religion. Proceed with extreme caution and skepticism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 11:59 PM |
| 32 | Video: In one of the most dangerous countries in the world for women, three courageous Pakistanis—Tabassum Adnan, a former child bride; Saima Sharif, an elite police officer; and Syeda Ghulam Fatima, a labor activist—put their lives on the line in the fight for equality.I found this documentary incredibly inspiring. It starts off as a depressing picture of female life in Pakistan, but then profiles three absolutely amazing women who have overcome tremendous challenges and are doing truly remarkable things there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/11/20 05:03 AM |
| 48 | Women should never be collateral damage for men's bullshit. Why the prospect of a man changing is not a happy endingI wish there were a way to criminalize narcissistic behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 07:52 PM |
| 7 | Pickmes are just as toxic as the low quality men they worship and defend.Holy shit, I'm so sorry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 03:24 PM |
| 17 | Stay Woke, Ladies. Beware the “Long Game”.Everyone here should be assuming that all men from dating apps have this mindset until proven otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 01:16 PM |
| 27 | Case Study: I was stood up today. And I can see the mistakes I made.It's good that you recognized those things, but ultimately, this was his problem, his issue that he needed to fix. Even if it happens 30 more times, it's still the man's fault. Don't let it affect you except to have men take up less space in your brain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 07:25 AM |
| 24 | How long to wait for sex with someone new?Well, one time when he was talking to me (tossup there), I agreed to drive to his apartment an hour away, and in the middle of my drive, he told me to turn around and not to come. That's why I think his original text, whatever it was, was sent to multiple women, and he got an offer that he liked better than me when I was already en route. Otherwise, why would he turn down sex? Even if I'm wrong about that, he was still a complete psycho. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 06:43 AM |
| 14 | “Not looking for anything serious”OP, please listen to this person. If you do not heed her words, you'll be posting disappointment after disappointment about him for the next several months or years. Don't waste time like this. I'm a fan of asking what they're looking for upfront to prevent this, but not sure if that's the official FDS policy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 06:21 AM |
| 46 | How long to wait for sex with someone new?Agree with three months. However, I once waited about that long with a guy from a dating app and he still revealed himself to be a sexual predator who immediately stopped answering my texts, put me on a mass texting list with however many other women he had tricked (I'm pretty sure), acted crazy in order to deflect responsibility, etc. (Obviously I would never put up with this now; this was almost 4 years ago) I would say more important than the amount of time is to protect your feelings by imag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 06:17 AM |
| 16 | Fully realizing just how used I was for sex: the tiny intimate thingsJust horrible. I'm so so sorry. Ladies, never put up with this. Not that he was exactly a hvm, but my first love and I waited a year. He was super cuddly, affectionate, loved me, and took me on many many proper dates where he paid before we slept together. This was in high school and it's what you should expect. You can get an STD test. You're probably fine. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 12:29 AM |
| 78 | Pickmes are just as toxic as the low quality men they worship and defend.Imo, it's actually a lot worse than this. Most pickmes end up having children since they're so desperate. They pass along their toxic ideas to their daughters (not to mention their sons), the daughters pass them along to their friends and classmates, and the pickme mindset proliferates throughout the world. Only the very fortunate start to question these ideas and go on to become hvw. The rest just repeat the pickme cycle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 12:15 AM |
| 4 | Imagine feeling this entitled to women's bodiesOh, surely he was being sarcastic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 09:26 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020Cordless Hitachi magic wand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 08:49 AM |
| 8 | Used to Be Gorgeous, Did I Subconsciously Gain Weight After Negative Male Attention?I don't think any of us can get into your subconscious. However, that is a thing, especially where victims of child sexual abuse gain weight to be sent as unattractive to future potential abusers. It's definitely possible. Did you start any psych medications around the time you started gaining? Also, is it possible that you have PCOS? I went undiagnosed till I was 29. Metformin helps stabilize my hunger levels a lot. In case it helps, yerba mate tea is good for curbing cravings. I do wonder if t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 08:28 AM |
| 13 | Stop letting men panic you into action.This phrase is a little confusing. "Shit" is something bad. "The shit" is something really good. Saying somebody "ain't shit" actually means that they're "not good." Saying they're "shit" also means they're not good. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 07:45 AM |
| 14 | Patriarchy 🤮No idea why any woman still attends church, gets married or has children (unless in a rare true love hvm scenario). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 05:52 AM |
| 36 | Stop calling Jason Momoa a HVM. He's lowest of the LVMS.What???? Are you serious?!?!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 05:43 AM |
| 3 | Book recommendationsLove this thread. Thank you everyone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 05:35 AM |
| 40 | This isn't "being the asshole," it's a power move!Serious question: why do women do this to themselves? Almost all of them say they wouldn't change a thing, but this sounds like absolute hell. I've never wanted children; several of my friends have a couple, and I'm totally exhausted after spending 2 hours with them with zero responsibility from my end. I really wish I could understand why this lifestyle is evidently desirable for so many women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 05:15 AM |
| 27 | Could your lack of sexual interest in your man actually be the result of hidden contempt?Yes! I went through this when I was 23. I felt like my boyfriend at the time was just so spoiled and had hardly worked a day in his life while I had lost my mom, lost all my money (her life insurance) in the recession, had always worked very hard in school (graduated magna cum laude in honors with honors, etc.), got a master's, had had several internships, and learned Spanish pretty fluently (at the time). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 03:08 AM |
| 15 | WHAT THE ACTUAL F**K IS WRONG WITH MENWhat does that even mean?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 03:04 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020There seems to be a worldwide shortage. Seems logical to me, as most people who have had children are pickme + LVM combos and all those ideas have been passed down to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 02:44 PM |
| 6 | Singles who are satisfied with their friends are less likely to desire a relationship partnerI've always been very good at making friends - I've had great ones my entire life, old and new. I often see people on here saying they can't, and I don't know how to help them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 01:30 PM |
| 30 | Singles who are satisfied with their friends are less likely to desire a relationship partnerWhat do you think are some of the barriers to that for you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 05:59 AM |
| 11 | All this manosphere anti-feminist backlash is just a crude attempt to regain power over women and force us to be subservient to them. The good news is that it's having the opposite effect: alienting women and motivating us to be even more independent from them.Exactly. I wish someone had explained to me around the same time as sex ed how absolutely desperate men were for sex and how they would literally do or say anything to get it. I didn't understand that until my late 20s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/11/20 04:45 AM |
| 3 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?Imo, sending one message isn't chasing the D. I completely understand not wanting to be on there of course; I'm not anymore either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 11:05 PM |
| 7 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?Yeah, seriously. Another thing is they'll test you by having you walk on the side of the sidewalk closest to the road. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 10:15 PM |
| 3 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?This is a minority opinion, but while I agree it's not ideal, I think you can still tell whether a man is willing to make an effort after sending the first message. When I was on Bumble I just sent that first message, sat back and waited. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 10:14 PM |
| 5 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?Yes! I did meet one of my exes on there. The idea that sending the first message means you won't get a dick pick is ridiculous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 10:09 PM |
| 3 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?Agree with all. I actually got off all dating apps, but a guy on Match paid for me to be able to message him even though I don't pay for the service, which is the only reason I was willing to entertain the idea. Guess what he wanted me to do...come to his house and eat his cooking. He also threw a "walking date" out there. Nope, nope and nope! I hope you're correct about men having to work harder for sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 05:36 PM |
| 7 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?Oh girl, it's okay, we've all been there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 05:19 PM |
| 22 | Ultimate pickmeisha move - proposing to your boyfriend with a watch🤮 How embarrassing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 02:36 PM |
| 10 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?It reeks of domination. In my experience, most men on dating apps are predators. They're primarily looking for sex, and will say anything to get it, but they'll also steal money or use you for their ego (abuse you and see how long you'll stick around). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/11/20 02:33 PM |
| 16 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?Yes, you're describing the whole premise of my post. I was simply trying to refute the comment that they're thinking "I’m gonna meet her to see if she’s physically my type ." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 01:46 PM |
| 43 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?I always refuse both. It's hilarious how many guys just *will not take you out for a meal.* It's not expensive in my area, hardly that much more than coffee. Starbucks is $6 and an entree is maybe $10-12. It's hard to understand other than them just wanting to retain power by not giving us what we want and deserve. That's why I think they're all laughing about it. "Look, I got this one to meet for a $1 coffee!" "Well, I met this one for coffee and didn't even pay!" "I can one-up both of you! I g… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 01:42 PM |
| 40 | Guess the subI've actually had that done before and it was very pleasant. It's absurd that he needed anything. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 01:25 PM |
| 28 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?But I have several accurate full-body pictures on my profiles. It's not like all they've seen is a selfie. Also, do you know where they're finding that advice? I would love to read it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 12:52 PM |
| 62 | Are literally all the men sitting there laughing at us as they ask us on "walking dates" and try to get us to come over to their apartments?But the classic date is dinner and a movie. All of them know that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 12:49 PM |
| 33 | Dear FDS Sisters - It is time to learn how to be HAPPY againFour years ago, at age 28, I broke up with my then-boyfriend of six years after realizing I didn't want to marry him. Since then, I've had nothing but nightmarish experiences with men. But I'm doing well in my career and training for a better one, have visited 10 countries, was diagnosed with and started treating my PCOS (I feel so much better), and have made new friendships with some very fun, active people. I also learned a little Japanese in preparation for my dream sakura trip to Japan, whic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 08:38 PM |
| 30 | Let a bot run through a dating site and match me with 9870 guys. Here are the resultsThank you for doing this research. Mods, can we pin this? Important to remember every time we open a dating app. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 08:23 PM |
| 37 | No problem sisAhhh! That was scary | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 05:43 AM |
| 3 | Why do straight women even bother tbhAm I really the only one whose first love actually gave me my first orgasm? I didn't even know what it was before him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/11/20 04:42 AM |
| 25 | No 50/50 birthdayYour boyfriend is a joke. Please get rid of him. Sorry you're dealing with that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 10:16 PM |
| 10 | It should be considered child abuse to teach daughters to be "good, submissive wives."My best friend's mom is like this. My family didn't want me to be around her too much because they thought she had grown up in a religious cult and wasn't a good example for a young girl. She got married at 19 to get out of the house, was and still is completely dependent on her husband (who's told even me that "he has all the money"), moved to his hometown (where she never wanted to live) and lives in his childhood home (which retains much of the same decor as 30+ years ago), and remains to thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 10:05 PM |
| 12 | No 50/50 birthdayIs it The French Laundry? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 09:57 PM |
| 3 | giving up on OLD sitesI do all that too, but I've never done an actual background check. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 08:13 PM |
| 3 | giving up on OLD sitesI actually haven't done it myself (haven't dated anyone since finding this sub) but it's frequently recommended. Can anyone help? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 02:52 PM |
| 2 | Exactly this.There are some absolutely gorgeous 50+ year-old women out there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 04:41 AM |
| 13 | Why dating costs money (for them)It's like this game of being the lowest bidder. Will she meet for a free walking date? Okay, what about a $2 date? $3.50? Okay, I guess I'll go up to $5 max. It is so insulting. At least it's an easy weed-out since I don't get along with people who are that level of cheap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 04:16 AM |
| 2 | This podcast is an important listen about sexual violence deaths being minimized by legislation under the guise of BDSM. Link below in comments.Excellent podcast; thanks so much. Just listened to episodes about Vanessa Guillen (164), the Noida double murders (166) and Ms. Dhu (#4 BLM). All had extremely important relevant info. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 03:22 AM |
| 24 | giving up on OLD sitesI don't quite agree with this because I feel it's important to get basics out of the way first (like are they religious, do they want children, what is their full name for a background check, their marital status, etc.). Also I find when I chat with someone for a few days I'm often able to spot red flags and unmatch quickly. But maybe I'm doing this all wrong... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/11/20 03:09 AM |
| 8 | Ad found on YT. Do you SEE what I see? Yeah, trash.Reddit has these types of ads too. Disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 11:23 PM |
| 48 | Why dating costs money (for them)Right? He's 30 and I'm almost 33. Honestly, there's not much point. I have a nice lifestyle by myself and anyone who would actually enhance it has over $100k in student loans, which cancels it out. A scenario in which I actually come out in a better position would be very hard to come by...not to mention the myriad other problems. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 08:23 PM |
| 30 | Why dating costs money (for them)The sad thing is that another possibility is that they're not getting much interest at all and *still* don't want to pay for an actual meal (under $20 in my area). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 08:06 PM |
| 107 | Why dating costs money (for them)I said no to getting a beer or going to a bouldering place yesterday. Then he asked me if I wanted to climb trees in the park 🌳🐿️😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 07:49 PM |
| 66 | When your dress lasts longer than your marriage to a LVM.Yes. If anyone wants more info, the podcast Even the Rich is currently doing a series on her which explains very well what happened in her early life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 04:11 AM |
| 10 | Stop Trying To Save Your PartnerIf there were one message I could send to all women, it would be this. Congratulations 💕 I am so proud of you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 03:44 AM |
| 522 | Unattractive man catfishes women because he feels entitled to have a more attractive woman.So he's allowed not to be attracted to "fat" women, but when women aren't attracted to him, they're "shallow" and don't "respect" him. Got it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 09:18 PM |
| 37 | Offering a different perspective on porn addiction in males as a formerly porn-sick womanI would like to read this, but it's difficult, as there are no paragraph breaks. Could you add some? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 08:01 PM |
| 0 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateI don't know why you are hell-bent on portraying me in this awful way. I never said anything about you. I just gave my interpretation of your post, which you say is completely wrong. That is fine. When you make public posts like this, some people are going to see things in them that maybe you didn't intend or, as you're saying, are completely wrong. It doesn't need to be something that bothers you so much or affects you so deeply. In fact, if I'm wrong, as you say, it shouldn't bother you at all… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 07:58 PM |
| 2 | On HingeBefore covid, dating apps were trash, and now they're even more so. I just deleted all of mine after almost 4 years and I feel so much better. I'm using that time to level up instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 06:48 PM |
| 14 | If only all the entitled men realised thisSame. Horrible experiences with literally all of them (I went on at least one date with about 6 and 2 are my actual exes). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 06:39 PM |
| 6 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateThanks :) and she took my original comment as a very personal criticism, which it wasn't meant to be. I'm probably quite a bit older than her (almost 33) and I remember having similar things happen in my mind, and I just want to encourage her to let men take up as little space in her mind as possible, and be more systematic about dating. I wish I had spent a lot less time thinking about men and their pedigrees when I was younger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 05:49 PM |
| 5 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateYes, exactly. I think OP is probably British, and class is extremely important there. I somewhat understand because even though I'm American, I also come from a waspy family that put too much weight into credentials. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 05:18 PM |
| 3 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateOkay. To me your write-up sounds like you built up this great image of him in your head before meeting (based on your first three paragraphs) but I suppose that's wrong. Glad you saw his lvm behaviors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 03:04 PM |
| 5 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateIt's been a while since I've been active in this sub; there seems to be a different crowd and I don't seem to be communicating well. It sounded to me that she already had this wonderful image built up in her mind because he was from a famous family, etc. That doesn't mean anything. When I say have no expectations, I obviously don't mean to accept any low-level behavior. I mean that a large percentage of women go into a first date expecting to find their husband, and that is not healthy. They als… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 02:56 PM |
| -2 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateYou would have certain qualifications, but you cannot assume that those qualifications are going to mean he would be a good life partner in any way. See my comment below. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 02:47 PM |
| 9 | For the women who want children, vet like if you were to pass away after having children with this man. Would you trust him? Could he feed, clothe and bathe someone else? Provide? Protect? Love?Okay, I guess, as I watch my friends' parents buy them $500k homes. Lol.. thanks for asking, I'm fine, no worries, just really resent my mom for her very poor choice. She also used to spank me; that is one of my only memories of her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 02:39 PM |
| 10 | LVM behaviours displayed on 1st dateYou're not giving off a negative image, and indeed you're a great writer. What I mean is this: seemed very promising. He comes from a famous old family of artists and philosophers, lived abroad, speaks multiple languages None of this means anything, unfortunately. and seemed chivalrous and well-mannered in his general attitude How did you know this before you even met him? I crave romance based on an intellectual connection with someone, who's lived a similarly international life as me and has k… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 02:37 PM |
| 10 | For the women who want children, vet like if you were to pass away after having children with this man. Would you trust him? Could he feed, clothe and bathe someone else? Provide? Protect? Love?As someone whose mother married and had a child (me) with a NVM and then died when I was 5, yes, I completely agree. Unfortunately this can happen and honestly I'll never forgive my mother for her stupidity. She was in her 30s and should've known better. My childhood was a nightmare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 01:57 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Be extremely cautious please. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 03:13 AM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020Whoever suggested the Red Handed podcast, thank you! I'm addicted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 03:12 AM |
| 2 | Talking to your ex is like a watching a gore video. Yes you might be curious, and think it's going to be ok. But it will just lower your frequency and you'll regret it.Sigh, still miss my abusive ex. I think he watches for me on WhatsApp but could be wrong. I know dumping him was the right thing to do, and I'm really happy to have all my time and resources to myself, but I just miss the good parts of him so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 04:22 AM |
| 58 | Manchild who can’t handle 5 hours A WEEK alone with his child thinks discussing who does what is “silly” (as he asserts it’s “unreasonable” that his wife expects him to care for his own child while she’s in class). There are no words (besides don’t have children with LVM).Because everything is a game of convincing women to do things for them. Can I get her to date me if I don't pay, can I get her to sleep with me if I don't brush my teeth, can I get her to give me a birthday present if I don't get her one, can I get her to marry me if I verbally abuse her, can I get her to have my child if I hit her? That's how men think. They don't give a shit about any other human or their feelings, even their own children's. Everything is me, me, me, what do I get, and getting… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/10/20 09:32 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else constantly feel like men are liable to snap and kill them at any moment?Such a good point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/10/20 04:35 PM |
| 11 | Does anyone else constantly feel like men are liable to snap and kill them at any moment?You deserve appropriate mental health treatment. These things that happened to you weren't your fault but they're clearly still affecting you, as they would be anyone. It can be hard to find a good therapist but once you do, it's totally worth the investment. You could also try doing cbt on yourself with a book. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 11:17 PM |
| 14 | Does anyone else constantly feel like men are liable to snap and kill them at any moment?Holy shit. I read the whole thing. I'm so so sorry. I hope you have a great therapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 11:04 PM |
| 14 | Does anyone else constantly feel like men are liable to snap and kill them at any moment?Thanks! I do have anxiety, but I've been treating it for almost 3 years and it's under much better control than it was for most of my life. But maybe you're right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 05:25 PM |
| 32 | New lows in dating effort for menYes. They will do absolutely anything not to expend one milligram of effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 05:35 AM |
| 4 | Celebrated my favorite season autumn and one year of being happily single (after an abusive breakup) by cooking chicken khowsuey, baking caramel apple cheesecake bars, whole-wheat apple spice cake for myself❤️🍁🍂 happy autumn!Delicious! I do this all the time. Once you start cooking for yourself, there's no going back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 12:23 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020Like most men, your dad is trash. (Mine is too.) Sorry. That's messed up. They just can't get enough power or control. Don't do him any more favors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 02:58 AM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered: October 16 2020I feel like almost every single man I know has a serious addiction problem, whether it's alcohol, weed, sports, wrestling or what have you. Are there any men free from this?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 02:53 AM |
| 28 | For those not actively dating for a HVM, this is basically it. Once you love yourself, other people are just an option, not a necessity. And this is the best feeling of all.Just get a Hitachi magic wand instead. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/20 02:13 AM |
| 4 | A man can never do anything by himself, a woman has got to manipulate him. (Context in the comments, please read)In addition to everything else it is, it's also just generally lame. Exerting your power over someone else for your own gain or amusement is something a weak person does. Strong people adopt growth mindset; they work on their own flaws while helping and supporting others. It seems that most Indian men are just of really weak character. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 01:14 AM |
| 4 | A man can never do anything by himself, a woman has got to manipulate him. (Context in the comments, please read)Omg, I'm so sorry you have to deal with those traits in your own father. How horrifying. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/20 12:02 AM |
| 10 | A man can never do anything by himself, a woman has got to manipulate him. (Context in the comments, please read)Am American; have dated multiple men from India. All horrible. One was a sexual predator, one stole money from me (although one of my American bfs did that too) and three either hit me or tried to choke me. They seem to really get off on power and domination. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 08:01 PM |
| 14 | A man can never do anything by himself, a woman has got to manipulate him. (Context in the comments, please read)What the actual fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:46 AM |
| 12 | We know, they know, doctors know. Why are they still getting away with it?Everything written about in the comments is part of the life-long scam perpetuated by men against women. They are all laughing at us behind our backs for accepting their shitty low-value behaviors, all the way to agreeing to marry them and have their children, only to be the sole caretakers for both them and the children. Some of them keep it going into abuse and even killing their female partners. For almost all of them, their only goals in life related to women are to trick them to the furthes… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 09:09 PM |
| 5 | How Many Women Were Taught (through fairytales or society) Their Worth Comes From The Men They Are With? Life Is More Enjoyable When We Have Interesting Experiences Ourselves.You can have it! Just focus on building up yourself, not a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 12:43 PM |
| 3 | How Many Women Were Taught (through fairytales or society) Their Worth Comes From The Men They Are With? Life Is More Enjoyable When We Have Interesting Experiences Ourselves.I finally saw the right practitioner! That's all it was. You have to keep going to different doctors until you get some answers. It happened to my friend in a much more serious way: she had a tumor wrapped around her spine in her neck that Mayo Clinic of all places couldn't remove, and I thought she was going to die, but she just kept going to different doctors, and one of them started treating her pituitary gland, and that's what it was! Ten years later she's married with an adorable 3-year-old… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 12:43 PM |
| 8 | How Many Women Were Taught (through fairytales or society) Their Worth Comes From The Men They Are With? Life Is More Enjoyable When We Have Interesting Experiences Ourselves.I'm so happy for you. I wish we could tell every girl in middle school about this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 02:30 AM |
| 41 | How Many Women Were Taught (through fairytales or society) Their Worth Comes From The Men They Are With? Life Is More Enjoyable When We Have Interesting Experiences Ourselves.I'm 32 and single. Been in two LTRs of 5-6 years; dated and had a couple other boyfriends of a few months I have many friends, and can get a listening ear any time of any day I have a master's and moved across the country by myself to get it I have a really good job and am studying for a better one My retirement balance almost matches my salary (so I am pretty close to being on track) I've traveled to 27 countries and speak one other language pretty well (which is something to be proud of in the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 12:45 AM |
| 8 | Please stop posting screenshot of you going back and forth with a LVM on OLD, text message, or on social mediaExactly. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 10:53 PM |
| 3 | Tinder: Investigation reveals the dark side of the dating app | Four Corners. Watching this has reaffirmed that you need to block immediately after the first red flag, be it asking for nudes or after 6 months of communication and he suggests you go to his home for sex.This is part of the service that Tinder offers - male protection of other men who commit crimes. If you can get away with it, you deserve it. This is what men want, and they're the ones paying Tinder. As I often say around here, they have zero ethics, and this is not surprising in the least. It also made me sad how many women on the documentary went to men's houses on the first or second date or didn't unmatch when they asked for nudes, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 10:32 AM |
| 8 | Legal and moral obligation of Tinder to vet rapistsI mean, exactly. Men don't have ethics. They don't desire to live in a just and peaceful world. They don't desire to have good relations with others, or promote any kind of goodness.. They are here for one reason and one reason only, which is to get whatever they can and do whatever they can get away with to feel as powerful as possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 09:27 AM |
| 20 | “Men have to frontload relationships”Oh, they'll take money too if they can possibly get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/20 09:21 AM |
| 7 | Nothing like bragging about your proposal with a $76 ring while playing video games to the freaking New York Times.Proud subscriber here 📰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:11 AM |
| 8 | Married At First SightI've never watched it, but sounds like a bunch of self-sabotage. How awful 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 03:13 AM |
| 5 | Does following FDS leave you a little guarded in relationships? Or are you open and all in, but still “ready to walk” at a moment’s notice (if he acts up)? Does the balance come naturally with time?I've been through enough horrible situations to know that things can go wrong in all kinds of ways, and that that's way more likely than things going well, unfortunately 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 08:59 PM |
| 83 | Does following FDS leave you a little guarded in relationships? Or are you open and all in, but still “ready to walk” at a moment’s notice (if he acts up)? Does the balance come naturally with time?I pretend to be all in so they'll let their guard down and I take notes about their behavior. In reality I don't let myself have feelings until at least 3 months in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 01:08 AM |
| 8 | Had no idea how common this wasYes. Why else would they get married? You don't think men can actually love, do you?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/10/20 05:54 AM |
| 3 | Pickmeshas, assemble! (Seriously, they love their psychotic jail lvms.)I'm not sure why you think I think she had something to do with it when I said "not blaming her." Her calls with the investigator were very self-centered, with almost no concern about Shanann or the girls. The timing of her calls with Chris was suspicious. She googled about Amber Frey's book deal. This does not make her a criminal but it makes it seem like a selfish person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 12:51 PM |
| 5 | Pickmeshas, assemble! (Seriously, they love their psychotic jail lvms.)Right?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:16 AM |
| 3 | Pickmeshas, assemble! (Seriously, they love their psychotic jail lvms.)Was anyone else a little disappointed in the Netflix documentary? I liked it, but just felt it was kind of shallow, with no real analysis other than helping us get in Shanann's head via her texts (which was helpful). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:16 AM |
| 3 | Pickmeshas, assemble! (Seriously, they love their psychotic jail lvms.)I saw that!!! Wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:13 AM |
| 5 | Pickmeshas, assemble! (Seriously, they love their psychotic jail lvms.)Have you watched Nichol Kessinger Unmasked? Holy shit. Not blaming her for his actions, but she totally knew about it and was looking forward to Shanann and the kids being eliminated. Self-obsessed during police interviewed. Sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:13 AM |
| 3 | Pickmeshas, assemble! (Seriously, they love their psychotic jail lvms.)Yes. Her family didn't want it, though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:10 AM |
| 33 | The Chris Watts case: how our vetting can save livesYes, this stood out to me too. I don't want to sound like I'm blaming them for what he did, but they were in denial and giving her false hope for months. I wonder if things would've turned out differently if even one of them had suggested that she kick him out of the house, or get an apartment, or move back in with her parents or a friend. I think at least she would've had more time to reflect on the situation and he wouldn't have had as much access to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:34 AM |
| 164 | Washed up LVM/ZVM logic as to why they prefer to marry women in their 20’s when they are pushing 40. It is truly mind boggling. As a woman in my early 20’s who has been approached by these type of old men, I find this vomit inducing. 🤮It's really weird that even if what they said were true, they think that we would care, seeing as they have zero to offer us. PS - I'm 32 and absolutely nothing has changed down there since I was a teenager | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/20 04:29 AM |
| 13 | Is marriage really worth it ? Are men even worth the trouble ?Women need to start thinking in terms of reciprocation in general on a daily basis. They need to be asking what they're getting out of it in any given situation all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:44 AM |
| 9 | Is marriage really worth it ? Are men even worth the trouble ?This, OP. Full disclosure that I've never been married, but had two long term exes, one of whom I lived with for over 3 years. I grew up without parents/a real family, so I've gotten to spend intimate time with many other families in their homes. Very few couples are actually happy. It can happen, but as for me, I'd rather invest in myself than take a chance on a man again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:43 AM |
| 184 | Every single time one of these baby videos is posted, this happens. Please protect your babies and respect their privacy.Men. This is men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 06:33 AM |
| 37 | Always listen to your body.This post is really important. I remember in the last of my days with my ex, I just couldn't stop crying around him. I don't normally cry very much, so it was very weird. He was abusive and escalating his tactics. I wanted to cry around him even when he was being nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 11:06 PM |
| 5 | Interesting facts about men who marry based on pure unbiased research. Even if marriage isn't your goal, it will help you dodge men who would have otherwise wasted your time. At least date a guy who's going to love and cherish you...Obviously, lol. I don't think I'm communicating this very well. People seem to be very confused by what I'm saying. I only date marriage-minded men who are willing to commit to me. I don't do casual sex, casual dating, etc. The difference is that I'm not putting marriage on a pedestal and making it a primary life goal so I'm not disappointed or tempted to settle for someone who's not amazing. It will be a bonus if it happens. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 09:10 PM |
| 49 | This is why you don't marry after 10 years togetherAlso, unsurprisingly, she is a million times more attractive than him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:33 AM |
| 22 | Watch Out For Love Bombing!!! (Idealize/Devalue/Discard cycle)There are many many things we could discuss with this case, but one thing that stood out to me was how contrived his texts to Shanann were. He was obviously just copying things he'd heard, and she had obviously never really been loved by a man. Also, her friend infuriated me by giving Shanann bad advice and false hope. Just a horrible horrible story. What a foolish and stupid monster he is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:32 AM |
| 70 | How to stop craving male attention so bad?You just need to realize that you've been brainwashed to believe that your value as a person is based on male attention and how attractive you are, which isn't true. It's a myth perpetuated by men for their benefit and gain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 07:03 PM |
| 19 | Interesting facts about men who marry based on pure unbiased research. Even if marriage isn't your goal, it will help you dodge men who would have otherwise wasted your time. At least date a guy who's going to love and cherish you...It's very strange that you got that from my comment. Obviously I believe people should fully vet their potential marriage partner for years. Marriage is nothing to rush into. The problem with having marriage as a goal is that it makes women desperate to see every man as their future husband and clouds their judgement. The goal should be to live a happy life. If you happen to find a man you want to marry, that's great, but if that never happens, you won't feel disappointed because you weren't dea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 06:51 PM |
| 33 | Interesting facts about men who marry based on pure unbiased research. Even if marriage isn't your goal, it will help you dodge men who would have otherwise wasted your time. At least date a guy who's going to love and cherish you...I think there is something inherently wrong with having marriage as a major life goal. Marriage is dependent on another person who may not exist. It means the woman can't see themselves doing anything other than being a man's servant for life. They have been brainwashed by society. It's not a good life. If they happen to meet someone, that's great, but it shouldn't be at the top of the list. Also, women can have children on their own, and in many cases, they should, since there are so many immat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:16 PM |
| 7 | Interesting facts about men who marry based on pure unbiased research. Even if marriage isn't your goal, it will help you dodge men who would have otherwise wasted your time. At least date a guy who's going to love and cherish you...How on Earth did you get the idea that I don't think people should put thought and consideration into who they marry?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 01:12 PM |
| 12 | Anyone else deleting and redownloading dating apps?There are some guys whose profiles I've seen so many times over so many years that I always have to think about whether I actually know them in person. My brain on dating apps 😵 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 05:59 AM |
| 172 | Interesting facts about men who marry based on pure unbiased research. Even if marriage isn't your goal, it will help you dodge men who would have otherwise wasted your time. At least date a guy who's going to love and cherish you...It horrifies me that any woman has marriage as a goal. Women should be enjoying their lives and building their futures independently. Men, benefiting much more from marriage, should have marriage as a goal, and should be doing everything in their power to attract and keep a woman, who is going to enhance his life much more than he will enhance hers. Instead, everything is about women dying to get married and men who won't commit. They've really turned the tables on us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/20 05:53 AM |
| 4 | The biggest danger to a woman's life is a manThank you for posting this. I've been wanting to make a post like this but just haven't had the energy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:26 PM |
| 12 | These fly out stories never end well and these women never learn....Same. I live in a small town 40 minutes outside a major metro area and an hour from another majorish city and I always make guys come to me the first time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:20 PM |
| 40 | This poor woman 😭Yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 10:18 PM |
| 5 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??Dammit! Do you have a good alternative?? I don't think I can live without my Japanese sunscreen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:41 AM |
| 6 | FDS Approved Must-Have Products??Clear bins and other containers to organize everything you own. You'll feel like a different person and be less tempted to buy more Agree on the noise-cancelling wireless earbuds, tretinoin, fabric shaver, fragrance (I love Ahnu Pure Essence by Ambre Blends) and especially Biore Watery Essence sunscreen Massage machines - I have a Miko foot massager and a back massager from Amazon as well as a theragun mini Allbirds; super comfortable (love the wool loungers but they run half a size small) Every… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:38 AM |
| 1 | LVM Actuary in Health Insurance IndustryDo you live in CA by chance? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:27 AM |
| 0 | Dear FDS please stop using the phrase: "Going Dutch".You're right; we should all stop saying it. I wouldn't take it personally though. At least in the US, 99% of people have no idea where your country is on a map, or even that it's in Europe or where Europe is on a map, let alone that "Dutch" refers to someone or something from the Netherlands, or Holland, or that they're the same thing. When people say "going Dutch" there is no connection in their minds with your country (which is lovely, btw - was there in 2007 as a student and bought like 50 Ri… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:21 AM |
| 98 | Ladies, today has been a strange oneHey! I'm so glad you found out that he was trash early on... and possibly made a new female friend! (Wayyy better than having just another ex) Here's the thing. This is actually typical male behavior. You have to expect them to act like this and expect them to walk away at any point during the first 3 months. There's no possible way to tell whether he's HV 5 weeks in. Five months is a little better, but you still won't really know. Maybe after 5 years. That's why you never stop vetting, and neve… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 03:45 AM |
| 1 | I think she discovered FDS.. better late than never 👑Of course. I mean, now that I'm in my 30s, I don't date guys who don't make at least close to $100k because it's simply not worth it, but when I was in my teens and 20s, yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 09:46 PM |
| 4 | The audacity of this LVM!Yes, but the problem is that they're not paying attention, and they are lazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 04:39 AM |
| 3 | It’s not possible to tell if a man is high value after a few dates/weeks/months. Vetting is an ongoing process, and you should be glad that it isMake notes. Lots of notes. No one else will ever make you as happy as you can make yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 04:07 AM |
| 16 | I “ built a man up” and now I know why a lot of women refuse to do so anymore.Ladies, I'm just gonna be straight-up with you. Don't date men who are poor. Just don't. Life is hard enough already and there's just no reason to do that. One of the benefits of being in a relationship is being able to share costs. If you're actually financially supporting a man, what benefit are you getting? You're dragging yourself wayyyyy down versus where you could be if you were single. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 05:00 PM |
| 11 | PROTECT YOUR WOMB LIKE ITS THE LAST THING YOU DOMy mom was a pickme who desperately wanted to be married. She met my high-school dropout, Vietnam vet, in and out of jail nvm father at a bar and married him less than 2 months later, only to get divorced (of course) when I was 2 months old. He was basically absent throughout my childhood except for a few visits to his trailer. (I think there is some possibility that he sexually abused me as a child, but I have no proof.) My mom then died of cancer when I was 5, leaving me with my elderly grandm… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 03:45 PM |
| 3 | Stay aware🤮 Thanks for posting; this is extremely important | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:15 AM |
| 4 | Always do your researchI'm so, so glad you listened to your instincts and did you research. Excellent work. We should all be assuming this is the case with guys from old until proven otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/20 05:13 AM |
| 3 | What is with the flood of men on OLD who want to travel the world full-time?Another factor is that in general, it seems like Americans have more vacation time than they used to. It used to be that families took one week off in the summer or whatever, maybe two. Today, for example, I have more than 7 weeks of vacation a year (at a regular corporate job). That seems to be enough to me. Plus the fact that international flights are cheaper now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 03:53 PM |
| 29 | This Buzzfeed article shows older celebrities now and when they were 30 years old. This makes me happy as I was so afraid for my twenties to end and for the mythical "Wall" to hit - I see these cherub cheeks on lovely women at 30 and feel good about my future.Just start using tretinoin and sunscreen and you can keep your youthful appearance indefinitely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 03:36 PM |
| 3 | What is with the flood of men on OLD who want to travel the world full-time?Well now I don't feel so silly for not having done that ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 03:35 PM |
| 9 | What is with the flood of men on OLD who want to travel the world full-time?Plus it's wonderful to come home and sleep in your own bed, cook your own food the way you want it, etc.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:07 AM |
| 33 | What is with the flood of men on OLD who want to travel the world full-time?Okay, I've been to 27 countries (mostly solo), take 2-3 trips a year and love traveling, but that sounds awful even to me. Being part of a community and having your own space are very valuable. Plus when I travel I like to have money to be able to do things rather than just scrounge for every spare dollar so I can eat/pay for a hostel/take the train etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 04:56 AM |
| 2 | Boy do I wish I could not watch my kids because I feel like shit...They also need future slaves for all their big corporations (like Amazon) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 03:22 PM |
| 43 | Today I saw a crackhead panhandling for over an hour and then using that money to buy his girlfriend a meal at A&W. Dear men: you have no excuse. If a literal beggar is happy to provide for his girlfriend then so can you.This must be one of my favorite fds posts ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 04:02 AM |
| 30 | Boy do I wish I could not watch my kids because I feel like shit...This is so sad. I'm sorry you're dealing with this, OP. As an unrelated side note, to the women out there who want children: you have *way* more power than you realize. When you give birth, the way the government sees it is that you just gave them the gift of a future taxpayer. That's why it makes sense to support people having children with things like paid leave, extra income, subsidized childcare and so on, and why most countries have at least some of those things. The US has been so successf… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 12:25 AM |
| 28 | Ladies at some point we have to acknowledge our poor pussy management. Like I know most men are trash but if you continue messing with a LVM male people are going to have less empathy for you. It’s better to be alone than to be with trash.Agree. Manipulation, coercive tactics, and using power and control are very real things. The assertion that "no one can treat repeatedly mistreat you without your consent" assumes a certain defensive way of thinking that many women were never taught, and blames the victim. One easy way for anyone reading this to avoid abusive situations is to start thinking in terms of what each person in any given relationship is giving vs what they're getting. Are you cooking for/cleaning for/having sex with a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 11:58 PM |
| 17 | Is this guy a waste of time?After the first date, if he doesn't ask you on a second by the 48-hour mark, he's not interested. Edit: The best way to deal with this is to go into and leave every first date assuming that you'll never see or hear from that person ever again, and if you actually liked them, be pleasantly surprised if you do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 11:49 PM |
| 25 | PUAs still alive in 2020, compliments mean nothing.In my experience, they're constantly trying to downgrade things (dinner at a nice restaurant turns into a Starbucks date) as well as steer the conversation in a sexual direction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 04:04 AM |
| 2 | ✔️This makes a lot of sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 03:45 AM |
| 1 | I think she discovered FDS.. better late than never 👑Is it good? I've been there, had a weird experience at a hotel in St. George. Beautiful state. Not LDS so probably wouldn't fit in too well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 02:32 AM |
| 5 | ✔️Not at all. You could literally start your life completely over like four times and still have time to it again. Honestly, each year since 29 has been happier than the last for me. My 20s were pretty bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:37 PM |
| 1 | ✔️Why do you want to be married by 25? Your brain won't even be fully developed by then. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:30 PM |
| 1 | ✔️Your ex put you in a difficult financial position. Is it more likely that another man would help, rather than hurt you financially? You're 40, okay, if you live to be just 80, you have another 30 years for a different career PLUS 10 years of retirement. Or 15/15 + 10, or any other combination. The only thing is that if you live in the US and haven't started saving for retirement yet, maybe prioritize that due to the magic of compounding interest. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 09:00 PM |
| 21 | ✔️It's not. It gets better, promise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 07:57 PM |
| 11 | ✔️Honestly 48 is still quite young with plenty of time to start a whole new career. I'm not sure I would do med school because of the cost and how intensive it is, but anything else seems up for grabs. I've known far too many people in their 50s and 60s who have given up on life and just stay miserable rather than trying something new. Proud of you 💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 04:23 PM |
| 5 | ✔️Having children is becoming less and less common, especially among college-educated women. Of course, you're not alone - several of my (very intelligent) friends had 2 children in their 20s, but they have lots of family support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 04:21 PM |
| 1 | ✔️Yes, during normal times I travel internationally, go to restaurants, go to events, etc | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 04:18 PM |
| 2 | ✔️Don't be afraid to do all the things by yourself. That's what I do and it's great ☺️ I did meet some good friends that way too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 04:09 PM |
| -1 | I think she discovered FDS.. better late than never 👑I'm not really understanding why this is getting downvoted. I completely agree with you here. I certainly wouldn't date him, as I said. The comment is more about the fact that this is a thing in society and it's bad. I'm not telling anyone to accept cheap dates; I certainly wouldn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 04:08 PM |
| 1 | Any HVMs in India?Thanks, same to you 💕 yeah, for me the problem is that in my culture, being highly educated and having a good salary means a guy is more likely to have other high-level qualities as well, but that doesn't seem to be the case with Indian guys. They all have great jobs and salaries but seem to have many, many problems with even the bare minimum level of respect for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 11:00 AM |
| 14 | Creepy scrote goes through his neighbors mail and takes a picture of it to post on reddit insinuating that it was a sex toy. He swiftly deletes after multiple commenters inform him it’s a makeup and skincare subscription service. Links to thread in comments.This person is incredibly stupid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:45 AM |
| -7 | I think she discovered FDS.. better late than never 👑I completely agree with everyone here, but I would like to point out that wages have been suppressed for decades and there really are a lot of men who couldn't afford a $60 date today who in decades past would've made something like $70/hr at a factory job out of high school. These men are going to be single forever because there are more highly-educated women who would be dragged down by that, and it is a legit societal problem. Not that it's our problem at all, or that women should lower their… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:35 AM |
| 6 | I think she discovered FDS.. better late than never 👑I don't know of any city in the US where you could get a sushi dinner for one for $10. $10 would be one lower-cost, simple roll. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:28 AM |
| 4 | I think she discovered FDS.. better late than never 👑It's more than that where I live in the US. However, agree that he's being mega cheap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:26 AM |
| 1 | In MemoriamCan't wait till next summer when we'll see the end of the ACA, abortion totally outlawed, and all environmental regulations completely scrapped. Wow, I don't want to live on this planet anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:18 AM |
| 16 | ✔️I'm not Asian at all but I've been cooking a ton of dishes from the Woks of Life blog. Just last night I made salt and pepper squid from scratch for myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:11 AM |
| 38 | ✔️I am so so proud of you 💕 I've been on my current path since I broke up with my ex at 28. He's still at the same entry-level job at 34 that he started almost 7 years ago. This is a job where everyone except him has been promoted after 6-18 months. He was whiny too! We have so much in common. The career thing is taking me longer than I'd wanted, but I'll get there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 10:10 AM |
| 197 | ✔️I'm 32 and feel like I'm just getting started. I've been to 27 countries and just in the last year have learned how to cook absolutely delicious Asian food. I'm also studying for a new career. Twenty-four is nothing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 06:00 AM |
| 2 | Me: “if you’re interested in me romantically we should go on a proper date.” Him:Some scrote DMed me about this comment claiming that the dinner would cost $200, and I was crazy to think they would do that with every woman in their large harem, lol. It's so transparent that he was projecting because he's been too cheap to spend $12 on a woman's dinner before. (Not to mention in denial about his lack of dates.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 01:26 AM |
| 11 | Me: “if you’re interested in me romantically we should go on a proper date.” Him:I don't tell them exactly where I live. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 12:33 AM |
| 46 | Me: “if you’re interested in me romantically we should go on a proper date.” Him:Keep your level of interest extremely low, at least for the first three months. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 11:43 PM |
| 15 | Me: “if you’re interested in me romantically we should go on a proper date.” Him:Very cheap. I make guys drive to me and take me out for a meal within a 2-block radius of my house. Anything else is a next! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 11:42 PM |
| 3 | Dear men, I can't speak for every woman, but using photos of yourself holding a baby 🍼 or with children 👨👧👦 on your dating profile does *not* make us more attracted to you. It's *always* an automatic left swipe for me regardless of anything else on the profile. 📸Or for me, tattoos! (I've seen some really beautiful ones, including my friend's full sleeve, but they just aren't my thing.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 12:48 PM |
| 11 | Chris Watts wasn't the man he appeared to be. 🚨Cautionary Reminder 🚨Love JCS. There's another YouTube channel, "Live Abuse Free," that also has a great series on this case. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 08:13 AM |
| 5 | Op accused of tattoo/body shaming in the comments for saying this dude looks sus😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 08:11 AM |
| 19 | So I made a collage of a modern desi girl's worst nightmares..to remind myself of the kind of toxicity that's ready to suck me in if I don't run fastThey don't respect us either.. trust me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 05:56 AM |
| 5 | Dear men, I can't speak for every woman, but using photos of yourself holding a baby 🍼 or with children 👨👧👦 on your dating profile does *not* make us more attracted to you. It's *always* an automatic left swipe for me regardless of anything else on the profile. 📸Holy shit. Every single time I bring up a topic on here, and think I've seen it all or that the situation is definitely bad enough to begin with, others bring up experiences that are So. Much. Worse. Every time!! 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 05:02 AM |
| 13 | Dear men, I can't speak for every woman, but using photos of yourself holding a baby 🍼 or with children 👨👧👦 on your dating profile does *not* make us more attracted to you. It's *always* an automatic left swipe for me regardless of anything else on the profile. 📸And don't forget "fluent in sarcasm" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 01:46 AM |
| 13 | Dear men, I can't speak for every woman, but using photos of yourself holding a baby 🍼 or with children 👨👧👦 on your dating profile does *not* make us more attracted to you. It's *always* an automatic left swipe for me regardless of anything else on the profile. 📸Which is pretty much all of them. Other people simply exist to serve them and nothing more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 12:23 AM |
| 8 | Dear men, I can't speak for every woman, but using photos of yourself holding a baby 🍼 or with children 👨👧👦 on your dating profile does *not* make us more attracted to you. It's *always* an automatic left swipe for me regardless of anything else on the profile. 📸Ughhh. Never seen that, fortunately | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 12:23 AM |
| 22 | Dear men, I can't speak for every woman, but using photos of yourself holding a baby 🍼 or with children 👨👧👦 on your dating profile does *not* make us more attracted to you. It's *always* an automatic left swipe for me regardless of anything else on the profile. 📸Deep down, I think almost all of them are sexist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 10:55 PM |
| 38 | Dear men, I can't speak for every woman, but using photos of yourself holding a baby 🍼 or with children 👨👧👦 on your dating profile does *not* make us more attracted to you. It's *always* an automatic left swipe for me regardless of anything else on the profile. 📸I love how many childfree women are on here. Right on. I can't believe anyone would want to bring more people into the current world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 10:55 PM |
| 104 | Dear men, I can't speak for every woman, but using photos of yourself holding a baby 🍼 or with children 👨👧👦 on your dating profile does *not* make us more attracted to you. It's *always* an automatic left swipe for me regardless of anything else on the profile. 📸Plus most of the time they're probably trying (and failing) to override our better judgment by making our ovaries light up as we see our future baby or whatever. 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 10:23 PM |
| 4 | Why do so many men feel the need to give a seemingly nice compliment then mess it up completely by being a creep?Because the only reason they give compliments are usually to confuse you - to make you think they're a nice person when in reality they're just trying to get you to stop so they can check you out, or worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 04:48 AM |
| 18 | Progress: first time I forgot about every guy I was chatting witj on an OLD app. Thank you FDS, I am so so relaxed and unfazed by men and dating!Wait till you realize that 90+% of the time, your entire life will be better spent as a single person, unattached to a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 04:46 AM |
| 4 | Just letting y’all know that they finally added the emoji to respond with to unsolicited pictures of body parts 🤏🤏🤏🤏 omg yasssss | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 04:57 AM |
| 23 | Her asking her ex for flowers VS when they broke up and he saw her receive flowers from one someone else 😂😂😂Wtf?? How did he ever get past the first message with her to begin with? Ladies, absolutely do not accept this kind of treatment. 🚫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 04:46 AM |
| 12 | Going on a first date during his birthday?I would just unmatch/block him. The birthday thing was a red flag but the cooking thing is a major red flag. It sounds like he's hoping for a first date birthday bj or more. It's just inappropriate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 04:44 AM |
| 10 | Older men (late 30s+) claiming they "never met the right one"I think it could go either way. I don't think the question matters as much as the framework, which seems to be a lack of confidence on your part. Just vet him over time, make notes about him (good and bad) and reflect on them once a week and see how many red or yellow flags there are. I wouldn't base a decision on continuing the relationship or not on that one thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 04:38 AM |
| 32 | What is your timeline to marriage?Probably never lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 06:11 PM |
| 0 | If he doesn’t want you healthy, he’s not the one you should have with youActually I hadn't even read your post when I responded to that comment - just the idea of pushing through the pain reminded me of the HBO documentary, the Netflix documentary, and the piece in one of the big newspapers about abuse in gymnastics. It really wasn't a very helpful comment anyway. Your dad sounds great - lucky you 🌼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:35 PM |
| 1 | If he doesn’t want you healthy, he’s not the one you should have with youI'm confused. What does the above comment have to do with your dad? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 03:05 PM |
| 15 | 😂 they're watching us 👀I have these: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B071HLSCS8?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share I hand wash them. I used to put them in the machine but it would tear them up. Some people in the reviews think they're fake silk. I'm really not sure.. there are some experiments you can do to tell (on YouTube) but I'm too lazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 01:09 PM |
| 9 | 😂 they're watching us 👀I have this one: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07ZXW8NZY/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apap_WoVThkG5Fba3X | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 01:06 PM |
| 5 | If he doesn’t want you healthy, he’s not the one you should have with youThis reminds me of all the horrible stories of child abuse in gymnastics. Unbelievable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 06:00 AM |
| 77 | 😂 they're watching us 👀It actually looks nice. The bedding could use an upgrade. I'm a total bedding snob (I have some Anthropologie stuff and some silk), and I recommend this duvet cover set: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B088HGYQ41/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_IfgxFbDBHMSRY And these sheets: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N9L2O9P/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_UhgxFbX37JJVM Both very affordable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 05:52 AM |
| 3 | How to get back to normal?Okay. I completely agree with u/prinnikin that treating your depression needs to come first and foremost. I'm a big fan of cbt, but don't be afraid to try antidepressants either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 12:04 AM |
| 6 | How to get back to normal?Is there anything you've always wanted to learn to do that you haven't yet? (Mine is cooking... Never really cared about it much, but got really into it last fall and now eat amazing food every day) And what's up with your boyfriend not talking to you? Is this long-distance? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 11:26 PM |
| 27 | What’s been your personal experience with making the first moves?I had a crush on a pen pal of 13 years that I finally visited in 2016. When I got there, I basically asked him if he wanted a relationship, and he told me no because he wasn't attracted to me. He then spent the rest of the time I was there staring at my chest. I should never have assumed he wanted anything with me and will never initiate anything with a man ever again. We were still friends after the incident, but I have so many bad memories of it and am so embarrassed that I recently blocked hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 10:35 PM |
| 2 | The 👏🏽 fucking 👏🏽 message 👏🏽My mom died when I was 5. She married my nvm father after knowing him a few weeks and immediately became pregnant with me. She already had breast cancer at that time, and it was discovered about 3 years later. While my mom was getting chemo and radiation, she used to spank me. It's one of the few memories I have of her. I have no memory of what I did "wrong" to deserve being hit. To this day I still fantasize about being hit and it has a sexual connotation for me, although I don't accept violenc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 05:53 AM |
| 35 | Shout out to all the amazing mothers whom helped us to be the ppl who we are meant to be and will be .Unfortunately there's another thread that has many many comments about violent mothers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 05:49 AM |
| 10 | DAE think that the ratio of attractive women to attractive men is truly insane?Reykjavík. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 05:46 AM |
| 3 | The 👏🏽 fucking 👏🏽 message 👏🏽Why is violence against children so common? If it's a natural human reaction, what steps can we take to prevent others from engaging in it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/09/20 05:44 AM |
| 2 | Can men who have certain mental illnesses be HVM? What is your vetting process?It's also dangerous. Lots of people need antidepressants. To compare that need to alcoholics or drug addicts is completely backwards and frankly strange. There are teenage girls on here and I want them to know that it's okay to get help with their depression or anxiety or bipolar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 11:05 PM |
| 4 | Can men who have certain mental illnesses be HVM? What is your vetting process?Yes, as I said, of course. This isn't about you; I'm just offering a different opinion for others who may be reading this (particularly young girls). Also, you may want to screen men early on about this. I take an antidepressant and haven't told anyone I dated in the last four years. I don't consider it a big deal or any of their business. You could potentially date someone for years and have no idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 07:44 PM |
| 6 | Can men who have certain mental illnesses be HVM? What is your vetting process?I respect your standards. I guess my problem with the notion that "all people who take antidepressants are broken and not worth dating" is that it discourages people who truly need them from taking them. It promotes the idea that by treating a mental health issue with medication, however minor, you become unworthy of a relationship. To me this is extremely different from not wanting to date someone who is dependent on alcohol, weed, or illegal drugs. The world would be a better place if those wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:53 PM |
| 7 | Can men who have certain mental illnesses be HVM? What is your vetting process?I'm not sure it's super helpful to lump in all pharmaceuticals with all illicit drugs. There's quite a spectrum for both. For example, would you exclude someone who had an occasional social drink? What about someone who consumed weed during a long weekend vacation where it was legal, but not on a regular basis? Would you exclude someone who took a low dose of a mild antidepressant, which is very common in the US? What about someone taking an antidepressant for other reasons (like trazodone for s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 06:11 AM |
| 4 | I pulled the plug on OLD, got sober, and am dealing with my social anxiety and isolation.Great work! Too bad that in the US, covid is still a buzzkill for all of this... I think some of it is luck. I'm pretty extroverted, talkative, and active, and attractive enough, and I still haven't been asked on a date since college *shrug* Actually even back then, it hardly ever happened, and I was a teeny tiny adorable little thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 05:24 AM |
| 19 | Why is society so obsessed with sex? It dawned on me that despite it being glorified as “healthy”, the only reason modern humans can have an excessive and unnatural amount of sex is because of birth control—which usually has a shitload of unhealthy side effects.It's just another conspiracy by the patriarchy to get women as sexually active as possible so more men will get laid more often. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 05:18 AM |
| 178 | Guy (43m) says I (37f) talk too much. Played it off like he was teasing me and I was being sensitive by getting insulted. Is this a neg or playful teasing or a flat-out insult? What does he possibly hope to gain by being so rude?It's a test to see if you'll put up with future abuse. Block immediately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 05:14 AM |
| 9 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?Even that is indicative of what I said above. If they don't have an actual drinking problem, they shouldn't be afraid to be judged. If they do have an actual drinking problem, they already know that, and the judgment shouldn't matter. If the judgment bothers them, then that means they have a personal problem that they need to work on. It's not related to the person judging. (I remain neutral too. Of course I have my own vices, like sugar.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:31 PM |
| 40 | Any ladies that dont drink, smoke or do drugs?I probably have 2 drinks a year, no smoking and no drugs. People who like to drink quite a bit, both men and women, tend not to like me - it's very annoying to them that I don't always want a drink like they do. People aren't willing to tone down their egos, look at themselves honestly, and start to work on their own problems, so they just drink to cope with everything in their lives. I'm not sure if this is a gendered issue or not but it definitely exists among women too. It's sad and pathetic … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 01:37 PM |
| 3 | Finally ready to date ... but dating sucks right nowLove the username! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:54 AM |
| 5 | Finally ready to date ... but dating sucks right nowFirst of all, you need to insist on and expect men to go down on you before intercourse. It's extremely important. Secondly, don't worry about your age, especially in NYC, especially if you don't want kids. Just start using tretinoin and use sunscreen and you'll look young forever. Third, I don't live in NY but I've heard from various friends, random people I've met traveling, and people on here that it's a horrible place for a woman to date. Just focus on building your life the way you want it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 02:53 AM |
| 1 | Saw post earlier about a sis learning day tradingYeah, I get 4.5% for putting in 6% now. When I worked at a startup, we only got 2% in one lump sum. Point being, everyone should be trying to invest at least 15% overall. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Dating advice for a 39 year old never married womanOh, thank you! Yep, saw the Taj Mahal and had a great guide. I haven't been to Varanasi yet but it's on the list (it's going to take me several trips to see all of India). Not sure when India will reopen though 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 11:50 PM |
| 2 | Dating advice for a 39 year old never married womanDelhi (very briefly), Agra, Jaipur, Ranthambore NP, Keoladeo NP, Udaipur, Jodhpur and Jaisalmer 🇮🇳 which area are you from? You could just keep posting on this sub during your dating adventures and we will help you. It's pretty bad out there. Remember to enjoy life as a fabulous single lady and don't depend on getting a relationship as something necessary for your completion as a person 🥂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 03:36 PM |
| 5 | Saw post earlier about a sis learning day tradingI think it's all supposed to add up to at least 15% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 01:18 PM |
| 13 | Dating advice for a 39 year old never married womanSure; you can try dating apps like Coffee Meets Bagel (my fav) or Bumble, and once we get past covid, go out and do things. But you need to approach every man as if he's trying to trick you, take your time and wait a long time to actually get attached to them. You have to be willing to walk away the second he behaves badly... And almost all of them do. You have to keep your standards super high. Btw, my last vacation was in India, I had lots of fun and met so many interesting people 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 06:44 AM |
| 8 | Dating advice for a 39 year old never married womanPlease don't spend more than 2% of your time, energy, or especially your money on dating. It's simply not worth it. This is coming from someone who actually has a decent collection of exes who were much better than a lot of guys mentioned on here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 06:21 AM |
| 30 | Saw post earlier about a sis learning day tradingEveryone, please, for heaven's sake, if you have access to a 401k, put some money in it (preferably at least 15%). It's really really really important, way more important than anything related to dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 06:19 AM |
| 2 | Be the boss! 👸Side note, I'm not sure that she was even the one who came up with this concept - seems like I heard it well before she was on the national stage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 05:47 AM |
| 4 | Be the boss! 👸Came here to say exactly this. Good leaders aren't "bossy" at all. "Bossy" is a synonym for "controlling." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 05:46 AM |
| 6 | Can a man be both HV and an abuser?All abusers have good traits, otherwise no one would date them. They're still abusive, negative value, and dangerous. Believe me, I know because my abusive ex makes great money and is one of the most attractive men I've ever seen, let alone slept with, made me laugh so easily, knew me well, cared about me at times, etc. Guess what.. I still have to stay away from him because he put his hand on my throat and was threatening me. It sucks but you have to move on and embrace other parts of life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 09:44 PM |
| 51 | Extreme example of why 50/50 is never in your best interest. Scrote expects his girlfriend to contribute $2,500 PER MONTH to the rent, so he can get a bigger house for his kids.This has my blood boiling. This is straight-up manipulation and should be illegal. Only a woman who's been incredibly brainwashed would put up with it. There should be mandatory classes for girls in middle school where they're taught about feminism, society's messages, and how men want power and control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 09:21 PM |
| 2 | No. He can do that himself.It's probably my favorite out of all of them. There's just a selection of dudes once a day, every day, so you're not endlessly swiping. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 04:42 PM |
| 5 | Is it possible to have both a HVM and LVM in the same person?Everyone should go to therapy regardless of whether they think they have issues or not. It's not about you vs your husband. It's about sorting out your own feelings to make better decisions in the future and stuff like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 09:49 AM |
| 24 | Is it possible to have both a HVM and LVM in the same person?Congrats on the weight loss! I'm very glad you didn't throw yourself off of a building. And the real me doesn't want to put up with childish shit anymore and is not ok with being dismissed. There you go. Chances are that marriage counseling would be a waste of time. He just doesn't respect you. If you go through with the divorce, just make sure you're okay with being single for the rest of your life. The odds are that the next one won't be any good, either. Have you ever been to individual thera… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 03:53 AM |
| 2 | TRP guide on how to manipulate a woman to do abortion when she doesn't want to. I want you guys to read this and protect yourselves.Thanks. Pretty sure I have one in my family | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 07:13 PM |
| 7 | I’ve booked myself a hotel roomThe best was Japan, followed by Peru. The worst was when my entire wallet was stolen in Madrid about an hour after I landed. Are you looking for ideas? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 12:21 PM |
| 10 | TRP guide on how to manipulate a woman to do abortion when she doesn't want to. I want you guys to read this and protect yourselves.What is DT? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 04:06 AM |
| 50 | I’ve booked myself a hotel roomYes, please absolutely do not wait for a man to travel. I travel solo 2-3x a year internationally during normal times and it's great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 10:17 PM |
| 5 | Don't date guys who refuse to wear a mask in public. Don't even talk to them. Treat them like the walking biohazard that they are.Agree. Also, for better or worse, most of America is open, just at a reduced capacity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 10:15 PM |
| 14 | How do you date multiple men on a small town?I can barely find one guy to date in my entire state, so I'm probably not the best person to ask. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 10:12 PM |
| 2 | So a HVM is just a decent good person. That’s what I’ve learned from reading FDS. What percentage of men are decent good people, and what percent are assholes?About 98% of men are flawed in a fundamental way. I'm not talking about their appearance or finances. I'm talking about their actual character. It's mostly rooted in selfishness. | /r/askFDS | 31/08/20 10:09 PM |
| 3 | Breonna Taylor, another promising young woman tragically lost because of LVMExactly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 02:10 PM |
| 9 | Is anyone familiar with the feeling with them like a guy first, but not a guy liking them first?You shouldn't give any thought to a man whatsoever until he's demonstrated his interest and some effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 04:56 AM |
| 14 | "I'm a father first, with the most amazing baby"Never again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 11:50 PM |
| 29 | "I'm a father first, with the most amazing baby"Why are you still in that relationship? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 10:10 PM |
| 9 | What I have done since my separationYes!!!! I'm so proud of you 💐 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 10:06 PM |
| 97 | Accept that you cannot control others. There is no magical combination of words that will transform a LVM into a HVM. The only person whose actions you can control, is yourself.And on top of that, men have been conspiring for centuries to brainwash us into thinking that we can and will inevitably change them (basically every romance film/book ever). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 06:20 AM |
| 3 | ☣️ Men as nuclear waste ☣️I love your adorable Starry Award! Brava! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 05:44 AM |
| 4 | ☣️ Men as nuclear waste ☣️Yes!! Great suggestion 😂 Loved the film Into Eternity, btw. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 06:58 PM |
| 6 | Abundance mindsetI don't have it about men, as I believe there are very few good ones no matter the size of the pool, but I try to manifest it by thinking about all the activities I could do that could make me happy, how I could be happy under different life circumstances, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 06:23 PM |
| 6 | Where do you even start finding HVM?Probably charity dinners and other events if you can afford them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 06:16 PM |
| 9 | Please check the guy’s family background/upbringing before dating seriouslyJFC. I've never dated Koreans just because the ones in my area tend to be super religious, but wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 05:06 AM |
| 5 | Please check the guy’s family background/upbringing before dating seriouslyI feel the same way/have had the same experience. I dated a guy for 6 years who came from a very stable household but had frankly never experienced any kind of adversity - his parents were always there to fix everything and still are. Meanwhile I haven't had parents since I was 5 and have had to do a whole lot on my own. I ended up feeling like his mom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 05:04 AM |
| 6 | How do I recover from a guy I was dating ghosting (and possibly blocking) me?Basically you have to expect this to happen at any point up until about the 3-month mark. It's more common than not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 04:58 AM |
| 20 | Have the men you've dated had longterm healthy friendships with other men?Actually, no. I think you're on to something. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 10:45 PM |
| 2 | Preparing to get back into datingI found this guy extremely helpful when I got out of an abusive relationship: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYotx7-zHSpnE1-CpXpHF6Q | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 11:59 PM |
| 15 | Looking for some adviceOh girl, come on... He can't even answer a well-meaning, polite text from you. He's not even acquaintance-level. Please move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 10:02 PM |
| 7 | Lockdown is like a reset or a gap year!Good on you, op. I've been doing the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 10:00 PM |
| 13 | Is he really too busy?And as is often repeated around here, guys know very early on who they want to marry. They usually mention it within the first couple of months (if not the first few dates) to get a reading on what you're thinking about it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 04:54 AM |
| 30 | Is he really too busy?You like him? Why? I think you're desperate for attention. You don't need his or anyone else's attention. You're enough by yourself. A guy I was seeing last year works 2 jobs and moved several states away from me and still talks to me every day and replies at least within a couple of hours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 04:20 AM |
| 5 | How Old Were You When You Learned the Bad Men Weren't an Extreme Minority?29 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Any HVMs in India?Thanks! Sorry you had to read all that again, it wasn't my intention 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/20 10:06 PM |
| 5 | Any HVMs in India?Hey! Sorry about your father. Mine is trash too but at least my mom's family got rid of him and we have no relationship. I'm 32. I broke up with my ex and started online dating when I was 29. I'm not Indian but the reason I've been dating mostly Indian guys is because they're the highest educated people in my area... but as you can see, that doesn't mean much. I don't think they would've treated Indian women any better, either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 10:40 PM |
| 11 | Any HVMs in India?Yeah, unfortunately, three of them also got violent with me. One of them was a real psycho that I still have nightmares about - he lied to me about wanting a relationship that would lead to marriage, was hot and cold about answering my texts, turned everything I said into a sexual innuendo, then blamed me for his romantic disinterest in me because I slept with him 2 months in (this was way before FDS), slapped me a little, told me to turn around in the middle of me driving an hour to see him (I … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 04:58 PM |
| 12 | Any HVMs in India?Been on dates with at least six Indian guys, two are my actual exes, all highly-educated and successful, most pretty attractive, and nope - not a single one, not even close. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 03:50 PM |
| 4 | HVM onlineNot since 2002. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 03:47 PM |
| 1 | Recommended K-drama(s)?Thanks everyone! I will check all of these out, but I don't think any of them are the one I was thinking of - its title was listed in Korean and the person said something like it was about a woman's journey and there was a hvm who was supporting her growth but he wasn't the focus of her attention all the time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 01:41 PM |
| 4 | Sex and the CityStrongly dislike the show now, but does anyone remember the scene where Carrie found Burger's note and knocked over the vase with the flowers? I thought that was really powerful and I've never forgotten it. Maybe because she was showing anger instead of sadness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:48 AM |
| 7 | HVW life starts early! 🦄It's almost as if it were intended to brainwash us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:45 AM |
| 15 | PSA to all the young Queens on here: a man wanting to have sex with you is not a compliment, nor does it mean he cares about you as a person!Just be glad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:43 AM |
| -3 | “He simply cannot be who we need him to be.”I hate that phrase. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:38 AM |
| 2 | I- have men always been this dirty or is it an uprise of unhygienic guys🤮 I've broken up with two guys because they wouldn't brush their teeth enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:37 AM |
| 14 | Do you ever feel like no one understands your standards?They're more afraid of you not getting married than of you being unhappy and dissatisfied for the rest of your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:08 AM |
| 5 | Do you ever feel like no one understands your standards?☝🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:05 AM |
| 19 | This LVM is forcing his pregnant wife to work 5-6 days a week AND clean + cook, AND STILL CALLS HER LAZY!! The fucking AUDACITY of this negative-value shit. NEVER marry a broke man that expects you to work. Work should be a choice, NOT a necessity to make up for the scrote’s inability to provide.This is crazy. I have five exes and not even the abusive alcoholic one would've acted like this, even if I weren't pregnant. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:02 AM |
| 14 | Am I too sensitive?Why was he sending you those pics in the first place?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 05:00 AM |
| 12 | 25f, I'm feeling insecure, that I will nEveR bE gOoD eNOuGh because I am not as fit and attractive as I could be. I feel like I am wasting the pEaK oF My yOuTh and BeAutY because I'm not iNsTaWoRthY. Fears of losing value as I age. Help me change this silly attitude and replace these shit beliefsBeing healthy is important, but there's no reason to compare yourself to fitness girls on Instagram. Your appearance should just be one part of your identity, and it shouldn't matter to the extent that you're writing about on here. Ask yourself, so what if I'm not hot (even though I'm sure you are)? What would happen? Would it devalue you as a person? No. Would it make you less likely to find love? No. In fact it might do the opposite of you're overly consumed with it. Would people love you less… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 04:59 AM |
| 11 | DIRTY JOHN SEASON 2: THE BETTY BRODERICK STORYYes! I considered mentioning Betty Broderick yesterday when I made a post about the murder of Kelsey Berreth - two different stories, but both with underlying pickme mentalities. I haven't seen this exact show yet but I know the story. I consume a lot of true crime content and pickmeism is a common theme. My dearest wish would be for women to stop giving up their lives for men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 03:58 AM |
| 9 | Didn’t know where else to put this, but why are men so creepy???It's probably some general corporate rule. You're not wrong about there being tons of creepy guys in general, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 04:20 AM |
| 168 | Further proof to never accept a drinks date - and I’ll take the blame for agreeing in the first place. I said I was free Wednesday or Thursday this week to go out and he didn’t message me until 8:30 pm Weds"Easy to lose track of time when you're working all day..." No, just no. He's already setting up a lifelong excuse for himself. Byyye | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/20 03:29 AM |
| 8 | Went to a matchmaking event online...Who cares? I'm sure you looked great! Plastic surgery has come a long way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 03:39 AM |
| 1 | “I’m blasian but you better not be black in any form”.How can anyone think it's remotely okay to think this way, let alone state it publicly?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:50 PM |
| 3 | How many ladies here hang out / go out alone ?I love going out alone. I have complete control over where I go, how long I stay and so on. I feel like no one cares or even notices if you're alone, and there's nothing to be self-conscious about. Also by doing things alone, I've met other people who are more extroverted and will do things with me since, like you, most of my other friends are "either super homebodies or boo’d up and always with their man." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:46 PM |
| 6 | Reading this makes me both sad and mad at the same time!!!Holy shit, what a disgusting MF. Glad you got out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/20 03:31 PM |
| 18 | Should I abandon dating websites and apps all-together?Please don't think that just because a group of people is elite or high-earning that the men in that group will be high-value. It could very well be the opposite. Don't plan on meeting anyone - plan your life as if you'll be single forever and if you do find a hvm it'll be a bonus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:18 AM |
| 31 | The audacity... At least he's honest, I guess.I agree, but who is going to get up in the morning, every morning, for some low-value dick - let alone knowing that it won't lead to anything more?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:12 AM |
| 25 | I have a problem with Indian men.I agree with the other posters that culture isn't as related as one might think. I'm white and have been on at least one date with about six different Indian men (just because I live in an area where they are the highest-educated group); two became my boyfriend. A couple were sexual predators, one of my exes was an abusive alcoholic, and the other one tried to ghost me after 3 months and stole $120 on his way out. But just about every guy I've been on a date with has been awful in some way. One … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 06:10 AM |
| 26 | What’s something that you did with good intention, too early for a man, and now look back in it with so much regret?Same. I gave them to him on December 23. He got me nothing. After that, he started yelling at me and manipulated me into deep cleaning his fridge, then left to visit family the next day. I had a key. I realized he was abusive so I took almost all the gifts back and returned them on Amazon or kept them for myself. Left him a t-shirt that he loved as a reminder of what an asshole he was. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:40 PM |
| 3 | Filled with resentmentCan you finish your degree online? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:37 PM |
| 3 | What would you do if....Oh okay. I think it's a combination of many factors: wanting to save the man, feeling obligated to be "nice," feeling like it will be their fault if he has to sit in jail, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:13 PM |
| 19 | Male (7 years older) wants me to go visit him in different state that’s in lockdown.Most male activity on dating apps is very much motivated and controlled by sudden sexual urges. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 12:10 PM |
| 24 | Thoughts from a newbie memberGreat points! According to the popular counseling book The Four Agreements, everything people say is about them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 12:09 PM |
| 15 | Long rant but feeling really depressed today. I can’t help but think that I will never meet the person I’m meant to end up with while watching it happen to everyone around me. I’m 29 btw.imagining myself single at 32 is the most terrifying thought EVER Really? What about becoming a quadriplegic? What about getting terminal cancer, which is what happened to my mom around that age? What about being in a relationship with or married to a man who wants to hurt or kill you, or being killed by him, which happens to women all the time? I really really would like to settle down and have my own biological children. Okay, that's completely fair. Finding a quality partner to do that with s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 11:50 AM |
| 14 | Why do guys suck so much?Great job blocking him. Speculation would be a waste of time. Btw, I think you meant that he did a 180. A 360 would be like he started off great, became horrible, and then went back to being great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:19 AM |
| 5 | Long rant but feeling really depressed today. I can’t help but think that I will never meet the person I’m meant to end up with while watching it happen to everyone around me. I’m 29 btw.So proud of you. Also, you're going to love turning 30 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 05:13 AM |
| 51 | Long rant but feeling really depressed today. I can’t help but think that I will never meet the person I’m meant to end up with while watching it happen to everyone around me. I’m 29 btw.First, you're 29 and mention age a few times. I, too, had this anxiety at that age. I'm now 32 and so much happier as a single person. Pre-covid, I rejected guys left and right. Now I'm super happy that I've let go of the idea of finding "the one" and fill my time with activities that I like, such as studying data science, reading books, cooking Asian food, and planning trips. I look back on the years that I spent vast amounts of time thinking about men with regret. Secondly, behind every cute s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:31 AM |
| 5 | FDS approved movie recommendations?Wow, this is a really varied and interesting list. Thanks to all contributors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:18 AM |
| 9 | Please tell me if I handled this the wrong way. I can’t tell if I am executing FDS incorrectly, or if he’s gaslighting me.Listen, I'm not trying to hurt your feelings here, but your boyfriend is just not into you. Please, please just let him go. Guys who actually like you will want to spend every waking and sleeping moment with you. You'll find out the difference later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:15 AM |
| 12 | What would you do if....Girl, come on. 🤡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 04:03 AM |
| 7 | I had a comment here removed.....it took me a day to realise why. Thank you FDSI can't get that image out of my mind. It's just so pathetic. The woman looks incredibly beautiful. What could he possibly be bringing to her life for her to go to that extreme? I very much doubt he's bringing anything to the table... If she wanted beautiful photos in a wedding dress, she could get those by herself. If she wanted a child, she could adopt by herself. Why go through this embarrassment and give this clown and attention at all, let alone propose to him?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 03:55 AM |
| 2 | I think I am dating a NARCISSIST ... am I? Here are my red flagsthen he agreed and then when he was on his phone with me, tinder came up and he said "oh I still have Tinder??" (Please..) This alone would be enough for me to block him right then and there. Please do something productive with your precious life and kick this guy to the curb. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 12:20 AM |
| 5 | The picture itself without the captioning actually makes me feel very sad. What is your take on women proposing to men?Omg, really?! Why?? Do you know of any further reading about this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 12:15 AM |
| 4 | LVM in fictionWhat can we say... it's the ultimate LVM fantasy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 12:02 AM |
| 3 | Why am I still hurting over thisI suppose. It's actually a photo of his cat. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 11:18 PM |
| 4 | Thought i'd finally found someone just to be dumped without warning.Sorry this happened to you. You have to assume that the guy is going to bail at any moment in the first three months because they usually do. As others have commented, the whole thing was too fast, whether intentionally or not. If you assume they're going to ghost, it hurts a lot less. If they stick around for longer than three months, maybe they are worth a little more investment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 09:20 PM |
| 7 | Why am I still hurting over thisI feel you. I'm not over an ex from almost three years ago. He still uses a photo I took as his WhatsApp photo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 09:11 PM |
| 9 | I can't get over my ex and it has been about a year.I feel you. I don't have any advice. I can't get over my ex of almost three years ago who I haven't even seen in over two years, who has had a different girlfriend for two years now. The stupid thing is that we only dated for 2-3 months. He was abusive. It's totally absurd. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 09:08 PM |
| 1 | This really changed my life.So what's your plan to get there? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 11:44 AM |
| 2 | This really changed my life.Can you get an online degree in something practical, like nursing, computer science...? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 03:48 AM |
| 8 | What has been your experience with dating a LVM who cannot support himself?Oh hell no! 🚫 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone just lost faith in men altogether?That is extremely generous. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 11:40 AM |
| 20 | What common bio phrase you’re tired of seeing on OLD?It's this ridiculous "lifestyle" that couples adopt instead of addressing their actual problems | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 11:23 AM |
| 2 | What do you think about Bumble?Thanks! I'm actually not that worried about it. I feel like my life is richer on my own because all of my time, energy, and money goes to me and my interests. I look back on how much I cared about my five exes and how little I got in return for it and cringe. I was just curious about your secrets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/20 12:13 AM |
| 5 | What do you think about Bumble?Yeah, I've tried asking my friends too. Nada. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 03:34 PM |
| 2 | What do you think about Bumble?I do agree with that, but there are still plenty of predators on there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 02:58 PM |
| 13 | What do you think about Bumble?There's a lot of hate towards Bumble on this thread, so I would just like to add that I feel neutrally about it. Is women making the first move great? No, but it's literally one message, not an actual role reversal. I'm not sure why people make such a big deal out of it. It's not like you have to start planning dates and courting the guy, sending him flowers, taking him out to dinner, etc. You just send your one message and sit back and see if he makes an effort. I also like that it gives more s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 02:43 PM |
| 9 | What do you think about Bumble?How do you meet people in normal times? I'm pretty extroverted, active, and chatty, go to plenty of events and so on, but still haven't met any eligible single men (outside the workplace) since college. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 02:37 PM |
| 14 | Y'all ever wonder about the HVM you let go because you were so fucked up from dating LVMs?What hvm?? Lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 10:57 PM |
| 1 | Quick question about cancelling datesI'm worried about you. I went through three years of hell with guys on these dating apps. And I have at least an 85% match rate, so it's not like these were guys from the bottom of the barrel. A couple were phds in the sciences, one had a six figure job in IT, etc... Late 20s-early 30s. All of these men were either sexual predators (willing to wait months for me to sleep with them, only to drop me the next day, and then come back for more sex, acting like we'd agreed to be fuck buddies when he t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 10:51 PM |
| 3 | Quick question about cancelling datesIt's possible, but it's incredibly unlikely that something came up (especially in his line of work, I think) at the very same time that he was supposed to meet you for the first time. Like really, what are the odds of that happening? I think it is acceptable once in a great while after you have an actual established relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 10:37 PM |
| 22 | American dating style?*And* someone who you think actually wants a relationship and isn't a sexual predator like 90+% of guys on dating apps | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 04:09 PM |
| 126 | American dating style?Agree... Can barely find one guy worth dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 11:32 AM |
| 37 | Guy from OLD gets angry because I didn’t have sex with him after 2 weeks and 4 dates of knowing him.👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 02:40 AM |
| 193 | Guy from OLD gets angry because I didn’t have sex with him after 2 weeks and 4 dates of knowing him.If all guys want is "action," and their only motivator for dating is sex, why should any of us bother with them? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 02:30 AM |
| 29 | What you doin for yourself that a man or husband needs to do more to impress you?I need someone with a private jet to whisk me off wherever I want to go in the world. ☺️ (I already take 2-3 international trips a year.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:44 PM |
| 9 | Quick question about cancelling datesOne million percent BLOCK. You're already making excuses for him and you haven't even met him yet. That means you are too naive to be dating right now. To men on dating apps, you're easy prey. Read the handbook. Hang out on this sub. Assume that all men on dating apps are either sociopaths, abusive, or, at best, fuckboys who will use you for sex, but at least won't hit or manipulate you or try to ruin your life. Let me repeat...that last option is the best case scenario you could expect from onl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 09:07 PM |
| 36 | RIP Connie Culp, recipient of the first face transplant in the US after her abusive husband shot her face off in 2004. Let her story be a lesson for us all. (Warning: graphic content)I agree. I interpreted it as her continuing to be brainwashed and attached to him even after he did this to her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 05:20 AM |
| 77 | RIP Connie Culp, recipient of the first face transplant in the US after her abusive husband shot her face off in 2004. Let her story be a lesson for us all. (Warning: graphic content)Btw, her husband only got 7 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 05:07 AM |
| 32 | RIP Connie Culp, recipient of the first face transplant in the US after her abusive husband shot her face off in 2004. Let her story be a lesson for us all. (Warning: graphic content)Full text (article is from 2016; Connie died July 30, 2020): Violence can be difficult to detect—because it doesn't always result in a black eye or a bruised arm. Psychological violence is in many cases even more pervasive. Threats and abuse are often something that women are forced to suffer with. And the number of vulnerable women is much higher than reported, because unfortunately, many women don't dare report it—or seek help. Connie Culp suffered the unthinkable from her once beloved husband… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 05:06 AM |
| 5 | teen here, need advice for dating in the future!Books, movies, TV, your parents, your friends - pretty much everyone and everything is going to tell you that romantic relationships are important. They aren't. This idea serves boys and men because girls and women usually put way more effort into the relationship than they do. It's a big conspiracy. What's really important is for you to educate yourself as much as you can in as many subjects as you can and set off on a path toward a great career. Your health, friends, hobbies, social activities… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 04:04 AM |
| 84 | Men post things like this to get a Pickmeisha to dance for themExactly. Barely looks like real cooking to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 03:08 AM |
| 5 | It’s a lie designated for men’s convenience. We just value a clean and visually appealing living space, but so do mentally stable men. Quit doing all housework for a week and watch them noticing and complaining.40 hours a week! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 10:34 PM |
| 4 | It’s a lie designated for men’s convenience. We just value a clean and visually appealing living space, but so do mentally stable men. Quit doing all housework for a week and watch them noticing and complaining.Well, he was addicted to watching wrestling. Very possible it's a regional thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 10:26 PM |
| 27 | Summer: the season of the "swimming" date -_-🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 10:16 PM |
| 22 | It’s a lie designated for men’s convenience. We just value a clean and visually appealing living space, but so do mentally stable men. Quit doing all housework for a week and watch them noticing and complaining.I don't know if I agree. If they cared as much as we do about cleanliness, most single men wouldn't have such dirty living spaces. You should see my ex's house... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 10:13 PM |
| 17 | Men doing basic things is NOT praiseworthyMost men I've known have really struggled with this. I'm talking about middle-class, educated men with seemingly good parents. They can't seem to brush their teeth, clean up after themselves, prepare a meal, or do anything besides work and play video games or watch wrestling/sports. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:39 AM |
| 11 | What country do you think has the least scrotes and why?I would love to hear opinions from any Icelandic ladies because I saw a ton of hot guys there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:22 AM |
| 5 | Why would someone have this agreement... and keep doing it even though it's hurting themBecause they're a pickme. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:19 AM |
| 21 | First thing they said to me. Seriously?🚫👎99% of men on dating apps are looking for a free prostitute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:14 AM |
| 16 | A handy guide on which hormone to access for what issueCan any medical professionals confirm the accuracy of this? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 05:12 AM |
| 14 | Why do some men seem to put out no effort in themselves in pursuit of a relationship?A lot of men also don't brush their teeth enough. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 06:32 PM |
| 7 | Ladies, if you don’t think you’re objectively beautiful, remember it’s all irrelevant and unrelated to good or bad treatmentAnd don't forget that how he treats you is more important than how you feel about him. ✨ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 05:58 AM |
| 12 | breaking mom and TikToks are my birth control 😬I simply don't understand why non-rich women want kids, especially multiple kids. A. General reasons: Children are loud, sticky, gross, destructive, like to run wild, and seem to require an absurd number toys and accessories. Having kids generally decreases happiness, at least until they're out of the house. There are a bunch of studies about this. Kids severely limit your future life choices. Kids are a lifelong commitment. I hate to tell you this, but your responsibilities don't end the day th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 05:26 PM |
| 4 | I will never understand why men feel the need to kill women if they have issues of their own.The kind that just murdered the kid's mother and doesn't want him to see the body or crime scene, and the kind who see women as their possessions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 04:58 PM |
| 8 | I’m Dating MyselfI do the same, except without the booze and with the salon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 06:01 AM |
| 31 | First time poster long time lurker. This question is intended for women who have dated white men.I'm white and I typically try to avoid dating white men because they're often very entitled and have shallow hobbies that they're obsessed with (usually sports). Most have never worked hard because they've had everything handed to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:49 AM |
| 11 | In your experience do most men drink beer/alcohol like its water?Boomers too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:23 AM |
| 47 | He’s not picking me up from the airport-is this LVM behavior?Yes, this is absurd. Even my abusive ex drove over 4 hours round-trip to pick me up from the airport once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:21 AM |
| 9 | What Benefits Does He Offer for Your Love & #Commitment?-Deborah Cooper YouTube) Schools Us...It's a shame that this is all that men ask of women, yet very few women ask it of men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 08:41 PM |
| 4 | How do you feel ok about your life after rejectionsYou get over it by building a fantastic single life for yourself that you can always go back to, and by accepting that being single should be the default. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/07/20 08:37 PM |
| 4 | How old is everyone and does that impact strategy?I'm 32 with hardly any interest in dating, let alone marriage. I post on here to try to help other women. I actually think the best time to meet a partner is before age 20. I realize how absurd that sounds, but that's the age at which most of my friends settled with their partners, and we are far from some kind of conservative, traditional community. Also, the best choice of men I had in my life was in high school. By the time I got to college, even though I went to a large state school, everyon… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 05:00 AM |
| 13 | Rich Man-child Impregnates Beautiful Harvard Grad, Calls off Engagement, Marries Princess whose Father has Epstein ConnectionDara certainly seems fabulous. 👠 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 04:57 AM |
| 1 | I was just broken up with - I need this community’s help with introspectionI wouldn't take anything he says seriously. He probably has a bunch of issues that you don't know about and is just making excuses. Actually a similar thing happened to me when I broke things off with someone: he told me I had a personality disorder, which I don't think is true at all. It's unfortunate, but you kind of have to expect things to go sour around the 3-month mark. That's just a normal outcome. If you assume it'll happen, it won't be so shocking or upsetting next time. I would suggest… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 03:40 AM |
| 8 | Women, you are not obligated to be loyal to any political ideology.This whole thing that people do to "not take sides" is extremely damaging. In US politics, there is one party that is a million times more damaging than the other, which truly is trying to take away women's rights, among many many other terrible things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 03:15 AM |
| 2 | Women, you are not obligated to be loyal to any political ideology.That is definitely a thing, but I'm not seeing a clear connection to being liberal. I have met some liberal men like that but most of them have been respectful about what works for me. A lot of them were still predators or just unacceptable, but what you described wasn't at the heart of their issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 03:08 AM |
| 5 | Women, you are not obligated to be loyal to any political ideology.Sounds like a gross oversimplification to me. I'm not sure where you're located, though - I'm in the US. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 03:02 AM |
| 16 | Suicidal thoughtsHey! *hugs* I'm so sorry for what you've been through, but you are going to be okay. The ultimate goal of life is to grow as a person to the maximum extent possible, and this is just part of your journey of self-growth. Toxic men destroy women's lives all the time. You recognized what was happening and got out before it was too late. You should pat yourself on the back, consider going to therapy, and consider going on antidepressants, both of which are very common, helpful things. And if you rea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 02:56 AM |
| 3 | Don't reschedule with a guy early onMost unfortunately, times are very different now from when The Rules was written. There's far more information out there guiding men to predatory behavior, way more porn, and of course, dating apps that make all women disposable. I don't think I will tolerate being cancelled on in the first 4-5 dates ever again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 02:50 AM |
| 12 | Being a divorced woman is a badge of honor.Brava! Absolutely, it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 02:46 AM |
| 0 | Women, you are not obligated to be loyal to any political ideology.The left views women as public property How so? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 02:45 AM |
| 6 | Don't reschedule with a guy early onGreat policy. Low expectations and less disappointment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 04:21 PM |
| 79 | Why is the bar so low for men in the states?I don't know, but it's a damn mess. Broke, won't brush their teeth, not a care in the world about any aspect of their appearance, obsessed with Star Wars and video games, "can't remember" to do even the slightest of tasks, and refuse to use calendar reminders, no friends, can't cook... Is it ever an embarrassment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 05:45 AM |
| 10 | Guys who play video games, obsess over cars in a childish way, or collect stupid piece of plastic as "hobbies"One of my exes watched wrestling 40 hours a week and sports on top of that. He was obsessed with the game Monkey Island, Star Wars, and Star Trek. And now, at age 34, he's still in the entry level job he started over six years ago from which most people get promoted after 6-12 months. Yep.. not for me, if for no other reason than that it completely killed my sexual attraction to him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 04:32 AM |
| 3 | Men know immediately with who they gonna marryI bet I can guess which state that is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 09:19 PM |
| 48 | A full grown tape wormSo scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 06:57 PM |
| 160 | A full grown tape wormPrecisely. All women need to understand that this is most men's MO. Most of them are not nice people who think about the good of everyone, etc. like we are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 05:31 PM |
| 265 | A full grown tape wormThis is normal male thinking and behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 05:17 PM |
| 2 | He’s never going to change for you- The mentality of the LVMI relish in the hope that he's still obsessed with me and will never get over me, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 11:54 AM |
| 10 | Should I Tell Him I Think He's Cute? What Do Y'all Think?If a guy wants you, he will start pursuing you. If you start pursuing him like this, it will most likely end in embarrassment for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Can I have this please?I've had two exes steal money from me. They don't see us as humans or think about ethics. It's all about how much they can get out of us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 11:32 AM |
| 8 | Can I have this please?I don't think this is a good idea. All women need their own nest egg. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 12:03 AM |
| 1 | The Domestic Violence Case That Turned Outrage Into Action | Retro ReportIt's okay, you shouldn't feel stupid. It's everywhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 11:40 PM |
| 2 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?I'm frustrated that after 4 years we don't live together, we've not been able to go on holiday and dates I've lost interest in our future together. I'm also questioning if I actually fancy him. There's nothing in there that makes it sound like you have any real reason to stay with him. I could be wondering if he's actually what I want. Good!! This is exactly what you should be thinking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 11:17 PM |
| 3 | The Domestic Violence Case That Turned Outrage Into Action | Retro ReportYes, it's understandable that you think that because that's the way almost everyone writes it, but it's not correct. Here's a good explanation: https://www.thepunctuationguide.com/apostrophe.html Of course, everyone knows what you meant, and it's ultimately not really that important, so I'm sorry to call you out on it. But when you quoted me with the incorrect apostrophe, I was like, oh hellll nawww :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 10:56 PM |
| 4 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?Since you came here for advice about your boyfriend - it sounds like you're just not into him and should probably break up with him. I had a relationship like this in my 20s - he was nice and so on but I just didn't feel it. I broke up with him at 28 and have endured an unimaginable dating hell in the four years since. However, I'm overall much happier. I've learned not to care about men at all. I don't get invested in them. I work, study data science after work, have traveled to 11 countries in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 10:35 PM |
| 2 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?This is all way more of a problem than your boyfriend stuff. You absolutely need to get in cognitive behavioral therapy yesterday. Please don't delay - not doing anything about this deeply seeded issues that you have is going to steal way more of your future than your boyfriend. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 10:21 PM |
| 2 | The Domestic Violence Case That Turned Outrage Into Action | Retro ReportIt's not hostility. I'm just very tired of seeing 90% of people, most of whom should know better, using apostrophes incorrectly. You're absolutely right about the cops. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 10:12 PM |
| 3 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?That's beside the point. You have to work on you! Accepting you, loving you, and doing what's best for you. You are who matters here, not your boyfriend. You're depending on your boyfriend for validation and a vision of the future, which isn't good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 10:03 PM |
| 2 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?You have to start from a place of being content by yourself. Otherwise you'll stay in situations that aren't good for you, and you'll be even more likely to be preyed upon by predators because you're desperate not to be alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 09:49 PM |
| 5 | Why Men In Their Thirties Won't Commit — Solitary BeastAbsolutely. His website is full of photos of Black women to go along with his misogynist agenda. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 05:32 PM |
| 3 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?No! I tried kombucha once or twice, wasn't a big fan, and have since stayed away from such things. But I'll try to remember the milk and water kefir. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 03:56 PM |
| 4 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?I mean, I work from home and I don't have a kid, so I have plenty of time for this. Oh, same. I have insulin resistance and am not supposed to be eating much bread anyway, so I haven't made any, but some of my friends love it. Highly recommend the website The Woks of Life :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 03:39 PM |
| 7 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?This urgently needs to be treated. Have you seen a doctor or therapist? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 03:21 PM |
| 13 | Ladies, line up for your chance to give this man head in his car! This self proclaimed disease-free, kink-friendly cheater could be all yours (for an afternoon) for the small price of your dignity! [BARF]Is this what you all call porn sickness? He's watched so much that he thinks this would be a normal relationship? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 01:58 PM |
| 3 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?I can't imagine being happy alone. This is a problem. Can you elaborate? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 01:52 PM |
| 5 | Are there any older women here who are happily single?💙 I make almost all my food from scratch! Mostly Chinese food. I just started in November.. it's great ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 01:50 PM |
| 23 | Why Men In Their Thirties Won't Commit — Solitary BeastYour 30s are no age at all. Honestly, there are so many women who look great in their 50s, 60s, and 70s. Fifty is basically the new 30. I'll give them that I did look better when I was 16-20, but that came at the cost of an eating disorder, which I'm no longer willing to pay. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 03:22 AM |
| 48 | Why Men In Their Thirties Won't Commit — Solitary BeastAll of that is fine. All of us are better off without men anyway. They're almost always just a drain on our resources (time, energy and money) and a distraction from the fabulous lives we should be having without them. PS - I'm more attractive now at 32 than I was at 21. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 02:19 AM |
| 7 | Can someone reassure me that I did the right thing by walking away?Most men never grow up past the "what can I manipulate Mommy into giving me/doing for me?" phase. That's what's happening here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 01:22 AM |
| 7 | The Domestic Violence Case That Turned Outrage Into Action | Retro ReportNo, I didn't say "in the 70's" with an incorrect apostrophe 😉 Cops are an automatic left-swipe for me. They're more likely to be violent. They could kill me and have a way better chance at getting away with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 08:13 PM |
| 20 | The Domestic Violence Case That Turned Outrage Into Action | Retro ReportI know, that pissed me off too. Women need to understand that this is the system that men created, and still want, which thrived for centuries. Only when they were required to did men start to pretend to see women as equal partners and so on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:49 PM |
| 38 | Reminder not to over-investFor me, it's about: How much time am I spending either with him or thinking about him? How many of my own activities have I neglected because I've been prioritizing my relationship with him? Have I been considering his preferences too much in things like meal or vacation planning? Am I continuing to invest in my future as a single person - moving forward with career plans, making sure my financial ducks are in a row, making sure I stay in touch with my friends - or am I skipping some or all of t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:33 PM |
| 19 | The Domestic Violence Case That Turned Outrage Into Action | Retro ReportYes, the story of Lorena Bobbitt is tragic. She was fully invested in the marriage and he was just another selfish, evil, abusive man. The whole story is on Amazon Prime (Lorena). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:27 PM |
| 25 | Can someone reassure me that I did the right thing by walking away?...the most amazing man ever. He’s really handsome, really attentive, etc. I originally thought he was a HVM, he was always affectionate, always thoughtful, never let me open a thing, carry a thing, or even get up or complain before he took care of things. He like even massaged my shoulders without asking I thought you were going to say you had been dating this guy for a few months or years. You were assuming all the above information after two dates?! Exactly how many hours did you spend with t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:18 PM |
| 24 | The Domestic Violence Case That Turned Outrage Into Action | Retro ReportIn the 1970s, police officers considered domestic violence a private affair and did not arrest men even when it was obvious that they had been beating their wives. Then the "Burning Bed" case - when a woman killed her abusive husband - made headlines and caused a national outcry. Today, despite stronger protections, millions of women a year are still abused by a partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 03:09 PM |
| 36 | excuse me.... what? He never got a response.He thinks this is cute and funny, but in reality men steal so much money, time, confidence, and everything else they can from women that even if he isn't serious, it's really not. And of course, he probably would happily take whatever he could get from her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 02:59 PM |
| 4 | Men who prefer a toxic woman over a loving, respectful HVWSelf-sabotage | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Divorced ladies and name changesThey probably do but may not realize it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 04:45 PM |
| 5 | Divorced ladies and name changesI am sorry you have to deal with racism in terms of your name. How horrible. Just shouldn't be a thing anyone has to consider. I always think it's awesome when women choose their own last name and don't just keep their father's when their father is a lvm. Even though my parents were only together for 13 months, and divorced when I was 2 months old, my mother gave me my father's last name, and I hate it, but I'm too lazy to change it - sounds like a headache. I did work with a woman who changed h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/07/20 02:06 AM |
| 3 | This subreddit has me so focused on myself that I don't even feel the need to put myself out there to dating, especially with OLD. Who knew female DATING strategy would help me focus on me.Yay! Great analogy. I wish your mindset were the default for women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 05:01 AM |
| 3 | This subreddit has me so focused on myself that I don't even feel the need to put myself out there to dating, especially with OLD. Who knew female DATING strategy would help me focus on me.Maybe you're just not interested in those specific things, which is okay. I took up cooking Asian food this past fall and it's been great. I also study data science outside of work. Point is you have to find activities that you like ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 05:00 AM |
| 3 | More women like me are choosing to be childfree. Is this the age of opting out?Thank you for writing this. It's extremely important and I've read it several times. I think it is strange that people expect to have wonderful retirement years. Sure, if it happens, it's great, but it's certainly nothing to count on. People get sick and have accidents all the time. The idea that one would want to sell their house in a city and buy a house in the country also seems odd. Why take on that risk? It would be far cheaper and more interesting to snowbird in some relatively safe area i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 03:45 AM |
| 3 | More women like me are choosing to be childfree. Is this the age of opting out?There are obviously many directions we could take this conversation in, but one thing I find interesting is this: my first boyfriend went to prep school and then did his undergrad and master's at one of the most elite universities in the world (here in the US). He's an engineer and his entire school life was stressful to the point of causing him to actually get an ongoing stress-related disease, not to mention insanely expensive. On the other hand, I was always a public school girl, my degrees w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Solidarity and support for our Egyptian Sisters- (r/TwoXChromosomes): Egypt is a hellhole and no one caresVery glad to hear that. I probably will still go at some point as part of an organized tour. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 11:45 AM |
| 473 | Jenna Jameson is recounting how she was groomed and trafficked into the sex industry and scrotes are having a meltdown in the comments. They’re always mad when the truth interrupts their fapping.There is nothing even remotely normal about the existence of porn and it is nothing less than tragic that it is seen as such. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:17 AM |
| 2 | Trying to put FDS into practice. Critique me, ladies!Mine was 10 months ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 03:01 AM |
| 6 | Trying to put FDS into practice. Critique me, ladies!🐻👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 02:55 AM |
| 0 | Do you ever just wonder why you still like men...Yes, totally. Haha, your family is like the total opposite of mine. I only have one living relative that I know of and I'm in my early 30s. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 11:05 PM |
| 3 | If you’re this bitter, it might be best to just remove yourself from the dating pool.If you're this bitter married | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:55 PM |
| 15 | Trying to put FDS into practice. Critique me, ladies!This weekend I learned that male black bears cover a territory of 200+ square miles looking for female bears to mate with. The female bears only cover 8 square miles. Be like the bears, ladies 🐻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:52 PM |
| 8 | Trying to put FDS into practice. Critique me, ladies!Has anyone on here actually had a guy on a dating app ask them on a proper date in the last year? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Do you ever just wonder why you still like men...Do you want kids? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:20 PM |
| 26 | Solidarity and support for our Egyptian Sisters- (r/TwoXChromosomes): Egypt is a hellhole and no one caresI am an experienced solo traveler. One of my acquaintances is a diplomat who lived in Egypt for three years. She advised me to never set foot there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:18 PM |
| 5 | I confront my high school boyfriend about abusing me"Sorry you felt that way" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Why women need FDS: women still don't know it's acceptable to set expectations and boundaries early on when they're getting to know someone.I've been blamed on this sub for their behavior before. At this point, I just assume they're all predators until proven otherwise over years. And actually, now that I think about it, that doesn't work either. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 07:36 PM |
| 85 | I asked him what he thinks about #metoo and the wage gap... These are red flags right?!"the types of careers that women are naturally interested in pursuing..." 🙄🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 02:22 AM |
| 10 | Membership increasing like crazyhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Streisand_effect | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 03:03 AM |
| 13 | Anyone else been polishing their looks lately?I also try to look polished and put together at all times and also never get hit on, thank goodness | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 07:57 PM |
| 6 | Anyone else been polishing their looks lately?Recommend cowashing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 07:55 PM |
| 2 | Why women need FDS: women still don't know it's acceptable to set expectations and boundaries early on when they're getting to know someone.2-4 months | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 04:53 PM |
| 36 | At least 26 women and girls have been killed during the coronavirus lockdown, and others were trapped with abusers. But pleas for emergency support have largely gone unanswered.This article is about the UK. I am American and do not mean to single the UK out. We have many, many similar and worse problems here in the US. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 08:46 PM |
| 12 | 2 questions that completely changed my outlook on datingBrava! 👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 02:36 AM |
| 19 | First dateThis is very normal for men. They all know how to act nice, but ultimately most of them don't respect women as people, and they will squeeze everything they can get out of you. It's their normal MO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 05:23 PM |
| 17 | Why women need FDS: women still don't know it's acceptable to set expectations and boundaries early on when they're getting to know someone.Mine have always started off with real dates and then slowly dialed back to wanting me to meet them for something sexual, even at times saying we were going to go on a date and then "not feeling it" by the time it was time for that. It's happened so many times, I can't even count. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 12:22 PM |
| 70 | Why women need FDS: women still don't know it's acceptable to set expectations and boundaries early on when they're getting to know someone.I'm glad you've had a good experience. In my experience, most guys who state that they're looking for a relationship or wife still want, in actuality, a free prostitute. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 05:13 AM |
| 74 | In Light of Recent Events, I'd Like to Give This Sub My Thanks Before it Goes Down.Men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 04:11 AM |
| 5 | New blog post from Lundy Bancroft: Do you ever wonder why your abusive partner hates you?Love Sweden, wonderful country 🇸🇪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 02:28 PM |
| 7 | New blog post from Lundy Bancroft: Do you ever wonder why your abusive partner hates you?Same!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/20 01:01 PM |
| 20 | It's hard to feel sorry for Khloe when she's the biggest pickme out thereIt's also just really insulting, as if they couldn't do their own things. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 08:45 PM |
| 35 | His Bucket list includes making it to japan and his other picture is him sticking his tongue out. The fact hes dressed as the joker already shows the clown nature. I downloaded and deleted after 5 minMy trauma is causing me to read this as foreshadowing: he's trying to warn you that he's a violent person. If you match, he will get violent with you and justify it by saying "you knew from the beginning who I was and you chose me anyway." What do you all think, is that too extreme of an interpretation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 07:34 PM |
| 13 | It's hard to feel sorry for Khloe when she's the biggest pickme out thereYou're right. I just wish that now that they are made, they would post fewer sexy photos and find more causes to care about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 07:18 PM |
| 17 | Intentional single parenthood as a new default option?I grew up with my grandmother after my mom divorced my NVM father and died of cancer a few years later. I'm convinced that being reared by her, without any male influence, is one of the best things that could've happened to me. Our life was peaceful and happy and full of good food and books. I was an excellent student and have had no problem dumping boyfriends who weren't good for me for one reason or another. I think the way I grew up really enabled my stability as an adult and I wish more wome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 07:08 PM |
| 158 | It's hard to feel sorry for Khloe when she's the biggest pickme out thereThe story of the Kardashians is just tragic. Here you have these women who have more money than God and an absolutely enormous following. They could literally do anything they wanted. They could study at the finest institutions in the world, become doctors, medical researchers, astronauts, or use their money and influence to steer positive change in any field they chose. They could lobby Congress to make policy changes that would actually affect real people's lives. And Kim has recently been doi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 04:46 PM |
| 129 | I can see through your bullshit *No about me or looking for on his profile*Unmatch immediately. He's testing you to see if he can confuse you and whether you'll go along with it - a very predatory move. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 04:37 PM |
| 60 | Sorry if not this kind of post isn’t allowed. Saw in the news- A man killed his girlfriend and told the police that they were “role playing with a gun.” This had me raging for hours this morning.Don't forget that if you date or marry a man, there's a real chance he will injure or kill you. This happens every day all over the world. Lots of men want to kill women, including (and usually) their intimate partners who have done nothing but love them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 04:36 PM |
| 11 | What's with men constantly calling women bitches?I find this really weird too. I didn't hear the word until I was quite a bit older, and it was from another girl. I'm really not a big fan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 08:10 PM |
| 18 | How to stop messaging very attractive LVM?Get a cordless Hitachi magic wand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/20 07:02 AM |
| 93 | Book recommendation: Why Does He Do That? By Lundy BancroftShould be required reading for every middle school girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 06:15 PM |
| 63 | Racist LVM Scrote blogs about FDS and claims that FDS Women are delusional and mostly blackPlease don't bother reading this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 04:10 AM |
| 1 | OLD and the Fed Up WomanI have met cultured men on dating apps, but they were all either just using me for some purpose or they were abusive. Age ranges were 25-34. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 09:13 PM |
| 15 | Get professional photos done for YOU to memorialize YOUR beauty - don’t wait for a special event or milestone to happen with someone else!Yes! I often do solo photo shoots on vacations. You can find photographers by googling or on Airbnb experiences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 09:10 PM |
| 5 | Traveling South east asia as east asian womanYes, I learned about this in high school French class. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 09:07 PM |
| 5 | I started going to therapyI've had several and only liked one. She was a grad student at the time. It definitely takes a lot of time and money to find a good one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 04:29 AM |
| 5 | Can a very short man be a HVM?No way! Honestly I've dated guys between 5'4 and 6'8 and never even really thought about their height. They were all different with different qualities; height was just one tiny physical factor that didn't really matter. There is a catastrophic lack of hvm in the world and being one will most certainly set you apart no matter your height. | /r/askFDS | 24/06/20 10:38 PM |
| 17 | Imagine: it’s YOUR lifeStarted doing this at age 28, 32 now and never been happier. 🦄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 10:38 PM |
| 9 | Imagine: it’s YOUR lifeSeveral times over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 10:08 PM |
| 3 | Waiting for a proposal vs do you even want to marry him?Wait, did you get back together? I'm so proud of you for being honest with yourself, that's really hard. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 03:48 AM |
| 30 | Horrifying. Largest men's "advice" company teaches men techniques to rape women. They post secret footage of themselves using their "techniques" on unsuspecting women as educational videos for men who want to rape.Second-most relatable sub: r/MorbidReality, lol Seriously though - somehow, even though I'm extremely cynical and skeptical, men just keep getting worse and worse. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 07:44 PM |
| 14 | No surprise: CrossFit and Sexual Harassment: The Inside StoryInterviews with eight former employees, and four CrossFit athletes with strong ties to the company, reveal a management culture rife with overt and vulgar talk about women: their bodies, how much male employees, primarily Mr. Glassman, would like to have sex with them and how lucky the women should feel to have his rabid interest. According to the dozen interviewed, Mr. Glassman, 63, has verbally demeaned women, pulled at their clothes to try to peek at their cleavage and aimed his phone’s camer… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 05:22 PM |
| 23 | TIL polygamist Brigham Young got out of paying alimony to one of his ex-wives on the grounds that — since polygamy was illegal — they were never actually married.Well yeah, of course. What do you expect? The only valid rules in the male world are whatever works in men's favor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 01:40 PM |
| 14 | An app for women by women?By men, no doubt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 01:08 PM |
| 11 | At a shoe store now and heard this pick me wife say to her sulky LVM husband: "if you don't care how these look, the why did you come along?"I hate it when I'm out shopping and some completely oblivious male oaf is standing right in the main path on his phone, expecting everyone to go around him. They really are just so entitled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 01:06 PM |
| 8 | How deal with the fear of never meeting someone?Why do you need to find a partner? Most of them are horrible and drag you down with all their needs. Men mostly suck the life right out of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 12:51 PM |
| 17 | If only!I'm hopeful that both of those situations are slowly improving through changes in society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 03:41 AM |
| 58 | Facts 💅I am so, so proud of you and all the other women on this sub who come from traditional cultures and face societal pressure to settle down early but still resist! It certainly doesn't sound easy. 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 11:29 PM |
| 80 | Facts 💅And homemade food, and solo travel, and a cordless Hitachi magic wand. 🧚 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 11:27 PM |
| 78 | Depraved pedophile wants child pornThe only people they respect, or even think of as people, are other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 05:29 PM |
| 7 | How do I gain the strength to stay single and heal ?Couldn't have said it better myself. 💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 05:22 PM |
| 126 | What’s with the trend of old men wanting to collect a harem of young girls to get pregnant but never commit to? And why do they think they’re good enough to ask for it?Because for most men, life is about getting away with as much as they can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 07:03 PM |
| 58 | No scrote has all 4:It's a worldwide conspiracy designed by men. If none of them are great partners to women, then there's much less pressure on all of them, and we become grateful for whatever little tiny scraps they throw at us while focusing almost exclusively on themselves. Meanwhile, women are in a race to the top in every area of their lives including relationships. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 12:07 AM |
| 3 | Jay Z will always be kinda weird to meAgree. Have you been listening to Even the Rich? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 06:52 PM |
| 8 | It does get lonely, but being with a bad partner is far worse than lonely.Kind of annoying how every meme now demands that we "read it again" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 03:22 PM |
| 24 | Mixed signalsThis is called slow-fading. He's just not into you, and that's okay. I guarantee you he probably sucks as a person like the vast majority of men do. Just let him go and try to use most of your time on things that are for you instead of worrying about men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 11:17 PM |
| 78 | I was a HUGE fan of Chris D’Elia. I saw one of his shows in November and listened to his podcast religiously. Now I feel gross for how much support I gave him. I feel like this happens every time I enjoy things men make, whether it be art, comedy, music, movies, etc. They’re all depraved creeps.Yep, this is the norm. I always just assume that there's some sexually unsavory part of all men now until proven otherwise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 11:14 PM |
| 33 | Is dating even worth it?Sounds like a hvm! I'm not you, but I grew up with adults telling me to "do what you love, the money will follow," and other bullshit, and if I could go back to being 18 I would study computer science/engineering, data science, finance, medicine or nursing. I do have a preferred higher-end lifestyle that some people definitely don't care about - but it's something to consider. Life is expensive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 09:38 PM |
| 3 | every apology from LVM everOmg, wish I could text this to the last guy who said that to me some 4-5 months ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 09:23 PM |
| 9 | Guys would use my tip to make their dinner cheaperHoly shit. Just when I thought I'd heard it all.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 09:22 PM |
| 109 | Is dating even worth it?32 here; completely agree. Pretend that you're going to be single forever and make plans according to that. Money is important, so plan for a career. Make friends, travel, take classes, learn hobbies, learn to cook wonderful food for yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 09:19 PM |
| 17 | Scrotes Unhinged: The Bizarre Case of Stephen McDanielPosted to FDS because it explores the psychological aspects of stalkers, plus offers an explanation of intuition. Trust your guts, ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 08:02 PM |
| 6 | You Do Not ExpireLOL! This blog has the best recipes: https://thewoksoflife.com/ Enjoy! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 07:09 PM |
| 28 | I can’t decide which one is more shameful here...the girl, the guy, or the parents letting this happen.At least he got his tongue out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 05:05 PM |
| 37 | What did i do or endure to deserve this kind of attitude 😭You have to use logic and get away from this pattern regardless of how attached you feel. How he treats you is more important than how you feel about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 03:43 AM |
| 113 | You Do Not ExpireEvery year, I get smarter, I make more money, the value of my investments increases, I learn new skills and discover whole new aspects of life to keep me going. In the last three years, I've traveled to 11 countries and gone through a huge transition at my company. In the last two years, I've learned a solid foundation for data science and programming and started building my portfolio. In the last seven months, I've learned how to cook more than 50 different dishes, almost everything I ever orde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/20 03:42 AM |
| 26 | Online but won’t respond?This is normal. He just lost interest because he only wanted the chase. Just stop talking to him and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 10:23 PM |
| 6 | Why meeting multiple narcissists, sociopaths & psychopaths is more common than you thinkThank you so much for posting this. I knew about these concepts before, but this article does a great job combining them succinctly. Unfortunately this has been a huge part of my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 02:54 AM |
| 17 | NVM doesn‘t even try...This is actually worth a chuckle when read as satire. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/20 02:44 AM |
| 14 | Woman goes on hunger strike for 10 days to get increasingly sick husband to go to the hospital.The logic is flawed in that she expected her husband to actually care about her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 05:53 PM |
| 14 | I’m off the blame game.Yes, this actually happened to me right here on this sub the other night. I was told that since I waited 2 months for sex with my exes, that it must be my fault for some other reason that they hit me, stole my money, etc. This is a systemic problem where men have learned to be parasites, taught by their fathers and male relatives how to get more and more out of women while giving nothing back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 01:36 PM |
| 4 | Is it a red flag if you happen to agree with a man all the time?So if you like him so much - has he asked you out? Has there been any talk of a relationship? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 01:33 PM |
| 103 | I'll never look at a single man who adopts a child, especially a female child, and not think "This man is likely a predator, he could be abusing/ grooming her, etc". Sure, some men genuinely want to be a father independent of their relationship status. But it doesn't seem right. Sorry not sorry.On the one hand, I feel like we should encourage this hvm behavior, but on the other, I'm like you, and knowing how common sexual abuse is, it's difficult not to be suspicious. Hopefully that's not the case here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 01:29 PM |
| 15 | Woman goes on hunger strike for 10 days to get increasingly sick husband to go to the hospital.This is purely anecdotal, but in my experience this is more of an American male thing. The foreign guys I've dated have had no problem seeing a doctor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/20 01:12 PM |
| 9 | What FDS is criticized for: What you may be misunderstandingAlso, many of us have given extreme leeway and benefit of the doubt to men - going Dutch with them, forgiving them for unacceptable behaviors, giving them money that they were supposed to pay back and so on, just like the red pillers want - only for them to take further and further advantage of us: hit us, steal our money, lie, cheat, manipulate us, and more. Men have no idea how evil the vast majority of men are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 10:57 PM |
| 7 | What was the breaking point of your breakups ?It's extremely difficult because you have to ignore your emotions and use logic, which is the opposite of what we're taught to do with men all our lives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 10:51 PM |
| 20 | Why do men's pants have such big pockets? To hold the audacity...LADIES 🚫 Stop 👏 continuing 👏 conversations 👏 with 👏 fools!!! 🚫 It's a huge waste of time. They're not going to change. They're not going to become interesting or morph into your Prince Charming! They're never going to really care about you. All of their possible reasons for messaging you are completely selfish, trust me. Block, block, block!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 10:47 PM |
| 25 | More from backpedal city - scrote almost cries for his mommy 🤡Girl, you must have better things to do than waste time with this clown. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 10:42 PM |
| 50 | « Men having to pay for dates is unfair because it doesn’t even guarantee pussy » as if women were supposed to be the ones paying to be used as a sex objectAlmost no men see women as anything more than pussies with other potential uses. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 08:56 PM |
| 4 | To all the pickmes browsing this subWait, who feels like FDS is unfair, and why? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 02:01 PM |
| 6 | Don’t put love before your financial success and education 💅I wish I had never even thought about men or dating and had instead explored different careers with my own future success in mind rather than finding a successful partner. It's exceptionally difficult to find a decent man and not worth the time imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/20 04:46 AM |
| 20 | They can't function without constant over stimulation and wonder why they're miserableThanks. That makes me feel better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 05:35 AM |
| 41 | Me: a mentally and emotionally tired black woman; Him: a white man with no understanding of boundariesI'm so sorry you have to deal with this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 05:10 AM |
| 5 | Is this normal?Rereading it, I see how it was confusing. But yeah, I was totally taken aback by his kind understanding. I kind of just wanted to tell him upfront so he could bolt if he found it too much of a red flag. Things didn't work out anyway though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 03:40 AM |
| 10 | Is this normal?I wasn't saying that the guy I referenced was rude at all - exactly the opposite. I was saying that OP's guy's reaction was rude. I was presenting them as opposites. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 03:33 AM |
| 111 | They can't function without constant over stimulation and wonder why they're miserableI really hope this is true, but I'm just so cynical at this point that I think they truly enjoy their predatory lifestyles. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Realizing he’s not that into youI didn't report anything. I completely agree with this advice, which is stated over and over in my comments on the thread. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 02:28 AM |
| 20 | Is this normal?I mean, we were also in our 30s though. If you guys are really young or if he's from a wealthy family, he may just have unrealistic ideas about money for normal people. However, his response was still rude and unacceptable. A guy who was into you would accept your flaws and want to help in any way he could - I don't mean pay it off for you but try to come up with a helpful response. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 02:16 AM |
| 37 | Is this normal?This is not normal. To give a counterexample, last year I was seeing a guy who was very good with money, no debt and 70k+ cash and a fully-funded retirement account. I told him about my credit card debt (not recommended) and he was like, "oh, it's okay, it's really hard to get through life these days without some debt." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 02:06 AM |
| 3 | Realizing he’s not that into youYou can see the usernames on each comment. I'm curlygirl507 and the other user was sadpourtoujours. What you're talking about is totally different from what my original comment was about. We totally agree that women who want a relationship should wait for sex. There's no question about that. I'm saying that even if you wait for sex, things still may not work out. Sadpourtoujours was saying that's wrong - I must've done something to make the relationship not work out. I'm sure what's happening is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:38 AM |
| 2 | Realizing he’s not that into youThis really isn't about you and me. The other user, who I blocked, started asking a bunch of pointed questions meant to teach me that if I waited 2-3 months for sex and things didn't work out, it absolutely must have been my fault in some other way. I realize she's just projecting, but it was very much victim-blaming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:22 AM |
| 4 | Realizing he’s not that into youMistaken how? I'm saying that waiting 2 months is definitely a must, but it isn't 100% foolproof. It is not going to protect you from bad men all the time. That was my original comment. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 01:10 AM |
| 4 | Realizing he’s not that into youI refuse to take responsibility for my ex-boyfriend's (yes, he was my actual boyfriend) abuse. Before him, I made a lot of mistakes when dating (I thought we were dating - we really weren't) someone else who actually was a sexual predator (player). This was 3 years ago. I read all the books and blogs and worked on myself a lot. I developed a lot more rules and boundaries. That was my time to get real with myself and understand how men think. Btw, I don't consider what he did my fault either. The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/20 12:56 AM |
| 10 | "Straight white men are oppressed too 😔" on a post about black lives matter and being against women getting raped.Love the suggested eggplant emoji 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 11:20 PM |
| 20 | Shera is a queen. 💅🏼 Follow her on insta and youtube!Yes, like, the idea that women are so desperate to eat that they'd fuck a total stranger is so bizarre. I think it's just a male fantasy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 11:08 PM |
| 11 | Shera is a queen. 💅🏼 Follow her on insta and youtube!Love from men to women is very rare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 11:07 PM |
| 3 | Realizing he’s not that into youWhat errors did I make? Lol. Listen, this is really a community for support, not for blaming abuse victims because they didn't follow every single FDS rule years before it even existed or whatever. You can learn from your experiences while not blaming yourself for someone else's behavioral choices. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 10:57 PM |
| 6 | Realizing he’s not that into youRight, this happens all the time. It's good to wait, not get attached etc. but it's not foolproof. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 10:42 PM |
| 4 | Realizing he’s not that into youWow, you sound very eager to blame me while knowing nothing of the story. Btw, FDS hasn't been around that long. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 10:42 PM |
| 21 | Realizing he’s not that into youI've waited 2-3 months multiple times only to be lied to, used for sex, and either abused or thrown away like trash. I agree with waiting but it's not completely foolproof. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 09:13 PM |
| 14 | Realizing he’s not that into youIt doesn't even matter if they're committed. Most of them are still ultimately just using you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 09:12 PM |
| 8 | Feminist Waves happen when women collectively realize that their individual issues are actually pervasive cultural problems. Men try to prevent this by blaming women for men’s behavior and pretending like it’s solely a personal problem.Thank you for saying this. 💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 05:39 AM |
| 1 | Dating advice with remaining a HVW in Quarantine?Learn new skills, anything that interests you. Lots of free and low-cost resources online. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 11:30 PM |
| 126 | So I tried fds as hashtag on insta - what I found made me throw up in my mouth. How is this not considered dangerous and/or hate speech? LVMs think ladies owe them sex just because they exist. What a piece of trash.Men think they're the prize. They're wrong. Also, it's "being run." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 11:28 PM |
| 5 | What did you personally do to absolve your abandonment issues/ self worth issues/ feelings of scarcity (that no one else would ever possibly want to be with you or be faithful to you)?Cognitive behavioral therapy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 11:27 PM |
| 8 | He’s never going to change for you- The mentality of the LVMThe interchangeability is what kills me the most. Nothing I've worked for or stood for matters. It's just like, I'm there, I have a pussy so they might as well use it and get whatever else they can out of me. Makes me feel like absolute trash | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 10:57 PM |
| 8 | He’s never going to change for you- The mentality of the LVMThank you from the bottom of my 💓 for writing this. I have it saved and have read it a couple of times. I have an ex who's an addict who is exactly like this. He's attractive and has a great career and a nice house, but his life is ultimately ruled by his addiction to weed and alcohol (formerly oxy). I think as he got to know me and saw how I didn't need substances, part of him started to hate me and he sabotaged the relationship by becoming abusive. He told me he felt badly about it, but I wasn… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 09:28 PM |
| 4 | Level Up- your favorite clothing sources?I just spent like $45 on two pairs of underwear from Etsy to see if they're worth it since my beloved stretch cotton hiphuggers from VS are no longer available. Wish me luck :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 06:52 PM |
| 2 | Level Up- your favorite clothing sources?Yes - I have a bunch of baggy Johnny Was pieces so I know what you're talking about. What about a nice v-neck top with a high-waisted skirt (I need the stretchy kind but maybe you don't)? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/20 06:50 PM |
| 3 | I've noticed a pattern in the type of LVM I get involved with. What does that say about me?Oh, so it's hard to tell in advance. I think this is just a general male problem right now and normal. Most men seem to have a lot of employment problems for various reasons. Another reason why I almost never bother. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 05:27 PM |
| 2 | I've noticed a pattern in the type of LVM I get involved with. What does that say about me?Is this through online dating? I only swipe right on guys who make a good income - basically engineers, doctors and lawyers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 05:20 PM |
| 6 | Blocking = Peace of mindLove this! You're awesome! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 05:15 PM |
| 156 | Guys who ask to be FWBs while expecting the girl to see no one else. Be careful of these types out there ladies, especially if you’re young or working on becoming more assertive.What would she be getting out of it? Just some low-value dick? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 05:07 PM |
| 57 | No longer developing feelings for menI'm right there with you - unable to develop romantic feelings. I do believe in love, but I think it's extremely rare. 99.9% of the time it's bullshit. I just consider myself lucky to have found my soulmate early in life even though I lost him just a few years later. Most people don't even get that. I don't expect to have a relationship in the future or get married. The world is unfortunately full of predatory men and I'm not going to put up with their behaviors. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 05:53 AM |
| 11 | Let's talk about serial monogamistsYep! It only took my abusive ex a week or two to replace me. It didn't mean anything that he'd already brought up engagement with me. He has major addiction problems. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 05:49 AM |
| 35 | Gee, I wonder why r/Incels is banned and we’re not? 🤔I can't believe this is a thought anyone has ever had, let alone acted upon. Terrifying. As disappointed and distrustful I am of men generally, I actually want the best for them. It bothers some people on here when I say that, but it's just part of my life philosophy. Wanting the best for all others helps me feel calm and peaceful - the opposite of this person. 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 05:03 AM |
| 12 | Imagine if she said this to him. Men are so insecure that most can’t even tolerate their partner talking to another man, but they get to do and say this and tell us it’s “normal”.This is totally fucking weird. There's no way this is normal at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 04:10 AM |
| 2 | Protect your most valuable resource: your time!I've had better at a restaurant, but this is a pretty good one: https://thewoksoflife.com/braised-chinese-mushrooms-bok-choy/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 03:24 AM |
| 2 | Protect your most valuable resource: your time!💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/20 03:01 AM |
| 2 | Protect your most valuable resource: your time!Let me know how it goes! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 08:11 PM |
| 27 | It’s legal in 35 states for cops to rape you after detaining you.Holy shit, there are so many things wrong here that I'm not even sure where to start. I guess with this: it shouldn't need to be made expressly illegal for cops to rape anyone they've apprehended! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 07:59 PM |
| 15 | 🤬 We Need A Global Women’s Rights MovementYes, this is called female genital mutilation. https://www.bbc.com/news/world-47131052 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 07:42 PM |
| 2 | Protect your most valuable resource: your time!I'm not an expert and new to it myself, but like, DataQuest is fine for complete beginners. I would just get on there and maybe try the first lesson and see if you like it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 07:38 PM |
| 14 | Protect your most valuable resource: your time!Stop and ask yourself, what am I going to get out of this? And don't I have anything better to do? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 06:11 PM |
| 8 | Protect your most valuable resource: your time!Make sure you put everything on GitHub as you're doing it so you can show it to prospective employers later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 05:28 PM |
| 6 | Protect your most valuable resource: your time!I'm not an expert on this subject, but I would do a lot of research before paying for a boot camp. There are free and low-cost, self-paced online curricula and certificates that are a fraction of the price of boot camps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 05:18 PM |
| 7 | Protect your most valuable resource: your time!You're welcome! I just want as many women as possible to be saved from this horrible torture. I've been going through the data scientist curriculum on DataQuest. I paid for it (it's only like $300-400 a year), but the first part is free so you could go through it and see if you like it. I have also paid for a couple of Udacity courses in the past. I really liked them, but they are 10x as expensive. There is another curriculum called DataCamp that I looked at briefly but decided against due to ge… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 05:09 PM |
| 10 | Protect your most valuable resource: your time!I'm going through the entire recipe catalog on this wonderful blog, my favorite website of all time: https://thewoksoflife.com/ My favorites are: Eggplant-string bean stir fry Shrimp fried rice Chicken and broccoli with brown sauce Chicken and snow peas Taiwanese beef noodle soup Braised mushrooms with baby bok choy Green beans with pork Teriyaki salmon (Japanese but included on the blog) Japchae (Korean) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 04:54 PM |
| 12 | Protect your most valuable resource: your time!I'm right there with you. You can learn programming pretty quickly; just don't give up. The time will pass anyway so you might as well do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 04:48 PM |
| 8 | Protect your most valuable resource: your time!Yes, this is exactly right. Thank you for sharing. This song goes way beyond the scope of what I wrote to ask the question, what could have been done on a collective, compounding level if even a small proportion of women stopped giving men so much time? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 04:38 PM |
| 31 | "I pay for you, I own you"Holy fucking shit. The more I read on here, the more thankful I am that I grew up without a father or any other males. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 04:22 PM |
| 3 | It's almost summer beware of "hiking" or "walk around dates"I haven't seen it, but yes, that too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 04:08 PM |
| 2 | It's almost summer beware of "hiking" or "walk around dates"Thanks. Horrible | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 03:00 PM |
| 4 | It's almost summer beware of "hiking" or "walk around dates"Yes, exactly. Thanks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 03:00 PM |
| 4 | It's almost summer beware of "hiking" or "walk around dates"Was that in Oregon? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 02:44 PM |
| 59 | It's almost summer beware of "hiking" or "walk around dates"Yes, generally agree, but dog park dates are also lazy and very low-effort. Boat dates scare me the most. I'm no expert but it doesn't seem safe to me at all. There's nowhere to run and he would be in complete control. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 02:12 PM |
| 52 | He also told me he cheated on an ex but he was “just being a guy”Yeah, sounds like he's setting her up to submit to him controlling what she wears. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 12:28 PM |
| 2 | Does he have a girlfriend?Believe me when I say that men don't give a single fuck about that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 12:25 PM |
| 3 | Craigslist Best Of: CHEROKEE BOY WHO HATES CHILDRENYou never know! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 04:41 AM |
| 5 | I just learned from AskMen that men don't need to wear sunscreen! Because women are attracted to older men. I realized I actually am attracted to men who look like thisYeah, I mentioned that because I once watched a documentary about counterfeit products and they're often made in the same factory as the real ones, and even the experts can have trouble telling them apart. I think it's a little more difficult with the Japanese products to buy directly from a store. Biore watery essence didn't used to be on Amazon prime and I would order it on Amazon from a Japanese seller; it would take a few weeks to arrive. That might be safer if it's still an option. But I've… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 03:56 AM |
| 2 | I just learned from AskMen that men don't need to wear sunscreen! Because women are attracted to older men. I realized I actually am attracted to men who look like thisDefinitely go asap. If you eat beef, you're in for a treat. If you're American, when you get home, all food will taste like plastic. I could go on and on. I love Japan 😍🇯🇵 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 03:51 AM |
| 2 | I just learned from AskMen that men don't need to wear sunscreen! Because women are attracted to older men. I realized I actually am attracted to men who look like thisI haven't had any problems, but that's a fair criticism. I'm just not sure how one would be certain any other website's offerings wouldn't be fake, either. In fact, how would I know whether my current batch that I purchased in Tokyo is authentic either? Scary | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 03:21 AM |
| 3 | I just learned from AskMen that men don't need to wear sunscreen! Because women are attracted to older men. I realized I actually am attracted to men who look like this😂 I love Mt. Fuji! I've been twice and also seen it from Tokyo. I have several wall scrolls in my room of Fuji-san 🗻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 02:49 AM |
| 12 | I just learned from AskMen that men don't need to wear sunscreen! Because women are attracted to older men. I realized I actually am attracted to men who look like thisProbably this one, but I can't say for sure: https://www.amazon.com/Shiseido-Senka-Aging-Sunscreen-SPF50/dp/B00O6DXICO/ref=sr_1_7?crid=2BAR76KUFWL3P&dchild=1&keywords=shiseido+sunscreen&qid=1591490871&s=beauty&sprefix=shiseido+%2Cbeauty%2C181&sr=1-7#customerReviews You can return it if your skin doesn't like it. I suggested Biore Watery Essence to someone else above, but it can be a little drying. I had a Shiseido one in the past that was a little gentler, but it wasn't the exact same one as abo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 12:50 AM |
| 7 | I just learned from AskMen that men don't need to wear sunscreen! Because women are attracted to older men. I realized I actually am attracted to men who look like thisI love Biore Watery Essence and it's on Amazon prime - get the one that says 1.7, like this one: https://www.amazon.com/Biore-Sarasara-Watery-Essence-Sunscreen/dp/B0791WCWHX?th=1 It will last about 4 months with daily use. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/06/20 12:47 AM |
| 32 | I just learned from AskMen that men don't need to wear sunscreen! Because women are attracted to older men. I realized I actually am attracted to men who look like thisPS, Japanese sunscreen is a million times better than American. Sunscreen technology in the US is extremely outdated. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 11:08 PM |
| 6 | This is the harsh reality!!! This is why you should only date a HVM, and stop wasting your precious time on dusties that don’t even love you 👑😌That's true, but don't fall for the trap of "they just don't know any better." A whole lot of them are extremely manipulative and know exactly what they're doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 10:57 PM |
| 4 | My personal dating strategyI completely agree with you, but this sub attracts a lot of users who are looking for a husband asap and get upset when this is mentioned. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 08:35 PM |
| 6 | Will I ever be "feminine" enough?This might help: I'm 32 and have five ex-boyfriends. I broke up with all of them. At this point I wish I had never dated anyone and just focused on myself, my interests, my career and financial success. Also, I'm a former tomboy with PCOS who transformed into a girly-girl in high school. I now have a boho style, and I enjoy it, but part of me wishes I had stayed true to my original self and not focused so much on the external. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 03:59 PM |
| 2 | Some lessons learned from my recovering pickmeisha stay-at-home mom BFF and her traumatic birthing experience with a LVM/NVM. If you are a lurker and on the fence fully committing to the FDS philosophy, HEAR what it FEELS like to have a LVM as a spouse when you almost die bearing his SEEDIt's really a shame because so many of them are attractive, smart and successful - but I've had bad experiences with at least five different individuals, all from the same developing country. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 03:55 PM |
| 121 | The disturbing fact that he’s tweeting this like it’s a cute joke. No sir, YOU’RE the jokeHow women think: • I want the best for everyone • I want to help others • I want the world to be a better place • I'm sure he would help out more if he knew how / realized there was a need • Most men are good people, they just don't know any better • I want us to grow as people together • I'm going to live my life in an ethical way How most men think: • Ethics are for suckers • I'm here to take as much for myself as possible • What do I get out of it? How can I maximize my own personal benefit i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 03:46 PM |
| 40 | This is me not settling for less :) I’m glad I did it. You ladies can do it too!No more chances with this one. Block and move on. They love to feign innocence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 03:38 PM |
| 8 | Some lessons learned from my recovering pickmeisha stay-at-home mom BFF and her traumatic birthing experience with a LVM/NVM. If you are a lurker and on the fence fully committing to the FDS philosophy, HEAR what it FEELS like to have a LVM as a spouse when you almost die bearing his SEED😱 His selfishness here is beyond extreme. That his family just went along with his attitude at the vacation instead of standing up for your friend is shocking. I hope her plan works. I've noticed that men from countries where life is very hard tend to just fake everything in order to get what they want. Everything is about saying and doing whatever will get them sex, free food, etc., and there's no sense that being genuine is better in any way. I think it's a learned survival mechanism. Obviousl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 12:36 PM |
| 29 | This is the harsh reality!!! This is why you should only date a HVM, and stop wasting your precious time on dusties that don’t even love you 👑😌Unfortunately the meme says "men," not "lvm." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 12:26 PM |
| 46 | Scrotes deny being predatory and encourage large age gaps!-Just because something is common doesn't mean it's right or good. -There is plenty of criticism based on the actual relationship rather than just the ages. -So many women are so abused that they're not going to realize they're being taken advantage of. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 12:10 PM |
| 9 | Does he have a girlfriend?You should also keep in mind how much time you're devoting to him. Your thoughts above seem to indicate that you've been daydreaming about him a lot and attempting to do research on him. Just be aware that most of your time should be going into things that are for you. Do you think he's spending all his time and energy daydreaming and researching you? Hell no. He's more than likely just using you to get off every night and promptly forgetting about you for the next 23 hours. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 12:06 PM |
| 109 | My personal dating strategySome women come to this sub basically wanting a discussion group for The Rules, they want a husband right away and think they'll figure out how to do that with our help. But 99% of the time, it's just not worth it. How many married couples do you all know that seem to be truly happy, happier than they would be apart? I don't know too many. I think it's wonderful to be able to create your own life exactly the way you want it without having to compromise constantly. That's not to mention that the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 12:03 PM |
| 22 | Does he have a girlfriend?You said you "really like him" and are developing feelings after a week. This is a problem because it means you're projecting your fantasy on him. It takes months to really get to know someone. You should remain extremely skeptical of every man until you actually know him well, months into the relationship. This will offer you some protection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 11:59 AM |
| 16 | do you get turned off by guy's hygiene ?Grounds for immediate ghosting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 11:56 AM |
| 9 | Men play stupid because they’re lazy and entitled. They know they cant be blamed for their own supposed lack of understanding. Stop calling them clueless, helpless and stupid and start calling them manipulative.Yes, it happened to me. Felt like a new person after I dumped him and moved out. Still single and happier than I've ever been. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 04:49 AM |
| 2 | Guys who half ass 1st meetingThe latter, definitely | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 04:19 AM |
| 1 | Addressing the 'tough love' commenting in the FDS community.I agree with your first paragraph, but I can assure you, there are women who are doing nothing wrong, who are reflective and adjust their behaviors based on experience, who are repeatedly mistreated by men from online or off. It's usually the super nice and giving ones - they attract men who are looking to take advantage, and plenty of men have that mindset in the present day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 04:17 AM |
| 7 | Addressing the 'tough love' commenting in the FDS community.I think FDS has some conflicting ideas and attracts two main subsets of women: first, women who are actually looking for a dating strategy because they want to get married in the near future, and second, women who have had all varieties of horrible experiences with men and want to help other women. (I fall into the latter group. I don't downvote anyone who says they want a relationship, but I do advise against it without a solid reason because I think a lot of it stems from societal brainwashing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 04:13 AM |
| 27 | Will I ever be "feminine" enough?I have so many thoughts on this that I'm not quite sure where to start... -I don't think the lack of attention you get from men is necessarily related to your style. Tons of girls without much style or who are tomboys get in relationships with men. And I'm pretty girly and got very little interest even when I was skinny and in college. -Why do you want a relationship in the first place? -A lot of men are predators who just want sex, money, attention, free services etc... You aren't missing much … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 04:04 AM |
| 20 | From AskWomen: For those of you married, what is one red flag you noticed and let pass before marrying your SO that you deeply regret glazing over?Marriage.. no thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 03:17 AM |
| 5 | How do you not get attached so quickly when dating?You may be younger than me, not sure. I find only a few guys per year that I'd want to go out with who ask me out. And then there's an even lower chance I'd want to see them again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 11:51 PM |
| 2 | How do you not get attached so quickly when dating?Yes, this is great advice. Don't confuse fantasy and reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 08:52 PM |
| 3 | How do you not get attached so quickly when dating?I have a lot of practice with this. I just assume they're playing me and will walk away at any point during the first 3 months. Of course, usually I'm the one walking away due to a dealbreaker. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 08:52 PM |
| 9 | How do you not get attached so quickly when dating?I just don't think this is realistic for those of us who are selective and don't live in a metro area with 7 million+ people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 08:50 PM |
| 8 | Gabrielle Union, age 46. What wall?!How sad and embarrassing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 08:37 PM |
| 7 | Gabrielle Union, age 46. What wall?!I don't know the background on her marriage, but I believe that is her child born via surrogate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 04:43 PM |
| 7 | Gabrielle Union, age 46. What wall?!Men often say that women "hit the wall" at 30, 25, or even 21 and become unattractive. This is proof that that's total bullshit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 02:45 PM |
| 17 | Gabrielle Union, age 46. What wall?!That's sad. Sorry everyone, I didn't know that. Certainly not someone to emulate. I was just so impressed with how amazing she looked! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 10:30 AM |
| 133 | There are no HVM out there, let's just say we've lost our men.The chances of finding a hvm are incredibly low. I stopped dating and stopped letting men into my life. The chances of them threatening me, stealing my money, and/or abusing me are way too high. Not even worth swiping right once. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/20 03:30 AM |
| 11 | Gabrielle Union, age 46. What wall?!Goddess 👸🏿 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 11:55 PM |
| 129 | Gabrielle Union, age 46. What wall?!Who cares about him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 11:12 PM |
| 13 | Should I cut things offLet him go. It won't get better | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 04:39 AM |
| 20 | Yes because women are to be blamed for the attention they receive from men on tinder to be compared with self gratification activity like pornAnd women just love being on there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/20 04:38 AM |
| 4 | OLD how long between messages?This is almost all of them. They expect us to lead the conversation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 01:17 AM |
| 15 | This man boldly made SEVERAL antiblack sentiments in the face of me, a black woman.Holy shit. Excellent work blocking him. Much love 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/20 01:02 AM |
| 20 | I couldn’t be more insulted whenever something like this happened. Also dude claimed he’s 6’ and looking for “something fun”. What were they expecting when they liked my photo? Get lost. 🙄😡This is one of the reasons I had to quit dating apps. Even though those kinds of things aren't personal and have nothing to do with me, and I'm sure the men posting them think they're funny and cute, they're triggering in terms of past trauma I've experienced. They remind me of the times I've been sexually assaulted, lied to for sex, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 09:14 PM |
| 5 | What you can expect from late 30 somethings.Nah. I always ask these guys how successful they've been before unmatching and every last one of them has said they'd had no luck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 11:41 PM |
| 12 | I (25f) feel inferior to petite women (actually to all women, but my thoughts focus on petite) and am plagued with toxic, radiating insecurityJust because she said it doesn't mean it's true! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 06:27 PM |
| 38 | I (25f) feel inferior to petite women (actually to all women, but my thoughts focus on petite) and am plagued with toxic, radiating insecuritySuch a nice exchange. I love this community :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 05:49 PM |
| 9 | I (25f) feel inferior to petite women (actually to all women, but my thoughts focus on petite) and am plagued with toxic, radiating insecurityHaha! Sure. Then maybe your mantra could be, I don't have to be tiny to have value? My body size is unrelated to my value as a person? I can tell you for a fact that that is true :) Btw, just because a woman is extremely attractive doesn't mean men will treat her better. Just look at Rihanna, among many others! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 05:01 PM |
| 6 | I (25f) feel inferior to petite women (actually to all women, but my thoughts focus on petite) and am plagued with toxic, radiating insecurityHow could you verify it any further? The guy is in a relationship with you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 04:44 PM |
| 16 | This subreddit is changing my lifeReally glad to hear that. Please tread lightly with this new guy, though. You haven't even met him in person and people are very good at faking who they are. I always assume they're going to walk away at some point in the first three months and it helps me not to get attached too early. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 04:17 PM |
| 21 | I (25f) feel inferior to petite women (actually to all women, but my thoughts focus on petite) and am plagued with toxic, radiating insecurityI was going to tell you to go to therapy before I read the last three paragraphs. That is horrible. I personally think it's hard to find a good therapist. I've had four different ones as an adult and only found one to really be effective. I haven't felt the need to go since I worked with her every week for a year solid in grad school. The reason I was going to tell you to go to therapy is because I think this is a perfect situation for cognitive behavioral therapy, which is where you try to undo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 04:01 PM |
| 2 | Why do you want a relationship?Hard to get to settled relationships with endless problems in dating. Sounds like you got insanely lucky with your husband :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 02:20 PM |
| 1 | Why do you want a relationship?I guess I just can't relate to this. I've had solid friends in my life since early childhood. They've stuck with me whereas men have not. I don't think there's anything "wrong" with wanting a romantic partner, but if it doesn't really benefit the woman except that she feels incomplete without him, which seems to be the case in many many relationships, I see that as a problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 02:17 PM |
| 2 | OLD low effort date guy update, he unmatchedWhy are you so angry at me? I wished you good luck and sincerely wish the best for you in your dating adventures. Also, I'm not sure if you're new to this sub, but 99% of the stories are about horrible men and dating situations - that certainly isn't unique to me. I did not say you were desperate or had no self-respect. I personally find the entire dating process - the lying, cheating, sexual assaults, physical/emotional/mental abuse, theft and so on - to be degrading and unenjoyable. Many women… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 12:23 PM |
| 27 | 2 letters, yeMy abusive ex was like that. Every minute of every day revolved around his access to booze and weed. Not fun | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 03:33 AM |
| 5 | "If there was a level below hell, that's where her self esteem would be"It strikes me as significant that you've spent so much time and energy writing out every last detail of this other woman's life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 03:29 AM |
| 3 | Why do you want a relationship?Well.. if another woman asked you to do something fun with her, how would you feel? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 02:57 AM |
| 3 | Why do you want a relationship?Oh, I understand. I have five exes and I often wonder how my life would've turned out if I had just focused on myself instead of giving them so many thousands of hours of my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 01:57 AM |
| 1 | Why do you want a relationship?But what about just friends..? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/06/20 01:51 AM |
| 3 | Why do you want a relationship?That's totally fair. That's one of the few legit reasons I can think of 😂 wish I could set you up with the surgeon! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 10:35 PM |
| 5 | Why do you want a relationship?🙋♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 08:01 PM |
| 4 | We are staunchly Pro - Ghosting on this sub. Any comments guilt tripping women for dropping communication with men without explanation will be removed.Yes! Completely agree! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 06:58 PM |
| 17 | How to tell a guy a 'walk in the park' doesn't live up to your date expectations.Yeah. If you're already having to teach him what's appropriate at this extremely early stage, think about all the work you're going to have to do in the future. It's not your job to rear and teach him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 06:51 PM |
| 56 | Nothing but truthOh yeah, 100%. I'm sure a lot of them congratulate each other for rape. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 06:49 PM |
| 11 | Why do you want a relationship?Here's the thing though: men who want romantic relationships often have ulterior motives. They want to sleep with you, then mess your head about it to feel powerful, or they want you to support them financially, or any other number of things, so most of them aren't coming from a healthy place. I feel like what would help you more would be to make more quality friends, women and maybe gay men, men who are a lot older and not interested in dating you, etc. Since they likely wouldn't have ulterior … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 06:47 PM |
| 7 | Why do you want a relationship?Yeah - if more women realize they don't need men, what will they be good for? (Never mind that they could go off and have their own independent lives too) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 06:44 PM |
| 1 | How do you know if you’re too picky?💕 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 03:50 PM |
| 4 | How do you know if you’re too picky?I don't advocate any dating for women unless it's rare, true love. Most of the time, it doesn't seem to benefit them in any way, particularly if they're already smart, successful, and independent. All it does is take their time away from them and give it to their male partner, who gets the vast majority of the benefits. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 03:37 PM |
| 1 | How do you know if you’re too picky?I think it's going to be a miracle for any relationship with a man to beat that. My view: most of women's desires to be in a relationship with a man is based on patriarchal brainwashing that benefits men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 03:28 PM |
| 1 | How do you know if you’re too picky?Do you have friends? I love my friends so much more than any of my exes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 03:18 PM |
| 1 | How do you know if you’re too picky?Why do you want a relationship? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 02:49 PM |
| 2 | How do you know if you’re too picky?I feel you 💖 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 02:48 PM |
| 14 | I’m a LVW. I’ve given up on men altogether as I just don’t think I’m relationship-material anyway, but how do I level up for myself?For weight loss, it's important for me to have low-calorie meals on hand (I meal prep). I really like these: https://thewoksoflife.com/chinese-chicken-broccoli-brown-sauce/ https://thewoksoflife.com/eggplant-string-bean-stir-fry/ http://www.thehongkongcookery.com/2013/11/tofu-with-shrimp.html?m=1 https://thewanderlustkitchen.com/indian-red-lentil-dal/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 12:41 PM |
| 1 | 6 Figure Careers for a HVWThat sounds really interesting! I've always been interested in white collar financial fraud (Enron, Herbalife etc.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 12:26 PM |
| 3 | Fuckboi in his 40s, a starterpackWait, what's wrong with sushi? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 04:46 AM |
| 3 | 6 Figure Careers for a HVWI think being skilled in math and science is much more about practice and repetition than "natural interest." Have you given them a good go? Have you tried any intro to programming courses online? I'm currently studying data science and I love it. It's the whole basis for AI too. I have a liberal arts degree but learned math really well in high school because of a wonderful teacher. I'm not sure about speech pathologist from your list. It's a great job, but I don't think it's usually a six-figur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 04:44 AM |
| 2 | 6 Figure Careers for a HVWI've read that accountants will be one of the first positions that will be replaced by AI - can anyone in the field comment? Just curious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 04:39 AM |
| 14 | Men never listen to me - especially detailed questions.No. That sounds horrible, especially at your job! Maybe they're all too distracted by your beauty to actually listen to your question? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/20 04:28 AM |
| 7 | You don't need emotional fulfillment from a man or validationThanks for writing this. I've been wanting to make a similar post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 08:37 PM |
| 20 | What would happen if all women using dating apps... stopped? 🤔The fact that you're in college makes a huge difference. It's built for socialization. Life after college isn't really like that. I've been very outgoing my whole life and have still found it difficult to meet men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 10:44 PM |
| 6 | Relationships are an option, NOT a necessityIt's because he has a super tragic life story. Have you read about it? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 09:13 PM |
| 33 | Told him I don’t cook for boys and that I don’t like giving massages... he won’t be getting anything from me. The audacity! We have only been talking for 4 days.This is how men think. We women should do the same. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 03:17 AM |
| 23 | dating pool today :)In all seriousness, this is extremely accurate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/20 03:16 AM |
| 28 | This was recommended to me here, it's some serious level up shitThank you! I'll be waiting for the Kindle edition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 09:44 PM |
| 2 | OLD low effort date guy update, he unmatchedI mean this sincerely: good luck :) it's been nothing but 3.5 years of hell for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 08:11 PM |
| 286 | Relationships are an option, NOT a necessityWho else is in love with him? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 02:03 AM |
| 31 | How to eat, sleep, and breathe FDSI love this post! Where-ish are you located, if you don't mind my asking? Just curious because it sounds like you have a great dating pool. Not that I would ever move for that reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 11:11 PM |
| 34 | OLD low effort date guy update, he unmatchedYou sound pretty inexperienced. This is very common, and you did a great job. Don't expect anything different from the next one. Most men on dating apps are looking for free sex that they have to put as little money into as possible. Some will take you out on the first date, doesn't mean they really want a girlfriend even if they say they do. They are cunning and very highly skilled in the art of manipulation. Men are looking to get things from other people. That's how they operate. I want sex, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 09:52 PM |
| 5 | Shut the F*** UpYes, one of my exes telling me to "just shut up" was my breaking point at which I dumped him. Btw, I hadn't even said a word. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 08:30 PM |
| 10 | It Seems Men Are Allowed To Have Their Financial Deal Breakers But We Aren't?In addition to what other people have said, student debt isn't life-ruining if you're able to do an income-based payment plan. Those result in loan forgiveness in 20-25 years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 04:47 AM |
| 12 | Your techniques for NOT catching feeling too soon?I assume all of them are going to walk away by the 3-month mark, no matter how well things seem to be going. I also write down everything that bothers me about them and reflect on it later to try to really evaluate whether I could or should deal with those behaviors in the future. This keeps me unattached and safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/20 04:40 AM |
| 1 | Brave domestic violence survivor takes the law into her own hands | 60 Minutes Australia - Ladies, don't expect the law to protect you from abusive men. Learn the red flags, write down anything that bothers you, don't get attached for the first few months, and run at the first sign of trouble!In Australia? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 10:38 PM |
| 57 | How did she not know he was like that BEFORE the baby?Yes. The title of this blames the victim even though the op is also female. Total brainwashing to favor men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 06:48 PM |
| 10 | true love is free from fearRelated thought: the genesis of all actions is either love or fear. Try to act out of love (including self-love), not out of fear. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 06:27 PM |
| 6 | Brave domestic violence survivor takes the law into her own hands | 60 Minutes Australia - Ladies, don't expect the law to protect you from abusive men. Learn the red flags, write down anything that bothers you, don't get attached for the first few months, and run at the first sign of trouble!Also, I'm American and not trying to single Australia out for having a domestic violence issue - it certainly happens all over the world. More episodes on the subject of women's oppression: Chanel Miller: Emily Doe in the Brock Turner sexual assault trial speaks out (US) Brave Aisha's daring escape from oppressive life in Qatar Brave sexual assault survivor fights back against her attackers (South Korea) Explainer: Where is the missing Princess of Dubai? (UAE) Mother and daughter escape Egypt af… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 05:52 PM |
| 12 | A text back is not a "treat". You are not a dog.Yes. You should only allow men to take up a maximum of 5% of your time and energy. You should always be working on other aspects of your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 06:20 PM |
| 4 | This is how pornstars are treated. It’s an abusive industry that also profits off of CP. HVM do not watch porn.The podcast The Last Days of August goes into this topic too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 06:15 PM |
| 4 | NVM live in an alternate universe where they do no wrong.This sounds very typical for a man. Best to stay away completely. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 06:12 PM |
| 2 | Friendships between the opposite sexes.There are near-daily posts on this topic if you want to search for more info. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 06:10 PM |
| 1 | How do I "improve" My fashion sense?The first thing is understanding what colors suit your skin tone, which you can Google about. For example, I have a very cool skin tone, so I look better in cool colors like black, green, blue, and hot pink. I look horrible in light gray, orange, coral, and red. The second thing is understanding what kinds of clothes flatter your body type. I have a tummy so I have to hide it with empire waist dresses, high-waisted skirts, and loose blouses. I also have a round face so v-neck tops are a must to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 04:16 AM |
| 9 | I keep getting flaked/cancelled on. Guys making zero effortSame story here. It's not personal. It's just easier for men to swipe on their phones and then go back to playing video games or whatever. None of them are serious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 04:05 AM |
| 14 | How to not put all your eggs in one basket?First of all, please don't blame yourself for your ex cheating! It wasn't anything you did or didn't do; it wasn't about you at all. Secondly, just try to reverse the situation. Why should you be doing all the work instead of him? It's not your job to be the leader, planner and entertainer. He's supposed to be impressing you, not the other way around. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 04:01 AM |
| 30 | Let's hear your hardcore badass grandma storiesWell my grandma refused my grandpa's first proposal because the ring wasn't big enough, if that counts 💍😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 03:58 AM |
| 25 | Idk why men complain OLD is SO HARD for them and they never get any matches, when they are so nonchalant about dates, meeting up, etc.Yes. It's been over a year since any guy online actually asked me out even though I get plenty of matches and have lots of conversations going. I guess they're just all about collecting profiles - not sure. Yes, I wish women would get some actual standards so men would have at least some behavioral expectations. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 03:55 AM |
| 38 | Women are marrying less. It's such a mystery!It's not hard to understand at all. They do not view women as equals. We aren't humans with our own rights, preferences, desires, and dreams. We exist solely to please them and do all the dirty work that they don't want to. Virtually all of them want a slave to suck their dick at least twice a day, cook them meals, massage their entire body, clean the entire living space including their urine and feces from the toilet, and bear their children and take care of them full time, no complaints, while… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 04:47 AM |
| 67 | He was being pushy, so I blocked him.Next time, block him the first time he ignores your "no." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/20 02:17 AM |
| 15 | You've got to be kidding me. This is just unacceptable.That thought would never occur to most men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/20 12:00 AM |
| 14 | Career vs datingThis is far too personal a decision for anyone else to make for you. Just realize that investing in yourself and your career has a 100% chance of returns. The chances of finding a great male partner are unfortunately very slim, and the chances that you will come out of a relationship worse off than when you were single are pretty high. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 11:47 PM |
| 16 | He likes me but I don’t think he loves meIt might help to pull back and be slightly less responsive or available and see what he does. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 12:44 AM |
| 10 | Has anyone else started to lose faith in men in general?Yes, and your post only covers one aspect. There are so many more reasons not to ever get involved with a man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 05:16 AM |
| 7 | This text was from a LVM I got tied up with about a year ago. He wasn’t even my boyfriend and bolted as soon as he got his notch. He was later accused of rape. Words are meaningless. Look and learn. Believe actions only.😂🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 05:11 AM |
| 3 | How do you cultivate a sense of self worth?Take those things and run the second they start showing red flags. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 05:38 AM |
| 13 | Rant about liberal feminism and why I’ve grown to hate it. (TW: mentions of rape, child endangerment).I don't think liberal feminism is defined enough for that. I think you're upset by the sex positivity movement specifically, and I am too. It doesn't benefit women at all. In fact I would argue that it undermines feminism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 01:44 AM |
| 41 | Rant about liberal feminism and why I’ve grown to hate it. (TW: mentions of rape, child endangerment).So being a feminist just means that you believe men and women have equal worth and should have equal opportunities in life. It doesn't in any way mean that you believe women should sleep around, and it certainly doesn't mean you support porn or child rape, etc. It actually isn't related to sex. You can be extremely sexually conservative and still be a feminist. Saying that you are not a feminist means that you do not believe men and women have equal worth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/20 01:28 AM |
| 4 | Many of you girls decided you’re fine with being single forever. But how do you feel fine with never having a family / biological kids?I've been trying to think of a helpful response for you. I know that you probably know all of this logically, but maybe it would help to see it written by another person: Most people are not out to get you. They are living in their own worlds and probably not thinking about you too much at all, let alone formulating an evil plan on how to get something out of you. A notable exception to this is guys on dating apps, who should not be trusted because they often are just trying to manipulate women.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 05:03 PM |
| 1 | Many of you girls decided you’re fine with being single forever. But how do you feel fine with never having a family / biological kids?I'm so sorry to hear that. Have you ever been to a therapist? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 12:42 PM |
| 62 | Hahahahhaha he genuinely thinks this is trueYounger girls: don't be fooled. I'm 32 and happier than ever. I also look better than I did in my 20s. Just moisturize, wear sunscreen, use tretinoin, keep working on your career, travel, cook, read books, and don't take any bullshit from men and you'll be fine. 😘 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 03:42 AM |
| 7 | Many of you girls decided you’re fine with being single forever. But how do you feel fine with never having a family / biological kids?Person with no biological family who's built a strong chosen family here. Do you know why you don't have that many friends? I'm okay with not having children because it generally makes people more miserable: https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/qbxj8q/science-says-having-a-kid-is-one-of-the-crappiest-things-that-can-happen-to-you-384 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 03:40 AM |
| 3 | Ladies, do you ever stay friends or in contact with an ex or cut them out for good? Why? Or does it depend on why things ended?I generally can't stay friends with an ex because I'm too attracted to them and I just want to hug them and hold their hands all the time. However, my longest relationship ex is the father of my cats, and they live with him, so during normal times I go over there about once a month to see them. (It helps that I was never that attracted to him in the first place.) I don't have any actual exes blocked, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 03:37 AM |
| 3 | How do you cultivate a sense of self worth?When you create your own beautiful, magical world that you don't want interrupted or contaminated by men and their toxicity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 06:04 PM |
| 4 | Think I am finally done with men.Such great advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 05:58 PM |
| 13 | The Discovery Phase: how to uncover his valuesGreat advice! Also, write these insights down in your phone after you've made them. Write down anything he does that bothers you. It's difficult to tell in the moment how significant a transgression was, and having it in written form enables you to reflect later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 05:53 PM |
| 93 | I have yet to meet a man who is as interesting as he pretends to be. Where are the men who read and can keep up with me intellectually?They won't. Male is the default, correct sex. Female is the secondary sex and any and all members are meant to be controlled and used for as long as possible by males, who are the only ones who matter. Anything inherent to the female sex is inferior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/05/20 05:20 PM |
| 1 | Focus on making your body feel good, not on how it looksIt's chicken marinated in a sweet and spicy sauce with Korean rice cakes. The recipe I used at least has a ton of sugar, lol. I love heavy, fatty food too - meat, cheese, bread, and sugar. But seriously, try this recipe, it's my favorite ever and so healthy: https://thewoksoflife.com/eggplant-string-bean-stir-fry/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:58 PM |
| 2 | Focus on making your body feel good, not on how it looksI'm getting to the point where I really just prefer the veggie- and tofu-based dishes. They just feel so much lighter and healthier. That being said, I did make some dak galbi last night, which isn't exactly super healthy, lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:38 PM |
| 3 | Focus on making your body feel good, not on how it looksI love this comment! Have you ever tried Chinese, Indian or other Asian veggie recipes? They're so much better imo. Examples would be dal, eggplant string bean stir fry, boiled daikon (almost no calories), and enoki mushrooms or broccoli with garlic sauce. I'm obsessed. Actually this weekend I'm going to make baked zucchini with parmesan which is also healthy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:18 PM |
| 44 | Dating to simply remind yourself that it's better to be singleYes. Nothing but nightmarish experiences here from dating (aged 29-32) and I'm pretty much done. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:10 PM |
| 35 | Male friends? What are your thoughts/ experiences? + little storyGood for you for standing up to him. Gay men are great. Straight men are almost never really your real friends - they just want to use you for something, like the one in your post. Could also be free therapy, using you to make their girlfriend jealous, boredom, etc. The key is to think about what you've put into the relationship and what you've gotten out of it. Often there's an imbalance. I thought I had a really close straight male friend. Turns out he was bi and in the closet the whole 20 yea… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/20 04:08 PM |
| 18 | Hold men accountable!If you do, though, only 1% of them will see that they've done something wrong and actually change. Most will either ignore you (because they don't respect women) or find a way to blame you for their behavior. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:44 AM |
| 79 | Wife wanting to divorce her useless husband who acts like another child. Commenters saying how the sub is biased against men, she should consider therapy, he’s “depressed” and should talk to him about it, and shaming her 🙄This is generally why men want to get married. They want a cook, maid, and sole caretaker for the offspring from their precious, sacred sperm. They have no respect for women at all and just want a free slave to pick up and wash their dirty clothes, give them blowjobs, and make them cocktails and dinner every night, even if she's been working all day too. If they were single, they would have to do all this for themselves!! 😮 That's why there's so much brainwashing for women to have a boyfriend an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/20 01:34 AM |
| 18 | I was going to block, but I wanted to see how far he'd take thisHe just wanted to know his chances of fucking you as quickly as possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 08:48 PM |
| 1 | A man with an abusive nature will always register you standing up for yourself as an act of betrayal. Betray him.Thanks! The stupid thing is I still miss him, but I stay away. He's had another girlfriend for almost 2 years now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:44 PM |
| 3 | A lesson from Cassie, who majorly upgraded: Don't let your boyfriend keep you from your husband- when they know they knowOkay, that is MUCH better than if they had been total strangers. Still not really advisable, but better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 07:43 PM |
| 54 | Excuse me, what in the actual fuck?I thought the model of prosecuting prostitutes was over, given how vulnerable and coerced a lot of them are. Aren't they supposed to be going after the pimps anyway? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/05/20 03:31 PM |
| 24 | A lesson from Cassie, who majorly upgraded: Don't let your boyfriend keep you from your husband- when they know they knowThe target audience is women who are or were in a long relationship, for years, without getting engaged. But it's also bad to act like they should be moving so quickly. My own mother got married and had me with somebody she'd only known for a year. It was very bad news and very selfish of her not to vet my father. She died and left me in this world without parents or a supportive family. I'm sure it's worked for some people but it's just generally not a good idea. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 01:01 PM |
| 313 | A lesson from Cassie, who majorly upgraded: Don't let your boyfriend keep you from your husband- when they know they knowGetting engaged to and pregnant with someone you just met within one year isn't advisable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 05:35 AM |
| 23 | Anyone else just done with dating?Yep! I'm done being lied to, manipulated, hit, choked, insulted, ghosted, raped, and stolen from by gainfully-employed, middle-class men with degrees whose families have more money than mine. I actually can't even think about dating anymore - it's way too traumatic. It's a thousand times worse than I previously ever thought possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/20 05:00 AM |
| 3 | Meet Kentucky's HVM Governor, Andy BeshearI forgot to mention that he's super cute too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 12:06 PM |
| 10 | Study: 70% of men agree it's acceptable to lie to women and say you're in love with them to have sex with her. 80% of men think they shouldn't have to use any birth control. And 90% of these men said abortion was wrong.I consider myself a person who basically can't be shocked at this point, but wow, I'm completely taken aback by this. I had no idea it was this bad. Wow. 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 06:33 AM |
| 1 | Going to a guys house at 2am....There are two different ideas being conflated here. Does a 2am text indicate a booty call? Yes. Does acceptance of a booty call mean that the man should be able to rape the woman? No. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 06:26 AM |
| 15 | Being treated differently as im FOBI'm sorry that you have to deal with this bullshit. If it helps, the majority of men treat all women badly. I'm white, but have dated a few South Asians. Not all of them just wanted to use me for sex - I learned my lesson from the first one - but that is what most of them want on dating apps, and they expect me to give it to them because the only time they've seen white girls has been in the context of porn or in movies or on TV where they are depicted as being much "looser" than the girls in th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 06:24 AM |
| 35 | Anyone that’s stayed single on purpose to heal , learn, grow!? How did you do it?I'm 32. I've given over a decade of my life to men. When I asked myself what I had gotten in return, the answer was "not much." After that I started focusing on other areas of my life, which I'm happy about because I have much more control over them than over my dating life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 06:18 AM |
| 11 | Should I love myself before loving someone else?Yes. There will never be another you. You are the person he loves regardless of how you feel about your body. I'm 32 now, went through all of that at your age. Go to counseling at school - it's free and much easier to do in a school setting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 05:02 AM |
| 28 | Now they want to fuck your URETHRAI didn't read either link, but for most men, sex is about dominance, and if they've gotten a woman to do this unimaginably painful thing, that's a huge ego boost for them. It's not about love or connection or anything like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/04/20 04:59 AM |
| 15 | My mom always brings up the fact that back when my great grandma was young, if you didn’t marry before 25 you were “an old maid”.I really wish everyone would stop this nonsense. Children who hear it internalize it and it can influence their decisions later on for the worse (I won't plan on having a big career for myself - I'll just get married, etc.). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 06:35 AM |
| 140 | Something tells me she probably doesn't know.Not sure which is worse, "sugery's" or "devishly." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 02:41 AM |
| 101 | The Land of No Men: Inside Kenya's Women-Only Village, UmojaDescription: Where the foothills of Mount Kenya merge into the desert, the people of Samburu have maintained a strict patriarchy for over 500 years in northern Kenya. That is, until 25 years ago, when Rebecca Lolosoli founded Umoja village as a safe haven for the region's women. Umoja, which means "unity" in Swahili, is quite literally a no man's land, and the matriarchal refuge is now home to the Samburu women who no longer want to suffer abuses, like genital mutilation and forced marriages, at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 06:53 PM |
| 6 | Are we modern day women dumb and desperate? While it hurts and it’s obviously provocative, I’d agree. Pickme culture.Women need to understand that men are generally not nice people who truly care about others. They have a list of things they want and everything they do and say is meant to get them closer to attaining those things. (Sex, which can be provided by any woman, is always on the list.) None of this is by accident or because they don't know better. They're perfectly capable of putting themselves in someone else's shoes, but they typically only do that in order to manipulate that person to get what the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/20 06:38 AM |
| 4 | Guy lies about his height. Instead of coming clean, he gaslights his girlfriend to try and get her to believe he’s taller than he is. 🤡The amount of time being spent on this subject by men is beyond absurd. It's just not important. I'm 5'2, dated a guy who was 5'4 max and barely noticed. I get that a lot of women have a height preference, and I do too, but it's honestly just so trivial in the scheme of life issues. I wish they would put even 10% of this energy into developing themselves as people - then they would have no problem getting dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 07:05 AM |
| 7 | Need help finding a HVM? Check out your locationThat sounds really interesting! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 06:58 AM |
| 3 | Need help finding a HVM? Check out your locationWhat do you do that enables you to work in Hawaii? That sounds very peaceful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 04:16 AM |
| 16 | Would you date white guy who used to teach English in Asia ?It would depend on their financial situation. At this point in life, in my 30s, although I love traveling and learning about other cultures, I'm looking for a partner who's financially solid and has a stable career that pays well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/20 03:46 AM |
| 10 | Advice you would give to younger selfDo not sell yourself short. Aim for the career you want. Don't prioritize relationships or men. Don't imagine that you're going to be in a relationship or married in the future - imagine your ideal future as a single person and work to make that a reality. That way if a relationship doesn't happen, you'll still have the best possible outcome. Understand that 99% of straight men will say anything to use you for sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 02:56 AM |
| 13 | Another day, another “I wasted my life waiting for him to propose” post. We need a Forever Girlfriend flair 🤦🏻♀️Pretty jealous 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 03:59 AM |
| 6 | Make sure you're not with him just because you want something to love.That's why my mom had me... With someone she married seven weeks after meeting at a bar. He was never in my life, and she died when I was five. I don't think I'll ever forgive her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 10:58 PM |
| 26 | A man with an abusive nature will always register you standing up for yourself as an act of betrayal. Betray him.My abusive ex-boyfriend, who would regularly put his hand on my throat, say "I'm going to get a gun" to scare me, and wake me up in the middle of the night to force me to hold his balls while he jacked off, among other things, said "You've been nothing but a complete bitch to me" after I escaped from him, and I'll never forget it. No one else to my knowledge has ever called me that in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 10:18 PM |
| 2 | Name a more iconic couple -- i'll wait.I am not making up this information. Please Google it since you don't believe me. It's still a problem today but at least there are some prominent female celebrities with different body types now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 10:12 PM |
| 2 | Name a more iconic couple -- i'll wait.What? My comment said I was glad other body types were now allowed, not that I thought thin body types were bad. Why don't you educate me about what was so great about JFK Jr? I don't know that much, just have never heard good things about the Kennedy men + never really heard anything about him after he died when I was a child. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Run at the first red flag, QueensSounds like he had a Lady Godiva fetish. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 11:08 AM |
| 6 | Name a more iconic couple -- i'll wait.Speaking of the 90s, I'm so grateful that body types other than "as thin as possible" are allowed these days. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 11:01 AM |
| 6 | Name a more iconic couple -- i'll wait.Yeah, I'm not sure why they would be considered people to idolize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 10:29 AM |
| 5 | Name a more iconic couple -- i'll wait.I'm American and I didn't know either. They were a little before my time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 10:25 AM |
| 8 | How does one properly love themselves ?I think you're overvaluing your ex and relationships in general. It's really more important to have friends. I know this doesn't help much since we're in lockdown, but have you reached out to anybody in your social circle lately? If your ex was less into you than you were into him, guess what - it doesn't mean anything. Your value is intrinsic and not determined by other people at all, certainly not male romantic interests. Do you know how fucked up most other people are? Finally, try to remembe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 10:17 AM |
| 3 | How does one properly love themselves ?Can you elaborate on what kinds of thoughts you're having when you're feeling sad? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/04/20 04:14 AM |
| 4 | Dating, sex and expectations have changed so much. You cannot expect the rules and vibes that existed 15, 10 or even 5 years ago. Remaining celibate and leveling up in all other areas of my life is making me feel so strong right now.I moved for grad school during the recession. I lost everything and had to come back home. I'm not willing to take the risk again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 06:41 PM |
| 19 | Bruh... 👀I spent 6 with mine. He's still mentally a child in many ways. He has a lot of trouble in jobs, is obsessed with Star Wars and wrestling, and won't clean his house. When I lived with him he wouldn't clean his bathroom, which was disgusting. I would cook and he wouldn't even try one bite of my food because he wanted taquitos or pepperoni pizza instead (would never eat fruit or vegetables). To top it off, even though he's from a family that's better off than mine and has no debt because they paid … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 10:46 AM |
| 21 | The first time I saw the Narc Prayer - I was blown awayYes, same. Narcissistic behavior is so common - like many others here, several key people from my past displayed these traits. Narcissistic personality disorder is supposedly rare, but it certainly doesn't seem so on the ground. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 10:37 AM |
| 7 | Women has height preference on dating app. Man decides to shame her, tell her she is ugly, ginger, old and 'dosen't deserve a man'.Omg, I was so tiny when I was 130lbs, and I'm only 5'2. I was a size 2-4. I can't even imagine that being a threshold. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 02:12 AM |
| 128 | Bruh... 👀Male myth: Women have fun in their 20s fucking every guy that looks at them, then suddenly become "used up" and unable to secure a monogamous relationship at 30. Female reality: Most women want a monogamous relationship in their 20s - but have trouble finding one because men are unwilling to commit - and most are pretty sexually conservative. Then at 30, they begin to realize how much time they've wasted caring about their male love interests/boyfriends who never really cared about them, and beg… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/20 02:10 AM |
| 7 | Dating, sex and expectations have changed so much. You cannot expect the rules and vibes that existed 15, 10 or even 5 years ago. Remaining celibate and leveling up in all other areas of my life is making me feel so strong right now.Oh yeah, that's a totally legit reason. I live more in the middle of the country and even though I would fit in better on one of the coasts, I'm not willing to pay the outrageous prices. I will probably just stay where I am forever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 03:28 PM |
| 52 | Dating, sex and expectations have changed so much. You cannot expect the rules and vibes that existed 15, 10 or even 5 years ago. Remaining celibate and leveling up in all other areas of my life is making me feel so strong right now.The grass isn't greener. Absolutely do not relocate anywhere because of dating or men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 03:14 PM |
| 38 | Asking WhY dIdn't YoU cOmmUNICate is another way to victim blame women for assault. Apparently, if you don't provide men with a comprehensive list of sexual behaviors you don't like ahead of time whatever they do to you is your fault because abuse is normal.Men think about everything in terms of power and dominance. That's why they seek relationships in the first place - so they can feel dominant. Respect is something for other men, not women. Women are to be used for as much as they can be and then thrown away like trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 07:30 AM |
| 11 | How China’s coronavirus health care workers exposed the menstruation taboo - "In men’s eyes, menstruation is blue, only lasts one day, and can be held back like urine"The vast majority have no reason to think or care anything about women other than how to get as much pussy as possible, as quickly as possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 10:07 PM |
| 7 | Domestic abuse killings 'more than double' amid Covid-19 lockdownVery few men are willing to stand up to this behavior. They like to protect each other and leave abuse as an option for the future. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 09:42 PM |
| 2 | He ghosted me...my response? How do you ladies deal?I don't allow myself to start getting emotionally attached until the third month. It would be better if I could wait longer than that. Agree with the person who said this might be quarantine-related. I'm not sure I would hold it against him that much. Just let him go. Your choice to be open to him or not when something resembling normalcy returns. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 04:30 AM |
| 7 | A real winner...With that many grammatical mistakes, I really hope he's not actually a doctor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 03:12 AM |
| 33 | Came across this last night and I learned a new phrase - “soon to be” open relationship 😂😂😂😂😂It's hilarious how these guys think that girls are going to be chomping at the bit to fuck them while they're in a relationship. Good luck with that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 08:51 PM |
| 7 | A 3 month failed relationship is better than a 3 year failed relationship. Avoid sunk cost fallacy like you avoid coronavirus.We need some sort of "guide to listening to your intuition" around here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 05:05 AM |
| 28 | Being a single woman in China- NY Time Short DocI saw the whole documentary on Independent Lens, but it seems to be gone now unless you have a subscription. I'm so proud of her, too. I don't think the NYTimes short shows it, but in the end she moves to France and starts a new life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:57 AM |
| 9 | Reasons for getting married and reasons for wanting kidsAs a happily single woman, I have the same question. The only thing I can think of is that some people believe that reproducing is the only reason we're here on Earth. The idea of rebirth and the cycle of life is a prominent idea in many religions and cultures. I would love to hear about why it's important to other people. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:42 AM |
| 1 | This kind of disgusting moral policing, to ensure the ‘product’ is intact.Hard to believe, given that most of them would never go against their families and marry a non-Indian. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 01:16 AM |
| 3 | This kind of disgusting moral policing, to ensure the ‘product’ is intact.Pretty sure this post is fake. I've seen it before, years ago. He also says "wearing a hijab" when the correct expression is "wearing hijab," which he would know if he were an actual member of that community. Something about this sentence also strikes me as fake: Most of the men and women in the Desi Muslim circle sided with me, but some of the non-religious women called me a douchebag for doing it. First of all I doubt that it would've gone down that publicly, and secondly it just sounds like i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 12:54 AM |
| 12 | Oh yes.. I can just see it now.. Pickme's think the quranantine is the secret to getting a guy to commit. HA! psst.. I'm pretty sure it's called "only available sex".Why are incorrect apostrophes absolutely everywhere these days? I don't get it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 12:43 AM |
| 20 | Uplifting story about a HVM in Ethiopia who collects water, helps his wife with child care, and makes injera, all of which are considered the wife's responsibility in their culture. "It comes out of love for her,” he says.Full text of article Meet the Ethiopian Man Who Makes Injera Jamal Ibrahim makes the pancake-like bread every day for his family, an unusual sight in Ethiopia, where injera is considered a woman’s responsibility Jamal Bekri Ibrahim is crouched on the floor of his one-room home, expertly pouring batter onto an iron skillet. The flames rise above the skillet, which rests on large rocks with pieces of charcoal underneath. Jamal is making injera, a pancake-like bread and Ethiopian staple. Minutes la… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 01:42 PM |
| 4 | Uplifting story about a HVM in Ethiopia who collects water, helps his wife with child care, and makes injera, all of which are considered the wife's responsibility in their culture. "It comes out of love for her,” he says.Same! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 12:58 PM |
| 9 | Uplifting story about a HVM in Ethiopia who collects water, helps his wife with child care, and makes injera, all of which are considered the wife's responsibility in their culture. "It comes out of love for her,” he says.Yes! Misir Wat is on my list too: https://www.daringgourmet.com/misir-wat-ethiopian-spiced-red-lentils/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 04:38 AM |
| 22 | LVM complains about how expensive it is to string four women along.In addition to what everyone else is saying, it's pretty lame that he's asking if four is a good number or not - he's obviously either super insecure or trying to show off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 04:09 AM |
| 14 | Uplifting story about a HVM in Ethiopia who collects water, helps his wife with child care, and makes injera, all of which are considered the wife's responsibility in their culture. "It comes out of love for her,” he says.I made it this weekend using this recipe: https://www.cookinglight.com/recipes/superfast-injera They sell teff flour at Whole Foods if you're in a city. If not, there are recipes that use whole wheat flour that my friend says are just as good. I also made Sega Wat: https://www.daringgourmet.com/sega-wat-spicy-ethiopian-beef-stew/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 03:59 AM |
| 3 | Someone else having problem leveling up in 2020?A long time ago, a close friend of mine died, and I couldn't stop crying. After two months, I decided I needed to be able to function at least part of the time, so I started doing yoga, but just the breathing part, for literally five minutes a day. After that I was able to get through the day without crying the entire time. This is the video I use - it's quite old and I'm sure there are many more options: https://archive.org/details/YogaConditioningForWeightLoss (skip to 6:30) I also take passio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 03:57 AM |
| 17 | Would you give an unattractive guy a chance?I've become attracted to men I previously felt were unattractive over time as I got to know and respect them more, so yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/20 03:52 AM |
| 8 | GhostingWhy are you saying you would've had sex with a random guy from a dating app that you hadn't even met? Something is wrong here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 11:40 PM |
| 6 | Thoughts on using Bumble for OLD?When I first started online dating, I thought most people including most men were mostly good most of the time. I was quickly proven wrong. Best of luck to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 04:04 AM |
| 3 | Dads learning to braid their daughter's hairOh, I would never survive that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 09:30 PM |
| 2 | Dads learning to braid their daughter's hairThank you for correctly excluding the apostrophe from "Dads." The vast majority of people now include an apostrophe for plurals, I guess because djt does so in his tweets, and it drives me crazy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 09:24 PM |
| 15 | Thoughts on using Bumble for OLD?I don't speak for the sub in general, but on Bumble the only difference is that women have to send the first message - that's it. There's no other requirement that the woman lead, and I unmatch guys nearly every day on there who don't lead the conversation. With online dating in general, you have to go into it assuming that the guy is a lying sociopath until proven otherwise. I hate to say that, but after over 3 years of horrible experiences and men trying to use me for assorted purposes, that's… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/20 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Watching “The Sopranos” after FDS is hard!I mostly gave up watching fictional shows about 15 years ago. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 11:43 PM |
| 11 | Ex-boyfriend refuses to pay money owed to me after breaking up (24F, 35M)Take note, ladies. This is extremely common behavior among men. I've had two different exes steal money from me. These were not men I met at a halfway house - they were solidly middle-class with more resources than I had. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 08:48 PM |
| 8 | Watching “The Sopranos” after FDS is hard!Yes, this is just another example of the systemic patriarchy that exists in the world. There seem to be daily threads on FDS regarding specific movies or TV shows and how they portray unhealthy images of women and men. These are not at all unique, unfortunately, and in many cases the perpetuation of male domination is probably intentional. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 04:14 PM |
| 93 | Would these men be attracted to themselves if they were the opposite sex?No, but honestly the question is far too deep for the vast majority of men. They're not capable of self-reflection on that level and many of them aren't capable of any kind of self-criticism whatsoever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 04:42 AM |
| 8 | Possibly getting engaged! Thanks to FDSThe fact that you're diving headfirst into these emotions and getting completely carried away is not good. You need to use logic more. Why is he saying these things? I know a lot of women on here are into The Rules and really fast engagement timelines, but this is fast even for that... The fact that you're excited about possibly getting engaged when you're not actually engaged is concerning. Basically it sounds like you value engagement/marriage in and of itself regardless of who the person is a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/04/20 04:33 AM |
| 59 | The realisation there are not enough HVM in society and some of us will likely be single forever and never marry.Well it's pretty simple, really - you've been taught that your self-esteem should come from whether men want you or not, and that's bullshit. Once you accept that you grew up in a patriarchal society that intentionally tried to limit your thinking, that attempted to keep you down and second-guessing yourself, and that it was all a bunch of crap to control you, it becomes much easier to just let go of men as being important. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 03:47 AM |
| 12 | This shameless objectification of women to exclusively exist to please his “next dopamine fix” is nasty, low value and not it 👏 pass 👏Right. In men's eyes, women are to be used for as many purposes as they can be, for as long as they can be. That's all. The only other legit humans are other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 03:16 AM |
| 4 | I miss my exI've been there many times. Maybe try approaching it as an addiction. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 03:14 AM |
| 7 | help needed...Just be glad you didn't have sex with and get attached to him. Most men seem to really embrace acting almost like complete sociopaths when allowed, and online dating is the perfect forum for this craft. You have to approach any man you meet online with *extreme* skepticism. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 03:06 AM |
| 153 | The realisation there are not enough HVM in society and some of us will likely be single forever and never marry.Keep in mind that you've been brainwashed since birth to marry and give your life to a man for their benefit. It's absolutely not necessarily conducive to a happy life. I'm 32, single, and way happier than most people I know who are married and/or have children. It's wonderful to have all your time and energy for yourself. I've spent roughly 12 years of my life in relationships and, being an empath, what inevitably ends up happening is I give and give and give to my male partner and he just take… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/20 02:58 AM |
| 5 | Can some of the younger ladies in here explain to me what the actual fuck is happening to the men of your generation!? Let’s have a conversation...There are men like this who are your age and older, unfortunately. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/04/20 06:51 PM |
| 6 | Highly intelligent women - are you with, or only date, other highly intelligent men?This will vary among people. You need to make this decision in your own vacuum without any influence from your mum or any other person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/04/20 01:33 PM |
| 3 | Websites with quality affordable clothing?Well I already know what brands I like, which helps a lot. Maybe start with trying to find a personal style, then find some pieces you like and see what brands they are and see if you can get them affordably on eBay? Just a thought; there are certainly other options. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 04:19 AM |
| 18 | Websites with quality affordable clothing?eBay ☺️ I buy most of my clothes on there and then sell them when I'm done with them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/20 03:40 AM |
| 30 | Begin your conversations with an end-goal in mindThis kind of everyday strategizing involving other people (especially men) feels exhausting to me. You're totally right, which is why I basically don't date anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 04:54 AM |
| 12 | I need advice about my boyfriendDo you actually have anything in common? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 04:51 AM |
| 42 | I like to cookSame, girl. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 01:05 AM |
| 5 | "If you don't cook for your husband you might as well NOT get married"I've had a variety of horrible experiences with Indian men. One was as you mentioned above. Another one was my first abusive partner (who I unfortunately still miss 2 years later). A third one was really just using me to have another place to go because he didn't like his roommate, and stole $120 from me. All three of them got violent with me. I don't date only Indians; my other exes are of other ethnicities, but lately I've been more into the South Asians because they're typically very well-edu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 12:16 PM |
| 5 | "If you don't cook for your husband you might as well NOT get married"LVM unfortunately | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 11:46 AM |
| 14 | "If you don't cook for your husband you might as well NOT get married"Somehow both my Indian ex-boyfriends knew how and loved to cook... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 01:33 AM |
| 53 | “I’m just lookin for fun.”I'm glad you posted this because all the women on this sub need to know that this is exactly how to have the first conversation with a new dating app match. Excellent work. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 12:46 AM |
| 1 | Low self esteem is dangerous, as evidenced in Tiger KingYes, that's how I feel about 90% of them as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 07:15 PM |
| 16 | Low self esteem is dangerous, as evidenced in Tiger KingYep. They're just representative of how the vast majority of men would act if they thought they could get away with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/03/20 04:59 PM |
| 3 | The red flags keeps piling up!Listen. All of this is a bunch of bullshit and a waste of time. I feel like you're almost purposely distracting yourself from your own life because you don't want to face it. What are your goals? Why don't you put your energy into them instead of into completely worthless fuckboys? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 10:03 PM |
| 8 | I feel so devastatedYou're obsessed with this guy because you see things in him that you want for yourself. Go get them for yourself instead. He's precisely the opposite of a "great guy." He's a total asshole. his replies became always so so dry...sometimes he would go not texting me for weeks, it was obvious he didn’t care abt me and he’d try to go to sexual topics Next time this happens, block and next. They only want one thing from you. You're not a human to the vast majority of men at all. They just want your b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 07:30 PM |
| 14 | "I am mid 50ties, but my gf cannot be older than 25. Oh, and I am also married."Nothing to see here, really. This is just typical male thinking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 07:23 PM |
| 7 | Can a man in his late 30s still learn cleaning habits?I don't think he'll change. Many, many people don't seem to care whether their spaces are the least bit clean or not. As someone who cleans a lot and enjoys a clean space, it's a total dealbreaker for me and one of the main reasons why I will likely never marry. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 07:21 PM |
| 10 | Are most men creeps that exhibit predatory behavior?!Yes. Almost all of them view women as sex objects and that's it. They will do anything for sex, and on top of that, steal your money, because in their view you are worthless except for your ability to cook, clean, and have sex with them, and they are superior. They do not think of you as a human with your own mind and traits and values - it's just "what can I get out of her and how quickly?" Most are aware of their thinking and very adept at pretending to be the opposite in their public image; i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 06:26 PM |
| 7 | How to get over a guy?Listen, it's a very common thing to be brainwashed into thinking that people who attend elite institutions are much more valuable than others. I used to think that too when I was in high school. I'm in my 30s now and having known lots of people who fit into that category, as well as more normal people who went to state schools, I can tell you that there's really nothing inherently different about people who attend elite schools. (I have seen lots of them up close because, among other people, my … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 05:23 AM |
| 165 | Genuine question: why FDS makes guys so mad?It undermines their entire patriarchal system of trying to dominate, subjugate, and control women in every possible way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/20 01:39 AM |
| 75 | « A woman choosing to have you in her life is a privilege that can be revoked at any time and it’s up to you to earn and maintain that place in that women’s life »My dearest wish is for every woman to walk away from men who show the first signs of bad behavior - maybe then they would straighten up. Unfortunately, the vast majority of men are bad, and the vast majority of women just put up with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 05:25 PM |
| 23 | Is there a certain age at which a man, if still single, becomes questionable?I find this so bizarre. I'm 32, never married with no children, and live in a conservative area. No one has ever questioned my choices and most seem to be envious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 12:22 PM |
| 15 | Consider abstainingMost women should be abstaining anyway. The vast majority of men just aren't worth the time, effort, or risk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 04:23 AM |
| 44 | How do I get over an unreciprocated crush?Whatever good qualities you think you're seeing in him, try to develop in yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 03:57 AM |
| 17 | Why do men try to talk us out of our standards?It's very simple. The vast majority of men are fundamentally completely selfish. They do not think like you and I do; they think only in terms of "what do I want and how can I get it." Anything they say and do is for this purpose. They are trying to talk you out of your standards so they can get a chance with you or keep you on their back burner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 12:24 PM |
| 8 | Single mom datingWhy exactly do you want a relationship with a man? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 05:07 AM |
| 7 | It seems like men will only settle down with someone who’s absolutely perfect, and I don’t have the energy anymore.Neither men nor their preferences matter in the least. What matters is that you're investing your time, energy, and money into yourself, and are happy with your own life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 04:36 AM |
| 28 | I just have to say it here....Get the cordless Hitachi magic wand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 02:02 AM |
| 8 | Ended things with me and he’s already getting serious with someone new. Help please.Or don't bother getting another one because there's a 95% chance it'll be a waste of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 03:21 PM |
| 39 | For those men who are 35+ and say ‘i’M nOt lOoKiNG 4 aNYtHINg sERIoUS’ my dude you’re half way to being elderly lmao like get it together Michael. Stop deluding yourselves into thinking you’re a spring chicken, you’re not!No worries - these men never get any dates or action. I know because I always ask them out of curiosity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 03:57 AM |
| 5 | Ladies! It's rough out there, that's for sure. But I know y'all got this. So, what projects/hobbies are you working on?I've been working from home, cooking all kinds of things, redoing my bedroom, working on a data science class, and planning trips for when all of this is over - hopefully sooner rather than later. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 03:56 AM |
| 7 | Embracing FDS, but have conflicting viewsIt's not a cult. Just take and do whatever is useful to you. I actually think dating is almost always a poor use of a woman's time, but here I am on a sub with "dating" right in the title. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/20 03:54 AM |
| 17 | Texting etiquette: for younger members (18-30) Do you reply to all texts when talking to a guy ?I know you're 19, but the internet has been a thing for the middle class and up since the 1990s. I'm 32 and have been IMing people since I was nine, which was in 1997. I believe I first discovered texting around the year you were born, though it didn't take off for several years after that. You have to think about your own time as being precious, and you have to think of everything in terms of return on investment. If some dude is texting you back with one-word answers or emojis, just don't both… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 07:05 PM |
| 10 | Why do some men seem to bond over how poorly they can treat women sexually/romantically?Because deep down, men desire to dominate. That's why so many of them rape and then kill women - it's the ultimate form of domination, and they love it. Domination is their form of morality. They don't care about being a decent person, trying to get along with women, uplifting each other, making the world a better place, or anything along those lines. The way you think is probably something like this: I want the world to be a better place. I want things to be as peaceful and harmonious as possib… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 06:51 PM |
| 5 | I am attracted to men I am not compatible with for a LTRMany of the qualities I appreciate "here and now" is not something I would want in a long term life-partner. Can you elaborate/give some examples? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 06:35 PM |
| 2 | Why do I only attract not well-to-do guys?Oh, I see. Yeah, "casual" varies a lot by culture. A lot of the influence in my early life came from a culture whose definition of "casual" is a lot more dressy than that of my own culture, which is where I get it. You would never see Europeans wearing sweatpants in public, for example. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 01:29 AM |
| 3 | Why do I only attract not well-to-do guys?I especially love the shoes! For the girls on a budget - I spend a fraction of this on most of my outfits (except the Johnny Was pieces, which I sell on eBay when I'm done with) . | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 01:12 AM |
| 18 | Why do I only attract not well-to-do guys?Yeah, I'm pretty much always dressed up to some extent. I put a lot of time and energy into my outfits, my dating app photos are of me traveling internationally, and I attract a lot of men of a higher socioeconomic class. (Most are still trash, though.) I would never dream of leaving the house in sweatpants or a sweatshirt, yoga pants, pajama pants, etc. I usually either wear a solid color maxi dress with a slip underneath and a scarf with a complementary color (unless it's summer), a top and a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 10:31 PM |
| 26 | It's not getting better, ladies.Ugh, I'm white and there are so many white men I can't stand. They really are so incredibly entitled. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 04:36 PM |
| 6 | PSA: stay away from them ladies!I KNOW!!! Sooo frustrating! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 08:39 PM |
| 23 | PSA: stay away from them ladies!I know! My ex that I lived with only ate taquitos and those little pepperoni pizzas from Trader Joe's. He would never even try a bite of anything I cooked, and I'm a pretty good cook. I dumped him, moved out, and now I know how to make every single thing I ever ordered at a restaurant (lots of Chinese and Thai food) plus much more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/03/20 08:23 PM |
| 70 | When you have to motivate your husband into talking care of his OWN kids and his OWN house. Couple goals🥰Every time I hear a woman talking about how she's married, I'm just like, why? What was so great about this man that you decided to dedicate your whole life to him? What was so compelling? We know that's what the majority of wives do. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 08:06 PM |
| 52 | Women & gay men have poor body image, look @ underwhelming replies to 'Is this guy hot?' on gay man sub, compare to straight men praising each otherPeople need to stop posting on these subs. They only exist for other anonymous users, unwilling to post their own photos, to be assholes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 12:42 AM |
| 15 | What does FDS think about drugs?The problem with drugs is that most of the time, the person using them builds their life around getting access to them. It's one more thing that you, as the partner, have to factor into your life on top of all the other things you do and change for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 07:30 PM |
| 10 | Fed up and discouragedYou don't need a relationship. Most relationships with men are a waste of time because they'll happily extract every resource they can get out of you while giving the bare minimum back. I say this as a woman who's had several decent-to-good boyfriends. I guarantee at least a large portion, if not all, of your friends in relationships are jealous of you. Just pretend dating isn't a thing and imagine your perfect life as a single woman. Then start working toward that vision one step at a time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 04:32 AM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020You'll have no idea whether he's a HVM until you've been dating for close to a year imo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 08:56 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered March 15th 2020I would ghost both of them. Just my personal preference. Some people think ghosting is rude but I think it's a message in itself and requires no further communication. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/03/20 08:53 PM |
| 22 | This whole sub makes me want to never have a relationship with a manYes, I agree that you should focus on yourself. I'm 32 and I was in two long relationships (5 and 6 years). The guys were not horrible like many described here, but it still wasn't worth it in the end because they took up so much time and energy. You can be open to a relationship someday, but please only spend a small fraction of your time on it, and please be very cautious. Even men who seem great at first often are not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 02:58 PM |
| 5 | TherapyI did the same thing 10 years ago. My grad student counselor was much better than several other therapists that I had to pay. We did CBT; it was great. OP, don't be afraid of meds, either. I take an antidepressant and it basically takes the edge off my depression and anxiety and helps stop my negative thoughts from completely spiraling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 02:54 PM |
| 3 | They want the hottest women and they don’t even brush there teeth.Oh! You're so young. I'm so proud of you for escaping. His story: JFC. He needs like three different therapists for the next five years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 01:57 AM |
| 8 | They want the hottest women and they don’t even brush there teeth.That's actually very sad. I bet his home situation growing up was terrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/03/20 12:19 AM |
| 47 | They want the hottest women and they don’t even brush there teeth.They started off brushing their teeth, I guess to impress me, and then let that habit slide. Obviously I would never date someone who didn't brush their teeth, hence why I broke up with them when they stopped. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 09:08 PM |
| 66 | They want the hottest women and they don’t even brush there teeth.I've had to break up with 2/5 boyfriends because they wouldn't brush their teeth. Men are nasty. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 08:28 PM |
| 10 | The Single Dad Question with a TwistI'm so sorry about your wife. I would actually be much more open to dating a widower with kids vs a divorced dad. First, there's no ex to deal with. Second, it means you've probably grown from the experience - I have a long history of loss and find it hard to relate to normal Americans who have never had anyone in their life die other than an elderly family member. Third, it means that it's much less likely that you're a bad partner - there would be no suspicion on you like there would be with a… | /r/askFDS | 14/03/20 01:38 AM |
| 19 | Daily reminder that most men are disgusting and responsible for much of the spread of COVID-19Holy shit. How much more can they lower the bar? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 01:32 AM |
| 29 | Men's Reasons for Having ChildrenYep! Just as they think of everything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 08:32 PM |
| 3 | Indian men are so embarrassingI remain open-minded, but cautious, about Indian men. I've been treated poorly by other men too, just without the violence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 08:24 PM |
| 22 | Indian men are so embarrassingI've never gotten to that point with any of them. One of them was abusive to the point of putting his hand on my throat and threatening me with a gun. The other one stopped brushing his teeth and stole $120 from me. Those were my two actual boyfriends. The third guy I referred to above was just a player - the worst sack of shit I've ever encountered in my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 08:13 PM |
| 10 | Indian men are so embarrassingYou're implying I was somehow supposed to know that because a guy was Indian, he would be violent. Just because one or two Indian guys are violent doesn't mean they all are. Also, this is a clear instance of victim-blaming. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 05:24 PM |
| 50 | Indian men are so embarrassingI'm white and have dated three Indian guys. All three of them got violent with me. I've never had that happen with men from any other culture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 05:03 PM |
| 27 | Former pushovers, how did you stop being a pushover?What worked for me was thinking about every action in terms of reciprocals. Would this person do for me what I'm doing for them? That was enough to really set me straight since the answer was almost always no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 05:39 AM |
| 14 | I received an email informing that the conference I was presenting my research at got cancelled because of CoVID-19. I posted the screenshot on my story. An LVM I went to college with found it funny. I told him it wasn’t. He told me to laugh more. How do I reply?Remove him from your friends list. Do not answer further messages. Turn off notifications from him. Don't keep lvm in your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 05:37 AM |
| 16 | Helpless"I don't have time to call the dentist, can you call and make an appointment for me?" "I don't have time to call the places to clean and set up the pool, can you call for me?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 05:34 AM |
| 8 | Sexual FrustrationNot in a while. It's okay, I have my trusty cordless Hitachi magic wand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 04:37 AM |
| 14 | Sexual FrustrationI have almost no desire to have sex with men anymore because it's led to an absurd amount of abuse and maltreatment over so many years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 03:46 AM |
| 9 | Do you know a HVM who gave you some faith in men?Yes: My childhood friend, married to my other childhood friend - they have two daughters and do amazing teamwork as parents. He's a provider and treats his wife, my friend, like a queen. The father of said friend - a really good man; I grew up watching him help and dote on his wife, cook, he took us to the homeless shelter at 5am to cook breakfast and clean, etc. My other male childhood friend who's a good dude A guy on my team at work - he is just the nicest person, works really hard, and has h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 03:36 AM |
| 0 | Dating with Kids Post-DivorceActually, to be honest, the #1 thing I look for in a man is growth mindset and the ability to critically examine his views and change them when warranted. You have that, which is very rare and very powerful. | /r/askFDS | 12/03/20 07:32 PM |
| 6 | Dating with Kids Post-DivorceMy post was meant to show you what women may be thinking of you rather than to accuse you of those specific things. You did say 'I def fell for the "only date childfree women under 30" meme before I even started considering dating again.' Again, I commend you on recognizing that as a toxic mindset. Maybe I was abusive?!? So bad about me as a father she had to leave?? Like come on. This may sound implausible to you, but unfortunately, these situations are incredibly common. Again, not accusing yo… | /r/askFDS | 12/03/20 07:20 PM |
| 2 | Dating with Kids Post-DivorceWell, I think he said he was a recovering redpiller, and to his credit, he has been working on changing those views. But the fact that he was thinking that way at all to me is a red flag. There's nothing magical that happens at 30 that should make men wary of anyone over that age. Even if we're being totally superficial, and all he wants is a hookup, there are tons and tons of women over 30 who are just as, if not more, attractive than women in their 20s. Even most puas know that! | /r/askFDS | 12/03/20 06:50 PM |
| 9 | Dating with Kids Post-DivorceThe fact that you're trying to date eight months out of a 20-year relationship is a huge red flag. The fact that you and your ex broke up after 20 years while having little kids is a huge red flag. To me it sounds like you all were able to put up with each other for 20 years, but something was so, so bad about you as a father that your ex just had to get away from you. Maybe you were abusive. Maybe you just didn't take care of the kids and made her feel like you were an additional kid. Whatever … | /r/askFDS | 12/03/20 05:34 PM |
| 9 | Dating with Kids Post-DivorceHard pass. | /r/askFDS | 12/03/20 02:17 PM |
| 3 | Do I tell him I love him?Thank you for the silver!! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 01:55 PM |
| 17 | Do I tell him I love him?And here's another thing. If this weren't true, it would be pretty offensive. We know that tons of guys lurk here, and despite saying this several times, I have never once received a message from a man telling me I'm wrong. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 01:27 PM |
| 65 | Is this something to be concerned about? I have no idea how to repondSide note: it's actually pretty lame and weak for him to pre-arrange it like this, like hunting at a zoo. If I'm going to be used for sex, the man needs to actually seduce me in the moment in person - not set it up in advance over text. Lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 01:23 PM |
| 42 | Do I tell him I love him?whenever we meet up we sleep together You need to stop doing this, especially if you want a relationship. You sound like you get emotionally attached during sex (I do too), so it needs to be with guys who are fully committed to you. I can tell he feels the same Here you're making a "just like me" error. The vast majority of men do not have feelings the way women do. You think of him as a close friend. It's very possible that even though you've known him for 20 years, he just thinks of you as an … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 01:09 PM |
| 6 | Conflicted about a friendOther commenters have suggested how to move forward. I would just like to point out that I wouldn't take any of this personally - everything people do is about them, not about you. Likely poor Amy has been brainwashed by someone in her family (one or both of her parents) to obsess over men, and that's just how she thinks about herself, and she's also applying it to you. It has nothing to do with you really, so don't feel insulted. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 12:19 PM |
| 174 | He didn't even read itThis is just typical male behavior. They don't see women as humans. I hope she was found. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 12:15 PM |
| 174 | Is this something to be concerned about? I have no idea how to repondHe's trying to set it up so you'll come to his place, he'll randomly get naked (excused with this text), and then you'll sleep with him. Block and next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 12:13 PM |
| 25 | Corporate LibFem wants to eliminate women’s right to self-protectI resent the assumption made by some people that because I'm traveling solo, I must be hooking up with Tinder randos. I don't do that at home, and have never even thought about doing it on a trip. Side note: if you're traveling solo, please bring a backup phone! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 07:38 PM |
| 24 | Daily reminder that neither being wealthy nor cultured means a male is safe: Famous opera singer has concerts canceled after "an investigation commissioned into sexual harassment allegations has found that the legendary tenor engaged in 'inappropriate conduct' with multiple women"I would think that wealthy men would be more inclined to be predators: they're typically more entitled and think they can get away with more bad behavior because they can escape the consequences with their money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 02:24 PM |
| 18 | Has your ex LVM ever admitted to deceiving you?Yes. It was so horrible and I was so traumatized that my brain has taken a lot of it out of my memory and I would have to go back and read my notes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 06:01 AM |
| 27 | Ohio plastic surgeon accused of drugging, raping, filming women for years (Trigger warning)The entire world makes more sense when you realize that men operate solely from a place of wanting to dominate everyone and everything around them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 05:02 AM |
| 7 | Ladies have you ever tried a blind dating program like this?Yes! I would much rather have a root canal than have to deal with any more men - even if they come to me; even if they pay. It's simply not worth it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 09:07 PM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Male lurkers: enough with the bait-and-switches. I'm tired of guys telling me they want to take me out to dinner, not actually doing it, and then when I mention that I did something fun over the weekend they want me to invite them next time. Just unmatched a guy for doing this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 06:38 AM |
| 1 | Got stood up yesterday, but I'm happy that I dodged the bullet.What a strange thing to say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 12:23 AM |
| 20 | Got stood up yesterday, but I'm happy that I dodged the bullet.What does that quote even mean? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 02:26 PM |
| 22 | New to this and went on a first date- need help letting go of my pickmeisha waysThere's nothing wrong with getting excited about a date. The problem is that you don't know whether you really like him or not yet because you don't know him yet. You have to temper your excitement by holding back, observing, and making notes about him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 02:25 PM |
| 23 | Yes, they go to Ivy Leasue schools, too. LVM in old movieI hope women aren't equating ivy league degrees with being high-value. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 02:59 AM |
| 14 | Ladies that do OLD- how often do men...Okay, here's my online dating shit list: A guy that told me he was looking for a LTR that would hopefully lead to marriage, but was actually a pickup artist who played me hot and cold and even slapped me around a little; A guy who was great at first but became my first abusive boyfriend - unfortunately I'm still not completely over him; [update: I am pretty much over him] A guy who also became my boyfriend but randomly lost interest after 3 months, tried to ghost me, never paid me back $120 that… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 02:09 AM |
| 16 | Ladies that do OLD- how often do men...Yes; I'm out right now, but if you want, look for a post from me called "Do you think dating apps attract more messed-up men?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 10:51 PM |
| 49 | Ladies that do OLD- how often do men...Yes. You have to treat every single one as a predator for months until proven otherwise. I have a whole bunch of horror stories from online dating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 10:00 PM |
| 12 | Tradwives have no idea what real traditional cultures are like.That is insane. I'm from a female-only family who generally hates men, and it's great. Lol. Of course there are a few exceptions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 07:53 PM |
| 4 | Tradwives have no idea what real traditional cultures are like.Yes!! I would love that! Chris Watts is such a piece of shit. Additional recommendation: the YouTube channel "JCS Criminal Psychology" which has a piece on him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 07:52 PM |
| 14 | Tradwives have no idea what real traditional cultures are like.All this, and then you still have pickmeisha women who weren't even brainwashed by religion. Sick, all of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:50 PM |
| 55 | Tradwives have no idea what real traditional cultures are like.Not sure if you're into true crime, but I've been listening to the podcast Cold, about the incredibly horrifying Susan Powell "disappearance" (murder/homicide) case in Utah/Washington. The podcast goes through a lot of interviews with people who knew Susan and her LVM murderer husband, Josh, as well as excerpts from her journal. Josh Powell was basically the lowest of the low. He stole tens of thousands of dollars from his ex-girlfriend. He couldn't hold down a job. One guy who helped him move a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 04:29 PM |
| 124 | Tradwives have no idea what real traditional cultures are like.Yeah. See, a huge percentage of men have never worked a day in their lives. They sit around playing video games, eating chips, barely having graduated from high school and living off their parents. But modern Western culture has taught them that they are deserving of a wonderful woman who will work full-time, support them, keep the house clean, and do all the cooking and child-rearing just because they are male and therefore superior. They are to be catered to, and allowed to sit around in their… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 03:49 PM |
| 19 | Women are doing great, it's redpill men who need self improvement. Broke ass single men and successful single women, statistics you need to know.It's almost as if their entire lives have revolved around testing their parents to see what they can get away with. They've won that game, so now they can just relax. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:52 PM |
| 3 | So heartbroken for herYou're right! Thought I was logged in. Thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:43 AM |
| 6 | Looks like RedPillers days are numbered on Reddit. 🥳🥳🥳🥳😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:37 AM |
| 7 | I found a HVM but he doesn't go down on me. He likes to please me in other ways, but this really bothers me. All my former boyfriends liked to go down on me everytime. I can't keep seeing him because of this and it sucks.Absolutely a dealbreaker for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:32 AM |
| 4 | So heartbroken for herLink is broken. Great advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:31 AM |
| 141 | Watch out for these greasy men, ladies"I don't want to have to grow or improve myself in any way, so I find women with low expectations to date." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 04:09 AM |
| 5 | Sexism im sub reddits - stay away from r sex and r datingoverthirtyNot really. I think I commented on one post recently that a woman was being used for sex and it got downvoted. Shocker! Do you? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:48 AM |
| 3 | Sexism im sub reddits - stay away from r sex and r datingoverthirtyI still keep in touch with 3 people from dot, 1 nearly every day! ☺️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 12:39 AM |
| 27 | Sexism im sub reddits - stay away from r sex and r datingoverthirtyYeah, that's pretty much how my own dead bedroom relationship happened. I became his mommy, and neurotypical people do not feel sexual attraction for people whom they feel parental towards. But just like is said thousands of times a day on FDS, men don't understand that *we* are the ones who get to be choosy, not them. I'm 32. I have five ex-boyfriends, four of whom would've married me if I'd wanted, and all of whom I dumped. I have my own job, my own money, my own investments, my own friends, m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 11:37 PM |
| 11 | And dying with cats is supposed to scare me into a relationship like that?! LmaoMy Googling says that unfortunately "only 16 states and the District of Columbia recognize common law marriage in the United States." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 11:13 PM |
| 28 | In one sentence, comment your best dating advice...GO!Act relaxed and positively towards him so that he lets his guard down, but stay skeptical and take lots of notes, even about things that bother you for reasons you can't quite put your finger on. Leave when there are multiple such notes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 11:02 PM |
| 4 | For whatever reason, FWR wants FDS banned despite the plethora of WOC we have in this sub. I find the diversity of races, religions, and cultures here (all supporting each other) to be one of our main strengths. Why can’t women ever have a space for themselves on Reddit?It seems to me like it would be higher than that. Regardless, I agree with the gist of her post. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:58 PM |
| 7 | Sexism im sub reddits - stay away from r sex and r datingoverthirtyHeyy~ I remember you from DOT! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:53 PM |
| 38 | Sexism im sub reddits - stay away from r sex and r datingoverthirtyYep, that's literally how it is. I tried to talk about waiting for sex on there and I was told things like, "I just got out of a dead bedroom relationship. If you're not willing to bang during the first week, I would move on," as if that would change my mind, lol. I think most users on that sub are LVM who can't get a date, which explains all of it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:53 PM |
| 5 | For whatever reason, FWR wants FDS banned despite the plethora of WOC we have in this sub. I find the diversity of races, religions, and cultures here (all supporting each other) to be one of our main strengths. Why can’t women ever have a space for themselves on Reddit?That particular statistic doesn't sound quite right (that would imply that all women with male partners would be dead in four days), but point taken. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:47 PM |
| 68 | Sis if you had sex with him and he paid for dinner, you didn’t get a free dinnerI know. I cannot believe women do this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:00 PM |
| 19 | It's Not Your Imagination - Dating Does Get Worse Over 30Don't! Turning 30 is wonderful. I'm happier each year (32 now). I do recommend following a skin care regimen, though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 02:31 AM |
| 15 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020This is a great story that all women on here can learn from. I hope you'll be able to copy and paste it on applicable threads from time to time! Thanks for sharing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 01:20 AM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020God yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 01:18 AM |
| 16 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020I work from home about 98% of the time. Today I was in the office in an all-day training with several others, including two guys whose profiles I've seen on Bumble, and who most likely have also seen me on Bumble. For some reason that was all I could think about with those two. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 01:16 AM |
| 6 | It's Not Your Imagination - Dating Does Get Worse Over 30Why else would a guy spend months with me without sex? Lvm would dip out. Not necessarily. There are lots of players out there who date girls for months just to have sex with them. Sex is about security and intimacy. It absolutely should be. Unfortunately, for a whole lot of men, sex is actually about power. Even if he doesn’t feel “love” like a woman, I still get something from it. Unfortunately, unless the guy truly loves or cares about you, what you're feeling is essentially fake because whil… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 12:59 AM |
| 3 | It's Not Your Imagination - Dating Does Get Worse Over 30You're thinking about your own feelings here. You're not looking at things from the male perspective. Believe me, it's totally different. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 12:43 AM |
| 67 | DO NOT GIVE SECOND CHANCESThis is one of the saddest facts of life for me. Love, compassion, empathy, and forgiveness are almost never appreciated by men; they are simply indicators that he can just get more and more out of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 12:37 AM |
| 20 | It's Not Your Imagination - Dating Does Get Worse Over 30Your first mistake is equating love and sex. You may have feelings of love during sex, but I can assure you that if you're having sex with a man, and you haven't known him a long time, and haven't vetted him, it's highly likely what he's feeling has absolutely nothing to do with love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 12:34 AM |
| 12 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020It's kind of weird to visit a sub you don't post on, complain about how it's different from what you expected, and tell regular posters to visit a different sub instead. There are several FDS sister subs; you could try those. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 12:14 AM |
| 10 | It's Not Your Imagination - Dating Does Get Worse Over 30You want sex? Why? It's almost never that good | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 11:47 PM |
| 86 | It's Not Your Imagination - Dating Does Get Worse Over 30Who cares? No matter your age, there's a 90+% chance a guy is just using you for sex, money, and labor. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. High school and college are too young for very serious dating because your personalities are still evolving. Wait til late 20s-30s and it's "too late." Whatever. Most women would be better off alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 11:21 PM |
| 62 | Touching when dating😒Because: Men are desperate for sex; Men are desperate to see signs that you're willing to have sex with them; Men engage in this type of wishful thinking all the time; Men really only care about having power over women, and this is one of the best forms of power and control over you. I'm really sorry about what happened to you. That's horrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 03:15 AM |
| 24 | Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic (Reposting bc I keep effing up the title...)Unfortunately, it's not just English culture. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 12:48 AM |
| 62 | Tips for college-aged womenAlso, don't even worry about boys at all. Focus on your studies and career aspirations. You want to always be in a position to support yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 12:45 AM |
| 19 | Getting engaged within a year of dating?Why does the endgame always seem like it's about power. Because for almost all men, it is. That's all that matters. I value true love too much to discard and abuse my partner after years of being together. This isn't something that resonates or even occurs to men. The only thing that matters is what are they getting, how much, and how long can they keep it up. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 08:43 PM |
| 9 | Do I go over to his house alone (on the second date) to work on his project ?Make no mistake: it doesn't matter if you're in Azerbaijan. Men all over the world want to use women for sex. They are looking for any indication at all that they might be able to use you for sex. On top of that, you'll be helping him with his homework. He's identified the different ways he can use you and is now proceeding with his plan to accomplish those goals. Do with that what you will. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 06:25 PM |
| 73 | Dating in Asia vs the westI’m starting to wonder why those girls accept these shitshow guys. Because they have low self-esteem and have been brainwashed that men are more important than them, and to not even think of their own needs. I wonder how these guys in the future settle down. I mean why would they ? They’ll never feel satisfied. They don't care. Their goal is to have sex with as many women as possible: 5, 50, 500, 5000, 50,000, whatever number they can possibly get to. That is what life is about for them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 06:19 PM |
| 6 | When he says he doesn’t care, believe him.Congrats on your escape. Honestly, women need to be less emotional and more logical. We all want to have these wonderful Disney feelings about a guy, and we end up projecting them on whoever's next in the line instead of critically examining his actual behaviors, always to our own detriment. I make objective notes about all men I date now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 06:16 PM |
| 2 | How LVM will treat you when you behave like a pickme... Pickmesha gets played, ladies...Women are taught to focus on men and finding a husband, to put them first. Men are taught to put themselves first. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 04:38 PM |
| 60 | LADIES, fucking vet the men you have children with! The absolute evil they can do is insaneMen can do this easily because in their minds, everyone exists to be used for something. It's really that simple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 01:39 PM |
| 5 | Vintage FDS from a 90s Dateline episode <3 Take this energy into the weekend, ladies!Thanks for posting this! I really enjoyed it. Those ladies are awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 01:36 PM |
| 7 | I was reading replies from non-cheating married who were asked why they had refrained from cheating on their wives. The overwhelming response?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 06:29 AM |
| 28 | I can't even. I'm good enough to fuck but not date wtfI'm also 32 and also have the same thoughts. But look, you didn't marry or have children with any of these garbage men, right? Just do your own thing. It's honestly great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 05:24 AM |
| 32 | I can't even. I'm good enough to fuck but not date wtfListen, this isn't a reflection on you. It's all about him and what he's thinking. Your self-worth is completely unrelated to this pendejo. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 05:02 AM |
| 81 | How LVM will treat you when you behave like a pickme... Pickmesha gets played, ladies...The whole thing about this being just a game to them should make us all want to abstain completely. Even if we make them wait and get rings on our fingers and so on, they'll always win in the end because this is the attitude they start off with - "what can I get out of her?" All of it is a total con game for women. It's virtually impossible for them to care as much about us as we care about them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 04:57 AM |
| 28 | The 10 Stages of Giving Up on OLD.. I'm currently at stage 9 - withdrawal and FOMO - but I'm sticking to it! Anyone got any stages to add?I was really devastated when I figured out that dating apps were basically for male predators. I'm still on them, but I have no faith in them at all. Actually, I've pretty much lost any and all interested in dating. No desire to be used or abused again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 10:52 PM |
| 10 | I need some advice on dealing with the most confusing relationship ever!Oh, he knows exactly what he's doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 08:52 PM |
| 14 | I need some advice on dealing with the most confusing relationship ever!Yes. You need to be prepared to kick men out of your life at any time. See, the way you think is probably something like this: I'm a super nice person. It's my job to go above and beyond for everyone. If I'm just nice enough, everyone will like me. I guess I haven't been nice enough to this guy. You have to understand that almost no men think this way. Men are generally predators. The way they think is the opposite: She seems like a nice girl. What can I get out of her? How can I fuck her as soo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 08:48 PM |
| 12 | I need some advice on dealing with the most confusing relationship ever!Block both of them everywhere right this second. Were you abused as a child? If so, this type of thing probably feels normal and "loving" to you, even though it's the opposite. If I let my emotions rule my life, I would be this way too. You have to use logic. Break down how a man is treating you objectively. Is that how he should be acting toward you? If not, let him go. How you feel about him doesn't matter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 08:10 PM |
| 16 | I need some advice on dealing with the most confusing relationship ever!I don’t understand what’s going on! You haven't established any kind of boundaries with these people, and they're just using you as they see fit. Why are you putting up with this? Do they own you? Are you their slave? Why are they not both blocked in your phone? The AMAZING sex is the main reason I’m still communicating with him I would like to introduce you to the cordless Hitachi Magic Wand. It'll be the best $80 you've ever spent. I guess a part of me hopes that a relationship where I have eq… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 07:56 PM |
| 14 | Guys that only take you on drink dates?I personally would break it off and block him for the following reasons: You are too young to get involved with a guy that has a kid; Cheap guys are no fun; Humble bragging isn't a good sign; He's putting his best face on right now, and it's not very good. He should be taking you out and spending some money on you. Since he's not currently doing that, and it's the honeymoon period, it's not going to get better; You said you like him because you like conversations with him, have similar views, an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:08 PM |
| 7 | My hobbies are too introverted?This question is asked multiple times a day every day, so you may want to use the search bar. There's no easy answer to this question. There isn't some secret club where all the HVM meet and if you could just figure out what and where it was, you'd have a gold mine. The best thing to do is to focus on activities you enjoy and building up your own life - your career, your friends, and your hobbies and interests. Maybe you'll meet a HVM and maybe you won't. There are no guarantees. I haven't met m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 06:01 PM |
| 28 | dating in your 30s, 40s - double edged sword? is it something that have both favorable and unfavorable consequences?I feel that your questions are coming from a place of anxiety - basically, "What if I never find love?" I would recommend accepting that love may never happen, and if not, it will not be a reflection on you at all. The truth is that there are not enough HVM to go around, and the time that you spend ruminating on these anxiety-fueled questions could instead be used for investing in yourself, which has a guaranteed return on investment. Dating is more likely to make your life worse than better, un… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 03:59 PM |
| 65 | Vet your partners not only for your safety but also for your pets safety....men poison their wives horses due to “jealousy” smh...I'm sure none of those wives could've imagined their husbands would do that. Vetting is incredibly important and I recommend it here all the time, but it's not foolproof. There seem to be more and more sick, infuriated, selfish men every day. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 04:02 AM |
| 3 | Strategies/suggestions to gain self confidence and increase self esteem?Have you sought treatment for your depression? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 03:57 AM |
| 9 | Dating with age?I can't believe you all still have any interest in dating. I'm 32 with five exes, all of whom I dumped, and numerous dating horror stories. Dating is pretty much the last of my priorities at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 03:48 AM |
| 58 | Dating Over Thirty, the shitshowI used to post a lot over there, even made a few friends. The problem is that over there you have a bunch of amazing women who can't find a decent guy because there aren't enough of them, and then you have a whole lot of angry, sexually frustrated men who can't get a date. The two groups are just worlds apart, and I just don't think it works well for a sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 08:04 PM |
| 12 | I am getting desperateThere is also a brainwashing component here. You have been taught since you were born that you need to meet and marry a man, that that will give you value and meaning as a woman. In fact, what would give you the maximum value and meaning as a woman would be to develop yourself to the maximum possible extent on your own. When women have male partners, they almost always give a lot of themselves away - they lose themselves in the quest for "love," and ultimately it doesn't really do them much good… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 04:54 PM |
| 5 | Three U.S women killed every day by men who claimed to love them. Never forget the world we live in.I am not great at math I know this is off-topic, but as someone who tutored math for six years, you can totally master math. Math is empowering and very important to understand, and it breaks my heart every time a woman says she's not good at it (likely because she was told it was a boy-thing). Most people aren't born being skilled at different subjects; the difference is in what kind of environment they grew up in and how much they studied. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 01:43 PM |
| 5 | Three U.S women killed every day by men who claimed to love them. Never forget the world we live in.Holy shit, that is horrible. I guess they wishfully thought that you wanted that behavior during sex or something like that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 01:40 PM |
| 13 | Three U.S women killed every day by men who claimed to love them. Never forget the world we live in.Same! I was in a six-year relationship in my 20s and have been mostly single for the last 3+ years, with two short relationships that didn't work out. When I'm single, all my time, energy, and money goes toward me and exactly what I want to do. When in a relationship, I have to think about a man all the time. Since men are usually no longer providers, and are very likely to be abusive, violent, or at least psychologically and emotionally manipulative, why should I even bother thinking about havi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 01:39 PM |
| 12 | Three U.S women killed every day by men who claimed to love them. Never forget the world we live in.just "rested their hand there" in a kind of loose grab (why is this a thing?!) Because it seems that a whole lot of men get off on the thought of having sex with a woman and then killing her. They do this all the time - rape and murder: the ultimate form of domination. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 01:36 PM |
| 24 | Can we talk about privileged white people and especially men saying this shit “I AS A WHITE WOMAN/MAN NEVER SEEN RACISM OR VIOLENCE OR RAPE THEREFORE EVERYONE LYING” automatic LVM imagine feeling comfy taking your wife and kids to PakistanYeah, I mean, I went to India last year by myself. I had a private driver and plenty of money. I'm white and middle class, so of course I was treated like a queen everywhere. Doesn't mean it's not still a horrible country for women, perhaps the most horrible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 06:16 AM |
| 2 | This is good... I think?You may get more responses if you add some paragraph breaks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 05:40 AM |
| 18 | A Security PSA - How to not get DoxxedIt's not that I sit there and think about them. Hell, right at this moment I'm studying for my next career move. I just wish the best for everyone. I generally stay away from men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 05:34 AM |
| 6 | Time is your most valuable resource, live your life accordinglyThis is the best post I have ever seen on Reddit. Thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 04:41 AM |
| 28 | Got ghosted... AGAIN!!!!I don't mean to hurt your feelings, but I think you're getting far too invested far too early. You didn't even know him. That means that you were projecting your fantasy on to him and hoping the real him would match up to it, which it didn't. When you meet a new man, envision yourself sitting across the table from him, holding back, and just listening to and observing him. Resist the urge to leap across the table and start getting attached, trying to fix him, etc. This vetting period should go o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 03:36 AM |
| 16 | “Get other hobbies so you don’t depend on a man” I tried and I can’t :(Maybe try finding some people outside your age group? I know you're frustrated, but you're going to have to keep trying to meeting new people. I ended up making some friends in their 50s and 60s that I met in a Japanese class. We play trivia and board games, go to cultural events, and so on. They love going to contra dance every week or more, and they also go to a Unitarian church. Don't expect people to become your actual friends when you first meet them. Just meet them, get to know them a litt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 03:29 AM |
| 95 | A Security PSA - How to not get DoxxedThis is so sad because all we want men to do is act in a reasonable and ethical way. I can't speak for everyone else, but I wish them well. I mean them no harm at all. I just want them to stop lying, stop purposely using women for sex, stop emotionally, psychologically, and physically abusing us, and start treating us as equal humans. Is that really so outrageous? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 01:00 AM |
| 6 | Got ghosted... AGAIN!!!!I'm really sorry this happened. It is so common and normal that it's better to expect this to happen at any point up until the 3-month mark. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 12:50 AM |
| 50 | Reminder to practice internet safety!Scrotes are pretending to be women in order to lure FDS Members out into public. Sad, but predictable male reaction to being called on their crap.Omg, thank you mods. This post struck me as odd, but I didn't even consider that possibility. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 11:56 PM |
| 6 | Men that stop making the same effort after commitment- why?Don’t end up like me, 30, cashed out my 401K SO I COULD USE IT TO SUPPORT MYSELF because I wasn’t working so I could travel to him every month ... because in the beginning he told me he would support me. I'm so sorry this happened to you. How horrible. If he had really loved you he would never have wanted you to do that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 08:44 PM |
| 39 | This is why we expect more! Found this in r/dating on a thread about dating on a budget.where the fck is affection, emotions, romance, caring for another human being This doesn't mean anything to them. Their whole life is about getting as many resources as possible for as little effort as possible. There's absolutely no thought of emotional intimacy, how their behavior affects other people including women, etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 08:36 PM |
| 86 | This is why we expect more! Found this in r/dating on a thread about dating on a budget.It's not about that, though. It's about power and control. They love to see how far they can push things - how rude and even abusive they can be while still holding a woman's attention. They get much more out of that "gotcha" feeling than actual love or intimacy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 08:30 PM |
| 3 | Are most LVM in America?? Thinking about leaving this country for good.Where did you go? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 08:27 PM |
| 2 | Are most LVM in America?? Thinking about leaving this country for good.American here. Have been treated badly by several foreign men, immigrants in the US, as well as other Americans. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 08:25 PM |
| 7 | Pet responsibilities; a microcosm of parenthood or a separate thing?I feel like this might be a red flag because here, he knows that their responsibilities have to be taken care of, but he only does them when you're sick: My...SO will take my cats to the vet if they need it, and occasionally (rarely) take care of the daily duties for them when I am feeling unwell. So that means he's willing to make occasional effort in order to not feel like the bad guy, but not daily effort to help you out. It's also possible that for some reason he thinks you don't want him me… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 08:24 PM |
| 103 | How I picture men who expect their wives and girlfriends to be their bangmaid mommies.In my last relationship where I felt like the mommy, I stopped being attracted to my boyfriend. We know that many, many men see their girlfriends/wives as their moms. Does that mean many, many men have an Oedipus complex? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 05:17 PM |
| 2 | He said I need a makeover on the first date ! What does that mean?Please block him right now if you haven't already. He 1000% knows that was rude and he's just trying to test you to see if you'll take it. He is absolutely toxic and there's no hope. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 12:30 PM |
| 6 | Do highly accomplished women have trouble finding a life partner?This post makes me very sad 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 12:28 PM |
| 1 | What do you do when you’re already doing everything right?Yes, this is normal. I'm only just now getting over an ex that I only dated for a few months and haven't seen since July 2018. Just take it one day at a time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 12:27 PM |
| 11 | Why do men think having negative bios will attract women? Doesn’t seem logical to me 🤔I think he's presenting his excuse for treating women poorly from the very beginning. With all bad behavior, he can just say "I told you from the beginning that I wasn't into you." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 12:26 PM |
| 16 | I blocked this guy awhile back and just saw his message in my blocked folder. So typical, “I know you’re a feminist... I was just making a joke.” He called women bitches and hoes in a text and it was totally uncalled for. He tried to crawl back. “I’m only a block away.” Nope, bye!Yes, it's infinitely easier to get rid of guys you haven't slept with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 12:23 PM |
| 4 | He said I need a makeover on the first date ! What does that mean?JFC | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 04:26 AM |
| 5 | “ period stuff freaks me out” Disgusting. This is why you shouldn’t get into a fwb situation with a man, some men really don’t deserve sexLooks like they're still available. I barely have periods so I don't use them that often, but sometimes they really hit the spot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 03:19 AM |
| 84 | “ period stuff freaks me out” Disgusting. This is why you shouldn’t get into a fwb situation with a man, some men really don’t deserve sexJust remember that it was all about them, not about you. It's not a reflection on you at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 09:45 PM |
| 160 | “ period stuff freaks me out” Disgusting. This is why you shouldn’t get into a fwb situation with a man, some men really don’t deserve sexHoly shit, this guy got rightfully destroyed in the comments. Good. All of my exes were actually really sweet about my period. With my first boyfriend, I had an accident in public and he just asked me if I were okay. He wasn't embarrassed like I was. My other ones would buy me those thermacare patches, run me baths, etc. This guy sounds like a little boy, as he was repeatedly told in the comments. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 09:35 PM |
| 12 | Ladies, losing weight was the best remedy to my pick me ways.Yeah, I used to have an eating disorder too. Gave up the harsh lifestyle and now I weigh 50lbs more. Just as many men find me attractive now as they did then. It's true that I was scientifically healthier when I was very strictly controlling my calories, but I couldn't handle the sleepless nights because of starvation, eating spinach salad for lunch every day, and never being able to partake in food with friends. Actually yesterday I went to a bhangra and fusion competition. The groups competing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 08:10 PM |
| 20 | Predatory men in publicYes, Yingying was a grad student from China at UIUC who missed the bus to an appointment to look at an apartment that she was interested in. She was going to be late, and this guy stopped to give her a ride but then murdered her. She had only been in the country a short time. (The way they tracked him down was nothing short of phenomenal investigative work: they identified his Saturn on surveillance, noticed that it had some kind of mark or dent on one of the tires, and were able to identify it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 04:07 PM |
| 39 | Predatory men in publicOh my god, that is so horrible. I'm so sorry. None of this should've happened to you. I hope you've been able to get therapy. I think physical size does make a difference. Remember the guy that kidnapped and murdered Yingying Zhang in Illinois? His girlfriend wore a wire to help the police and/or FBI and he mentioned she was an easier target, weighing closer to 100lbs than 150, because "it's 50 fewer pounds to get rid of." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 03:49 PM |
| 132 | Watch your thoughtsFurthermore, even if a man is pursuing you and doing all the right things, you have to hold back on true feelings for as many months as possible. It's highly likely that they're either faking it to get something out of you or they'll lose feelings around the 3-month mark and break things off. Romantic fantasies, ingrained in our minds by Disney movies and pickme female relatives, are women's greatest enemies. Women need to learn to use logic instead of engaging in ridiculous fictional storylines… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 03:44 PM |
| 5 | Has anyone else let themselves go, is that being a LVW?Yes but it's also part of the standard PCOS cocktail (metformin, birth control and spironolactone). I'm not diabetic at all (my blood sugar always tests at 88) but I still take it. Again I'm not saying you should or this is what's happening, it's just one possibility and it's a pretty common thing, which is why I'm suggesting it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 06:40 AM |
| 8 | Has anyone else let themselves go, is that being a LVW?Yeah, it's very common. If they give you metformin, ask for the extended release (ER) version; it's much more tolerable and still generic. Definitely talk to them about your depression too. Put your energy and time into self-care. Go to the doctor as many times as you need to. Find a way to get therapy, and do activities that you enjoy for yourself. Figure out what the next goal in life is for you, and take small steps to reach it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 06:29 AM |
| 12 | Has anyone else let themselves go, is that being a LVW?Hey, I'm so sorry to hear this. Do you have a safe place to live and access to therapy? I'm not a doctor, and I'm not saying this is the case, but when I was 21 I gained like 50lbs. Some of it was stress eating, but a lot of it was undiagnosed PCOS and as soon as I was diagnosed and got on metformin, it was much easier to control my food/sugar cravings. I lost weight, especially from my face. Maybe look up the symptoms and speak to a doctor if you have some of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 06:19 AM |
| 5 | I am just so sick of dating, but I am also so lonely it’s crippling. Does anyone else feel this way?I'm not a doctor, but I've been on several antidepressants and currently take one. It's worth taking the time to try to find a medication that works for you, even if it takes years. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 06:12 AM |
| 18 | I am just so sick of dating, but I am also so lonely it’s crippling. Does anyone else feel this way?I think you should seek treatment for your depression, try to make new friends by going to some events close by, and learn to appreciate your own company. 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/20 04:11 AM |
| 90 | The real reason why LVM want to go Dutch and why they prefer drink dates over meal dates.If men are such complete and total enemies of women- If most men would abuse or kill women, given the chance (as happens in countries like Afghanistan, where 90% of women have been abused, and it's totally accepted)- If men generally come into contact with a woman thinking about how he can use her, and how he can manipulate her to get what he wants, and meeting up with, or even talking to a man is equivalent to the beginnings of psychological warfare- Why should women bother dating at all? It's … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 03:06 PM |
| 15 | LVM - Customer StyleYesss!!! #QueenShit 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 01:17 AM |
| 5 | Thoughts on having a sex toys thread?Cordless Hitachi Magic Wand. The end. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 12:17 AM |
| 7 | Is it just me? Are men that dumb?I love this comment so much. Spot-on. It's all about their egos. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/02/20 12:12 AM |
| 7 | New found strengthI'm so proud of you and happy that you reached this conclusion. I feel the same way at the same age, and this is why I post on this sub. I want women to get past all this brainwashing nonsense and start seeing their value. That is my dearest wish for the world. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 11:58 PM |
| 5 | Confused (but not falling for it?)He's not "trying to talk finally." He's just using you. Remove him from social media and plan never to speak to him again. If you usually get attached like this, please consider not hooking up with guys outside of a relationship. It would be for your own protection. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 11:50 PM |
| 53 | Just saw this comment! What your opinion about it? Do you experience it? I hope it is not true at all!Turning 30 is awesome. I was super apprehensive about it but it ended up being a great year. So was 31. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 11:45 PM |
| 32 | Just saw this comment! What your opinion about it? Do you experience it? I hope it is not true at all!No. I'm 32 and still have about an 85-90% match rate. I virtually never get excited about an online dating profile and then not have them match. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 11:45 PM |
| 23 | I'm starting to worry about the future of this subI think the mods are trying to do that but are probably a bit overwhelmed with every woman's dating horror story. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 11:35 PM |
| 27 | What is the proper response for being asked out on a low effort 'date'?Just unmatch if they even suggest you come over like that. There's no hope there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 10:51 PM |
| 12 | This is a lot of words for "I expect sex on the first date and refuse to buy you dinner."I think I'm speaking for most women here when I say that we tried this. We gave it a go. We didn't worry about the long-term in the beginning so much. We slept with him too early. We made excuses for him when he didn't reply to our texts. We remained relaxed despite his red flags. We put on a fun, carefree persona while being desperately anxious inside. Did any of that ever lead to a relationship? Probably a few times, but for the vast majority, no. *This doesn't work for us.* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 10:49 PM |
| 3 | You don’t have to be a pickmeisha forever.Yes! I love this quote 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 06:05 AM |
| 2 | So what do you ladies think of women who don't want children?I'm 10000% on the same page as you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 05:33 AM |
| 7 | Men are very difficult"Difficult"? No. "Completely self-serving"? Yes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 05:24 AM |
| 10 | Husband wants wife to sit by herself all day instead of enjoying her free time on work tripThis has to be a joke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 05:16 AM |
| 59 | You’re better off alone than with a LVMOmg - as cynical as I am, I'd never thought of this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 04:52 PM |
| 5 | This is so terrifying. Man cuts off his young wife’s hands with an AXE because he “thought” she was having an affair.This is men's nature. Almost all of them viciously abuse their wives in countries where it's socially acceptable. In countries where it's not, they pretend to be enlightened while "knowing" the whole time that they're superior and that they "should" have the right to beat, manipulate, and kill their wives, but this divine right has been taken away by crazy liberal feminists who are way too big for their britches. This is why I generally stay away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 12:27 PM |
| 6 | What dating advice would you give to your younger self?Just don't, period. It's a huge waste of time. Literally any other activity is a better bet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 12:19 PM |
| 56 | Experiences With Selfish Men?Yes. Almost all of them are totally selfish. All of my exes and all of my friends' dads. It's harder to think of a counterexample. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 12:08 PM |
| 3 | Can you still expect a quality partner if you have chronic health problems?Is this a serious question? "I have asthma. Do I deserve a good relationship?"?!?! Girl. Yes!!! Where did you ever get this idea to the contrary? In fact I think it might actually help you because good men love to take care of their women. One of my good friends has something wrong with her spine, can barely walk and is sometimes in a wheelchair. She has a wonderful husband and they just had a baby. My bff has PCOS, bipolar, crazy anxiety, and asthma, and is like 80ish lbs overweight, and she ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 03:02 AM |
| 16 | The truerateme sub has a detailed section for women but not men...Why is anybody on this sub paying any attention to that sub? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 02:56 AM |
| 3 | AITA post, I’m speechless.Yes. You have perfectly articulated my feelings on this subject. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:59 AM |
| 9 | Lazy menYeah, absolutely. Just be like, "guy, I'm looking for an actual relationship where you take me out and treat me like a proper girlfriend. I'm not interested in x, y, and z behaviors that you're doing now, including getting me excited and then cancelling." Fully expect him to agree, but then change nothing, at which point you can say you're out and block him. Then you won't have to feel bad. Don't get caught up in the hope that he'll change. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:52 AM |
| 7 | Lazy menHow many times have you explained to him what you want and need? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:46 AM |
| 19 | Lazy menJust block him and move on right now. He knows what he's up to - he just wants to see how far he can push things with you. He's just playing with you to boost his ego. Can I get her to sleep with me if I don't take her out to dinner?, etc. Get rid of him now before you become more attached. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:32 AM |
| 6 | AITA post, I’m speechless.Dipti was who I had in mind when I wrote my comment. I suppose that was nothing more than wishful thinking on my part. Ritu, I don't even know what to say about that situation. First of all when they first showed her husband I thought he was like her 12-year-old cousin or something. And you're totally right, what an asshole. He didn't need to say that to the camera. She's another one who should've stayed in her city. She didn't even want to get married in the first place. Thanks for the recommen… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 01:28 AM |
| 7 | AITA post, I’m speechless.I was actually just watching a documentary about this last night - A Suitable Girl. Have you seen it? My heart was broken for Amrita. Like, why couldn't she have stayed in Delhi and had her fabulous single life with her friends? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/02/20 12:05 AM |
| 11 | AITA post, I’m speechless.Heartbreaking... I've dated something like 4 Indian guys. Two were my actual exes. They were all trash but very adept at disguising it. I hate to say that, but it must be a cultural thing. And the worst part is I still really miss one of them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 11:40 PM |
| 15 | AITA post, I’m speechless.I guess the point I'm trying to make is that in some parts of the world, like India, the parents support the daughter in finding a husband, and so they would look at any boys with a critical eye, and that would be helpful in weeding out the bad ones. (I know that some of them sell their daughters off too.) Meanwhile in the West, girls are trying to do this on their own, heavily under the influence of patriarchy and too young to understand how bad and abusive a whole ton of men are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 11:27 PM |
| 5 | AITA post, I’m speechless.I know, but up until that point she would have her family's support. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 11:17 PM |
| 14 | AITA post, I’m speechless.Just a thought: is it possibly because in India, usually girls have the support of their parents, while in the US a ton of us are abandoned by them and out on our own? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 10:55 PM |
| 45 | Friendly reminder that men are on such a high horse when it comes to beauty that their opinion shouldn’t matter to youAny time a man that I don't know or trust is around, I just disregard their opinion. I just say to myself, "That's just some man's opinion, and who cares about it?," and go on about my day, and I feel so much better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 08:47 PM |
| 185 | Paris Hilton says ending her engagement was 'the best decision I’ve ever made... It feels good to not have someone controlling me,’This is the third time she's ended an engagement. I think she's just really independent and doesn't want to be tied so closely to someone - totally understandable, especially with all her wealth. I'm the same way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/20 08:32 PM |
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